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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ส.ค. 2024
- Young people, especially young men, are having less sex. Is it a Me To - effect, falling testosterone levels, social media or are there other reasons?
0:00 - Intro
1:44 - Statistics
3:35 - Taking my shirt off
4:13 - Why are young people having less sex?
7:36 - Chanterelles and solutions
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To me sex is something that is sacred between 2 people but modern western culture has made it perverse and given away like currency.
Well, according to the stats we were forking a lot more in the past, so I guess we're less perverse nowadays since we don't fork anymore!
But we never take responsibility for the flaws of european and western culture.
Well said. The primary values today are property and money. Nothing is sacred.
The west can’t even decide what a man or woman is for gods sake
Inflated away like the fiat money system fuckery they are enslaving us with. 😂🥴
There's one big thing that's missing here, and that's men's addiction to incredibly messed up, incredibly explicit online content, if ya know what I mean. Young women are sick of putting up with this. They're sick of being asked to do degrading things. And young men can't get it up because reality doesn't compare to the extremes of what they can find online. They're being exposed to this from as young as 9 or 10 years old. THAT needs to stop.
I agree with you, and I'm surprised he didn't mention that. It's a huge problem for today's youth. Why go through the bother of finding a real partner when you can just use use p*rn. I too have read that this is one reason for the perplexing erectile dysfunction doctors are finding in men in the TWENTIES. This was unheard of in past generations.
Agree 100%
In my opinion, that is an example of what unhealthy masculinity is.
The tricky part is identifying the male before hand who does not have an addiction with pornography, because he sure as hell isn't going to tell you up front..
Spot on!
Nonsense - women blaming men again….
@@rgj8044
Not blaming men. At least I'm not.
Just just pointing out one very real thing that is happening out there with certain types of males.
Chill. If you are not one of those males, then we are not talking about you 🙂
Social media is poison.
It is, but try finding anyone under 30 who would agree with you.
For those of us who have issues like neurodivergency it's a safe way to interact and learn. Or is the neurodivergency caused and augmented by it. Insidious. Edit for a better word
Jean Twenge, I can really recommend her work about this. The generation i-phone is the unhappiest gen. Even in times of world war, youths were happier.
I blame hollyweird cultural marxsm the music especially. Don't blame social media for a declining in morality. It started jn the 60s when we threw it all away
social revealed the truth of the nature of women and their shalloweness
I’m 40. When we were kids we would go outside and play all day and explore. Today, I barely see kids at all outside. It’s really sad.
That‘s true 😢
Because adults keep snitching on them so they cant do anything. My neighbours moaned about me and my nephew (7) playing football outside on the grass and the council called it anti social behaviour so we can't play there anymore or we get kicked out of the house.
IF THERE WEREN'T SO MANY PEDOPHILES AND CHILD TRAFFICKERS SNATCHING CHILDREN OFF THE PLAYGROUND, PARKS ECT THEN MAYBE IT WOULD BE SAFER TO GO OUTSIDE AND PLAY
most people don't even have true friends, not to even talk about relationships
They have pets
Spot on, that is right.
This is so sad.
I found this out in the hard way. My friends wasn't my friends when I needed them to be my friends. And the only woman I have loved crushed my trust in women and broke my heart.
@@jonassrensen4341 All you need is you. Work every day to make your life a little better and you will have it all very soon. It is inevitable. Nobody can stop you.
These days I am shocked when a young woman is nice to me. Its usually the older generation women who is nice and kind
same?. Its easy much easier to flirt and be playful with the older girls
Oh my goodness, that’s so sad.
It is very true. I’m 45 and women my age or younger are never nice to me. It’s always the women who are in their 60s and 70s who are very nice to me. I just had this exact thought yesterday. It makes me not want to be friendly to any of the women my age because there is no point.
Younger people, under 40, just seem to be poorly socialized in general. I’m surprised when I manage to have a nice conversation with any younger person and I’m only 40. I’m not surprised they are unable to connect well with each other.
Haha but if an older sexy woman wants sex, you're not going to court her and bang her because you're essentially lazy and have lower testosterone levels than she does.
Sex is a sacred act and sharing your energy with the wrong person is wrong.
Causes a lot of hurt and trauma.
Western culture has forgotten the sacred rights
Agree, there a few channels that speak of "soul ties" created by sex. and the hurt it causes your soul when you separate from that person... the amount of trauma that people are carrying by banging and leaving multiple partners...
"Sacred rights"
lmao
not worth the hassle of dealing with liberated western woMAN ... and her kids romeo left her with. most men cannot compete with the $5000 in free benefits wemen get for having romeos kid/s right out of HS... and be the nanny/chauffeur/cash machine for kids that are not his.
Very true
It's all a part of the overall degeneration that is occurring. Where does this path that humankind is so avid to march leading to? It has to be a dead-end.
For me - as a woman - sex is something sacred and special between two people who care for each other. On several occasions when, having declined to have sex, I was told I should move into the 21st Century! The world is a very different place these days and things like that tend to make me a bit wary. .
Absolutely I agree. It is a beautiful and sacred union. I have found that men have been perverted by porn and expect the same in a woman.
@angelarainey7258,your so right,yes it is 21st century,I didn't grow up with computers,iphones,expensive to have a family,can't keep up to date with phones,changes😊.iphone isn't healthy anyway.
keep your values. Hang in there.
@angelarainey7258 I could have written the same exact thing! I was told I’m a prude and need to get with the times!
@@sandyaw3057 I am 55 years old right now. However was single (after a long unhealthy relationship) at 40 years old. I was shocked at what was propositioned to me at that time. I had values as well, but was shocked at the negative feedback I received from not only male encounters, but female friends as well. I finally classified myself as "asexual" and I would just introduce myself as such....and put the "fire out" before having conflict of pushy people who have no concern for real intimacy.
King Bjorn is giving us "the talk"
I wonfder if he knows that, in the US, Wednesday is also known as humpday.
I wouldn't call him king, maybe greybeard. Wisened elder.
@@volkardlokisson6292 King
yea... WoodHead from the Grifter Village
@@SeventhPlacePace Kings are born from the concept of divine right to rule, a Roman and later Christian thing. As a practicing heathen that harkens to a time before such corruption I hold to the idea that a Jarl / Earl is nothing more than a chieftain, beholden to his people not the other way around. Kingship is a corruption and the only loyalty I need have is to my own vows, which I make with a clear mind in keeping with the ways of Óðinn's teachings. I do not take vows out of fear of the consequences if I don't take a given vow, and I certainly don't bow to authority for authorities' sake! I respect Bjorn, but a king he is not, nor would I take a king as my own as it is antithesis to everything I believe in.
Its not just that people dont want sex..relationships or children anymore..its the terrible economics now..for almost 30 years now two people both have to work to maintain a household and children..and their kids are raised by strangers in day care..rents are out of control and so are house prices..food costs are always rising..its like the young people dont have the opportunities we had..back then a plumber could support a wife and several children..a house..car and take vacations and pay for college for their kids..now young people are spending their 20s pursuing higher education because they need that for a high paying job..I just turned 70 and Im glad I grew up in the 60s and 70s..now its a very harsh world.
