The words they don’t say are so painful as you know deep down in your gut it’s a bad relationship and you know you’ve got to get out of it and the pain of facing it is overwhelming . Once you’ve faced the darkness only then will you see the light and it gets brighter and brighter . Trust yourself always. Take that step to brightness . Thank you Andrew for showing us the brightness is there but it’s not an easy path and we just have to take the stages as they come. keep calm stay focused easy to say not so easy in reality . Listening to Andrew he keeps us in check . ❤ .
Thank you for this video, Andrew! Very often for the narcissist, the nonverbal communication (the silence, the rude gestures, their actions, the evil scary facial expressions, their avoidance, the physical abuse), says the more important things that the narcissist can't say. Namaste. 🙏 ❤️
@Mary Olinger Hi Mary, thank you. How are you? I'm getting a deeper sleep 5-6 hours a night. Things are getting better gradually. Would like to sleep like a baby eventually, Lol! 😊 Much love and peace to you Mary! Thank you for asking. You're very kind, Mary. ❤️ ❤️ 🙏 🙏
Those pitch black eyes of silence. Got that a lot..whenever I questioned his bs. Next would be “you don’t appreciate me” and walk off saying I was crazy! I do not miss any of it! It will be 1 yr next month since I left him! Yay me! I’m free and happy and getting my heart and health back! Thank you for your support Andrew! Only someone thats been through it understands the burnout and devastation. I’m certainly more discerning. I learned that and setting clear boundaries..so the dance wasn’t without its benefits to my empowerment.
Good for you! I'm where you were one year ago, but making progress. I was told by the therapist I'm seeing because of all my health problems related to stress, including anxiety and PTSD that I'm a BAD PICKER.
Be Blessed Dear Brenda…❤ I’m at almost 9 months and it does get better. You can not go back. I learned that over and over many many years. You are doing so well and a inspiration to continue on the path.
Very well said. I'm on the healing path- divorce after 22 years of severe emotional abuse. I've seen it all. Still have to go through divorce- scary either the barc, but I'll make it.....somehow! Namaste and all the best to you!
@@jacquelinemarie1078 I’m holding your hand..I believe in you. Know this circle has your back and we support and applaud your courage..this is not an easy task. I’m doing it. You will heal..and I’m feeling stronger every day. You aren’t crazy in case you were told that!
Went through everything you just spoke of! My narc was so empty it was unbelievable! Silence was deadening. No more narcs. Peace and happiness to you. Namaste I believe in love and laughter. If it’s not there, there is no relationship!🌏🎶❤️🙏🕊
All is true. The biggest gift to myself, after 34 years, lol, is DO NOT DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONAL. yes it happened personally; however, it wasn't you JUST YOU BEING THE RESOURCES as Andrew states. Focus good people, we are healing 🦋
Those pitch black eyes scared the living delights out of me …. My nerves were shattered……when those narcs ever do say ‘I love you’ ….they are really saying ‘I love ME and I want you’ All the difference of heaven and hell. Thank You Andrew for verifying everything…….as they are never accountable for anything so they think 🙏
I found it fascinating your expression ,” I hear the words you are not saying “ . I have always said ,” I hear the words between the words “ ! Must be a quality of us Empaths
Gosh, the silence was one of the most painful things. He knew how hard I was on myself and must have enjoyed me assuming the worst. After a long marriage and two beautiful sons, he didn’t think we deserved anything in the divorce. It helps now to know what i was dealing with, but my heart hurt much of our marriage. Sad, but glad to be free from all that it was. 🦋❤️
Hi Pam, yes I agree. The silence was quite hard literally it brought me to my knees devastated me but it’s over now it’s over. What a wonderful thing I must not go back.
I am surrounded in a sea of narcissists. It doesn't get better. My beloved pet died on 2 January as a result of this. Have been threatened ,screamed at since his death on a level I have never known Was not even allowed to mourn in peace. This has been the worst experience I have ever gone thru. I realized a long time ago everyone I know is selfish. I can't say they are all narcissists on the high scale . I lost my faith in God since all of this The last weekend I was accused of saying something I never did and was badly threatened legally. I could have been made homeless as a result . I am devastated on all fronts. Trying to get some rest . They break the laws of the land with impunity. Screaming ,abuse it's been non stop. When my pet was alive,my closest friend I was able somehow to neutralize these crappy,crappy losers. Now that he is gone due to all this harrasement and noise it's unbearable. Not sure how to proceed . I hope no one ever goes thru what I been
This is such a good point. As soon as I starting looking at the gaps of the relationship, iow on what they didn’t do and didn’t say, rather than all the future faking bs my world suddenly righted itself on it’s axis and the cold reality of the relationship became crystal clear. It’s so easy to lose clarity during intense gaslighting sessions but looking at it from this angle of what is he not saying/doing is all I need to remind myself I’m not crazy. The pittance of love and attention they expect you to live on in a narc relationship is cruel and unusual punishment indeed.
Great video. I did NOT hear “I love you” much as a child or get hugged. So it was quite a dream when the adored hugging pastor lavished both on me. And then I heard those words “I love you” - they were completely fabricated. The hugs disappeared in devaluation time I do believe too. Dark web of lies. Praying all get out of the 🕸️ ❤🙏 Happy now and out of this 🦋
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 🙌🙏❤️🦋💪✨ The great thing is we have now learned what it means to love ourselves FIRST. Hard lesson to learn the path behind, but all lit 🔥 up now ✨✨✨💖💖💖 & I love you too
@@hollylorn131 hi Holly. It’s a gift to be on this side of it all now 💖🙌🦋💪 grateful to be here with everyone (who have also alllll experienced so much) Bless you 🤗💖
Yes, i agree. The blameshifting was always on her agenda. Very predictable in her actions. It actually escalated to a point that she said I should accept that she only has a LOW and a HIGH, nothing in-between. I should just accept it, and that is that. She never said that she was wrong. The word "sorry" never came out of her mouth. I thought I knew my "loving wife." I actually know now that I actually never knew her at all. And yes, she wants it all, clearly seen in her response on my divorce summons. Andrew, thank you for your teachings. Namaste and God bless 🙌 🙏 ❤️
Stay strong brother, You are not alone, I felt the same way. It's tough to get thru, I'm not there yet but with help from Andrew and my little family here, I think I'll make it.
@Steve Boyer Hi My friend, thank you for your encouragement and kind words. Yes, I trust I'll get through it, though it is tough. The part I struggle with is the cold-hearted BETRAYAL. I educate myself on this topic, and with the valued guidance of Andrew and friends on this channel, and I will get through this, knowing at my age (retirement), i need to start over again. What a disgrace 😤 and crime against me and my family 👪 😔 😞 😪 😢. With the guidance here and with the Grace of God, I will find my feet again.
