That was funny! I think it was very intentional lie for the camera, cause she said “I’m naturally thin, I eat what I want”……KNOWING every meal she picks at it and is VERY conscious of her food 😆.
I haven’t batting the sword so recovering from myself that’s one of the reasons I told myself I never had children because I would be horrified if I had a child and I accidentally passed my disease on to a child
None of these girls are overweight. They need counseling for the whole family. The parents are letting their children play a very dangerous game and it’s toxic AF. Shame on them!
I agree !! These parents worried bout their body image and not realize they kids are affected.. but then these little kids are getting from there freinds & it’s horrible them little gurl néed help now before they get older & it gets worse
Innocence lost. Completely heartbreaking. They’re ultimately trying to look attractive for a society that will use them and throw them away. I pray for all the girls in this doc
The girls brought me to tears, they made me pray to god to help all girls with behaviours and thinking like theirs. Imagine how they would be like when they grow up.
It seems to me that the blonde Slim-fast mom thinks it cute that her daughter worries about her weight and wants to be like her, and that's just sad. She'll find out later just how "cute" it is.
@@shahidiwooddecorator6850 stop posting that video on all these comments! It has nothing to do with the video at hand, which is a of pretty important subject matter. You're disgusting. 😡
A life of insecurity and never being good enough. I'm aware of my distorted thoughts and I struggle every day with challenging them. My mom didn't intend to make me this way and yet..
She is normalizing it because she has normalized it for her. She says she’s never been on a serious diet but she is very thin, especially for having three kids, and skipping meals in favors of just a 100 calorie fake chocolate milk. I wouldn’t say she has an eating disorder for sure, but clearly she has an unhealthy image. She is physically beautiful and looks relatively healthy. There is no obvious health or even vanity reason for weight loss with her, so she should not even be thinking about meal replacements. She needs therapy before her daughters end up being grown women weighing 90 lbs, fainting in public, and complaining about gaining weight.
Well, she goes to school during the day, and probably don't get home till 4:00. They may go out to eat at around 5 or 6 if they do, that's considered evening. So that's not an illogical question. She probably did not mean it the way it came out,
It meant like... go out for a fancy family dinner. She probably thought they were going out for events or stuff like that. Because you don't really see children getting make-up sessions.
Nine years old is WAAAYYY too young to be shaving her legs and wearing full make-up. Why on earth is this mother rushing this child into adulthood? How crazy... no wonder the child has issues. Let these children be just that - children!
I had the blackest hair and it was thick and long. My mom let me shave at 9/10. My fathers side is Italian so they have the really dark hair thick eyebrows the works lol. It all depends on why they want to shave that young. For me it was bullying.
I agree ! I didn’t start shaving until I was 13 and didn’t wear makeup until 15 or 16. It’s so sad to see how obsessed there poor young girls are with their weight.
@@adoreyou7449 And I personally think that is just way too young. When I was that age I was too busy having fun and playing to notice hair on my legs. Society and advertising has really had a huge negative effect on these young girls in that they think they are "grown up" while they are still just little girls. It is sad... they are missing out on a very important developmental stage in their lives - to just be kids. Adulthood comes soon enough. The parents need to get a better handle on this.
@Rose :3 thank you for your insight. Did you develope faster then other children? I remember that the first time i hit gym was at 15 years old maybe and then quit because it was full of grown man looking at me and not out of curiosity wich I can understand but with a sexualized gaze.. I think children gyms are too 'fitness' oriented wich isn't necessary if you have 10 years old. Maybe some good sport activity is the best, also with walking in the nature
At such a young age they surely have to picking it up at home. I hate the obsession with looks, especially for girls. It was interesting how all the mothers said all the “right” thing about being body positive and setting a good example but what came out of their kids mouths told a totally different story. I try to focus about eating to fuel your body well rather than good or bad food. Balance is key.
This seems... more like eating disorders then body dysmorphia:(. Especially the compulsive exercising??? Kids shouldn’t feel like they need to workout after dinner. This is so so sad.
I agree with you completely.. It looks like an exercise bulimia to me. As someone who struggled with a multiple eating disorders, and still struggles sometimes with certain thoughts and actions, I can tell these defiantly are eds, unfortunately..
My Moto is and was, to just wear oversized jackets and wear pants, then when you wear say a dress or shirt people will think your slimmer then you really are, also avoid mirrors that’s what I always do... lol
These kids all exposed their mothers as liars. There was only one mother who held herself accountable for what her comments and behaviours were doing to her daughter.
Imagine if these children watched their mothers meditate everyday, have a garden, go for hikes in nature, be nice to other people, be nice to themselves/love themselves. Instead they are constantly seeing their mother’s dieting, worrying about their weight/size, judging others for their size, and talking about diets with their friends. So sad.
Right? I had Anorexia. And I can confirm - even though my diet is kinda ok now, def not anorexic...it never goes away. Its so sad to see this in kids so young.
As a fellow Anorexic, I completely agree it’s Heartbreaking to see these kids worrying about something like this so early in their lives. Reminds me of myself just a few years ago.
Once I got my first phone I saw all these Instagram models and these beauty TH-camrs and such. That's when I started rly becoming aware of my image and losing weight. Which was both good because I was a chubby young teen. But also made me very ashamed of how I look. And to this day I still find all these beautiful people and feel a little ashamed even though I'm considered healthy.
That is why I would never let her worry consistantly about her weight . I would want her to feel good about the way she looks not try to be someone she’s not .
The reason is even more disturbing thinking it will make it easier to get boys, that mom needs to stop trying to be her best friend and actually be her mother. That's so incredibly sad when parents do that I had a best friend who's mom was that way and she destroyed all of her children's childhood
Once they’re are 18 it is there choice but parents should always offer a helping hand when it comes to there child’s safety. The fact that these girls are under 10 is DISGUSTING to think about them s*xualizing themselves with their mom saying “you’ll get boys”. That’s low key manipulation-
my mom used to drink slim fast when I was a kid. she told me it was an adult drink for old bones and if I drink it I would get a belly ache, because I wanted to try it 😂 it's better than what this mom did though, i think.
She’s also might be influencing her friends by talking about dieting and exercising with them. She needs help so she doesn’t develop a full blown ED when she’s older.
@@ljmcdonald2703 I think you need a balance of both. You want your child to trust you like a friend, but you also need to be the parent and a teacher to your child at the same time.
My heart sunk when the girl said that the hula hoop hurt, and therefore it's working.. the fact that she is only happy when the exercise hurts is so sad and twisted and I hope she has a better relationship with exercise today
Some viewers unacquainted with the English weight system may think that losing one stone doesn't sound like a lot. However, it is 14 lbs. and that's a lot of weight for a young girl to lose.
@@kevitamaster-brewkombucha5472 I hope you want to lose the weight to be healthier not to be thinner. Remember that you’re perfect just the way you are, and that’s you don’t need to be skinny to be happy.
Children are observant and ask a lot of questions, if I ever had a child and went on a diet if they asked me what I was drinking/eating or why I didn't eat the same as I did I wouldn't lie to them. Children are smart.
Should kids exercise? Yes. Should they exercise solely because they hate their bodies? Absolutely not. If kids are taught to focus on their health and how good they feel, everything should take care of itself.
Kids should exercise because it's fun. They should be doing fun active things like playing sports with friends or dancing. That's what we did. And we walked everywhere. I ate whatever I wanted and stayed thin because I was so active and not to lose weight, just because we enjoyed it. I did ballet and modern dancing, cricket, tennis, athletics, we were always walking to each other's houses and the park and climbing trees . I often used to have to take the bus home but sometimes I'd spend my bus money on a donut at the tuck shop and walk the 4km home. It wouldn't even tire me because I was so fit, especially from ballet because I took ballet very seriously and would have become a professional dancer if I hadn't had a serious defect with my feet which I only found out when I'd been in points for a year and performing and doing the exams from 5years old. I wasn't pressured by my parents at all. I chose to do it. I did figure skating too.
