How To Stop Thinking About Food All The Time
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 พ.ค. 2024
- HOW CAN I STOP THINKING ABOUT FOOD ALL THE TIME?
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Summary:
Addressing the common narrative that attributes food fixation solely to restriction, Sarah explores the multifaceted psychological aspects that contribute to this challenge.
The discussion begins with a focus on the perception of food scarcity, emphasizing that constant thoughts about food can arise not only from inadequate nutrition but also from the way individuals think about food. Sarah explains the biological impact of anticipating food, shedding light on the production of ghrelin, the hunger hormone, even when thinking about eating.
Sarah delves into the mental debates that arise when faced with food choices, highlighting the importance of shifting from a binary "yes or no" mindset to a more nuanced "now or not now" approach. By calming the brain and deeming decisions around food as less crucial, individuals can foster a healthier relationship with their choices.
The video explores the concept of observing one's thoughts, encouraging viewers to detach from ingrained thought patterns. Sarah discusses the power of mindfulness and the practice of observing thoughts without complete identification, offering a glimpse into a different state of consciousness that can ease the mental burden of constant food obsession.
A crucial aspect of the discussion revolves around the interplay of self-worth with food and body image. Sarah challenges the notion that fixing these aspects is the key to personal value, urging viewers to consider what fixing their food and body means about their self-perception. The video proposes a shift in consciousness, disidentifying with conditioned patterns and embracing a more compassionate perspective toward oneself.
In conclusion, Sarah synthesizes the key takeaways, emphasizing the need to address food scarcity, make intentional food choices, engage in identity work, and cultivate self-compassion. The video serves as an enlightening guide for individuals seeking a profound transformation in their relationship with food, offering a holistic and introspective approach to achieving psychological freedom.
I’m one of the many who go all day eating appropriately and not too hungry. Nighttime is my nemesis. On the days I work, I come home really hungry, have a reasonable dinner, but crave sweets afterwards. And once I start, it’s like I have a sugar tapeworm😮.
She has done a video about night time eating.
It may be helpful.
Discusses this issue.
I was around 800Lbs. I tried many diets. I failed lap band surgery. My mind was always searching for the next meal. Food consumed my life and made me a prisoner in my own body. I discovered the carnivore diet over two years ago and lost 500 lbs. This seems extreme to most, but it worked by giving me the off switch that I never had. I was broken. If I eat carbs, the voracious cravings return. So for me, it’s best to abstain from those foods that could make me spiral back to where I was. At 52 years old, I feel and look better than I did in my 20s. My doctor is happy with my success. Mindset does play a huge part, but for me the carnivore diet gave me the quiet in my head, resulting in finally finding food freedom. People say it’s restrictive. 800 lbs is restrictive. I have my life back.
Good for you. I am glad you found something that works for you
You’re amazing - Great Job! Did you do it by yourself, or did you find a carnivore support group?
@@sophiacromwell8017 I struggled at first as I had a lot of issues to work through. So reached out for support. It's what I needed to do to make the change :)
Well done 👏
First video of yours I've seen. Instantly subscribed. I've never found anyone that has been able to so clearly describe the noise that has been constantly going on inside my head for the last half a century.
My life (71 years) has been consumed by thinking about food. And I can never get full enough. I did watch a video of yours on that also. Always from childhood an eating “problem”, 40 year bulimic with amazingly few physical repercussions. 20 years free from the activity but not the thinking. Right now, extremely thin maintained by extreme restriction. Watching your videos is very helpful. I would engage in 1:1 but am a US resident. Again, thank you so much. I am hearing things that I haven’t heard before.
I find this so hard to explain to others, I literally think about food constantly. It's exhausting. So when I finally cave in after 3 days of thinking about a particular food, it's after thinking about it constantly for days, and yeah, it is a relief. Fixing my food and my body means so much to me. I've never been a healthy weight (genuinely, that's not just my perception) and it's holding me back in my CrossFit training. I just want to be a normal size, for once in my life, and I don't want to have to think about trying to be in a calorie deficit all the time. I wish I could just eat like a normal person.
Completely identify with this.
316 pounds woman 30 years old and I’m miserable and tired. On today 4/20/24 you have gave me hope. Thank you 😭 You are a sweet gift from God.
