I went through depression after my son was cured of cancer. I was so strong for my son during his treatments that I never gave into any of the scary things going on. I always felt he would get well never thought of the alternative. After he was cured I broke down. All the emotions I hid during that time came flooding out. My doctor recognized it right away. He told me that you either feel it at the time or or after it’s over. I was so busy with him that ignored how I felt and pushed it aside. Hence, I paid for it after it was over!
It’s hard to just switch mentally when you have been in survival mode for so long. I am familiar with this, try to be more present and not look back. Try to let go of the fear and look forward, make plans, that is something you haven’t really done before. Relax and breathe…. It takes time. Be kind to yourselves, and find LAUGHTER , it is so healing❤❤❤
How you’re feeling is totally normal!!! You’ve been on high alert for the past two years… it took two years to get you here. Give yourself a grace period. Don’t rush. Feel the feelings. Meditate to help you process the emotions (I know you already do this) but do it even more. It’s totally normal to be feeling the way you’re feeling xxx much love xxx
I love, love, love the idea of no technology during certain periods of time. We all need to reconnect with each other and disconnect from technology. I grew up in the 1970’s and I miss that simpler time.
Rachel I know exactly how you feel. We get so used to being on high alert that when we can finally breath and feel some sort of peace we can’t find it. Give yourself a bit of grace. Having a plan tho is a very good start. I hope you and Kyle both find peace. Enjoy life and find each other again. Much love to both of you as you journey on❤
I totally get it, Rachel. After being with my husband through a cancer diagnosis followed by chemo, I realized that I wasn’t doing my art. Now, I realize that I MUST do it. And the physical part, too. Good for you with your new goals! Sending love from 🇨🇦.
Grief is a strange place. Way I’ve learned is, grief needs to be felt and processed. I find it difficult to be able to process and feel when there are so many twists and turns. Now that you’re slowed down, I’m sure all of that is coming to surface. Be with each other in what ever state you need to be in to reflect and heal. I think all these connecting moments you’re mentioning is a great idea. Don’t put too much pressure on yourselves, take each day as it comes.
This is a great video. My partner and I have been dealing with my health issues (including cancer) for a long time and now my scan is clear (although not out of the woods) and I just had a major abdominal surgery to fix some of my health issues, we feel lost. I think we will start to do things together again and enjoy life a lot more when I recover from this surgery. ❤
After staring cancer in the face for so long, it can be difficult to find yourself now that the disease is in the background. Definitely take some time for yourself. Best wishes for Kyle's continued recovery.
Live for today, not for yesterday and not for tomorrow. Enjoy today! Being out in nature is healing for your mind. Notice things that you’ve never noticed before. Take care of yourself.
I think your psyches are so used to being on edge they haven't figured out how to relax yet. They've spent so long in this pattern that they don't know how to be any different.I imagine it's just gonna take some time to adjust.You guys are amazing.
The new life of post cancer treatments is very hard. Always thinking the other shoe will fall off. All the what if’s and the scan anxiety each and every time. After the storm of cancer a new you comes with a bunch of highs and lows. I desperately want to move on like it never happened but that is a big struggle. Once the big C word arrives in your life you and everyone that loves you are changed forever. If I get any symptoms of a cold / flu or just tired from permanent chronic fatigue and my children if not myself will say could this be cancer again. I can’t seem to talk therapy these conversations away or even quieter. I agree with the fake it until you make it mindset.
So there’s a type of therapy I don’t know the name of it but it’s where you they take you to a place where you could kind of let out all your frustrations cry scream and it’s like a trauma like a release and after you go through it it feels really calming and you feel a lot of inner peace and just quietness and I think it’s just gonna take time and sitting in that space of not being scared andenjoying good times and stability where you’re not constantly in panic mode or caretaker mode it will eventually fall into place it will just take a lot of time
I think it's like living in a "tube" of sorts.... you've been caught up in this for so long and now the news of relief is almost surreal. Give it time and give yourself plenty of time........ Accept the feeling... it will dissipate.
You know, you have changed ! You are not the same as before this journey ! You have been growing a lot. I think you have to get to know your new you. Dont stress about it. The change has been taking some years....Do things that make you feel good and you will find your self again. I think the worry about Kyles canser will always be in the back of the head. Make some weekly planing what you honna do for you, like climbing...dont be too hard on you if it doesnt work. Sometimes life and our body dont care about our planes ! Dont forget to smile and laugh 😘🥰😘
Rachel, I love you! I don't know what to do, I'd like to say , "That's one size for us, that's fit's it, that sums it up... No it doesn't, it can't be this hard. What say we take some time away from one-another, like when I hyperbaric , or when you want to take yourself on date. It's gonna get easier, I hope so. and I hope so, it happens! I love you to Beetlejuice and back!!!
Sometimes when things/roles change so drastically, professional help can be helpful. Perhaps your cancer team can help you out. Having a third party who understands what you both are going through and who can with love and less emotion help you both along this new life's journey. You both deserve happiness for yourselves and together. Take care. take your time and try not to beat yourself up if things take longer than you want.
Yess Kyle and I decided today once he is done with going to Hyperbaric oxygen everyday we are planning a little road trip and it’s the vision that’s helping!!
Don't look back. Don't look forward. Life for the moment.
I went through depression after my son was cured of cancer. I was so strong for my son during his treatments that I never gave into any of the scary things going on. I always felt he would get well never thought of the alternative. After he was cured I broke down. All the emotions I hid during that time came flooding out. My doctor recognized it right away. He told me that you either feel it at the time or or after it’s over. I was so busy with him that ignored how I felt and pushed it aside. Hence, I paid for it after it was over!
