@@ree2398 You can just find it logic. You see, sometimes you don t quite have to go through something to know how it would be, you can know just by thinking in a good way about it or simply know it. Your intelligence can be a factor of knowing it as well. He s not the single one who has this though. But you don t find people with this though too often. I agree with him. And I also experiece what he said.
@Sesshomaru sorry ur just wrong on that. I recently have been out a lot an have noticed how many nice people there are. You just have to change your views... if u cannot sorry
@Sesshomaru me and my friend were on are dirt bikes late at night went into taco bell ordered, and released we left money at home... guy behind us payed for are food. And we are we’re on Dirt Bikes tearing it up at 12:30 am... no one wanted us to be their
Zach Hays i agree. but i interpreted your coment in contex of this video. so why bother telling stupid people the blunt truth when they wont get it. it is better to give them real life examples and guide them through conversation to the realization of truth, so they wont be mad if they concluded themselves that it is truth rather than impose on them the truth... if i expresd myself right. cheers
+Tomislav Cicak- Some people won't ever change their mind no matter how well you word what you say or how much evidence you provide. There is a mental block in most people's heads (call it cognitive dissonance or whatever you want) where they will do anything to justify their beliefs. Sure, not all people are close-minded and your method is definitely better for convincing those that are already somewhat rational but I hardly think these rational people are the problem with society. -The problem today is that so many people don't fall into this "rational" category. Rationality and philosophy have no place in modern society, to most people it's best to only exist on a very basic level and not question anything. It actually makes sense, why depress yourself when you're more happy while being ignorant? Being open minded (or enlightened or whatever you want to call it) will only make them depressed, which is why they will do anything to avoid it (even if those defenses are at a subconscious level). It's better to live in a world where unicorns exist, they don't want to hear otherwise. I think the only way to get your ideas across with closed-minded people is simply by dominance, confidence, and by conviction. If they're not convinced then you simply roll over them on your way to your goal. The problem here is that using these tools is against the nature of most philosophical or rational debate. -This may be why science suffers so much in convincing people of anything. Science, by nature, can never be truly assertive and most scientists lack the conviction to fight for their discoveries.
@@Deauthorized I wasn't replying to op directly, I was looking for a comment which has enough likes so that I have the chance to be seen. Too much assuming on your part.
@Derek Huot, That’s not true. The reason dumb people have more friends is because they pick bad friends, if you wanna be smart, and have a lot of friends, you have to pick good friends. Here’s some facts. You can be book smart, and street smart, and you can teach an old dog new tricks, you can’t teach a stubborn dog new tricks. As you age, it is harder to memorize stuff, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Also, “Nothing is impossible, not if you can imagine it, that’s what being a scientist is all about.” -Hubert Farnsworth
I've dealt with this so much drama and 2nd hand hossio in my lifetime in the workplace that I make it a point to blatantly ignore someone when they go to talking about somebody else behind their backⁿ
I've dealt with this so much drama and 2nd hand hossio in my lifetime in the workplace that I make it a point to blatantly ignore someone when they go to talking about somebody else behind their backⁿ
I've dealt with this so much drama and 2nd hand hossio in my lifetime in the workplace that I make it a point to blatantly ignore someone when they go to talking about somebody else behind theirr backⁿ
One time, I got the weirdest friend. She was the opposite than me. She liked to go outside, play outside, and had many friends. She also didn't know much about history.
@Envy It’s not the same, Long explanation: Saying that, smart people have fewer friends means the same as someone with fewer friends are smart- which isn’t, it means it’s more difficult for a smart person making friends. Because smart people trying to figure out what the ‘dumber’ person is saying or doing- or just talking to them in general is well difficult, and as well hard to understand their way of thinking since both people have different minds. Shorten: It means being smart is just more difficult to make friends on a ‘mind’ level. If you have few friends that doesn’t mean you’re automatically smart, you could have a bad personality or just really introverted.
Everyone feels like they don’t have friends anymore because all we do is sit on TH-cam and watch videos instead of going out and socializing. Social media isn’t very social.
Intelligent people having fewer friends is not the same thing as people with fewer friends being automatically intelligent. Most people with few friends are probably still below or around average, but most of the average group itself probably still has plenty of friends.
When I had a social group of 10 best friends and 200 friendly peers, I maintained a solid 2.0 GPA in school. When I dumped my friends and became a hermit my GPA went to a 3.64. For *years* I wasted so much energy trying to understand everyone else around me, because I knew my thought processing was so different, I thought there was something wrong with me and it made me very depressed.
B. K. I have a similar problem. My parents are always forcing me to have empathy but I am just not that kind of person. I tend to see right through people and see the motives behind what they are doing and a lot of them are manipulative cunts.
Clayton Kramer Agreed. It's good to empathize but it is bad to empathize too much. Trust, honesty, commitment, virtue, *honor*, integrity; they are gone in modern society. 50% of marriages end in divorce, imagine the how many other relationships fail? There's nothing wrong with having friends but it's increasing difficult to find *quality* friends.
Agree!! I was always popular as hell.....but I came to realize I had Very Few REAL "Friends!" It's sad, but after my True friends died, I decided to cut all the crappy false friends out of my life and only leave the good ones...... I'm all alone now!!
Wow, I can really relate to this. I had a similar experience in high school to the extent I purposly dumbed myself down to "fit in", craving to be popular, even tho I hated people. My grades suffered from it...
cool beans i decided in 8th grade it wasnt worth dumbing myself down , gave up on the fitting in ordeal , graduated highschool being historian , and having one friend , ironically the validictorian to my historian ....
I used to have 0 or a small amount of friends growing up, but once I found people that think and feel the same way I do ( through traveling sports and various seminars) I started making lots and lots of friends whit whom I am always having a blast, talking and arguing over things I used to have none to talk with... Making the right friends will always feel good
Dr. Krieger we should correct people if you are 100% sure you are right. Although stupid morons will ignore and say that is wrong, intelligent people would like people to correct them because that makes them better.
It means you’re intelligent but you lack emotional intelligence. Getting quality friends or getting friends at all requires empathy, and calling people out is at times not a good idea
+No one Special nice! I like to make enemys too because I'm so smart ;) Join me brother! Let's kill stupid weak minded people with logic! **made a friend** xD Yay!
GaRageJeel Well in school I pretended to be stupid and I always made jokes just to not be alone because I'd be made fun of so maybe you just seem stupid and nice
Lawnmower mum:why don't you have friends person:I'm really smart mum:that's a load of bull*drags person to room full of dead smart brothers and sisters*
You're not the only one with the compulsion to offend people when they unknowingly beg for it, but true, they'll never think of you the next time they throw a party.
Tore Lund it’s cause think you are not going be fun. When truth is they are not that fun. Fake people normally try to pretend or act out stupid for fun.
It explains why human intelligence increases slowly, if at all. The more intelligent people are pickier about their mates and hence, mate later in life, leading to fewer children, if any.
*exacly* thats why im single i see people as they are, but they dont see the same. (i got a few clues that im not ugly like that, i got a complement from a female that was'nt my mom)
That's not necessarily true. I'm a lot more intelligent than average (at least in linguistics and geography), but I have Asperger's syndrome, so I'm not very intuitive at all. I have only two friends because I'm terrible at interacting with people, not because I'm "too smart" to have friends. So no, it's not always like that.
No friends. Above-average intelligence... the number itself doesn't matter much at this point. But I would like friends. Just a few real friends. Not the fake friends that you hug and claim to love after just a couple of meetings. The main problem is I become bored almost immediately in groups, or worse, if I try to talk about something interesting (to me, at least) all conversation comes to an awkward halt as they cannot keep up or just don't know what to say in response (they can just as easily get bored with me as I do with them). And worse still are the people you try to talk to who believe they're well-read when they are not; those people are particularly irritating because they are opinionated in the most ignorant ways. I often feel terribly isolated while standing in a group. I can't be myself most of the time. I do want to bond with people, and they could be the sweetest people in the world, but if we don't have much in common and I'm not stimulated or challenged by their conversation, then not only do I fail to connect with them on any meaningful level, I feel guilty about the whole thing, and feel like a bad person about it because they are such nice people - yet I can barely wait to get away from them so I can stop pretending to be interested and smiling in their presence (which is exhausting). I also resent the need for constant fakery, at that level, in order to be polite for the other person's sake. I also suspect at times that the mere need for the fakery indicates that I am just an asshole, and this reinforces my desire for self-imposed isolation from people who deserve better company (from my perspective, I am not good enough for them). And still I am a human being - a member of a deeply social species - and crave just one best friend with whom I could have that connection, that intellectual intimacy, where I can just be myself and feel understood, and give all of myself to someone much like me in return.
Social anxiety is different, it's more than simply wanting to leave a party early, you will feel compelled to avoid the entire thing if you can. If you are looking to find people and find them all lacking that is not social anxiety, the prospect of dealing with new people causes nervousness in the socially anxious. I share a lot of these traits and I've worked in retail, I've also worked as a trainer and teacher. I definitely do not have social anxiety. My social skills are actually rather good, I'd just prefer not to use them on mundane people and their mundane interests and often manufactured drama. Drama I imagine most of them manufacture because even they know how boring they are in their day-to-day lives. It's why I never had much interest in things like Facebook either, so little of value is ever said. When teaching other people who struggle to understand what I teach them I can get frustrated because I learn new concepts very easily, and that makes it difficult to empathize with someone who does struggle to learn. Because my social skills are good I can manage to not make them feel dumb even if I might be thinking it, but I can only think of so many ways to explain a problem before giving up on some cases because some people are just dumb. Ignorance can also get in the way from time to time but ignorance has a fairly simple cure, dumb...not so much.
Oh my gosh! I feel the same way. I have a few friends but I'm only deeply connected to one. I hate when we go or eat in groups because i won't be able to talk or express myself or my opinions. But when do find myself in the unnecessary situation where i have to be social I do the exact opposite and keep mum because the topics are so boring and not in the least interesting to me. I enjoy deep conversations and forming bonds but only to those who understand how I am. I'm pretty much a loner in Uni most of the time which doesn't bother me in the least. Its funny that I do try to get away too from fakers and pretenders. Many of my friends are awesome and reliable too but I just don't feel connected with them as I ought to. Its a tough time trying to make interesting conversation or smiling at something that I don't find the least bit funny. I really thought something was wrong with me because I was so antisocial. That led me to take the Myers-Briggs test and I found that I had an Advocate/ Counsellor (INFJ) personality. It got my personality to the point and hell I'm proud of it!! ☺😉
I wouldnt say smart ppl prefer to be alone.. rather they prefer to spend time with meaningful people in their lives or with people who do care which is few. Whats the point in so many friends? Quality over quantity friendships.. small number of ppl but with stronger bonds, understanding and communication..
