You put it exactly right. The first instinct is, "just tear the paper off for him", and that would definitely be quicker and easier in childhood, but he will suffer so so so much more if he grows up without learning coping skills. Brava to Mama for doing the hard shit.
As a mother who did the accommodating, I can assure you that this mother did the right thing. My daughter’s OCD led to two months in the hospital, a week of which was in the ICU. If I could turn back time, I would have done exactly what this parent did.
What strikes me about it is how sincere he is. He's clearly not just being stubborn or obstinate. He actually has a hard time seeing past the scrap of cover.
@@WheeledHamster You don’t even know the meaning of that word. If he was spoiled, his reaction would’ve been “How come there is only one? I want two!!” Being spoiled is always wanting more, because you think what you have isn’t enough. That wasn’t the situation. He genuinely couldn’t see past that tiny little wrapper still remaining. The wrapper was taken off, but not all the way. It was extreme unsatisfactory, and his mind wouldn’t allow him to move past it. It’s OCD.
I don't have OCD, but just seeing how it affects people who have it is what makes me hate the people who don't have it who are like "tHiS trIgGeRs mY OcD".
I have OCD, and you are absolutely correct. People seem to forget that the D is disorder, as in a serious problem. Everyone has things they prefer. That's not the same as OCD
@@abBensch Thank you for pointing out that D is for disorder. As someone with OCD, I think people people forget that the C is compulsive, as in something we feel an insatiable need to do
to anyone who is saying she is “being mean” and pushing him she is doing the absolute right thing. you have to be exposed to these things or else it’ll just get worse
yea..i can confirm it, as someone with ocd that's been undiagnosed for a while and no one would expose such things to me definitely damaged me and my perception of things for a while - breaking out of that is worse than accepting it while you got the chance to
Yeah erp (Exposure and response prevention therapy) is good bc you’re teaching yourself that things that trigger you aren’t as dangerous or scary as your brain makes it seem. Ive had ocd since I was a kid but it was undiagnosed. When I turned 21 it exploded and got to a point it was almost ruined my life completely. I did erp mostly by myself and now know how to live with my ocd.
@@saijito I’ve had OCD as a kid too my family always saw it as weird quirky things but never enough to get tested. My OCD has since resulted in severe skin picking and I’m 21 just been diagnosed with ADHD 2 months ago but my problems run deeper. I feel like OCD is controlling me currently. What did you do for yours?
I was blown away as to how she was able to use reason to get to him. I guess that this child is just super intelligent, so he gets it. Don’t get me wrong, mom is super intelligent as well. Edit: When I was young, my parents had no idea what OCD was, and I didn’t either. I’m not trying to downgrade my parents in anyway, please know that.
“and that little piece of paper is not gonna control your whole life” such POWERFUL words. you’re an amazing mother. you’re doing everything you’re supposed to be doing for him. you were presented with an extra obstacle in parenthood but are handling so well and making sure he gets through it.
The first part of the video was mildly stressful to watch because of the boy's distress, but it's so great to see him reach a point of realization that the paper is okay and move past it, with the guidance of his mom.
It can't be cured I have OCD and I got really mad at my best frenemy when she wouldn't let me go to my locker to drop my volleyball uniform off when I known I had time too, so I went to my locker anyways and she said something trying to get me in trouble I didn't speak to her for a week.
I totally get you. Having OCD is like living in a parallel universe. I haven't begun my therapy yet, but for more than 20 years I didn't know I had it... so of course my first reaction was that it couldn't be true, because it's been my whole world. It almost feels like having been blindfolded for years and gotten lost along the way. I don't know your story, but please please please -- OCD can be cured. 1. Fight to find a therapist that you can trust. Competence and training can vary between care providers. 2. Don't try to fix the disease by yourself, because it needs to be tackled step by step... and I for one have no idea where to start because I've tried everything. For example I've stayed up whole nights trying to find answers and solutions without succeeding. I wouldn't blame myself for feeling that nothing works. :/ BUT a good and patient therapist knows that the "blindfold" needs to be removed slooowly, so that your eyes have time to adjust to life's bright light :) I hope this doesn't offend you, maybe you've heard all of this before and as I said, I don't know your whole story. But I mean well and I really root for you!!!😊 Take care!
Can we just appreciate how even though she was persistent in not taking off the wrapper, she didn’t yell at him, or even seem frustrated with him and seemed like she really wanted to help him get better. That’s what I aspire to be when I’m a parent.
This made me tear up. I have OCD and my childhood was hell because my parents never showed this amount of patience with me when dealing with my mental illness. You're a good mom.
It can be made harder when the parents don't understand it or how to treat it. I wouldn't guess that a lot of people have very much patience either - but I grew mine over many years!! Hope you were able to get the treatment you need and are doing well now. Thanks a lot!
me too. my parents never understood what was wrong with me, so when i threw a fit i got in trouble a whole lot! but after i got diagnosed, they understood much more.
I have OCD and autism and let me tell you IT SUCKS. As a 12 year old, I can say that I hate OCD more than I hated my friend in 3rd grade for accidentally making my treehouse fall.
It does suck sometimes, but you will learn that its a blessing and a gift because you are able to think differently. If you get help with the hard parts, the good parts of it become that much better! Rafael is now 11 years old so you guys are the same age!
As a person who suffers with OCD I’m so heartbroken. I know what he’s feeling and it’s the worst. Thank you to the person helping him deal with this situation your amazing. And I hope he over time will fully get rid of his OCD. This is a real disorder it doesn’t make you clean. Edit (omg I’ve never gotten this many likes before! Thank you guys so much!)
I also am OCD. It breaks my heart watching him so distraught over it. It irritates me that she won’t just take off the piece of paper for him, but I understand she’s trying to help him get over his OCD. What a tough situation. I couldn’t even imagine what the path would be like to get over OCD.
As someone with OCD that affects nearly every moment of my life, it’s absolutely wonderful to see you working with him and through his ticks and urges, especially at such a young age.
@@martap.548 hopefully by the Time he's older he won't have these issues if his mom works on it. I'm not seeing how this is ocd though. He doesn't look anxious at all or atleast didn't express anything bad happening if it wasn't opened. Just picky about the way it was opened. The main part of ocd that makes it odc is the fear of dying or something bad happening. Like with hand washing, you feel like you will catch a sickness if you don't constantly wash hands. And it causes you to basically have a panick attack if you don't. I know this because people always thought I had ocd but I couldn't be diagnosed with it without that being my motivation for what I do. You can have obsessive compulsive behaviors without being ocd. I don't think treating him for ocd will hurt him but I'm wondering why she came to that conclusion. Ocd is a bitch and it's not cool to throw that phrase around just for fun.
I appreciate her calm voice, it really helps when people are patient with you and your triggers, and I'm saying this as someone with OCD and anxiety. Unfortunately my mother usually gets angry with me for doing compulsive things and it only makes the behaviors worse bc I get stressed out. I'm glad this mother is committed to helping her son, watching him eventually eat the pudding made me smile :)
She is strengthening him so that the ocd doesn't control him later. She is very patient and wonderful. Especially when he almost ate her finger.....twice. He had trouble eating it from a cup that had that piece of little bitty paper but had nooo problem putting her whole finger in his mouth. The cutest thing EVER!
OCD is hell later in Life when it isn't treated early on. I've known many friends growing up that were just as stubborn. Not nearly as cute when they are eighteen years old and *WILL* fight over the simplest things.
@@genesisexodus4687 as someone with OCD it actually can be really helpful to have someone you care about rationalize an obsession when you can’t see things clearly for yourself. Even as an adult, I appreciate when my people tell me that I’ll be okay if I let certain little obsessions go, because sometimes it does feel so stressful (even if really I would be okay/better off to walk away from it). I have situational OCD, so seemingly random things like pudding wrappers can be triggers.
As someone with severe OCD I can confirm real germs do not bother me. Real germs die quite easily compared to how much I have to scrub myself to get the feeling from OCD to go away.
_All the garbage soft parents in these comments who are raising a generation of entitled brats calling this mother a bad mother because she's trying to teach her child with OCD coping and managment skills when he gets older._ I would have given anything to have a Mom like this when I was a kid. She clearly is a caring and loving mom.
The way parents talk to kids when they’re young is the way kids talk to themselves when they’re older. I don’t know much about OCD but I think this lady is doing a good job! It hurts now but helps in the long run.
Him licking the finger was so adorable 😂 like I'm gonna disagree but no chocolate pudding is getting wasted for you to prove your fact! He's so precious
His whole reason why he wants the remaining lid to be removed was he wants to make sure there not a single drop of that pudding is underneath it So it's logical in his mind to suck it off of his mother's finger.
For anyone who thinks the mom is being rude this is actually a great way to help ocd not get worse. I've seen treatment for ocd with adults and its similar. It may seem harsh but that is how to go about it. Edit: i didn't get any notifications from TH-cam for the responses. Wth! Anyway just ignore trolls.
People are saying she’s triggering/distressing him; exposure therapy IS distressing, but it’s necessary. We need to learn how to be comfortable in extremely uncomfortable situations.
Plus, not everyone in this world will cater toward him by, in a metaphorical sense, removing that last piece of lid despite the pudding being ready to eat.
It seemed like she was cruel and inconsiderate at first but in reality, she just doesn't want her child to be controlled by their ticks. Good job recognizing his OCD early on and doing what you can to aid his future! Much love for what you do
Yah I totally relate it Sometimes it gets worse and we can't even travel in public space So yah the mother is doing good thing Cause if you grow up and don't control your tics it gets worse
I can relate. My son has Asperger's and ADHD and showed signs of OCD as well. I do the best I can to get him past the ones I can. He has enough to adapt to he doesn't need anymore.
I don't think she seems cruel at any moment...? This would be a good exercise for any kid but specially for someone with OCD. It's great to be taught that little inconveniences like this one shouldn't dictate our life.
Really. I didn't know that the 3 years old kids can be so intelligent. But.. I don't know much of children. His intelligence and this OCD kind of reminds me of characters like Sheldon Cooper.
Yes exactly he's distressed but there's nothing babyish about how he's expressing himself. He knows exactly what he wants, how he feels, and how to express himself. He's clearly a remarkable little boy.
It's interesting to see OCD through the eyes of a child. His thoughts and ideas haven't been influenced by the world. When he says "it's not open" is the genuine truth to him. An adult living with OCD would create excuses or justifications. He is open and honest that in his mind, unless every scrap of lid is gone, that pudding cup is as good as closed, and eating from it gives him as much anxiety and discomfort as if I wanted you to eat a candy bar with the wrapper still on.
I mean is it a Snickers? Also props to the mom for the subtle "imma put my finger in it" because hopefully there is some subtle learning or conditioning going on to help him not be triggered by food being touched or hands being "dirty".
