When my ex-wife and I separated, she wanted to move to another city and take our children with her, a boy (6 years old) and a girl (5 years old). She initiated legal proceedings and, incomprehensibly, won in the first instance. During this time, I read *The Boy Crisis* and other similar literature. Had I not read your work and educated myself on the subject in general, I would never have fought so hard to get my children back. Six months later, I won the case, and they were able to move back with me. I owe a part of my strength to fight during the darkest times to you, who have made this issue your life's work.
I'm sorry you had to go thru that my friend. Proverbs 14 says "A truly wise woman Builds up her own house, but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands".
You may have won your children back, but ultimately your children have lost. They have lost simply because their parents decided they were objects to be fought over.
This was an awesome talk! As a man raised in a household where we lost our dad to cancer at a young age, it helped piece together some things for me. Thank you.
Love that part you said! the parents? Genuinely! So kids are in a conflict! At what age are they really understanding! Imagine kids with learning disabilities! Wow 👌
Love your podcast and always enjoy hearing for Warren Farrell...we do have a coutry to save as Dads. Thank you for being in the parental trenches with all of us at Father-Con.
Dads can set an example of opening up his figurative heart and encourage his son or daughter can do the same in an truthful and respectful way . When everyone gets heard there are plenty of winners all around. The dinner table gathering can become a safe haven or a spiritual warzone.
It’s my first time on this channel. I have Been a big fan of WF for a long time, however A specific section (4 mins) of this interview allowed me to understand a period of my life that never made sense before. Very appreciated thank you.
I wonder how Dr. Farrell determines the difference between a prisoner who genuinely has an insight into their potential, and prisoners who see a potential route to early release.
30:00 the problem with saying "yeah men can be stay at home dads too now", shows a lack of understanding of female arousal and attraction. A woman earning significantly more has been shown to precipitate divorce. Women bristle at thr idea of having to support a man "long term" , and be the breadwinner. Also if the woman is working and seeing corporate sharp suited, dominant , aggressive, go getting men in the office, being chased by other women (mate copying), and then comes back home to a stay at home low earning Dad smelling of baby milk, she's not goig to be aroused. Its a downward spiral... She initiate divorce, get primary custody, get child support, get alimony etc. Men have zero choice to be stay at home Dad because women would leave
The stay at home dad just has to be the Casanova of the stay at home moms…like in Mr Mom the one mom was trying to join up with Michael Keaton. Lol. I actually agree with you. For most of the relationships I know where the wife makes more (he doesn’t even stay home, he is still working) the husband is pretty henpecked.
I was raised by woman, i didn't have a dad. My dad lost himself on drugs... Until this day i remember with deep sadness how i used to believe that it was ok not to have a dad, that as long as i had mom everything is equaly fine. In my mind dads weren't nesessary....how!!!?? Where did this believe came from? I didn't create it....
Your life experience taught you that. The reality is that life went on, you still had love and guidance every day. You still had a roof over your head and clothes on your back. You had food to eat and friends to play with. You still had school and everything else. Life did not stop and the world didn't end nor did you experience a near death reaction to not having a dad in the home. You adapted to the environment and everything was actually fine. So that's why you felt like it was ok and Dad wasn't necessary. People who don't have Dad and Mom is also unstable and incapable as a parent grow up with a very different view on this than you did. I grew up like you. I didn't have my dad, but mom stepped up to the plate and I felt like it was fine. But I had friends that were being raised by grandparents who felt very different.
Honest and deep conversation about interesting topics. So many thinks dads and also mums need to know! Thanx a lot! i am following you from Germany. Am Teacher in the german school system facing the same problems you‘ re discribing. Unfortunately no publisher dares to translate this book ‚Boy Crisis‘ into German language….. The feminist gender paradigm has taken control of leading media……
Oh and to soften up a few percent on what i said about the mental health thing, particularly about the help, it's a mixed bag who goes in and it's a mixed bag what helps and doesn't help and i don't think it was full on personal enough to say it but like it's there you know, hard to explain. If they would do it right it might not be so bad to roll out the mental health thing and contain some people better but i don't trust it enough to really be for it it's not good enough.
