I am 67, always lived alone, no husbands no kids, but an exciting job, lovely pets, beautiful house and garden, wonderful trips around the globe, great health ( so far!). And, above all, no regrets! From Italy
@@misha-elministries5246 I entirely echo RaffaelaIT's comments and guess what, Misha Baby, I'm a Christian. I guess it's entirely possible to live alone, no husband or kids, have lovely pets, a beautiful house and garden, and travel . . . AND be a Christian, too, since that's my exact status also. How about that, you judgemental croak. You are the worst of Christianity and you make me ASHAMED OF YOU to read your know-it-all, uber-judgemental, nasty comment about another woman whose religious status you wouldn't have a clue about.
Just turned 51, divorced for 8 years My loves Bathroom to myself Wardrobe to myself Sleep in the middle of the bed & have a pristine white duvet cover Eat early, in my pjs early Cinema on my own Self care buying beautiful clothes on occasion Do I get lonely, of course, was lonelier with the wrong person When you're unwell that's tough Rock on solo sisters xxx Burn the candles Wear the shoes ❤
I was so lonely in the past marriage. Nightmare stuff. I'm never lonely now. Sometimes I might feel alone - especially when I might have to deal with a snake that the cat brought in! I can handle anything!
@@Fegga1955Maybe living in a community setting would be the fix-for practical/logistical reasons, and maybe even for social reasons, it helps to have people you can count on, and vice versa. Hope you can find a better setup, if that’s what you need. 🙏
I am 64 and have lived alone since my 20’s. So it’s all I know. I have taken care of me and have done a great job. There has been no one there for me but God. All things are possible❤
I have been living alone since my divorce 22 years ago. I’m 62 now and honestly, cannot imagine living any other way! I love the freedom of being able to do everything from staying up late to sew with music on to having a martini with cheese and crackers for dinner if that’s what I feel like. The first weekend I was alone years ago, I called a girlfriend and told her I was giddy with content and it’s been that way ever since.
This is crazy...it reads like I wrote it! I've also been divorced 22 years and just turned 62. I love living alone doing whatever I want to do. I love my PT job in mental health, and I'm perfectly content.
I have been there too am also glad I am not in an emotionally abusive intimate relationship. Except now since I’m single I have my ailing widowed mother in my house who continues to tell me what’s wrong with me 😔 Working on emotional fortification in my 50s unfortunately
@@stacey3332 sorry to hear that. I have in the last year gone no contact with my abusive father and I am 60! I guess the family is where it all starts. Take good care of your lovely self x
I would like to add the fifth suggestion.. Find something to occupy your mind by doing something productive. You could sort the house out by focusing on each room or a corner each day to get rid of the accumulated stuff. Create your own exercise routine, learning from watching videos on TH-cam. Join a library to start reading books, if you don’t already. It is very important to keep our brain ticking, and body healthy.
which book do you recommend? i read what people suggest when searching on the internet. no love storys. but altual things.what i can learn something from
I'm 70 and never married, have no kids, have been an independent loner for years, and lived alone for 5 years, decorated my whole apt and love, love it. I love the freedom, eat alone, come and go whenever and wherever I have hobbies, and have friends. It's wonderful!
I got divorced in 2017 and was left with a lot of debt accumulated by my then husband. I got depressed and didn’t enjoy my life. My mum passed away in May 2019 and in May 2020 I was diagnosed with stage IV ovarian cancer. Am in remission as of April 2021 and am living my best life at 71 yrs old. Thank you so much for this video.❤ Much love from The Netherlands.
I’m the same and I did have a relationship for 10 years and it was traumatic no wonder his wife had left him ! Now I look after me and I’m going to get a dog and I have lovely friends and at last I have peace in my life and I’m loving it 🥰 with social media how could anyone be lonely!!! I’m in my 60s and looking better than I ever did
Iam 82 and have lived alone for 40 years I traveled to India and plan a trip in two years to.India and Pakistan Iam writing a book have a beautiful life
You're smart, I regret getting married, especially to the wrong guy but I'm legally separated from him now and living on my own for the first time at 57 and much happier🙂
64 yrs old live alone and love my peace. I stay as busy as I want to be. I sew alot make bread, watch older movies, play piano, raise garden,can from garden. Have time to research all my interest. Love,love,love being alone.
I’m 67 and have been divorced for almost 30 years and loving it. When I was married I felt so alone, now I’m alone but don’t feel like I felt when I had someone. Also, even when I was married, I was the one making all the decisions,working, taking care of the kids, trying to fix things, etc… I know I’m very independent and self sufficient which helped me a lot living alone. I love my freedom and cannot see myself married again. Love my life! Ladies, you can do anything by yourself! Be blessed🙏🥰
I heard about a study that showed that married men live longer than single men but single women live longer than married women. I am soooo happy, grateful and joyful that I live alone. There really isn't a day that goes by that I am so glad I'm not married. Yes, I had horrible relationships, but dating even after 50 I haven't had good experiences. I'm just so happy to have peace.
i divorced 2 yw=ears ago. no friends 2 kids one only at his room.other with his girlfriend. so a iam mostly alone. i have to get uses to it. i excersise, work, garden.kook clean.learning french. but still feel lonely. why i aks my self
I’m 62, my husband passed away this past August. And I’m still not used to living alone. Thank you for this positive and uplifting video. I know in time, living alone will be the new normal for me. I’m so happy I came across your TH-cam video today. 😊
I don't know your circumstances. I am a widow. I just wrote a long post. I just want to say make sure you give yourself all the time you need to grieve & lead with your heart & don't let anyone encourage a change you are not ready for. My heart goes out to you for your loss. Losing a spouse to divorce is not the same as losing a loving spouse to death.
My heart feels for you (my husband passed 3 years ago). You will get more used to it, but I still turn around to say something to him. Give yourself time and take care of yourself first. Keep in touch with friends (it's too easy to isolate yourself). Take care.
God bless you. My husband has a grave illness now and I've worried about being alone after he passes. I know the sadness will be all consuming in the beginning but hopefully you and I can be as happy as she is being single. She makes a lot of good points. Take care of yourself.
I’m 86 years old. I’ve lived alone for 25 years.My two sons live nearby and are very helpful. I love living alone. I love to cook, do limited gardening,crochet, bible study and my house work, I also enjoy church and interacting with my younger neighbors. I have a full life and rarely get bored.
I am retired, but very active. I am beginning to feel some loneliness and want to feel I belong.I have been divorced many years. I retired as a social worker. I enjoyed my work, most of which envolved helping others. I enjoy eating out, poeple watching, movies and music. I have a very active spiritual life. I love poeple. I live alone in a safe enviorment and love it.
Listened to an interview of a lovely 101 yr old lady. She was asked if she’d be young again what would she do differently her response was she wished she didn’t marry & enjoyed just being a woman. And she said that with a big smile.
@@sallyrobbins7770 it really is. Relaxing, no one getting on your nerves (apart from yourself!) doing your own thing, eating what you want, when you want, silence is therapeutic IMO
I love living alone. I do live in a high rise apr bldg, which is like a small community. If I want to be around others, I join some if the activities here. If not, I have my primary and no one bothers ne.
Thanks Kimberly for this video! My husband passed very unexpectedly 3 years ago now. Since then TH-cam has been my main man - I have fixed my Dyson animal vac, my washer, and just the other day my garbage disposal jammed - found the fix on TH-cam and saved myself serious $$$ on a house call. You inspired me when I found myself suddenly alone - I figured if you could get rid of everything, pack up the dog and cat, and move across the country on your own, I needed to get my act together (so I did).
My family and friends contact me when requiring help with technical things, even changing internet providers!! I moved home on my own, decorated, everywhere and organised things I'm not qualified to do like electrics etc. I was 72 at the time. The removal people came 4.30pm, drove my things to my new home and by the following morning I'd unpacked all my boxes and put things away, clothes in wardrobes and drawers too yet months after I moved people were asking if I was settled and no longer living out of boxes!!!
I love the idea of starting a group for people 45 plus who are single and want to still live a full and exciting life. So many groups have a focus on romantic connection but I love the idea of like-minded people who want to form a community to be a support and do fun stuff. You have inspired me to start something like that locally. The emphasis is on positive fun-loving people who want to enjoy life and have fun experiences with others to connect and form a community.
