Elliot Scott Attraction Coach - I need help on a twist to this video, how do you give him a taste of his own medicine, while getting them to improve & stick around?
Elliot Scott Attraction Coach I learned hard way lol I now got two guys, I'm just taking both lightly. I get attention and companionship. Lol I don't care anymore lol Play the playa
PenguinLover Pengui true and trun tables on him.and he would not like it and be bicth him dont talk or see him and block his number just move on if you stay he hurt you more.
That's why women should date and talk to multiple men. Keep your options open until he brings up exclusiveness. You're single until you are married ladies.
But if a man does this he is playing you. Which came first the player or the promiscuous woman? Chew on that for a while. This only perpetuates the supposed problem. Yada Yada Yada. Step back detach from the feels and look at it without the emotion attached. Enlighten yourself. Grow past this petty ish.
Focusing on self improvement, socializing (being seen), working on career goals, etc are things women should focus on primarily. If a good man comes along and enhances your fabulous life, then give it a chance. I say this from experience. I used to focus a lot of my time on whether I was liked enough by men or if I was attractive enough. Forget about all that and live an awesome, independent life. Happy New Year to everyone!!
@@winonarampage That is true. That's why I've decided now to work on being more socially and physically attractive. It really helps boost confidence as well.
It took being 37 for me to shift my mindset to just what you're describing. You are absolutely right...fear of losing a guy is the number one culprit in women's woes. It took throwing the stupid rule book out the window for me to be this happy, ladies please take this dude's advice, it works. Let fear out of your life, that calendar ( yes,you know which one I'm talking about... and I'm in Africa), burn it. Talk to more guys, just for fun, just for practice, your options will begin to expand.
right on! It took me being 42 and in the pits to finally get it... like I said to a two timing fiasco date (as i call him) when i caught him out trying to bench me: ' I don't waste my time with people who don't want to know me. I'm too good to be your plan B'- I felt sooooo empowered...He tried to persuade me to keep seeing each other... I got rid of him, fast. Now I'm clear and to the point and keep talking to different people, it's great practice, you grow a thick skin and your resilience increase too. And some guys suprise you, too. I don'y wait for anyone...
I was talking to this guy and he was just playing games with me. I had enough of his bs and I stop talking to him. I learned my lesson to never lower my standards ever again. Thanks for the advice!!!
taromilktee how did he react when you stopped talking to him? I just blocked a guy. Wondering what will happen because I’ll see him later in social situations ugh. He would keep texting me even if after he rejected me
I can't stress enough how right Elliot is ... Guys are always gonna test you to see if he can fool you and if you always let him come back he will see it as he has you wrapped around his finger. When a guy says "you are the only one I'm talking to" it's a LIE. Unless y'all in a committed relationship. Elliot is so right and I was the type to allow a guy to leave and come back because I was afraid of losing him. But how guys see it as is,.. (Oh this girl is easy) (she took me back so she takes trash back ok I lost respect for her) (I am going to talk to her for ego boost)etc. In the end he decide to ghost on me because he met another girl. Ever since I learned the hard way and I don't allow a guy to see me as an object. I am aware he is talking to multiple girls even if he says he ain't. I know his actions speak louder than words. I look at his effort over time and act as if I don't care. I don't expect anything from him because I know he is just a boy. I have the mindset play it cool and dont give a shit. Lol
It's true that you mustn't allow them to get away with anything, but they need to use their brains and realize that what the: are doing is wrong. If a guy is not a good person, I don't need him anyway.
Treat a guy like a dog, scold when bad and praise when good. Don't allow or praise bad behavior! Dr pat Allen has podcasts and books on how to do just that, scripts on how to speak like a real woman. ❤️
Get a guy to talk to you. He will tell you his imperfections when discussing previous relationships. Listen to him. Is the woman always to blame? Does he sound like he has relationships that last, or does he just do quick bouncing from one to the next? You decide based on this info if he is a keeper. I usually know on the first date. Make him comfortable and he will talk, talk, talk.
Elliot speaks the truth! I actually have a funny story that relates to this topic: A couple years ago I briefly dated a guy (whom revealed himself to be a Narcissistic Sociopath). Well I dumped him really quick when I realized he wasn't long-term material. To this day he still chases me and exemplifies creepy/stalker behaviors, lol. I think as women we can quite easily have the upper hand. Walk away as soon as they start acting different. Maintain high standards for how you expect to be treated. Eventually you'll meet an amazing person - so just create a fulfilling life until then 😄 💜
Alicja xo so true. I do this now to every guy. Soon as he's in, I show them that I like you but am too busy so take it or leave it. Omg men hate to be ignored. They come too strong.