20:28 There is one other option for men. If the husband's choice is to work full time if the wife and mother chooses to work full time, the man - instead of working to subsidize a 3rd party to raise your children in absentia, is to change career paths so you can be more available for the kids.
Sons need their father.. not any man. Women seem to think they can dispose of the biological father, drag their sons with them like a baby doll and another man can raise the son. It doesn’t work this way.
Alright one more... I just thought of something like if trash could breakdown to something that can generate electricity in the sun, maybe as it wears out like a disposable battery of a solar panel, one to help things to break down a little more gently than they could for another thing and that might help with some waste problems for something.
Also I gotta say something about mental health, in my experience they can say anything they want and the patient's course of action is limited. People can tell a story and get people put in the hospital and the doctor doesn't know shit first, don't seem to want to and it's just a way of processing people mostly. Getting irritated is a disease, having a negative opinion of them is some kind of word, like if you want them to say you're 'better' it's sad that they give you a bad name for having a bad review but it's real. They can use mental health to get right past all your rights too, and over speach if they want, beliefs if they want, any lip they don't like, you don't get a jury you don't get an investigation and no not the doctor so much but they'll say it is bit the doctor comes around and basically sniffs a few minutes and the judge knows less than that and makes big decisions that commit months and years of people's lives to whatever they said and yeah it's pretty bad. Can't own a gun.. that's where they're coming from right now to take over I think, rolling out the mental health narrative. That medicine sterilized a lot of people too. What I got for my eighteenth birthday basically and I was an inventor already. Never got shit for it but someone did but my claims get written down as rants and delusions whenever they want and what they put on people's names is like their way of domination and talking back but they put on that face where they were just making notes that were unfortunately too much one way or the other for their opinions. Noone checking them either. My problems are with them in Alabama and it needs addressing but I haven't seen any help yet that's why I do this on people's videos... Oh yeah if you wonder, yes my shit was taken and otherwise disposed with while I was locked up for no crimes on noone that knew me said so because some legal hear say and shit and it was two times that happened by 25 and I get the feeling these Hindus are covering each others asses with their opinions of people, but there's more that's shady too. I don't want to keep going.
59:00 Stop having the baby of men out of your league you never had any chance of locking down because he had better female options than you. Stop divorcing your husband. Be better, more appreciative wives. . Lose the entitlement. A relationship is an exchange of value; so be valuable enough to your man that he Willingly wants to be with you. .
Ill paste another one that was my comment but it's older. Here in Alabama I think that the hemp thc and all that limits is good for edibles and I recommend it more however i think we should legalize weed... even though we need a lottory i think not having one is good for states around and a different neighbor is a different world around you know, but weed the plant im for it, i want to grow, eat, smoke, make craft and things with the fiber, whatever i want, and coca the plant too and if the PLANT of coca was just legal, people could get off of the concentrated stuff. There's one... I just thought of something like if trash could breakdown to something that can generate electricity in the sun, maybe as it wears out like a disposable battery of a solar panel, one to help things to break down a little more gently than they could for another thing and that might help with some waste problems for something. That was another one... I think a lighter equipped navy like small boats and more military trips that are like sponsored vaycations, light work in a way for soldiers in these teams of boats, equipped with light arms and less lethal stuff. Might could carry aid on the regular. That was another one... I think South Africa should be on the table for the powers of the world to negotiate over, call it a diplomatic zone and be like who gonna say no? Other places might not "deserve" it as much but it could turn a story away from war. That was another one.
reached minute 18 and I so disagree with what he says, that because dads are more of the time away they are less significant to the kids. we home-school our kids. i spend so much more time with the kids than my husband does, who works full time. He is at least as significant as me, if not the more significant parent, because he is much more fun, he is very involved, and he does things with them that i can't
Good point... And he does make it seem all men are gone far away. MANY men own their own businesses. I own my own business... Here's my POV: yes the hours are long... But they are flexible. My kids come to my business, play at my business, grow up learning WAY more about hard work and business than if I had a cubicle where kids are not allowed. You can be a man that works and still be very involved with your kids. BTW- good for you for homeschooling!
