I included some resources to get started if you feel like any of them would be beneficial to you. Those are in the description. I did not want to inundate this entire video with self-promotion, but if you enjoyed this video and want to support my channels, I've also let some info here about that. Let me know your thoughts. If you enjoy the video, we have channel memberships and a Patreon, a Fortnite Code - DJAY123 - our store cosmobunny.shop where you can use code DJAY123 for 10% off your first purchase and other channels like our let's play channel - th-cam.com/channels/qUxQUAGade5ek_daIehdKw.html , an anime variety channel - www.youtube.com/@magicaljill and an RPG channel - www.youtube.com/@DJayRPG ! Thanks for watching!
I remember when my mom passed away. I was still a teenager, people were telling me I know your mom passed away but you gotta be a real man. It's like they don't understand what I'm feeling, I never felt so much anger in my life. Thanks for this video Jay & god bless you & Jill have a blessed new year.
I remember when people told me that my dad dying was all part of "God's plan." Really made me despise religion and religious people for a while, and drove me much further from what they were trying to say because of HOW it was said. We have to be really careful how we talk to people when they're going through it. I'm glad you're doing a little better now, and I really appreciate what you said.
Thank you for the vid Jay I truly appreciate you talking about this. I lost my grandfather. He was bedridden, and I took care of him, and it really hurt seeing him that way, and even now, 2 years later, it still hurts not being able to see him or hear his voice. W vid Jay. 🙏 your vids always help me escape reality, even if it's just for a second and make me laugh Much love.
Great video man, go ahead and do more like this! Lost my mom last July, grief definitely comes and goes. But we have to keep living for the ones who are no longer with us.
Thanks for this video. Wish more ppl would talk and understand how grief truly effects us. I lost my dog and uncle , a few years back and it truly never goes away.
I lost my dad seven years ago and it still feels like yesterday. I personally think the reason some people can come off as cold or callous when it comes to grief is because people are just so desensitized to it now, that this whole idea of "timed grief" came about. Bit ill leave you all with a saying from a veteran friend. "Son, dead or grief is like a deep wound, it can heal, be treated even scar over, but, it never goes away. You carry it with you for the rest of your days."
I definitely really like your honest talk to the viewer videos. Especially this one since I've been dealing with grief recently. And I'm always really curious about other people's experiences in similar circumstances.
I appreciate these sorts of videos that you upload, they really bring out the importance of the subjects and it's good message to put out there, it's ok to not to be ok talking to someone or putting your heartfelt feelings in a video to share with the world for people who might be going through the same thing to let them know that there not alone in feeling grief and sadness in the world, Thank you Jay for being honest and speaking from the heart 👍👍
I think its good to have the grief stick with you because you loved someone so much. When it gets bad is when the sadness stops you from living the life they would want for you. You shouldn't move on, you should go forward and keep them in your heart. At least that's how I feel about it.
I really appreciate this video so much Jay, I am going thru a very rough time rn, my gf broke up with me a few weeks ago and after that I really started to remember my grief from my grandmother passing and I was a junior fire fighter and I saw an old woman die and I couldn't do anything abt it, I didn't know her personally but it still affected me. I'm 16 I've been feeling very emotionally un well and my family doesn't want to provide me with the help I need because I need to work through it myself and it's the hardest thing, i really have been getting close to shutting down completely and it's been very hard for me and it's really hard for me to show emotion so this video helped me feel like I am not that alone. Thank u so much Jay I hope you get thru what u need to, ur videos really do help
What's crazy to me is how I get your video after watching X-Men: First Class and Days of Future Past. Firstly, thank you for the video. It did help me. It helped me by making me realize what I'm grieving about and why. So what I'm grieving over is the Past. I miss being younger, full of hope and optimism with a huge love for superheroes and surrounded by a cool family. Nowadays, everyone is cynical and miserable all because of money. I can't even respect or open up to my mom nowadays because she only values me when I'm making money. It's got me feeling guilty of being alive. I don't want to move on from the Past and those good memories either. The way I deal with my grief is by using my nostalgia as Hope. Hope that one day I will create stories and video games just as innovative, impactful and stylish as the ones I grew up. At the same time though, I really need to socialize 😅🤣being a loner hard stuck on their computer and social media just amplifies those negative emotions and thoughts.