@@leenmattar3983 I consider play time/ any activity to be exercise. Sports, games of tag, running on a trampoline, etc teach them motor skills and coordination and help them socialize and relieve stress by having fun and getting endorphins from running around. I've seen some children enjoy "exercise" like zumba classes, calisthenics, cardio, weight training, etc so whatever they find fun and enjoyable, they should stick with it
32:40 If YOUR biggest concern is your 9 YEAR OLD daughter having enough natural light to do her makeup, and getting makeup on your carpet....YOU have NOT been paying attention to the actual problem. Some of these mothers have me absolutely seething right now.
An 8 year old wanting to be a pole dancer for heavens sake?! Mom: “oh I’ll worry about her when she’s a bit older” Lady- you need to worry about her NOW! There is something seriously wrong with that mom.
i’d say that the message would be just as damaging on an overweight child as a normal weight one. it’s important to teach kids to play for fun without a focus on body image regardless of the current state of their body because their mental state will last much longer.
These families could benefit from getting the scales out of their homes. This has been one of the most heartbreaking stories I have listened to for a long long time and I have worked in an Eating Disorder Centre that was attached to psychiatric hospital, in the past. I've seen what happen to girls who talk like these young girls do, and the mothers need to stop thinking its cute and giggling and smiling at what their girls say to them. They are listening, but not actually hearing their own daughters.
As someone who developed anorexia at age 12, this is like watching myself. Luckily I recovered. I can only hope these kids got help before it was too late.
I was diagnosed with anorexia at age 9-10 and I still havent recovered its been 2 years. Its so sad seeing this. I saw a documentary of an 8 year old in a treatment center😕
@@christinab.2864 it’s worse for both. Men’s body issues are rarely discussed so it’s difficult for them to seek help because they think it only happens to girls. The majority of media portrays women with ED because they are the majority of victims.
Unfortunately there's more pressure than ever on children with social media. They have access to images of "perfection" literally everywhere. Cyber bullying is also a contributor. The times we live in...
it's very sad... i see little girls aspiring to be like "instagram models", wearing makeup and sexy clothes at the ages of 10 looking like they are 16 and i'm baffled... i'm not old (25) but i think i was very lucky to be growing up when this wasn't a thing yet.. can't say it doesn't affect me now but i can't even imagine seeing these things from toddler age and growing up seeing even faker things on the internet than fashion magazines ever showed me... i don't even want to imagine what the future holds and how depressed every next generation will be
I didn't have social media growing up but there were still Barbies, Miss America , magazines and celebrities which is more than enough to drive the point across .
I get that but for me I had no access to media or TV until I was 16. And damn the amount of body shaming and sadness about my weight all came from my family. All of it. Every day, all was controlled, down to the amount of milk in my cereal and the number of cereals in the bowl. So yep, media doesnt help but it starts from within the family usually.
@@edelleaa I’m barely an adult but i feel so bad for the girls who are 11 and have millions of followers on Instagram. They all dress and pose like they are much older than me. It’s scary seeing people in the comments calling them “hot” and people shutting down anyone who questions it
The title of this should be How To Destroy Your Child’s Psyche. Nearly every parent is a toxic person. 🤷♀️ Only one was self aware, the mother of Chloe and the mother of Johanna thought they were amazing parents! 🤦♀️ It’s disturbing to refer to your child as sexy or allow them to wear a “sexy” top! At least she didn’t buy it. 👏 The sales rep at the makeup counter was so focused on her sales pitch she wasn’t even thinking that Chloe was a child! Just amazing and not in a good way!!
it's old, I watched this years ago. Notice there are no smartphones anywhere. I guess it's at least 10 years old. I'm sure they are now half naked on Instagram etc.
I sadly see myself in these girls. I went on my first diet in fourth grade. I’m 33 now and I’ve never been a healthy weight. I’m either skinny and starving or binge eating and obese. I wish I learned how to love myself rather than see my worth in what the scale says. Also parents, please don’t make comments on your children’s weight, it only makes things worse.
I grew up in a family in which the women would always discuss weight of others. I grew up learning that they would speak positive of others who lost weight. I was always compared to my mom since we look similar in the face but I have the bone structure of my dad's side of family. Everyone always asked why my hips and shoulders are so wide. They didn't get the concept of wider build. It was so frustrating.
I hear you! All the women on my mum's side of the family are bottom-heavy, whereas I turned out 'top heavy'. This drew no end of negative commentary because "No-one in our family has ever had big boobs", and it was somehow my fault that I did!! 🤷😂 It wasn't until I was given a photo of my paternal grandmother on her wedding day that the 'mystery' was solved. Turns out she was quite the busty gal in her day, bless!
I feel so sorry for Lucy.. she definitely needed more treatment. I could immediately tell from the baggy clothes that she was wearing that she was very uncomfortable with refeeding. I hope she's doing better now.
This documentary has to be about 15 years old by now (ETA: came out in 2002), I wonder how many of these girls developed eating disorders. I wonder if that Joanna girl got knocked up
This all just reminds me of my childhood...except I actually WAS heavy, and couldn’t live up to my mom’s expectations (or society’s). Now I’m in my 30’s and recovering from an eating disorder.
I'm just here watching this and looking back at my sleeping 8 year old sister (she'd be 9 next month) and the difference between her and these poor girls are stark. This whole documentary is just downright sad and it's disgusting to see that mom enabling her daughter
Agreed. Maybe it’s different in the UK but seeing these beautiful girls full of potential with so many opportunities open to them wasting this time of their lives on such superficial concerns.
My niece is 7 and i'm so happy how she's turning out. She likes to excersise because it means she can do things like front flips and walk on her hands. She's also super happy with just her nails painted. Everyone has made a conscious effort that we don't air our own problems with our weight in front of her. Like if we don't all eat ice cream as a dessert the reason is that I don't want to have anything sweet right after dinner, but I might have some later. The word diet is not a part if that reason. She's also being taught that you don't have to have something just because everyone else has it.
Honestly, best thing you can do to that end is to try to take care of and accept your body, so you can model that behavior to them. I can't remember a time that my mom, who has never been overweight, wasn't talking about how she needed to lose weight and my feelings about size are still messed up.
@@bunibun8579 Boomer? Really Immature comment. Kids definitely play outside less now than in the 1980s or 1990s. Its a big part of the obesity problem in children. They aren’t burning off any extra calorie intake or getting the physical exercise they need.
Hear hear, and my doctor who never put me on a diet even when i was overweight as a child. He monitored my health and that was fine. I am convinced that if he did i would be in a lot more trouble (jojo- effect, unhealthy view on food or myself etc.)
I began to put on weight at age 10. By the time I was in 7th grade my mom had me on diet drugs .... uppers ... I was so revved up I could hardly sit still and talked nonstop. It was horrible. As a young adult I was bulimic for about 15 years. That's a lot of barfing!! Ruined my teeth.
I wonder to what extent the UK, US etc. obesity epidemic is another factor in making these girls skinny-obsessed. The experts in this documentary talk about the image of perfection as portrayed to us in the media, and society's focus on health, but we have other documentaries about childhood and adult obesity and the girls no doubt see these things too. I'm sure it's reinforcement to their thoughts of "I don't want to be like this".
Exactly my thought. Seeing the other extreme is so scary that I'm sure there's many girls and also mothers who are so afraid of getting to that point that they subconsciously fall into the other extreme.
