WHY YOU DESERVE BETTER

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  • @loribrinzer5483
    @loribrinzer5483 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    Andrew, Thank you. I am 5 days no contact. Sometimes I can't breathe. I don't have it in me to delete all the memories. I have to watch your videos around the clock just to keep from folding. Thank you thank you thank you. Right now you are saving my life. I love you. I'm so grateful to have found your channel

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Welcome 🙌💯🙏💪😊

    • @lucy2875
      @lucy2875 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Allow yourself to grieve. Andrew has some amazing early videos on this.

    • @tonyhenshall1958
      @tonyhenshall1958 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Hang in there and keep on keeping on. Some days will be freeing. Some days will feel dreadful. But days will turn into weeks, weeks into months. And all the time, you are healing, becoming the third version of yourself. Congratulations on your path of narc free you. 😀

    • @smarternow
      @smarternow ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Please hang in there. You can do this. N/C is the answer! Listen and educate yourself. We are all here for you! ❤️

    • @itahayes6165
      @itahayes6165 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Codependency from childhood sets us up for these ‘relationships’ listen to Kris Reece also, she’s awesome.

  • @QueenPaulaBanks
    @QueenPaulaBanks ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Absolutely.. The Narc preys on your kindness. Taken it for weakness. If you are not careful. They will have you not caring anything about yourself. 💯💙🥰🤚✋

  • @violetskye6863
    @violetskye6863 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I came from a narc family. My dad, brother and 2 half sisters . I married a narc and was with him for 30 years. He passed 10 years ago and I became curious about narcissism about 4 years ago. I see now what I was dealing with and only wish I knew when I was a young woman. Im grateful for your videos and others I follow. No one will pull the wool over my eyes again!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😉🙌💯🙏

    • @violetskye6863
      @violetskye6863 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Harmonious-jm3sy take your time working on yourself. I wish you peace and healing

    • @lishik7712
      @lishik7712 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I came from narc family, too. Mother & sister.

    • @violetskye6863
      @violetskye6863 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same to you!

  • @VeroVermillion8700
    @VeroVermillion8700 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Awesomeness!! Yeeessss!! Big Thanks! I needed this!! I thought I was loosing my mind at first!! WOW!! 🎉😂❤👍🏾

  • @lindaskelley7306
    @lindaskelley7306 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Andrew - I have been on this path and have listened to you daily. Your care and compassion in helping to educate all of us is so appreciated! Your words of affirmation at the end are very much needed, 'you are not alone'!! Thank you!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Welcome 🙌💯🙏😊☀️

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Linda ANDREW is such A BLESSING, you have a supportive family here,love peace and encouragement sent to you ,💪❤️❤️🤗🙏🙏🙏

  • @morgana4075
    @morgana4075 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Hearing your words made me cry. I needed to hear this message today..
    I deserve better. Thank you ❤️ 🙏

  • @dbcooper80308
    @dbcooper80308 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    “You deserve to give up that couch.” 😂❤️😘👍👍👍

  • @sunset6010
    @sunset6010 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Someone once told me:
    "ONCE YOU HAVE BEEN TRAUMATIZED,
    you can NEVER be traumatized the SAME WAY again" 🔥

  • @Mariah.B11
    @Mariah.B11 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    After my Dr prescribed me an elephant strength 🐘 sedative yesterday, have had something of an epiphany. After a good sleep and drying up of tears. Yes l do deserve better, alongside everyone else here. However l just realised, how lucky l am to have a roof over my head, no mortgage etc. And thought, looking at bigger picture, imagine being homeless. It's plausible many homeless are homeless as an outcome of toxic family/break-ups etc... fed by the huge prevalence of narcissism that permeates our modern society.

  • @julianterris
    @julianterris ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Hi Andrew, it's a blessing to find your channel, such positive/timely content for everyone recovering from NPA. After my I broke away from my former "partner" (17 years ago!) I knew that I'd dodged a bullet. After years of recovery, research and relearning I realised that my nuclear family had primed me for these soul-sucking relationships. I'm grateful for the loss of the dead weight and looking forward to my future, without any of these people in it. #Namaste

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for sharing this 😊🙌💯🙏💪

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Julian sending love,peace and happiness🤗🤗❤️❤️🙏🙏💪

    • @Tatjana.B
      @Tatjana.B ปีที่แล้ว

      Julian...I also found out that my nuclear family did it for me. Mother and sister narcissists and father servant but I took all patterns from my father who was great in many ways but did also big mistakes in relation with me because of some reasons. And damage is done a long ago...not so easy to be repaired.

    • @janetroberts5140
      @janetroberts5140 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The blessing is to lose 230 pounds the easy way through divorce when their dedication was false from the beginning.

