My sis was dr Drew's patient at Las encinas hospital I believe he saved her life, for many years. Dr drew literally taught us families on the weekend, in a classroom setting, about the addiction taking over our loved ones. My sis did not really listen to dr drew when he told her to wait on taking anti depressants so she could really know what drove her addictions. She wanted the anti depressants bc her mental state was more than she could bear. Las encinas did wonders for her, giving her 15 yrs more of life before she took her own life. I don't think she would have lasted another day had Las encinas not accept her
I am so sorry that happened to you. I was there during Dr Drew’s reign. He overemphasized trading addiction to drugs to addiction to a cult. It is sad that because of his love of AA there are no other options. It was hell at Las Encinas. For a number of reasons, but worse is being in the shadow of 12 Step. I had a belly full of that crap. It is slowly being discredited as new theories on mental illness and substance abuse emerge. Las Encinas is lousy with Dr Drew. The “experts” at LE only gave me a few days of Librium when they “withdrew” me from Benzos. I went through months of having withdrawal symptoms. Everyone is an addict to them. They preached that addiction a disease you are stuck with.
Whoever needs to hear this... I was able to put down my addiction with the help of anti-anxiety/depression meds and therapy... and YES... Jesus's God. I would NOT be alive if I had not chose to embrace and study The Teachings of Jesus in The New Testament of The Bible DAILY. The goal is not to be on perscription meds forever unless you REALLY need it. Addiction is a symptom of Pain from A Deep Emotional/Psychological Wound... or mental illness. The root of the wound needs to be healed. Just whatever you do... NEVER give up. Jesus's God is NEVER giving up on YOU. He is WAITING for you to pour Him your heart... with what He already knows. He WANTS your troubles... people are not gods... Jesus's God of The Holy Spirit IS.
He wasn't referring to the mental health or even simple problems in society or people, which is how it appears you've interpreted that quote.... Just sayin' not doggin' on ya.
I have been saying it for years, and when I do most people just chuckle. They think I’m joking, it would seem. I’m not. *Social media is weaponized narcissism.*
I have 29 years experience as a mental health practitioner (psychologist) and can say that Drew is right on in everything he said. Bless you, my brother!
I grew up as a teenager in the 1990s, listening to Drew on Loveline. Thank you so much for all your amazing work ... especially now for being so honest about these 💉's !
You apparently didn't notice it was a toxic, lowlife, narcissist fest for Pinsky and Corolla, in which they regularly humiliated guests. He is an authoritarian moron and a genuine narcissist.
The picture is brighter than it seems on that front, but there's definitely a LOT of people being left behind. That's especially true for all the men dropping out of the workforce and struggling to find purpose, which leads down this dark road of addiction.
The fact the current economy is the result of carefully executed plans by corporate/goverchunk powers and their tools makes your statement even scarier still!
Some of us childhood trauma survivors continue on avoiding everything when it comes to relationships. Especially with everything happening today. We have a pandemic of narcissism everywhere. That keeps me in an avoidance paradigm indefinitely.
And this is only compounded by the fact that OVER 80% OF ALL romantic relationships are now started online! And yet, most people will tell you that they DON'T like it, but it has started to feel like the ONLY way to meet new people. And let's not forget how these dating apps use the same type of toxic algorithms that more typical social media uses to everyone's detriment. It's really a shame what has happened to dating and relationships/human interaction in general.
Good point. I work at a coffee shop. Daily, I come across a multitude of these personalities that are so “ off kilter.” Specifically, many are so unfocused. I must make them focus so we can establish the order and move them along. They often do not like, especially when I press for specifics. It’s wild and so tiring sometimes . Tick Tom is the source of their $12 drink recipes 🤦♀️
55:04 “The Vortex (being sucked into an addict’s world)…the (addict’s) brain is in survivor mode, and has been usurped by all the higher functions; reasoning, inter-personal functions and emotions that now serve this broken motivation..you just become a source of gratifying that addiction. Period.” Wow
Yes that was a wow, a big piece of the puzzle for me- tho i’m understanding it this way, that the survival brain usurped those higher functions like reasoning and empathy. Such an important conversation.
Such a flawless way to describe the addict experience. Addicts will still feel the guilt and shame of there actions so their higher functions aren’t entirely usurped but it does still tend to happen.
I love Dr. Drew, and especially the old Loveline episodes, and now the Adam and Dr. Drew Show podcast - they're great counterbalances to each other - Dr. Drew, the intelligent, erudite, educated doctor, and Adam, the street smart, world wise everyman - they play well off each other and share their unique takes well, and beautifully come to shared common-sense conclusions. It's one of my favorite things to listen to on Spotify on my morning commute three days a week
Ok, I was absolutely not going to watch this because it was promoted by TH-cam, but I love Dr. Drew, so I gave it a chance and wow! I am shocked that TH-cam is promoting this; this video highlights the dangers of social media and discusses the importance and role of the nuclear family unit. TH-cam doesn’t tend to be a fan of these things or the topics being discussed. I loved every second of this video!
The tide is starting to turn for the people who oppose the narrative. I think that Musk getting Twitter is huge for more open discussions of different views.
Wow, Dr Drew is the man! I only knew him from MTV back in the day. He is such an authentic, wise, and accomplished man. He completely sidestepped the social contagion of "trans" and "rapid onset gender dysphoria" question and the interviewer didn't push it. If you follow his logic on all the other topics, I am sure he has strong opinions. He likely didn't want to risk his medical license to answer honestly, which I can get. Jordan Peterson's license to practice in Canada is under duress for simply speaking his mind...
As a nurse with an eclectic medical experience ( Who's father was also a Internal Med / OBGYN & Concierge physician.) I concur. Thank-you Dr.DREW For all you do. When working the night shift I listened to you often. ❤️ Blessings to you & your family & team.
Wow. I always loved this man. 83-I was 1. I love history-I now know-what a bad time it was for so many!!! The work he and so many others did-changed the narrative. Bless all those who loved lived and lost through that period. I see you!
Imagine Drew at 20, at Amherst, bright future ahead, then a 20 yr old Adam Carolla, scrimping to buy a pickup truck so he could make a dollar more an hour as an apprentice carpenter, and now they’re besties. That’s America!
Grew up watching and listening to Drew. Met him in person one time on a cruise ship and he was super cool, same dude you are seeing and hearing is the same guy you meet in person.
I love the part about the rich and the poor suffering from the same illness. It makes me feel better about being in the middle. It has become apparent to me that I will not achieve the level of wealth and success that my father has. That’s been tough to deal with. He set the bar high. But it has to be acknowledged.
The rich and poor absolutely suffer from the same diseases, across humanity. How the rich and poor are treated is where the two worlds are polar opposites.
I went to a therapist because she was supposedly good for anxiety. All she talked about was herself. I told the office no further visits would be scheduled cuz she made me so anxious I couldn't sleep! Haven't been to anyone else since.
I once had a narcissist therapist as well. Like with many professions, it happens. But I’d encourage you to see someone else because you never know when you find a great one! I think it happened to me after 2 pretty bad ones. I’ve met narcissistic people in many “important” positions actually. They are part of life. Glad you were able to see the red flags right away and didn’t go back to her.
I had a massage therapist (after bad car accident) 3x’s a week, and I left feeling more stressed d/t her constant talking!! She was incessantly telling me about every detail of her love life, and used me as her counselor/therapist 🙄 Atleast the sessions were paid for by the guys insurance who T-boned me! And she was great @ deep tissue massage :) You should keep trying others though, there are some good Psychologists out there to help with your anxiety.
I understand. Here’s a suggestion. Check out Patrick Teahan’s TH-cam channel (licensed therapist specializing in childhood trauma AND is recovered from the same himself). He’s fantastic & the first therapist I’ve ever found who is genuinely helpful. Also, check out the Crappy Childhood Fairy’s TH-cam channel as well. I wish you well.
I love Dr. Drew and his body of work. His optimism is cathartic for me being one whose glass is always empty. He's lived through so much of what I've seen, and I appreciate his sobering perspective and wish more folks paid attention to him. Thank you for a great interview and discussion.
I've heard of Dr. Drew for years but never took him very seriously back in the day. This in depth interview about him really impressed me. Great job! John asked him many questions I would have liked to ask. I really learned a lot from this interview.
@@colorocko1 I agree!!! It revealed more of where he came from as he developed through the years. I feel he's a good man and any ego as others are calling him out on is not a bad ego on him. He's not the ugly egotistical type. I sense it's more that it gave him a lot of confidence and that's good because he doesn't parade it in any way. He did work hard at everything he did, so he deserves to have earned confidence in himself.
