I lost my son TJ at 26 from a fentanyl overdose. Found him in the bathroom, shower running, he was slumped on the toilet, face white, lips blue, ice cold. My son was gone. It's been 6 years ago and I think about it every day. RIP Trevor, Dad misses you.❤❤❤
@@chriswright2250 I am sorry. I hope you can find a listening ear for the trauma you carry. A safe place to take it to another human witness…God bless you sir.🙏🏽
That is one reason why so many people die within a few years of a loved one's death. I get mad when some people say, "Get over it, get on with your life, move on, etc". Everyone grieves in a different way and that should be accepted and respected.
Oh only if it were that easy none of us would be listening to this video. I lost my love three days ago and I have trouble breathing and my heart hurts like my heart can’t catch up with the beating
Thank you Susan for pointing this out. I lost my son to cancer when he was 23 years old. I will never get over his loss,,,,but everyone thinks I should. I was okay when my mum and dad passed away, as that is the normal, but to lose a child is the absolute worst. And then the fact that everyone abandons you.....cause they say they dont know what to say. Well for a start....try just saying something.
@@cococarton3601 people are strange. How about depending on who it is. Perhaps a hand on a shoulder with a squeeze just to without words tell the person who is grieving, that your here for them. Acknowledgement goes along way
I am 73. Everybody I have loved are gone now. My mom, dad, fiancé, brother, my dog and 2 months ago my beloved Moluccan cockatoo. I now feel that the last bit of my heart has died. I have nobody left.
May the Lord be with you and comfort you in your sorrow. Perhaps if you join a walking group or volunteer in your community, you will feel the Light warm your heart. ❤❤❤
I hope you are feeling better 🤗 I send you a hug as to show you my support. It is hard when those close to us leave, whether they be family, friends or a pet. My sister passed away at 70 years in 2020 from complications with COVID-19. My best friend, the same from COVID-19, 2 years later at age 61. It just felt like at the time 2 of the people I was closest to died. It was a shock and I think about them and other family members who have passed away at least once a day. I still have an older brother & his family, but it's not the same and has been a major adjustment for me. I'm grateful for my 2 small dogs that have helped me through the grieving process. The 3 major stresses in life are divorce,death & moving. I have gone through all of those in the past 9 years. What a challenge at times it has been.
I nursed my husband during COVID, we were alone. He died, restricted numbers for cremation service. COVID continued, no one came round to visit. Throughout all that time I received no comforting hug, or warmth, other than phone calls from my sister. I grieved on my own, BUT Christ and his blessed Mother were by my side.
Grief. I buried my 3 children ages 12,15,17 death date 3.29.19. A mother is not supposed to do this. I found this very informative and in no way could I grasp it before this time. I thought I would die. I wished I had died. But no. So grief never leaves. It is my new normal. Be kind to those out there as you never know the journeys.
Pamela Erts, What a difficult situation bro come to grips with. Truly sorry. The loss is temporary, as ALL in the Memorial Tombs will awaken... John 5:28
Omg I lost my Daddy and Sister last year 4 months apart but I can’t imagine ur pain.. I’ve been crying for four hours straight but your pain… I am so so sorry😢
As a neuroscientist and someone who has taken my mother's loss exceptionally hard. I can tell my cognition and health have taken a massive hit. She was the love of my life and when she died shd took me with her. I'm literally and physically a different person now.
My mother passed away 14 years ago and it feels like it was yesterday. I remember everything that happened in the 7 1/2 months leading up to her passing. I too am a different person what I realize now is that I learned a lot from her while she was ill, because I was her only caretaker. I had zero help from anyone. I now know that I am stronger than I thought I could ever be, and I’m not afraid to speak my mind like I used to be before she became ill. I talk about her as if she were still with me. That’s the only way that I can keep sane. She was truly my best friend and my only real friend. I miss her every minute of every day.
Hello Ann, I am not a qualified scientist like you but several of my instincts often end up proven by professors. My instinct about what made my own health deteriorate makes me wish I had my chemical make-up tested and stored and then compared to how my body is now after years of trauma and grief.
My daughter died unexpectedly in 2020, I now have high b/p, take meds for that. Like you when she died I died too, I’ll never be the same. I look for her everywhere and death will be a relief.
I found my partner dead a month ago ,he was only56 years old.we lived together for 17 years,one day we had plans and dreams now I just don’t know how to function anymore. I have been through so much in my 54 years,but this is the worst pain I have ever experienced.your mums time came and there is nothing you could have done,she would want you to be happy."….thinking of the beautiful time you spent together.I wish I had a mum just like yours.she sounds so sweet,you stay alive so those memories can be shared.god bless you
My husband passed away 8 months ago we were married for 33 years. I totally believe in broken heart syndrome my heart was racing thought i was having a ❤ attack & not sleeping & was overwhelmed with sadness.I dont wish this on anyone my heart aches & the loneliness is unbearable 😢
Hang in there, it takes a long time to work through it, I'm 3 and a half years into losing my partner and still feel like I have a way to go. Just be good to yourself, treat yourself and live to make them proud. It's a long hill to climb but every step gets us closer to living with the reality. All the best.
I lost my husband 13 weeks ago and the grief is unbearable. We were together nearly 60yrs since we were 13yrs old, childhood sweethearts, and my hearts breaks for him. People say it will get better in time but it doesn’t feel like it will.
@@wearsidelass5013 It seems that way for a start, but eventually you can cope. I'm pleased you got 60 good years with someone you loved, that's rare nowadays. We lost mum back in August, they were married 63 years. Dad's got great memories and is doing ok. All the best.
People can also experience grief from the loss of a pet, an item, or the way that life has turned out at 30, 50 or more years. We all have some kind of loss at many points of our lives, and honestly it really sucks. It’s really ok to scream or cry or simply do nothing. Find someone to talk to, work out, go for a walk, journal, or clean the house, but please don’t isolate yourself, as grief demands a witness. Be with someone even though it may feel strange. You don’t even have to say anything, just be with somebody. I’m there right now, as I lost my 15 year old boxer-shepherd mix Faith about 5 weeks ago. It’s really hard today. I wish you all peace in your difficult time.
Yup, no one really talks much about the grief that comes with divorce/breakup with a life partner. I lost my father & finally divorced my abusive husband when he was caught bragging that he was going to take half of whatever my father left for me... I had also just lost my paternal grandmother, who acted as mother in my life, my husband had dumped me over committing to being her end-of-life caregiver for free, but wouldn't allow for me to divorce him due to all the extra money he got from the military pretending we were together. I went thru some much grief in that time-frame, plus all the stress of rebuilding all alone, that I didn't actually process the grief of the divorce until nearly a decade later.
@@Chelzebelles Yes, there are many different types of loss. It certainly sounds like you have gone through a lot in a short period of time. Wishing you peace, Teresa.
Oh I am so sorry for the loss of your fur baby. I think losing them can be harder than losing a person. I know I've grieved harder over them than I have most people. Please accept my condolences and know that you will be together again one day 💔
My little brother died in 1979, my elder sister died in my arms in 1991, my Dad died in 1994 & my husband died 2.6.23. Grief is a tough road. May you all find peace after the loss of a loved one xx
@@dojroxanne Thanks for your response, Roxanne, my heart goes out to you... the first 2 months felt surreal, now at 5 months it still sometimes feels unreal that he's gone but I'm getting stronger & the grief now comes in waves that are overwhelming... it's the little things, memories, that get to me... & I am unable to part with his toothbrushes in his mug above the bathroom basin or his things in the bathroom cabinet like his shaving foam & after shave, they comfort me... but it does improve & I'm not on auto-pilot anymore... you will find who your true friends are & I say love them with all your heart, they are the soldiers of your soul who carry you through this... & don't forget God, I am not religious but I very strongly believe in God... I have found indescribable comfort in God xx
I found my son senselessly shot about 4 1/2 years ago. He ended up dying. I had broken heart syndrome, loss of appetite, weight gain from cortisol hormone…PTSD…and ended up diagnosed with cancer almost a year ago. I felt myself getting sick. I was. I allowed myself to grieve but I was bitter about no justice. No accountability! Grief and stress can definitely kill you!
Im the same i lost my adult daugjter yr half after my son they took my life the day they went my house is a mess i cant be bothered i go about a sort of daily routine havent been in my back garden for over 2ys or more
@@BrendaDrumm I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my niece/godchild over 15 years ago. She was my sister’s only child. We are a very close family and she was like one of my own. I watched my sister in so much pain for years. I had a very difficult trauma occur almost 9 years ago when I found out about my husband’s infidelities. I was devastated and my world fell apart. I now have PTSD. My psychiatrist told me that a person can only take so many traumas and their brain just “breaks”. I do not leave my home. Actually live in my bedroom. Have absolutely no motivation to do anything. I loved sewing before those 9 years ago. Sewing brought me so much joy. I have lost all joy, peace and comfort. I have learned to NOT listen to anyone telling me I need to get out of the house to overcome the trauma. I was never a social person to begin with. I do not have any desire to go out anywhere. During all of these years of being so depressed and even more depressed because I can’t get out of my depression. I finally accepted this is who I will be for the rest of my life. I never will be the woman I was before all of this happened. I found somewhat of a freedom once I accepted this is who I am and how I deal with life. Don’t ever be down on yourself. I’ve lost a few people who I was very close to. I lost my dad. Then I lost my 21 yr old neice, and I lost my mom in August of 2022. The only comfort I do have is that I know I will see them again when I take my last breath on this earth. Please be kind to yourself. Especially do not beat yourself up because you can’t do what you did before. It does not make your worth any less. God loves you and is with you 24/7. Some people question God when they experience any hardships. And that’s ok. He understands and is there for you. I talk to God all of the time. Sending prayers your way. 🙏🙏🙏
I am so very sorry for all of you who have lost a child, no matter what age. I have not experienced that but my sister lost her only child 15 years ago. It was a huge loss for me too. She was like one of my own. We are a very close family. There are no words or actions that can remove the heavy grief that is still there. I have experienced many other traumas in the 15 years since she left us. I am 64 yrs old. My husband’s affairs were exposed 9 yrs ago and it destroyed me. Everyone grieves in a different way. I will never be the woman I was before I found out about my husband’s unfaithfulness. He had 3 affairs over a 13 yr span. The grief I experienced when my godchild passed away was different than it is now. I needed to be there for my sister. I needed to put my own grief away until my sister was ok. She is ok but life will never be the same. I am stuck. I can’t get past my husband’s betrayals. What happened to me is the traumas build up and I now have PTSD, depression and anxiety with panic attacks. Your brain can only experience so much trauma before it breaks. I don’t leave my home. I live in my bedroom. It took me a few years to let myself be ok with who I am now. What I wanted to say to all of you who have lost a child is take one day at a time and don’t put so much pressure on trying to be who you were before. Things will never be the same no matter if you don’t do the things you did before and that’s ok. I’ve been retired for 12 years and I love to sew. I had a room all set up with my sewing machine and embroidery machine with lots of fabrics. I made lap quilts and outfits for my precious granddaughters. Sewing was my passion. It brought so much joy to me. I can’t get the motivation to even try to pick up where I left off in my sewing room. Grief is something we all experience and we all deal with it differently. Some just move on ahead as we do things to avoid processing the grief. I am so very sorry for all of you. Don’t be hard on yourself. It’s okay to not be okay. 🙏
About a year after my husband’s sudden death, a cardiologist diagnosed me with broken heart syndrome. For a second there I thought he was being cruel but he explained. The thing is that I had no outlet for my grief. Everyone abandoned me like I was contagious and I lived overseas from my family. I was utterly alone. No one to talk to at all. I thought I might die, it felt like it but the VERY important thing is that I DID NOT. I carved a life for myself and that life included none of those awful people. I moved back to my home and 7 years later met the man that is my husband now. There IS life ahead. It may not be remarriage, but there’s life, there’s healing and there’s hope.
crazy how people abandon you in the most volatile time of your life. I experienced the same thing, when my mom passed. I try to understand and not judge, but sometimes its hard to see how heartless and brutal people can be. So sad! happy you found your peace. I am very much still in the grieving process.. miss her very second of every day, see my mom was my soulmate, love of my life and l feel that the world went dark. Gives me hope that there is good things ahead.
My Uncles and other family abandoned me when my mother died. They called to see if I was ok for a week then stopped and I’ve not heard from them since I saw my auntie in a shop and waved to her but she blanked me… People can be so bloody cruel.
When my little girl died suddenly I felt like I’d been eviscerated. I was walking around for weeks just holding my abdomen because it physically felt like it had been removed. Every morning when I woke up after it happened, it would all hit me and I’d get up and vomit. It was like a sick joke mimicking morning sickness. All food tasted of ashes, it was hard to swallow any food. And cups, I remember cups of tea weighing a ton. Grief physically takes you out in so many ways.
I’m so sorry for you. No mother should lose a child. I lost a baby but it’s not the same thing as yours. I pray God will heal you of all grief. We never forget and just go on. So sad. In Jesus Christ so bless you🙏🌟✝️
My mom passed away at the end of 2021. Her passing shook me to the core but I had to stop feeling the grief because I literally started having scary chest pains every time I started to cry for her. The first few days after her passing, my body started going numb, my breathing was very shallow and painful when I took deep breaths, I lost about 8 lbs in a matter of three days. Even now, when the wave of grief comes back, I can’t let myself give into it because the moment I let it, my chest hurts the same way it did back then. I feel the need to cry my eyes out but I can’t because of the scary chest pain I get. I don’t know how to embrace the wave and cry for my mom until I feel relieved. I’m 52 and I still miss my mom so much and forever until I get to be with her in the after life. I love you mom 🥹
Pat I’m 52 as well and lost my mother in October 21. I know exactly what you are talking about. I have had several anxiety attacks since then. It’s so scary. I never had one before my mother died. We have to take good care of ourselves. In time I think it will her a little better but right now, we’re adjusting to our new normal. Hang in there dear.
May your mom rst in peace pain free.. everything you wrote there sounds like myself exactley when my mum passed away in 2018...I have only cried once....which was the day after she passed away and it physically hurt me ! in my gut and right through my body....that crying momeny hurt so much I block out every sad thought about looseing her now to stop myself from crying ....I feel and understand your emotional and physical pain
Lost my mum 2018 and the grief comes and goes but the pain never leave you. She was 64. We left on the best terms but I'd give my right arm to have more time with her. Sending my sympathies to fellow grievers xx
My next door neighbor 20 years ago, lost her husband. During his funeral, she put her head on her son’s shoulder and died of a heart attack. She was totally lost without him. It was so sad and shocking.
My son died on Christmas Day in 2018. Eight months later I had an angry lump in my breast. It was cancer. I feel it was directly related to my deep grief.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter so I know the pain you are going through. I am so sorry about your cancer and wish you a speedy recovery ❤
My husband left me for another woman after eighteen years of marriage in July 2021. My heart broke! I went through an immense amount of emotions. I recently had breast cancer and a mastectomy on the left side. I attributed it to my broken heart. If I did not have the Lord Jesus Christ in my life I would have died. ✝️👑💞 He's the only one was put my life and heart together. 💔❤️🩹❤️💝
I learned I have been grieving the gradual loss/change in my career path after being discriminated, and lied to so a younger favorite person could leapfrog me. I just found a lump in my right breast, and will go through diagnostic testing soon. I believe they have harmed me. I’m going to have to seek justice, this is so wrong! I’m so sorry you had this happen to you, and I do believe it is a symptom of stress/grief! So sorry!
I lost my sweet handsome 26 year old son to a hit and run on 10.23.23 . He was run over by an illegal immigrant . Jesus is our blessed hope and resurrection.. 🙌
My mom was murdered in front of me and I couldn't do anything about it in 2018. She was my only living relative. I was 125 pounds, lost down to 86 pounds, unable to eat or sleep. I cried so hard for so long my blood pressure went through the roof and high cortisol affects my whole body. I'm trying to gain weight. I was diagnosed with Takutsmo syndrome (broken heart syndrome). I'm now 96 pounds but it's so hard gain and keep it. Grief has rewired me in ways that I may never recover from since the damage was extensive. Hugs to anyone experiencing this. 🤗
The only thing keeping my alive after losing two brothers at such a young age unexpectedly is Jesus Christ . Without him I wouldn’t even be here he’s the only thing keeping me alive and sane .
I !most my grandmother and my young 9 year old sweet rescue corgi both this fall. Jesus isn't help ing you he's hurting you I want to talk to someone my parents won't let me. So I'm talking to someone from our church. Your strange. Plus I play the violin its my natural gift.