When I was in my 30s I belonged to a singles group where the emphasis was finding others to go do fun things, romantic involvements happened but were absolutely not the focus…. So fun…. And so needed. I think one of the more intimidating aspects of living alone is the idea of being lonely…. Starting and/or joining a group like this can make a big difference.
I think a smart developer would build things like bungalow courts, where the residents would then have a built-in community. Everyone would still have their privacy & independent living, but also have the benefit of neighbors with common values-intentional communities are key.
Thank you. I needed this. I am 56, was a single mom for 20 years, but my daughter is now moving away. Thank you so much. You look amazing. Thank you for the inspiration.
The comment about food in the fridge is funny. For me though, I was always the culprit, and it was others who suffered the loss of their food. Particularly vanilla ice cream.
I’m 77 and am comfortable and happy living alone. My beloved dog keeps me from ever feeling alone. She adds joy, laughter, and love to my life. I enjoy my freedom and seriously doubt I could be married again. Enjoyed stumbling upon your video.
Great info ❤I’m 67 and live alone for the last 3 years and I adopted a 5 y/o Labrador and feel so much more comfortable and safe. I love living alone and eating by myself… freedom indeed 😊
I decided that a few years ago and then I met a beautiful man! I spent with him best 6 years of my life. He passed away 2 years. So you never say never:) sending lots of love 💕
.... what I need to do to keep myself optimally healthy and happy is ... to LIVE ALONE. Husbands are such a drag when you're past a certain age ... But let's be realistic: Living alone isn't for every woman, be it for financial reasons, emotional ones or a combination of both. The tips you offer are excellent for any woman who is financial stable, physically healthy and emotionally strong to have quality life living by herself.
My husband died 6 years ago after a 15 year cancer battle - even though it was difficult,, I would give anything to have him here as a "drag on my life" because I miss him so much.
I'm 64.5 healthy and taking care of myself. I workout, I watch my diet, I do things for myself, I travel twice a year in different States in America, I'm from the Philippines. I enjoy my beach life, God is good... I enjoy people in my community and church. Life is good. I'm not lonely but loving my time alone and the freedom. Blessings 🙏.
Im 52, been divorced 11 years, left a toxic relationship of 5 years 2 months ago, he was much older than me, i ended up looking after him, no support from his awful family, i became unwell, so forced to look after me finally. Just living with my 17 year old daughter, has her own life, 2 cats and a dog. I will NEVER live with anyone (male)again!! Now its time for me! Men, who needs them! Theyre more trouble than theyre worth lol 😂 So glad i found your channel, thank you 🙏🥰💞🌈
Men need us more than we'll ever need them. Just my humble opinion. Dating today really bites. No one wants a real relationship anymore. So I am not wasting anymore of my precious time getting my heart broken. I enjoy my own company. And my 2 cats are my babies. So bossy but I love them so much! 🐈 🐈 😻 ❤😊🙏
@@terriblue68 Older men want a ‘Nurse with a Purse’ who hopefully does all the housework, cooking, ‘puts out’ when and how they want it. All while tolerating their annoying habits and obnoxious proclivities (i.e. addiction of all kinds, laziness & secret sexual problems.) 😖
I am in that situation too. I don't have kids so the isolation is worse. I don't have any visitors. I do work and that's my social interaction but it's true no one talks about the childless woman living alone. I wish someone would.
I don't have kids either, but I do have sisters and nieces and nephews. I'm looking forward to living alone. I am 55, getting healthier as time goes by.
@@Angela-tt5ik that's why pets are so popular! Some do foster grandparents program and volunteer, clubs....develop hobbies and interests...explore your options and have fun!
I also do not have kids…it is tough sometimes when I see former classmates and friends happily involved with their families. I do have a dog and will always have one, I need that companionship.
Great advise! Kimberly I was married for almost 35 years and have been living alone for quite sometime and love it as well. I live in Tx in a safe cul-de-sac. All of my neighbors are super friendly and so helpful. I’m an extroverted introvert so I love visiting but relish my alone time! I’m 70 and blessed to be in good health. I live with two very appreciative pets!
Can't afford pets they come with medical bills and food it's like having a child. You must be able to afford to care for them properly. It's not in the budget but I do love them.
My ex did me a huge favor by making me a married single woman. I’m pretty independent but he taught me that I could definitely handle being alone. Im in my 60s & this peace❤is priceless. One thing I’m going to add is a smart lock keyless/fingerprint entry to my doors.
I am on the horizon of turning 66, and have been living alone since 2011. Not only do I love it, but I do not even want visitors, nor a mate. I have a tool kit, and use Google and TH-cam to guide me through any task. If it is daunting, I simply contact Task Rabbit. I have moved from Philadelphia, to Phoenix to Scottsdale to SoCal and recently here to Vegas solo. I always make sure to move to a safe neighborhood and have never once had a security issue. My fav thing about being single is I can do absolutely anything I want at any time. This life is just so good. ❤
I love living alone! I've lived with a few different men in my 57 years of being alive, but I've always preferred living alone. I eat what I want, dress how I want, I don't hear any whiny complaints about me. And it IS up to me, and I LOVE that. I can't stand being told what to do and how to do it. And she is correct, everything is do-able. And we do learn to ask for help. I'm actually more social living alone than I was when I lived with someone
I have done many things by myself, and I'm comfortable eating out alone, but I have to admit that when I do go to touristy places by myself, I do feel a little embarrassed not to be with somebody else. But this video and the comments here give me some encouragement to not be embarrassed and just enjoy it all the more.
My son moved out on his own 9 months ago and I hated living alone at first... but now I LOVE it!!! I see him when I want then go home to my quiet, clean, peaceful, cozy home. ❤
I’d also add: 1. Leave a spare house key with a neighbour in case you have a fall and can’t get up - it will save the emergency services having to break down your door. 2. ALWAYS carry your mobile (cell) phone wherever you go on your property: if I were to pass out in my rear garden no-one would see me for all the greenery so don’t get caught out - always plan for emergencies. 3. If you live in a concrete jungle and hate it - move. I left it too late and am now stuck in a house I love in a location I loathe because the local authority (city hall) focusses on families, not older people. Don’t make the same mistake.
Im 47, almost, been divorced for 3 years, and livong by myself. I love it too. Its scary at 1st, but ehen you get thr courage to go out and go places by yourself, its so liberating!
I absolutely love it as well. Complete solidarity! I am 53 years old and I have an empty nest and I am extremely happy. I do not have to adjust thermostat, I do not have to clean after someone, I do not have to hear noise from someone, I buy what I like to eat, I decorate how I want. Thank you God for Peace!🙏🙏
My husband died over a year ago and I hate living alone. I absolutely can't stand it. I miss having him say I love you, to give me a compliment I know he meant, the companionship, to have someone to talk to, to sound off ideas to, to share things with, to work side by side, etc, etc. You ladies that are happy being alone, that's great and I know everyone's situation is different. As for me, I'd rather have him with me to do the things that are talked about here. No fear here just lots of loneliness.
I understand what you're saying. My husband of 41 years passed away almost 4 years ago, and it has been a difficult transition. Right now I feel like I'm somewhere in between your loneliness and Kimberly's lifestyle. Like Kimberly I find myself enjoying some of the freedoms of living alone. I can keep things clean and organized, eat what I want when I want, etc., but I miss the companionship of having my husband by my side, to talk to, and snuggle with. My youngest daughter got me a rescue dog almost 3 years ago and that has made a difference in my life. I still enjoy those freedoms, but now I have some companionship and unconditional love. Obviously, it's not the same as human companionship and I still miss my husband and always will, but it has helped me. I no longer feel like I'm talking to myself because my little fur baby is there listening, though most likely not understanding. But she's excellent company, and I don't know what I'd do without her. You're still fairly new in your widowhood, so give yourself time to continue grieving and adapting. Things will get easier and you will find what works for you to bring joy into your life again and feel less lonely. I'll be praying for you in your new journey. 🙏💕
There's no short cut through grief. Each person must goes through the process in their own way. 18 years ago I was unexpectedly widowed. It was devastating! 6 months after I decided I had to make an effort to move on and I enrolled in every class that sounded interesting at my community center. I fell in love with line dance, no partner required. Then surprisingly, my previous place of employment asked if I would like to return. Best thing ever! I retired 3 yrs ago at 83. There's still a hole in my heart and a song, thought, or comment will bring tears but with some effort on my part, life slowly became full and satisfying in a different way. I wish this for you. 🤗 ❤
My brother died 21 years ago and my sister in law never grieved her loss, kept smiling etc but I believe most need time to grieve in their own way. There again I also believe it's best not to dwell on grief for too long because I'm sorry to say we humans get fed up of people who are always miserable. Life is precious and we only have one go at it, so we have to enjoy what we've got while we have it. Grief is part of life, but time is a great healer
@@jovickers5313 I get what you're saying, and with all due respect, I don't care if someone gets fed up with me. I don't need them. THEY can move on OUT of my life. I'll take as long as I feel to grieve.
