It’s not confusing. It typically comes from growing up in a bad home as a child. They’re not used to living in peace. Sometimes peace scares them bc some parents will use quiet as an abuse tactic (the silent treatment). It shows exactly how many ppl come from screwed up families.
well right? recently heard somebody saying he never woke up in the morning thinking he should go to war with another country. I guess this pretty much sums it up!
I’m an older man. I’m happily married nearly 40 years. I treasure my time with my spouse, however, I am increasingly aware that I need time alone. Time spent in personal contemplation and “peace” is paramount. The need for both companionship and time alone is a healthy balance.
30 years married here, and I totally agree. The cool thing is my wife feels the same way. We love each other to death, but some alone time once in a while is nice and I think healthy for both your marriage and your personal well being.
My husband has passed now. Having said that we had perfection. He gave me safety I hope I gave him peace in his home and security that I loved and treasured him. We often sat for hours comfortable in our love for each other. I miss him so.
I’m glad to hear some men get that , I’d love a story like that but I got one that ended up with mental issues but I can’t leave my children behind and she presents well when in company so it’s my word against hers . There’s no out for me till my children are old enough to acknowledge that I should walk away for my own sanity .
He is so lucky to have you. Some of us men would love to sit quietly with Bjorn, have short bursts of smart conversation and drink our coffee. He's right. Mostly it's no woman, no cry.
I was married..... Then divorced not by my choice. Then a new relationship not married....... So now I'm single again. Now I prefer being alone for the right reason then in a relationship for the wrong reason. I'm 57..... So the chances of finding someone these days are very slim. Lots of women have many many relationships.... Well in Europe it's that way. And I don't want to be just a number in a long line...... I just want to be the last one in a short line. I still hope..... But I'm realistic.
I am married to a wonderful woman and we have five children. We don’t have many arguments since we are on the same page when it comes to our lives. That’s all I ever wanted. With that I have great peace in my life. Have a great day everyone.
I’ve lived alone with my dog since my wife left over ten years ago now. I am living a peaceful quiet life and really enjoy your videos. I’m 68 and retired here in the USA
I don't think that too many women genuinely want or seek conflict, contrary to how it may feel from a man's perspective. They want the peace and harmonious existence that is on the other side of the conflict. In my experience (married 20 years and divorced) men tend to be highly avoidant when it comes to addressing challenges that naturally arise in sharing a life with someone. They see any need to discuss these challenges as a threat to their wellbeing rather than an opportunity for mutual growth which will ultimately lead to deeper, richer, more meaningful relating. At least this is what I have learned and also observed in the successful marriages I have witnessed in my friend circle.
@@ashleykindheartministrieswomen don't love the man, they love what they can provide for them, as soon that's not the case anymore most of them leave, unfortunately that's the truth
I feel men would be more willing to discuss if they feel the communication is respectable. Mostly this unfortunately doesn't occur so things get left unresolved and tension arises on these topics. It is only a threat to their wellbeing by the way it has been expressed. Respectful communication is key for both parties which sadly we don't know how.
Yes, women want peace and harmony too. I agree that living alone in peace is much preferred over living with a partner that brings drama home daily. I left drama behind many years ago and have a quiet, tranquil life. No regrets.
I’m a woman and I want to be free from people who make dramas. To me sunsets, the waves crashing onto the beach, summer evenings, the birds soaring in the sky, music, dancing , laughter and people who connect with my soul are all precious to me.
Really? Yet you seem to have missed the whole point of what THIS man is saying and what I, as a woman am saying to you - YOU are the drama that men want to get away from - YOU are the problem, YOU don't listen to MEN, because YOU demand in oh so many ways, most of them sly, indirect, vague and frankly immature that MEN communicate LIKE WOMEN. They won't, they don't want to, and why should they. Overemotional, manipulative, vacuous drivel most of the time - have spent a lifetime having to work with women. It's like trying to herd cats, and takes nearly twice as long as it should, to get anything done because of all the bloody manufactured DRAMA. Unnecessary drama.
For 31 years, I've been my husband's best friend, confidante, and biggest cheerleader and he has done the same for me. Whenever life punches us in the face, we cling to each other and most importantly, we don't forget to laugh. "When you're born, you get a ticket to the freak show. When you're born in America, you get a front row seat." - George Carlin
As someone who has wanted that but never managed to find it, that warms my heart to read. I hope you truly appreciate just how precious that is. (though I'm sure you do lol) Take care! 😸👍
Women also want peace but its difficult to find this with some men as they dont understand what it is we need so that we can feel and be that peace for them.😊
As a woman of grandmother age, I try to give men compliments when I'm out and about. If a man has a magnificent beard, I tell him so. Our men in the West receive so little encouragement, and as a woman I've realized how much power my feminine encouragement can have for the men in my life. It is like fuel for their will, for what they want to accomplish. It is the opposite of criticism, which drains them of their enthusiasm. Encouragement is part of a woman's magic.
Juding by the women in the comments getting absolutely butthurt that a video was made without their perspective. Yes, it actually is quite hard indeed to find a woman who can resist the urge to insert themselves in absolutely everything.
After many years of marriage to the same wonderful man, I can tell you that you are so right. Who wants the conflict and chaos in their home life? Neither my husband or I. We also require time alone and plenty of it in Nature. Our home has always been a safe haven and it has helped our children grow into well adjusted adults. May peace be with you all.
Your home is like the way homes used to be even 50 years ago. With the advent of computers we have literally been turned into, I don't know what, but as we see it's not healthy.
I think you speak for both men and women, most women don't want conflict but we also don't want to be taken for granted and used and that's often where the conflict comes in. If you don't want to share the load, every day, then stay single, you have no business getting married. And right up there with peace is trust.....don't lie to me. I have been a widow for 22 years and I will stay that way because peace is paramount to me and I will NOT be somebodies maid/cook without that being reciprocated.
Your post reminded me of something my mom's friend said years ago after being widowed with a large amount of money. She said the the men she met wanted a nurse with a purse.
@@foozjen My Mom never remarried after my Dad died. She use to say the same thing. A nurse with a purse. My ex-husband was abusive. I worked long hours and the first thing he said when I walked in the door, what's for dinner. Never lifted a finger with anything including raising our kids. My son called the cops the last time he hit me. He thought I would take him back. I didn't. Filed a restraining order and filed for divorce. Love being on my own. Appreciate not having to take care of a man.
Nobody else is responsible for your peace. Peace comes from having excellent self control and discipline in managing your emotions, beliefs, thoughts, physical health, work, relationships, finances and anything else that is important to you. You attract what you are. So if you only attract people with drama, it’s time to take a look at yourself. What do you need to change within yourself to attract what you truly want?
Men that really enjoy peace will do tonnes of self-evaluation of every past relationships that they had. If all those past relationships brought chaos and dramas to his life, it will be the best option for them to stay single and enjoy their peace. Took many failed relationships for some men to realise this.
Exactly why I left my high paid corporate management job in oil and gas and set up my own fencing business. Outside every day, alone and listening to the birds sing while I work = peace to me, never been happier !
Great decision. Years ago, I left behind a well paid office job in electronic engineering to go to the Dominican Republic. Working outside with horses out in nature most of the time. Not much income, but no regrets at all. Life has never been better
You’re absolutely right, I just want peace and quiet. After 11 years of military service and constant conflict and noise, I just want peace and quiet and to be left alone to be happy.
It's rather weird coming from men, who disturb the peace worldwide, now that you are tired of it, you think you deserve the woman to comply while your buddies keep causing havoc and worse.
Real women only want peace and honesty. Always great to see and hear you Bjorn. I left a relationship a year ago because of the drama. All I wanted was peace and contentment.
There is a lot of sterotyping around men and women. I've met men who talk non stop, worked with men who acted like bitches and drama queens, slandering about each other, something that shocked me as i had expected different working with an all men group! I've met mature men who rest in their masculinity and as such, are supportive and loving. I've met women who treasure peace and quiet, who love nature and their own company. Who are refective and mature, and yes, there are those who are the opposite. Why do we have to put people into boxes? Some of the comments here sadden me because of generalisations and disbelief that women too seak peace and harmony. The fact is we are individuals with different personalities, life experiences and cultures, as well as needs.
I am a woman and I want Peace too. However, the men I have met are seeking for more more more, partying, drinking, getting money, power, control, adoration, feeling like a million bucks etc. There are a lot of such men out there, who are discontented, with a big hole inside that cannot be filled by everything that they chase, who take their angst out on others, especially their partners. I now prefer to be alone, at peace, contented, because I have not met a man who doesn't shout, control, who isn't materialistic and has the need to be always right. In a way, your videos are quite soothing to watch, because I like how natural men can be. Unfortunately I attract the wrong types.