The most unfair and debilitating thing anyone can go through on this earth in my opinion. It’s so sad that we live in a world where we will have to grieve the ones who love us the most. God give us all the strength. This life is a lot
My son died he was 18yrs old & i miss him more than anything i did have a few of these symptoms especially ver eating which i found strange although it was through the pandemic also.,my life has been changed but i have Jesus Christ who has comforted me throughout,
Amen, Jesus Christ is our savior in all that we do ! So glad to hear that from you. A lot of ppl lose faith during such times, but he is the only way to really find true comfort 💔🙏
Thank you for this video. My husband died on 2nd June 2023. I'm trying to find who I am. I'm so grateful for my little Chi dog. My children are grown up & out of the house with their own children. Life is very different without him. I feel directionless & living is lonely. I've lost a lot of weight though I eat like a horse & healthy good food! What has pulled me through so far is watching & listening to TH-cam videos of Freddie Mercury & Montserrat Caballe & Queen & now the 2023 Rugby World Cup xx God Bless everyone in their heartache xx
Same here lost my husband in January and my kids don't live near me. All I have is my cat to talk to and my phone friends. I watch alot of youtube. I like the lady that dies the Littlepoet.
@@patcharlton8837 My heart is with you in your grief Pat, these are tough days for you... it's now 11 months for me & the days are still tough. Bless you, Pat xx
@@lindsayjenions2795 I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it as time and life goes on , it’d be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
@@chrisjohnson-l4n Hello Chris thanks for your response. I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your wife. I'm from South Africa. I read all the comments on this wonderful site and realize how many of us suffer grief and heartbreak and our stories are so different but this one element links us all so closely... we are linked through our hearts and souls, all so separate from one another yet we are one in this very tough journey of grief... I would like to tell you that I'm doing great after a year and a half but that would be a lie... I eat well but I've lost a lot of weight, I've aged so much since my husband died... I'm still trying to find myself and a direction... I've learnt the little trick of not letting myself think too much about his last months... to others, I look fine... truth is, after a few months no-one remembered my husband anymore, they reckoned I was and am fine... and I realized that other people have their own lives and life goes on... and so we must travel this road alone... thank you to everyone who has posted on this site - you have brought me comfort and through you and your grief and heartache I know I am not alone in this xxx lots of love and hugs to you all xx God Bless xx
At 63 I am getting used to the frequency with which family and old friends are dying, and the regular addition of another heartbreaking loss. This has given me a new respect for the frail elderly, ageing is not simply a matter of the body wearing out, its is a body besieged with cumulative grief that we will all nurture into our 90s, if indeed we make it that long.
I’m at the beginning of this realization. Mom died in Feb and it hurt more than anything I’ve experienced before. Then I started looking at the people I love sort of like ticking time bombs… imagining how broken I will be if/when I lose them someday. It freighted me and I realized what old people must experience by the time they get there. Nobody will know 100% for sure until we pass ourselves but I do have a very strong belief that our souls are eternal and will always be reunited with other souls we love again at some point if we wish it to be so. I don’t think it is goodbye forever just goodbye for now.
@David Parfitt I will never forget you said that. At 56, I feel my losses so deeply. We often look at older people without seeing them and stopping to consider what they carry. Thank you for pointing this out.
Oh my god. Any news? Are they still investigating? Are you nagging the police to keep the case at the forefront. I am so sorry for your loss and hope they at least find him.
After my husband died I had heart palpitations for nearly a year. Very uncomfortable. Finally went to the doctor who did an EKG. Normal. She chalked it up to grief stress. It finally went away. Even now 8 years later whenever I smell wood smoke I cry, because it takes me back to all times my husband and I spent camping. It also reminds me of my childhood because my mom loved to keep a fire going in the fire place. Its hard being the only one left. Im in my early 60's with no family and no children. And its very hard to cultivate meaningful friendships..
WBL. I know exactly what you mean. Heart palpatationw, the works. One year on, it washes over me like a wave sometimes....I wonder will it, does it, get better?
My father passed away 25 years ago from Alzheimer's. My mom passed away five months ago at the age of 96. I had been responsible for much for her, although she was in a nursing home the last four years ... which was an awful experience all around. I feel a profound loss. Even a couple of nights ago, I woke up in the middle of the night with much guilt that I "could have done more". I do have two sons who are adults but not married w/no children. I have a husband who is 70. Our little dog is 9, she sleeps with us every night, but has a bad heart now. I lay there at night and know that currently I am surrounded by these two people who I love, and who love me, so very much. But that someday, I will probably be the one alone in this bed. I know I shouldn't waste time I have now by thinking these kinds of thoughts. But, of course, I do from time to time. I am sorry for this woman's grief. I know what she means about cultivating meaningful relationships later on in life. I hope someone is on her path to being a meaningful friend in the near future.
Be patient, there are still genuine ppl in this world who would love to cultivate a true friendship... Be patient and kind to yourself... Its always on the horizon.
When my daughter was diagnosised with a brain tumor...every other word out of her mouth was about dying not making it thru...i research & sent her to a greif counselor...i went a few times with her too...single best thing i did...her attitude changed...surgery was a success...she is now the mother of 2 & i am proud of her...
i lost my beloved husband in febuary and since he died i feel lost and so lonly he was my sole mate and i was his sole mate and i dont no what to do without him
Mom died in February. My whole body has been effected. I thought maybe I was dying too but slowly things are getting back on track. I scheduled a bunch of tests because I had so many physical symptoms. Can you believe that at least here in Northern California- the standard amount of time given to people to mourn the death of a family member is only 6 days? 😮 and I am pretty sure because of my corporate job, I am lucky to get that. Our culture is so unrealistic about the grieving process.
@@cyndimoring9389 I’m so sorry for your loss. A close friend of mine lost her husband last summer and she is still very much in grief too. I started doing ketamine guided therapy to try and heal from the loss of my mom. I took care of her for 5 years before she passed. By the end I was so exhausted. I have so much guilt about not doing enough even though I did as much as I could and far more than I knew I was capable of. Hopefully you are not dealing with guilt along with grief but if you are it can turn into “complicated grief” that can sometimes go on years and years. The ketamine therapy is helping move my feelings through rather than bottling them up and soldiering on. I cried a million gallons on my first session but 5 days post now - and I do feel some relief. I was able to connect with my mom’s spirit (at least in my own mind) and make more apologies. I’ll do another session next week and keep going until I can function properly again. At least that is my plan. I have no way of knowing if you relate to any of my stuff? Grief is just so brutally painful. Like your chest is caving in on itself without that person in your life to fill up your middle. Thought I’d share to try and be useful. Sending you prayers of love and light to support you on your healing journey.
@@DawnSTyler yes, I relate completely. I was my mom's advocate until she died, and I nursed my husband for months watching him die of cancer. Guilt is always an easy way to go, but imagine if we hadn't been there to help them. When my mom died I told her dr. we could've done more and he told me this is every loved one's feeling. Very natural because we wanted them to live, but not valid, since they would've died anyway. If we'd done one thing right, something else would've happened anyway. Yes, guilt is not what the dead want for us. When I'm in deep grief mode I feel a true hole in my heart/gut. Just tell yourself, what would you loved one want for you now? We don't want them to feel guilty over us.
My husband of 41 years died very suddenly and unexpectedly in August, 2021. In 2022 I was diagnosed with HBP and an irregular heartbeat. My blood pressure wouldn’t come down even with medication. I just had my annual cardiology appointment (2023) and the doctor said all of my symptoms have resolved and are back to normal. I still cry every day.
Oh my god I’m so sorry for you all.. I’d be completely broken without my husband. Honestly I just couldn’t live on. I feel I’d have nothing to live for. I’m praying that you all are surrounded by the love of others to help you through, but for me personally I just couldn’t do it. My H had been sick recently and I’ve been out of my mind with worry…
I am so scared, I am watching and caring for my mom as she declines from Stage 4 colon cancer. Each hour of each day is different.. some days are great while others I can't breathe from crying so hard and my partner must tend to my mom because I don't want her to see me breaking down. I love my mom soooo much. I will be without both my parents when she is called home and I am not ready!!!!!! Cancer sucks!!!
I will always believe that my mom, died from a broken heart. She outlived my father, by 9 yrs & 2 days, from the date of his death. As for me, when each of them died, it was like the air left the room, and the volume of my hearing lowered, as tho u turn down a radio. It was so hard. Devastating. My whole immediate family, are gone now. I a 63 & I miss them terribly. Nothings been the same. U simply learn to live a new normal. But grieve, we must. RIP mom & dad❤❤❤❤
I lost my husband to cancer in 2018. It is now 2023. I cannot stop crying. It us so bad that evenwhen I am not crying tears fall down my face anyway. The pupils in my eyes are also growing smaller. I cannot stop thinking about How much we were in love My husband is the love of my life and we were together for 43 years.. To be truthful. I do not have any reason to want to go on living. He was my whole world. We had no children. It was just him and me. We did everything together. Everything I did was because have made me so happy that everything I tried doing I was happy doing . He was so kind , thoughtful and so giving . ALL I want is to be in his arms again and to put my arms around him. I do not know if there is an afterlife, but if there is I want to be with him forever. I hear,my name being called out sometimes. It does not sound like my husband's voice but I could be wrong. Sometimes I think my grieving is,making me crazy , to hear my NAME being called. Could he be trying to get in touch with me. Maybe, But I will never know.
This life ends, but the spirit goes on to eternal life. Also, Love is spiritual & transcends death of the body. That's all I know with enuff certainty to share this with you. "Guideposts" has books & a little magazine, Angels, real stories from real people, that I think you'd find helpful & comforting, when it comes to what you are wondering about & being reunited in Eternity. Nothing hokey, or overly religious, etc. It sure helped me in a Not-Pushy way. I read as much, or as little as I could handle at that moment in time. I liked that alot! I'm now almost finished with most recent book of true stories. (A writer works with them to write their story, since most of us aren't natural writers.) I'd be happy to pass them along to you, since I'm done with them. Might find tear stains on a few pages, but other than that, are in almost perfect condition. I just don't know where to ship them to you, is all. (I'm not at all social media savvy, i'm afraid. But there must be a way to do it.) I never read same books twice, so they'd just sit on the bookshelf & collect dust. Think about it & let me know if you'd like to have them. My name is Sunny☀️
Cgravelle, I lost my husband in 2019 of a heart attack that didn’t kill him but he kept coding every half hour or so for hours. The doctors told me they didn’t know what it was doing to his brain. After this went on for hours, I finally told them to let him go after they made me see them jumping on top of him and trying to get his heart going again, time after time. So I had to live with, did I do the right thing? We were married almost 50 years. My high school sweetheart, my best friend, the absolute love of my life. I feel exactly like you do, and still cry everyday. I want him back with me so bad some days I can barely stand it and often times feel like I’m in a dream, or a nightmare, and will wake up and everything will be back to normal. One difference in you and I is that I have studied the Bible for years and am convinced death was never part of Gods plan for humans. The Bible refers to it as an enemy. But it is an enemy that will one day be done away with when God resurrects the dead back to life, and reunites them with their loved ones to have the chance to live forever right here on the earth. I would be happy to show you where it says that in your Bible, and how we can be sure it’s true, and that it would comfort you to know he’s only sleeping, as the Bible describes death. The good news is, that we are living in what the Bible describes as the last days, just before God sends his son, Jesus, to destroy all enemies, including death. Yes, there is an afterlife, right here on earth, back with our families. You may not have long to wait. If you would like to contact me to see if this teaching is true and provable, I would love to hear from you, or anyone else reading this who are interested. Just send me an email to westonfam@ frontier.com. My name is Julie. Put RESURRECTION in the subject line to catch my attention. In the meantime here are some scriptures to look up in your Bible that I think will bring you comfort. 1 Corinthians 15:26; Revelation 21:3:4; John 11:11-13 John 11:23-25; Acts 24:15
@@Hopespringseternal543 ...That was a most wonderful response from you to her, especially since you both understand what it feels like, on deeper level than most of us can. (We only think we understand.) It was so kind of you do send that reply. I was crying reading hers, then my 'eyes began leaking' again as I read yours. And, you're right about life not over when this 1 ends. Bible refers/infers to same. Jesus couldn't tell us more cuz' we are flawed (humans) & some would not "be their best self" if thought they'd 'have more chances'. (Silly humans! Not so simple as that.) I have good reason to believe (personally) that real Love transcends physical death & that our spirit does indeed live on! Not sure on the how/when details of the happy reunion, but of Love & our souls being eternal ~ of that I have no doubt. The rest we must take on Faith. This life is temporary; Eternal life of the soul/spirit lives on eternally. (I'm just hoping my "new body" will be healthier & not look like my current one. LOL) But seriously... May God Bless you for your heartfelt, caring reply to her ~ and may it being her some comfort to know her Love is not over, just kinda' on pause, for a time of God's choosing. God Bless you in all ways, my dear.🤗
@@Hopespringseternal543 ...BTW ~ You did the right thing. Considering the situation you described, I truly believe this. I know that doesn't make it easier, but so very glad that you have your Faith to help you thru the tough times. You did the right thing for your husband, & did it out of Love for him. Bless you for loving him so much that you put him & his well-being first! That's True Love indeed. Never, ever doubt that! You are strong & you are loved eternally, of thst I am certain.💖
I'm soo soo sorry your going through that, nobody should ever have to go through such pain. My gf lost her sister yesterday, and she lives 11 hours plane from me so i cant even comfort her and it breaks me seeing her so sad and me not being there physically
I lots my mother six years ago it took me three years to get my head round it. You have ti learn to put it in a place in your head you never ever get over it but you do have to put it in a place in your head or it will destroy you and you will never move on. Please feel free to talk to me im after nothing i just know sometimes its better to talk hold things in will make you ill. 🇬🇧 ❤️
My Mum too passed so suddenly in May 2022. I think I was just numb for the first year and a half after, couldn't quite grasp what had just happened. But absolutely crumbled these past 6 months. Never have I felt so lost and shattered. The loss is so immense I'm not sure who I am without her. Only now starting to see some light, but it's so fleeting.
Lost mum, 6 weeks later my partner to cancer, 6 months after that and then to cap it off my beloved dog died too - the pain, i can't even measure.. i am now an orphan and its lonely, worst tho' is how others almost insist on 'getting on'...its just so incredibly hard and i totally feel those who have also lost and utter despair. The only thing i can muster is - i know exactly how you feel you are not alone and very muched loved x
Stress Cardio Myopathy or Broken Heart Syndrome Is something I just had. Last week I had a bad heart attack and almost died. By grace of God I survived. I have a lot of unresolved grief. For many years I have been in emotional stress and pain which is suppressed. Now It came to fruition as a heart attack. WOW! Please resolve your grief with a good therapist.
My Father passed away 10 years ago. My mother passed away in 2020. And also lost my 2 grandfathers and my paternal grandmother. The pain is indescribable. My mother's death really took a toll on me. All the strength for those who also lost loved ones. 🙏🏾
Tears suddenly came when you mentioned broken heart ... Lost my husband of 44 yrs Jan 2020 - so just before Covid hit. Covid isolated me profoundly. Most of the time i was on my own, I have no living family, except my husband's brother and his wife and they live on the East coast. My heart truly broke. I don't know if I had the medical condition you described, but My heart did break. Now, 4 yrs later, I am regaining my life... life doesn't seem so bleak. I am going to learn to drive this year and I am returning to my crafts ... and taking more of an interest in my life and home. I still miss him terribly but he asked me, before he died, to go on and I promised him I would not die from the grief.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it as time and life goes on , it’d be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?…
Thank you for this video. You are spot on! I lost my daughter, my only child 6 years ago. My husband and I had just retired. My daughter was a single Mom, so we raised our granddaughter who was only 7. The symptoms are correct. I stopped eating and my cortisol was insane. The Drs couldn't help except prescribe sleeping meds. I didn't sleep for almost a year. We are still grieving but life must go on. Our precious granddaughter just started highschool.😢
I pray for u an your family her daughter your grand daughter going need a lot of help in her life to come brain changes an your heart I lost my sister 6 months ago moved in care for her but after she passed her husband illness come back which cancer in many places of his body ! I do my best to speak life in him but I am fighting myself in my lost I stayed with him because no one deserves to be alone in illness I will never have heart to walk out regardless if only my brother in law but lesson learn , you can only give so much your self I do not work care him full time an do not get out much due anxiety an depression just exhausted in thought I got go though this again ! I have mom sister live near but they work so it’s only me at this time! My anxiety getting beat of me thougn so reaching out to find sone thing to help burnt out fighting it alone ‘ I pray for all you in this Iam sorry to hear of your lost !
