Happy 2020. Let's make this year... and this decade... amazing! We all know that being polite can make social interactions smoother and easier. But its usefulness goes far beyond what your parents or teachers may have taught you. And it's not just about being "nice" or "politically correct" either. Learn how politeness can actually be a key conversational power move in this video. And for tons more on the nuances of how your words affect others, particularly women, check out verbalgameacademy.com
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Hey Todd, after RSD seems to be pivoting you have the biggest opportunity of your life. All the pseudo science out there is total bullshit. Is there any way you can create a forum? Can't find any good ones anymore.
Al Capone: You can do more, with a kind word and a gun, than just with a kind word. Napoleon Bonaparte: When I strike, i do it with a iron fist, put into a velvet glove. Niccolo Machiavelli: So therefore, a leader should seek to be loved and feared at the same time. Todd Vandehey: Be polite, but show her that you have a penis.
All jokes aside, I think Todd’s message is correct but “polite” is too weak of a word, so is “kind.” He does explain the importance of not being a pushover but he uses the words kind and polite so frequently throughout the video that it tonally goes against the “don’t be a nice guy “ message that he also states in this video. “Respect” may be a better word since you can be “warmly assertive” with girls yet still respect them as a person without letting them walk over you.
@@chrisjfox8715 Yes, i thought that as well at first. But what he obviosly means, is to simply come off as nice, while you stay emotional detached from bad situations. It also means, that you are socialized to some degree, so she can show herself in public with you, without embarisment. Thanks to social conditioning, beeing overly aggressive will make you look ugly. But beeing to nice, will get you nowhere either. The solution therefore, is to make bold moves, while covering it up with a bright smile and nice words. Thats how success of any kind works. After 1000s of years of humanity that somehow still works. I think we can all agree on this.
@@guerillastrategies9796 yeah again, I get and agree with the overall message. It's just the choice of words weakened the tone. Both the "but I'm a nice guy" types and the types that think being an asshole is the only way to get laid are pet peeves of mine. Don't be a pushover but there's no need to be a dick, I agree with.
@@chrisjfox8715 Ah ok i get it now. You seem to pay a lot attention to Voices and words. So am I [=. He should have you use other words, thats for sure.
Agreed. This dude tried to fight me last weekend because I spoke not even two sentences to the girl he was “with” (i.e., she was sitting down and he was standing up a couple bodies away). I said something to her that wasn’t even flirtatious but made her laugh nonetheless, but she pretty instantly backed off afterwards like she got scared....so I backed off. He still tried to make big issue out of it and challenge me and I’m like dude let it go, because I sure had already before he stepped in. Bottom line, it was clear to me that he called himself conveying strength when really and truly it just made him look insecure; I kept my cool and walked off. If a dude isn’t comfortable with his girl having random conversations with random dudes then he has trust issues. She seemed pretty disappointed that she couldn’t just be but kept quiet like she knew that’s how he gets sometimes -
@@johnyou35 YOUR definition of ugly is irrelevant, as well as whatever most girls think of your looks. All that matters are the girls you genuinely connect with; there are girls out there who care far more about how you make them feel than how you look, but if you have a significant lack of CONFIDENCE about your looks then those same girls arent gonna give you the time of day. Bottom line, it's not your call, my call, nor the call of people in general - it's solely up to the girl you're talking to...and if you've made the decision ahead of time that she's not gonna be into you because of your looks then she's gonna feel it. Your insecurity does far more damage than your face. I've literally heard girls say before (about some dude) that "He's not even that cute but *there's just something about him.*" And no, these weren't rich men.
Love it. Politeness is in my blood as a way of showing manly class. People don't get it doesn't mean your not "Alpha" or a wimp if you choose to be kind in a firm strong way. As it sets the bar you have standards in life.
Very true, this goes against much of what was taught during the 2012-2016 era in the community. This was because you were dealing with people who were coming from a place of being too nice and not assertive enough. Coming round full circle means you have had a full transformation
You can be polite and express anger at the same time. This was the way amoung gentleman in past centuries. "I said good day sir!" Politeness was also ensured by challenging a rude insulting person to a duel.
Be polite, and at the same time be comfortable getting aggressive when you need to. Anger is not a bad energy per say, it just needs to be channeled right
@@robertromero8094 When you get angry, just express it in a calm firm fashion to the person who angered you. Make sure you understand and that they also understand. Then you are free from this.
Ahmed Ironmaiden I don’t believe a man should ever act on emotion. Only time getting angry is acceptable is when someone touches my friends or family. Other than that I disagree with that statement.
