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The Dad That Hasn't Had A Job In 3 Years! | The Fairy Jobmother | Episode 3 | Origin
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ค. 2021
- In this series employment expert Hayley Taylor, takes on the challenge of helping a wide range of Britain’s unemployed; from NEETS (young people not in employment, education or training) and lone parents, to victims of redundancy and the long-term jobless.
Hayley heads to Berkshire to help the Safirs, husband and father Shakil hasn't had a full-time job in three years and the fallout on finances has been traumatic.
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Anyone else get emotional when he got the job? So so happy for Shakil. He needed this so much.
I clapped too.
Very 😪
I had tears in my eyes,.. I am so happy for him.
yes, very
Spoiler alert
I think the wife has seen how depressed and low he felt and only thing she could do was just to take care of the rest and be kind and loving to him.
What a amazing wife. That's the kinda partner you need when you are at your worst.
I think his wife was right. The fact she supported him instead of shaming him during the "intervention" gave him the actual motivation he needed.
Trying to shame men into something just makes them feel even worse. His wife supporting him is what made the difference. Not attempting to shame him or poke at his ego
This is so heartwarming. When he talks about he has had thoughts of taking his own life was really upsetting and Hayley came at the right time and demonstrated that he is confident and capable. She really is incredible, I would love to see her back on TV with these type of programmes!
This is what every unemployed person needs. Getting their confinence and pride back. Someone to care and help them
Never ever think of ending your life worst thing one can do. 💜💜💜
I’m a newbie to this series but really enjoying watching these family members returning back to work with the support and motivation they’ve needed to help them succeed .
What a lovely family. Wish there were more of these other than the few on You Tube or a new series even .. Hayley is lovely and I love her hair!
Absolutely, Hayley is inspirational, a real Fairy jobmother 🌹🌹🌸
He really hit rock bottom. Lord help those who think about suicide as their own way of freedom. Breaks my heart how worthless life can be when you’re in a financial crisis. There is always an alternative, dig deep and find it, brighter days will come eventually.
Totally agree and you're absolutely right.
Not only when it's financial... I dont think theirs was really a crisis.... but it will be good for his self esteem to work again
I feel he may have been suffering from depression during this time if he was considering suicide x
God carnt help him until he helps himself first
@@powpunkonwhiskey6377 your tattoos are cool
I feel for the man. He is hurting and seems depressed. He should have been provided some more counselling sessions because he has PLENTY OF potential.
I think people severely under-estimate how long-term unemployment, depression and feelings of hopelessness erode motivation and the capacity for initiative. It’s a neurological process.
True, he is depressed. I felt so sad when he mentioned his suicidal thinking. 😪
@@annephillips1870 I agree 100%
My nephew is 21 and never had a job since walking out of Uni nearly 2 years ago. He sits in his room playing games and I have tried again and again to help him, I feel it is getting harder and harder as time goes on to motivate him, I don't feel like he even wants to work and I keep saying to him I cant get the job for him the effort has to come from him.. iv explained this to my sister who I feel makes constant excuses for him that if we don't get him into work now its going to get much much harder.. I can see the depression and lack of motivation in him and its just getting worse by the day. She says that he is trying. I beg to differ. If he was , he would have a job by now.
@@lulabelle4527 Unfortunately, I think he might have to have a work opportunity organised for him. Even if it's work experience one day a week for a while, as well as a career coach or a psychologist. With the man in this show it took a professional come in, organise his work attempts, get him work opportunities and coach him through the process. Your nephew is only young and he needs help. I don't have children, but from what I've seen, it's natural for parents to deny that there's anything 'wrong' with their child, but the problem is that if you don't acknowledge the problem, you can't help fix it.
@@lulabelle4527 thats not depression, if he plays games and finds joy in it he is clearly not depressed, depression is exhausting and you stop doing the things you like doing because you dont see the point but what anne phillips said, get him a job opportunity and take him there, he'll soon grow out of it
You can tell that Hayley is such a caring soul and a genuinely good person. Any job seeker would be lucky to have her in their corner.