Me too! It’s not often that I’m interested in a man, and if I fall in love with him and we’re together for a year or more it’s so hard to let it go. Nobody is perfect, and if I love him then his positive traits are so intoxicating and I feel I should overlook his negatives. I don’t know why men think that we women have guys knocking down our doors all day long. It’s crazy. Maybe some women do but I certainly don’t, and I’ve never known more than a few women who did.
Some dude dated and broke up with me and after that still wanted to kiss me!!So when he leaned in, I slapped him across the face and said you really think you had a shot at playing me , I just beat you at your own game
This is THE best advice I’ve ever heard and after being cheated on I now don’t give a sh*t if a man doesn’t value me I walk. Yep like someone but don’t NEED them. That’s the mistake I made with a player. I’ve become super independent and proud of who I am.I now have a great guy who adores me but it took a lying cheat who broke my heart into million pieces to become a high value woman. NO man should ever be given the power to make you feel less than your true worth. Great video Elliot. Ps the guy who played me asked me back out 7 times… the answer is still a big fat NO. Once a cheat always a cheat
Had to walk away from guys who didn’t want the same thing and appreciate what I have to offer. It took me some time but I just chose to walk away from someone who said he doesn’t want relationship. I refuse to be a convenience, a second choice, side chick, almost relationship, all that. I’ve stuck around before with guys thinking he would change, and he didn’t. Now no matter how much it hurts or how much I think I like him or see potential , I will walk away .
I think a woman needs to develop this type of mindset. They need to stop letting their emotions get in the way of getting hurt, i do believe early on but either they ignore it or simply they are wat i called hooked on the guy they lose focus. Im just saying
The guy I was in a relationship for 6 months dumped me by text because "he is not ready for a committed relationship". I just ignored his text. I have too much self-respect and hope he understood that. I never chased a guy and never will.
Right on time dude. This guy that I dated I hoped that he will commit I was so patient and it has been a year, now he was so depressed coz I told him we can’t see each other anymore because it’s going nowhere... he was so tortured that i was ignoring him etc. now he blocked me, now his friend told me that he’s just hurt from his past relationship. Well that’s not my Fckng problem. Everyone got their heart broken it’s part of life. I’m moving on and not looking back.
c g I’ve left the relationship 3 days ago and he’s moving on to his next target that fast. I’m damaged emotionally, mentally and physically. I’m unable to trust anyone and I’ve been suffering with anxiety attacks. I don’t know how I will heal from this
Melisha Naidoo k you gotta go absolute NO CONTACT. I know how you feel. Delete him from social media, remove everything even vaguely concerning him and keep yourself busy: I'm not exaggerating.
c g he is already moving on to a girl who has baby from another guy :/ I have blocked him on social media since then. He honestly feels nothing for the shit he put me through, I have to heal while he walks away unscathed
Man you fucking nailed it!!!! There's a dude who's a fitness model and long story short we ended up meeting. He has a huge fan base and at first I was attracted just to his outside and he started treating me like I was a noone. I fell back but he keeps chasing, when I called him out on his shit he was upset. I was expecting him to not reach out again but he did and continues. I didn't really care if he did because I find him shallow and told him this. Now he's chasing and I can careless and he's annoying the shit outta me!!!!! He's using that plan B you speak of but honestly speaking he showed his ass and I don't like him!!!! Told him this shit and he's still after me! He calls me cold hearted. I to him he needs to humble himself, bottomline don't give a flying fuck what he does or has. I feel that's the only damn reason he's after me. It's like when you don't give a shit they wanna chase
Well yes...and then men realize what they lost at age around 40+ ..when they see that spreading options left them alone, feeling alone and thinking about committing suicide.
It's so unfair that "caring too much" is such a disadvantage for women. I date to marry, not to play and have fun. I gave my all to the guy who agreed to commit and seemed so sure that we're already in a relationship, yet he still treated me so badly.. You're right about letting the guy SHOW first that he's interested in a relationship before I reciprocate the same thing. Some guys lie and manipulate, their actions don't match their words.. and it's on me for believing them. Thank you so much for the insight, it's such an eye-opener on how women usually think. It's really sad that the rational advice nowadays should be "I like you but I don't need you" and "don't give a shit". It's only after my second heartbreak I found this necessary.
I have been binging on your videos for two days and can’t thank you enough for all your help. It’s like you’re my virtual big brother teaching me everything I have done wrong in the past and area helping me so much finding my value and rebuilding myself! Elliot, you are my hero!!!
My #1 rule of advice for my daughter as she was growing up was.... Boys are not going to inherently treat you well... You as a women have to Demand How To be treated
Elliott, this is one of your BEST videos yet! Thank you for all that you do for we women who benefit from your wisdom and balls to give it to us straight!
