Indian parents! Their stubbornness and ignorance have destroyed many many lives and there’s more to follow unless ‘they’ learn not to treat the kids as their property and respect them as separate individuals. In the name of ‘love’ and protection, they must stop offering us the toxic parenting and we must stop treating them as the demi-Gods.
I believe in Kanha jii😊 And I know after lots of struggle one day will come when u get success So , never give up trying at least last peak 😊 Radhe radhe🙏
We always talk that concentrate in your own stuff rather than judging anyone. But our parent's and elders everyday talks and decisions are based on their judgement about neighbours and relatives and many times unknown person.Then they impose conclusion on us.
Plzzz nvr listen to ur parents....Dey HV huge ego.... listening to parents will make ur more bad...it's a personal experience.... begin well educated I chose to listen to parents.....n Today sitting n crying....my whole life wasted coz of parents.....many will say aisa Nahi hota but showoff Karne wale bhi hote hi parents plzzzz if u r true...gud at ur career.... parents ki mat sunno
@@srishti2002singhHer parents just caught her relationship with me her mom told her that if she will talk to me ever again her mom will die for her and she has breaked up with me she is telling me that there is not any other option im very depressed what should i do 💔
very true. I went through same.. believed everything our parents told us, I was every parents' favorite too (own n in-laws), after losing relationship, career, marriage, I realised that it was all about them the whole time. I am a rebel now and still my mom is all about herself. If I do little good for myself, she is very jealous and competitive.
Sir the main problem is that if we do love marriage and after sometimes things are not going well between us than parents and so called society start the real game . They will behave as we are not their own son our daughter and never help us . That's why the ratio of arrange marriage is more than love marriage 🥰
Arrange marriage is part of patriarchal society because they don't consider women choice and in arrange marriage women still judge on primitive criteria and women is the only one that has to leave their home on the other hand men are allows to stay with there parent which is an unfair and major cause of female foeticide because the parent prefer one that can stay with them, our selfish Indian parents that see profit and loss even between their kids and treat them like property and give nothing in property to their daughter and which make women depends on their husband or someone else to have shelter on their head that is why women after domestic abuse not able to leave home because they don't have their own, to begin with because they didn't get it from any side
Stand for yourself You should be capable enough (financially as well as mentally) to take charge of your life even when things go wrong. If your parents can go to the extremes and say you are not my son and daughter (like they just disowned you) then why would you ever want to live with such parents ? Work hard so you can earn well and can stand alone(or with your partner if things between you are going well )if this situation comes to you. Try to sort things out with your parents so you han live happily with them (everyone wants to live happily with their parents) But if nothing works you need to be cabale to Move out if your parents are still clashing with you Otherwise you will have to live an opressed life until your parents are alive and honestly I saw someone personal facing this issue and he is very helpless as his parents runs a private school and they are rich but his parents interfare in his personal and married life too much but he just can't say anything as he is MSc from physics and he will get paid around 40k and his wife is MSc chemistry (with no experience in teaching) so she will get a pay of around 20k and with this salary they can't live the rich lifestyle they are living right now so they just listen and obey to their parents ( and tbh deep inside they are waiting when their parents will pass away(
no didn't said that they can't live with 60k I said they can't live that rich lifestyle that they are living now. The girl have xuv500 and the boy just bought a fortuner last year. They spend so much money on clothes,shoes,watches,handbags, perfumes etc... when they go for shopping And they also give expensive gifts to each other on birthdays and ring aniversary or wedding anniversary When they go for some celebrations they book the whole cafe to celebrate The boy use expensive phones ( in January he bought s21 ultra) and already have 2 iphones The boy have two sisters one of them is IPS which is a very elite job itself and socity pays a lot of respect to her and other is doctor (radiologist) and earning around 4 lac per month So in short their parents never restrict them to spend money but they do some small stupid things and always want to show that they are the incharge. For example The boy and girl both loves to eat nonveg food but they are not allowed to eat nonveg (so whenever they get a chance to go out they eat nonver without telling their parents). Another example the gir wants to teach chemistry but they don't allow her to do so .... They want her to stay at home and do nothing.
In short I am saying they have two options Work their ass off and still live a middle class life but BE FREE Or to live a comfy and rich life but get treated kind of enslaved
😅😂😂😂 Society sucks! What can we do! 🙄😅 desi culture is so much obsessed with pleasing and impressing others , you are meant to live for others and if you don't you are a shame! 😶
I am blessed with my parents. I chose the guy to marry who I was dating for 8 yrs. I sense some issues. I called off the marriage. My parents stood by my side in all the decision. Thanks mom and dad. Though it needed a lot of courage but I spoke truth. And they know it.
Chetan sir, when I comes to know about any of your your video, there is some Goosebumps coming in my heart like waves, expecting that today I will find some precious lesson from your videos. Your videos are true mirror of my ups and downs of my life, I feel connected to me as if your words meants to me. My soul found an inspiration from you. I am blessed to have you in this generation. Love you chetan sir❤️
You r ri8. Parents ke kehne pe mene arrange marriage ki aaj meri marriage failed hogayi and my parents are against it. Like LOG KYA KAHENGE AGAR HUM SHADI SHUDA LADKI KO KESE GHAR ME RAKHE. i regret i believed them. And today i m suffering n nobody is supporting me. Take stand fr urself
I was never able to open up, about this same thing with anyone. After listening to you, i feel great relief! Thankyou so much for making all of these videos 🤗. You always make my day!❤😊
Yes sir generation gap and communication matters a lot nowadays.... And sir your videos just give positive vibes ☺️☺️❤️ the way you explain things in simplest ways are helping us alot ❤️🙏 thankyou so much sir ☺️🙏
@@zanybhr7696 nope ... Tum agr baat kroge unke perspective ko smjhoge tw shayad koi raasta nikl aaye .. But agr phir bhi nhi baat bn rahi tw u can do whatever u want ...
no use. I am a very good communicator, and certified counselor. When I interfere them giving wrong guidance or staunch remark to anyone, they call me, "you have read lot of books, what do you think of yourself". Narcissism has gone unchecked becoz of Indian traditional culture. They are the false Lord you cannot put forth your opinion infront of them.