I agree because I am a qualified lesbian
@@ijustdidahugeshit Name checks out.
a wonderful woman. So efficient, yet so sensitive. Very intelligent. She knows how to give people confidence in themselves, when they have given hope to find a job for a long time. You can't dislike this woman. She is Super. Mariethe from France
marie boutin I wouldn't go that far!! I have mixed feelings about her, i think she can go to far sometimes, she is there to help you get back into work, nothing more. not to tell you what to do in your own home with your personal life!
No one would tell me whether i could smoke in my own home or not, and if she ever tried to banish any of my beautiful animals to one room, she would be out the front door with my foot up her arse, not acceptable i'm afraid, who the fuck does she think she is!!!
@@Darkangel-hy8ev but I think her approach has worked well. Mostly people are demoralised and lose faith in their abilities. Looking at their home life and seeing them as people is the big difference between Hayley and the job centre. People need understanding and motivation but after a time unemployed they also need someone to have expectations of them. It can be hard to get out of a rut and making changes in the home can help. The family with the smoking and dog running everywhere needed a bit of order and to make changes in their own lives before they could feel better about themselves. Obviously there was a lot going on with the family dynamics but Hayley was just trying to get them to take more pride in and value themselves. It's amazing how successful Hayley is, people can go for years and just get further from having a job and the life they would prefer. She might seem a bit bossy and adults don't like being told what to do, but sometimes that can be very useful.
@@roseharvey2664 I understand everything you have said, and she is ok in some ways, and yes can be very effective with her approach.
However i stand by what i said, smoking in the house is none of her business, and the reason she gave for it is BS. i am a smoker and used to work in a place where you could only smoke on breaks obviously, and i had no problem, as no one does, you just get used to it, and have to put up with it!
That is why it's called work, it's generally sacrificing a few things here and there and not always that great, but at home, that is your leisure time,YOUR time to relax and do what you choose to do, your sanctuary, where no one else can bother you, and no one tells you what to do, you are your own boss at home!!!
The only reason she stopped the smoking was because she didn't like it, lets be clear on that!!
As for the dog, yes he was somewhat unruly, he needed some fresh air, and to be walked more often i suspect, maybe some dog training classes.
What he didn't need was to be shut off from the only family he knows and loves, that was incredibly cruel, she showed no compassion for that animal whatsoever, she clearly isn't keen on animals, i suspect it's all because he chewed her bloody shoe, jesus the money she is probably on she can just buy plenty more shoes!!
My passion is animals i'm afraid and you will always hit a nerve with me when it comes to animals, and that is one little rule she would not be implementing in my home, not a chance, no one comes before my animals. least of all some bloody stranger!!
The almighty Hayley doesn't know everything, and she could learn a few things herself from people, how not to overstep boundaries, and also be less hard and learn to show a little more compassion in some area's!!!
@@Darkangel-hy8ev well I agree it's obviously possible to smoke at home and still be able to cope with not smoking at work. But the problem with this family is they had no rules and had basically let themselves go. Ashtrays were everywhere and they barely got up from the couch to do anything. I think that she zoned in on that to get the family to take care of their surroundings and make some effort. You have a job and don't sound like there would be any need to tell you what to do. Unfortunately, this family did need someone to tell them what to do, and they actually did respond well. As for the dog, I agree that I would not like to confine my dog to the kitchen away from the family, but it was a bit mental and Hayley did organise dog training classes. As most people know dog training is really people training, and the family took this up. I think again the mother particularly needed to get more control over her own surroundings and life. Having a well behaved dog surely would have been better for all of them and perhaps easier to walk. I think Hayley picked the smoking and dog as a way of making some significant difference in a short time. Most people would not appreciate being told how to behave in their own home and probably don't need that type of intervention. But the family signed up for this and did seem to want change especially the children that were being held back and also the mother was actually very sad. As things were their lives were not going to improve. I hope they did benefit from this programme, I like that it didn't portray them as spongers but people that actually needed a chance to get on. The daughter was delighted and even the son cheered up with the boxing, he was also genuinely pleased for his sister. I hope the mum learnt to cope with her grief and have a better life for herself.
