Rules of Mental Toughness
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 31 ส.ค. 2020
- Patrick Bet-David breaks down how to measure mental toughness and what it takes to increase your pain tolerance to make you tougher. Subscribe for weekly videos bit.ly/2aPEwD4
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“The same boiling water that softens the potato hardens the egg. It's about what you're made of, not the circumstances.”
So we should all be eggs then
@@Mygoalisfitness dense carbs and dense protein ,very much different
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Its statements like this that cause many problems.
@@nothankyou5524 problems!
The only true way you can gain mental toughness is by doing the things you need to do but don't want to. Take on challenges. Be like David Goggins
i bought the the david goggins book, it is a phenomenal read.
Face your fears and fight your demons 👍🏻 exactly
If you can't, you must.
WHO'S GONNA CARRY THE BOATS, AND THE LOGS?
@@keepmovingforward8821 try entrepreneurship
When I feel TIRED, stressed, fragile, about to call it quits, I stop, go out for a long run, and come back to just say, “It’s going to take a lot more than that to take me out!”
I can relate. My Dad kicked me out of the house onto the street when I was 19.
I didn't understand it at the time, but it was the best thing he ever done for me.
how'd you mak it work? similar situation
@@favorednohamba9511 same bro
Ofc he don’t say shi fake Asf
If that was the best thing he’s done for for you I’m sorry you had such a fucked up father
@@Supershadebam1234 You missed the whole point chump!
My take:
0:25 Handle the pain for another 5 minutes
2:32 Prepare for every battle
5:12 Never use your pain for attention
8:01 Tests decide your future
10:50 Softness becomes a habit
13:38 Fight to the very end
16:17 Your actions have consequences for others
18:15 Keep your word
20:26 Test your limits
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You're doing the lord's work.
Thanks man
Tnx buddy
Thank Yu
I'm 27, You're the older brother / father figure I never had.
The world is destroying men to make way for woman to rule
So True here.
@@takeastandorbeenslavedby-left As long as they are naked, yes!
What are y'all talking about? Gay people are some of the most financially successful and entrepreneurial people.
My mom always told me, when a person cares they show up in person... "Time is the exchange of LIFE!"
My mom died 7 years ago. She was the rock of our family. We still feel her loss to this day. A week after she passed, my band and I had a show. A month afterwards, my hockey team and I won our championship.
What I love about playing drums and being a goalie is the pressure because you’re the backbone for both groups. With being a goalie especially because the normal reaction is to move out of the way of something flying at you at 100 mph.
I like the saying "Challenges are what makes life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful"
Yeah, tell that to Chadwick Boseman and all the other people who died from terminal diseases.
Sum challenges result in murder, corruption, senseless carnage, genocide, slavery, parasitism
@@selohcin Chadwick Boseman never saw himself as a victim he handled his illness with class and dignity so yeah that was his battle and challenge just because he succumbed to his illness doesn’t mean he lost because we’re all headed towards death and we can all go at anytime nothing is garunteed
In the moment, it's hard to see it that way, but it's true. Think about your favorite movies, books, stories, and your personal heroes. None of them had an easy time. They all had a fight of some sort.
As my Dad say and taught me "Create your own happiness in your mind ,everything starts in the MIND "
I swear I understood this when I got high for like 3rd time.
I was walking with my friend in the night high as fuck, then all of a sudden I relaxed my mind, then so many deep thoughts came through my mind and this was one of them!
And also I see this life just like a game, whatever you choose to do, even small small choices is what writes your future.
For example you r in your class, you are quite. You control what people will think of you for the next 1 day, 1 week, year or for life depending on what you are going to do. For example you stand up and put your pants down and pee in the middle of the class room. If you are gonna do that you'll always be remembered in your class mates minds for the rest of their life, and that'll be a life where your class mates remember you as the wierd kid that peed in the classroom. But if you act like normal, then that life you could've had won't happen.
I don't know if you read this far or get what I'm saying. But if you did remember you write your future and this life is a game and YOU control it.
@LK 6767 I like that! I love deep thoughts.
If you get high you'll end up being a completely new person. So many deep thought will come through ur mind if you already are a deep thinker.
