Why being awkward makes you more likely to succeed
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 31 พ.ค. 2017
- Psychologist Ty Tashiro, author of "Awkward: The Science of Why We're Socially awkward and Why That's Awesome," explains why awkward people are more likely to demonstrate "striking talent."
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jokes on you, I'm socially awkward and I'm a dumbass across the board.
kickliquid That's a petty victory and you know it.
Null May be you haven't found that specific area where u feel obsessed about learning everything of that specific area
It's funny because it's true.
preach fam
That's regular autism with none of the cool savant benefits.
but what if you're awkward and lazy asf?
That's me lol
Then you don't apply yourself, which is wasted potential.
yeah i know ;P i have many ideas but trouble executing/actually doing them
Aria Targaryen same goes with me. Are we just a lazy peole?
Yuuen U perhaps ... but I don't think it's bad thing actually
TH-cam is really good at making us feel good about ourselves
Moh to all be taken away when you turn it off.
and then we realize that we are in the real world and that we can't socialize with anyone in that world
And vice versa
😩💦
No he’s giving you free information and trying to teach you how to deal and continue to grow through life....but I guess people rather be negative than try or be funny instead of making money.
I feel like there's something I'm good at, I just haven't found it yet.
same but i'm not awkward
Same I feel like im good at something but there are only rare situations where I'm better at something than people around me
Same here.
fs87 That's good.
being good at something takes practice and retrying, the word natural talent is a myth
im awkward and im not good at anything
MdFazil so aren't you good at being awkward?
+Ethan Swords you just cured my awkwardness
dude do u play cs go?
then you must be young enough that you haven't found anything yet. or you have something even now but you don't consider it worth noting to yourself because it doesn't seem like a skill or useful in any way. we're usually hard on ourselves and don't consider our characteristics unique until someone else tells us. But if we're socially awkward and prefer to be introverts, it kind of makes it hard to be in situations where others are around you enough to praise your unique skills and perspectives. since we're usually avoiding humans. I guess sometimes maybe they ARE kinda useless to be around... sometimes... for like a few minutes... kbye
MdFazil then why are you here
"Willing to work the hardest on the parts that you are the worst at"... uh except talking to people.
Fat Yolk underdog
because other people are shit
Fat Yolk fuck other people. Fuck society lol
Because people are fucking unpredictable. I really hate it when people ruin my imaginary script!!
What he meant was they are willing to work the hardest at the things they are passionate about, even if they're bad at it.
When i accidentally being weird to someone, i would remember it for the next 50 years and never wanna meet again.
Yes lol
Same here
I am mastering the art of Netflix
Now it's when the comments from antisocial people start appearing proudly reporting themselves
Madame Boss did u call me??
Madame Boss asocial*, but I agree.
Oh my gah i was just telling my friend the other day that antisocial and asocial are not the same lol >.
H..h...hey guys.. umm.. anybody?
Is that a problem?
i'm awkward and have no talent at all
oldcowbb-Maybe you just haven't found it yet...
E.Duane Mitchell but finding something you really good at are very very hard, that's why not every awkward peoples are successful.
I'm in my mid-40's and I'm STILL trying to figure it out.But I'm not giving up.
Good luck and I hope you find the "jackpot".
Weird TH-cam Name-Thanks,same to you...
"being awkward makes you more likely to succeed"
*I'm doing everything right*
That's the attitude.
The point is not you being awkward, is you work hard asf.
From what I've learned in corporate America, hard work will not be the only thing that will get you places. You need to work hard and also have the people skills, otherwise you become the people who have been in the same role for 10 years.
Finally.
Work smarter not harder
Ryan Yao only dumb people work hard
Ryan Yao Hard work only gives you the opportunity to work hard.
I'm antisocial that's why I comment on TH-cam
* You're
i am impressed with your dedication
Helena you wanna hang out?
Thanks guys:-)or gals not sure
Helena 185 cm 100 kg guy. ;)
idgf I hate being awkward and overly anxious.
Rytol_Piab i can imagine you feel pretty gay LOL
seraph 7 ?