She’s really patient with him and though a lot of people would think for god sake just let him do it this is very necessary with children suffering from ocd this will teach him and help him to let little things go easier and her giving into it would only fuel the ocd more. I really loved how she handled it perfect!
"I cant eat it" *proceeds to eat it off moms finger* lmao this made me crack up, so wholesome, its good that the urge to eat pudding is more powerful then his OCD
I didn’t really get it until she said “That little piece of paper isn’t going to control your whole life” …. That made me tear up. Yes it could be less stressful for you to just take 2 sec and take it off but I understand that you are really helping him and it’s wholesome for me to watch. That’s love
The problem is when you give into their compulsions they get worse not better. I have an adult family member who was enabled w his compulsions & he makes everyone else’s life hell.
that's the purest and simplest way to explain how this works... it's difficult really... it's not just "wanting certain things a certain way", it's it bothering you so much that is considerably effects your mental state... it mostly gets better with aging but..
Trust me, as somebody diagnosed with this shitty disorder it’s NOT adorable…. When he’s saying that piece of paper will ruin his life, he’s going through what’s called an obsession. And obsessions are fucking awful. They can get really bad and eat away at you, to the point where you stop functioning. That mom is doing the right thing by training Rafael to not pick at the little piece of paper. The more he picks at it, the more it will ACTUALLY ruin his life. OCD is painful. People constantly find it cute. Until it sends you to the hospital. Which is exactly what happened to me before I finally got treated for it. It’s fuckin scary.
People need to stop saying how OCD is cute, it's not. Yes, he's a little boy so it may seem cute, and quirky, but that little boy really believed that the paper was going to control his life. OCD is a serious condition, and should not be taken as a cute little behaviour, it is horrible.
@@sdma6005 I think you're misunderstanding me here. In no way am I saying that obsessive-related disorders are cute. Any mental disorder that disrupts somebodies quality of life, ain't cute. But I don't think that that means nothing related to said disorder can't at all be "positive". I certainly believe that the child had a distressing fixation on it, but I don't think based on his age and tone, he really thought it would ruin his life.
I honestly feel so bad for the child and tremendous respect for the parents that handle these situations it's not easy to do things like this all day everyday. That's why when I see a parent yell or look like they are going through something I don't judge it's easy for you to say cute and adorable from the outside but you never dealt with this everyday.
It never ends. It is a debilitating disease that holds a person in its evil grasp. It is so hard to watch your child unable to live freely and to reach their own potential
Having been married to a man with ADHD for 47 years and have 2 adult sons with bipolar, I feel I have a pretty good idea of what she’s going through. As he gets older he will learn to adapt to this and discover ways to mitigate the condition somewhat. Each one of us is unique, beautiful and so very interesting. With a mom like that, he will be fine.
I have ADHD and panic disorder with generalized anxiety, and this makes me so sad. To be so young and plagued by the burden of mental illness. 😢 This poor baby. Praying for him.
Poor kid. I feel bad for him. Hope he overcomes his OCD for the most part. So it doesn’t hurt him and control his life. That’s the best anyone can hope.
@@sharonjensen3016 Actually I have OCD type 4. I saw 2 specialists in OCD and behavioral health. And I was the worst case they’d ever seen. I would spend all day washing my hands and taking a long shower. It took years but I overcame my OCD for the most part. I used to take 4 and half hour showers it now takes me 15 minutes. Don’t tell me what is possible with OCD. I’ve overcame it. Nothing is impossible
As someone battling OCD, thank you for the way you’re speaking to your child. I’m an adult and people get so angry and frustrated about my OCD, which upsets and angers me because I can’t help behaving the way I do. Honestly think dealing with everyone’s stigma is a harder battle than the OCD itself
I'm not arguing or criticizing you. I know there are a lot of people that have OCD and it's a really big problem for them. I don't know if I have OCD or not. Some things bother the hell out of me and it's like something's pecking at my head telling me to fix it. I don't know if that's just me being particular or me having OCD. And then you have the people who don't understand that it's a disorder and they use it as an excuse for their personality or the way they act. They claim that they have it without ever being diagnosed with it. For some reason it's becoming a trend to pretend you have disorders.
@@lunarcorpse I find there’s a very fine line between being particular and actually having OCD traits. My therapist diagnosed me years back, but I do understand where you’re coming from. People who are neat and tidy and say “oh I’m so OCD haha” like it’s quirky or cool are the worst
@@laurx39 Yeah, for sure. It almost feels like an invalidation when people do that. It's like with some gamers say they have PTSD when playing a game and they have no idea what PTSD is or the trauma that comes with it. I have PTSD and I got it around 3 years old because I was molested and beaten those are my first memories. It is the direct cause of my depression, panic disorder, anxiety disorder, and social anxiety disorder. I also have abandonment trauma and rejection trauma that's where the social anxiety comes in. People think it's cool or fun to make fun of these debilitating disabilities. It really needs to stop because it makes it harder for people like us to seek help.
@@lunarcorpse It’s very disheartening to hear your story and I feel bad for you and hope you the best life ahead of you. I’ve only ever been diagnosed with ADD but I have symptoms of other disorders that my parents haven’t went straight to ask a doctor about. It irks me that it’s becoming a “trend” but I see less of it thankfully. I do still know and see that there are attention seekers lurking out there and it pisses me off. I try my best not to tell my symptoms to other people because I don’t need sympathy. People do often ask if I have disorders that I don’t care to list right now. My severity for these symptoms isn’t very high (at least I think) but I’ve been dealing with symptoms for as long as I can remember though I do have trouble with long term memory’s I remember major events where my symptoms were prevalent. Strong emotions over whelm me and last for longer than anybody else I know. Sometimes the slightest sad feeling turns to me bawling my eyes out even though I don’t know why or feel sad enough to cry. I’m glad videos like this show how symptoms of disorders are and how to help your child. But I hope people keep in mind symptoms are different for everyone and no two are gonna be exactly the same.
@@Will_ig Yeah, I know exactly how that feels. I was finally able to get a psychiatrist and a therapist. The best kind of therapist talks to you and gives you relatable stories that way they can relate to you and help you better understand your emotions. If you have a therapist that's just listening to you you get wrapped up in your emotions and you're just a baling mess the entire time. And that is not good for you mentally. She said she could sense my anxiety when talking to me and she said when she thinks I am ready will dive deeper into it. My sister has anxiety when it comes to cooking and cleaning. She starts stemming and she can't stop. So she gets ready-made meals or she gets take out. Sometimes I will make the food for her. I usually tell people my disabilities so they don't feel like I am ignoring them or being too critical. I want them to know I'm not doing it on purpose. And I've been told that I might be autistic but I don't have the money to get tested for that. My sister might be autistic too.
The fact that some people immediately say to starve the kid and that he has rude manners and how they would hurt him to get their way and call it "tough love" just shows a lot about their childhood. This was years ago, he's older now. The mother is doing amazing so don't tell her how to parent HER child.
It’s because people don’t understand. They only think about how they would react in the situation. They don’t understand enough about OCD to actually acknowledge what is going on
Given that he’s already somehow got it into his lil’ head that eating that pudding will require the whole lid to come off, as far as he’s concerned she IS cruelly withholding dessert from him! 🤣
@@JenMarAnnRei they’re not saying that he’s overcoming the disorder, just that he was encouraged to overcome this obstacle within the disorder. even if it was just one time, he was able to overcome it.
Am sorry. My son was just diagnosed last week at age 12. For a long time I didn't understand. I shouted and was more often frustrated. It hurts to know his feelings were genuine and that I was a crapy mum. I pray you and him get to overcome the hurt people who are supposed to love you put you through. I truly love my son. Just had mo clue about OCD
@@708Chrystal hey, you’re not a bad mum at all. OCD is a complex thing to deal with especially in children/teenagers. You simply didn’t know how to respond to their behaviours, but now you know why. Please don’t beat yourself up my love, you’re doing amazing x
As an adult who has suffered with OCD since I was 8 years old…he knows that it’s open. However the fact that all the paper isn’t gone off the top disturbs his sense of symmetry and gives him anxiety…it feels “uneven,” so to speak. I get it. I really do. Poor little guy. This is so rough.
I dont have ocd so its different for me, but for some reason I feel like everything I make has to be even and if it isnt im... uncomfortable? idk how to describe it
@@ShikadaiNara10 which is why it's being treated with therapy which will eventually help him to either overcome it completely, or at the very least manage it to some degree.
@@JoeSki253 and you need to be told not to open your mouth to give an opinion on a subject that you clearly know nothing about. Either go educate yourself, or keep your yap shut next time.
Thank you so much. He's a really bright child. He has a little sister that has really helped him overcome some of his OCD issues. They really talk it out together!
@@FoolyLiving I believe that vaccines are responsible for so much that is going on with children. The big pharma and the system in general are NOT your friend.
@@FoolyLiving Try giving him magnesium-B6 suplementation. It will not change his high attention to detail and order, but it will calm down the obsessive thinking over it. Ergo, more chill about it.
People with OCD are smarter than average folk.. I have OCD :) It’s actually a super power. No need for him to get rid of it. Maybe manage it the best he can as I have learned to since I was diagnosed and growing up with it. Nothing wrong with having OCD even if others label you weird or don’t understand you. This kid could be a great detective, doctor, writer or anything he wants to be when he grows up and better than the average schmo too.
@@ataraxia7439 trust me, it is. it's extremely detrimental to mental health and caused me really bad depression a few years ago. thankfully i'm doing great now, but OCD is no joke, and I wish people didn't treat it as something that's just "wanting things to be symmetrical" or "cleaning things."
I’m an adult with OCD and I remember as a kid I had to blink the exact amount of times on each eye when I was his age. If one blinked and I didn’t do the other it would destroy my day because things were uneven. He’s a great young boy and you’re a wonderful mom!!
Do you ever tidy your bed up and put the covers over then have to put the little bumps back down? I deal with this. Also I have to make all of my steps even.
@@Aden068 Everyone has a little bit of these traits inside themselves. What separates you from being organized and potentially getting an evaluation/diagnosis, is if you feel threatened/pressured to do these kinds of things. If you willingly do these things, it's probably not OCD. It could be an anxiety disorder, though. Sorry for the late response!
@@anisaislam3161 lmao not them treating mental disorders like a gd chia pet 💀 If you cry about it, your tears will make the damn thing grow sprouts and photosynthesize ig.
I’m sobbing. As someone who struggles with severe diagnosed OCD, I get devastated at the thought of anyone else having to go through the same thing. I would do anything to stop others from having to struggle with the torture of ocd. It takes over every second of every day and nobody deserves that.
@@henriettuhh depends on your age, but I’d try exposure response therapy:) it’s highly affective and has helped me slightly for the short amount of time I did it, and I just peaked with my ocd severity, it usually does during summer when I have more interactions with it, and I used some of the things they taught me recently. I plan to go into it soon and I encourage you to as well:))you aren’t your ocd!
