How to sit, stand and pick dropped items elegantly (Deportment, Part 2)
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I am Jamila Musayeva, an international social etiquette consultant and the author of two books "Etiquette: the least you need to know" and "Afternoon Tea Etiquette." My books are available in English language in print only. If you wish to order, please email info@jamilamusayeva.com or my website: jamilamusayeva.com/order-books
This video is the second part of the two-series videos dedicated to deportment. In this video, I will show you how to stand, sit and pick dropped items elegantly.
If you still haven't seen the first part, here is the link: • How to have a good pos...
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the sound my knees made when I practiced picking up an item was not so elegant 😭
😆😆😆
🤣
Same 😄
At my age, I can’t get up again 🤣
PLS ITS LIKE A CREAKING DOOR
I'd love if you could teach how to dress up elegantly in different occasion. Thank you!
Yes definitely a request from my side too
i agree!
I agree
Yes
Yes!!
Tbh, I felt like a princess whom you were teaching royal etiquette’s in her teenage years
I am happy to hear that you felt like that ☺️
@@JamilaMusayeva I feel like that as well and this is beautiful.
Me too
And be a princess. I became a princess when I had 15 years old. I enjoy being a princess.
This is honestly more than just etiquette and elegance. This is confidence building. Thank you so much for making this!
You are welcome
This is the channel I didn’t know I needed.
Welcome to my channel :)
Sameee
I KNOW A SECRET ABOUT THIS PRINCESS
Sameee
Same
This may sound odd, but can you make a video on how to enter and leave a car/ vehicle elegantly?
Love your videos! Keep up the great work!
This is much needed !
Just keep your knees together and swing your legs out the door
Yes
You should do it like Zahia Dehar !!
Why was there a need to insult her bruh... Dont be rude!
Not even kidding, as soon as a camera would come out, my mom would assume the “feminine” stance as naturally as blinking. She was *trained.*
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0:56 standing - place both feet at hip width apart (to extend/open up body to appear confident)
2:20 more elegant/feminine stance - put two feet together, one foot behind another, ball of front foot touching middle of second foot, shift all the weight to back foot, tuck knees in
4:13 sitting - walk backwards without looking at chair to not break eye contact with person, sit down (use hands to feel chair), when sitting down imagine little kitten behind your back that you don't want to squish, use chair arms to make yourself near back of chair, if no chair arms sit in middle of chair
6:20 sitting posture - keep head high, chin parallel to ground, for men keep feet slightly apart grounded on the floor and no shaking of the legs, for women same way but keep your feet a bit closer together firmly on the ground
7:10 more elegant/feminine postures - duchess slant, Cambridge cross, Sussex sit
7:44 duchess slant - knees together, feet together, incline them to one side or the other
8:03 cambridge cross - knees together, cross them at ankle but keep feet on ground
8:27 sussex - cross your legs and then slant them to a side
9:16 how to pick up dropped items - bend not from your back, bend on your knees (as if sitting down)
Thank you so much.. ❤️
Thanks!!
Thanks a lot
Thanks!!
Not all heroes wear capes!! 😊 Thank you so much!
I read "pick dropped items" in the title and I immediately thought about the bend and snap scene from Legally Blonde :D
OMG SAMEEE
For real 🤣
Rofl 🤣
Lmao me too
Dudeee 🤣🤣
What to do with hands while just standing and not doing anything, not even talking.
Dixi Sinha just keep by your sides or hold your clutch or a drink in case you feel you need to hold on to something.
I usually touch my hair and my bag
@@LaLaLaLaLifeFabyu touching hair might make you look like you are flirting or nervous. Best to keep your hands busy with the clutch or perhaps a drink in one hand.
You could lightly fold/rest your hands into eachother, just above belly button height. Your shoulders will stay low and back easily and it helps you stand straight because it centers your balance.
@Habiba Nazirova :D
her voice is so soothing
its also gratingly fake
@@Cocologs Fake? Huh! To me, her voice sounds very measured and precise. I find her whole video mesmerizing, honestly! :-)
@@sarahinsfIn front of the camera of course. But wait till woman argues with her husband at home to test if it is fake or real 😊
I'll never be a proper lady but I do admire the women who put time and creativity into being elegant. We need all kinds of women in the world 💖
You are right: we need all kinds of woman. When I was young, a friend told me later laughing, he was more impressed by me than by any other, because I was sitting like John Wayne at the barstool. 😆 It's the result of driving huge motorbikes, but I am only Size XS.