OMGoodness! This video makes sense, rings true, and gives me hope. You are SO GOOD at what you do!
Intermittent fasting helped me lose over 160 lbs and I have no regrets. However now I am struggling with restriction and while I am still able to stick with OMAD, I do find myself thinking about food obsessively, thank you for video
I'm an IF''er too. I've always been a bit of an anomaly because feeling too FULL as opposed to hungry is a trigger for a binge, as is the guilt at eating the 'wrong' food. Nothing is restricted now. I do like this lifestyle, i would say the frequency of full on binges has decreased, but i've lost zero weight.
4:30 Yes!!! The “permission” also includes permission to say no.
Wise and insightful beyond words.
Thank you for helping us!!
Thank you for all that you do. I don’t recall seeing a video on this topic, but I was wondering if you could do a video on those of us who struggle with chronic pain that leads us to binge eat. Before my pain, I used to exercise as a way to keep my binge eating in check. Now that I can’t do it anymore, I find I turn to binging to distract from the pain and comfort myself. I know it isn’t true, but it can sometimes feel impossible to resist binging when I am in pain and hopeless despair over my physical condition. Thank you again for your channel.
I really appreciate your videos. I completely relate to the idea of eating the food you’re thinking about just to end the struggle in your mind. So a lot of times, it doesn’t even feel like a conflict, it’s just like, I’m just going to eat this so I don’t have to think about it anymore. And in those moments I can still sort of zoom out on those thoughts, and there IS recognition that I could observe my thinking and end the internal battle that way- but it feels easier to give in and eat the food rather than zooming out. 😫 I also don’t even feel that guilty after it’s happened anymore - mostly apathetic. Also, I feel like I need to get something off my chest that feels like a horrible secret- the other day I kept eating WHILE listening to some of your videos. I don’t even know what was going on there 😶🌫️😭
Anyway, I do want to end the comment on a good note! I am getting better at observing thoughts, and it does feel freeing when you realise “oh, that’s just thinking” and that it’s not reality. All of your videos are gold honestly, no time is wasted - every sentence feels like a valuable lesson! Thank you!
There are a few of my videos where people have commented that they are eating/bingeing while watching. You’re not alone and there is nothing shameful about it ❤️🩹
This was really hard-hitting for me. The thought of “who am I without this obsession with food” I genuinely don’t know the answer to that! My entire life has been an obsession with food, an obsession with restriction and binging in an endless cycle. I really have to try and find more purpose and meaning in my life. It’s also more difficult as I am autistic and have always found it incredibly difficult to be introspective, or view my thoughts from a more detached perspective, like you mentioned.
Thank you for sharing that. I have been having this exact thought and it can be really scary! This obsession takes up so much time, energy, and thoughts that it’s really uncomfortable to think about who’s on the other side. Who am I if not this “monster” I’ve been trying to tame for so many years? This very gap and not being prepared to handle it is what I feel led me back to a binge after the longest binge-free streak I’ve ever had.
For me.. food commercials would be a trigger.. when I figured this out I got DVR so I could pause and then fast forward through the commercials. Helped a lot. Once that seed is planted the mental argument begins. I won’t go buy fast food but I’ll definitely rummage through the fridge.
Oh my gosh! Thank you for going deeper! I am more than my "conditioned self"! Self-compassion is the way!
Over the past year, I’ve lost 125lbs on my own through diet and exercise. I lost it so quickly that my gallbladder stopped working and I had to restrict my diet even more. After I got it taken out, almost a month ago now, I’ve been having the hardest time regaining my willpower and self control because all of the foods that I couldn’t eat, I can have them now. I’ve not had a full blown meal that is bad for me, but I’ve had bites of things here and there that I know in my head and heart I shouldn’t have had and haven’t had in almost a year. I never realized that this would happen and it honestly feels like an internal battle. I constantly feel like I’m losing at this battle and I don’t know how to get back on track. The guilt is overwhelming at times. But, this video has given me the confidence and determination that I need to get back on track and to learn to forgive myself. Thank you so much for this video ❤️
your videos are on point!!!
Your videos are so incredibly wonderful. Thank you for sharing these insights and helping me to *finally* understand why I’ve struggled for so long.
I also started to see other people as conditioned ones. Thus I can be more compassionate with them.