I think it’s an extension of society focusing on how you look and valuing superficial things rather than WHAT you achieve in life or the kind of person you are.
This makes me want to try even harder to recover from my eating disorder and adress my fatphobia so I don't have this kind of influence on my children.
You're beautiful. I am working on losing weight while still being healthy. I work with my ED doc and though she isn't like thrilled, we've come to a place where we can compromise. I'm genuinely trying this time, to be better. I'm actually eating more. This has been a concern for me for so long, being a sick version of myself with little impressionable children. I have to force myself to eat so my non existent children love themselves
all of them are so beautiful...i wish they could see it but with parents like that there's no doubt going to be lasting trauma for them..i hope they grow out of it with time...
When I was as young as these girls, I was more interested in sports and the Spice Girls. Not makeup, clothes, how skinny I was, my looks or what I was eating. This is ridiculous. The parents shouldn't be encouraging them to "grow up" so quickly. I only started shaving my legs and wearing makeup when I was 16. Starting at 8 is mental!
So having an interest in the Spice Girls didn’t give you an interest in fashion? I loved them in my early teens and they were a fashion inspiration for me.
Some girls are really hairy at a young age as I was. Everyone’s puberty is different. There is nothing wrong with her shaving habits unless she really did have no visible hair.
@@Euphoria-m5w i was hairy as a child and very happy. Didn't care at all. Started to shawe at 18 when i started feeling self conscious. These children are way to small for this. It's sad that they lost their childhood...
@@Euphoria-m5w i was hairy as a child and very happy. Didn't care at all. Started to shaving at 18 when i started feeling self conscious. These children are way to small for this. It's sad that they lost their childhood...
I am a 23-year-old woman. And I cannot even have Instagram on my phone without severely feeling bad about my natural body. Just imagine children, and their lack of knowledge of angles and Photoshop and lighting… They compare themselves to a false reality
Thankfully this is why I only use Instagram for art. I never found looking at other people's half naked bodies to be interesting...and seeing some of my friends (and particularly my younger sister) become obsessed with their appearances in negative ways only reinforced that. Hopefully social media can somehow help slow this strange progression we've found ourselves in.
The beginning was heartbreaking. The end with the makeup and shoes was just disturbing. I think a little bit of makeup is fine for special occasions, or a reward, but they're taking it too far.
I wish Eugenia Cooney would watch this and see how she's enabling a lot of girls that follow her and compliment her for being anorexic! Shes literally damaging her fans.
Dude you dont seem to get the point. It’s about two diffrent things. She wouldn’t see the problem many see with this documentary and she would agree with that. But Eugenia influences the children that watch her videos
@@zoe2595 I don't think that she can be hold responsible for some girls developping an E.D. That's way more complex than watching a skinny person alone. Btw I though Eugenia recovered? I'm really not up to date with social media, in my head it's still march and pre Covid. No idea where the year went.
These kind of documentary’s make grateful to have the parents I have. I’m so glad my mum didn’t rush me to grow up. I don’t remember caring or even being that aware of how I looked in primary. I think it shows the environment you grow up in really effects the relationship you have with yourself
Maybe it's just my extended childhood speaking, but I don't get the wanting to be grown up thing, like, you only have 10 years to be a kid and 7 years before you're 18, and are technically an adult. If I've only got 17 years to be a kid, and the next 60-70 years to be old, why would I rush it?
Wow. I’m nearly 50 but growing up I had no concept of dieting or weight until it was ‘forced’ on me by media. I feel so sad for these girls. I’m slim and pretty fit but I paid attention to my health when I was old enough to understand about it. My parents always ate healthy but didn’t bang on about it. I just learnt from them and followed on when I was old enough to make my own choices.
The idea of perfection is at the root of this issue. Teach kids how to be happy with themselves as they are. Meditation is more important than physical activity.
Meditation is great, but physical activity is extremely important, especially in this day and age when kids are stuck behind their phones or computer for hours.
Exactly teach them about focusing on their abilities. I always try to compliment my daughter on how strong she is, how clever at climbing and creative skills to try and offset this obsession with looks. I also view food as fuel and try to avoid processed foods. It’s challenging to get my daughter to eat vegetables other than potatoes but we try to model a healthy attitude to food where it’s about balance rather than good or bad foods.
This whole video broke my heart. Thanks to anorexia, I probably will never be able to have kids but if I do, I will raise them to love their bodies as much as I can. Kids are missing out on being kids. I miss half my primary and all of high school because of my mental health problems and I wish that I never discovered the dark side of the internet which taught me "how to be anorexic". The whole thing about eds are awful and these kids are just like I was, and I remember how miserable it is and was. This needs to change!
I’m so appalled what kind of child does weight training? Shouldn’t they be playing tag and hanging around monkey bars? That’s sufficient exercise for them and it’s completely fun
Lifting weights can be started at 8 and is very healthy and good for the body. Teach children to be fit, healthy, and strong and don't talk about weight or ever mention diets.
@@laurelrevok It’s absolutely a ridiculous idea!!! It will make them BIG AND BULKY. I’ve lifted weights; so I know!!! It took me years to lose the muscle bulk. I wouldn’t recommend lifting weights: to my worst enemy.
From what I can see, these children are from middle-upper class backgrounds where looks are very important. I don’t think this kind of thing will be stopping anytime soon as status and appearance is often linked.
Language is important. This isn’t a “body dysmorphia” documentary. It’s a look at kids before or during their full blown eating disorders. BDD is much different. Also, if your preteen child is talking about wanting to be sexy, please take them to speak with someone. That is not age congruent in the slightest
Kind of ironic that you can’t recognize the hypocrisy of making a documentary about the problem and then showing like 15 slow panning angle shots on this little girl...? I’m not sure how that is going to help body dysmorphia... 14:30
The last mom laughs when the daughter says she wants to be a poll dancer to “get boys easier”, It’s not funny or cute it’s very concerning and should signal the mom her daughter needs to work on her self esteem and value as an individual. The mom and daughter need therapy....to say the least!
This is what my mom did to me. I was already super thin naturally and she would constantly compliment it saying how pretty I was because I was ‘so skinny’ and it made my 12 year old brain think ‘Ok, let’s get even skinnier then’. It makes zero sense to me now...but I began to eat next to nothing and my waist was almost non-existent. Looking back, my peers and teachers shocked comments of how thin I was made me feel like they were admiring me; probably not.
Same I was always very thin and it was the first thing everyone noticed, commented and complemented about me and even “flaquita” which means skinny girl in Spanish became my nickname i was called anorexic my whole life even tho I wasn’t but it never bothered me but now I feel like I HAVE to always be super thin or else I am nobody and I’m worthless it’s like being thin is my whole personality and what defines me but now I have Ana and Mia because I’m so scared but I’m glad I could relate to someone I hope you’re doing great
@@sil0175 If it helps...try to find a hobby you can really invest yourself into. I used to be known as the super skinny girl, but because of a hormonal disorder (hyperthyroidism) not "ana and mia". Even in my family and school. But I got really into art and anime, and then everyone around me started thinking of me as the "anime girl", and then I took on more of an artist "persona" as i got older and more invested into creating art. I've gained weight since then now that my hormones have settled down, but I still am me, even though I'm no longer the skinny child everyone used to know. Because I'm still the same girl who loved books, anime, art, etc. No one is worthless because they changed their body or something that they used to be known as. If you want to change who are what you are known for...try giving them something else to think of :) Maybe it will work? After all, we were all once known for being children...and then we grew up and people still love us and recognize us! Good luck and hope you can find a way to overcome your fear and be truly happy
@@mercy5004 this made me so happy thank you so much I will try and find something that suits me and that I like, I was actually painting as I got your comment notification which distracts me a little from my thoughts I hope you have a great rest of the week and thank you 😊
My mom grew up in a really dysfunctional household, and just about the only positive thing my grandma would say about her was that she was thin unlike her sisters. This upbringing really messed her up, and she still has a lot of body issues now even in her 50s.