I could act like a lady, but I don't like, that's not me. A schoolmate told me decades later, I have a heart of gold, nerves of steel and a spine of steel.
I’m really enjoying your channel on proper etiquette when it seems like a lost art these days. Would you please consider making a video on how to graciously respond to nosey questions? I find that many people these days are too forward in their comments or questions and I would appreciate any tips on how to handle this in a sophisticated manner. Many Thanks for all your dedicated work!
Nadia Marzuke thank you! Well noted 😉
I'm not sure how sophisticated this is, but my guess would be just don't answer! Lol. Sometimes just smile at people, change subject, or politely say I'm uncomfortable answering. Nobody can make you say or share anything you don't want to.
@@dreamyanon5151 absolutely! Well said!
or turn it into a joke....when somebody asks me when my boyfriend and I are gonna get married I usually respond with - oh, we skipped that step, now the next step could only be divorce : )
@@nelan3334 that's good i am too going to use it😂
I can't believe, even without knowledge I used to do a lot of things correctly and elegantly . Still a lot to learn . Thank you
same
Some people are naturally graceful. But etiquette is learnt.
Same 😊
Same
It's about your upbringing, the people you saw when you were a kid. We dont grow isolated, you learn it from somewhere you dont remember. Media has huge impact too
It is when i started watching anna bey and jamila, i changed my aesthetic to elegance.
☺️🙏🏻
Omg, yeah... I do really like the both of them.
And I don't feel bad being formal.
Crossing feet. Best for A lady 😊
I like both of them but I prefer Anna Bey because she has a sense of humor in her videos, and she has an energetic, vibrant vibe that's quite fresh and youthful. Jamila is more classic and quiet like in 80's time
Had a mini heart attack when she dropped the item because it was such a stark sound in comparison to her gentle voice
She should have used a handkerchief, rather than marring that beautiful floor.
The way you speak itself is so elegant and decent ☺️
Thank you 🙏🏻😊
@@JamilaMusayeva hi.. What an elegance..🥰🥰
@@JamilaMusayeva you're just amazing😍 I wish to speak like you. Lots of love for you from India.
Makes you wonder what she's repressing.
sounds just false. like playing a role. horrible
I never knew I've been elegant my whole life...WOW!
I found picking up the dropped items not only conducive to maintaining etiquette but more importantly maintaining good spine health! ❤️
I am 76 years old and mothers taught their little girls how to stand and sit. Times have certainly changed. Enjoyed your video-this is my first time on your channel.
Glad to see you on my channel ☺️
Thank you so much Jamila, I am learning a lot from you from Karachi, Pakistan. There is a request please make a demo video of saying no elegantly. How to decline something without creating drama or being angry.
Ayman Hira thank you! Noted 😊
Me too I'm from lahore love her channel ! ♡
I'm from Pakistan as well. So happy to see fellow pakistanis here
heyyy im from india and much love yall
Most of the time, if you say," No thank you" or, for a social engagement, say" I am have a previous engagement (even if it is to stay home and wash your hair), but thank you for thinking of me." For dates, just use the same statement. Be polite, thank them, and let it go.
I am so grateful to have found your channel. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with the world.🙏🏼😊
thank you :)
as a clumsy person, i'm going to start pick up the drop item elegantly
Heyyy!! I am a teenager from India n i love watching your videos I've changed a lot of things after ur guidings
I clicked on this mostly to amuse myself since I’m physically disabled (specifically having a condition that affects the joints and their ability to hyperextend) and assumed that there’d be nothing for me here but actually some of the sitting positions might work well for me when sitting straight causes me hip problems and anything that helps me to get up easier is good in my book.
I’m in a chair too, the slant takes stress off of one of your hips and give a little stretch too. Takes stress off the lower back as well.
Watching this while sitting like a frog on a chair, rubbing my knees on its armrests... I need to learn a lot.
Frog 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🐸🐸🐸
😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Snehil Singh i sit with my leg up on the chair am i fine?
@Snehil Singh THANK YOU. High five.
Your way of talking is so smooth and elegant... thanks for the effort!
Thank you!
Watching again and again, just because learning doesn't end. We improve ourselves and our craft everyday.
Massive thanks Ms.Jamila.
How about etiquette on wearing perfume? I'd love to hear what you have to say about that!