The number of drawing room sittings I have done signifies that I can be a good therapist 😂. Sir u are right that we should talk to them but the problem is not that they don't know today's generation but they want us or themselves to know and not adopt it. And I appreciate you for making this video even though it's controversial. 👍 In india as u said no parents are belived to be wrong .
My parents also had many drawing room conversations on their personal issues and my mother always use to involve me in that. I just stand there like a referee and I have to see that any of them don't cross limits in tearms of what they are speaking...... Whenever any of them started to go out of their limits I used to calm them down. All debates/conversations they did without my presence always ended up in a handoff and assault (that's why I even told my mom many times not to argue with dad when I am not there as if the matter heats up and they start fighting physically my mom always took more damage then she does obviously as a women she is physically less stronger than my dad...... And I hate my dad for doing this cuz he is misusing his power😟) My dad is very cruel when he is angry and he becomes a litteral animal😭
@@bhumikkumar2274 u can advice anyone anything until and unless they want to change. U are not responsible for others behaviour 👍more power to ur mom and you
I tried to convince him countless times .... And I know he we never change so I don't even try nowadays. When I tell him to go to a physiologist with me he just straight out say no. A few more years till my graduation completes and I give my PG exam As soon as I will get resedency during my post graduation and will start getting paid I'll move out of this house along with my mom (cuz she don't deserve te be with my dad..... He is an absolute headache) And god if you think that I am doing wrong with my dad then forgive me but I am not changing my mind now. Deep inside I want him to be normal as I have a lot of favours from him (especially finencial help) and afterall he is my father But again what he is doing is wrong and my mother is getting mentally frustrated day by day as she is living with him. And if I have to choose one of my oarent .... I'll choose my mother anyday 🤧
Thanks for that But tbh I don't mind even if you judge me That's one of the greatest advantage of internet that you can discuss anything sensetive as you don't know anyone personally I do also have a a couple of friends and one of them is very close to me but I still feel awkward to discuss these issues with her.
Your point is right but sir ajj bhi most of our parents color ,heights, amir, gariv yea sab dek k relationship accept yea reject krte hai. Simple kapde dek k kitna kuch judge krlete hai log. This is india. You r right sir.
The key solution to most problems is proper communication, but what should a child do where parents themselves aren't happy couple and do not communicate amongst themselves.
According to parents to love someone is a bad thing, love is a fault like stealing or to murder someone, they also start emotional blackmail like we will suicide or die or leave home..
thanks sir for addressing this issue Indian parents don't understand that their child is always be their child ,he is only loving a girl that loves her , they should add them to happy her child ,not to giving a options to get out of it
First you both be at your best in your CAREER. & Then have "Lawyer skills" to convince your parents. You have to be smarter than your parents. ✌🏼 Remember: society should identify you with your profession. Not relationship.
I consider that children are extensions of parents.. Lifes longing for itself.. It is said.. Understanding the parental perspective about the chosen friend is definitely going to help the youngster..
Parents see children as their extension, however it is their limited ego. Everyone is extension of Lord and everyone is equiped with senses to connect to inner voice, which is enough to guide. Younger you are, easier it is to connect with your soul's voice.
My mother has the most genuine reason, my gf's house is not too far from my home. So she says she wants a daughter in law who should be from a far away place. This is the most stupid reason I have heard.
@@arnavsharma4922 that's a very lame reason. My sis got married last year and she lives only 2KM away from us. try to change your mom's mindset or why don't one of you move out to some other city?..... sounds weird but you can try if you want
@@bhumikkumar2274 Yeah I will surely move out to a different city. I have already planned to buy a flat in some other city. BTW, thank you for sharing your point of view.
Girls ko yahi dhyaan rakhna hai ki boy reserved ya backward mindest ka na ho . In laws should be like open minded and only glued to their business . I have many mother I law dancing ,making reels with daughter in law .wearing clothes of daughter in law for videos or photos or sometimes really going out in western clothes with daughter I laws .and sometimes I have also seen mother I law scolding daughter I law for wearing even jeans or sleeveless clothes . In such cases you can't fight with your mother I law of husband takes his mother side and scold his wife only .so it is better to know each and everything about the family of man . Only financial condition is not enough . Because my mother is victim of such husband and mother in law .my father has enough money to live a luxurious life .but he only invests money and money and saves the money and don't spend money on my mother .my mother doesnt even has a purse or bag or proper smart phone . She only gets one saree in diwali every year . And she is treated like a slave doing household chores . She lost her health doing household chores but my father never tried to hire a maid . So never try to marry a man who is just financially strong but is from conservative family and who is miser . My mother couldn't take divorce because her father told her to adjust with my father and she had to live like a housemaid until we got our job .now we give money to our mother.but it took 27 years for her to bear my father and his unnecessary responsibilities . So never ever marry such man . Also try to become self dependent before marrying and don't leave your job even after marrying . Only your career can save yourself . No one will .own fathers don't accept their daughters due to social stigma and mentality . I have seen lots of families and families of my friends and relatives .
Dear Sir, You missed the cast and religious aspect of it which is prevailing at an extreme level in our country. In the next video pls consider this aspect as well.
Sharing my side, I have been constantly tormented by my mother for the past few years. She's a single mom and I have been brought up by my grandparents and her. Basically I'm in a 7 years ongoing relationship with a guy... He's doing great... Respects my family, supports me, doing every possible thing a man can. Also, he's from a good family and earns good amount. My mother is making a constant facade about being with him, why his parents doesn't lick my mom's shoes? And all kind of immature and weird stuff. I was planning to get married after my graduation but all of a sudden she is actually weird. She said if his parents come she will throw up out with insults. I'm freaking stuck RN. What should I do?
Its india and we have to be respectable for our patents and at the same time have to take care of our feelings and emotions... Here we have to take care of partner as well as patents... In short we have to keep both happy becz its not just our responsibility but in my opinion its our moral values..... You do have right to love but at the same time you have responsibility to respect the love of your parents for you... If you realise this then your parents will also realise your love for someone and ultimately you all will be blessed to live happily.... I knw its really tough but God also embraces the true love..
your parents happiness is NOT your responsibility. That is the emotional blackmail from them working within you and now you’re a product of a toxic mindset. Your parents have each other. Your mom is your dad’s wife and your dad is your husband’s wife. They should fulfill each other. RESPECT is important, correct, but it is not a one way street. If you don’t do what you love because shout parents don’t support you and you must RESPECT them, then no, there is no respect anywhere. They disrespect you and what you want, and you are not respecting them, you’re just scared of getting them upset.
