Literally, its a genius idea. The kids get FED n parents still get to have a nice quiet dinner to catch up with eachother at the end of the day. Its a perfect win/win for everyone. I dont see how people can be mad at it
And the children never learn table manners or how to communicate with the family. Or that their needs and wants come before the parents? They don't learn to sit quietly at the table?
You don't have to answer questions like that. We had an 8 pm bed time for years.. and we slept! We were so tired from playing all day. This sounds wonderful!
So you are a bad parent as well? Same mind set that has ruined this generation....I bet you cook chicken nuggets every night.....no greens no vegetables
That person wasn’t even being rude lol they were just making a joke like “haha let’s hide all the good food for ourselves and not tell the kids” like every single adult does. Everyone does that little bit once in their lives when they’re with children, telling them that your food is spicy or whatever just so they won’t eat it. Lol it’s a common thing
She probably did. People call CPS for things like this. Which is ridiculous, but true. And CPS does make a case until they investigate and determine if there are grounds of abuse. So as simple as a claim can make for a huge issue for people who have kids especially these days with people including or talking about their kids on the internet.
YES !!!! My son is 12, we eat our meals together now and guess where we eat pretty much all of those meals? Sitting in my kind size bed with our food trays, it's awesome. I have a really bad back, sitting at the table is painful for me, my husband works shift work so we only eat with him on the weekends, every family does what works for them. I believe it is VERY common for Mom & Dad (or just Mom) feed the younger kids before the adults eat their meal...this is extremely common in families who are quite wealthy and have nannies etc...kids are just fine. Personally this isnt the greatest time to "talk" I just want to relax and enjoy my meal in peace, my son and I have plenty of different times during the day to talk etc...well...I homeschool him so he and I are together 24/7/365 ...I'm pretty sure he's not thinking he doesn't see enough of me 😅
I think it's such a good idea to feed them, put them to sleep and then eat supper with your husband! Gives y'all some alone time, and peace and quiet 🙂 I also think it's great that He's putting them to bed while you cook. Perfect example of team work. That's how it should be!
Yes a lot of working dads except the moms too do everything by herself and they don’t have to participate cus he be working it’s great to know that now and days they do pitch in as a team to the mom to help her with the kids
I disagree, its ok to accommodate picky children, but removing all difficult scenarios from a childs life is detrimental to development. When we were hunter gathering. We ate what we had to, so we survived. So they should always east at least one thing you are eating. So they understand where boundries are. Even if they are 3 years old.
@@ljeans531 nah that’s gonna develop into unhealthy and possibly bad eating habits. Giving kids healthy alternatives to foods they dislike is going to be more of a positive than forcing them to endure something they can and will find a way around later. I was a picky picky eater as a child and how I’m pursuing culinary in my part time.
@@zackatron925 Setting reasonable boundaries and expectations is not unhealthy. You can do soft parenting while also instilling challenges and perseverance in your children
Its not always about the ingredients as well. I was hypersensitive to textures as a child, and just wouldn't eat most cooked vegetables. After many battles, including being served the same meal (uneaten and reheated) for 4 meals in a row, we reached a compromise. I got all my veggies raw and I actually ate them.
Sounds like the best of both worlds to me. The best thing you can give your kids in my opinion ( yes I know everyone has one 😊) is your time and a good relationship between their parents. Sounds like your doing great!
I was a nanny for many many years. Not only are you doing a great job but your scheduling of dinners makes sense. The people saying otherwise need to hush and take notes from you.
We do that too! I will make my daughter a dinner, and while my wife is putting her down I'll make us a separate dinner. It works so well for nights when we need some down time!
damn you sound like an amazing husband. you actually help out and cook. ik it’s just being a decent human being, but most men don’t just because of how they were raised thinking that only women do work. so props to you.
Oh my gosh. People. Shut up. She is a good parent. The fact that this poor woman had tell everyone what was up with her kids and their eating and night time routine is just nuts. They are little. Do any of you have little kids?? Good night! That dinner looked great. Its good that you two get to eat together, reconnect after a long day and enjoy an adult conversation. Calm way down people!
7:30 and 8 pm are perfect bedtimes for that age. We used 7:30 all the way through 6-7 years old. But it was harder to convince them it was bedtime during those times of the year when the sun hasn’t set yet!
agree with you they are perfect bedtimes for their age. i can't belive some parents will put their little toddlers to bed after 9. but honestly it comes down to whatever works for the family.
I don’t agree and I think kids should at least have the full extend of being tired when they are sleeping so I’d say 9 for 6-12 and then 9:30 for 13-14 then 10 thru 15-17
I hated going to sleep so early as a kid, but it's totally a normal bedtime. It felt crazy to be in bed and hear other children my age still playing outside in the daylight.
@@nobodynew1621 They definitely get up super early, so they get tired by 7:30. If it's a routine they do every day, it definatly works for them. They won't be able to go to sleep or they will get up at night, if she is doing what you are saying.
I don't think people saying something should be considered a hater just because they had an opinion. I could say you're a hater as well due to having an opinion but it doesn't mean you're actually a hater. The word hater is way over used and miss used.
I am concern with her giving into her kids picky eating habits. If they don't eat what is reasonable then they don't eat. It can led to real issues as they grow up.