I'm 34 years old, I have a wonderful wife, two beautiful daughters, and I'm very content with my life and harmonious relationship. But our relationship was not always easy. When my wife was younger, she spent a lot of time on Instagram and Facebook, watched romantic movies on Netflix, and started drama or tested me. After she deleted her social media accounts, our relationship improved a lot.
Women want to be heard, loved, understood. If a man can give a woman this, he will have peace, contentment and much more. If he can’t, there will most likely be conflict. Sometimes the ‘nagging’ wife is simply a woman married to an emotionally unavailable or distant man who is unable to see/ connects to her needs. Peace Its a two way street
I am a woman who wants peace as well, but when I was younger I really longed for being in harmony with my husband, who was always working. I was at home with the children and when he came home at night all he wanted was to be left alone. I felt really lonely and not loved at all. It has to be in balance
@@offthedeepend3996 Not many. I don’t know if you live in the U.S. but, Women lib has destroyed everything. Not a popular opinion amongst my kind, but it’s true. Now that the government has broken the family unit, they get a broken society. And that was the plan. I could write 100000 words here, but I digress. I’m sure you get it. I hope you find a soft hearted Woman, my friend. ❤️
@offthedeepend3996 I would like to say I'm one of them but probably not true. I've been hurt too many times and it's hard for me to trust. It's the same for finding a tender man though, they're pretty rare.
@@FallenRisingAngel That's when you grow a pair and leave her behind, look for someone else or just be on your own. But most people can't handle being alone.
Well, I am a woman. I agree with you completely about coming home and finding a peaceful environment. This is WHY I live alone. All I want is to find a man who can sit and hold my hand without talking nonstop. I have Never found that in a man. They bring home a lot of drama from work or trouble that they have had with other men. They complain about their family and neighbors, kind of like a competition. So maybe it is NOT all men or women 😉 Also, I stay away from men and women who have a lot of drama in their lives. Therefore, I don't have many friends, which is fine. I love my peaceful and drama free home life ❤
Well said. I was married for 30 years and almost daily, my husband came home from work and "barked" at me non stop. It ruined every evening and our family never sat at a table for dinner, except the holidays with company. We ate in the t.v. room and watched sports every evening. This way he could yell at his team and not me. (Oh, and I worked a full time job too. So it's not like he was supporting me and felt entitled to vent).
They want to feel needed. They want to have a purpose. As a woman, I also want peace and I don't want to be used, harassed, ordered, criticized or abused. That's one of the reasons I've chosen to remain single.
This is so correct. My upbringing was within a peaceful family. If we had any issues we talked them through and sorted them out. When I got married, my so called wife launched into a never ending crusade of psychological mind games, arguments and both mental and physical abuse. The final straw came with the discovery of being cheated. That guy however saved my life as the devils eye was now on her pastime. Life improved so much. However I find I no longer trust people and seek peace and solitude to refresh my soul. Nature is beautiful and renews every day. Seeing baby foxes playing in the early morning sun or wildfowl on a lake is a gift.
My mother was very abusive when I was a child emotionally and physically, that has done some damage to me as a woman, I slept with men because I thought they loved me but that was not the case, It took me a very long time to heal from that and I am very proud to say I have been abstinent for 3 years and I have healed even more. I was truly disgusted with myself, I'm saving myself for marriage now because I believe every single one of us can change, some people had happy childhoods but some of us is not that fortunate. I am now healthy, happy, fit and glowing. These videos are amazing and keeps me on track ❤
you don't need childhood trauma to do that. There are many women who do that. Just because it's easy and they can...and it became "socially acceptable". Mind the quotes. In reality, men hate that. it's the kind of woman you can find in any corner nowadays.
@@markadler8968of course I can not you or anyone are going to change my point of view aspecially men like you with this mindset, I'm sure you have slept with woman just for your release. All the best
@@razvandumitru2252 then you don't fully understand childhood trauma, there are of course other things I can not mention. But this kind of trauma can do alot more damage aspecially growing up some people fall into a dark depression, I didn't inseeked help, took accountability and moved on.
I don’t know you but admire your drive to better yourself and learn from mistakes. For the negative folks unfortunately these mistakes are a huge part of life. In my opinion it’s an asshole move to tear someone down who’s actively trying to better themself
I am 51 and in a very unpeaceful marriage. I recently spent a week in the garage because I did not treat the 50th birthday of my wife like a week long quincenara. She suffers from a life long debilitating Disney Princess Syndrome. Her syndrome is absolutely killing me. Your wisdom always hits. But all I keep seeing in the video is that wonderful hut. How I could live in that wonderful hut for a month. I would barely feel like time passed. How the quiet would restore my soul. Just me and my dogs. I will last a lot longer living in that hut than staying married with all the modern conveniences.
I am finding it amusing that men want peace and quiet. Yet, when I was in relationships, I was told multiple times that I was too "independent'. I didn't demand that a man pay attention to me 24/7, would encourage them to go out with their friends or go spend some alone time, and didn't expect them to financially support me. I was capable of taking care of myself without the need for drama. Fast forward 20 years, I still live alone and moved up into the mountains. I love the sound of nature, no drama, and being financially independent- no mortgage or debt.
@@churchofpos2279 Been there, know that. Generally men don't like an indépendant minded, intelligent woman. They want a woman who will follow them; physically, mentally, spiritually. My neighbours are sterling exemples .
Somebody like you would have been perfect for me but you probably had too high standards and those men want a woman that follows them and let them be the leader, "high value" men have big egos
@@wonderingpiper Bingo! I think the reason for that is lack of true, healthy masculine role models and lack of self-respect in the first place. Even unhleathy lifestyle.
Just appreciation for all the things i bring to the table, its Not about respect, its about showing appreciation for our best efforts. My dad was subjected to shouting and hatred when he got home from work, every day for 50 years, he was a wonderful person, my mother Never showed appreciation for him, just distain. Thank goodness i never married, i found that most women are selfish drama queens, in constant conflict with their men, it’s no fun ladies. No regrets whatsoever.
I am a woman and you were describing me lol. I only want peace and no drama in my life. I have set up boundaries to keep the peace. I definitely would live alone if that was the only way to keep peace in my world. I am 62 years young and I think the world has worn me down and this is the result.
Yes, people have worn me down also. Both sexes are acting like children with their wants and needs. Back in my day, there was no such thing and it was very peaceful, miss those days...
When people ask how I have stayed married for 30 years I tell them I didn’t marry my husband to change him into someone else. Nor did I expect him to suddenly become half of me , he is still his own person who needs to do his own thing and have his own space and time. Also unlike a lot of women I don’t spend time telling other women how rubbish he is or how he is not doing this or that ..why would you say these things about someone you say you love ? I think I learnt from my mother how not to treat my husband after I saw how she treated and spoke about my dad ..
@@CarrieLovesLife. men want bang maids . sad but true that is why women need to start saying No to men . Men have less empathy than we do , so we need to start matching the same energy that they do
I was married, faithful, had a baby and had to work in a factory. I still had to clean, cook and service him. He was a cheater. I never got married again. Once was enough for me. I've done better on my own.
I agree with you. I was married for 21 years. She had depression issues. I had come to a point where I never felt happy with whatever was going on around me. Then we divorced. The day that happened I experienced a flood of stress leaving my life. I again felt happiness and calm that had escaped me. I’ve been divorced about 12 years now and am still finding happiness in most things I do. I feel sorry that she has to deal with depression but honestly there didn’t seem to be anything I could do to help her that would change her life outlook. For me the situation slowly took its toll on me and I didn’t think about it until it was gone. Now I’m living a peaceful life and I’ll never make that mistake again. Mike
True. I live in the forest. In my own small house with a garden, beehives and nature just outside. Not many cars, no bustling city noise, no light pollution, not many people and only the smell of forest and animals in my nostrils. And I'm at peace though never out of things do.
It seems to me that the reason no one has the peace which we as humans all seek is simple, it isn't profitable. The powers that be want money and control. There is no money and control with people having their peace. "Peace sells but who's buying?" -Dave Mustane (Megadeth)
I’m an older lady, and totally identify with what you’re saying….its really satisfying when men and women compliment each other and celebrate our different needs and not compete.
Coming out of an extremely crazy, abusive marriage, I can't understand that men are really like this. I want to believe it, but no matter what I did in my marriage, he was always angry with me and so critical. I could cook almost every meal for 15 years, homeschooled and raised/am raising 8 children, do all the dishes have the house clean, the kids calm and sitting quietly and he would find a crumb on the floor or a paper that was left out or anything and just freak out. He was the opposite of peaceful. We are all recovering but I'm not sure I'll ever be able to enter another relationship and feel safe.