Hi, I'm 78, orphaned and never married, successful retired prof.its not always been easy, but remember there are many senior women who were married, now slone...girls we can do it we are stronger than we think... try to enjoy the years ahead...not moaning and sad..theres life in us yet!❤Remember just because we're alone, doesn't mean we're lonely. Travel, take up a sport fo what you want etc be happy 😊
Great tips but unfortunately not all of us can travel, live elsewhere, go to alot of places unless we have the means and the desire. Also, please never overestimate where you live and deem it safe..... No where is safe these days, even if you are in a "good, safe" area. Self awareness is key anywhere and everywhere. Living alone is not always terrific, it's lonely a lot of times and takes a while to get used to. I applaud you on your journey and joy of living alone, it's just not that easy..... For some maybe for not for all. Thanks for a great channel!
Growing up and watching my mom depend on my dad - I vowed never to be dependent on a man. I’ve been married 32 years and I’m not dependent on my husband. He traveled a lot so I made sure that I can do things around the house and mechanical. If something happens to him or a divorce - whatever may happen, I’m confident I will make it 😊
I just turned 60, and I’ve been living alone for over 3 years . Finding your video was a gift from above ❤! I’ve been feeling a little down lately, because money’s been tight, and it feels like everyone I know is traveling or busy. Thank you 🙏 for giving me inspiration. It was exactly what I needed right now! ❤
❤ Your Personal Ideology. Recent Widow. Lost the Sweetest, Kind Husband last year. I have a couple of nice friends. 1 works , 1 complains too much. I think she's a Worry Wort? I learned to get out and go out on my own. I attend all kinds of events, local arts and craft faires. I took it very hard, for the first year grieving. I am over the grief, I miss my husband. However, he would want me to be happy and not sad. Yes, I agree "I am my own Boss" & happily moving right along at 73.
I love being alone. I have neglected my health a little while caring for my elderly parents. My health is my number one concern. Thanks for reminding me to care for myself!
I ve been living alone 21 years after my divorce,I am really enjoy my life and happpyyy now,I like travelling too...after kids have their own life,I just enjoy my freedom....
I've been married 46 years and through all the ups and downs we've always been there for each other. Some enjoy the solitude of living alone and there's nothing wrong with that...but for me having my life partner by my side has only enriched my life even more. I feel very blessed. And when that one day comes when one of us is ready to pass on, the other will be there to hold their hand, give them comfort and tell them how special they made their life...and be by their side until they take their last breath. 💞
@@barbsinclair7352Best to remain single , girlfriend. Have your own enriched and fullfilling life! Very, very , very few marriages are truly wholesome and truly supportive and truly loving.
@@barbsinclair7352Best to remain single then , girlfriend. Have your own fullfilled and rewarding life. Very, very, very few marriages are truly supportive, truly honest and truly loving.We are fortunate to live in a society where we can make our own choice.🤍
That’s all well and good if you live in a friendly and warm area as you do - try being single and older in dull, grey, rainy and unfriendly UK where no-one speaks to you, smiles or even has eye contact: and if you’re an ‘elder orphan’ people think there’s something wrong with you! I had a bad fall in April and was stuck in bed for 7 weeks - not one of my neighbours came to check if I was OK - and one of them’s a preacher! You are SO lucky.
Hey Susanne, sorry you are having a bad time. Why not do what you just did? Write to people! No one gets letters or cards nowadays. You could bring such a light to others!
I completely agree to that statement. I live in the UK and feel completely isolated even though I am a friendly person and easy to make friends. People are just so unfriendly here, I have never seen anything like this!
You're not alone with that problem, I'm friendly and nice to everyone of my neighbors but have been without a car for a couple of years and now none of them try to speak to me, have never offered a ride to the store, watch me struggling riding transit busses in a small town, not even a big city where many people ride them, I don't get it either. I would have never sat back and done nothing for someone that so obviously needs a hand. Even now I would probably come to one of these neighbors aid if it was needed but that's just me, I know that sounds dumb probably.
I've lived alone (divorced) for over 25 years and I have enjoyed the freedom. That said, I do envy people in a stable, long term relationship. It just wasn't in the cards for me but I wish it had been different. I don't waste time wallowing in misery but I do wish things had been different for me. I have friends and relatives who have had very long marriages or relationships and I'm happy for them but occasionally feel sad that I never managed that.
i can best relate to YOUR comment. Divorced for 18 years, in my mid 60's. Miss male company and am disappointed I haven't connected with any available and suitable men beyond a few pretty awful 'dates'. No interest in independent, self sufficient, capable women, apparently. It is not as if I flaunt myself around how I can do everything, etc. I do so cause I have no choice. I would dearly love a partner, preferably a husband! It isn't all that great to make decisions on my own and carry the whole load alone, 24/7. I fixed my washing machine and dishwasher and am proud of that. I take care of my finances, car, cleaning, shopping, travel, do hobbies, go to activities, keep fit, eat well, read, help with grandkids,etc, but sure would be nice to have some relief and TLC, from outside now and again. The solitude is just too much after awhile.Women friends are fine, but can never be a replacement for the real deal. Many married friends got it right first time, 40 odd years ago.Can't help but wonder why I did not and how things got messed up... sigh...
My husband died in January after 47 years of marriage. I am 67 years old and I must say at first it was a little weird being by myself but everyday that goes by I enjoy living alone more and more. Everything you said is true true about not having to answer to anyone and having the freedom to do whatever you want whenever you want.
Hello beautiful lady. Im a widow since 34 and my kids are grown with children ❤. Don't know why but listening to you today. You're words ment so much . I was feeling a bit lost even though im a positive person. The fact that i love living on my own sometimes like all .i get lonely at times. ❤Thank you for reminding me that the world is my oyster. Im blessed i just needed to hear you to remind me of that .love and blessings. 🎉❤❤
Amen! I’ve been single for 9 years and loving my life, especially after moving to my 55plus community in central FL. I like to stay home sometimes and watch what I want to watch on TV, eat what I want to eat and decorate my house exactly how I want it. My ex husband wouldn’t even let me hang a picture myself. I can go out and have fun with my friends or go on vacation wherever I want. I’d love to be in a loving relationship but I am also happy to have my independence and peace.
I miss being married. I'm also comfortable being SINGLE these 20+ yrs. I don't look at my life as being alone. I'm choosing to be single until this story changes. This is another season of personal growth and my trust in my Heavenly Father. The Lord is my comforter and my rock! I don't know where I would be without Him. 🙏❤🙏
I am happy with looking after myself alone , all you said I have no problem, but it’s the emotional side - i miss having someone. Second I love the concept of “sharing” my life with someone where you chat about our shared experiences, the essence of sharing with a partner is wonderful. Thirdly, couples don’t invite single women to things - many many women feel threatened- it’s easier to not invite singles . So it’s the emotional side I must conquer. Thank you
My husband died 11 years ago and I too am 67. I live in north central Fl and yes I'm enjoying life. I need to change my diet, but I'm working on that. Thank you for the wonderful video
All I can focus on is #1which I have to do, so thanks on that. My husband has dementia & the darker side of his personality has taken over. So every day I have to walk on egg shells. So the idea of living alone sounds like heaven to me.
I’m glad you are taking care of yourself, and hope you have a good support system in place. I watched my father go through this behavior with Alzheimer’s and encouraged my mother to get respite workers in to relieve her periodically. She didn’t go this route. None of us lived in the same state where they did. They wanted to stay put. We helped as we could around our jobs. I also encouraged her to attend Alzheimer’s Association meetings. She tried one meeting but felt the folks weren’t kind. I asked her to try another group but she didn’t care to try again. I wished I’d tried those same meetings where I’d lived. It broke my heart to see my father that way and my mother dealing with him the best that she could, at her expense.