OCD is seeing imperfections, and not being able to get your mind off of them if your life depended on it. You just NEED to see it fixed, it's self torture.
I didn’t realise how “difficult” OCD could be for a person. I know a lot of people claiming to have that just because they have fun placing colourful objects in the order of rainbow’s colours. As far as I know there could be a range of level of OCD but the fact that it can affect your life in a very negative way makes me understand that there’s nothing funny about it
Yeah, there's a difference between "hey, it'd look cool if I organized this this way" and "if I don't organize it this way I won't be able to function".
so true, it's never about enjoying it - we don't enjoy the process - it's about not been able to breathe or get occupied by anything else until it's done neatly and properly
@@zainart1803 for me i’m usually not (primarily) affected by things that are disorderly, for me it’s weird things like bumping up against the corner of a desk or rotating my pencil back and forth or even just tapping my feet together a certain way for a certain amount of time until the anxious feeling goes away. weird little back-and-forth things that waste a lil time in comparison to just doing said things normally. sometimes i apply it to people around me too, like asking my sister to walk backwards and go around a tree differently until it feels right. weird.
Okay so I have a friend who discovered recently that she has this condition. The thing you need to understand about it is what's driving the obsessive behaviour. It's not just wanting to have things organised - true OCD is driven by intrusive, negative thoughts that won't go away. It's basically a fear disorder. The thought process isn't "I need to wash my hands seven times" - it's "If I DON'T wash my hands over and over, something horrible will happen to me and my family". The obsessive behaviour is an attempt to stop those thoughts by doing what your brain wants you to - but because it's a disorder and not a logical thought process, that doesn't actually work, which is why you see the behaviour getting worse and worse. Washing their hands doesn't work the first time, because it was never actually the problem - so they do it again. My friend's main symptom is that she messes with her hair. You can tell when she's having intrusive thoughts because she runs her hands through her hair over and over and over. It's a self-soothing gesture; she's trying to make the bad thoughts go away.
As a parent of a 2 (nearly 3) year old I'm shocked she got him to accept eating the pudding without any modifications in the end. I know this was years ago and all, but new to me. Since my life is different and I don't know these people it makes me think about what I would have done with my own kid, who I do know. I think I would have given him a 'safety bowl' that he did like and just served food from that one bowl to focus on the harder parts, so at least one thing in core life wasn't a struggle. I'm not sure how that would have panned out in the long run but that may also be that my child is really rowdy and high energy so I'm stuck with 'choose your battles.'
I used to be one of those people that believed OCD was just being a clean freak. This video opened my eyes to what OCD really is. It also made me realize that I myself have been suffering from OCD. Thank you for sharing!!
@@8LiterallyJustTheNumber8 Not exactly. Most people are only able to get a proper diagnosis because they self-diagnosed before it. It is important not to be so sure about it, tho.
I hate when my food touches certain foods considering I'm also bulimic. Most doctors are off on their diagnoses too. Especially when intelligence comes in different forms. He acted like an expert on that computer. Not all kids that age act like that on computers.
@@Malkenjiro but people got proper diagnosed is with professional directions. Just because somebody have similar symptoms doesn't mean they suffer a disorder, not that simple, hence there are professionals specialized for diagnosing mental illnesses
@@joshuadominic2116 source/ creator/god’s blessings and serenity flow easily towards those who believe it to be true. if you’d rather believe that the ungodly / unwanted means there is no good god and that the world is random , than that is going to be true in your life experiences (yes plural we are eternal) until you awaken and accept that we posses god energy (what religious people call the holy spirit) and we are responsible for what we experience based on our beliefs.
Lots of love to you and your son.❤ every child with ocd deserves a mom like you. Thank you for the patience you are showing with him and uploading this to make others also aware about this condition.
My 3 year old nephew gets upset if I sit on a chair he's seen someone else use and tries to push me off it. I say nothing and just move so he'll calm down. He's been improving since he started preschool, although he cried on his first day because he'd never been left by Mummy and Daddy at a place where he didn't know anyone. He's made some friends and likes it there.
@@ZLT4 I think it was a compromise between his OCD that didn't want his mom putting ,chocolate, pudding on her finger and him being a kid and wanting chocolate pudding (like really wanting) soooo mother's finger gets violated ( pudding is off finger and pudding is in mouth)
Oh wow. I have OCD and I know the exact feeling that little boy was feeling. That piece of paper feels like terror. Literally feels like you are about to lose your life. I am so glad this mom was able to get a diagnosis and is helping him work through these episodes.
@@kymclinton3140 no what you suggested is abuse. My grandmother was like that to my mom and then myself and my sister. My mom and dad raised us right with punishment but not cruelty. No need to eat in front of the child out of spite. First he has special needs that affect his mental decisions and he's not some brat throwing a tantrum. Second if it was just a bratty kid just take away the pudding and send the kid to the room, end of story. No need to be a cruel, Bitter and spiteful parent.
I suffer from a small list of diagnosed disorders and mental illness and i really, truly, sincerely wish my mom had done more like this as i grew up. My mom would have just torn it off so i'd shut up, and that has really wrecked me as an adult. I'm learning as a 30 y/o, but it's difficult and i feel so far behind the curve. Many props to you for doing what you're doing. Hope you and Rafael are doing well!
Y’all Karen’s need to hush she isn’t making him suffer she’s trying to teach him that small things like that *the piece of paper* won’t hurt you and that you should just simply ignore it she’s teaching him
@Carlton bitch I used to have severe ocd and autism. with years of therapy I've gotten it to the high side of mild ocd. I'd give so much for this. This kid deserves more than to be controlled by ocd. this is helping break it. this is good.
@Carlton OCD, just like anything else, will only control you if you let it. He's a child and needs someone to help him understand that which is what's happening here.
as someone who was only diagnosed with ocd a few months ago, this video hits hard. i constantly repeat things over and over, and if I don’t have a good gut feeling about it, i have to redo it again and again and again. thank you for teaching that it doesn’t mean anything so early.
Hey I’m a bit curious about what you feel when you try to not do the things in an organised manner does it makes you feel anxious ? Or any other sort of stress (I’m sorry if I am being insensitive and hope you live a great life)
@@tomycat4548 I don't know if poking the pudding was part of the exposure therapy but I found it kinda amusing how he scolded her. He's very well spoken and he's adorable. His parent seems to be doing well to communicate patiently with him, I think he's got a good chance despite life long issues. I am autistic and have also been bipolar and suicidal since 4 and I think this kind of communication when I was younger would have helped me a lot more.
@@tomycat4548 what the comment above meant is that they just found the kid cute. They wouldn't make fun of him or his struggles, he just sounded cute. And, well, this wasn't said in front of him, so nothing in the comment would hurt him anyway.
That’s some exposure therapy :) can be quite helpful with OCD with time coming from someone who suffers with the disorder as well. Great job mom, love the patience.
I spent most of my life thinking I had OCD, because I was diagnosed at 8. When I was 36, I found out it was autism all along. There’s a lot of overlap between the two. What this young man is doing here is absolutely something I would have done at his age. I sought help at 36 because I had a breakdown and was almost completely nonfunctional. That’s when they realized I not only had the symptoms of OCD, but also hypersensitivity to most forms of stimulation, including bright lights and loud sounds, as well as extreme social aversion. Forcing myself to ignore these sensitivities, because acknowledging them meant I was “just being a wuss,” caused trauma to build up until my body and mind went into full revolt. I’m so glad medical professionals are so much more aware of these things these days. If they say this kid has OCD, I’m inclined to believe them, because they know so much more about these things than they did in 1993.
absolutely enthralled with the way yall talk to each other. hes so open and talkative, and it's amazing to see you teach him how to deal with his compulsions in a healthy way.
My OCD symptoms immediately understood why he said it wasn't open. I would pick the entire wrapper off as well. Now I tell myself to be like Elsa and let it go even though it would still annoy me slightly.
I was wondering, would it help to scoop the pudding into a cute bowl instead of eating from the plastic? That's what I do with a lot of packaged foods.
@@nordicpandi tbh, i would then freak out about... idk how small bits got on one side of the bowl while the other was clean. so many problems when you have ocd 🥲
@@nordicpandi it would possibly help in the short term (it might not, it depends on what his triggers are) but in the long term it's better to learn how to overcome the obsessive and compulsive behaviors. And learning with something small like this can be invaluable.
Your an angel I’m one minute in and I can wholeheartedly say that I would not be able to handle this in the kind manor you have. This is one situation and i can only imagine you deal with situations all day long. Bless your heart!
Actually cool that you let him use a full PC setup as a small child rather than a phone or an iPad like most parents do. The lack of portability means they'll be less reliant on it and he'll surely be tech-savvy in the future!
This reminds me of using full PC setup 15 years ago. One day the PC start getting trouble. I figured some things out to get it started, sometimes it did and sometimes it didn't. This also happens to my console. Years later, I learn that these kind of "fixing" things are actually help develop a kid's brain on problem solving and understanding things
A lot of parent can't afford to get a PC set up for the child plus kids be pretty naive on the internet so they might just straight up download a virus or some malware. It's just more convenient to get something portable that's more child friendly.
@@weelee4352For young children, having a designated area for internet time (PC or tablets) seems safer to me, like a family computer in the kitchen. My parents were somewhat protective of me, being the youngest, but I still got exposed to a lot of messed up stuff at like the age of 11 through my Ipod on instagram. I learned to cope with my emotions through self mutilation at 11 and I'm still working on undoing that through therapy. Also just the amount of death I saw at a young age, y'know videos of people shooting each other in the head or getting run over by cars. To be fair though, it was part of my (still is a little) generations culture of trying to watch the most effed up thing you can possibly stomach. Not saying all kids should be cut off from the internet, but maybe toddlers don't need to be on here and maybe we should keep in mind the kind of content kids can get access to on here
The kid is extremely well spoken for his age and you’ve clearly taught him well, you were able to reason with him and solve the problem :) I kinda wish I had someone to do that with me because I still hate it when things don’t open properly lol (someone with probable ocd and autism, I think)
Don’t self diagnose. Next time your with your primary care, ask to be referred to a neurologist so you can be evaluated properly. It may be something else if you genuinely feel that something is off and it is important to know what that something else is.
I wouldn’t diagnose thinks like autism without a professional. If u have the chance to go to a doctor or therapist you should it can really help and u can get the help u might need.
@@seirrajohnson8840 I agree ..but I feel like ocd is pretty easy to self diagnose when you suffer from it .. not everybody has the same symptoms though ..I'm not a clean freak at all ..infact I'm very messy even unintentionally. But with the intrusive thoughts and number thing I can tell I have it ..don't really feel like being diagnosed with another thing though ..haven't had the best luck with mental health places either.. they always told me I was depressed when I was a kid when I really wasn't feeling like that ...and somehow they missed my anxiety disorder for the longest until I came to them and told them I had it when I was 18..