I grew up in the 70's also and yes this world now is crazy different........too bad the young ones won't know what real life was like....
@@Artsylady2030 Im very grateful too for being there in that time of history..life was nicer and simpler..now everyone complains how bad things are..and it's true..I feel sorry for the young now.
Multiple issues, to include economics (and I agree that economics is terrible)
I refused to let my kids be raised by strangers and the govt here financially stopped me from having childcare, because of our jab status!
Combine that with young women not settling for anything less than the chad who is somehow, on some level, still winning despite the factors you've mentioned. It's all take and no gibs. They act like it's still the boom with what they expect of guys, despite their involvement in the workforce being part of the problem
“We need to get back to celebrating masculinity”
I agree but why do you never address how that all happened? Me, as a woman, don’t know even one woman from my inner circle who has NOT experienced some kind of sexual violence from a man. Especially in relationships but also from strangers.
How do you expect us to not be scared of men? To not be scared even when a man approaches us?
I’m tired of the relationships that sucked the life out of me.
And then men in the comments here call me dumb feminist and then proceed to say that they are not in relationships because they as well are tired of women.
So they have all the right to criticize women but don’t feel the need to take any responsibility?
Can you please address this. Because I get your point, I enjoy watching your videos but this is something that doesn’t make sense to me.
Women are hurt. They have to raise their kids all alone even though they have a husband, they have to go to work at the same time and and then are expected to still have the energy to be pretty and have sex with their men.
And then men have the nerve to only talk about the fact that women are overweight.
The question is what have you done to support your woman to feel better, to actually be able to be feminine? I can’t be feminine if I constantly have to work and at the same time care for my kids and at the same time protect myself from the world. I have to be in my masculine energy so that my life doesn’t fall apart. Because there is no man protecting and helping me and instead just criticizes me for how I look.
That’s what most women would say.
How did you and your friends succumb to this "sexual violence"???? Why were you hanging out with violent losers????? Do you suck at identifying evil men???? Were you bamboozled???
It's just an observation I made as a millenial growing up.
Women of my generation got seduced by older men with no real self-esteem to "fix them".
They were young and older women told them that all men are this immature.
The shere idea of men and women growing up and maturing together just didn't really exist.
So the women failed as mentors because that would have meant that they need to admit that they had a type and said type lead to said relationships.
Men tried to have emotional intimacy only in romantic relationships viewing us young men as competition that needed to be stomped not mentored.
Healing means to start with oneself and that didn't happen on a very big scale.
The christian influence of viewing sex as dirty delivered into the modern hedonism except this time they don't do it in the open instead of basements.
My solution to this is that at first we all actually have our chosen small communities again.
That is effort and work but it needs to be done.
As a man growing up older and insecure men pressure us into thinking that having sex is everything that matters.
They think getting laid is the achievement and it's special to them because that is the only time when they allow themselves to feel something.
That is why they become so pushy about it.
They are usually in positions of power.
Management positions in every political, spiritual and philosophical direction.
So well worded ! I'm 26 (F), and your comment made me feel seen. All the women I know share the same feeling. Why ?
Amen, and thank you.
Hahahaha
I believe that sex is lost because love is lost. The Bee Gee's sang..."Nobody get too much heaven no more" and Heart "What about love, don't you want someone to care about you?". Sex is no longer an expression of love, and its lack of meaning makes it less attractive.
There were porn magazines back in the day too and all kinds of weird establishments. But I understand your point.
@@Ekam-SatBut people weren’t forgoing having families and replacing love and marriage with those magazines/establishments. Plus there was a sense of shame and secrecy for doing things like that. Now men are openly saying they’d rather have the counterfeit version of intimacy than a real relationship with a real woman.
@@LaB567 Yes. I agree with most of what you say. Whole society is having issues really. I think we went downhill when we turned our back to our Christian values.
Another problem today is the proliferation of online porn. Alot of people are hooked on it and are happy to have that instead of real life sex.
💯
It should be used as a snack between meals, not the entire diet.
" happy to have that instead of real life sex."
Wrong. They use it as a "meal replacement."
If they were receiving the real thing the need for it would vanish like a ghost.
@@StarboyXL9 not really. Young men now have grown up watching all kinds of porn and now think that their girlfriends/wives are supposed to enjoy doing what porn stars do and pressure them to perform like porn stars.
I doubt you would find a single man who would rather watch porn instead of being with a woman. It is a symptom of men trying to fill a void in their lives which women are not filling
People stopped talking about love. People only talk about sex, but don't say anything about love. Now face the consequences. People have forgotten how to love each other. Does anyone even know what love is? Ignorance flourishes, love disappears.
My parents generation had love songs everywhere, and although cheesy it is 100% better than none. It's fundamental to the human being.
@@frdsg8350 Many old generations, especially after World War II, sang a lot of love songs.
years passed...
Sex, drugs, and rock and roll!
Who created this way of thinking?
It seems like it originated in the 80s?
The dark gothic musical genre arose in punk rock culture.
Then black metal appeared in the 90s!
Since then, love songs began to disappear. This looks like some kind of global conspiracy.
And in recent decades, many metal musicians have been singing about war and murder, while in parallel with this music, many military conflicts are taking place around the world. Who is behind all this?
At the same time, in many Asian countries, people mostly sing songs only about love. The complete opposite of Western countries such as the EU and the USA.
Someone is deliberately using music to incite people in Western countries to aggression and hostility, racial hatred and other discrimination, this is such brainwashing. I wouldn't be surprised if it turns out that the government and the military are behind this, using music as a psychological weapon to put pressure on the consciousness of masses of people around the world.
Also pay attention to PC games in which NATO and US military kill Asians, Arabs and Russians. Who is behind all this?
Please don't say that it's all China's fault.
Yes! This is very true! My children have no children! They do have best gf friends and live with them but very committed.
Idk it’s kinda hot that way tho
yes...the conversation was about sex and pretty much saying no one wants sex with women because they are obese.....what about unconditional love, what about loving someone for who they are not what they look like. I suspect a bit of toxic masculinity.
I've been on two dates in the last ten years. The first, a friend introduced me to a friend of her husband. We agreed to meet at a steak house for dinner the following Friday. We met in the parking lot and then as we walked toward the entrance, he didn't walk with me. Instead, he charged ahead of me by at least ten feet. I thought it was because he wanted to be chivalrous and open the door for me (which I would have graciously thanked him for, because I have manners). Instead, he went inside without a backwards glance and let the door literally slam in my face. I stood there for a moment, stunned, and thinking, "Wow, this is your first date best behavior?" and then I went back to my car and left. I didn't see any point in continuing. The second was a high school classmate I hadn't seen in 30 years. He asked me out and I agreed with the caveat that I couldn't do it for a few weeks because I was working harvest and putting in 15-18 hour days that started before sunrise. He didn't like that and badgered me non-stop for the next 3 weeks, blowing up my phone with text messages because he didn't want to wait for harvest to be over. It was very annoying. The day harvest ended, he pestered me again and I agreed to meet him at a restaurant at 6 pm. At that point I just wanted to get it over with. He was 20 minutes late and showed up just as I was giving up and leaving. He was hostile when I asked why he didn't let me know he was going to be late (after demonstrating for 3 weeks that he knew how to send a text message), and then over dinner, he bragged non-stop about all the people he had beaten up over the years, in detail, including his brothers, his father, his sons, and his ex-wife....telling me all of this as if I was supposed to be impressed with his fighting skills...while I'm sitting there thinking "He knows I'm a survivor of domestic violence but he thinks this will impress me?" I cut the date short and went home. He blew up my phone daily for the next month, trying to convince me to have dinner with him again and "give him a second chance." I had no choice but to be rude about it to get him to leave me alone. I've gone on "girls night out" with friends and all we encounter are divorcees who are touchy-feely-gropey, rude, and clearly only looking for a one night stand. I'd rather stay home with my dog.