@@faervas1234 I was a picky eater growing up. My mom was the "sit at the table until you finish" kinda mom at first but I'd just sit there for hours until bedtime. So she just let me go to bed hungry. It didn't change anything. It didn't make me magically like the food, it didn't take away my hate for the texture or the smell. All it did was instill horrible eating habits I'm still combating now, because my mom wouldn't take the time to work with me. Her children are young. Everyone's picky about SOMETHING when they're young. Working with them and making sure they're fed is way more important and has been proven to be way more helpful in the long run. I know plenty of picky eaters who grew up to have the most expansive pallets--I'm one of them! And just cause they're picky doesn't mean they're eating unhealthy food. They just probably don't certain vegetables, or certain textures and smells. They'll grow out of it. And if they don't, they'll at least know what they like and what they're willing to try and have a good relationship with food in spite of it.
You don’t have to answer or apologize to anyone for the way you take care of your children. What you are doing is a great example of good parenting. I wish that more people would be like you and your husband.
Yes I completely agree they say the number one thing that breaks marriages is kids they say this because the family loves there kids more than the parents loves each other and that causes fight and eventually divorce that’s why it’s so good to have one on one time with each other and have date nights
Yes! I live with my older sister and I’m essentially the nanny off her kids and the house. This is what I do. Feed the kids, bathe them and put them to bed. Then I clean house and make myself and her food for when she comes home from work at like 11-12 at night.
Great mother. You’re putting your kids first and based on what you make yourself I can bet they’re eating very healthy as well. Kids have routines and you’re keeping it consistent. Keep it up!
I think this is so cool that you do this!! I grew up eating whatever my mom made and some of it was really hard for me as a kid, so I really appreciate that you do this for your kids and I think it’s so cool you use this time to connect with your husband! The food looks incredible!!!
I am 54 years old, and ever since I had my first child at 19 and my three grandchildren now, I always make everyone what they want to eat. For the same reason you say. So they will eat and not go to bed hungry. You do you!
Thank you 🙏🏻 I see so many people from older generations saying that the child should eat what was cooked. Children are allowed to have likes and dislikes just like us adults. Especially the children with disabilities and food aversions, those kids will seriously go hungry before they eat an unsafe food.
I did the same thing. It didn’t hurt anyone. Everyone enjoyed dinner time. Even as adults I still prepare their favorites when they visit for the holidays. It’s an expression of love.❤️
I'm a picky eater, my parents just didn't have the time for a picky child and I honestly get it. But I lived with another lady (boarding school) for 2 years in high school and she made me a separate dinner every single night if she knew I was probably not gonna be able to eat what everyone else is eating.
I went to bed hungry most days growing up because of how picky I was. fast forward to 21 yrs old, turns out it was autism all along. my parents still stand by the principle of “you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit”. it’s thinly veiled neglect. i don’t speak to them anymore.
Love your vids and the love you hold for your children. That being said as a parent of much older children, their friends that were pampered / catered to like this in their childhood are not doing so well in life.
You are right. I was a young widow. My son was a picky eater. I liked hb helper, pigs in a blanket. My neighbor questioned how l could feed him like that. Her son was obese. Hmm.
You truly don't have to answer to anyone sounds like you have a great routine going for them and gives you and hubby time for yourselves as well, That's wonderful.
I love that you guys work together as a team for bed time and dinner. And you get to connect with each other without the kids daily. Great job. Ignore the critics!
Awesome way to have a wind down after a long day with the kids. They’re loved, fed, pampered. What more could you ask for! Enjoy you peaceful uninterrupted dinner with your husband. 😊
I think this is a great idea especially when the children are small. It gives the husband and wife the opportunity to have their time together. Never forget to spend quality time with each other after a hard day at work.❤❤😀😀😀❤️❤️
I think that this is awesome. Kids eating is fast, and if you’re eating with them, they’re going to want your food. It’s also a great time for you two to reconnect as a couple outside of being mom and dad.
I actually love this!! Such a win win getting your kids fed and happy AND getting to spend some quality time with your husband just the two of you! And your dinner looks sooooo good I’m jealous!!
Bless you for feeding your kids and not making their relationship with food a traumatic one. I still dream about staying the night at the dinner table or choosing a hand of dog kibble over my food, so many nights without dinner. It healed some of my inner child watching this and made me so happy.
I think the key point would b giving the opportunity to try new things. making food for them as well as giving them some of their food. maybe thyd like it but mom "knows" thy won't. I guess thyve had it before🤷🏾♀️ but that was never said. all I know for sure is kids look up to the adults in their lives, WANT to b like them in the best ways (even your flaws can b admirable to your kid) so eating like mom and dad and what mom and dad eat brings a sense of pride like they r big too. maybe thy won't eat it but hey thy also had their food anyway
As a kid with food texture issues, everything in a stir fry but the chicken would've made me gag & vomit just from the textures. I still can't stand mushrooms 🤮
@@kekenaniwilson6138I agree that it's good to let kids try a variety of foods, I also think that letting your child have a say in what they want to eat is good too! I was forced to eat what my parents made growing up, and my mom was an awful cook. I'd have days where I'd just refuse to eat the "food" she made and would go to bed hungry lol.