@J B I went through a similar thing with my ex boyfriend. He told me that this is just the way he is, and if I love him I have to accept that. Nothing about responsibility, nothing about changing for the better, not even trying. Just "that's how I am, accept it". And an emotional rollercoaster. I broke up with him half a year ago and my life got so much better since then. I hope that you will find peace, love and healing and that you can leave it all behind soon and move on with your life. Once you can say goodbye to the narcissist, your life takes a turn for the better in a way you couldn't have imagined. Blessings to you and your family🙏 Sorry for my English btw, I am not a native speaker.
Yesterday was a hard road, today is smooth sailing! Ups and downs, but we will get through this! Thank you for your help, I need this everyday!! Silence was his gift!
Dear Andrew, This life I live, at the moment is very difficult, extremely challenging, the unknown for for my future, where do I go, the loss of basically my whole life, home everything I knew gone, It truly is so over whelming. It's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, I'm working on it! I thank god for my 2 adult sons love and support of 100%. Your videos you have are giving me the hope, strength, courage! I need. Sharing your Amazing Wisdom, your heart and soul to help others in the whole world is Truly Incredible, you are such a kind caring wonderful person, So helpful!!!!!! I want you to know It is Greatly Appreciated, Thank you so very much, (your Courage to move forward Video I'm moving onto now!!
Great video Andrew. Yes definitely in my narcissistic relationship, his biggest weapon against me was his silence, I could talk to him until the end of time and he would never respond. It was always can we talk later, then later he would get very angry and tell me your still on that. It was very bad mostly he would just yell at me and blame me for everything. He would tell me how much a piece of jealous garbage I was , and that he didn't know why he wasted his time with me. It was always the same hurtful things. Thanks everyone and thank you Andrew.
I am so sorry Carlos. I totally understand. The healing will cone and the pain will fade after a time. We never deserved how we were treated. I fixed a wonderful loaf of bread, soft butter, have a lovely crock pot of beans with grilled chicken pieces cooking with garlic and sprigs of rosemary. It was divine. Husband would say can we have his "friend" come eat with us.....well of course, he was single, no hot meal over there. No one would speak while we ate, but if the friend was there, oh yes there was conversation. I was constantly the one funding the efforts of my husband's spending. I loathed my existence, standing many times feeding babies at the hospital and praying to be some where else after work. There was no drinking out for me. There were no affairs, I was the one from the high profile faith that to keep it all together. Thankful, my boss a long time friend told me of s counselor I should see. It was my start on the healing path. 2009 it was after my father passed away and mom sold the farm. My father was the only man who every loved me. He saw who my boyfriend was before I married him. I just had to like a bull to death, I had to get married at 25! I learned then 8 years later went through the second spouse who took all he could get too. I am a whole year better, and it's not good to remember what happened but it's an education that keeps me safe and sound. Boundaries up and careful about relationships.
I've had the narcissist friend drop by. I'd just ask them what they want. Of course, they can't just say. Usually any one of them from over the years would say why do you ask that? I'd tell them because there's not a time I see them that they aren't anywhere between asking and demanding something. Believe me when I tell you upon not allowing them to enter your dwelling they'll find another way to get in. They'll find a way to steal your keys or bribe or lie their way into your apartment or just plain break in. Thanks Andrew. I'm doing pretty good with these subjects but still like the daily reminders of how awful they truly are and that will never change. 👍❤️☮️💐
they think we have problems to solve when they are completely broken on the inside and hurt others to feel better about themselves. that is so nasty. I ended all my relationships with 3 of them
You’re right on the money. I could hear my narcissist’s thought as loud and clear as if she was speaking them out loud. Even on the phone. It was a disgusting experience.
Yes, yes yes...to everything!!! You can read them like a book, but they convince you that you are imagining this, making you think that you are going insane (gaslighting) or that everything is your fault when they have their rage fits. I am soooooo thankful to be out of those toxic and narcissistic abusive relationships. I am sooo glad to have gotten the knowledge and understanding and begin healing. Is my life perfect? Will it ever be perfect? NO...but that's reality, and I am thankful to be alive, and blessed with my children, grandchildren, sisters and friends ❤
The narc knew the entire time they weren't interested, so he simply humored me. The empath is an 'after thought' to the narc and nothing more. Narcs are extremely dangerous people. Just horrible.
They are children trapped in adult bodies. Once the discard and devaluation happens you are toast, unless you have money and resources None narcissist's can be so evil too, a huge portion of the population are not the salt of the earth, we must look out for these individuals also ♥️
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 hello Essie ♥️ I hope you're having a good day/evening. It snowed here today so went to the forest to see the beauty of it. Two deers were running through Made my day seeing them ♥️
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 they didn't have white tails, plain brown but beautiful A dog was chasing them so they ran like the wind, sadly they have recently built a huge housing estate on the country fields that were a habitat for many animals, the land is getting more scarce by the week. There is a forest in the middle of it all. I wonder how long before they chop it down. I saw my first fox here when I was a kid. Badgers, rabbits, 🦌 deer not to be seen now. This is my first deer sighting in five years, there were tons a few years back
Omg, every time I watch your videos. Its like you heard my conversations this week. Every thing your saying is so true an validating. Thank you. I am not alone.
I always said... "why don't u say what u mean & mean what u say?" Right from early on. Thank u so kindly Andrew! Once again, bang on! 100000% I am an "I love u" huggy person, not because I know someone intimately, because I'm loving. Much love to u Andrew, for all the love u give to this community! Ur a great life line for those of us getting our lives back. Be Well! ☆ namaste
@@P4Eight RIGHT?? the black eyes... my ex has light blue eyes and THEY'VE literally turned coal black & lifeless like a shark's eyes... sorry to the sharks.. I love then! Lolol!!
Idk when my narc started abusing me, I eventually started mirroring his energy while staying calm. He realized he couldn't manipulate me and got bored...so our relationship ended rather easily(outside of the trauma I have to heal). He tried so hard as I was leaving to make me react though(very passive aggro type)😂. It was just further confirmation that he was an ahole for me. Good thing I was in therapy. ❤
Actually Andrew, my ex husband the narcissist did tell me that he loved me. Unfortunately this is the scenario he put me through over and over again. He would do something like lie or take my money without telling me etc. Then I confronted him. He would give me word salad. I continued to confront him. I was waiting for a real explanation and an apology. He would actually start to cry. Then he say, “Why are you treating me like this? You know I love you.” Talk about total manipulation. Towards the end of the marriage, I did give him a good answer to “Why are treating me like this? You know I love you.” I said to him, “Actions speak louder than words. You are acting like you hate me.” He called me a b!tch. I’m thrilled that he is gone from my life. Thank you Andrew for all your videos🌺. You are helping us all to get empowered and strengthen. Namaste and God bless you.
When I said I wasn’t happy, he threatened to take the car keys away from me. Anger. I have hurt, cried, prayed. One day clarity hits. Not in pieces anymore but a whole picture. I can’t unsee who he is now. I feel like I’ve woken. I feel free. You helped sooooo much. Thank you. ♥️🍃🕊
Amazing how concise this evaluation and analysis is.Unfortunately even after you have separated yourself from them,you still have to live with the damage.Please share encouragement and ways to move on past the abuse and trauma.