I started my anorexia around 11 and it continued on until about 17. I relapsed a few times after age 17 but I’m 25 now and I’ve been fine for years :) my family never even noticed but my friends did. I never got professional help for it so I’m very lucky. But I still have things in my mind that will never leave. For instance I’m terrified of getting pregnant because of how big I’ll get. I also worry my husband will leave me after giving birth because I’ll be big and gross. But I hope my kids don’t grow up feeling like this. Since I did I’ll try my best to make sure they don’t
Oh my gosh thank you SO MUCH for uploading this documentary, I was obsessed with it forever a few years ago. It was on TH-cam and then disappeared overnight (copyright issues I guess). Then I could not find it anywhere, couldn't have watched it even if I wanted to pay for it. I find it super interesting. I also would love to know how these girls turned out too.
i’m glad all of my insecurities didn’t hit me until i was in middle school i couldn’t imagine being this young and hating myself as much as i do now lol
8 year old Joanna at the end is really growing up to fast. Her mother is definitely encouraging it. Her mom saying she hopes she doesn't have to worry about boys until her child is 10 is really scary. She's 8 and wants to be a teenager so bad. I think she and her mom are in for a world of hurt in just a couple years if that.
This so reminds me of me as a kid. I remember my mom always being on all sorts of diets, and a bit obsessively working out at the gym. I started dieting and working out when I was 12, which development into a full blown anorexia by 15, and then into bulimia until I finally got myself out of the cycle by age 22. But I now understand that the eating disorders were a symptom, as well as my depression. They are symptoms of myself not being able to be myself, to find myself or to express myself in the ways I fully want, instead following what other people/society tells me to do/be.
Mum to camera: I have NO idea where she gets these ideas.
Kid to camera: My mom doesn’t eat and weighs herself everyday.
That was the one that got me too!
I think that mom doesn't even realise she's doing that it's so ingrained in her and that the daughter is picking up on it
That was funny! I think it was very intentional lie for the camera, cause she said “I’m naturally thin, I eat what I want”……KNOWING every meal she picks at it and is VERY conscious of her food 😆.
no wonder
I haven’t batting the sword so recovering from myself that’s one of the reasons I told myself I never had children because I would be horrified if I had a child and I accidentally passed my disease on to a child
None of these girls are overweight. They need counseling for the whole family. The parents are letting their children play a very dangerous game and it’s toxic AF. Shame on them!
Shahidi wood Decorator ???
and this is how the wonderous world of anorexia started. I've been down that road many times.
I agree !! These parents worried bout their body image and not realize they kids are affected.. but then these little kids are getting from there freinds & it’s horrible them little gurl néed help now before they get older & it gets worse
@Rose :3 which is why they need counseling!
Overweight people do not see it.
I see it.
Innocence lost. Completely heartbreaking. They’re ultimately trying to look attractive for a society that will use them and throw them away. I pray for all the girls in this doc
Especially the one that was also making fun of “old age”, at which her mum laughed.
Prayer don't help though...
@@Shunima well what is OP supposed to do? Go their home and talk to the girls? If they believe that praying helps them let them believe it.
And all young girls
The girls brought me to tears, they made me pray to god to help all girls with behaviours and thinking like theirs. Imagine how they would be like when they grow up.
Why the heck would you call your EIGHT YEAR OLD "sexy"??? That's disgusting.
Hannah Mullen it sure is!!!!! It’s outrageous!!!!!! I fully agree with you!!!!!
Right !
Have you ever seen Toddlers and Tiaras?
It's revolting & a crystal clear example of dreadfully failing responsibility as a parent...
And he is only 7
It seems to me that the blonde Slim-fast mom thinks it cute that her daughter worries about her weight and wants to be like her, and that's just sad. She'll find out later just how "cute" it is.
@@shahidiwooddecorator6850 stop posting that video on all these comments! It has nothing to do with the video at hand, which is a of pretty important subject matter. You're disgusting. 😡
oBvIoUslY is soooo cute to develop an eating disorder... gosh this parents make me sick
A life of insecurity and never being good enough. I'm aware of my distorted thoughts and I struggle every day with challenging them. My mom didn't intend to make me this way and yet..
She is normalizing it because she has normalized it for her. She says she’s never been on a serious diet but she is very thin, especially for having three kids, and skipping meals in favors of just a 100 calorie fake chocolate milk. I wouldn’t say she has an eating disorder for sure, but clearly she has an unhealthy image. She is physically beautiful and looks relatively healthy. There is no obvious health or even vanity reason for weight loss with her, so she should not even be thinking about meal replacements. She needs therapy before her daughters end up being grown women weighing 90 lbs, fainting in public, and complaining about gaining weight.
That's legit how my mom wants to think of her she keeps saying that she would eat a banana and that's it for the hole day and keep comparing me to her
That store makeup woman asking the nine year old if she wears full makeup when she "goes out at night"...where is a nine year old going at night?
Well, she goes to school during the day, and probably don't get home till 4:00. They may go out to eat at around 5 or 6 if they do, that's considered evening. So that's not an illogical question. She probably did not mean it the way it came out,
She’s so stuck on the sales script she doesn’t even realize who she’s pitching to!! 🤦♀️
@@borngaga95 it sounded crazy ,come on lol
To the daycare center so her parents can go to the club? 😅
It meant like... go out for a fancy family dinner. She probably thought they were going out for events or stuff like that. Because you don't really see children getting make-up sessions.
Nine years old is WAAAYYY too young to be shaving her legs and wearing full make-up. Why on earth is this mother rushing this child into adulthood? How crazy... no wonder the child has issues. Let these children be just that - children!
I had the blackest hair and it was thick and long. My mom let me shave at 9/10. My fathers side is Italian so they have the really dark hair thick eyebrows the works lol. It all depends on why they want to shave that young. For me it was bullying.
I agree ! I didn’t start shaving until I was 13 and didn’t wear makeup until 15 or 16. It’s so sad to see how obsessed there poor young girls are with their weight.
Most girls start shaving in 3rd/4th grade (ages 8-10), at least from my experience.
@@adoreyou7449 And I personally think that is just way too young. When I was that age I was too busy having fun and playing to notice hair on my legs. Society and advertising has really had a huge negative effect on these young girls in that they think they are "grown up" while they are still just little girls. It is sad... they are missing out on a very important developmental stage in their lives - to just be kids. Adulthood comes soon enough. The parents need to get a better handle on this.
I started shaving at 9 because I had VERY dark, noticeable hair. But I agree that the makeup is too much
The 'gym for children' is just ANOTHER money making racket...children should get their exercise from playing!
Absolutely
Or sports
@Rose :3 thank you for your insight. Did you develope faster then other children? I remember that the first time i hit gym was at 15 years old maybe and then quit because it was full of grown man looking at me and not out of curiosity wich I can understand but with a sexualized gaze..
I think children gyms are too 'fitness' oriented wich isn't necessary if you have 10 years old. Maybe some good sport activity is the best, also with walking in the nature
Its more propaganda that junk food and sugary drinks is supposedly not the issue when it comes to weight.
And or sports
I’m 4 minutes 18 seconds in and already know the parents or those raising the kids are likely to blame.
4 minutes 45 seconds my answer.
They are to blame entirely
Exacly.
Me too the slim fast mum is definitely using enabling language.
At such a young age they surely have to picking it up at home. I hate the obsession with looks, especially for girls. It was interesting how all the mothers said all the “right” thing about being body positive and setting a good example but what came out of their kids mouths told a totally different story. I try to focus about eating to fuel your body well rather than good or bad food. Balance is key.
