How to play a player
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- How to play a player
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I tried this tactic and it worked. It gets the player so confused, they start to chase after you. But because you had moved on and don't really care, it drives them nuts at the same time. Brilliant!
🤣 I love it, lol!
The only game to play with a player is Hide and Seek. He seeks and you hide. Get gone from him and stay gone. Win.
Yes!
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Facts!
Period! FLAWESS VICTORY 🤣
This is good but the best revenge is truly moving on and improving yourself.
real talk
yes.
Shari Craig Yes they are evil heartless devils
Shari Craig exactly
Shari Craig soo true
When you meet a Player, you move on, find someone who is serious. You dont stay to win over them, u have nothing to prove coz you are capable and attractive.
You said girl.....no one has time these days to keep these games going ....if someone is not for you move on and find someone else who is truthful,positive,and worthy of you.
That's just right.
Zahra Liang There's too many of them, there's no good men out there.
Right especially if you are young and want to get married and have a family, don't waste you time on a player.
Taye Battle I got a better man from Croatia. American men are way too spoiled and greedy.
I think that the best thing that a girl can do is show a player that she moved on and that she is happy.He will immediately want her back.
but why do u want the guy back? if anything hes an idiot for not figuring it out sooner. use him or ditch him.
You don't want him back but they don't go away until they finally realize they have no effect on you. They still hate that they are not winning so unless you don't have to come in contact with them you will almost have to deal with them and still not be moved by anything they do. I see my ex every week at church and it does nothing to me. I feel nothing for him so it's easy to deal with him.
nancy b I agree but if he's a narcissist then no contact is vital to you're well being
nancy b TRUE FACTS girl, it works like a CHARM🏆
nancy b I totally agree and they always want you back when you moved on. They are sick!
Just being the one who got away would be sufficient satisfaction for me
I agree
Marilyn Bradley Agreed. What goes around comes around. It'll happen to them eventually.
Alexandra Griffiths
They are pretty much narcissistic.and very little hurts them other than losing their prey. Hurts their giant egos.
Possibly, but whether they care or not, the hurt will come to them and/or affect them directly.
Marilyn Bradley ...YES GIRL! YOU ARE MY KINDRED SISTER.....SOME FOLKS STILL CHASING ME AFTER 10YRS..LOL....NOPE..LOLOL NOT INTERESTED THEY HAD THEIR CHANCE LOLOL
You can never win playing with a narcissistic coward. There brain is in psycho mode.
+Marsha Martinez Yes!!!
I know, right!!!
yes that is true.
They don't sympathize with others why try 😂😂😂
Its actually fun watching them be disgusted because they have no effect on you.
Sometimes when u want something so bad and you finally get it, can be a real let down .
You win when you see how truly pathetic a "player" is and you are safe and genuinely wish them the best.
“They already think little of you anyway”
“Does not matter if you go low” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Let's face it: Players never change. All you can control is the way you react to the whole situation. You playing him isn't going to get him to respect you. He cares more about how situations are in his favor as opposed to who you are and how you feel. You're a game piece to him. Even if you pull one over on them you might not get them. If they cared about you they wouldn't have pulled their tactics in the first place. Your best bet is permanent no contact. Oh, you can bet that when he sees he has no control over you it'll piss him off, being your best successful self and working towards your own happiness will make him upset because it shows not everything is in his favor and you'll be happy with a new man. During the no contact, start detaching yourself and take note of the process that way you'll know what to do when you find one of these boys again.
Yeaah cutting contact is the best way. Plus a player/grown boy can change when he meets first woman to say "No" the woman who isnt like the women hes played.
the thing is how u disconnect and cut your emotional ties.if u still want the guy of course your still in the rollercoaster.cut him out completely dont even play him.your heads not in the game.your a mess.fix yourself.BUT if you can do him,play the game and flip it.use him then ditch him. now hes emotional cuz his ego and rep are in jeopardy.
+DazedNConfusedXD You are sooooo spot on. Best advice!!!!
ApeshitBANANAS giiiirll u better PREACH👌👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
players are narcissists, and it's a sweet victory when you beat them at their game and their rules😊
Yes Tiara they truly are Narcissistic smh.
S T you can get played, cheated and lied to. Wait. İt's coming for you.
