Signs Your Husband Doesn't Love You Anymore | Paul Friedman
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ม.ค. 2020
- This serious topic is covered by Paul Friedman with candor and sympathy.
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Here's the truth of the matter. If you're feeling your husband doesn't love you anymore and there are all kinds of degrees of this. Let's back up a little. Let me tell you right now that this is extremely fixable.
Most people wait too long before they start addressing these kinds of issues but usually not too long so it's still addressable in an easier way and I'm going to give you two ways.
1. If your husband is really insensitive towards you, what you do is you look at yourself. If you love somebody, what are the traits that you manifest? You're very caring so if your husband doesn't care anymore he's become sort of apathetic, not a good sign. If you're looking at other men that's really a bad sign. If he's looking at other women it's also a bad sign. If he's starting to use porn, most women don't do that but if he started to use porn, not a good sign. If he's starting to berate you, put you down, disqualify you, criticize you at the drop of a pin, make fun of you, tease you, hurt your feelings intentionally these are all valid signs.
I may not have hit the sign that is happening in your marriage but trusts your instincts on this because your instincts are probably right on.
What do you do?
Don't freak out. You're married so you have this till death do we part template over your marriage which unfortunately is not highly regarded so much anymore but you're still under one roof. You're still living together so there are major changes that you can make and you can bring that love back out.
Here's the thing and this is a little esoteric granted but it's still the truth. You're a soul, he's a soul. The essence of you is the soul -- that's who you are and a soul is nothing but love so the love doesn't really disappear. What's really happening is it's getting blocked and honestly if your husband is not feeling love towards you anymore or he's discouraged by you and he's seeking love elsewhere there's a lot you can do about that.
It's like if someone comes to you and they want some candy and you don't have any they'll go somewhere else. I'm not saying love is candy but I'm just using this as an analogy so men marry women because women have this hard quality where they can express unconditional love much better than they can, and if that's not happening anymore you just have to turn that switch on and it's the same switch you had on when you were dating. It's the one letting him know that he's the most important person in the world.
Look, if it's got to this degree and I'm giving you this advice and it's very simple. You turn it back on. I'm going to tell you that you might as well go for it. People don't realize, they think marital bliss is some kind of greeting card, imagination thing but it's not, it's real but you need to know how to do that.
Both of my books lay marriage out in a way where you learn what to do and what not to do and the why. You learn about the composite of a man based on his gender, body, mind, and soul and about yourself. You learn how to communicate better. You learn all these things that you really should have learned before you got married and it'll come back together.
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I discovered my wife was having an affair 7 years ago. I was devastated to my core. It ravaged my soul for several years. I was beyond heartbroken. She did not care. She never once ever dhowed any type of sorrow, guilt or regret. In a blink, all trust gone, 16 years shattered, It literally brought me to my knees. I’ve forgiven her for her infidelity, but the feelings I once had for are gone. I don’t love her in a way a husband should love his wife, its more of a basic, have to type love because we have a daughter together. I stayed for our daughter. Our daughter is almost 18 now and told me I should’ve left her back then. Shes right, I should’ve
You did the right thing by staying in your marriage for the sake of your daughter. Now, you can start your new life without guilt, and you can focus on finding happiness. God bless you 🙏
Your voice is the most relaxing voice I have ever heard .
1. Insensitive towards you
2. Looking at other women/porn
3. Berate you, put you down, hurt your feelings.
4. Trust your instincts
My husband said he loves me but is not in love with me. He ignores me when I get him. Hi e said he doesn’t want to talk. He spends most time with helping friends. I’ve tried to be loving and understanding, and he refuses to be around me. He passed me and goes to our kids room to talk with them.
More importantly we need to come from a place of love than merely "showing" it. In your case I suggest you get the course for women. If you already have it than change your focus to your heart instead of displays. themarriagefoundation.org/
I’m going through this now.. and it hurts. He was away in Mexico for 4 1/2 months, he came home last week and didn’t embrace me. I welcomed him home with open arms, and he’s been distant.. hmmm? I’m currently sleeping on the couch. It’s weird and I hate it. And every time I mention anything about our relationship, he gets angry.
same here
Some of the greatest advice that I was told is that it's okay to fall in and out of love with your spouse. I thought that once you weren't in love anymore, it was over because that was such a big part of marriage for me. It's normal for our feelings to diminish. I learned to allow our relationship the opportunity to "bounce" back into love and as many times as I've found myself no longer in love anymore. I stayed in the relationship and found myself back in love again. There's hope. Don't give up! Keep loving him!❤️
@@junerockstar9969 Why did you put yourself on the couch??
Lol “don’t go to marriage counseling…none of those things work.” Haha that’s for sure! This guy is brilliant!
Your wife is super blessed to have you as a husband
I am super blessed to be married to my wife. Each of us is so blessed but most husbands and wives focus on the wrong things and ruins their own day.
Sounds good. I have nothing to lose by trying. It looks hopeless, but this one video talk give me a tiny bit of hope.
Use wisdom in choosing the help you will need (our course for women is fantastic) so your efforts are not in vain. Then you will succeed.