Narcissisism is a meaningless term without a whole host of presupposed value judgements, funny how Dr. Drew would go after celebrities when his whole career had berm about self promotion at the expense of others
@@l21n18 Narcissism is a very meaningful term. Lack of empathy, self entitlement, inability to connect emotionally, reactivity, defensiveness. Those of us who have dealt with narcissists appreciate the term.
Riding the bus and living in a wealthy neighborhood, I can testify that the very rich and the very poor are the same breed of human. It's a terrifying thing to understand.
I have felt that way for decades and I believe they are the same because neither have any morals tho it's for different reasons. This podcast though added another dimension to it because both are addicted and I hadn't really thought of the addictions of the wealthy but it's quite obvious. Their addictions are to money to security which is a false security and to being number one and destroying anyone else who comes in their path that may threaten it in any way shape or form. I remember working in a temp job and the boss woman who was also temp looked at me and she said--I know what you're thinking. AND I thought: it was about noon & was thinking about lunch. HOW does she know that? She was worried about me because I was much smarter than her it seems. And I have to credit her with noticing that which I hadn't even thought about that till now. BUT I guess she thought I was smarter than her and I probably was, just saying😉 but I was only thinking about lunch. I certainly wasn't thinking about taking her dhitty little temp job. AND then she called me into her office and she said: YOUR analysis on these legal documents is so different than-- and she named this young guy. I thought-- YEAH, so what? I knew that his would probably be pretty superficial although he was planning to be a lawyer. I could tell from his personality he wasn't exactly in possession of great depth in any way, shape or form. THAT was her reason for firing me. Pretty crazy but that's how they are when they get power and she wasn't even an elite, even more dangerous if she had been.
Sorry dude but you’re wrong. I knew Drew Pinsky in high school. We were a bunch of spoiled preppies who were pretty smart. Drew Pinsky is quite intelligent but he’s a terrible doctor. He misdiagnosed my friend’s father among others. I gotta say Drew Pinsky is hella good singer and dancer. He killed in our high school musicals. I mean he was amazing. So much talent. But not cut out for medicine. I’m glad he’s all board certified in several disciplines but most doctors are Fellows in the American College of Physicians. It’s almost required. We went to Polytechnic High in Pasadena, California. It was a college prep school attached to Cal-Tech. It had a very challenging academic curriculum. We graduated in 1975. But Drew Pinsky’s talent on the stage was tremendous. So now he’s found his way to where he belonged in the first place: Show Business.
36:14 “It’s essentially a socio-emotional exchange system…that it embedded in our face, and in our body…that starts in infancy…me having emotions that wash over me, that I can’t identify; you reflecting them back to me, appreciating them, not catching them, but understanding, relating and feeling them to some degree AND reflecting them back on your face; so I know I’m felt!”
Living in a city that because of increasing services has become a magnet for the addicted and mentally traumatized, would love to have Dr. Drew serve as an advisor to verify or deny effectiveness of approaches/programs. Want to make sure that resources are being effectively used to benefit these individuals so that they improve and not get worse.
I don’t think our leaders want to actually help the addicts dying on the street. If they wanted to help, they wouldn’t keep doing what they’ve been doing , and failing, then repeating the same failed policies. Actions speak louder than words.
as a 55 yr old CA. native, I was listening to Dr. Drew and the "Poorman" (DJ Jim Trenton) while still in high school. Just recently rediscovered him here on TH-cam, but he's the same dude here today! He's a good guy and makes this world a better place to be in:)
Wow. I was totally sucked in. I loved this entire conversation. This stuff is so important and as a parent, really makes me think and want to make some changes, screen time especially!
Was only going to watch this for 5 minutes… I kept telling myself every five minutes or so just one more part… and before I knew it I had watched the whole thing. Fantastic video !
I think majority of people have always experienced trauma, through history of mankind. It’s rare to not have had some trauma. Some obviously much more severe than others.
Trauma is normal and common for 99.99% of all life on earth, let alone people. Only postmodern western societies are able to pretend that trauma (and by proxy, any discomfort of any kind) isnt normal and common. And also the same societies attempt to erase all trauma from existence and the results speak for themselves. People live 20 years never having seen any type of adversity AT ALL suddenly realize that the world (and all life) is sculpted by trauma and pain. And then go on shooting rampages or kill themselves. Everything is needed in balance. ☯️ can't have happiness without pain. Cannot have ecstasy without trauma. Trauma is REQUIRED in order to put life into perspective.
Trouble is it's all relative. The slave who was beaten would tell the black guy who thinks he was discriminated against because he got 10 years for the armed robbery he committed while the white guy only got 5 years to get over himself. I'm sure my ancestors watched their parents get eaten by wolves at some point, I doubt they'd wanna hear my "I get anxiety in grocery stores" bullshit.
Walk a mile in my shoes and see how many skills you have to ‘deal with it’. Trauma changes you. Trauma that begins before birth and continues well into adulthood compounds. It is not trauma + trauma. It is trauma x trauma. RESPONSES to trauma are necessary for survival. Over time, we become wired for survival, not everyday living. It takes the right information, the right support and the right strategies to overcome. And only then can you find the resources you need to confront what has actually happened to you. The abuse, the betrayal, the abandonment. You have to find the courage to live, every day, with the grief. The grieving that never, ever ends. Because you have lost so much: your sense of safety and security, your sense of self, your ability to trust in other people. AND WHILE YOU ARE GOING THROUGH ALL OF THIS, you have to make the choice, every single day, to be in a world that is full to the brim with people who can and do inflict this kind of pain on others. You have to find a way to feel safe in a world that you know is not. So keep your stupid creeds to yourself. If you had walked this path, you wouldn’t be so f’ing flippant.
Thank you Dr. Drew for your support of maintaining family for a child’s stability . Although I had a few traumas when I was young , my divorce at age 49, after 23 years of marriage , heightened the trauma again and shook up our son whom had just turned 21 . Now 22 years later my son , his son ( our grandson) and his mom live in my house. It’s cost me a lot of my savings but their family is intact and I think it’s provided some stability for my grandson. I’m broke financially because I used their inheritance for them while I’m still alive. I’ve prayed about this over and over .
Why do you think that money you worked for and saved is his inheritance? I don't like to see adults sacrificing themselves while they are alive, just to have a bunch if money to leave kids. Let them earn their own. I encouraged my mom to take trips and spend her money while she was alive. There was very little left when she passed but I didn't care, it was hers to enjoy.
@@FRAME5RS I know what you mean . I wish I had made some other choices . Basically, I did for my grandson’s welfare . I had been his guardian until end Od 2021. The parents got caught up in drugs . They relapse occasionally.
@honey-- feeney Sounds like you should stay his guardian unless and until they stop relapsing. Kids are smart and even though you're there trying to hold it all together, it will affect him. Adults who shirk their responsibility of raising their kids onto their older parents are so selfish. I raised mine and I'd hate to have to raise my grandkids for this reason. Sorry you're in that spot. You should be doing what you enjoy, not this.
I’m a mental health clinician that recently worked 5 years with law enforcement in Los Angeles county. Everything that Dr Drew is saying regarding the homelessness/mental health crisis is true!!
I have grown tired of the notion that low self esteem is the cause of violence, bullying, and narcissism. In the real world, predators look down on their prey, and feel they have a right to impose their will on another. In geopolitics you never see a weak country, and culture, that invades its neighbors in order to take their land and resources. It's always the countries, and cultures, that think they are superior, and deserve to have what others own. Look no further than the line of David in the Old Testament for a perfect example. You see the same thing happening with the global Oligarchy, who think they are the superior race - the race of the rich. They believe they are so superior that they deserve to have it all, while telling the rest of humanity that by 2030 we'll "own nothing and be happy."
I burned out working as a mental health professional in trauma and addiction. Dr Drew makes me think about working there again. Super smart, insightful, big picture.
“The Mirror Effect” got me into psychology. It’s a powerful exposé on a debilitating disorder that awareness of is a life / death matter. It’s the real epidemic of our time.
Thank you for this interview. We need much more of this discussion due to all aspects of our society aiming their arrows at our children. Parents today need help dealing with issues that previous generations didn’t have. Almost daily there are reports of parents attempting to shield their children and then the modern day Jacobins show up with their guillotines
My aunt (58) takes several medications for "severe depression", bi-polar and ADHD. After living with her for a while, and lots of research, it's obvious she's a narcissist who abuses her medications, which she has taken for decades, and alcohol. I feel her depression is caused by feelings suppressed by her narcissist behaviors. She doesn't do anything but lay in bed for about 24 out of 30 days a month. On the days she gets up she snorts her Ritalin then drinks which makes her go into a psychosis where she talks to herself for hours, literally like 8-12 hours. She repeats negative insults and complains about everyone/everything else. She lies and lashes out at others. She's too lazy to do her own dishes, clean up her room, or be kind to others unless used as manipulation. It's sad that she doesn't realize the problem is HER, the reason for her failed friendships and severed family relationships. What she sees when she finally gets up and looks in the mirror HAS to be depressing! All the meds in the world won't fix narcissism that she blames on mental illness. Extreme narcissism rots people to the core. People, do what you can to prevent this trend!