Ive been having nightmares, but im slowly managing to control them amid the dreamming procces Im getting myself out of the control of the narc. The nightmare is dreamming with the narc and she devaluing myself over and over again, but in the dream this time i managed to fight back and disengage. These are the morbid meories, the broken dreams remorse echos bothering in my sleep.
I guess I never thought of myself AS a people pleaser, Andrew, but maybe I am 😔 maybe that comes from walking on eggshells around my dad my entire life and saying or doing whatever I could to keep him from screaming at me, which happens every single day. I do see the looks on his face when I come in to say something to him… like it annoys him that I dared walk in the room and disrupt whatever TH-cam videos he’s watching 😢😢😢 Trying to stay positive all the time is a challenge. Trying to be positive on this channel when my own life is often a personal hell is a struggle. 😞😞😞
🌹😘hey Jennifer, I know how you feel. 25 years of intence narc abuse for me. Living with them, working for them( boss), having them for hellish neighbors!! Your light is bright , strong and true. You deserve better than this.🙏💞💕🌺🦊🔥💯💪 You are a starlight warrior.💪
Oh Jennifer my heart goes out to you. It's a lot of abuse to endure. When he starts yelling at you please get out of the house. And if you can plan other living arrangements to save yourself. You don't deseve to be treated this way. This is pure violence. Until then, take good care of yourself. Sending you positive energy my friend. 😇🙌❤🙏
Absolutely 💯 lt began with death stares. I'd look away... thinking: what have l done? But didn't dwell on it... that great unsaid. Words, not swords, their "apologist" said to me via text msgs. When they lied, it was always effortless for them. Little bunches of two or three words. Anyway, will feel better after coffee ☕️ Coffee doesn't lie. Thanks Andrew for today's timely revision. Off to put the kettle on 🙏😌
Right on brother Thank you so very much...... What a waste of time and life to try and save someone who couldn't care less and has no idea what's going on-- but then again maybe that's the whole plan ,, Take take take.. Blame,blame blame..--
This one was so emotional for me to watch because it was so true about everything. I was basically used on so many levels It was really bad. I kept thinking I could help, but it always backfired on me. I had to eventually leave because we have a young son, and I didn’t want my son to see me being abused anymore. These beings don’t have much of a conscious and they only care about what is best for them, no matter who they hurt. All I can say is Karma will one day come back around. Thank you for the videos you post. It helps many with the pain we go through. It is a slow process to heal and it’s been almost 3 years for me.
It is all True! They ask what your goals and dreams are right in front of others, to size you up. They hate you! So amazing that anyone could be like this! She, copied everything I did. As much as she could, to make herself the center if attention. Toxic and draining us right. She ACTUALLY got worse after my mother passed away!!!! Unbelieveable!!! Its all true.
Andrew you for me was spot on. I try to be easy on myself but, I still feel like a fool. It just makes me feel angry to know I was used and discarded without any consideration or thought. After everything I did In the name of love for them. What I thought was real was all smoke mirrors.
Oh, this brought back so many memories. He never said, “I love you.” He would say, “This is love.” No, it wasn’t. It was a long distance relationship. He talked about a future together, then would pull back. One time I asked him for clarification about our future together, then sat quietly waiting for a response. We sat there for an hour and a half and he never said a word. It only ended when I got up, packed my things, and left.
It's been two months of no contact and yesterday I went to my normal grocery shop...lo and behold who was also suddenly shopping there! He cornered me and started telling me how horrible things are going with the new supply and unhappy he is blah blah blah. I just stared at him, said to him: "That sounds horrible. Good luck with that." And walked out the shop and then burst out laughing in the car. I think it was the shock on his face that did it for me. I don't know what he was expecting, but he didn't get it. Thank you so much for helping me get strong, Andrew🌹💜
@@homebythesea-pt4sq It did feel empowering and I am at that stage where I was looking at him thinking what did I ever see in you? Much love from South Africa🌹💜
I am so happy I finally had the courage to block and go no contact with this Narc. Can't tell you how many times it seemed things were going really well again. Then I said to myself, "It's about time for him to start ignoring me again!" And in comes the Silent Treatment again. So I continued to sob my eyes out (every single time), wondering why he would not talk to me. Wondering what I said or did wrong to cause him to reject me like that. NO MORE!!!!
I can't believe how they come back like nothing happened! I guess it's another sinister form of gaslighting. I truly believe they know damn well what they've done. I have implemented everything to get rid of this clown and he just won't leave me alone 😒
I did hear the words,”I love you “. But I now realize that when she said,”I love you “ it was to keep me waiting till she would come back from shopping for groceries after 6 hours. Or when she went shopping for 5-6 hours for a new outfit. The words,” I love you “ as she was spending my money. It’s been 3 years and I’m still bleeding inside. I don’t think these wounds will ever heal.
Many times she would say "I love you" and I would say sorta jokingly in like a soft child's voice "You do?" and it would infuriate her. I realize even more now that I would do that because I didn't actually feel that loved beyond those words. I felt like she didn't even know what love was. Turns out I was right. How I gaslit myself for so long is something I'm really examining now. Working on the 3rd version of myself. Thank you Andrew- you're absolutely brilliant.
❤️❤️❤️Please Be careful! Ex-bribed our Kids, all of my Attorneys, Police (had them assault me) Psychiatrist, employees... 💞💞💞 Protect Yourselves!! Get Away!💞💞💞 ❤️❤️❤️ Andrew~ Bless You for spreading TRUTH & Knowledge!!
It's really difficult when you think someone is so loving and caring, and would never do anything to hurt you, and then you find out who they truly are.
Very Interesting!! Thank you Andrew! It is said that experience is the greatest teacher. The knowledge that you are imparting due to your experience is really eye-opening. Now we are aware of the dangerous manipulative thoughts that are the minds of the Narcissist that are not normally vocalized. This will definitely helps us to NEVER trust or always be skeptical of anything that a Narcissist says. Thank you very much🙏💕🙏
Thank you amazing Andrew. You are certainly a shining light for all of us survivors. Exnarc was completely unable to communicate and have a normal conversation when things were not right. What grown man has total communication issues!? Oh yeah, a narcissist! I don't miss being in that exhausting, toxic and fake relationship.
Hi Andrew I agree with every word you say . But I know one thing the Narcs would make great actors . They need a Oscar for the faking . Thank you Andrew .Your Brilliant! X
Thank you Andrew for such CLARITY Sir!! Oh yes! I’ve been entrapped by a few men and My Grown Children!!! OMG Thank you from an Empath!!! Understanding and Warning ⚠️!!! Thank you 🙏🏾 11:43
It sure hurts, doesn't it? I never thought things would go this way, I had such high hopes. And the children - - - I never thought they would turn out so selfish and self centered - - - they were so much fun to raise.