Staying home with a dog is always the best option nowadays to be fair. My dog is my best friend, I am more attached to her than to any human-friends I have had in my life. Never had better time hanging out with humans than when hanging out with her and her pure happiness and energy.
@@jaizzj.z.3690 Right?
Don't u want a one night stand ever? Why does it predominately only men that seem to want that? Maybe that's what we should be talking about
It's all about sex...I am have no desire to be anyone's sex toy. Go buy one!
all that has nothing to do with this video or his point at all
I had just read a book about narcissists; those are the people, who can hurt you so much in a relationship, that you don't want another one for years or so. The percentage of narcissist in two generations went up from 1% to 10% in western cultures. I think it also decreases the spirit to get into another relationship, and so to have children.
Please tell us the name and author of that book.
@@johenderson3742 Thomas Ericson: Omgiven av narcissister
Add multi-generational narcissistic abuse-- it's a dysfunctional behavioral disorder that may have a genetic component, bio chemical inbalance of the brain, dynamic homelife/upbringing,negative self-talk/identity,etc
Totally agree
Those stats are probably from the 1980's. The numbers are way higher depending where you live.
Young men are scared of being seen as predators today, almost anything is now regarded as assault here in UK.
you guys are so fucked over there in UK
Unless you are a Muslim.
went on a hike the other day. beautiful sunny day lots of people around. This woman my age ran by and was stopping near the water's edge like me every few minutes. I passed by without stopping and made a comment that she laughed at. 10 minutes later she ran by me and made sure to say "just passing on your left" but the path was huge there was no reason to even say that to me but it sounded very friendly. 10 minutes later i stumbled upon her again on a quiet path by the water and it was just the 2 of us.. she looked and saw me come down the path and made a weird surprised noise and took off...fast... So we went from casually be friendly/flirty to me being...creepy because we were both doing the exact same type of exploring. I was hoping that 3rd time i could introduce myself...but whatever. And i was not misreading the situation
Same in the U.S. . I am a older woman observing this.
@@StephLoxely really though?
remember that our food now is a major cause of decreased testosterone because of the chemicala
practically all foods that are marketed as "super foods" contain contain extremely high concentrations of plant based estrogens. according to wikipedia, the feminizing effect of plant based estrogens is hard to measure and can only be seen statistically in large populations. however, it also says that estrogens in for example soy milk are used in treatment for menopausal women.
@@topkek_I noticed a change when I stopped drinking soy milk as a kid. I went from very emotional and easily bothered to confident and like water off a duck's back. It was 6 wells before the difference was fully realized. Lost the fat that had accumulated around more feminine related features. Everything changed for the better
What about the Women?
... and vabs
@@topkek_ I'm pretty sure it doesn't work like that. Low testosterone is a problem, estrogen isn't.
Ironically, our casual attitude towards sex has resulted in less of it. Sex should never have been normalised outside of marriage. Treating it as a toy has helped us view sex as something meaningless and see people as disposable. Having children has to have the foundation of love and security. The world does not need more illegitimate children growing up in one parent households with a bunch of half siblings.
That mosquito comment is so weird! Something they're spraying, I wonder?
so true.
I'm a 26 year old Egyptian. I'm staying single because of the downspiralling economy and I want to save money to build a meditation center
Eastern meditation? That's superficially helpful, but in essence a demonic religious practice, and it disconnects people from reality even more. It does the exact opposite of what it claims.
Thing about it buddy.............
@@stanthomson2693 thing about what
Was always assumed the normal natural thing was marriage and family. Society moved away from that. There's many factors. Very disturbing is the lack of interpersonal relationships in general. It's a lonely, vacuous society.
The norm has changed! 😮
It could be a biological response to the prodigious growth of the human species, the extraordinary technological advances that made manual labor obsolete, favored instant gratification and allowed people to regroup online rather than with people living in their proximity, and the devastation caused by capitalism, at the expense of other species.
social media is the culprit
Edward Bernays...
@@kingkoi6542 Netflix
If you can't put the phone down, you're doomed. Put the phone away and communicate with those around you. Holding the phone and placing in on the table is messaging to all those around you, MY PHONE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOU. I've talked with so many people who are scrolling on the phone while talking to me. This action or behavior is rude and disrespectful! Young and old are both doing this with the phone being the center of the universe!
TOTALLY!!!! most men cannot... will not compete with wemens precious little toy epoxied to their hand every waking moment. what is the point to even try to compete with the precious little electronic toy in everyones hand all waking hours?
I 9999% agree.
I’m an American woman and have recently discovered this channel. Bjorn, your perspective on Life is so refreshing! Men have always and will always approach women. Through the years I’ve generally considered being approached as a compliment…UNLESS the man was disrespectful (touchy-feely, explicit sexual innuendo, etc.) Men, you have nothing to worry about if you approach women with a positive, masculine but non-threatening attitude!
Totally agree!
Another American woman here and I totally agree.
Very interesting take on things and I agree with much of it; nothing beats a truly masculine man. Polarity creates attraction. From an older woman's perspective however, men in later life are also often overweight and impotent as well because they don't look after themselves. And in spite of that they're not interested in women their own age either.
Yes, the obsession with someone half of their age is really bizarre. Even 70-year-old men think they should be dating 50-year-old women instead of women their own age.
30 years ago, kids were having too much aext. Now, not enough. Never would i have foreseen such irony.
That was the problem in the first place, the damn past generations piss me off with their willfully ignorant lollygag about us not "getting enough" when we should've been focusing on longevity, instead throughout the 70's and 90's people were just getting their rocks off accumulating high BC and divorces leaving everything sorta like a post inflation economy.
Makes perfect sense. Womens sexual liberation just means they can now share the top 5% of men. They love being in harems
@@IbnRushd-mv3fpand then they have the audacity to blame the young for all the issues. They even sold the jobs across the ocean that they used to establish themselves and wonder why we aren't able to find a job to get experience.
@@de14jabs sure, blame the boomers 🙄 my boomer dad never sold anything overseas. Y'all have a lot of displaced anger. You're blaming an entire generation for something ultra wealthy elites did.
@@TheEnigmaticmuse to be fair, a lot of those elites are part of the boomer generation
It's worse than you think. All sex is not equal.