@mi su I come from a place where we love our perfumes and we use loads of them, the stronger the perfume the more compliments you will get, people know I am here from my perfume. Then I moved a country where perfumes are not allowed in public places and all offices, I don't understand why people here are sensitive to perfumes, even when I go shopping I can't find anything strong as we have back there. I miss being able yo use perfumes more freely, but I am so curious to know the science behind people being more sensitive in some parts of the world
@@shireengool It is more the other way around. Because people use a lot of perfume, they get desensitized for it. So they don't perceive the smell as strong. While people who don't use it often, can get a headache. Too much perfume can be seen sometimes as flamboyant or distracting, so it is not recommended (but not prohibited as far as I know). I know in some countries they might prohibit it because of cultural/religious reasons. A strong smell is then too flashy (for a woman).
@@Black.Spades good to see things from another perspective, thank you
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Shireen Isam that’s very interesting! May I know which countries are you referring to? Just curious
Thank you Jamilla. Request- A video on how to accept compliments and how to reject offers
Good suggestion 😊
This is the best etiquette video I've seen I actually don't feel judged or uncomfortable by it like others. Thank you
Thank you 🙏🏻
I love the way she talk.. so warm and affectionate, albeit I found the video in recommendation.....but this is actually I needed the most.
And thank you for being so grateful..lots of love❤❤
Thank you 🙏🏻
A topic I'd like to hear more about is how to excuse yourself from a party politely. Or how to respond when others are being rude in a formal setting
Yes great suggestion!
I'm here 4 days before my prom and these videos are really gonna help me out😊
I didn't wake up this morning thinking I would end up subscribing to an etiquette channel...
...and yet here I am, and here I have.
You are the best teacher when it comes to etiquette
Thank you!
those slanted seating positions look so uncomfortable
They don't work if you are older and have bad knees. We need videos on how to elegantly get up from chairs if we are older and have bad knees.
It helps if you have heels on
@@bee2813 Sorry, age, bad knees, heels, and bending over is not a good, painless, combination.
its called rhe duchess slant, women of the royal family have to sit like that
@@cstephenson3749 I believe etiquette consultant Gloria Starr may have some videos to help with that matter.
Can we appreciate how amazing her figure is
So very well put together. I particularly like how you provide several options of doing the same thing depending on the image you are trying to project. I find this very helpful and I thank you. Beautifully done
Thank you 🙏🏻
Very rare content, this is something that we not notice and practice in everyday life, but I learned much from this video. Thank you Jamila. And you are looking beautiful.
I definitely like the Ducchess slant. It just feel more secure and quickly done for when you’re wearing a skirt or dress. Love your channel, Jamila. I’m bingeing on all of the videos today. ❤️
Omg she speaks so softly her voice is soooo satisfying!
I just love how she talks. So calm
Even the way she speaks is elegant...so soothing!
i am a governess for a royal family and this is truly helpful
Happy to hear it!
I appreciate that you also mention the positions for men as well, even if just in passing.
her: don’t look behind while making an eye contact
me: *follows the instructions*
also me: *trips and falls on my back* well, there goes all my etiquettes 😍😍
I love the cross-slant way of sitting! Thanks for tips😍
You are welcome ☺️
I love it! My favorite is the Dutches position. I apply these daily rituals of class to my life for years now. And viewing your lessons, confirms that us ladies know what's best! Oxox Thank you for your wonderful videos, and elegant tips. ❤
You're having real royal personality
We're learning so much from your video
Can you please upload video
How to deal elegantly and smartly to emotionally attached situations
Means how do take out this elegance in attitude to situation which are hard to deal with blown out mind?
Neha Patel thank you very much for your kind words. I will take your recommendations into account 🙏🏻
Yo gujarati in comment section.
@@sagarsonawane1698 i do not understand what “you gujarati” means
Yesss
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You are so soothing to listen to, and your tips are just what every cultured and elegant ladies need.. Keep the videos coming.
Thank you 🙏🏻
that vidoe made me feel like I am in a princess school.And she is the queen.
Why in normal school we walk there is no lesson like elegant lady? School should learn young girls how to be elegant lady. I would love to have these lessons and finally I would had a reason to like school.
@@jessicamakitrzprincessofbe2719 actually its better if we find these stuff on youtube not in school .If this would be a lesson in school it would be weird like ladies should learn how to be elegant.They shouldn't be rude or anything other than elegant.But if u are a person who wants to learn more about being more elegant then you can search and find how so you be different from others :)
@@direnasminkaraca2333 But it could be an exstra lesson that you could attent if you want. It would also be a good way for the girls to get know each other better and make friends because it would be a lesson only for them.