You can be selfish, irresponsible and say you love your husband, then you don’t love him. You just don’t think he will leave.
your so compassionate Paul , you just seem to come off vert sincere ❤
Loved your suggestion .....thank you so much
How!?? Where do I start!?? He wants out.. he doesn’t even want to touch me.. he have no love for me.. 😭
start with the course for women
I am back to say that this one was a very strong one. My simple mind was able this time to catch quickly on the meaning of you saying that we are souls, and soul is love, so love between couples still there but something is blocking it.
I jumped and went see my husband and I opened up to him while believing YES IT COULD BE FIXED, and it worked 😊
So thank you for your generosity. 💕
Thank you. I needed this. I look forward to reading your books.
1. Learn about and master the mind so you can be happy.
2. Learning how to behave, and not behave in marriage friendly ways
3. Make unconditional love and ever-expanding happiness your primary and constant missions.
Go to themarriagefoundation.org and get the course if you need it. Now is not the time to experiment. It is the time for positive action.
I wish i could meet a man IRL that just spoke to me the way you speak. Not even for romance or anything like that. Because so many men are so aggressive, even with normal speech. The way you speak is so different to most men
Hi Paul, thank you
You are very welcome🙏
I like how you explained this ❤
What if he has mental health problems that treatment isn’t helping and no matter how much unconditional love and passion you pour in, he still hurts you on a regular basis and he says he’s sorry but he never SHOWS he’s sorry. How long am I supposed to be patient and be there for a man who isn’t there for me?
He’s the only man I’ve ever loved and I thought he loved me passionately, but now I’m seeing he doesn’t care. I think his love has always been fake just so he could keep mine, because he doesn’t change.
Think about the meaning of "in sickness and in health" before you leave him. But if he is physically hurting you, that's different
@@TheMarriageFoundation It’s not physical. And you’re right. I vowed to stay by his side in sickness and in health. Thank you. We are trying to work through it together.
What if my husband says he loves me but never gives me any sexual attention like flirting, play touch while I'm cooking, or give me any sex when I ask or initiate? He only wants sex when he wants it, and he feels like holding hands while watching TV is good enough? He can never tell me what he likes about my body. I tell him exactly what I want and need. My love language is words of affirmation, and physical touch. He is very narcissistic. He also get extremely jealous when he sees a man look at me, or if he thinks I'm saying hi to our neighbors. What the hell is going on? He also says I don't deserve attention. I've changed my whole life for him. Got rid of all of my friends, cook, clean, work full time, raise our son. It's like he wants full control, but won't "reward" me with attention that I need. Seriously what is going on here?
Get the course for women themarriagefoundation.org/
You just said he is narsistic perhaps he needs a clinical Social Worker
Leave him, thing will never get better, no matter what you do will not change a thing. My ex husband was the same and I change my whole life for him, I done everything he wanted me to do and more but he still wanted more. It took me 8 years to realise that I had to leave before i waste any more time but it left me broken, confused, my self-esteem shattered and don’t know where to start with my life. The manipulation was another game. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
pleasing someone is not giving up your life period
It sounds like your husband is checked out.
I'm sorry ❤
Dear Paul, apologies if I'm wrong but you seem to always advise to look inwards at our own faults first. I understand this to some extend, but what if one already has a stong tendency to take the blame for everything which has a very negative effect on one's already low self-worth? I would love your thoughts on this - thank you.
Looking inward and finding fault with ourselves are two very different things. Looking inward is to find the love and learn to identify with ourselves, the soul. Our outer world is the dualistic challange to behave rightly, but we are souls and should always behave with love, not reactionarily.
@@TheMarriageFoundation Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, Paul. I'm not sure I understand, sadly. Is taking the blame when it feels unfair and being submissive for the sake of peace and potentially preventing an argument the right thing to do? I'd really like to better understand your message. Thank you.
Learn to cultivate love. Never entertain faults or fault-finding. That leads to so much pain. You must sit still and feel the love in your heart, that is God speaking to you. He loves you unconditionally and we must learn to love as He loves. That is the secret to life.
Are there any lessons for men?
Where is the fine line for emotional abuse?
Before you label your spouse you must be willing to self-scrutinize and it is better to learn how to be married before you do that. Get one of my books or get the course for women. themarriagefoundation.org/
And if ,my husband always ignore to talk to me , don't want to spend time with me ...
We spend time with those we like being with, Become more appealing and he will want to spend more time with you. Thats what we all do,
My husband says he dont love me from the start. He was force to marry me because he is broke that time. We been for together for 12 yrs and 6yrs married and im planning to leave him this yr. I am sooo lost don't know what to do but I want to runaway from the situation im in 😭
Write to our counselors...But, do you have children?
@@TheMarriageFoundation no i don't have any children
@@helenalove3289 Then get out!
@@helenalove3289 what if you have children?
@@vanessalopez5346 you confirmed you don’t have kids..