I also read some studies that very intelligent people are deeply troubled by the world’s problems, but also so much more than common folk because very smart people see the problem’s nature and understand how simple the solution is. And also we see (sorry but yes, I’m saying “we” because it’s just true) not only the root of the problem (usually the evil inclinations of few individuals), but we also see the sheer apathy and laziness of the common folk in terms of wanting to make things better. We see how easily people are deceived not only because of ignorance but because they would rather be entertained than educated, rather be indulgent than vigilant. And so it makes us feel so alone, like a sane person trapped living in an asylum.
I'm done with friendships. I moved away from abusive parents, exes, jobs and friends. When people start making plans on how I should live my life to their benefit, I'm done with them.
Thats true, but good people who can be good friends exist, but gratulations top move away from abusive pattern, just know you can have better relationships if you are ready.
It's possible that your abusive parents were the reason why the other people in your life are also toxic, that's how these things often work. However not everyone is like that and if ever you feel ready it might be a good idea to consider therapy or self help of some sort.
... until you realize that there are no "quality" humans. Up to a few years ago, I would never have argued that any amount of ignorance is a good thing. But now I know that it is necessary to be able to bear humans and how they use one another. Unfortunately (for me), it's much easier to lose ignorance than to gain it. The latter is actually obviously just self-deception, not the real thing.
youtube_channel.mp4 True, it's more of a different phrasing needed. Intelligent people are more picky with who they want as friends, I know because I'm picky with an IQ of 120 and I'm the one who simply observes people to see if I'll like you. So being lonely isn't something most of us bother to consider because solace is peace, and peace is grand. That said the few people who are my friends I treasure.
powertortoise that is actually true and usually the smarter people don’t make the best grades it is found I forgot his name he was an engineer not Albert Einstein he made horrible grades in school and he was found to have an IQ of 230
@Kenny Westone i feel u especially when they laugh at u when they misunderstood cuz of their dumbness( lower intelligent lvl). Can u imagine how tilted would u be living this moment
@Kenny Westone I've never lost it due being laughed at whilst trying to explain basic things, but I know what you mean. Even in university, idiots that laugh at facts and logic are alarmingly common. Heck, not even my parents, who are quite intelligent, can follow me well, but that may be due to attention spans. I don't think many of the "idiots" are actually idiots, they just don't want/know how to use their brains, strive on cheap joy, and have a nonexistence attention span. For one or two of those "idiots" (that I know of), once you really get through to them, they learn much, much faster than you do. It's very scary sometimes. (though, to be fair, they probably only seem to learn faster because they don't look deep into the subject. Instead, they soak the information up without really processing it) Sometimes I envy them, they seem to enjoy life a lot better than I do, and they certainly are the majority. I am in an awkward position: I am not nearly intelligent enough to excel at anything, even normal life takes too much brainpower. Nor am I simple-minded enough to enjoy life as it is. I cannot find consistent joy in doing most things and feel bored most of the time. Not even my hobbies help, as they leave a bitter aftertaste. That weirdness may be because I was barred from doing things I truly liked/ wanted most of my life, and I subconsciously still psychologically punish myself for enjoying certain activities. I also have the small problem of typing ludicrously long comments without intending it... WHY CAN'T I TYPE ESSAYS THIS WELL?! This sucks.
I think that this is one of the reasons my marriage failed. We were on different planes intellectually, she spoke incessantly, while I preferred to stay silent, especially if I was engrossed in a project. I loved her, but constantly talking to her was exhausting.
All what this video is saying is smart people are selective when it comes to who they associate with or what they invest their energy into which would be the explanation as to why they have very few to no friends... I myself am a very critical thinker and eloquent speaker and I only have 1 genuine friend and 1 casual friend so 2 friends
BLCKnight24Plays I agree, my whole life I thought I was dumb special, maybe still am, but I always wanted friends who can comprehend and understand me without having to explain every single detail to a dumb person. Cuz I’d feel like a person like me would get along with me very well. Perhaps you would be in that same category as well.
We're smart in some ways, in some form. All of us are smart people, but the problem is that some of us are too lazy to realise the fact that they can do things that they think they can't do. We all can, we just need COURAGE and MOTIVATION. This bad boi who wrote this comment 3 weeks ago was no more. Thank you so much for letting me know that everyone is smart in their own way.
Perhaps this video is incomplete. Im also not a genius by societal standards. But i've always felt alienated from the masses because i've spent so much time asking questions to myself that no one else does. This led to a differnent understanding of society for me and i just don't fit in. I don't have any patience for some of the behaviours other people blindly exhibit. This doesnt' make me a genius. It just makes me aware of a certain part of humanity that others haven't spent any time understanding.
Ken Brunet That's the first stages of opening your mind and consciousness.Maybe you should pursue those thoughts and look for something even deeper. You may be suprised what you find.
@@unrdnungmk6902 I'm not sure im capable of any deeper thought then im already in. Im always looking to refine my ideas of what we are as humans and what makes us tick. Im not sure if you're suggesting delving into the spiritual side of things. So far though. I don't have any interest in spirituality. At the surface it seems to subjective.
Humans just don't have a value if you can't get away from them. I'm pretty sure it's just the fact that distance makes the heart grow fonder and people in cities are overwhelmed with the amount of strangers passing by. Combine that with cost of living and a drop in quality. What we want isn't really quantity but quality and most people end up just ignoring you. You don't even greet people living in the same building.. insane.
Depends on what you define as "pinnacle" of society. People in the cities may live in a highly efficient system that takes care of their every need, but they live miserable lives, because humans didn't evolve to live in groups of millions. Meanwhile, rural people may not have the material advantages of city dwellers, but are much healthier, often live happier and fulfilling lives, and live longer. At the end of the day, it depends on what kind of a person you want to be. If you're a materialist, then cities are for you. But if you care more about simplicity and peace of mind, then you were made for rural life.
Very, very true! My mom always said, unless someone that calls themselves your friend would be sitting beside you at your hospital bed when or if you're sick, they aren't really a friend. I've honestly found without exception, people are for the most part "fair weather friends." I don't need that at all.
That and when you can understand things like Quantum Physics or how to mathematically map out the correlations between conjunctive habits of Humans and other species then yeah you're gonna have some awkward interactions when trying to converse with people who take instant photos to send as grams to their own accounts. Now maybe if there was a Kryptagram then smart people would get it.
"Solitude is independence".-Hermann Hesse Smart people enjoy loneliness because they have great sense of self. While enjoying solitude, an intelligent individual is capable of creating. "Solitude is an opportunity to freedom, if it is impossible for you to live alone, you were born a slave".-Fernando Pessoa
It's sad how many people here to try and justify being lonely. Almost nothing in this world gets created by solely one person. Someone like Steve Jobs was successful because he was able to communicate so well.
DeFy Noah It is not the fact of being alone. It is okay to be around people who share your cognitivity perceptions; in a nutshell, persons who are in your same osmosis. Human relationships can develop better where there is a great level of grey matter. Individuals with high IQ are prompt to create by means of their imagination. Psychological studies tally the notion of knowledge and imagination as the source of creation. "Great minds discuss ideas....."- Eleanor Roosevelt
I'm just tired of trying to communicate with stupid, ignorant people, who argue about things they don't understand, and find pleasure in things that are simple and empty. To have friends like that, I rather be alone.
The fact that they find pleasure in things that are simple and "empty", might mean that they see things that you're unable to. Remember, in our own worldview we have an immense variety of thoughts and feelings that makes us stand out from the rest. However it is the same for everyone, you are only capable of seeing the surface of other people and make your own judgement on them. Truth is, they are just as complicated as you are.
Smart people avoid unnecessary socialising because they abhor small talk and the topics they want to discuss are mostly high brow topics like philosophy and maths which other people don't know much about.
sidharth mohanty I think that they are just different than most people and it is harder for them to find someone who thinks at least a bit like them, someone who they can trust Beacuse friendship is about trust and not similar interests
Lorr Yes they are different and they are very curious and soak up information like anything and are constantly in the lookout for bouncing ideas and finding patterns which explains the world to them they can accomplish this either with themselves no wonder they are constantly trying to solve or a person with similar intelligence which is a low probability. There idea of companionship is more of a meeting of the mind i think.
Since when do even intellectuals like just going on about math? That's so.. dreary. You see way more of it with art and science (of course philosophy is there).. or really just sharing ultimately useless knowledge like spending 2 hours on how male pregnancy would actually work. We intellectuals use our brains for things that really matter.. like the science of butt babies.
Uleek M'diq No. Geeks yes but what's bad about being a geek if you enjoy it? And also, they don't think they're smarter, they just are so people get boring quite easily to them. That's it.
The "hard to find people who share interests n stuff" is spot on. Theres very few people i can enjoy an intelligent conversation with. Im a deep complicated thinker for even the simplest things. But i can factual explain things and most people will never see eye to eye on factual perspectives🤦🏻♂️. I always feel obligated too be nice but god i do not like interacting with 75% of people. For one people talk to damn slow. And i aint got time for you to speak at 30 words per minute🤣
Intelligent people are likely to be introverted to some extent, obviously. I've only got a few friends. My lack of friends is probably not due to my intelligence, but my intelligence is likely to be due to my lack of friends, as I spend more time reading or writing or watching documentaries or just having a good old think.
+Alex Paulsen - "a good old think"; To the outside world it's like you are in a daze or a frozen trance, deep within your own mind, churning away, having a conversation within yourself. Now, take that inner dialogue and portray that outward through your lips in a vocal sense - you are crazy. It's very interesting how society looks at people.
America Where Did You Go? I don't dare speak my mind with a lot of things. I don't see it from the same perspective as others, and I know I'm just going to be shunned or frowned at due to how intolerant a great portion of the world can be for anything but their own ideals. So yeah, quite probably I'd be branded as crazy. Sometimes other people should keep their mouths shut too. This free speech thing the western world keeps preaching is great and all, but free-speakers also need to realise we have the freedom to not listen, eg. tell them to fuck off. There's probably a lot of really useful suggestions being held back by all the introverts in the world, but we'll probably never know unless they all come forward and say something.