Thank you so very much Sarah, yet again for putting out your videos here, very-very much appreciated. You voice is so calming and reassuring 💐
Great video...I continue to appreciate your insights. It all helps.
I use to listen your videos over and over again and I find always something new for me. I started to eat enough, so I dont binge during night, but I still think about food a lot. But what you've said make a lot of sense to me. Thank you so much
Thank you for sharing your candid advice! You give me hope that I can change my habits and change my life! I like your accent!
Everything said in the video I have thought of and processed in my therapy sessions (I'm impressed😊). Such a informative and "dense" so to speak, video 😇
Your videos are amazing Sarah, it is the content ❤ and also the video edition and the way you explain the info in a way that is easy to understand it. THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR WORK! You are a very generous person. Not any person includes the audiobook of her book in a free way on her channel ❤.
for those of u who struggle like a mofo: i was eating while watching Sarah tday after having some shots and it was nearly a small binge & im like 50 etc. so it is not just easy peasy ok. but i love Her & her stuff so grazi’
It is a spiritual proces too, isn't it? I tried a lot of spiritual teachers
(Tolle, Rupert Spira, Tara Brach, Ramdass etc.) to beat the addiction. But it didn't work. But the other way around, with IE I find myself having more awareness, trust, compassion. Little by little just by stopping to force myself in any direction. Thanks Sarah. ❤
Sarah this is so helpful ❤ I feel like I am at that point of wondering who I am without the conditioning of other people’s expectations … it’s both interesting and scary as it means re evaluating everything I just accepted as “how it is”.
Some important stuff to ponder here - thank you for your insight and sharing this … pivotal to recovery as always ! X
Thank you!
Thank YOU. That is incredibly kind of you 💚
Thank you,this video was very relatable! Last year I've lost 15 kg trough very very extreme dieting(around 800 calories a day😭). I kep wanting to lose a bit more but couldnt for a while due to a lack of motivation. This year I've lost the last few kilos and now I am completely satisfied with the way that I look,but I have found myself stuck in a binge and restrict cycle since trying to maintain my weight. Right now I've just done binging on cookies until i made myself feel sick and I looked for help on this app. I'm glad I found your channel because for once I want to focus on creating a normal relationship with food,not thibking about food and calories all the time, and eating carefree,while not overeating.
Wish I found you years ago! ❤
I am just near 60 . Struggled all my life with self control, i have always ate secretly and and frel jealous of my husband and other family who have control. My secret is depressing, though if adked ehats wrong i will answer"nothing"😢 i have ordered your book this is the first time i have heard anyone talk about this .
I live at a second stage rehab and every day there are cakes or pudding or muffins laid out for me to eat and I feel completely powerless to my control over the situation…i do feel like there is a food scarsity problem here because there are so many people that can potentially eat the sweets and I want to eat it all before they do maybe…this all is especially hard since I’ve been clean off fentanyl and crack for only almost a year now..I will keep in mind to be mindful of my thoughts when I’m thinking about food!
Love you Sarah! “Zooming out” is such a good metaphor on looking at our own thoughts and behaviors objectively. I will practice this more. The dissociation with bad patterns and that conditioned self is interesting- it reminds me of David Goggins and how he talks about his previous self.
One last thing, do you have any recommendations for food freedom and picky eaters for kids? It’s so hard as a parent to navigate my issues and my kids at the same time. I have had some pendulum swings with how food was given. My 7 year old has even gone to an OT for sensory issues. I could be wrong but I believe children are becoming picker with all the boxed, pre-prepared foods, screen time and lack of physical activity.
Nicole Cruz RD talks a lot about this. instagram.com/nicolecruzrd?igsh=eWI5bHZtdzhmbTA=
Kids tends to be an area I stay away from (nothing worse than hearing a child-free person dishing out parenting advice 😂)
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thanks so much, I respect that. 😊
have you explored the Reichian character structure and on how it would influence the desire to feed the mouth. Or the Freudian oral fixation.
Our body is the subconscious mind...repressed emotions lead to over consumption..food offers a state change..so why do we want to change state in the first place? Its not a matter of will power. of course the body does affect the mind as well (its all connected as as youve hinted to)..fix the microbiome (fixing sugar cravings can be done by prolonged fast or keto type diet- for a short time, maybe 3 monthsmove more (oxygen ditribution, and hormonal response lead to feeling better,and when you feel better you wont be looking to change your state)
ist not a one size fix all unfortunately. everyone needs a personalized strategy. Then theres also thye conditioning aspect to consider.