***** these are feminine traits
seraph 7 i can already imagine the kind of douche alpha male wannabe you are in real life
all the alpha male wannabes are extremely insecure about something thats why they act that way ;)
Wheres all my socially awkward people 😁👊✊️ power to US! Lol
Hector Rivera im socially awkard becuase i say random things to people is that bad?
Right here
Hector Rivera me
Cringe
damn this is awkward
Let me save you 2 minutes of your life by summing it up.
The video is basically saying that if you're awkward, it's probably because you're really good at something, and that's good! It also means that you're more likely persevere and succeed because being awkward tends to come hand in hand with the ability to focus really well on what you're doing, DESPITE going through tough times.
And that's why I'm top 500 in overwatch
Night Shift in stuck in gold/silver, but im good at school stuff
Rank S in csgo.
Night Shift Overwatch is such a joke LUL
Dear XXXTentacleporn,
This was me. I decided to change after several years of wasting time. I am currently 18 and am doing very much right now. I might be younger than you but it is never too late to make a start that will be the ultimate finish. Good luck if you choose to follow this path of success for it is one of the hardest.
Mid NighT why you bully me
I like this guy. Have him on more.
Steve Silva You only like him because he tells you what you want to hear
Cant Stump The Trump since you said it, it must be true. Tell me, what is it that I liked so much about him? You seem to know a lot given that big ass assumption you just made.
Steve Silva offended much?
Alexander Brown Nah, how could some TH-cam comment offend you lol? I don't care enough to reply to anything that isn't a rational response and I've made my position clear so whateves ✌
Cant Stump The Trump and you only like Trump because he tells you what you want to hear
Is there any relation between TH-cam addiction and success ???
100% correlation....
Daryl Allen
I'll become billionaire then
Absolutely
Ask PewDiePie.
No. It's a trap.
That explain why Am I awkward and unintelligent as well...Yeah right !!
India Wild Films
try to make a proper sentence first...
That doent really mean you got those traits
India Wild Films cause you India you lose.
(I am kidding bro ♡)
You probably have low self-esteem and fail to notice things you're really good at because you see everything you do as unexceptional and pointless.
is that Rami Malek in the thumbnail
Yes. From Mr. Robot.
I wouldn't consider his character successful, he can take lots of stress and works hard.
United Federation Rami Malek himself isn't socially awkward, he just plays a socially awkward character
trbl yep.
When's season 3?
I bet everyone took this about themselves
that's how it works
Privet pidor.
dany manchster I feel the same way making this not as believable anymore
Nah, I'm socially awkward and suck at everything 😕
You always try to find a way to feel special.
i'm socially award AF but i'm not focusing on anything wtf is wrong with me?
anime. that's what's wrong
Fiancé Jays Yeah stop watching anime weeb
You probably are, a lot of awkward guys are obsessed about stuff like video games, TV.
weeboo
Sam video games are awsome if you play in time
This is totally me.. at least the intense focus and obsession. I was always kind of awkward and things only got worse when I switched to online school to devote more time to the things I love. I "master" everything I am passionate about and am obsessed with it to the point where I will become nothing but the best. I stopped being socially awkward when I made that obsession being good at networking and being socially adept but the main thing is that whether it is school, a sport, fitness, even a video game, if I love it I am damn good at it.
Perfectionism!
You are damn right.
What you described about yourself is a blessing and sometimes a curse too.
It means a lot of lost sleep and lost meals.
I can identify with you.
Focus is more important than intelligence
Interesting point
karl marxismo is that how you organized communism?
Yes my good sir...yes it is.
wrong
processing > intelligence > communication > focus
True, if you don't have focus no matter how intelligent you are, you won't learn a thing. I'm a living proof of that.
im shy and socially awkward and my social circle is really small. yet im not good at anything, i always end up being marginally average
n00bie Lol same x)
Applecoco5 omg ur gorgeous, it's surprising to hear that you are socially awkward
Nice Megaman yea awkward people unite XD
n00bie You may haven't found your talent yet. Some people lived their life, never founding their true talent at all.
n00bie I used to be exactly like that back in 2015. What I would recommend you to change is to find something worth your time (in the long term). A simple goal or just exploring new ideas might help you. You might feel discouraged by it at first but in 1-2 years you can change a lot c: and trust me, being really shy/ introverted can hurt you if you're looking for a job or even trying to explore something new. "Day by day nothing seems to change, but pretty soon everything's different"
I'm moderately socially awkward and I love history, computers and a few other things but I absolutely hate some other subjects. I also feel that I get over things very quickly whether someone close to me dies or I lose something that I worked hard to get or achieve. I know that might seem cold but after a while I stop thinking about it and I block it out and get on with my life.