+Alex Paulsen - "I don't dare speak my mind with a lot of things", That's just society trying to shove that into your subconcious to try and suppress those points of view that they either don't get or possibly make them uncomfortable within themselves that hits home with something that stirs from within themselves (and I'm not referring to adult toddler type of behavior that some in the world want to think is normal or acceptable). Introverts are a special breed because they are always watching and listening in conversations or just the world in general; I know, for myself, whenever someone is speaking, I am kind of studying and examining everything they say: from what they say, how they say it, the movements they are making when they say it ... a lot can be gained from just listening and viewing. There are a lot of good people with a lot of good things to say, unfortuantely, sometimes, they are drowned out by the chaos of the worlds boisterous behaviors.
Being smart is a burden. Because the smarter you are the more hyperaware you are of people and situations that are dumb and ignorant. Which can be irritating. That effect becomes worse if smart people also judge themselves pretty harshly for their own shortcomings. It's really hard to be happy when you see all that is wrong with the world and lack of effort when all the solutions are within reach. Edit: just saw how many likes this comment got, wow. We'll it turns out I'm a bit on the spectrum tbh. So I guess that makes me, and potentially you too, a bit different than most. I am getting married in 2 months, my lady says I'm weird in many ways but she loves me 🤣 so I guess I wouldn't change a thing. I hope for all of you when life gets hard, or annoying and frustrating that you take a deep breath, and don't give up and keep being a little weird. Someone does need your weirdness somewhere. People on the spectrum that are highly functional tend to have quirks that make them hyper sensitive or aware and they may also be really good at one particular skill or another. That is useful. I can't say I am always that way. I am more the jack of all trades but the master of none...thou I'm quite decent at what I do and above the average at a few skills...I just don't consider myself a great master at anything. Hard to explain, idk, maybe you folks are the same, but it doesn't matter. Just keep being you and be good at it, put it to good use. Make the most out of your life. Don't let life get in the way. Do what you need to do!
You just described my whole Teenage/adult life. That moment when you gain that level of awareness is when you find yourself literally question every thought and emotion you have. And it never stops no matter how much you want to just not think about things so much you cannot stop. It becomes so difficult to talk to people because while you are talking to them your brain is constantly overanalyzing everything you say. Then at the end of the conversation despite saying so much you still feel as though you did not properly explain yourself well, and continue to overanalyze everything you said to no end.
I just read all your comments. I'm not very smart, so I don't have all the answers, but I spent most of my life searching for them and found a few clues. Find purpose in life by putting your energy into something that YOU enjoy doing! This can be something as simple as a hobby that can be turned into a somewhat similar job. Most jobs contribute to humanity in one way or another more or less. Find what you are good at and apply it in a way which can improve the world and yourself. If everyone in the world did that, humanity would be so much further ahead. If you fail, get up and try again until you succeed. Get a book if need be (free public library) or go to school to increase your chances. Put in the work! Nothing happens without countless months of work. There is no easy way. And if you lack motivation, try this. Go to sleep early (even if you can't sleep, do physical exercise early in the day to help with sleep later, or eat food 15 minutes before bed to help induce sleep). Then wake up early and do your bed, very important to do your bed right after you wake up because you accomplish the first task of many for the day, it also helps you wake up and avoid going back in bed and you can build on from there. Never stop, or you become your own enemy, instead let each completed task guide you forward. You'll find success this way and change the world by focusing on completing positive challenges one after another. With time you'll get good, just like practicing a sport. Finally, surround yourself with people that also do the same and make connections, useful friends are best. Use connections to help you move forward faster and accomplish more than you would on your own. There's no shame in using others help, people do it all the time, they build upon each other's momentum. Hope that helps someone. You'll get what you want if you keep putting in work. Good luck.
This is a thing?? I thought overanalysing things was just a bad habit of mine or something. When I try to sleep, I sometimes think too much for no reason, so I play music only to think about the emotion the music gives off and think about situations that give off that emotion...
Suddenly everyone in the comments is a genius loner, misunderstood by the masses, condemned to live a life in solitude because no one understands how truly special their minds are. What the actual fk.
i feel like what people consider "being social" is a learned thing where u are told to act like everyone else and to smile and be polite and to not be mean and to be nice even if it means being dishonest. This is contrary to being "natural" which i think is what smart people are being when they come off as "social awkward" to other people. I strongly believe that when you are being "natural" aka "being yourself" then AUTHENTIC relationships rather than ARTIFICIAL relationships will result. And those are the ONLY kind of relationships worth having in my book.
And as my insecurities fade and I finally prepare to conclude that I am indeed intelligent, my loneliness proves practically impossible to cure unless I can become stupid. So I’m smart enough to know that for the sake of my own mental health, it’s stupid to be smart and smart to be stupid.
To paraphrase Neal Stephenson: smart people may have to pay the social tax of small talk, but what they are really after is conversations with a purpose. Thanks for a nice video!
Are you guys really like me (like you know) not just people who hate small talks? Because I’ve always wanted a group of friends who has a very broad comprehension of things who doesn’t need to have every single detail explained to them because they’re too “dumb” to understand, instead they already understand completely even if I haven’t finished talking yet. Life would be so much better. Also I really despise people calling me “smart” or “intelligent”......Just thought I’d add that
In fact, this is a great rationale. I have countless friends with whom I enjoyed playing sports with as a child. But many don't share my love for the arts or science. That said, they don't ridicule me for being something of a geek. To me, those are very good friends nonetheless.
Men bond by exchanging insults and ragging on each other, but they don't really mean it. Women bond by exchanging niceties and telling each other how pretty they look, but they don't really mean it!
People will only hurt you and friends are overrated. Tesla's fondness for his pigeon may seem odd to the shallow-minded, but it is completely understandable. He was alone and loved his bird. Plenty of people adore their pets for good reason... they are forgiving, they won't judge you, they won't criticize you, they won't betray or lie to you, and they will love you unconditionally.
@@raaw4407 oh i didn't want to reply to you but to the oc, sorry mate :)) but yeah if you want someone to be close to you you have to be close to them and that takes time, interest and genuinity
You know he loved people, and when he was famous they loved him. He gave us everything and we left him penniless and living on the kindness of people he made wealthy. This is the outline of the world. There is no equivalent exchange, all the struggle in the world can still amount to nothing if nobody will listen.
You're a great presenter Thoughty2. Your narration is engaging and cogent, and I love the fact laden narrative peppered with light-hearted banter. Well done.
I would say the vast majority of people are superficial. They believe whats easy and they do what feels good. For people who are deep minded, its hard to interact with them.
So glad and thank you for talking about this. Peeps around me refuse to believe I am happier alone most of the time. I live at the beach and river in FL .. I’m surrounded by beauty. I am happier wandering about on my own. I socialize on my terms. People hate it that I have more freedom then they do, but I’ve earned it the hard way! Sorry not sorry! Finding joy in life IS the goal! And I am grateful and blessed to have it and really don’t care what others think about it.
It's because intelligent people often over think in social situations and so appear more rigid, whereas less intelligent people don't and so appear more carefree and relaxed
I can very much relate to this. I think way too much and way too long about everything. People think I'm slow ... which I am. But that is because I think about every possibility very carefully before coming to a decision, not because my thinking is slow in general. Even instant messaging is too fast sometimes and speaking with a person about something that is not absolutely trivial is usually a mess because I thought about it until the other person fell asleep or went home. Of course I try to act "normal" as often as I can but it is sometimes difficult for me. When I am put to a decision I have to evaluate all possibilities before taking it :S
timmytubede Yeah, I have the same problem, I either over analyze everything in terms of what the person is saying or how they're reacting to me or I become cynical by thinking that the whole conversation is futile and fake and therefore go quiet, it sucks, but lately I've been algoods, I basically just turn the analytical part of my brain off and chill tf out lol
yungstud171 some people like me play out senarious for the conversation and choose th e best one in a second or prevent determine the day and know what to say ahead of time. it's a really good way to make the day your day.
The best friend I ever had, I met because our dogs became friendly. And for several weeks she had my name and my dog's name backward. Which isn't as bad as it sounds, the dog's name was Grace. My friend passed away. I think at this time I have, besides my husband, only one really true fiend. And I think it's just that I never really had the same interests as other people.
Crimson Ghost dude the problem is not if somebody watches sitcoms or listens to Nickleback cds. The problem is when people do not ask themselves why they watch a sitcom or why they listen to an album. The intelligent man always learns or seeks to learn whereas the non-intelligent man simply consumes
All the happiest couples I’ve seen have pretty similar levels of intellect. Neither feels dumb in the relationship, neither feels they need to ”dumb it down” to have the other one understand them. I’ve seen one ”smart&successful meets hot but dumb”-couple, and they crashed and burned within weeks because _both_ got frustrated with the other one’s intellectual level. The hot but dumb one felt the smart one was being purposefully condescending and talking down to them, the smart one felt like they were speaking to a toddler. I guess it’s hard to find common interests and worldviews in a situation like that. My husband and I are in the same field of study and within one IQ point from each other. The communication is _so much easier_ when we just inherently know we both understand and are understood by each other.
I would have to agree. Even though my wife has 2 masters degrees, and I have no college, we are about equal in intelligence. It also helps that we both have a good sense of humor, I cannot imagine surviving in life without one. We also both have common sense, and at least average EQ (more important than IQ in my opinion). it also helps that we are both humble, we know that we are not "smart" about everything, we like to joke about how "stupid" we are about many things in life. Now my brother, his IQ is about 180, but even he admits his social skills are a bit lacking, but he doesn't care, lol. That being said, we both have great social lives, together and separately, a lot of friends. If fact we both agree that if we didn't hate housework (we also both work full time, and in my case OT), or had a housekeeper, we would have people over all the time. ;)
I am curious what her IQ is, mine was about 135 last time I checked. As far as EQ, hers would probably be higher, she is a school social worker after all, and one of her masters is clinical psychology.
Me: You see colour black, but it looks white to you, so you conclude. Then I say it's the colour black and you say it's not and then I explain with incredible details why it's black and the fact that it's actually black and not white which you thought it was. You don't understand my explanation, but you still go ahead to say it's white My gf: Well if it looks white to me its white Im not gonna change my answer just because its what you think is right If i lm 100% sure its white then its white I dont care what anyone else says Me: This is the problem. It's not my opinion, it's the fact that it is black and I happen to understand how it's black. You're based on a subjective view of reality and it's not a good thing actually. If you think black is white when it's a fact that it's black then that's your view on it. It doesn't change the fact that it's black. I'm not giving you my opinion of what the colour is, I'm telling you what the colour is. You get what I'm saying? My gf: But im not changing my answer we can just disagree It might be white The answer might be false She easily gets on my nerves. :/ This was an actual conversation we had, no words omitted, added, removed. Just that. Based on this, I have to agree with you. She even says I have to "dumb things down" for her. It's irritating. I was really broken after the whole conversation and just ignored her for a week. She said some really concerning things. She just called me names for doing what she asked me to do, explain things to her.
