I ABANDONED my FAMILY and I am OKAY with it...
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- I ABANDONED my FAMILY and I am OKAY with it...
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I've read this story before but without the final update...
OP was seriously mentally dmaged from the affair. Im glad he got the help he needed. And Im glad he no longer holds any grudge against his daughter who has nothing to do with it.
yeah, the daughter was 13 when he left, that's too young to be fully responsible of her actions, and for 13 years, she grew up seeing her mother ignoring her father, it was kinda the norm for her, she didn't know any better
glad he rebuilt his relationship with her.
is this the same story where the kids helped hide the partners affair or is that a different story, i thought this was the one the dude drank next to the train track
@@dollface2907 nope, the dude who was cheated one and his daughter (and MIL) knew and hid it is a different story
His daughter had him arrested, BEATEN and then had the GALL to be offended and berated OP. She's as awful as her mom.
@@BraveryWing26This, thank you. Everyone completely ignored these facts. I'm sorry, 13 doesn't give her a pass on that.
i’m glad i grew up appreciating the smallest things.
my boyfriend was surprised everytime i compliment him or appreciate the little things he does for me because his family never appreciates or show him gratitude.
i’m glad i’m there for my boyfriend to appreciate, to show gratitude and to show him the love he deserves.
everyone in this world deserves to be loved and to feel love.
you're an amazing person. take care of yourself, remember to eat and drink water. have a great rest of your day / night.
I bet you your boyfriend would do and has tried to do everything for you if you do what you say you do. That’s literally all any man wants a peaceful life with a loving and appreciative partner. That kind of attitude is the wind in the sails for a man.
God damn. Listening to OP describe being invisible to his family just hurts my heart. I know how it feels. God damn. I know how it feels every damn day.
Nobody should have to feel that way.
Please get help.
Get help please, it’s not ok
That’s how it goes for most married men out there 🤷♂️ we’re invisible until the family needs the living ATM to cough up his money again.
That's pretty standard for how men are treated, they don't notice if you're there or not until they need money or something needs to be fixed. Leave for a few hours and they probably won't notice you're gone. Leave for two minutes when they need something from you and you're evil incarnate.
Get over it.
@@jakeand9020 It's most likely a learned behavior. The kids probably want to spend time with dad, but he was always busy and gave them money to make up for it. Now he wants to do stuff, but never took time to foster that relationship and instead plays the victim like he's not a grown adult.
My Grandma told me about the tramps from when she was a little girl. Decent, homeless men who would travel around outside pretty much outside of society. The accepted thing was to give them a cup of tea when they asked. You'd also give them bread and butter (and, if you had it, cake). They then go on their way again. How many of these men were like OP?
I am in tears reading this. Why enter into a contract of marriage if you're going to cheat?
I understand not wanting to stick to just one partner, but also in that case just like, don't enter a committed monogamous relationship.
@@BK-tp6jf I totally understand and respect people who just want to stay with one partner for life, I mean personally I could never imagine being poly myself, but that's not what I was saying, I was saying that if somebody isn't going to want to remain monogamous, they shouldn't be in a monogamous relationship. If people want to be monogamous, poly, whatever, I don't care, fine by me, but I think what matters is that all parties involved are aware, consent, and, of course, as you pointed out, that std testing is frequently used along with protection.
Cheaters need stable lives. They use their partners, then toss them when they can get the most out of the divorce.
Doesn't excuse him being a deadbeat though. You don't get to abandon your kid because you're hurting. OP needed to grow up, and he did.
@@aksprkl6594he was in no mental state t9 take care of her would you trust a suicidal person with a child I wouldn't incase one shot becomes two or more
I heard this one before. Op should have went to the cops about the the brother in laws assault.
I'm not sure.
I mean, what he did was terrible of course, but beside that specific rage incident, he sound like a good man, and in this specific incident, he hadn't all the informations needed because the wife didn't tell her brother about her cheating.
I'm a brother too, if my sister call me telling her SO have been violent (threw a glass at the wall) and left I'd be fuming too and I'd probably punch him hard too, and if my sister did lie to me or hid a part of the true then I'm a douche that hit an innocent, i'll assume my part of responsibility but accept that my sister would be responsible as well because she didn't give me all informations.
And beside that, he give money to shelters and help the poors, if this man loses his income, it would have a negative impact on more lives than his own.