To everyone in the comments ❤ you are all sensitive people and you all loved the ones you lost. That's why you feel the grief so much. You are important and touch the lives of others even in these comments. Love you all 💔🙏
@@originalcoffeelover2725 I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it as time and life goes on , it’d be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Me and my husband haven’t been the sane since we lost our mothers. He lost his in 19 and I lost mine in 20. Only a few months apart. We are tired, look older, and we have had a lot of illness. We both feel ancient. I worry more for hubby as he also has a demanding job Whereas I only work part time. In age he’s still youngish only mid 40s but he feels about 70 he says some days and tbh so do I and I’m only 38….
I appreciate this insights this video provides. I lost my mom and was left alone. I had one last source of comfort, my pet therapy dog, Frosty. Frosty was a constant source of love,comfort and joy. God decided He needed Frosty in heaven. He died 10 days ago and Im devastated. Every day Im overwhelmed at periods with grief. Im experiencing much of what is discussed here.
I just lost my cat of 17 years almost a month ago. She was killed on my front porch by two unleashed dogs. I found her in my yard and was able to be with her for her last few breaths. It is such a deep loss when we lose our little companions. Just know you’re not alone
Yeah it does hurt literally, especially over beautiful fur babies.. I grieve all my furbabies waiting for me at Rainbow Bridge... They will be the first to greet me there with my Dad who is probably the caretaker of their garden.
When my mom passed I felt like I was dying. I sincerely felt like something was wrong with me. I felt physically ill. I was convinced that I was suffering with some type of autoimmune disorder or something. I didn’t realize it actually was my grief. 6 years later I feel a lot better.
When my only sister died I could not eat because the smell of food made me nauseous. And my hands shook so badly I could not hold anything. This lasted for about half a year. I thought I was going to die.
Oh my God I’m so glad I found this video. I lost my son last night. He was a third son had lost in 22 years. I was so busy at first I didn’t have time to grieve in the last three months it is hit me hard not just emotionally but physically my diabetes my arthritis everything is just gotten much worse so thank you for putting this video out there. I greatly appreciate it.
I just want to tell you it was actually this morning I found a video on TH-cam about what grief can do to a person I was amazed. This explains a lot not just emotionally but physically. It’s called the physical symptoms of grief. You can find it on TH-cam under the channel Lewis psychology. I found it very helpful and I hope all of you will too.
May youre memories be a blessing of your loved ones always.I love my pictures they bring me comfort and know some day l will be with them again.Dreams are wonderful.May God bless each of you❤
My husband died 4 weeks ago after a sudden, short illness. I'm still feeling devastated and cry multiple times a day. I know this is a process I must go through, but it's difficult and depressing. I've noticed the weather also affects my mood also. Sunny day = happier, overcast day = sadder. Thank you for this video, it helped me understand what is happening in my body.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it as time and life goes on , it’d be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..,
I just lost my mom to cancer. I stayed with her the whole time she was in hospice. I saw her body go the the stages of death and was there when she took her last breath. I feel devastated and guilty because I put her in hospice . I feel like I will never recover. Thank you for sharing
For a moment there, I actually thought I must have written this and just forgotten posting it. I went thru the same except my mom died a few minutes before I got to the hospice. I found her dead in her bed and called the nurse and then I just sat there beside her.
I lost my husband of 28 years in January 2023 then I lost my beloved dog of 12 years 8 mouths later..I miss them both so much..it fells so hard to move on.😢 it hurts to live without them.
I hope everyone who is in grief here finds a way to trust the remaining time you have in your destiny- no matter how different or useless or difficult you feel - you are still here, looking at this screen, hearing words you need to hear, existing for the rest of us and for yourself and for time. If it feels empty and colorless and anxious, that is okay. If all you did today that didn’t feel hard was nothing, that is okay. We are taught to believe life on earth can only feel good with sprinkles of bad but even a baby comes into this world traumatized, crying, lost, dependent. This sounds dark but I don’t mean it that way. You have to get spiritual about it. You have to know there is an other side, that it sees you, hears you, can help you if you ask. Don’t worry about who you were before loss. You are exactly what and who and how you’re divined to be right now. Don’t worry about how long it feels it’ll take to feel normal for a bit. Time isn’t real. It just passes and we breathe. We love. We get love. And we go. Trust nature. Trust your pain. Trust your body’s survival. Let go of the fear that life won’t allow you the freedom to feel or recover. That is half the pain. I hold all of you in my chest, my arms, my eyes, with deep understanding and humanity. Search for warm people to hold you with their purity. And if you can’t find them, look in an animal’s eyes. Look at a leaf shaking in the wind. Feel the ground carrying you. I promise, on the other side of loss is bold freedom. Is the adventure of the next life. If you’re never the same, trust you completed the role your identity came to play. Trust who you are now, with all of your remaining heart and mind - you are perfect. You are here. You have the right to continue in any way possible for you. Be kind to yourself. Take your vitamins. (Specifically, vitamin D, fish oil, magnesium, rhodiola and gaba). Let anyone who doesn’t understand where you are or hurts you further in the experience, go. You will reunite with all you lost, when the will of time believes you should. When you feel afraid of all this uncertainty and change, tell yourself you’re brave. Life is asking you to be brave. To be excited to see what could possibly be left for you to learn or do or give or receive. It could seem small but if you are here, you are not done. If you are here, you are not done. You don’t have to know anymore, what that means. Losing this control is your chance to claim total, complete, independence and trust in life. Magic happens then. Even if it has to find you in between agony. Look at how strong you are looking at this screen. I’ve had years where just doing that much was too traumatic. There was no relief from agony anywhere. And I can type now. I couldn’t then. I was alive and dead at once in every way. I couldn’t pet my dog, look at the sky, not resent the sunshine, see color, in anything. My body collapsed so often. I don’t know why I’m here - but I can type to you. I can validate you. And if you were in front of me, I could give you unconditional love. Even if it’s just in my intent. That’s magic. That’s the surrender to time. If we all embraced this more, we could take care of each other in all of life’s jarring shifts. Hold onto anything, I mean literally anything, that gives you a sand particle of pleasure, unashamed of it. And when pain shows up, as it will - tell it you’re not afraid. You will embody this thing. You will let it come out and leave you. You are a force of nature. Even if you can’t move, you change, molecules around you - you change life. Your power, your identity, your purpose isn’t lost. It just needs to be noticed differently by you. That’s all. This is the task of grief. You can fucking do it. You really can and you really will. And if you die from this, let’s say you die from it - that’s okay too. That just means you leave this plane. This isn’t the only one. This is a short trip. It feels intense, but it’s short. So trust it’s pace. Trust your pain. Trust your past. And let the future be. You’re golden. I am so grateful you are here. I am so proud of you for giving yourself the chance to be human. I am so honored to type for people who feel deeply and love deeply enough to grieve. I hope these words have something in them for you that you need. If you’re still on this random ball floating in space, it still will find a way to guide you into place. Everything in space does that. Always, after chaos. Trust what you can’t know and you will be whole again - home again, in a new way. Trust your new home. You are that home. No matter how much hurt you hold. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@@LewisPsychology thank YOU for you and your noble work and your channel. I am honored to have the opportunity to say anything that speaks anything to your or anyone’s soul. Best wishes back, truly🙏🏼❤️
I love you. Did you lose a child? I did, and the words you wrote could have come straight from my heart. I can feel your love and compassion for the pain of grief, and that it must have come from experience. You gave me a! Tittle light tonight
..am grieving at the moment...l suddenly lost my beloved wife of 44-years of marriage just a few weeks ago.. Everything seemed so surelist..like coming to your home but everything seemed to have been rearranged.. Speaking of the song.. " CRY ME A RIVER"... My wife and I have been together for a Total of 52- years..that included our engagement period.. For me, Loosing a Life partner is the hardest 😢..🙏
@@LewisPsychology Thank you so much 💞 for your empathy.. I shall include you and your family in my daily prayers 🙏🌹 Incidentally..one of my daughters is named TERESA.. a name l found so beautiful while at grade school, that l promised myself, should the LORD give me a daughter, l will name her TERESA.. The Good LORD gave me 4-daughters😊💕🙏
I am so sorry, and can so relate. When I lost my Mom, it devastated me. I was the family caregiver . I took care my brother, my Dad, my Mom and held them as they died. I cared for other family members too. My Mom died and was the last of my family to do so, I¡ve been alone since I was 32. As in, completely alone. I woke up every single single morning for a decade, once realizing I was awake for the day cried. It hurt as bad a decade later as the day I put my Mother in the ground. I knew something wasn't right. I sought a grief therapist. Luckily she was the perfect fit for me. I don't know how it worked and I didn't notice right away, but that debilitating sense of grief dissipated. Please consider finding a grief therapist. It works. My grief dissipated like a morning fog. My life isn't completely fixed, I will always. E a bit broken for having lost my family, but there's no fog and life is at least in black and white. It may never come back to be a technicolor life, but b&w is really ok. Just remember life is cyclical and will get better again, life's a banquet and we all get stuck in the shit sandwiches sometimes. You just have to make some positive changes, deliberately and give it time. Choose to make some good decisions and stick with it. It CAN be done, I know. I've done it.
have been watching my sister die for 11 months...she will pass any day now...my body and mind are worn out completely...I am so physcially tired and my chest hurts at times. I have nothing left(I mean, physcially n mentally)
We are in this together , I lost my Son in December. It one of the worst thing a mother could go through. It is tough. For me it truly my faith in God that is helping me on this journey. I also draw strength for mothers in my Church who have been down this part. My family I can’t understate have been very supportive to me. I am in tears just doing this comment. My prayer is with all those are going through this time of grieve.
Yes, I have lost my parents and my only sibling in the last 15 years. Divorced and the nephews that I adopted and raised have left to live there own lives. I have no extended family close by and was not raised around them. The grief and fear of being alone and facing life alone is unbearable My counselor says that this is the trend now People have no family
5/08/23, I lost my 31 years son when someone was careless drive a vehicle. He was strucked by motorist while riding his motorcycle. Jamil was a wonder officer, husband, daddy and to me a perfect son. I dressed him and tucked him in for his final sleep. I know I have changed emotionally and physically. Nothing is the same anymore. Since 5/14/23, this the gift his mom received for mother's day. This was the most sickness feeling I ever felt and probably will never get over it. To all who have lost love ones that were so close, my heart and compassion goes out to you all. May lean on each other for guidance and comforting. May GOD bless us all. Much love The Hawes Family of NC.
Chronic stress hormones from the bereavement of a suicide victim caused physiological distress and symptoms like full-body eczema; it felt like my skin was on fire. Stay safe and be well. ♥
I lost my brother same way. He was depressed. I felt like my chest, (my heart) was on fire and I’ve put wet towels and they would get dry, so I know how you feel. May God give you lots of strength!
In a nuclear family of 5, Dad is gone, mum is Gone, 2 brothers gone. I am the last man standing. I go to sleep everyday hoping not to wake up. But when i do wake up, its just suffering and hard to be happy. Resorting to drugs will mess up my situation. Trying to stay sane in this life of mine is really crazy. One day, when i meet God in the after life, i got really good questions for him.
My mother died of colon cancer in 2014 and then my brother died in 2017 of cardiac arrest, and then my husband died in 2019 of lung trouble. And now I 'm grieving for the loss of another brother last August 2023 after he had ALS for two years. I can't describe how exactly I'm grieving now. I visited his grave almost everyday coz I miss him. Those that I love have gone and I can't erase the memories of them. They often came in my dreams..which make me feel happy. Please tell me how to go on living
In 2019 I lost my daughter to an overdose. She was in New York and I was in North Carolina care for my mom, she was 29 years old that same year on New Year's Eve, I found out my father was dying and in hospice, no one told me he was sick. they were afraid I could not handle the pain. He died at 11:48 on New Year's Eve 2019. My mom passed away in September after having cancer multiple times, she died of multi-organ failure. She was an only child and so was I. As I try to carry on with my life I just found out that my 35 year old son passed away in New York I am going to his memorial next Wednesday. Since I found out he died on April 26th I have barely been able to walk. I am terrified of traveling to New York to get his ashes. The grief that I feel cannot be put into words. I find that my doctors and people I know don't even know how to talk to me so I have stopped telling them things. I have been sick for the last two weeks exhausted and full of pain. I have a 29 year old daughter in New York who I look forward to seeing plus my only grandchild who is 10. I am terrified I will fall apart in front of him and my only remaining child. I feel disconnected from everything to be perfectly honest. I live alone I am 59 years old I can't even barely hold a thought. If it wasn't for my faith in God I don't believe I could continue down this road I do not understand why I'm still here I don't know anyone else who has lost two children. Anyone has any words of advice for me I would deeply appreciate it. I have a little dog who is my best friend and my world, and I have one very good compassionate friend who has now moved in with me to help me and that means more than I can tell you. I am very confused, as I listen to this video I imagine I am the embodiment of every symptom. I know that I'm supposed to remain here for some reason, I understand that my family is gone, I also do believe they're in a better place than I am. And that I will be reunited with them Monday. But the pain is unspeakable. God bless everyone of you here I am so very sorry for all of your losses for your pain both emotional and physical because I know it just very very real thank you, Laura
The Lord will see you through, I know this lady who I am very close to she bury her husband, her two children , two grandchildren . She is still alive at age 90. This someone I am very close . I am the God mother of one of her Grand Children. In the mist of everything you have being and going through hold on the Lord. Even when we can’t understand God is with you, and he love you . Take heart and be encourage.
I've not yet said how my little brother died & I'd like to do so because I know many others have suffered this & are suffering this. My little brother died because of a drunk driver. He died one month & 5 days after his 18th birthday. It was high holiday/festive season, the 8th January 1979. He was on his motorbike wearing his bike gear, helmet & lights on & was on a main road with right of way. A car pulling/towing a caravan, driven by a drunk man with his wife sitting beside him, drove through a stop sign - my little brother didn't have a chance to stop & nowhere to go, he went straight through the caravan. He survived the crash but had immediate complicated surgery due to the multiple, severe fractures of his one leg - our hopes for his recovery were high, he was positive & cheery in his hospital bed - he died from a blood clot from his leg which travelled into his lung. Our family was devastated, particularly my parents, he was their youngest child. In life, he was 6 foot tall - after his cremation, I couldn't comprehend how he could fit in such a small box... My mother has just turned 90, she still has not got over his death. My heartfelt condolences to anyone suffering grief of a loved one due to a drunk driver xx
My 18 year old little brother died from a blood clot in his lung also. It’s only been 5 months and it still feels So unreal, it’s not until I sit and actually think about it that I realize it had actually happened. I miss him, he was such a sweet boy with a great heart. ♥️
@@nadiabolamac2014 My heart goes out to you, Nadia - gone too young your little brother. You will always miss him... I think our loved ones are always with us even though they have physically departed this world. God Bless xx
Having MS for 40 years I've gone through many stages of loss...job, friends, physical abilities, driving, walking, and so much more. Just recently I realized that I've been grieving each of those losses. I just felt sad and awful but never thought that was grief. Now that I know, I am able to recognize what I'm going through and cope with things better. Thank you for your video explaining the physiologic effects of grief. God bless. ❤
Hi Teresa Lewis, Thank you for outlining how grief impacts the body and soul. All of which I have experienced and still experiencing. I am 66yrs, and have lost both my parents fairly recently. I was their primary caregiver. They had serious medical problems. However there were so many deficiencies in their care. My parents suffered poor medical care and my mother especially experienced serious medical errors that ultimately caused her prolonged pain and suffering and an early death. I am overwhelmed with profound guilt and shame. I failed to protect them and failed to clearly understand their suffering and advocate for them. I am in complete despair. I have no family support whatsoever as they cannot understand the caregiver grief, regret and burden. I am also being judged as I am single with no children. I am no longer the person I was and feel as though I live on another lonely planet. No amount of therapy has helped.
At 76 I am the only one left of my immediate family. I have my daughter and grandchildren but there are many problems between them. I have more or less stuck to home except for groceries. Yes someone is in my life but he is busy taking care of his business. So many friends have passed away. I need surgery. I lost my oldest brother 4 years ago and watching him suffer with congestive heart failure was extremely painful for him and me and his wife. My niece and nephew have disowned my daughter and I. I miss my aunts, uncles, cousins. My mom and brothers. All have passed away. My belief in Christ. My love for my daughter and adult grandkids keep me going. Grief never really goes away. It's always there.