    • @lrx54
      @lrx54 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your story sounds familiar to mine. Best wishes as things do get better and better 🙂

  • @DJ-le5lo
    @DJ-le5lo ปีที่แล้ว +4

    When I first met the narsarsist that I went on & married for over 3 decades...I told my friends what a wonderful wise but misunderstood person I had met, & planned to marry.
    In retrospect I now realise the only person that misunderstood was me!
    Ugghhh...has taken over 35 yrs to find out that that misunderstood creature was & is a narcissist - a master of trickery.They have chosen the wrong path, & will never conform.
    Hard to believe they are such con artists...sometimes you are too close to the forest to see the trees.
    Remove yourself from narcissistic toxic relationship/s ASAP...you will find that is the best decision you have made in your lifetime.

  • @carolprivate418
    @carolprivate418 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Title says words of FREEDOM!
    One of my first eye opening thoughts. What motivated me to move away from all narcs... still learning daily.
    Thank you Andrew for assistance with my healing.☺️

  • @nvsni
    @nvsni ปีที่แล้ว +68

    I finally realized that i deserve better! We all do ❤️✨

  • @susanbeaucage3867
    @susanbeaucage3867 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Yes we deserve better and we all deserve to he happy 😊

  • @shahadah1451
    @shahadah1451 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    So true, they want us an extension of themselves in their dictatorship, not a relationship at all! I am not perfect, but I did deserve better....because I always did my very best. My clouds have lifted, and I am branching out to heal, with God's Help.
    I did focus on myself even before I awoke to the narcissists, and they used that as the reason to blame me.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🙌🙏💯

    • @rachaelhartnett
      @rachaelhartnett ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes you deserve better!!! We deserve better!! Praying for you sister!!! ❤one day soon, I can be free. 🙏🏼❤️xoxoxoxoxoxo

  • @Ilvyy
    @Ilvyy ปีที่แล้ว +30

    My narcissistic ex messaged me on my birthday. I knew this might happen because of you, Andrew, so I was somewhat prepared and replied politely, but was definitely giving him grey rock. He hasn't even read my reply. Even his birthday message to me was about him - I definitely deserve better! Can't wait for the day our divorce is finalised, and I can completely cut him out of my life🥲
    I am healing a bit more every single day, and I love this third version of myself ♥️ thanks Andrew! For everything 🤗

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว

      Welcome 🙌💯🙏😊

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oof 😥 it’s ALWAYS about them 🙄 so sorry. HAPPY BIRTHDAY belated and may you enjoy every beautiful day of your life free of that toxin ❤

    • @Ilvyy
      @Ilvyy ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Chelsea Peterson Thank you so much ♥ Sending you a big hug for your kind words!

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Ilvyy 😊🙏

    • @christielawrence4640
      @christielawrence4640 ปีที่แล้ว

      You rock, Chrissy!

  • @1Tmally3
    @1Tmally3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you, Andrew❤ We do💯

  • @gratefultobehere
    @gratefultobehere ปีที่แล้ว +39

    LOVED THIS MESSAGE 🙌
    I agree. We ALL deserve better!!!
    Learning new things everyday and the ✨ light in me honors 🙏 the light✨in you.
    Have a beautiful evening Andrew and every amazing soul! ❤️🙏

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you 🙏🙌💯😊

    • @karenlacy8950
      @karenlacy8950 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It was a great message. Love and light to all 🙏😇🥰

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere ปีที่แล้ว

      @@karenlacy8950 🙌❤️🙏

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ESSIEMARIE1998 hi Martha hug🤗❤️ how are you?

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ESSIEMARIE1998 🤗 I understand. Sweet peace and love to you 💖

  • @coral8313
    @coral8313 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    No one deserves to be mistreated in any form whether it’s in marriage or friendship,I know I deserve better in love I have a lot to offer spiritually,mentally and emotionally that connection will happen again I feel it . 😊

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      💯💯🙌🙏😊

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yea you deserve Better all of us do sending love and peace,❤️❤️❤️🤗🙏🙏

    • @steveboyer2128
      @steveboyer2128 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Don't give up ! I feel the same way too. Your'e not alone.

    • @coral8313
      @coral8313 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@steveboyer2128 gave up for many years ago not now I’ve finally healed ready for a new life

  • @sharondrake5794
    @sharondrake5794 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have learned, I understand now. I am 74, and can finally stand up for myself. Plenty of living left to do! Hooray!!!!!

  • @learnElvish
    @learnElvish ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Everything you say... I salute. I am desperately trying to get there. It is a slow path for me. A month after the cast aside and I am still feeling as bad as I did at day 1. I have already given advice to a friend noticing that they could well be dating a narc - that is worth something. But YES! I DESERVE SOMETHING BETTER. But as you say, I have work to do myself. I have wounds to heal. IT SUCKS!
    It is good that you say that I DESERVE better. I need to give myself a better sense of self-confidence. Yes, the narc (she) may be out there enjoying herself, but it won't last any longer that what we had. She will suffer the same. I need to understand that.
    This is such a tough path, but all these videos from Andrew and the community are helping. God Bless you all.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯💪😊

    • @learnElvish
      @learnElvish ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you Andrew.