@@DiamondsRexpensive if you ask a girl out and she says no, you getting angry at her is weakness. If you ask a girl out and she says yes and you jump for joy in happiness, thats weakness. If you cant understand this well good luck in life.
I like the setting in this video. I just imagine myself walking in the park running into this guy and he gives me some thorough advise on how to stop being weird
Thanks for being the guy who challenges the overly newb-focused angle of so much of the current dating-content. When watching the big player on the scene, whom I used to love watching in the early days, now it just feels overly front-end and like something that was rewarded early on for me, but becomes totally wrong at the stage I'm at now. I feel that many guys who have taken action for 3+ years get left in a sort of limbo with very little good advice from the community, and are forced to take that next big jump (where the rules seem to be, in many cases, very different), practically on their own, or at least away from the community which helped get them there. You seem to be taking some steps to build a bridge from that point, and I applaud you.
Todd I always learn new something new from your videos, and I always go back to watch the old ones when I feel like I'm rusty. Thanks for helping me be a better person
I think a better response to the girl who demands a drink is respond calmly and with an amused/unimpressed look: "..you know it's a bit rude to demand things from someone you've just met, it shows bad manners"
Yeah, I second Amy's comment. It's too serious. It makes you appear very preachy and stick up your arse. And humorless. Not like a guy you want to hang out with. Something else would be probably better. Also it basically is a set up for an argument, because it seems like you're offended and the girl might say something even more provocative after that just to get a reaction out of you. Also you are basically insulting her for having bad manners. It's really a terrible place to start from. Actually a terrible thing to say lol
How about (to girl who wants you to buy her drink); "Perhaps we can get to know each other first. What's your name? I'm ____." This way you're not used/pushed and you move things forward to the introduction. Criticizing her manners may be valid but it won't move things forward; criticism hurts and shuts things down even (esp) when it's valid.
Todd I have always loved your s*** bro. Will never forget how you came to DC on a free tour and rocked it with a live call. I will say if I ever saw you gaming in public with your giggly polite style I would never know that I was looking at a shark the way I view you when you talk and break down behind the scenes. You are a prime example of how people are not what they appear. I hope you interpret that as positive criticism
The fact that this video needs to be made is indicative of the fact that people in the pickup community are becoming too dependant on outer game to get them through life. They're taking on an outer shell of "The pickup guy" and not really working on themselves
@Dominic dominic Theres a big difference between mental masturbation and spiritual work. You can have all the skill in the world but if you have no inner connection to the source of your energy employing those skills will require large amounts of continuous effort. Your consciousness consists of more than a body and a collection of mental mechanisms. When the Buddha sat under a tree for days until he realized enlightenment he wasn't "mentally masturbating" nor was he honing any skills he was taking an experiential journey into himself into his being which afterwards allowed his energy to flow freely in conjunction with the application of his acquired skills but with much less effort.
I've not heard much about this topic. It's really interesting. I've done quite well with very humerus, often irreverent conversation that pushes the boundaries over the years. That said, the only girls I got that were really high level I was more polite around. I'd never thought of this connection.
Like that little touch at the end with the quote, btw just my 2 cents i am able to focus more on ur material when ur in a quieter / less busy area/ background. Thx
When a girl tells me to buy her a drink, i just tell her i cant because my wife will not like this. They just laugh most of the time and move on. I see it as a shit test tbh
Todd can you make a video on the balance of money/resources and game. I feel like my quest for increasing my money/resources through building a business is cannibalising my quest for improving my game. vice versa. should i only focus on one and quit the other indefinately? or is there a way to progress both without them cannibalising each other? e.g that 50 bucks i spent on a night out to get laid and improve game i could have used for facebook ads to grow my business...
If I could chime in, I would reccomend doing both simultaneously. Always be gaming; let social interactions be your practice, and going out be 'game day'. Viewing game as an opportunity cost will make it more difficult to get where you want to be in game, because it makes it something you 'have to do' rather than something you genuinely enjoy -- you should always be having fun imo. Hope this helped a little :)
As a man I'm polite with please and thank yous - given with conviction of grattitude when it is deserved but i do gauge how people conduct themselves to me. It's a two way street.
Dalton: Ask him to walk, be nice. If he won't walk, walk him, but be nice. If you can't walk him, one of the others will help you and you will both be nice. I want you to remember that it's the job, it's nothing personal.