Men want to be recognized and appreciated for what they contribute to a relationship, in an atmosphere of peace, mutual respect and loving acceptance. They need their own space too. It's not always easy to maintain the above, a sense of humour does help, but it's worth the effort :)
I'm a man. A straight man. And I don't want ANY of those things you describe. I just want a quiet, peaceful life with no drama, no hysterics, no bullshit, no nagging, no screaming and no baggage. Which is why I've been single for 24 years.
As a working woman, I can tell you that I also want peace. I would love to get out to the world - which women do, and came home to have peace and tranquility, and preferably cooked dinner and a glass of wine, while children are fed and taken care of, and so is the whole house. I don't want to come home and have to work the second job ALONE, because then - I am sorry, but I am not going to be peaceful, seeing my husband sitting on a sofa and not giving darn about anything, because he needs peace. As a woman who is so-called housewife and takes care of children - I also want peace.I don't want my partner coming home and criticizing me for everything, things he has no idea about and no involvement in, and/or unloading his stress on me and children. My home should be my safe heaven and should be safe and peaceful. I don't blame anyone - men or women, who prefer living alone and in peace, than not having it with a partner who doesn't understand how important is peace for person's well-being and happiness. The problem is, many are quick to point fingers, instead of looking into themselves to understand how much peace they are bringing - or not - into a relationship.
Is your husband forcing you to work outside the home?, or are you working outside the home because you have to? Did you need a house you could barely afford, 2 cars for the 2 jobs that are required to pay the bills? Why did you have children if you think they are such a burden? Another thing on a day off do you go shopping or stay at home and rest? This is just a taste…..I could go on and on
@@Lyleestlingso as long as her ability to care for the families welfare matches his and as long as she’s doing what he wants like lowering her standards then everything will be ok. It doesn’t matter what a woman does she will have to wear the blame. I’ve been blamed for doing too much and also not doing enough when it was convenient. Only my kids can tell the truth about these things, they know and men forget that.
You seem both a working woman and a housewife in your post, it's like Schrödinger's cat :-) The thing I find is that women in general, not every woman, but in general are more inclined to jealousy, manipulation, curiosity, take everything in life including their jobs too seriously and are often driven by emotions rather than reason. These traits make living in peace with a woman more difficult, unless you are lucky to find the exceptions to the rule.
@@amandaboado7057 you have not treated your husband the same since the children arrived, heaven forbid the 2 of you ever get divorced the children will go with you and he will pay the price. So for him to play second fiddle and the possibility of getting financially hammered is such a great feeling to live so get over your pity party
If you give her safety she will give you peace. It’s not one sided. Relationships are about team work. And growth. People need to take accountability for their actions and do better. Both sexes. Because of our biology we are primed to look for threats in our environment, you get the worse out of anyone when they’re in survival. We need to learn to be each other allies not enemies.
I think the problem is narcissism, which has always been around but is more common these days in both sexes, amplified by social media. I wish we could all get up in the morning with the mindset that the world does not revolve around us, and we'd be much happier.
@@Hornswoop Looking at the political landscape and seeing how many world leaders are male in comparison to how many are female, there seems to be a lot of "conflict and drama" driven by men.
I once had a partner who wanted to know EVERYTHING in my head, all my thoughts. It was a constant picking and prying and complaining about not opening up. When I did that then something I may have conveyed would be used as some counter to something else. I got so sick of it and finally asked why they were doing that. " Because Ive never seen you truly mad and I just want to know how you are when your mad " Why on earth would someone want to know such a thing ? To learn how to make someone mad ? This is the kind of game playing and drama that drives people away. I do understand that a man needs his peace because I need mine too.
I am older now and in my humble opinion, men want to be recognized for providing, reason, uplifted and to be heard. They want dignity from woman. Peace is gained when married to a like minded woman. Honest dialogue. Not keeping a score card. Both partners need to encourage other. Best friends and loyalty in that friendship.
I am a woman and I was aware even as a child that peace and quiet and solitude were extremely important to my well-being. I’m 63, and I still feel the same.
Right. I got a cat. No peaceful childhood. No peaceful ex-man. I knew how to shut my mouth and what to say and when to say. Too late for some to be sorry and closed door to yesterdays. The cat stays. A new man? Not for me. I’m Done.
'Taking about everything very often leads to conflict" - I like this sentence. I think there's a lot of wisdom in it. Right measure is the key. I think it applies to many other aspects of living.
I haven't met a woman who wasn't an attention seeking, soul sucking vampire who thrives on absolute chaos. Women typically say one thing and expect another.
No they don't, sorry. EVERY SINGLE man is NOT wrong.. Sorry but any man witb experience KNOWS this is not true. Its just a sad fact of life/women do not want "peace"
Let's just say women and men have different meanings for same words yet we speak the same language that's the reason for all the confusion and misunderstanding
@@CARNAGE_69 Perhaps to a point, but if peace means staying out of drama and spending time alone in nature then that is what I mean. The problem is, that some people men and women pre judge a person on gender stereotypes without getting to know a person. Also will harshly judge a full gender without looking at their own that goes for men and women as well. Without understanding, listening to each other and trying to find common ground we will never have peace.
Please study communication styles. Most men aren't aware that they need to do this in order to discover if the woman they like is truly understanding or putting on a show until the ring is on her finger. Best of luck to you.
Kære Bjørn. Tak fordi du sætter fokus på det vigtige emne :) Vi er mange som søger indre fred i denne tid, hvor energien er høj og vi er mange som ser indad og reflektere over hvad meningen er med det hele. Det feminine og det maskuline er virkelig noget vi skal heale op på og skabe en ny virkelighed,. Det gamle system vi er opdraget ind i er ikke brugbart mere :) Tak for alt du deler, jeg selv er på vej til at leve mere i harmoni med naturen og mere simpelt :) Du inspirerer mig
Spot on. Very true. Peace, no drama, a space to be quiet, and if sharing a life with a woman, one who is supportive, not overly complaining, not competitive with her man, and brings out the better and best qualities in us. At the same time, it seems to me that one of the things that is important for women is to have a man who will simply listen to them. It seems to me they work things out more through talking than us men, but we work things out more through quiet contemplation. Of course, these are generalities and there are are always exceptions. It can be a delicate balancing act, but a beautiful one if we're open to learning and growing as we go in our relationship.
As a man, I don't want my woman to be my peace. I need her to *not add* conflict and stress. If she soothes and helps alleviate, she's a treasure. Undisturbed, anyone should be able to have peace, it's when there's another present who doesn't take away from that peace that makes them valuable and ideal as a spouse.
Well said. Some people may think that we mean lack of responsibility or never having to do anything we don’t want to, but that’s not what we mean. We mean that when the inevitable conflict arises and we do our best to deal with it, then that is enough. No extra criticism, just acceptance.
Another interesting video thanks Bjorn. I’ve thought, observed, and discussed your topic for today with many people over many years. The conclusion you have come to regarding men seeking peace is correct. A man’s goal of peace is achieved from “emotional stability” that is, his emotions aren’t being pushed up or pulled down. On the other hand, “emotional stability” is of less importance to a woman than the “feelings” she derives from her emotions being either on the way up or down, she will strive for her emotions to be moving in one direction or another. If you could provide 100% of what a woman wanted or needed and take away all outside stressors, she will not be happy for long. She needs her emotions to fluctuate, hence the arguments, bitching and antagonistic behavior. A man’s peace comes from his emotions plateauing and being allowed to exist in that space without emotional provocation.
This is one woman whom lives alone and after I realized it’s for the peace and contentment! It’s been 20 years now . I have friends both male and female but I protect my peace now , maybe quite stoutly!
I agree. I'm a 61 year old man. If I were not married I would live in my van. For me part of peace means not paying a mortgage and all the headaches that come with it. Property owns us. We don't own it.
For many here I think the problem is, People meet then jump in the sack. You need to take things slow and base your relationship on Friendship not lust.
Be the partner you want to find. I think all healthy people want to live in peace. At the same time, healthy people also desire and need personal growth to become their best selves. That kind of growth only comes from facing challenges - not from living without problems. The biggest challenge in life is learning how to live with and love another person. You can't do that alone. It's like Ram Dass says, "If you think you're enlightened, go spend a week with your family".
@@Jen-mf9rmown interesting and kept on a leash? where is the line? the other night my friend spent 50€ in an online game when we played together. I kept silent, it isn't my money so I won't comment. But he is already 36yrs old, has a 10-yrs relationship with his gf and still doesn't own an appartment. If I were his gf, could I please still stay sth regarding his ridiculous spending habits on his hobbies, or is that already considered "on a leash" and interfering with "his own interests"? Life isn't a solo show.
@@NoctLightCloud The line is called... idk making your own decisions and finding another man? If they've been together for 10 years, that sounds like someone has terrible management skills.