Dear Andrew, You are so VERY VERY VERY dead on (As Always) I have listened and listened to this video amongst others over and over again, You are "again" 10 TRILLION TIMES RIGHT PLUS!! It's so hard to hear these words of truth, wisdom, insight from you BUT necessary for me, They are Absolutely so True, everything you've said, I'm still hear, but working on leaving this Nightmare of a life of 7 years. It's so very heartbreaking, the words I'm sorry, I love you are and were non-existent! The Silence treatment, the abuse, this video in particular is so accurate ( I HEAR THE WORDS YOU ARE NOT HEARING) Is Excellent and so very Accurate Truth's! I am so Very Appreciative and Thankful for all of your Videos and You! Thank you from the core of my soul, and I wish the Sun Shines on You Always!
Wonderful truth Andrew. On my healing path where out of nowhere is new account set up from a narcissist with a crazy offer of " Let's be great friends " 😳👀🙈hahaha no way ever again. They clearly don't understand any meaning to the word " friend " after putting you through hell making it all your fault not even acknowledging anything they've done. Thank goodness I've learned so much from you knowing not to respond and block..i have true friends, with real meaning to that title people who lift me up and vise versa . Run run run is my intuition and on my healing path I'm listening to it. Thank you Andrew 😊🙏♥️
I lost my husband to cancer 8 years ago. Since then I've worked really hard on self-love thru shadow work. I didn't date until I decided to on line date first before entering the real world. Right off the bat I met a Narcissist on line. Didn't know because I was coming from a very good place. But then things changed so drastically it thru me off my feet. I was able to break it off, but the only saving grace was never meeting them in person. But it was a very powerful experience. I really feel for those who have these monsters in their life...😇
Absolutely and when you try to check them with your intelligence, it gets much worse or they lay low for awhile and then start back up again because they are hard core liars.
On occasion I ask the question,I'm still waiting for a straight answer,yes I hear the words they are not saying loud and clear!!! Thanks again Andrew...
So so true...I lived it and it devastated me to the core of my being. When you finally face the ugliness of the truth it's so very painful. Thank you Andrew for these podcasts. I am finding my way back to me and gaining my life....starting back from scratch as I lost everything through this horrid 16 yr relationship!
Great info, Andrew! Leaving out *key* words so they can manipulate the meaning of a conversation, as needed, is such a good point, and that's rarely brought up! Excellent explanation!!✌️🌞
So true Andrew.. or they tell you a story about "someone else," but it was really about themselves. Enjoy your day 🌞 It looks much warmer in NC, than MA (there's a cold wind today, still wearing my winter coat) ❤ 🙏
Can’t build upon anything with them, can never truly be heard, can never really ever be appreciated or truly loved by a narc or psychopath. So sick of it, now I find it better when I’m in conversation to just walk away. The more annoyed I’d get with it, I realised that only gave me heart pain and emotional pain and it was draining. I’m improving at getting over people like this! I no longer have time for people who don’t like or care about me.
All the people and all the ranchers that took me and my ex husband in on my horse wagon journey when we were married, would take ME back in a heartbeat, but I can’t SAY the same for him…
He did say once when I questioned him about hurting me ,he did say ( you hurt me ,I hurt you.) And once when he disrespected me I called him out on it he did say sorry but utterly took him a while. Told him( I will not be disrespected) whatever he was after he never got I'm so pleased about that because I set boundaries he definitely not like.
I know that forgiveness has been popular since the 1980s or 90s... But it also can be in Achilles heel to a recovering victim or empath here. (It's funny how people who will never give just take that word because society told him it was a so-called good thing and say it even though they don't mean it too)
The words they don’t say are so painful as you know deep down in your gut it’s a bad relationship and you know you’ve got to get out of it and the pain of facing it is overwhelming . Once you’ve faced the darkness only then will you see the light and it gets brighter and brighter . Trust yourself always. Take that step to brightness . Thank you Andrew for showing us the brightness is there but it’s not an easy path and we just have to take the stages as they come. keep calm stay focused easy to say not so easy in reality . Listening to Andrew he keeps us in check . ❤ .
Well Said
True words Spoken here. Get away and Stay away. There LOSS Our GAIN.
Thank you for this video, Andrew! Very often for the narcissist, the nonverbal communication (the silence, the rude gestures, their actions, the evil scary facial expressions, their avoidance, the physical abuse), says the more important things that the narcissist can't say. Namaste. 🙏 ❤️
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hello Martha, how are you? ❤️ 🙏
@Mary Olinger Hi Mary, thank you. How are you? I'm getting a deeper sleep 5-6 hours a night. Things are getting better gradually. Would like to sleep like a baby eventually, Lol! 😊 Much love and peace to you Mary! Thank you for asking. You're very kind, Mary. ❤️ ❤️ 🙏 🙏
@Mary Olinger Hi Mary, thank you for your encouragement! Much love, Mary! ❤️ ❤️ 🙏 🙏
Holly and Mary, thank you for blessing this space.❤
@@emilywilson7308 Hi Emily, how are you? Are you getting a snowstorm where you live? Much love and peace, Emily. ❤️ 🙏
I'm soaring like a phoenix from the ashes, thanks for your insight ✨
Those pitch black eyes of silence. Got that a lot..whenever I questioned his bs. Next would be “you don’t appreciate me” and walk off saying I was crazy! I do not miss any of it! It will be 1 yr next month since I left him!
Yay me! I’m free and happy and getting my heart and health back!
Thank you for your support Andrew! Only someone thats been through it understands the burnout and devastation. I’m certainly more discerning. I learned that and setting clear boundaries..so the dance wasn’t without its benefits to my empowerment.
Good for you! I'm where you were one year ago, but making progress. I was told by the therapist I'm seeing because of all my health problems related to stress, including anxiety and PTSD that I'm a BAD PICKER.
Be Blessed Dear Brenda…❤ I’m at almost 9 months and it does get better. You can not go back. I learned that over and over many many years. You are doing so well and a inspiration to continue on the path.
@@jacquelinemarie1078 it is not a disorder. It's a response. Your ability to choose is elevated by knowledge
Very well said. I'm on the healing path- divorce after 22 years of severe emotional abuse. I've seen it all.
Still have to go through divorce- scary either the barc, but I'll make it.....somehow! Namaste and all the best to you!
@@jacquelinemarie1078 I’m holding your hand..I believe in you. Know this circle has your back and we support and applaud your courage..this is not an easy task. I’m doing it. You will heal..and I’m feeling stronger every day. You aren’t crazy in case you were told that!
Went through everything you just spoke of! My narc was so empty it was unbelievable! Silence was deadening. No more narcs. Peace and happiness to you. Namaste I believe in love and laughter. If it’s not there, there is no relationship!🌏🎶❤️🙏🕊
All is true.
The biggest gift to myself, after 34 years, lol, is DO NOT DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONAL. yes it happened personally; however, it wasn't you JUST YOU BEING THE RESOURCES as Andrew states. Focus good people, we are healing 🦋
Love this comment!