Why tf do you always comment "I've heard this one before" and then proceed to prove that you haven't even read the whole post
@@nuriagalve4989 not trying to be a rude person but it's because of an update, the video have no any kind of indication that there is an update on the story probably because it's the first time that this channel cover this story. but just like the previous person we have heard this story from a different channel.
@@yozarahirvi4750nah fam, a cop cant just go around arresting whoever he wants cuz his sister said so, there is due process, he didnt lose control, he kidnaped op like that uk cop that raped and killed sarah eversomething, by using his position as a cop to look for OP and arrest him illegally he acted like a friking gestapo or SS police, this is his behaviour as a cop, he probably do that on a regular basis, probably did even more shady things over the years, i would say that his corporation is probably as crocked as him.
Right??? I'm losing my mind over this hahaha. Everysingle video has the exact same kind of comment. @@nuriagalve4989
When he was talking about other men I thought shit, this guy went down the rabbit hole... Glad he could recover and is doing better now
Yeah, he was about to become the real life joker 💀💀💀
Dude found the only way to win at the game of life fir men...don't play.
So Bob basically kidnapped him briefly, handcuffing him and taking him to the house… not a man that should be a cop. And yeah, this poor man needs a lot of help because none of this is healthy
(Edited to add that this comment was before the story was finished, I commented again within this thread that yes Bob is great and his sister probably lied about what happened to make him react as such)
"You're under arrest" FOR F-ING WHAT?
@@queerdeificeeli985 Exactly! Now here’s the one piece we may be missing, what Bobs sister said. Because it may be that she said (using that cup) that he did something violent or threatening to her and the daughter. From what the guy later said, Bob seems like an amazing guy so I’d bet the wife majorly lied to get him to react that way.
@@Catherine.Dorian.even if she lied, he cant go arround using his position to do ilegal arrests, he probably do more shady things that what he did to OP, maybe the whole charity thing is a coping mechanism for how much crap he does
@@Catherine.Dorian. Yeah very likely to be the case. I mean what would you expect from her? The truth ?😂😂
Also, assault, probably using police department equipment for personal use and detaining without cause. Out of all of those, assault is the worst, even if taunted, knocking a guy in cuffs in his house, jeez
He should write a book.
I love is story of not caring setting himself free, realizing how little people cared for him.
Man had a huge breakdown. It was pretty worrying to listen to.
Living with people is complicated. Living with family whom you’re supposed to love through thick and thin, despite knowing every single little fault they have, is super tough.
I’m glad the man found himself again and now has a life he feels comfortable with.
People are people. One day you purposely suck and the next you try your hardest to make up for it.
Remember, a lot of Reddit stories aren't real and there's a lot of flags in this one. This story in specific isn't held in high regards due to "Bob" and overall actions of people around the OP. At most they're generally good thought exercises and seeing people's empathy in the comments is heart warming regardless.
Yeah, I take most reddit stories as creative writing prompts or someone venting on what they "should've" done.
A lot of them are recycled and gender swapped.
@@Why_stop_at_41 Or how they would've liked things to unfold
Yeah Bob being such a good person who volunteers to help the homeless and his wife leaving him bc of that was unbeliavable to me, but otherwise it was an interesting story
Yeah you don’t get your phone or internet access in the psych ward. That’s wild
Is anyone else having a hard time blaming him? His wife cheated on him, he stops talking, no one even asks how he’s doing, then when he calls his wife out, when he leaves for a friends house is dragged back to be berated and beaten by his wife and a police officer. The daughter is innocent in all of this but the rest suck
The daughter was also partially at fault.
Not only did his wife make him feel like he was invisible, so did his DAUGHTER. Go back and listen to the first post.
It took the wife and DAUGHTER over 15 minutes to realize he was gone.
Remember, they were speaking at him, not to him. That makes all the difference.
@@mwtds7257 Bro the daughter is 13, not 31. You can't blame a kid for that
@@mwtds7257 dauther was 13 he is still responsible for her as a parent.
It blows my mind how men think they can just walk out on children because of what they partner did... Yet they want equal parenting rights at the same time.
