They have always been complicated we just didn't have people on You tube explaining what was actually going on. Years ago we got our advise from women's magazine articles or our friends. Pretty much most of the things he is explaining are things I had to learn the hard way with experience over the years. This helps eliminate all the trials and tribulations it takes to figure these things out.
authenticity doesn't make it correct lol. That's what women don't understand. Just because you like a guy and want to date him doesn't mean you deserve him or even if you're ready for a relationship. The only reason things seem so systematic is women are so far away from what works that getting back there takes work. It's like if I were to correct you on doing a squat. The squat might seem easy before I come around because you think you're doing it right but in fact you're actually an accident waiting to happen. But when I come around and to correct your form, its going to seem systematic because we have to work on a lot of things but it will help you in the long run to the point where you're not even going to need my advice anymore.
Elliot Scott Dating hello, Elliot. i want to ask that how can i turn a guy who is just want sex to like me? how can i tell him my point is a real relationship? thanks!
I think the biggest problem is people have too many options with online dating now and no one wants to commit. They are always looking for the next best thing. It's sad
I did everything right, just simply met the wrong guy. He only wants sex at this stage, so when he told me he didn't want a relationship, I made myself very clear politely then walked away from him. No dramas! He still kept talking to me afterwards and trying to get me back as I demonstrated my value. So I gave him 6-8 weeks to see if anything will change... nop! I keep my words and cut him out completely last week. The process to getting rid of someone you really like can hurt as hell. However the commitment to a better self is certainly worth the pain!
So sad you can't show up and be yourself. You have to be something else to keep him??? But not your original self. I now understand why God let men die first.
I understand the guy being scared when the woman moves too quickly. However sometimes it's HIM that's moving quickly. If we go along with it - because it is what we want too, are we to blame? He was leading the race.
You know what they say? And a 45 yr old cousin of mine said it last night: if he's chasing a woman and he just wants sex from her, then he'll chase for a year or more if he has to and it will be the same result. So first night/month or years.. it makes no difference.
I use to model and according to society I should have no problems with men. But I have literally been rejected for 3 years straight. So I did some self healing and changed the guys I was going for. There was a coworker who had a huge crush on me. But he was not my type at all and I wasn't remotely attracted to him. But I could tell he was a good man. We started dating and it was great. I fell for him and then he just ghosted me. Now I know it was his own stuff but damn, it really fucked my head up. I did the work and got the same results. I am retiring from dating because I don't know what else to do. And even though I'm not suppose to say it but dating fucking sucks PERIOD!!!!
eye roll..... seriously I am exhausted from the hoops men are making women jump through these days whilst they focus their energy on learning how to manipulate to the maximum... what about men learning how to demonstrate authenticity, respect, and honesty - why should women adjust their behaviour to meet a man with his manipulation games? Seriously, women move too fast??? Men move to fast and then they can't handle the consequences of expecting a sexual relationship.
I meet a guy on fb, he reached out to me. We messaged a lot back and forth, we finally meet in person and hang out 3 times. I thought everything was going great, we kissed and he talked about having a relationship with me to out of the blue he changes his mind and stood me up 3 times and wouldn’t talk to me anymore, he’d only reach out to me every once in a while whether it was bc I reached out to him or he chose to reach out to me on his own and he would leave me on even more, and once I responded he’d ignore me again like he was just playing games. It went on for 5 months and I finally had enough and realized that I was never going to get anywhere with him bc he didn’t care. I moved on and met someone else and that’s when he tried to talk to me again telling me he wanted to see me and that he missed me, he tried 6 times over the last 5 years. I said no every time and made it very clear that I was done with him.
When I was younger relationships were so easy. I think now days people get so caught up about the labels. When I was a teenager and in college, commitment was taken much more lightly. Getting a boyfriend was so easy, meet someone nice, go on 1 or 2 dates and then bf/gf and exclusive. Doesn't mean we were in love or planning to be together for years and years, it was more an attitude of being in the moment. I like you, you like me, lets date exclusively until we don't like it anymore and break up. Serial monogamy. It's not complex. These days too much FOMO and options and people have fears of choosing 1 person cause they think it is some huge commitment or difficult to get out of or something. Why I'm always single.
Victoria V at a certain point though i agree with Elliot when he says there comes a point when he'll stop loosing interest once he knows he got you like something clicks on his brain and he begins to notice if you really add value to his life and if he really wants to build with you
I made the mistake of going way too fast with a guy and obviously freaked him out with that - he said he wanted to slow it down and be "normal"(!) so I gave him space but he hasn't come back, so I guess that's it, game over 😣!! Take your time ladies and listen to Elliott x
you guys are already in a relationship just keep doing what you doing..... what are you worrying about.... there is no keyword ...or...line......to get access into relationship........