Those pitch black eyes scared the living delights out of me …. My nerves were shattered……when those narcs ever do say ‘I love you’ ….they are really saying ‘I love ME and I want you’
All the difference of heaven and hell.
Thank You Andrew for verifying everything…….as they are never accountable for anything so they think 🙏
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hello Martha 💐🌺🙌🙌☀️🙂
I hear it as “I control you” rather than I love you
🙏🏽💯🙏🏽💯💥💥🙌🙌
I found it fascinating your expression ,” I hear the words you are not saying “ . I have always said ,” I hear the words between the words “ ! Must be a quality of us Empaths
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 I say the SAME
Gosh, the silence was one of the most painful things. He knew how hard I was on myself and must have enjoyed me assuming the worst. After a long marriage and two beautiful sons, he didn’t think we deserved anything in the divorce. It helps now to know what i was dealing with, but my heart hurt much of our marriage. Sad, but glad to be free from all that it was. 🦋❤️
Glad you were about to get out of your hell.
Hi Pam, yes I agree. The silence was quite hard literally it brought me to my knees devastated me but it’s over now it’s over. What a wonderful thing I must not go back.
Amen 🎯🗣️🙏
Andrew, you are 101% right. I'm still doing my thing. Day 24 today. I'm proud of myself. I couldn't have gotten this far without you. Thank you!
I am surrounded in a sea of narcissists.
It doesn't get better.
My beloved pet died on 2 January as a result of this.
Have been threatened ,screamed at since his death on a level I have never known
Was not even allowed to mourn in peace.
This has been the worst experience I have ever gone thru.
I realized a long time ago everyone I know is selfish.
I can't say they are all narcissists on the high scale .
I lost my faith in God since all of this
The last weekend I was accused of saying something I never did and was badly threatened legally.
I could have been made homeless as a result .
I am devastated on all fronts.
Trying to get some rest .
They break the laws of the land with impunity.
Screaming ,abuse it's been non stop.
When my pet was alive,my closest friend I was able somehow to neutralize these crappy,crappy losers.
Now that he is gone due to all this harrasement and noise it's unbearable.
Not sure how to proceed .
I hope no one ever goes thru what I been
This is such a good point.
As soon as I starting looking at the gaps of the relationship, iow on what they didn’t do and didn’t say, rather than all the future faking bs my world suddenly righted itself on it’s axis and the cold reality of the relationship became crystal clear. It’s so easy to lose clarity during intense gaslighting sessions but looking at it from this angle of what is he not saying/doing is all I need to remind myself I’m not crazy. The pittance of love and attention they expect you to live on in a narc relationship is cruel and unusual punishment indeed.
I swear the more videos I watch from you, I get more “ah-ha!”Moments! Thank you for making these videos. 🤗
Whenever I watch a video of Andrew's, I think, "This is exactly what I'm experiencing." True "ah-ha" moments for sure!
Great video. I did NOT hear “I love you” much as a child or get hugged. So it was quite a dream when the adored hugging pastor lavished both on me. And then I heard those words “I love you” - they were completely fabricated. The hugs disappeared in devaluation time I do believe too. Dark web of lies. Praying all get out of the 🕸️ ❤🙏
Happy now and out of this 🦋
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 🙌🙏❤️🦋💪✨
The great thing is we have now learned what it means to love ourselves FIRST. Hard lesson to learn the path behind, but all lit 🔥 up now ✨✨✨💖💖💖 & I love you too
Hi Chelsea, Thank you for sharing what you went through. You've gotten through all that and you're quite an amazing, caring person! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
@@hollylorn131 hi Holly. It’s a gift to be on this side of it all now 💖🙌🦋💪 grateful to be here with everyone (who have also alllll experienced so much)
Bless you 🤗💖
@Mary Olinger haha 😂 Mary 🤗❤️ thank you so much. Love 💕 to you as well!
Thank you, Andrew. You're the first person I have heard mention what isn't said. The truth.🙌🦋🙏
He didn't like my boundaries thats fir sure. 😂
Yes, i agree. The blameshifting was always on her agenda. Very predictable in her actions. It actually escalated to a point that she said I should accept that she only has a LOW and a HIGH, nothing in-between. I should just accept it, and that is that. She never said that she was wrong. The word "sorry" never came out of her mouth. I thought I knew my "loving wife." I actually know now that I actually never knew her at all. And yes, she wants it all, clearly seen in her response on my divorce summons. Andrew, thank you for your teachings. Namaste and God bless 🙌 🙏 ❤️
Certainly here your words Andrew . Spot on !!
The narcissist is a soulless empty shell.
Hang in there bud.
Your not alone
Stay strong brother, You are not alone, I felt the same way.
It's tough to get thru, I'm not there yet but with help from Andrew and my little family here, I think I'll make it.
@Steve Boyer Hi My friend, thank you for your encouragement and kind words. Yes, I trust I'll get through it, though it is tough. The part I struggle with is the cold-hearted BETRAYAL. I educate myself on this topic, and with the valued guidance of Andrew and friends on this channel, and I will get through this, knowing at my age (retirement), i need to start over again. What a disgrace 😤 and crime against me and my family 👪 😔 😞 😪 😢. With the guidance here and with the Grace of God, I will find my feet again.
@J B I went through a similar thing with my ex boyfriend. He told me that this is just the way he is, and if I love him I have to accept that. Nothing about responsibility, nothing about changing for the better, not even trying. Just "that's how I am, accept it". And an emotional rollercoaster. I broke up with him half a year ago and my life got so much better since then. I hope that you will find peace, love and healing and that you can leave it all behind soon and move on with your life. Once you can say goodbye to the narcissist, your life takes a turn for the better in a way you couldn't have imagined. Blessings to you and your family🙏 Sorry for my English btw, I am not a native speaker.
Yesterday was a hard road, today is smooth sailing! Ups and downs, but we will get through this! Thank you for your help, I need this everyday!! Silence was his gift!
Dear Andrew, This life I live, at the moment is very difficult, extremely challenging, the unknown for for my future, where do I go, the loss of basically my whole life, home everything I knew gone, It truly is so over whelming. It's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, I'm working on it! I thank god for my 2 adult sons love and support of 100%.
Your videos you have are giving me the hope, strength, courage! I need. Sharing your Amazing Wisdom, your heart and soul to help others in the whole world is Truly Incredible, you are such a kind caring wonderful person, So helpful!!!!!! I want you to know It is Greatly Appreciated, Thank you so very much, (your Courage to move forward Video I'm moving onto now!!
Welcome 🙌😊🙏💯
Great video Andrew. Yes definitely in my narcissistic relationship, his biggest weapon against me was his silence, I could talk to him until the end of time and he would never respond. It was always can we talk later, then later he would get very angry and tell me your still on that. It was very bad mostly he would just yell at me and blame me for everything. He would tell me how much a piece of jealous garbage I was , and that he didn't know why he wasted his time with me. It was always the same hurtful things. Thanks everyone and thank you Andrew.