Can you get her to try meditation or go hiking with you. Or even just get her outside to watch the clouds. Has she talked about her childhood which caused the damage that led her to live like this.
You essentially described my mother. With the exception of drugs. It's ironic that narcissists would love to be "special" (unique) but they're carbon copies of each other. They're mundane in their b.s.
UPDATE: My grandmother died and neither of the narcissist will reveal the "mystery" documents that gift the home to my Aunt. And my mother asks, "Is it really that big of a deal?" regarding $200,000 missing in estate assets, possibly due to my Aunt's shenanigans. This she says after previously saying she could not afford to pay $900 for Grandma's cremation services cuz she "may never get it back". Heard mother has about $700K saved in retirement accounts. Aunt has hundreds of thousands as well. Yet my other Aunt and I have NO money after living with narcissists. How f'king poetic! I'll be suing them both for tortuous interference.
@@SneekySecrets I agree they rarely if ever change for the better. I've found it helpful to know more about their childhood and their parents' childhood to get some background on their behaviour. Not to excuse or condone their behaviour but get some context.
I listen to loveline for years. With Adam Corolla and Dr. Drew. Loved that show. I've even been listening the the old episodes on TH-cam. Adam talked so much about himself-- his life, his opinions his upbringing, career etc. It refreshing to hear more about Drew's background for a change.
This is a phenomenal episode. I love Dr. Drew. I am also glad I found this channel! We don’t need biased politicians and activists to fix the homeless problem, we need the dedicated, sane medical community and parents. “Empathy is the last to be developed” … what a huge distinction! Thanks Dad Dude! ❤
As opposed to what the clown Dr. drew? Also He isn’t appealing politicians? What’s your definition of “sane” here? A man who engages in shameless self-promotion at the expense of others and has a constant need for the limelight? What’s an activist too?
It just breaks my heart when I see homeless people who seem so absolutely lost. I just want to smother them with hugs and let them know they are worthy of self love and self care. Some can succeed by learning personal responsibility .
Ads Dr. Drew has said, the homeless are 99% addicted and without treatment. No amount of hugs and kisses will help them take responsibility. They most want to be on the streets so they can engage in their addiction, as shelters don't allow that activity. It's sad.
I would love to hear Dr Drew’s opinion on the trauma based learning and social emotional learning that teachers are being required to teac and utilize now . As a teacher, I don’t feel qualified and worry this will do more harm than good. Most in our profession feel it’s a key word to excuse behavior
Me too, he is adamant that he had functioning models of treatment that just need application. I would like to see that because no one seems to have good outcomes especially with adduction. I dont think misplaced political ideas can account for such high fail rates ? The risk of odose death following rehab is many times higher than that of untreated addcts . Even the best intervention is far more dangerous than no intervention. I am sll for the evidence based tbinking so.Im struggling to find substance other than an adherance to tradition .
As a parent, I'm glad its being taught. There is nothing wrong with being able to name your emotions, understand how they make you feel, and have coping skills. A lot of adults can't do this. It's not excusing the bad behavior, it's giving you the information to best work with the bad behaviors. My kidd has ODD. I never went to therapy as a kid for various reasons, I don't have that diagnosis. I just called it my f you streak. And there are times I tell myself to just shut up and do the thing but I cannot make myself do it past that point. And part of it is kids learn that they are people too who have a say over their feelings and bodies, and that is very frustrating for adults who want them to be like well trained dogs because we all grew up with the idea that children are required to obey instantly.
Please look into SEL further up the chain to see where it comes from. SEL is not what is labelled on the tin. There is a lot of money behind it and is being implemented in lockstep in all English speaking countries.
Dr. Drew & Dr Joe Dispenza are life changing heros of our times. They are both committed to humanity. Seeing Dr. Drew stand up to political nonsense is my favorite part about him, “he’s not brilliant so he helps humanity; he helps humanity so he’s brilliant.” My quote. When you have found your niche/purpose you shine like a brand new Penny. THANK YOU to these individuals and sooooo many others…..
I like the section after the interview where you present the takeaways from it as pertains to parenting or life in general. Although I'm obviously not a Dad, I'm still a parent to grown Sons and always enjoy learning.
Dr. Drew is spot on about family court! Besides the problems he lists, one of the other problems is that many judges do not see mental abuse when it is right before their eyes, being testified about in court! They don’t see narcissism, or even worse, misogyny! My ex was a classic misogynist that turned into almost psychopathic control and abuse over his family. The judge couldn’t even recognize it, and my attorney had to school him for the future.
Fantastic interview! I’ve learned so much and I’ve got some helpful information on narcissism. THANK YOU very much. Dr Drew you’re amazing gift from God
Thank you for this. Very informative and well worth the hour and 1/2 that I thought I didn't have available to watch. If you are reading this, set aside the time and watch this interview! If after watching, you think it was not worth your time, I'll give you your money back!
No need to sit and watch. We all know what Dr. Drew looks like. Just pop in some ear buds and listen while you do your dishes or cook dinner. Allows time for catching these kinds of interviews.
Definitely one of the best, honestly straight up, no holds barred talk about the internet. Growing up with fake book. And how to deal with all of thee above, without being an enabler. Very well done gentlemen....
Getting rid of the hospitals make sense as to why we have no help or not enough room for people who need help now. Like people that needed help, before a mass shooting.
How well do I understand all these parts to the holistic view of the homeless and drug addicts and narcissist / personality disorders. I have lived and worked with all three groups. It's hard but manageable . There is hope.
I feel sorry for parents trying to be parents today. How exhausting it must be now to fight against an increasingly perverse world where good is evil and evil is good.
Parents need Jesus Christ. The world needs Jesus Christ. I am a parent who has Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as a result of severe childhood trauma. My life was a mess when I became pregnant with him. I gave my life to Jesus Christ at the age of 25, when my son was 2 years old. He is now 24 and is a strong, kind and capable adult. He made the decision never to drink alcohol when he was in his teens. My son has his own faith in Jesus Christ and, because of this, he has fantastic boundaries. He doesn’t compromise who he is to belong. When I look at my son, I see a miracle.
As a 62 year old woman with no addictions, or rather a "Boomer Karen" with CPTSDs from years and years of violent child abuse. I'm not addicted to anything, been working since I was 14 (I had to buy my own food and clothes), and now cancel culture has made it almost impossible to get hired in any job. I am seriously facing homelessness. I've always worked hard and taken care of myself. I could collect social security but I can no longer afford rent. He's trying to tell me I'm a narcissist because the economy and Woke culture has been pushing me into poverty. I fu**ing give up.
Nobody's telling you you're a narcissist. Find a cheaper room/appartement,find a good partner,lots of jobs want anti-woke people like you. Solve your problems,stop feeling sorry for yourself and blaming others for everything including your own failures. You can change your situation and improve your life because you've been a fighter your whole life. You can do it much better than average person. Look what you've been through and you still never failed. You are different. Much stronger than you think.
I see parallels between homelessness and mental illness/addiction, because Ive been mentally I’ll since age 6, an addict since 22 on and off, and homeless since 24 on and off.
Drew Pinsky is one of the most delightfully refreshing and *real* people to ever become a media personality. We are lucky to have him. I remember loving him 30 years ago, and I love him even more now!
So you think taking down and out broke celebrities who are in the throes of addiction, putting them on tv while they are in rehab and serving it all up for public consumption as a form of “entertainment” is honorable and just? He should have his medical license yanked for what he does. He’s made millions off the pain and suffering of celebrity addicts.
@@lisamarielund6292 ok. I’ll bite. I have no idea what you’re talking about. I haven’t watched television in about 25 years. What I’m referring to is his work on LoveLine back in the 90s and his current podcast, neither of which have (or had) anything like what you describe (from what I’ve seen). But I suspect I am soon to find out more… probably more than I care to know, but then I’m the one who decided to bite… Oh and by the way, do you think that the down and out celebrities you refer to were “taken and put on TV” by force, or something? There are contracts, payments and choices involved in these types of thing, I believe.