Feeling absolutely devestated & heart broken , this guy involved me ina romantic relationship for 2 years but yesturday he told me lets stay friends , he absolutely used me & Im so angry of myself to let him do this to me just BC I was 100% in love with him , he is the first boy that I ever fell in love with
Are you fucking crazy!? It's usually men that have to change for their ways for women they like compared to women changing their ways to men. You ever heard the saying men get in relationships hoping the woman doesn't change but women get in relationships hoping the man will? Either you deluded yourself with your own cognitive dissonance or you are lying to yourself.
If hes not the one its just not gonna work out with the rest. Those so called high value celebrities get dumped all the time. Dont u think they were hot, high value etc. Sometimes there is nothing wrong with u. Those guys were just not your fit!
Men always think I have someone else when I don’t... my “other man” is my busy life. I have me and I’m simply not afraid to be alone. It took me awhile to get to that point, but I hate modern dating... I hate juggling multiple guys and I hate feeling pressured to get physical too quickly.... men always benefit more from the relationship than I do... thus I’m alone. In other words I’m “screwed”....
Lucy This is exactly how I feel in every sense of the word!! And also why I haven’t dated in so long, I absolutely felt this on another level. It sucks but at the same time, some people just can’t understand that there are girls who are just really wanting something serious whether it be a friendship or relationship. I won’t pressure them into anything either, if all they want is friendship then okay but honestly all these games are stupid and just too much for me.
"You're not enough" is a terrible thing to say, harsh on the already broken person looking at this, maybe saying look into yourself and see what's going wrong.
You're so cool . I think you have a different perspective than others, a really interesting one. I've seen many of your videos they're really interesting and they give me "power". Thank you ! ☺
This is really good Elliot, finally someone who is straight out. I know that I need to change because the same things happen every time no matter what kind of guy I go for. when I tell people this they say the guys are jerks blah blah blah. I do all these things you mentioned wrong and I want to make positive changes in my self. Thanks for your videos 👍
Elliot I’ve seen your videos many times and you have been a good therapy in my life, learning from a man perspective, how I was doing this thing with men over and over again and the last person I dated treated me like such trash and that’s because I let that happened and didn’t value my self like if is not sex they won’t like me 😔 but I learned the hard way and I am trying to heal and time is the best friend in life
I agree with Elliot with number 1. I'm in no way a religious person but I do believe god puts certain people in our life for a reason. I keep meeting the wrong guys that just want sex and not commitment. I also blame a lot of my failures with this on my lack of confidence. I never felt good in my skin and I always been painfully shy. I just can't come outta my shell around a guy. That's why I rather focus on bettering myself before anyone comes back in. Sometimes their really is a lot of crappy guys out there. But if you keep getting rejected by good guys over and over, it could be the woman's fault. But if their crappy guys, nothing you do will be good enough to him. This is regarding number 2.
Life tobelived I dont have any desire to start a dating site or a social group. Im very content being single. Yes. I wish I knew what it felt like to be pursued and wanted and desired, but Im not that desperate to go out and force something to happen. I always been the type where i like to meet someone unexpectedly. Im 24 and never had a boyfriend. In highschool i would always crush on the guys that were only after one thing. Ever since graduation it hasn't changed. Last guy i was seeing was 3 years younger than me. Hes 22 now. I knew he was no good, but I got so scared of being alone and unwanted by anyone ever again that I stayed. It was a huge mistake that I will never make again. It brought nothing but pain and heartache and I cant risk loosing a piece of myself anymore to jerks.
Hypnotic Synopsis im not saying anyone is desperate. I just know going out and looking for someone makes me feel like im forcing something to happen instead of letting things happen naturally. Everyone always saids love happens when you lease expect it. If going out and looking for a relationship is what works for you, more power to you. But I dont do that. Theirs a difference between being open and forcing something. Even Elliot mentions it.
War & Remembrance You don't get what Elliot is saying. He is saying not to force a relationship with someone who is incompatible or just doesn't want you. If no one makes the first move, then nothing will happen. There is no letting things happen naturally. That is called sitting on your ass.