Just curious why is that type of life style important to you? I suppose if meaningless sex is all you want out of life then that could be the reason. Or is it you just like the game of hunter. You will wind up alone and old sitting in a Nursing Home playing with yourself cause no one will give a rats ass. I don't understand people who like to deliberately break hearts and find that fun. Something is wrong with your heart and mind. Just saying. And yes karma does exist.
LadyofCleves65 low self esteem is what drives players. Pity them only :(
S T 😄😄😄😄
I've played them. I always ended up with feelings seeing the good in them. not enough to fall for them but enough to care about them though they are selfish egomaniacs. I recommend just walking away. They'll get their karma and it's a waste of your good energy trying to give it to them.
Bre Klein here here! You said it!
But if they are going to hurt other women you should play them u til they break so they don’t hurt other women. If you can, you should break them down all the way.
victoria ann zabaras look well said I have a best friend who is a player he likes me and I was like break his heart but he is different wirh me they just have to find the right women players are use to women throwing themselves when that cease to happen with one woman they are like wtf is happening
@@ghisellesimon162 hm - how is it now
They are narcissists! Leave them alone and RUN!
Yes!
But why is your focus on players tho 😂
Very truth it a headache
Lol players don't like being ignored,
nope, тнey don'т
They hate it.
Exactly 😂
@Sonicz Forever #Facts
Facts the guy called me seven times plus texted me I hit that ass with the see
If you enter a relationship be sure that you know how to play the game or else you'll be the one to get played. Don't be carried away by too much emotion because you also need to use your brain for you to win the game.
Players are a waste of time period.
Why is your focus on them tho that sub of yours really says alot
Life is to short to play a player. Just drop him and move on. No games, no drama. Be a grown mature person.
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For ten years I have thought my cheating (now) ex-husband was the victim of a bad childhood and in twelve minutes I learned that he is just a player
Liz Sanford I'm sorry he wasted ten years of your precious life
Find yourself a better man, that is what I did and was married to the new guy for 25 yrs till his death, he was wonderful.
my player is the one that I fell in love with... As things progressed I realize that he was just playing me... "Not ready for a relationship" ... when I stopped trying to get his attention... He contacts me back with saying that he Loves me & I'm a beautiful, respectful, a wonderful person. it stopped me in my tracks for a moment, because I wanted to hear that from him. I thought he had really changed and wanted me to be a part of his life... But now I have to love him from a distance and keep my heart open for other men to step up that might really want to really be a part of my life. It is not something I want to do... It is something I have to do.
Wow you are very wise, bravo!
Karen Hicks he sounds like a narcissist just had that experience
Oh that must have broken your heart dear lady. I feel for you, I should cause I am in that boat now. I see it has been a year since you posted your comment so hoping you have moved on and found happiness that you deserve.
Karen Hicks
Profound, insightful, heartbreaking and oh...so...true. Bless your dear heart.
Hi
when you encounter a player RUNNNNNNNN🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃 as fast as you can🏃🏃
After dealing with players and playing them back, I’ve come to realize that its a waste of time realistically.
Honestly, I feel like trying to play a player is a recipe for getting played all over again, for the simple fact that you are putting so much emotion and energy on them. And I'm certain that even if you did burn or get them back, it won't make them stop or change, hell it probably won't even really effect them all that much. They probably will still get over it fast.
You can't play someone who doesn't care. If the player doesn't give a damn about you. Why would any of this matter to them? They'll just move on to the next female.
+Janae Marie Right! LOL
The player isn't concerned about the person it's the game it's works because his ego is at hand
Author Janae Marie It matters because these types can't stand to not win. Their egos make them keep trying so you sometimes have no choice but to play them the way Chazz is saying.
luulips That still doesn't make sense. A player or narcissist won't care that you're talking to someone else because they are too. They would have to value you to some extent to have been played by you. I've dealt with someone like this. I'm quite sure if I decided to stop dealing with him he wouldn't care. I actually don't think I could play him. Because I honestly don't think he'd give a damn. Unless I'm missing something on what you're saying.
Shantanell Wilder I don't understand why they would care or why it would bruise their ego if they don't care about the female. If one chick walks away they already have like five lined up. No harm. No foul on their part because they don't care about her anyway.
Or why not just distance yourself- forever-move on- that works! lol
Well I think this method is more for people who are extremely attached to the person , and struggle with moving on
I wouldn't waste my energy....or my life!
