Why do we hate? | Jon Wilson Cooper | TEDxSt Albans

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  • @mehranmoallem2034
    @mehranmoallem2034 หลายเดือนก่อน +136

    “I am convinced that men hate each other because they fear each other. They fear each other because they don't know each other, and they don't know each other because they don't communicate with each other, and they don't communicate with each other because they are separated from each other.” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

    • @kossibwaya
      @kossibwaya หลายเดือนก่อน

      😮

    • @ivantrudeau8974
      @ivantrudeau8974 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Its more to it than that.

    • @mehranmoallem2034
      @mehranmoallem2034 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ivantrudeau8974as @@ivantrudeau8974 connected but we are @@ivantrudeau8974 and that is root cause of problem. Obviously there are many many other reasons for the hatred which goes back to a long long time ago in the life of humanity.

    • @Dana-op6ex
      @Dana-op6ex หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I think it is this simple and he just explained it so. If we are aware of our own boundaries and have compassion with ourselves, we have some to offer others...IF we have an open mind that we are each Humans with more in common with each other than not. Love this T. talk.

    • @ivantrudeau8974
      @ivantrudeau8974 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Dana-op6ex Lots of ifs.🤔

  • @tishsocial
    @tishsocial หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ‘Emotionally abandon people in need - wow - this is so thought provoking
    …. Living without empathy …. Throw light into the darkness . 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ compassion - humanity - love 🙏🏽
    So pleased to watch this - amazing work Jon

  • @patriciaseabright4083
    @patriciaseabright4083 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    so important for us to reflect on how easy it is to lose our human compassion, "a proliferation of hate in the world at the moment", is so true and need to make sure we don't !! Important talk, thanks Jon.

  • @elizabethdalzielphotographer
    @elizabethdalzielphotographer หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Compassion for ourselves and others is so important, and we need to be reminded, as we wear ourselves down, not only out in the world, but also at home. Thank you Jon for reminding of how important it is to care for ourselves and others, including those who hurt us and who might need compassion the most.

    • @peacetoallx
      @peacetoallx หลายเดือนก่อน

      the human race is getting worse

  • @sophieemilylouise
    @sophieemilylouise หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was petrified of flying as a child. Watching loads of videos like yours, I was able to go to Greece after finishing exams at school. That was almost 10 years ago.. and now I regularly fly alone and LOVE it! I’m now training for my private pilots licence :)

  • @LisaEly-ke8uq
    @LisaEly-ke8uq 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    As always Jon is so easy to hear and learn from.

  • @teenagekickspodcast
    @teenagekickspodcast หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    We don’t like the idea that we could hate, and that’s why we’re so defended that we don’t learn about ourselves. I hope everyone watching is brave enough to examine what you’re saying inside themselves

  • @mehranmoallem2034
    @mehranmoallem2034 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Awakening the virtue of “compassion” is the 1st step. The key lies in knowing, being and doing. If we stop at knowing, no real change will take place in our society.

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      'awaken the virtue of compassion.' i never thought of it like that. one can 'awaken' ones own virtues and feelings. in other words, feelings are not just to be had, and feelings are not just to be used exclusively reactionarily, but also, "awakened" after they are switched on.
      i don't think i'm communicating this perfectly, but what i'm understanding from this comment is that one can feel something, maybe because of something someone did, or a problem, and then a natural reaction occurs, a certain emotion. but, according to this view, one can then awaken that said emotion, or, by the same logic, switch off that emotion, depending on their desire.

  • @AshleyGillenLong
    @AshleyGillenLong 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love the idea of looking at how we turn off our compassion so we can learn how to turn it back on so we can throw Light into the Darkness. I wonder how the world would change if we all looked at doing this? Thanks Jon this is a great invitation to turn up our compassion.

  • @AlbanyCentre
    @AlbanyCentre หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks

    • @TEDx
      @TEDx  29 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you so much!

  • @TesMacpherson
    @TesMacpherson หลายเดือนก่อน

    Such an insightful and inspiring talk. We need more compassion (including self-compassion) in the world. Thank you Jon.

  • @Twirlees09
    @Twirlees09 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Incredible talk.

  • @eugenekana1928
    @eugenekana1928 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Worthiness. This one struck a cord because I have been guilty of blaming the person other than understanding what led to their bad decision.