I've learned that every family and parent has to do things that work best for them. Everyone is different, so every routine is different. Also, that meal looks YUM.
That’s exactly what we do as well. Kids need more sleep, and you need that one uninterrupted meal a day. Don’t worry about certain people, they just need someone to dump on to feel they exist. You’re doing just fine.
My dad did this for me, for the exact same reasons. I was super picky, but I love food now, and it's something that that has always kept my dad and I close. This makes you an amazing mom.
Something that I read several years ago went like this; 'Other people's opinion of you is none of your business.' I was already a happy person, but this made me even happier. I really don't care what other people think about me. How I am is between me and God. Girl, you keep doing you! And absolutely, put your kids to bed after their dinner, and then you have a nice peaceful dinner with your hubby!❤
As someone who struggles with disordered eating, partly due to my parents having the "You eat or go to bed hungry" attitude, thank you for making sure they have separate meals if you know they won't eat what you and your husband want. They are fed and not shamed. And hopefully in the future you can guide them to being more open with food, too :) Also just something to clarify, my parents were abusive, but we also grew up low-income. In this particular instance, their execution was poor (shaming rather than encouraging and supporting), but also not entirely unjustified.
This used to be the norm in upper class households until about the 20s. Kids didn't eat with the adults, they had their own supper earlier in the day and the adults would eat their dinner around 8 or 9 in the evening.
Also don’t stop doing what you wanna do. Cuz you’re lucky you’re such a good momma that you can find some balance between raising the kids and still finding and doing things you love
Never seen you or your channel but you sound like you know exactly what you're doing and know how to handle *your* kids. Some things just work better for certain people, some don't. Good job, Tori :D
I think this is a great idea because you are making time for yourself and a lot of people don’t and get stressed so I think this is a great way to unwind
You’re an amazing momma! People need to realize that it is near impossible to have ALL one and three year olds eating the same meal as their parents. They’re just babies
I'm learning that there's an addiction element to anger. Some people like get off on pissing other people off for absolutely no reason or complaining for no reason. You're right this is like the most benign story feeds our kids what they like prior to their bedtime it's been ready for bed husband puts them to bed while she makes them a nice dinner to sit down in the quiet and have together. Responsible with her children responsible with her marriage and that looks like really good chicken teriyaki
You are doing great mama! What works for you and your family is nobody else’s business. You love and take good care of your babies and that’s all that matters!❤
I personally love how you parent your kids! My parents also end up making 2 different meals a lot of the time because me and my siblings are somewhat picky 😅 so don’t worry you are NOT the only one
@@lordBritish1 I’m sorry I should’ve been more clear my parents really enjoy sea food but I’m allergic as well as a few more foods that they like to make every night
Your parents are doing what they find works for your family and there is nothing wrong with that. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone, especially strangers on the internet. I am glad your family is happy and well fed. I remember being 5 years old and eating the entire plate of spaghetti my parents made for dinner, except the onions. I picked out all the onions and had just a pile of them left but everything else was gone. My step-dad forced me to eat the pile of onions. I puked on my plate. It made it so I never even wanted to try onions again even as an adult. I ate my entire dinner and he should have been happy that I ate what I was served. Nobody likes every single food. People are allowed to have preferences. As long as kids are exposed to new foods so they can try things and experience new foods, I don't see a problem with someone deciding there is a food they do not like. I feed my son foods I don't like so he can try them because I don't want him to be held back from trying foods just because I don't like them. He has his own preferences just as anyone else, he eats very well and I am never mad if he tries something and does not like it.
Honestly that’s ridiculous that people would hate on you for that. For wanting to have a separate dinner. Its just a nice experience to have with your partner when you both are busy. People should understand that.
@@MS-we9gn I would say, only leave a mean/hateful comment if it’s something you feel strongly about. Most hate comments are unnecessary but a few are valid
I mean my parents would go out and eat lobster and not bring anything back for us/not cook us dinner. Which sucked that we had to eat canned soup while they got to eat luxury.
@@jazx5418 that’s something completely different. the point is not what they are eating. The point is that some people hate on her for having a separate dinner/alone time with your partner and that’s ridiculous.
Girl raise your kids the way you want. I don’t believe they are abused or neglected, you guys seem like great parents. Good luck learning your grill! Love your content!
Girl I feel you! Every one is gonna have an opinion on how you raise your babies, but they are your babies! They are loved, fed and cared for on a schedule that works for your family and is healthy! Sounds like you're rocking parenthood to me!
Girl we all start somewhere you’re learning TBH some of us just jelly we don’t have a black stone yet 😂😂 it takes guts to record yourself for everyone to see ! Keep it up 😎
I was JUST listening to a podcast where a mom of 5 suggested serving the kids last. Obviously, this is for when you're all eating together, but it helps you have time to eat because little kids always eat like 2 bites of air and are done. I thought this might be helpful in the future, your dinner looked delicious!
I l-o-v-e how you make a whole bunch so that you use your time & resources wisely after firing up the Blackstone and make enough for several meals. I love Chicken Teriyaki!