This is good to know, but also one sided. Women don't have the same access to health. Most medicines etc were tested in men and the biology of a woman is not the same. How will you explain, that most women never had the choice whether or not they would like to work. The simply stayed at home. From experiences, I have never met a man that wanted to stay home with the kids. It is sad that you play it so, that women lose if they also play a role in the workforce or get an education. Women suffer as well if they don't have a father figure growing up. It's universal and not proned to men. For me it is sad, that people don't see the different needs that boys and girls have, when they grow up or even in adulthood. I think the world is in a general crisis. Not only men have anxiety and are faced with concepts put on them by society.
Since gender is a social construct, a female parent can play the role of father as well as a male parent. So that way a dad is not needed if mom can be a dad. That two parents is better than one is another matter.
When my ex-wife and I separated, she wanted to move to another city and take our children with her, a boy (6 years old) and a girl (5 years old). She initiated legal proceedings and, incomprehensibly, won in the first instance. During this time, I read *The Boy Crisis* and other similar literature.
Had I not read your work and educated myself on the subject in general, I would never have fought so hard to get my children back. Six months later, I won the case, and they were able to move back with me. I owe a part of my strength to fight during the darkest times to you, who have made this issue your life's work.
I'm sorry you had to go thru that my friend. Proverbs 14 says "A truly wise woman
Builds up her own house, but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands".
You may have won your children back, but ultimately your children have lost. They have lost simply because their parents decided they were objects to be fought over.
Read "The Boy Crisis" and it changed my life. Thank you Dr Farrell
My husband and I have some homework to do.
This was an awesome talk! As a man raised in a household where we lost our dad to cancer at a young age, it helped piece together some things for me. Thank you.
Fantastic. Our society is so far away from this discussion becoming mainstream
I agree sons needs dads. Thank you for listening sincerely about this situation.
“Human-doing as opposed to a human being” Powerful!!💯
We never talked like that!
Love that part you said! the parents? Genuinely! So kids are in a conflict! At what age are they really understanding! Imagine kids with learning disabilities! Wow 👌
Love your podcast and always enjoy hearing for Warren Farrell...we do have a coutry to save as Dads. Thank you for being in the parental trenches with all of us at Father-Con.
Dads can set an example of opening up his figurative heart and encourage his son or daughter can do the same in an truthful and respectful way .
When everyone gets heard there are plenty of winners all around.
The dinner table gathering can become a safe haven or a spiritual warzone.
It’s my first time on this channel. I have Been a big fan of WF for a long time, however A specific section (4 mins) of this interview allowed me to understand a period of my life that never made sense before. Very appreciated thank you.
Thank you for sharing! This warms my heart and is the reason we work hard to put this content out there in the world.
I wonder how Dr. Farrell determines the difference between a prisoner who genuinely has an insight into their potential, and prisoners who see a potential route to early release.
Thanks. It was an eye opening discussion which needs attention.
30:00 the problem with saying "yeah men can be stay at home dads too now", shows a lack of understanding of female arousal and attraction. A woman earning significantly more has been shown to precipitate divorce. Women bristle at thr idea of having to support a man "long term" , and be the breadwinner.
Also if the woman is working and seeing corporate sharp suited, dominant , aggressive, go getting men in the office, being chased by other women (mate copying), and then comes back home to a stay at home low earning Dad smelling of baby milk, she's not goig to be aroused. Its a downward spiral...
She initiate divorce, get primary custody, get child support, get alimony etc.
Men have zero choice to be stay at home Dad because women would leave
The stay at home dad just has to be the Casanova of the stay at home moms…like in Mr Mom the one mom was trying to join up with Michael Keaton. Lol. I actually agree with you. For most of the relationships I know where the wife makes more (he doesn’t even stay home, he is still working) the husband is pretty henpecked.