As a paramedic in the late 70s, I noticed a pattern in the way we were treated by wealthy and poor patients. It was one of disrespect for what we were doing for them. Later, as a RN working in ERs, a pattern emerged, primarily among the indigent, as the wealthy did not frequent the facilities that I worked in, of bipolarity being a very frequent comorbidity among those who were frequent fliers or came in for minor, non-emergent issues. These are the factors that strain the system that we have. Furthermore, there is a disconnect in the type of care and the use of resources by these populations. Not only would handling a lot of ‘nonemergent’ emergency room and ambulance calls be more cost efficient through use of primary care physicians and/or urgent care clinics, but the comorbidities of mental health could be better treated. Of course, this would impact the earnings of corporate run medical facilities and their patient mining with massive ERs, but we have to face the facts of how the healthcare dollar is spent, whether it is private pay, insurance, or tax-funded. More attention needs to be brought to very frequent mental health issues that Dr Drew reveals and our lack of addressing them appropriately.
@Pepe Pupu mental illness is part of mental health. If you don’t treat mental health as well as physical health, the potential for illness increases. When illness, either mental or physical is s present, then a decent system is needed to treat it by curing it or reducing its negative impact. Our system is split between the two aspects of health, but our bodies and minds are not. We do not practice holistic care and we don’t have continuity of care in what we do practice. Forty plus years in the field and all I see is a decline in how we manage healthcare.
@@george344 Imagine if we could remove corporations and insurance companies out of health care. And make it completely free for everyone. That's my greatest wish in life.
1:18. “This idea that the family unit is just another way to do things is absolutely wrong”. 👍. Who is advocating for funding to support families?!? People need to know what it is to be a ‘good enough’ parent. They also need access to support without condemnation when they can’t meet the standard. Without this approach, trauma will continue to compound throughout the generations.
Just in need too. Had my fiance dieing in my arms took two narcan on the street and the couple more in the hospital. And she's a narcissist it's horrible I want to send this to her thanks bro
This is one of my favorite episodes, Dr.Drew is so personable and explains everything well. He does a good job explaining how the media is impacting our society today. As the parent of three young adults this was informative and relevant.
IKR. Dr Drew is like one of the nicest people ever. Its very strange to see the people who pride themselves on how kind and compassionate and intelligent they are have such extreme vitriol for him.
"Status is enhanced by having a mental health issue." ... "I don't know how to deal with that..." This is hard for most of us to grasp until you understand how pervasive Critical Race Theory is in the educational system. Everyone is categorized as either oppressor or oppressed. No child wants to be seen as an oppressor. There's a hierarchy of victimhood and so the more boxes you can check, the more oppressed you are. This is one reason there is an explosion in the number of kids identifying as trans. Every child going through puberty feels out of place in their own skin. Instead of it being normalized and helping adolescents cope with it, the world around them makes them question if they're in the right body. Anyway, having a mental health issue is one way kids avoid being ostracized as an oppressor.
Glad I clicked this. Love you man thanks for doing ur part to save America CUS WE NEED SAVING. We need better food in schools I'm hoping we can find a way to help at least communities grow some healthy food for the school and remove fluorescent lights so bad
What a fantastically opinionated real human being! I recently discovered that opinionated could be a compliment and an asset for the possessor of this often maligned quality. Most wonderful interview. As a defender of the male since forever (I am a first-born female) it is so heartening to see the emergence of the whole man. I am subscribing.
Dr drew is a amazing American. Like Judge Joe Brown he says it like it is and the truth. Even though it’s detrimental to his career. I appreciate his ballllz
Thank you Dr Drew…I listen to you! You offer sanity…to the ‘doubting Thomas!’ More therapy is what we need…and more Dr Drew types to facilitate great progress! ❤
@14:50 is that missing chapter of The Mirror Effect available anywhere? I started reading about the French Revolution and French philosophy of that era back in 2019 because the crazy of that era has been seeping into ours, it would be amazing to read Dr. Drew's take on it.
Around 54 minute mark he talks about Al-Anon!!! I rarely hear about the Al-Anon Family Groups. It has helped me for more than 15 years. If people understoood how much they are affected by someone's addiction, that 12-step program would be the largest.
Thank you for discussing the way you handled kids alcohol at parties. When my daughter grew up said she was too afraid to do anything “are you kidding?”because “the world would stop” So actually my children are cleaner than me and my husband. 😊
I was hooked on coke/crack and alcohol. It leads to mental problems, homelessness etc. But Meth and opioids/fentanyl will be the total downfall of this country. But it is really a moral problem. Btw, I love the doc, no b.s., just straight up truth.
I’m 22. I grew up on video games. We never had internet though. I also however was very active in wrestling and gymnastics. I will say without a doubt that screens and the internet are single handedly destroying our youths attention spans and motivation. I now teach gymnastics, and the amount of kids that are basically useless sacks of bones are insane. These kids today have no ambition, no skills, no drive, nothing. They just want to awkwardly exist in this weird state of half computer/human
I am a retired shrink practiced in nyc for decades and i used to say to my male patients( they only came in for sexual problems ),that it was strength not weakness to be honest with self or others about negative emotions like fear, worthlessness, etc..I encouraged them to start mens support groups 40 yrs ago, this argument about redefining what male strength is was right on, it is hard for men to do this, so it takes courage and that is male strength!
My sis was dr Drew's patient at Las encinas hospital I believe he saved her life, for many years. Dr drew literally taught us families on the weekend, in a classroom setting, about the addiction taking over our loved ones. My sis did not really listen to dr drew when he told her to wait on taking anti depressants so she could really know what drove her addictions. She wanted the anti depressants bc her mental state was more than she could bear. Las encinas did wonders for her, giving her 15 yrs more of life before she took her own life. I don't think she would have lasted another day had Las encinas not accept her
I’m very sorry and my heart goes out to you. ❤
I am so sorry that happened to you. I was there during Dr Drew’s reign. He overemphasized trading addiction to drugs to addiction to a cult. It is sad that because of his love of AA there are no other options. It was hell at Las Encinas. For a number of reasons, but worse is being in the shadow of 12 Step. I had a belly full of that crap. It is slowly being discredited as new theories on mental illness and substance abuse emerge. Las Encinas is lousy with Dr Drew. The “experts” at LE only gave me a few days of Librium when they “withdrew” me from Benzos. I went through months of having withdrawal symptoms. Everyone is an addict to them. They preached that addiction a disease you are stuck with.
Whoever needs to hear this... I was able to put down my addiction with the help of anti-anxiety/depression meds and therapy... and YES... Jesus's God. I would NOT be alive if I had not chose to embrace and study The Teachings of Jesus in The New Testament of The Bible DAILY. The goal is not to be on perscription meds forever unless you REALLY need it. Addiction is a symptom of Pain from A Deep Emotional/Psychological Wound... or mental illness. The root of the wound needs to be healed. Just whatever you do... NEVER give up. Jesus's God is NEVER giving up on YOU. He is WAITING for you to pour Him your heart... with what He already knows. He WANTS your troubles... people are not gods... Jesus's God of The Holy Spirit IS.
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So sorry you lost her
“All roads lead to narcissism”. No truer words were ever said.
He wasn't referring to the mental health or even simple problems in society or people, which is how it appears you've interpreted that quote.... Just sayin' not doggin' on ya.
@@billmcgubbins1476 yet, you don't enlighten us on what he really meant
@@AngelWest58 I believe he's referring to the drive behind seeking fame/likes/whatever on social media and how it has magnified narcissism.
I have been saying it for years, and when I do most people just chuckle. They think I’m joking, it would seem. I’m not.
*Social media is weaponized narcissism.*
@@billmcgubbins1476 yea, This is the first time I’ve heard that quote . And I must disagree with it .
The comments regarding narcissism was so insightful and compassionate...I really appreciated stumbling upon this interview
I have 29 years experience as a mental health practitioner (psychologist) and can say that Drew is right on in everything he said. Bless you, my brother!
I grew up as a teenager in the 1990s, listening to Drew on Loveline. Thank you so much for all your amazing work ... especially now for being so honest about these 💉's !
You apparently didn't notice it was a toxic, lowlife, narcissist fest for Pinsky and Corolla, in which they regularly humiliated guests. He is an authoritarian moron and a genuine narcissist.
The fact that our current economy is hollowing out the middle class into either very rich or very poor makes this juxtaposition even scarier.
The picture is brighter than it seems on that front, but there's definitely a LOT of people being left behind. That's especially true for all the men dropping out of the workforce and struggling to find purpose, which leads down this dark road of addiction.
The fact the current economy is the result of carefully executed plans by corporate/goverchunk powers and their tools makes your statement even scarier still!