Parenthood is about raising and celebrating the child you have; not the child you thought you would have. It is about understanding exactly the person they are supposed to be. If you are lucky; They might be the teacher who turns you into the person you are supposed to be. Anyone can have a child and call themselves a parent. A real parent is someone who puts their child above their own selfish wants and needs. Children should not ever have to sacrifice so that you can have the life you want. You make sacrifices so that your children can have the life they deserve. The moment you bring a child into this world. That is the moment you will have the responsibility for a lifetime. When you become a parent. You should never allow anything in your life that you do not want reproduce in your children. It is not just what you do for your children but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them a successful human beings; because children will follow your example, not your advice. So be the role model you want your child to be. God gave us life. Not everything is your parents business specially when it comes to your love life. What is the point of being alive if you are just going to be controlled and have no choice. Parents true love is when they see their children happy. They can advise and give suggestions but not control a human that had their own thoughts and feelings.
If you read the "Hindu Mythology", "Bhagwaan Krishna" is the die-hard lover of "Devi Radha", but still they get seperated by Society(Yaduvanshis), but when Krishna die still remember the Radha and at last they get united by their soul. But, on the other hand "Raja Bharat" and "Brahmni Shakuntala", they both are lovers of each other, but they get seperated by "Rishi Durvasa" curse, but somehow and by fate they get united because nature is with them, but somewhere it's a happy ending, but somewhere not, their children won't be able to become the "King of Hastinapur", because they don't have the capability,skill and knowledge to become a King.
Thank you so much sir. In the Bluish-Violet light and love of lord Kalki, 2021 Shakti and Purusha, lord Hanuman and Adishakti. With Humility and lots of Unconditional love, peace, joy, oneness and expanded Awareness 🙏💙💜
My good ye bilkul sahi h Not about gf bf but Till now, my 18 years of life my one and only best friend had boy friend and my mom discovered that and literally restricted me from talking wid her Just bcz she had bf And she gives me reason that is she has bf and u stay with her u will also be spoiled u will also make bf That's it 😐😑 still I am not allowed to talk with her
Typical indian parenting with very conservative approach And I can assure with my personal you this also happens with boys Sometimes I used to talk to my female school classmates and when my mom found about that she gave me a wierd look.
your parents happiness is NOT your responsibility. That is the emotional blackmail from them working within you and now you’re a product of a toxic mindset. Your parents have each other. Your mom is your dad’s wife and your dad is your husband’s wife. They should fulfill each other. RESPECT is important, correct, but it is not a one way street. If you don’t do what you love because shout parents don’t support you and you must RESPECT them, then no, there is no respect anywhere. They disrespect you and what you want, and you are not respecting them, you’re just scared of getting them upset. They took care of you, because that’s THEIR JOB. You don’t owe them anything for it. They brought you into this world, you didn’t ask for it. They could’ve used condoms, they could’ve aborted you, but no, they WANTED you. So they must take care of you. Like when you have a pet dog, you do everything for your dog, does your dog owe you anything???? NO because you bought that dog thus taking on the responsibility
Table and Pen can be the best and perhaps the ultimate solutions irrespective of any circumstances. Jis ladki se aap sachcha Pyar karte ho usse andhere me chhup chhup ke nahi balki sabke samne mil kar bat karni chahiye. (T&C apply 😉) Thank you sir..... *"JAI HIND"*
Sir, what you said, is fine. But what if the elders just doesn't want to discuss or communicate anything at all on such topics? To make them understand they should atleast be ready for the conversation?
Arrange marriage is part of patriarchal society because they don't consider women choice and in arrange marriage women still judge on primitive criteria and women are the only one that has to leave their home on the other hand men are allows to stay with their parents which is an unfair and major cause of female foeticide because the parent prefers one that can stay with them, our selfish Indian parents that see profit and loss even between their kids and treat them like property and give nothing in property to their daughter and which make women depends on their husband or someone else to have shelter on their head that is why women even after domestic abuse not able to leave home because they don't have their own, to begin wit,h because they didn't get it from any side. In arrange, marriage women don't enter by their choice that is why people can not get the divorce on their own choice too. That's why that so-called argument that arranges marriage has a low divorces rate because lots of people get involved that do not let you get divorced and forced to stay even though that person has committed marital rape and domestic violence.
Mam or sir whoever u r first stop calling parents selfish their could be conflict of ideas but they never want bad for their kids 2. This is the system established long back that girls have to leave their home parents couldn't do anything in it even if they do society don't let them live 3. Parents try to give as much as assets they have to girls in the form of dowry and in the rituals that follow 4. Girls should study make a career then nobody can put their opinions on u....no one can harass u education is empowerment 5 u are the most ignorant one if u call parents selfish they are the one who do everything for their kids selflessly u will realise this when u will face the actual world
@@tanu5786 yeah for these people parents love are called true love only when they allow you to do love marriage Herein my colony a father donates his own kidney for his daughter because his daughter kidnies had been damaged by some fungus when she was 20 and now when she is 27 and asking for interfaith marriage he is denying but does it means his love for his daughter was never a love ? He does not donates his kidney if he do not love her but as of above statement(which a person has written) he is selfish because he do not allow his daughter to marry
Chetan Sir, when bf leaves a girl because his parents are not ready for intercaste marriage, what you would say about it? This is happening a lot in Maharashtra.