Elliot, you truly are, My Favorite Dating Coach! The info in this video is outstanding and at the 11:00 mark you are profound! 11:00-12:00 excellent! You helped me get out of the clenches of a guy I’m now 98% sure he follows “The Game”, and other pickup artist forums! Perhaps he’s just a low ego dude but you’ve taught me about those also! I had no idea about the pickup culture until I found myself extremely confused and found your videos to help me out of it and you did just that and more! I now know how to protect my heart without becoming angry and bitter! I now know what to look for upfront! Best advice you give in a nutshell, “Listen to his actions, not his words!” Just watch out of those players and pickup artists AKA: low ego dudes, like you taught me to, and the rest becomes much more normal and what one would expect in the dating world! Thank you so much, Elliot, for putting yourself out there and telling us what you know and what you learned and most of all, thank you for coming out of that pickup artist world and becoming a strong ego man! Otherwise, we’d all still be standing on the train tracks wondering what hit us!
Manipulators like to say you're being demanding and forcing a relationship when you draw boundaries and become scarce to gaslight you and persuade you to sit and take their bullshit. They want to waste your time and think you're dumb enough to wait on them and it boosts their ego. Either way I'm realizing the importance of cutting off and voicing what you want.
feminine energy = how an ideal woman behaves in a guy's mind. 1- Don't talk too much 2- Don't talk too loud 3- Don't create drama 4- Don't be too confrontational 5- Don't be too violent 6- Don't be super jealous over everything 7- Don't spread your legs too easily 8- Don't be too lazy 9- Respect yourself and others 10- Have confidence in yourself Pretty much basic human decency. Rule #1 - Ladies, most men know women are emotional creatures. Men expect women to be chatty, jealous, confrontational sometimes. Men think it is cute. But remember too much of anything is bad. Rule #2 - Most men don't care exactly how a woman looks as long as she is not too ugly or overweight. Men know every woman is unique. Ladies, you don't have to change your personality to get a guy. If you and a guy shares the same frequency, you will connect. get it?
Sexist stereotypical crap. Not basic human decency. That women are stupid and helpless. Men think it is cute? No, they don't. Number two is wrong. What do you mean by frequency? We are not radios. She didn't cause the drama, HE DID! DON'T LIE AND CHEAT! So we have to just submit to you? NO, WE NEED TO RESPECT OURSELVES AND YOU NEED TO RESPECT US AS WELL!
pastimeee sha I say don't be available to him, make plans to do something, even if it's with yourself reading a book or watching Netflix. And if he comes around, be strict with staying committed to yourself. tell him you've become really busy lately and can't get together unless he makes plans. but do really try to get out where people are, even walking in a park or volunteering. But do try to meet other guys somehow, and not just one. and keep those casual, for yourself. and enjoy them for whatever they're worth.
Yeah, totally agree. We are taught that opposites attract but as a marketer and entrepreneur I've studied enough psychology to know that like actually attracts like. So, you attract what you are a lot of the time. In hindsight, I met the wrong guys in the past because I was not in the right place financially, mentally or physically. Being single (with nobody on the radar at all) can be great though - so much time for personal development and deep introspection. When you come out of a phase of personal dev, you don't see people in the same way. You become observational and can stand in your power. Positive vibes to all 💖😎
Thank you, your video are interesting and entertaining. It is great to have an idea on how men dates women. What a big difference oh how men and woman approach dating.
Elliot I really enjoyed this video so much you Opened my eyes !!!!!! Wow your so smart and Awesome. I can't believe I didn't see all this. Thank you so much Wow 😳
#7 is so true. When I wore my regular clothes to work I was more feminine. In my uniform, I'm tom boyish. Guys that didn't look my way, drooled over me in my regular clothes. The attention was to much for me to handle, I've seen where one guy told another one to stay away from me. Wow, and I thought I wasn't attractive.
I really like your videos, never related women scarcity with elevating men status. Very very interesting, Im really surprised, this is a huge factor that make man feel good.
Regarding #2: using whether or not a man commits as a perfect gauge of a woman's value is absurd. As a dating coach you should know that there are a limitless number of reasons a relationship doesn't work and many of them have absolutely nothing to do with the woman's (or the man's) worth. If a person gives you constructive feedback about your behavior and you're open to listening to it and identifying whether or not it's a behavior you need to work on, that's one thing. But measuring your worth based solely on the fact that a man hasn't committed to you? You're literally encouraging women to find their worth in a man and to become codependent if that's the advice you're giving.
Number 5, however - "going scarce" - also can be interpreted by many women as sleeping around which is probably why many of them don't have several guys on the go all at once. If you do, you're both a high value woman and also a slapper, which obviously is a contradiction.
the key is to let him go the FIRST sign he shows disrespect. you can let it happen the second time but you will hate yourself and he will not change. before you know it, you spent 20 years with him. i wasted almost 2 years, feel better that i know better now.