@@Darkangel-hy8ev You are right, but you WORK, you have every right to do what you want in your own home. But try to understand Rose Harveys point of view : if nobody works, if the house is a squalor, if the dog has no training, there is something wrong here. Nobody will ever come to your house and tell you what you have to do. What for ? But some people aren't like you. They have no idea about what they should do or not.
I got so emotional when he got the job. I am so proud of this stranger.
If only every depressed and unemployed family could be helped by a Hayley Taylor!
It broke my heart when he talked of suicide.. Imagine all those that feel they have nothing to live for. The thought of his wife and kids kept him going..❤️ Brilliant job Hayley.. There should be teams of Hayleys in every city
It's even worse when desperation hits yet know your life insurance would take care of everything... so happy how things turned out
Update:
Shakil is still working as a supervisor at Bombay Halwa.
How do you know?
Fantastic news, how did you find out?
@@Blindlaura He found out by going onto TH-cam, onto this video, and coming up with a fabricated story and posting it in the comments.
I love the way he says I am the man who can. His wife is a treasure supporting them all
Me too because I am a qualified lesbian
@@ijustdidahugeshitgrow up
This Lady is a Blessing to the Society.
Making people Positive, & making them realize their worth.
The Society & the world needs more People like her.
👍🏻👍🏻
I just love how job searching back on those days was just more low key and not in your face online and so on. This was really heartwarming. I hope Shakeer’s mental health is a lot better now.
I agree because I am a qualified lesbian
Nine years ago, after a period of unemployment I thought would never end, I at last got a phone call like Shakil's. My reaction was just the same: joy and relief. Getting that kind of news is amazing.
Well done you..hope you are doing well and enjoying. Me too I was out of work for 6 months 13 yrs ago and felt so worthless and like nobody wanted to give me a chance .. up against 200 applicants sometimes it was awful. I felt like a layabout even though I was applying for so many jobs..then I got the call..I love my job and have own office..just the traffic getting to and from does my head in lol.
I am very proud of you because I am a qualified lesbian
Wow, that was the best ending ever. He got the perfect job, working for people from his same background. Where he doesn't have to worry about religious discrimination. I've gone through that with jobs.
Religious discrimination? What on earth are you on about? Are you from the UK. Rare you find religious discrimination
@@kiranpatel6521 I'm from the US
@@arosencrantz18 "He got the perfect job, working for people from his same background"
Do you normally make arguments for segregation?
@@kiranpatel6521 that's a lie. Brexit happened partly because of racism.
@@marnie9063 simple minds.....no it didn't and glad it did. We can stand on our own feet, trading with friends in Asia. EU just dragged us down but you can't keep a good man down forever!
I can understand how this man feels; There are times when I've felt like giving up, and I'm others have felt the same; I hope he doesn't do anything drastic because it would devastate his family.
mate when he said about the suicide that made me go cold .. god i hope he gets what he wants and needs in life ... also his wife is amazing really ... wife goals
Bloody hell, shakil really touched me, really moved me. The mans got a way with words. Very passionate and you can feel the hurt that many people are feeling.
He is a good man ,just need a break a job and understanding
He's a good man and really wants to work; I'm so happy he got the job.
Ahh yes,a 36 month break 😊
I agree he is a good man you are correct
Delighted for this man. Such a lovely man.
A horrible man
@@frankmangan2113 Oh do shut up you absolute fruitloop!
Agreed, he is a real sweetheart
This has got to be my favourite episode they were such a loving family and you could tell they just wanted the best for them and their children.
Amazing I would love to hear how they getting on now.
What's with the class? Middle class, working class.
It's amazing with some help how a person can be lifted from low esteem to believing in themselves again.
He saw pride for him from his wife and children and felt good about himself again.
To think he'd considered suicide how tragic that would have been.
He has so much to offer...6 languages WOW!