You dont have to answer or explain yourself. I know because I'm 70 years old and ive always felt i had to explain myself. We dont my dear. You are doing everything right. God bless you. 🙏
I am glad you and hubby get to enjoy dinner together! It encourages silly people like me who scarf down their meals while feeding toddlers, not enjoying them, all for the sake of only making one meal🤷🏽♀️😭😅
girl those bedtimes are so good for their ages! I had to go to bed at 7:30 until I was 12 years old and it honestly didnt help. I would stay up late reading, drawing, eating snacks i stole literally anything but sleep lol.
This is called being efficient. The fact that you guys can managed to do all that with great partnership and make time for yourselves is impressive. I try to put my kids in bed at 7 or 8 too but being that my husband don’t do crap to help out at all I end up have to put my kids in bed at 9 or 10 after cooking, cleaning, and showering them.
The fact that people are so naive to comment on how you raise YOUR OWN KIDS, when most of those people probably don’t have their own. Also that you had to break it down for people to understand is just sad. It’s your kids, and your life. You should be applauded just for being a such good parent, because that unfortunately, is rarity in this world. I get it that this is a comment section, but at least when you’re commenting, don’t comment something radiating immense stupidity. It’s embarrassing.
That honestly sounds like the most effective way to feed your young children while also maintaining a nice calming diner with your partner 🥺
Did u mean dinner cause u spelled diner but the comment was good otherwise ❤🎉😊good comment though ❤️💕😍😎
Yeah it honestly seems like a nice win for everyone!
Yeah! My parents do this
Literally, its a genius idea. The kids get FED n parents still get to have a nice quiet dinner to catch up with eachother at the end of the day. Its a perfect win/win for everyone. I dont see how people can be mad at it
And the children never learn table manners or how to communicate with the family. Or that their needs and wants come before the parents? They don't learn to sit quietly at the table?
Fed kids and dinner in peace sounds wonderful!
Quality time with your spouse!
Tell people to mind their damn business. You owe no one an explanation.
You don't have to answer questions like that.
We had an 8 pm bed time for years.. and we slept! We were so tired from playing all day.
This sounds wonderful!
You don’t have to answer anything. People are just being negative. Just live your life. I’m sure you’re a good mom.
So you are a bad parent as well? Same mind set that has ruined this generation....I bet you cook chicken nuggets every night.....no greens no vegetables
Yes she is!! Just subb❤
Thank you took the words outa my mouth
That person wasn’t even being rude lol they were just making a joke like “haha let’s hide all the good food for ourselves and not tell the kids” like every single adult does. Everyone does that little bit once in their lives when they’re with children, telling them that your food is spicy or whatever just so they won’t eat it. Lol it’s a common thing
She probably did. People call CPS for things like this. Which is ridiculous, but true. And CPS does make a case until they investigate and determine if there are grounds of abuse. So as simple as a claim can make for a huge issue for people who have kids especially these days with people including or talking about their kids on the internet.
Putting your kids to bed at that time is incredibly good for their mental/ physical health as well as yours. Good job mom ❤
true. my cousins are 8 and 9 and their parents make them go to bed at 7:30 every night
Eating dinner after the kids are asleep is one of the best parts of my day!
Same here 😊
This!!!!!
It actually hot that way 😂
YES !!!! My son is 12, we eat our meals together now and guess where we eat pretty much all of those meals? Sitting in my kind size bed with our food trays, it's awesome. I have a really bad back, sitting at the table is painful for me, my husband works shift work so we only eat with him on the weekends, every family does what works for them. I believe it is VERY common for Mom & Dad (or just Mom) feed the younger kids before the adults eat their meal...this is extremely common in families who are quite wealthy and have nannies etc...kids are just fine. Personally this isnt the greatest time to "talk" I just want to relax and enjoy my meal in peace, my son and I have plenty of different times during the day to talk etc...well...I homeschool him so he and I are together 24/7/365 ...I'm pretty sure he's not thinking he doesn't see enough of me 😅
@@tacooflove6175yeah really!!
I think it's such a good idea to feed them, put them to sleep and then eat supper with your husband! Gives y'all some alone time, and peace and quiet 🙂 I also think it's great that He's putting them to bed while you cook. Perfect example of team work. That's how it should be!
Exactly!!
Absolutely
Yes a lot of working dads except the moms too do everything by herself and they don’t have to participate cus he be working it’s great to know that now and days they do pitch in as a team to the mom to help her with the kids
@@tay.jones10 its especially ridiculous if mom works too. Like in most households.
@@dutchik5107 yes, and I can’t even imagine how exhausted the moms be it’s very sad
You’re a great mom. I always think it’s a good idea to make sure the children are taken care of before the adults unwind.
I disagree, its ok to accommodate picky children, but removing all difficult scenarios from a childs life is detrimental to development. When we were hunter gathering. We ate what we had to, so we survived. So they should always east at least one thing you are eating. So they understand where boundries are. Even if they are 3 years old.
@@ljeans531 nah that’s gonna develop into unhealthy and possibly bad eating habits. Giving kids healthy alternatives to foods they dislike is going to be more of a positive than forcing them to endure something they can and will find a way around later. I was a picky picky eater as a child and how I’m pursuing culinary in my part time.