Getting high changed my life, and that made me so much better person after thinking "The outside world is created in the mind first", and that is similar to the guys comment wich we r commenting under.
@LK 6767 Why do u freak out smoking weed? That's wierd! It should relax you wtf
@LK 6767 Wooow, I didn't know it could be like that. I feel bad for u.
I have a cousin who tells himself his own jokes in his head, then laughs out loud out of no where!
Patrick Bet-David -- you are a special person! Thank you for being you.
I had my baby at home, alone naturally by myself and glad It happened that way. It taught me one of the greatest lessons in my life; it enabled me to believe in myself finally!
I was tough, physical and mental. I was 39, fit as only a military man can be. I did all the runs with my men. With 80lb packs. Then one sunny October day I was biking home from the base and I was hit by a car broadside. I woke up in the hospital. And all the physical toughness evaporated. But the mental toughness increased.
Sorry to hear about that story! What happened to the driver? …
@@christopherarmstrong2710 He got out of his car to yell at me (according to witnesses there, I have no memory of that) then he got into his car and drove off. The cops never found him or his car. That was in 1999. My hope is that he was able to find some measure of peace out of all this. I'd hate to live with a hit and run on my conscience (bad enough to live with having taken lives from others in war)
@@wingtrek8914 Thanks for sharing your story. You're right, that guy acted cowardly and will have that on his conscience for sure. That's a terrible experience I wouldn't wish on anyone. Sounds like you truly are mentally tough - you're story has inspired me to keep fighting on and to never complain with whatever challenges maybe thrown my way, as they pale in comparison...
Hope you have a great week ahead!
you inspired me as well. take care
and yet here you are, advertising your pain. message received.
Can we just thank this man for the indescribable dedication to the work and content we receive. This man is unreal.
Yes
Absolutely
Fr tho
He's so real, he's unreal.
He isn't unreal. In fact, he comes across as overly bullish and sanctimonious at times. However, he makes a few salient points here, and wherever you fall on the political spectrum, those points are applicable to each and every one of us. Simply bear the brunt if you want to be successful. Don't hide.
Things which I learned after watching this video:
1) toughness is about enduring pressure.
Enduring pressure means to make the right decision in a tough position and stick to it to the very end.
2) Enduring pressure by making right decisions in a tough spot doesn't guarantee that you are going to win every time, but you will surprise yourself and you will be more ready to handle the next challenge.
3) Enduring physical pain is also one kind of mental toughness, which is the most highlighted one in this regard.
4) Not showing pain is also a sign of mental toughness.
Conclusion: It's all about a mentality of "just a little bit more" keeping saying it and pushing yourself is the key to success ultimately.
Better then ChatGPT 😂
You have summarised it nicely and saved my time because i am not going to watch the full episode now.
I am 11 years old and I am really liking this video and channel. My dad has been making me watch him but I enjoy him alot so thanks dad!
you're only 11, wow you're going to be a great man when you grow up.
@@kingezra9493 Or not! :D
Good work kid. My boy is 8 and catching some of this. Aim for the best person you can possibly be.
Good dad! Don’t watch that junk online, watch things that will make you better and learn! Glad you are liking these videos
Kid you’re ahead of the game. We need more heroes like your dad to raise more warriors like yourself. Use your energy for the greater good. Fight the good fight.
Most people, men and women, are mentally tough, they just have find their inner toughness and pull it out
I believe in this 💯💯💯
Amen to that.
In reality most people don't reach there full toughness even though your capable
Amen to that
Disagree
The biggest crutch someone can have, is feeling sorry for themselves when things go wrong, when you fall get right back up, when a door closes go the next and knock!
Damn straight! Take life by the horns 💯
Forgot It Just keep looking my friend it ain’t easy but doors will open up for you.
Forgot It If you cant find the doors, find the windows! It’s hell in the hallway.
Whether you don’t find a 🚪 or a window, get a SLEDGEHAMMER and make a FU.......NG HOLE on the wall - it takes time, it’s tougher, it demands resilience, as sometimes the competition is less.
@@lets.go.brandon67827 Turn out to be HOLE IN THE WALL GANG.