@@seirrajohnson8840 A lot of people self-diagnose due to how long it takes to get a diagnosis or being misdiagnosed (my sister is going on 6 years with a possible disautonomia, some gut/digestion issue, and other things they would want reviewed). While I fully understand saying "just go see a professional"... That really can be a very long time to sit in limbo pretending nothing is going on.
@@seirrajohnson8840 I believe that it’s okay to say that you strongly suspect you have a disorder and that’s probably what they meant by self diagnose. As long as they don’t claim that they have a professional diagnosis and are seeking out ways to get a diagnosis it should be fine.
The way you handled this was beautiful. Curt, but, collected, and acknowledging his concerns. I have severe ocd, so I wish I had this type of reinforcement growing up
For people that don’t understand what OCD feels like, It does NOT matter how irrational to YOU it seems, if you don’t do that one thing, no matter HOW ridiculous or irrational it seems, it makes our hearts beat faster, and our mind literally hurt and is almost physically painful to NOT complete something you are obsessive about. In someone with OCD’s mind, if they don’t peel off an entire lid like in this vid, or wear the right color socks on a certain day (my personal example) then something bad WILL happen. It will completely consume us until that one thing is done correctly in our minds. It is extremely distressing.
my friend is exactly what you're describing. Though tbh he doesn't seem and act like a guy who have ocd which at first confuses me but eventually I understand
but your not gonna actually die so stpo being a pussy about it, just eat the god damn pudding or dont eat at all. if you want to make everything perfect then give it to someone who knows how to appreciate things, starving kids in africa for example
It's great that you understanding, thank you. Different people with OCD have different symptoms. I would recommend reading up on it more because knowledge is what really helps spread awareness and help us. There is so much more to it than the typical internet " I'm so OCD" tropes.
@@NaesGalaxy It literally is a disability. Are you mentally disabled yourself? You've never had it. This is why I hate liberals and conservatives, they both pretend to understand the mental states of racial groups and disabled people. And the reason I say this is because you're probably a conservative.
@@dogdayz3821 no, shes not lmao, in the long run she's helping him. This will teach him coping methods and she's trying to reassure him that he'll be okay if everything isn't always exactly the way he wants it to be.
@@dogdayz3821 sorry, I feel like I worded that response weirdly, but from what I've seen with ocd, it's not a matter of wanting perfection, it's a matter of an individuals perfection, so she's trying to help him understand that everything won't always be his "perfect" and that it's okay when it's not, hopefully hopefully makes more sense lol
"it's gonna control my whole life" that's it that's the feeling... omg such a little kid, the mom is so patient. As much as we know it's nothing, our brain will tell us we'll live and die thinking pbsessively about it. A pudding lid, something we have to say to somebody, a lock we have to check.
It feels wrong that she’s pushing him because it’s clearly upsetting him, but it’s the right way forward to help him in the long run.
You put it exactly right. The first instinct is, "just tear the paper off for him", and that would definitely be quicker and easier in childhood, but he will suffer so so so much more if he grows up without learning coping skills. Brava to Mama for doing the hard shit.
he'll suffer more in the future if his mom didn't teach him like that
This was 3 years ago calm down
As a mother who did the accommodating, I can assure you that this mother did the right thing. My daughter’s OCD led to two months in the hospital, a week of which was in the ICU. If I could turn back time, I would have done exactly what this parent did.
It's worth the struggle for coping skills in life. You have to do the hard stuff!!
"That little piece of paper isn't gonna control your whole life"
No joke, that's some powerful words there.
death note: not really
Right, especially with the whole "papers please" coming soon to everywhere near you!
That words make me cry, she is in pain for her boy, but she is amazing
A clap for her, that's the way of helping your child
@@mr.noneyabidness you mean vaccine passes right?
@@mr.noneyabidness i
my son got up in the middle of the night just to put his sister's shoes where they belonged and then went back to bed.
Damn im so sorry for him :(( live with ocd is SO HARD. ITS SUFFERING
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oh my
@@carolnahigian9518 Im praying for him too : (
@@tomycat4548 I'm so sorry and yes it is suffering
What strikes me about it is how sincere he is. He's clearly not just being stubborn or obstinate. He actually has a hard time seeing past the scrap of cover.
He's spoiled!
@@WheeledHamster how is he spoiled
@@WheeledHamster You don’t even know the meaning of that word. If he was spoiled, his reaction would’ve been “How come there is only one? I want two!!” Being spoiled is always wanting more, because you think what you have isn’t enough. That wasn’t the situation. He genuinely couldn’t see past that tiny little wrapper still remaining. The wrapper was taken off, but not all the way. It was extreme unsatisfactory, and his mind wouldn’t allow him to move past it. It’s OCD.
@@WheeledHamster bro
@@WheeledHamster you clearly don’t understand ocd
She teaches him *Enjoy your moment and Focus on what really matters, do not let irrelevant things take away your happy moment* . Excellent
How can focus on eating when he is playing on the computer? This doesn’t seem like a happy moment. The child is frustrated.
Ok but how does that help ocd
@Sejund training to let go the tiny irrelevant thing by focusing on the real thing and that is the chocolate pudding. Let go
Happy? He looks miserable, I'd be to with her bad attitude.
It's a mental disorder
OCD isnt “oh i want things organized.”
OCD is torture.
I don't have OCD, but just seeing how it affects people who have it is what makes me hate the people who don't have it who are like "tHiS trIgGeRs mY OcD".
I have OCD, and you are absolutely correct. People seem to forget that the D is disorder, as in a serious problem. Everyone has things they prefer. That's not the same as OCD
@@trickytreyperfected1482 my relative says that yet he has no ocd and it’s disappointing a million
I have ocd and I can agree, you sometimes have to stand somewhere for a few minutes just to adjust the littlest things
@@abBensch Thank you for pointing out that D is for disorder. As someone with OCD, I think people people forget that the C is compulsive, as in something we feel an insatiable need to do
to anyone who is saying she is “being mean” and pushing him she is doing the absolute right thing. you have to be exposed to these things or else it’ll just get worse
yea..i can confirm it, as someone with ocd that's been undiagnosed for a while and no one would expose such things to me definitely damaged me and my perception of things for a while - breaking out of that is worse than accepting it while you got the chance to
Yeah erp (Exposure and response prevention therapy) is good bc you’re teaching yourself that things that trigger you aren’t as dangerous or scary as your brain makes it seem. Ive had ocd since I was a kid but it was undiagnosed. When I turned 21 it exploded and got to a point it was almost ruined my life completely. I did erp mostly by myself and now know how to live with my ocd.
what is the flag other than the mlm flag on ur pfp
@@saijito I’ve had OCD as a kid too my family always saw it as weird quirky things but never enough to get tested. My OCD has since resulted in severe skin picking and I’m 21 just been diagnosed with ADHD 2 months ago but my problems run deeper. I feel like OCD is controlling me currently. What did you do for yours?
Yes. But he was right about the finger. Long fingernails - a lot of bacteria under them, even if you wash them.
"That piece of paper is not going to control your whole life."
What a wonderful and supportive Mom ♥️
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So now I’m crying because you gave him the words!!! You gave him the words to fight his brain. Bravo, Mama! And Bravo Rafael!!! You got this!
I have OCD and although it looks like she is making him uncomfortable, in the long run it will help and help him get better.
Thank you, I hope you are dealing well with this!
My favorite part is him just eating the pudding at the end.
I was blown away as to how she was able to use reason to get to him. I guess that this child is just super intelligent, so he gets it. Don’t get me wrong, mom is super intelligent as well.
Edit: When I was young, my parents had no idea what OCD was, and I didn’t either. I’m not trying to downgrade my parents in anyway, please know that.
Ohh! I was getting angry because I thought she was just being mean! So, thank you for sharing!! 🙌
It’s almost like you said almost exactly what someone else said.
“and that little piece of paper is not gonna control your whole life” such POWERFUL words. you’re an amazing mother. you’re doing everything you’re supposed to be doing for him. you were presented with an extra obstacle in parenthood but are handling so well and making sure he gets through it.
These were very simple yet wise words. Mom probably has a philosophy degree. Or perhaps, psychology?
The first part of the video was mildly stressful to watch because of the boy's distress, but it's so great to see him reach a point of realization that the paper is okay and move past it, with the guidance of his mom.
It can't be cured I have OCD and I got really mad at my best frenemy when she wouldn't let me go to my locker to drop my volleyball uniform off when I known I had time too, so I went to my locker anyways and she said something trying to get me in trouble I didn't speak to her for a week.
I totally get you. Having OCD is like living in a parallel universe. I haven't begun my therapy yet, but for more than 20 years I didn't know I had it... so of course my first reaction was that it couldn't be true, because it's been my whole world. It almost feels like having been blindfolded for years and gotten lost along the way.
I don't know your story, but please please please -- OCD can be cured.
1. Fight to find a therapist that you can trust. Competence and training can vary between care providers.
2. Don't try to fix the disease by yourself, because it needs to be tackled step by step... and I for one have no idea where to start because I've tried everything. For example I've stayed up whole nights trying to find answers and solutions without succeeding. I wouldn't blame myself for feeling that nothing works. :/ BUT a good and patient therapist knows that the "blindfold" needs to be removed slooowly, so that your eyes have time to adjust to life's bright light :)
I hope this doesn't offend you, maybe you've heard all of this before and as I said, I don't know your whole story. But I mean well and I really root for you!!!😊 Take care!
He'll learn about money soon enough
1:55 you're violating the chocolate pudding !!! you get your CONSEQUENCES
@@mayowhishes lol
Can we just appreciate how even though she was persistent in not taking off the wrapper, she didn’t yell at him, or even seem frustrated with him and seemed like she really wanted to help him get better. That’s what I aspire to be when I’m a parent.
Same
She got the spirit. But frankly she was annoying as hell the way she said it.
@@magicman6749 How should she of said it? I think she had to be stern there or else he would have kept persisting.
AMEN!
i bet there is a "time or two" when you don't have the camera on yourself.
This made me tear up. I have OCD and my childhood was hell because my parents never showed this amount of patience with me when dealing with my mental illness. You're a good mom.
It can be made harder when the parents don't understand it or how to treat it. I wouldn't guess that a lot of people have very much patience either - but I grew mine over many years!! Hope you were able to get the treatment you need and are doing well now. Thanks a lot!
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me too. my parents never understood what was wrong with me, so when i threw a fit i got in trouble a whole lot! but after i got diagnosed, they understood much more.
Yes! Same deal with me, I also have anxiety and depression. This doesn’t help. I’m glad to see this boy getting help at a young age.