@@mwtds7257 The daughter is a thirteen year old, barely a teenager, she literally tried defending her father and how her mother hurt him, yet OP couldn't see that through his self pity, anger, and depression. OP abandoned his child out of self pity, OP betrayed her when she stood up for him. I feel terrible how he was treated by his wife, but for his child I have all the pity, betrayed by her father and forced to live with someone she hates.
@morganablackwater2017 okay so when a woman is overwhelmed and tired it's okay. Got it.
Poor OP's daughter. She didn't do anything and got abandoned by both her parents at the same time. That's going to be something that sticks with her for a long time even if she did forgive them both
She didn’t care about him when he confronted his wife. Instead of giving her parents some space she and her mom argued over the breakup. She’s just sad that her ideal life got ruined because of her mom’s infidelity that’s all.
@@addyaddy614 She's 13! Of course that's how a child would handle an adult situation. No child should be abandoned like that. It's disgusting people are blaming a child for acting like a child.
@@addyaddy614 mfs on reddit think kids are adults💀💀
@@addyaddy614Are you insane? She was a literal child, it's his responsibility to act like a dad and handle it in a way that minimises her trauma. On top of that, if she was an asshole of a 13 yr old, it's his fault for not raising her. But there is nothing in this story that implies anything else than that she is a very average but emotionally mature 13 yr old.
nobody is blaming her. But you have completely exonerated her and villified OP. Fix it. Everybody sucks here, and for you to say one party is not guilty by the simple fact she is a child is unacceptable. She was just as responsible as Eve, and as OP. She herself admitted it and apologized to OP for making him feel the way she did, as he did for abandoning her.
Oh man, I'm so glad the ending was positive because the update about him becoming a recluse and planning to off himself in the future was so depressing. Like no baby, you are not okay. I'm glad he didn't go full recluse and made some friends, one that really truly cared enough to look out for him and get him help. Bless that guy.
What a sad ending. That poor guy ended up right back on the plantation.
Tbh, good on Bob for apologizing. He acted out of impulse and love for his sister, he didn’t know the whole story. Although he still should have listened, what he did was understandable but not righteous
Now imagine the reverse, you would be FUCKING OUTRAGED if the brother of the cheating husband dragged the cheated on wife back home in handcuffs and beat her unconscious in front of the husband and daughter, examine that
@@mikesmith-gk6fyYou are right, the abuse of power that he displayed is unacceptable. But the fact that he was more than willing to take the hit for it, and himself saw the need to be persecuted, shows his capacity for change, which is reason to forgive him.
And I know that you agree with me here but there are pretty obvious differences in power dynamic between a woman and a man, social and physical, which would make the situation a lot more threatening to a woman being abducted. It would be more the same as this story if the cop was a sister of the cheater.
What's worst in this is as a cop he should have gotten both sides of the story. Instead he let his feelings for his sister cloud his duty as officer of the law.
Get both sides of the story before you act, it's common knowledge to even a fking child.
@@mikesmith-gk6fy too true, dude. If it was a woman beat, I would have been outraged
@@MULTICK111 When you're dealing with a cop who's an animal, you're in more danger as a guy/criminal. You obviously didn't see guys get broken into half by police or get actually tortured in the holding room.
I literally bawled my eyes out at this one, the empathy I feel for that man is indescribable
This Bob guy is putting such a show out of fear for the real consequences. He kidnaped someone using his authority as a cop, handcuffed him and beat the shit out of a defenseless person
I would've definitely sued the pants off of the brother-in-law. But at least he saw the error of his ways.
I imagine his sister made it seem like OP was being violent. If your sister told you her husband was being violent with her, you'd probably react similarly.
@@godowskygodowsky1155 Okay. Still wouldn't stop me from suing. And if that was the case, then why didn't he just beat him up the second he saw him instead of "arresting" him and forcing him back home?
@@godowskygodowsky1155cops need to be held to that higher standard
@@godowskygodowsky1155Kinap the guy using your authority as a cop, handcuff him and beat the shit out of him when he is totally defenseless?
@@MathewCR I'm of the opinion that law enforcement is not held accountable as it should be. But I'm also generally forgiving of people who mete out justice for their loved ones, i.e., vigilantism or crimes of passion. If this person wasn't a cop and hadn't done this under the color of law, I imagine the demographic of viewers here would be more accepting.
Why did he leave his daughter? She didnt do anything weong besides not engaging with him? Shes a teen. Also still a kid. Why in the world would you abandon her
He was just in a very bad place. I don’t think the daughter blames him too even though he was wrong for this.