If the high earning woman divorces the stay-at-home dad... She won't get spousal support, HE will. Lol.
I was raised by woman, i didn't have a dad. My dad lost himself on drugs...
Until this day i remember with deep sadness how i used to believe that it was ok not to have a dad, that as long as i had mom everything is equaly fine. In my mind dads weren't nesessary....how!!!??
Where did this believe came from?
I didn't create it....
Your life experience taught you that. The reality is that life went on, you still had love and guidance every day. You still had a roof over your head and clothes on your back. You had food to eat and friends to play with. You still had school and everything else. Life did not stop and the world didn't end nor did you experience a near death reaction to not having a dad in the home. You adapted to the environment and everything was actually fine. So that's why you felt like it was ok and Dad wasn't necessary. People who don't have Dad and Mom is also unstable and incapable as a parent grow up with a very different view on this than you did. I grew up like you. I didn't have my dad, but mom stepped up to the plate and I felt like it was fine. But I had friends that were being raised by grandparents who felt very different.
Excuatly have more rights than our dads, and mom had!
Fantastic content - thanks.
thank you so much for this...
Right on piont👌
True!
This is very important
Honest and deep conversation about interesting topics. So many thinks dads and also mums need to know!
Thanx a lot!
i am following you from Germany. Am Teacher in the german school system facing the same problems you‘ re discribing. Unfortunately no publisher dares to translate this book ‚Boy Crisis‘ into German language…..
The feminist gender paradigm has taken control of leading media……
Oh and to soften up a few percent on what i said about the mental health thing, particularly about the help, it's a mixed bag who goes in and it's a mixed bag what helps and doesn't help and i don't think it was full on personal enough to say it but like it's there you know, hard to explain. If they would do it right it might not be so bad to roll out the mental health thing and contain some people better but i don't trust it enough to really be for it it's not good enough.
Thanks TH-cam for helping me! Spell! And cellphone 📱?
Before I became a father, the dream was a life of luxury. Now, all I want is more time with my kids.
I think it's important for children to understand how things affect them but who do you trust to give that lesson?
20:28
There is one other option for men. If the husband's choice is to work full time if the wife and mother chooses to work full time, the man - instead of working to subsidize a 3rd party to raise your children in absentia, is to change career paths so you can be more available for the kids.
Sons need their father.. not any man. Women seem to think they can dispose of the biological father, drag their sons with them like a baby doll and another man can raise the son. It doesn’t work this way.
Alright one more...
I just thought of something like if trash could breakdown to something that can generate electricity in the sun, maybe as it wears out like a disposable battery of a solar panel, one to help things to break down a little more gently than they could for another thing and that might help with some waste problems for something.
Know as people that get lost easily?
Also I gotta say something about mental health, in my experience they can say anything they want and the patient's course of action is limited. People can tell a story and get people put in the hospital and the doctor doesn't know shit first, don't seem to want to and it's just a way of processing people mostly. Getting irritated is a disease, having a negative opinion of them is some kind of word, like if you want them to say you're 'better' it's sad that they give you a bad name for having a bad review but it's real. They can use mental health to get right past all your rights too, and over speach if they want, beliefs if they want, any lip they don't like, you don't get a jury you don't get an investigation and no not the doctor so much but they'll say it is bit the doctor comes around and basically sniffs a few minutes and the judge knows less than that and makes big decisions that commit months and years of people's lives to whatever they said and yeah it's pretty bad. Can't own a gun.. that's where they're coming from right now to take over I think, rolling out the mental health narrative. That medicine sterilized a lot of people too. What I got for my eighteenth birthday basically and I was an inventor already. Never got shit for it but someone did but my claims get written down as rants and delusions whenever they want and what they put on people's names is like their way of domination and talking back but they put on that face where they were just making notes that were unfortunately too much one way or the other for their opinions. Noone checking them either. My problems are with them in Alabama and it needs addressing but I haven't seen any help yet that's why I do this on people's videos...