Pardon me, but OCD is not a mental illness
It makes me happy that he was able to be diagnosed at such a young age, took me 24 years
It definitely helps when youre diagnosed and people around you know what it is and can help you with it!
lol we have the same name
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@@FoolyLiving Hes blessed to have you as his mom
@@shashlik7959 bc it’s much easier
I have OCD and autism and let me tell you IT SUCKS. As a 12 year old, I can say that I hate OCD more than I hated my friend in 3rd grade for accidentally making my treehouse fall.
It does suck sometimes, but you will learn that its a blessing and a gift because you are able to think differently. If you get help with the hard parts, the good parts of it become that much better! Rafael is now 11 years old so you guys are the same age!
As a person who suffers with OCD I’m so heartbroken. I know what he’s feeling and it’s the worst. Thank you to the person helping him deal with this situation your amazing. And I hope he over time will fully get rid of his OCD. This is a real disorder it doesn’t make you clean.
Edit (omg I’ve never gotten this many likes before! Thank you guys so much!)
Happy to hear that, how do you heal that than ? I was also feel her mom is really great and full of patience.
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@@antoineolivier1287 bro.....
I also am OCD. It breaks my heart watching him so distraught over it. It irritates me that she won’t just take off the piece of paper for him, but I understand she’s trying to help him get over his OCD. What a tough situation. I couldn’t even imagine what the path would be like to get over OCD.
@@antoineolivier1287 you suffer from OCD too. There's actually a form that Grammer is a trigger. You are not alone.
As someone with OCD that affects nearly every moment of my life, it’s absolutely wonderful to see you working with him and through his ticks and urges, especially at such a young age.
As someone who also suffers, she will never know how horrible it feels! But he is lucky to have that level of understanding, you can see his struggle.
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OCD is torture. I'm obsessed with handwashing. I can't imagine being diagnosed with it at only 3 years old!
I was 24.
Mom is doing a great job but i'm afraid that his future wife or partner won't be this patient... 😞
@@martap.548 hopefully by the Time he's older he won't have these issues if his mom works on it. I'm not seeing how this is ocd though. He doesn't look anxious at all or atleast didn't express anything bad happening if it wasn't opened. Just picky about the way it was opened. The main part of ocd that makes it odc is the fear of dying or something bad happening. Like with hand washing, you feel like you will catch a sickness if you don't constantly wash hands. And it causes you to basically have a panick attack if you don't. I know this because people always thought I had ocd but I couldn't be diagnosed with it without that being my motivation for what I do. You can have obsessive compulsive behaviors without being ocd. I don't think treating him for ocd will hurt him but I'm wondering why she came to that conclusion. Ocd is a bitch and it's not cool to throw that phrase around just for fun.
It breaks my heart seeing such a young child having to experience this horrible disorder 😔
Makes me cry .
I’m lucky to have improved 20+ years later. I didn’t know what OCD was and yet I had it really bad in elementary school.
It is gonna be good for him in the future, he is training now ti be a warrior. As soon it happens soon he'll become so wonderfull person
Disorder, plus Illness.
Clomipramine or Floexetine (Prozac) is the solution
I appreciate her calm voice, it really helps when people are patient with you and your triggers, and I'm saying this as someone with OCD and anxiety. Unfortunately my mother usually gets angry with me for doing compulsive things and it only makes the behaviors worse bc I get stressed out. I'm glad this mother is committed to helping her son, watching him eventually eat the pudding made me smile :)
She is strengthening him so that the ocd doesn't control him later. She is very patient and wonderful. Especially when he almost ate her finger.....twice. He had trouble eating it from a cup that had that piece of little bitty paper but had nooo problem putting her whole finger in his mouth. The cutest thing EVER!
OCD is hell later in Life when it isn't treated early on. I've known many friends growing up that were just as stubborn. Not nearly as cute when they are eighteen years old and *WILL* fight over the simplest things.
Wouldnt call it "strengthing" him but sure. Lmao
@@genesisexodus4687 as someone with OCD it actually can be really helpful to have someone you care about rationalize an obsession when you can’t see things clearly for yourself. Even as an adult, I appreciate when my people tell me that I’ll be okay if I let certain little obsessions go, because sometimes it does feel so stressful (even if really I would be okay/better off to walk away from it). I have situational OCD, so seemingly random things like pudding wrappers can be triggers.
@@genesisexodus4687 well she's trying to help him control himself...I did the same with my little brother and he's gotten so much better now.
As someone with severe OCD I can confirm real germs do not bother me. Real germs die quite easily compared to how much I have to scrub myself to get the feeling from OCD to go away.
it was so rewarding when he took a bite. even if i’m just a stranger. you’re a great mom!
No she isn’t. This OCD appears to be caused by insensitive and inconsiderate parenting that exasperates children
OCD aside, anybody note how smart and articulate this three year old is?
OCD means you have higher IQ
I thought he would make a good cop
Kids a genius
@Parker Black man literally said not really, how is that a burn lmao
These are sanskaras from past life 🧬
_All the garbage soft parents in these comments who are raising a generation of entitled brats calling this mother a bad mother because she's trying to teach her child with OCD coping and managment skills when he gets older._ I would have given anything to have a Mom like this when I was a kid. She clearly is a caring and loving mom.
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I think calling them garbage is a bit harsh. They clearly just don’t understand how to deal with OCD
mom: that little piece of paper is not gonna control your whole life
him: its gonna (eyes widen) control my whole life
She was about to lose it😶 but nah she has the patient🖤
@@salsa3142 now i know what my ma had to put up with when i was his age... I grew over it, so shall he. Good for mum.
This line is exactly what having OCD is like... Its so sad
I burst out laughing to this im so sorry but it was just too cute and hillarious
thats how OCD works he is gonna die if it wont open
The way parents talk to kids when they’re young is the way kids talk to themselves when they’re older. I don’t know much about OCD but I think this lady is doing a good job! It hurts now but helps in the long run.
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Must be why I'm always super critical and cruel to myself...
@psylerious could u be more annoying if u tried
Him licking the finger was so adorable 😂 like I'm gonna disagree but no chocolate pudding is getting wasted for you to prove your fact! He's so precious
Yeah, I aww'd irl so adorable 😂
His whole reason why he wants the remaining lid to be removed was he wants to make sure there not a single drop of that pudding is underneath it
So it's logical in his mind to suck it off of his mother's finger.
I thought of it as hiding the evidence.
@@yusrailyas8674 may Allah help you sis
“Its gonna control my whole life!”
Such a patient, smart mother!! He didn’t throw a fit because his mother was tender and intelligent
For anyone who thinks the mom is being rude this is actually a great way to help ocd not get worse.
I've seen treatment for ocd with adults and its similar. It may seem harsh but that is how to go about it.
Edit: i didn't get any notifications from TH-cam for the responses. Wth! Anyway just ignore trolls.
she is in the wrong.
@@agustdz-w9b How'd you know?
@@agustdz-w9b I can’t with this world
@@agustdz-w9b this gotta be a joke😑🤡
@@agustdz-w9b so she should let him get upset over every little thing and not learn to control it?
People are saying she’s triggering/distressing him; exposure therapy IS distressing, but it’s necessary. We need to learn how to be comfortable in extremely uncomfortable situations.
Exactly. I suffered with OCD and exposure therapy like this helped me overcome it
Plus, not everyone in this world will cater toward him by, in a metaphorical sense, removing that last piece of lid despite the pudding being ready to eat.
And he also gets a yummy treat afterwards (chocolate pudding) she helping him💜
It seemed like she was cruel and inconsiderate at first but in reality, she just doesn't want her child to be controlled by their ticks. Good job recognizing his OCD early on and doing what you can to aid his future! Much love for what you do
Yah
I totally relate it
Sometimes it gets worse and we can't even travel in public space
So yah the mother is doing good thing
Cause if you grow up and don't control your tics it gets worse
I can relate. My son has Asperger's and ADHD and showed signs of OCD as well. I do the best I can to get him past the ones I can. He has enough to adapt to he doesn't need anymore.
I don't think she seems cruel at any moment...? This would be a good exercise for any kid but specially for someone with OCD. It's great to be taught that little inconveniences like this one shouldn't dictate our life.
Treatment involves some exposure therapy. Hard though.
@@Nicna86 ideally, this should be done with the help of a therapist who can understand how far is safe to push at one time..
1:03 oh he was OFFENDED 😭🤣🤣🤣🤣 love this kid. Girl stop putting your finger in his chocolate pudding 😭😭😭
i love how he licks the finger and he's happy for a split moment and then he's like wtf woman what did you just do
This 😂❤️
Yes. He had to see it to believe it. Mom's smart
“Violating my finger”
For his age, he's really intelligent and he expresses his thoughts really well. Props to mum for being so patient with him♥️
Really. I didn't know that the 3 years old kids can be so intelligent. But.. I don't know much of children.
His intelligence and this OCD kind of reminds me of characters like Sheldon Cooper.
Yes exactly he's distressed but there's nothing babyish about how he's expressing himself. He knows exactly what he wants, how he feels, and how to express himself. He's clearly a remarkable little boy.
Highly intelligent children are much more likely to have anxiety issue
He was pretty articulate about his wants and needs. He has a sense of maturity because of the condition it seems.
Honestly I get kinda mad in my head sometimes with how dumb some kids are nowadays and how hard to understand they are. I can understand him clearly
It's interesting to see OCD through the eyes of a child. His thoughts and ideas haven't been influenced by the world. When he says "it's not open" is the genuine truth to him. An adult living with OCD would create excuses or justifications. He is open and honest that in his mind, unless every scrap of lid is gone, that pudding cup is as good as closed, and eating from it gives him as much anxiety and discomfort as if I wanted you to eat a candy bar with the wrapper still on.
I mean is it a Snickers? Also props to the mom for the subtle "imma put my finger in it" because hopefully there is some subtle learning or conditioning going on to help him not be triggered by food being touched or hands being "dirty".
This is normal behavior
He didn’t express not liking the pudding, he is jot comfortable eatingit not "completely" open but he still likes it he said it tastes good
@@avocado2567 it isn't
@@avocado2567 it isnt, a normal child with no kind of problems would not complain about a single detail.
She’s really patient with him and though a lot of people would think for god sake just let him do it this is very necessary with children suffering from ocd this will teach him and help him to let little things go easier and her giving into it would only fuel the ocd more. I really loved how she handled it perfect!
The fact that the OCD is that bad it must be annoying, but the fact a 3 year has that good, proper English is amazing he will grow to be amazing.
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Has that good of proper English.
I was like this too
He has a better vocabulary than you ☠️ “but the fact a 3 year has that good of proper English”
@@joncampos5551 That's what I was going to point out as well :D
What does having proper English have to do with growing to be amazing?
"I cant eat it" *proceeds to eat it off moms finger* lmao this made me crack up, so wholesome, its good that the urge to eat pudding is more powerful then his OCD
Mom stating he violated her finger there also made me laugh lol
It's still ocd.
Chocolate on fingers doesn't look neat.