Just told the guy I've been seeing this exact thing, "I like you, but I don't need you." right to his face before I even came across this video lol I think he was flabbergasted by that
If ANYONE has negative comments....keep it to yourself....the whole purpose is to HELP one another & build self-esteem😉. Negativity probably landed the pessimists right where they are. Have an AWESOME & BEAUTIFUL DAY ALL
Great video!! Thank you Elliot. No matter how much it hurts, I refuse to chase a guy, especially when I find out he was talking to other women, disappear, playing mind games, and trying to feed me bullshit.
You talked about the exact problem that my relationship had! The guy I was in a relationship with for 3 years did the exact same thing of going and coming back...Thankyou so much.Now I know where the problem was.I owe you tons of thanks XX 💗
This is the absolute truth!!! If women raised their standards the guys would rise to the occasion!! Men only put in the least required effort! Rise up women! Love this Elliot!! 💕
I needed this today because this guy I like tried to sweet talk me into giving him money. I told him no and he stormed out like a baby. He's the type that you can give him 100 and he will be broke and asking for more the next day. I'm starting to like him less and less.
I mboo You’re “starting to like him less and less?” That relationship should’ve ended immediately. There’s no gray area on that. He stormed out because you wouldn’t give him money. Omg.
This is gold- really needed this right now. Lack of options is my problem completely! The problem is I only come across a guy I am interested in very rarely and quality men are scarce.
THANK YOU’ your so frank and honest! Your one of the reasons why I really don’t care anymore when it comes to relationships! It’s TRUE’ you CANT CARE SO MUCH! EVEN A LITTLE TINCEY BIT! I’ve learned to do my own thing and don’t even dare get upset about it ANYMORE
I finally came to terms with the fact that I couldn't make him change, I told him either he gets it together or he leaves because either way i'm good. Now all of a sudden he's doing all the things I needed from him from the start, but honestly it's the consistency that I am concerned about. I feel like it may just be too little too late.
Elliot I don't know what video I watched of yours but you recommended to have a "don't give a crap mindset". I walked away and come to find out I was being emotionally abused. So thank you so much for your advice and tips. I couldn't see the red flags. I just knew it was messing with my mind, didn't feel good and I was in emotional pain. This was only a 3 month interaction. I can only imagine if it had gone longer. He is a 55 year old devout catholic man. Ladies beware.
This sh*t is so accurate. I remember I used to take the beating ALL the time with my exes. He literally cheated on me 100x . He even brought a b*tch to my birthday party and was hooking up with her in front of me with a smile on his face. I ended up finding a new guy , LOL funny you mentioned that. And I got over him fairly quickly! I promised myself I will never be that girl that lets anyone do me wrong again. The new guys got cut off the minute I didn’t like something they did. I warn them usually that if they did so and so there is no second chances. So when I tell you ahead of time then you go do those very things.. YOURE CUT bc clearly ending it was what they wanted. They always have the victim mentality... how dare I cut them off for something horrible. 99% of the time they will try to turn it around on me. I LOVE when they do that. This guy im with now respects the f*ck outta me. We have been together for 6yrs strong never once has he done something that I’m aware of that I didn’t like. If I’m being honest he fears me but in the scared to lose me way. I remember once he went to his boys house but told me he was at his moms house.. I didn’t talk to him for a solid 2-3weeks & he was BEGGING for me nonstop. Something as little as that made him realize that I mean business. But he knows & I KNOW if he ever does me wrong idc about the 6yrs... he’s OUT
When my ex broke up with me I told him I had plenty of options and I chose him! And he lost his s*** Imagine telling a dude “he was chosen from a list of options” Geez he was butt hurt!
I hate to admit this but he's right. I've seen time and time again; this great woman, great Mom, and great body after having a kid, and these guys treat them like crap and then leave them. I'm glad he's willing to tell women to treat a guy like a dog. People have called my Mom an absolute b****. She and my Dad have been married for over 50 years. She's on him all the time about everything. She's trained him well from the beginning--she's a strong personality who is only like 5'4". My Dad is 6' tall and she is so bossy, but it works. She has a very high morale code and it's still her way or the highway. :)
Honest talk. I have learned so much from Elliot. Thank you. May God continue to bless you so you can continue helping women get out of bad relationships and realizing they are their worth.❤
Omfg... I love you. Hahaha. You crack me up how you explain things, BUT it is SO accurate. Love the no BS straight forward approach and verbage you have. Been watching your videos recently and working on getting that attitude/mind set you keep urging all of us women to have. The small changes I've been making have definitely helped me feel better.