@@zackatron925 Setting reasonable boundaries and expectations is not unhealthy. You can do soft parenting while also instilling challenges and perseverance in your children
Pls I was so focused on the video that I read children as chicken and I was so confused 💀🤣
Its not always about the ingredients as well. I was hypersensitive to textures as a child, and just wouldn't eat most cooked vegetables. After many battles, including being served the same meal (uneaten and reheated) for 4 meals in a row, we reached a compromise. I got all my veggies raw and I actually ate them.
Sounds like the best of both worlds to me. The best thing you can give your kids in my opinion ( yes I know everyone has one 😊) is your time and a good relationship between their parents. Sounds like your doing great!
Okay this dinner was insane, what a cook you are!!
I have the giant Blackstone but still haven’t mastered it. If I could cook on it like u i would use it 3 times a day. Food looked great btw.
Those are basic skills?
@@chromium_inknot for everyone? It’s okay to not be good at even basic cooking
@@Joethelegalweaseloffical if you have a family who never taught you but who tf doesn't teach family. It's a basic skill!!!
@@chromium_inknot for everyone mate + some people don’t have family or have a dismissive family.
I was a nanny for many many years. Not only are you doing a great job but your scheduling of dinners makes sense. The people saying otherwise need to hush and take notes from you.
We do that too! I will make my daughter a dinner, and while my wife is putting her down I'll make us a separate dinner. It works so well for nights when we need some down time!
damn you sound like an amazing husband. you actually help out and cook. ik it’s just being a decent human being, but most men don’t just because of how they were raised thinking that only women do work. so props to you.
@@amberbeatty4762it’s a normal thing is the husband likes his wife
@@zf9069that’s dumb
Oh my gosh. People. Shut up. She is a good parent. The fact that this poor woman had tell everyone what was up with her kids and their eating and night time routine is just nuts. They are little. Do any of you have little kids?? Good night!
That dinner looked great. Its good that you two get to eat together, reconnect after a long day and enjoy an adult conversation. Calm way down people!
7:30 and 8 pm are perfect bedtimes for that age. We used 7:30 all the way through 6-7 years old. But it was harder to convince them it was bedtime during those times of the year when the sun hasn’t set yet!
agree with you they are perfect bedtimes for their age. i can't belive some parents will put their little toddlers to bed after 9. but honestly it comes down to whatever works for the family.
I don’t agree and I think kids should at least have the full extend of being tired when they are sleeping so I’d say 9 for 6-12 and then 9:30 for 13-14 then 10 thru 15-17
I hated going to sleep so early as a kid, but it's totally a normal bedtime. It felt crazy to be in bed and hear other children my age still playing outside in the daylight.
Also bro it’s not daylight savings time where it gets dark at like 4pm. People need to touch grass, it’s ridiculous
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They definitely get up super early, so they get tired by 7:30. If it's a routine they do every day, it definatly works for them. They won't be able to go to sleep or they will get up at night, if she is doing what you are saying.
Kudos to you for taking care of your husband and yourself. When you're happy, the kids are happy.
I think this is GREAT!!! It gives you and hubby a chance to TRULY reconnect! I just love this!!
Don’t say that word
@@truman4875which word
you are a WONDERFUL mom. keep it up. you got this, youre strong.
Absolutely crazy that people would be mad at you for feeding YOUR KIDS the things that they like. Props to you for doing things properly 👏
love the I.N pfp
@@kkqum_.l1a thank you!
I was just gonna say something along those lines....like it's insane that she even needs to clarify anything....
No goofy, people are simply astounded that a PARENT is allowing a CHILD to run the show.
@@graws7009 Crazy concept, more than one parenting style works. Even crazier concept, not your damn kids
I wouldn't waste my time answering unhappy and ignorant people. Please don't give them the satisfaction.
Literally like no bad comments, hope you know some creators say they get hate to bring in more views.
@@Anime-st3rs this was on a different platform thats why
She’s a horrible mom and wife. Blames everyone else but herself
@@Thewesmen67 how is she a horrible mother and wife? She’s not blaming anyone..
@@Thewesmen67 stfu your a hater
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Girl, any hater is just jealous they didn't think of it first. You're killing it and I think this is brilliant.
Ive bee doing this for 10 years since i had my first kid lol
I don't think people saying something should be considered a hater just because they had an opinion. I could say you're a hater as well due to having an opinion but it doesn't mean you're actually a hater. The word hater is way over used and miss used.
I am concern with her giving into her kids picky eating habits. If they don't eat what is reasonable then they don't eat. It can led to real issues as they grow up.
@@whydoyousmell1974 it was just a joke that fell flat! Like "oh, they hatin'" idk I'm a millennial lol
@@faervas1234 I was a picky eater growing up. My mom was the "sit at the table until you finish" kinda mom at first but I'd just sit there for hours until bedtime. So she just let me go to bed hungry. It didn't change anything. It didn't make me magically like the food, it didn't take away my hate for the texture or the smell. All it did was instill horrible eating habits I'm still combating now, because my mom wouldn't take the time to work with me. Her children are young. Everyone's picky about SOMETHING when they're young. Working with them and making sure they're fed is way more important and has been proven to be way more helpful in the long run. I know plenty of picky eaters who grew up to have the most expansive pallets--I'm one of them! And just cause they're picky doesn't mean they're eating unhealthy food. They just probably don't certain vegetables, or certain textures and smells. They'll grow out of it. And if they don't, they'll at least know what they like and what they're willing to try and have a good relationship with food in spite of it.