@@bumblebee4280 OCD isn’t just about being neat
@@bumblebee4280 who cares what looks neat?? This mom is helping her son adapt to society
@@samg873
I don't think you understand my comment.
I didn’t really get it until she said
“That little piece of paper isn’t going to control your whole life” …. That made me tear up. Yes it could be less stressful for you to just take 2 sec and take it off but I understand that you are really helping him and it’s wholesome for me to watch. That’s love
The problem is when you give into their compulsions they get worse not better. I have an adult family member who was enabled w his compulsions & he makes everyone else’s life hell.
@@MiriamTheGreat mee too unfortunately I moved out of my house because my family member’s actions started to really affect my mental health
that's the purest and simplest way to explain how this works... it's difficult really... it's not just "wanting certain things a certain way", it's it bothering you so much that is considerably effects your mental state... it mostly gets better with aging but..
Top tier parenting right here.
It cracks me up so much when he basically says “actually mom, it will ruin my life” haha. Adorable.
Trust me, as somebody diagnosed with this shitty disorder it’s NOT adorable…. When he’s saying that piece of paper will ruin his life, he’s going through what’s called an obsession. And obsessions are fucking awful. They can get really bad and eat away at you, to the point where you stop functioning. That mom is doing the right thing by training Rafael to not pick at the little piece of paper. The more he picks at it, the more it will ACTUALLY ruin his life. OCD is painful. People constantly find it cute. Until it sends you to the hospital. Which is exactly what happened to me before I finally got treated for it. It’s fuckin scary.
People need to stop saying how OCD is cute, it's not. Yes, he's a little boy so it may seem cute, and quirky, but that little boy really believed that the paper was going to control his life. OCD is a serious condition, and should not be taken as a cute little behaviour, it is horrible.
@@sdma6005 I think you're misunderstanding me here.
In no way am I saying that obsessive-related disorders are cute. Any mental disorder that disrupts somebodies quality of life, ain't cute.
But I don't think that that means nothing related to said disorder can't at all be "positive". I certainly believe that the child had a distressing fixation on it, but I don't think based on his age and tone, he really thought it would ruin his life.
He is really suffering and this is hard to watch. So much patience from Mom.
Yea I felt so bad for him, to be sooo stressed out about small things, poor baby
@Lee Hawthorn OCD
This is normal for us tho
I honestly feel so bad for the child and tremendous respect for the parents that handle these situations it's not easy to do things like this all day everyday. That's why when I see a parent yell or look like they are going through something I don't judge it's easy for you to say cute and adorable from the outside but you never dealt with this everyday.
It never ends. It is a debilitating disease that holds a person in its evil grasp. It is so hard to watch your child unable to live freely and to reach their own potential
Having been married to a man with ADHD for 47 years and have 2 adult sons with bipolar, I feel I have a pretty good idea of what she’s going through. As he gets older he will learn to adapt to this and discover ways to mitigate the condition somewhat. Each one of us is unique, beautiful and so very interesting. With a mom like that, he will be fine.
I have the same damn disorder. It's so annoying
I love you for your knowledge and empathy
I have ADHD and panic disorder with generalized anxiety, and this makes me so sad. To be so young and plagued by the burden of mental illness. 😢 This poor baby. Praying for him.
Poor kid. I feel bad for him. Hope he overcomes his OCD for the most part. So it doesn’t hurt him and control his life. That’s the best anyone can hope.
You never "overcome" OCD. It's like anything. You learn to live with it. No other choice.
Oh wow you're kinda cute magic man haha
@@sharonjensen3016 Actually I have OCD type 4. I saw 2 specialists in OCD and behavioral health. And I was the worst case they’d ever seen. I would spend all day washing my hands and taking a long shower. It took years but I overcame my OCD for the most part. I used to take 4 and half hour showers it now takes me 15 minutes. Don’t tell me what is possible with OCD. I’ve overcame it. Nothing is impossible
@@jadejaguar69 thanks. Are you male or female?
Wow 441 likes in 5 days. More than I expected. Thanks everyone. Keep the likes comming.
The violation of mom’s finger is funny lol
It's not about the finger, it's about THAT'S MY PUDDING! Hahahaha
🤣
😂😂😂
He had to take back his stolen pudding.
Its cuz the finger covered with pudding was annoying him. At least I assume so on account of his OCD.
He will grow up to be very intelligent coz mom is smart.
you and just a guy without a mustache have something in common...
That's so true!
You are the reason behind all the suffering on this planet. I hope you realize it and think it through every moment of the reminder of your life.
True
bro u are everywhere LOL
I have OCD so I’m allowed to laugh and 2:36 “IT WILL HAPPEN” sent me six feet under 😭😭😭
As someone battling OCD, thank you for the way you’re speaking to your child. I’m an adult and people get so angry and frustrated about my OCD, which upsets and angers me because I can’t help behaving the way I do. Honestly think dealing with everyone’s stigma is a harder battle than the OCD itself
I'm not arguing or criticizing you. I know there are a lot of people that have OCD and it's a really big problem for them. I don't know if I have OCD or not. Some things bother the hell out of me and it's like something's pecking at my head telling me to fix it. I don't know if that's just me being particular or me having OCD. And then you have the people who don't understand that it's a disorder and they use it as an excuse for their personality or the way they act. They claim that they have it without ever being diagnosed with it. For some reason it's becoming a trend to pretend you have disorders.
@@lunarcorpse I find there’s a very fine line between being particular and actually having OCD traits. My therapist diagnosed me years back, but I do understand where you’re coming from. People who are neat and tidy and say “oh I’m so OCD haha” like it’s quirky or cool are the worst
@@laurx39 Yeah, for sure. It almost feels like an invalidation when people do that. It's like with some gamers say they have PTSD when playing a game and they have no idea what PTSD is or the trauma that comes with it. I have PTSD and I got it around 3 years old because I was molested and beaten those are my first memories. It is the direct cause of my depression, panic disorder, anxiety disorder, and social anxiety disorder. I also have abandonment trauma and rejection trauma that's where the social anxiety comes in. People think it's cool or fun to make fun of these debilitating disabilities. It really needs to stop because it makes it harder for people like us to seek help.
@@lunarcorpse It’s very disheartening to hear your story and I feel bad for you and hope you the best life ahead of you. I’ve only ever been diagnosed with ADD but I have symptoms of other disorders that my parents haven’t went straight to ask a doctor about. It irks me that it’s becoming a “trend” but I see less of it thankfully. I do still know and see that there are attention seekers lurking out there and it pisses me off. I try my best not to tell my symptoms to other people because I don’t need sympathy. People do often ask if I have disorders that I don’t care to list right now. My severity for these symptoms isn’t very high (at least I think) but I’ve been dealing with symptoms for as long as I can remember though I do have trouble with long term memory’s I remember major events where my symptoms were prevalent. Strong emotions over whelm me and last for longer than anybody else I know. Sometimes the slightest sad feeling turns to me bawling my eyes out even though I don’t know why or feel sad enough to cry. I’m glad videos like this show how symptoms of disorders are and how to help your child. But I hope people keep in mind symptoms are different for everyone and no two are gonna be exactly the same.
@@Will_ig Yeah, I know exactly how that feels. I was finally able to get a psychiatrist and a therapist. The best kind of therapist talks to you and gives you relatable stories that way they can relate to you and help you better understand your emotions. If you have a therapist that's just listening to you you get wrapped up in your emotions and you're just a baling mess the entire time. And that is not good for you mentally. She said she could sense my anxiety when talking to me and she said when she thinks I am ready will dive deeper into it. My sister has anxiety when it comes to cooking and cleaning. She starts stemming and she can't stop. So she gets ready-made meals or she gets take out. Sometimes I will make the food for her. I usually tell people my disabilities so they don't feel like I am ignoring them or being too critical. I want them to know I'm not doing it on purpose. And I've been told that I might be autistic but I don't have the money to get tested for that. My sister might be autistic too.
mom: We're not trying to do that
Rafael: We're trying to do that
It's truly an infallible argument
lol
He is so tormented!
These are not the droids you're looking for
The fact that some people immediately say to starve the kid and that he has rude manners and how they would hurt him to get their way and call it "tough love" just shows a lot about their childhood. This was years ago, he's older now. The mother is doing amazing so don't tell her how to parent HER child.
It’s because people don’t understand. They only think about how they would react in the situation. They don’t understand enough about OCD to actually acknowledge what is going on
@@misshannahfirefly Bro what 💀
@@misshannahfireflybro stfu
Ikr
Given that he’s already somehow got it into his lil’ head that eating that pudding will require the whole lid to come off, as far as he’s concerned she IS cruelly withholding dessert from him! 🤣
He's very well-spoken and eloquent, especially for only being 3. Hope he's doing much better now and has a happy life. :)
He didn’t like your finger in the pudding either. Poor little dude. Good for you for encouraging him to overcome it.
It’s not something you can “overcome.” It’s a disorder. You can learn to live with it. :( Sometimes as an adult it gets a little better, mine did.
@@JenMarAnnRei they’re not saying that he’s overcoming the disorder, just that he was encouraged to overcome this obstacle within the disorder. even if it was just one time, he was able to overcome it.
I would not have eaten it after that finger.
I don't have ocd but I wouldn't like that either
@@LukeSumIpsePatremTe As a 3-year old you would’ve
She is really calm and patient with him. I like how she works with him instead of just losing her patience like people have done with me.
Am sorry. My son was just diagnosed last week at age 12. For a long time I didn't understand. I shouted and was more often frustrated. It hurts to know his feelings were genuine and that I was a crapy mum. I pray you and him get to overcome the hurt people who are supposed to love you put you through. I truly love my son. Just had mo clue about OCD
@@708Chrystal hey, you’re not a bad mum at all. OCD is a complex thing to deal with especially in children/teenagers. You simply didn’t know how to respond to their behaviours, but now you know why. Please don’t beat yourself up my love, you’re doing amazing x
I mean yeah, especially since he's only 3. because imagine losing your patience and completely melting down on a 3yr old 💀💀
As an adult who has suffered with OCD since I was 8 years old…he knows that it’s open. However the fact that all the paper isn’t gone off the top disturbs his sense of symmetry and gives him anxiety…it feels “uneven,” so to speak. I get it. I really do. Poor little guy. This is so rough.
Great explanation for what’s happening….. I’ve worked through my ocd somewhat and this is a 💎📠🫡
I dont have ocd so its different for me, but for some reason I feel like everything I make has to be even and if it isnt im... uncomfortable? idk how to describe it
@@adoringfan5295 Usually thats anxiety or perfectionism, my friends have it too so its kind of common I guess
Do you know about the golden ratio?
rafael is so cute 💔 he is so brave for having to struggle with this
He's so cute... the mother has great patience and I applaud her! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I hope that in time he can overcome it.
He can't its a disorder.
@@ShikadaiNara10 which is why it's being treated with therapy which will eventually help him to either overcome it completely, or at the very least manage it to some degree.