God bless you! You literally break it down the way I CAN receive it! You legit speak to ME directly you hit every one of my rebuttals. You are literally saving my heart and life right now. I really thank God for you and your voice! Keep helping great women who mean well and just want the real thing. 🙌🏾😘
Some of us have attachment issues. Ladies, if you’re one of those you don’t have to cut them off completely. Just distance yourself and alternate between being warm and cold. Stop being warm all the time! And I know it’s hard but it’s a lot easier than going cold turkey. And who knows, most likely you’ll re attract the guy cuz if you have attachment issues you lost him due to neediness or his interest. So distance yourself. Like him but don’t need him ;)
The problem is when we don't like a guy , we can say I like you but don't need you. But when we fall for a guy we become weak & take shit cuz love blinds us , and don't wanna lose that guy. That is the whole problem. Love your videos , and I love your advices 😊❣️
you are so correct about what you are saying I thought about doing the same thing you're doing on relationships men women sex and so on it's nice to see more than one guy out there really telling women how it is and had to keep or whatever you're on point hopefully people will listen
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i have some questions
Your material is awesome! It just shows ladies what their worth is and not to accept anything less..👍
Elliot Scott Attraction Coach - I need help on a twist to this video, how do you give him a taste of his own medicine, while getting them to improve & stick around?
Elliot Scott Attraction Coach I learned hard way lol I now got two guys, I'm just taking both lightly. I get attention and companionship. Lol I don't care anymore lol
Play the playa
When a guy doesn't appreciate me and just takes me for granted, the best thing to do is ditch and ignore him for good!
PenguinLover Pengui Ignore him for rest of your life I am doing this right now.😊
Gen Walsh yesssssss.
True story!
PenguinLover Pengui
true and trun tables on him.and he would not like it and be bicth him dont talk or see him and block his number just move on
if you stay he hurt you more.
PenguinLover Pengui agree
A famous saying is 'you hurt me once shame on you , if you hurt me twice then shame on me'.
I like that
Noted!
That's why women should date and talk to multiple men. Keep your options open until he brings up exclusiveness. You're single until you are married ladies.
Haram
But if a man does this he is playing you. Which came first the player or the promiscuous woman? Chew on that for a while. This only perpetuates the supposed problem. Yada Yada Yada. Step back detach from the feels and look at it without the emotion attached. Enlighten yourself. Grow past this petty ish.
And ? 😂 @@TheWhitestLoYouKnow
Focusing on self improvement, socializing (being seen), working on career goals, etc are things women should focus on primarily. If a good man comes along and enhances your fabulous life, then give it a chance. I say this from experience. I used to focus a lot of my time on whether I was liked enough by men or if I was attractive enough. Forget about all that and live an awesome, independent life. Happy New Year to everyone!!
Thank You! Lord and Savior Jesus Christ is the cost of the three of them speak to me again and again.
I don't want to be seen.
Easy to say when ur conventionally attractive & married before 37 😢
@@winonarampage That is true. That's why I've decided now to work on being more socially and physically attractive. It really helps boost confidence as well.
In other words a man will treat you how YOU LET HIM! A man treats you how he feels about you. And that's a fact. Thank you for another great video x
It took being 37 for me to shift my mindset to just what you're describing. You are absolutely right...fear of losing a guy is the number one culprit in women's woes. It took throwing the stupid rule book out the window for me to be this happy, ladies please take this dude's advice, it works. Let fear out of your life, that calendar ( yes,you know which one I'm talking about... and I'm in Africa), burn it. Talk to more guys, just for fun, just for practice, your options will begin to expand.
Gen Walsh that good ol biological clock
I agree with you Limpho. Focusing only on one guy is the worst mistake.
right on! It took me being 42 and in the pits to finally get it... like I said to a two timing fiasco date (as i call him) when i caught him out trying to bench me: ' I don't waste my time with people who don't want to know me. I'm too good to be your plan B'- I felt sooooo empowered...He tried to persuade me to keep seeing each other... I got rid of him, fast. Now I'm clear and to the point and keep talking to different people, it's great practice, you grow a thick skin and your resilience increase too. And some guys suprise you, too. I don'y wait for anyone...
49!
This isn't helpful when men won't even talk to you 😢
"I like you, but don't need you". Got it!! Straight up no chasers. Appreciate the honest truth. Empowering!!!🙌🙌🙌
Yeah right sure thing
Don't let anyone treat you like crap...
No one can respect someone who allows others to walk on them, abuse them and use them. People will treat you how you treat yourself.
I was talking to this guy and he was just playing games with me. I had enough of his bs and I stop talking to him. I learned my lesson to never lower my standards ever again. Thanks for the advice!!!
IAMDIEANA same girlllll
taromilktee how did he react when you stopped talking to him? I just blocked a guy. Wondering what will happen because I’ll see him later in social situations ugh. He would keep texting me even if after he rejected me
I think women are hard wired to 'care', it's an obstacle we all have to deal with. Lets rise above our hormones.
Yeah right women only care about themselves
There's a time to just DeCIDE that you have had enough bullshit!
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Let's burn our bras!
We are just emotional by nature..it's so sad we have do "unlearn" caring so much in order to go through dating.