I am 53 years old and living alone with my dog and loving it! I also work from home in Provence doing linguistics but the only thing I miss is having more friends… I am no longer interested in finding a steady relationship after being twice divorced, but having no kids, I find it difficult to build a larger group of friends my age, especially since I live in a cute but small village and I don’t particularly like to drive. But I really do enjoy my peace ! Thank you for being an inspiration for me to do more, believe in myself and build a community of women of my kind around me !
I’m 60, been living alone for 6 years since the sudden loss of my husband of 34 years. (Sounds so sad, I know!) But, since I am here… I have found that living alone is so empowering!!! I absolutely love my alone time!!!
54 living alone the best peace and joy I ever experienced, children seasoned adults, Momma Mia is living her best peaceful life that God truly Blessed upon me. Everyone please live your best life yet.
I found this video very encouraging. I’m 63 and with my husband since I was 19. So I’ve never lived alone. My husband is older than me and has brought up several times in the last few years the subject of what would I do if he wasn’t around. It breaks my heart to think about that, but we’re not likely to die hand in hand. Hearing your words was somehow comforting.
I am so thrilled that your channel popped up today! I am 67, still married, but am alone a lot. I realized one can be just as lonely being married as being single. You have inspired me to turn things around, beginning with my physical health. Thank you so much!
Wow what an inspiration you have two choices when life throws all this negative stuff at you, I became a widow at 55, with two teenage sons, and my husband left me with nothing but debts and a business to shut down two unfinished car restorations. You have to refuse to be a victim and sink or swim. I swam like you Ive been alone for 8 years and love my own company. Freedom, stress-free life. My Mantra is not Why me? Try me?
Oh my goodness how have I never seen any of your videos!! Thank goodness you came across my stream! God Bless You, I can’t wait to check out more of your videos and share your channel with my sister and friends! Someone does not have to be single to love your channel!! You are Precious! God Bless! 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
Mid-fifties Single for 2 years My loves: My dog, my house, my bedroom, my decor style, can buy what I want, can eat what I want, can do what I want. :)
Such great tips. I'm 71 and have been on my own for 13 years. I don't want to remarry. It's nice not to be accountable to another person. I love to spontaneously change my schedule each day. Men want friends with benefits. They are so transparent. I look forward to more travel and volunteer work in my community. I just wish my girlfriends would step out of their comfort zones to do the same. Blessings to you on your journey. I am inspired by your openness. We have one life to live. Enjoy. I will look to find your next video.
Wow, you sound like me! I am 68, living alone and LOVING IT!! I have ZERO problems going out to eat alone, and doing all kinds of things spontaneously. Just discovered your channel today, and I am a new subscriber. Thank you, Kimberly!
I’ve been single since my son was 3. He’s 24 now. I love love LOVVVVVE my life! I’m 50, building a home now from the ground up….work only 2-3 days a week. I love the routine.
I am 67, always lived alone, no husbands no kids, but an exciting job, lovely pets, beautiful house and garden, wonderful trips around the globe, great health ( so far!). And, above all, no regrets! From Italy
But you have chased after the world all your life and left Jesus Christ far behind .
@@misha-elministries5246 just stop
@@misha-elministries5246Stop your Religious comment.
@@misha-elministries5246 I entirely echo RaffaelaIT's comments and guess what, Misha Baby, I'm a Christian. I guess it's entirely possible to live alone, no husband or kids, have lovely pets, a beautiful house and garden, and travel . . . AND be a Christian, too, since that's my exact status also. How about that, you judgemental croak. You are the worst of Christianity and you make me ASHAMED OF YOU to read your know-it-all, uber-judgemental, nasty comment about another woman whose religious status you wouldn't have a clue about.
@@misha-elministries5246You are making a mighty big assumption. Stop with that.
Just turned 51, divorced for 8 years
My loves
Bathroom to myself
Wardrobe to myself
Sleep in the middle of the bed & have a pristine white duvet cover
Eat early, in my pjs early
Cinema on my own
Self care buying beautiful clothes on occasion
Do I get lonely, of course, was lonelier with the wrong person
When you're unwell that's tough
Rock on solo sisters xxx
Burn the candles
Wear the shoes ❤
Same here 🙌 🎉 62 years of age, separated 6 years holidaying we’re I want, eat what I want, no ties 👌 captain of my own ship 💚
It is way lonelier with the wrong person
I was so lonely in the past marriage. Nightmare stuff. I'm never lonely now. Sometimes I might feel alone - especially when I might have to deal with a snake that the cat brought in! I can handle anything!
It's lonelier with the wrong person, it's the truth.
Well said. I'm 51. Married 23 years and separated for 3. Scary but liberating. ❤
1. Take care of yourself
2. Assess your skills/abilities
3. Create personal safety
4. Have fun/Enjoy your freedom
Thank you!
Thanks so much for the gust of it
@@Dwsrs24 Great points!!
ThAnks
Thanks
I’m 56. I’ve been living alone for 14 years. The peace is immeasurable.❤
Ditto, 15 years. I agree, the peace is immeasurable; well said.
❤ same here. Choice.
Congratulations,perfect.I hate it,would prefer living with another person at 70😂😂
@@Fegga1955Maybe living in a community setting would be the fix-for practical/logistical reasons, and maybe even for social reasons, it helps to have people you can count on, and vice versa.
Hope you can find a better setup, if that’s what you need. 🙏
same here the peace is amazing
I can’t believe this woman is 67. She looks amazing.
She definitely looks her age.
Yes she looks good for her age. I am sure she spent a good amount of time in front of a mirror creating the image. No negative vibes, just the truth.
My thoughts exactly
Make-up and a woman who knows how to use the brush can do wonders.
It's the results of a well trained, degreed plastic surgeon. Money well spent. Well worth it. 👍
I am 64 and have lived alone since my 20’s. So it’s all I know. I have taken care of me and have done a great job. There has been no one there for me but God. All things are possible❤
God bless you. ❤
@Lovetoloveu01 Bless The Lord 🙌
@@Lovetoloveu01 Amen. I understand that!!
Awesome, I just turned 60. But, I love this channel and all the comments. I'm not alone, but this is good to know before hand.
I split e my ex if 5 years over 9-10 years ago and I’m only 37 I’m exhausted w men I’m so tired 😴 I quit
I have been living alone since my divorce 22 years ago. I’m 62 now and honestly, cannot imagine living any other way! I love the freedom of being able to do everything from staying up late to sew with music on to having a martini with cheese and crackers for dinner if that’s what I feel like. The first weekend I was alone years ago, I called a girlfriend and told her I was giddy with content and it’s been that way ever since.
This is crazy...it reads like I wrote it! I've also been divorced 22 years and just turned 62. I love living alone doing whatever I want to do. I love my PT job in mental health, and I'm perfectly content.
@@tammymelvin6254 Kindred spirits! My marriage wasn’t horrible or abusive and we’re still friends…I just don’t think I’m cut out for marriage.
Yes living single feels healthy and peaceful…..Love the freedom👍🏻🌻
Yes living single feels healthy and peaceful…..Love the freedom👍🏻🌻
Me too!!!! God my dog and I ❤ 22 living my life
having been in abusive relationships in the past for me it is bliss not having to listen to what is wrong with me :) ....
I had this happen to me once and I understand what you mean. No screaming or holes in the walls either. It is peaceful ❤
so true! lol
I have been there too am also glad I am not in an emotionally abusive intimate relationship. Except now since I’m single I have my ailing widowed mother in my house who continues to tell me what’s wrong with me 😔 Working on emotional fortification in my 50s unfortunately
@@stacey3332 sorry to hear that. I have in the last year gone no contact with my abusive father and I am 60! I guess the family is where it all starts. Take good care of your lovely self x
@@elizabethforsyth3054 Thank you :) I agree, family and generational trauma. Blessings to all of us brave souls taking the path towards healing
I would like to add the fifth suggestion..
Find something to occupy your mind by doing something productive. You could sort the house out by focusing on each room or a corner each day to get rid of the accumulated stuff. Create your own exercise routine, learning from watching videos on TH-cam. Join a library to start reading books, if you don’t already. It is very important to keep our brain ticking, and body healthy.
Excellent 5th!
Thank you for sharing
which book do you recommend? i read what people suggest when searching on the internet. no love storys. but altual things.what i can learn something from
@@mosey5878 Atomic Habits by James Clear and Elastic Habits by Stephan Guise.