If I were you I would've named it, COMPOSURE. While being polite is a 'social lubricant', when it comes to women you of all people Todd, know that politeness will get you knowhere to say the least. However staying 'composed' gives off the unreactive(indifferent) attitude of a high profile guy. So be polite to her friends and, never let her see you lose your composure.
So, if I understand you correctly: Politeness is seen as being unattractive when it’s either manipulative (out of neediness), or used to obfuscate fear (approach anxiety)… otherwise, It can be an effective mechanism for displaying ‘high value’ by calibrating one’s emotional reactivity. Good method to attract a high value woman, I’d say. Low value women want an emotionally reactive douchebag… just like their daddy.
Hey Todd, Love your content, truly incredible stuff that has helped me out quite a bit. I have a question for you and this is a particularly sticky situation at least for me. I play flag football with a group in a league. It’s co-Ed obviously and there’s a girl that plays. As you can imagine she’s one of basically 2-3 girls that play. Are there any suggestions you have for this type of scenario? So far, we’ve talked a decent bit but not too much as I don’t want to come off as a guy that’s trying to friend her but also don’t want to be come off as one of the many “thirsty” guys that’s come at her. I’m 99% sure she’s single. We’ve talked some and I have like you’ve suggested, raised tension with conversation and have been a bit “polarizing” but with an undertone of friendliness. Tbh I’m not sure if she’s interested or not which would mean she isn’t (yet), but my main issue is, I don’t want to be a random and obvious looking guy that’s after her if I go talk to her especially around 20-30 other dudes because it’ll look too obvious. I talk to her in short bursts and look for inconspicuous moments to do so. Any comments or suggestions on handling this situation? I’m 100% positive others have tried and failed so I think this could be at the bare minimum a good learning opportunity and of course at best a gf.
sounds the same reason a lot of women use soical media and dating apps....attention and validation. wants to be surrounded by a ton of men. probably gets off on shooting them all down. simply wants tons of attention and validation. probably has extremely high standards in men and is looking for a certain type. youre either it or you arent. being direct or indirect wont change that. if you really really want her, i think you should try to isolate her from the group somehow and get some 1 on 1 time, if possible. maybe have a party at your place and invite her etc. but sounds like a waste of time. just be direct with her.
Todd, your videos are great! After sleeping with a girl. What’s your recommendation about follow up? Do you text her the next day and tell her you had a good time? Your videos helped me get a lot of one night stands. But I might be stuck in my head too much and I can’t get girls to stick around.
I'm confident and comfortable with who I am but all of that disappears the moment I start to blush. My confidence goes away along with my social skills, as i then tend to get into my own head and not focusing on the flow of conversation the moment I feel the blush coming on. Any advice?? P.s. girls sometimes call me out on how red my face is and it leaves me with no response and an awkward and unconfident appearance. Please help and thanks in advance
Bro this is easy, You have to own it and recognize it and calling yourself out is one way to handle it(before she does)..Depends on where in the approach or conversation You are. There's a 100 different things to say but just own it and blame your redness on her or your attraction or immediate desire for her sexually..Worked for me back when I was in middle/high school and would blush or turn red sometimes too. Good Luck brother.
Hey Todd, what is the best style of game for a girl that is not shy at all (even the opposite) but not very confident. So say your typical 18 Y/O girl that is talking to everyone but very insecure
Happened to me recently too so I know how disappointing it can be. I msged them again a week later and got nothing. Decided I could do better next time with someone who actually respected my time and effort and moved on.
Is it me or did he just say while arguing with someone you should be emotionally reactive to not do the worst , but also be polite and non reactive when talking to a woman to be most effective. A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE EXPLAIN THIS TO ME , please ( see what I did there ‘please’ ) Cx hahah
Sometimes I hear from people that politeness comes off as weird and sociopathic. Like you are hiding your true personality behind a facade of socially acceptable behavior. In contrast, people who are crass and abrasive and speak freely tend to come across more fun and natural. Given of course, that they are not just being autistic and shouting out the first weird thing that comes to mind.
Hi tod I’m avi and I’m a big fan of your work. I was just watching your video on “validation the missing part of game” that you posted two years ago. I’m try to get with this very hot girl that I was able to portray myself as higher value than her but towards the end I think I gave away to much of my power by showing to much interest and I was wondering how do I get my power back?
you can't until you move on, women have a 6th sense to know you are into them, and clearly based on experience and from how you speak about this lady friend.. you are into her a LOT and she knows this, once you really have other lady friends that capture your attention she will come, its a stupid game but this is how it works. Good luck
Yeah it's crazy that alot of so called "players" think being polite is a beta move. You can be great with girls and also be a decent human being. Funny that.