@@jessicamakitrzprincessofbe2719 yeah it would be cool if its a selectable lesson
@@direnasminkaraca2333 I'm glad you agree. Being a lady is wonderful. I regret that I had so much anger in my heart. I feel much better when I am nice and elegant.
Thank you. I do the Cambridge cross a lot and I bend my knees exactly the way you did to pick stuff up. Thank the Lord I am doing something right
Your voice is so soothing I love listening to you🥺
Thanks dear for your advice. In this noisy, arrogant world a little bit of gentle class and grace are much needed. Confidence is not equal to carrying yourself and behaving like a tomboy. I learned this with time. You are a lovely shortcut for the youger ones that want to follow your advice.
This dress is gorgeous!
I've never felt feminine enough, I hope I will be able to make a change with your videos. Thank you 🌹
Edit : loved the dress ❤️
Such a pleasant voice. Honey to my ears.
I prefer sitting like a confident man, but it's nice to learn those manners for elegant occasions. And now I know how to stand like a flawless greek statue. Thank you.
Glad you are addressing this. Young people are not learning deportment and table manners anymore. 1:34
I’m pretty short and sometimes when I’m wearing flats I can’t put my feet flat on the ground, what should I do in this case?
Also, a video suggestion: Hosting a Dinner Party
im pretty short too, but body anatomy wont stop you from keeping your feet flat
@@hwahwa3347 Perhaps they meant that they can't completely touch the ground when sitting. For example, when I sit, if I were to have my feet flat, they would be dangling in the air.
@@ruiyang9098 I'm short and have this same problem too! would really love to know the answer to this >.< Chair height doesn't always take short people into account
Don't swing them back and forth and don't spent the evening kicking the chair with your heels. Just use the postures she suggested and forget that your feet wont touch the ground.
I'm short also so my trick is to keep the front of my foot or toes touching the ground with my ankles crossed and legs slanted. If my knees are tilted to the left my left ankle is behind my right, if I tilt to the right then my right ankle goes behind the left. Only one foot will touch the ground. Another thing I do is to sit a bit more forward in the chair so my feet have a better chance of being flat on the ground. Hope this helps.
You look like a queen teaching etiquettes 💖
🙏🏻
It brought a smile to my face when I saw how to pick up an item correctly, my boyfriend from middle school told me never to pick up an item bending my back because boys would stare at my butt haha he always picked things for me when I dropped something but also constantly reminded me how I should do it when I had to, how cute the right way is the way he told me and how I've been doing it since then
I love this. Wish it was taught in school. It makes total sense. I realized after a while picking up something that falls without bending the legs looks vulgar or suggestive. Thank you!
Omg i was born with these etiquettes and i always use them naturally😂 expect that voice she has
Finally I found the type of channel✨ which I want from many years..
For an example Be in discipline, Manners - Etiquette and everything
Thanks for inventing such kind of channel ☺️
Thank you for these good suggestions on how to be more elegant while sitting, standing and picking items up!
I've been picking my things correctly my whole life !!
I'm happy about that !!
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@@ichinikochiniseokjinie7361 thnx
Jamila, I’m glad someone still teaches this. I wish I’d found it before my daughter went to prom. She and her companions are not used to wearing long dresses. Thanks for the tips.
Sweet!♥️ you're the QUEEN! ways, voice, accent, looks .
Thank you!
@@JamilaMusayeva you're welcome 😁♥️
This channel is life! I didn't know I needed this! thank you!
You are welcome ☺️
I try to be elegant every day then the reality of mortgage and bills hit me so i end up swearing instead of purring..
Thank you so much for these amazing tips! I would also like to know some basic etiquettes needed as a guest while at someone's house.
I have gained confidence and felt many changes!! This is all because of you😘😘😘😘❤❤thanks a lott!! Stay blessed ,happy n safe!!! Keep succeeding ❤❤❤lots of ❤❤❤Love
So happy to hear that! 🙏🏻
@@JamilaMusayeva THANKS❤❤❤❤ a lottt for replying ❤❤❤
I love etiquette❤. I'm glad that you take care so much about it. I really enjoy these etiquette rules.
I just found your channel and already in love with your aura! Your videos are so informative and the descriptions are flawless! I would request you to do a video on 'conversation etiquttes' someday please. Keep up the great work ❤
Nabiha Haque thank you 🙏🏻I am happy to hear that 😊
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My sister is in the army. I just forced her to watch this and she burst out laughing.
Army has its own elegance, & the elegance of a girl in military is much more than these so called Princesses, proud of your sis & all the ladies fighting out for their nations!!!