Very good advice 🌅
I'm 70 and never married, have no kids, have been an independent loner for years, and lived alone for 5 years, decorated my whole apt and love, love it. I love the freedom, eat alone, come and go whenever and wherever I have hobbies, and have friends. It's wonderful!
I got divorced in 2017 and was left with a lot of debt accumulated by my then husband. I got depressed and didn’t enjoy my life.
My mum passed away in May 2019 and in May 2020 I was diagnosed with stage IV ovarian cancer. Am in remission as of April 2021 and am living my best life at 71 yrs old.
Thank you so much for this video.❤ Much love from The Netherlands.
Bless you. Gives me hope ❤
I'm so sorry for what you've been through. You have a very positive attitude which has helped you. Blessings for the future
Yes, congratulations on your remission from stage IV ovarian cancer. Its such an encouragement to learn woman can get past the worst.
Blessings to you 🙏 ❤
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I have been widowed for 15 years and love living on my own. I do what I want, when I want and answer to no one x
🎉
I’m the same and I did have a relationship for 10 years and it was traumatic no wonder his wife had left him ! Now I look after me and I’m going to get a dog and I have lovely friends and at last I have peace in my life and I’m loving it 🥰 with social media how could anyone be lonely!!! I’m in my 60s and looking better than I ever did
Iam 82 and have lived alone for 40 years I traveled to India and plan a trip in two years to.India and Pakistan Iam writing a book have a beautiful life
@@normarussell8769 Congratulations on your book!
thank you for sharing ~
Wow, you are a super lady. I am glad you are travelling to my country Pakistan, wish you all the best,
58, never been married. Living alone expert.
You're smart, I regret getting married, especially to the wrong guy but I'm legally separated from him now and living on my own for the first time at 57 and much happier🙂
never married you must be don't like man?
Me too!
Me too... And childfree!
Me too... And childfree!
64 yrs old live alone and love my peace. I stay as busy as I want to be. I sew alot make bread, watch older movies, play piano, raise garden,can from garden. Have time to research all my interest. Love,love,love being alone.
🌻🌻🌻
I’m 72 today! June 22…I’ve been on my own since 2006 and I love my life!
I’m responsible for me and me alone. It’s wonderful!
Happy Birthday, my birthday is also June 22 I just turned 57 and separated April 1, smartest thing I've done in my whole life.
Yay!! Enjoy!
What happens when you're in the hospital for a heart attack or stroke?
@@Jammer411
She has family
Encouraging, thank you!
I can go eat alone in restaurant , go to the movies alone, shop and enjoy my morning walks. You're the Boss of You!😊
I agree, I do that all the time
👏👏👏
If you are healthy, living alone is a good thing.
So true
Absolutely
If not, you are in danger.
@@ParisianThinker Learn ow to depend on yourself and don't spent future money.
I’m 67 and have been divorced for almost 30 years and loving it. When I was married I felt so alone, now I’m alone but don’t feel like I felt when I had someone. Also, even when I was married, I was the one making all the decisions,working, taking care of the kids, trying to fix things, etc… I know I’m very independent and self sufficient which helped me a lot living alone. I love my freedom and cannot see myself married again. Love my life! Ladies, you can do anything by yourself! Be blessed🙏🥰
thank u for your nice words. i felt also lonely in my relationship. now iam alone still feel lonely. it take time to feel not alone.i keep be busy
I heard about a study that showed that married men live longer than single men but single women live longer than married women. I am soooo happy, grateful and joyful that I live alone. There really isn't a day that goes by that I am so glad I'm not married. Yes, I had horrible relationships, but dating even after 50 I haven't had good experiences. I'm just so happy to have peace.
Me, too.
i divorced 2 yw=ears ago. no friends 2 kids one only at his room.other with his girlfriend. so a iam mostly alone. i have to get uses to it. i excersise, work, garden.kook clean.learning french. but still feel lonely. why i aks my self
I'm 60 years old and I don't even I don't look 60 and it's very hard to get a date at my age.
Hi. Can we have a group of single women. One can create and add
@@godwilling7250single polo ridge
I’m 62, my husband passed away this past August. And I’m still not used to living alone. Thank you for this positive and uplifting video. I know in time, living alone will be the new normal for me. I’m so happy I came across your TH-cam video today. 😊
I don't know your circumstances. I am a widow. I just wrote a long post. I just want to say make sure you give yourself all the time you need to grieve & lead with your heart & don't let anyone encourage a change you are not ready for. My heart goes out to you for your loss. Losing a spouse to divorce is not the same as losing a loving spouse to death.
Thank you for your kind words. ❤
My heart feels for you (my husband passed 3 years ago). You will get more used to it, but I still turn around to say something to him. Give yourself time and take care of yourself first. Keep in touch with friends (it's too easy to isolate yourself). Take care.
@@margareth3479 You are so welcome. Anytime!
God bless you. My husband has a grave illness now and I've worried about being alone after he passes. I know the sadness will be all consuming in the beginning but hopefully you and I can be as happy as she is being single. She makes a lot of good points. Take care of yourself.
I have lived alone for 50 years, and I am happy 😅
super x
Good for you ❤
14 years divorced, 65 years old…never been happier! ❤
Was it expensive to go throughthe divorce. I saw a lawyer they said it would cost me $100,000
I'm happy that you're happier.
🙌🙏🏼🌻🌻🌻
Living alone is great, but it's also crucial to have friends.
I’m 86 years old. I’ve lived alone for 25 years.My two sons live nearby and are very helpful. I love living alone. I love to cook, do limited gardening,crochet, bible study and my house work, I also enjoy church and interacting with my younger neighbors. I have a full life and rarely get bored.
Sometimes lonely and bored.
I am retired, but very active. I am beginning to feel some loneliness and want to feel I belong.I have been divorced many years. I retired as a social worker. I enjoyed my work, most of which envolved helping others. I enjoy eating out, poeple watching, movies and music. I have a very active spiritual life. I love poeple. I live alone in a safe enviorment and love it.
Listened to an interview of a lovely 101 yr old lady. She was asked if she’d be young again what would she do differently her response was she wished she didn’t marry & enjoyed just being a woman. And she said that with a big smile.
That's awesome!
I'm 62 and have been living alone for 16 years and I have never been happier. I stopped dating then as well.
I think I'm about to join this tribe of women. Dating is a hustle, men don't give as much as they promise 😂😂😂
@@tinachristine4573 Most men lie, I just became legally separated in April of this year and much happier in many ways.
Drama free!!!! 🙏🩷🙏
Then adopt someone so you be happy again or I help you find some one
Love living alone, being alone, and my freedom. Cannot imagine dealing with another person. Come and go as I please and no one to report to.
Totally agree
Isn't it great?! :-)
@@sallyrobbins7770 it really is. Relaxing, no one getting on your nerves (apart from yourself!) doing your own thing, eating what you want, when you want, silence is therapeutic IMO
I love living alone. I do live in a high rise apr bldg, which is like a small community. If I want to be around others, I join some if the activities here. If not, I have my primary and no one bothers ne.
💯 true! I don’t think I’ll ever get married again. It is so nice and liberating!
I am 55 and living alone but my pets keeps me company.
Im 43 now living alone this is my 4th months in my small garden. Km in process of getting a pet. I can never be happier really. No regrets
Find a man or adopt
I have been alone for a long time and I live by the love in Psalm 91. ❤ You Kimberly
Psalm 91 is one of my favorite passage of scripture in the Bible! Thanks for sharing!
Just read Psalm 91 because of you! I really needed it....thank you! God Bless- Kim
Psalm 91 is better than the best security cameras or barking dog one could have!
@@user-ry1vi1jc7o
💯 agree... Great comfort through God's Word 🙏
Lv psalm 91❤
I'm 55 and never married. I love living alone! Nothing like it! 😊💛
Super well done! blessed be x
Thanks Kimberly for this video! My husband passed very unexpectedly 3 years ago now. Since then TH-cam has been my main man - I have fixed my Dyson animal vac, my washer, and just the other day my garbage disposal jammed - found the fix on TH-cam and saved myself serious $$$ on a house call. You inspired me when I found myself suddenly alone - I figured if you could get rid of everything, pack up the dog and cat, and move across the country on your own, I needed to get my act together (so I did).