Although in the past years I've learned to be outgoing, I think I took a hit when I moved from Europe to America and my dad is constantly putting me and my siblings down but I've grown to stand up to him.
Betternet I can relate to some of the things you've said. I think after going through certain situations a lot, a person tends to get numb to it. In relation to subjects of interest (and others of strong dislike), I believe that the love of them really drives a person to learn more about, and subsequently get better, at them.
Betternet I feel you on that
Betternet Hey, just remember you're awesome just the way you are!
Same bro 😎😎😎 I’m a “high functioning” Autistic and I feel the same way, I don’t get upset as easily as others do due to my intelligence and imagination.
I hated myself for the longest time because people would make fun of me for being socially awkward. This video gives me true hope.
I can relate to this, I'm socially awkward yet I've managed to setup a successful human trafficking ring with a global presence.
ⵔⵓⴽⴰⵜⴽⴰⵜ look at you Mr go getter
Wait, is this a good or a bad thing?
Mark Molenaar
We will never know 😂😂😂
good on you
ⵔⵓⴽⴰⵜⴽⴰⵜ lol
*is respecting women a skill*
clorox bleach it just means you have class,the bad women makes it hard for the nice women!
clorox bleach Yes
Jesus Ruiz to get respect you have to show respect, that's the problem everybody likes to put down other people without getting to know that person.
No, it's a disability.
No! it means.. Yo mama...raised you right.
bullies made me awkward by making me feel worse about my passions. once they sensed the awkward they got even worse and had too much 'fun' to let me overcome it. so awkward adulthood filled with cripple anxiety, at least im slowly allowing my passions to settle in without subconscious stress. but darn it'd be so nice to be good at something :)
This would actually be comforting if my crippling anxiety didn't keep me from leaving the house. Like at all.
If it makes you feel better he's actually describing autism, more specifically high functioning autism. Anyone who's awkward for any other reason (like anxiety) what he's talking about doesn't apply to you. Enjoy your day
I have this phenomenon where I have a imaginary life...like a alternate possibility of my life and have stories and journey of it in my mind. This has nothing to do with reality, but the problem is I think more about this life than reality which I actually am living in, Has this ever happened to anybody? Likr this is the first time this has come out of my mind to something physical....I have never talked anyone about this infact this is first time i am expressing it through something...
Tushar Patel It's called Maladaptive Daydreaming, and I have it too, amongst at load of other things. Don't worry, there are others out there like this as well 😊
Dominique Gomez I didn't know there was a name of it. thankyou for real.
Tushar Patel Tis cool, if you ever wanna talk, my tumblr name is domidagomi btw
i have that as well, you may have noticed yourself these 'imaginary lives' can be extremelly complicated and detailed to a great extent.
some people say it's wrong but from my own experience i've gathered that new ideas for something big usually develop from the 'second life'.
Noortje De Beer It so frickin is...Thank you so much for replying
too bad i suck at everything.
aziz alali well by looking at your thumbnail pic i can tell you're not into sucky music. RH.
TVinmyEye ayyyy ma man
aziz alali 📻👦
+voice of reason LOL gj
voice of reason I don't think I'd even be good at that tbh
This man tells the truth. I've been awkward since my sophomore year of hs and he made me realize that from that time to now everything that I've ever been interested in I've obsessed over it and spent a long time trying to master whatever it was. From video games to now bodybuilding. I put in the long "boring" hours to try to perfect it.
Bro same lmao
This really does apply to me. When it comes to social interaction, I suck. However, I excel in art and writing; I can draw and write for hours on end without getting tired.
YES! Me! One of my skills is making videos that make myself appear that I'm not as awkward as I really am. Haha. The power of editing and saying the same sentence multiple times in a row until I don't sound ridiculous.