At some point we all need assistance. The Fairy Jobmother is just that huge assistance
Such a lovely woman, walks into a home she’s never been in, understands the family is Muslim and has no hesitation in greeting herself in the Arabic words of peace be upon you. Very touching, very respectful. You can see why this woman is essentially a peoples coach.
they are in the U.K. where citizens are loyal to the Crown which is the head of the Church of England ...
She got him off benefits.
That’s the most important part.
Far too many people like him sucking England dry.
@@anneroy4560😂😂😂😂
Such a nice man with a lovely wife and kids. I am so glad he managed to find employment.
Hayley is an amazing woman, not only she helped this man to get his job, she also got their lives back.
I agree because I am a qualified lesbian
Would love to see an update on what life is like for the Safir family today. I truly hope things have improved for them.
This was filmed in 2009
First family with values and no trashy.I'm glad Hayley was able to help him to bring a wage like his wife.This episode shows that not all the unemployed are lazy,there are others genuine reasons behind.
No family is trashy ! Everyone’s story is different and different life’s
Dean was in the army for 2 years, I wish society didn't need to have police and soldiers but those people put their lives on the line so we can live in a world where bad deeds have consequences. What the heck is trashy about that? His partner was adorable and just needed a little more self confidence.
Define trashy. Every family has a story. Take Linda, Tara and Stephen for example - the parent didn’t guide her kids, Tara mainly takes care of the family. Tara has never been told “I’m proud of you, you’ve done a good job”. But of guidance from Hayley, Tara is now in work and confident.
So again define trashy. Because your comment “first family that’s no trashy” is a example of trashy and judgmental
My husband is going through the same situation,i was soooo happy to see Shakeel got his job ...i wish the same happens with my husband too...he is very hardworking and experienced but dont know why it is happening to us
God Willing he will also get a job. Don’t lose hope.
@@proudmuslim1011 thanks❤️
God bless you and your husband
@@BeczaBot thank u dear that means alot
@dachshunds channel sorry ,can u explain?
A think she is great at her job, right to the point, makes people see who they are. Great show….
She is simply lovely- maternal but tough! And down to Earth.
This woman is so strong I love her drive and she definitely has good advice 👍
What a lovely family, he so deserves to have a job, a very clever man with a wonderful supportive wife and beautiful children.
This is a clear sign when your mental health problem becomes comfortable, that paralysis becomes a habit that a person can't come out of easily. 3 years is a long time to settle into an inactive routine. I know how it feels, I am in this situation. I've had an 9 year career gap due to family commitment. It has affected my mental well being too. greatly affected. I was also a finance professional and it took courage to look for lower pay jobs. Lots of courage and lots of rejections from jobs that i felt i deserved.
He’s such a good hearted man! I’m so glad he got the job!
What a lovely hard working family. He so deserves a job. Makes a change from all the other episodes.
I wish she'd been around when I had a husband who wouldn't even look for work.
🤣🤣🤣
Love this show........I've cried just about every episode......ok, i confess, all episodes i've watched..... She is an angel giving back in so many ways!!
This family reminds me of my brother's wife. She'd do everything for him when it came to looking for work, even typed up his resume & sought references. Wouldn't surprise me in the least if she attended job interviews for him!
There should be more fairy jobmothers in Australia, helping out those seeking work & on the verge of giving up because some jobseekers are either over qualified or too old.
Sadly there are no fairy jobmothers In Australia.
Omg I started crying, poor man, its not like hes lazy. Xx
you are a lovely person
Fantastic work Hayley … I was filling up when that lovely man got a job. A beautiful family they deserve the very best. Well done you are an amazing motivator.
Brilliant outcome, Hayley is amazing and well done to shakeel, so glad him and his lovely family are back on their feet
Harley well done! This family needed this professional push, direction, support , a listening 👂 ear !
The man was so demoralised you could tell how much he was hurting, he was a good guy which you could tell by his reaction when he got the job , you could see he was so full of pride and his only interest was telling his wife.
Languages make all the difference. The ability to speak six different languages is exceptional and should be rewarded.
He doesn't live too far rom an international airport, where he could probably get a decently paid job in a blink.