Wow, you ladies are so inspiring!!!
Wow, that's amazing and inspiring. I applaud you.
Well done. Surprising what one can do when one has to
My family and friends contact me when requiring help with technical things, even changing internet providers!!
I moved home on my own, decorated, everywhere and organised things I'm not qualified to do like electrics etc. I was 72 at the time. The removal people came 4.30pm, drove my things to my new home and by the following morning I'd unpacked all my boxes and put things away, clothes in wardrobes and drawers too yet months after I moved people were asking if I was settled and no longer living out of boxes!!!
🙌💛🌻
I love the idea of starting a group for people 45 plus who are single and want to still live a full and exciting life. So many groups have a focus on romantic connection but I love the idea of like-minded people who want to form a community to be a support and do fun stuff. You have inspired me to start something like that locally. The emphasis is on positive fun-loving people who want to enjoy life and have fun experiences with others to connect and form a community.
When I was in my 30s I belonged to a singles group where the emphasis was finding others to go do fun things, romantic involvements happened but were absolutely not the focus…. So fun…. And so needed. I think one of the more intimidating aspects of living alone is the idea of being lonely…. Starting and/or joining a group like this can make a big difference.
I think a smart developer would build things like bungalow courts, where the residents would then have a built-in community. Everyone would still have their privacy & independent living, but also have the benefit of neighbors with common values-intentional communities are key.
I’ve been living alone since 1986. Can’t believe it’s been that long! I’m a happy lady. ❤
Thank you. I needed this. I am 56, was a single mom for 20 years, but my daughter is now moving away.
Thank you so much. You look amazing. Thank you for the inspiration.
I love the comment about the food you left in the refrigerator are still there when you go back. I laughed out loud.😂
Same. I laughed 😂 out loud too
The comment about food in the fridge is funny.
For me though, I was always the culprit, and it was others who suffered the loss of their food. Particularly vanilla ice cream.
I’m 77 and am comfortable and happy living alone. My beloved dog keeps me from ever feeling alone. She adds joy, laughter, and love to my life. I enjoy my freedom and seriously doubt I could be married again.
Enjoyed stumbling upon your video.
My favorite part is when nobody asks me "What do you want for dinner?" which actually meant "What are you cooking for me?" 😂
👏👏👏
Great info ❤I’m 67 and live alone for the last 3 years and I adopted a 5 y/o Labrador and feel so much more comfortable and safe. I love living alone and eating by myself… freedom indeed 😊
Loved all my companion babies, like you I also like eating alone blessed be x
55 year old male,financially secure,live alone and dont date anymore.Modern dating is no longer worth my peace.
I second that. No more dating for me either. ❤😊
I decided that a few years ago and then I met a beautiful man! I spent with him best 6 years of my life. He passed away 2 years. So you never say never:) sending lots of love 💕
@@monika2470 Sorry for your loss....Stay strong and take care.
69 year old single male for 14 years. Enjoying my freedom and happiness. I am grateful for my health and contentment.
Same for me living alone I'm 48 years old. No dating ....peace of mind
Living alone is a choice. Some people don't know that.❤😂😊
exactly well said
😂life is a choice. No one size fits all.
.... what I need to do to keep myself optimally healthy and happy is ... to LIVE ALONE. Husbands are such a drag when you're past a certain age ... But let's be realistic: Living alone isn't for every woman, be it for financial reasons, emotional ones or a combination of both. The tips you offer are excellent for any woman who is financial stable, physically healthy and emotionally strong to have quality life living by herself.
My husband died 6 years ago after a 15 year cancer battle - even though it was difficult,, I would give anything to have him here as a "drag on my life" because I miss him so much.
I'm 64.5 healthy and taking care of myself. I workout, I watch my diet, I do things for myself, I travel twice a year in different States in America, I'm from the Philippines. I enjoy my beach life, God is good... I enjoy people in my community and church. Life is good. I'm not lonely but loving my time alone and the freedom. Blessings 🙏.
@@carmelaelliott227 hmm, that's what i'm thinking of doing when I can. where is this good beach life? East coast?
Im 67, have been living alone since 2001...loving it! "Truer words have never been spken". The freedom is phenomenal.
Im 52, been divorced 11 years, left a toxic relationship of 5 years 2 months ago, he was much older than me, i ended up looking after him, no support from his awful family, i became unwell, so forced to look after me finally. Just living with my 17 year old daughter, has her own life, 2 cats and a dog. I will NEVER live with anyone (male)again!! Now its time for me! Men, who needs them! Theyre more trouble than theyre worth lol 😂
So glad i found your channel, thank you 🙏🥰💞🌈
Yes! They are WAY more trouble than their worth! Pets are the best. Enjoy your freedom!
Men need us more than we'll ever need them. Just my humble opinion. Dating today really bites. No one wants a real relationship anymore. So I am not wasting anymore of my precious time getting my heart broken. I enjoy my own company. And my 2 cats are my babies. So bossy but I love them so much! 🐈 🐈 😻 ❤😊🙏
@@lc7169 thank you and you to my Friend 💖🌷
@@terriblue68 Older men want a ‘Nurse with a Purse’ who hopefully does all the housework, cooking, ‘puts out’ when and how they want it.
All while tolerating their annoying habits and obnoxious proclivities (i.e. addiction of all kinds, laziness & secret sexual problems.)
😖
I don't mind being alone, but at the same time, I can't imagine life without my husband.
Anybody here living alone but doesnt have kids? It makes a difference, when you don't have kids/grandkids you truly feel alone.
I am in that situation too. I don't have kids so the isolation is worse. I don't have any visitors. I do work and that's my social interaction but it's true no one talks about the childless woman living alone. I wish someone would.
I don't have kids either, but I do have sisters and nieces and nephews. I'm looking forward to living alone. I am 55, getting healthier as time goes by.
@@Angela-tt5ik that's why pets are so popular! Some do foster grandparents program and volunteer, clubs....develop hobbies and interests...explore your options and have fun!
I also do not have kids…it is tough sometimes when I see former classmates and friends happily involved with their families. I do have a dog and will always have one, I need that companionship.
And Even When You DO Have Kids.. Trust That ... 😮😊😊
Even in rough times
( I’ve had them 😮)
Remember… U can do ALL THINGS WITH JESUS!
Amen❤👏 👏
Is that like google?
Amen!
Amen and God Bless you always.
Amen. May you all be blessed🙏🏼❤️
I love being alone. Rather than have a partner which give you headaches, stress,etc.
It's freedom❤
Great advise! Kimberly I was married for almost 35 years and have been living alone for quite sometime and love it as well. I live in Tx in a safe cul-de-sac. All of my neighbors are super friendly and so helpful. I’m an extroverted introvert so I love visiting but relish my alone time! I’m 70 and blessed to be in good health. I live with two very appreciative pets!
Can you talk about living alone and being broke?
Companion pets are such a joy blessed be x
Can't afford pets they come with medical bills and food it's like having a child. You must be able to afford to care for them properly. It's not in the budget but I do love them.
I learned that there's a term for an extroverted introvert... It's called an ambivert! That's me and it sounds like you too!
@@babydollkincaid4584 look on TH-cam for videos on living on a tight budget... There are many tips and hacks out there. 🙏🏻✝️
My ex did me a huge favor by making me a married single woman. I’m pretty independent but he taught me that I could definitely handle being alone. Im in my 60s & this peace❤is priceless. One thing I’m going to add is a smart lock keyless/fingerprint entry to my doors.
I am 53 and newly single. I appreciate this video because everything you covered has been on my mind lately.
I am on the horizon of turning 66, and have been living alone since 2011. Not only do I love it, but I do not even want visitors, nor a mate. I have a tool kit, and use Google and TH-cam to guide me through any task. If it is daunting, I simply contact Task Rabbit. I have moved from Philadelphia, to Phoenix to Scottsdale to SoCal and recently here to Vegas solo. I always make sure to move to a safe neighborhood and have never once had a security issue. My fav thing about being single is I can do absolutely anything I want at any time. This life is just so good. ❤
I love living alone! I've lived with a few different men in my 57 years of being alive, but I've always preferred living alone. I eat what I want, dress how I want, I don't hear any whiny complaints about me. And it IS up to me, and I LOVE that. I can't stand being told what to do and how to do it.