Some of us childhood trauma survivors continue on avoiding everything when it comes to relationships. Especially with everything happening today. We have a pandemic of narcissism everywhere. That keeps me in an avoidance paradigm indefinitely.
And this is only compounded by the fact that OVER 80% OF ALL romantic relationships are now started online! And yet, most people will tell you that they DON'T like it, but it has started to feel like the ONLY way to meet new people. And let's not forget how these dating apps use the same type of toxic algorithms that more typical social media uses to everyone's detriment. It's really a shame what has happened to dating and relationships/human interaction in general.
Good point. I work at a coffee shop. Daily, I come across a multitude of these personalities that are so “ off kilter.” Specifically, many are so unfocused. I must make them focus so we can establish the order and move them along. They often do not like, especially when I press for specifics. It’s wild and so tiring sometimes . Tick Tom is the source of their $12 drink recipes 🤦♀️
My sister had severe childhood trauma, married a narcissist… last year at age 49 she took her life
So true!
@@mikeymike1981sorry to hear about your sister.
55:04 “The Vortex (being sucked into an addict’s world)…the (addict’s) brain is in survivor mode, and has been usurped by all the higher functions; reasoning, inter-personal functions and emotions that now serve this broken motivation..you just become a source of gratifying that addiction. Period.” Wow
Yes that was a wow, a big piece of the puzzle for me- tho i’m understanding it this way, that the survival brain usurped those higher functions like reasoning and empathy. Such an important conversation.
Such a flawless way to describe the addict experience. Addicts will still feel the guilt and shame of there actions so their higher functions aren’t entirely usurped but it does still tend to happen.
I love Dr. Drew, and especially the old Loveline episodes, and now the Adam and Dr. Drew Show podcast - they're great counterbalances to each other - Dr. Drew, the intelligent, erudite, educated doctor, and Adam, the street smart, world wise everyman - they play well off each other and share their unique takes well, and beautifully come to shared common-sense conclusions. It's one of my favorite things to listen to on Spotify on my morning commute three days a week
Ok, I was absolutely not going to watch this because it was promoted by TH-cam, but I love Dr. Drew, so I gave it a chance and wow! I am shocked that TH-cam is promoting this; this video highlights the dangers of social media and discusses the importance and role of the nuclear family unit. TH-cam doesn’t tend to be a fan of these things or the topics being discussed. I loved every second of this video!
I didn't even think of that lol it is wild YT gave it an ad pass
The tide is starting to turn for the people who oppose the narrative. I think that Musk getting Twitter is huge for more open discussions of different views.
@@migrantson right?! I’m shocked
@@solo7253 totally agree!
I like him alot. Jordan Peterson is good too.
Wow, Dr Drew is the man! I only knew him from MTV back in the day. He is such an authentic, wise, and accomplished man.
He completely sidestepped the social contagion of "trans" and "rapid onset gender dysphoria" question and the interviewer didn't push it.
If you follow his logic on all the other topics, I am sure he has strong opinions. He likely didn't want to risk his medical license to answer honestly, which I can get. Jordan Peterson's license to practice in Canada is under duress for simply speaking his mind...
He’s a typical media Dr.
He’s talked about it in more depth on his own show/podcast.
@@cruisepaige -- Seems to me Dr. Drew is very much better than a typical media doctor ...
@@cruisepaige booooo bad take
As a nurse with an eclectic medical experience ( Who's father was also a Internal Med / OBGYN & Concierge physician.) I concur. Thank-you Dr.DREW For all you do. When working the night shift I listened to you often. ❤️ Blessings to you & your family & team.
Wow. I always loved this man. 83-I was 1. I love history-I now know-what a bad time it was for so many!!! The work he and so many others did-changed the narrative. Bless all those who loved lived and lost through that period. I see you!
No child under 18 should be on any social media. It's that simple.
Imagine Drew at 20, at Amherst, bright future ahead, then a 20 yr old Adam Carolla, scrimping to buy a pickup truck so he could make a dollar more an hour as an apprentice carpenter,
and now they’re besties. That’s America!
Carolla is hilarious but paired with Dr Drew was so frustrating to try and hear Dr Drew through Adam's nonsense.
I like them both but not together.
As always, Drew keeps it high and tight after 50! Love you Dr Drew!
Mommies all over the web!
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Grew up watching and listening to Drew. Met him in person one time on a cruise ship and he was super cool, same dude you are seeing and hearing is the same guy you meet in person.
I love the part about the rich and the poor suffering from the same illness. It makes me feel better about being in the middle. It has become apparent to me that I will not achieve the level of wealth and success that my father has. That’s been tough to deal with. He set the bar high. But it has to be acknowledged.
The rich and poor absolutely suffer from the same diseases, across humanity.
How the rich and poor are treated is where the two worlds are polar opposites.
Life is too short to worry about such petty things. Your goal is to have a great family of your own. Let go of your father.
Life is too short to worry about such petty things. Your goal is to have a great family of your own. Let go of your father.
I went to a therapist because she was supposedly good for anxiety. All she talked about was herself. I told the office no further visits would be scheduled cuz she made me so anxious I couldn't sleep! Haven't been to anyone else since.
I once had a narcissist therapist as well. Like with many professions, it happens. But I’d encourage you to see someone else because you never know when you find a great one! I think it happened to me after 2 pretty bad ones. I’ve met narcissistic people in many “important” positions actually. They are part of life. Glad you were able to see the red flags right away and didn’t go back to her.
I had a massage therapist (after bad car accident) 3x’s a week, and I left feeling more stressed d/t her constant talking!! She was incessantly telling me about every detail of her love life, and used me as her counselor/therapist 🙄 Atleast the sessions were paid for by the guys insurance who T-boned me! And she was great @ deep tissue massage :) You should keep trying others though, there are some good Psychologists out there to help with your anxiety.
I understand. Here’s a suggestion. Check out Patrick Teahan’s TH-cam channel (licensed therapist specializing in childhood trauma AND is recovered from the same himself). He’s fantastic & the first therapist I’ve ever found who is genuinely helpful. Also, check out the Crappy Childhood Fairy’s TH-cam channel as well. I wish you well.
So many “therapists” are truly in more trouble than their patients…Dr. Drew is an exception to me
So if you had a bad meal would you never go to another restaurant? Keep going until you get someone who helps you.
I love Dr. Drew and his body of work. His optimism is cathartic for me being one whose glass is always empty. He's lived through so much of what I've seen, and I appreciate his sobering perspective and wish more folks paid attention to him. Thank you for a great interview and discussion.
Extremely well done interview!! Dr Drew is so under appreciated and could do so much for our homeless and addiction issues (crisis!) today.
I've heard of Dr. Drew for years but never took him very seriously back in the day. This in depth interview about him really impressed me. Great job! John asked him many questions I would have liked to ask. I really learned a lot from this interview.
@@colorocko1 I agree!!! It revealed more of where he came from as he developed through the years. I feel he's a good man and any ego as others are calling him out on is not a bad ego on him. He's not the ugly egotistical type. I sense it's more that it gave him a lot of confidence and that's good because he doesn't parade it in any way. He did work hard at everything he did, so he deserves to have earned confidence in himself.
No he’s a clown
Narcissisism is a meaningless term without a whole host of presupposed value judgements, funny how Dr. Drew would go after celebrities when his whole career had berm about self promotion at the expense of others
@@l21n18 Narcissism is a very meaningful term. Lack of empathy, self entitlement, inability to connect emotionally, reactivity, defensiveness. Those of us who have dealt with narcissists appreciate the term.
Dr Drew’s experience is impressive and has definitely helped him be an excellent physician and human being.
Riding the bus and living in a wealthy neighborhood, I can testify that the very rich and the very poor are the same breed of human. It's a terrifying thing to understand.
I have felt that way for decades and I believe they are the same because neither have any morals tho it's for different reasons. This podcast though added another dimension to it because both are addicted and I hadn't really thought of the addictions of the wealthy but it's quite obvious. Their addictions are to money to security which is a false security and to being number one and destroying anyone else who comes in their path that may threaten it in any way shape or form.
I remember working in a temp job and the boss woman who was also temp looked at me and she said--I know what you're thinking.
AND I thought: it was about noon & was thinking about lunch. HOW does she know that? She was worried about me because I was much smarter than her it seems. And I have to credit her with noticing that which I hadn't even thought about that till now. BUT I guess she thought I was smarter than her and I probably was, just saying😉 but I was only thinking about lunch. I certainly wasn't thinking about taking her dhitty little temp job. AND
then she called me into her office and she said: YOUR analysis on these legal documents is so different than-- and she named this young guy. I thought-- YEAH, so what? I knew that his would probably be pretty superficial although he was planning to be a lawyer. I could tell from his personality he wasn't exactly in possession of great depth in any way, shape or form. THAT was her reason for firing me. Pretty crazy but that's how they are when they get power and she wasn't even an elite, even more dangerous if she had been.