@@NoctLightCloud I assume he played his own money. He's an adult and it's his decision, his life. If his gf has a problem with it, maybe he's not the right one for her / she's not the right one for him. If she doesn't have a problem with it, what's the point?
Another word that came to mind for me was "Respect". But the more I think about it, the more I think that being respected would probably lead to having more peace.
Men are not the only ones who want peace and no drama. I have been in three major relationships, and each of the men brought me drama. I was ground down. I am happier on my own than being with a man who brings drama and chaos with him. I leave that to the younger women who can deal with it. I agree men want peace. So do smart women!
Completely agree mate, modern society is stressful and dramatic . I'm 21 and I'm out fishing and foraging 5 days per week and it is so calming and simple , thanks for the video
Men and women alike want peace, harmony, respect, honesty, and partnership. Both need to appreciate what the other person does and not take things for granted. Having harmony in the home takes a lot of work, patience, and dedication from both partners. There is mutual give and take, and both need to remember that trust is vital for the relationship to live, let alone thrive. Both need their "me" time and time to engage in whatever hobbies and interests they might have, and the other person should support that.
@@jagosevatarion8822 And I was accused of being too lacking in emotion when I was a young woman. I grew up with a grandfather whose preferred philosophy was stoicism, and never enjoyed playing mind games or engaging in histrionics. Admittedly, I was a tom boy and a loner, not to mention growing up in a traditional Native and military family, so my world view and behavior was just different. Just didn't have time for bullshit.
Very true, Bjorn. I’m 52 now, and find I treasure time spent in solitude, preferably with a spiritual book or meditating. My tolerance for drama is also low.
I think you are right. I am a woman revelling in my solitude. Simply put, men rarely wish to share their thoughts, while women chatter, express ideas, wants, needs. A man would like his woman to follow his leadership, lean on his strength. And not to excel at activities. How would you feel, Bjorn, if you taught your wife archery, she somehow made the national team and left you wondering if that was your intention when you introduced her to bow and arrows. Happened to me, got dragged to a pistol club, and........ It only came up years after I quit shooting, and we negotiated an ending of the partnership, just how very jealous he had been. A strong capable woman needs a very strong man.
I’m a woman, and I thought you were going to say that men want to be appreciated and respected for their efforts. I know my husband does. But I guess if a woman appreciates and respects her man, that's a form of peace, but I hear you. Thank you.
I was thinking of that joke...the girl asks the guy if he wants anything, because she is coming over to his place for a date. "Show up naked" he suggests. "Oh, anything else?" she asks. "Bring food."
just a wonderful message today. I feel this about the desire to not have conflict, especially in the home but it has never been put to me so succinctly. Thank you for all you are doing on your channels. As a 69YO male, you never fail to lift my spirits.
Normal people want peace. The confusing part are the people who are not peaceful.
It’s not confusing. It typically comes from growing up in a bad home as a child. They’re not used to living in peace. Sometimes peace scares them bc some parents will use quiet as an abuse tactic (the silent treatment).
It shows exactly how many ppl come from screwed up families.
Help yourself and just answer to yourself "they don't know any better". Case closed. One love.
well right? recently heard somebody saying he never woke up in the morning thinking he should go to war with another country. I guess this pretty much sums it up!
Peace is better than war. War is better than surrender.
Nah, the average woman needs her drama
I’m an older man. I’m happily married nearly 40 years. I treasure my time with my spouse, however, I am increasingly aware that I need time alone. Time spent in personal contemplation and “peace” is paramount. The need for both companionship and time alone is a healthy balance.
Agreed. Everybody needs some alone time. It's very important. If a couple stick together 24/7, on long term, it's not gonna work
30 years here and yes, im the same way.
I love the way you put that.
Thank you for sharing this👍🕊️
30 years married here, and I totally agree. The cool thing is my wife feels the same way. We love each other to death, but some alone time once in a while is nice and I think healthy for both your marriage and your personal well being.
It took me 50 years to find a woman who was compatible. Today, I have enjoyed 20 years of marital bliss. Because I am with the right partner.
❤❤❤
My husband has passed now. Having said that we had perfection. He gave me safety I hope I gave him peace in his home and security that I loved and treasured him. We often sat for hours comfortable in our love for each other. I miss him so.
Same here. It was all snatched away from me July 2018.
@@sonyavincent7450
Bless You. Hope
that You are OK.
I have that now xx...
I’m glad to hear some men get that , I’d love a story like that but I got one that ended up with mental issues but I can’t leave my children behind and she presents well when in company so it’s my word against hers .
There’s no out for me till my children are old enough to acknowledge that I should walk away for my own sanity .
He is so lucky to have you. Some of us men would love to sit quietly with Bjorn, have short bursts of smart conversation and drink our coffee. He's right. Mostly it's no woman, no cry.
I prefer being "alone" by myself than "alone" with someone.
Well said
completely agree with you.
I was married..... Then divorced not by my choice. Then a new relationship not married....... So now I'm single again. Now I prefer being alone for the right reason then in a relationship for the wrong reason. I'm 57..... So the chances of finding someone these days are very slim. Lots of women have many many relationships.... Well in Europe it's that way. And I don't want to be just a number in a long line...... I just want to be the last one in a short line. I still hope..... But I'm realistic.
no SHIT. better to be lonely and alone than lonely and together!
@@marymacfarlane4275 you are so right.
Here what my mother once said “ smart people avoid drama while dumb people craves drama”.
wise woman.
@@simonjj7397 thank you
Wise woman
And they create drama out of nothing, out of thin air
Totally agree with her on that 🖒
I am married to a wonderful woman and we have five children. We don’t have many arguments since we are on the same page when it comes to our lives. That’s all I ever wanted. With that I have great peace in my life. Have a great day everyone.
You got a rare gem, sir.😊
Peace is almost extinct now.😢
My husband and I have been together for 24 years and its easy when you have the same goals and the other person cares about your peace and too.
That's wonderful
You must be a Saint especially with 5 children.
Congratulations, truly lucky for you. Seems if you don't have mental compatibility as well as love down the gurgler your mateship goes.
I'm a woman, and I want exactly what you described.peace,harmony, and tranquillity .
liar :))
Women want that for about five seconds.
Bullsh!t
Until you get it. Then you want more. Or then you do not know what you want.
Fuck off.
Yeah right 😂
I’ve lived alone with my dog since my wife left over ten years ago now. I am living a peaceful quiet life and really enjoy your videos. I’m 68 and retired here in the USA
I don't think that too many women genuinely want or seek conflict, contrary to how it may feel from a man's perspective. They want the peace and harmonious existence that is on the other side of the conflict. In my experience (married 20 years and divorced) men tend to be highly avoidant when it comes to addressing challenges that naturally arise in sharing a life with someone. They see any need to discuss these challenges as a threat to their wellbeing rather than an opportunity for mutual growth which will ultimately lead to deeper, richer, more meaningful relating. At least this is what I have learned and also observed in the successful marriages I have witnessed in my friend circle.
@@ashleykindheartministrieswomen don't love the man, they love what they can provide for them, as soon that's not the case anymore most of them leave, unfortunately that's the truth
I feel men would be more willing to discuss if they feel the communication is respectable. Mostly this unfortunately doesn't occur so things get left unresolved and tension arises on these topics. It is only a threat to their wellbeing by the way it has been expressed. Respectful communication is key for both parties which sadly we don't know how.
Yes, women want peace and harmony too. I agree that living alone in peace is much preferred over living with a partner that brings drama home daily. I left drama behind many years ago and have a quiet, tranquil life. No regrets.
Me too! At 55 I'm happy to be alone. I never did choose well!
Same here. Better be on your own that with the wrong company 🖒
Better to be with somebody that thinks alike t h a n to be alone and full of regret never sharing life experiences with anybody
Me too. Almost 29 years single. I love it.
women don't like harmony.....live with one......see.
I’m a woman and I want to be free from people who make dramas. To me sunsets, the waves crashing onto the beach, summer evenings, the birds soaring in the sky, music, dancing , laughter and people who connect with my soul are all precious to me.
Me too, that's all i want! 👌🏻
If true, then you are quite rare. Most women have some degree of INSANITY. :(
The simps have been summoned
Really? Yet you seem to have missed the whole point of what THIS man is saying and what I, as a woman am saying to you - YOU are the drama that men want to get away from - YOU are the problem, YOU don't listen to MEN, because YOU demand in oh so many ways, most of them sly, indirect, vague and frankly immature that MEN communicate LIKE WOMEN. They won't, they don't want to, and why should they. Overemotional, manipulative, vacuous drivel most of the time - have spent a lifetime having to work with women. It's like trying to herd cats, and takes nearly twice as long as it should, to get anything done because of all the bloody manufactured DRAMA. Unnecessary drama.