+katharine vann that's true. But right now I'm trying to get over a guy who played me and it's so hard I don't know what to do, but your right I don't see the point of trying to play him back
ive been there and done it all....I just realise that it is a colossal waste of tine and energy....be kind to yourself and love yourself! There are wonderful things waiting for you if you would just distance yourself from it all and that guy x
+katharine vann thanks for the lovely advice .. I'm doing my best to put distance from this guy, however we work at the same place so it makes it a bit challenging. But I just need to maintain my strength n not fall for him again
Step 1 - Accept the fact that you've been played.
Step 2 - Go No Contact for a while; not to be petty or hurtful, but to get your own mind together, to regroup, to cool emotionally, so you can look at the situation logically.
Step 3 - Start looking for other people to talk to.
Step 4 - Reconnect with the player only to let them be your emotional dump. "Too bad things didn't work out for us." They will think that you still want them. They will believe that you want them back, and that they can keep the game going. Be aloof.
Step 5 - Take little personal shots at them - about their appearance, or how they seem less than when you were together. Have fun with it.
Step 6 - As you keep talking with others, just check in with the player from time, "Hey, what's up, player?" They will start realizing that they aren't gaining any ground with you.
This is very juvenile. The best way to deal with a "player" is to leave him in the sandbox to play with himself. The player is not worth your time or energy. Work on improving yourself and give your time to someone you like that is truly interested in you. Who has time to waste on a player who does not like you. The player is a non factor.
Throwing shade at the person? Yes, I'm here for it, lol!
Best way to play a player is to ignore them. Show no sign of emotion.
love love love this video! women need to know is that once they been played- they have to emotionally disconnect but ACT like they hav feeling still. and flip it on the person that played them. use them. they are now your game piece.u dont want them anymore. ur the man chazz!:)
If I get tired of the cat and mouse game I erased the number and usually when they hit me I hit em wit da who this, usually they say Nevermind or I got the wrong number don't hear from them again or they start to explain theirselves. When they explain theirselves I lie and said you got the wrong number 😂😭 tired
Ty Lioness this is me!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I just this the other day
This is me too.
I do the same thing lol 😂 just did that shit the other day lol
Str8 mobbin🤣
So players don't have natural emotions, which kind of makes them psychopaths!?!
Memory Rinehart YES, you are right.
Y’all need to stop misleading people my best friend is a player yes he lacks common basic empathy but when he finds the right one he settle down I say this Cause my best friend is crazy about me but I when I met him I didn’t flaunt over him like the other woman I barely replied and I still ain’t give him anything I inspired him to connect with me purely without sex over his head and he has never felt that so with being said they have to find the right woman
I understand his logic in this however...playing games with a player is just as manipulative as them doing it to you. It's a waste of time and a distraction. Just let it go...give it to God...and move on.
The smartest comment on this video. Thank you
@@kingchosenone368 on point😉
I mean u rite.. but I din like that.. I love God but he take too long sometimes.. I need instant gratification lol
You are God. Dafuq??
@@livelafnlove1545 it was a joke... u rite 2 give it 2 god.. its jus sometimes niggas b n they feelings and wanna c da person get got rite den... I talk hella shit but I ain't doun it.. cuz feelin guilty and not being able 2 look in the mirror is a real thing. FACTS.
I played this game with my first love it felt good at the time to use him as bait but honestly it made me not trust anyone.
this crazy as hell I'm tired just listening to all this lmao I can't.
My thing is to cut them off and ignore them yes the player will wait it out. Psychology one has to reverse the game ignore and keep moving on. Ignore and delete their ass, get a restraining order let's see who's gonna win this immature foolish game
c Sha . Thank you. Hell yeah.
Exactly what i did!! Go away fool!! Game over!
"A player is eternal" damn when you said that I felt it lol
I Get played Chasing an answer and They get played chasing the win.. LMBO.. I love it...
This is your best video. I now fully understand this player/ target situation. I can now gauge whether I want to throw little shots or just dump on the player. I very recently had a situation where the player called me almost a year and a half later talking about "... I just wanted to say hi." He would not let me know who he was and I had completely forgotten about him. But, I was curious. He sent me little clues and I still didn't recognize who it was. I got fed up with game and told the person to stop texting me. When they wouldn't, I went into beast mode and text something horrible to him. I got a reaction and a heat filled text that jarred my memory to exactly who it was!!!!! I was so glad when I realized who it was , I was not sorry about what I had texted. He was a man that i had not dated because after several conversations i realized he was full of it and had the nerve to be condescending. I was playing a player and didn't even realize. I went to the extreme with him , after wards I felt a little guilty but when I realized ( by the words of his response.) Who it was, I was supremely happy. I dumped emotionally on him because he was being rude and that was how he had been in the past.