Mental strength & toughness is what much needed these days. You know you got what it takes. Belive in yourself like failing is not an option.
I came back here today, almost Dec 21st. I place this date bc I remember I watched this video on Dec 21 2020 when I was going to my first job, I was 19yo. I watched it because I felt anxious and nervous, this helped to overcome a lot of things. Once day I thought about dropping off my job, but I didnt and I am here, I am closer to reaching my goals. So, I encourage people to keep going and think well about your desicions. It feels good to see how much you improve and change
what did u improve in ur life in those 2 years?
The only way to become mentally tough is to start going outside your comfort zone more often and to do the things you fear. That’s because growth doesn’t happen when you’re feeling secure, but when you’re constantly struggling and doing the things that make you insecure.
"It is not about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how is wining its done."-- Rockie Balboa
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Father's are a great influence on a child's mental toughness. A good father knows how to steel a mind, a weak father raises an indulgent child, an absent father leaves the child to decide its fate
I've been beaten down for years with bad physical and mental health. I've let myself become soft. I'm not going to let my trials define me. Thanks for the message in the video and all the comments.
The mind is so powerful, if you really want something, you'll be amazed at how powerful your mind is and what you're capable of.
*To be successful you have to be*
Mentally tough and..
be your own cheerleader 🎉😉
Lucky.
Yep 👍🏼
Meaning
@@heather-vs9qe Million dollar entrepreneurs are mostly so because of luck. And l
Secondly
Then if you are born in favorable circumstances, you might stand a chance.
Be born with the right attributes. If you planning to be leading movie actor. No matter how hard you train, how gifted you are. If the camera doesn't like you you will never become an A lister.
Every success story has a moment of when luck fell out of the sky and things turned around.
Hard work is no guarantee of success. But it helps.
Mental toughness means you will get through the day.
Simple but can't agree more
"Your word matters.Keep your word."
A rare quality in people these days.
100% the most important message people need to hear, TODAY!
I will be playing this vid "on blast", when my husband and teenage son get home, later today. ❤
Strength of will is the most important.
Not necessarily. People with ADHD lack the senses of urgency needed to pull that source of will. Urgency is the antidote to pain and misery of mismanaging your responsibilities. Certain people can’t build strength of will, they can only direct their mind toward that which helps them maintain their responsibilities without the human drive of will being present. It’s a lot like what Patrick says about Preparation and the man black Vito commented below you
Chcieć to móc
Want it = to be able
Yes.. Correct!!
Will power is not reliable or sustainable
Where there's a will
There's a way
"If you're going through hell, keep going" - Winston Churchill
Patrick, as a young 29 year old woman thinking of starting her own business (dental practice) I have to say your channel is the best resource I’ve come across. I hope I can meet you one day and say thank you in person. God bless!
This is what I needed to hear today. Getting back into the gym and training BJJ 15 hours a week is saving my life. I'm being tested.
Very motivated by this as I’m going through a divorce and have nothing and have to build from scratch at 50 yrs old.
Thank you for the kick in the ass.
Toob247 Toob247 actually my doc said all men who are high producers are under a tremendous amount of stress and it burns up testosterone. It is worth checking out especially over 50.
You got this buddy! Think about reinventing yourself as part of the cycle of life. My husband and I lost everything in 2008. We had to rebuild while taking on 2 more, kids 5 total, who needed parents. Tested our toughness for sure.
THELIFELIVER there’s several natural supplements that can help your body to produce more or efficiently use what you got. When that stops working you can go to bio identical hormones. Check with a naturopath md if you can find one in your area.
Starting my single journey now at 47, after 24 years of marraige...I've got rock-bottom to build on!
any update on how you doing?
Pain only tells me im still alive...and what ever im feeling couldn’t be worse then death. So i carry death next to me cause it humbles me down on any adversity i face. Pain is only... temporary, words, names, issues, conflicts,feelings..its all temporary
One of the most underrated influencers ever.
Pat is the most practical guru I have ever seen! Keep up the good work Pat!!
@@danielodwyer6245 thanks a lot! I will check him out!