Kid needs to be told be no
Every mother has great patience I believe ..
@@JoeSki253 and you need to be told not to open your mouth to give an opinion on a subject that you clearly know nothing about. Either go educate yourself, or keep your yap shut next time.
That is a very articulate 3 year old. He expresses himself so well.
Thank you so much. He's a really bright child. He has a little sister that has really helped him overcome some of his OCD issues. They really talk it out together!
@@FoolyLiving I believe that vaccines are responsible for so much that is going on with children. The big pharma and the system in general are NOT your friend.
@@FoolyLiving Try giving him magnesium-B6 suplementation.
It will not change his high attention to detail and order, but it will calm down the obsessive thinking over it. Ergo, more chill about it.
it didn't do that when i was 2y/o
People with OCD are smarter than average folk.. I have OCD :)
It’s actually a super power. No need for him to get rid of it. Maybe manage it the best he can as I have learned to since I was diagnosed and growing up with it. Nothing wrong with having OCD even if others label you weird or don’t understand you. This kid could be a great detective, doctor, writer or anything he wants to be when he grows up and better than the average schmo too.
I literally cried watching it, I have OCD since I was his age and I know how difficult it is. THIS MOM IS A SUPER HERO!!!! AMAZING JOB RAISING HIM!!!
I CRY TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
What has helped you?
*had
@@hitlersgran2376 *has…she still has OCD…it’s not past tense.
Nah this mom ain't right.
That seems like a very challenging condition to deal with. Glad he’s getting the help he needs. Very adorable child.
@@ataraxia7439 trust me, it is. it's extremely detrimental to mental health and caused me really bad depression a few years ago. thankfully i'm doing great now, but OCD is no joke, and I wish people didn't treat it as something that's just "wanting things to be symmetrical" or "cleaning things."
I’m an adult with OCD and I remember as a kid I had to blink the exact amount of times on each eye when I was his age. If one blinked and I didn’t do the other it would destroy my day because things were uneven. He’s a great young boy and you’re a wonderful mom!!
Do you ever tidy your bed up and put the covers over then have to put the little bumps back down? I deal with this. Also I have to make all of my steps even.
@@Aden068 Everyone has a little bit of these traits inside themselves. What separates you from being organized and potentially getting an evaluation/diagnosis, is if you feel threatened/pressured to do these kinds of things. If you willingly do these things, it's probably not OCD. It could be an anxiety disorder, though. Sorry for the late response!
@@NaesGalaxyhow do u give a disorder value???????? how tf do u feed it???
@@anisaislam3161 lmao not them treating mental disorders like a gd chia pet 💀 If you cry about it, your tears will make the damn thing grow sprouts and photosynthesize ig.
damn i have autism and i have similar problem
This actually makes me feel kinda sad...Like, he's suffering
He's in good hands
same :(((
he should use Inside nice voice-- what a CHALLENGE!!!
@@carolnahigian9518 that’s insignificant at this point in his learning not to let insignificant things run his life.
@@carolnahigian9518 i think youre forgetting that he is a child. tell me that you havnt shouted at least once in the last year in your life
I’m sobbing. As someone who struggles with severe diagnosed OCD, I get devastated at the thought of anyone else having to go through the same thing. I would do anything to stop others from having to struggle with the torture of ocd. It takes over every second of every day and nobody deserves that.
sobbing with u 🙁 i wish my parents knew what to do. i’d do anything just to live normally.
@@henriettuhh depends on your age, but I’d try exposure response therapy:) it’s highly affective and has helped me slightly for the short amount of time I did it, and I just peaked with my ocd severity, it usually does during summer when I have more interactions with it, and I used some of the things they taught me recently. I plan to go into it soon and I encourage you to as well:))you aren’t your ocd!
@@henriettuhh in the meantime, something I learned is to never research symptoms beyond a brief explanation, it made my ocd horrible and inhumane
Just stop it
@@Bobcat8188 and she’s fixed!
OCD is seeing imperfections, and not being able to get your mind off of them if your life depended on it. You just NEED to see it fixed, it's self torture.
for me it's not even about imperfections, it's strange things my mind makes up that it gives me anxiety about.
1st world problem
It's like having a war with your mind. Your mind tells you to do something and then.... YOU HAVE TO DO IT OR ELSE.
“You don’t do that in the chocolate pudding!”
Her: Correctly handling her child's OCD
My germaphobic self: STOP STICKING YOU FINGER IN IT! 😭😭😭
Ikr like it irritated me so much 😭
Me tooo!
Are you actually germaphobic?
@@idrawstuffyt3922 youre the 4th hecker I've seen this week😭
You When You See Germans: 😭
I didn’t realise how “difficult” OCD could be for a person. I know a lot of people claiming to have that just because they have fun placing colourful objects in the order of rainbow’s colours. As far as I know there could be a range of level of OCD but the fact that it can affect your life in a very negative way makes me understand that there’s nothing funny about it
Yeah, there's a difference between "hey, it'd look cool if I organized this this way" and "if I don't organize it this way I won't be able to function".
so true, it's never about enjoying it - we don't enjoy the process -
it's about not been able to breathe or get occupied by anything else until it's done neatly and properly
Ty for learning and understanding
@@zainart1803 for me i’m usually not (primarily) affected by things that are disorderly, for me it’s weird things like bumping up against the corner of a desk or rotating my pencil back and forth or even just tapping my feet together a certain way for a certain amount of time until the anxious feeling goes away. weird little back-and-forth things that waste a lil time in comparison to just doing said things normally. sometimes i apply it to people around me too, like asking my sister to walk backwards and go around a tree differently until it feels right. weird.
Okay so I have a friend who discovered recently that she has this condition. The thing you need to understand about it is what's driving the obsessive behaviour. It's not just wanting to have things organised - true OCD is driven by intrusive, negative thoughts that won't go away. It's basically a fear disorder.
The thought process isn't "I need to wash my hands seven times" - it's "If I DON'T wash my hands over and over, something horrible will happen to me and my family". The obsessive behaviour is an attempt to stop those thoughts by doing what your brain wants you to - but because it's a disorder and not a logical thought process, that doesn't actually work, which is why you see the behaviour getting worse and worse. Washing their hands doesn't work the first time, because it was never actually the problem - so they do it again.
My friend's main symptom is that she messes with her hair. You can tell when she's having intrusive thoughts because she runs her hands through her hair over and over and over. It's a self-soothing gesture; she's trying to make the bad thoughts go away.
As a parent of a 2 (nearly 3) year old I'm shocked she got him to accept eating the pudding without any modifications in the end. I know this was years ago and all, but new to me. Since my life is different and I don't know these people it makes me think about what I would have done with my own kid, who I do know. I think I would have given him a 'safety bowl' that he did like and just served food from that one bowl to focus on the harder parts, so at least one thing in core life wasn't a struggle. I'm not sure how that would have panned out in the long run but that may also be that my child is really rowdy and high energy so I'm stuck with 'choose your battles.'
Takes a lot of patience, understanding & love. Hope this little man conquers OCD.
I used to be one of those people that believed OCD was just being a clean freak. This video opened my eyes to what OCD really is. It also made me realize that I myself have been suffering from OCD. Thank you for sharing!!
You can't self-diagnose
@@8LiterallyJustTheNumber8 Not exactly. Most people are only able to get a proper diagnosis because they self-diagnosed before it. It is important not to be so sure about it, tho.
I hate when my food touches certain foods considering I'm also bulimic. Most doctors are off on their diagnoses too. Especially when intelligence comes in different forms. He acted like an expert on that computer. Not all kids that age act like that on computers.
@@8LiterallyJustTheNumber8
People are intelligent enough to know when something's wrong, duh!
lol
@@Malkenjiro but people got proper diagnosed is with professional directions. Just because somebody have similar symptoms doesn't mean they suffer a disorder, not that simple, hence there are professionals specialized for diagnosing mental illnesses
I feel so bad for this little guy. He's clearly stressed over this and life is only going to get much harder.
We can hope for the best. Idk if u believe in God, but i hope God has a bright future for people with challenges.
@@Jibrail5726 i think your god might have given him ocd in the first place
@@joshuadominic2116 source/ creator/god’s blessings and serenity flow easily towards those who believe it to be true. if you’d rather believe that the ungodly / unwanted means there is no good god and that the world is random , than that is going to be true in your life experiences (yes plural we are eternal) until you awaken and accept that we posses god energy (what religious people call the holy spirit) and we are responsible for what we experience based on our beliefs.
@@joshuadominic2116 True, but in a society you must be nice to others.
@@Jibrail5726 I don’t believe in god so your comments don’t matter to me
Lots of love to you and your son.❤ every child with ocd deserves a mom like you. Thank you for the patience you are showing with him and uploading this to make others also aware about this condition.
36 years later, he's written 3 books about how his life was never the same after his mom left the paper on his pudding cup
Now I know why I never wanted kids. There but for the grace of someone's God go I.
This was good
My 3 year old nephew gets upset if I sit on a chair he's seen someone else use and tries to push me off it. I say nothing and just move so he'll calm down. He's been improving since he started preschool, although he cried on his first day because he'd never been left by Mummy and Daddy at a place where he didn't know anyone. He's made some friends and likes it there.
Legend
Says he’s still waiting for his mom to open it
HAHAHHAHAHAHHA
Everyone's talking about the way she is a good mother but no one's talking about how her finger was violated 😭
It really was though 🤣🤣🤣
Lmao
His brain was probably saying I need all the pudding
Nah let’s talk about how his chocolate pudding was violated 😭
@@ZLT4 I think it was a compromise between his OCD that didn't want his mom putting ,chocolate, pudding on her finger and him being a kid and wanting chocolate pudding (like really wanting) soooo mother's finger gets violated ( pudding is off finger and pudding is in mouth)
Oh wow. I have OCD and I know the exact feeling that little boy was feeling. That piece of paper feels like terror. Literally feels like you are about to lose your life.
I am so glad this mom was able to get a diagnosis and is helping him work through these episodes.
Did you got better?
Anyway people couldn’t get over those things 😥
@@kymclinton3140 a smacking for not eating pudding, youre insane.. thank god i wasnt raised by you.
@@kymclinton3140 I hope that you don't have kids.
@@kymclinton3140 no what you suggested is abuse. My grandmother was like that to my mom and then myself and my sister. My mom and dad raised us right with punishment but not cruelty. No need to eat in front of the child out of spite. First he has special needs that affect his mental decisions and he's not some brat throwing a tantrum. Second if it was just a bratty kid just take away the pudding and send the kid to the room, end of story. No need to be a cruel, Bitter and spiteful parent.
@@kymclinton3140 i feel bad for your children. literally heartless.