Me, watching this video, worried about my constant food revolving thoughts: oh no i must be obsessed
Also me after that, dedicating my day to studying and stopping scolling food-shorts: cured. Well, almost. I kinda...make food look unapetizing to me? Somehow it works, to cope when i see food, i imagine it not like a temptation, but rather something depicted on a cardboard paper. Thank you for this video!The topic is worrysome
I was anorexic and underweight for a while.. I thought of food a lot. I scrolled through food blogs every night and sometimes would walk around supermarkets, looking at food without buying anything.. too much energy is still caught in thinking about eating/food/etc.
exactly same now... I'm 185 sm and 53 kg, but im struggling with overeating every single day. Im thinking about it even writing this comment and i can't do anything. These obsessive thoughts never leave me alone and i barely can study now, let alone enjoy the life. I dont know how to quit this obsession, but anyway im trying and will be trying until i can.
I can totally relate. I had anorexia in my early teens which evolved into bulimia and later binge eating disorder. When I was anorexic I would spend hours walking around food shops and not buy anything. I would sometimes even collect other people’s receipts that they left behind at the checkout and fantasize about what they were buying and eating. Now I am doing a lot better but I too spend a lot of time still having thoughts about food and anxiety about eating, what I will eat later etc. This channel gives me a lot of hope though. I wish you all the best ❤ i hope you will one day find freedom
@@Aa-ll1sy omg, you literally described my everyday routine.... But, realizing that im not alone in this world makes me feel some relief.
@@Aa-ll1sy I believ you can get there! And thank you for sharing. It is not easy at all.
This channel is great and helpful. I can also recommend the book health at every size and the podcast "the psychology of eating". And the question what do I want to experience and build in my life? I don't want it to be revolved around food. I try to go out into the world and do activities that don't have anything to do with food.
I’d love to see a video about those who have to restrict for health reasons. Like being gluten free, intolerances etc? Do you have a video on this?
I have this one: th-cam.com/video/HNLcsbt_LCE/w-d-xo.htmlsi=5wMlxOZMZZ2WAnan
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What training did you do to become a psychotherapist for eating disorders specifically?
I am a SPWP and would love to do further training! X
My core therapy training was an MSc in transactional analysis psychotherapy. During my training I did a placement at a private eating disorder clinic where I received in-house training. Then I did the Master practitioner training at the National Centre for Eating Disorders - if you Google them you’ll find the training and you don’t have to be a psychotherapist to do it, if you are a professional (nurse, nutritionist etc) you can still do it so I would’ve thought you could go straight into it with your background
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist amazing! I must look into this. Thank you so much xx
Thinking about food every day and all day long - yes that’s me. Sometimes I even phantasize (like „oh, if I could as I would like, then …“) 😢😢😢
But I am glad that I found your channel, after several years of searching for help think I may have found what I need… thank you so much for all your content - do you do online seminars?
Best wishes from 🇩🇪 ❤and thank you 🙏
Not exactly seminars, but I do these: thebingeeatingtherapist.com/connect-recover-groups/
I am self indulgent but not with food (except chocolate) mostly alcohol. I can’t stop drinking , especially the hard dark liquor is most addictive sometimes I just wanna a beer or a whisky or a gin.
I’m only 19, I’m too young to get cirrhosis
Okay so I'm a feedee if you know anything about that, It's called feederism. And I'm gaining weight but I'm also psychologically training my brain to pick up habits of fat people so I can learn how to not be able to stop eating and how to eat more all the time. Do you have videos on anything close to how my brain would work cuz I tend to be hungry all the time people tell me to go on diets and not only don't I want to but I don't think I could at this point cuz I'm so fat and I want to eat all the time and I think about food all the time.
Not sure I fully understand the question, a video on how your brain works? In which aspect and to what end? I’m usually speaking to people who are in distress and trying to change something. I don’t have any purely educational videos
Don’t give me advice don’t find a diet for me, just surgically remove the ability for me to think about food unless it’s a meal time and make it physically impossible for me to over eat and I’ll be fine
Oh wait that’s impossible