I am not Chetan sir but I have more experience in such cases . If a man is leaving a girl just because his parents ask him to . It's better to leave such men instead of marrying him ..because such men will always follow his parents after marriage and won't support the wife . He won't be able to take own decisions . He will not support his wife in fights between Mother in law and daughter in law (wife)
Sir agar ma zyada logically fight karu mera parents ka saath usse time mera mom papa ko bolega """ humara beta abb aur humara nhi raha😭😭 """ Iss lea mera ek plan hain pahele carrear , ek bada sa house , then gf 😁😁🎉🎉
Mere bf ke mummy papa bolte hai ldki ne Jadu tona kr diya hai..uske papa mere ko bole..beta mera hai pr aajkl tumhara hi gungan krta hai..nhi to bolte hai tumhare paise ke pichhe pdi hai.. hmdono clg se hi sath me hai jb dono ke pas job nhi tha..ab dono independent hai..8 saal ka relationship..1 saal se jyada ho gya unhe mnate hue..but kosis ab bhi jari hai
When i was in 9th std, I had a girlfriend,i used to leave early with my cycle just to meet her. One day i saw my dad following me from far away with his scooter. He was so suspicious of me 😂 or he loves me so much and was concerned
@@mohanapriya9581 Be strong..... and never forget what you are feeling now so you don't treat / allow someone else to treat your kids like this this situation will get better generation by generation BTW I am very curious about your name is that your real name? (cuz. it is combination of 3 different names)
I don't know about others but I know my parents want best for me just there may be generation gap (offcourse there is) and have different mindset but the thing is I think parents worried because of marriages being broken and they worry about you and offcourse they think about their future too because of some isolated incidents . And one more thing is that they think their child is still child so they think child can't make good choice so.
S sir it's quite controversial but it's good to some extent,nowadays youths are not having intellectual capability,that before understanding religion they'll understand about secularism
I just think when it comes to our personal life relationship and all are our decision whether we take him or not in my case my family is so against it because of our age difference i respect them so much but I can't just cut him off they say im gonna find way better person than him but what if i don't want it then........im going against my family just for him is it wrong?
@@niharikabhat4529 I don't know about other religions but It is not allowed to marry a non-muslim person for a muslim man / woman. Don't loose your Imaan for marrying a attracting person for 30-40 years fun. This world is temporary.We have to die soon. Love your creator Allah most.And I love all brothers & sisters.But marriage without a muslim is not allowed/ haram in Islam.You can give logic to people but you can't give logic to Allah on the day of judgement. Plz be strong & faithful & believe in Allah subhan-tala.
@@md.humaiturrahman4495 Umm I'm a Hindu Brahmin and I was talking about intercaste and not interfaith. And anyway, my religion doesn't stop me from marrying a person from another religion or caste. And I love my sanatan dharm ❤️🚩
@Manvendra Deopa Actually I'm 100% confident about the person but the thing is I don't want to hurt my parents and go ahead and do something. It's not possible for me to give up either of the two ❤️
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Indian parents! Their stubbornness and ignorance have destroyed many many lives and there’s more to follow unless ‘they’ learn not to treat the kids as their property and respect them as separate individuals. In the name of ‘love’ and protection, they must stop offering us the toxic parenting and we must stop treating them as the demi-Gods.
Sir Being born in India is already struggle, we just live to survive half of our life
I believe in Kanha jii😊
And I know after lots of struggle one day will come when u get success
So , never give up trying at least last peak 😊
Radhe radhe🙏
We always talk that concentrate in your own stuff rather than judging anyone. But our parent's and elders everyday talks and decisions are based on their judgement about neighbours and relatives and many times unknown person.Then they impose conclusion on us.
Yes true I don't like judging people but my mom is very judgemental
"Humanity wouldn't have progressed if people listened to their parents all the time"
~Govind Patel
;)
I think I need courage to say this to my parents, mummy pappa today we are gonna discuss my bf 🤣. 😂😂😂
abba nahi manege😂😂😂3 idiots
They will be like haan..... kya bol rhi thi dubara bolna 🤣🤣🤣
@@sonaljain0232 and you are like....ab fir se bolne ki himmat nahi😋
Best of luck 👍
@@ashishchoudhary4451 hamare abba sunte hi koot dete hai
Plzzz nvr listen to ur parents....Dey HV huge ego.... listening to parents will make ur more bad...it's a personal experience.... begin well educated I chose to listen to parents.....n Today sitting n crying....my whole life wasted coz of parents.....many will say aisa Nahi hota but showoff Karne wale bhi hote hi parents plzzzz if u r true...gud at ur career.... parents ki mat sunno
Thanks for sharing this ❤i hope you come out of this
My parents have made my life miserable , they are not ready to understand relationship ..i am suffering emotional trauma
@@srishti2002singhHer parents just caught her relationship with me her mom told her that if she will talk to me ever again her mom will die for her and she has breaked up with me she is telling me that there is not any other option im very depressed what should i do 💔
very true. I went through same.. believed everything our parents told us, I was every parents' favorite too (own n in-laws), after losing relationship, career, marriage, I realised that it was all about them the whole time. I am a rebel now and still my mom is all about herself. If I do little good for myself, she is very jealous and competitive.
@@djrowlingable dude same... Can we please communicate via any social? I have been suffering for the past few years
Sir the main problem is that if we do love marriage and after sometimes things are not going well between us than parents and so called society start the real game .
They will behave as we are not their own son our daughter and never help us .
That's why the ratio of arrange marriage is more than love marriage 🥰
Arrange marriage is part of patriarchal society because they don't consider women choice and in arrange marriage women still judge on primitive criteria and women is the only one that has to leave their home on the other hand men are allows to stay with there parent which is an unfair and major cause of female foeticide because the parent prefer one that can stay with them, our selfish Indian parents that see profit and loss even between their kids and treat them like property and give nothing in property to their daughter and which make women depends on their husband or someone else to have shelter on their head that is why women after domestic abuse not able to leave home because they don't have their own, to begin with because they didn't get it from any side
Stand for yourself
You should be capable enough (financially as well as mentally) to take charge of your life even when things go wrong.
If your parents can go to the extremes and say you are not my son and daughter (like they just disowned you) then why would you ever want to live with such parents ?
Work hard so you can earn well and can stand alone(or with your partner if things between you are going well )if this situation comes to you.
Try to sort things out with your parents so you han live happily with them (everyone wants to live happily with their parents)
But if nothing works you need to be cabale to Move out if your parents are still clashing with you
Otherwise you will have to live an opressed life until your parents are alive
and honestly I saw someone personal facing this issue and he is very helpless as his parents runs a private school and they are rich but his parents interfare in his personal and married life too much but he just can't say anything as he is MSc from physics and he will get paid around 40k and his wife is MSc chemistry (with no experience in teaching) so she will get a pay of around 20k and with this salary they can't live the rich lifestyle they are living right now so they just listen and obey to their parents ( and tbh deep inside they are waiting when their parents will pass away(
@@bhumikkumar2274 60k is not enough for your friends 😵😵 strange ...
no didn't said that they can't live with 60k
I said they can't live that rich lifestyle that they are living now.