My love and faith in my Lord Jesus Christ has given me peace in the storm. I lost Mother two days ago. She is at peace and with family. I don't wish her back here.....no way. She is Free. God bless.
100% accurate. I lost my father who was my best friend 7 years ago and not only that it was in a horrific accident I witnessed, I have never been the same after with multiple autoimmune diagnoses since then which I am sure has been triggered by the trauma of losing my dad
This is so spot on!! I am currently in a situation where my husband is doing “ In-Home Hospice”. To watch the body of an incredibly intelligent , vibrant, talented man whom you love dearly, slowly shut down and to watch as he becomes a shell of who he was, brings on incredible overwhelming grief. Like nothing I’ve ever experienced. I think I’ve been and am currently experiencing every single one of these symptoms …. Moments in time …. I know I’ll get through this, but it’s a journey I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy!!! My escape? The therapeutic music I play … 🛸🎶..which he’s still ….thankfully …. asking me to play. But this post that’s shared here? Wow! It couldn’t be more spot on!! Very well done……
I took care of my ex husband in a home hospice arrangement. His death was horrible. The doctors had placed 2 drains in his common bile ducts with 2 external drain bags. Within one week he began to hemorrhage and his blood pressure was dropping. I was changing his dressings frequently and he was screaming from pain. Doctor said he had cancer throughout his liver and abdomen. He died a horrible death. I am haunted by this and cry every day. Our disabled adult son keeps me going, otherwise I am alone. Wish I could stop crying. It's been almost 2 months.
@@joansmith1195 … I’m sooooo sorry you had to take this journey as well! Not a fun one at all!! Prayers for strength and grace as you continue forward…. 🙏🏻 …. 🛸🎶🦋
As a hospice chaplain, I applaud you both for putting your loved ones in hospice care, but am troubled, Joan, that your ex husband suffered so much. The main purpose of hospice is quality of life with a minimum of pain. Unfortunately, not all hospices seem equipped to provide that.
My youngest brother was murdered nearly a year ago. I had to force myself to eat for two months, mostly fruit and bread. I often felt that my spirit was leaving my body. I still have crippling anxiety. I have work tomorrow and truly just wish I could call in sick.
Thank you for this. When I lost my daughter, my memory went to shit. I can't afford to get tested to confirm things, but I have constantly forgotten things that previously I could keep track of. All the stress must have gone directly to my hippocampus.
We lost our dad in 2021. We nursed him for the two weeks before he passed on. God gave us precious two weeks to spend quality time with him. My mom is living with me now. It was so hard in the beginning now we at peace. I remember the numbness I felt and tried to avoid crying but that didn't help. Crying alot was our healing. Today I can't look at a pic of my dad. I am trying but it's very difficult. My mum and dad was married for 51 years. She misses my dad alot. I can tell. Physically she suffered too. My two brothers resides in New Zealand and they couldn't make it for the funeral. It broke them. Mum and I visited my brother's recently and we comforted one another talking about my dad and what he meant to us. God is good and can comfort ones broken heart like other person can ever. Miss my dad so much!!!!
It’s been 10 years since I lost my brother and I can’t still look at his pictures. So, I know how you feel. May your father rest in heaven, and may God give you strength ❤
Two brothers one was 13 when was 22 8 years for my mother and two sisters to get over. My mother passed 19 years ago I was happy and away but I miss her cuz I knew she missed my brother so bad. My sister passed 8 months ago just not my sister my best. She live with me. She was my best friend sometimes when I start crying I don't know when I'm going to stop I do it several times a day. It's taking me a long time to put her stuff away her bedroom is still the same. When I have an issue a problem she was my go-to person to talk. I have one sister left and I thank the Lord for her but right now we don't seem to have too much in common which is very strange. I am looking so forward to going home one day. And just hope I don't miss the ones that I'm going to leave behind like I do the ones that they're already. I am tired of losing . Be thankful for everyone you have in your family and your friends. The Lord Jesus Christ is my strength he gets me through. And we can all count on him to help us through our grief. And it's normal for us to grieve over our loved ones. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I've had a lot of loss. My nerves are shot. 4 months ago, my oldest daughter died. A wk ago, my youngest daughter attempted suicide. I lost 2 husband's . We all grieve in differently and can be a long ery. I miss them all who have died. I've lost pet's in recent yrs and I take it very hard. Please don't ever stuff your grief down. Let just it come and work through it. We move on the best we can.
I never felt such deep, intense, crippling grief pain as when my dear aunt died by suicide in 2012. We were 6 years apart and were very close like sisters. Really didn’t think I could get through it. And the guilt was all consuming because I had a hunch something was wrong but I didn’t know how to help her. And within days, she was gone. I had failed her, and her family. To me, it truly felt like open heart surgery without anesthesia would hurt less. In 2016, on her birthday, I got a tattoo of a feather and the word “Saudade” which so perfectly sums up my being. Ultimately, though, I wish her all the peace and healing in the universe. ♥️
In light of a recent suicide in my family, I've wrestled with not having been able to help more than I did. I knew a deep depression had taken hold of them, but I didn't realise we were on borrowed time. I've found comfort in reminding myself if I had really known, I would have done something - my not having acted came from me not knowing, so I ought not assume guilt or blame for what happened. I hope you continue to find peace.
I lost my brother in September 2012 on the same way! The guilt and grief I felt, was beyond words. Felt like I died with him. I never knew he was depressed cause he hide it so well. Don’t blame yourself cause that’s not okay. Sometimes you just can’t help people no matter how hard you try. May God give you strength ❤ and may she Rest in Heaven!
My father passed in March and I just lost my daughter. I don’t know how I can move on. So lost, confused, sometimes I want to cry but can’t. Brain fog. I’m considering retiring, I don’t have the drive anymore. 😭😭😭Praying is keeping me from completely break down. My dear grandma is very weak. I’m losing my network.
I just lost my grandmother last week. She was 86. Her health was declining. We knew it was coming. But we were very close. I was closer with her than my mom. I talked with her twice a day everyday, for approaching 25 years. I know I will get over this but right now, it hurts. It hurts a lot. I love you grandma.
Thak you for this. My mom passed away six years ago. We were best friends and I had an extremely hard time coping - so much so that I lost my job as a teacher because my principal was not in the least bit interested why I couldn't remember things, or function as well as I should. When I left school the last day - I ended ujp in a psych ward having had a total break down. She didn't totally cause it, but she had been on my case for the entire year, writing me up for things that didn't exist every single week. Between that and my mom I couldn't function. I wish they had seen this video.
Been grieving since 2020 non stop. I cry almost everyday. I lost my healthy dad to covid. I haven't been myself ever since. I'm the type of person that looks younger than I am but this last 3 years have aged me more than the previous 10.
I feel your pain I really do - I lost my mum in 2020 and it really aged me I looked young always and I was always being ID’d for things but now since her sudden and untimely death I feel I’ve aged 15 years more. I no longer get carded and people think I look my age and more. My health has been dodgy and my husband has been sick too since losing his own mom.
Both my parents have now died long traumatic deaths. My Dad passed in 2008. My Mom died this February. By the time my Dad died after 7years in a nursing home with Parkinson’s and Dementia I looked aged and my back was actually breaking. I thought I would never recover. There was a large gap in time between my parents deaths. Eventually I know I healed from the loss of my Dad and there were some really great years in between. I miss my mom so much right now and I can see the grief speeding up time in the mirror. I keep reminding myself. We can rebuild. In another comment someone said to take all the love that you wish you could give your missing person and give it back to healing yourself. That’s what your loved one would want for you, love because they loved you. I liked that,so passing it on. Hearts and Beauty can both regenerate in time with self care and love.
@@desertrose1226 Thank you for sharing with me and reminding me that we are all together in this somehow. I also gained weight on top of all. I read the other comment and I really liked a phrase "We can rebuild" something new, since it'll never be the same. But maybe we can rebuild because that's what they would have wanted for us.
I have had two little boys. They both died at age 4. Our first died then I had another 1 1/2 years later than he also died at age 4. Completely changed me. Inside and out. I no longer fear death. I fear nothing because I have experienced the worst in life IMO. Every day, I hope is my last.
😢 I'm so sorry to hear about your precious little boys 💔 if you don't mind me asking how did they both pass at the same age? Have you considered adopting or fostering?
I have three sons. Two have passed at the age of 16 and 46. Within three years of each of them. I’m still in grief and it has taken a major toll on my health. It did give me a heart murmur. I truly believe this. I’ve been a nurse for 32 years and I have seen this with grieving families. ❤
I was once a mother of 4 …. Now only 2..The day before thanksgiving 2023, my son died in a horrible a accident on his job., 4 weeks before his 29 th bday. I was crushed. shocked angry bewildered and broken hearted… five weeks later my youngest son died from sickle cell a week after his 28th bday. The pain in my chest was so severe I thought I was haven’t a heart attack, unable to focus, extremely forgetful,,, I’m experiencing all the symptoms she mentioned. Prayer family and are keeping me from losing it .
I lost my mom on September 29,2023. She was my best friend. I went to her home, she didn't answer her door. I didn't have a key. I crawled through her window. I thought she sleeping. Ill never get over this. I wanted to get a home for the two of us, i wanted to take care of her. I wanted to tell her i found us a place. My heart will be forever broken. 💔. I ve read some many of the comments. I hope on to the Lord, that one day we all will be reunited. Until then she'll be greatly missed.
This absolutely describes the full grief I went through and and still going through after losing my husband of 23 years. He was my best friend since I'm 10 years old and it's been almost 5 years and it doesn't get easier. And to add to this I have been diagnosed with MS and lesions on my brain when being perfectly healthy all my life. So I not only lost my best friend but am now very ill. But I have 2 amazing boys to live everyday for and refuse to give up even though I wholeheartedly believe I have such a broken heart. Thank you for the video bc it speaks all truth.
I'm so sorry. That is how I feel about my brother. My soul companion and best friend in life who I loved more than my husband or anyone. I have to live for my child and fear I will never recover.
The day I found out my daughter died I felt it felt like someone reached in and crushed my heart. it has been years but I still grieve. It is something you never get over.
I’m a minute into this video and I can tell you from experience it’s dry mouth and itching. Been through it twice my husband of 24 years and my mother at 92 after I had cared for her for 5 years.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it as time and life goes on , it’d be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?…,
Like others here, I too lost my beloved husband suddenly in December 😢 and miss him every day. I cry when I have to, but choose to keep going as he would want me to, hard though it is. Keep plodding on, reaching out, and reliving good memories, people…❤
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it as time and life goes on , it’d be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?.,.
What you have said here is so true. You made me cry. You haven't upset me it just so true what you have said i though loosing my mother was bad but having recently lost my dog the pain was overwhelming it has literally crippled me i am just starting to come out the other side. Seeing this has helped me thank you 🇬🇧 ❤️
I lost my son TJ at 26 from a fentanyl overdose. Found him in the bathroom, shower running, he was slumped on the toilet, face white, lips blue, ice cold. My son was gone. It's been 6 years ago and I think about it every day. RIP Trevor, Dad misses you.❤❤❤
I'm so sorry for your loss.😢
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God bless you 🙏 I lost my 33 year old son the same way, I fake it till I make it.
@@chriswright2250 I am sorry. I hope you can find a listening ear for the trauma you carry. A safe place to take it to another human witness…God bless you sir.🙏🏽
I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your son. Sending you my sincere condolences and warmest wishes, Teresa 🌸🌺🌹
That is one reason why so many people die within a few years of a loved one's death. I get mad when some people say, "Get over it, get on with your life, move on, etc". Everyone grieves in a different way and that should be accepted and respected.
Oh only if it were that easy none of us would be listening to this video. I lost my love three days ago and I have trouble breathing and my heart hurts like my heart can’t catch up with the beating
Thank you Susan for pointing this out. I lost my son to cancer when he was 23 years old. I will never get over his loss,,,,but everyone thinks I should. I was okay when my mum and dad passed away, as that is the normal, but to lose a child is the absolute worst. And then the fact that everyone abandons you.....cause they say they dont know what to say. Well for a start....try just saying something.
@@cococarton3601 people are strange. How about depending on who it is. Perhaps a hand on a shoulder with a squeeze just to without words tell the person who is grieving, that your here for them. Acknowledgement goes along way
@@melissahanna2815 Thanks Melissa, that is what I thought. Take care from Vancouver, Canada
My sympathy to all of you dealing with losing a loved one. Its been 6 months since I lost my partner and best friend. I dont know how I'm still here
I am 73. Everybody I have loved are gone now. My mom, dad, fiancé, brother, my dog and 2 months ago my beloved Moluccan cockatoo. I now feel that the last bit of my heart has died. I have nobody left.
I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.
I understand completely what you’re saying.
Jesus sees your pain.
May the Lord be with you and comfort you in your sorrow. Perhaps if you join a walking group or volunteer in your community, you will feel the Light warm your heart. ❤❤❤
I hope you are feeling better 🤗 I send you a hug as to show you my support.
It is hard when those close to us leave, whether they be family, friends or a pet. My sister passed away at 70 years in 2020 from complications with COVID-19. My best friend, the same from COVID-19, 2 years later at age 61. It just felt like at the time 2 of the people I was closest to died. It was a shock and I think about them and other family members who have passed away at least once a day. I still have an older brother & his family, but it's not the same and has been a major adjustment for me. I'm grateful for my 2 small dogs that have helped me through the grieving process.
The 3 major stresses in life are divorce,death & moving. I have gone through all of those in the past 9 years. What a challenge at times it has been.
I nursed my husband during COVID, we were alone. He died, restricted numbers for cremation service. COVID continued, no one came round to visit. Throughout all that time I received no comforting hug, or warmth, other than phone calls from my sister. I grieved on my own, BUT Christ and his blessed Mother were by my side.
I am so sorry 💗
I’m very sorry. 😢
I feel so bad for you. Hugs to you ❤
I am so sorry. Journaling really helps me. I write to my momma all the time. And talk to her everyday.
Sad to hear may you receive grace and peace.
Grief. I buried my 3 children ages 12,15,17 death date 3.29.19. A mother is not supposed to do this. I found this very informative and in no way could I grasp it before this time. I thought I would die. I wished I had died. But no. So grief never leaves. It is my new normal. Be kind to those out there as you never know the journeys.
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I'm so so sorry 😢😢😢
😭😭😭I'm so sorry dear Pamela! You'll see them again when it's your time to join them.
Sending you my love ❤
Pamela Erts,
What a difficult situation bro come to grips with. Truly sorry.
The loss is temporary, as ALL in the Memorial Tombs will awaken...
John 5:28
Omg I lost my Daddy and Sister last year 4 months apart but I can’t imagine ur pain.. I’ve been crying for four hours straight but your pain… I am so so sorry😢
As a neuroscientist and someone who has taken my mother's loss exceptionally hard. I can tell my cognition and health have taken a massive hit. She was the love of my life and when she died shd took me with her. I'm literally and physically a different person now.
My mother passed away 14 years ago and it feels like it was yesterday. I remember everything that happened in the 7 1/2 months leading up to her passing. I too am a different person what I realize now is that I learned a lot from her while she was ill, because I was her only caretaker. I had zero help from anyone. I now know that I am stronger than I thought I could ever be, and I’m not afraid to speak my mind like I used to be before she became ill. I talk about her as if she were still with me. That’s the only way that I can keep sane. She was truly my best friend and my only real friend. I miss her every minute of every day.
Hello Ann, I am not a qualified scientist like you but several of my instincts often end up proven by professors. My instinct about what made my own health deteriorate makes me wish I had my chemical make-up tested and stored and then compared to how my body is now after years of trauma and grief.
Thank you ❤😢😢😢😢😢😢
My daughter died unexpectedly in 2020, I now have high b/p, take meds for that. Like you when she died I died too, I’ll never be the same. I look for her everywhere and death will be a relief.
I found my partner dead a month ago ,he was only56 years old.we lived together for 17 years,one day we had plans and dreams now I just don’t know how to function anymore. I have been through so much in my 54 years,but this is the worst pain I have ever experienced.your mums time came and there is nothing you could have done,she would want you to be happy."….thinking of the beautiful time you spent together.I wish I had a mum just like yours.she sounds so sweet,you stay alive so those memories can be shared.god bless you
Matthew 5:4
“Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.”