I'm a single girl in high school and I'm single and happy because I don't need a boyfriend and I don't lower my standards.
dollygirl2842 yasssss girl you go girl
dollygirl2842 Good girl! Way to go; keep doing you
Yaaasssss queen!!!
Just take your time babe❤️
dollygirl2842 you go girl..!!!💪🏼😍🌹
I can't stress enough how right Elliot is ... Guys are always gonna test you to see if he can fool you and if you always let him come back he will see it as he has you wrapped around his finger. When a guy says "you are the only one I'm talking to" it's a LIE. Unless y'all in a committed relationship.
Elliot is so right and I was the type to allow a guy to leave and come back because I was afraid of losing him. But how guys see it as is,..
(Oh this girl is easy)
(she took me back so she takes trash back ok I lost respect for her)
(I am going to talk to her for ego boost)etc.
In the end he decide to ghost on me because he met another girl.
Ever since I learned the hard way and I don't allow a guy to see me as an object. I am aware he is talking to multiple girls even if he says he ain't. I know his actions speak louder than words. I look at his effort over time and act as if I don't care. I don't expect anything from him because I know he is just a boy. I have the mindset play it cool and dont give a shit. Lol
IKR
It's true that you mustn't allow them to get away with anything, but they need to use their brains and realize that what the: are doing is wrong. If a guy is not a good person, I don't need him anyway.
Well said sista lol spot on
Treat a guy like a dog, scold when bad and praise when good. Don't allow or praise bad behavior! Dr pat Allen has podcasts and books on how to do just that, scripts on how to speak like a real woman. ❤️
Alicia B Atherton 🤓🙂
Damn I give the same advice to my mates. Works every time
Do that and you will end up alone and miserable have fun with all your cats
Try to reverse the roles here, how do you feel about that now?
@Ms. Shaddye no have not
This video needs to be drilled into me
Tuly x3 lol...me too
@@infinitel00p94 😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Watch it daily. Me too fren. Lol me too.
I would rather have my dog over a guy these days. My God the games played are INSAIN
*insane... but, ITA, unfortunately.
Vicki Carlon go babe :) pets as the best :)
and those red pill guys are the worst
Vicki Carlon tell me about it
Very true
Gurls just play voodoo magic on him nd make him suffer for da rest of his life.
Hanna Banana give us the formula
Hanna Banana lol,😂😂😂😂
April Tiff 😂😂😂😂
Hanna Banana 😹😂🤣😅
😂😂😂😂
I'm not a huge fan of unions but I think in this case we women should unionize.
Lol.
Get a guy to talk to you. He will tell you his imperfections when discussing previous relationships. Listen to him. Is the woman always to blame? Does he sound like he has relationships that last, or does he just do quick bouncing from one to the next? You decide based on this info if he is a keeper. I usually know on the first date. Make him comfortable and he will talk, talk, talk.
Hahaha... and that's y no hot guy wants a milf or a cougar ...juice is not worth the sqeeze
I like the way you think
In short period of the time you will find out what kind man he is
Yesssss
I do have empathy for people who go back for abuse, this is the spawn of abuse in childhood and it’s called codependency.
your advice is the best. it's true, it all comes down to self worth and self respect.
Elliot speaks the truth! I actually have a funny story that relates to this topic: A couple years ago I briefly dated a guy (whom revealed himself to be a Narcissistic Sociopath). Well I dumped him really quick when I realized he wasn't long-term material. To this day he still chases me and exemplifies creepy/stalker behaviors, lol. I think as women we can quite easily have the upper hand. Walk away as soon as they start acting different. Maintain high standards for how you expect to be treated. Eventually you'll meet an amazing person - so just create a fulfilling life until then 😄 💜
Alicja xo so true. I do this now to every guy. Soon as he's in, I show them that I like you but am too busy so take it or leave it. Omg men hate to be ignored. They come too strong.
🙌🏻 Amen to that!
Keep it moving forward
A lack of options. Yeah I feel like there's a lack of options. And thats so true. I care too much!
Me too! It’s not often that I’m interested in a man, and if I fall in love with him and we’re together for a year or more it’s so hard to let it go. Nobody is perfect, and if I love him then his positive traits are so intoxicating and I feel I should overlook his negatives. I don’t know why men think that we women have guys knocking down our doors all day long. It’s crazy. Maybe some women do but I certainly don’t, and I’ve never known more than a few women who did.
There is no virgin women options I agree
@@dencetrov7099 You’re not a virgin so quit the entitlement to virgins, buddy. Besides, you sound like a pedophile.
@@laundrybasket2689 what exactly makes me so? Prove your words otherwise your words are empty.