You know we're living in a sick society when you need to explain the merits of politeness. It's sad that being kind isn't an automatic reflex for many people.
Game seems to be a paradox at times but don't over complicate it. 1) Be nice but stand for what you belive in, always 2) Don't be afraid to tease a gal 3) Pass her shit tests
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Happy 2020. Let's make this year... and this decade... amazing! We all know that being polite can make social interactions smoother and easier. But its usefulness goes far beyond what your parents or teachers may have taught you. And it's not just about being "nice" or "politically correct" either. Learn how politeness can actually be a key conversational power move in this video. And for tons more on the nuances of how your words affect others, particularly women, check out verbalgameacademy.com
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@@TAVideos786 how do you feel?
ChrisJ Fox He feels like he wants to join The blue man group lol.
Hey Todd, after RSD seems to be pivoting you have the biggest opportunity of your life. All the pseudo science out there is total bullshit. Is there any way you can create a forum? Can't find any good ones anymore.
Al Capone: You can do more, with a kind word and a gun, than just with a kind word.
Napoleon Bonaparte: When I strike, i do it with a iron fist, put into a velvet glove.
Niccolo Machiavelli: So therefore, a leader should seek to be loved and feared at the same time.
Todd Vandehey: Be polite, but show her that you have a penis.
So wise.
All jokes aside, I think Todd’s message is correct but “polite” is too weak of a word, so is “kind.” He does explain the importance of not being a pushover but he uses the words kind and polite so frequently throughout the video that it tonally goes against the “don’t be a nice guy “ message that he also states in this video. “Respect” may be a better word since you can be “warmly assertive” with girls yet still respect them as a person without letting them walk over you.
@@chrisjfox8715 Yes, i thought that as well at first. But what he obviosly means, is to simply come off as nice, while you stay emotional detached from bad situations. It also means, that you are socialized to some degree, so she can show herself in public with you, without embarisment. Thanks to social conditioning, beeing overly aggressive will make you look ugly. But beeing to nice, will get you nowhere either. The solution therefore, is to make bold moves, while covering it up with a bright smile and nice words. Thats how success of any kind works. After 1000s of years of humanity that somehow still works. I think we can all agree on this.
@@guerillastrategies9796 yeah again, I get and agree with the overall message. It's just the choice of words weakened the tone. Both the "but I'm a nice guy" types and the types that think being an asshole is the only way to get laid are pet peeves of mine. Don't be a pushover but there's no need to be a dick, I agree with.
@@chrisjfox8715 Ah ok i get it now. You seem to pay a lot attention to Voices and words. So am I [=. He should have you use other words, thats for sure.
8:58 What Al Capone said is basically what Theodore Roosevelt said: "speak softly and carry a big stick; you will go far.""
Agreed. This dude tried to fight me last weekend because I spoke not even two sentences to the girl he was “with” (i.e., she was sitting down and he was standing up a couple bodies away). I said something to her that wasn’t even flirtatious but made her laugh nonetheless, but she pretty instantly backed off afterwards like she got scared....so I backed off. He still tried to make big issue out of it and challenge me and I’m like dude let it go, because I sure had already before he stepped in.
Bottom line, it was clear to me that he called himself conveying strength when really and truly it just made him look insecure; I kept my cool and walked off. If a dude isn’t comfortable with his girl having random conversations with random dudes then he has trust issues. She seemed pretty disappointed that she couldn’t just be but kept quiet like she knew that’s how he gets sometimes -
"Well I speak loudly and I carry a bigger stick and I use it too"- Yosemite Sam
But what if you were beaten with the ugly stick?
@@johnyou35 looool!
@@johnyou35 YOUR definition of ugly is irrelevant, as well as whatever most girls think of your looks. All that matters are the girls you genuinely connect with; there are girls out there who care far more about how you make them feel than how you look, but if you have a significant lack of CONFIDENCE about your looks then those same girls arent gonna give you the time of day. Bottom line, it's not your call, my call, nor the call of people in general - it's solely up to the girl you're talking to...and if you've made the decision ahead of time that she's not gonna be into you because of your looks then she's gonna feel it. Your insecurity does far more damage than your face. I've literally heard girls say before (about some dude) that "He's not even that cute but *there's just something about him.*" And no, these weren't rich men.
Love it. Politeness is in my blood as a way of showing manly class. People don't get it doesn't mean your not "Alpha" or a wimp if you choose to be kind in a firm strong way. As it sets the bar you have standards in life.