    • @Tatjana.B
      @Tatjana.B ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I had the same feelings 3 yrs ago but it will be better with help of time and a lot of education. I have totally another look on whole story.

    • @learnElvish
      @learnElvish ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Tatjana.B Thank you so much....

    • @Tatjana.B
      @Tatjana.B ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@learnElvish ❤️

  • @StopListenThink
    @StopListenThink ปีที่แล้ว +11

    You too Andrew God bless ❤

  • @nancya.nelson5810
    @nancya.nelson5810 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Important topic. Keep educating! Narc behavior robs you of self and quality of life.

  • @KATHERINEGWRIGHT
    @KATHERINEGWRIGHT ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I'm frozen - can't do a damn thing because I'm so broken, and trauma bonded. I hate him and love him at the same time. This is the worst thing I have ever experienced. My sunny, Pollyanna old self has been replaced with a meek, panic-stricken shell. I don't know how I "let" this happen. And yes, I give great advice to my friends, but can't seem to do the same for myself. So disappointed in myself, and what I have become - a weak link who thinks I don't deserve to breathe his air (because he tells me that all the time). Ugh!!!!! : ( I would label myself as, Trauma-bonded, stupid, bondaged woman." And that's not funny at all. Wow - have learned so much from your great videos. Thank you for all you do....Praying that I can do what I need to do. Someday....

  • @YouknowWhy87
    @YouknowWhy87 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yesterday i gaslighted a wordsalad narc at my workspace..... He didnt like that reverse psychology on him at all. These little cowards......WE DESERVE BETTER WE ARE THE LIGHT IN THE WORLD

    • @hollylorn131
      @hollylorn131 ปีที่แล้ว

      That conversation must have been interesting, Lol, and thought-provoking to the narcissist! They probably weren't used to dealing with someone who understood them!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว

      ☀️🙌💯

  • @flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel
    @flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Received flowers on my Birthday from a good man that is in my life...my ex did not deserve my goodness, love, time, or precious energy....after a long painful 2022...2023 is so beautiful. I deserve the world😁 ty Andrew....you have been instrumental in my healing path. You are correct narcissistic chapter is closed shut...time to write a new one!

  • @Tatjana.B
    @Tatjana.B ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Of course that we deserve much much much...better then someone who only take supply from us acting that is someone which actually isn't.😊

  • @lynnerichard7145
    @lynnerichard7145 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Finalizing that divorce was the last chapter of a bad book I never want to pick up again.

  • @justjen2591
    @justjen2591 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Thank you Andrew. Your messages of hope and a future are always uplifting. Yes we do deserve better. I never understood what was going on in my relationship. It was the worst roller-coaster ride I've ever been on. I am still Journaling things I have suppressed within that relationship . It reminds me of the episode of "I love Lucy" in the candy factory. Where the candy kept coming faster and faster, Lucy was shoving candy down her dress, in her mouth but it just kept coming faster. This is what the abuse I suffered was like, by the time I tried dealing with one thing a multitude of other things were coming at me. I am slowly getting better and trusting God and my true self. Thank you, thank you and God bless you. Just Jen.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Welcome 💯🙌🙏🙌😊

    • @msliberated3899
      @msliberated3899 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Great relatable description, blessings to you.

    • @rachaelhartnett
      @rachaelhartnett ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m praying for you!! Glad you’re free!! I can’t wait until I am FREE!! ❤

  • @Theresa1010
    @Theresa1010 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Great words of wisdom and encouragement for the narc community! Thank you for helping so many of us to understand the path.🙏🦋

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are so welcome💯🙌🙏☀️

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Theresa welcome to the family, love, support,.peace,and happiness sent now and Always,❤️❤️❤️🤗🙏🙏🙏

    • @Theresa1010
      @Theresa1010 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@flowerpower4944 Thank you for your kindness! 🙏💐🦋

  • @mariageaney2362
    @mariageaney2362 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    🙏🦋 Andrew, you are glowing with empowerment.🌹thank you for your love.🌱🦊🔥🐶🐶🕷️🌺🌷💙💚🌟🦋🙏

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว

      Welcome ☀️😊🙌🙏

    • @mariageaney2362
      @mariageaney2362 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ESSIEMARIE1998 grand rising Martha, happy Imbolc🕯️🔥🕊️🌱🌙☀️☄️🎆blessed day to you. Bird of paradise 🦋🦚🙏🦊🥰

  • @garyfebbi7333
    @garyfebbi7333 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great message brother thank you so true ..appreciate you 🙏

  • @maggie6
    @maggie6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It’s astounding how ALL narcissists exhibit the same behaviours. The only difference between one narcissist and another is their faces. That’s the only way we can tell them apart.