I suffer from a small list of diagnosed disorders and mental illness and i really, truly, sincerely wish my mom had done more like this as i grew up. My mom would have just torn it off so i'd shut up, and that has really wrecked me as an adult. I'm learning as a 30 y/o, but it's difficult and i feel so far behind the curve. Many props to you for doing what you're doing. Hope you and Rafael are doing well!
I think that you're doing really well and have overcome a lot all on your own.
@@FoolyLiving I really appreciate that, thank you
She’s calmly helping him reason rationally. Mom wins a gold medal in my book 🥇
Metal?
@@okentedits medal lmao
yes, she's amazing
Y’all Karen’s need to hush she isn’t making him suffer she’s trying to teach him that small things like that *the piece of paper* won’t hurt you and that you should just simply ignore it she’s teaching him
😭😂 @ “y’all Karen’s”
But bugs him (and me, someone who has OCD)
@Carlton bitch I used to have severe ocd and autism. with years of therapy I've gotten it to the high side of mild ocd. I'd give so much for this. This kid deserves more than to be controlled by ocd. this is helping break it. this is good.
@Carlton OCD, just like anything else, will only control you if you let it. He's a child and needs someone to help him understand that which is what's happening here.
@Carlton yes and by using exposure therapy it will in fact help him with ocd in the future
I love how shes so patient with him
We need more parents like this. AND kids haha. But she's amazing. I wish my partner with ocd had this kind of support .
@re e and youre a weirdo
as someone who was only diagnosed with ocd a few months ago, this video hits hard. i constantly repeat things over and over, and if I don’t have a good gut feeling about it, i have to redo it again and again and again. thank you for teaching that it doesn’t mean anything so early.
it's tiring. like my mind is telling me to do this and that and make it perfect or else i'll be uncomfortable or some bad things will happen.
Hey I’m a bit curious about what you feel when you try to not do the things in an organised manner does it makes you feel anxious ? Or any other sort of stress (I’m sorry if I am being insensitive and hope you live a great life)
“You don’t do that in the chocolate pudding”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Huh??? its not FUN its a kind of exposure therapy AND ITS VERY HARD FOR HIM😐
@@tomycat4548 I don't know if poking the pudding was part of the exposure therapy but I found it kinda amusing how he scolded her.
He's very well spoken and he's adorable. His parent seems to be doing well to communicate patiently with him, I think he's got a good chance despite life long issues.
I am autistic and have also been bipolar and suicidal since 4 and I think this kind of communication when I was younger would have helped me a lot more.
Trocklit pudding.
@@qwandary yea it was part of it. and for the rest of your comment i totally relate, you make it sound like if im against you-
@@tomycat4548 what the comment above meant is that they just found the kid cute. They wouldn't make fun of him or his struggles, he just sounded cute. And, well, this wasn't said in front of him, so nothing in the comment would hurt him anyway.
Watching him take a bite and overcome that was honestly amazing. Incredible work by momma.
That’s some exposure therapy :) can be quite helpful with OCD with time coming from someone who suffers with the disorder as well. Great job mom, love the patience.
Especially at a young age. He’ll be a lot better in the future if it continues!
I spent most of my life thinking I had OCD, because I was diagnosed at 8. When I was 36, I found out it was autism all along. There’s a lot of overlap between the two. What this young man is doing here is absolutely something I would have done at his age.
I sought help at 36 because I had a breakdown and was almost completely nonfunctional. That’s when they realized I not only had the symptoms of OCD, but also hypersensitivity to most forms of stimulation, including bright lights and loud sounds, as well as extreme social aversion. Forcing myself to ignore these sensitivities, because acknowledging them meant I was “just being a wuss,” caused trauma to build up until my body and mind went into full revolt.
I’m so glad medical professionals are so much more aware of these things these days. If they say this kid has OCD, I’m inclined to believe them, because they know so much more about these things than they did in 1993.
absolutely enthralled with the way yall talk to each other. hes so open and talkative, and it's amazing to see you teach him how to deal with his compulsions in a healthy way.
I love moms patience and the way she redirected him. Way to go mami you rock.
My OCD symptoms immediately understood why he said it wasn't open. I would pick the entire wrapper off as well. Now I tell myself to be like Elsa and let it go even though it would still annoy me slightly.
you're doing amazing!!
I was wondering, would it help to scoop the pudding into a cute bowl instead of eating from the plastic? That's what I do with a lot of packaged foods.
@@nordicpandi tbh, i would then freak out about... idk how small bits got on one side of the bowl while the other was clean. so many problems when you have ocd 🥲
@@nordicpandi it would possibly help in the short term (it might not, it depends on what his triggers are) but in the long term it's better to learn how to overcome the obsessive and compulsive behaviors. And learning with something small like this can be invaluable.
Your an angel I’m one minute in and I can wholeheartedly say that I would not be able to handle this in the kind manor you have. This is one situation and i can only imagine you deal with situations all day long. Bless your heart!
Actually cool that you let him use a full PC setup as a small child rather than a phone or an iPad like most parents do. The lack of portability means they'll be less reliant on it and he'll surely be tech-savvy in the future!
My own parents did that, tho we're talking twenty years ago - I think the difference helps
This reminds me of using full PC setup 15 years ago. One day the PC start getting trouble. I figured some things out to get it started, sometimes it did and sometimes it didn't. This also happens to my console. Years later, I learn that these kind of "fixing" things are actually help develop a kid's brain on problem solving and understanding things
A lot of parent can't afford to get a PC set up for the child plus kids be pretty naive on the internet so they might just straight up download a virus or some malware. It's just more convenient to get something portable that's more child friendly.
@@weelee4352For young children, having a designated area for internet time (PC or tablets) seems safer to me, like a family computer in the kitchen. My parents were somewhat protective of me, being the youngest, but I still got exposed to a lot of messed up stuff at like the age of 11 through my Ipod on instagram. I learned to cope with my emotions through self mutilation at 11 and I'm still working on undoing that through therapy. Also just the amount of death I saw at a young age, y'know videos of people shooting each other in the head or getting run over by cars. To be fair though, it was part of my (still is a little) generations culture of trying to watch the most effed up thing you can possibly stomach. Not saying all kids should be cut off from the internet, but maybe toddlers don't need to be on here and maybe we should keep in mind the kind of content kids can get access to on here
At first I was concerned that such a young kid has access to a full PC but that actually makes a lot of sense and I have changed my mind.
It's sad this little boy has to deal with this condition, but so wonderful to have a patient, loving mother to help him. He's so adorable!
The kid is extremely well spoken for his age and you’ve clearly taught him well, you were able to reason with him and solve the problem :)
I kinda wish I had someone to do that with me because I still hate it when things don’t open properly lol
(someone with probable ocd and autism, I think)
Don’t self diagnose. Next time your with your primary care, ask to be referred to a neurologist so you can be evaluated properly. It may be something else if you genuinely feel that something is off and it is important to know what that something else is.
I wouldn’t diagnose thinks like autism without a professional. If u have the chance to go to a doctor or therapist you should it can really help and u can get the help u might need.
@@seirrajohnson8840 I agree ..but I feel like ocd is pretty easy to self diagnose when you suffer from it .. not everybody has the same symptoms though ..I'm not a clean freak at all ..infact I'm very messy even unintentionally.
But with the intrusive thoughts and number thing I can tell I have it ..don't really feel like being diagnosed with another thing though ..haven't had the best luck with mental health places either.. they always told me I was depressed when I was a kid when I really wasn't feeling like that ...and somehow they missed my anxiety disorder for the longest until I came to them and told them I had it when I was 18..
@@seirrajohnson8840 A lot of people self-diagnose due to how long it takes to get a diagnosis or being misdiagnosed (my sister is going on 6 years with a possible disautonomia, some gut/digestion issue, and other things they would want reviewed). While I fully understand saying "just go see a professional"... That really can be a very long time to sit in limbo pretending nothing is going on.
@@seirrajohnson8840 I believe that it’s okay to say that you strongly suspect you have a disorder and that’s probably what they meant by self diagnose. As long as they don’t claim that they have a professional diagnosis and are seeking out ways to get a diagnosis it should be fine.
The way you handled this was beautiful. Curt, but, collected, and acknowledging his concerns.
I have severe ocd, so I wish I had this type of reinforcement growing up
What an deliberate display of patients!! You LITERALLY talked him through a mini episode and got him to power through!! That was good stuff mom!!
Amazing, wonderful angel mother. So understanding 💖
She’s def a good mom. Rare breed
For people that don’t understand what OCD feels like, It does NOT matter how irrational to YOU it seems, if you don’t do that one thing, no matter HOW ridiculous or irrational it seems, it makes our hearts beat faster, and our mind literally hurt and is almost physically painful to NOT complete something you are obsessive about. In someone with OCD’s mind, if they don’t peel off an entire lid like in this vid, or wear the right color socks on a certain day (my personal example) then something bad WILL happen. It will completely consume us until that one thing is done correctly in our minds. It is extremely distressing.
THANK YOU!!!
my friend is exactly what you're describing. Though tbh he doesn't seem and act like a guy who have ocd which at first confuses me but eventually I understand
but your not gonna actually die so stpo being a pussy about it, just eat the god damn pudding or dont eat at all. if you want to make everything perfect then give it to someone who knows how to appreciate things, starving kids in africa for example
It's great that you understanding, thank you. Different people with OCD have different symptoms. I would recommend reading up on it more because knowledge is what really helps spread awareness and help us. There is so much more to it than the typical internet " I'm so OCD" tropes.
@@NaesGalaxy It literally is a disability. Are you mentally disabled yourself? You've never had it. This is why I hate liberals and conservatives, they both pretend to understand the mental states of racial groups and disabled people. And the reason I say this is because you're probably a conservative.
Mum: "And that little piece of paper is not gonna control your whole life"
Boy: "It's gonna control my whole life"
Lmao
she is putting ideas in his head
@@dogdayz3821 no, shes not lmao, in the long run she's helping him. This will teach him coping methods and she's trying to reassure him that he'll be okay if everything isn't always exactly the way he wants it to be.
@@dogdayz3821 sorry, I feel like I worded that response weirdly, but from what I've seen with ocd, it's not a matter of wanting perfection, it's a matter of an individuals perfection, so she's trying to help him understand that everything won't always be his "perfect" and that it's okay when it's not, hopefully hopefully makes more sense lol
I have to fight this every day. Breaking habits is by far the hardest part to treating it, but it’s great that you’re teaching him early on.
I feel so bad for him :( he’s probably so stressed. I hope he grows up to being able to control his OCD and not let it take over him :(
Yes
"it's gonna control my whole life" that's it that's the feeling... omg such a little kid, the mom is so patient. As much as we know it's nothing, our brain will tell us we'll live and die thinking pbsessively about it. A pudding lid, something we have to say to somebody, a lock we have to check.
For the people who say she is pressuring him, she is not she is helping him to cope with things like this, she should be thanked
So much patience and understanding. Amazing parenting there. He’s so adorable.
Thank you so much!