This seems... more like eating disorders then body dysmorphia:(. Especially the compulsive exercising??? Kids shouldn’t feel like they need to workout after dinner. This is so so sad.
You are completely right.
I agree with you completely.. It looks like an exercise bulimia to me. As someone who struggled with a multiple eating disorders, and still struggles sometimes with certain thoughts and actions, I can tell these defiantly are eds, unfortunately..
The two things actually go hand in hand.
This is body dysmorphia. They are seeing their own bodies in a way that doesn’t exist!!!
My Moto is and was, to just wear oversized jackets and wear pants, then when you wear say a dress or shirt people will think your slimmer then you really are, also avoid mirrors that’s what I always do... lol
These kids all exposed their mothers as liars. There was only one mother who held herself accountable for what her comments and behaviours were doing to her daughter.
Imagine if these children watched their mothers meditate everyday, have a garden, go for hikes in nature, be nice to other people, be nice to themselves/love themselves. Instead they are constantly seeing their mother’s dieting, worrying about their weight/size, judging others for their size, and talking about diets with their friends. So sad.
What an excellent point
So true
As an anorexic myself my heart hurts for those children and their parents who probably think it’s just a phase 💔
Right? I had Anorexia. And I can confirm - even though my diet is kinda ok now, def not anorexic...it never goes away. Its so sad to see this in kids so young.
My “phase” has lasted my whole life. I’m in recovery 7 yrs😁 But that type trauma lasts forever
same
As a fellow Anorexic, I completely agree it’s Heartbreaking to see these kids worrying about something like this so early in their lives. Reminds me of myself just a few years ago.
I agree
The children are clearly taking cues from the parents
Once I got my first phone I saw all these Instagram models and these beauty TH-camrs and such. That's when I started rly becoming aware of my image and losing weight. Which was both good because I was a chubby young teen. But also made me very ashamed of how I look. And to this day I still find all these beautiful people and feel a little ashamed even though I'm considered healthy.
@@Mewoomoo
I feel you, love. ♥️
No because I diet and my mom doesn’t do that she eats whatever she wants
Of course..and besides that..who cooks, who pays for the groceries and excircise material ? Parents are enabling and are the start of everything.
So how many of those kids ended up in inpatient care for eating disorders??
That is why I would never let her worry consistantly about her weight . I would want her to feel good about the way she looks not try to be someone she’s not .
All these kids are adults now. I wish they'd do a follow-up so we can see how many still struggle with their self-image like this.
@@dingomom95she’s saying this was filmed ages ago, and I agree. This channel posts the documentaries they’ve done 10-15 years ago.
@dingomom95 this documentary is from 2003
joanna's mom is laughing when her daughter tell her she wants to be a pole dancer that quite disturbing
The reason is even more disturbing thinking it will make it easier to get boys, that mom needs to stop trying to be her best friend and actually be her mother. That's so incredibly sad when parents do that I had a best friend who's mom was that way and she destroyed all of her children's childhood
Once they’re are 18 it is there choice but parents should always offer a helping hand when it comes to there child’s safety. The fact that these girls are under 10 is DISGUSTING to think about them s*xualizing themselves with their mom saying “you’ll get boys”. That’s low key manipulation-
teen mom by 13
my mom used to drink slim fast when I was a kid. she told me it was an adult drink for old bones and if I drink it I would get a belly ache, because I wanted to try it 😂
it's better than what this mom did though, i think.
Good mother
I like your mum ,she is a good mum ☺️
lying isn’t cute though. she should’ve explained the truth in a healthy way
@@younot6921 it's called as "white lie". How can you not know that?
@@younot6921
A good parent knows, when they need to protect their child with a white lie. I am autistic (so I hate lying), but even I understand this!
'Jung' is in real trouble...she is OBSESSIVE in everything she does concerning eating and exercising.
She’s also might be influencing her friends by talking about dieting and exercising with them. She needs help so she doesn’t develop a full blown ED when she’s older.
She sounds like she is on the verge of an ED.
I feel like she has an ED and is OCD.
It seems that many of these mothers are using the daughters as friends. They should all find friends their own age.
Be a parent NOT a pal it’s a rather toxic cycle to live in
@@ljmcdonald2703 I think you need a balance of both. You want your child to trust you like a friend, but you also need to be the parent and a teacher to your child at the same time.
At that young age they should be worried about playing with friends, not how they look! All of these families need help. It's sad.
Narcissism in the making
Not the families, the whole societies aare the problem.
Not me being 13 and haven’t “played” since 4rth grade 👴🏼
@@kevitamaster-brewkombucha5472 Well, I'm 38. It was different in the 80s and 90s for me and my peers.
Anorexia is a serious disease which I hope none of the girls get because it causes a lot of internal health problems as well.
My heart sunk when the girl said that the hula hoop hurt, and therefore it's working.. the fact that she is only happy when the exercise hurts is so sad and twisted and I hope she has a better relationship with exercise today
Some viewers unacquainted with the English weight system may think that losing one stone doesn't sound like a lot. However, it is 14 lbs. and that's a lot of weight for a young girl to lose.
Thanks for clarifying
That’s how much I want to lose 🧑🏻🦼💨
@@kevitamaster-brewkombucha5472 I hope you want to lose the weight to be healthier not to be thinner. Remember that you’re perfect just the way you are, and that’s you don’t need to be skinny to be happy.
😳😳😳That's so much
thank you
Why is the mother showing her child her diet drinks??? 🤦🏻
She doesn't have to sit her down and show her. She knows what she buys and what's in the fridge.
The child's not blind she can see when she is drinking it or if its in the frig
Children are observant and ask a lot of questions, if I ever had a child and went on a diet if they asked me what I was drinking/eating or why I didn't eat the same as I did I wouldn't lie to them. Children are smart.
You can show children but give them some bullshit story about it
What’s even more concerning is why she thinks she even needs slim fast. She can’t be more than a size 4.
Should kids exercise? Yes.
Should they exercise solely because they hate their bodies? Absolutely not.
If kids are taught to focus on their health and how good they feel, everything should take care of itself.
Kids should just play rather than focusing on exercise
Kids should exercise because it's fun.
They should be doing fun active things like playing sports with friends or dancing.
That's what we did.
And we walked everywhere.
I ate whatever I wanted and stayed thin because I was so active and not to lose weight, just because we enjoyed it.
I did ballet and modern dancing, cricket, tennis, athletics, we were always walking to each other's houses and the park and climbing trees .
I often used to have to take the bus home but sometimes I'd spend my bus money on a donut at the tuck shop and walk the 4km home.
It wouldn't even tire me because I was so fit, especially from ballet because I took ballet very seriously and would have become a professional dancer if I hadn't had a serious defect with my feet which I only found out when I'd been in points for a year and performing and doing the exams from 5years old.
I wasn't pressured by my parents at all.
I chose to do it.
I did figure skating too.
Kids do not need to exercise, playing and physical activities is just enough.
@@leenmattar3983 I consider play time/ any activity to be exercise. Sports, games of tag, running on a trampoline, etc teach them motor skills and coordination and help them socialize and relieve stress by having fun and getting endorphins from running around. I've seen some children enjoy "exercise" like zumba classes, calisthenics, cardio, weight training, etc so whatever they find fun and enjoyable, they should stick with it
@@crazee4590 Oh, I got it now. Thanks for the explanation.
32:40 If YOUR biggest concern is your 9 YEAR OLD daughter having enough natural light to do her makeup, and getting makeup on your carpet....YOU have NOT been paying attention to the actual problem. Some of these mothers have me absolutely seething right now.