You are basing the relationships speed on a guys perspective, not a neutral one (if there even is one). Women move fast compared to men OR it could be that men move way too slow compared to women. Women aren't born to benefit a man's needs, we also have our own expectations of a relationship that need to be met. If he isn't ready to commit, depending on what the woman decides, she can wait for him awhile or look for someone else who is ready for an actual serious relationship.
I agree with a lot of the points you made but maybe not the delivery 😂 I think the main advice would probably be: Have a life worth being included in, and a good match will follow. If your life is centered around doing things you like, with people you like, you’re too busy to worry about getting a text back from one person. And that’s attractive af :)
I've heard this before, that men don't want to lose their freedom, but I don't want to lose my freedom! (And I'm a woman btw and I'm 38) It freaks me out.
But what about interracial dating ? I am interested in dating men of different races, cultures and creeds ? But most of them are hesitant to get involved with a black woman. I have morals and values.
I find number 5 interesting because I notice the first thing a guy asks me is if am talking to other guys. At first I didn't get why they ask that on a first date- (dude too early for that question ) anyways- now I get it thanks to you Eliiot. It's because they want to know if they have competition pretty much. Wish I found your video earlier- because I usually say No even if I am talking to other guys. Well at least I know now ;)
I’m done with men no man deserves my attention anymore unless they are willing to work for it untill that day happens I can be contacted in the local nunnery AMEN!!!! 😆😆😆😆🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
I became a lesbian after being rejected by men who are not interested in dating me I was a virgin til 33 and then I met a woman Men are all the same all the same!
when did relationships get so complicated these days....
They have always been complicated we just didn't have people on You tube explaining what was actually going on. Years ago we got our advise from women's magazine articles or our friends. Pretty much most of the things he is explaining are things I had to learn the hard way with experience over the years. This helps eliminate all the trials and tribulations it takes to figure these things out.
authenticity doesn't make it correct lol. That's what women don't understand. Just because you like a guy and want to date him doesn't mean you deserve him or even if you're ready for a relationship. The only reason things seem so systematic is women are so far away from what works that getting back there takes work. It's like if I were to correct you on doing a squat. The squat might seem easy before I come around because you think you're doing it right but in fact you're actually an accident waiting to happen. But when I come around and to correct your form, its going to seem systematic because we have to work on a lot of things but it will help you in the long run to the point where you're not even going to need my advice anymore.
Elliot Scott Dating hello, Elliot. i want to ask that how can i turn a guy who is just want sex to like me? how can i tell him my point is a real relationship? thanks!
njna doan maybe check out Elliot's casual to committed guide.
njna doan i think we have the same situation here, but for me the best way is to simply walk away. Let go of that fucking guy.
I think the biggest problem is people have too many options with online dating now and no one wants to commit. They are always looking for the next best thing. It's sad
Agreed!!
Yep!
So freaking true.
True, sad truth for women😢
I did everything right, just simply met the wrong guy. He only wants sex at this stage, so when he told me he didn't want a relationship, I made myself very clear politely then walked away from him. No dramas!
He still kept talking to me afterwards and trying to get me back as I demonstrated my value. So I gave him 6-8 weeks to see if anything will change... nop!
I keep my words and cut him out completely last week.
The process to getting rid of someone you really like can hurt as hell.
However the commitment to a better self is certainly worth the pain!
Ni Ninz happened to me exactly the same! I'm just thinking abt cutting him off:) will do it soon!
Indeed! Kudos to your strength and walking away ♥️
Girl, same. 😩
I sure you did shit wrong
@@Sweetpea2977 what strength
Even math is easier than this
😂🤣😂
@Ira G 😂😂😂
Ikr
😂😂😂 This is the funniest comment I've read today
Олга Станојевић TRUEE
Came here to feel better about rejection.. “YOURE JUST NOT GOOD ENOUGH.” Lol ok thanks for the pep talk fam
🤣 this made me laugh. But for real this gives the message x
So sad you can't show up and be yourself. You have to be something else to keep him??? But not your original self. I now understand why God let men die first.
That is hilarious
Hahahahaha
😂😂😂
Sad but true.
Who tf said that
It seem like I can't do anything right..
Im actually better than him. Better looking, with a career, money, friends, talent, a car. Its fantastic he left, now i have my standarts high.
Those arent things that attract and keep a man. Women think they are.
I understand the guy being scared when the woman moves too quickly. However sometimes it's HIM that's moving quickly. If we go along with it - because it is what we want too, are we to blame? He was leading the race.
Guys play games. They do it to see where you're at, and how into it you are, then pull away. Its a test. I know though it's absolutely ridiculous.
You know what they say? And a 45 yr old cousin of mine said it last night: if he's chasing a woman and he just wants sex from her, then he'll chase for a year or more if he has to and it will be the same result. So first night/month or years.. it makes no difference.