  • @annettegutkind
    @annettegutkind ปีที่แล้ว +11

    You must heal - and continue to heal as you start to learn you

  • @charlietangoone2104
    @charlietangoone2104 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Good Morning
    He have been love bombing me heavy lately and I almost slipped and went backward, I awoke this morning thinking valentine's day is coming and maybe I should send a friendship rose to him, and THEN---SCREECH----- I had a intervention you was saying I DESERVE BETTER just at the right time, I came back to myself and had the thought that friendship rose will be shipped to me I am my own best friend not him and with it will come with a spa day and a dinner. Thank you. Andrew I want you to know how important you are in my life your videos pulls me out of the fire, give me encouragement, and is a lifeline to me . Sometimes I have to review some messages but I hear your voice when I drifting the wrong way. You have been such a blessing in my life. You are divinely sent to us and I want you to know that you are appreciated. 🤗🙏💯❤ Thank you so much.

  • @heatherwiltshire2621
    @heatherwiltshire2621 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Dont know what they dealing with until they find your wonderful channel Or until they break! Brought up by mother narc and walked into 22 year covert narcissisitic relationship. Woke up and moved out and blocking but breaking trauma bond hardest thing I have done. Watch your channel to keep up boundaries and remember they😢 do not change. Thanks for all wisdom Andrew.

  • @JaneenDaniellCain
    @JaneenDaniellCain ปีที่แล้ว +1

    8:22 "Every Narcissistic relationship has an expiration date." Exactly!! Exactly!!

  • @Outdooracademe
    @Outdooracademe ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Absolutely! When I went back to school 3yrs ago and started working around intelligent, genuine people, I completely kicked anyone with narc tendencies to the curb. Some I had known 40 years, but they had to go. The part that bothers me the most is that they were narcissist in the first place. Amazing how much time they waste.

  • @1o1carolina53
    @1o1carolina53 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    How appropriate I knew without looking this morning it would be 1.1k 👍🏻.
    Time for me to move ahead. My education is enough to put this chapter behind.
    Andrew thank you from the bottom of my consciousness in the body I love you my brother although we've never met face-to-face you're closer than ever less than three hundred miles from where I live.
    I pray for your moonshot to become reality.
    Every moment of the day I plan to elevate my daily meditation to endless meditation and in that time I send healing collective energy to everyone out there, as we are all one, both the personality disordered and the co-dependants.
    I pray for people to wake up to this reality that we are all one coming from the same loving source and that any further division stifles your own personal growth and healing to connect to source to God, isolating those who are ill.
    I think the best parts of humanity are to stand on the edge of the pit of self destruction and despair, AND help another out.
    Gratitude peace and love to all

  • @bevinkaker65
    @bevinkaker65 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Made some major breakthroughs recently. You have been very helpful and encouraging, Andrew! Through my skitzo introspection, writing and thinking through the childlike silent treatment and interacting with her post breakup I've learned a great deal. It's not about how insane they are, yes they were terrible, but I tolerated it. It isnt about her, but my own issues. We deserve what we tolerate. Some childhood traumas will make people into empaths or narcasists. GOD IS GOOD! I AM SAVED!

  • @user-xe9gv3tr3y
    @user-xe9gv3tr3y ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Every single thing you say is right on target! Sad part is I don’t know if I ever want to be in another relationship after what I went through with the narcissist. Thanks for your wisdom Andrew.

  • @flowerpower4944
    @flowerpower4944 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Hi ANDREW and all people Here,❤️♥️❤️🙏🙏

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😊🙌

    • @StopListenThink
      @StopListenThink ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Flower 🌸 stay on the healing path - you are 1,2 and 3 ☺️

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@StopListenThink yea I'm doing ok ,hope you are doing well too,♥️❤️🙏🙏

    • @StopListenThink
      @StopListenThink ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@flowerpower4944 awe thank you 😊 I’m ok - 😆 I stop dating five years ago… imma be honest… I thought i was ready to date, but then Covid happened and pretty much lockdown for two years ….(the one nice thing out of it is everybody else was sitting at home to ) but it feels nice actually to not have to worry about everything …..maybe someday

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@StopListenThink ❤️🤗🤗❤️🙏

  • @jimnelson19
    @jimnelson19 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thanks Andrew. After 7 months no contact you are helping me slowly heal and understand what and how these creatures operate. No wonder I always felt something is off in this relationship. Your help is grateful!