If you can take the human emotions and ideas you've felt to create stories that help others, I think that's a huge net positive for the world. Really appreciate the kind words, and I hope you put those ideas into action throughout your life! It sounds like you have a lot of creative ideas and stories that you could share with the world, and being human and feeling those things is one of the best ways to become a storyteller with something worth saying. Whether it's tomorrow or in 5 years, I'd love if you email me and loop me in on anything you make. Don't lose that faith or hope.
@@DegenerateJay I appreciate you, thank you so much. Also I wanted to clarify why I brought up the X-Men movies. Aside from the coincidence of seeing them before this video, Days of Future Past taught a wonderful lesson for everyone drowning in bleakness, grief, despair or otherwise. You have to allow yourself to feel that pain you are afraid of. Embrace it. And then hope again. Just as Charles taught Logan and his younger self. That is how you overcome your grief and more. At least, that's what I got out of it
Don’t worry abt the numbers jay just keep making content bc 1. Your voice is soothing, 2. I love how you have an opinion and won’t change it because of someone elses
It's not great advice, but something I try to think about with my family members that have passed away is living my life in a way that would spread the same light they did. There's always dark days ahead but you can make it through while honoring them. I hope you surround yourself with people who love you.
I do know the feeling of loss and grief a little with my grandfather who did passed away a while back he was funny and cool to have around back than I do miss him sometimes will not be forgot at all still life continue on no matter how hard it can get indeed overall just share what on my mind right here
I don't know if this was a sign or a feeling but I watched this video of yours on Sunday. Not thinking anything of it besides I think I can relate and understand. My brother was in a motor vehicle accident on Sunday night and has passed away. It has been 3 days since then and I Am not finding it any easier to just move on. I have lost my brother, I will never get to hear his laugh, and I hate how the world treats grief and in how we have to move on and be strong all the time. I hope your year and your day is going well. For me it is only sadly beginning and I'm on a journey with grief and pain and remembrance.
I am so sorry. The thing is, words will never describe that person or what they mean to us. For me, I truly have hope in seeing people again after my own passing, but either way, no matter your beliefs, theirs, or anything like that, the event that happened isn't something that can be described by words. I remember when my Dad passed, people tried to tell me it was the same as their thing or that they understood it, but it's never really the same for any of us. Everyone is unique and everyone lost is unique. My words can't do anything, but I truly do hope you understand that even while processing tragedy like this, that others can't and should not force you to hit some milestone of "moving on" in the way they want you to. I personally think the idea is disrespectful both to those of us still here, and those who have passed. I have only spoken to you a few times, but every time you've been extremely kind and respectful, and shown others a respect even when they may be abrasive. I know that you'll be able to live your life in a way your brother would have been proud of. I'm sorry for the hell that you're going through right now and wish there was more that I could do to help you other than a long paragraph and some dumb videos for entertainment. I'm truly sorry.
Your dad looks a lot like you🥲 I just lost my Grandfather dec 22. I've continued with life, doing the normal routine, I know my pop would want me to, but I still look back on his passing. Condolences for your father and aunt.❤God Bless, Jesus is looking after you and Jill.
Thank you very much for what you said. I’m sure your grandfather would be proud of the type of person that you are and that you’re spreading such a positive message. It’s very very hard to live while moving forward, not staying in or abandoning the past. I think both are tempting to people as ways of dealing with these issues, but you have the right approach. Bless you and have a nice day.
I've followed your content for awhile and I love your batman videos. As an advocate for psychology and self help, hearing you talk about this topic is such a breath of fresh air, especially in the gaming space. Death is inevitable but I don't believe it is the end. When I discovered the credibility of the Gospel accounts a living a God-centered life, I started to finally live. The best antidote I can give to anyone for grief is Jesus Christ. He has healed me tremendously in my traumas and grief
This is such a beautiful topic, and your folks definitely raised a mindful and all-around kickass human being 🥹 thank you so much for you content and your time
I included some resources to get started if you feel like any of them would be beneficial to you. Those are in the description. I did not want to inundate this entire video with self-promotion, but if you enjoyed this video and want to support my channels, I've also let some info here about that. Let me know your thoughts. If you enjoy the video, we have channel memberships and a Patreon, a Fortnite Code - DJAY123 - our store cosmobunny.shop where you can use code DJAY123 for 10% off your first purchase and other channels like our let's play channel - th-cam.com/channels/qUxQUAGade5ek_daIehdKw.html , an anime variety channel - www.youtube.com/@magicaljill and an RPG channel - www.youtube.com/@DJayRPG ! Thanks for watching!