You omitted rainbows and unicorns.
For 31 years, I've been my husband's best friend, confidante, and biggest cheerleader and he has done the same for me. Whenever life punches us in the face, we cling to each other and most importantly, we don't forget to laugh. "When you're born, you get a ticket to the freak show. When you're born in America, you get a front row seat." - George Carlin
As someone who has wanted that but never managed to find it, that warms my heart to read. I hope you truly appreciate just how precious that is. (though I'm sure you do lol)
Take care! 😸👍
Women also want peace but its difficult to find this with some men as they dont understand what it is we need so that we can feel and be that peace for them.😊
As a woman of grandmother age, I try to give men compliments when I'm out and about. If a man has a magnificent beard, I tell him so. Our men in the West receive so little encouragement, and as a woman I've realized how much power my feminine encouragement can have for the men in my life. It is like fuel for their will, for what they want to accomplish. It is the opposite of criticism, which drains them of their enthusiasm. Encouragement is part of a woman's magic.
Peace is not refusing conflicts, it is to know which battle needs a fight
Peace, Loyalty & Respect.
Yeah, I was going to say Loyalty and Respect.
@@Eudaimonist It's not really much to ask for, is it mate?
Juding by the women in the comments getting absolutely butthurt that a video was made without their perspective.
Yes, it actually is quite hard indeed to find a woman who can resist the urge to insert themselves in absolutely everything.
Amen
Three things that women simply do NOT understand.
"Men want Peace". Hahaha!!! I'm 71 and have saying that since my 20's. A strong dash of Respect also.
@@slydermartin6008 Absolutely the same for women.
@@cemoihonaythe word most should apply equally here because there are plenty of people out there constantly in a state of conflict
respect is really what men want
@@2froglandgive it and get it 😊
@@2frogland After providing for my wife for 47 I would certainly like respect but don't get it from her.
After many years of marriage to the same wonderful man, I can tell you that you are so right. Who wants the conflict and chaos in their home life? Neither my husband or I. We also require time alone and plenty of it in Nature. Our home has always been a safe haven and it has helped our children grow into well adjusted adults. May peace be with you all.
Your home is like the way homes used to be even 50 years ago. With the advent of computers we have literally been turned into, I don't know what, but as we see it's not healthy.
I think you speak for both men and women, most women don't want conflict but we also don't want to be taken for granted and used and that's often where the conflict comes in. If you don't want to share the load, every day, then stay single, you have no business getting married. And right up there with peace is trust.....don't lie to me. I have been a widow for 22 years and I will stay that way because peace is paramount to me and I will NOT be somebodies maid/cook without that being reciprocated.
Hear. Hear.
Totally agree with you.
Your post reminded me of something my mom's friend said years ago after being widowed with a large amount of money. She said the the men she met wanted a nurse with a purse.
@@foozjen My Mom never remarried after my Dad died. She use to say the same thing. A nurse with a purse. My ex-husband was abusive. I worked long hours and the first thing he said when I walked in the door, what's for dinner. Never lifted a finger with anything including raising our kids. My son called the cops the last time he hit me. He thought I would take him back. I didn't. Filed a restraining order and filed for divorce. Love being on my own. Appreciate not having to take care of a man.
Well said! It's the best life ever.
Nobody else is responsible for your peace. Peace comes from having excellent self control and discipline in managing your emotions, beliefs, thoughts, physical health, work, relationships, finances and anything else that is important to you. You attract what you are. So if you only attract people with drama, it’s time to take a look at yourself. What do you need to change within yourself to attract what you truly want?
kapow!
@@Denise-xe7rl True words.
Hahaha. It sounds like he wouldn’t care about what he’s partner is going through.
Wow, so true. This is the first true word on this. Beautiful
Men that really enjoy peace will do tonnes of self-evaluation of every past relationships that they had. If all those past relationships brought chaos and dramas to his life, it will be the best option for them to stay single and enjoy their peace. Took many failed relationships for some men to realise this.
Exactly why I left my high paid corporate management job in oil and gas and set up my own fencing business.
Outside every day, alone and listening to the birds sing while I work = peace to me, never been happier !
Wow that sounds like a sweet deal! Being able to work on my own in a manual profession is my dream. Much respect to you, Sir.
That sounds beautiful 🙏
Great decision.
Years ago, I left behind a well paid office job in electronic engineering to go to the Dominican Republic. Working outside with horses out in nature most of the time. Not much income, but no regrets at all. Life has never been better
@@caobita That's something I can respect. These days, people are too interested in money, over relationships & peace. I think you made a great choice.
@@laurameng3715 yes, I 100% agree with you and yes, that was the right choice. I wish you all the best
You’re absolutely right, I just want peace and quiet. After 11 years of military service and constant conflict and noise, I just want peace and quiet and to be left alone to be happy.
It's rather weird coming from men, who disturb the peace worldwide, now that you are tired of it, you think you deserve the woman to comply while your buddies keep causing havoc and worse.
Robot voice: Access denied.
Real women only want peace and honesty. Always great to see and hear you Bjorn. I left a relationship a year ago because of the drama. All I wanted was peace and contentment.
Women want resources, protection, and parenting from a man. If he doesn't provide it, he will never have peace.
AMEN!!
I don't buy that, sorry.
There's no such thing as real women, because they are young and depend on their parents and future husband so she can become that person
Why do you Americans always say Amen? It is superficial crap! @@JeffreyClements-b1d
I get exactly what you are saying. That is why I live alone. Only difference is that I am a woman.
There is a lot of sterotyping around men and women. I've met men who talk non stop, worked with men who acted like bitches and drama queens, slandering about each other, something that shocked me as i had expected different working with an all men group! I've met mature men who rest in their masculinity and as such, are supportive and loving.
I've met women who treasure peace and quiet, who love nature and their own company. Who are refective and mature, and yes, there are those who are the opposite.
Why do we have to put people into boxes? Some of the comments here sadden me because of generalisations and disbelief that women too seak peace and harmony.
The fact is we are individuals with different personalities, life experiences and cultures, as well as needs.
Thank you. Great comment.
I am a woman and I want Peace too. However, the men I have met are seeking for more more more, partying, drinking, getting money, power, control, adoration, feeling like a million bucks etc. There are a lot of such men out there, who are discontented, with a big hole inside that cannot be filled by everything that they chase, who take their angst out on others, especially their partners. I now prefer to be alone, at peace, contented, because I have not met a man who doesn't shout, control, who isn't materialistic and has the need to be always right. In a way, your videos are quite soothing to watch, because I like how natural men can be. Unfortunately I attract the wrong types.
Sounds like you are meeting the wrong kind of men. Most men seek peace and contentment.
I haven't met a woman who doesn't take videos about men and flips them around to make it about themselves.
I rest my case.
'however' 😂
@@bryanjones8778maybe you're meeting the "wrong" women?
@@NoctLightCloud I don't understand your comment.
I am a 71 year old woman, and I so enjoy your videos! Peace is the key. Thank you!
I'm 34 years old, I have a wonderful wife, two beautiful daughters, and I'm very content with my life and harmonious relationship. But our relationship was not always easy. When my wife was younger, she spent a lot of time on Instagram and Facebook, watched romantic movies on Netflix, and started drama or tested me. After she deleted her social media accounts, our relationship improved a lot.
Very interesting & insightful.
Mate, she's just lining you up for the financial slaughter to come.
Now that's food for thought.
@AutoLightAutoLight_my now ex-wife went the opposite way. As more social media platforms infiltrated our lives i lost her.
Yes, people are being programmed and don't know it...
Women want to be heard, loved, understood. If a man can give a woman this, he will have peace, contentment and much more. If he can’t, there will most likely be conflict. Sometimes the ‘nagging’ wife is simply a woman married to an emotionally unavailable or distant man who is unable to see/ connects to her needs. Peace Its a two way street
I love the “if” statement. Have fun with your cats. You clearly don’t get it.
Listen to this self entitled woman. What a joke.
@@lukelaser5397 😂
I am a woman who wants peace as well, but when I was younger I really longed for being in harmony with my husband, who was always working. I was at home with the children and when he came home at night all he wanted was to be left alone. I felt really lonely and not loved at all. It has to be in balance
How sad. I hope that it worked out for you.
Peace. Men want peace and love from a soft hearted Woman. ❤️
Yes
Are there any soft hearted women left? Not many by my estimation.