In our younger days the norm was mostly sex within serious(ish) relationships, and maybe some casual encounters on the side.
What has happened is that people are no longer in relationships. Obviously that in itself means less sex, but it also means that what sex people are having now is skewed towards risky, loveless, degenerate sex, rather than the kind that nurtures fulfilling relationships and procreation.
Sex has been idealized and treated like as if its the ultimate ripe fruit on the silver plate. Our fathers treated it as such thanks to their media consumption and instilled it into us which we then shared with other boys during our teenage years. You had to get laid man! Otherwise, you were a Virgin... not a Father, or a member of his community with respect. No, just a player...
@@TheGloriousRestoration exactly, it's counter productive to what sex actually is/ is meant to be: a creative act.
Agreed. People are scared of growing and committing.
"In your younger days"? Are you talking about the boomers in the 60s or the 80s or what? Because the issue that people are having here is that gen z is having *less sex*, not "risky, loveless, degenerate sex," which the previous generations had in spades.
Unmarried teen pregnancy peaked in 1959
I miss my youth, when boys were admired for their masculinity, and i was very proud of my feminity. It was glorious. I am turning 70 this year. It saddens me.
Personally I can’t even consider having sex unless I’m deeply in love with a man that is my best friend, who I can fully trust with my ❤️, mind, body & soul
Taken everything that is sacred and debased and devalued it.
Kalergi in action
@de14jabs 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
That is Satan's calling, and work!
u mean quantity/ quality 😂
That is woke-ism
Since I was 15, I feel all I wanted was to find a girl (as in, just one), and then have a family. Not fooling around. I'm 32 now. It's been 10 years without touching a woman. I've watched a friend, that for years, banged anything that moved, and now he is the one who has kids, although he didn't wanted them when we were younger. I think luck plays a big role in this nowadays. And I know it's not the manliest thing not to assume full responsability (certainly, I'm aware I could have done more to improve my situation), but I feel the system is rigged in so many ways. Traditional values and family models are under attack from so many directions that it sometimes seems hopeless for someone like me. The people that I see together with kids, I really admire them. Sometimes they don't even see it, but they have won at life. I'm not losing hope. My ancestors had simpler, but much harder lives. They too faced fearful odds, yet they all prevailed. I won't give up.
Never give up mate. Keep on rocking!
I'm in a similar boat, 28, 9 years without. I can wait a few more years no problem, but as time goes on I ponder how much I really want it. I do, but I'm unsure.
If there's any redeeming factor about our global situation, it won't last much longer before priorities will fall to survival needs and long term thinking due to a lack of convenience and accessibility. Reality has a knack of correcting things
I might think your friend developed more social skills of approaching woman. Don't get me wrong, Im 25 in the same path as you, I don't like to go with any kind on girl if it doesn't prove some value. But maybe that pickiness its what make us more prone to loneliness
Are you an introvert who prefers to stay at home? Maybe you should go out more, find a hobby etc. I have started taking boxing and brazilian jiu-jitsu classes and I am trying to find a place to take dancing classes.
Our ancestors had fewer options and faced lots of societal pressure. As a result, people ended up together that didn't belong together, and they suffered, and brought children into the world that suffered from it too. The past wasn't always better.
I came here by mistake, but have noticed something very odd here and quite extraordinary! I have gone through hours of comments and find the people here so honest, genuine, forthright, helping each other, being empathic, a genuine community.....I will add my two cents. Young people today are suffering, yes they are alone, lonely, isolated, jobless, overtaxed etc...I think it is up to us older ones to step in and help. We must find a way for young people to seek each other out, to meet, to dance again...one step at a time!!!!
a few... grow up alone. no siblings, no cousins, no family to speak of. mom in kitchen with her TV, pop in the living room with his TV and kid in their room with their TV. kid allowed out of their room for dinner and then... back to their room/TV.
This is a refreshing comment with actual hope - it’s a miracle! I agree with your statement.
@@NONAME-kw3pu I actually already contemplated this idea. The lack of siblings seems to be affecting socialization too.
YES! So true. It is a shame how the next generations are stomped upon. They have no life experiences yet, we need to step in and help.
I really wish that to happen, but is imposible for me bc my parents are so stuped, they don't realize anything, they are selfish, they focus on themselves.
The things of this world are temporary. Don't put temporary things above eternal things.
The things of this world are there for us to manipulate with our will. Regardless of their permanence focusing on vague concepts will get you nowhere. It's quite anti-life in fact.
@@brotherknight9484 What is a "vague concept?"
Really? An what planet are you from? We are all temporary. Join in.
Here in the u.k. I buy my honey from the local beeman every year, this year he has only last year's stock because he told me his bees have all dissapeared/dead , this has been reported nationwide, the result will be ,no bees, no pollination, no crops, NO PEOPLE.
so sad
Are you using buying honey as a metaphor for sex? Cause subject is sex
Bees are not the only insects that pollinate, but I get where you're coming from.
Is it really that surprising that a Modern, industrialized England that barely has any trees and wild life left after the cities and concrete jungles took over, has an issue with their ecosystem?
The problem is that gmo crops have a gene that makes a pesticide in the cells of the crops. It destroys any insects that eat the gmo plants. That means that any time that the bees get the pollen from crops and make it into honey and then eat it. They are eating pesticides. Also you can't wash it off like with the spray on ones. Framers used to time when they would spray their pesticides after the bees did their pollenating. Now they can't do that because the gmo's make pesticides all year long. Is it any wonder the bee population been dropping off in line with the increase in gmo use. The worst part of all is the fact that local plants and weeds near farms have been showing signs that the gmo genes have spread to them as well. meaning it will be very hard to fix this problem in the long run.
At least in the United States, young people frequently can't afford to form families. It's really sad.
Also in Europe.
The cost of living is too high in the Western hemisphere therefore making it impossible to afford to raise a family here. The existing welfare states don't provide enough cost subsidies for a new family of four including in my country of the United States we almost had guaranteed parental leave of three months, but it got voted against, so we still don't have guaranteed parental leave.
@@robertdeus4262 The problem isnt that you get too little support, the problem is that you are getting robbed by the system that is feeding the elites pockets. If you want change voting yourself more benefits will only achieve the opposite: more oppression. If the state has the power to give you that much it also will have the power to take everything from you. And dont start with tax the elites, that will NEVER happen. To believe that is childish and naive.
Why do so many people fall for this myth? That's exactly what THEY want people to do SMH
Yes, things aren't cheap but it isn't impossible to afford supporting a family.
@@robertdeus4262It's really not the government responsibility to subsidize anyone's family.
we are living in the strangest of times
Hostile attitude & unfriendly are so true
Do you know the type of pornography men are into? Talk about hostile.
Uncle Bjorn is my spirit animal. Real Vikings still do exist.
Animal? 😂
The natural thing is love and care someone. The matter is LOVE, no just sex. Is in love where life is sustent. Humanity has lost this first supervalue clue and will to desapire and die.