I observed the same. Both are extremely dysfunctional
Dr Drew, you are criminally underrated and one of the wisest people of our time.
Sorry dude but you’re wrong. I knew Drew Pinsky in high school. We were a bunch of spoiled preppies who were pretty smart. Drew Pinsky is quite intelligent but he’s a terrible doctor. He misdiagnosed my friend’s father among others.
I gotta say Drew Pinsky is hella good singer and dancer. He killed in our high school musicals. I mean he was amazing. So much talent. But not cut out for medicine. I’m glad he’s all board certified in several disciplines but most doctors are Fellows in the American College of Physicians. It’s almost required.
We went to Polytechnic High in Pasadena, California. It was a college prep school attached to Cal-Tech. It had a very challenging academic curriculum. We graduated in 1975.
But Drew Pinsky’s talent on the stage was tremendous. So now he’s found his way to where he belonged in the first place: Show Business.
I miss hearing doctor Drew on the radio. I used to listen to him every day Monday through Friday.
I used to listen to him on KROQ with Poorman way back in the day in LA. Loved all he does since then. Please don’t tell anyone how old I am.❤️
36:14 “It’s essentially a socio-emotional exchange system…that it embedded in our face, and in our body…that starts in infancy…me having emotions that wash over me, that I can’t identify; you reflecting them back to me, appreciating them, not catching them, but understanding, relating and feeling them to some degree AND reflecting them back on your face; so I know I’m felt!”
Living in a city that because of increasing services has become a magnet for the addicted and mentally traumatized, would love to have Dr. Drew serve as an advisor to verify or deny effectiveness of approaches/programs. Want to make sure that resources are being effectively used to benefit these individuals so that they improve and not get worse.
I don’t think our leaders want to actually help the addicts dying on the street. If they wanted to help, they wouldn’t keep doing what they’ve been doing , and failing, then repeating the same failed policies.
Actions speak louder than words.
@@katethegreat2222 Yes if they cared it would already be sorted.
as a 55 yr old CA. native, I was listening to Dr. Drew and the "Poorman" (DJ Jim Trenton) while still in high school. Just recently rediscovered him here on TH-cam, but he's the same dude here today! He's a good guy and makes this world a better place to be in:)
Wow. I was totally sucked in. I loved this entire conversation. This stuff is so important and as a parent, really makes me think and want to make some changes, screen time especially!
Was only going to watch this for 5 minutes… I kept telling myself every five minutes or so just one more part… and before I knew it I had watched the whole thing. Fantastic video !
This is an awesome interview! Great questions and awesome answers! Thanks for getting Dr Drew and for paying for the ad space so we could find it! 😊
dr drew is one of my heroes. His honesty and ego are in the right spot. his show with Dr Kelly Victory, everyone should be subscribed to. HERO
I think majority of people have always experienced trauma, through history of mankind. It’s rare to not have had some trauma. Some obviously much more severe than others.
Trauma is normal and common for 99.99% of all life on earth, let alone people. Only postmodern western societies are able to pretend that trauma (and by proxy, any discomfort of any kind) isnt normal and common. And also the same societies attempt to erase all trauma from existence and the results speak for themselves. People live 20 years never having seen any type of adversity AT ALL suddenly realize that the world (and all life) is sculpted by trauma and pain. And then go on shooting rampages or kill themselves. Everything is needed in balance. ☯️ can't have happiness without pain. Cannot have ecstasy without trauma. Trauma is REQUIRED in order to put life into perspective.
Trouble is it's all relative. The slave who was beaten would tell the black guy who thinks he was discriminated against because he got 10 years for the armed robbery he committed while the white guy only got 5 years to get over himself. I'm sure my ancestors watched their parents get eaten by wolves at some point, I doubt they'd wanna hear my "I get anxiety in grocery stores" bullshit.
It's not the severity of the trauma that matters, it's how you deal with it.
Walk a mile in my shoes and see how many skills you have to ‘deal with it’. Trauma changes you. Trauma that begins before birth and continues well into adulthood compounds. It is not trauma + trauma. It is trauma x trauma.
RESPONSES to trauma are necessary for survival. Over time, we become wired for survival, not everyday living. It takes the right information, the right support and the right strategies to overcome. And only then can you find the resources you need to confront what has actually happened to you. The abuse, the betrayal, the abandonment. You have to find the courage to live, every day, with the grief. The grieving that never, ever ends. Because you have lost so much: your sense of safety and security, your sense of self, your ability to trust in other people. AND WHILE YOU ARE GOING THROUGH ALL OF THIS, you have to make the choice, every single day, to be in a world that is full to the brim with people who can and do inflict this kind of pain on others. You have to find a way to feel safe in a world that you know is not.
So keep your stupid creeds to yourself. If you had walked this path, you wouldn’t be so f’ing flippant.
@@johannagrace7768Dr. Gabor Mate has some amazing videos about all of this.
Dr. Drew, thank you for speaking out. Love you and your wife.
Thank you Dr. Drew for your support of maintaining family for a child’s stability . Although I had a few traumas when I was young , my divorce at age 49, after 23 years of marriage , heightened the trauma again and shook up our son whom had just turned 21 . Now 22 years later my son , his son ( our grandson) and his mom live in my house. It’s cost me a lot of my savings but their family is intact and I think it’s provided some stability for my grandson. I’m broke financially because I used their inheritance for them while I’m still alive. I’ve prayed about this over and over .
Why do you think that money you worked for and saved is his inheritance? I don't like to see adults sacrificing themselves while they are alive, just to have a bunch if money to leave kids. Let them earn their own. I encouraged my mom to take trips and spend her money while she was alive. There was very little left when she passed but I didn't care, it was hers to enjoy.
@@FRAME5RS I know what you mean . I wish I had made some other choices . Basically, I did for my grandson’s welfare . I had been his guardian until end Od 2021. The parents got caught up in drugs . They relapse occasionally.
@honey-- feeney Sounds like you should stay his guardian unless and until they stop relapsing. Kids are smart and even though you're there trying to hold it all together, it will affect him. Adults who shirk their responsibility of raising their kids onto their older parents are so selfish. I raised mine and I'd hate to have to raise my grandkids for this reason. Sorry you're in that spot. You should be doing what you enjoy, not this.
Kick out the kids and adopt the grandson.
Bless your heart 💞❤️
❤❤❤❤❤This is amazing how Dr Drew is able to articulate these complex issues with such simplistic layman words. Great Job!!❤❤❤❤❤
I’m a mental health clinician that recently worked 5 years with law enforcement in Los Angeles county. Everything that Dr Drew is saying regarding the homelessness/mental health crisis is true!!
I have grown tired of the notion that low self esteem is the cause of violence, bullying, and narcissism. In the real world, predators look down on their prey, and feel they have a right to impose their will on another. In geopolitics you never see a weak country, and culture, that invades its neighbors in order to take their land and resources. It's always the countries, and cultures, that think they are superior, and deserve to have what others own. Look no further than the line of David in the Old Testament for a perfect example. You see the same thing happening with the global Oligarchy, who think they are the superior race - the race of the rich. They believe they are so superior that they deserve to have it all, while telling the rest of humanity that by 2030 we'll "own nothing and be happy."
I burned out working as a mental health professional in trauma and addiction. Dr Drew makes me think about working there again. Super smart, insightful, big picture.
“The Mirror Effect” got me into psychology. It’s a powerful exposé on a debilitating disorder that awareness of is a life / death matter. It’s the real epidemic of our time.
Thank you for this interview. We need much more of this discussion due to all aspects of our society aiming their arrows at our children. Parents today need help dealing with issues that previous generations didn’t have. Almost daily there are reports of parents attempting to shield their children and then the modern day Jacobins show up with their guillotines
Thanks, John. It's a crazy world out there for our kids.
My aunt (58) takes several medications for "severe depression", bi-polar and ADHD. After living with her for a while, and lots of research, it's obvious she's a narcissist who abuses her medications, which she has taken for decades, and alcohol. I feel her depression is caused by feelings suppressed by her narcissist behaviors. She doesn't do anything but lay in bed for about 24 out of 30 days a month. On the days she gets up she snorts her Ritalin then drinks which makes her go into a psychosis where she talks to herself for hours, literally like 8-12 hours. She repeats negative insults and complains about everyone/everything else. She lies and lashes out at others. She's too lazy to do her own dishes, clean up her room, or be kind to others unless used as manipulation. It's sad that she doesn't realize the problem is HER, the reason for her failed friendships and severed family relationships. What she sees when she finally gets up and looks in the mirror HAS to be depressing! All the meds in the world won't fix narcissism that she blames on mental illness. Extreme narcissism rots people to the core. People, do what you can to prevent this trend!