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      same

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      i've been far to quick to judge rather than put myself in their shoes

  • @JosPerris-h5v
    @JosPerris-h5v หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Listening to this talk again reminded me of how many brilliant nuggets of profound wisdom there were in your talk. ‘Hurt people hurt people’ being one of many. There is so much in this talk to challenge, inspire and reflect upon - Thank you!

  • @craigmerkey8518
    @craigmerkey8518 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I wrote my MA on empathy. Compassion and empathy are a two way street! Sometimes natural consequences are most valuable!

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      forgive me if i should know this already, but idk what an MA is.

  • @patrickpoland9223
    @patrickpoland9223 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    One of the best Ted talks ever thankyou!😃

  • @deepalm5189
    @deepalm5189 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    That was a great talk Jon, insightful and very inspiring. Really speak to what I’m experiencing at the moment. As always a pleasure to just sit and listen to, thank you 🥰

  • @trishjones1924
    @trishjones1924 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Lovely talk. We are all capable of being very kind and very cruel; that is the essence of our human selves. Curiosity and compassion breeds kindness.....love the question; "what happened to you?"

  • @AlbanyCentre
    @AlbanyCentre หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "Hail to the man who went through life always helping others, knowing no fear, and to whom aggressiveness and resentment are alien. Such is the stuff of which the great moral leaders are made."
    ~ Albert Einstein

  • @marcusreynolds9491
    @marcusreynolds9491 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you Mr Cooper. Do not think this talk is for "some other"; they must learn not to hate. No this talk is especially for people who think they do not hate. (IMHO)

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      yes. thanks mr. cooper.

  • @AlbanyCentre
    @AlbanyCentre หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.
    James Baldwin

  • @lauradannanmusic
    @lauradannanmusic หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Brilliant talk Jon! Such an important subject , wonderfully delivered. Thank you ❤

  • @bsevo
    @bsevo หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      lol!

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      i love this quote.

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      i remembered this line of grand jedi master yoda by remembering the acronym FA, and then thinking "high school". FA-HS

  • @SuperRicky1974
    @SuperRicky1974 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    From learning NVC that Marshall Rosenberg developed I’ve come to understand I am more compassionate when I’m connected to my ‘needs’ and the ‘needs’ of the other.

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      compassion leads us to take care others needs. got it. thx.

  • @IramIkram-w7t
    @IramIkram-w7t หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Life is what all the compassion is❤.
    Promote Goodness 🎉

  • @henrykim4933
    @henrykim4933 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Lol at first glance I thought it was Russell crowe

    • @Spidey_Ethan
      @Spidey_Ethan หลายเดือนก่อน

      Came here looking for this comment. 😂
      Totally thought it was him dressing up as someone else. 🤣

  • @paolamediciart
    @paolamediciart หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wonderful talk, thank you very much sir!

  • @maxmac7845
    @maxmac7845 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Dehumanisation is relatively easy. Hate follows the path of dehumanisation.
    Organised dehumanisation has a tried and tested history too.

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      huh. dehumanizing humans.

    • @maxmac7845
      @maxmac7845 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Romans1162-y6x Yes, like calling them vermin, aliens, germ carriers, dog eaters, etc.
      You know what dehumanising means now though, right?

  • @jabaerga1
    @jabaerga1 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you!

  • @Ambatube21
    @Ambatube21 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I am from Ethiopia i always follow this channel i like it i got a good lesson !!!!

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      oh! your from Ethiopia! Phillip talked to an Ethiopian and converted him to Jesus in Acts 8:26-40.

  • @StephaniebeltonPhoto
    @StephaniebeltonPhoto หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Raising above our basic animal instinct! Great talk, Jon!

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      what is the strongest animal instinct in your opinion mrs stephanie

    • @StephaniebeltonPhoto
      @StephaniebeltonPhoto หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Romans1162-y6xI'd say tribal instinct in this case

  • @CocosHideaway
    @CocosHideaway หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Lack of self-awareness and personal growth contributes to most personal and relational challenges. When we truly know and value ourselves, we are better equipped to value others. The real challenge lies in healing from past experiences that prevented us from valuing ourselves in the first place. Often, healing means we become less tolerant of the people and behaviors that caused us harm. This can make you question whether it’s worth it, especially when we observe the unnecessary suffering that exists in the world. We live in a society where it can be difficult to escape that suffering, and when we do, it can be challenging to find others who have done the work on themselves and are capable of being truly good to others only then is when the cycle stops.