Love (the Life Force of existence), this is the way. 👍
sure but that aint gonna stop ppl from gettin it on first and foremost so the point is moot, just wishful thinking that doesnt matter. yung ppl do not know or care for tru luv
As a girl, in my experience guys never want anything serious and they just want sex with me. And they have all this fucked up influence from porn that I don't find interesting. Rarely have any sex because of this. I also compeltely turned off by strangers as a demi-sexual, so I need safety and connection to be able to consider sex. Also no dating apps for me. So I have a smaller dating pool.
People wont even talk to anyone anymore in the streets. People are just too busy glued on their phones like its their life support machines.
People are probably are having more phone sex than they are for real since they're so lost nowadays.
Its quite disturbing seeing the younger generation using smartphones. Whats worse is when you literally see 2 friends and all they do is text on the phone when they just could put it down and just talk.
Shows how messed up society has become.....the interactions between men and women have become so slanted, hostile and broken that people can no longer put these issues aside. They have broken the urge to mate. Thats pretty bad if you think about it.
Mouse utopia experiment comes to mind.
@@terrorbilly1 Exactly. The aversion to mate might be rooted in overpopulation.
We need to permit more development of housing
Yes, you're right. Men and women can't stand each other anymore. That's why there are more than 8 billions of people worldwide. Because people are NOT having children.
@@Misslotusification Doesn't make sense in my country, we've a continent to ourselves. And despite much of it being desert, we still manage to export ~70% of our food stuffs and take in record numbers of migrants because the govt cares little to help solve the issues causing the problems, only the results of the problems (not enough people being one). It's far more nuanced unfortunately.
I am from Arizona and I listen to you often. You are a wise and gentle soul. I feel your pain as to watching what's happening to all of us. I have grandchildren and I have grieved for their future. Painful!
I agree many things have changed for the worse. But It's up to the young people to fix things and make the world they want. I hope they have the guts to fix it.
Beyond approaching women just being unpleasant, I made the decision 6 years ago not to have sex with strangers, or people who do have sex with strangers. I think its important not to treat intimacy casually.
As a result i havent had sex in 6 years XD
I'm 31 and I've never had sex. No girl has ever shown interest in me, despite me being a decent guy, in shape, stable, university degree...
That's called negative rizz in Gen Z lingo
How about you put in some effort and talk to girls. This is the norm so you better get used to it. You Can do it.
@@Polarman0101 you really think I haven't tried many times? I simply have no idea what to say.
@@Polarman0101 Smoking that Whoopi Goldberg South Egyptian For burger deluxe mega million scratcher skunk Baba kush
@@kristijan8518 Okay, the trick is to ask them questions and let them speak, if they are in to you (you look trimmed and neat, with well fitting clothes) they will ask something back and reciprocate. Please don’t give up.
Maybe we need to start sending our children to etiquette classes. To many young people go around acting that pigs at a trough , grabbing and pushing and behaving inappropriately publicly and privately. They aren't learning that the way you treat people comes back to you .
never gonna happen, more oldschool fantasy thinking. this guys comment section is weird
I love that idea!
Maybe actually different types for boys and girls, guys should learn how to be knights again, girls ladies. And then one where they can meet and get together, and behave appropriate, too.
@anwa6169 absolutly , one way or another, they need to learn respect , as my daughter says , "I don't understand what's wrong with a little chivalry. " Feminism has over stepped its bounds to the danger zone.
Excellent essay on several important topics. Sex, population collapse, femininity, lack of insects in the outdoors. Well done. I think we are doomed, unfortunately.
Plenty of insects around my way, though not as many as in previous years (thankfully). Some heavy frosts in April put paid to a lot of them, I think. Seen it happen before, and they always come back.
Tax, death and insects are constants of human existence.
@sirrathersplendid4825
In the Last part of your Comment .... Very S-o-o-n, No longer will it be as Such. H-U-G-E Change's Coming, in EVERY Aspect of Our Live's.
No he’s right. Never have I seen so few mosquitos, butterfly’s and bees.
@sirrathersplendid4825 I remember even only 10-15 years ago, driving at night was like driving through a snowstorm of moths. Now? Can't even remember the last time I cleaned a moth off my windscreen.
Masculinity and courtmanship, romance as well
So much rationalization... explanations and theories abound. Have we ever actually considered truly BEING the sort of person with the qualities we claim to be looking for in a life partner?
Yes. Treat others as you would like to be treated. But watch out, most people will take advantage of your kindness!
@@johenderson3742Don't be codependent then.
I agree with you that everyone needs to go outside and be immersed in nature.
I live in the Redwood Forest in California and hike most days or go to the beach.
Being in nature helps us recharge our magnetic field, the birdsong tunes us, the plants and trees teach us.
Yes Bjorn, I agree that it’s of the most importance to come back into natural balance and simplicity.
I wish I lived in the Redwood Forest. Most beautiful place on earth, imo.
Even as a married 30yr woman, there was a year where my husband and I only had sex a handful of times (due to his depression & anxiety. His medication had a drastic affect on our sex life, unfortunately 😢) So even if people are in healthy relationships, they’re not always having sex. Loved this topic
If your husband is interested in conducting a life of celibacy and emotional solitude without joining a monastery, he could do it by simply living with my wife. It`s more comfortable and he`ll be able to watch TV and use the internet.
@@Mimlou Cause and effect.
@@kayharker712the guy had depression, don't Be idiotic
As a younger person in a bit confused why relationships put such an emphasis on a fleeting and obviously momentary thing.
Doesn't sound like you are physically healthy. I'm 60 and lift weights and train jiu jitsu and F all the time......
I think the main problem that many people overlook is the economy.
Deny it all you want, but it’s the main reason.
Firstly you work to satisfy your own basic needs, then you can pass to the next stage when you can satisfy other people’s needs (wife’s and children’s).
Nowadays most young men are working to make ends meet.
Their minimum-wage jobs barely pay off rent of their tiny apartments.
In such conditions there’s just no room for children.
And yes, nobody wants to make children in poverty and without family planning because there’s nothing noble about spreading poverty.
Although economy plays part in this, it's not the main reason. Otherwise people would still have plenty of sex but not children - which obviously is not the case here.
We are in the middle of a socio - economic - technological "perfect storm".
having sex (with protection) is free
My opinion is that thrue our culture men are becoming either more toxic or more feminin because they are affraid to be masculine men....and women have to become masculine to Take the place of this lacking masculinity....its terrible for men and women! No one knows who and what they are anymore! The Most tragic thing is women do Not want to have children with men WHO can not or dont want to protect and care for them.... I am in the position of having 3 children and having to be father and mother working and caring for them! This is an impossible task because you cant do both well! There will Always BE lack in one Side or the other... Thank you for your openness and speaking your truth! If I AS a woman speak my mind about this topic today I get side eyed and back lash... Lots of Love from Switzerland Jenny
It seems like way too many are becoming more toxic.
even first world countries will be PLANET OF SLUMS ($4 on e bay) in the next 30 years from rampant immigration from the 3rd world. bringing a child into that kind of world... is... cruel.