Some dude dated and broke up with me and after that still wanted to kiss me!!So when he leaned in, I slapped him across the face and said you really think you had a shot at playing me , I just beat you at your own game
This is THE best advice I’ve ever heard and after being cheated on I now don’t give a sh*t if a man doesn’t value me I walk. Yep like someone but don’t NEED them. That’s the mistake I made with a player. I’ve become super independent and proud of who I am.I now have a great guy who adores me but it took a lying cheat who broke my heart into million pieces to become a high value woman. NO man should ever be given the power to make you feel less than your true worth. Great video Elliot.
Ps the guy who played me asked me back out 7 times… the answer is still a big fat NO. Once a cheat always a cheat
Had to walk away from guys who didn’t want the same thing and appreciate what I have to offer. It took me some time but I just chose to walk away from someone who said he doesn’t want relationship. I refuse to be a convenience, a second choice, side chick, almost relationship, all that. I’ve stuck around before with guys thinking he would change, and he didn’t. Now no matter how much it hurts or how much I think I like him or see potential , I will walk away .
Did they come back?
I think a woman needs to develop this type of mindset. They need to stop letting their emotions get in the way of getting hurt, i do believe early on but either they ignore it or simply they are wat i called hooked on the guy they lose focus. Im just saying
This should go viral.
Brutal honesty works!!
The guy I was in a relationship for 6 months dumped me by text because "he is not ready for a committed relationship". I just ignored his text. I have too much self-respect and hope he understood that. I never chased a guy and never will.
Right on time dude. This guy that I dated I hoped that he will commit I was so patient and it has been a year, now he was so depressed coz I told him we can’t see each other anymore because it’s going nowhere... he was so tortured that i was ignoring him etc. now he blocked me, now his friend told me that he’s just hurt from his past relationship. Well that’s not my Fckng problem. Everyone got their heart broken it’s part of life. I’m moving on and not looking back.
Narcissistic abuse is different from "getting played". COMPLETELY. It took a part of my spirit, money, trust, confidence ....it's NOT the same.
c g exactly what I’m going through
Melisha Naidoo narcissistic abuse is ACTUAL physical/ emotional/ spiritual exploitation. It's BRAIN DAMAGE. Don't downplay it or minimize it.
c g I’ve left the relationship 3 days ago and he’s moving on to his next target that fast. I’m damaged emotionally, mentally and physically. I’m unable to trust anyone and I’ve been suffering with anxiety attacks. I don’t know how I will heal from this
Melisha Naidoo k you gotta go absolute NO CONTACT. I know how you feel. Delete him from social media, remove everything even vaguely concerning him and keep yourself busy: I'm not exaggerating.
c g he is already moving on to a girl who has baby from another guy :/ I have blocked him on social media since then. He honestly feels nothing for the shit he put me through, I have to heal while he walks away unscathed
Man you fucking nailed it!!!! There's a dude who's a fitness model and long story short we ended up meeting. He has a huge fan base and at first I was attracted just to his outside and he started treating me like I was a noone. I fell back but he keeps chasing, when I called him out on his shit he was upset. I was expecting him to not reach out again but he did and continues. I didn't really care if he did because I find him shallow and told him this. Now he's chasing and I can careless and he's annoying the shit outta me!!!!! He's using that plan B you speak of but honestly speaking he showed his ass and I don't like him!!!! Told him this shit and he's still after me! He calls me cold hearted. I to him he needs to humble himself, bottomline don't give a flying fuck what he does or has. I feel that's the only damn reason he's after me. It's like when you don't give a shit they wanna chase
This is the sweetest heartfelt video I ever saw. So honest. Straight to the point. Caring!
I loved it.
Thank you Elliot!
Well yes...and then men realize what they lost at age around 40+ ..when they see that spreading options left them alone, feeling alone and thinking about committing suicide.
They deserved it!
True lol
You are like the good reliable friend who can call us on our wrongdoings, telling the hard truth, that's hard to hear but so helpful!
It's so unfair that "caring too much" is such a disadvantage for women. I date to marry, not to play and have fun. I gave my all to the guy who agreed to commit and seemed so sure that we're already in a relationship, yet he still treated me so badly..
You're right about letting the guy SHOW first that he's interested in a relationship before I reciprocate the same thing. Some guys lie and manipulate, their actions don't match their words.. and it's on me for believing them. Thank you so much for the insight, it's such an eye-opener on how women usually think. It's really sad that the rational advice nowadays should be "I like you but I don't need you" and "don't give a shit". It's only after my second heartbreak I found this necessary.
I have been binging on your videos for two days and can’t thank you enough for all your help. It’s like you’re my virtual big brother teaching me everything I have done wrong in the past and area helping me so much finding my value and rebuilding myself! Elliot, you are my hero!!!
My #1 rule of advice for my daughter as she was growing up was.... Boys are not going to inherently treat you well... You as a women have to Demand How To be treated
nutt1051 you’re a great mom!