Because he broke, and by the end he had only began to get mended after the hunting buddy took his ammo.
Cause he was a manchild who threw the tantrum and thought he may just walk out.
That action alone shows me what kind of person he is.
@@morganablackwater2017let me ask you this, how would feel if your family treated like you an accessory let alone your own wife having an affair, that’s bound to break someone
If you actually listened to everything you would have heard he was later diagnosed for ptsd depression and something else, he had to be admitted into a psychiatric hospital for treatment and that he was on suicide watch. If you heard all that do you really think he was in a position to say ok all that doesn’t matter when it’s my daughter I’ll just keep rational? Seriously, the man was barely able to stay alive, he had suicide thoughts right left and center, he was breaking mentally and your only thought is to guilt trip him with “but why leave the daughter? She didn’t do anything. “This is why mental health isn’t getting treated enough, because people who are supposed to be rational and thinking just don’t think. So here’s the answer to your unthinking and rather self righteous question.
A broken mind cant think to coddle other people when it’s trying to justify its own death.
I really wish they would include the link to the actual reddit story in the description
if you google the title its like the first or second result. all the top comments talk about how fake he made it
Didn't expect the daughter and Bob to have a redemption arc tbh
Daughter did nothing wrong. She was a child. She's not responsible for her father's emotional well being. He's responsible for hers. But I do think it's a nice ending that HE got the redemption arc as a parent.
Yes..like 13 is definitely old enough to be some type of aware.
@@aylanae4797no it’s not 😅. Do y’all even educate on it?! The brain ain’t even fully developed yet. Especially to take on a responsibility of a cheating spouse or whatever. Y’all are nuts for blaming a literal child and not the father for not dealing with his emotional state.
@@NourAmsterdam did I say responsibility or awareness? Do these words not have different meanings? Do I need to give you the definitions?
When a man loses everything he has nothing to care for
OP did NOT abandoned his family... they did...way before he left.
he abandoned his daughter and blamed her, a 13 year old girl for not talking to him
he abandoned her.
She and wife looked at him as a paycheck. They talked At him not with him. She is just like her mum. He should have dumped them both at the garage where they belong. 13 yrs old with no matters and no thanks to dad. Daughter needs to leave dad alone
He blamed his 13 year old child for being a child. 13 year olds are self-obsessed and learning about themselves and in their own world. That's their job.
@@stvce What he did was leave an abusive situation. His condition required psychiatric care due to the trauma he experienced. In his condition the two most probable reactions were leaving and self ending. There were two opportunities reflected in the story, the reveal/confrontation and the kidnapping return by "Bob" where the daughter and stbx could have expressed concern for him if they had any but all they did was wallow in their own emotions and made themselves the victims with total disregard for him. Like he said, he didn't get anything from them and it was the trauma that made him reflect on the situation to realize it had always been that way.
I still say op should have press charges on the BIL. That was borderline assault, kidnapping, etc. No fking way this man should even be allowed to stay as a cop. I wouldn't even trust this man to save my own life if he's that fragile to snap and attack 1st.
I do feel some type of sympathy for him as his ex wife hated he support and helps the homeless as many people wouldn't look twice nor give any care or support to them. (I help give money every now and then, but fear they use it for wrongful reasons.)
So I'm glad op is stable and well, his relationship with his daughter is doing well, his ex wife, she can rot in hell.
Yup. Typical violent pig.
I'm glad I'm mostly detached from this uncaring world.
This story is so sad he almost escaped but then they pulled him right back in
Its always after they cheated that they wanna "try and fix things" like bro ur a fucking adult TALK BROOO
To be honest, I don't blame guy for reacting the way he did. Good on him for recovering.
You don't blame a guy for abadoning his 13year old daughter cause his ego was hurt?
Wow
@@morganablackwater2017That daughter is a kunt anyways, op is better off without the lot.
@@morganablackwater2017She watched her uncle beat him half to death because of her mother's lies and blamed him for it. But she's "jUsT a kId, it's noT hEr fAuLt!"
@@jakeand9020 After he ran out, also what was she going to do? Fight a grown man with a gun?