You don’t have to answer or apologize to anyone for the way you take care of your children. What you are doing is a great example of good parenting. I wish that more people would be like you and your husband.
That’s honestly such a great idea to have dinner after they go to bed - that way the two of you can enjoy each other’s company ♥️
Yes I completely agree they say the number one thing that breaks marriages is kids they say this because the family loves there kids more than the parents loves each other and that causes fight and eventually divorce that’s why it’s so good to have one on one time with each other and have date nights
Yes! I live with my older sister and I’m essentially the nanny off her kids and the house. This is what I do. Feed the kids, bathe them and put them to bed. Then I clean house and make myself and her food for when she comes home from work at like 11-12 at night.
I think you are a GREAT mother.
Great mother. You’re putting your kids first and based on what you make yourself I can bet they’re eating very healthy as well. Kids have routines and you’re keeping it consistent. Keep it up!
I think this is so cool that you do this!! I grew up eating whatever my mom made and some of it was really hard for me as a kid, so I really appreciate that you do this for your kids and I think it’s so cool you use this time to connect with your husband!
The food looks incredible!!!
I am 54 years old, and ever since I had my first child at 19 and my three grandchildren now, I always make everyone what they want to eat. For the same reason you say. So they will eat and not go to bed hungry. You do you!
Thank you 🙏🏻 I see so many people from older generations saying that the child should eat what was cooked. Children are allowed to have likes and dislikes just like us adults. Especially the children with disabilities and food aversions, those kids will seriously go hungry before they eat an unsafe food.
I did the same thing. It didn’t hurt anyone. Everyone enjoyed dinner time. Even as adults I still prepare their favorites when they visit for the holidays. It’s an expression of love.❤️
I'm a picky eater, my parents just didn't have the time for a picky child and I honestly get it. But I lived with another lady (boarding school) for 2 years in high school and she made me a separate dinner every single night if she knew I was probably not gonna be able to eat what everyone else is eating.
I went to bed hungry most days growing up because of how picky I was. fast forward to 21 yrs old, turns out it was autism all along. my parents still stand by the principle of “you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit”. it’s thinly veiled neglect. i don’t speak to them anymore.
@@hiphiphoogray I'm sorry.
You’re making sure your kids are fed, nurtured, and taken care of! Keep up the good work!
Honey, you are being a good mom. Pick your battles, with your kids and social media. You and your husband are a team worth cheering for.
Love your vids and the love you hold for your children. That being said as a parent of much older children, their friends that were pampered / catered to like this in their childhood are not doing so well in life.
People always gotta something to say and the always have to knock others down to build themselves up. You are an amazing momma
You are right. I was a young widow. My son was a picky eater. I liked hb helper, pigs in a blanket. My neighbor questioned how l could feed him like that. Her son was obese. Hmm.
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You truly don't have to answer to anyone sounds like you have a great routine going for them and gives you and hubby time for yourselves as well, That's wonderful.
Short of a special situation for one of the kids u NEVER cook different meals for them or anyone else in the family period.
I’m not even a parent but this sounds extremely reasonable and healthy. I would do all of this
Perfectly normal part of self care! Go you, young Momma🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
You sound like a good mom. Don't listen to haters on the internet.
I love that you guys work together as a team for bed time and dinner. And you get to connect with each other without the kids daily. Great job. Ignore the critics!
Awesome way to have a wind down after a long day with the kids. They’re loved, fed, pampered. What more could you ask for! Enjoy you peaceful uninterrupted dinner with your husband. 😊
They’re not pets. They have to learn how to nourish themselves and since they’re a part of the family, maybe they should be there for family dinner.
I think this is a great idea especially when the children are small. It gives the husband and wife the opportunity to have their time together. Never forget to spend quality time with each other after a hard day at work.❤❤😀😀😀❤️❤️
I think that this is awesome. Kids eating is fast, and if you’re eating with them, they’re going to want your food. It’s also a great time for you two to reconnect as a couple outside of being mom and dad.
This sounds like a perfect way to have happy kids and time for the adults to be happy. It's important for parents to have quality time together.
I actually love this!! Such a win win getting your kids fed and happy AND getting to spend some quality time with your husband just the two of you! And your dinner looks sooooo good I’m jealous!!
Bless you for feeding your kids and not making their relationship with food a traumatic one. I still dream about staying the night at the dinner table or choosing a hand of dog kibble over my food, so many nights without dinner. It healed some of my inner child watching this and made me so happy.
I love the fact you take care of your family being thoughtful. You do not have to explain anything
But you would ask for an explanations you know you comments are tracked by the app so all the disgusting post we can see them😂😂😂😂
@@shannongriffin63tf you on?
What? you want her not to take care of her kids? it should be automatic....
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this is the most reasonable and realistic schedule I have ever seen. How on earth do they assume the kids aren't fed 😂
You are a smart mama!! Mission accomplished!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Love that you found and know what works best for your children and family. ❤
I’m so glad you sit with them while they eat, but still allow yourself to enjoy a meal afterwards. It’s So important to relax.