Oh yeah if you wonder, yes my shit was taken and otherwise disposed with while I was locked up for no crimes on noone that knew me said so because some legal hear say and shit and it was two times that happened by 25 and I get the feeling these Hindus are covering each others asses with their opinions of people, but there's more that's shady too. I don't want to keep going.
You know Hindus are trying to stir up a holocaust on Christians in India
im a sceptic but I agree with this guys stats.. I notice the same relative to someone around 31 y/o male.
I’d like to know how many women have bought his books and listened to his speeches
Are there any good books in regards to being a father to a daughter? Is "the Boy Crisis" applicable to being a father to a daughter?
59:00 Stop having the baby of men out of your league you never had any chance of locking down because he had better female options than you.
Stop divorcing your husband. Be better, more appreciative wives.
. Lose the entitlement. A relationship is an exchange of value; so be valuable enough to your man that he Willingly wants to be with you. .
@@nemaveze9277 Sounds like someone wasn't spanked enough by their last bf ;)
I often joked that if not having children is selfish, I need to be shown the altruism of baby trappers and welfarites.
Ill paste another one that was my comment but it's older.
Here in Alabama I think that the hemp thc and all that limits is good for edibles and I recommend it more however i think we should legalize weed... even though we need a lottory i think not having one is good for states around and a different neighbor is a different world around you know, but weed the plant im for it, i want to grow, eat, smoke, make craft and things with the fiber, whatever i want, and coca the plant too and if the PLANT of coca was just legal, people could get off of the concentrated stuff.
There's one...
I just thought of something like if trash could breakdown to something that can generate electricity in the sun, maybe as it wears out like a disposable battery of a solar panel, one to help things to break down a little more gently than they could for another thing and that might help with some waste problems for something.
That was another one...
I think a lighter equipped navy like small boats and more military trips that are like sponsored vaycations, light work in a way for soldiers in these teams of boats, equipped with light arms and less lethal stuff. Might could carry aid on the regular.
That was another one...
I think South Africa should be on the table for the powers of the world to negotiate over, call it a diplomatic zone and be like who gonna say no? Other places might not "deserve" it as much but it could turn a story away from war.
That was another one.
Here from BB. U2?
cool
reached minute 18 and I so disagree with what he says, that because dads are more of the time away they are less significant to the kids. we home-school our kids. i spend so much more time with the kids than my husband does, who works full time. He is at least as significant as me, if not the more significant parent, because he is much more fun, he is very involved, and he does things with them that i can't
Good point... And he does make it seem all men are gone far away.
MANY men own their own businesses.
I own my own business... Here's my POV: yes the hours are long... But they are flexible. My kids come to my business, play at my business, grow up learning WAY more about hard work and business than if I had a cubicle where kids are not allowed.
You can be a man that works and still be very involved with your kids.
BTW- good for you for homeschooling!
Your family is a great example of a solution to strive for, but do you think that your experience is the general rule, or an exception?
This is good to know, but also one sided.
Women don't have the same access to health. Most medicines etc were tested in men and the biology of a woman is not the same.
How will you explain, that most women never had the choice whether or not they would like to work. The simply stayed at home. From experiences, I have never met a man that wanted to stay home with the kids.
It is sad that you play it so, that women lose if they also play a role in the workforce or get an education.
Women suffer as well if they don't have a father figure growing up. It's universal and not proned to men.
For me it is sad, that people don't see the different needs that boys and girls have, when they grow up or even in adulthood.
I think the world is in a general crisis.
Not only men have anxiety and are faced with concepts put on them by society.
Step one wake up
Step two get a job
Since gender is a social construct, a female parent can play the role of father as well as a male parent. So that way a dad is not needed if mom can be a dad. That two parents is better than one is another matter.
It’s not a social construct. It’s physical mating biology tools to keep the human race going.
Guilty
i get it, solution is to put dads at home and moms go to work and climb the corporate ladder, feminists win
I guess lol
Disposable male
Its Very sad There IS only 7k views on this gem.