That person was a jerk!!!
I'm so glad you got away. The discard is a blessing in disguise.God bless you, Carlos.🌹
I am so sorry Carlos. I totally understand. The healing will cone and the pain will fade after a time. We never deserved how we were treated. I fixed a wonderful loaf of bread, soft butter, have a lovely crock pot of beans with grilled chicken pieces cooking with garlic and sprigs of rosemary. It was divine. Husband would say can we have his "friend" come eat with us.....well of course, he was single, no hot meal over there. No one would speak while we ate, but if the friend was there, oh yes there was conversation. I was constantly the one funding the efforts of my husband's spending. I loathed my existence, standing many times feeding babies at the hospital and praying to be some where else after work. There was no drinking out for me. There were no affairs, I was the one from the high profile faith that to keep it all together. Thankful, my boss a long time friend told me of s counselor I should see. It was my start on the healing path. 2009 it was after my father passed away and mom sold the farm. My father was the only man who every loved me. He saw who my boyfriend was before I married him. I just had to like a bull to death, I had to get married at 25! I learned then 8 years later went through the second spouse who took all he could get too. I am a whole year better, and it's not good to remember what happened but it's an education that keeps me safe and sound. Boundaries up and careful about relationships.
@@janetroberts5140 I completely understand.
I've had the narcissist friend drop by. I'd just ask them what they want. Of course, they can't just say. Usually any one of them from over the years would say why do you ask that? I'd tell them because there's not a time I see them that they aren't anywhere between asking and demanding something. Believe me when I tell you upon not allowing them to enter your dwelling they'll find another way to get in. They'll find a way to steal your keys or bribe or lie their way into your apartment or just plain break in. Thanks Andrew. I'm doing pretty good with these subjects but still like the daily reminders of how awful they truly are and that will never change. 👍❤️☮️💐
they think we have problems to solve when they are completely broken on the inside and hurt others to feel better about themselves. that is so nasty. I ended all my relationships with 3 of them
You’re right on the money. I could hear my narcissist’s thought as loud and clear as if she was speaking them out loud. Even on the phone. It was a disgusting experience.
Yes, yes yes...to everything!!! You can read them like a book, but they convince you that you are imagining this, making you think that you are going insane (gaslighting) or that everything is your fault when they have their rage fits. I am soooooo thankful to be out of those toxic and narcissistic abusive relationships. I am sooo glad to have gotten the knowledge and understanding and begin healing. Is my life perfect? Will it ever be perfect? NO...but that's reality, and I am thankful to be alive, and blessed with my children, grandchildren, sisters and friends ❤
Stay strong :)
❤
And you bless all of us, Mary!❤
The narc knew the entire time they weren't interested, so he simply humored me. The empath is an 'after thought' to the narc and nothing more. Narcs are extremely dangerous people. Just horrible.
They are children trapped in adult bodies. Once the discard and devaluation happens you are toast, unless you have money and resources
None narcissist's can be so evil too, a huge portion of the population are not the salt of the earth, we must look out for these individuals also ♥️
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 hello Essie ♥️
I hope you're having a good day/evening. It snowed here today so went to the forest to see the beauty of it. Two deers were running through
Made my day seeing them ♥️
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 they didn't have white tails, plain brown but beautiful
A dog was chasing them so they ran like the wind, sadly they have recently built a huge housing estate on the country fields that were a habitat for many animals, the land is getting more scarce by the week. There is a forest in the middle of it all. I wonder how long before they chop it down. I saw my first fox here when I was a kid. Badgers, rabbits, 🦌 deer not to be seen now. This is my first deer sighting in five years, there were tons a few years back
Very true. We must teach the next generation to be caring empaths too! 🪶
@@jessieb7290 ♥️
Omg, every time I watch your videos. Its like you heard my conversations this week. Every thing your saying is so true an validating. Thank you. I am not alone.
You are not alone, and neither am I. Hugs. We will get through this
We are walking on the healing path together!💕
Welcome 🙌💯😊
Andrew you described him so well !!!
I always said... "why don't u say what u mean & mean what u say?" Right from early on.
Thank u so kindly Andrew! Once again, bang on! 100000%
I am an "I love u" huggy person, not because I know someone intimately, because I'm loving. Much love to u Andrew, for all the love u give to this community! Ur a great life line for those of us getting our lives back.
Be Well!
☆ namaste
Wow, I said the same thing and would only get a sterile look with black eyes. They're so pathetic
@@P4Eight RIGHT?? the black eyes... my ex has light blue eyes and THEY'VE literally turned coal black & lifeless like a shark's eyes... sorry to the sharks.. I love then! Lolol!!
Idk when my narc started abusing me, I eventually started mirroring his energy while staying calm. He realized he couldn't manipulate me and got bored...so our relationship ended rather easily(outside of the trauma I have to heal). He tried so hard as I was leaving to make me react though(very passive aggro type)😂. It was just further confirmation that he was an ahole for me. Good thing I was in therapy. ❤
Blame blame blame and no accountability. Excellent video.
Actually Andrew, my ex husband the narcissist did tell me that he loved me. Unfortunately this is the scenario he put me through over and over again.
He would do something like lie or take my money without telling me etc. Then I confronted him. He would give me word salad. I continued to confront him. I was waiting for a real explanation and an apology. He would actually start to cry. Then he say, “Why are you treating me like this? You know I love you.”
Talk about total manipulation.
Towards the end of the marriage, I did give him a good answer to “Why are treating me like this? You know I love you.”
I said to him, “Actions speak louder than words. You are acting like you hate me.” He called me a b!tch.
I’m thrilled that he is gone from my life. Thank you Andrew for all your videos🌺. You are helping us all to get empowered and strengthen. Namaste and God bless you.
Hugs xxx
Spot on!!! 💯💯💯
When I said I wasn’t happy, he threatened to take the car keys away from me. Anger.
I have hurt, cried, prayed. One day clarity hits. Not in pieces anymore but a whole picture.
I can’t unsee who he is now. I feel like I’ve woken. I feel free. You helped sooooo much.
Thank you.
♥️🍃🕊
Welcome 🙏💯🙌
No regrets.
He cast me off for an imitation.
And? He will always have to live with himself
This whole community is bringing back memories, and new ways to view life.
Great thanks andrew.
Hi Archie and Mary,
Sending loving-kindness your way!
Correct!! You are our angel. Thank you so much for your tremendous help and sincere caring 🙏
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 ❤️
Amazing how concise this evaluation and analysis is.Unfortunately even after you have separated yourself from them,you still have to live with the damage.Please share encouragement and ways to move on past the abuse and trauma.
YES! Their silence is their unspoken word that is telling you they WILL NOT COMPLY EVER to your petitions, demands or dialogue!
🙌💯🙏
Ive been having nightmares, but im slowly managing to control them amid the dreamming procces Im getting myself out of the control of the narc. The nightmare is dreamming with the narc and she devaluing myself over and over again, but in the dream this time i managed to fight back and disengage. These are the morbid meories, the broken dreams remorse echos bothering in my sleep.