Can you get her to try meditation or go hiking with you. Or even just get her outside to watch the clouds. Has she talked about her childhood which caused the damage that led her to live like this.
You essentially described my mother. With the exception of drugs.
It's ironic that narcissists would love to be "special" (unique) but they're carbon copies of each other. They're mundane in their b.s.
UPDATE: My grandmother died and neither of the narcissist will reveal the "mystery" documents that gift the home to my Aunt. And my mother asks, "Is it really that big of a deal?" regarding $200,000 missing in estate assets, possibly due to my Aunt's shenanigans. This she says after previously saying she could not afford to pay $900 for Grandma's cremation services cuz she "may never get it back". Heard mother has about $700K saved in retirement accounts. Aunt has hundreds of thousands as well. Yet my other Aunt and I have NO money after living with narcissists. How f'king poetic! I'll be suing them both for tortuous interference.
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Might work if she lays across some train tracks while doing so? They do not change.
@@SneekySecrets I agree they rarely if ever change for the better. I've found it helpful to know more about their childhood and their parents' childhood to get some background on their behaviour. Not to excuse or condone their behaviour but get some context.
I listen to loveline for years. With Adam Corolla and Dr. Drew. Loved that show. I've even been listening the the old episodes on TH-cam. Adam talked so much about himself-- his life, his opinions his upbringing, career etc. It refreshing to hear more about Drew's background for a change.
This is a phenomenal episode. I love Dr. Drew. I am also glad I found this channel! We don’t need biased politicians and activists to fix the homeless problem, we need the dedicated, sane medical community and parents. “Empathy is the last to be developed” … what a huge distinction! Thanks Dad Dude! ❤
As opposed to what the clown Dr. drew? Also
He isn’t appealing politicians? What’s your definition of “sane” here? A man who engages in shameless self-promotion at the expense of others and has a constant need for the limelight? What’s an activist too?
It just breaks my heart when I see homeless people who seem so absolutely lost. I just want to smother them with hugs and let them know they are worthy of self love and self care. Some can succeed by learning personal responsibility .
Ads Dr. Drew has said, the homeless are 99% addicted and without treatment. No amount of hugs and kisses will help them take responsibility. They most want to be on the streets so they can engage in their addiction, as shelters don't allow that activity. It's sad.
@@FRAME5RS I've been homeless. I wasn't addicted to anything. On both occasions I was badly let down by people I'd previously helped.
I would love to hear Dr Drew’s opinion on the trauma based learning and social emotional learning that teachers are being required to teac and utilize now . As a teacher, I don’t feel qualified and worry this will do more harm than good. Most in our profession feel it’s a key word to excuse behavior
Me too, he is adamant that he had functioning models of treatment that just need application. I would like to see that because no one seems to have good outcomes especially with adduction. I dont think misplaced political ideas can account for such high fail rates ?
The risk of odose death following rehab is many times higher than that of untreated addcts . Even the best intervention is far more dangerous than no intervention.
I am sll for the evidence based tbinking so.Im struggling to find substance other than an adherance to tradition .
As a parent, I'm glad its being taught. There is nothing wrong with being able to name your emotions, understand how they make you feel, and have coping skills. A lot of adults can't do this. It's not excusing the bad behavior, it's giving you the information to best work with the bad behaviors. My kidd has ODD. I never went to therapy as a kid for various reasons, I don't have that diagnosis. I just called it my f you streak. And there are times I tell myself to just shut up and do the thing but I cannot make myself do it past that point. And part of it is kids learn that they are people too who have a say over their feelings and bodies, and that is very frustrating for adults who want them to be like well trained dogs because we all grew up with the idea that children are required to obey instantly.
Please look into SEL further up the chain to see where it comes from. SEL is not what is labelled on the tin. There is a lot of money behind it and is being implemented in lockstep in all English speaking countries.
@@steeltoejamwhat is SEL?
Dr. Drew & Dr Joe Dispenza are life changing heros of our times. They are both committed to humanity. Seeing Dr. Drew stand up to political nonsense is my favorite part about him, “he’s not brilliant so he helps humanity; he helps humanity so he’s brilliant.” My quote. When you have found your niche/purpose you shine like a brand new Penny. THANK YOU to these individuals and sooooo many others…..
I like the section after the interview where you present the takeaways from it as pertains to parenting or life in general. Although I'm obviously not a Dad, I'm still a parent to grown Sons and always enjoy learning.
Dr. Drew is spot on about family court! Besides the problems he lists, one of the other problems is that many judges do not see mental abuse when it is right before their eyes, being testified about in court! They don’t see narcissism, or even worse, misogyny! My ex was a classic misogynist that turned into almost psychopathic control and abuse over his family. The judge couldn’t even recognize it, and my attorney had to school him for the future.
I assume the legal people have the same condition when they excuse or reward the narcissist.
You sound like a typical female narcissist....
1:31:06 i'm a single father doing exactly this but the state of alaska thinks other wise!
Fantastic interview! I’ve learned so much and I’ve got some helpful information on narcissism. THANK YOU very much. Dr Drew you’re amazing gift from God
This video should have 50 million views.
What a sweet heart! I've not heard him speak before, just heard criticism. He has love, that is THE key to everything.
Thank you for this. Very informative and well worth the hour and 1/2 that I thought I didn't have available to watch. If you are reading this, set aside the time and watch this interview! If after watching, you think it was not worth your time, I'll give you your money back!
No need to sit and watch. We all know what Dr. Drew looks like. Just pop in some ear buds and listen while you do your dishes or cook dinner. Allows time for catching these kinds of interviews.
@@FRAME5RS Great idea, but 1) I gotta get some wireless earplugs & 2) I only cook in the microwave for 2~3 minutes :).
@@shazam6274 I put my phone in my pocket and listen while I do chores or go for a walk.
Definitely one of the best, honestly straight up, no holds barred talk about the internet. Growing up with fake book. And how to deal with all of thee above, without being an enabler.
Very well done gentlemen....
Getting rid of the hospitals make sense as to why we have no help or not enough room for people who need help now. Like people that needed help, before a mass shooting.
How well do I understand all these parts to the holistic view of the homeless and drug addicts and narcissist / personality disorders. I have lived and worked with all three groups. It's hard but manageable . There is hope.
Manageable for the non narcissist.
Awesome interview. Dr. Drew has such a great attitude, so much knowledge and motivation to keep society healthy.
I feel sorry for parents trying to be parents today. How exhausting it must be now to fight against an increasingly perverse world where good is evil and evil is good.
Thank you. No one tells you how hard it is-and then-with modern tech-no one knew how much harder it was about to get! Thank you.
Agree. What a hard time to raise children today. So tough
Parents need Jesus Christ. The world needs Jesus Christ. I am a parent who has Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as a result of severe childhood trauma. My life was a mess when I became pregnant with him. I gave my life to Jesus Christ at the age of 25, when my son was 2 years old. He is now 24 and is a strong, kind and capable adult. He made the decision never to drink alcohol when he was in his teens. My son has his own faith in Jesus Christ and, because of this, he has fantastic boundaries. He doesn’t compromise who he is to belong. When I look at my son, I see a miracle.
As a 62 year old woman with no addictions, or rather a "Boomer Karen" with CPTSDs from years and years of violent child abuse.
I'm not addicted to anything, been working since I was 14 (I had to buy my own food and clothes), and now cancel culture has made it almost impossible to get hired in any job.
I am seriously facing homelessness. I've always worked hard and taken care of myself. I could collect social security but I can no longer afford rent. He's trying to tell me I'm a narcissist because the economy and Woke culture has been pushing me into poverty.
I fu**ing give up.
Nobody's telling you you're a narcissist. Find a cheaper room/appartement,find a good partner,lots of jobs want anti-woke people like you. Solve your problems,stop feeling sorry for yourself and blaming others for everything including your own failures. You can change your situation and improve your life because you've been a fighter your whole life. You can do it much better than average person. Look what you've been through and you still never failed. You are different. Much stronger than you think.
I see parallels between homelessness and mental illness/addiction, because Ive been mentally I’ll since age 6, an addict since 22 on and off, and homeless since 24 on and off.
Drew Pinsky is one of the most delightfully refreshing and *real* people to ever become a media personality.