My dad was a Green Beret colonel and a Ranger and he always said, when the going gets tough the tough get going!
My dad said ‘tough times don’t last - tough people do’
I truly related to what you said about fighting and not quitting and when you face a crisis and couldn't talk to anybody about it. Moments of valor seeking God's guidance grace. Amen 🙏🏻
Thank you for your authentic, blunt, straightforward, wake up talk. I'm nearing the top of a 30-year push of a rock up a cliff. What I have heard from you in the last couple of weeks since I've actually searched to listen to you, has been extremely beneficial to me. And I will continue to consider you a mentor for years to come. Thank you so much
Achieving mental toughness for me was having a very strict Father with a IQ. Close to 200 ! Going through Basic training was shocking to see how many people broke down. I did everything not to laugh out loud a lot . That made me realize how much my father had prepared me .Instead of laughing I would give them guidance and support !
Somehow, this is exactly what I needed right now in my life. Just got evicted from my home at the same time trying to make my Social media marketing agency business succeed. Been really thinking about my life since morning and here comes PAT to save me with great words. Thank you 💞
Good luck Brother. I hope all goes well for you. You sound like you are a trooper! You will be successful and find an even better home!!
Stay strong and keep moving, brother. All the best wishes to you.
Keep going, life is a marathon we'll have our ups & downs but we gotta keep going
Sending positive vibes your way.
You started already. That's very important. Now figure how to make it better.
Tough enough to obey GOD
Came here this morning for this powerful message by you PBD. Going through some challenges right now and I made my mind up, as I have before, to not let it BITTER ME BUT BETTER ME. Because, challenges are truly all a test of our character and how we CHOOSE to deal with them either strengthens or weakens our character going forward. WE CAN CHOOSE TO BE BITTER OR WORK OUR TAILS OFF TO BE BETTER. Thank you for this reminder PBD.
Congratulations on your children. What a strong, AMAZING woman! ♥️
Sorry about the miscarriage 🕊
Read: Angela Duckworth; Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. Amazing read.
Rather than being passionate man should be purposeful and realistic -
Btw. for those withour time there's a nice video about it by Ali Abdaal.
Joe McMullin I added it to my wishlist. Thank you 🙂
Brilliant, relevant, so many good parts. 5 mins longer, applies to so many areas of life, regain composure, seek clarity, stick it out. Preparation is the game, can 5x or 100x your results. Have to seek out paths that create the mentality of "you'll have to kill me to take me out of the game". Value of keeping your word, I'll be creating that value and bond with my kids - thank you. Test my limits, surprise myself - priceless. Thanks PBD.
PBD doesn't have to do these videos. He's minted many times over. This is like a hobby for him. Yet he takes time out of his day to give these life changing lessons. Highly appreciated.
Brilliant! Chinese adage "when your strong ACT WEAK when your weak ACT STRONG"
As a single mom, I've had to push myself beyond the "limits" of what I ever thought I could do. It is amazing what we can do when we have to. Make it through until the next week, the next day and even that next five minutes. I didn't always have to get through it beautifully, but I had to MAKE IT THROUGH! Stay strong! The best is yet you come if you persevere.
Agree! Single Mom here too. We are tough! :)
Stacy, I was a single mom for 10 years, I get you!
I'm learning to be a single dad. It's no joke. Good news is you get a lot of quality time.
right on stacy!
You get nothing but the bare and honest truth from this incredible man. I love that he draws inspiration from many exceptional people, as well as his personal experiences, to get his message across. He's the kind of leader you'd wanna go to war with. Thank you sir, you inspire us all to be better humans and to get to the next level
NAs - My way and nothing lasts forever helped me through a lot of though times in my life
to live a life with pain and not exploit it is probably the best compliment you could give a man... that and being a great father. RIP Chadwick
To whoever reads this, I hope you have a good day.
Thanks. U 2
Switz ditto
Maan I had shitty day at work! But u know what!! It was shitty cuz I got a lot of things done ✅
Thank guy 👍🏼
You too friend
Starting to like this guy more by the day. Awesome message. Really well put. Mental toughness isn't just going through shit and holding on 5 mins longer. Wich is a great insight as well. It's also simply preparing for something; so well, you can do something very difficult, effortlessly. We love to hear it!