@@offthedeepend3996 Not many. I don’t know if you live in the U.S. but, Women lib has destroyed everything. Not a popular opinion amongst my kind, but it’s true. Now that the government has broken the family unit, they get a broken society. And that was the plan. I could write 100000 words here, but I digress. I’m sure you get it. I hope you find a soft hearted Woman, my friend. ❤️
@offthedeepend3996 I would like to say I'm one of them but probably not true. I've been hurt too many times and it's hard for me to trust. It's the same for finding a tender man though, they're pretty rare.
@offthedeepend3996 I haven't found one yet...believe I'm gonna stop looking & enjoy the peace I have now
I've told my wife this so many times when times have been bad. All I want is peace.
Did it work ? Because usually when I tell my wife I want peace it starts another fight .
@@FallenRisingAngel That's when you grow a pair and leave her behind, look for someone else or just be on your own. But most people can't handle being alone.
@@LordofRacoons I took a vow . Till death do us part !
Women need descriptions - explain what you wish for by peace but be willing to offer the same as you expect and you will get peace 😊
@@FallenRisingAngel
Lol 😂😂😂
Well, I am a woman. I agree with you completely about coming home and finding a peaceful environment. This is WHY I live alone. All I want is to find a man who can sit and hold my hand without talking nonstop. I have Never found that in a man. They bring home a lot of drama from work or trouble that they have had with other men. They complain about their family and neighbors, kind of like a competition. So maybe it is NOT all men or women 😉
Also, I stay away from men and women who have a lot of drama in their lives. Therefore, I don't have many friends, which is fine. I love my peaceful and drama free home life ❤
I love what you said here. This kind of spiel is something I would only expect from a soul mate or at least someone close to being the perfect woman.
I hear you
Well said. I was married for 30 years and almost daily, my husband came home from work and "barked" at me non stop. It ruined every evening and our family never sat at a table for dinner, except the holidays with company. We ate in the t.v. room and watched sports every evening. This way he could yell at his team and not me. (Oh, and I worked a full time job too. So it's not like he was supporting me and felt entitled to vent).
I hear you. We can have rich fulfilling lives as single women.
Most percentage is women 😅
They want to feel needed. They want to have a purpose. As a woman, I also want peace and I don't want to be used, harassed, ordered, criticized or abused. That's one of the reasons I've chosen to remain single.
You probably just hate it when a man has boundaries and calls you out on your bullshit.
@@smiechu47 Mysogynist. Why tell everyone ?
Sad but true
Yes, lots of women and men now. It's the best for the future
This is so correct. My upbringing was within a peaceful family. If we had any issues we talked them through and sorted them out. When I got married, my so called wife launched into a never ending crusade of psychological mind games, arguments and both mental and physical abuse. The final straw came with the discovery of being cheated. That guy however saved my life as the devils eye was now on her pastime. Life improved so much. However I find I no longer trust people and seek peace and solitude to refresh my soul. Nature is beautiful and renews every day. Seeing baby foxes playing in the early morning sun or wildfowl on a lake is a gift.
My mother was very abusive when I was a child emotionally and physically, that has done some damage to me as a woman, I slept with men because I thought they loved me but that was not the case, It took me a very long time to heal from that and I am very proud to say I have been abstinent for 3 years and I have healed even more. I was truly disgusted with myself, I'm saving myself for marriage now because I believe every single one of us can change, some people had happy childhoods but some of us is not that fortunate. I am now healthy, happy, fit and glowing. These videos are amazing and keeps me on track ❤
you don't need childhood trauma to do that. There are many women who do that. Just because it's easy and they can...and it became "socially acceptable". Mind the quotes. In reality, men hate that. it's the kind of woman you can find in any corner nowadays.
@@markadler8968of course I can not you or anyone are going to change my point of view aspecially men like you with this mindset, I'm sure you have slept with woman just for your release. All the best
@@razvandumitru2252childhood trauma does a whole lot damage to you as a individual, I took accountability and moved on.
@@razvandumitru2252 then you don't fully understand childhood trauma, there are of course other things I can not mention. But this kind of trauma can do alot more damage aspecially growing up some people fall into a dark depression, I didn't inseeked help, took accountability and moved on.
I don’t know you but admire your drive to better yourself and learn from mistakes. For the negative folks unfortunately these mistakes are a huge part of life. In my opinion it’s an asshole move to tear someone down who’s actively trying to better themself
Peace within the home gives a feeling of safety. As a woman it's nice to include honesty and mutual respect.
i tried 5 times and never found it, thats why ive lived alone for the past 18 years, i live in peace now
Ask yourself, why did you attract the kind of people you did. Or don't. Peace to you!
@@Lotna Do you think she has not asked that question many many times? Likely her answer is what led her to singlehood for 18 years.
@@Lotna because all you bitches are the same
@@ljones98391 I'm guessing "Roy" is a him
@@ljones98391
Would really like to Know
What the Answer was. 🤔
I am 51 and in a very unpeaceful marriage. I recently spent a week in the garage because I did not treat the 50th birthday of my wife like a week long quincenara. She suffers from a life long debilitating Disney Princess Syndrome. Her syndrome is absolutely killing me. Your wisdom always hits. But all I keep seeing in the video is that wonderful hut. How I could live in that wonderful hut for a month. I would barely feel like time passed.
How the quiet would restore my soul. Just me and my dogs.
I will last a lot longer living in that hut than staying married with all the modern conveniences.
I am finding it amusing that men want peace and quiet. Yet, when I was in relationships, I was told multiple times that I was too "independent'. I didn't demand that a man pay attention to me 24/7, would encourage them to go out with their friends or go spend some alone time, and didn't expect them to financially support me. I was capable of taking care of myself without the need for drama.
Fast forward 20 years, I still live alone and moved up into the mountains. I love the sound of nature, no drama, and being financially independent- no mortgage or debt.
@@churchofpos2279 Been there, know that. Generally men don't like an indépendant minded, intelligent woman. They want a woman who will follow them; physically, mentally, spiritually. My neighbours are sterling exemples .
Somebody like you would have been perfect for me but you probably had too high standards and those men want a woman that follows them and let them be the leader, "high value" men have big egos
They probably meant "aloof".
The first thing that came to mind when Bjorn asked "what do men want?" was peace of mind.
My answer was: respect. The trouble is many men expect respect but do not act in ways to earn respect... from women or men or even from themselves.
@@wonderingpiper Bingo! I think the reason for that is lack of true, healthy masculine role models and lack of self-respect in the first place. Even unhleathy lifestyle.
Just appreciation for all the things i bring to the table, its Not about respect, its about showing appreciation for our best efforts.
My dad was subjected to shouting and hatred when he got home from work, every day for 50 years, he was a wonderful person, my mother Never showed appreciation for him, just distain.
Thank goodness i never married, i found that most women are selfish drama queens, in constant conflict with their men, it’s no fun ladies.
No regrets whatsoever.
Yes, agreed
I am a woman and you were describing me lol. I only want peace and no drama in my life. I have set up boundaries to keep the peace. I definitely would live alone if that was the only way to keep peace in my world. I am 62 years young and I think the world has worn me down and this is the result.
Same! I don’t like noise or drama. Just want a peaceful life❤
Yes, people have worn me down also. Both sexes are acting like children with their wants and needs. Back in my day, there was no such thing and it was very peaceful, miss those days...
As a man, I just want to live in peace, in the moment without drama and superfluous distractions.
Access denied.
When people ask how I have stayed married for 30 years I tell them I didn’t marry my husband to change him into someone else. Nor did I expect him to suddenly become half of me , he is still his own person who needs to do his own thing and have his own space and time. Also unlike a lot of women I don’t spend time telling other women how rubbish he is or how he is not doing this or that ..why would you say these things about someone you say you love ? I think I learnt from my mother how not to treat my husband after I saw how she treated and spoke about my dad ..
Kudos to you for doing the opposite of your mother instead of becoming like your mother.
Peace. No nagging , no complaining , no advice , stress, put downs.................
Both sexes have controlling issues, no one sex is immune.
so you want a YES wife
@@kristenb5177There you go again
@@kristenb5177yes
@@CarrieLovesLife. men want bang maids . sad but true that is why women need to start saying No to men . Men have less empathy than we do , so we need to start matching the same energy that they do
I was married, faithful, had a baby and had to work in a factory. I still had to clean, cook and service him. He was a cheater. I never got married again. Once was enough for me. I've done better on my own.
Amen sister!!! ❤
You should have not forgiven him the first time. Well done anyway
Yes, take care of yourself!!😊
You chose him.
You chose him, the only reason men cheat (like Womam) is they are not contented....was that your fault for not taking care of business.
Not all men or women are like this. Some actually prefer conflict.
Maybe the psychos do. Normally functioning people want peace.
Exactly. I've known both men and women that thrived on conflict, manipulation and control.
Stay away from those men and women.
Especially the ones who have NPD
and then they cry on TikTok saying all men are narcissists.