Nah if they dont want teriyaki chicken they are missing OUT. The stir fry looks so good.
I think the key point would b giving the opportunity to try new things. making food for them as well as giving them some of their food. maybe thyd like it but mom "knows" thy won't. I guess thyve had it before🤷🏾♀️ but that was never said. all I know for sure is kids look up to the adults in their lives, WANT to b like them in the best ways (even your flaws can b admirable to your kid) so eating like mom and dad and what mom and dad eat brings a sense of pride like they r big too. maybe thy won't eat it but hey thy also had their food anyway
As a kid with food texture issues, everything in a stir fry but the chicken would've made me gag & vomit just from the textures. I still can't stand mushrooms 🤮
@@kekenaniwilson6138I agree that it's good to let kids try a variety of foods, I also think that letting your child have a say in what they want to eat is good too! I was forced to eat what my parents made growing up, and my mom was an awful cook. I'd have days where I'd just refuse to eat the "food" she made and would go to bed hungry lol.
Sure, but they're also 1 and 3. At least one of them can't read, yet. The world is big and scary as is. They'll try it when they're ready
I've learned that every family and parent has to do things that work best for them. Everyone is different, so every routine is different. Also, that meal looks YUM.
Looks awesome to me. As a teacher, you are doing the right thing. Giving them food, paying them attention, and enjoying time with your hubby.
That’s exactly what we do as well. Kids need more sleep, and you need that one uninterrupted meal a day. Don’t worry about certain people, they just need someone to dump on to feel they exist. You’re doing just fine.
You do what works best for your family. You don’t owe anyone any explanations. ❤
8pm was definitely my bedtime when i was a kid. Gave me so much rest and energy for the next day's shenanigans 😂
I put my son to bed at 8:30 and love it I don't understand putting little baby to bed late
same, and I knew it was dinner time when M*A*S*H* was on xD
So I got to eat dinner while watching the show
My dad did this for me, for the exact same reasons. I was super picky, but I love food now, and it's something that that has always kept my dad and I close. This makes you an amazing mom.
Something that I read several years ago went like this; 'Other people's opinion of you is none of your business.' I was already a happy person, but this made me even happier. I really don't care what other people think about me. How I am is between me and God. Girl, you keep doing you! And absolutely, put your kids to bed after their dinner, and then you have a nice peaceful dinner with your hubby!❤
You're a loving and caring parent!!! I love your cooking too!!❤
As someone who struggles with disordered eating, partly due to my parents having the "You eat or go to bed hungry" attitude, thank you for making sure they have separate meals if you know they won't eat what you and your husband want.
They are fed and not shamed. And hopefully in the future you can guide them to being more open with food, too :)
Also just something to clarify, my parents were abusive, but we also grew up low-income. In this particular instance, their execution was poor (shaming rather than encouraging and supporting), but also not entirely unjustified.
I hope you’re getting better man
Lol I’m Asian and if I didn’t want to eat that night my mom would let me. I grew up fine.
This used to be the norm in upper class households until about the 20s. Kids didn't eat with the adults, they had their own supper earlier in the day and the adults would eat their dinner around 8 or 9 in the evening.
That chicken teriyaki looked gooood!
Also don’t stop doing what you wanna do. Cuz you’re lucky you’re such a good momma that you can find some balance between raising the kids and still finding and doing things you love
You look like a Professional Blackstone Cook!👩🍳 you've come a long way, Girl!❤
Never seen you or your channel but you sound like you know exactly what you're doing and know how to handle *your* kids. Some things just work better for certain people, some don't. Good job, Tori :D
You’re the best mom, keep doing what ur doing ❤
I think this is a great idea because you are making time for yourself and a lot of people don’t and get stressed so I think this is a great way to unwind
You’re an amazing momma! People need to realize that it is near impossible to have ALL one and three year olds eating the same meal as their parents. They’re just babies
I support you momma and keep doing what works best for you and your kids. ❤
One of the reasons I love your channel is to see how you work things out with a young family. We did this 25 years ago. and you do what you have to.
Eating dinner after my little one goes to bed is one of my fav parts of the day ❤
You do what works for you. And that looks delicious!
Girl those haters are just jealous that you’ve got a wonderful happy and healthy family ❤
I only got to go to bed at 8 when I was 11
You’re an amazing mum keep going don’t let others get you down 🫶😌
You don’t have to explain yourself to these people. You are doing an amazing job. They are happy and healthy and that’s what works for your home.
No, she doesn't have to explain herself. But naming and shaming calls out the poor behaviour of people on the Internet.
It’s super important for parent stamina to do these kinds of things👍
I totally agree and I think you're a good mom for not wanting you're kids to starve and making them a separate dinner. That rice looks fire though
This is literally the most reasonable and normal parenting. How can anyone be upset. I do not understand the world😭
I'm learning that there's an addiction element to anger. Some people like get off on pissing other people off for absolutely no reason or complaining for no reason. You're right this is like the most benign story feeds our kids what they like prior to their bedtime it's been ready for bed husband puts them to bed while she makes them a nice dinner to sit down in the quiet and have together. Responsible with her children responsible with her marriage and that looks like really good chicken teriyaki
You are doing great mama! What works for you and your family is nobody else’s business. You love and take good care of your babies and that’s all that matters!❤
I personally love how you parent your kids! My parents also end up making 2 different meals a lot of the time because me and my siblings are somewhat picky 😅 so don’t worry you are NOT the only one
Eat what you are giving and be glad you have it
That’s honestly really sad.