The girl have xuv500 and the boy just bought a fortuner last year.
They spend so much money on clothes,shoes,watches,handbags, perfumes etc... when they go for shopping
And they also give expensive gifts to each other on birthdays and ring aniversary or wedding anniversary
When they go for some celebrations they book the whole cafe to celebrate
The boy use expensive phones ( in January he bought s21 ultra) and already have 2 iphones
The boy have two sisters one of them is IPS which is a very elite job itself and socity pays a lot of respect to her and other is doctor (radiologist) and earning around 4 lac per month
So in short their parents never restrict them to spend money but they do some small stupid things and always want to show that they are the incharge.
For example The boy and girl both loves to eat nonveg food but they are not allowed to eat nonveg (so whenever they get a chance to go out they eat nonver without telling their parents).
Another example the gir wants to teach chemistry but they don't allow her to do so .... They want her to stay at home and do nothing.
In short I am saying they have two options
Work their ass off and still live a middle class life
but BE FREE
Or to live a comfy and rich life
but get treated kind of enslaved
😅😂😂😂
Society sucks!
What can we do! 🙄😅 desi culture is so much obsessed with pleasing and impressing others , you are meant to live for others and if you don't you are a shame! 😶
India hai 😂
I'm 20 and realising the same thing now🙁
Am here
@@nandakishore2710 good you realised it early. I am 36 and realised it late that our parents will never get pleased or satisfied even till last breath
I am blessed with my parents. I chose the guy to marry who I was dating for 8 yrs. I sense some issues. I called off the marriage. My parents stood by my side in all the decision. Thanks mom and dad. Though it needed a lot of courage but I spoke truth. And they know it.
Chetan sir, when I comes to know about any of your your video, there is some Goosebumps coming in my heart like waves, expecting that today I will find some precious lesson from your videos. Your videos are true mirror of my ups and downs of my life, I feel connected to me as if your words meants to me. My soul found an inspiration from you. I am blessed to have you in this generation. Love you chetan sir❤️
So nice of you. Thanks a ton!
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Ghanta parents samjhenge. Jo dil ko sahi lage , inner conscience ko sahi lage karna chahiye. Parents ko bura lagta hai to lage.
Josh me keh dia ya ispar amal bhi krte ho aap?
@@maishayartonahi Amal karta hun isliye keh diya. Jo sahi hai wo sahi hai
@@ritwikdubey9246 Mtlb saccha pyar hai aur gharwale ni maan re to gharwalo se rishta tod do par pyar nibhao?
@@ritwikdubey9246 yaar indian parents bhut blackmailing hai bhai. 😭
You r ri8. Parents ke kehne pe mene arrange marriage ki aaj meri marriage failed hogayi and my parents are against it. Like LOG KYA KAHENGE AGAR HUM SHADI SHUDA LADKI KO KESE GHAR ME RAKHE. i regret i believed them. And today i m suffering n nobody is supporting me. Take stand fr urself
I was never able to open up, about this same thing with anyone. After listening to you, i feel great relief! Thankyou so much for making all of these videos 🤗. You always make my day!❤😊
Thank you! Keep watching!
Yes sir generation gap and communication matters a lot nowadays.... And sir your videos just give positive vibes ☺️☺️❤️ the way you explain things in simplest ways are helping us alot ❤️🙏 thankyou so much sir ☺️🙏
We need to interacting with parents ... In order to overcome generation gap ✨❤️
Can change their opinion with interactions???
Won't help. Just ek kaan se sun kar dusre se bahar nikalo
They are anyway too stubborn. So you navigate your way by not paying so much heed
@@zanybhr7696 nope ... Tum agr baat kroge unke perspective ko smjhoge tw shayad koi raasta nikl aaye .. But agr phir bhi nhi baat bn rahi tw u can do whatever u want ...
no use. I am a very good communicator, and certified counselor. When I interfere them giving wrong guidance or staunch remark to anyone, they call me, "you have read lot of books, what do you think of yourself". Narcissism has gone unchecked becoz of Indian traditional culture. They are the false Lord you cannot put forth your opinion infront of them.
Everything is depend on CASTE ufff.....what society think .....🙄🙄🙄🙄
The number of drawing room sittings I have done signifies that I can be a good therapist 😂. Sir u are right that we should talk to them but the problem is not that they don't know today's generation but they want us or themselves to know and not adopt it. And I appreciate you for making this video even though it's controversial. 👍 In india as u said no parents are belived to be wrong .
My parents also had many drawing room conversations on their personal issues and my mother always use to involve me in that.
I just stand there like a referee and I have to see that any of them don't cross limits in tearms of what they are speaking...... Whenever any of them started to go out of their limits I used to calm them down.
All debates/conversations they did without my presence always ended up in a handoff and assault (that's why I even told my mom many times not to argue with dad when I am not there as if the matter heats up and they start fighting physically my mom always took more damage then she does obviously as a women she is physically less stronger than my dad...... And I hate my dad for doing this cuz he is misusing his power😟)
My dad is very cruel when he is angry and he becomes a litteral animal😭
@@bhumikkumar2274 u can advice anyone anything until and unless they want to change. U are not responsible for others behaviour 👍more power to ur mom and you
I tried to convince him countless times .... And I know he we never change so I don't even try nowadays.
When I tell him to go to a physiologist with me he just straight out say no.
A few more years till my graduation completes and I give my PG exam
As soon as I will get resedency during my post graduation and will start getting paid I'll move out of this house along with my mom (cuz she don't deserve te be with my dad..... He is an absolute headache)
And god if you think that I am doing wrong with my dad then forgive me but I am not changing my mind now.
Deep inside I want him to be normal as I have a lot of favours from him (especially finencial help) and afterall he is my father
But again what he is doing is wrong and my mother is getting mentally frustrated day by day as she is living with him.
And if I have to choose one of my oarent .... I'll choose my mother anyday 🤧
@@bhumikkumar2274 I'm not judging you don't worry
Thanks for that
But tbh I don't mind even if you judge me
That's one of the greatest advantage of internet that you can discuss anything sensetive as you don't know anyone personally
I do also have a a couple of friends and one of them is very close to me but I still feel awkward to discuss these issues with her.