Class is a good way to describe it, ior rather 'being classy'. I like James Bond as an example - raw, animalistic, but also polite and educted.
There’s difference between being kind and being a Nice Guy.
Very true, this goes against much of what was taught during the 2012-2016 era in the community. This was because you were dealing with people who were coming from a place of being too nice and not assertive enough. Coming round full circle means you have had a full transformation
0:44 "There's a reason why kids tell their children"
Joking aside, very informative video!
Rosefinity i admire his speaking speed
What's so funny bout kids with children? Y'all ain't ever been to a trailer park I reckon 🤠
Lmao
You can be polite and express anger at the same time. This was the way amoung gentleman in past centuries. "I said good day sir!" Politeness was also ensured by challenging a rude insulting person to a duel.
Alexander Hamilton: "I beg to disagree."
Be polite, and at the same time be comfortable getting aggressive when you need to. Anger is not a bad energy per say, it just needs to be channeled right
Dont have to be angry just firm. Anger is a weak trait that can cause you to do somthing you normally would not do.
@@robertromero8094 When you get angry, just express it in a calm firm fashion to the person who angered you.
Make sure you understand and that they also understand.
Then you are free from this.
Ahmed Ironmaiden I don’t believe a man should ever act on emotion. Only time getting angry is acceptable is when someone touches my friends or family. Other than that I disagree with that statement.
@@robertromero8094 anger is weak? Lol that means any other emotion is weak too. What logic is that?
@@DiamondsRexpensive if you ask a girl out and she says no, you getting angry at her is weakness. If you ask a girl out and she says yes and you jump for joy in happiness, thats weakness. If you cant understand this well good luck in life.
I like the setting in this video. I just imagine myself walking in the park running into this guy and he gives me some thorough advise on how to stop being weird
Thanks for being the guy who challenges the overly newb-focused angle of so much of the current dating-content. When watching the big player on the scene, whom I used to love watching in the early days, now it just feels overly front-end and like something that was rewarded early on for me, but becomes totally wrong at the stage I'm at now.
I feel that many guys who have taken action for 3+ years get left in a sort of limbo with very little good advice from the community, and are forced to take that next big jump (where the rules seem to be, in many cases, very different), practically on their own, or at least away from the community which helped get them there. You seem to be taking some steps to build a bridge from that point, and I applaud you.
Always try to end the conversation on a positive note
My dad always told me to be polite but never nice.
Todd I always learn new something new from your videos, and I always go back to watch the old ones when I feel like I'm rusty. Thanks for helping me be a better person
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I think a better response to the girl who demands a drink is respond calmly and with an amused/unimpressed look: "..you know it's a bit rude to demand things from someone you've just met, it shows bad manners"
This is educational but too serious. But Todd's reply is more playful and gets me interestested.
@@amyjames9282 hi bot
Yeah, I second Amy's comment. It's too serious. It makes you appear very preachy and stick up your arse. And humorless. Not like a guy you want to hang out with. Something else would be probably better. Also it basically is a set up for an argument, because it seems like you're offended and the girl might say something even more provocative after that just to get a reaction out of you. Also you are basically insulting her for having bad manners. It's really a terrible place to start from. Actually a terrible thing to say lol
How about (to girl who wants you to buy her drink); "Perhaps we can get to know each other first. What's your name? I'm ____." This way you're not used/pushed and you move things forward to the introduction. Criticizing her manners may be valid but it won't move things forward; criticism hurts and shuts things down even (esp) when it's valid.
you most agree with me that todd gives alot of value.. he deserves an award
Todd I have always loved your s*** bro. Will never forget how you came to DC on a free tour and rocked it with a live call. I will say if I ever saw you gaming in public with your giggly polite style I would never know that I was looking at a shark the way I view you when you talk and break down behind the scenes. You are a prime example of how people are not what they appear. I hope you interpret that as positive criticism
I think being non reactive is the best takeaway here. Just be the higher person. Fake it if you have to.
The fact that this video needs to be made is indicative of the fact that people in the pickup community are becoming too dependant on outer game to get them through life. They're taking on an outer shell of "The pickup guy" and not really working on themselves
reflective of a greater societal problem
@Dominic dominic Theres a big difference between mental masturbation and spiritual work. You can have all the skill in the world but if you have no inner connection to the source of your energy employing those skills will require large amounts of continuous effort. Your consciousness consists of more than a body and a collection of mental mechanisms. When the Buddha sat under a tree for days until he realized enlightenment he wasn't "mentally masturbating" nor was he honing any skills he was taking an experiential journey into himself into his being which afterwards allowed his energy to flow freely in conjunction with the application of his acquired skills but with much less effort.