In the end society and it's social norms hooked him on some meds and converted him back to a 'good little boy'
I'm the same boat as this man I a loner and not interested in soicety and looking to buy land so I can get away from people
I was so scared OP was about to khs 😮💨
Also the fucking nerve of that woman😤
At least OP didn’t hop a train and join the Benzini Brothers Traveling Circus.
OP went through something terrible, but it seems clear that his daughter and father and friend have shown him great love.
At the half of the story I though it was Ted Kazinski story LMFAO
Funny how he bitched about being an accessory. But then he treated his daughter like an accessory to his wife. He barely talked about her outside of his wife
bro is like buddha who realized how meaningless life was and got severe existential problem. His mental health was dragged through the first layer of hell and back.
Umm... If this story is true, you both can and should end Bob's career by reporting his actions. Everything he did, from kidnapping you to assaulting you, was illegal. Like insanely illegal, to the point that not even his coworkers could possibly defend him.
This broke my heart so much. My tears keep leaking so much.
Yeah, he overreacted; but I get it.
The pain is so bad that your brain disassociates to help you survive.
the fact how he explain it is to be a man in this society amaze me it really like what they say you either provide or your a loser god damn
This one always makes me hope my dad knows how much I love and appreciate him.
I don't blame him
Yeah
Especially his ex wife cheated
@@asheditzz Fr
You don't blame grow up man for being childish and cowardly abadoning his daughter? Fix your priorities
@@morganablackwater2017 Dude you clearly don't have yours fixed so don't try to lecture me about mine. His folks can go kick rocks for all I care. Good day.
@@HopeReviewsI agree
I had a similar experience with the psychotic laughing and the beating. I didn’t get K.O’d but the guy did eventually realise that I was too far gone
Yo her brother legit kidnapped him and then assaulted him. Dayummmmm
so this is an outer body experience as a result of trauma, i have been through something like this.
Props to Bob for his quick thinking. You are a real DudeBro
I wouldn't burn that cash. I would donate it to a no-kill animal shelter.
Honestly Bob is a good man, he was violent yes, but all he knew was that he's protecting his family, and when he realised the truth he was ready to take responsibility for what he has done.
This man is a trooper. Props to him for not ending himself after the fact that his former wife cheated in him, I'm glad he stabilized himself and can stay away from society and maintain his emotional trauma low. Glad you got help and your daughter forgave you. We all support you!
This is a perfect example of a man who hated his life. It is so sad to see because I feel like nowadays I can see it in many peoples faces. I think that he had build up of how much he wanted to start new and then out of no where the only thing that made him want to keep waking up everyday was shattered. This is a pure example of losing absolutely everything. I know people have a hard time justifying the way this guy handled his situation but if I am honest listening to all this if many of us were in this situation we would be the same way. Most of these reddit stories the OP has someone or multiple people to get them through it or even an animal. I am glad he found his way back to some semblance of happiness. Poor man. Head up.
Damn his daughter caught one hell of a stray
Dude the father payed the mortgage? What a G
He most likely suffered a psychotic break
The problem with depression is that it makes it really hard to continue a grudge, or stick to your principles. The daughter is better off still having a mother around, and the dude needs to have some happiness rather than living with constant hate, but that's all the more reason to take everything she has and ensure she hits the same absolute lowest a person can be. Give her half to the homeless. Poor is still alive; it's just shitty.
I hadn’t read the updates, thanks. 🙏🏼
Dude bob is actually a total G. He was thinking that OP was guilty of domestic violence when his sister told him that he threw the glas at the wall in front of the kid. And OP
was laughing at him for his wife divorcing him.
Now he feels terrible for what he has done and has punished himself for it. Total G
WTF police arresting someone without a warrant. Not to mention he used his authority to invading his privacy to hunt him and used handcuffs causing contemplation, then attacking OP when he isn't even fighting back nor able to attack due to handcuffs. He must be cancelled. What a piece of sh**!
God damn, these people gave this guy a villain mentality.
Adam… and Eve…? Adam.. and Eve.. Adam. and Eve. ADAM AND EVE
I like how the Ex wife tries to get him back. She apperantly doesnt understand the pain she put him in. I would have kept my word and put Bob NC and get him dismissed. Police violence is never looked over. Especially if the person is white which i would say he is.