@@lordBritish1 I’m sorry I should’ve been more clear my parents really enjoy sea food but I’m allergic as well as a few more foods that they like to make every night
Don't let people bully you. Literal adults who bully children are not good people.
Your parents are doing what they find works for your family and there is nothing wrong with that. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone, especially strangers on the internet. I am glad your family is happy and well fed. I remember being 5 years old and eating the entire plate of spaghetti my parents made for dinner, except the onions. I picked out all the onions and had just a pile of them left but everything else was gone. My step-dad forced me to eat the pile of onions. I puked on my plate. It made it so I never even wanted to try onions again even as an adult. I ate my entire dinner and he should have been happy that I ate what I was served. Nobody likes every single food. People are allowed to have preferences. As long as kids are exposed to new foods so they can try things and experience new foods, I don't see a problem with someone deciding there is a food they do not like. I feed my son foods I don't like so he can try them because I don't want him to be held back from trying foods just because I don't like them. He has his own preferences just as anyone else, he eats very well and I am never mad if he tries something and does not like it.
god that looks so unbelievably good rn….
Girl, you are killing it on that grill!!! 😊
Honestly that’s ridiculous that people would hate on you for that.
For wanting to have a separate dinner. Its just a nice experience to have with your partner when you both are busy. People should understand that.
They’re probably just jealous
@@MS-we9gn I would say, only leave a mean/hateful comment if it’s something you feel strongly about. Most hate comments are unnecessary but a few are valid
I mean my parents would go out and eat lobster and not bring anything back for us/not cook us dinner. Which sucked that we had to eat canned soup while they got to eat luxury.
@@jazx5418 that’s something completely different. the point is not what they are eating. The point is that some people hate on her for having a separate dinner/alone time with your partner and that’s ridiculous.
People are legitimately so dumb if they think her eating dinner after the kids go to bed means she doesn’t feed the kids at all.
You have a family great schedule. Thank you for sharing.
Good for you! Making your life with toddlers as simple as possible is a stress saver for sure!
This seems like the best method ever, you get peace, quiet, and cute dinner with your SO. Why are people mad?
You're a good mom, People get mad when you dont do the things they do.
Girl raise your kids the way you want. I don’t believe they are abused or neglected, you guys seem like great parents. Good luck learning your grill! Love your content!
Girl I feel you! Every one is gonna have an opinion on how you raise your babies, but they are your babies! They are loved, fed and cared for on a schedule that works for your family and is healthy! Sounds like you're rocking parenthood to me!
Perfect routine. Exactly what kids need. Well done to you. 👏👏👏
A hearty meal that every parent deserves at the end of a hard long day 🎉
I think you are killing it!
Girl we all start somewhere you’re learning TBH some of us just jelly we don’t have a black stone yet 😂😂 it takes guts to record yourself for everyone to see ! Keep it up 😎
I was JUST listening to a podcast where a mom of 5 suggested serving the kids last. Obviously, this is for when you're all eating together, but it helps you have time to eat because little kids always eat like 2 bites of air and are done. I thought this might be helpful in the future, your dinner looked delicious!
I l-o-v-e how you make a whole bunch so that you use your time & resources wisely after firing up the Blackstone and make enough for several meals. I love Chicken Teriyaki!
You dont have to answer or explain yourself. I know because I'm 70 years old and ive always felt i had to explain myself. We dont my dear. You are doing everything right. God bless you. 🙏
That looks delicious
We sometimes do this too. We balance it out with some family dinners but like you said, they are done within five minutes and we are not lol
I am glad you and hubby get to enjoy dinner together! It encourages silly people like me who scarf down their meals while feeding toddlers, not enjoying them, all for the sake of only making one meal🤷🏽♀️😭😅
girl those bedtimes are so good for their ages! I had to go to bed at 7:30 until I was 12 years old and it honestly didnt help. I would stay up late reading, drawing, eating snacks i stole literally anything but sleep lol.
Whatever works for you and your family. Sounds like your kids are well taken care of and healthy. That’s all that matters.
This is called being efficient. The fact that you guys can managed to do all that with great partnership and make time for yourselves is impressive. I try to put my kids in bed at 7 or 8 too but being that my husband don’t do crap to help out at all I end up have to put my kids in bed at 9 or 10 after cooking, cleaning, and showering them.
You're amazing 👏
Your dinner looks yummy 😋
I don't know why anyone would be upset about what works for you and your family! You're a good mom! Keep doing you!
The fact that people are so naive to comment on how you raise YOUR OWN KIDS, when most of those people probably don’t have their own. Also that you had to break it down for people to understand is just sad. It’s your kids, and your life. You should be applauded just for being a such good parent, because that unfortunately, is rarity in this world. I get it that this is a comment section, but at least when you’re commenting, don’t comment something radiating immense stupidity. It’s embarrassing.