Comforted by the opium of religious delusion
I put my faith and trust in Jesus. HE is the only true comfort 🙏
@@stacyflood4319Amen 🙌
In this lifetime?!
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My husband passed away 8 months ago we were married for 33 years.
I totally believe in broken heart syndrome my heart was racing thought i was having a ❤ attack & not sleeping & was overwhelmed with sadness.I dont wish this on anyone my heart aches & the loneliness is unbearable 😢
Hang in there, it takes a long time to work through it, I'm 3 and a half years into losing my partner and still feel like I have a way to go. Just be good to yourself, treat yourself and live to make them proud. It's a long hill to climb but every step gets us closer to living with the reality. All the best.
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss and that the loneliness is unbearable. Wishing you peace. My thoughts are with you, Teresa.
I lost my husband 13 weeks ago and the grief is unbearable. We were together nearly 60yrs since we were 13yrs old, childhood sweethearts, and my hearts breaks for him. People say it will get better in time but it doesn’t feel like it will.
@@wearsidelass5013 It seems that way for a start, but eventually you can cope. I'm pleased you got 60 good years with someone you loved, that's rare nowadays. We lost mum back in August, they were married 63 years. Dad's got great memories and is doing ok. All the best.
I understand. I too share your grief.
People can also experience grief from the loss of a pet, an item, or the way that life has turned out at 30, 50 or more years. We all have some kind of loss at many points of our lives, and honestly it really sucks. It’s really ok to scream or cry or simply do nothing. Find someone to talk to, work out, go for a walk, journal, or clean the house, but please don’t isolate yourself, as grief demands a witness. Be with someone even though it may feel strange. You don’t even have to say anything, just be with somebody. I’m there right now, as I lost my 15 year old boxer-shepherd mix Faith about 5 weeks ago. It’s really hard today. I wish you all peace in your difficult time.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss Tim. I wish you peace during this difficult time. Thank you for sharing your insights for others. Take care, Teresa.
Yup, no one really talks much about the grief that comes with divorce/breakup with a life partner. I lost my father & finally divorced my abusive husband when he was caught bragging that he was going to take half of whatever my father left for me...
I had also just lost my paternal grandmother, who acted as mother in my life, my husband had dumped me over committing to being her end-of-life caregiver for free, but wouldn't allow for me to divorce him due to all the extra money he got from the military pretending we were together.
I went thru some much grief in that time-frame, plus all the stress of rebuilding all alone, that I didn't actually process the grief of the divorce until nearly a decade later.
Solidago d6 hilft !!!
Die Nieren leiden bei Trauer.
@@Chelzebelles Yes, there are many different types of loss. It certainly sounds like you have gone through a lot in a short period of time. Wishing you peace, Teresa.
Oh I am so sorry for the loss of your fur baby. I think losing them can be harder than losing a person. I know I've grieved harder over them than I have most people. Please accept my condolences and know that you will be together again one day 💔
My little brother died in 1979, my elder sister died in my arms in 1991, my Dad died in 1994 & my husband died 2.6.23. Grief is a tough road. May you all find peace after the loss of a loved one xx
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I am sorry you have lost so many of your loved ones.
Grief is hard work
Thank you Lindsay, my husband died 25.10.23 - It a tough road, thank you for sharing encouraging words. May you find peace as well.
@@dojroxanne Thanks for your response, Roxanne, my heart goes out to you... the first 2 months felt surreal, now at 5 months it still sometimes feels unreal that he's gone but I'm getting stronger & the grief now comes in waves that are overwhelming... it's the little things, memories, that get to me... & I am unable to part with his toothbrushes in his mug above the bathroom basin or his things in the bathroom cabinet like his shaving foam & after shave, they comfort me... but it does improve & I'm not on auto-pilot anymore... you will find who your true friends are & I say love them with all your heart, they are the soldiers of your soul who carry you through this... & don't forget God, I am not religious but I very strongly believe in God... I have found indescribable comfort in God xx
After watching this video, everything made sense. Since I lost my daughter, life hasn't been the same. It can only be God that is sustaining me.
I found my son senselessly shot about 4 1/2 years ago. He ended up dying. I had broken heart syndrome, loss of appetite, weight gain from cortisol hormone…PTSD…and ended up diagnosed with cancer almost a year ago. I felt myself getting sick. I was. I allowed myself to grieve but I was bitter about no justice. No accountability! Grief and stress can definitely kill you!
My son died nearly 8 years ago and I will never be a whole person again. Some days are ok, some days i just don't want to move. I hate this so much.
Im the same i lost my adult daugjter yr half after my son they took my life the day they went my house is a mess i cant be bothered i go about a sort of daily routine havent been in my back garden for over 2ys or more
I'm so sorry, will this grift ever leave us? I to find it hard two move on. my legs will move but I can't get my heart two let go nomatter what I do.🌷
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I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my niece/godchild over 15 years ago. She was my sister’s only child. We are a very close family and she was like one of my own. I watched my sister in so much pain for years. I had a very difficult trauma occur almost 9 years ago when I found out about my husband’s infidelities. I was devastated and my world fell apart. I now have PTSD. My psychiatrist told me that a person can only take so many traumas and their brain just “breaks”. I do not leave my home. Actually live in my bedroom. Have absolutely no motivation to do anything. I loved sewing before those 9 years ago. Sewing brought me so much joy. I have lost all joy, peace and comfort. I have learned to NOT listen to anyone telling me I need to get out of the house to overcome the trauma. I was never a social person to begin with. I do not have any desire to go out anywhere. During all of these years of being so depressed and even more depressed because I can’t get out of my depression. I finally accepted this is who I will be for the rest of my life. I never will be the woman I was before all of this happened. I found somewhat of a freedom once I accepted this is who I am and how I deal with life. Don’t ever be down on yourself. I’ve lost a few people who I was very close to. I lost my dad. Then I lost my 21 yr old neice, and I lost my mom in August of 2022. The only comfort I do have is that I know I will see them again when I take my last breath on this earth. Please be kind to yourself. Especially do not beat yourself up because you can’t do what you did before. It does not make your worth any less. God loves you and is with you 24/7. Some people question God when they experience any hardships. And that’s ok. He understands and is there for you. I talk to God all of the time. Sending prayers your way. 🙏🙏🙏
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I am so very sorry for all of you who have lost a child, no matter what age. I have not experienced that but my sister lost her only child 15 years ago. It was a huge loss for me too. She was like one of my own. We are a very close family. There are no words or actions that can remove the heavy grief that is still there. I have experienced many other traumas in the 15 years since she left us. I am 64 yrs old. My husband’s affairs were exposed 9 yrs ago and it destroyed me. Everyone grieves in a different way. I will never be the woman I was before I found out about my husband’s unfaithfulness. He had 3 affairs over a 13 yr span. The grief I experienced when my godchild passed away was different than it is now. I needed to be there for my sister. I needed to put my own grief away until my sister was ok. She is ok but life will never be the same. I am stuck. I can’t get past my husband’s betrayals. What happened to me is the traumas build up and I now have PTSD, depression and anxiety with panic attacks. Your brain can only experience so much trauma before it breaks. I don’t leave my home. I live in my bedroom. It took me a few years to let myself be ok with who I am now. What I wanted to say to all of you who have lost a child is take one day at a time and don’t put so much pressure on trying to be who you were before. Things will never be the same no matter if you don’t do the things you did before and that’s ok. I’ve been retired for 12 years and I love to sew. I had a room all set up with my sewing machine and embroidery machine with lots of fabrics. I made lap quilts and outfits for my precious granddaughters. Sewing was my passion. It brought so much joy to me. I can’t get the motivation to even try to pick up where I left off in my sewing room. Grief is something we all experience and we all deal with it differently. Some just move on ahead as we do things to avoid processing the grief. I am so very sorry for all of you. Don’t be hard on yourself. It’s okay to not be okay. 🙏
Losing a loved one is the hardest thing ever
About a year after my husband’s sudden death, a cardiologist diagnosed me with broken heart syndrome. For a second there I thought he was being cruel but he explained. The thing is that I had no outlet for my grief. Everyone abandoned me like I was contagious and I lived overseas from my family. I was utterly alone. No one to talk to at all. I thought I might die, it felt like it but the VERY important thing is that I DID NOT. I carved a life for myself and that life included none of those awful people. I moved back to my home and 7 years later met the man that is my husband now. There IS life ahead. It may not be remarriage, but there’s life, there’s healing and there’s hope.
It's things like remarriage that can save lives. It certainly saved you.
crazy how people abandon you in the most volatile time of your life. I experienced the same thing, when my mom passed. I try to understand and not judge, but sometimes its hard to see how heartless and brutal people can be. So sad! happy you found your peace. I am very much still in the grieving process.. miss her very second of every day, see my mom was my soulmate, love of my life and l feel that the world went dark. Gives me hope that there is good things ahead.
Beautiful words of hope🙏
My mother died of broken heart syndrome. She was so sad. They had been 86 and 83 years and married for 62 years. Now I am an old lady orphan.
My Uncles and other family abandoned me when my mother died. They called to see if I was ok for a week then stopped and I’ve not heard from them since I saw my auntie in a shop and waved to her but she blanked me…
People can be so bloody cruel.
When my little girl died suddenly I felt like I’d been eviscerated. I was walking around for weeks just holding my abdomen because it physically felt like it had been removed. Every morning when I woke up after it happened, it would all hit me and I’d get up and vomit. It was like a sick joke mimicking morning sickness. All food tasted of ashes, it was hard to swallow any food. And cups, I remember cups of tea weighing a ton. Grief physically takes you out in so many ways.
I’m so sorry for you. No mother should lose a child. I lost a baby but it’s not the same thing as yours. I pray God will heal you of all grief. We never forget and just go on. So sad. In Jesus Christ so bless you🙏🌟✝️
So sorry for your loss they always say time heals I hope it will for you
If I didn’t suppress my tears , I would be crying all the time
Me too
My mom passed away at the end of 2021. Her passing shook me to the core but I had to stop feeling the grief because I literally started having scary chest pains every time I started to cry for her. The first few days after her passing, my body started going numb, my breathing was very shallow and painful when I took deep breaths, I lost about 8 lbs in a matter of three days. Even now, when the wave of grief comes back, I can’t let myself give into it because the moment I let it, my chest hurts the same way it did back then. I feel the need to cry my eyes out but I can’t because of the scary chest pain I get. I don’t know how to embrace the wave and cry for my mom until I feel relieved. I’m 52 and I still miss my mom so much and forever until I get to be with her in the after life. I love you mom 🥹
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. Sending you warm wishes, Teresa.
Pat I’m 52 as well and lost my mother in October 21. I know exactly what you are talking about. I have had several anxiety attacks since then. It’s so scary. I never had one before my mother died. We have to take good care of ourselves. In time I think it will her a little better but right now, we’re adjusting to our new normal. Hang in there dear.
May your mom rst in peace pain free.. everything you wrote there sounds like myself exactley when my mum passed away in 2018...I have only cried once....which was the day after she passed away and it physically hurt me ! in my gut and right through my body....that crying momeny hurt so much I block out every sad thought about looseing her now to stop myself from crying ....I feel and understand your emotional and physical pain
I'm sooo sorry the loss of ur mom ...I loss my mom in 2018 still cry for her I won't stop until I meet her in heaven...I know ur pain.Blessings ✝️🙏
Lost my mum 2018 and the grief comes and goes but the pain never leave you. She was 64. We left on the best terms but I'd give my right arm to have more time with her. Sending my sympathies to fellow grievers xx
My next door neighbor 20 years ago, lost her husband. During his funeral, she put her head on her son’s shoulder and died of a heart attack. She was totally lost without him. It was so sad and shocking.
Oh my god that is so sad 😞
I understand that kind of heartbreak. so sad.
THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE THAT IS
PRAYING FOR YOU. I AM THE LAST IN
MY FAMILY BUT SOULS IN HEAVEN ARE
ALWAYS PRAYING FOR YOU. PRAY, PRAY
Thank you
My son died on Christmas Day in 2018. Eight months later I had an angry lump in my breast. It was cancer. I feel it was directly related to my deep grief.
God bless you breathe deep. slowly. think about yourself. you have to go on
I'm sure glad ur here, my heart goes to u. Plus you set us an excellent example if you can tough it out and make it so can we!
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter so I know the pain you are going through. I am so sorry about your cancer and wish you a speedy recovery ❤
My husband left me for another woman after eighteen years of marriage in July 2021. My heart broke! I went through an immense amount of emotions. I recently had breast cancer and a mastectomy on the left side. I attributed it to my broken heart. If I did not have the Lord Jesus Christ in my life I would have died. ✝️👑💞
He's the only one was put my life and heart together.
💔❤️🩹❤️💝
I learned I have been grieving the gradual loss/change in my career path after being discriminated, and lied to so a younger favorite person could leapfrog me. I just found a lump in my right breast, and will go through diagnostic testing soon. I believe they have harmed me. I’m going to have to seek justice, this is so wrong! I’m so sorry you had this happen to you, and I do believe it is a symptom of stress/grief! So sorry!
I lost my sweet handsome 26 year old son to a hit and run on 10.23.23 . He was run over by an illegal immigrant . Jesus is our blessed hope and resurrection.. 🙌
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My deepest sympathies for your loss.💔🙏
I am so very sorry.
My mom was murdered in front of me and I couldn't do anything about it in 2018. She was my only living relative. I was 125 pounds, lost down to 86 pounds, unable to eat or sleep. I cried so hard for so long my blood pressure went through the roof and high cortisol affects my whole body. I'm trying to gain weight. I was diagnosed with Takutsmo syndrome (broken heart syndrome). I'm now 96 pounds but it's so hard gain and keep it. Grief has rewired me in ways that I may never recover from since the damage was extensive. Hugs to anyone experiencing this. 🤗
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Praying to Jesus to give you His peace.💞💞
I'm so sorry. Sending a big hug your way .
I’ve been through this
Sending prayers for strength.. grief is unbearable sometimes 😔
The only thing keeping my alive after losing two brothers at such a young age unexpectedly is Jesus Christ . Without him I wouldn’t even be here he’s the only thing keeping me alive and sane .
AMEN !!!! Im right there w/you !!!
Amen ❤ I don't know how people survive grief without Him
That’s very sad to hear. Imagine looking to an empty sky for peace. Seek real healing and help.
I !most my grandmother and my young 9 year old sweet rescue corgi both this fall. Jesus isn't help ing you he's hurting you I want to talk to someone my parents won't let me. So I'm talking to someone from our church. Your strange. Plus I play the violin its my natural gift.
Typo I lost my grandmother
The most unfair and debilitating thing anyone can go through on this earth in my opinion. It’s so sad that we live in a world where we will have to grieve the ones who love us the most. God give us all the strength. This life is a lot
Yes it’s overwhelming and even worse we are expected to go to work and carry on an act like everything is ok while we are drowning in grief!
My son died he was 18yrs old & i miss him more than anything i did have a few of these symptoms especially ver eating which i found strange although it was through the pandemic also.,my life has been changed but i have Jesus Christ who has comforted me throughout,
Read Journey of Souls.
@@cyndimoring9389 will look it up thankyou 💫
Amen, Jesus Christ is our savior in all that we do ! So glad to hear that from you. A lot of ppl lose faith during such times, but he is the only way to really find true comfort 💔🙏
@@melb2258 yes, Jesus, Buddha, or Allah. They all work, depending on your upbringing.
Michelle 🙏🌹 (Canada)
Thank you for this video. My husband died on 2nd June 2023. I'm trying to find who I am. I'm so grateful for my little Chi dog. My children are grown up & out of the house with their own children. Life is very different without him. I feel directionless & living is lonely. I've lost a lot of weight though I eat like a horse & healthy good food! What has pulled me through so far is watching & listening to TH-cam videos of Freddie Mercury & Montserrat Caballe & Queen & now the 2023 Rugby World Cup xx God Bless everyone in their heartache xx
Same here lost my husband in January and my kids don't live near me. All I have is my cat to talk to and my phone friends. I watch alot of youtube. I like the lady that dies the Littlepoet.