And she is correct, everything is do-able. And we do learn to ask for help. I'm actually more social living alone than I was when I lived with someone
I've lived alone for 35+ yrs now! I do it all myself at 64. People just don't get it at all. Its just better. I'm with you all the way girl!!🥰💜💜💜
I have done many things by myself, and I'm comfortable eating out alone, but I have to admit that when I do go to touristy places by myself, I do feel a little embarrassed not to be with somebody else. But this video and the comments here give me some encouragement to not be embarrassed and just enjoy it all the more.
Honestly... I am so grateful... I was looking for the voice of another woman to give me clues and give me confidence, and I didn't know it!
You look beautiful! Healthy and glowing.
My son moved out on his own 9 months ago and I hated living alone at first... but now I LOVE it!!! I see him when I want then go home to my quiet, clean, peaceful, cozy home. ❤
I’d also add:
1. Leave a spare house key with a neighbour in case you have a fall and can’t get up - it will save the emergency services having to break down your door.
2. ALWAYS carry your mobile (cell) phone wherever you go on your property: if I were to pass out in my rear garden no-one would see me for all the greenery so don’t get caught out - always plan for emergencies.
3. If you live in a concrete jungle and hate it - move. I left it too late and am now stuck in a house I love in a location I loathe because the local authority (city hall) focusses on families, not older people. Don’t make the same mistake.
Very wise advice. Thank you very much.
Im 47, almost, been divorced for 3 years, and livong by myself. I love it too. Its scary at 1st, but ehen you get thr courage to go out and go places by yourself, its so liberating!
Getting a pet dog changed my life for the better and I have met many people while walking him.
I absolutely love it as well. Complete solidarity! I am 53 years old and I have an empty nest and I am extremely happy. I do not have to adjust thermostat, I do not have to clean after someone, I do not have to hear noise from someone, I buy what I like to eat, I decorate how I want. Thank you God for Peace!🙏🙏
My husband died over a year ago and I hate living alone. I absolutely can't stand it. I miss having him say I love you, to give me a compliment I know he meant, the companionship, to have someone to talk to, to sound off ideas to, to share things with, to work side by side, etc, etc. You ladies that are happy being alone, that's great and I know everyone's situation is different. As for me, I'd rather have him with me to do the things that are talked about here. No fear here just lots of loneliness.
I understand what you're saying. My husband of 41 years passed away almost 4 years ago, and it has been a difficult transition. Right now I feel like I'm somewhere in between your loneliness and Kimberly's lifestyle. Like Kimberly I find myself enjoying some of the freedoms of living alone. I can keep things clean and organized, eat what I want when I want, etc., but I miss the companionship of having my husband by my side, to talk to, and snuggle with. My youngest daughter got me a rescue dog almost 3 years ago and that has made a difference in my life. I still enjoy those freedoms, but now I have some companionship and unconditional love. Obviously, it's not the same as human companionship and I still miss my husband and always will, but it has helped me. I no longer feel like I'm talking to myself because my little fur baby is there listening, though most likely not understanding. But she's excellent company, and I don't know what I'd do without her. You're still fairly new in your widowhood, so give yourself time to continue grieving and adapting. Things will get easier and you will find what works for you to bring joy into your life again and feel less lonely. I'll be praying for you in your new journey. 🙏💕
There's no short cut through grief. Each person must goes through the process in their own way. 18 years ago I was unexpectedly widowed. It was devastating! 6 months after I decided I had to make an effort to move on and I enrolled in every class that sounded interesting at my community center. I fell in love with line dance, no partner required. Then surprisingly, my previous place of employment asked if I would like to return. Best thing ever! I retired 3 yrs ago at 83. There's still a hole in my heart and a song, thought, or comment will bring tears but with some effort on my part, life slowly became full and satisfying in a different way. I wish this for you. 🤗 ❤
My brother died 21 years ago and my sister in law never grieved her loss, kept smiling etc but I believe most need time to grieve in their own way.
There again I also believe it's best not to dwell on grief for too long because I'm sorry to say we humans get fed up of people who are always miserable. Life is precious and we only have one go at it, so we have to enjoy what we've got while we have it. Grief is part of life, but time is a great healer
@@jovickers5313 I get what you're saying, and with all due respect, I don't care if someone gets fed up with me. I don't need them. THEY can move on OUT of my life. I'll take as long as I feel to grieve.
@@debw7120 Thank you so much for the kind words and prayers. I'm glad you have your little fur baby to be there for you. God bless you.🙏
Hi, I'm 78, orphaned and never married, successful retired prof.its not always been easy, but remember there are many senior women who were married, now slone...girls we can do it we are stronger than we think... try to enjoy the years ahead...not moaning and sad..theres life in us yet!❤Remember just because we're alone, doesn't mean we're lonely. Travel, take up a sport fo what you want etc be happy 😊
Good of you
I'm 63 and living with my furries since 2016. As the years go by, its has its ups and downs, but i have learned to appreciate the peace.
Same age and feel the same.
me too 2 years alone with ups and downs
"The conversation is wonderful because it's all in your head." I love it!
Me too. Love that. Also you can leave when you want
I’m 63 and still want a soul mate…I still work and take care of myself…😢
Know we’re you are coming from. 63 also.
Great tips but unfortunately not all of us can travel, live elsewhere, go to alot of places unless we have the means and the desire. Also, please never overestimate where you live and deem it safe..... No where is safe these days, even if you are in a "good, safe" area. Self awareness is key anywhere and everywhere. Living alone is not always terrific, it's lonely a lot of times and takes a while to get used to. I applaud you on your journey and joy of living alone, it's just not that easy..... For some maybe for not for all. Thanks for a great channel!
Especially for those with no family, yet I enjoy living alone 70% of the time
Growing up and watching my mom depend on my dad - I vowed never to be dependent on a man. I’ve been married 32 years and I’m not dependent on my husband. He traveled a lot so I made sure that I can do things around the house and mechanical. If something happens to him or a divorce - whatever may happen, I’m confident I will make it 😊
I just turned 60, and I’ve been living alone for over 3 years . Finding your video was a gift from above ❤! I’ve been feeling a little down lately, because money’s been tight, and it feels like everyone I know is traveling or busy. Thank you 🙏 for giving me inspiration. It was exactly what I needed right now! ❤
❤ Your Personal Ideology. Recent Widow. Lost the Sweetest, Kind Husband last year. I have a couple of nice friends. 1 works , 1 complains too much. I think she's a Worry Wort? I learned to get out and go out on my own. I attend all kinds of events, local arts and craft faires. I took it very hard, for the first year grieving. I am over the grief, I miss my husband. However, he would want me to be happy and not sad. Yes, I agree "I am my own Boss" & happily moving right along at 73.
56 years old, single 7 years and I’m happy!😃
I love being alone. I have neglected my health a little while caring for my elderly parents. My health is my number one concern. Thanks for reminding me to care for myself!
I ve been living alone 21 years after my divorce,I am really enjoy my life and happpyyy now,I like travelling too...after kids have their own life,I just enjoy my freedom....
I've been married 46 years and through all the ups and downs we've always been there for each other. Some enjoy the solitude of living alone and there's nothing wrong with that...but for me having my life partner by my side has only enriched my life even more. I feel very blessed. And when that one day comes when one of us is ready to pass on, the other will be there to hold their hand, give them comfort and tell them how special they made their life...and be by their side until they take their last breath. 💞
You are a blessed lady!!
That's beautiful.
I would feel different I'm sure if I had had a great partner, I had the worst marriage, not supportive, not loving, hated to go home each day!
@@barbsinclair7352Best to remain single , girlfriend. Have your own enriched and fullfilling life! Very, very , very few marriages are truly wholesome and truly supportive and truly loving.
@@barbsinclair7352Best to remain single then , girlfriend. Have your own fullfilled and rewarding life. Very, very, very few marriages are truly supportive, truly honest and truly loving.We are fortunate to live in a society where we can make our own choice.🤍
That’s all well and good if you live in a friendly and warm area as you do - try being single and older in dull, grey, rainy and unfriendly UK where no-one speaks to you, smiles or even has eye contact: and if you’re an ‘elder orphan’ people think there’s something wrong with you! I had a bad fall in April and was stuck in bed for 7 weeks - not one of my neighbours came to check if I was OK - and one of them’s a preacher! You are SO lucky.