Women are butthurt 'cause rejected? 😂😂😂😂 see me cry!!!
Exactly this!!! Do we go around not believing a word and being suspicious of the world???
Yes, we’re always to blame, they move us fast then see us low value fir going along lol it’s fucking ridiculous
I use to model and according to society I should have no problems with men. But I have literally been rejected for 3 years straight. So I did some self healing and changed the guys I was going for. There was a coworker who had a huge crush on me. But he was not my type at all and I wasn't remotely attracted to him. But I could tell he was a good man. We started dating and it was great. I fell for him and then he just ghosted me. Now I know it was his own stuff but damn, it really fucked my head up. I did the work and got the same results. I am retiring from dating because I don't know what else to do. And even though I'm not suppose to say it but dating fucking sucks PERIOD!!!!
Sounds like you hit the wall
That sucks! I hope you are back on to dating. I think we just have to take our time and be careful.
@@5O4evr Sounds like you're a douchebag.
Yeah that's why he ran off like a coward 🤡 I bet she was on another stratosphere compared to him. Weak and no back bone.. no wall involved.
If only we watched these before we've done damage.
"You probably fine AF" 😂😅
Clothesthat Convenientlyfit i was roliing 😂
eye roll..... seriously I am exhausted from the hoops men are making women jump through these days whilst they focus their energy on learning how to manipulate to the maximum... what about men learning how to demonstrate authenticity, respect, and honesty - why should women adjust their behaviour to meet a man with his manipulation games?
Seriously, women move too fast??? Men move to fast and then they can't handle the consequences of expecting a sexual relationship.
Most men are MGTOW now anyway. 😕
The real man don't want nothing to do with today's woman.
@@thehatefull1761 That's because they're not men, much less "real".
Nothing real about running away and shirking responsibilities. I'm sorry but keep the blame game up. Divide and conquer 101..
I meet a guy on fb, he reached out to me. We messaged a lot back and forth, we finally meet in person and hang out 3 times. I thought everything was going great, we kissed and he talked about having a relationship with me to out of the blue he changes his mind and stood me up 3 times and wouldn’t talk to me anymore, he’d only reach out to me every once in a while whether it was bc I reached out to him or he chose to reach out to me on his own and he would leave me on even more, and once I responded he’d ignore me again like he was just playing games.
It went on for 5 months and I finally had enough and realized that I was never going to get anywhere with him bc he didn’t care.
I moved on and met someone else and that’s when he tried to talk to me again telling me he wanted to see me and that he missed me, he tried 6 times over the last 5 years. I said no every time and made it very clear that I was done with him.
Good for you girl 👌
@@justfit71 thank you! 💚
When I was younger relationships were so easy. I think now days people get so caught up about the labels. When I was a teenager and in college, commitment was taken much more lightly. Getting a boyfriend was so easy, meet someone nice, go on 1 or 2 dates and then bf/gf and exclusive. Doesn't mean we were in love or planning to be together for years and years, it was more an attitude of being in the moment. I like you, you like me, lets date exclusively until we don't like it anymore and break up. Serial monogamy. It's not complex. These days too much FOMO and options and people have fears of choosing 1 person cause they think it is some huge commitment or difficult to get out of or something. Why I'm always single.
I believe if you are the dream girl to one guy, your "red" flags won't make him to reject you.
Victoria V at a certain point though i agree with Elliot when he says there comes a point when he'll stop loosing interest once he knows he got you like something clicks on his brain and he begins to notice if you really add value to his life and if he really wants to build with you
@@0910AhlyiahTorres If a woman looks like a model - no man would reject her ever.
I made the mistake of going way too fast with a guy and obviously freaked him out with that - he said he wanted to slow it down and be "normal"(!) so I gave him space but he hasn't come back, so I guess that's it, game over 😣!! Take your time ladies and listen to Elliott x
How long had you been seeing each other?
Mira Uyghur 4 months ☺
I think I am in a similar situation. Mine is 2 months, which is worse lol...
you guys are already in a relationship just
keep doing what you doing.....
what are you worrying about....
there is no
keyword ...or...line......to get access into relationship........
Every time I'm rejected I always think I'm just not good enough😞
You are good enough. he's just not smart enough
Thank u maybe ur right
DONT LISTEN THIS ASSHOLE, HE WANTS WOMEN TO BE EASY TO GIVE SEX TO MEN
Feeling absolutely devestated & heart broken , this guy involved me ina romantic relationship for 2 years but yesturday he told me lets stay friends , he absolutely used me & Im so angry of myself to let him do this to me just BC I was 100% in love with him , he is the first boy that I ever fell in love with
"You're just not good enough" ouch.. what about ladies like Jennifer Aniston etc
Why don't men have to change? Why is it always the women?