I have been saying for years that women need to come together and have a reproduction strike, the fact that its finally happening only fills me with hope. This could finally be the thing that geta people to listen. Fix the world, make it a place worth living in, then we might consider having kids again. Why would i have a kid when i know my own social security is already gone and im not even 30? When i know the earth is burning? When i know how awful things are, the only responsible option is to not have kids. It makes me laugh when i see articles citing social media and dating apps and porn as the reason for it, sure it might contribute to it some but you know what contributes to it way more? The fact that the hospital bills alone for having a kid is 15k with insurance, the fact that we have no maternity leave. My mother had to put me in day care when i was 3 days old. Absolutely not, i wont be complicit in bringing another soul down here.
4B is the only way
I have no problem asking a woman out and never have. However, finding a sweet and feminine woman to ask is the challenging part. Most women are full of attitude and sass. I think they confuse sexy with sassy. Huge red flag.
This is true.
The ones that seem sweet can soon change on you mate. Once they know they've got their claws into you.
I've had some gorgeous birds, that seemed really nice, and lovely to start with.
I don't want to have my life ruined by them after we've had children. Getting to see them just on a weekend, if your lucky.
Her bringing a stream of different men into their house (possibly my old house), over the following years.
I just wouldn't have it pal, I'd most probably end up in jail over it, because unlike many men today, I have honour, and I will not alow myself to be dishonoured like that.
I'd rather do what's needed, and do my time for it.
Hard to stay sweet and not get sassy when you're accosted constantly by creepy men etc. It starts to make you bitter and cynical
@@purplepassionateblue Whst kind of men are accosting you though? Im guessing mainly "non W's"?
@@jacksonfrenchii8080 Yeah I advise choosing a strong woman who knows who she is and doesn't pretend by playing any roles, neither some hyperbolic sass that borders on toxicity but also not some overly sweet subservient opinionless little thing. Balance is key to all things. I am married for 15+ years, we still really like each other, every evening at some point we end up in tears laughing about something. She was direct and honest from the start, knew where she stood, she has great job and with it also contributes massively to our financial situation. I noticed that guys (and women) who write online comments tend to get stuck in a fantasy like "I want a super sweet, feminine, lovely nurturing caring woman" and conversely some women want someone looking like Khal Drogo but have the character of prince charming etc. These are fantasies, often triggered by seeing the pure opposite, the "kill all men" screaming blue-haired ultra-feminist on one side and the incel doing incel stuff on the other. If you truly seek sustained happiness and not just a massive dopamine hit via temporary infatuation, look for character traits that complement you, harmonize with you and at the end also, accept some imperfections. Don't give up!
Also, the fact that I as a man, can lose EVERYTHING based on nothing more than an allegation is a huge reason I don't even risk talking to women anymore. Dating became trying to navigate a minefield while blindfolded, and the mines are moving. No thanks. Even though there are tons of people saying "yeah but not all..etc", men have zero way of telling the crazies from the normal ones. Best way to win the game is not to play at all.
Thank you!
Amen brother
Felt that
as a woman, this makes me very sad. I'm sorry!
Amsterdam or Thailand and rent by the hour.
There are honestly a lot of great points by men and women in this forum. Intimacy and sex is still important to maintain a balance spiritually. But at the same time, focusing on your purpose is just as important. People need to work on being their authentic selves before comitting to another human being. Know thyself before trying to make others happy. Great channel btw, you have a new subscriber.
I agree, we need to work on ourselves first.
You don't need to have a sex partner in order to have an orgasm. You can have that on your own. Having sex with someone has nothing to do with "spiritual balance" as you putted it...
I didn’t say that. However being intimate with a real woman is always better.
I think it's great that young people are not having sex in the same, stupid promiscuous ways as previous generations did, racking up high body counts and so on...
Todays young men and women are turning down the madness and are going within themselves - which is exactly what this world needs! There are great lessons to be learnt from this which will bear fruit further down the road.
From what I see arounf me, it doesnt look like it, young people are screwing everyone around
I get what you're saying. There's always going to be people that keep "screwing around", but the fact that less are doing it today is still a huge step forward.
I'm 53, not been with a woman for about 10 years now. I've been burned too many times and have lost so much in the past I can't trust anymore. I love women, but why is it nowdays they all seem to be overweight and aggressive? The juice isn't worth the squeeze my friend.
@@TheBigRedButton
Maybe you could start a dating agency . Named: Trustworthy but NOT Overweight and Aggressive.
You got that right friend. It never was for me.😃
Overweight? Have you checked out older guys lately? Just an observation...
@@user-nr4bh8nb9w Fair comment. But I'm still the same weight I was at 30. 😜
64 year old woman and gave up on that stuff over 15 years ago for the exact reason in reverse . No trust ... don't care if a guy has some pudgy on him... better than skin and bones. Lol .
Today it's hard to find a real natural woman with a natural body without implants, tattoos, piercings, man with their tight pants , earrings, colored hair , they are all lost the plot , where are we going to ??
Same is true for men: all tattoos and piercings. Personally, I find it unattractive.
Maybe they are just trying all the new things?
@@lisaburbank6673 Yes that's been established. All tats are hideous. The exception is ones that are so small you can only see them with the electron microscope.
Sure you can, you're just looking in the wrong places... or OVERLOOKING them because you don't know what "natural" looks like 😂
Nobody needs natural women in modern society. Modern guys are bothered by such natural things as pubic hair, stretch marks and a little cellulite (even thin people have it and it’s natural for a woman’s body). An adult woman should look like a teenager to interest a man. This is such a pain. 😭
Would also argue that tech has killed a lot of mutual gathering places. For example dance halls ware a safe environment for both initiate conversation and act as some sort of casual speed dating. They became night clubs basically solo dancing and high volume. And now they seem to die out as the new generations reduced alcohol consumption.
A lot of people met through work and now a lot of men avoiding it.
Friend circles reduced, reduced random friends friends interactions.
Dating has become window shopping with apps
Yes, showing up and being seen-at the park, a garden club, just doing 'you' by picking up trash along the road, whatever. After awhile people have seen you so much they start thinking they know you and talk to you.
Tbh im just saving myself for the right woman and i dont care if it will take forever
I go back and forth about being ugly as fuck
sometimes i am glad i don't have to deal with a partner bitching at me all the time, other times i feel lonely and wish for company
There's some really nice nearsighted people out there ❤
Being fugly is a blessing in disguise.
There's lots of ugly guys out there with beautiful broads on their shoulders. Don't give up, physical attraction is only one part of the equation.
I'm sure you're not ugly, dude. Honestly many guys don't take care of their looks but actual ugly people are extremely rare. And even then , that's just a part of a person, there's more than looks in life.
On the beach out front of Long Beach , LA, I would see the 10 plus women with the ugliest of guys..Real toads.! But there they are, with those gorgeous women on their arm.
Coming in LIVE from the "Love Shack". Lol.
Did you know the song Love shack is all about sex?
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@@dr.stevenpennym.d.3241 Obviously
I am a female about your age. Got married and had a daughter who took her own life at 18. Never had another.