@@patcharlton8837 My heart is with you in your grief Pat, these are tough days for you... it's now 11 months for me & the days are still tough. Bless you, Pat xx
@@lindsayjenions2795 I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it as time and life goes on , it’d be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
@@chrisjohnson-l4n Hello Chris thanks for your response. I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your wife. I'm from South Africa. I read all the comments on this wonderful site and realize how many of us suffer grief and heartbreak and our stories are so different but this one element links us all so closely... we are linked through our hearts and souls, all so separate from one another yet we are one in this very tough journey of grief... I would like to tell you that I'm doing great after a year and a half but that would be a lie... I eat well but I've lost a lot of weight, I've aged so much since my husband died... I'm still trying to find myself and a direction... I've learnt the little trick of not letting myself think too much about his last months... to others, I look fine... truth is, after a few months no-one remembered my husband anymore, they reckoned I was and am fine... and I realized that other people have their own lives and life goes on... and so we must travel this road alone... thank you to everyone who has posted on this site - you have brought me comfort and through you and your grief and heartache I know I am not alone in this xxx lots of love and hugs to you all xx God Bless xx
@@lindsayjenions2795 I live in st Augustine Florida ..
Both my parents were killed in a horrific way and I witnessed it at 11 years old. I've been grieving since that day. My heart is permanently broken.
🙏God bless you ❤
@@anne-vl7qf You too, thank you ❤️
@darcandelaria Peace and Love to you.
My deepest condolences 🕊️🕊️🕊️ I’m sorry you have to experience such pain. RIP 🕊️🕊️
I am so sorry for this trauma to you. Sending you 🙏
At 63 I am getting used to the frequency with which family and old friends are dying, and the regular addition of another heartbreaking loss. This has given me a new respect for the frail elderly, ageing is not simply a matter of the body wearing out, its is a body besieged with cumulative grief that we will all nurture into our 90s, if indeed we make it that long.
I'm sorry to hear you have experienced multiple losses. Sending you warm wishes, Teresa.
Very true.
I’m at the beginning of this realization. Mom died in Feb and it hurt more than anything I’ve experienced before. Then I started looking at the people I love sort of like ticking time bombs… imagining how broken I will be if/when I lose them someday. It freighted me and I realized what old people must experience by the time they get there. Nobody will know 100% for sure until we pass ourselves but I do have a very strong belief that our souls are eternal and will always be reunited with other souls we love again at some point if we wish it to be so. I don’t think it is goodbye forever just goodbye for now.
Any one of us any minute....
Life is fragile.
Handle with prayer.
@David Parfitt I will never forget you said that. At 56, I feel my losses so deeply. We often look at older people without seeing them and stopping to consider what they carry. Thank you for pointing this out.
My son are missing. The police never found his body. This is a non stop grieving process😢😢😢
I’m so sorry to hear that. Warm wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology Thank you so much
Oh my god. Any news? Are they still investigating? Are you nagging the police to keep the case at the forefront. I am so sorry for your loss and hope they at least find him.
Iam going through this right now.myson has been misding for 7 weeks now.Foul play is suspected. Its pure torture.my life is at a standstill.
@@jlb56 I am so sorry, that sounds awful to be dealing with, but I hope there will be closure at some point (hugs)
After my husband died I had heart palpitations for nearly a year. Very uncomfortable. Finally went to the doctor who did an EKG. Normal. She chalked it up to grief stress. It finally went away.
Even now 8 years later whenever I smell wood smoke I cry, because it takes me back to all times my husband and I spent camping. It also reminds me of my childhood because my mom loved to keep a fire going in the fire place.
Its hard being the only one left. Im in my early 60's with no family and no children. And its very hard to cultivate meaningful friendships..
WBL. I know exactly what you mean. Heart palpatationw, the works. One year on, it washes over me like a wave sometimes....I wonder will it, does it, get better?
I get those too. So scary.
My father passed away 25 years ago from Alzheimer's. My mom passed away five months ago at the age of 96. I had been responsible for much for her, although she was in a nursing home the last four years ... which was an awful experience all around. I feel a profound loss. Even a couple of nights ago, I woke up in the middle of the night with much guilt that I "could have done more". I do have two sons who are adults but not married w/no children. I have a husband who is 70. Our little dog is 9, she sleeps with us every night, but has a bad heart now. I lay there at night and know that currently I am surrounded by these two people who I love, and who love me, so very much. But that someday, I will probably be the one alone in this bed. I know I shouldn't waste time I have now by thinking these kinds of thoughts. But, of course, I do from time to time. I am sorry for this woman's grief. I know what she means about cultivating meaningful relationships later on in life. I hope someone is on her path to being a meaningful friend in the near future.
Be patient, there are still genuine ppl in this world who would love to cultivate a true friendship... Be patient and kind to yourself... Its always on the horizon.
My situation is so similar to yours. The chest pains, the loneliness, not having any family.
When my daughter was diagnosised with a brain tumor...every other word out of her mouth was about dying not making it thru...i research & sent her to a greif counselor...i went a few times with her too...single best thing i did...her attitude changed...surgery was a success...she is now the mother of 2 & i am proud of her...
I physically felt my insides being pulled out. My digestive system shut down for over a week. The physical symptoms are so real
I can so relate. Hope you are doing ok. Sometimes survival is a struggle in itself.
Much love ❤
i lost my beloved husband in febuary and since he died i feel lost and so lonly he was my sole mate and i was his sole mate and i dont no what to do without him
Mom died in February. My whole body has been effected. I thought maybe I was dying too but slowly things are getting back on track. I scheduled a bunch of tests because I had so many physical symptoms.
Can you believe that at least here in Northern California- the standard amount of time given to people to mourn the death of a family member is only 6 days? 😮 and I am pretty sure because of my corporate job, I am lucky to get that. Our culture is so unrealistic about the grieving process.
I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mom, sending you my sincere condolences. Take care, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology thank you ♥️
I lost my husband 6 months ago and am still a mess. My therapist says it takes at least 7 months to even see a way out
@@cyndimoring9389 I’m so sorry for your loss. A close friend of mine lost her husband last summer and she is still very much in grief too. I started doing ketamine guided therapy to try and heal from the loss of my mom. I took care of her for 5 years before she passed. By the end I was so exhausted. I have so much guilt about not doing enough even though I did as much as I could and far more than I knew I was capable of. Hopefully you are not dealing with guilt along with grief but if you are it can turn into “complicated grief” that can sometimes go on years and years. The ketamine therapy is helping move my feelings through rather than bottling them up and soldiering on. I cried a million gallons on my first session but 5 days post now - and I do feel some relief. I was able to connect with my mom’s spirit (at least in my own mind) and make more apologies. I’ll do another session next week and keep going until I can function properly again. At least that is my plan. I have no way of knowing if you relate to any of my stuff? Grief is just so brutally painful. Like your chest is caving in on itself without that person in your life to fill up your middle. Thought I’d share to try and be useful. Sending you prayers of love and light to support you on your healing journey.
@@DawnSTyler yes, I relate completely. I was my mom's advocate until she died, and I nursed my husband for months watching him die of cancer. Guilt is always an easy way to go, but imagine if we hadn't been there to help them. When my mom died I told her dr. we could've done more and he told me this is every loved one's feeling. Very natural because we wanted them to live, but not valid, since they would've died anyway. If we'd done one thing right, something else would've happened anyway. Yes, guilt is not what the dead want for us. When I'm in deep grief mode I feel a true hole in my heart/gut. Just tell yourself, what would you loved one want for you now? We don't want them to feel guilty over us.
My husband of 41 years died very suddenly and unexpectedly in August, 2021. In 2022 I was diagnosed with HBP and an irregular heartbeat. My blood pressure wouldn’t come down even with medication. I just had my annual cardiology appointment (2023) and the doctor said all of my symptoms have resolved and are back to normal. I still cry every day.
I lost my husband 4 months ago I was wondering if I would ever stop crying now I know I guess I won't 😢
I'm sorry for your loss.
Oh my god I’m so sorry for you all.. I’d be completely broken without my husband. Honestly I just couldn’t live on. I feel I’d have nothing to live for. I’m praying that you all are surrounded by the love of others to help you through, but for me personally I just couldn’t do it. My H had been sick recently and I’ve been out of my mind with worry…
So sorry❤
My 70 year old father has advanced stage lung 🫁 cancer ♋️ and I’m not sure how long he has left to live but he is okay ✅
I’m sorry for everyone who is where and has experienced loss. May you be granted some sort of peace
I hope some peace comes soon. I am shutting down. I can’t sleep or think. I miss him so deeply. My life feels empty.
I am so scared, I am watching and caring for my mom as she declines from Stage 4 colon cancer. Each hour of each day is different.. some days are great while others I can't breathe from crying so hard and my partner must tend to my mom because I don't want her to see me breaking down. I love my mom soooo much. I will be without both my parents when she is called home and I am not ready!!!!!! Cancer sucks!!!
I will always believe that my mom, died from a broken heart. She outlived my father, by 9 yrs & 2 days, from the date of his death.
As for me, when each of them died, it was like the air left the room, and the volume of my hearing lowered, as tho u turn down a radio. It was so hard. Devastating. My whole immediate family, are gone now. I a 63 & I miss them terribly.
Nothings been the same. U simply learn to live a new normal. But grieve, we must.
RIP mom & dad❤❤❤❤
I buried my doughter Friday, she was 32 years old, I trying to be strong as I can, it's so hard💔💔💔🌹🌹🌹
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. Sending you my deepest condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology Thank you💙
I'm so sorry.
@@LukeRev480 Thank you 😔💖
@@inesnaglic472
I feel your loss ,
i buried my 30 yo only daughter on 9 Jan 2024 she died Christmas day 2023 .
I lost my husband to cancer in 2018.
It is now 2023.
I cannot stop crying.
It us so bad that evenwhen I am not crying tears fall down my face anyway.
The pupils in my eyes are also growing smaller.
I cannot stop thinking about How much we were in love
My husband is the love of my life and we were together for 43 years..
To be truthful. I do not have any reason to want to go on living. He was my whole world.
We had no children. It was just him and me. We did everything together.
Everything I did was because have made me so happy that everything I tried doing I was happy doing .
He was so kind , thoughtful and so giving .
ALL I want is to be in his arms again and to put my arms around him.
I do not know if there is an afterlife, but if there is I want to be with him forever. I hear,my name being called out sometimes.
It does not sound like my husband's voice but I could be wrong. Sometimes I think my grieving is,making me crazy , to hear my NAME being called.
Could he be trying to get in touch with me.
Maybe, But I will never know.
This life ends, but the spirit goes on to eternal life.
Also, Love is spiritual & transcends death of the body.
That's all I know with enuff certainty to share this with you.
"Guideposts" has books & a little magazine, Angels, real stories from real people, that I think you'd find helpful & comforting, when it comes to what you are wondering about & being reunited in Eternity. Nothing hokey, or overly religious, etc. It sure helped me in a Not-Pushy way. I read as much, or as little as I could handle at that moment in time. I liked that alot! I'm now almost finished with most recent book of true stories. (A writer works with them to write their story, since most of us aren't natural writers.) I'd be happy to pass them along to you, since I'm done with them. Might find tear stains on a few pages, but other than that, are in almost perfect condition. I just don't know where to ship them to you, is all. (I'm not at all social media savvy, i'm afraid. But there must be a way to do it.) I never read same books twice, so they'd just sit on the bookshelf & collect dust.
Think about it & let me know if you'd like to have them.
My name is Sunny☀️
Cgravelle, I lost my husband in 2019 of a heart attack that didn’t kill him but he kept coding every half hour or so for hours. The doctors told me they didn’t know what it was doing to his brain. After this went on for hours, I finally told them to let him go after they made me see them jumping on top of him and trying to get his heart going again, time after time. So I had to live with, did I do the right thing?
We were married almost 50 years. My high school sweetheart, my best friend, the absolute love of my life. I feel exactly like you do, and still cry everyday. I want him back with me so bad some days I can barely stand it and often times feel like I’m in a dream, or a nightmare, and will wake up and everything will be back to normal.
One difference in you and I is that I have studied the Bible for years and am convinced death was never part of Gods plan for humans. The Bible refers to it as an enemy. But it is an enemy that will one day be done away with when God resurrects the dead back to life, and reunites them with their loved ones to have the chance to live forever right here on the earth.
I would be happy to show you where it says that in your Bible, and how we can be sure it’s true, and that it would comfort you to know he’s only sleeping, as the Bible describes death. The good news is, that we are living in what the Bible describes as the last days, just before God sends his son, Jesus, to destroy all enemies, including death. Yes, there is an afterlife, right here on earth, back with our families. You may not have long to wait.
If you would like to contact me to see if this teaching is true and provable, I would love to hear from you, or anyone else reading this who are interested. Just send me an email to westonfam@ frontier.com. My name is Julie. Put RESURRECTION in the subject line to catch my attention. In the meantime here are some scriptures to look up in your Bible that I think will bring you comfort.
1 Corinthians 15:26; Revelation 21:3:4; John 11:11-13 John 11:23-25; Acts 24:15
@@Hopespringseternal543 ...That was a most wonderful response from you to her, especially since you both understand what it feels like, on deeper level than most of us can. (We only think we understand.) It was so kind of you do send that reply. I was crying reading hers, then my 'eyes began leaking' again as I read yours. And, you're right about life not over when this 1 ends. Bible refers/infers to same. Jesus couldn't tell us more cuz' we are flawed (humans) & some would not "be their best self" if thought they'd 'have more chances'. (Silly humans! Not so simple as that.) I have good reason to believe (personally) that real Love transcends physical death & that our spirit does indeed live on! Not sure on the how/when details of the happy reunion, but of Love & our souls being eternal ~ of that I have no doubt. The rest we must take on Faith. This life is temporary; Eternal life of the soul/spirit lives on eternally. (I'm just hoping my "new body" will be healthier & not look like my current one. LOL)
But seriously... May God Bless you for your heartfelt, caring reply to her ~ and may it being her some comfort to know her Love is not over, just kinda' on pause, for a time of God's choosing. God Bless you in all ways, my dear.🤗
@@Hopespringseternal543 ...BTW ~ You did the right thing. Considering the situation you described, I truly believe this. I know that doesn't make it easier, but so very glad that you have your Faith to help you thru the tough times. You did the right thing for your husband, & did it out of Love for him. Bless you for loving him so much that you put him & his well-being first! That's True Love indeed. Never, ever doubt that! You are strong & you are loved eternally, of thst I am certain.💖
My mother died in June 2022, I am still grieving and my physical health has declined.She was my whole world,a part of me died with her😢
I'm soo soo sorry your going through that, nobody should ever have to go through such pain. My gf lost her sister yesterday, and she lives 11 hours plane from me so i cant even comfort her and it breaks me seeing her so sad and me not being there physically
I lots my mother six years ago it took me three years to get my head round it. You have ti learn to put it in a place in your head you never ever get over it but you do have to put it in a place in your head or it will destroy you and you will never move on. Please feel free to talk to me im after nothing i just know sometimes its better to talk hold things in will make you ill. 🇬🇧 ❤️
Me too. She died last year this month at just 44. Can we be friends because I am an only child and i miss her so much
You can never replace a mum my mum died in 2013 I think of her everyday 🌹🙏
My Mum too passed so suddenly in May 2022. I think I was just numb for the first year and a half after, couldn't quite grasp what had just happened. But absolutely crumbled these past 6 months. Never have I felt so lost and shattered. The loss is so immense I'm not sure who I am without her. Only now starting to see some light, but it's so fleeting.
Lost mum, 6 weeks later my partner to cancer, 6 months after that and then to cap it off my beloved dog died too - the pain, i can't even measure.. i am now an orphan and its lonely, worst tho' is how others almost insist on 'getting on'...its just so incredibly hard and i totally feel those who have also lost and utter despair. The only thing i can muster is - i know exactly how you feel you are not alone and very muched loved x
Stress Cardio Myopathy or Broken Heart Syndrome Is something I just had. Last week I had a bad heart attack and almost died. By grace of God I survived. I have a lot of unresolved grief. For many years I have been in emotional stress and pain which is suppressed. Now It came to fruition as a heart attack. WOW!
Please resolve your grief with a good therapist.