So true
Yo Todd. Thanks for the videos, they truly help! Wish You much success this new year.
I've not heard much about this topic. It's really interesting.
I've done quite well with very humerus, often irreverent conversation that pushes the boundaries over the years. That said, the only girls I got that were really high level I was more polite around. I'd never thought of this connection.
Great content again, Todd. Starting my 2020 the right way!
Like that little touch at the end with the quote, btw just my 2 cents i am able to focus more on ur material when ur in a quieter / less busy area/ background. Thx
Happy New Years Todd! Hope to see you in Los Angeles soon brother
When a girl tells me to buy her a drink, i just tell her i cant because my wife will not like this. They just laugh most of the time and move on. I see it as a shit test tbh
mayyn77 bro I just get them a water cup and they love it cause it comes from the heart ❤️
Do you mean women know u are married and ask you to buy them a drink deliberately? In what context? Do you work at a bar?
@@DiamondsRexpensive Its a joke i tell them. I dont work at a bar i work at a strip club as a stripper but only on tuesdays......
@@mayyn77 How would I go about maybe doing that job that you have as well? I'm in shape but maybe any advice you give could help. I'm 24yrs old
@@geoffreyparker2786 Are you willing to work on Tuesdays?
Todd can you make a video on the balance of money/resources and game. I feel like my quest for increasing my money/resources through building a business is cannibalising my quest for improving my game. vice versa. should i only focus on one and quit the other indefinately? or is there a way to progress both without them cannibalising each other? e.g that 50 bucks i spent on a night out to get laid and improve game i could have used for facebook ads to grow my business...
If I could chime in, I would reccomend doing both simultaneously. Always be gaming; let social interactions be your practice, and going out be 'game day'. Viewing game as an opportunity cost will make it more difficult to get where you want to be in game, because it makes it something you 'have to do' rather than something you genuinely enjoy -- you should always be having fun imo. Hope this helped a little :)
The tone one uses when saying "please" can also change the dynamic of the word
I would never, to save my life, have thought of the response suggestion you give at the end; it's like you gotta be socially quick-witted, in a way.
Unfortunately, politeness is often mistaken as weakness. so first of all need to show really strong frame.
In the last samurai movie , the samurai warlord spoke softly and polite but carried massive weight
As a man I'm polite with please and thank yous - given with conviction of grattitude when it is deserved but i do gauge how people conduct themselves to me. It's a two way street.
Agreed politeness goes.
Dalton: Ask him to walk, be nice. If he won't walk, walk him, but be nice. If you can't walk him, one of the others will help you and you will both be nice. I want you to remember that it's the job, it's nothing personal.
Bravo... Perfect quote.
i salute you General!
I think I needed this one
Your hair is looking good Todd!
Thank you, kind sir. 👍
Yeah! Todd the hero.
Ended like a true Don.
I LOVE YOU TODD. meant in the most direct and candid way. I was looking for this content phrased in the exact way you did! Your eloquence is ...
I love Todd's comment on indifference. It's so much better than guys who try to overcompensate for their insecurities by being a dick!
Good advice with case example. Thank you.
Nice video
-Tyler
If I were you I would've named it, COMPOSURE. While being polite is a 'social lubricant', when it comes to women you of all people Todd, know that politeness will get you knowhere to say the least. However staying 'composed' gives off the unreactive(indifferent) attitude of a high profile guy. So be polite to her friends and, never let her see you lose your composure.
You who is reading this comment ,want to remind you that you are amazing!move forward.
Todd rockin' the clobber. Ben Sherman, get innnn.
I'm not a nice guy. Far from it.
I am polite. There is a difference.
Watching this makes you a nice guy
So, if I understand you correctly: Politeness is seen as being unattractive when it’s either manipulative (out of neediness),
or used to obfuscate fear (approach anxiety)… otherwise, It can be an effective mechanism for displaying ‘high value’ by
calibrating one’s emotional reactivity.
Good method to attract a high value woman, I’d say. Low value women want an emotionally reactive douchebag… just like their daddy.
Nice summary
Hmmmmm shit
Be polite by word but not actions
Hey Todd,
Love your content, truly incredible stuff that has helped me out quite a bit. I have a question for you and this is a particularly sticky situation at least for me. I play flag football with a group in a league. It’s co-Ed obviously and there’s a girl that plays. As you can imagine she’s one of basically 2-3 girls that play. Are there any suggestions you have for this type of scenario?