Army étiquette is also wonderful, good luck to her
She should learn these tips, seriously. I am interested in war matters myself and I like to be a warrior who protects her family and friends and this is what I want to do but as well I love long beautiful dress, high heels, I love to be a lady. Woman can be a lady and a warrior.
@@czarodziejkaicysnowlight4125 So true indeed! I too would like to learn etiquette for different occasions! :)
@@schoolwork232 Then what are you waiting for? Start learn if this is really what you want. Nothing can stop you.
Your classes are precious gifts. Thank so much for your hard work and kindness. ❤
Thank you for your kind words ☺️
Iam so grateful to have you . Thank you for sharing your knowledge ❤
I would love a video on elegant body language when it comes to the hands. How to frame our face femininely?
You mean when taking pictures? Hands preferably by your sides either holding a clutch or a glass of drink. Never in your pockets.
The only way to receive true happiness is to be born again. Jesus loves you and is coming back to earth soon. This year is giving signs of end times. You need to repent. Please believe and spread the word..
@Happy Rambutan Please read 2 Timothy chapter 3 and also please remember to have a narrow mind🌻
I learned a lot! I mean, I know picking up things like that is also medically good since the center of gravity is balanced.
Thanks!
Girl you're good at this!
The best and most useful content channel, thank u sooo much 🥰
My favorite is the Cambridge cross. It seems the most comfortable and makes me keep good posture. If I slant I tend to slouch. ;)
Notes for myself when I rewatch:
STAND
1. confident 1:59
2. elegant: 2:37
SIT
1. job interview 5:00
2. Cross 8:08
DROP
9:28
I remember Jamila. We met through a MatchGuaranty Zoom call. Even then I knew she was headed for bigger and better things. So admire her!😊
You are simply the BEST ! 💫
I'd like to know if there's a way to sneeze elegantly XD I really need it since I have dust allergies ;-;
imagine elegantly having a sneezing fit 😂😭
i can sneeze elegantly but cant cough, it like a dad coughing smh
Use a handkerchief
Sneeze like a Dad: loud and obnoxious.
@@94Chiko I can hear my dad sneezing 💀
Subscribed! Finally, I find a good channel about those things. Could you make a video on the way of talking, the voice? Oh and also about facial expressions? Thank you!
Romina I have two videos on top body language tips. If you are interested, check them out 😊 More to come on that 😉
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I have been looking for this kind of channel and here my search has ended. Thank you. SUBSCRIBED IT.
Thank you 🙏🏻☺️
Thank you for teaching our ladies proper etiquette. Also, my preference is the cambridge cross.
Me (extremely slouched over legs wide sitting on a stool in a bathtub as my toddler splashes bubbles): nodding enthusiastically right yeah for sure
my issue with short dresses is that the only way nothing can be seen through is by crossing your legs from the thighs. If I put my knees together, that covers nothing because I'm really underweight. Its no issue if what Im wearing is knee length. If it's shorter, not possible. Anyone with the same issue?
Perhaps a looser skirt or dress, so the fabric lays between you thighs.
If you sit with your hands on your lap if may push the fabric down
@Angela Sanders hilarious since I’m a hijabi and I’m asking for girl only gatherings at home.
I always wear some kind of shorts underneath (in the same color), I feel so much safer with them on, it sometimes prevents the dress from slipping up but even when something slips up people still can‘t see anything
maybe put knees together, but on sort of diagonal?
I am excited about the information you give and your tone is full of eloquence and grace.
I have a learnt a lot 😊 and thanks for sharing
Thank you 🙏🏻
these videos are great for social anxiety. these are what i need. how to sit, stand, walk. i came here from the dining etiquette video. i've seen different videos on it but i love that you have a channel for this and this is what you do. subscribed.
Thank you 🙏🏻
It would be wonderful if you could do a couple on sitting and picking things up for short women. I'm under 5' tall and it is a little hard to sit like that when your feet don't touch the floor!
Duchess slant looks elegant, I personally prefer to use this posture more while sitting
I do these tips naturally I have done them since my childhood and it's very super that I already do them
Thank you my lady for this wonderful video
You are welcome ☺️
I love the Sussex slant...so elegant and comfortable. Thank you 😊
You are welcome ☺️
Ok I love this stuff! Half of it Ive been doing just because I was self conscious being in heels lol. Please do a video on proper first date etiquette for LADIES AND MEN!
Thank you! 🙏🏻