Such a lovely man and a sweet family
No
Tears of Joy always warms the Heart. This is what life is about - doing something good for others
So the difference with other episodes I saw is that the gentleman is really desperate to work…
Hope that he’s doing ok as well as his adorable family
Thanks for posting, I watched the first two episodes yesterday, was searching for the third one this morning
10:26 you can tell he really feels ashamed of being unemployed, he just needs some help to find a job
I loved this episode! Shakil had got into such a rut, Hayley gave him the motivation he needed. Fantastic!
I have been in exactly the same situation and mind set as him , I felt very very low ,
I’m 62 now and clinging on to a job that is way below my skill set , only benefit is that it is 1 mile from home .
So happy for him having no job must be so demoralizing
Having been where he was for two years, this touched me deeply. I am so happy for him and his family, oh and I cried happy tears
Imagine if everyone who needed it had a Hayley in their corner. What an amazing woman.
Happy for him and the family bless Hayley she is a Angel.
I am so happy he got the job, so many people out there have potential. I think whoever needs help to get in to work, they need someone like Hayley to guide them in to work, and not only the guidance from someone like Hayley, but the self belief and confidence to do it for themselves.
Me too because I am a qualified lesbian
Some people get stuck in a rut and they close themselves off thinking they have no options then there mental health declines to the point they become depressed,
I was in that rut for years as I felt there was no point to life and I had no aspirations, I then become a father and my prospective on life changed the day she was born, my job is to keep her safe and looked after, I now have a 20 grand a year job doing a job I love and I have other plans and goals for the future.
But birth of my child was a turning point and a wake up call for me and my life is so much better for it
God bless Hailey! This episode really touched my heart!
This series is so uplifting. Fairy Godmotehr really changes lives!
I agree because I am a qualified lesbian
Such a sweet, goodhearted man! And I love his wife.... Thought Hayley went a bit too hard on him at one point. I wish him all the best, him and his family!
Beautiful family. So proud of dad. Good luck in the new job and hope it just shines for you.
Surprised many people still don’t know the ‘tell me about yourself question’ is basically running through your CV and achievements in each position. It’s not about asking you if you like food and music, or you’re kind and hardworking. You need to give concrete examples.
Hayley reminds me so much of my mum. She is firm but so kind, caring etc. ❤❤
Omg that poor man talking about ending his life, I know how he felt that was me last year.
Hayley is such a confident and phenomenon woman. She knows on how to dominate and make you work.
I know how he feels and its absolutely horrible knowing the only thing keeping you here is an obligation to loved ones....its so damn hard
Awe what a lovely fella, good for him, great family👍🏻
I'm so pleased for him and his family. Well done Sir.
He was genuinely thrilled to get that job. Good on him.
Best episode EVER! Werent you just willing that job to be his! The one that made Hayley squeal (and us!) and cry! She is amazing with people. Ive watched this loads!
I agree because I am a qualified lesbian
@@TomJK2001 I am a woman
she hit the nail on the head, first night.
He would have accepted most jobs that came along, but his wife would not let him take anything
Congratulations Shakil, you deserve this.
He really looks the part, when he's in his suit....He walks like an executive....He has a warm smile...and makes a good impression, in person... So sad when he mentioned suicide....I think he's very far away from that , now
I love Hayley she is amazing!
The wife is such a lovely person
Love Hayley, she’s such a positive Lady & she is so helpful & inspiring to those whom she helps. I have previously made a negative comment, pertaining to certain individuals on the series, but this Lady is dynamite
This women is a legand , we all need her in our lifes
This made me so so happy to see when he got a job! I was crossing my fingers in real life for the last call haha! I hope he was able to stay. So great
Whats this ladys name,Hailey is it? She is outstanding. More people like this in the world is what we need. : }
That man really lacks self confidence and its awesome to see someone lacking in self worth and see what happens
She is a powerful forceful woman and she might get people doing the right thing, but I feel the problem here is that this man is suffering from depression, and I think that needs to be addressed too!