  • @carlosgiron1246
    @carlosgiron1246 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great video Andrew. Well I'm done with my narcissist , and I'm moving forward and not looking back. I am learning and healing my heart and soul. I do hope that I find someone who deserves all the love and kindness that I have to give. So I do see that I do deserve better than that toxic monster that claimed that he loved me. Thanks everyone and thank you Andrew.

  • @katherinedwong
    @katherinedwong ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Love your words of wisdom Andrew. It is highly informative and supportive of what i am presently going through...I was in a highly volatile 6 year relationship with an egocentric, manpulative, blameshifter narcissist. I am firmly resolved to continue my no contact, no communication stance, once and for all. It has been over two months of healing and I anticipate my healing journey will continue for awhile....love your videos...a heartfelt thanks!!

  • @lishik7712
    @lishik7712 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Most of my life has been spent in & out of the fog. I'm just so glad to have finally gained some wisdom & applied it. Blessings to you all & thanks again Andrew!
    🙏❤🕊✌🌷

  • @cnanmoore
    @cnanmoore ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I deserve more.... yet I have been listening to his narrative that I am lucky to be with him, that I will never do better, that I am not that smart, I can't cook, garden, parent..... I am completely devoid of any useful skills. So, this is a hard one to digest after having my brain hijacked and brainwashed. This one I will listen to a few times!!!! Thank you for your love and encouragement Andrew!!

    • @archiehendricks6093
      @archiehendricks6093 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yea I heard that too, but fact remains lots more parisites out there.

  • @randyschweitzer7777
    @randyschweitzer7777 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What a crazy rollercoaster ride! Insanity….I have a hard time believing a middle aged person gets off on this bs. But I also know it is true… you can’t unknow it. Thanks for your videos☮️

  • @flowerpower4944
    @flowerpower4944 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    ANDREW this video was excellent, yea it's time to have our life and enjoy the present moment, we are Transcending WARRIORS,Thanks Andrew for re inforcing.our value and Worth, 🤗❤️❤️🙏🙏💫💫

  • @pinkkittyize
    @pinkkittyize ปีที่แล้ว +20

    It has took a while, but I feel like a phoenix rising from the ashes, from a relationship that never really existed...And it feels good, empowering, love it...Keep your eye on the goal and you will get there..Much love 💚

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      💯😊🙏🙌

    • @TaintedLoveofaNarc
      @TaintedLoveofaNarc ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This so resonates with me! A relationship that never existed. A virtual hug to you. We're all grieving something that never happened".

  • @tinydancer62
    @tinydancer62 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thank you, thank you, thank you, Andrew for this video. I really needed to hear this today. 🙏🙏
    Many people have been telling me
    I deserve better, but hearing it in the context of this video, from your perspective and with your wisdom and experience, is especially helpful.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are so welcome🙏🙌💯😊

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Tiny Dancer , yes we deserve better and to have peace and Happiness ,your friends are genuine keep with them they are Honest and Loving, keep well lots of love joy and happiness sent❤️❤️🤗🙏🙏🙏

    • @tinydancer62
      @tinydancer62 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@flowerpower4944 Thank you very much, I wish you the same. 🧡🧡🙏🙏🙏

  • @ydasda4210
    @ydasda4210 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I didnt know about narcissism. I was blinded by the love bombing but I sure did think something was up during the devalue stage. I've learned a lot since. Im so grateful I've been freed since. Thank you.

  • @lorraineirons2452
    @lorraineirons2452 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is one of the best videos I think I probably have ever seen. I can so appreciate a person who has the courage to spread this message. I wish I could share my story with you it’s almost unbelievable even for someone like you I experienced the worst narcissistic abuse that I’ve ever heard of and your videos have helped me tremendously thank you.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว

      Welcome 🙌🙏💯

    • @rachaelhartnett
      @rachaelhartnett ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m like you. I can’t even type the stuff out, I start shaking and my heart feels like it’s going to explode! Even typing this. Journaling has helped. Writing poems. I used to share them with him but that was just used against me. THEY DONT FEEL!!! ❤❤❤Yah bless you!! 🙏🏼everyone is in my prayers 🙏🏼

  • @sorrycharlie5773
    @sorrycharlie5773 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I like that you always mention neighbor.. I'm wise thanks to folks like you..💜☮️

  • @AlitaAvenger
    @AlitaAvenger ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you 🙏.

  • @alienonion4636
    @alienonion4636 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    We do deserve better. I'm enjoying life surrounded by my crafts. It may not be much but I'm enjoying what I have when I want. Smile. Namaste every day.

  • @Checkchange1000
    @Checkchange1000 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you sir.
    My mother and sister told a lie on me to the courts that could of ruined my life. My mother told me I needed it to knock me off my high horse. God did not let that lie manifest.