We are lucky to have him.
I remember loving him 30 years ago, and I love him even more now!
So you think taking down and out broke celebrities who are in the throes of addiction, putting them on tv while they are in rehab and serving it all up for public consumption as a form of “entertainment” is honorable and just? He should have his medical license yanked for what he does. He’s made millions off the pain and suffering of celebrity addicts.
@@lisamarielund6292 ok. I’ll bite.
I have no idea what you’re talking about. I haven’t watched television in about 25 years. What I’m referring to is his work on LoveLine back in the 90s and his current podcast, neither of which have (or had) anything like what you describe (from what I’ve seen).
But I suspect I am soon to find out more… probably more than I care to know, but then I’m the one who decided to bite…
Oh and by the way, do you think that the down and out celebrities you refer to were “taken and put on TV” by force, or something? There are contracts, payments and choices involved in these types of thing, I believe.
Wow. Dr. Drew this is a very compassionate view. You get it. God bless and please continue
Dr Drew is so wise and honest...
you bet I'm coming up in may!!
As a paramedic in the late 70s, I noticed a pattern in the way we were treated by wealthy and poor patients. It was one of disrespect for what we were doing for them. Later, as a RN working in ERs, a pattern emerged, primarily among the indigent, as the wealthy did not frequent the facilities that I worked in, of bipolarity being a very frequent comorbidity among those who were frequent fliers or came in for minor, non-emergent issues. These are the factors that strain the system that we have. Furthermore, there is a disconnect in the type of care and the use of resources by these populations. Not only would handling a lot of ‘nonemergent’ emergency room and ambulance calls be more cost efficient through use of primary care physicians and/or urgent care clinics, but the comorbidities of mental health could be better treated. Of course, this would impact the earnings of corporate run medical facilities and their patient mining with massive ERs, but we have to face the facts of how the healthcare dollar is spent, whether it is private pay, insurance, or tax-funded. More attention needs to be brought to very frequent mental health issues that Dr Drew reveals and our lack of addressing them appropriately.
@Pepe Pupu mental illness is part of mental health. If you don’t treat mental health as well as physical health, the potential for illness increases. When illness, either mental or physical is s present, then a decent system is needed to treat it by curing it or reducing its negative impact. Our system is split between the two aspects of health, but our bodies and minds are not. We do not practice holistic care and we don’t have continuity of care in what we do practice. Forty plus years in the field and all I see is a decline in how we manage healthcare.
@@tessalee6253 you’re right. We get our symptoms treated, not our diseases cured. Read up on how Pfizer is looking at the future of coronavirus.
@@george344 Imagine if we could remove corporations and insurance companies out of health care. And make it completely free for everyone. That's my greatest wish in life.
1:18. “This idea that the family unit is just another way to do things is absolutely wrong”. 👍. Who is advocating for funding to support families?!? People need to know what it is to be a ‘good enough’ parent. They also need access to support without condemnation when they can’t meet the standard. Without this approach, trauma will continue to compound throughout the generations.
Just in need too. Had my fiance dieing in my arms took two narcan on the street and the couple more in the hospital. And she's a narcissist it's horrible I want to send this to her thanks bro
Get to ALAnon. You can learn so much that will help you deal with this. Invest the time. Best wishes.
40:38 “Yeah, context is one of these words, that we have now, that’s become like; well by context, what do you mean by context now?”
This is one of my favorite episodes, Dr.Drew is so personable and explains everything well. He does a good job explaining how the media is impacting our society today. As the parent of three young adults this was informative and relevant.
IKR. Dr Drew is like one of the nicest people ever. Its very strange to see the people who pride themselves on how kind and compassionate and intelligent they are have such extreme vitriol for him.
Excellent interview… A must share
This is an EXCELLENT interview- if I ruled the world, everyone would have to watch it. I definitely will share 💖❤️ .. thank you 🙏🏻
Thanks for sharing!!
Thank you for talking about the central nervous system and codependency.
"Status is enhanced by having a mental health issue." ... "I don't know how to deal with that..." This is hard for most of us to grasp until you understand how pervasive Critical Race Theory is in the educational system. Everyone is categorized as either oppressor or oppressed. No child wants to be seen as an oppressor. There's a hierarchy of victimhood and so the more boxes you can check, the more oppressed you are. This is one reason there is an explosion in the number of kids identifying as trans. Every child going through puberty feels out of place in their own skin. Instead of it being normalized and helping adolescents cope with it, the world around them makes them question if they're in the right body.
Anyway, having a mental health issue is one way kids avoid being ostracized as an oppressor.
Well put .. and those facts are quite upsetting and unsettling
First time here, Strong episode. Can relate. Beautiful interview. Thank you.🙏🏽
Glad I clicked this. Love you man thanks for doing ur part to save America CUS WE NEED SAVING. We need better food in schools I'm hoping we can find a way to help at least communities grow some healthy food for the school and remove fluorescent lights so bad
Such a simple thing to have edible gardens in every school.
Profound. Awesome session gentlemen!
I do miss hearing Drew on loveline.
Wow! Revelations just popping off in my head . Makes so much sense!!! Ty!
I highly enjoyed this interview. With Dr Drew, there is hope.
Dr. Drew is a gem. Been listening to him since Loveline back in the day. Great interview
Stop giving your 10 year olds smart phones and get them away from the heathens in public schools.
I hope Dr. Drew will be doing more lectures and interviews .
What a fantastically opinionated real human being! I recently discovered that opinionated could be a compliment and an asset for the possessor of this often maligned quality. Most wonderful interview. As a defender of the male since forever (I am a first-born female) it is so heartening to see the emergence of the whole man. I am subscribing.
Dr drew is a amazing American. Like Judge Joe Brown he says it like it is and the truth. Even though it’s detrimental to his career. I appreciate his ballllz
That sounds like some crackhead behavior to me
I love Dr. Drew!! And his wife Lisa is amazing. Keep up the honesty Dr. Drew.
Thank you Dr Drew…I listen to you! You offer sanity…to the ‘doubting Thomas!’ More therapy is what we need…and more Dr Drew types to facilitate great progress! ❤
@14:50 is that missing chapter of The Mirror Effect available anywhere? I started reading about the French Revolution and French philosophy of that era back in 2019 because the crazy of that era has been seeping into ours, it would be amazing to read Dr. Drew's take on it.
i've been a fan of Dr. Drew ever since loveline on mtv and it's always been a breath of fresh air hearing him speak his mind!
I love Dr. Drew. He's such a great example as a human. He's always learning and growing and pursuing being a better human.
Really enjoyed this interview & these conversations ~loved the dialog on news media or fear industry ... thank you
thanks for watching!
@DadSavesAmerica watch the full video - was so well done - intelligent & thoughtful & hard topic - not easily done... bravo👏👏👏
Around 54 minute mark he talks about Al-Anon!!! I rarely hear about the Al-Anon Family Groups. It has helped me for more than 15 years. If people understoood how much they are affected by someone's addiction, that 12-step program would be the largest.
Thank you for discussing the way you handled kids alcohol at parties. When my daughter grew up said she was too afraid to do anything “are you kidding?”because “the world would stop” So actually my children are cleaner than me and my husband. 😊
I just found this chancel and listened to a couple of the videos and I was like wow. What an awesome channel ❤
Welcome aboard!
thnx Dr. Drew for these insights
I’ve been off social media for years and haven’t looked back.
I was hooked on coke/crack and alcohol. It leads to mental problems, homelessness etc. But Meth and opioids/fentanyl will be the total downfall of this country. But it is really a moral problem. Btw, I love the doc, no b.s., just straight up truth.
This is such a good conversation. Dr. Drew is awesome and knows what he’s talking about.
I had never considered the correlation but it makes perfect sense when stated simply. Thanks
I’m 22. I grew up on video games. We never had internet though. I also however was very active in wrestling and gymnastics. I will say without a doubt that screens and the internet are single handedly destroying our youths attention spans and motivation. I now teach gymnastics, and the amount of kids that are basically useless sacks of bones are insane. These kids today have no ambition, no skills, no drive, nothing. They just want to awkwardly exist in this weird state of half computer/human
Try first yoga for them,then pilates,then running,then exercise (weights),then gymnastics.
@@ms-jl6dl And meditation and hiking in nature.
I am a retired shrink practiced in nyc for decades and i used to say to my male patients( they only came in for sexual problems ),that it was strength not weakness to be honest with self or others about negative emotions like fear, worthlessness, etc..I encouraged them to start mens support groups 40 yrs ago, this argument about redefining what male strength is was right on, it is hard for men to do this, so it takes courage and that is male strength!
This interview was so good.