Nice
This comment is 4 years old but I wanna send love to it, I’ve been recording videos but felt ashamed that I constantly have to repeat myself.. this changed my outlook on that, seeing that you’ve been able to succeed with the similar struggles is really inspiring! Glad you’re doing well with your TH-cam career!! 👏❤️
very true..usually people that aren't socially awkward tends to stay somewhere in the middle, the successful are always the weird ones
Everybody has a weird part in them.
Christopher G. exactly but some people has more weird part and some less
Most CEOs and successful people are good at communicating with others and getting what they yearn for in life. I mean, look at every leader that has ever lived, they know how to communicate effectively, therefore leading to success.
Extreme Channel yep, keep generalizing and deluding yourself
Anal Acrobats lol how am I deluding myself I'm not even awkward at all.. I'm just saying it's true that's how all my rich friends are, and the not so rich goes to school and gets a job lol..but that's what I'm currently doing
Sounds like me. I dont trust humans and am very awkward in groups, but very profound in a 1 on 1 situation. I am a genius in a few categories but a moron in others. I dont like the schooling system not because it sets standards, yet that it is more of a belief that is being imposed on the masses. If it focused on each individuals personal traits it would make more sense than wasting 12 years of our lives to end up with no direct focus. It seems social skills would be something that would give students a fighting chance, yet society doesnt put much behind fields of psychology or say drama class, etc. Its more likely that they dont want us to have a fair chance because its a threat to their chance to excel. So mental dissorders such as extreme narcissistic behavior is awarded in this dog eat dog world.
Dem/Rep Delusion You aren’t awkward in my opinion, you just are enlightened of the fact that the education system is corrupt.
Dem/Rep Delusion "I don't trust humans"
It takes a lot of cooperation to run the world. Schools is where you lean that, for better or worse.
You know they call it bipolar now not narcissism.
Dem/Rep Delusion you can trust me
This gives me a large boost to my already awkward personality. Thank you for your video. +1
Went to an engineering school. Every awkward guy I know majored in cs and eventually became software engineers, including my hubby. That's why they're so successful 😭😆
Tasha Lo woww i am also an awkward one i think i would achieve something worthfull in my life but i am scared of communicating to people around me i am scared to go in my own city alone what should i do about my wierdness i dont know :'(
Divya Jaju You should improve your social skills.You can be a great CEO or whatever but lacking social skills will always suck,take it from someone who sometimes is socially awkward, this videos are feel good bullshit, I wanna live a great life with people I care about, not a lonely life because I fear what people might think of me.You don't have to trust me, you'll see it for yourself.
Christopher G. Though, Elon Musk is described as a rather awkward person
Definitely not a Cat Everybody is awkward, or weird, really there's no 'normal' person. You could say I am pretty normal, however If you look close enough you'd find I am really weird. But there's no excuse, you need social skills to have a great life, obviously If you want to have friends or a girlfriend, If you are not interested in living in society that's cool, you need to find a lonely place to live, It's cool If you seriously want it, however If you do it because you suck when talking to people, there's no excuse, fix it.
"you need social skills to have a great life" That might be true for your standards, but it's not the case for everyone, even for people wanting to live in society (and I keep using Elon Musk's example to express it). What I meant was that the social skills of Elon Musk are pretty lame, and he obviously didn't fix it though look at how succesful he is, and without talking about excuses, maybe it's not working on that aspect of him (awkwardness) and only focusing on what really mattered to him that made him who he is.
If you dream about having a sucessful social life (like most people), you can't complain about how awkward you are as social skills, like most things, can be acquired, so on that point we agree, but lacking social skills won't always suck, and having them isn't what makes a life great. Another example is how George Lucas was incredibly awkward, even while shooting Star Wars.
I think most people need to stop being judgemental we are all humans we all have our vices and our flaws,have a Good day everyone.
Brandon griffiths I argee with you on that one thank you!
Cornus woiyoiiii
I love how happy this guy looks
Thank you for this video. Ive felt so pushed down my entire life but its nice to feel the power i have and ot wont go away no matter what i will stay strong
I'm going to be the most successful human being
Holo The Wise I beg to differ
most people who are awkward usually have a striking talent. that doesnt mean being awkward will make you more likely to be successful. the causality in the title is flawed.