So far, we’ve talked a decent bit but not too much as I don’t want to come off as a guy that’s trying to friend her but also don’t want to be come off as one of the many “thirsty” guys that’s come at her. I’m 99% sure she’s single. We’ve talked some and I have like you’ve suggested, raised tension with conversation and have been a bit “polarizing” but with an undertone of friendliness. Tbh I’m not sure if she’s interested or not which would mean she isn’t (yet), but my main issue is, I don’t want to be a random and obvious looking guy that’s after her if I go talk to her especially around 20-30 other dudes because it’ll look too obvious. I talk to her in short bursts and look for inconspicuous moments to do so. Any comments or suggestions on handling this situation? I’m 100% positive others have tried and failed so I think this could be at the bare minimum a good learning opportunity and of course at best a gf.
sounds the same reason a lot of women use soical media and dating apps....attention and validation. wants to be surrounded by a ton of men. probably gets off on shooting them all down. simply wants tons of attention and validation. probably has extremely high standards in men and is looking for a certain type. youre either it or you arent. being direct or indirect wont change that. if you really really want her, i think you should try to isolate her from the group somehow and get some 1 on 1 time, if possible. maybe have a party at your place and invite her etc. but sounds like a waste of time. just be direct with her.
👉跟女孩講話時，需要讓自己更有魅力、有說服力、更有迷人、善於社交
有禮貌 是很重要的，這裡的禮貌，不是 要讓人認為你是好人、講話是政治正確，而是你能用好的方式去表達自己立場，不會讓人感到不舒服
👉和人互動擁有禮貌的表達，會為你建立起好的聲譽，在職場上會有優勢，老闆做決定時，會容易比較偏袒你
👉當你說話有禮貌 會使用合適的字句時 ，人們對你印象 會是 有修養的、你是個會社交的人，別人會比較願意配合你，你會比較有影響力、擁有較多的機會
👉你如果要在game裡頭 製造張力而刻意去打破社交規則，其實是要讓人知道其實你是懂社交規則的
👉有禮貌會讓你看起來 不會容易吃反應 ，這是一種高價值的行為
當你和別人發生衝突，有禮貌會讓你看起來比較不情緒化，比較冷靜
👉你在酒吧 搭訕一個女孩 她的朋友要你請他喝酒
最壞的情況 : 你直接答應 幫她買完酒 結果女生就被朋友拉走了
很多剛學game會這樣做 : 我不買酒給一個還沒認識的女生，結果女生依樣也被拉走，因為你太沒禮貌，你用了太沒禮貌的方式去維持你的框架
比較好的作法 : 說真的 我對你們還不熟悉，也許我們可以先互相自我介紹 認識一下彼此，這樣處理，比較不會讓人覺得你防衛心過重、好像害怕被占便宜
Todd, your videos are great!
After sleeping with a girl. What’s your recommendation about follow up?
Do you text her the next day and tell her you had a good time?
Your videos helped me get a lot of one night stands. But I might be stuck in my head too much and I can’t get girls to stick around.
0:46 why kids tell their children...
:D technically all adults are kids with experience and bigger bodies.
Niklas Jehle is he high af? xD
Needs to work on his communication skills
He’s just thinking a step ahead. Everyone is someone’s kids, so “kids” are still telling their children.
*JK* Todd is off his rocker
Deep
I am trying to be more intentionally polite thats why im here. Haha
I'm confident and comfortable with who I am but all of that disappears the moment I start to blush. My confidence goes away along with my social skills, as i then tend to get into my own head and not focusing on the flow of conversation the moment I feel the blush coming on. Any advice??
P.s. girls sometimes call me out on how red my face is and it leaves me with no response and an awkward and unconfident appearance.
Please help and thanks in advance
Bro this is easy, You have to own it and recognize it and calling yourself out is one way to handle it(before she does)..Depends on where in the approach or conversation You are. There's a 100 different things to say but just own it and blame your redness on her or your attraction or immediate desire for her sexually..Worked for me back when I was in middle/high school and would blush or turn red sometimes too.
Good Luck brother.
the problem with that is the "bad boy" guy takes all the attention on a convo if there's 3 of us, because he ain't polite
The term bad boy is too overated.. U don't have to be a bad boy to get girls.. I've seen scrawny nerds have success in game more than me..
Great video mr Todd.
Happy new year everyone
Cheers!