Bob doesn’t need to be a cop
Just what a bad experience. You dont exist in any of their lives, your wife's cheating on you, "good man" Bob abuses his power to beat you, and your life and your job is ruined and whats left of you still tries to protect your daughter. Im so happy that OP found a way out but, Bob actually deserved a beating for sure. Surround yourself who treats you better
5:39 Bro started his villain origin story and is now in his villain arc💀
This sounds alarmingly enticing.
I’ve felt what Op feels - I’m a woman. I’m not depressed but I see behind the curtain - all this is an illusion.
I dont care how nice of a guy Bob is, that dude doesn't need to be a cop if he can blatantly abuse his authority.
Ikr, like, you can help the homeless with literally any sort of job... Bob's way of solving conflicts, on the other hand, is absolutely incompatible with being a cop
This... This is trully an horror story.
He lost a wife, but gained freedom...
I have an uncle that was pushed to the limit and he just left. Years later I got into contact with him and he’s just enjoying being on his own, making his own decisions.
I’ve been used by family in the past and if it wasn’t for my dad and step mom I probably would be alive right now. So, I have an idea of what it’s like to hit a limit and not care about what comes later.
Shame on those who called him an a$$ he has done nothing wrong but be the victim he has been emotionally and physically neglected with not even a shred of a thank you from the people he gave everything for you have no idea what he has gone through even now and those who do shouldn’t even be thinking of talking down to him I don’t know what he’s going through but I’ve been through enough to see why and I say he’s done more than most people in the world right now he is just the victim of a society who doesn’t care congratulations to him he’s finally figured it out
That's not excuses who abandoned his kid to abuse mom.
@@AfianySnow29802-GS I think I had a stroke reading your sentence, also you try being unappreciated for years by those you love and cheated on and we'll see how you take it
Bro really dissociated from reality because of the trauma
lmao Daughter hears that her mom cheated and immediately goes to bat for OP against her mom. OP gets sad and disappears for 6 months intending not to pay child support. bruhhhhh
Bro went joker mode
When you're looking at someone through rose colored glasses you can't see their red flags, cuz they just look like regular flags... 🤷🏻♀️
Also, Bob sounds like a wonderful human! Yeah he shouldn't have beat the crap out of OP, But we all make mistakes, otherwise I'm glad OP didn't file the complaint against him. At first I wanted him too, but after finding out more about Bob I'm glad he didn't.
Are you kidding? "Wonderful human beings" don't beat the crap out of people.
@@impishrebel5969 one bad day my dude. Plus, the POS ex was feeding him lies, as far as he knew, his sister's husband snapped at them and ran off. Not excusing his behaviour, he got his pay cut and suspension for it, plus anger management therapy. End of the day, bad intel leads to bad outcomes.
No, bob is a POS. He abused his authority to kidnap his brother in law, then proceeded to give him a fuckin concussion while OP was still in handcuffs, unable to defend himself. Then, only after OP makes a viral reddit post does he finally step forward and "try to take accountability" to save face.
@@impishrebel5969 ^^ we all make mistakes, I don't get why society today can't admit people make mistakes and must have them punished for lapses of judgement and more.
@@NicholasJScottThis coward kidnaped someone using his authority as a cop and beat the shit out of a handkuffed person. He could have killed a totally defenseless person.
you guys pick and choose when kids should be treated like kids. you guys are mad at a 13 year old, like please unclench for a second and take the bitterness out of your hearts.
there is a pattern, if you look....but i'm guessing you know that already
Males think they are the law and that they can decide when they care for children.
Its really sickening how everyone think its okay for a grown up man to walk out on his underage daughter cause his ego been hurt...
When said kid watches her uncle beat her defenseless father half to death and blames her father for it knowing full well it was her mother's lies? Such a mystery why "she's just a kid" doesn't quite cut it. She's 13 not 3.
@@jakeand9020Did you literally missed the part where it said she was screaming every time he hit him?? She was worried she didn't want this she is being forcibly dragged into it. Frankly his wife is a child abuser for forcibly dragging their daughter into her mistakes.
OP, no one saved you. You saved yourself and the process made you stronger and wiser. You're not broken. You're mended and the cracks of a break always show through, but they make us what we are. Maybe the cracks made you less blindly trusting, but that's not all bad either since not everyone out in the world has your best interest at heart and there are people who would love to use you.