Save the bush no they aren't. He's just trying to sell his book
I've had social anxiety pretty much my whole life, and it got really bad when I was in highschool. I'm 20 years old now but it still controls my life more than I want it to. I'm also a music producer and I feel like this video has a valid point, I work extremely hard at my craft and even when I started producing people said my music was no that good, but I always wanted to keep improving until I make it as a big time producer. Not saying that you have to be "Awkward" to work hard, but this guy does have a point about the persistence that we have. I've been selling beats to artists now and looking to make some noise at the beat making contest held in Toronto. hope you guys hear my music on the radio some day lol ✌
Lucky you, I’m 18 and still super awkward 😆 Also wow! That’s an amazing thought to have, I hope you reach that goal and we can all hear your music :D 💗💗💗
Personally, I feel that being socially awkward also means having more free time alone, which means more time to study and focus on a particular/passionate solo activity and *because* we
lack the social life to distract us--it eventually leads to success, probably. In that regard, it's good to be "socially awkward."
I've already come to terms with my personality traits being the socially awkward introvert that I am--now when the success thing kicks in....
You're making it sound as though every shy, awkward, socially anxious person is some kind of hidden genius savant. They are not. Very few are. Likewise, excelling in one topic does not make you socially inept.
Blood Angel Excelling in a certain topic is different to a life-consuming obsession.
Blood Angel Extrovert alert
thats what he's trying to sell lol
Everyone's awkward, honestly.
Ty Ty absolutely not true
hectoronthemoon everyones weird in their own way u dumb bitch get it through ur tiny brain
Ty Ty everyone has insecurities and anxieties but most people don't have trouble socialising. Don't justify social awkwardness, work on yourself.
Ty Ty Definitely not. 😂
tbh no. i know a lot of ppl who wouldnt stop talking---makes me awkward, not them. and the thing is, they never notice that im trying to escape the conversation when it's too obvious!!!!
This is a video we never asked for, but needed it.
What you're describing is Aspergers.
Exactly.
why?
Yea haha just wanted to say.. great "psychologist"
But not only aspergers, tbf
No. Asperger's is a type of autism, which is much worse than just being socially "awkward". Asperger's is usually accompanied by OCD like obsessions with certain activities, and most also show lacking in movement and general communication.
lol I'm socially awkward AND I have no talents
I've embraced my personality, not calling it 'awkwardness' but instead who I'm. I'm an introvert, I don't mind being alone most of the time. Overall, I've gained confidence and resilience through the years by acknowledging my inner self and not being scared of what people might think.
Brilliant Dr. Toshiro . We all know very well what you said but we don't recognise it usually . TECH INSIDER , thanks for uploading this worth watching clip .
this just explained my life... I have this need to master everything I do and try in life and become the best on that certain thing and then move onto the next thing.
Success here I come.
Lots of awkward professional trolls on this board. We need some good trolling innovation. Kek.
Kek
Heck.
I can't explain myself any better than this video... Great recommendation TH-cam, you for once did your job correctly!
That is so me omg. Social situations can be really scary and terrifying sometimes. I like to sit back and observe. Then I talk when it’s necessary
This might be a bit misleading. All of this is *his own opinion* and when he says "psychologists say xyz" he means he says that, and people who think like him. Psychology is not black and white like other science, there is a lot of division within the field. The majority of psychologists would disagree with his conclusions and explanations.
well said
Conde Similarly with economics. Econ and Psychology are social sciences, not hard sciences.
Science is entirely politics so none of it means anything at all anymore.
Conde This might be his opinion, but I really recognized myself in this. So there are people really like that, of course not all socially awkward people because there are always exceptions.
I am awkward because I'm human
D E E P
kappa
This is a glass half full explanation thank you =) gotta be positive people!!
Very useful video clip! Thanks for sharing.
I'm awkward AF at school but I scrape by. (I fucking die if I'm the only guy at my table) ;-;
Not A troll I feel your pain man so sorry but I can however invite you to islam
just imagine living life without fear? an sence of freedom and bliss. and that note I just want us humans need to understand this world is not something to bd taken granted for. it's not for play and idle talk it serious business. you have to know your purpose. what the hell you doing on planet earth? why? what's it all about? if you have a free time some time in the future go down to the graveyard and think? that's going to be you in there one day
abdi yusuf Allah is a fraud. You're no less lost than the average person.