It's not that intelligent people don't like to have more friends it's the type of friends that they're looking for isn't very common
Exactly
Yes
I agree
how would you know? :)
@@ree2398 You can just find it logic. You see, sometimes you don t quite have to go through something to know how it would be, you can know just by thinking in a good way about it or simply know it. Your intelligence can be a factor of knowing it as well. He s not the single one who has this though. But you don t find people with this though too often. I agree with him. And I also experiece what he said.
"I am not antisocial, I'm selectively social. There's a difference" - said a very intelligent guy.
I probably don't have a lot of friends because I would rather travel to Siberia instead of Italy, Spain and other south countries.
Aka asocial
@@sugarlv6434 Well said!
A lot of people confuse nonsocial with antisocial. They are totally different things, like the difference between a hermit and a serial killer.
@@daniels5780 What is a hermit?
it's so hard to find an intelligent and satisfying conversation.
Hello.
Skill-point cad a cheapann tú?
SpikyKitten
Parlez vous francais?
Skill-point Parlez-vous Irlandaise?
SpikyKitten non, je ne parle pas. (unfortunately)
me an introverted kid with no friends: I'm intellectually superior in every way.
Yes, winners are less winning than loser in this world
@Sesshomaru Sounds more like you're in the wrong place.
There's plenty of good people, they're just not always in your vicinity.
@Sesshomaru sorry ur just wrong on that. I recently have been out a lot an have noticed how many nice people there are. You just have to change your views... if u cannot sorry
@Sesshomaru me and my friend were on are dirt bikes late at night went into taco bell ordered, and released we left money at home... guy behind us payed for are food. And we are we’re on Dirt Bikes tearing it up at 12:30 am... no one wanted us to be their
@Sesshomaru For me the computer has been my best friend. Rarely has let me down, and when it did, it was due to either my mistake, or bad code.
I knew my lack of friends had nothing to do with my constant nudity.
LMFAO!
Piotr ill be friend FUCK CLOTH
Piotr It all makes sense now
Piotr is it normal to laugh or not?
pics or it didn't happen
this video is gonna inflate SO many egos
Jordan Jones True haha. I'd like to say I'm decently intelligent, but I can socialize decently
No kidding, most of the comments are either ignorant or arrogant
No
Real intelligent peoples deflate their egos anyway...
Mark Land very true
"No one is more hated than he who speaks the truth." - Plato
Well said
"No one is more hated than he who doesn't understand complex human social structures and how to use them in ones own advantage" - Not idiots
Zach Hays i agree. but i interpreted your coment in contex of this video. so why bother telling stupid people the blunt truth when they wont get it. it is better to give them real life examples and guide them through conversation to the realization of truth, so they wont be mad if they concluded themselves that it is truth rather than impose on them the truth... if i expresd myself right. cheers
Tomislav Cicak I think that's a pretty good summary.
+Tomislav Cicak- Some people won't ever change their mind no matter how well you word what you say or how much evidence you provide. There is a mental block in most people's heads (call it cognitive dissonance or whatever you want) where they will do anything to justify their beliefs. Sure, not all people are close-minded and your method is definitely better for convincing those that are already somewhat rational but I hardly think these rational people are the problem with society. -The problem today is that so many people don't fall into this "rational" category. Rationality and philosophy have no place in modern society, to most people it's best to only exist on a very basic level and not question anything. It actually makes sense, why depress yourself when you're more happy while being ignorant? Being open minded (or enlightened or whatever you want to call it) will only make them depressed, which is why they will do anything to avoid it (even if those defenses are at a subconscious level). It's better to live in a world where unicorns exist, they don't want to hear otherwise.
I think the only way to get your ideas across with closed-minded people is simply by dominance, confidence, and by conviction. If they're not convinced then you simply roll over them on your way to your goal. The problem here is that using these tools is against the nature of most philosophical or rational debate. -This may be why science suffers so much in convincing people of anything. Science, by nature, can never be truly assertive and most scientists lack the conviction to fight for their discoveries.
“Whosoever is delighted in solitude, is either a wild beast or a god.”
-Aristotle
...or a potato bug, does that count as wild beast?
How about both? :P
Covid is solitude and it was delightful to all introverts
Huh what? Idk wtf you just sed
Oh now I do sorry.
"Be careful who you call your friends. I'd rather have four quarters than 100 pennies." - Al Capone
Because they're smart enough to realize how shallow, dumb and untrustworthy most people are.
@@belladonnahigh9206 r/woooosh
@@Deauthorized I wasn't replying to op directly, I was looking for a comment which has enough likes so that I have the chance to be seen.
Too much assuming on your part.
@@josiahjacinto4156 Makes no cents. ;)
Al Capone was one smart cannoli.
"As intelligence goes up, happiness often goes down. I made a graph. I make lots of graphs." - Lisa Simpson
Oh yes. Don't think happyness goes down, I just think it reaches new lvls of low the more you absorb the world and everything in it.
That’s a sad way to look at life. You can be happy and intelligent.
It's hard to make friends when you are the Lizard Queen.
@@BeautifulKittenOfLove Or named Bort...
@Derek Huot, That’s not true. The reason dumb people have more friends is because they pick bad friends, if you wanna be smart, and have a lot of friends, you have to pick good friends. Here’s some facts. You can be book smart, and street smart, and you can teach an old dog new tricks, you can’t teach a stubborn dog new tricks. As you age, it is harder to memorize stuff, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Also, “Nothing is impossible, not if you can imagine it, that’s what being a scientist is all about.” -Hubert Farnsworth
I want to hang around with people... until I'm around them, then I remember why I don't associate with folks that often.
This is literally me too
same. Feels like a curse to me.
You are right Brian. But be selective who you mingle with those people! As your future is in your own decision!
The average person thinks they're smarter than the average person.
Brian Fidler This is exactly my problem
As a reclusive person, I can confirm that I dont much care for "emotion" and gossip.
its not a phase, mom, im just reclusive
What is not appealing about "Did you hear Sarah is dating Jack from accounting? I KNOW RIGHT? Oh. My. God. How could she do that?"
I've dealt with this so much drama and 2nd hand hossio in my lifetime in the workplace that I make it a point to blatantly ignore someone when they go to talking about somebody else behind their backⁿ
I've dealt with this so much drama and 2nd hand hossio in my lifetime in the workplace that I make it a point to blatantly ignore someone when they go to talking about somebody else behind their backⁿ
I've dealt with this so much drama and 2nd hand hossio in my lifetime in the workplace that I make it a point to blatantly ignore someone when they go to talking about somebody else behind theirr backⁿ
It’s all about quality, not quantity.
Preach it
I HAVE 80 MAC BOOKS
Well I have a 32 core Mac pro
😯
One time, I got the weirdest friend. She was the opposite than me. She liked to go outside, play outside, and had many friends. She also didn't know much about history.
@@leosine3807 preach
@@tearsofthesenuts34 i guess you re bored, but thx anyway , didnt realize :)
Brace yourselves, people are going to assume they're intelligent.
Tiberius Caligula I can see that, it's pissing me off
Leo 0 don't let it piss you off, they're not worth it.
Leo just let it go, why would you waste your time and energy on people you don't know
tbh i see more ppl joking about it than people actually believing they are intelligent.
Look on the bright side, you have friends.
He said “Smart people have fewer friends” NOT “people who have fewer friends are smart”
@Envy no
@Envy correlation doesn't mean causation
@Envy It’s not the same,
Long explanation:
Saying that, smart people have fewer friends means the same as someone with fewer friends are smart- which isn’t, it means it’s more difficult for a smart person making friends. Because smart people trying to figure out what the ‘dumber’ person is saying or doing- or just talking to them in general is well difficult, and as well hard to understand their way of thinking since both people have different minds.
Shorten:
It means being smart is just more difficult to make friends on a ‘mind’ level.
If you have few friends that doesn’t mean you’re automatically smart, you could have a bad personality or just really introverted.
@Envy dumb ppl can have no friends as well is what it means
@Envy "all women are humans, but not all humans are women"
Everyone feels like they don’t have friends anymore because all we do is sit on TH-cam and watch videos instead of going out and socializing. Social media isn’t very social.
@A Hogammer Loser
Amen. We have to step back out into the world.
@@smallworldbigworld-yi3xw idk, there are people outside...
@@tja4379 Yes, but a fraction of what there used to be.
All of a sudden everyone just became a gifted child
Read: Howard Gardner's Multiple Intelligences. Everyone IS intelligent in some way. You don't have to know everything to be intelligent.
Judging of how many friends I have I'm the most stupid person in the world
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@@obsessivecatdisordersquad7577 nope. Not quite. I'm not sure the formula works that way in reverse
@@the3rd210 I know I was trying to make a joke but
I have 0 friends and my IQ is around 80 so the theory falls apart
J.Allan Langerhan it's not saying it's always true
Intelligent people having fewer friends is not the same thing as people with fewer friends being automatically intelligent. Most people with few friends are probably still below or around average, but most of the average group itself probably still has plenty of friends.
J.Allan Langerhan You deaf idiot there is a reason he said SOME and not ALL.
Yeah, I'm stupid and don't have friends. I have at times, but they just use and betray you. I don't know why anyone wants them.
I thought he said something about a pickle. Eh, I like pickles, though I can't eat them much anymore, due to my high blood pressure.
When I had a social group of 10 best friends and 200 friendly peers, I maintained a solid 2.0 GPA in school. When I dumped my friends and became a hermit my GPA went to a 3.64. For *years* I wasted so much energy trying to understand everyone else around me, because I knew my thought processing was so different, I thought there was something wrong with me and it made me very depressed.
B. K. I have a similar problem. My parents are always forcing me to have empathy but I am just not that kind of person. I tend to see right through people and see the motives behind what they are doing and a lot of them are manipulative cunts.
Clayton Kramer Agreed. It's good to empathize but it is bad to empathize too much. Trust, honesty, commitment, virtue, *honor*, integrity; they are gone in modern society. 50% of marriages end in divorce, imagine the how many other relationships fail? There's nothing wrong with having friends but it's increasing difficult to find *quality* friends.
Agree!! I was always popular as hell.....but I came to realize I had Very Few REAL "Friends!" It's sad, but after my True friends died, I decided to cut all the crappy false friends out of my life and only leave the good ones...... I'm all alone now!!
Wow, I can really relate to this. I had a similar experience in high school to the extent I purposly dumbed myself down to "fit in", craving to be popular, even tho I hated people. My grades suffered from it...
cool beans i decided in 8th grade it wasnt worth dumbing myself down , gave up on the fitting in ordeal , graduated highschool being historian , and having one friend , ironically the validictorian to my historian ....