Who said men don't have to? You're just hearing me talk about women because that is my audience.
This is a video for women which are who are watching this video he has plenty of videos about men and even so he didn't in anyway tell us to change
Sis
Are you fucking crazy!? It's usually men that have to change for their ways for women they like compared to women changing their ways to men. You ever heard the saying men get in relationships hoping the woman doesn't change but women get in relationships hoping the man will?
Either you deluded yourself with your own cognitive dissonance or you are lying to yourself.
Exactly
I'm a female and I fear things going too fast...
If hes not the one its just not gonna work out with the rest. Those so called high value celebrities get dumped all the time. Dont u think they were hot, high value etc. Sometimes there is nothing wrong with u. Those guys were just not your fit!
My OCD is dying to trim your mustache
Men always think I have someone else when I don’t... my “other man” is my busy life. I have me and I’m simply not afraid to be alone. It took me awhile to get to that point, but I hate modern dating... I hate juggling multiple guys and I hate feeling pressured to get physical too quickly.... men always benefit more from the relationship than I do... thus I’m alone. In other words I’m “screwed”....
Lucy This is exactly how I feel in every sense of the word!! And also why I haven’t dated in so long, I absolutely felt this on another level. It sucks but at the same time, some people just can’t understand that there are girls who are just really wanting something serious whether it be a friendship or relationship. I won’t pressure them into anything either, if all they want is friendship then okay but honestly all these games are stupid and just too much for me.
Same!
"You're not enough" is a terrible thing to say, harsh on the already broken person looking at this, maybe saying look into yourself and see what's going wrong.
Thank you for this incredibly valuable video! I'm glad you plugged your books so I know which ones to start with. Love you too 🤗
I am a 43 year old single lady that totally enjoys online dating. Your game has universal application and I truly thank u for it!
You're so cool . I think you have a different perspective than others, a really interesting one. I've seen many of your videos they're really interesting and they give me "power". Thank you ! ☺
Great video I like your firmness!!!
So true again!
This is really good Elliot, finally someone who is straight out. I know that I need to change because the same things happen every time no matter what kind of guy I go for. when I tell people this they say the guys are jerks blah blah blah. I do all these things you mentioned wrong and I want to make positive changes in my self. Thanks for your videos 👍
Really well worded!! Thank you!
Elliot I’ve seen your videos many times and you have been a good therapy in my life, learning from a man perspective, how I was doing this thing with men over and over again and the last person I dated treated me like such trash and that’s because I let that happened and didn’t value my self like if is not sex they won’t like me 😔 but I learned the hard way and I am trying to heal and time is the best friend in life
I agree with Elliot with number 1. I'm in no way a religious person but I do believe god puts certain people in our life for a reason. I keep meeting the wrong guys that just want sex and not commitment. I also blame a lot of my failures with this on my lack of confidence. I never felt good in my skin and I always been painfully shy. I just can't come outta my shell around a guy. That's why I rather focus on bettering myself before anyone comes back in. Sometimes their really is a lot of crappy guys out there. But if you keep getting rejected by good guys over and over, it could be the woman's fault. But if their crappy guys, nothing you do will be good enough to him. This is regarding number 2.
Life tobelived I dont have any desire to start a dating site or a social group. Im very content being single. Yes. I wish I knew what it felt like to be pursued and wanted and desired, but Im not that desperate to go out and force something to happen. I always been the type where i like to meet someone unexpectedly. Im 24 and never had a boyfriend. In highschool i would always crush on the guys that were only after one thing. Ever since graduation it hasn't changed. Last guy i was seeing was 3 years younger than me. Hes 22 now. I knew he was no good, but I got so scared of being alone and unwanted by anyone ever again that I stayed. It was a huge mistake that I will never make again. It brought nothing but pain and heartache and I cant risk loosing a piece of myself anymore to jerks.
War & Remembrance How are people desperate if they go out of their way to start a relationship?
Hypnotic Synopsis im not saying anyone is desperate. I just know going out and looking for someone makes me feel like im forcing something to happen instead of letting things happen naturally. Everyone always saids love happens when you lease expect it. If going out and looking for a relationship is what works for you, more power to you. But I dont do that. Theirs a difference between being open and forcing something. Even Elliot mentions it.
War & Remembrance You don't get what Elliot is saying. He is saying not to force a relationship with someone who is incompatible or just doesn't want you.
If no one makes the first move, then nothing will happen. There is no letting things happen naturally. That is called sitting on your ass.