I don't think religion had any intention in this though. I'm just saying how I feel sometimes.
+abdi yusuf I've met plenty of socially awkward Muslims soooo
In my opinion, interpersonal skills come from experience. No one is born as a good communicator and everyone would be socially awkward if they never met another human. I think the reason there is a correlation between social awkwardness and being very talented in a niche area is due to sacrificing time with other people vs spending time on a area of interest especially if that area doesn't require communication.
he just described what I am going through, I had my first date ever with a girl.. I never saw her.. never met her before the day I dated her.. we just texted through the phone.. and I felt like I ruined everything on the day I met her.. I made it extremely awkward and antisocial.. I felt really bad and sad after that cuz I wasn't able to meet her expectations.. I don't like being with people a lot or to have mini chats.. but when it comes to the things I am nerd at.. I am full of it.. I am trying to study myself really hard.. this guy was true about what he said despite one thing.. we should mind the fact that this causes many awkward people to have depression or not believe in themselves as they are taught to perceive that there is something wrong in them.. "anxiety can lead to depression" I wasn't this much socially awkward when I was 15 or 16.. I was the opposite of that cuz I was always interesting to everyone.. most of the time depression is not a disorder!! its a condition.. yes its hard to change.. most of the psychological therapists "at least of those that ik" are ignorant and stupid.. and they just cause people with depression to be more depressed as they believe that that's who they are!! most people don't understand that "fun and life is subjective!!"
this video make me feel wonderfull.
thank you for telling me, about myself :)
I hate going out into the public, I need help
Dulfinz I feel you on that one.
Socially awkward people are mostly introverts. It's because of thinking prowess. And you maybe right...socially awkward is being not exposed to social situations since birth. Even if I'm introvert, I'm taking responsibility and working out by keeping in touch through communications and learning to start conversation as well.
One thing, introverts may speak few in personal but talks a lot in Facebook chats. People still get our point as long as it is crystal clear.
Okay, that was a really cool video. Thanks for sharing.
How to be an expert on anything. 1. Write a book about anything sounding smart. 2. Go to business insider or tech insider and put out some kind of theory that sounds intriguing but is far fetched. 3. Advertise your book in the video. 4. Get money and you're a qualified expert.
just pay the media to tell everyone that you are an expert
Sounds like you are jelly
Well I'm writing my book and I have to turn it in to the publisher soon. Don't forget to watch my video next week and buy my book.
I bet this guy has his PhD... and a jealous idiot like you has the nerve to trash his ten years of hard work.
yeah im with him none of this shit makes any sense
Don't lie to these people
Sasuke Uchiefa i.
Courtney Earnhart is it really tho?
Essie how in the fuck is he describing autism?
Sasuke Uchiefa hey sasuke you spelled uchiha wrong.
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This is somewhat right. Many geniuses tend to be socially awkward or people with special natural talents and interests; however, not everyone who is socially awkward are geniuses because they found some other topic or talent that doesn't create genius such as playing video games where very few people can actually make loads of money off that.
Someone like me (Interested in videography, and hardware) does create success and so happened to be socially awkward. Had my first job at 16 in film.
Wow. I feel like he was speaking directly to me
nice way to sugar-coat the truth which is awkwardness makes those around you uncomfortable and can be very detrimental to your success...I highly doubt this guy is socially awkward at all. Don't settle for being awkward and fine with it, you have the determination to better yourself
I feel like this is just an underhand way of getting people who empathise to buy his book on what's essentially autism. (notice how he doesn't use the word) You'd be wasting your money and time if you invest in it. Spend some time each day in books, videos that help to rid you of awkwardness instead
unlost awkwardness is not a disease...
Who said that?
Let people be awkward if they want. There are awkward people in the world, there are outgoing people in the world etc.
that's bullshit, most people are empathetic enough to know when someone is just a little shy or awkward and they don't judge if they take the time to see your true qualities. and if they don't then who cares
Im awkward and i spend all my free time playing guitar, it's actually a productive obsession
Being awkward just means that you have not had enough experience with social interactions. Our brains then tell us we're "bad" at socializing, so we avoid it even more, and instead put that energy into building other skills. We then think we have to get good at the other skill/skills to compensate for our social inadequacies, when we could've solved it all along by focusing on building our social skills.