You do or you don’t.
thank you
Hi paul my husband told me his feelings have changed what should i do now. I feel so much pain
Look into the course for women
Thank you. I need to hear something like this 😔
My husband keeps secrets. His ban acct he constantly forms relationships with other women online he ignores me tells how pretty other younger girls are prettier than me I’m not allowed to touch his cell phone.
It is time to get the course for women I would say themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Omg I can help my parents
He says I m only his wife on the papers. He says I m not his woman. Not touching me anymore, he doesn't care for me anymore. When I try to approach he shows disgust. 😓💔
The course for women will lift you from this terrible place, and the results are guaranteed. themarriagefoundation.org/
I love your confidence!
Amazing 👏
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Hi there this is happening to me right now thanks for video
Same
My husband watches xxx and he has had pics and vids from females and said “it was just a game”
I don’t think it’s ok
And now he’s working so far for work
Its not a game. It is a sure sign that your marriage is not working for him and the solution for you is to take the course for women....really!
Some of what you are saying is on point, I am very skeptical about your book though, probably won’t be buying it.
If a little of what I say helps you then I am happy 🙏
Thank you
Bless you. 🙏
I am married for 31 years and my husband is loking a other person. I am very secure of my self but this make so sad I dont iven no what to do.....
Of course you don't know what to do but our course for women is what you NEED to do
How I wish I had his time without demanding.. Constant communication and love the way he does with another woman he spent time made affair with.. Even though you've been very straight of protecting your marriage.. Do you have any advise for moving forward instead me getting all hurt in all aspects.. How to live life atleast in peace and somehow with happiness according to God's plan.. If he never show effort of honest relationship.
Your marriage is far from ove and it is good you found us so you can do something that will work... themarriagefoundation.org/system/
What is the name of your book for women?
Go to the website to see our offerings themarriagefoundation.org/
What if he is a narcissistic verbally abusive jerk
Then there is a problem with how YOU feel. Anger blocks the heart like nothing else.
@@TheMarriageFoundation 😶😶😶
Please look elsewhere than this video for help with that. It is not your fault. I can’t believe how this man responded to you. God will show you a way. God bless
@@TheMarriageFoundationum, no. This response totally DISCREDITS your advice. Are you for real?
I don't love my husband anymore at all, he's been cheating to an extent he no longer hides it, sometimes we do have sex but I end up feeling dirty and experience self loathing, deep regret I don't know what to do, am planning on leaving him
Many women choose to change rather than just complain and quit. Those are who we can help themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Hello sir....!
I am from india . And my problem is that my husband loves me but he always listen to his mother. If she is not right,still he listen....sometimes takes my side....protects me....but he is so aggressive...and even because of marriage related issues (sir my marriage ceremony was not satisfied for my in laws) my husband do not respect my mother and my mother says leave him.....
So my question is.....
Is it good to leave husband if the issues are related to fight between both our parents? If they are not satisfied with situation?
Or is that good to leave husband if my in laws disrespect me....or torchur me??
You started that you are from India and I am not aware of societal restrictions or Indian mothers. I am sorry I cannot help you with these issues.
It is you to take the decision ..be independent first.
It says in the Bible a man should love his wife as he loves himself and to leave the family emotionally and start a new life with you and him . Parents are supposed to take a backseat to the wife in Christianity
Move out and live separately even in a one room apartment with husband, that way parents have limited interference
Red pill
How long I don’t know sind 2004 am care alone but he never and never call me something that blog everything
But I try and try alone
I’m a good mama and good wife and good worker am a hard working person am tried every day but I always take care of kids and husband
Am feeling lost
Don't give up but get the knowledge you need to change your marriage. If your husband does not love you it is for reasons and it is up to you to change yourself into turly lovable. Don't blame him and don't blame yourself. Just learn...themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Your instinct is God's voice of love. Listen to it. Thanks for the good video! New subbie :)
One must listen in calmness and God speaks,.. to all of us. Then we use His gift of wisdom to make sure we listen to the right voice... good notice.
yes i agree i see all these signs coming from him ☹️☹️☹️💔😢😢😢😢😢💔💔💔💔💔💔
Now, do what you need to do!
Why not telling my friends?
A marriage is the most private and intimate space of all, Everything that happens within is special and so we do not share those treasures. When, out of not knowing we make mistakes and our marriage loses it's sweetest treasures of love and happiness the dramas build when others are included. Also, it has an element of disloyalty because problems are spoken of as complaints about your spouse.
1:37 ✔️ criticize on a drop of a pin.
Yes he doesnt love me ,i dont love him thats why we are perfect couple now ❤❤❤
no,no,no,no...don't give up! Become perfect in your love toward him and don't worry about him loving you. Become the perfect lover!
3:40 No...women don't express unconditional love. Their love is conditioned on what a man can provide for them.
Thats very cynical and mostly wrong. The problem is none of us are taught about unconditional love or that emotional "love" is not what any of us need and deeply desire, we want the real deal.
@@TheMarriageFoundation Respectfully, that might have been true 30 years ago. It's not true anymore.
30 years ago, a thousand years from now, and now...the purpose of marriage is to learn to love unconditionally, not point out the weakness of our soulmate.