That's one of the best pep talks I've ever heard. Thanks PBD. 👍
1. Pain tolerance (pressure creates pain)
2. Preparation for the pressure and the pain
3. Never show hurt!
4. How you react when you are tested
5. Tough enough
6. Be unshakable
7. Test your limits
8. The next time you say you gonna do something do it!
I was literally having a bad day but this video gave me an energy boost
Thank you so much brother 🙏🙏 I really needed this.
What an amazing and inspirational individual. Wise beyond his years!
"To overcome fear, you must BECOME fear." - Bane
What exactly does this mean?
Julian - Mercy
@@germainrodriguez5230 I did a motorcycle track day on a race bike, your brain wants to shut down with information overload. If you let the fear take over, you will crash so you become the fear because if you don't.....you crash.
Plus it gets you to go 180 down the back straight away with a shit eating grin at the end of the day.
@@germainrodriguez5230 It means I was born in the darkness, molded by it
Yoda also said something about that, I don't remember exactly, something like "fear leads to a dark bathroom" or something...
My Mother, Father, sports, my wife, kids, attending USC and life experience have given me my mental toughness.
Marine Corps boot camp and being a Fleet deployed Marine gave me the experience in being pushed as close to death as one could be and surviving. I remember taking a Marine Scuba class in Okinawa. Day one, the instructor: "You will drown in the class or you will fail" ...we had to experience what it would be like to drown, and be comfortable with it...An experience I will never forget. It's a blessing being able to open our eyes every morning,.Take advantage of that!. These are tough times for us all...keep fighting..!! Fight On!
PLEASE MAKE MORE OF THESE.Longtimr viewer, I was strong three years strong, now I'm weak.
You motivate me and remind me of what I'm capable of.
Thanks for sharing PBD. Very powerful 👍🏽
Never be too high, never be too low. Stay neutral. Good and bad times are all perception
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Very good point stay neutral
Stoicism. 💪
I’m all for stoicism but come on. That perception shit is bull. When there’s bad times and you can’t eat and you’re business tanks. That’s a big difference from when it’s good times and you have healthy cash flow business and a maxed out Vanguard index fund
@@trolololololololololololol6124 its on u to keep ur business in good shape
I've had bad ptsd and that's why people quit sometimes and I just want to say: don't underestimate or hate youraelf for messing up or laying down.
Just keep watching the tons of videos out there that say the difference between winning a losing is getting back up and one day it starts to sink in and the fear lessens and slowly you get back up again and get back up again.
"We fall down, but we get up🎼🎶💗". Your life is calling and thank goodness you will make it eventually and falling and failing is just a step in the process of trying and succeeding.
Awesome Tara and I know you’ll beat your PTSD as you continue to grow yourself!
Goals !! When Lowest of lows hit think and make small goals, many small goals . If you fail, you truly didn't!! rise back up you have those small goals leading to the big vision of your path to strive for !! Even though that miserable feeling is a constant weight on the shoulders look back at the small goals and where you have accomplished them and how far you got . You will be amazed !! Edit: Wow what a co winky dink, he is literally speaking of the goals a moment after I had posted the upper
This is Valuable! Thank you 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Gotta be careful with pain tolerance. I’ve pushed it until I went into shock and had convulsions. Doctors don’t advise that.
Mental toughness is important it’s needed to paint a picture to others of the path you’re going towards. Keep chasing your dreams people the only person who can do it is you I hope you all have a great day !
Patrick, you’re one of the best people I’ve ever seen in delivering a message. Love your videos, your interviews, and the lessons you have to offer.
Thank you pat. U r such an inspiration to people like me in Africa that don’t have role models.
Thank you for this lesson.
3 minute 38 seconds ; the most I've ever held my breath under water.
I swear Patrick is watching over my life because every video relates to what I need when I need it.
I felt the exact same thing and can only imagine how many others in the Valuetainment family are going through the same thing!
Thanks for this great content!
I'm retired in Danbury, CT. As I get older, I have learned, never expect another person, to be there for u, all the time. Expect to be let down, and be prepared to solve problems, on your own.