I guess I never thought of myself AS a people pleaser, Andrew, but maybe I am 😔 maybe that comes from walking on eggshells around my dad my entire life and saying or doing whatever I could to keep him from screaming at me, which happens every single day. I do see the looks on his face when I come in to say something to him… like it annoys him that I dared walk in the room and disrupt whatever TH-cam videos he’s watching 😢😢😢 Trying to stay positive all the time is a challenge. Trying to be positive on this channel when my own life is often a personal hell is a struggle. 😞😞😞
💙🕊🕊🕊💫💙
🌹😘hey Jennifer, I know how you feel.
25 years of intence narc abuse for me. Living with them, working for them( boss), having them for hellish neighbors!!
Your light is bright , strong and true. You deserve better than this.🙏💞💕🌺🦊🔥💯💪
You are a starlight warrior.💪
@@mariageaney2362 Thank you Maria, you have NO idea HOW MUCH I needed to hear that today 🙏🙏🙏🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗♥️🤗
Oh Jennifer my heart goes out to you. It's a lot of abuse to endure. When he starts yelling at you please get out of the house. And if you can plan other living arrangements to save yourself. You don't deseve to be treated this way. This is pure violence. Until then, take good care of yourself. Sending you positive energy my friend. 😇🙌❤🙏
Just keep working through it, knowing that it isn't your fault. These videos are saving me.
Absolutely 💯 lt began with death stares. I'd look away... thinking: what have l done? But didn't dwell on it... that great unsaid. Words, not swords, their "apologist" said to me via text msgs. When they lied, it was always effortless for them. Little bunches of two or three words. Anyway, will feel better after coffee ☕️ Coffee doesn't lie. Thanks Andrew for today's timely revision. Off to put the kettle on 🙏😌
Welcome 🙏💯🙌
We hear that smirk loud and clear 😏
The words you don’t hear. Light Bulb 💡 moment! Thank you!🍀🕊🕊🍀
A narcissistic entanglement is a gift from God!
Right on brother
Thank you so very much......
What a waste of time and life to try and save someone who couldn't care less and has no idea what's going on-- but then again maybe that's the whole plan ,,
Take take take..
Blame,blame blame..--
This one was so emotional for me to watch because it was so true about everything. I was basically used on so many levels It was really bad. I kept thinking I could help, but it always backfired on me. I had to eventually leave because we have a young son, and I didn’t want my son to see me being abused anymore. These beings don’t have much of a conscious and they only care about what is best for them, no matter who they hurt. All I can say is Karma will one day come back around. Thank you for the videos you post. It helps many with the pain we go through. It is a slow process to heal and it’s been almost 3 years for me.
Reminds me of that poem by Trumbull Stickney “You lean over my meaning’s edge and feel a dizziness of the things I have not said.”
Hi Andrew,
I agree 100%! I experienced all that! Thanks for your words.
Best wishes,
Jörg
Welcome 🙏
Thanks for the reminder... I seem to have forgotten how often I was ignored, which makes no sense since it was all the time!!, but you're right!
Welcome 🙏
It is all True! They ask what your goals and dreams are right in front of others, to size you up. They hate you! So amazing that anyone could be like this!
She, copied everything I did. As much as she could, to make herself the center if attention.
Toxic and draining us right.
She ACTUALLY got worse after my mother passed away!!!!
Unbelieveable!!!
Its all true.
Actions speak louder than words.
Andrew you for me was spot on. I try to be easy on myself but, I still feel like a fool. It just makes me feel angry to know I was used and discarded without any consideration or thought. After everything I did In the name of love for them. What I thought was real was all smoke mirrors.
🙏🙌😌
Oh, this brought back so many memories. He never said, “I love you.” He would say, “This is love.” No, it wasn’t. It was a long distance relationship. He talked about a future together, then would pull back. One time I asked him for clarification about our future together, then sat quietly waiting for a response. We sat there for an hour and a half and he never said a word. It only ended when I got up, packed my things, and left.
Good for you!! Wish I could have been a fly on the wall after you left!
It's been two months of no contact and yesterday I went to my normal grocery shop...lo and behold who was also suddenly shopping there! He cornered me and started telling me how horrible things are going with the new supply and unhappy he is blah blah blah. I just stared at him, said to him: "That sounds horrible. Good luck with that." And walked out the shop and then burst out laughing in the car. I think it was the shock on his face that did it for me. I don't know what he was expecting, but he didn't get it. Thank you so much for helping me get strong, Andrew🌹💜
That's brilliant! Must have felt really empowering. Well done
@@homebythesea-pt4sq It did feel empowering and I am at that stage where I was looking at him thinking what did I ever see in you? Much love from South Africa🌹💜
I am so happy I finally had the courage to block and go no contact with this Narc.
Can't tell you how many times it seemed things were going really well again. Then I said to myself, "It's about time for him to start ignoring me again!"
And in comes the Silent Treatment again.
So I continued to sob my eyes out (every single time), wondering why he would not talk to me. Wondering what I said or did wrong to cause him to reject me like that.
NO MORE!!!!
I can't believe how they come back like nothing happened! I guess it's another sinister form of gaslighting. I truly believe they know damn well what they've done. I have implemented everything to get rid of this clown and he just won't leave me alone 😒
I did hear the words,”I love you “. But I now realize that when she said,”I love you “ it was to keep me waiting till she would come back from shopping for groceries after 6 hours. Or when she went shopping for 5-6 hours for a new outfit. The words,” I love you “ as she was spending my money.
It’s been 3 years and I’m still bleeding inside. I don’t think these wounds will ever heal.
Silence , can be extremely Loud .
Many times she would say "I love you" and I would say sorta jokingly in like a soft child's voice "You do?" and it would infuriate her. I realize even more now that I would do that because I didn't actually feel that loved beyond those words. I felt like she didn't even know what love was. Turns out I was right. How I gaslit myself for so long is something I'm really examining now. Working on the 3rd version of myself. Thank you Andrew- you're absolutely brilliant.
❤️❤️❤️Please Be careful!
Ex-bribed our Kids, all of my Attorneys, Police (had them assault me) Psychiatrist, employees...
💞💞💞 Protect Yourselves!! Get Away!💞💞💞
❤️❤️❤️ Andrew~ Bless You for spreading TRUTH & Knowledge!!
I believe you.
It's really difficult when you think someone is so loving and caring, and would never do anything to hurt you, and then you find out who they truly are.
Very Interesting!! Thank you Andrew! It is said that experience is the greatest teacher. The knowledge that you are imparting due to your experience is really eye-opening. Now we are aware of the dangerous manipulative thoughts that are the minds of the Narcissist that are not normally vocalized. This will definitely helps us to NEVER trust or always be skeptical of anything that a Narcissist says. Thank you very much🙏💕🙏
The eyes , it's always in the eyes. The eyes show more than folks think..they change. Pay attention 2 the eyes 🙏 ♥
Feelings speak louder than words.