If and when you're ready to be more social, you have some skills that you could teach to adults- hunting and other things that you do to survive on your own.... Lots of people would LOVE to learn that sort of thing, and would pay good money for it or trade for things you want. It's also a way to make connections without having to be responsible to those people for life.
It's awesome that you healed enough to see your daughter clearly. You said that she was shocked when you told your wife that you knew about the affair.
Kids rarely think of their parents as worthy of their gratitude. She just hadn't ever thought about thanking you because it wasn't modeled for her by her Mom.
I thank my husband for driving us places when he drives and for cooking for us or buying us a nice dinner out. I try to keep in mind that I'm modeling politeness and gratitude for my son and it's panned out.
When OP was talking about feeling nothing and everything sounding muffled, it reminded me of when my dad confessed to us that he was having an affair with a young woman in his hometown. He said her parents were basically selling her to him since he was considered rich there. He even went to hotels with her but he insisted that nothing sexual ever happened, only kissing at most (I never believed this). I remember feeling the same way OP did. Years later, my sister showed me a photo she found from our dad’s phone of him and a younger girl in a towel. The girl looked younger than me. It was a short while after that that my mom revealed to me that she had known he was cheating with multiple college students that he and his charity club were sponsoring. I just find it ironic that he kept bashing his clubmates before about how they’re all cheaters and their wives all like him because he’s the only loyal man there and how he convinced one member to stop cheating. He made it seem like he was changing them, but, in reality, they were changing him. He had always been a misogynist but I didn’t consider him full trash when I was a kid because I thought at least he was loyal, but I have no love left for him ever since my sister showed me that photo.
It’s messed up that OP just lumped his daughter in with his wife as if the kid did anything wrong. She’s just a kid.
She also payed no attention to him, and didn't care about his well being, for example when Bob took him home, She shouted at him for making her worry instead of asking if he was okay
My heart broke for this man .. ptsd without A doubt ..
If this is real (comments made me unsure anymore) REPORT BOB
Edit; well done to bob
A man can handle all the pressure in the world but it doesn’t change the fact that the only people who can break a man is the ones he loves the most
My heart goes out to OP.
Moreso to the daughter, hopefully she grows up to not be like either parent.
@@smiley4995 As someone who has dealt woth the deeper recesses of depression, I can't so easily ignore the dad. What he described was a complete mental breakdown without guidance.
I am from Canada, so I dunno if the mental health facilities are the same, but we do have residences for high functioning people with mental disorders and it is disturbing how many of them are just picked up wandering the streets, unaware of their conditions. And sadly, this affects men disproportionately. Not saying the dad is disabled, but I am saying that depression is a hell of a mindfuck and shouldn't be ignored.
Note: I am not discrediting the daughter's plight, just that the man's plight resonated hard with me.
@@smiley4995 The guy literally did nothing wrong and you have no right to judge him.
I bet you've never had a relationship in your life much less felt the life destroying impact of betrayal by a spouse.
@@arcadius3257 so it’s completely justified to throw away your children when you’re not in a relationship with the other parent got it.
@@doubleedge2422 Yeah that's not what happened and its very disingenuous to twist it like that.
This man got betrayed, it wasn't a mere ending of a relationship between parents.
Bad ending "No ugabuga/return to monke": he took the meds and then turned back from his hermitage.
He was going to kill himself man
He said he’s happier now and his daughter had a dad
His friend had to take his bullets away before the meds man…
Are you feeling okay?
Actually concerned
@@nathansteele4358 That's just weakness talking when he claims to be happier now.
He finally found it in himself to sever the tethers binding him to society and government, he left his family, his house and mortgage, his job, and he Returned to Wild Nature as commanded by Uncle Ted.
And then what does he do? He lets a few people on the internet tell him what to do. These people, who are still tethered to the system, tell him to plug back into the Matrix, tell him he's wrong for leaving his daughter behind and they cajole him into taking the blue pill and plugging back in.
He could've become something great, he could've become like Uncle Ted, he could've gone beyond and spread Uncle Ted's teachings to those who needed a nudge to walk the path against industrial society and Return to Wild Nature, but instead he became cowardly and returned to the confines of society.
@@nathansteele4358That's just weakness talking when he claims to be happier now.
He finally found it in himself to sever the tethers binding him to society, he left his family, his house and mortgage, his job, and he Returned to Wild Nature.