  • @elmaswanepoel1598
    @elmaswanepoel1598 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This one I'll watch everyday. So needed by everyone.

  • @JLswatchthis
    @JLswatchthis ปีที่แล้ว +12

    We all deserve better! Happy tuesday!

  • @danielbelcher2700
    @danielbelcher2700 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Outstanding content very inspiring

  • @alison515
    @alison515 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Andrew- spot on once again, loved your video on us guys deserving better- however the main word for me was COURAGEOUS…I’ve never felt that until recently 💕 and it’s because of your brilliant, supportive daily vids you send us all, thankyou ❤️

  • @christinecronk9234
    @christinecronk9234 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you, Andrew, and I wish you the same.🌻

  • @i_am_eve
    @i_am_eve ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I really hated the walking on eggshells, being dependent on his mood, always being the guilty one in arguments and being looked down on… I know that I deserve better. But still I ruminate about the good stuff and question if that was real to some extend or if he was just mirroring me. If so, then I know that I was the best girlfriend I could have been and that he is losing a great partner. I deserve someone that will see my light, that will appreciate my empathy and will love and accept me for who I am. He wanted to create the ideal picture of a couple but what I got was constent stress and fear from thinking „what do I have to do to appease him?“ But I really deserve better. I am enough the way I am. And better things are waiting for me out there. I know that I have to work on my boundaries now and learn to say no. I will heal in time.
    I would love to hear from you what you did on your healing path since I struggle with self love and finding my own self worth. Maybe you could make a video on that for some positive insights from you. Your videos always calm me down give me some hope that I will heal. Thank you, Andrew! 🙏🏼❤️

  • @dinamiller9744
    @dinamiller9744 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    Hi Andrew, as a nurse for over 28 years my job was to listen to patients and be empathetic and physically and emotionally and be there always for them. The problem now that I look at it, was I did the same for my children, but really deep down neglected myself. Thanks for your wisdom.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Welcome 🙏🙌💯😊

    • @firehorse9996
      @firehorse9996 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Going out on a limb here... it's good to see you found Andrew and this channel and can now put yourself first. But while you neglected yourself, I do hope you ended up with a stable family life and children who appreciate you. My situation is the other side of the coin - a very malignant NPD father who sabotaged my life (and my brother and sister's college educations) at every turn and now it's time to finally cut him out. He dangles gifts of money at Christmas and then never sends anything. How many years now has he ruined Christmas? It's insane. If you gave all of yourself to your children, I wholeheartedly thank you for it! Even if they don't. Best of luck on your journey.

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Diana ❤️❤️❤️🤗🙏🙏🙏

    • @lucy2875
      @lucy2875 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same story here ♥️

    • @janetroberts5140
      @janetroberts5140 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Right there with you Dina, a nurse also, since 1976, serving people. I am taking control for myself, I walk at the new community center, it feels good to see other nurses walking with me! Hang in there we got much living to do and as Andrew said, "We deserve it."

  • @kaja231
    @kaja231 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you, Andrew! I am starting my new business, learning to walk again..

  • @mirih6463
    @mirih6463 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I wish I had listened to you many years ago..

  • @christielawrence4640
    @christielawrence4640 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you, Andrew.
    The objective vs the subjective views are enlightening, and not so easy to accept.
    I've not heard this addressed yet, and appreciate that you have pointed it out for us.

  • @yvettegivens7
    @yvettegivens7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you soooo much!!! I dream about one day being truly loved and in a totally genuine reciprocal relationship. I do know now that I deserve it!

  • @nouraabbas5385
    @nouraabbas5385 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So grateful I walked away , I’m so proud of myself ❤

  • @lucy2875
    @lucy2875 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Very helpful. Needed to hear take action. ♥️

  • @lindagodwin3680
    @lindagodwin3680 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The education that I received came from your wisdom and your videos. ❤🎉😊. I left in 2005 before your videos were available. I didn't understand that I was in a narcissistic relationship. I left became of the start of mental abuse. I didn't know that the narcissist was devaluing me. What I did know was that I was not going to put up with this and I deserve better than what this was. With your videos I am now educated! Thank you. I had to learn what all of the terms were! 😊😊😊

  • @ladiebugs
    @ladiebugs ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I have finally figured out that I deserve much better. It takes time to realize. But once you realize it, it is the best feeling. Great video, Andrew. Thank you.♡

  • @feliciajoy2264
    @feliciajoy2264 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Andrew. ❤️🌹🙏

  • @carmenbautista3353
    @carmenbautista3353 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So sad I needed to hear this. The truth hurts

  • @BuzzLgtYear
    @BuzzLgtYear ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I could have written the definition of narcissistic. I'm sure many on here feel the same. I'm post nars 20 years. I never committed to another relationship after that one. Haven't been in one in 10 years. Happiest I've ever been.