Spot on Andrew. Thank you. God bless you❤
Yes. Yes.! Andrew. I’m living it! 🤗 You have helped me so much. I will get through this.Namaste
Your education and knowledge is greatly appreciate it, sir thank you may your day be blessed
Thank you amazing Andrew. You are certainly a shining light for all of us survivors.
Exnarc was completely unable to communicate and have a normal conversation when things were not right. What grown man has total communication issues!? Oh yeah, a narcissist! I don't miss being in that exhausting, toxic and fake relationship.
Welcome 🙌🙌💯
I always feel stronger when I listen to you. I should have known there are narcissist. Thank you so much. It won't happen again.
Hi Andrew I agree with every word you say .
But I know one thing the Narcs would make great actors .
They need a Oscar for the faking .
Thank you Andrew .Your Brilliant! X
Silence is the biggest weapon in their artillery, but art is the greatest weapon of all war; and futility goes in all directions
This is your best video to date so much ascension happening for you Andrew it’s enlightening to witness 😊
Thank you 🙏
Hi Andrew
You are precise, I resonate with everything you said here.
Thanks again. These videos keep me firm in my stance.
Thank you Andrew for such CLARITY Sir!! Oh yes! I’ve been entrapped by a few men and My Grown Children!!! OMG Thank you from an Empath!!! Understanding and Warning ⚠️!!! Thank you 🙏🏾 11:43
It sure hurts, doesn't it? I never thought things would go this way, I had such high hopes. And the children - - - I never thought they would turn out so selfish and self centered - - - they were so much fun to raise.
@@jacquelinemarie1078 I think it's the Most Painful when it's your Own adult Children. 💔It's So Isolating.
@@carriered4715 It sure is.
💯 They actually very predictable...
Mine left every christmas x 4 years. Sick
More great education!! Thank you!!❤
Andrew thank you for your time and effort,your talks are so supportive,and educational, making this nightmare manageable. Namaste❤️
Upgrade achieved BLESSINGS BE✊🏾💯🙏🏾
So true. The way they treat you speaks loud and clear. Thanks Andrew 💙
Dear Andrew, You are so VERY VERY VERY dead on (As Always) I have listened and listened to this video amongst others over and over again, You are "again" 10 TRILLION TIMES RIGHT PLUS!! It's so hard to hear these words of truth, wisdom, insight from you BUT necessary for me, They are Absolutely so True, everything you've said, I'm still hear, but working on leaving this Nightmare of a life of 7 years. It's so very heartbreaking, the words I'm sorry, I love you are and were non-existent! The Silence treatment, the abuse, this video in particular is so accurate ( I HEAR THE WORDS YOU ARE NOT HEARING) Is Excellent and so very Accurate Truth's! I am so Very Appreciative and Thankful for all of your Videos and You! Thank you from the core of my soul, and I wish the Sun Shines on You Always!
Beautiful message thank you for sharing 🙏😊🙌
Wonderful truth Andrew.
On my healing path where out of nowhere is new account set up from a narcissist with a crazy offer of " Let's be great friends " 😳👀🙈hahaha no way ever again. They clearly don't understand any meaning to the word " friend " after putting you through hell making it all your fault not even acknowledging anything they've done. Thank goodness I've learned so much from you knowing not to respond and block..i have true friends, with real meaning to that title people who lift me up and vise versa . Run run run is my intuition and on my healing path I'm listening to it. Thank you Andrew 😊🙏♥️
💯
I lost my husband to cancer 8 years ago. Since then I've worked really hard on self-love thru shadow work. I didn't date until I decided to on line date first before entering the real world. Right off the bat I met a Narcissist on line. Didn't know because I was coming from a very good place. But then things changed so drastically it thru me off my feet. I was able to break it off, but the only saving grace was never meeting them in person. But it was a very powerful experience. I really feel for those who have these monsters in their life...😇
Thanks for your encouraging words. I have to say you seem happier and healthier since you’ve moved too, peace!
Absolutely and when you try to check them with your intelligence, it gets much worse or they lay low for awhile and then start back up again because they are hard core liars.
On occasion I ask the question,I'm still waiting for a straight answer,yes I hear the words they are not saying loud and clear!!! Thanks again Andrew...
So so true...I lived it and it devastated me to the core of my being. When you finally face the ugliness of the truth it's so very painful. Thank you Andrew for these podcasts. I am finding my way back to me and gaining my life....starting back from scratch as I lost everything through this horrid 16 yr relationship!
Goodnight Andrew ..great to hear your voice & massage
Do have a nice day kind regard Australia 💐❣️🙏 Praise God bless you..xo
Thank you again, I appreciate all of this!!!
You are so welcome!🙌😊
10:40 ... amen!
Great info, Andrew!
Leaving out *key* words so they can manipulate the meaning of a conversation, as needed, is such a good point, and that's rarely brought up! Excellent explanation!!✌️🌞
Wow!!! So darn true! Thank you Andrew!!! 👍🌴☀️
Welcome 🙏😊
So true Andrew.. or they tell you a story about "someone else," but it was really about themselves.
Enjoy your day 🌞 It looks much warmer in NC, than MA (there's a cold wind today, still wearing my winter coat) ❤ 🙏
Your are right, this happened so many times that I lost count. They are bullies with little brains worst than kids
Fabulous! Amen & amen, what an investment, the day so fine, on you!we love you, Andrew
Can’t build upon anything with them, can never truly be heard, can never really ever be appreciated or truly loved by a narc or psychopath. So sick of it, now I find it better when I’m in conversation to just walk away. The more annoyed I’d get with it, I realised that only gave me heart pain and emotional pain and it was draining. I’m improving at getting over people like this! I no longer have time for people who don’t like or care about me.
They know what they are doing! I am glad I believe in God and a judgment day, cause those evil creatures will meet their creator at time!
💯💯😉
Thank you Andrew!
Welcome 🙏
Thnx Andrew! Always cheering me up man! Blessings and peace 2 U
Welcome 🙏🙌😊
All the people and all the ranchers that took me and my ex husband in on my horse wagon journey when we were married, would take ME back in a heartbeat, but I can’t SAY the same for him…
He did say once when I questioned him about hurting me ,he did say ( you hurt me ,I hurt you.) And once when he disrespected me I called him out on it he did say sorry but utterly took him a while. Told him( I will not be disrespected) whatever he was after he never got I'm so pleased about that because I set boundaries he definitely not like.
🙌💯🙏😉
It's true, I actually feel it like a black cloud without any words.
I had to forgive him so I could move on from him. Thank you for your wisdom Andrew.
I know that forgiveness has been popular since the 1980s or 90s... But it also can be in Achilles heel to a recovering victim or empath here. (It's funny how people who will never give just take that word because society told him it was a so-called good thing and say it even though they don't mean it too)
@@jimmymatt6228 Yes, I'm recovering and this is what worked for me. I'll stay in my lane, you stay in yours.