I pray you’re recovering ❤️🩹
My Father passed away 10 years ago. My mother passed away in 2020. And also lost my 2 grandfathers and my paternal grandmother. The pain is indescribable. My mother's death really took a toll on me. All the strength for those who also lost loved ones. 🙏🏾
boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.kjv
Tears suddenly came when you mentioned broken heart ... Lost my husband of 44 yrs Jan 2020 - so just before Covid hit. Covid isolated me profoundly. Most of the time i was on my own, I have no living family, except my husband's brother and his wife and they live on the East coast. My heart truly broke. I don't know if I had the medical condition you described, but My heart did break. Now, 4 yrs later, I am regaining my life... life doesn't seem so bleak. I am going to learn to drive this year and I am returning to my crafts ... and taking more of an interest in my life and home. I still miss him terribly but he asked me, before he died, to go on and I promised him I would not die from the grief.
this post makes me happy and gives me hope. Im so glad that you are looking forward to better days ahead.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it as time and life goes on , it’d be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?…
Thank you for this video. You are spot on! I lost my daughter, my only child 6 years ago. My husband and I had just retired. My daughter was a single Mom, so we raised our granddaughter who was only 7. The symptoms are correct. I stopped eating and my cortisol was insane. The Drs couldn't help except prescribe sleeping meds. I didn't sleep for almost a year. We are still grieving but life must go on. Our precious granddaughter just started highschool.😢
So sorry for your loss😢I'm so glad you and your husband were able to take your granddaughter. Praying for strength for your family
May Jesús Christ heal your heart sis he’s always with you .
Kathy Miller 🙏🌹 (Canada)
I pray for u an your family her daughter your grand daughter going need a lot of help in her life to come brain changes an your heart I lost my sister 6 months ago moved in care for her but after she passed her husband illness come back which cancer in many places of his body ! I do my best to speak life in him but I am fighting myself in my lost I stayed with him because no one deserves to be alone in illness I will never have heart to walk out regardless if only my brother in law but lesson learn , you can only give so much your self I do not work care him full time an do not get out much due anxiety an depression just exhausted in thought I got go though this again ! I have mom sister live near but they work so it’s only me at this time! My anxiety getting beat of me thougn so reaching out to find sone thing to help burnt out fighting it alone ‘ I pray for all you in this Iam sorry to hear of your lost !
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter and I know the pain you are going through. I wish you peace and love 💔
To everyone in the comments ❤ you are all sensitive people and you all loved the ones you lost. That's why you feel the grief so much. You are important and touch the lives of others even in these comments. Love you all 💔🙏
I truly believe I have broken heart syndrome. I lost my husband back in 201&. My life was turned upside down… I’ve never been the same since.
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. Sending you my condolences. Warmest wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology thank you for your kind words. GOD BLESS YOU🙏🏻✝️🙏🏻✝️🙏🏻✝️
@@originalcoffeelover2725 I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it as time and life goes on , it’d be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..
Grief can knock you down, and wreck the body. It never goes away, it's juct tucked in the back of the brain.
You may not get over it but you can get through it.
Me and my husband haven’t been the sane since we lost our mothers. He lost his in 19 and I lost mine in 20. Only a few months apart. We are tired, look older, and we have had a lot of illness. We both feel ancient. I worry more for hubby as he also has a demanding job Whereas I only work part time. In age he’s still youngish only mid 40s but he feels about 70 he says some days and tbh so do I and I’m only 38….
And it roars back with every new loss.
@@PaperbackWriter...1966you don't really get through it. It sticks with you. All you do is learn to live with it
I appreciate this insights this video provides. I lost my mom and was left alone. I had one last source of comfort, my pet therapy dog, Frosty. Frosty was a constant source of love,comfort and joy. God decided He needed Frosty in heaven. He died 10 days ago and Im devastated. Every day Im overwhelmed at periods with grief. Im experiencing much of what is discussed here.
When my cat died 2 months ago, he was an angel and best animal ever. He died in my hands. I was petting him. My heart hurt for 4 days. Literally.
It was the Queen who said, "Grief is the price we pay for love." So true.
@@PaperbackWriter...1966 I’d happily pay for it again.
I just lost my cat of 17 years almost a month ago. She was killed on my front porch by two unleashed dogs. I found her in my yard and was able to be with her for her last few breaths. It is such a deep loss when we lose our little companions. Just know you’re not alone
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️@@brookeelizabeth8266
Yeah it does hurt literally, especially over beautiful fur babies.. I grieve all my furbabies waiting for me at Rainbow Bridge... They will be the first to greet me there with my Dad who is probably the caretaker of their garden.
When my mom passed I felt like I was dying. I sincerely felt like something was wrong with me. I felt physically ill. I was convinced that I was suffering with some type of autoimmune disorder or something. I didn’t realize it actually was my grief. 6 years later I feel a lot better.
When my only sister died I could not eat because the smell of food made me nauseous. And my hands shook so badly I could not hold anything.
This lasted for about half a year. I thought I was going to die.
This is what I’m going through. I feel overwhelming exhaustion, brain fog, body aches and pains, cold feeling on my skin.
Oh my God I’m so glad I found this video. I lost my son last night. He was a third son had lost in 22 years. I was so busy at first I didn’t have time to grieve in the last three months it is hit me hard not just emotionally but physically my diabetes my arthritis everything is just gotten much worse so thank you for putting this video out there. I greatly appreciate it.
Last may not last night
I just want to tell you it was actually this morning I found a video on TH-cam about what grief can do to a person I was amazed. This explains a lot not just emotionally but physically. It’s called the physical symptoms of grief. You can find it on TH-cam under the channel Lewis psychology. I found it very helpful and I hope all of you will too.
May youre memories be a blessing of your loved ones always.I love my pictures they bring me comfort and know some day l will be with them again.Dreams are wonderful.May God bless each of you❤
My husband died 4 weeks ago after a sudden, short illness. I'm still feeling devastated and cry multiple times a day. I know this is a process I must go through, but it's difficult and depressing. I've noticed the weather also affects my mood also. Sunny day = happier, overcast day = sadder. Thank you for this video, it helped me understand what is happening in my body.
I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warmest wishes, Teresa 🌺
You are in my prayers dear.
Thank you!@@grettalemabouchou6779
💜 take care 💜
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it as time and life goes on , it’d be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?..,
I just lost my mom to cancer. I stayed with her the whole time she was in hospice. I saw her body go the the stages of death and was there when she took her last breath. I feel devastated and guilty because I put her in hospice . I feel like I will never recover. Thank you for sharing
You were there. You did better than me. There's really no way to win.
I share your grief. I have never met you Amy and I love you .
Hospice is the best solution. Was able to stay with my sister too. Do not feel guilty.
The hospice workers we had when my husband passed from cancer
were angels on earth. I don't think you could have put your mother in better hands.
For a moment there, I actually thought I must have written this and just forgotten posting it. I went thru the same except my mom died a few minutes before I got to the hospice. I found her dead in her bed and called the nurse and then I just sat there beside her.
I lost my husband of 28 years in January 2023 then I lost my beloved dog of 12 years 8 mouths later..I miss them both so much..it fells so hard to move on.😢 it hurts to live without them.
I’m so sorry to hear about your losses. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology Thank you Teresa 🧡
I’m so sorry ❤
@@carolyndawn2160 Thank you 💙
@@LewisPsychology Thank you dear 💕
Six years ago my son passed away in bed in his apartment, from something treatable. I was in shock for a year. Still live a much more withdrawn life.
Grief nearly killed me last year
Hyper empathy a close 2nd
I wish all of you, inner peace 🕯️
I hope everyone who is in grief here finds a way to trust the remaining time you have in your destiny- no matter how different or useless or difficult you feel - you are still here, looking at this screen, hearing words you need to hear, existing for the rest of us and for yourself and for time. If it feels empty and colorless and anxious, that is okay. If all you did today that didn’t feel hard was nothing, that is okay. We are taught to believe life on earth can only feel good with sprinkles of bad but even a baby comes into this world traumatized, crying, lost, dependent. This sounds dark but I don’t mean it that way. You have to get spiritual about it. You have to know there is an other side, that it sees you, hears you, can help you if you ask. Don’t worry about who you were before loss. You are exactly what and who and how you’re divined to be right now. Don’t worry about how long it feels it’ll take to feel normal for a bit. Time isn’t real. It just passes and we breathe. We love. We get love. And we go. Trust nature. Trust your pain. Trust your body’s survival. Let go of the fear that life won’t allow you the freedom to feel or recover. That is half the pain. I hold all of you in my chest, my arms, my eyes, with deep understanding and humanity. Search for warm people to hold you with their purity. And if you can’t find them, look in an animal’s eyes. Look at a leaf shaking in the wind. Feel the ground carrying you. I promise, on the other side of loss is bold freedom. Is the adventure of the next life. If you’re never the same, trust you completed the role your identity came to play. Trust who you are now, with all of your remaining heart and mind - you are perfect. You are here. You have the right to continue in any way possible for you. Be kind to yourself. Take your vitamins. (Specifically, vitamin D, fish oil, magnesium, rhodiola and gaba). Let anyone who doesn’t understand where you are or hurts you further in the experience, go. You will reunite with all you lost, when the will of time believes you should. When you feel afraid of all this uncertainty and change, tell yourself you’re brave. Life is asking you to be brave. To be excited to see what could possibly be left for you to learn or do or give or receive. It could seem small but if you are here, you are not done. If you are here, you are not done. You don’t have to know anymore, what that means. Losing this control is your chance to claim total, complete, independence and trust in life. Magic happens then. Even if it has to find you in between agony. Look at how strong you are looking at this screen. I’ve had years where just doing that much was too traumatic. There was no relief from agony anywhere. And I can type now. I couldn’t then. I was alive and dead at once in every way. I couldn’t pet my dog, look at the sky, not resent the sunshine, see color, in anything. My body collapsed so often. I don’t know why I’m here - but I can type to you. I can validate you. And if you were in front of me, I could give you unconditional love. Even if it’s just in my intent. That’s magic. That’s the surrender to time. If we all embraced this more, we could take care of each other in all of life’s jarring shifts. Hold onto anything, I mean literally anything, that gives you a sand particle of pleasure, unashamed of it. And when pain shows up, as it will - tell it you’re not afraid. You will embody this thing. You will let it come out and leave you. You are a force of nature. Even if you can’t move, you change, molecules around you - you change life. Your power, your identity, your purpose isn’t lost. It just needs to be noticed differently by you. That’s all. This is the task of grief. You can fucking do it. You really can and you really will. And if you die from this, let’s say you die from it - that’s okay too. That just means you leave this plane. This isn’t the only one. This is a short trip. It feels intense, but it’s short. So trust it’s pace. Trust your pain. Trust your past. And let the future be. You’re golden. I am so grateful you are here. I am so proud of you for giving yourself the chance to be human. I am so honored to type for people who feel deeply and love deeply enough to grieve. I hope these words have something in them for you that you need. If you’re still on this random ball floating in space, it still will find a way to guide you into place. Everything in space does that. Always, after chaos. Trust what you can’t know and you will be whole again - home again, in a new way. Trust your new home. You are that home. No matter how much hurt you hold. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing such beautiful words of wisdom and compassion. Your words touched my soul, thank you again. With my best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology thank YOU for you and your noble work and your channel. I am honored to have the opportunity to say anything that speaks anything to your or anyone’s soul. Best wishes back, truly🙏🏼❤️
I love you. Did you lose a child? I did, and the words you wrote could have come straight from my heart. I can feel your love and compassion for the pain of grief, and that it must have come from experience. You gave me a! Tittle light tonight
That was meant to be a little light for gods sake.oh well
Thankyou❤
..am grieving at the moment...l suddenly lost my beloved wife of 44-years of marriage just a few weeks ago..
Everything seemed so surelist..like coming to your home but everything seemed to have been rearranged..
Speaking of the song..
" CRY ME A RIVER"...
My wife and I have been together for a Total of 52- years..that included our engagement period..
For me, Loosing a Life partner is the hardest 😢..🙏
I’m very sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology
Thank you so much 💞 for your empathy..
I shall include you and your family in my daily prayers 🙏🌹
Incidentally..one of my daughters is named TERESA..
a name l found so beautiful while at grade school,
that l promised myself, should the LORD give me a daughter, l will name her TERESA..
The Good LORD gave me 4-daughters😊💕🙏
My sister died suddenly 10 years ago and I am still in deep grief,,,I am devastated
I am so sorry, and can so relate. When I lost my Mom, it devastated me. I was the family caregiver
. I took care my brother, my Dad, my Mom and held them as they died. I cared for other family members too. My Mom died and was the last of my family to do so, I¡ve been alone since I was 32. As in, completely alone.
I woke up every single single morning for a decade, once realizing I was awake for the day cried. It hurt as bad a decade later as the day I put my Mother in the ground. I knew something wasn't right. I sought a grief therapist. Luckily she was the perfect fit for me. I don't know how it worked and I didn't notice right away, but that debilitating sense of grief dissipated.
Please consider finding a grief therapist. It works. My grief dissipated like a morning fog. My life isn't completely fixed, I will always. E a bit broken for having lost my family, but there's no fog and life is at least in black and white. It may never come back to be a technicolor life, but b&w is really ok.
Just remember life is cyclical and will get better again, life's a banquet and we all get stuck in the shit sandwiches sometimes. You just have to make some positive changes, deliberately and give it time. Choose to make some good decisions and stick with it. It CAN be done, I know. I've done it.
have been watching my sister die for 11 months...she will pass any day now...my body and mind are worn out completely...I am so physcially tired and my chest hurts at times. I have nothing left(I mean, physcially n mentally)
We are in this together , I lost my Son in December. It one of the worst thing a mother could go through. It is tough. For me it truly my faith in God that is helping me on this journey. I also draw strength for mothers in my Church who have been down this part. My family I can’t understate have been very supportive to me. I am in tears just doing this comment. My prayer is with all those are going through this time of grieve.
God bless you, I lost my son in 2016, it will take a long time to come back from this. But you will.
Yes, I have lost my parents and my only sibling in the last 15 years. Divorced and the nephews that I adopted and raised have left to live there own lives. I have no extended family close by and was not raised around them.
The grief and fear of being alone and facing life alone is unbearable
My counselor says that this is the trend now
People have no family
I’m so sorry to hear of your loses. Sending you my warmest wishes, Teresa 🌸
I lost my mom n devasted.
I feel your pain.
5/08/23, I lost my 31 years son when someone was careless drive a vehicle. He was strucked by motorist while riding his motorcycle. Jamil was a wonder officer, husband, daddy and to me a perfect son. I dressed him and tucked him in for his final sleep. I know I have changed emotionally and physically. Nothing is the same anymore. Since 5/14/23, this the gift his mom received for mother's day. This was the most sickness feeling I ever felt and probably will never get over it. To all who have lost love ones that were so close, my heart and compassion goes out to you all. May lean on each other for guidance and comforting. May GOD bless us all. Much love The Hawes Family of NC.
I’m so sorry to hear about the tragic and recent loss of your son. Sending you and your family my sincere condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology Thank you so much.
Chronic stress hormones from the bereavement of a suicide victim caused physiological distress and symptoms like full-body eczema; it felt like my skin was on fire. Stay safe and be well. ♥
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Thank you for sharing your story. Take care, Teresa.
I lost my brother same way. He was depressed. I felt like my chest, (my heart) was on fire and I’ve put wet towels and they would get dry, so I know how you feel. May God give you lots of strength!
In a nuclear family of 5, Dad is gone, mum is Gone, 2 brothers gone. I am the last man standing. I go to sleep everyday hoping not to wake up. But when i do wake up, its just suffering and hard to be happy. Resorting to drugs will mess up my situation. Trying to stay sane in this life of mine is really crazy. One day, when i meet God in the after life, i got really good questions for him.
I'm sorry to hear that you have lost your family. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I had questions too until some videos, insights told me to just aaccept...no questions asked.
Deep, deep grief has affected me in more ways than one 😮🥺😪😥
I'm sorry for your loss. Warm wishes, Teresa.
The only thing that got me thru the deaths of my loved ones is I believe in God, & that I will see them again.
Amen 🙏🏼.
It was my belief in God.and God giving me the strength two do so..I begged God two let me loose from this hurt and pain it was so unimaginable.
I agree with you. The belief in God and my assurance that I'll see and meet them again keeps me going.
My mother died of colon cancer in 2014 and then my brother died in 2017 of cardiac arrest, and then my husband died in 2019 of lung trouble. And now I 'm grieving for the loss of another brother last August 2023 after he had ALS for two years. I can't describe how exactly I'm grieving now. I visited his grave almost everyday coz I miss him. Those that I love have gone and I can't erase the memories of them. They often came in my dreams..which make me feel happy. Please tell me how to go on living
My Faith in God and prayer helps me immensely.