I used to have 0 or a small amount of friends growing up, but once I found people that think and feel the same way I do ( through traveling sports and various seminars) I started making lots and lots of friends whit whom I am always having a blast, talking and arguing over things I used to have none to talk with... Making the right friends will always feel good
I have no friends. I am very clever. Also, im just generally not very likable. Probably because i say things like "im very clever"
Dr. Krieger we should correct people if you are 100% sure you are right. Although stupid morons will ignore and say that is wrong, intelligent people would like people to correct them because that makes them better.
It means you’re intelligent but you lack emotional intelligence. Getting quality friends or getting friends at all requires empathy, and calling people out is at times not a good idea
@@letstalkaboutit88-j4w exactly. EQ over IQ. I do value IQ a lot but being such a social species EQ is more important.
@@dris1702 lol I don't even socialize with people so EQ is not important to me.
Probably cuz ur name is mark
Stupid people dont like being alone cuz then they might have to think. Then they get headaches.
So true, lol
Homeboy Chris Your comment made my day xD
Nice one bro :)
yes they always think ahead before assessing the situation. Just like me.
XD
I have 0 friends. Everyone bow down to your leader, i am the smartest.
Dylan Creed I've made enemies and no friends, bow to your true lord
I have never made friends, never made enemies. I am true neutral and therefore g o d
+No one Special nice! I like to make enemys too because I'm so smart ;) Join me brother! Let's kill stupid weak minded people with logic! **made a friend** xD Yay!
The title is Intelligent People Have Less Friends Not Anti Social People Are Intelligent
HSBunny can I join you, my only friend was really just a minion, to do my bidding
Thank you, Thoughty, for making me feel better for having no friends. You're sweet.
even I don't have friends... how strange 🤠
and then crashing you in the end...
Wtf?
Hi my friend
@@desm4541 Hello, thank you, friend!
Now I can tell my parents the reason I have no friends is that I'm smart
what i dont get is why i have so many friends but im smart af
GaRageJeel Well in school I pretended to be stupid and I always made jokes just to not be alone because I'd be made fun of so maybe you just seem stupid and nice
GaRageJeel being smart and inteligent is different
GaRageJeel Are you? Are you really? Jk I'm sure you're very intelligent :)
Lawnmower mum:why don't you have friends
person:I'm really smart
mum:that's a load of bull*drags person to room full of dead smart brothers and sisters*
I have no friends, turns out being honest and truthful aren't the friendship making qualities.
You're not the only one with the compulsion to offend people when they unknowingly beg for it, but true, they'll never think of you the next time they throw a party.
Tore Lund it’s cause think you are not going be fun. When truth is they are not that fun. Fake people normally try to pretend or act out stupid for fun.
Oof
Same here.
Yeah, I’ve learned that it’s Better to lie to them then to just tell them the truth cause it never ends well if you tell em the tritht
It explains why human intelligence increases slowly, if at all. The more intelligent people are pickier about their mates and hence, mate later in life, leading to fewer children, if any.
Very good reasoning. My compliments.
Idiocracy (2006)
Why it's ok to eat the rich and slaughter the poor. 1 for what? Saaaaay? 10,000?
@@grizzlyaddams3606 ?
@@grizzlyaddams3606 Woah eating the rich people and Slaughter poor wtf
"Smart people don't need emotional support, we have our text books to cry into" . . . I hit that like button right there 🤣
So basically intelligent people are very intuitive and see people for who they really are and so choose not to make fake friends. Pretty smart.
Bella Grace this is the best answer so far..lol
Bella Grace : Best evidence for intelligent life on Earth.
*exacly* thats why im single i see people as they are, but they dont see the same.
(i got a few clues that im not ugly like that, i got a complement from a female that was'nt my mom)
That's not necessarily true. I'm a lot more intelligent than average (at least in linguistics and geography), but I have Asperger's syndrome, so I'm not very intuitive at all. I have only two friends because I'm terrible at interacting with people, not because I'm "too smart" to have friends. So no, it's not always like that.
I never understand people and their behaviours, it's like being on an alien planet.
"Ah, yes, surely this applies to me."
almost everyone in this comment section be like:
except the intelligence
Me too. Clearly I'm very intelligent.that's why I don't have friends.
We're some of the most intelligent people on earth
Lol
Smart people know that the more people are involved in the life the more complicated life becomes..
because they no u would have to deal with there problems
Me personally:
I cant be bothered to deal with their stupidity.
thats what smart ppl want u to think
I swear
and more work..
"Brian May look alike and physicist, Isaac Newton"
thank you for making me think of Brian May every time Newton is mentioned
same here bro
When u are intelligent u may have only a few friends.
But when u have a few friends its not a sign that u are intelligent...
True indeed . Having a few friends is not necessarily an implication that one is smart since it could also be out of social anxiety .
true!
Now that is a smart thing to say
too late logic
I hate being around too many people due to past experiences so I limit myself to 2 or 3 friends that's it
No friends. Above-average intelligence... the number itself doesn't matter much at this point. But I would like friends. Just a few real friends. Not the fake friends that you hug and claim to love after just a couple of meetings. The main problem is I become bored almost immediately in groups, or worse, if I try to talk about something interesting (to me, at least) all conversation comes to an awkward halt as they cannot keep up or just don't know what to say in response (they can just as easily get bored with me as I do with them). And worse still are the people you try to talk to who believe they're well-read when they are not; those people are particularly irritating because they are opinionated in the most ignorant ways.
I often feel terribly isolated while standing in a group. I can't be myself most of the time. I do want to bond with people, and they could be the sweetest people in the world, but if we don't have much in common and I'm not stimulated or challenged by their conversation, then not only do I fail to connect with them on any meaningful level, I feel guilty about the whole thing, and feel like a bad person about it because they are such nice people - yet I can barely wait to get away from them so I can stop pretending to be interested and smiling in their presence (which is exhausting).
I also resent the need for constant fakery, at that level, in order to be polite for the other person's sake. I also suspect at times that the mere need for the fakery indicates that I am just an asshole, and this reinforces my desire for self-imposed isolation from people who deserve better company (from my perspective, I am not good enough for them). And still I am a human being - a member of a deeply social species - and crave just one best friend with whom I could have that connection, that intellectual intimacy, where I can just be myself and feel understood, and give all of myself to someone much like me in return.
Heather Leisure tl;dr, me basically
Social anxiety is different, it's more than simply wanting to leave a party early, you will feel compelled to avoid the entire thing if you can. If you are looking to find people and find them all lacking that is not social anxiety, the prospect of dealing with new people causes nervousness in the socially anxious. I share a lot of these traits and I've worked in retail, I've also worked as a trainer and teacher. I definitely do not have social anxiety. My social skills are actually rather good, I'd just prefer not to use them on mundane people and their mundane interests and often manufactured drama. Drama I imagine most of them manufacture because even they know how boring they are in their day-to-day lives. It's why I never had much interest in things like Facebook either, so little of value is ever said.
When teaching other people who struggle to understand what I teach them I can get frustrated because I learn new concepts very easily, and that makes it difficult to empathize with someone who does struggle to learn. Because my social skills are good I can manage to not make them feel dumb even if I might be thinking it, but I can only think of so many ways to explain a problem before giving up on some cases because some people are just dumb. Ignorance can also get in the way from time to time but ignorance has a fairly simple cure, dumb...not so much.
Doing psychedelics with them helps lol
Oh my gosh! I feel the same way. I have a few friends but I'm only deeply connected to one. I hate when we go or eat in groups because i won't be able to talk or express myself or my opinions. But when do find myself in the unnecessary situation where i have to be social I do the exact opposite and keep mum because the topics are so boring and not in the least interesting to me. I enjoy deep conversations and forming bonds but only to those who understand how I am. I'm pretty much a loner in Uni most of the time which doesn't bother me in the least. Its funny that I do try to get away too from fakers and pretenders. Many of my friends are awesome and reliable too but I just don't feel connected with them as I ought to. Its a tough time trying to make interesting conversation or smiling at something that I don't find the least bit funny. I really thought something was wrong with me because I was so antisocial. That led me to take the Myers-Briggs test and I found that I had an Advocate/ Counsellor (INFJ) personality. It got my personality to the point and hell I'm proud of it!! ☺😉
Hey, anybody come at you yet? Anybody get to you yet? Hey, we all need friends in here. I could be a friend to you.
I wouldnt say smart ppl prefer to be alone.. rather they prefer to spend time with meaningful people in their lives or with people who do care which is few. Whats the point in so many friends? Quality over quantity friendships.. small number of ppl but with stronger bonds, understanding and communication..
Hadi Akmal I fully agree, and that was also one of the points made in the video. :)
This one should be on r/showerthougths
Great observation there, quality over quantity in this.
Beautifully said.
Hadi Akmal younsaying you have like 4 friends.
I also read some studies that very intelligent people are deeply troubled by the world’s problems, but also so much more than common folk because very smart people see the problem’s nature and understand how simple the solution is. And also we see (sorry but yes, I’m saying “we” because it’s just true) not only the root of the problem (usually the evil inclinations of few individuals), but we also see the sheer apathy and laziness of the common folk in terms of wanting to make things better. We see how easily people are deceived not only because of ignorance but because they would rather be entertained than educated, rather be indulgent than vigilant. And so it makes us feel so alone, like a sane person trapped living in an asylum.
All problems are caused by stupid and evil people. The troubling part is nobody can do anything about it
Now every introvert 15 year old will think that he or she is a genius
That’s me!
Harry R me too
I feel Offended 🤣
Hmm 😕
Hold your horses not genius just a little more smarter
I'm done with friendships. I moved away from abusive parents, exes, jobs and friends. When people start making plans on how I should live my life to their benefit, I'm done with them.
A -fkn -men
Same
Thats true, but good people who can be good friends exist, but gratulations top move away from abusive pattern, just know you can have better relationships if you are ready.
It's possible that your abusive parents were the reason why the other people in your life are also toxic, that's how these things often work. However not everyone is like that and if ever you feel ready it might be a good idea to consider therapy or self help of some sort.
Same. Simplifies shit immensely fo sho.
Quality over quantity baby.
Witchwild boy huntey
... until you realize that there are no "quality" humans.
Up to a few years ago, I would never have argued that any amount of ignorance is a good thing. But now I know that it is necessary to be able to bear humans and how they use one another. Unfortunately (for me), it's much easier to lose ignorance than to gain it. The latter is actually obviously just self-deception, not the real thing.
quantity has a quality all its own.