I remember when my mom passed away. I was still a teenager, people were telling me I know your mom passed away but you gotta be a real man. It's like they don't understand what I'm feeling, I never felt so much anger in my life. Thanks for this video Jay & god bless you & Jill have a blessed new year.
I remember when people told me that my dad dying was all part of "God's plan." Really made me despise religion and religious people for a while, and drove me much further from what they were trying to say because of HOW it was said. We have to be really careful how we talk to people when they're going through it. I'm glad you're doing a little better now, and I really appreciate what you said.
These things are extremely important for people to share.
Thank you for the vid Jay I truly appreciate you talking about this. I lost my grandfather. He was bedridden, and I took care of him, and it really hurt seeing him that way, and even now, 2 years later, it still hurts not being able to see him or hear his voice. W vid Jay. 🙏 your vids always help me escape reality, even if it's just for a second and make me laugh Much love.
Great video man, go ahead and do more like this! Lost my mom last July, grief definitely comes and goes. But we have to keep living for the ones who are no longer with us.
Thanks for this video. Wish more ppl would talk and understand how grief truly effects us. I lost my dog and uncle , a few years back and it truly never goes away.
I lost my dad seven years ago and it still feels like yesterday. I personally think the reason some people can come off as cold or callous when it comes to grief is because people are just so desensitized to it now, that this whole idea of "timed grief" came about. Bit ill leave you all with a saying from a veteran friend.
"Son, dead or grief is like a deep wound, it can heal, be treated even scar over, but, it never goes away. You carry it with you for the rest of your days."
Great video Jay and I enjoyed your real talk videos and I hope you are doing well Jay
This is beautiful Jay, Well done.
Idk about beautiful, as I feel I stumbled over it a lot, but I truly appreciate that, thank you.
You uploaded this video on my ex fiances birthday, 2 years since she passed and I still miss her every day. Thank you for this
I definitely really like your honest talk to the viewer videos. Especially this one since I've been dealing with grief recently. And I'm always really curious about other people's experiences in similar circumstances.
I appreciate these sorts of videos that you upload, they really bring out the importance of the subjects and it's good message to put out there, it's ok to not to be ok talking to someone or putting your heartfelt feelings in a video to share with the world for people who might be going through the same thing to let them know that there not alone in feeling grief and sadness in the world, Thank you Jay for being honest and speaking from the heart 👍👍
I think its good to have the grief stick with you because you loved someone so much. When it gets bad is when the sadness stops you from living the life they would want for you. You shouldn't move on, you should go forward and keep them in your heart. At least that's how I feel about it.
"To grieve deeply is to have loved fully."
I really appreciate this video so much Jay, I am going thru a very rough time rn, my gf broke up with me a few weeks ago and after that I really started to remember my grief from my grandmother passing and I was a junior fire fighter and I saw an old woman die and I couldn't do anything abt it, I didn't know her personally but it still affected me. I'm 16 I've been feeling very emotionally un well and my family doesn't want to provide me with the help I need because I need to work through it myself and it's the hardest thing, i really have been getting close to shutting down completely and it's been very hard for me and it's really hard for me to show emotion so this video helped me feel like I am not that alone. Thank u so much Jay I hope you get thru what u need to, ur videos really do help
Thanks for these videos Jay.
What's crazy to me is how I get your video after watching X-Men: First Class and Days of Future Past.
Firstly, thank you for the video. It did help me. It helped me by making me realize what I'm grieving about and why. So what I'm grieving over is the Past. I miss being younger, full of hope and optimism with a huge love for superheroes and surrounded by a cool family.
Nowadays, everyone is cynical and miserable all because of money. I can't even respect or open up to my mom nowadays because she only values me when I'm making money. It's got me feeling guilty of being alive. I don't want to move on from the Past and those good memories either.
The way I deal with my grief is by using my nostalgia as Hope. Hope that one day I will create stories and video games just as innovative, impactful and stylish as the ones I grew up. At the same time though, I really need to socialize 😅🤣being a loner hard stuck on their computer and social media just amplifies those negative emotions and thoughts.