Elliott, this is one of your BEST videos yet! Thank you for all that you do for we women who benefit from your wisdom and balls to give it to us straight!
I don't get why your videos don't have more likes.
Your advice is so real, honest and upfront.
Thanks again?
Just told the guy I've been seeing this exact thing, "I like you, but I don't need you." right to his face before I even came across this video lol I think he was flabbergasted by that
Amazing!!! You are the first coach that switched my mindset. And thanks for the things that other coaches out there never reveals.
ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN😉
Renee Taylor Bingo!
Act like a dude and be rude!!
If ANYONE has negative comments....keep it to yourself....the whole purpose is to HELP one another & build self-esteem😉. Negativity probably landed the pessimists right where they are. Have an AWESOME & BEAUTIFUL DAY ALL
You cant think like a man. If you could you wouldn't be here
Renee Taylor Livingstone waste of time!!!
Great video!! Thank you Elliot. No matter how much it hurts, I refuse to chase a guy, especially when I find out he was talking to other women, disappear, playing mind games, and trying to feed me bullshit.
You talked about the exact problem that my relationship had! The guy I was in a relationship with for 3 years did the exact same thing of going and coming back...Thankyou so much.Now I know where the problem was.I owe you tons of thanks XX 💗
This is the absolute truth!!! If women raised their standards the guys would rise to the occasion!! Men only put in the least required effort! Rise up women! Love this Elliot!! 💕
No they won't they will just replace you
I loved this video , this one crosses a mile stone exposing the truth we're so oblivious to 🙏🙏🙏🙏
It seems like we all go through the same problems. It never changes just gotta keep moving forward and stop being stuck.
I like that you’re out of the car😊
Your advice is so awesome! So on point. I wish we had these discussions in high school. Maybe my life would have been different.
Rita Turner your life is different now, it can be now.
You teach people how to treat you. Awesome video, cheers. First time in my feed & subscribed straight away. Choice!
We don’t all just talk to one guy either!!! I speak to a minimum of 3 at all times.
Thank you... This is exactly what I need to hear now and I feel a lot better
You’re the best!! You make me laugh at how pathetic we are and how we let others play us. Love your videos!!!
Elliott you never fail to make me smile....thank you for your channel x
I like your videos. You tell the truth. Thats what women truly need to hear. It's helped me.
This advice is sooo on point! Well said!
OmG this is so true. You hit it right on the spot.
Women have a biological clock and don’t have the time that makes it more important
I needed this today because this guy I like tried to sweet talk me into giving him money. I told him no and he stormed out like a baby. He's the type that you can give him 100 and he will be broke and asking for more the next day. I'm starting to like him less and less.
I mboo You’re “starting to like him less and less?” That relationship should’ve ended immediately. There’s no gray area on that. He stormed out because you wouldn’t give him money. Omg.
So he's like a women
He's a user let em go
You are my favourite dating coach 😘 these are some real good points he's making
Everything you say is so true, thanks for keeping it real
This is gold- really needed this right now. Lack of options is my problem completely! The problem is I only come across a guy I am interested in very rarely and quality men are scarce.
THANK YOU’ your so frank and honest! Your one of the reasons why I really don’t care anymore when it comes to relationships! It’s TRUE’ you CANT CARE SO MUCH! EVEN A LITTLE TINCEY BIT! I’ve learned to do my own thing and don’t even dare get upset about it ANYMORE
This video is so hilarious but so true! Love it. Great advice! 😄
Really authentic information Elliot! Amazingly explained ! I extremely benefited from your videos!
I finally came to terms with the fact that I couldn't make him change, I told him either he gets it together or he leaves because either way i'm good. Now all of a sudden he's doing all the things I needed from him from the start, but honestly it's the consistency that I am concerned about. I feel like it may just be too little too late.
You're funny you have a great disposition
This is one of your best videos. Straight to the point. Thank you
Elliot I don't know what video I watched of yours but you recommended to have a "don't give a crap mindset". I walked away and come to find out I was being emotionally abused. So thank you so much for your advice and tips. I couldn't see the red flags. I just knew it was messing with my mind, didn't feel good and I was in emotional pain. This was only a 3 month interaction. I can only imagine if it had gone longer. He is a 55 year old devout catholic man. Ladies beware.