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101. Devalue a players: When someone plays games they generally do it so that they can get attention and gain the upper hand in the relationship. Most people don't really care if this is negative or positive attention as long as they feel that they still have the same or greater value because to their actions. Showing a person that is playing games that they have lost value is a great way to let them see that what they are doing is negatively affecting them so that they will stop.
102. Ignoring: We often spend a lot of our time paying attention to things that make us unhappy, instead of focusing on the things that make us smile. When someone is playing games, they are generally trying to get the attention that they probably didn't get it their previous relationships. Ignoring them can show them that this does not work with you and that they will need to try another method.
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Two can play that game.........This is very SEXY advice.Thank you.
That was interesting and the best advice I think is the no contact. However, I can't play other people or use people. I'd rather just cut the cord, knowing that the person is just working to get me on the hook, but has no emotional connection.
Game recognizes game
Truth!
I loved it! Its a turning point in my life i guess, never could think of it myself, but the guy absolutely deserves this. Thank you
oh i played my ex he cant stand it. its about his ego.
Howw
Just discovered your channel and I’m so happy.... you crack me up and thanks for everything you’re doing for us!
This helped me find my strength today and feel better today.
Your message well delivered. Precisely on the mark. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. Just what I needed to lift my spirits.
I weak @ the player already think I’m pathetic 🤣
Oh the games people play
Dang. Crazy insightful how deep you went with that. You anaylzed the hell outta that! WOW. I agree that women really should just move on from a playa, but having been in the situation where feelings occurred, I also know it's important to gain yourself back from situations where you feel trapped into being someone's pawn. Luckily, I believe that the natural transition is just what CHaz spoke of. Eventually you move on, and the playa is once again attracted to winning. Best part though, is it doesn't matter to you - and YES, your confidence is restored...as petty as it may sound.
I love his disclaimer because this is too much energy for me to give someone who needs to be completely in my past aside from the lesson they taught me. I don't want anything to do with a player even if it means playing them....I rather heal quickly as possible and move on...time is everything
joidice slack Agreed. They'll fail at their own game eventually.
joidice slack
joidice slack
1. Accept you've been played.
2. Go no contact for a while.
3. Start talking to some other dudes.
4. As you start liking someone else Start talking to the player again.
5. Emotionally dump your hurt feelings onto them. So that youll be more aloof when with the New Guy, which will make you more attractive. Because ur mind is still a little on the player.
6. Take small shots at the player. Little insults here and there.
7. As things move forward with you and the other people you are talking to, just stop calling thé player. Then use them as needed. When you are on breaks ect.
Omg yes! This is totally accurate.. It works so well... I am so glad you make these videos!! Helps me so much 😁 thanks
Let the games begin! :P
Huh personally my time is precious i don't want to loose it by play a player
You got me laughing so friggin hard with "emotionally dump on them", "take free shots"...
Just throw trash at them 😂🤣😂🤣
I can't right now!
Savage mode.
Thank you ❤.
Have listened to much advice but you are the best regarding people who play you all the best chris
I love how all of y'all are assuming we want stable relationships with these men... 😂 Like nah, I'm tryna play too, if I wanted someone with a head on their shoulders I would find one, but rn I want this loose one I found lmao it is what it is
Facts they killing me like they just really moved on with no type of issue Chile boo we only human burn his house down sis 🥴🍌
Thank you chaz this was right on time
smh...this is too funny. Thank you. I needed this cuz I landed in the driver seat and didnt even realize the control I had...now that I do...know I am gonna have fun wit it.
Just what i was thinking. Yes. am in this possion. So thanks i was worried but now i know that i do just fine. X Jade.
Thanks
This feels like reverse psychology :) I can’t imagine doing that to someone. It is a very good first person perspective on how a player sees the person that they are playing. Awesome 😎
OMG ... I’ve been doing this without even knowing it and it works. Thanks for the validation Chazz!
You are amazing! I will definitely try this right away
The most insightful and informative take away from this video was regarding the true motive of the player.