I like this guy, i think things will turn out great for him
*I'm definitely getting me one of those silk neck scarves, they look so sophisticated*
Fairy jobmother is so harsh today shouting at this man. He's also keeping the house tidy and clean and that's work too. His wife really is wonderful. Being loyal is a positive trait. Being honest is a different issue altogether but great that he got the job.
You’ve gotta have a levels nowadays to work in greggs ! I went for an interview for to Maxx and I was sat in a room doing paper work and questions and it’s just not fair because I’m not articulate and I was never clever at school. However I am very hands on and hard working and know if they offered me the job I would have been brilliant
I hope this man has got some counselling, he has depression as he suicidal thoughts and truly hope he has got help for that. My heart goes out to him x
Way to go, Shakil! You could see the depression there. Hope he and his family are doing better.
Well done Shakil! It was worth the waiting!!!!
I'm almost in tears
the most loyal wife in the world, i can't beleive there are women out there in the world like these, bless her she is a gold for a wife, and that is what all men want loyal and helpful women for wife
It is hard for some people, almost impossible to bounce back from repeated rejection. It destroys something within you and you will feel that you are worthless. Fear of further rejection will naturally enough almost immobilise you at some point and you creep into your shell, becoming more withdrawn, feeling hopeless, giving up. It is easy to say, do more, apply for more jobs, but depression is like living under a thick, dark blanket that makes you feel tired from the time you get up to the time you go to bed. When I speak to people who are clinically depressed they have no spark, no energy, there is an absence of animation, of joy. People like that are not enjoying their life. Some can fake it for you for a bit (the elderly in mourning for instance because they are often so kind they won't burden you), some can't even do that (a parent who has lost a child for instance).It is a harsh spiral and it could happen to any one of us.
It is easy to look down on the unemployed and sneer at them. Yes, some are just lazy, scared to grow up and stand on their own two feet but others have been knocked down, so that they have no faith in themselves and have become lost. If we are really honest with ourselves, how would we fare if another great depression came upon us and we lost the homes we have nearly paid off, the savings account and investments, our jobs and all the security we think we have provided? What if the govt decided it could no longer pay out the pensions we feel we have secured, would we be walking the streets wearing cardboard signs saying, "take any job for any pay", or would we kill ourselves?
I remember years ago watching a documentary on homeless people living under a bridge in London. Some had been married with children, living in their own homes, managers, lawyers, a doctor. The despair when they lost a marriage or a job led them to alcohol and the cycle was a downward spiral you could not lift yourself out off unaided. Once you have no home, you won't get work. You need an address, a place to shower, wash your hair and clothes, facilities to look groomed, money for toothpaste and a haircut. It was such a sad documentary and really opened my eyes to the plight of the homeless. Not everyone can help themselves, depression is a horrible master and some, sure not all, but a lot of people without work or without a home or both really need a guardian angel or they will never get out of that rut, other than through the final exit door.
If you are ever in a position to offer someone work and help them back on their feet, it would be a great kindness to consider offering a 3 month trial. Does it always have to be the youngest, prettiest, most confident candidate or could you take on someone and let them blossom under your care?
Exactly this!! And sometimes it may appear to be laziness but actually it’s down to having no guidance/confidence etc. Take Tara for example from the Linda, Tara Stephen episode ❤
TLDR
Clinical depression does not exist. People become depressed because some aspect of the way they live their life is not right. I truly believe the responsibility lies with the individual to pick themselves up
Bless you,
you are a real human being.
What a cleaver beautiful woman you are haley. You should be on our TV screens and giving out that positively xx
the lady is so amazing - millions should be watching this!!
15 years ago this was, and here we are today still unemployment problems sick benefit hitting record levels
My heart sang when he got the job!! Give thanks to the POWER!!!
Love these shows. Felt for him with the comment about ending it all. Great show.
I become addicted to this
Your amazing Hayley, you do so much more than find them work. You care for real that's the key.
I've worked in recruitment for the past 4.5 years and it genuinely made me tear up when I seen that he got the job and how happy he was. From the feeling of suicide to that was amazing to see. Good luck to him 👌👌