Your point is right but sir ajj bhi most of our parents color ,heights, amir, gariv yea sab dek k relationship accept yea reject krte hai.
Simple kapde dek k kitna kuch judge krlete hai log.
This is india.
You r right sir.
The key solution to most problems is proper communication, but what should a child do where parents themselves aren't happy couple and do not communicate amongst themselves.
What if ur parents are conservative nd consider love relationships as negative thing
Also they consider relationship as an obstacle in your career
According to parents to love someone is a bad thing, love is a fault like stealing or to murder someone, they also start emotional blackmail like we will suicide or die or leave home..
thanks sir for addressing this issue Indian parents don't understand that their child is always be their child ,he is only loving a girl that loves her ,
they should add them to happy her child ,not to giving a options to get out of it
First you both be at your best in your CAREER. & Then have "Lawyer skills" to convince your parents. You have to be smarter than your parents. ✌🏼
Remember: society should identify you with your profession. Not relationship.
Lol🤣🤣but so true... 🔥🔥🔥
Kisiko serious health issue hai to parents ne kya karna chahiye...
It won't help if your father is judge or advocate 😒😒
@@ashwinikhobragade1164 ask doctor take counselling 👍
@@gogetter7371sarcasm tha .isme judge kyu ghusa raha Bhai . 😅
What a straight forward video!! Love u sir.❤️
I consider that children are extensions of parents.. Lifes longing for itself.. It is said.. Understanding the parental perspective about the chosen friend is definitely going to help the youngster..
Parents see children as their extension, however it is their limited ego. Everyone is extension of Lord and everyone is equiped with senses to connect to inner voice, which is enough to guide. Younger you are, easier it is to connect with your soul's voice.
👌 such a lovely explanation !
( U make everything so sorted Chetan sir )
Mzaa aa gya aapko sunke !
The main thing is intercaste relationship that involved all the problems of pride. Guardian doesn't discussed anything at all.
My mother has the most genuine reason, my gf's house is not too far from my home. So she says she wants a daughter in law who should be from a far away place. This is the most stupid reason I have heard.
@@arnavsharma4922 that's a very lame reason. My sis got married last year and she lives only 2KM away from us.
try to change your mom's mindset or
why don't one of you move out to some other city?..... sounds weird but you can try if you want
@@bhumikkumar2274 Yeah I will surely move out to a different city. I have already planned to buy a flat in some other city. BTW, thank you for sharing your point of view.
Sir, please put forward the points considering girls perspective as well🙂
Girls ko yahi dhyaan rakhna hai ki boy reserved ya backward mindest ka na ho . In laws should be like open minded and only glued to their business . I have many mother I law dancing ,making reels with daughter in law .wearing clothes of daughter in law for videos or photos or sometimes really going out in western clothes with daughter I laws .and sometimes I have also seen mother I law scolding daughter I law for wearing even jeans or sleeveless clothes . In such cases you can't fight with your mother I law of husband takes his mother side and scold his wife only .so it is better to know each and everything about the family of man . Only financial condition is not enough . Because my mother is victim of such husband and mother in law .my father has enough money to live a luxurious life .but he only invests money and money and saves the money and don't spend money on my mother .my mother doesnt even has a purse or bag or proper smart phone . She only gets one saree in diwali every year . And she is treated like a slave doing household chores . She lost her health doing household chores but my father never tried to hire a maid . So never try to marry a man who is just financially strong but is from conservative family and who is miser . My mother couldn't take divorce because her father told her to adjust with my father and she had to live like a housemaid until we got our job .now we give money to our mother.but it took 27 years for her to bear my father and his unnecessary responsibilities .
So never ever marry such man . Also try to become self dependent before marrying and don't leave your job even after marrying . Only your career can save yourself . No one will .own fathers don't accept their daughters due to social stigma and mentality . I have seen lots of families and families of my friends and relatives .
Dear Sir, You missed the cast and religious aspect of it which is prevailing at an extreme level in our country. In the next video pls consider this aspect as well.
Yes. Caste is a main issue now a days.
That ruins your mental peace. I don't understand what the hell is this.
Everybody needs to embrace such progressive approach 👏👍
Sharing my side, I have been constantly tormented by my mother for the past few years. She's a single mom and I have been brought up by my grandparents and her.
Basically I'm in a 7 years ongoing relationship with a guy... He's doing great... Respects my family, supports me, doing every possible thing a man can. Also, he's from a good family and earns good amount. My mother is making a constant facade about being with him, why his parents doesn't lick my mom's shoes? And all kind of immature and weird stuff.
I was planning to get married after my graduation but all of a sudden she is actually weird. She said if his parents come she will throw up out with insults. I'm freaking stuck RN. What should I do?
Only because of this issue my 10 yrs relationship got vanished.
Insecurity is the biggest reason I think
Sir you are changing the mind of youth in a very very positive way
Getting free life advice on every aspect!
Thank you so much sir 😊
Agar serious issue hai to parents ko bolne ka right hona chahiye..
Sir you are very kind hearted person 🙏🙏👍👍
At 2:31 sorry babu
Mammy mana kar rahi hai 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ab hamari catti 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Its india and we have to be respectable for our patents and at the same time have to take care of our feelings and emotions... Here we have to take care of partner as well as patents...
In short we have to keep both happy becz its not just our responsibility but in my opinion its our moral values.....
You do have right to love but at the same time you have responsibility to respect the love of your parents for you...
If you realise this then your parents will also realise your love for someone and ultimately you all will be blessed to live happily.... I knw its really tough but God also embraces the true love..
your parents happiness is NOT your responsibility. That is the emotional blackmail from them working within you and now you’re a product of a toxic mindset. Your parents have each other. Your mom is your dad’s wife and your dad is your husband’s wife. They should fulfill each other. RESPECT is important, correct, but it is not a one way street. If you don’t do what you love because shout parents don’t support you and you must RESPECT them, then no, there is no respect anywhere. They disrespect you and what you want, and you are not respecting them, you’re just scared of getting them upset.
U dont owe ur parents anything. U only owe to ur children.