Ryan gosling always portrayal this
So we going to ignore Todd’s red shirt
2020 will be the year ma man
yeah man great year so far lol
Hey Todd, what is the best style of game for a girl that is not shy at all (even the opposite) but not very confident. So say your typical 18 Y/O girl that is talking to everyone but very insecure
Hey Todd how do you handle getting ghosted after you got the girls # and thought things went well?
Happened to me recently too so I know how disappointing it can be. I msged them again a week later and got nothing. Decided I could do better next time with someone who actually respected my time and effort and moved on.
Brett Larkin - move on.
This is insane info
When a women asks me if I am going to buy her a drink. I laughingly respond, I was hoping you were going to buy me one.
Que soundtrack: "It Was The 5:52 "
What an amazing video. My favourite teacher.
Do you guys know someone close to as good as Todd is?
Heartiste's blog some time ago, I was an usual reader and sometimes commenter, too bad his blog was banned from Wordpress.
RSD Tyler, maybe
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@@washingtonmarinho5577 Todd is wayyy better! As a girl I can tell you Tyler is just annoying. Todd is the dream!
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Coach do an advanced video on the texting game. A lot of us could use that
@x GeneraI ikr you on the other hand, a true red pill alpha Male name calling on TH-cam comments. I commend your bravery sir
Great video man
First time i see todd in red tshirt
So what you're saying is is having manners!
This is opposite of a bad mic
You are shouting even on the lowest setting 😂
Wow. Great new camera man.
That aperture tho
Is it me or did he just say while arguing with someone you should be emotionally reactive to not do the worst , but also be polite and non reactive when talking to a woman to be most effective.
A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE EXPLAIN THIS TO ME , please ( see what I did there ‘please’ ) Cx hahah
There's no need to explain. You just explained it
Sometimes I hear from people that politeness comes off as weird and sociopathic. Like you are hiding your true personality behind a facade of socially acceptable behavior. In contrast, people who are crass and abrasive and speak freely tend to come across more fun and natural. Given of course, that they are not just being autistic and shouting out the first weird thing that comes to mind.
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First Video of The Decade For Todd
pretty good
Todd V for President 🇺🇸
more infield Todd!
Hi tod I’m avi and I’m a big fan of your work. I was just watching your video on “validation the missing part of game” that you posted two years ago. I’m try to get with this very hot girl that I was able to portray myself as higher value than her but towards the end I think I gave away to much of my power by showing to much interest and I was wondering how do I get my power back?
(We’re in the same social circle)
@@Avi.wolf2 let her come to you
you can't until you move on, women have a 6th sense to know you are into them, and clearly based on experience and from how you speak about this lady friend.. you are into her a LOT and she knows this, once you really have other lady friends that capture your attention she will come, its a stupid game but this is how it works. Good luck
Be nice until its time not to be nice....... Patrick Swayze .. Roadhouse !
Weird quotes, but on point
Yeah it's crazy that alot of so called "players" think being polite is a beta move. You can be great with girls and also be a decent human being. Funny that.
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There's Todd V and then there's everyone else. And everyone else isn't have as sharp.
But what if you don't know how to speak politely because you're speaking a second language, than what?
Is this the psychopsth from pengiunz video haha
You know we're living in a sick society when you need to explain the merits of politeness. It's sad that being kind isn't an automatic reflex for many people.
Just because someone isn’t very polite, doesn’t mean that person is not kind.
Politeness is the cover. Kindness is the book. It is sad that society isn't more polite, but you still shouldn't judge a book by it's cover.
here from the penguinz0 pickup artist video
All the other content is about being the bad boy to get the ladies, but here he say be polite. I'm so confused.
Do both at the same time but at the right time.
Re It takes practice
Game seems to be a paradox at times but don't over complicate it.
1) Be nice but stand for what you belive in, always
2) Don't be afraid to tease a gal
3) Pass her shit tests
Plz tell
When is Todd's birthday XD XD
How to tell a girl you like her?
0:47 kids tell there chrilden
How about give te friend money to buy me and the girl I'm talking with the drink 😂
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DAAAAAAMMNNNNNNNN American been grooming racism! Lol @4:10
Excellent content and advice as always but for Gods sake; lose the Uni-Qlo stowaway jacket. It's a new decade so make your style match your substance.
Rsd .
This guy looks dead behind the eyes
that's what NYC does to you lol. idk where he's from tho so I can't really say for sure
That's what shorty people does to people. You get tired dealing with stupid people
I think it's drug abuse