Man today i felt like you were speaking directly to me . I am 21 years into my entrepreneurial journey . You go though a lot when you start a business before there is google , TH-cam & all social media . I see a lot of people try to hack the process . There’s no easy way if you want longevity but in the end it’s was worth it for me .. thanks for the words pat 🙏🙏
Good luck on the entrepreneurial journey Jason!
You’re a very honest person. And always give important life lessons. Thank you.
Thanks for the content man I appreciate that
I’ve just found your TH-cam channel and I’m thrilled. Thank you for the amazing content. I’m finally ready to start building my biz back up after Moving it from Ca. To Texas and shrinking it down as far as I could during Covid. I appreciate the inspiration.
One thing that helps handle pressure is being young. When you get older, pressure and anxiety starts to take a toll. I used to be tougher when I was young. Really enjoy your videos though. You are very inspirational.
The best lessons are learned through pain. Great video Patrick
Great stuff i hope there is a part 2 to this
I’m in that tough place right now having gone through a heavy loss. Trying to cope with a new reality and being a entrepreneur at the same time, in not easy. Thank you so much for this great discussion
How are you now pal?
Pressure is Uncomfortable. As a young Entrepreneur building a Digital Marketing Agency and Production Company there is so much pressure to keep going when it’s hard but I love the fact you said how strong mental toughness is that where looking for results. Great video!
Wow, I needed this for a situation that I am going through right now.
We're so much lucky that we have Patrick in our life! I really appreciate that you share us all of such gold wisdoms.Thank you so much!!
Really needed to hear this. Work was getting really overwhelming during a time i was already overwhelmed. This helped me toughen up and get through this.
I pray ,get a plan ,backup plans, eat right, exercise ,read books ,limit on pity party,depression ,negative thinking ,no more than 20 minutes ,listen to music of my choice,but when you feel like stress go to classical ,soft jazz, get plenty of good rest ,go to bed on time get up on time set aside a couple hours ,or 1 hour of Qiuet time just thinking you going to get real with yourself in those moments each day ,Watch association ,need positive supportive string minded person or people best to keep circle of friends small ,keep a schedule adjust the schedule if need too but keep a scheduled life do things you enjoy,savor the moment
Day 1 of taking responsibility.
It all starts with day 1!
How ya doin?
I so so so needed this Patrick. Thank you so much for this. Love and Respect!
Anyone else love that inspirational mural backdrop as much as I do? Thank you Patrick... As always just what I needed!
I find mental toughness for myself is a moment-to-moment affair. I take a David Goggins approach by creating scar tissue on my mind through doing things that suck; i.e. running, cold showers, working late, skipping sugar.
my mental seems to toughen through my physical.
"you may fail, but you *will not* quit"
- Eric Thomas
keep going
Patrick you just add so much value with your videos! I am always looking forward to your messages!
This is what i just needed in 2023. Thank You PBD.
As usual, this video was very helpful and to the point. I love following this channel
"mental toughness people are not looking for attention"
I'm taking this quote so true
Thank you, thank you for this video! I needed to hear this and I have realised how mentally tough I actually am. For a while there, I was unsure, but your video was exactly what I needed to hear. I was in a situation where I recently resigned from my Exco position and stood up to a Board... and I lost because of their powerful relationships and corruption. It was hard, but I didn’t back down and stood by my beliefs. Though I didn’t get the result I wanted, the company’s DNA was shown to many stakeholders through their cold and deceitful public responses and people have thanked me for being their voice. Patrick, you helped me realize so much in this video. I am grateful!
Interesting and what exact company is this again ?
Pat, your so insightful, I have learnt so much in the past few weeks of watching your content, Thank you
I dont usually comment on videos but this one is absolutely amazing. I had a very important basketball game and I was nervous and scared that I might not be able to perform well, and I was thinking about not going to the game. But this video gave me so much motivation and trust in my skills and mentality, I was confident and excited to play. I played really well so thank you.
#1 = "Pain Tolerance". Such a great point. There are so many types of pain. Thank you for the insights. This whole video was boss. Trying to build my mental toughness now.
How are you doing now man?