Sir, when i started keeping moustache, my mom was saying- "why are you keeping this? You're looking horrible." I'm like 😂🤣🤣
Thank you for motivating us daily🙏
My pleasure 😊
This is the topic going through in my life🙏🙏🙏
Parenthood is about raising and celebrating the child you have; not the child you thought you would have. It is about understanding exactly the person they are supposed to be. If you are lucky; They might be the teacher who turns you into the person you are supposed to be. Anyone can have a child and call themselves a parent. A real parent is someone who puts their child above their own selfish wants and needs. Children should not ever have to sacrifice so that you can have the life you want. You make sacrifices so that your children can have the life they deserve. The moment you bring a child into this world. That is the moment you will have the responsibility for a lifetime. When you become a parent. You should never allow anything in your life that you do not want reproduce in your children. It is not just what you do for your children but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them a successful human beings; because children will follow your example, not your advice. So be the role model you want your child to be. God gave us life. Not everything is your parents business specially when it comes to your love life. What is the point of being alive if you are just going to be controlled and have no choice. Parents true love is when they see their children happy. They can advise and give suggestions but not control a human that had their own thoughts and feelings.
Awesome video sir. I just love it. You always keep me motivated .
Thanks Chetan Bro! Very few in India come forward to discuss this issue.
Today's I read your article ..... great sir
Sir career ke baad ham jishe choose kare parents ki consent apne aap ho jayegi 😊😊😊😊🥰🥰
Apne Bharat desh me aisaa he hai 👍
@@SantoshGupta-jy1wu yaa 🥰
Yes right ..98percent agree ...ho jate ...lekin caste same hai to cent percent
I don't think so....n tumhe kaise pta ??
@@paras3849
Mera do dost job k baat intercaste marriage kiye hai
If you read the "Hindu Mythology", "Bhagwaan Krishna" is the die-hard lover of "Devi Radha", but still they get seperated by Society(Yaduvanshis), but when Krishna die still remember the Radha and at last they get united by their soul. But, on the other hand "Raja Bharat" and "Brahmni Shakuntala", they both are lovers of each other, but they get seperated by "Rishi Durvasa" curse, but somehow and by fate they get united because nature is with them, but somewhere it's a happy ending, but somewhere not, their children won't be able to become the "King of Hastinapur", because they don't have the capability,skill and knowledge to become a King.
Thank you so much sir. In the Bluish-Violet light and love of lord Kalki, 2021 Shakti and Purusha, lord Hanuman and Adishakti. With Humility and lots of Unconditional love, peace, joy, oneness and expanded Awareness 🙏💙💜
This was a wonderful episode. Could you make an episode on why dowry is wrong
Yes sir please make a video on it
Sir i love your all openion about relationship and Career
My good ye bilkul sahi h
Not about gf bf but
Till now, my 18 years of life my one and only best friend had boy friend and my mom discovered that and literally restricted me from talking wid her
Just bcz she had bf
And she gives me reason that is she has bf and u stay with her u will also be spoiled u will also make bf
That's it 😐😑 still I am not allowed to talk with her
Haha😂😂 same here
Vo bilkul sahi bol rahi rahi hai
Typical indian parenting with very conservative approach
And I can assure with my personal you this also happens with boys
Sometimes I used to talk to my female school classmates and when my mom found about that she gave me a wierd look.
The way u explained was kindda funny 😂😂
Riffed jeans .no chief minister harmed 😂😂😂😂
Sir what about the intercaste relationship with boy/girlfriend.... society and relatives are always present to take out flaws
My parents never interfere in my relationship but my sister and brother always have problem with my boyfriend 😒
your parents happiness is NOT your responsibility. That is the emotional blackmail from them working within you and now you’re a product of a toxic mindset. Your parents have each other. Your mom is your dad’s wife and your dad is your husband’s wife. They should fulfill each other. RESPECT is important, correct, but it is not a one way street. If you don’t do what you love because shout parents don’t support you and you must RESPECT them, then no, there is no respect anywhere. They disrespect you and what you want, and you are not respecting them, you’re just scared of getting them upset.
They took care of you, because that’s THEIR JOB. You don’t owe them anything for it. They brought you into this world, you didn’t ask for it. They could’ve used condoms, they could’ve aborted you, but no, they WANTED you. So they must take care of you. Like when you have a pet dog, you do everything for your dog, does your dog owe you anything???? NO because you bought that dog thus taking on the responsibility
Table and Pen can be the best and perhaps the ultimate solutions irrespective of any circumstances.
Jis ladki se aap sachcha Pyar karte ho usse andhere me chhup chhup ke nahi balki sabke samne mil kar bat karni chahiye. (T&C apply 😉)
Thank you sir..... *"JAI HIND"*
✨ Yes sir Absolutely Right 💯🙌🏻
Sir, what you said, is fine.
But what if the elders just doesn't want to discuss or communicate anything at all on such topics?
To make them understand they should atleast be ready for the conversation?
Just go and talk to them
They will try their best to avoid it but you have to drag them down to have a conversation
Thank you sir for these videos ✨❤️
Arrange marriage is part of patriarchal society because they don't consider women choice and in arrange marriage women still judge on primitive criteria and women are the only one that has to leave their home on the other hand men are allows to stay with their parents which is an unfair and major cause of female foeticide because the parent prefers one that can stay with them, our selfish Indian parents that see profit and loss even between their kids and treat them like property and give nothing in property to their daughter and which make women depends on their husband or someone else to have shelter on their head that is why women even after domestic abuse not able to leave home because they don't have their own, to begin wit,h because they didn't get it from any side. In arrange, marriage women don't enter by their choice that is why people can not get the divorce on their own choice too. That's why that so-called argument that arranges marriage has a low divorces rate because lots of people get involved that do not let you get divorced and forced to stay even though that person has committed marital rape and domestic violence.