These girls use the word perfect a lot. Very sad. Girls, there is no perfect 👌
An 8 year old wanting to be a pole dancer for heavens sake?!
Mom: “oh I’ll worry about her when she’s a bit older”
Lady- you need to worry about her NOW!
There is something seriously wrong with that mom.
That child needs to be evaluated by a psychologist! There’s just something there that is alarming! And the mom...pheeewww, don’t let me start!
when I was nine I was pretending to be a cat
Made my day 😂 thank you! At the same time I think it's sad, thinking about diet at such a young age though.
Same here!
I was pretending to be a dog. 🤣
I started to concern about my weight when I was 16 because everyone would point me out as “the skinny”. 🙃
My sister used to stand on my back in the swimming pool and she pretended I was a dolphin. I still have back pain to this day.
I was too occupied with my paper doll house. It was my life
FOR REAL!!!! 🐱
This was more disturbing than I was prepared for.
I'm appalled at these parents.
You so right😎
@@shahidiwooddecorator6850 that's an interesting way to get views.
started watching this and I can't finish it, this is honestly so depressing
Me either
Same
Same here, made it about 6 minutes
The ending is pretty depressing, so you're good.
You missed the one little girl saying she wanted to be a pole dancer when she grows up because she gets boys easier and her mom is just laughing.
"you gotta move it to lose it"??? Jesus... If the kid was overweight I'd understand but she's not.
i’d say that the message would be just as damaging on an overweight child as a normal weight one. it’s important to teach kids to play for fun without a focus on body image regardless of the current state of their body because their mental state will last much longer.
Me : trying to recover from my ED
TH-cam :
Im glad ur on the right path to recovery! Keep going
I hope you get better soon ❤️
Good Luck babe! You can do this!💖
Right there with you, hon! 💪🏽♥️
I just relapsed and youtube gave me this
These families could benefit from getting the scales out of their homes. This has been one of the most heartbreaking stories I have listened to for a long long time and I have worked in an Eating Disorder Centre that was attached to psychiatric hospital, in the past. I've seen what happen to girls who talk like these young girls do, and the mothers need to stop thinking its cute and giggling and smiling at what their girls say to them. They are listening, but not actually hearing their own daughters.
As someone who developed anorexia at age 12, this is like watching myself. Luckily I recovered. I can only hope these kids got help before it was too late.
I'm a recovering bulierexic. There's no cure. You may only control it
I was diagnosed with anorexia at age 9-10 and I still havent recovered its been 2 years. Its so sad seeing this. I saw a documentary of an 8 year old in a treatment center😕
This is why I really try to censor what I say around my young son.
I know there’s boys who have these thoughts about weight why won’t they show them? I think it’s worse for them than it is for a girl.
@@christinab.2864 it’s worse for both. Men’s body issues are rarely discussed so it’s difficult for them to seek help because they think it only happens to girls. The majority of media portrays women with ED because they are the majority of victims.
@@christinab.2864neither are worse. except girls have a higher rate to be affected by this and develop an eating disorder.
Unfortunately there's more pressure than ever on children with social media. They have access to images of "perfection" literally everywhere. Cyber bullying is also a contributor. The times we live in...
it's very sad... i see little girls aspiring to be like "instagram models", wearing makeup and sexy clothes at the ages of 10 looking like they are 16 and i'm baffled... i'm not old (25) but i think i was very lucky to be growing up when this wasn't a thing yet.. can't say it doesn't affect me now but i can't even imagine seeing these things from toddler age and growing up seeing even faker things on the internet than fashion magazines ever showed me... i don't even want to imagine what the future holds and how depressed every next generation will be
Yeah I didnt have social media until I was a teenager. Which teens can be very swayed by of course. I was too busy doing ballet to be on social media.
I didn't have social media growing up but there were still Barbies, Miss America , magazines and celebrities which is more than enough to drive the point across .
I get that but for me I had no access to media or TV until I was 16. And damn the amount of body shaming and sadness about my weight all came from my family. All of it. Every day, all was controlled, down to the amount of milk in my cereal and the number of cereals in the bowl. So yep, media doesnt help but it starts from within the family usually.
@@edelleaa I’m barely an adult but i feel so bad for the girls who are 11 and have millions of followers on Instagram. They all dress and pose like they are much older than me. It’s scary seeing people in the comments calling them “hot” and people shutting down anyone who questions it
The title of this should be How To Destroy Your Child’s Psyche. Nearly every parent is a toxic person. 🤷♀️ Only one was self aware, the mother of Chloe and the mother of Johanna thought they were amazing parents! 🤦♀️ It’s disturbing to refer to your child as sexy or allow them to wear a “sexy” top! At least she didn’t buy it. 👏
The sales rep at the makeup counter was so focused on her sales pitch she wasn’t even thinking that Chloe was a child! Just amazing and not in a good way!!
This is disturbing. Like a horror movie.
This is worse than a horror movie.
@@Ambear_ wayyyy worse
but worse
Now imagine living with it :(
It is. And for some reason, the child gym really gave me the creeps.
I feel sorry for the child at the end. What does "I get boy's easier even mean to an 8 year old? ".
@betha.6279 dont say that, ffs
This is absolutely ridiculous the whole family need help.
it's old, I watched this years ago. Notice there are no smartphones anywhere. I guess it's at least 10 years old. I'm sure they are now half naked on Instagram etc.
I sadly see myself in these girls. I went on my first diet in fourth grade. I’m 33 now and I’ve never been a healthy weight. I’m either skinny and starving or binge eating and obese. I wish I learned how to love myself rather than see my worth in what the scale says. Also parents, please don’t make comments on your children’s weight, it only makes things worse.
All the parents are not dispelling their children’s false and sad beliefs...they are terrible....all of them
I grew up in a family in which the women would always discuss weight of others. I grew up learning that they would speak positive of others who lost weight.
I was always compared to my mom since we look similar in the face but I have the bone structure of my dad's side of family. Everyone always asked why my hips and shoulders are so wide. They didn't get the concept of wider build. It was so frustrating.
I hear you! All the women on my mum's side of the family are bottom-heavy, whereas I turned out 'top heavy'. This drew no end of negative commentary because "No-one in our family has ever had big boobs", and it was somehow my fault that I did!! 🤷😂 It wasn't until I was given a photo of my paternal grandmother on her wedding day that the 'mystery' was solved. Turns out she was quite the busty gal in her day, bless!
I feel so sorry for Lucy.. she definitely needed more treatment. I could immediately tell from the baggy clothes that she was wearing that she was very uncomfortable with refeeding. I hope she's doing better now.
This documentary has to be about 15 years old by now (ETA: came out in 2002), I wonder how many of these girls developed eating disorders. I wonder if that Joanna girl got knocked up
So mostly of them are 25 years above now? I am really grateful that i have never to experience this during my childhood
@@azrina1230 If those girls were 11/12 in 2002, same as me, they'd be 29/30 now
2000 actually
Dean J it says MMII at the end
As an anorexic, i know how awful life is when you hate yourself 24/7 and there is no escape from your own mind
This all just reminds me of my childhood...except I actually WAS heavy, and couldn’t live up to my mom’s expectations (or society’s).
Now I’m in my 30’s and recovering from an eating disorder.
Keep up the good work! 🤗💛
You got this!! 💗
💪💪💪
i was thinking the same thing this is a worldwide issue and it started with the parents this is child abuse and should be treated as such
I'm just here watching this and looking back at my sleeping 8 year old sister (she'd be 9 next month) and the difference between her and these poor girls are stark. This whole documentary is just downright sad and it's disgusting to see that mom enabling her daughter
Agreed. Maybe it’s different in the UK but seeing these beautiful girls full of potential with so many opportunities open to them wasting this time of their lives on such superficial concerns.