Off-topic. Wise-ass isn't discussed here.
YES LAWD, beautifully put
Falling in love with a bird goes beyond genius, it’s madness.
A real person of intelligence would realize that if smart people are generally lonelier, that doesn’t mean that lonely people are generally smarter
FAZE Dank What? Ok time to go play son.
Travis Kendrick lol
he never said 'smart' people were lonelier, he only said 'smart' people didn't have many 'friends'.
but many lonely losers with no friends tell themselfs that they are smart because people make this statment that smarter people dont have any friends.
youtube_channel.mp4 True, it's more of a different phrasing needed. Intelligent people are more picky with who they want as friends, I know because I'm picky with an IQ of 120 and I'm the one who simply observes people to see if I'll like you. So being lonely isn't something most of us bother to consider because solace is peace, and peace is grand. That said the few people who are my friends I treasure.
The more intelligent you are, the harder it is to deal with idiots.
powertortoise that is actually true and usually the smarter people don’t make the best grades it is found I forgot his name he was an engineer not Albert Einstein he made horrible grades in school and he was found to have an IQ of 230
I don't agree with you. It is not about your intelligence, it is about your ego
@Kenny Westone i feel u especially when they laugh at u when they misunderstood cuz of their dumbness( lower intelligent lvl). Can u imagine how tilted would u be living this moment
@Kenny Westone I've never lost it due being laughed at whilst trying to explain basic things, but I know what you mean. Even in university, idiots that laugh at facts and logic are alarmingly common. Heck, not even my parents, who are quite intelligent, can follow me well, but that may be due to attention spans. I don't think many of the "idiots" are actually idiots, they just don't want/know how to use their brains, strive on cheap joy, and have a nonexistence attention span. For one or two of those "idiots" (that I know of), once you really get through to them, they learn much, much faster than you do. It's very scary sometimes. (though, to be fair, they probably only seem to learn faster because they don't look deep into the subject. Instead, they soak the information up without really processing it)
Sometimes I envy them, they seem to enjoy life a lot better than I do, and they certainly are the majority. I am in an awkward position: I am not nearly intelligent enough to excel at anything, even normal life takes too much brainpower. Nor am I simple-minded enough to enjoy life as it is. I cannot find consistent joy in doing most things and feel bored most of the time. Not even my hobbies help, as they leave a bitter aftertaste. That weirdness may be because I was barred from doing things I truly liked/ wanted most of my life, and I subconsciously still psychologically punish myself for enjoying certain activities.
I also have the small problem of typing ludicrously long comments without intending it...
WHY CAN'T I TYPE ESSAYS THIS WELL?!
This sucks.
@Kenny Westone r/iamverysmart
Get off your high horse and realize that you're no smarter than the average man.
Who needs friends when you have basements, video games, doritos and porn.
Lionel Hutz Beer too!
Lionel Hutz 😂😂😂
Lionel Hutz Exactly
Doritos alone
Same here 😂😂😂
I think that this is one of the reasons my marriage failed. We were on different planes intellectually, she spoke incessantly, while I preferred to stay silent, especially if I was engrossed in a project. I loved her, but constantly talking to her was exhausting.
"Madam, have you got any UNEXPRESSED ideas?"
The fact that I'm not even smart and doesn't even have that many friends confuses me a lot.
All what this video is saying is smart people are selective when it comes to who they associate with or what they invest their energy into which would be the explanation as to why they have very few to no friends... I myself am a very critical thinker and eloquent speaker and I only have 1 genuine friend and 1 casual friend so 2 friends
@@drcknight24plays That*
BLCKnight24Plays I agree, my whole life I thought I was dumb special, maybe still am, but I always wanted friends who can comprehend and understand me without having to explain every single detail to a dumb person. Cuz I’d feel like a person like me would get along with me very well. Perhaps you would be in that same category as well.
Same.
We're smart in some ways, in some form. All of us are smart people, but the problem is that some of us are too lazy to realise the fact that they can do things that they think they can't do. We all can, we just need COURAGE and MOTIVATION.
This bad boi who wrote this comment 3 weeks ago was no more. Thank you so much for letting me know that everyone is smart in their own way.
I am not a genius or all that clever. I just do not like people all that much. I would rather spend time alone in nature.
U definitely a clever one because u may think alone , over thinking is may be a sign of inteligency
Perhaps this video is incomplete. Im also not a genius by societal standards. But i've always felt alienated from the masses because i've spent so much time asking questions to myself that no one else does. This led to a differnent understanding of society for me and i just don't fit in. I don't have any patience for some of the behaviours other people blindly exhibit. This doesnt' make me a genius. It just makes me aware of a certain part of humanity that others haven't spent any time understanding.
@@MP-ut6eb lol sorry yes i did. while you were sleeping!
Ken Brunet That's the first stages of opening your mind and consciousness.Maybe you should pursue those thoughts and look for something even deeper. You may be suprised what you find.
@@unrdnungmk6902 I'm not sure im capable of any deeper thought then im already in. Im always looking to refine my ideas of what we are as humans and what makes us tick. Im not sure if you're suggesting delving into the spiritual side of things. So far though. I don't have any interest in spirituality. At the surface it seems to subjective.
“Tesla loves his Pegion like a women"
Me: **Looking at my dog**
My dog: Don't even think about it
My anime body pillow:
Me: Welp guess we getting HiTcHeD
Ah-ha - a pigeon - the bird! *Slinks back to medical journal after searching for Tesla make and model of car 😂😂😂
Woman*
Pigeon*
@@avalanxhe why is there a hole in that pillow
Cities are thought to be pinnacles of society but for the most part are devoid of friendliness IMO
Humans just don't have a value if you can't get away from them. I'm pretty sure it's just the fact that distance makes the heart grow fonder and people in cities are overwhelmed with the amount of strangers passing by. Combine that with cost of living and a drop in quality. What we want isn't really quantity but quality and most people end up just ignoring you. You don't even greet people living in the same building.. insane.
Depends on what you define as "pinnacle" of society. People in the cities may live in a highly efficient system that takes care of their every need, but they live miserable lives, because humans didn't evolve to live in groups of millions. Meanwhile, rural people may not have the material advantages of city dwellers, but are much healthier, often live happier and fulfilling lives, and live longer. At the end of the day, it depends on what kind of a person you want to be. If you're a materialist, then cities are for you. But if you care more about simplicity and peace of mind, then you were made for rural life.
Uh what does IMO stand for. And no one will tell me. ☹️
When I clicked on the hot chick with glasses, she transmutated into a significantly less attractive man.
Curtis Densmore haha
Curtis Densmore JAJAJA
I wouldn't say significantly ;)
Disappointment
What happened to the hot chick ?
Very, very true! My mom always said, unless someone that calls themselves your friend would be sitting beside you at your hospital bed when or if you're sick, they aren't really a friend. I've honestly found without exception, people are for the most part "fair weather friends." I don't need that at all.
I see most people as zombies now... Not that i'm better then them at all, I just see what they don't.
@@rupertradar7424 So true. Like pod people in Invasion of The Body Snatchers!
Rupert Radar I can relate to this too
@@rupertradar7424 richt
“A friend will help you move, a good friend will help you move a body. I’ve got two good friends “. - Alan Davies
Why fewer friends? Quality beats quantity. Enough said.
Yeah but regardless of quality, 0 is going to be less.
Waifu Stealer smart people realize this.
+WalterWhiteElCalvoRegresa you has no grammar, haha
That and when you can understand things like Quantum Physics or how to mathematically map out the correlations between conjunctive habits of Humans and other species then yeah you're gonna have some awkward interactions when trying to converse with people who take instant photos to send as grams to their own accounts. Now maybe if there was a Kryptagram then smart people would get it.
WalterWhiteElCalvoRegresa. Wait, people like you still exist? I really hope this is a crappy joke, or you're like 6 years behind the curve here.
BTW mate, I love your channel. I can't get enough. Well done!
"Solitude is independence".-Hermann Hesse
Smart people enjoy loneliness because they have great sense of self. While enjoying solitude, an intelligent individual is capable of creating. "Solitude is an opportunity to freedom, if it is impossible for you to live alone, you were born a slave".-Fernando Pessoa
I agree. According to Jean Paul Sartre: "L'enfer, c'est les autres" or "Hell is other people". ...
Intelligent people also don't need the approval of others. Too many passive receptors want too much friends and attention.
I think he may be on to something.
It's sad how many people here to try and justify being lonely. Almost nothing in this world gets created by solely one person. Someone like Steve Jobs was successful because he was able to communicate so well.
DeFy Noah It is not the fact of being alone. It is okay to be around people who share your cognitivity perceptions; in a nutshell, persons who are in your same osmosis. Human relationships can develop better where there is a great level of grey matter. Individuals with high IQ are prompt to create by means of their imagination. Psychological studies tally the notion of knowledge and imagination as the source of creation. "Great minds discuss ideas....."- Eleanor Roosevelt
I'm just tired of trying to communicate with stupid, ignorant people, who argue about things they don't understand, and find pleasure in things that are simple and empty. To have friends like that, I rather be alone.
Ad D
same boat bro
Your life is sad
same :(
The fact that they find pleasure in things that are simple and "empty", might mean that they see things that you're unable to. Remember, in our own worldview we have an immense variety of thoughts and feelings that makes us stand out from the rest. However it is the same for everyone, you are only capable of seeing the surface of other people and make your own judgement on them. Truth is, they are just as complicated as you are.
u stupid
Smart people avoid unnecessary socialising because they abhor small talk and the topics they want to discuss are mostly high brow topics like philosophy and maths which other people don't know much about.
sidharth mohanty so to sum it up, they are boring geeks who think they are smarter than everyone
sidharth mohanty I think that they are just different than most people and it is harder for them to find someone who thinks at least a bit like them, someone who they can trust Beacuse friendship is about trust and not similar interests
Lorr Yes they are different and they are very curious and soak up information like anything and are constantly in the lookout for bouncing ideas and finding patterns which explains the world to them they can accomplish this either with themselves no wonder they are constantly trying to solve or a person with similar intelligence which is a low probability.
There idea of companionship is more of a meeting of the mind i think.
Since when do even intellectuals like just going on about math? That's so.. dreary. You see way more of it with art and science (of course philosophy is there).. or really just sharing ultimately useless knowledge like spending 2 hours on how male pregnancy would actually work. We intellectuals use our brains for things that really matter.. like the science of butt babies.
Uleek M'diq No. Geeks yes but what's bad about being a geek if you enjoy it? And also, they don't think they're smarter, they just are so people get boring quite easily to them. That's it.