  • @bernadettekelly8165
    @bernadettekelly8165 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you Andrew ❤️❤️💕

  • @adriharris
    @adriharris ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Andrew - your videos have helped me tremendously. Thank you so much. I love when you say "think about that for a minute" :-)
    Thank you again and God bless you.

  • @happyhealthyblessed
    @happyhealthyblessed ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Andrew you are the best!!! I love you so much! Thank you!!❤

  • @jennifernewton4637
    @jennifernewton4637 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Took me a long time to really BELIEVE that. I kept hearing my friend say it, and I guess I didn’t take it to heart and ACT on it. I didn’t cut ties with the narc and dismiss EVERYTHING he said as toxic wind. That’s ALL I take it as now. It’s been a WONDERFULLY healing thing for me 🙏☺️🙏☺️🙏 Thank you Andrew and everyone for helping me along the path!!! I hope you all are having a wonderful day!!! Love y’all!!! ❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Welcome 💯🙌🙏☀️

    • @__Salty
      @__Salty ปีที่แล้ว

      :')

    • @Tatjana.B
      @Tatjana.B ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Jennifer...you are beautiful and smart and you deserve the best man in Texas ( could be from other country too 😊 ).

    • @gratefultobehere
      @gratefultobehere ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Totally toxic wind 💨 🤗 ❤

    • @jennifernewton4637
      @jennifernewton4637 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Tatjana.B 😊🙏😊🙏😊 OR the USA… I’m looking at YOU Andrew 😘😘💋🥰🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥☺️☺️

  • @Peace_love23
    @Peace_love23 ปีที่แล้ว

    27 years and I am on my way out of this emotional and psychological abuse. I thank you for reaffirming my suspicions that the person I have shared my life with for this many years is narcissistic. ❤️

  • @Cat-oj4oz
    @Cat-oj4oz ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My n-mom sent what I call a "pseudo-apology" that included the phrase, "I'm sorry you took it that way"... we really have to be astute to catch phoniness. A sincere apology is what we deserve, but we will never receive one from the narcissist.

  • @maryl234
    @maryl234 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Best question I asked myself when I cut ties was "what am I really losing here?" What about me? When you realize you deserve something back is the point you wake up and leave... and MOVE ON. Being alone is underrated! Ignore all hoovering and guilt trips - they DON'T change.

  • @gmd4318
    @gmd4318 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This really resonated with me. I am so ready to thrive and live a better life! I see a plan beginning to fall into place. Thank you Andrew for walking beside us on this journey and for always being supportive! It’s great to see you smile! 😀

  • @denieseransom2380
    @denieseransom2380 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thankyou for the strength of your wisdom and giving us all the strength to begin to rise above the toxicity and aftermath of destruction 🙏🌸

  • @A5xxxxx
    @A5xxxxx ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you🤍 I still watch your videos often and you've helped so much. I needed to hear this because just lately, the last couple of weeks I have been so emotional and almost feeling like I'm going backwards in a way. I'm back to doubting myself a bit, wondering what is wrong with me, feeling so sad about what happened. It's been 8 months no contact and I'm definitely doing better than I ever was in the 2 years we were involved but I just hate the ups and downs of healing, because I really do know the reality of the situation I was in, it was toxic and I don't regret cutting contact but on my down days my mind starts overthinking and the doubts creep back in and I'm back to always feeling on the verge of tears.
    Onwards and upwards I am trying to stay positive and hopeful! Hope everyone else is doing well on their healing journey.
    Thank you again.

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว

      Continue to become educated and empowered.. you are on the path..🙌🙏💯💪☀️

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You and me deserve better ❤ nobody deserves to be kept prisoner and slave in an abusive toxic lethal relationship with a narcisist! Thank you Andrew. God bless you❤

  • @marylamb56
    @marylamb56 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks again for helping us to move forward and not look back. And not to be bitter but grateful! 🤗🤔💕

  • @markscottcook3054
    @markscottcook3054 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Bless your life changing heart Andrew. Thank you for these educational, motivational and inspirational videos.

  • @joeblow139
    @joeblow139 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    If you are unhappy where you are, move you are not a tree.
    Keep grinding the path its the only way

  • @mekalove8174
    @mekalove8174 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    Hi Andrew and family🥰 I truly believe that we know we deserve better when we were in the relationship but it's more that we think the narcissist is going to change! And because we have such caring hearts we take a lot more and put up with a lot hoping they can change one day!! And tries to help them better there's self and there ways by loving, caring and being kind! But the more you give and show you care the more evil and cruel they be to you which is crazy!!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +8

      🙌💯🙏😉💯

    • @tinydancer62
      @tinydancer62 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      💯 right!