True😣
Mam or sir whoever u r first stop calling parents selfish their could be conflict of ideas but they never want bad for their kids 2. This is the system established long back that girls have to leave their home parents couldn't do anything in it even if they do society don't let them live 3. Parents try to give as much as assets they have to girls in the form of dowry and in the rituals that follow 4. Girls should study make a career then nobody can put their opinions on u....no one can harass u education is empowerment 5 u are the most ignorant one if u call parents selfish they are the one who do everything for their kids selflessly u will realise this when u will face the actual world
@@tanu5786 yeah for these people parents love are called true love only when they allow you to do love marriage
Herein my colony a father donates his own kidney for his daughter because his daughter kidnies had been damaged by some fungus when she was 20 and now when she is 27 and asking for interfaith marriage he is denying but does it means his love for his daughter was never a love ? He does not donates his kidney if he do not love her but as of above statement(which a person has written) he is selfish because he do not allow his daughter to marry
Girls r selfish nowadays...they don't help their parents after getting good job...they hardly call their parents...
@Manvendra Deopa I hv so many examples...don't say idiot...mind ur language...
I will die for shame before saying such things to parentsk😆
We love you sir 🙏🏻❤️✨
Love you too ❤️
I just want to say HAHAHAHAHAHA funniest video of yours.
I am writing a novel about this...
Agar itna simple e hota 😮💨 , to itni musibat nahi hota 😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
Thank you 😊 sir to giveing us a lot of positive vibes ✅🌷
Always welcome!
i personally feel i'll b into this situation very soon heheh... i'll use this for sure...
Parents first help you with money and give you love, but soon they fukin own you, so start making money as soon as possible and move out
Thank you 🙏
The only thing they noticed is a Cast and now my parents planned to ruin my career. They stopped the financial support for my further studies.
I just started looking out your from yesterday now i am just addicted to it.
Chetan Sir, when bf leaves a girl because his parents are not ready for intercaste marriage, what you would say about it? This is happening a lot in Maharashtra.
I am not Chetan sir but I have more experience in such cases . If a man is leaving a girl just because his parents ask him to . It's better to leave such men instead of marrying him ..because such men will always follow his parents after marriage and won't support the wife . He won't be able to take own decisions . He will not support his wife in fights between Mother in law and daughter in law (wife)
@@aakasharya6918 Thank you bro
Sir agar ma zyada logically fight karu mera parents ka saath usse time mera mom papa ko bolega """ humara beta abb aur humara nhi raha😭😭 """
Iss lea mera ek plan hain pahele carrear , ek bada sa house , then gf 😁😁🎉🎉
U r defenetely below 18 immature teen. I bet
@@user-jc1km1qv1m i m not immature bro.. my age is 16
really brother you are mature and smart thinking person. God bless and fulfiling you all wishes.
@@parteekkumar4923 thanks bro...🙂
Nice video sir, eagerly waiting for more videos😄😄
Very soon!
Mere bf ke mummy papa bolte hai ldki ne Jadu tona kr diya hai..uske papa mere ko bole..beta mera hai pr aajkl tumhara hi gungan krta hai..nhi to bolte hai tumhare paise ke pichhe pdi hai.. hmdono clg se hi sath me hai jb dono ke pas job nhi tha..ab dono independent hai..8 saal ka relationship..1 saal se jyada ho gya unhe mnate hue..but kosis ab bhi jari hai
So well explain with good humour
Totally Inspired ❤️
Parents are right they wants to save their child life
Good work chetan sir 👍👍 really helped!
Happy to help
I can connect to all yours vedios!! Tysm sir!!❤️
Keep watching!
India's best TH-camr❤
That means a lot!
Make a video for indian parents that how to treat their children....in this topic
Kya sir
Most problem is inter cast lifestyle , marriage !
Make a short vid on this issue
I biggest and humble request sir
My bf's mother don't want him to be with me because they belongs from Bihari family and I am gujrati then what we are supposed to do??
When i was in 9th std, I had a girlfriend,i used to leave early with my cycle just to meet her. One day i saw my dad following me from far away with his scooter. He was so suspicious of me 😂 or he loves me so much and was concerned
@Santosh Parvatikar Just read again what you typed you'll understand.If you understand relative speed
@Santosh Parvatikar 😆
6:14 yaaah that's what i got 😂😂lmao
I don't think that's true
Seriously who slaps an adult ?
My dad last slapped me when I was 14.
And now nobody can do this again to me.
@@bhumikkumar2274 it's not the same in some family ✌️also when you're a girl
@@mohanapriya9581 Be strong..... and never forget what you are feeling now so you don't treat / allow someone else to treat your kids like this
this situation will get better generation by generation
BTW I am very curious about your name
is that your real name? (cuz. it is combination of 3 different names)
Iam confidence unkono mna luga but they are confirmed with their decision
I don't know about others but I know my parents want best for me just there may be generation gap (offcourse there is) and have different mindset but the thing is I think parents worried because of marriages being broken and they worry about you and offcourse they think about their future too because of some isolated incidents . And one more thing is that they think their child is still child so they think child can't make good choice so.
My parents dislike all my friends boyfriend stuff is out of thinking!
Bhot sahi kaha sir aapne !!!🙏
S sir it's quite controversial but it's good to some extent,nowadays youths are not having intellectual capability,that before understanding religion they'll understand about secularism
Great video sir
Sir are you on vacation ??~👌☺️
soo many factsssssss
I just think when it comes to our personal life relationship and all are our decision whether we take him or not in my case my family is so against it because of our age difference i respect them so much but I can't just cut him off they say im gonna find way better person than him but what if i don't want it then........im going against my family just for him is it wrong?
Thank you sir 🙏
tysm sir for this video....
Sir, how should we deal with Caste System ?
Exactly, I have the same problem
@@niharikabhat4529 I don't know about other religions but It is not allowed to marry a non-muslim person for a muslim man / woman.
Don't loose your Imaan for marrying a attracting person for 30-40 years fun.
This world is temporary.We have to die soon.
Love your creator Allah most.And I love all brothers & sisters.But marriage without a muslim is not allowed/ haram in Islam.You can give logic to people but you can't give logic to Allah on the day of judgement.
Plz be strong & faithful & believe in Allah subhan-tala.
@@md.humaiturrahman4495 lund
@@md.humaiturrahman4495 Umm I'm a Hindu Brahmin and I was talking about intercaste and not interfaith. And anyway, my religion doesn't stop me from marrying a person from another religion or caste. And I love my sanatan dharm ❤️🚩
@Manvendra Deopa Actually I'm 100% confident about the person but the thing is I don't want to hurt my parents and go ahead and do something. It's not possible for me to give up either of the two ❤️