War & Remembrance. I keep getting the same but i think its because im pushy and i rush to fast.
Thank you Ellot this is so helpful
This was really insightful! Thanks Elliot!! 😄
Elliot, you truly are, My Favorite Dating Coach! The info in this video is outstanding and at the 11:00 mark you are profound! 11:00-12:00 excellent! You helped me get out of the clenches of a guy I’m now 98% sure he follows “The Game”, and other pickup artist forums! Perhaps he’s just a low ego dude but you’ve taught me about those also! I had no idea about the pickup culture until I found myself extremely confused and found your videos to help me out of it and you did just that and more! I now know how to protect my heart without becoming angry and bitter! I now know what to look for upfront! Best advice you give in a nutshell, “Listen to his actions, not his words!” Just watch out of those players and pickup artists AKA: low ego dudes, like you taught me to, and the rest becomes much more normal and what one would expect in the dating world! Thank you so much, Elliot, for putting yourself out there and telling us what you know and what you learned and most of all, thank you for coming out of that pickup artist world and becoming a strong ego man! Otherwise, we’d all still be standing on the train tracks wondering what hit us!
Hi Elliot...Love your videos. Even at my age I'm still learning and you give good advice!! :)
Thank u..very good advice..i really like your boldness..
Very good advices ...Your helping alot of women!👍🏽
Thank you Elliot ❤️😊 you're the best!!
Manipulators like to say you're being demanding and forcing a relationship when you draw boundaries and become scarce to gaslight you and persuade you to sit and take their bullshit. They want to waste your time and think you're dumb enough to wait on them and it boosts their ego. Either way I'm realizing the importance of cutting off and voicing what you want.
Everytime I get notified one of your videos is up I know I'm going to have the best day ! ♡♡♡c
Love this guy!Awesome energy Elliot!
Your videos make me feel so much better!!
thanks so much Eliot. i swear your videos do help me alot.
wow your hair ! loved the new look !
Wish I had seen your videos at the beginning of this relationship.
Plz Elliot we want a video about the feminine energy 🤓
feminine energy = how an ideal woman behaves in a guy's mind.
1- Don't talk too much
2- Don't talk too loud
3- Don't create drama
4- Don't be too confrontational
5- Don't be too violent
6- Don't be super jealous over everything
7- Don't spread your legs too easily
8- Don't be too lazy
9- Respect yourself and others
10- Have confidence in yourself
Pretty much basic human decency.
Rule #1 - Ladies, most men know women are emotional creatures. Men expect women to be chatty, jealous, confrontational sometimes. Men think it is cute. But remember too much of anything is bad.
Rule #2 - Most men don't care exactly how a woman looks as long as she is not too ugly or overweight. Men know every woman is unique. Ladies, you don't have to change your personality to get a guy. If you and a guy shares the same frequency, you will connect. get it?
Sexist stereotypical crap. Not basic human decency. That women are stupid and helpless. Men think it is cute? No, they don't. Number two is wrong. What do you mean by frequency? We are not radios. She didn't cause the drama, HE DID! DON'T LIE AND CHEAT! So we have to just submit to you? NO, WE NEED TO RESPECT OURSELVES AND YOU NEED TO RESPECT US AS WELL!
i am going through this right now with the guy im seeing. He comes back and goes away. it repeats.
drop him
pastimeee sha I say don't be available to him, make plans to do something, even if it's with yourself reading a book or watching Netflix. And if he comes around, be strict with staying committed to yourself. tell him you've become really busy lately and can't get together unless he makes plans. but do really try to get out where people are, even walking in a park or volunteering. But do try to meet other guys somehow, and not just one. and keep those casual, for yourself. and enjoy them for whatever they're worth.
Yeah, totally agree. We are taught that opposites attract but as a marketer and entrepreneur I've studied enough psychology to know that like actually attracts like. So, you attract what you are a lot of the time.
In hindsight, I met the wrong guys in the past because I was not in the right place financially, mentally or physically.
Being single (with nobody on the radar at all) can be great though - so much time for personal development and deep introspection. When you come out of a phase of personal dev, you don't see people in the same way. You become observational and can stand in your power. Positive vibes to all 💖😎
Thank you, your video are interesting and entertaining. It is great to have an idea on how men dates women. What a big difference oh how men and woman approach dating.
Love the honesty 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼 that's what we women need 👾
Thanks! Elliot 👏🏼
Elliot I really enjoyed this video so much you Opened my eyes !!!!!! Wow your so smart and Awesome. I can't believe I didn't see all this. Thank you so much Wow 😳
great video thanks!