If was young today and looking at the way the world is heading, there would be no way I would EVER bring a child into it. We will be the last generation to remember the times of our blissful naivete and also, when we lost it. I cannot see any future for the kids of today with so much being expected from them despite the brainwashing from their 'education'. In my opinion, having a child born now is the most selfish thing one could possibly do.
Agreed. That's why I had a vasectomy when I was 30. I'm 45 now have never regretted it. I have nieces and nephews that are just entering grade school and I can't even begin to imagine what the world is gonna be like when they have to enter the workforce and have to provide for themselves.
I'm sorry for your loss
Men and women just aren't interested in each other anymore. I personally think there is way too much emphasis on relationships and friendships in modern society. There are many more important things to focus on. Sex is always thrown in our faces to the point where it's sickening. It's a bodily function, no more or less.
Yes I agree it is a natural to have desire to have connection with the opposite sex
What do you give to the sexual needs of others
A lot of young people have been babysat by devices and now social media. They spend their time gaming, looking at provocative filtered photos on instagram and watching porn. Together with processed food that affects moods and no physical activity. A large portion of society, particularly the youth.. have been wired to chase dopamine hits with no effort.. resulting in instant pleasure, yet no long term rewards or results.. and snowballing stats re the rise of anxiety and depression. So few want to talk about it.. thank you for you always addressing the elephant in the room!
yup they can just click on an escort and be with her in a few minutes time ....or only fans, or porn......it is all at their fingertips......no need for a REAL woman in a REAL relationship anymore......
I thought this video was going to take an adult turn when the belt came off…thanks for the sex talk Uncle Bjorn! But for real, it’s quite sad how my fellow Gen Zs and younger are struggling.
Where are u from bud? I am surprised to see I'm not the only gen Z listening to uncle Bjorn
@@felixjancik6401 Spells well done can indeed help to attract the right people to you, or more accurately in my assessment to help put you in their path at the right moments.
But it's still up to you to make the real connection.
@@paolomartinelli345Gen X here. New Zealand. 👋
Love is joyful. Sex is boring same ole same ole.
Personally, I think life was probably better in 1950. Funny thing, in 1950 the world population was 2.5 billion. Now it's over 8 billion, and every single one of us is using way more resources than the average world citizen in 1950. I think this massive increase in the number of people, and in people's wants and needs, is why life has gotten worse for the average person. Meanwhile, Earth hasn't gotten any bigger.
Any film footage of the streets / life in UK will be band no doubt for being too white, peaceful and a sense of Nationhood!
It was better for straight, white, upper-middle class men and worse for literally everyone else.
@@bananewane1402 Sure, that's a valid point. I'm more interested in how a finite number of resources now needs to be shared among ever more people. In the 50's there were far fewer consumers than there are nowadays. As you say, most of those consumers were upper class.
I said that an increase in technology would lead to a breakdown in commmunication and people laughed at me.
I said a similar thing but also predicted an increase in degeneracy. It sucks to be right in this instance.
it's both but in different ways, a tradeoff
I'm 21 and I'd like to point out that the pandemic killed socializing. Parties were also banned during that period. As a result, nobody sees the point in it anymore.
Many, many pubs went out of business in the UK. These were a lot of folks' "3rd place".
Sex should be an act of love and not an end in itself. It has become a sport, a form of pastime, a competition, a spectacle. We use our instincts for fun. That causes problems, pain, depression, resentment, loneliness, even violence.
YES! You nailed it. EVERYONE should make EFFORT in a realtionship. When women passed 7 partners they lost the capability of pairbonding. That's all about that "virgin"stuff old religions are telling. EVERYBODY has 7 tries to find the right one for life.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is chamani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@@DailamiPuang that is black majik
Agree with you Bjorn. A great part of life has been destroyed.
You know whats cool. Is that his name in the show vikings. Is the name of
One of ragnar lothbroks son. How interesting.
sex ed teacher said that sex is 15% of the relationship... and he said that if put a jelly bean in a jar evertime ppl did the funky chicken for the first year of relationship... and then after that first year take a jelly bean out of the jar every time they did the nasty... they would never take all the jelly beans out of the jar. providing they or the kids dont eat them ;)
The concepts of romance in music, drama, art, dance. Beauty of the best kind that inspires Love.
smartphones are a curse on humanity.. people don't interact with each other normally anymore.
From my perspective:
During my school time, not a single girl was interested in me and most of them dated older guys. It was also scary to see how wrong the statement is _the worst she can do is say no_
Then as a student, I didn't really bother trying because I was so focused on my work and I knew that I wouldn't be able to settle down for a while.
Then, I had my first job and suddenly girls appeared and hit on me, but I could tell that they were all only interested in my income... I've also come across a stalker and a bunch of very unhinged women (and men, but that's a different story entirely).
The worst part: I couldn't keep a job. My employer got shut down (my boss got kicked out), another time my employer went bankrupt after a 100-year success story, I got fired twice (for not managing to keep the deadlines). I've worked myself almost to death and my body and mind had to pay for it and yet, I wasn't even remotely paid enough to make it worth all that I had invested and sacrificed (I lacked the money to buy a home and I definitely lacked the job security). Plus, when I came home from work, I had zero energy left for dating...
So u turned to porn and drink I did to numb your loneliness
How rich/poor were you that you were _completely sure_ the girls only cared about your income? What a strange thing to say... I guess if they were looking for a traditional marriage that would partially be true...
My wife and i, have been married for 24 years. Our youngest daughter is 21,and she is now married to a hard working, decent young man. All through highschool,and even today,some of her friends actually speak down to her, because she has parents that stayed together for her life so far, and plan on being together until death do we part. Its a sad state of the world 😢
What if one of you cheats?
Hi Bjorn. I’m a 48year old man living in a happy relationship with a great woman with old fashioned values.
Only discovered you recently but I agree with everything you’re saying. I like to play your videos while I’m pottering around home and find it very soothing and relaxing, almost like meditation. I think it’s because you are speaking the truth. And that resonates deep in our hearts and minds. You’re discussions could be so beneficial to men and women, if they’d only take the time to listen and think about it deeply.
Thank you from Australia.
Kasey
Lucky guy ❤❤❤❤❤
I believe there is a lot of internal work that needs to be done individually to overcome this horrific mindset. I feel that a lot of the problem stems from people being overstimulated by social media and following other’s behavior without actually examining themselves first. It is almost like a form of mass-hysteria. Thanks for the video!
Feminism (especially the damaging modern-day version of feminism) has an awful lot to answer for.
I'm 22 and not getting "it" and it's not for a lack of opportunities, every opportunity just felt wrong on an intuitive level, that and 2/3rds of the girls in my high school did onlyfans which probably isn't helping,
all that comes before the cultural attitude towards men that young women are encouraged by higher education to have
If 2/3 of the girls in your school are doing OF, than the future is basically fucked.
Oh dear! That 2/3 number is scary!
What the heck? 😮
@@exploringdimensions4all853 2/3 on onlyfans? Sounds like hell
Sounds like hell
No friends, no relationship, no sex....
Same im somewhat socially inept but i also dont have much time for that either.
Sex helped destroy society, within our lifetimes it's rarely been a thing of "creation and beauty"...
dw if ur interested im available
Damned difficult to find even one true friend. Trust. It's in short supply, these days.