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Meeka ,you are so right, we give it all we can and more.until we see they don't come half way to meet us ,they cannot Love,I hope you are keeping well and staying on the Healing path, we deserve a better life ,sending love and joy and peace .today and always ❤️❤️🙏🙏🤗🤗🙏

    • @mekalove8174
      @mekalove8174 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@flowerpower4944
      Awww..thank you and hope you are to sweetie🥰 sending love and blessings your way too!🙏🏼💜

    • @robinsnow7779
      @robinsnow7779 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      All of this 💯 people will take then say you’ve done nothing . For attention . Idk

  • @AlitaAvenger
    @AlitaAvenger ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Love your videos.
    My experience is that as long as my body is alive I will never truly recover from complex ptsd. Something which has started at such a very young age... it's fear in the entire system, a sort of permanent shellshock...
    Ive had a wonderful psychiatrist for four years. Unfortunately he became ill. Also had a great therapist for eight years. Due to private circumstances it also couldn't last forever (nothing does of course).
    Those two therapists helped me a lot and without them I would feel even much worse.
    It is this feeling inside, existential fear, almost always present. I guess accepting this state as something unchangeable is the only way for me. Death will take the traumas definitely out, so in a way I am looking forward to dying. What I enjoy about aging is that time seems running faster.
    Being mentally tortured by cluster b personalities working for the Dutch 'social security' system for being unemployed is on top of all extremely damaging. Chronic ptsd is a very serious mental state. To put it simply, a genius doctor who knows me for decades said to me it's a handicap. According to the law in the Netherlands handicapped people must be assisted by the government in finding a job they are able to do.
    All they did is making me more handicapped by telling me that soon I have to put matches in boxes for a living, sending me hundreds of bullying emails, harassed me by phone, and last but not least even harassing other youtube channel owners (similar style as the emails) with trashy comments because they found out I left positive comments at a great self-defense channel. Those lowlifes enjoy the pain of others. The mentioned examples are only a few of the many humiliating things that happened.
    Still great to hear others are healing...🙏...🤍.
    Will keep watching your great channel!

    • @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone
      @NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯😊

    • @AlitaAvenger
      @AlitaAvenger ปีที่แล้ว

      @@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 🙏

    • @flowerpower4944
      @flowerpower4944 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Sending sincere love and understanding,peace and Strength 🌸🌸❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🤗

    • @AlitaAvenger
      @AlitaAvenger ปีที่แล้ว

      @@flowerpower4944 thank you. The same to you too 🙏.

    • @lrx54
      @lrx54 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m writing from Michigan, the most beautiful state in the US 🙂. I can’t relate to your roadblocks with the government, but a narcissist is the biggest obstacle by far! Find freedom where you can, in learning new things, learning about Jesus and his teachings, and you’re doing that right now watching Andrew’s videos. We’re all here for each other. I have a dog that helps as well.

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    BEST TALK EVER. ON LOVE.🎯🎯🎯

  • @chita4083
    @chita4083 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks so much again for the Motivation!!🙏

  • @myphd-myprisonhistorydiplo691
    @myphd-myprisonhistorydiplo691 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It was not the most fun digging deep and really taking a close look at my part in the situation. I had so much healing to do that I physically felt the change inside my soul!! The Universe God HP saw it is time for healing in a new way. I am slowly enjoying my new healthy relationship. I get moments of complete fear and want to run due to the previous “situation” and the person I am currently enjoying talks to me about why and how we can help together. It is actually quite beautiful! I would not know how to learn to enjoy a healthy trusting relationship unless I am in a healthy trusting relationship…….when the student is ready to learn the teacher shows up!! French Canadian style 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @hannastrack4310
    @hannastrack4310 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I THOUGHT ABOUT IT FOR A MINUTE I DESERVE BETTER THATS A GOOD LAUGH WHAT I DESERVE AND WHAT I GET ARE 2 DIFFERENT THINGS 💛💜

  • @jayjo77144
    @jayjo77144 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Good video Andrew 😊
    A lot to unpack in this video ( to think about )

  • @collegegirl201418
    @collegegirl201418 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    not just we deserve better but you deserve better too andrew think about that for a minute 😊

  • @vinnieo7082
    @vinnieo7082 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yes no doubt, we deserve better! Thank you Andrew ❤ your videos have helped me so much over the last 3 months no contact

  • @roslyncerro1263
    @roslyncerro1263 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you all. At my core, I am absolutely loving my Version 3. I continue to write Versions 2 and 3. Although not an easy process at all, it is the most thorough, honest, very clear look at what transpired. I can't recommend this process enough. Thank you, Andrew, and first, second, third repeats in my mind.❣️

  • @feliciajoy2264
    @feliciajoy2264 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I thank God. For this. And I thank you. Andrew you are doing. What so so so many of us need. . keep it up. ❤️🌹🙏