Youre an amazing coach! I LOVE sticking to being humble.....im gonna show the player to see that Im a person
I won't do this but I really love how you still answer our questions!!!! Thank you
I always remember this video and come back to it when I’m in my feelings.
This is the best video ever! Do more on this subject. This was your only video on this.
Thank you so much for your videos!
LOVE THIS STRATEGY!!!!
THANKS CHAZZ!
OMG!!!!! Chaz this was sooooo helpful....I appreciate you and these videos...You're the best....
Another great video, how long would you recommend the no contact ?
Wow what you say its amazing!!!. My past player is my best friend giving me advice today😊
Ace! Loving this!
You are the MAN!
Thanks for the free game
Thanks so much Chazz love this yours sincerely Wendy
wow just saw your post on HOW TO PLAY A PLAYER THANK -YOU SO MUCH i have been in tears and bed did't want to live OMG YOU HIT IT ON THE YES I HAVE BEEN PLAYED ! GOT OUT IF BED ON GOING THREW ON TABLET LOOKING FOR ANSWER and found you you hit it on the nose for EVERY THING YOU SAID WAS TRUE , I WILL DO EVERYTHING YOU SAID NOW I I A PLAN (FOR ME) ! HE LIVES IN ENGLAND ! ME ON A BUS TRIP TO CALIFORNIA RUSH ME FOR A DATE TO COME AND VISIT CAME 5 MONTHS LATER THAN HERE IT REALLY STARTED CAME MARCH 2015 2WKS LED ME ON NOE HE IS GETTING MARRIED BUT SAYS SHE DON'T MIND IF WE STILL KEEP IN TOUCH !!! WHAT! ! HE DOESN'T know i know who he is marrying , the girls real name he lied so now i will do like you said get myself back THANK YOU AGAIN GOD BE WITH YOU
This video is the only thing that has helped me get over my ex the player. Smart and secure as I am I always treated him as I wanted to be treated but never ever though of using him as an emotional dump to rid the frequency and move on.....very smart sir :)
😂😂 Cold-blooded. I like it!
You are awesome and honest
Gahhh I love your advice and delivery. Best out there.
I'm a new viewer....I like the advice so far.
Not to get off subject but u are extremely handsome. Keep up the good work!
+Rena Lee yeah he is ; )
Focus girl...he a man too...lol
wow, you are awesome! i was smiling while watching this
Thank you for the video, you always have great advice! In this case, the roles are swapped, but then you become the player. Which like you said, it’s a moral call that you’re not making, just giving people options! I respect it either way. As a woman, I think it would be hard not to catch feelings for the player again if you entertain their company at all. For me, I think ghosting them for real and not looking back was my best bet. Being happy and cutting off any and all energy really sparks the interest of these psychopaths. A psycho should be treated to the “smile, nod and run” treatment
I haven't tried this intentionally but I love this video! I've watched it like 12x's ATLEAST
hi can u give me a answer as im confused.
he only wants to hang out if he thinks hes gonna get some, but doesnt ever wanna hangout if its just having a drink or just chatting.
he doesnt come out and say it just its obvious.
the thing is hes not gonna get some anyways.
i like him but if i say for us to hand out as it go for a drink etc he not free but as soon as i say im going to a hen do and saying at a hotel, hes messaging me saying he wants to meet up. i say thought u werent free!
im being played how do i stop it and get him to relise his feeling and get over himself.
thank u love ur videos. x
Good plan talk to new people to forget player
Omg dude your like so awesome
You are right on point and smart too.
Just got played from a woman whom I was emotionally connected to. When the flame was burning at its brightest. Bam, ghosted for 2 weeks. She comes back with I met someone else. Was emotionally KO'd. Even though I won't play the player, this has helped me gain a new understanding of what happens to me. So thank you.
The thing is ; a player, liar or cheater first has to play, lie or cheat themselves before it is imposed on anyone else - they play themselves first & foremost.
The key is to Observe and vet better before picking anyone to engage with in the first place
Definitely doing this ! thanks for sharing the video !
I've actually done all this stuff to an ex boyfriend over 5 years ago.
I didn't learn it from anywhere.
I just listen to and followed my intuition (my gutt).
It came naturally.
Thank you once again. Very helpful :)
Love your advice.
Fantastic ideas! congrats!!!