Hey Susanne, sorry you are having a bad time. Why not do what you just did? Write to people! No one gets letters or cards nowadays. You could bring such a light to others!
Sorry to hear. :(
I live alone in grey England and I couldn't have it any other way. The Brits are not into each other's business at all. I had to adjust to that.
I completely agree to that statement. I live in the UK and feel completely isolated even though I am a friendly person and easy to make friends. People are just so unfriendly here, I have never seen anything like this!
You're not alone with that problem, I'm friendly and nice to everyone of my neighbors but have been without a car for a couple of years and now none of them try to speak to me, have never offered a ride to the store, watch me struggling riding transit busses in a small town, not even a big city where many people ride them, I don't get it either. I would have never sat back and done nothing for someone that so obviously needs a hand. Even now I would probably come to one of these neighbors aid if it was needed but that's just me, I know that sounds dumb probably.
I've lived alone (divorced) for over 25 years and I have enjoyed the freedom. That said, I do envy people in a stable, long term relationship. It just wasn't in the cards for me but I wish it had been different. I don't waste time wallowing in misery but I do wish things had been different for me. I have friends and relatives who have had very long marriages or relationships and I'm happy for them but occasionally feel sad that I never managed that.
i can best relate to YOUR comment. Divorced for 18 years, in my mid 60's. Miss male company and am disappointed I haven't connected with any available and suitable men beyond a few pretty awful 'dates'. No interest in independent, self sufficient, capable women, apparently. It is not as if I flaunt myself around how I can do everything, etc. I do so cause I have no choice. I would dearly love a partner, preferably a husband! It isn't all that great to make decisions on my own and carry the whole load alone, 24/7. I fixed my washing machine and dishwasher and am proud of that. I take care of my finances, car, cleaning, shopping, travel, do hobbies, go to activities, keep fit, eat well, read, help with grandkids,etc, but sure would be nice to have some relief and TLC, from outside now and again. The solitude is just too much after awhile.Women friends are fine, but can never be a replacement for the real deal. Many married friends got it right first time, 40 odd years ago.Can't help but wonder why I did not and how things got messed up... sigh...
TLC means what?
Tender Loving Care TLC @@aparnabhatia5072
My husband died in January after 47 years of marriage. I am 67 years old and I must say at first it was a little weird being by myself but everyday that goes by I enjoy living alone more and more. Everything you said is true true about not having to answer to anyone and having the freedom to do whatever you want whenever you want.
Hello beautiful lady. Im a widow since 34 and my kids are grown with children ❤. Don't know why but listening to you today. You're words ment so much . I was feeling a bit lost even though im a positive person. The fact that i love living on my own sometimes like all .i get lonely at times. ❤Thank you for reminding me that the world is my oyster. Im blessed i just needed to hear you to remind me of that .love and blessings. 🎉❤❤
Going to the grocery store and choosing everything you want is so fun after taking care of others for so long!
Amen! I’ve been single for 9 years and loving my life, especially after moving to my 55plus community in central FL. I like to stay home sometimes and watch what I want to watch on TV, eat what I want to eat and decorate my house exactly how I want it. My ex husband wouldn’t even let me hang a picture myself. I can go out and have fun with my friends or go on vacation wherever I want. I’d love to be in a loving relationship but I am also happy to have my independence and peace.
I miss being married.
I'm also comfortable being SINGLE these 20+ yrs. I don't look at my life as being alone. I'm choosing to be single until this story changes. This is another season of personal growth and my trust in my Heavenly Father.
The Lord is my comforter and my rock! I don't know where I would be without Him.
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@@DraGnFly007 🌹 so beautifully said!
I am happy with looking after myself alone , all you said I have no problem, but it’s the emotional side - i miss having someone. Second I love the concept of “sharing” my life with someone where you chat about our shared experiences, the essence of sharing with a partner is wonderful. Thirdly, couples don’t invite single women to things - many many women feel threatened- it’s easier to not invite singles . So it’s the emotional side I must conquer. Thank you
My husband died 11 years ago and I too am 67. I live in north central Fl and yes I'm enjoying life. I need to change my diet, but I'm working on that. Thank you for the wonderful video
I highly recommend the Carnivore diet. Check it out. I'm 52 and loving it!
All I can focus on is #1which I have to do, so thanks on that. My husband has dementia & the darker side of his personality has taken over. So every day I have to walk on egg shells. So the idea of living alone sounds like heaven to me.
Wishing you health and happiness.
So very sorry you have to go through that. Care taking is the hardest job in the world.
I’m glad you are taking care of yourself, and hope you have a good support system in place. I watched my father go through this behavior with Alzheimer’s and encouraged my mother to get respite workers in to relieve her periodically. She didn’t go this route. None of us lived in the same state where they did. They wanted to stay put. We helped as we could around our jobs. I also encouraged her to attend Alzheimer’s Association meetings. She tried one meeting but felt the folks weren’t kind. I asked her to try another group but she didn’t care to try again. I wished I’d tried those same meetings where I’d lived. It broke my heart to see my father that way and my mother dealing with him the best that she could, at her expense.
Take care blessed be x
Don't fear arranging for respite care so that you take a break from time to time.
I am 53 years old and living alone with my dog and loving it! I also work from home in Provence doing linguistics but the only thing I miss is having more friends… I am no longer interested in finding a steady relationship after being twice divorced, but having no kids, I find it difficult to build a larger group of friends my age, especially since I live in a cute but small village and I don’t particularly like to drive. But I really do enjoy my peace ! Thank you for being an inspiration for me to do more, believe in myself and build a community of women of my kind around me !
I’m 60, been living alone for 6 years since the sudden loss of my husband of 34 years. (Sounds so sad, I know!)
But, since I am here… I have found that living alone is so empowering!!! I absolutely love my alone time!!!
54 living alone the best peace and joy I ever experienced, children seasoned adults, Momma Mia is living her best peaceful life that God truly Blessed upon me. Everyone please live your best life yet.
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I found this video very encouraging. I’m 63 and with my husband since I was 19. So I’ve never lived alone. My husband is older than me and has brought up several times in the last few years the subject of what would I do if he wasn’t around. It breaks my heart to think about that, but we’re not likely to die hand in hand.
Hearing your words was somehow comforting.
I love it…..
I’m enjoying my time and space.
I am so thrilled that your channel popped up today! I am 67, still married, but am alone a lot. I realized one can be just as lonely being married as being single. You have inspired me to turn things around, beginning with my physical health. Thank you so much!
I'd recommend the Carnivore diet. Check it out. I'm 52 and loving it!
Wow what an inspiration you have two choices when life throws all this negative stuff at you, I became a widow at 55, with two teenage sons, and my husband left me with nothing but debts and a business to shut down two unfinished car restorations. You have to refuse to be a victim and sink or swim. I swam like you Ive been alone for 8 years and love my own company. Freedom, stress-free life. My Mantra is not Why me? Try me?
Oh my goodness how have I never seen any of your videos!! Thank goodness you came across my stream! God Bless You, I can’t wait to check out more of your videos and share your channel with my sister and friends! Someone does not have to be single to love your channel!! You are Precious! God Bless! 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
Mid-fifties
Single for 2 years
My loves: My dog, my house, my bedroom, my decor style, can buy what I want, can eat what I want, can do what I want. :)
#selflove… meditation… exercise. Eat healthy, pickup a hobby, enjoying nature.😊👌🏾💕
❤TOTALLY agree with you! I’m 68 and LOVE my single life. I lived in Scotland all because I could! And now in Miami!
Such great tips. I'm 71 and have been on my own for 13 years. I don't want to remarry. It's nice not to be accountable to another person. I love to spontaneously change my schedule each day. Men want friends with benefits. They are so transparent. I look forward to more travel and volunteer work in my community. I just wish my girlfriends would step out of their comfort zones to do the same. Blessings to you on your journey. I am inspired by your openness. We have one life to live. Enjoy. I will look to find your next video.
All the health steps one can take is no guarantee that bad things won’t happen. Best to have a plan for that.
Wow, you sound like me! I am 68, living alone and LOVING IT!! I have ZERO problems going out to eat alone, and doing all kinds of things spontaneously. Just discovered your channel today, and I am a new subscriber. Thank you, Kimberly!
I’ve been single since my son was 3. He’s 24 now. I love love LOVVVVVE my life! I’m 50, building a home now from the ground up….work only 2-3 days a week. I love the routine.