My niece is 7 and i'm so happy how she's turning out. She likes to excersise because it means she can do things like front flips and walk on her hands. She's also super happy with just her nails painted. Everyone has made a conscious effort that we don't air our own problems with our weight in front of her. Like if we don't all eat ice cream as a dessert the reason is that I don't want to have anything sweet right after dinner, but I might have some later. The word diet is not a part if that reason. She's also being taught that you don't have to have something just because everyone else has it.
this is disturbing AF..... i really don't want my lids to feel like that at their age :(
Really demented
Honestly, best thing you can do to that end is to try to take care of and accept your body, so you can model that behavior to them. I can't remember a time that my mom, who has never been overweight, wasn't talking about how she needed to lose weight and my feelings about size are still messed up.
Yeah, I see what you mean
Most of them do you just don’t know :)
Lucy is incredibly self-aware, mature and intelligent for a 12 year-old. I am so impressed by her strength as well
Gee, when I was kid, we called exercising "playing outside." It was free, too!
k boomer
@@bunibun8579 Boomer? Really Immature comment. Kids definitely play outside less now than in the 1980s or 1990s. Its a big part of the obesity problem in children. They aren’t burning off any extra calorie intake or getting the physical exercise they need.
@@lahlahbad2452 the 80s and 90s seemed so much fun to be a kid i wish i was born then
@@bunibun8579 k boomer? I'm a millennial and I played outside all the time, my house didn't even get a computer till I was 14 lol
Now I think of it playing on a playground probably burns a lot of calories 👀👀
God bless my momma for never mentioning weight or anything like that around me.
Hear hear, and my doctor who never put me on a diet even when i was overweight as a child. He monitored my health and that was fine. I am convinced that if he did i would be in a lot more trouble (jojo- effect, unhealthy view on food or myself etc.)
I began to put on weight at age 10. By the time I was in 7th grade my mom had me on diet drugs .... uppers ... I was so revved up I could hardly sit still and talked nonstop. It was horrible.
As a young adult I was bulimic for about 15 years. That's a lot of barfing!! Ruined my teeth.
this screams 'children with eating disorders that are enabled by their parents' yet they act like they dont know where that came from!!!
I wonder to what extent the UK, US etc. obesity epidemic is another factor in making these girls skinny-obsessed. The experts in this documentary talk about the image of perfection as portrayed to us in the media, and society's focus on health, but we have other documentaries about childhood and adult obesity and the girls no doubt see these things too. I'm sure it's reinforcement to their thoughts of "I don't want to be like this".
Exactly my thought. Seeing the other extreme is so scary that I'm sure there's many girls and also mothers who are so afraid of getting to that point that they subconsciously fall into the other extreme.
I think it’s an extension of society focusing on how you look and valuing superficial things rather than WHAT you achieve in life or the kind of person you are.
This makes me want to try even harder to recover from my eating disorder and adress my fatphobia so I don't have this kind of influence on my children.
You're beautiful. I am working on losing weight while still being healthy. I work with my ED doc and though she isn't like thrilled, we've come to a place where we can compromise. I'm genuinely trying this time, to be better. I'm actually eating more. This has been a concern for me for so long, being a sick version of myself with little impressionable children. I have to force myself to eat so my non existent children love themselves
Just make sure you don’t talk about it or enact it in front of them.
Some parents are insightless on how they affect their kids with their stupidity.
all of them are so beautiful...i wish they could see it but with parents like that there's no doubt going to be lasting trauma for them..i hope they grow out of it with time...
When I was as young as these girls, I was more interested in sports and the Spice Girls. Not makeup, clothes, how skinny I was, my looks or what I was eating. This is ridiculous. The parents shouldn't be encouraging them to "grow up" so quickly. I only started shaving my legs and wearing makeup when I was 16. Starting at 8 is mental!
So having an interest in the Spice Girls didn’t give you an interest in fashion? I loved them in my early teens and they were a fashion inspiration for me.
@@PrincessKLS you liked them in your young teens not when you were 6
Some girls are really hairy at a young age as I was. Everyone’s puberty is different. There is nothing wrong with her shaving habits unless she really did have no visible hair.
@@Euphoria-m5w i was hairy as a child and very happy. Didn't care at all. Started to shawe at 18 when i started feeling self conscious. These children are way to small for this. It's sad that they lost their childhood...
@@Euphoria-m5w i was hairy as a child and very happy. Didn't care at all. Started to shaving at 18 when i started feeling self conscious. These children are way to small for this. It's sad that they lost their childhood...
I am a 23-year-old woman. And I cannot even have Instagram on my phone without severely feeling bad about my natural body. Just imagine children, and their lack of knowledge of angles and Photoshop and lighting… They compare themselves to a false reality
Thankfully this is why I only use Instagram for art. I never found looking at other people's half naked bodies to be interesting...and seeing some of my friends (and particularly my younger sister) become obsessed with their appearances in negative ways only reinforced that.
Hopefully social media can somehow help slow this strange progression we've found ourselves in.
The beginning was heartbreaking. The end with the makeup and shoes was just disturbing. I think a little bit of makeup is fine for special occasions, or a reward, but they're taking it too far.
This is so heartbreaking.. they’re talking too much about it.
I wish Eugenia Cooney would watch this and see how she's enabling a lot of girls that follow her and compliment her for being anorexic! Shes literally damaging her fans.
No if Eugenia watches this she’ll get worse because she’ll agree with what the girls are doing because she has an eating disorder
And how can she influence the kids in a 10 year old documentary?
Dude you dont seem to get the point. It’s about two diffrent things. She wouldn’t see the problem many see with this documentary and she would agree with that. But Eugenia influences the children that watch her videos
@@zoe2595 I don't think that she can be hold responsible for some girls developping an E.D. That's way more complex than watching a skinny person alone. Btw I though Eugenia recovered? I'm really not up to date with social media, in my head it's still march and pre Covid. No idea where the year went.
She can influence people that are kids today. Obviously not these kids since she was a child herself when this was filmed.
These kind of documentary’s make grateful to have the parents I have. I’m so glad my mum didn’t rush me to grow up. I don’t remember caring or even being that aware of how I looked in primary. I think it shows the environment you grow up in really effects the relationship you have with yourself
Maybe it's just my extended childhood speaking, but I don't get the wanting to be grown up thing, like, you only have 10 years to be a kid and 7 years before you're 18, and are technically an adult. If I've only got 17 years to be a kid, and the next 60-70 years to be old, why would I rush it?
Totally adapted their mothers toxic self image.
Wow. I’m nearly 50 but growing up I had no concept of dieting or weight until it was ‘forced’ on me by media. I feel so sad for these girls. I’m slim and pretty fit but I paid attention to my health when I was old enough to understand about it. My parents always ate healthy but didn’t bang on about it. I just learnt from them and followed on when I was old enough to make my own choices.
These mothers are overtly enabling and influencing their daughters. Some of them seem oblivious.
This is absolutely terrifying. All these kids will only get worse, and their parents are too blame.
The idea of perfection is at the root of this issue. Teach kids how to be happy with themselves as they are. Meditation is more important than physical activity.
Not really. Playing teaches them tolerance and coping mechanisms.
Balance
Meditation is great, but physical activity is extremely important, especially in this day and age when kids are stuck behind their phones or computer for hours.
Exactly teach them about focusing on their abilities. I always try to compliment my daughter on how strong she is, how clever at climbing and creative skills to try and offset this obsession with looks. I also view food as fuel and try to avoid processed foods. It’s challenging to get my daughter to eat vegetables other than potatoes but we try to model a healthy attitude to food where it’s about balance rather than good or bad foods.