This sh*t is so accurate. I remember I used to take the beating ALL the time with my exes. He literally cheated on me 100x . He even brought a b*tch to my birthday party and was hooking up with her in front of me with a smile on his face. I ended up finding a new guy , LOL funny you mentioned that. And I got over him fairly quickly! I promised myself I will never be that girl that lets anyone do me wrong again. The new guys got cut off the minute I didn’t like something they did. I warn them usually that if they did so and so there is no second chances. So when I tell you ahead of time then you go do those very things.. YOURE CUT bc clearly ending it was what they wanted. They always have the victim mentality... how dare I cut them off for something horrible. 99% of the time they will try to turn it around on me. I LOVE when they do that. This guy im with now respects the f*ck outta me. We have been together for 6yrs strong never once has he done something that I’m aware of that I didn’t like. If I’m being honest he fears me but in the scared to lose me way. I remember once he went to his boys house but told me he was at his moms house.. I didn’t talk to him for a solid 2-3weeks & he was BEGGING for me nonstop. Something as little as that made him realize that I mean business. But he knows & I KNOW if he ever does me wrong idc about the 6yrs... he’s OUT
How's your relationship with him now?
This is excellent! Thanks for posting this video.
Sooo....date those that you're not attracted to but have potential to take care of you. If he treats you fine, love will grow.
chilloften SheraSeven1 says the same thing...its weird to me though, have to practice...lol I automatically screw my face up, I know i have to change.
That's what I did... Now he treats me like shit, worse than anyone had ever done. It eventually happens if you marry them.
Liz Sampaio watch SheraSeven1 's channel...your probably doing something wrong.
Same!!
IamKarryanne I love her! She is so right, otherwise you get involved emotionally up front and it has NEVER worked out for me.
Your hair looks awesome like this and only now I have noticed your beautiful blue eyes....keep it up! Thanks for a great advice!
Thanks Elliot! I like your advice. It really helped me become aware of my mistakes.
When my ex broke up with me I told him I had plenty of options and I chose him!
And he lost his s***
Imagine telling a dude “he was chosen from a list of options”
Geez he was butt hurt!
Jasmine there always butt hurt to big of an ego
Just watched this for the 5th time. Elliott, this is one of your BEST advice videos.☆☆☆☆☆ Thank you!!!
I just subscribed to him. He just kept it so real!! 💯 I respect you sir 👏🏿 👏🏿 👏🏿
I hate to admit this but he's right. I've seen time and time again; this great woman, great Mom, and great body after having a kid, and these guys treat them like crap and then leave them. I'm glad he's willing to tell women to treat a guy like a dog. People have called my Mom an absolute b****. She and my Dad have been married for over 50 years. She's on him all the time about everything. She's trained him well from the beginning--she's a strong personality who is only like 5'4". My Dad is 6' tall and she is so bossy, but it works. She has a very high morale code and it's still her way or the highway. :)
Honest talk. I have learned so much from Elliot. Thank you. May God continue to bless you so you can continue helping women get out of bad relationships and realizing they are their worth.❤
Preach Elliot! Love your videos😊
Amazing advice Elliot. Never heard a coach talking reality from women’s point
Of view … lovely !! Plz keep doing more 😊
Great video, you bring up some good points. Thank you 👍🏼✌🏼️& ❤️
Truer words were never spoken!!! Works like a charm!
We love you Elliot! Big hugs from Corpus Christi Texas! 🐴
Elliot, how do we master the "I like you but don't need you"?
Omfg... I love you. Hahaha. You crack me up how you explain things, BUT it is SO accurate. Love the no BS straight forward approach and verbage you have. Been watching your videos recently and working on getting that attitude/mind set you keep urging all of us women to have. The small changes I've been making have definitely helped me feel better.
God bless you! You literally break it down the way I CAN receive it! You legit speak to ME directly you hit every one of my rebuttals. You are literally saving my heart and life right now. I really thank God for you and your voice! Keep helping great women who mean well and just want the real thing. 🙌🏾😘
Some of us have attachment issues. Ladies, if you’re one of those you don’t have to cut them off completely. Just distance yourself and alternate between being warm and cold. Stop being warm all the time! And I know it’s hard but it’s a lot easier than going cold turkey. And who knows, most likely you’ll re attract the guy cuz if you have attachment issues you lost him due to neediness or his interest. So distance yourself. Like him but don’t need him ;)
YES I've been waiting for thissss
Yes, women should be united!!! There is so much truth in your words.
your advice is really motivating! I m recovering myself!
Elliot, you are the best men! Thanks for the great advice as usual.
You are absolutely correct about everything you said. Thank you Sir. I subscribe. Take care!
I love your videos really. Especially this one. Keep up scott!👍👍👍🤝👍
The problem is when we don't like a guy , we can say I like you but don't need you. But when we fall for a guy we become weak & take shit cuz love blinds us , and don't wanna lose that guy. That is the whole problem. Love your videos , and I love your advices 😊❣️
You really ARE my favorite dating coach!
Thank you for these videos. They're so informative.
The best advice,thank you so much!
you are so correct about what you are saying I thought about doing the same thing you're doing on relationships men women sex and so on it's nice to see more than one guy out there really telling women how it is and had to keep or whatever you're on point hopefully people will listen
You're awesome Elliot!🤗 Love your hair by the way. It looks really cute.