    • @CocosHideaway
      @CocosHideaway หลายเดือนก่อน

      @ awh thank you 🪷💕

  • @maggieo6672
    @maggieo6672 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Awesome presentation, thank you for sharing helpful reminders. Sending love to all from Ontario Canada. ❤️🎶🍁

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ontario Canada. Ontario's capital is the city of Toronto. Ottawa, also located in the province of Ontario, is Canada's capital.
      Which of the 52 cities of Ontario do you live in Mrs. Maggie

    • @maggieo6672
      @maggieo6672 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @Romans1162-y6x Guelph. 😊

  • @orlandoedelriocantillo9404
    @orlandoedelriocantillo9404 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don't hate anyone. I love everyone.

  • @Dr.Anomaly
    @Dr.Anomaly หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've been a HCA/RCA for a long time. I'm at a point now where i dont want to talk with people or interact with them because I see too much stuff happen to people who are sick. All what he says rings true. I just want to not see anyone.

  • @dambemadashanthadewa8053
    @dambemadashanthadewa8053 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Because, if someone doesn't like something, get anger .

  • @sherececocco
    @sherececocco หลายเดือนก่อน

    Control and connection do not live in the same world.

  • @sherececocco
    @sherececocco หลายเดือนก่อน

    Byproduct of connection is protection.

  • @scotteric8711
    @scotteric8711 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    People project hate outward only because they are disconnected from themselves. Their unconscious self cannot communicate its emotions as facts, while the conscious mind can only recieve and communicate without critical thought such as a wild animal. He/she who has linear thought has no use for hate.

  • @spazefalcon2794
    @spazefalcon2794 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    🎉👏🔥 BRILLIANT 🔥👏✨

  • @gregnezz
    @gregnezz หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Russel Crowe playing a professor again.

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      whose russel crowe

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      i should already know but i don't

  • @drumbum3.142
    @drumbum3.142 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I've found it's Much Easier; Healthier, and More Therapeutic to Love .. ...Intellegence and Recommendations for example.. ...than it is to hate.

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      well then, i will try the rest of my life to love. thank you.

    • @drumbum3.142
      @drumbum3.142 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @Romans1162-y6x
      If there is Cynicism and or Condescension present, it doesn't exactly work.. I'm Not saying that IS the case and happenstance with such a response; but it's (unfortunately) a necessary scenario to be considered.. 🫶

  • @mariaantoniettamontella9173
    @mariaantoniettamontella9173 หลายเดือนก่อน

    bravo

  • @jonathanayala375
    @jonathanayala375 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    According to the Cinema Therapy TH-cam channel when talking about The Prince of Egypt, “Hate comes from love.”

    • @d.r.tweedstweeddale9038
      @d.r.tweedstweeddale9038 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Nonsense, & obviously a channel people should avoid!

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      i love Prince of Egypt! that movie is good on so many levels. then again, i'll try to keep my Christian bias in mind. lol

  • @IramIkram-w7t
    @IramIkram-w7t หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Education

  • @sherececocco
    @sherececocco หลายเดือนก่อน

    Lack? Lack of connection?

  • @Whimsy4fall
    @Whimsy4fall 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I am indifferent to other people. I would help someone if they were hurt but I don’t go out of my way to connect with them. Probably because I have been disappointed by my fellow humans and I prefer to connect with animals because they don’t have any ulterior motives. I feel like half the population is vile and the other half have to clean up after those vile ones.

  • @Romans1162-y6x
    @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

    how many times was the word compassion used in this speech?
    i counted 17 times the word compassion or compassionate was used

  • @jason-argon
    @jason-argon หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Cowards hate.

  • @fallin2high
    @fallin2high หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I mean Russel Crowe should know a bit about it 😅
    Jokes aside, it takes less time to hate than to listen and understand. Especially if it includes admitting the falsity of our beliefs. Hate, unfortunately, is also a profitable element in our society. 🙃

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      agreed.

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      hate is seen as a form of power.