I enjoy being an introvert.
It gives me the time required for my daily life.
I have one friend. He's rarely around to talk to.
Good to see Tesla eventually shacked up with some bird
Good Humor, I like It. Cheers from Adelaide.
Best comment so far 😀
better with a bird in the hand than 10 on the roof.
Lil
ten thousand videos 0 subscribers - click channel - 6 videos - nice fapping, man !
I didn't know I was Steven Hawking.
DJ BassX It was a metaphor...
DJ BassX Steven Hawking can still type... Sortof
Chuck Norris 😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭
CHEF and your not a Chef 😂
CHEF you're*
Smart people know the difference between, REAL LIFE FRIENDS, and face book friends.
They dont have time for phony frenemies.
it's hard to find people in real life with the same interests. I would have more in common with Facebook friends
Indeed
Yeah I only have one real friend and I'm not planning on searching out any more
"phony frenemies" this. Fuck "friends" who wouldn't hesitate to kick you while you're down.
I feel like I've just been called dumb, but my only real friends are online.
They manage to take better care of me emotionally than my own parents
The "hard to find people who share interests n stuff" is spot on.
Theres very few people i can enjoy an intelligent conversation with.
Im a deep complicated thinker for even the simplest things. But i can factual explain things and most people will never see eye to eye on factual perspectives🤦🏻♂️.
I always feel obligated too be nice but god i do not like interacting with 75% of people. For one people talk to damn slow. And i aint got time for you to speak at 30 words per minute🤣
Intelligent people are likely to be introverted to some extent, obviously. I've only got a few friends. My lack of friends is probably not due to my intelligence, but my intelligence is likely to be due to my lack of friends, as I spend more time reading or writing or watching documentaries or just having a good old think.
+Alex Paulsen - "a good old think"; To the outside world it's like you are in a daze or a frozen trance, deep within your own mind, churning away, having a conversation within yourself.
Now, take that inner dialogue and portray that outward through your lips in a vocal sense - you are crazy.
It's very interesting how society looks at people.
America Where Did You Go?
I don't dare speak my mind with a lot of things. I don't see it from the same perspective as others, and I know I'm just going to be shunned or frowned at due to how intolerant a great portion of the world can be for anything but their own ideals.
So yeah, quite probably I'd be branded as crazy. Sometimes other people should keep their mouths shut too. This free speech thing the western world keeps preaching is great and all, but free-speakers also need to realise we have the freedom to not listen, eg. tell them to fuck off.
There's probably a lot of really useful suggestions being held back by all the introverts in the world, but we'll probably never know unless they all come forward and say something.
+Alex Paulsen - "I don't dare speak my mind with a lot of things", That's just society trying to shove that into your subconcious to try and suppress those points of view that they either don't get or possibly make them uncomfortable within themselves that hits home with something that stirs from within themselves (and I'm not referring to adult toddler type of behavior that some in the world want to think is normal or acceptable).
Introverts are a special breed because they are always watching and listening in conversations or just the world in general; I know, for myself, whenever someone is speaking, I am kind of studying and examining everything they say: from what they say, how they say it, the movements they are making when they say it ... a lot can be gained from just listening and viewing.
There are a lot of good people with a lot of good things to say, unfortuantely, sometimes, they are drowned out by the chaos of the worlds boisterous behaviors.
Where do you tend to stand politically
kakahass
I'm apolitical.
I am stupid and still don't have friend
Calon, stupids have more friends because people know how to make best use of that stupid !!!
kfine
klakarrr
Calon Suamimu 😥
I'm stupid too, il be your friend.
don't be so hard on yourself, everyone has a trait or two to be proud of. including you!
Being smart is a burden. Because the smarter you are the more hyperaware you are of people and situations that are dumb and ignorant. Which can be irritating. That effect becomes worse if smart people also judge themselves pretty harshly for their own shortcomings. It's really hard to be happy when you see all that is wrong with the world and lack of effort when all the solutions are within reach.
Edit: just saw how many likes this comment got, wow.
We'll it turns out I'm a bit on the spectrum tbh. So I guess that makes me, and potentially you too, a bit different than most.
I am getting married in 2 months, my lady says I'm weird in many ways but she loves me 🤣 so I guess I wouldn't change a thing.
I hope for all of you when life gets hard, or annoying and frustrating that you take a deep breath, and don't give up and keep being a little weird. Someone does need your weirdness somewhere.
People on the spectrum that are highly functional tend to have quirks that make them hyper sensitive or aware and they may also be really good at one particular skill or another. That is useful.
I can't say I am always that way. I am more the jack of all trades but the master of none...thou I'm quite decent at what I do and above the average at a few skills...I just don't consider myself a great master at anything.
Hard to explain, idk, maybe you folks are the same, but it doesn't matter. Just keep being you and be good at it, put it to good use. Make the most out of your life. Don't let life get in the way. Do what you need to do!
Amen brother, that is my opinion as well which makes me feel powerless at times...
You just described my whole Teenage/adult life. That moment when you gain that level of awareness is when you find yourself literally question every thought and emotion you have. And it never stops no matter how much you want to just not think about things so much you cannot stop. It becomes so difficult to talk to people because while you are talking to them your brain is constantly overanalyzing everything you say. Then at the end of the conversation despite saying so much you still feel as though you did not properly explain yourself well, and continue to overanalyze everything you said to no end.
Ignorance is bliss
I just read all your comments. I'm not very smart, so I don't have all the answers, but I spent most of my life searching for them and found a few clues.
Find purpose in life by putting your energy into something that YOU enjoy doing! This can be something as simple as a hobby that can be turned into a somewhat similar job.
Most jobs contribute to humanity in one way or another more or less. Find what you are good at and apply it in a way which can improve the world and yourself. If everyone in the world did that, humanity would be so much further ahead.
If you fail, get up and try again until you succeed. Get a book if need be (free public library) or go to school to increase your chances. Put in the work! Nothing happens without countless months of work. There is no easy way.
And if you lack motivation, try this. Go to sleep early (even if you can't sleep, do physical exercise early in the day to help with sleep later, or eat food 15 minutes before bed to help induce sleep). Then wake up early and do your bed, very important to do your bed right after you wake up because you accomplish the first task of many for the day, it also helps you wake up and avoid going back in bed and you can build on from there.
Never stop, or you become your own enemy, instead let each completed task guide you forward. You'll find success this way and change the world by focusing on completing positive challenges one after another. With time you'll get good, just like practicing a sport.
Finally, surround yourself with people that also do the same and make connections, useful friends are best. Use connections to help you move forward faster and accomplish more than you would on your own. There's no shame in using others help, people do it all the time, they build upon each other's momentum.
Hope that helps someone. You'll get what you want if you keep putting in work. Good luck.
This is a thing?? I thought overanalysing things was just a bad habit of mine or something. When I try to sleep, I sometimes think too much for no reason, so I play music only to think about the emotion the music gives off and think about situations that give off that emotion...
My general rule is to ghost everyone that actively brings negativity to my life, is a fun leech or financial parasite.
People at any extremes are gonna have fewer they can relate too. Just being ambitious will give you fewer friends even if your not that smart.
Nah, average people love ambitious people. But 99,99% of ambitious people are hot air or just plain capitalists.
*Ahem...*
"You're".
@@socrates_the_great6209 they love people who are As ambitious as they are.. but try wanting more..
@@сынмаминойподруги-р8м yeah, i absolutely hate people who talk and make friends just for the sake of fun
Suddenly everyone in the comments is a genius loner, misunderstood by the masses, condemned to live a life in solitude because no one understands how truly special their minds are. What the actual fk.
I know right? An actual intelligent person would be able to recognize they have social shortcomings
its like every single smart person in the world found this video and decided to comment on it
Nah man, just you. 😉
Welcome to humanity
Or they're brave enough to admit it through the anonymity of the internet. I don't like people conceptually, including the fact that I'm a person.
Is that why football fans gather together massively ?
I can't take that. I have no interest in screaming about people who could care less about me. "My team". Right.
it's funny because the mechanics of football is pretty smart, but the people are not so much.
Lol, good one 👌
Y e s......
Same goes for basketball-americans, especially during the Play-offs.
I wanted to smash the subscribe button, but I was already subscribed long time ago
0 friends, no girlfriend, virgin, no contact with parents, It turns out that im an Einstein!
Joao S you should put that in your curriculum
Joao S can someone like you really exist? I doubt it
you'd be surprised
Leo im all that except I'm not a virgin
gotta love pigeons, man
Where my introverts at???
That's right, in their bedrooms.
Or on a computer XD
Yep. What. I really need is my own island.
@@blackdog1153 what I need is my own universe where I can be truly alone
Alone together! ✌
Hahahhaa youre spot on 😂😂👌🏽
I thought I had no friends because I'm an asshole, turns out I'm a frekin genius
andrew beaudry , no.
james knox
I'm not an asshole or a genius?
andrew beaudry i think im both💀
andrew beaudry Polly both ik I I'm lol
hotdog
Your awesome
My grandpa once said “one person is not powerful, it’s the friends around the person that makes him powerful
I don't know what to comment, so here how to water a garden...
You need:
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How to use:
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Hope this helped!
AxiomaticParrot This helped a lot. Papa bless.
AxiomaticParrot this will help me get through school.
AxiomaticParrot 100%
AxiomaticParrot the best comment... ever
AxiomaticParrot well, may god bless your good soul, this really helped me in many ways
i feel like what people consider "being social" is a learned thing where u are told to act like everyone else and to smile and be polite and to not be mean and to be nice even if it means being dishonest. This is contrary to being "natural" which i think is what smart people are being when they come off as "social awkward" to other people. I strongly believe that when you are being "natural" aka "being yourself" then AUTHENTIC relationships rather than ARTIFICIAL relationships will result. And those are the ONLY kind of relationships worth having in my book.
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SPOT ON
Unless your smile is psychologically damaged like mine lmao
couldn't have said it better zwoohhooo waaappppppp?
f S that was very well said truely.
My money is on intelligent people having to dumb down their conversation so the average person can understand them. like talking to a 5 year old.
Right on the bull's-eye
No not really.
Cancerous vines = Exhibit B
omg, so fucking true
Hyperion Fair enough. Been doing it for 8 years
And as my insecurities fade and I finally prepare to conclude that I am indeed intelligent, my loneliness proves practically impossible to cure unless I can become stupid.
So I’m smart enough to know that for the sake of my own mental health, it’s stupid to be smart and smart to be stupid.
To paraphrase Neal Stephenson: smart people may have to pay the social tax of small talk, but what they are really after is conversations with a purpose.
Thanks for a nice video!