This whole video broke my heart. Thanks to anorexia, I probably will never be able to have kids but if I do, I will raise them to love their bodies as much as I can. Kids are missing out on being kids. I miss half my primary and all of high school because of my mental health problems and I wish that I never discovered the dark side of the internet which taught me "how to be anorexic". The whole thing about eds are awful and these kids are just like I was, and I remember how miserable it is and was. This needs to change!
I'm sorry that you went through that 😔
Funny,the only overweight child has the healthiest attitude for a child (the friend of an Asian girl)
Not after she reads ur comment. Dont comment on other people appearance and weight.
yeah cause dieting is a totally healthy attitude moron
I’m so appalled what kind of child does weight training? Shouldn’t they be playing tag and hanging around monkey bars? That’s sufficient exercise for them and it’s completely fun
My dance teacher made us do weight training but it was fun
This. Children need ACTIVITY not EXERCISE.
@@muirgirl Also they are too young to realise that: working out/ lifting weights, makes one BIGGER, not smaller. It develops the muscles……….
Lifting weights can be started at 8 and is very healthy and good for the body. Teach children to be fit, healthy, and strong and don't talk about weight or ever mention diets.
@@laurelrevok It’s absolutely a ridiculous idea!!! It will make them BIG AND BULKY. I’ve lifted weights; so I know!!! It took me years to lose the muscle bulk. I wouldn’t recommend lifting weights: to my worst enemy.
I saw this documentary years ago! I wonder how these kids are now? Did any of them end up full blown anorexic?
I wonder too, wish I knew how to find them on social media
a little girl saying she wants to be a pole dancer so she can get boys easier and her mom just laughs it off wtf
I know 🤦🏽♀️
From what I can see, these children are from middle-upper class backgrounds where looks are very important. I don’t think this kind of thing will be stopping anytime soon as status and appearance is often linked.
What a sad documentary
Language is important. This isn’t a “body dysmorphia” documentary. It’s a look at kids before or during their full blown eating disorders. BDD is much different. Also, if your preteen child is talking about wanting to be sexy, please take them to speak with someone. That is not age congruent in the slightest
This is sad. But it's what our youth are struggling with. I struggled as well at an early age.. I hope they overcome this.
Kind of ironic that you can’t recognize the hypocrisy of making a documentary about the problem and then showing like 15 slow panning angle shots on this little girl...? I’m not sure how that is going to help body dysmorphia... 14:30
The last mom laughs when the daughter says she wants to be a poll dancer to “get boys easier”, It’s not funny or cute it’s very concerning and should signal the mom her daughter needs to work on her self esteem and value as an individual. The mom and daughter need therapy....to say the least!
I’m 18, and I only wear mascara. It’s so sad that they are so little and they self bad about themselves.
This is what my mom did to me. I was already super thin naturally and she would constantly compliment it saying how pretty I was because I was ‘so skinny’ and it made my 12 year old brain think ‘Ok, let’s get even skinnier then’.
It makes zero sense to me now...but I began to eat next to nothing and my waist was almost non-existent. Looking back, my peers and teachers shocked comments of how thin I was made me feel like they were admiring me; probably not.
Same I was always very thin and it was the first thing everyone noticed, commented and complemented about me and even “flaquita” which means skinny girl in Spanish became my nickname i was called anorexic my whole life even tho I wasn’t but it never bothered me but now I feel like I HAVE to always be super thin or else I am nobody and I’m worthless it’s like being thin is my whole personality and what defines me but now I have Ana and Mia because I’m so scared but I’m glad I could relate to someone I hope you’re doing great
sil01 Thank you, oh yes I have long since changed my mindset and my lifestyle. Glad we could relate!
@@sil0175 If it helps...try to find a hobby you can really invest yourself into.
I used to be known as the super skinny girl, but because of a hormonal disorder (hyperthyroidism) not "ana and mia". Even in my family and school. But I got really into art and anime, and then everyone around me started thinking of me as the "anime girl", and then I took on more of an artist "persona" as i got older and more invested into creating art. I've gained weight since then now that my hormones have settled down, but I still am me, even though I'm no longer the skinny child everyone used to know. Because I'm still the same girl who loved books, anime, art, etc.
No one is worthless because they changed their body or something that they used to be known as. If you want to change who are what you are known for...try giving them something else to think of :) Maybe it will work? After all, we were all once known for being children...and then we grew up and people still love us and recognize us!
Good luck and hope you can find a way to overcome your fear and be truly happy
@@mercy5004 this made me so happy thank you so much I will try and find something that suits me and that I like, I was actually painting as I got your comment notification which distracts me a little from my thoughts I hope you have a great rest of the week and thank you 😊
My mom grew up in a really dysfunctional household, and just about the only positive thing my grandma would say about her was that she was thin unlike her sisters. This upbringing really messed her up, and she still has a lot of body issues now even in her 50s.
I started my anorexia around 11 and it continued on until about 17. I relapsed a few times after age 17 but I’m 25 now and I’ve been fine for years :) my family never even noticed but my friends did. I never got professional help for it so I’m very lucky. But I still have things in my mind that will never leave. For instance I’m terrified of getting pregnant because of how big I’ll get. I also worry my husband will leave me after giving birth because I’ll be big and gross. But I hope my kids don’t grow up feeling like this. Since I did I’ll try my best to make sure they don’t
Oh my gosh thank you SO MUCH for uploading this documentary, I was obsessed with it forever a few years ago. It was on TH-cam and then disappeared overnight (copyright issues I guess). Then I could not find it anywhere, couldn't have watched it even if I wanted to pay for it. I find it super interesting. I also would love to know how these girls turned out too.
i’m glad all of my insecurities didn’t hit me until i was in middle school i couldn’t imagine being this young and hating myself as much as i do now lol
Probably many adults around the kids constantly worry and talk about their body and other people's body....It influences young girls badly!
shaving at 9 years old wtf
At nine they don't need to shave...right?
@@danythebest3958 Yes, I agree. Way too young!!!! It’s sad: they aren’t kids: they should be carefree.
This video is literally HEART BREAKING!!
Fun fact: gymd designed for children are called playgrounds and were invented in 1885 in Germany
This makes me sad, they should be having fun with friends not worrisome about wait.
Worrying about Weight*
mollyetmoi Ria. It was a mistake good golly.
I've never been so disgusted by a mother as I am towards Chloe's like get a grip that other ones weren't much better
Have worked so hard on my self the last 15 year so I don’t pass this on to my children. I am now pregnant and hope it is enough ❤️ this is so tough
Me too. I think we are aware and thats something to feel proud about. Hope you have an amazing partum😊
"I'm really good, when I am on a diet. But then I forget ! And I'd have some chocolate cake..." --- That kid is my spirit animal.
I feel so bad for these kids 😞 I get why that little girl wanted to shave her legs because I was picked on for that in year 6. People can be so mean.
8 year old Joanna at the end is really growing up to fast. Her mother is definitely encouraging it. Her mom saying she hopes she doesn't have to worry about boys until her child is 10 is really scary. She's 8 and wants to be a teenager so bad. I think she and her mom are in for a world of hurt in just a couple years if that.
This so reminds me of me as a kid. I remember my mom always being on all sorts of diets, and a bit obsessively working out at the gym. I started dieting and working out when I was 12, which development into a full blown anorexia by 15, and then into bulimia until I finally got myself out of the cycle by age 22. But I now understand that the eating disorders were a symptom, as well as my depression. They are symptoms of myself not being able to be myself, to find myself or to express myself in the ways I fully want, instead following what other people/society tells me to do/be.
Omg watching this little girl playing at a park with heels on!! This is crazy
They’re gonna develop an ED if they keep going on like this 😞 I have anorexia and I started having those thoughts when I was 15, I’m 23 now