It's a interesting idea. The concetration and the intensity... So much thanks.
It sounds like you're speaking about Aspergers Syndrome.
... yes!! My son has this and he's on point about it 100%!!
Hello, I'm awkward and I'm great at failing
I don’t think that I will ever become successful but I am this kind of a person like the gentleman says my passion over creativity drives me regardless of the financial gain
This literally defined me. Thank you
I fit this category...
I do not. I do have have OCD and ADHD and find myself doing a lot of what was described above-mentioned. Also love cosplay lol!
Jenelle's Playtime Adventures If you had OCD you wouldn't say "I have have OCD"...
She could be also dyslectic, which I am and everything else Jenelle mentioned.
DJ SUPERNOVA You are correct, did not notice "have" twice. I did check the lock on the door 8 times before I left to work though.
so when you check the lock once, cant you just run away and forget about it?
This guy just described aspergers syndrome.
Baconlightning 😂
I’m good at drawing and learning things about the body and I’m super obsessed with the MCU! I can also lucid dream which is pretty nice considering it’s like having a double life but one you can control completely
excellent video. subscribed!
In order to be successful, you also need to be confident.
And this video has brought me more confidence in being successful, because I have the traits said in this video. So I am confident of my success now because of my awkwardness.
jon doe why? One thing is being awkward, which can be attributed to uniqueness and another thing is being SOCIALLY awkward.
IN MY OPINION, I feel like this video is meant to comfort people who struggle on such aspect to accept it, but honestly you won't be able to use the unique tools or abilities you have, if you don't first accept you need to become confident on your opinion and ideas.
jon doe I agree
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I'm pretty confident that despite being awkward at times I can beat my meat faster than the speed of sound...
HDBusiness - HDNetwork most of the time you gain confidence through experience. You don't just have confidence out of the blue.
I'm always awkward 24/7.
This is actually extremely accurate to me.I have been working really hard in each area I'm lacking in then I master it then move on the next thing and I have been doing this for several years now.
Mastery doesn't come that quickly. Don't move on to the next thing.
Thanks i love learning more about myself
How does this differ from Asperger's or ASD? It sounds like it with social difficulty and skill/interest in specific area.
im socially awkward but i know if i just focus on practicing social skills, i will succeed in socializing. Can somebody give me some tips on how to deliberate practicing social skills?
XaCriuSs Zero perhaps talking online with other people within a community such as gaming, movies , technology whatever your interests are you could start off messaging and then after having found people online who share an interest you have you could move on to voice chatting or perhaps video chatting and as time goes on you become more confident talking to people you haven't met before.
stop practicing. Stop focusing on your own behaviour, and what you are saying and start focusing on others. Typically, the more you think about it beforehand, the worse you will act socially. When you focus on what others are saying they will eventually talk about things that you might have a story on. Also, share your opinions; people love to debate or agree with someone else, When you share an opinion, people are forced into justifying their opinion. This results in dialogue.
Steven Acclises thnx man. that was really helpful. normally when i try to socialize, i always think ahead of the outcome of the conversation so when i do, i always try to plan ahead. now i know that i should stop it because when i always do it, i always become anxious.
Zackrius stay off the internet treat the real world like a rpg. Talk to ransoms here and there by feeling their energy saying hi or what time is it etc....and always use eye contact with warming welcoming empathetic eyes....and if someone takes your kindness for weakness just remove yourself from their life with no hard feelings.
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i just found out that a super sexy coworker of mine that i really like has told my friend coworker that im creepy, awkward, and wierd. ouch. this video made me feel kinda good because i do relate to the qualities he has mentioned. The guitar always brings my confidence back and i know im skilled.
I think so awkward can just be a personality trait
Welp...you just described my life on the Autism Spectrum....Thank you.
Also This video is all about Autism Spectrum Disorders.
What about people who have anxiety?
Espi I have the same question!
I only just recently became social....ive always loved hanging with my mates and stuff but now i love being around good groups of people.
I still work on my hobbies but i love that I can now take brakes and hang with different people.
Great info. Pinpoints me exactly.