That's it, you hit the nail on the head!
My god that's so spot on haha.
You have no Idea how you explained my whole life crisis
Are you guys really like me (like you know) not just people who hate small talks? Because I’ve always wanted a group of friends who has a very broad comprehension of things who doesn’t need to have every single detail explained to them because they’re too “dumb” to understand, instead they already understand completely even if I haven’t finished talking yet. Life would be so much better. Also I really despise people calling me “smart” or “intelligent”......Just thought I’d add that
@@ipipsqueak4591
I dont consider myself smart.
I just consider most everyone
(with exceptions) stupid.
That's because the simple minded think (more friends = self worth)
Attack Me all You want .....
I only feel lonely when I'm with other people .....
I like being by Myself .......
That's the best thing being alone.
Why is someone gonna attack you? Huh?
did you have to say it in such a pretentious way possible?
In fact, this is a great rationale. I have countless friends with whom I enjoyed playing sports with as a child. But many don't share my love for the arts or science. That said, they don't ridicule me for being something of a geek. To me, those are very good friends nonetheless.
Men bond by exchanging insults and ragging on each other, but they don't really mean it.
Women bond by exchanging niceties and telling each other how pretty they look, but they don't really mean it!
Persona Non Grata I love ur comment, so true
that's why i don't have friends I'm terrible at insulting people
They dont tell each other how pretty they look.
@ yes they do "oh my god you look so cute!!"
True because of being indoctrinated into thinking they have to compete with each other for men, the funniest of all male reversals of nature.
People will only hurt you and friends are overrated. Tesla's fondness for his pigeon may seem odd to the shallow-minded, but it is completely understandable. He was alone and loved his bird. Plenty of people adore their pets for good reason... they are forgiving, they won't judge you, they won't criticize you, they won't betray or lie to you, and they will love you unconditionally.
OneMeanArtist pets are the easy mode to love. having a human love you takes a lot more effort.
@@raaw4407 seems like you don't understand or have never seen what true friends even mean
eqw321 I was making a joke
@@raaw4407 oh i didn't want to reply to you but to the oc, sorry mate :)) but yeah if you want someone to be close to you you have to be close to them and that takes time, interest and genuinity
You know he loved people, and when he was famous they loved him. He gave us everything and we left him penniless and living on the kindness of people he made wealthy. This is the outline of the world. There is no equivalent exchange, all the struggle in the world can still amount to nothing if nobody will listen.
You're a great presenter Thoughty2. Your narration is engaging and cogent, and I love the fact laden narrative peppered with light-hearted banter. Well done.
And that thumbnail was great
First time I've noticed somebody actually use cogent when not in a decent book lol
"Either that or you're a massive gentleman's pickle"
😂
FUK YEAAA MANN I GOT NO FRIENDS IM FOOKIN ELBERT AINSTEIN
Asocial* being Antisocial is basically being a psychopath.
Qwerty Asdf True.
samueltache you clearly dont know the definition of psychopath. please educate yourself lol
.........〉l:3 They share some of the same characteristics but not all.
It doesn't mean you will be good in science . You can be good in eco commerce or humanity or even sports
I would say the vast majority of people are superficial. They believe whats easy and they do what feels good. For people who are deep minded, its hard to interact with them.
Not to mention people who post the same mindless shit on FB every hour. Its like, who gives a fuck seriously.
their 1500 friends apparently care about their mindless crap or else they'd unfriend them. This is why I don't do FB.
k ma I did FB for a year and closed that fucker down two weeks ago, so glad I did...
and fucking snapchat too, I'm just about to delete it
morphanok69 they do whats easy and are failures lol
Let's face it: I'm just weird. That's it.
Being weird is a sign of intellect. Your goals are incomprehensible to others. I can relate to that, but idk if i'm actually intellectable.
*insert Riverdale quote*
@@KeepCalmContemplateYourChoices Avengers............Assemble
Me. Too. I've lost friends for being to weird.
The two ”smartest people” in my class have a friend group of seven people.
I'm not antisocial.I just can't stand stupid people.
I feel you...
SALIH SWAG that's why I have only smart and fun friends
Yeah, I learned to get use to these people, and thankfully my peers don't bitch about Trump being potus.
Arthritic Penguin then why don't you hang around smart people?
BACON BROS cause smart/people with the same mindset as me, are rare and hard to find. At least In my case
*_Great, now I have a reason for having no friends._*
I have friends, but i'm smart :P
:D
Its about fewer friends, not no friends lol.
great for you i know people who feel like they dont have friends and they are incredibly intelligent most of them tend to be loner!
Robert You can't have fewer than zero.
I prefer my own company. I don't like people's drama.
Me too....wanna hang out?!!!
People can kill you with their negative energy.
How edgy
Same I'm a loner and most people lack serious critical thinking skills what I observed all of my life.
Ludwig Van you can have friends and not have drama
So glad and thank you for talking about this. Peeps around me refuse to believe I am happier alone most of the time. I live at the beach and river in FL .. I’m surrounded by beauty. I am happier wandering about on my own. I socialize on my terms. People hate it that I have more freedom then they do, but I’ve earned it the hard way! Sorry not sorry! Finding joy in life IS the goal! And I am grateful and blessed to have it and really don’t care what others think about it.
It's because intelligent people often over think in social situations and so appear more rigid, whereas less intelligent people don't and so appear more carefree and relaxed
I can very much relate to this. I think way too much and way too long about everything. People think I'm slow ... which I am. But that is because I think about every possibility very carefully before coming to a decision, not because my thinking is slow in general. Even instant messaging is too fast sometimes and speaking with a person about something that is not absolutely trivial is usually a mess because I thought about it until the other person fell asleep or went home. Of course I try to act "normal" as often as I can but it is sometimes difficult for me. When I am put to a decision I have to evaluate all possibilities before taking it :S
timmytubede Yeah, I have the same problem, I either over analyze everything in terms of what the person is saying or how they're reacting to me or I become cynical by thinking that the whole conversation is futile and fake and therefore go quiet, it sucks, but lately I've been algoods, I basically just turn the analytical part of my brain off and chill tf out lol
I got no friends and i'm also the lowest of the lowest when it comes to intelligence.
Feelsbadman
yungstud171 some people like me play out senarious for the conversation and choose th e best one in a second or prevent determine the day and know what to say ahead of time. it's a really good way to make the day your day.
You have one thing that the vast majority of people don't have----humility.
most smart people have fewer friends but not most people who have fewer friends are smart
Are you sure?
@Ken Yuuki why what how where when will
Just pretend this is a like
I have a mustache, yet i am not a girl. I am neither smart nor stupid. I have no friends, but i do not lack girls... and oh.. i hate pigeons.
Ok so?
See mom? I'm not an antisocial fuck with no friends, I'm a genius!
Facepalm
You miss spelled misspell...
omg demo main who mains demo (jk spy mains are weebs)
The best friend I ever had, I met because our dogs became friendly. And for several weeks she had my name and my dog's name backward. Which isn't as bad as it sounds, the dog's name was Grace. My friend passed away. I think at this time I have, besides my husband, only one really true fiend. And I think it's just that I never really had the same interests as other people.
T2: Isaac Newton died a virgin
Me: That's what he gets for inventing calculus
He invented Divergent
He was MGTOW
Seem like u were showing torch
I'm pretty sure that I will die a virgin chipmunk.
He was a psychopathic personality.
Well i for damn sure know my IQ is not High, still hate to hang with other people
Maybe you underestimate the stupidity of average people.
@@brpadington why do you think so?
@@ruifelipe260 Most people are dumb. They watch sitcoms and buy nickelback CDs.
you're just anti social. nothing wrong with that. some people enjoy their own company.
Crimson Ghost dude the problem is not if somebody watches sitcoms or listens to Nickleback cds. The problem is when people do not ask themselves why they watch a sitcom or why they listen to an album. The intelligent man always learns or seeks to learn whereas the non-intelligent man simply consumes
All the happiest couples I’ve seen have pretty similar levels of intellect. Neither feels dumb in the relationship, neither feels they need to ”dumb it down” to have the other one understand them. I’ve seen one ”smart&successful meets hot but dumb”-couple, and they crashed and burned within weeks because _both_ got frustrated with the other one’s intellectual level. The hot but dumb one felt the smart one was being purposefully condescending and talking down to them, the smart one felt like they were speaking to a toddler. I guess it’s hard to find common interests and worldviews in a situation like that.
My husband and I are in the same field of study and within one IQ point from each other. The communication is _so much easier_ when we just inherently know we both understand and are understood by each other.
I would have to agree. Even though my wife has 2 masters degrees, and I have no college, we are about equal in intelligence. It also helps that we both have a good sense of humor, I cannot imagine surviving in life without one. We also both have common sense, and at least average EQ (more important than IQ in my opinion). it also helps that we are both humble, we know that we are not "smart" about everything, we like to joke about how "stupid" we are about many things in life. Now my brother, his IQ is about 180, but even he admits his social skills are a bit lacking, but he doesn't care, lol. That being said, we both have great social lives, together and separately, a lot of friends. If fact we both agree that if we didn't hate housework (we also both work full time, and in my case OT), or had a housekeeper, we would have people over all the time. ;)
I am curious what her IQ is, mine was about 135 last time I checked. As far as EQ, hers would probably be higher, she is a school social worker after all, and one of her masters is clinical psychology.
Me: You see colour black, but it looks white to you, so you conclude. Then I say it's the colour black and you say it's not and then I explain with incredible details why it's black and the fact that it's actually black and not white which you thought it was.
You don't understand my explanation, but you still go ahead to say it's white
My gf: Well if it looks white to me its white
Im not gonna change my answer just because its what you think is right
If i lm 100% sure its white then its white
I dont care what anyone else says
Me: This is the problem. It's not my opinion, it's the fact that it is black and I happen to understand how it's black. You're based on a subjective view of reality and it's not a good thing actually. If you think black is white when it's a fact that it's black then that's your view on it. It doesn't change the fact that it's black. I'm not giving you my opinion of what the colour is, I'm telling you what the colour is. You get what I'm saying?
My gf: But im not changing my answer we can just disagree
It might be white
The answer might be false
She easily gets on my nerves. :/ This was an actual conversation we had, no words omitted, added, removed. Just that. Based on this, I have to agree with you. She even says I have to "dumb things down" for her. It's irritating. I was really broken after the whole conversation and just ignored her for a week. She said some really concerning things. She just called me names for doing what she asked me to do, explain things to her.
Well said.
I totally agree with you :-)
I love your comedy sence, I smile through the anger that your facts cause me to feel sometimes lolol . Never stop , please !