If you can take the human emotions and ideas you've felt to create stories that help others, I think that's a huge net positive for the world. Really appreciate the kind words, and I hope you put those ideas into action throughout your life! It sounds like you have a lot of creative ideas and stories that you could share with the world, and being human and feeling those things is one of the best ways to become a storyteller with something worth saying. Whether it's tomorrow or in 5 years, I'd love if you email me and loop me in on anything you make. Don't lose that faith or hope.
@@DegenerateJay I appreciate you, thank you so much.
Also I wanted to clarify why I brought up the X-Men movies. Aside from the coincidence of seeing them before this video, Days of Future Past taught a wonderful lesson for everyone drowning in bleakness, grief, despair or otherwise.
You have to allow yourself to feel that pain you are afraid of. Embrace it. And then hope again. Just as Charles taught Logan and his younger self. That is how you overcome your grief and more. At least, that's what I got out of it
Don’t worry abt the numbers jay just keep making content bc 1. Your voice is soothing, 2. I love how you have an opinion and won’t change it because of someone elses
My aunt passed away a few days ago
Very sorry to hear that. Hope you’re hanging in there and I’m sure she would be proud of you.
It's not great advice, but something I try to think about with my family members that have passed away is living my life in a way that would spread the same light they did. There's always dark days ahead but you can make it through while honoring them. I hope you surround yourself with people who love you.
I do know the feeling of loss and grief a little with my grandfather who did passed away a while back he was funny and cool to have around back than I do miss him sometimes will not be forgot at all still life continue on no matter how hard it can get indeed overall just share what on my mind right here
Raw and real
I thought you were saying you would do him raw like those egirl comment sections 😂
@ not what I meant lmaoooooooo
The death of a friend impacted me more than the death of some of my relatives.
I don't know if this was a sign or a feeling but I watched this video of yours on Sunday. Not thinking anything of it besides I think I can relate and understand.
My brother was in a motor vehicle accident on Sunday night and has passed away. It has been 3 days since then and I Am not finding it any easier to just move on. I have lost my brother, I will never get to hear his laugh, and I hate how the world treats grief and in how we have to move on and be strong all the time.
I hope your year and your day is going well. For me it is only sadly beginning and I'm on a journey with grief and pain and remembrance.
I am so sorry. The thing is, words will never describe that person or what they mean to us. For me, I truly have hope in seeing people again after my own passing, but either way, no matter your beliefs, theirs, or anything like that, the event that happened isn't something that can be described by words. I remember when my Dad passed, people tried to tell me it was the same as their thing or that they understood it, but it's never really the same for any of us. Everyone is unique and everyone lost is unique. My words can't do anything, but I truly do hope you understand that even while processing tragedy like this, that others can't and should not force you to hit some milestone of "moving on" in the way they want you to. I personally think the idea is disrespectful both to those of us still here, and those who have passed. I have only spoken to you a few times, but every time you've been extremely kind and respectful, and shown others a respect even when they may be abrasive. I know that you'll be able to live your life in a way your brother would have been proud of. I'm sorry for the hell that you're going through right now and wish there was more that I could do to help you other than a long paragraph and some dumb videos for entertainment. I'm truly sorry.
Your dad looks a lot like you🥲 I just lost my Grandfather dec 22. I've continued with life, doing the normal routine, I know my pop would want me to, but I still look back on his passing. Condolences for your father and aunt.❤God Bless, Jesus is looking after you and Jill.
Thank you very much for what you said. I’m sure your grandfather would be proud of the type of person that you are and that you’re spreading such a positive message. It’s very very hard to live while moving forward, not staying in or abandoning the past. I think both are tempting to people as ways of dealing with these issues, but you have the right approach. Bless you and have a nice day.
@@DegenerateJay You too, Jay.
@@DegenerateJay You too, Jay.
My condolences
It doesn't get better. You just become better at hiding it.
I've followed your content for awhile and I love your batman videos. As an advocate for psychology and self help, hearing you talk about this topic is such a breath of fresh air, especially in the gaming space. Death is inevitable but I don't believe it is the end. When I discovered the credibility of the Gospel accounts a living a God-centered life, I started to finally live. The best antidote I can give to anyone for grief is Jesus Christ. He has healed me tremendously in my traumas and grief
It's okay to not be okay sometimes
Felt this 110%
18:20 I did
This is such a beautiful topic, and your folks definitely raised a mindful and all-around kickass human being 🥹 thank you so much for you content and your time