I want to add that I like your delivery. You've got a nice calm voice. Wish you the best for you and your channel
I agree with you. I was married for 21 years. She had depression issues. I had come to a point where I never felt happy with whatever was going on around me. Then we divorced. The day that happened I experienced a flood of stress leaving my life. I again felt happiness and calm that had escaped me. I’ve been divorced about 12 years now and am still finding happiness in most things I do. I feel sorry that she has to deal with depression but honestly there didn’t seem to be anything I could do to help her that would change her life outlook. For me the situation slowly took its toll on me and I didn’t think about it until it was gone. Now I’m living a peaceful life and I’ll never make that mistake again. Mike
Peace, trust, love and truth are what men want. The same is also true for most women.
Bollocks! Most women thrive on strive, conflict, nagging and hysterics.
True. I live in the forest. In my own small house with a garden, beehives and nature just outside. Not many cars, no bustling city noise, no light pollution, not many people and only the smell of forest and animals in my nostrils.
And I'm at peace though never out of things do.
"Animal smell in nostrils". That's what in talking about.
It seems to me that the reason no one has the peace which we as humans all seek is simple, it isn't profitable. The powers that be want money and control. There is no money and control with people having their peace.
"Peace sells but who's buying?"
-Dave Mustane (Megadeth)
I’m an older lady, and totally identify with what you’re saying….its really satisfying when men and women compliment each other and celebrate our different needs and not compete.
Coming out of an extremely crazy, abusive marriage, I can't understand that men are really like this. I want to believe it, but no matter what I did in my marriage, he was always angry with me and so critical. I could cook almost every meal for 15 years, homeschooled and raised/am raising 8 children, do all the dishes have the house clean, the kids calm and sitting quietly and he would find a crumb on the floor or a paper that was left out or anything and just freak out. He was the opposite of peaceful. We are all recovering but I'm not sure I'll ever be able to enter another relationship and feel safe.
Yuuuuuup. This has been my experience as well with men 😢 it’s just sad really but the crazy ones don’t get peace unless they are abusing others
So Sorry
Men want to be recognized and appreciated for what they contribute to a relationship, in an atmosphere of peace, mutual respect and loving acceptance. They need their own space too. It's not always easy to maintain the above, a sense of humour does help, but it's worth the effort :)
I'm a man. A straight man. And I don't want ANY of those things you describe. I just want a quiet, peaceful life with no drama, no hysterics, no bullshit, no nagging, no screaming and no baggage. Which is why I've been single for 24 years.
As a 40 year old man, i can confirm that peace and a stress free life (as much as possible) becomes more of a priority as you age. Thank you Bjorn
As a working woman, I can tell you that I also want peace. I would love to get out to the world - which women do, and came home to have peace and tranquility, and preferably cooked dinner and a glass of wine, while children are fed and taken care of, and so is the whole house. I don't want to come home and have to work the second job ALONE, because then - I am sorry, but I am not going to be peaceful, seeing my husband sitting on a sofa and not giving darn about anything, because he needs peace.
As a woman who is so-called housewife and takes care of children - I also want peace.I don't want my partner coming home and criticizing me for everything, things he has no idea about and no involvement in, and/or unloading his stress on me and children. My home should be my safe heaven and should be safe and peaceful.
I don't blame anyone - men or women, who prefer living alone and in peace, than not having it with a partner who doesn't understand how important is peace for person's well-being and happiness. The problem is, many are quick to point fingers, instead of looking into themselves to understand how much peace they are bringing - or not - into a relationship.
You're spot on. Men shouldn't unload their stress on their partner or devalue her because she is taking care of the children and the house.
Is your husband forcing you to work outside the home?, or are you working outside the home because you have to? Did you need a house you could barely afford, 2 cars for the 2 jobs that are required to pay the bills? Why did you have children if you think they are such a burden? Another thing on a day off do you go shopping or stay at home and rest? This is just a taste…..I could go on and on
@@Lyleestlingso as long as her ability to care for the families welfare matches his and as long as she’s doing what he wants like lowering her standards then everything will be ok.
It doesn’t matter what a woman does she will have to wear the blame.
I’ve been blamed for doing too much and also not doing enough when it was convenient. Only my kids can tell the truth about these things, they know and men forget that.
You seem both a working woman and a housewife in your post, it's like Schrödinger's cat :-)
The thing I find is that women in general, not every woman, but in general are more inclined to jealousy, manipulation, curiosity, take everything in life including their jobs too seriously and are often driven by emotions rather than reason. These traits make living in peace with a woman more difficult, unless you are lucky to find the exceptions to the rule.
@@amandaboado7057 you have not treated your husband the same since the children arrived, heaven forbid the 2 of you ever get divorced the children will go with you and he will pay the price. So for him to play second fiddle and the possibility of getting financially hammered is such a great feeling to live so get over your pity party
If you give her safety she will give you peace. It’s not one sided. Relationships are about team work. And growth. People need to take accountability for their actions and do better. Both sexes. Because of our biology we are primed to look for threats in our environment, you get the worse out of anyone when they’re in survival. We need to learn to be each other allies not enemies.
Lol, lmao even
Men like you want peace. There are men who are as confrontational and drama driven as some women.
Of course there are, but they're not the majority.
@@Hornswoop Are there statistics somewhere for this? Are you basing this on your personal experience and the people you have dated?
I think the problem is narcissism, which has always been around but is more common these days in both sexes, amplified by social media. I wish we could all get up in the morning with the mindset that the world does not revolve around us, and we'd be much happier.
@@Hornswoop Looking at the political landscape and seeing how many world leaders are male in comparison to how many are female, there seems to be a lot of "conflict and drama" driven by men.
@lamamama41 And these are the sociopaths or narcissists !
I once had a partner who wanted to know EVERYTHING in my head, all my thoughts. It was a constant picking and prying and complaining about not opening up. When I did that then something I may have conveyed would be used as some counter to something else. I got so sick of it and finally asked why they were doing that. " Because Ive never seen you truly mad and I just want to know how you are when your mad " Why on earth would someone want to know such a thing ? To learn how to make someone mad ? This is the kind of game playing and drama that drives people away. I do understand that a man needs his peace because I need mine too.
Women do that to men all the time, they're called 'sh!t tests'
I live in a Peaceful relationship with my man for 30 years. Our Daughter is 28.
Hubs and I have been married 29 years and 2gthr 31, Eldest is 30! Youngest 27, 2 Grands!
@@lydiawilsonknight828 Congrats ! Well done !
I am older now and in my humble opinion, men want to be recognized for providing, reason, uplifted and to be heard. They want dignity from woman. Peace is gained when married to a like minded woman. Honest dialogue. Not keeping a score card. Both partners need to encourage other. Best friends and loyalty in that friendship.
I am a woman and I was aware even as a child that peace and quiet and solitude were extremely important to my well-being. I’m 63, and I still feel the same.
Right. I got a cat. No peaceful childhood. No peaceful ex-man. I knew how to shut my mouth and what to say and when to say. Too late for some to be sorry and closed door to yesterdays. The cat stays. A new man? Not for me. I’m Done.
'Taking about everything very often leads to conflict" - I like this sentence. I think there's a lot of wisdom in it. Right measure is the key. I think it applies to many other aspects of living.
A lot of women want the same, its not a gender thing it is a personality thing.
I haven't met a woman who wasn't an attention seeking, soul sucking vampire who thrives on absolute chaos.
Women typically say one thing and expect another.
I want peace too, as the women, But in order to find a peace, we must find the correct man , simple.
No they don't, sorry. EVERY SINGLE man is NOT wrong.. Sorry but any man witb experience KNOWS this is not true. Its just a sad fact of life/women do not want "peace"
Let's just say women and men have different meanings for same words yet we speak the same language
that's the reason for all the confusion and misunderstanding
@@CARNAGE_69 Perhaps to a point, but if peace means staying out of drama and spending time alone in nature then that is what I mean. The problem is, that some people men and women pre judge a person on gender stereotypes without getting to know a person. Also will harshly judge a full gender without looking at their own that goes for men and women as well.
Without understanding, listening to each other and trying to find common ground we will never have peace.
To paraphrase (and greatly shorten) an old saying, "the most dangerous enemy you can have is the one that just wanted to be left alone."
Hello Bjorn, I think a man wants a gentle, understanding woman, in any case !!! Thank you for all !!!
A woman who isn't very deep and smart. Just be pretty and stay quiet, and above all do all the cooking.
@@joannebrown6540 I did not mean that ! An independant woman of course as well !!! The independance gives gentle and understanding, it seems !!!
@@joannebrown6540exactly. and if she gets cheated on, it's also somehow her fault
@@joannebrown6540 Your response makes you seem insecure and bitter. Sad.