It’s hard to just switch mentally when you have been in survival mode for so long. I am familiar with this, try to be more present and not look back. Try to let go of the fear and look forward, make plans, that is something you haven’t really done before. Relax and breathe…. It takes time. Be kind to yourselves, and find LAUGHTER , it is so healing❤❤❤
Exactly. I love your reply.
How you’re feeling is totally normal!!! You’ve been on high alert for the past two years… it took two years to get you here. Give yourself a grace period. Don’t rush. Feel the feelings. Meditate to help you process the emotions (I know you already do this) but do it even more. It’s totally normal to be feeling the way you’re feeling xxx much love xxx
I love, love, love the idea of no technology during certain periods of time. We all need to reconnect with each other and disconnect from technology. I grew up in the 1970’s and I miss that simpler time.
Rachel I know exactly how you feel. We get so used to being on high alert that when we can finally breath and feel some sort of peace we can’t find it. Give yourself a bit of grace. Having a plan tho is a very good start. I hope you and Kyle both find peace. Enjoy life and find each other again. Much love to both of you as you journey on❤
I totally get it, Rachel. After being with my husband through a cancer diagnosis followed by chemo, I realized that I wasn’t doing my art. Now, I realize that I MUST do it. And the physical part, too. Good for you with your new goals! Sending love from 🇨🇦.
Grief is a strange place. Way I’ve learned is, grief needs to be felt and processed. I find it difficult to be able to process and feel when there are so many twists and turns. Now that you’re slowed down, I’m sure all of that is coming to surface. Be with each other in what ever state you need to be in to reflect and heal. I think all these connecting moments you’re mentioning is a great idea. Don’t put too much pressure on yourselves, take each day as it comes.
This is a great video. My partner and I have been dealing with my health issues (including cancer) for a long time and now my scan is clear (although not out of the woods) and I just had a major abdominal surgery to fix some of my health issues, we feel lost. I think we will start to do things together again and enjoy life a lot more when I recover from this surgery. ❤
Please take it easy, go out,enjoy,let go ....❤❤❤
Yes yes yes 🙌
After staring cancer in the face for so long, it can be difficult to find yourself now that the disease is in the background. Definitely take some time for yourself. Best wishes for Kyle's continued recovery.
Live for today, not for yesterday and not for tomorrow. Enjoy today! Being out in nature is healing for your mind. Notice things that you’ve never noticed before. Take care of yourself.
So relatable. Rooting for you both!
I think your psyches are so used to being on edge they haven't figured out how to relax yet. They've spent so long in this pattern that they don't know how to be any different.I imagine it's just gonna take some time to adjust.You guys are amazing.
The new life of post cancer treatments is very hard. Always thinking the other shoe will fall off. All the what if’s and the scan anxiety each and every time. After the storm of cancer a new you comes with a bunch of highs and lows. I desperately want to move on like it never happened but that is a big struggle. Once the big C word arrives in your life you and everyone that loves you are changed forever. If I get any symptoms of a cold / flu or just tired from permanent chronic fatigue and my children if not myself will say could this be cancer again. I can’t seem to talk therapy these conversations away or even quieter. I agree with the fake it until you make it mindset.
How did you get so smart at a young age? This is an amazing idea and I wish you well!!!
So there’s a type of therapy I don’t know the name of it but it’s where you they take you to a place where you could kind of let out all your frustrations cry scream and it’s like a trauma like a release and after you go through it it feels really calming and you feel a lot of inner peace and just quietness and I think it’s just gonna take time and sitting in that space of not being scared andenjoying good times and stability where you’re not constantly in panic mode or caretaker mode it will eventually fall into place it will just take a lot of time
EMDR therapy❤
I just discovered you guys! I love how you express yourself....it's like poetry ❤
I think it's like living in a "tube" of sorts.... you've been caught up in this for so long and now the news of relief is almost surreal. Give it time and give yourself plenty of time........ Accept the feeling... it will dissipate.
You know, you have changed ! You are not the same as before this journey ! You have been growing a lot. I think you have to get to know your new you. Dont stress about it. The change has been taking some years....Do things that make you feel good and you will find your self again. I think the worry about Kyles canser will always be in the back of the head. Make some weekly planing what you honna do for you, like climbing...dont be too hard on you if it doesnt work. Sometimes life and our body dont care about our planes ! Dont forget to smile and laugh 😘🥰😘
This is completely normal after all you have gone through. You had to be “on” for a very long time. Now you have to find your new normal.
Rachel, I love you! I don't know what to do, I'd like to say , "That's one size for us, that's fit's it, that sums it up... No it doesn't, it can't be this hard. What say we take some time away from one-another, like when I hyperbaric , or when you want to take yourself on date. It's gonna get easier, I hope so. and I hope so, it happens! I love you to Beetlejuice and back!!!
Any progress in CeGat treatment?
Cancer can be a" third party"...go back to yourself,then two and slowly three(puppy included)❤❤❤
So so well said thank you for this 🥰
Sometimes when things/roles change so drastically, professional help can be helpful. Perhaps your cancer team can help you out. Having a third party who understands what you both are going through and who can with love and less emotion help you both along this new life's journey. You both deserve happiness for yourselves and together. Take care. take your time and try not to beat yourself up if things take longer than you want.
get out of the house -take a trip- allow your heads to clear!! live the rest of your life
Yess Kyle and I decided today once he is done with going to Hyperbaric oxygen everyday we are planning a little road trip and it’s the vision that’s helping!!
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The s$$$ hits in mysterious ways.
Oh that it does!!