In 2019 I lost my daughter to an overdose. She was in New York and I was in North Carolina care for my mom, she was 29 years old that same year on New Year's Eve, I found out my father was dying and in hospice, no one told me he was sick. they were afraid I could not handle the pain. He died at 11:48 on New Year's Eve 2019. My mom passed away in September after having cancer multiple times, she died of multi-organ failure. She was an only child and so was I. As I try to carry on with my life I just found out that my 35 year old son passed away in New York I am going to his memorial next Wednesday. Since I found out he died on April 26th I have barely been able to walk. I am terrified of traveling to New York to get his ashes. The grief that I feel cannot be put into words. I find that my doctors and people I know don't even know how to talk to me so I have stopped telling them things. I have been sick for the last two weeks exhausted and full of pain. I have a 29 year old daughter in New York who I look forward to seeing plus my only grandchild who is 10. I am terrified I will fall apart in front of him and my only remaining child. I feel disconnected from everything to be perfectly honest. I live alone I am 59 years old I can't even barely hold a thought. If it wasn't for my faith in God I don't believe I could continue down this road I do not understand why I'm still here I don't know anyone else who has lost two children. Anyone has any words of advice for me I would deeply appreciate it. I have a little dog who is my best friend and my world, and I have one very good compassionate friend who has now moved in with me to help me and that means more than I can tell you. I am very confused, as I listen to this video I imagine I am the embodiment of every symptom. I know that I'm supposed to remain here for some reason, I understand that my family is gone, I also do believe they're in a better place than I am. And that I will be reunited with them Monday. But the pain is unspeakable. God bless everyone of you here I am so very sorry for all of your losses for your pain both emotional and physical because I know it just very very real thank you, Laura
The Lord will see you through, I know this lady who I am very close to she bury her husband, her two children , two grandchildren . She is still alive at age 90. This someone I am very close . I am the God mother of one of her Grand Children. In the mist of everything you have being and going through hold on the Lord. Even when we can’t understand God is with you, and he love you . Take heart and be encourage.
I've not yet said how my little brother died & I'd like to do so because I know many others have suffered this & are suffering this. My little brother died because of a drunk driver. He died one month & 5 days after his 18th birthday. It was high holiday/festive season, the 8th January 1979. He was on his motorbike wearing his bike gear, helmet & lights on & was on a main road with right of way. A car pulling/towing a caravan, driven by a drunk man with his wife sitting beside him, drove through a stop sign - my little brother didn't have a chance to stop & nowhere to go, he went straight through the caravan. He survived the crash but had immediate complicated surgery due to the multiple, severe fractures of his one leg - our hopes for his recovery were high, he was positive & cheery in his hospital bed - he died from a blood clot from his leg which travelled into his lung. Our family was devastated, particularly my parents, he was their youngest child. In life, he was 6 foot tall - after his cremation, I couldn't comprehend how he could fit in such a small box... My mother has just turned 90, she still has not got over his death. My heartfelt condolences to anyone suffering grief of a loved one due to a drunk driver xx
My 18 year old little brother died from a blood clot in his lung also. It’s only been 5 months and it still feels
So unreal, it’s not until I sit and actually think about it that I realize it had actually happened. I miss him, he was such a sweet boy with a great heart. ♥️
@@nadiabolamac2014 My heart goes out to you, Nadia - gone too young your little brother. You will always miss him... I think our loved ones are always with us even though they have physically departed this world. God Bless xx
Having MS for 40 years I've gone through many stages of loss...job, friends, physical abilities, driving, walking, and so much more. Just recently I realized that I've been grieving each of those losses. I just felt sad and awful but never thought that was grief. Now that I know, I am able to recognize what I'm going through and cope with things better. Thank you for your video explaining the physiologic effects of grief. God bless. ❤
Hi Teresa Lewis, Thank you for outlining how grief impacts the body and soul. All of which I have experienced and still experiencing. I am 66yrs, and have lost both my parents fairly recently. I was their primary caregiver. They had serious medical problems. However there were so many deficiencies in their care. My parents suffered poor medical care and my mother especially experienced serious medical errors that ultimately caused her prolonged pain and suffering and an early death.
I am overwhelmed with profound guilt and shame. I failed to protect them and failed to clearly understand their suffering and advocate for them. I am in complete despair. I have no family support whatsoever as they cannot understand the caregiver grief, regret and burden. I am also being judged as I am single with no children. I am no longer the person I was and feel as though I live on another lonely planet. No amount of therapy has helped.
Focus on self love and healing through daily meditation and prayer ☯️
At 76 I am the only one left of my immediate family. I have my daughter and grandchildren but there are many problems between them. I have more or less stuck to home except for groceries. Yes someone is in my life but he is busy taking care of his business. So many friends have passed away. I need surgery. I lost my oldest brother 4 years ago and watching him suffer with congestive heart failure was extremely painful for him and me and his wife. My niece and nephew have disowned my daughter and I. I miss my aunts, uncles, cousins. My mom and brothers. All have passed away. My belief in Christ. My love for my daughter and adult grandkids keep me going. Grief never really goes away. It's always there.
My love and faith in my Lord Jesus Christ has given me peace in the storm. I lost Mother two days ago. She is at peace and with family. I don't wish her back here.....no way. She is Free. God bless.
100% accurate. I lost my father who was my best friend 7 years ago and not only that it was in a horrific accident I witnessed, I have never been the same after with multiple autoimmune diagnoses since then which I am sure has been triggered by the trauma of losing my dad
Sending prayers❤
This is so spot on!! I am currently in a situation where my husband is doing “ In-Home Hospice”. To watch the body of an incredibly intelligent , vibrant, talented man whom you love dearly, slowly shut down and to watch as he becomes a shell of who he was, brings on incredible overwhelming grief. Like nothing I’ve ever experienced. I think I’ve been and am currently experiencing every single one of these symptoms …. Moments in time …. I know I’ll get through this, but it’s a journey I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy!!! My escape? The therapeutic music I play … 🛸🎶..which he’s still ….thankfully …. asking me to play. But this post that’s shared here? Wow! It couldn’t be more spot on!! Very well done……
I took care of my ex husband in a home hospice arrangement. His death was horrible. The doctors had placed 2 drains in his common bile ducts with 2 external drain bags. Within one week he began to hemorrhage and his blood pressure was dropping. I was changing his dressings frequently and he was screaming from pain. Doctor said he had cancer throughout his liver and abdomen. He died a horrible death. I am haunted by this and cry every day. Our disabled adult son keeps me going, otherwise I am alone. Wish I could stop crying. It's been almost 2 months.
@@joansmith1195 … I’m sooooo sorry you had to take this journey as well! Not a fun one at all!! Prayers for strength and grace as you continue forward…. 🙏🏻 …. 🛸🎶🦋
@@thathandpanlady4510 Thank you. I wish you the same.
@@joansmith1195 …. ☺️🙏🏼…🦋
As a hospice chaplain, I applaud you both for putting your loved ones in hospice care, but am troubled, Joan, that your ex husband suffered so much. The main purpose of hospice is quality of life with a minimum of pain. Unfortunately, not all hospices seem equipped to provide that.
I suddenly had 2 seizures 4 weeks after loss of my mum. This is very true.
I’m sorry to hear about h the loss of your mum. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warmest wishes. Teresa 🌺🌷🌹
My youngest brother was murdered nearly a year ago. I had to force myself to eat for two months, mostly fruit and bread. I often felt that my spirit was leaving my body. I still have crippling anxiety. I have work tomorrow and truly just wish I could call in sick.
Thank you for this. When I lost my daughter, my memory went to shit. I can't afford to get tested to confirm things, but I have constantly forgotten things that previously I could keep track of. All the stress must have gone directly to my hippocampus.
We lost our dad in 2021. We nursed him for the two weeks before he passed on. God gave us precious two weeks to spend quality time with him. My mom is living with me now. It was so hard in the beginning now we at peace. I remember the numbness I felt and tried to avoid crying but that didn't help. Crying alot was our healing. Today I can't look at a pic of my dad. I am trying but it's very difficult. My mum and dad was married for 51 years. She misses my dad alot. I can tell. Physically she suffered too. My two brothers resides in New Zealand and they couldn't make it for the funeral. It broke them. Mum and I visited my brother's recently and we comforted one another talking about my dad and what he meant to us. God is good and can comfort ones broken heart like other person can ever. Miss my dad so much!!!!
It’s been 10 years since I lost my brother and I can’t still look at his pictures. So, I know how you feel. May your father rest in heaven, and may God give you strength ❤
Two brothers one was 13 when was 22 8 years for my mother and two sisters to get over. My mother passed 19 years ago I was happy and away but I miss her cuz I knew she missed my brother so bad. My sister passed 8 months ago just not my sister my best. She live with me. She was my best friend sometimes when I start crying I don't know when I'm going to stop I do it several times a day. It's taking me a long time to put her stuff away her bedroom is still the same. When I have an issue a problem she was my go-to person to talk. I have one sister left and I thank the Lord for her but right now we don't seem to have too much in common which is very strange. I am looking so forward to going home one day. And just hope I don't miss the ones that I'm going to leave behind like I do the ones that they're already. I am tired of losing . Be thankful for everyone you have in your family and your friends. The Lord Jesus Christ is my strength he gets me through. And we can all count on him to help us through our grief. And it's normal for us to grieve over our loved ones. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I've had a lot of loss. My nerves are shot. 4 months ago, my oldest daughter died. A wk ago, my youngest daughter attempted suicide. I lost 2 husband's . We all grieve in differently and can be a long ery. I miss them all who have died. I've lost pet's in recent yrs and I take it very hard. Please don't ever stuff your grief down. Let just it come and work through it. We move on the best we can.
I never felt such deep, intense, crippling grief pain as when my dear aunt died by suicide in 2012. We were 6 years apart and were very close like sisters. Really didn’t think I could get through it. And the guilt was all consuming because I had a hunch something was wrong but I didn’t know how to help her. And within days, she was gone. I had failed her, and her family. To me, it truly felt like open heart surgery without anesthesia would hurt less. In 2016, on her birthday, I got a tattoo of a feather and the word “Saudade” which so perfectly sums up my being. Ultimately, though, I wish her all the peace and healing in the universe. ♥️
She wants you to be happy
In light of a recent suicide in my family, I've wrestled with not having been able to help more than I did. I knew a deep depression had taken hold of them, but I didn't realise we were on borrowed time. I've found comfort in reminding myself if I had really known, I would have done something - my not having acted came from me not knowing, so I ought not assume guilt or blame for what happened.
I hope you continue to find peace.
I lost my brother in September 2012 on the same way! The guilt and grief I felt, was beyond words. Felt like I died with him. I never knew he was depressed cause he hide it so well. Don’t blame yourself cause that’s not okay. Sometimes you just can’t help people no matter how hard you try. May God give you strength ❤ and may she Rest in Heaven!
My father passed in March and I just lost my daughter. I don’t know how I can move on. So lost, confused, sometimes I want to cry but can’t. Brain fog. I’m considering retiring, I don’t have the drive anymore. 😭😭😭Praying is keeping me from completely break down. My dear grandma is very weak. I’m losing my network.
May you find ease in your pain through prayer. May your regain your strength.
I just lost my grandmother last week. She was 86. Her health was declining. We knew it was coming. But we were very close. I was closer with her than my mom. I talked with her twice a day everyday, for approaching 25 years. I know I will get over this but right now, it hurts. It hurts a lot. I love you grandma.
Thak you for this. My mom passed away six years ago. We were best friends and I had an extremely hard time coping - so much so that I lost my job as a teacher because my principal was not in the least bit interested why I couldn't remember things, or function as well as I should. When I left school the last day - I ended ujp in a psych ward having had a total break down. She didn't totally cause it, but she had been on my case for the entire year, writing me up for things that didn't exist every single week. Between that and my mom I couldn't function. I wish they had seen this video.
Been grieving since 2020 non stop. I cry almost everyday. I lost my healthy dad to covid. I haven't been myself ever since. I'm the type of person that looks younger than I am but this last 3 years have aged me more than the previous 10.
I feel your pain I really do - I lost my mum in 2020 and it really aged me I looked young always and I was always being ID’d for things but now since her sudden and untimely death I feel I’ve aged 15 years more. I no longer get carded and people think I look my age and more. My health has been dodgy and my husband has been sick too since losing his own mom.
Both my parents have now died long traumatic deaths. My Dad passed in 2008. My Mom died this February. By the time my Dad died after 7years in a nursing home with Parkinson’s and Dementia I looked aged and my back was actually breaking. I thought I would never recover. There was a large gap in time between my parents deaths. Eventually I know I healed from the loss of my Dad and there were some really great years in between. I miss my mom so much right now and I can see the grief speeding up time in the mirror. I keep reminding myself. We can rebuild. In another comment someone said to take all the love that you wish you could give your missing person and give it back to healing yourself. That’s what your loved one would want for you, love because they loved you. I liked that,so passing it on. Hearts and Beauty can both regenerate in time with self care and love.
@@DawnSTyler Thank you for reminding me that I'm not alone in this. That others suffer too and try hard to keep going.aybe we can rebuild after all.
@@desertrose1226 Thank you for sharing with me and reminding me that we are all together in this somehow.
I also gained weight on top of all. I read the other comment and I really liked a phrase "We can rebuild" something new, since it'll never be the same. But maybe we can rebuild because that's what they would have wanted for us.
times get tough. . rest on God
I have had two little boys. They both died at age 4. Our first died then I had another 1 1/2 years later than he also died at age 4. Completely changed me. Inside and out. I no longer fear death. I fear nothing because I have experienced the worst in life IMO. Every day, I hope is my last.
I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your boys. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.
😢 I'm so sorry to hear about your precious little boys 💔 if you don't mind me asking how did they both pass at the same age? Have you considered adopting or fostering?
I have three sons. Two have passed at the age of 16 and 46. Within three years of each of them. I’m still in grief and it has taken a major toll on my health. It did give me a heart murmur. I truly believe this. I’ve been a nurse for 32 years and I have seen this with grieving families. ❤
I was once a mother of 4 …. Now only 2..The day before thanksgiving 2023, my son died in a horrible a accident on his job., 4 weeks before his 29 th bday. I was crushed. shocked angry bewildered and broken hearted… five weeks later my youngest son died from sickle cell a week after his 28th bday. The pain in my chest was so severe I thought I was haven’t a heart attack, unable to focus, extremely forgetful,,, I’m experiencing all the symptoms she mentioned. Prayer family and are keeping me from losing it .
I lost my mom on September 29,2023. She was my best friend. I went to her home, she didn't answer her door. I didn't have a key. I crawled through her window. I thought she sleeping. Ill never get over this. I wanted to get a home for the two of us, i wanted to take care of her. I wanted to tell her i found us a place. My heart will be forever broken. 💔. I ve read some many of the comments. I hope on to the Lord, that one day we all will be reunited. Until then she'll be greatly missed.
This absolutely describes the full grief I went through and and still going through after losing my husband of 23 years. He was my best friend since I'm 10 years old and it's been almost 5 years and it doesn't get easier. And to add to this I have been diagnosed with MS and lesions on my brain when being perfectly healthy all my life. So I not only lost my best friend but am now very ill. But I have 2 amazing boys to live everyday for and refuse to give up even though I wholeheartedly believe I have such a broken heart. Thank you for the video bc it speaks all truth.
I'm so sorry. That is how I feel about my brother. My soul companion and best friend in life who I loved more than my husband or anyone. I have to live for my child and fear I will never recover.
Daily meditation and prayer helps ladies ☯️ God bless you
The day I found out my daughter died I felt it felt like someone reached in and crushed my heart. it has been years but I still grieve. It is something you never get over.
She is still with you in spirit 🙏🧘♂️☯️
Yes, and it lives in your gut forever. Physically.
I’m a minute into this video and I can tell you from experience it’s dry mouth and itching. Been through it twice my husband of 24 years and my mother at 92 after I had cared for her for 5 years.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it as time and life goes on , it’d be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?…,
Like others here, I too lost my beloved husband suddenly in December 😢 and miss him every day. I cry when I have to, but choose to keep going as he would want me to, hard though it is. Keep plodding on, reaching out, and reliving good memories, people…❤
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it as time and life goes on , it’d be nice to hear from you, where are you from .?.,.
What you have said here is so true. You made me cry. You haven't upset me it just so true what you have said i though loosing my mother was bad but having recently lost my dog the pain was overwhelming it has literally crippled me i am just starting to come out the other side. Seeing this has helped me thank you 🇬🇧 ❤️