Please study communication styles. Most men aren't aware that they need to do this in order to discover if the woman they like is truly understanding or putting on a show until the ring is on her finger. Best of luck to you.
Kære Bjørn. Tak fordi du sætter fokus på det vigtige emne :) Vi er mange som søger indre fred i denne tid, hvor energien er høj og vi er mange som ser indad og reflektere over hvad meningen er med det hele. Det feminine og det maskuline er virkelig noget vi skal heale op på og skabe en ny virkelighed,. Det gamle system vi er opdraget ind i er ikke brugbart mere :) Tak for alt du deler, jeg selv er på vej til at leve mere i harmoni med naturen og mere simpelt :) Du inspirerer mig
Yes
Spot on. Very true. Peace, no drama, a space to be quiet, and if sharing a life with a woman, one who is supportive, not overly complaining, not competitive with her man, and brings out the better and best qualities in us. At the same time, it seems to me that one of the things that is important for women is to have a man who will simply listen to them. It seems to me they work things out more through talking than us men, but we work things out more through quiet contemplation. Of course, these are generalities and there are are always exceptions. It can be a delicate balancing act, but a beautiful one if we're open to learning and growing as we go in our relationship.
As a woman, I want the same things.
As a man, I don't want my woman to be my peace. I need her to *not add* conflict and stress. If she soothes and helps alleviate, she's a treasure.
Undisturbed, anyone should be able to have peace, it's when there's another present who doesn't take away from that peace that makes them valuable and ideal as a spouse.
Hmm. you remind me a statement a very wise relative had told me. He said that he had enough trouble at work and wanted to come home to peace and rest.
Men want a home feeling to have a home feeling with a woman.However guess what women want that too. It needs to be safe at both side.
Yes, so true
Well said. Some people may think that we mean lack of responsibility or never having to do anything we don’t want to, but that’s not what we mean.
We mean that when the inevitable conflict arises and we do our best to deal with it, then that is enough. No extra criticism, just acceptance.
Another interesting video thanks Bjorn. I’ve thought, observed, and discussed your topic for today with many people over many years. The conclusion you have come to regarding men seeking peace is correct. A man’s goal of peace is achieved from “emotional stability” that is, his emotions aren’t being pushed up or pulled down.
On the other hand, “emotional stability” is of less importance to a woman than the “feelings” she derives from her emotions being either on the way up or down, she will strive for her emotions to be moving in one direction or another.
If you could provide 100% of what a woman wanted or needed and take away all outside stressors, she will not be happy for long. She needs her emotions to fluctuate, hence the arguments, bitching and antagonistic behavior.
A man’s peace comes from his emotions plateauing and being allowed to exist in that space without emotional provocation.
This is one woman whom lives alone and after I realized it’s for the peace and contentment! It’s been 20 years now . I have friends both male and female but I protect my peace now , maybe quite stoutly!
Yep, just myself and my dogs at home. 💜 Happy together.
I am understanding how you feel, even though I wish to find a life companion.
@@beanp2024 ….as long as we still have that desire, I believe we remain normal . I’m not willing to chance my peace.
@@riverunner9978 From the dreadful dating escapades so far, I agree with you. :D
And then you said it, I'm 52 years old now. I'm done with noise and drama. I REALLY am! Greetings from Inland fylke...relativt langt uti skogen. :)
I agree. I'm a 61 year old man. If I were not married I would live in my van. For me part of peace means not paying a mortgage and all the headaches that come with it. Property owns us. We don't own it.
Peace, and freedom. That's for me, too!
❤ l agree...all l want is calm and peace....hiking in the woods is sooooooo refreshing...love it....❤
For many here I think the problem is, People meet then jump in the sack.
You need to take things slow and base your relationship on Friendship not lust.
True wisdom ❤
30 sec in...I just want peace and silence. No drama, just beeing left alone.
Same here and I am a woman. Not a "typical" one though and I'm pretty sure that many women call me "weird". But who knows... maybe they are right 😉
@@caobita Born in the 70*s?? :)
@@TomKirkemo-l5c yes
That's perfect for people who don't want to get married and have kids etc - a single life is deffo for you.
@@caobita👋👋👋
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Once again, this man speaks the truth. Another video filled with wisdom.
Be the partner you want to find. I think all healthy people want to live in peace. At the same time, healthy people also desire and need personal growth to become their best selves. That kind of growth only comes from facing challenges - not from living without problems.
The biggest challenge in life is learning how to live with and love another person. You can't do that alone. It's like Ram Dass says, "If you think you're enlightened, go spend a week with your family".
For me as a man, mostly freedom and peace to not be controlled. A woman to share that with would be nice as well.
Interesting. I like a man that has his own interests, not kept on a leash
exactly... but finding a woman that doesn't want to control/change/create drama is hard... which is why most stay single these days
@@Jen-mf9rmown interesting and kept on a leash? where is the line? the other night my friend spent 50€ in an online game when we played together. I kept silent, it isn't my money so I won't comment. But he is already 36yrs old, has a 10-yrs relationship with his gf and still doesn't own an appartment. If I were his gf, could I please still stay sth regarding his ridiculous spending habits on his hobbies, or is that already considered "on a leash" and interfering with "his own interests"? Life isn't a solo show.
@@NoctLightCloud The line is called... idk making your own decisions and finding another man?
If they've been together for 10 years, that sounds like someone has terrible management skills.
@@NoctLightCloud I assume he played his own money. He's an adult and it's his decision, his life. If his gf has a problem with it, maybe he's not the right one for her / she's not the right one for him. If she doesn't have a problem with it, what's the point?
Just bought a 2 bedroom cabin in the woods out of the city. Closing on it Thursday, can’t wait to get out.
The gubmint will still come get ya
Congrats 👏
Congratulations!
Enjoy.
Peace be with you Bjorn ✌️
Another word that came to mind for me was "Respect". But the more I think about it, the more I think that being respected would probably lead to having more peace.
Men are not the only ones who want peace and no drama. I have been in three major relationships, and each of the men brought me drama. I was ground down. I am happier on my own than being with a man who brings drama and chaos with him. I leave that to the younger women who can deal with it.
I agree men want peace. So do smart women!
Completely agree mate, modern society is stressful and dramatic . I'm 21 and I'm out fishing and foraging 5 days per week and it is so calming and simple , thanks for the video
I couldn’t agree more!!! And this is a woman speaking.
Takk Bjørn ❤
Men and women alike want peace, harmony, respect, honesty, and partnership. Both need to appreciate what the other person does and not take things for granted. Having harmony in the home takes a lot of work, patience, and dedication from both partners. There is mutual give and take, and both need to remember that trust is vital for the relationship to live, let alone thrive. Both need their "me" time and time to engage in whatever hobbies and interests they might have, and the other person should support that.
A lot of especially young women want constant drama, if they dont get it they will create it themselves.
@@jagosevatarion8822 And I was accused of being too lacking in emotion when I was a young woman. I grew up with a grandfather whose preferred philosophy was stoicism, and never enjoyed playing mind games or engaging in histrionics.
Admittedly, I was a tom boy and a loner, not to mention growing up in a traditional Native and military family, so my world view and behavior was just different. Just didn't have time for bullshit.
Very true, Bjorn. I’m 52 now, and find I treasure time spent in solitude, preferably with a spiritual book or meditating. My tolerance for drama is also low.
I think you are right. I am a woman revelling in my solitude. Simply put, men rarely wish to share their thoughts, while women chatter, express ideas, wants, needs. A man would like his woman to follow his leadership, lean on his strength. And not to excel at activities. How would you feel, Bjorn, if you taught your wife archery, she somehow made the national team and left you wondering if that was your intention when you introduced her to bow and arrows. Happened to me, got dragged to a pistol club, and........
It only came up years after I quit shooting, and we negotiated an ending of the partnership, just how very jealous he had been. A strong capable woman needs a very strong man.
Yes dear, you're too cool for school, we get it.
Respect, honor, & quiet. And Bjorn, what do you suppose women need? Safety, security and quiet affection.
I’m a woman, and I thought you were going to say that men want to be appreciated and respected for their efforts. I know my husband does. But I guess if a woman appreciates and respects her man, that's a form of peace, but I hear you. Thank you.
I was thinking of that joke...the girl asks the guy if he wants anything, because she is coming over to his place for a date. "Show up naked" he suggests. "Oh, anything else?" she asks. "Bring food."
Peace, respect and loyalty.
You are correct
A: Peace. Loyalty. Teamwork.
just a wonderful message today. I feel this about the desire to not have conflict, especially in the home but it has never been put to me so succinctly. Thank you for all you are doing on your channels. As a 69YO male, you never fail to lift my spirits.
Respect. If you have that, most things will fall into place.