Brutally honest but I like it!
#7 is so true. When I wore my regular clothes to work I was more feminine. In my uniform, I'm tom boyish. Guys that didn't look my way, drooled over me in my regular clothes. The attention was to much for me to handle, I've seen where one guy told another one to stay away from me. Wow, and I thought I wasn't attractive.
Feels like I'll end up staying single forever:/
I really like your videos, never related women scarcity with elevating men status. Very very interesting, Im really surprised, this is a huge factor that make man feel good.
Love you already!! You make sense!
you look smooth😍 i love your personality doe
Regarding #2: using whether or not a man commits as a perfect gauge of a woman's value is absurd. As a dating coach you should know that there are a limitless number of reasons a relationship doesn't work and many of them have absolutely nothing to do with the woman's (or the man's) worth. If a person gives you constructive feedback about your behavior and you're open to listening to it and identifying whether or not it's a behavior you need to work on, that's one thing. But measuring your worth based solely on the fact that a man hasn't committed to you? You're literally encouraging women to find their worth in a man and to become codependent if that's the advice you're giving.
good advice!
This is one of your best videos!!! Thank you for your time, Elliot!! By the way, I have a cat named Elliot. He is charming and smart too! lol
Number 5, however - "going scarce" - also can be interpreted by many women as sleeping around which is probably why many of them don't have several guys on the go all at once. If you do, you're both a high value woman and also a slapper, which obviously is a contradiction.
Thanks this really helps xo
love you elliot, straight shooter. thanks for all you do
You're so good!
I love you and your videos!!!!!
Hahah you are such a joy to watch!
the key is to let him go the FIRST sign he shows disrespect. you can let it happen the second time but you will hate yourself and he will not change. before you know it, you spent 20 years with him. i wasted almost 2 years, feel better that i know better now.
"They just don't like you in that way."...
Can you make a part 2 of that video?
I just got rejected...Oh well I have better...I have BTS 😏
Trueee
Omg same gurl 🤙🏻
Lol makes me feel better already- I was moping last few days but gonna watch some BTS vids now
looking good E.
This may be bold but Elliot I 💕the new hair and it's now a distraction. Thanks for that lol.
You are basing the relationships speed on a guys perspective, not a neutral one (if there even is one). Women move fast compared to men OR it could be that men move way too slow compared to women. Women aren't born to benefit a man's needs, we also have our own expectations of a relationship that need to be met. If he isn't ready to commit, depending on what the woman decides, she can wait for him awhile or look for someone else who is ready for an actual serious relationship.
Love the cut
I agree with a lot of the points you made but maybe not the delivery 😂 I think the main advice would probably be: Have a life worth being included in, and a good match will follow. If your life is centered around doing things you like, with people you like, you’re too busy to worry about getting a text back from one person. And that’s attractive af :)
Arrrgh so much inner work to do 😭
I love how you always inject a disclaimer "not that there's anything wrong with so and so...."
I've heard this before, that men don't want to lose their freedom, but I don't want to lose my freedom! (And I'm a woman btw and I'm 38) It freaks me out.
Men just don't want to loose their wallets. 😕
Sometimes the best thing that can happen is to give yourself a break for 6 months and work on yourself;) love yourself🦄❤️
15:55 Did you just meowed? :))) My cat seems to understand it!
But what about interracial dating ? I am interested in dating men of different races, cultures and creeds ? But most of them are hesitant to get involved with a black woman. I have morals and values.
I find number 5 interesting because I notice the first thing a guy asks me is if am talking to other guys. At first I didn't get why they ask that on a first date- (dude too early for that question ) anyways- now I get it thanks to you Eliiot. It's because they want to know if they have competition pretty much. Wish I found your video earlier- because I usually say No even if I am talking to other guys. Well at least I know now ;)
on point
So true..
A real man won't play games , look at his actions and if they match with his words, if he hides to be on the phone....hey! Bye boy!;)
but I'm the one who doesn't want to lose my freedom...
Do you have any videos on long distance relationships? Also, these pointers are valid, but do they change a bit if it is a long distance situation?
well, at least you love me, Elliot! hahahhaha! thanks for the videos!
I’m done with men no man deserves my attention anymore unless they are willing to work for it untill that day happens I can be contacted in the local nunnery AMEN!!!! 😆😆😆😆🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
I need to change. I know this. I pretty much did everything wrong.
Hi Elliot! Great hair cut!
soo nice :)
Can you give advice for women going through divorce and are divorced? How do we let the guy know in the right way?
I became a lesbian after being rejected by men who are not interested in dating me I was a virgin til 33 and then I met a woman Men are all the same all the same!