  • @harrypearle9781
    @harrypearle9781 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    TIME backwards is EMIT It takes TIME to EMIT our feelings and help
    (In our RUSH - RUSH world, today, we have trouble giving others TIME to EMIT)
    But, if we give and receive more TIME, even in spurts of TIME, it might open HEARTS
    ======================================================== TNX 4 this

  • @rodionromanovici
    @rodionromanovici หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great lecture. If anyone wants to dig deep into this entangled subject of human behavior, I recommend 'Behave', by Robert Sapolsky,

  • @luisandresserfassinner7514
    @luisandresserfassinner7514 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    ANÍMATE Prevención y Asistencia de las Adicciones

  • @Heart-Core
    @Heart-Core หลายเดือนก่อน

    ♥️

  • @alexandrugheorghe5610
    @alexandrugheorghe5610 หลายเดือนก่อน

    English captions are with a different language

  • @Spidey_Ethan
    @Spidey_Ethan หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You thought Russell Crowe, too…

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      no. i didn't think "russel crow" cus idk who that is & what they did. and i keep telling people that in the comment section.

  • @enriqueeee
    @enriqueeee หลายเดือนก่อน

    Que decepción. Creí que sería una charla científica sobre por qué existe el odio, para qué sirve o en que puede ayudar (entendiendo que todas las emociones tienen una explicación evolutiva)

  • @NandKumar-qq3xk
    @NandKumar-qq3xk หลายเดือนก่อน

    Toffee test and flavours full meaning is if fraindship then trabble time and rest frainds sudden became ? Out of visions, rest ? Whoo is personal relatives only,

  • @fahmidkhan5409
    @fahmidkhan5409 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Anyone from Bangladesh?

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      i'm not. but welcome.

  • @bornjusticerule5764
    @bornjusticerule5764 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That's Russell Crowe.

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      who's russel crow?
      i want to know. lol. xd.

  • @NandKumar-qq3xk
    @NandKumar-qq3xk หลายเดือนก่อน

    Only simply is "Joustice" just frainship and aspection frome both in trubble time's whenever required and his partner will stand on front to helpe you ? Only this reply as maintain meaning of hopefull Cooprative fraindship" unlegal is what ? Lost of hope or maintain responsibility or Respective relationship only yes or not ?

  • @EshAsh5
    @EshAsh5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hate comes from love 💘

  • @Justgonetogetsomemilk
    @Justgonetogetsomemilk หลายเดือนก่อน

    🩵

  • @uaps28
    @uaps28 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Another question.... why are these TedxTalks so rubbish now?

  • @Tige_rr
    @Tige_rr หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    2nd 😢

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      you'll get it next time Tige_rr.
      don't you dare give up.

  • @nahomyohannes2455
    @nahomyohannes2455 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    3rd

  • @Brookelen08
    @Brookelen08 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    FIRST!

    • @Tige_rr
      @Tige_rr หลายเดือนก่อน

      You broke my heart 😢

    • @Romans1162-y6x
      @Romans1162-y6x หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Tige_rr i'm sorry that you got second place. i can relate because one time i came in second place in a cross country race.

  • @JayQuest69
    @JayQuest69 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    With all due respect this conversation has little ultitliy given our current situation in the West.
    The REAL conversation we should be having is how pathological compassion can be weaponized by bad actors to a point where people can't even speak freely. You can't even challenge gender ideology without being treated like a heretic despite how much a Monster John Money was. We should be talking about how compassion, compulsion, and power can justify the use of force, especially on the feminine temperament side. Psychologist in Canada can't even question their patients identity without the threat of losing their job, so what that means is that our psychologists are mandated by law to lie to their patients in the name of "compassion"
    I saw Neil deGrasse Tyson on Bill Maher the other day and that's a good example of what I'm getting at lol These are the kind of conversations the elites would have so they can feel good about themselves. You need more sophisticated and compelling Talks but I get it you're scared.. everyone is...

  • @themoonhurtsdaddy
    @themoonhurtsdaddy หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ask religion 😂

  • @walktheearthchannel
    @walktheearthchannel หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    4th

  • @keithjames9604
    @keithjames9604 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Soft, weak man.

    • @giselasommer9537
      @giselasommer9537 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Who?

    • @BrolaireThebright
      @BrolaireThebright หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@@giselasommer9537he's coming to terms with himself

    • @keithjames9604
      @keithjames9604 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@giselasommer9537 the speaker. This is the worst TED talk I’ve ever seen. That man is weak.

  • @nobleulahannan5017
    @nobleulahannan5017 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    4th