Says the women who had hundreds of options growing up. You can cry all you want but what youre feeling, if anything, is regret
Ì work in an office 14 people. 2 women...im one of them. Shes married 2 kids...im married have 4 kids. 3 of the men have 2 kids each 2 of them are divorced. I asked the others if they will have kids...all said no...reason - they dont want the responsibility...prefer freedom...travel etc... i understood it as we sacrifice freedom to raise families...im presuming its getting to be the new social life - travel with friends. I do think a lot of them decided this during the recent '' lock -- downs'' that did a lot of psychological damage to many...it also destroyed the natural social skills and necessary interactions with young kids and teens for 1-3 yrs in Ireland anyway...many kids are too shy-scared to interact with eachother 😢
I really agree with everything you say and yes I am a 75 year old woman and I don't understand what makes this modern western world to tic ! I feel totally cut off from their way of thinking and feeling .I am glad I was born when I was. What has happened to the world is shocking !!!.
You chose the right words. Your honesty is refreshing and necessary.
I worry for my 24 year old son. He had a 4 year relationship, but that finished and he hasn’t had anybody for a year. All communications begin on social media and fizzle to nothing. Sad times.
He’ll be fine men are perfectly alright and grow the most spiritually when they are alone. And he had experience unlike me, so when he finds the right one hell know what to do!
@@alanm6o9 Wise and heartening words, thank you 🙏🏻
He will be as right as rain in no time :-)
@@daisychainhikes He's wrong. Your son will never find a woman, and soon enough, he will inform you that he's decided that he doesn't want one.
If he's not a chad it's over.
I will add that hormonal birth control (bc) is a significant part of this complex issue (source: book 'How The Pill Changes Everything' and personal experience). I cannot explain the interconnected effects in a comment, but suffice to say that millions of women ingesting synthetic hormones to make us temporarily infertile has drastic consequences: it changes who we are, deeply affects our mental and physical health, the men we're attracted to, and often (ironically?) diminishes our s*x drive. Just like 'the shot', we took it because we were told it was the right thing to do without true informed consent. The great writer and bc sceptic Mary Harrington has a great line about how nothing is as meaningful and exciting as having s*x with your partner/spouse when there is a risk of pregnancy. My husband and I have put our 'money where our mouthes are' and I've permanently ceased hormonal bc and let me tell you, it’s the single best thing we've done for my health and our marriage. And yes, we're absolutely happy to step up to the responsibility and privilege of more children if it happens. Forget about anything else that's a quick dopamine hit, and give it a chance to live with intention and personal and community responsibility.
We got gender equality and the number of children quickly dropped, almost as if men and women don't want the same things in a partner.
Same here in Deutschland with the insects. It started when they killed the bees.
Also hier in Bayern sind unzählige Insekten. Ja, der Mensch zerstört. Aber die Natur ist doch viel stärker. Alles hinterfragen!
@Barbarossa97 Tallinn reporting. Some areas here have hordes of mosquitoes, some have none. Which is really weird. Haven't seen this before. In 2018 there were no mosquitoes at all due to really warm spring and summer but this time it's different.
My grandpa's garden used to attract bees in swarms.
Now my garden barely gets a few of the striped visitors...
I also live in Germany. Last year we had hundreds of wasps coming into our kitchen from a wasps nest in the old brick wall. This year I've only seen two wasps. I'm worried. What can it be?
@@verac6731 From what I can understand, a lot of small things. Insecticides, loss of habitat ( buildings, cut lawns, asphalt everywhere, lack of water in small ponds, lack of manure heaps), changing climate. Sadly, even some EU rulings that are ostensibly aimed for bettering the enviroment can backfire.I have heard that by forbidding some specifically aimed pesticides, use of indiscriminate ones have risen, with more applications that kill everything in their path.
They spend a lot of time with the screens and they forget about real life
I blame the schools for that and their cowardly unconstitutional unintelligent teachers that can't do a thing without AI. It's as if Knowledge & Learning itself has been hacked by this "old disorder" , the new odour,
@@ymagdelana216 Steve Jobs and the like wouldn't let their children near a screen. Lazy vvoman just drop a tablet in from of their children...
What do you expect? Most of their parents and society emotionally neglected them. It’s why people get addicted to anything. You have no future so you live for the moment, you try to numb the pain with transient pleasures, you dissociate away from the echoing voices of your mocking parents and peers.
That is 98% of it, for real.
Tik Tok has become a cancer on society.
Well I’ve just discovered that I like this style of delivering a talk! It’s effective because it’s at a natural pace and in real settings. Feels very humanised, like being in the company of someone doing normal day to day things.
Thank you uncle Bjorn! On a serious note, I was having a similar conversation with my mother (I'm in my late 20's) and we were talking about how young people are having less sex than previous generations when they were young. We concluded that it comes down to laziness; social media, dating apps and instant access to p*rnography have made young people less inclined to go out and seek intergender interactions. Unwilling to take risks (dissapointment, rejection), more and more people choose the easy way of staying at home and "doing it" themselves.
Bjorn, you make perfect sense. Healthy, and normal seems to have been replaced with dysfunctional addictions, where 'phones' etc, and certain agendas have been implemented to divide and confuse younger people. Most people live in this digital reality, unfortunately. Thank you for being you, a normal, healthy male.
I find it a bit strange that no-one, including you Bjorn, has mentioned the effect of the widespread, easy and free access to pornography. Surely this availability to be aroused and to masturbate without having any human contact has had a dramatic effect on teenagers and young men. Pornography, to me, is death - and death is always easier than life. Becoming a mature engaging person, having to figure out how to approach women and love someone, taking on the risk of love, having character that is attractive, this is all quite hard work compared to the false gratification of meeting your need for sex through porn. And the effect this enormous industry has had on the debasement of both men and women must be very significant.
Porn won't divorce me and take the kids.
I agree strongly with your comment. I have been told by someone I was in a relationship with who was addicted to p*rn, that although I was willing he preferred that over me simply because it was easier. How depressing is that.
@@Laura_B__ Maybe he was trying to spare your feelings by not admitting that he just didn't find you that attractive?
@@StarboyXL9 Not so. When he conquered that addiction, things improved drastically in that area of life. My appearance did not change.
@@Laura_B__ Yeah when men stop innoculating themselves against the psychological poisons your kind employs, they tend to fall under your sway much easier.
From the 70's and 80' here. People are not that great.
Young generation is not missing much.
Humanity is getting what it deserves.
You can say that again
Second this.
Bjorn - I just came across you channel and am better for it. Your videos are truly heart-felt and genuine.
You can't rely on the government. All of the healing, mental & physical, is all things I've done for myself. Don't wait for help, it's not coming.
There are very influential people who believe that overpopulation of our planet is a big problem , many young people decide not to have children , uncortunetley this does not effect people in very densely populated areas of the planet
the overpopulation thing is a hoax
Not strange when its in the news everyday that climate is causing problems everywhere.
You are so right and THANK YOU for sending a great message.
This world has gone crazy! You speak the truth.