And then what does he do? He lets a few people on the internet tell him what to do. These people, who are still tethered to the system, tell him to plug back into the Matrix, tell him he's wrong for leaving his daughter behind and they cajole him into taking the blue pill and plugging back in.
He could've become something great, he could've spread Uncle Ted's teachings to those who needed a nudge to walk the path against industrial society and Return to Wild Nature, but instead he chose to medicate and return to the confines of society.
There is no way he's happier being a good little worker drone that gets no appreciation.
@@nathansteele4358That's just weakness talking when he claims to be happier now.
He finally found it in himself to sever the tethers binding him to society, he left his family, his house and mortgage, his job, and he Returned to Wild Nature.
And then what does he do? He lets a few people on the internet tell him what to do. These people, who are still tethered to the system, tell him to plug back into the Matrix, tell him he's wrong for leaving his daughter behind and they cajole him into taking the blue pill and plugging back in.
He could've become something great, he could've spread Ted's teachings to those who needed a nudge to walk the path against industrial society and Return to Wild Nature, but instead he chose to medicate and return to the confines of society.
There is no way he's happier being a good little worker drone that gets no appreciation.
@@nathansteele4358That's just weakness talking when he claims to be happier now.
He finally found it in himself to sever the tethers binding him to society, he left his family, his house and mortgage, his job, and he Returned to Wild Nature.
And then what does he do? He lets a few people on the internet tell him what to do. These people, who are still tethered to the system, tell him to plug back in, tell him he's wrong for leaving his daughter behind and they cajole him into taking the blue pill and plugging back in.
He could've become something great, he could've spread The Teachings to those who needed a nudge to walk the path and Return to Wild Nature, but instead he chose to medicate and return to the confines of society.
There is no way he's happier being a good little worker drone that gets no appreciation.
L AUTHOR for not filing the complaint
Here I thought she was my best fried. Okay robot.
His friend saved his life by taking away his bullets or shells
I felt for OP and I am behind him... I thought I was going to like the daughter this time around but she's as awful as her mom. She had her dad arrested, beaten up and SHE berated him!
This is the realest dude ever.
*Adam* And *Eve* EVE IS A SNAKE.
The hell dude tell on that cop he would definitely loose his job and charge him for assault. You really needed to stand up for yourself
I don't know if this was an AITA post, but I'd say he wasn't because he obviously wasn't in a place, mentally or emotionally, where he could take care of his daughter. I do think it's a bit sad that it took strangers on the internet for him to understand that his daughter was another victim in this mess, not a part of the cause.
Honestly I relate yo this alot. If it wasn't for my best friend, one of my sisters, and my cousin I would've killed myself a long time ago. I hate the reat of my family and their drama. I remember going to church once along time ago and I legit felt like I was a complete loser. They treated me well but I felt so out of place and honestly I still felt used but useless at the same time and like an imposter.
I feel bad for this guy
In all of these stories, are there actually any a man with mental health issues is cared about and concerned for in a non-selfish way , proactively, and not after years of neglect or abuse because people area kinds of quick to jump in the “he must be the villain” bandwagon.
It’s depressing as hell, especially on top of real life.
Sell the house, sell the car, sell the kid I'm never coming back.
why does he hate his child so much? if a chid is not close with a parent its usually the parent's responsibility, not the child. Her mum probably spent time with her, he didn't. Even if he works, a lot of working parents aren't "ignored" by their kids.
Look at the narrative - everything is about him ...he never stops to think on other people's perspective for real... It really explain everything
I know, why would he be mad at the child that watches her uncle beat him half to death because of her mother's lies then blamed him for it. Obviously just his hurt ego and selfishness, that's the ONLY possible explanation.
@@morganablackwater2017 The only one he didn't consider was the daughter there is no justified 'perspective' for his wife and if you think otherwise then you're stupid
I don’t agree leaving the child, 14 yo girl. And i definitely say it is the parents job to build and keep a good relationship with your child.
Happy that he realised the 13-year-old is a 13-year-old. Not going to have adult reactions and are working on their relationship on both sides. Happy that his friend recognised the warning signs before OP did something more permanent.
I do not stan Bob. Don't even meh at the ex.
I would've called the State Police on Bob.
We should sue bob
This man really went psycho and reach enlightenment