One of the biggest conflicts of ADHD is constantly wanting to try new things but being paralyzed by the overwhelming amount of information you feel like you need to learn about them
@@FredMaverik i agree, when i run into that situation i get excited that theres so much to learn, getting a massive dopamine spike is what people with adhd generally look for, otherwise they feel bored and quit things. they probably also have some issue with anxiety that gets in the way,
@@FredMaverik Soo the way your brain works dictates how everyone's works?? Not all neurodivergent brains work the same. Why do you WANT people to hate themselves??
I was always a prone to procrastination but still did all my work on time and well. Since the pandemic I'm an absolute wreck lmao. I CAN'T seem to do anything at all
Also, please remember everybody - it doesn't matter if you have ADHD, you can still use the ADHD productivity tips and not bother about the diagnosis. If these tips work for people who chronically can't get stuff done due to their brain chemistry, you absolutely can use it as self help. Also remember that procrastination and memory issues aren't attributed to ADHD only - you can research on PTSD, autism, OCD and some related stuff. If nothing rings a bell - great, and if it does - also great!
As someone with Asperger's Syndrome, I tend to procrastinate because I don't like doing things that are monotonous or unrelated to my personal interests.
@nano "lazy" is an emotionally charged word. If you take a rational approach, you will find that "laziness" might be perfectionism, bad mental or physical health, fear of failure, low self esteem, burnout, etc. It's basically just putting a negative label on it without deconstructing the reason behind it.
One thing that kinda sucks is if you are actually starting to build a habit despite your ADHD, if you ever get sick or something and break the habit, it's extremely difficult to get it back again. I really appreciate this video because it gives me a lot of hope that I can take control over my life and work.
For me I set it as an alarm, of course only for easier tasks. Rn I'm building a tablet keyboard travel set because one of the habits I trying rn is drawing and writing but I travel a lot in spaces I cant reliably use a laptop. Small stuff like that, the kind that I don't get disabled from unless really crippled. God forbid running and a lot of physical activity. I already bought my own home gym equipment I just don't have time or habit to use it.
@corruptedfantasy nah man even if you can't write so long as you make progresa in your head I think it'd be fine. Overwhelming is when you got a job and it asks you to write a chapter everyday with a min word count above a few thousand and you lost the plot in a fever dream. Hobbies uplift, not overwhelm!
I couldn't agree more, I once had a habit of planting in my back and front yard, it was really just amazing to see those seedlings grow into large edible grubs and to help your family somewhat reduce food cost, but after a while I've gotten pretty lazy... I'm not sure whether it was due to work related problems or the extreme weather change... I always wanted to bring those days back when I was still passionate in everything I do, but now it's gotten from bad to worst... I'm really thankful that I'm not the only one dealing with this problem.
If you want to procrastinate less and concentrate better on studying you can study with me here. Instead of watching videos on youtube you can have a video of me studying and keeping you company, so you don't get distracted. I study for 1-3 hours with breaks in between while I keep you company If you're interested, feel free to study with study videos of mine Hopefully it will be useful for you ❤
The idea of doing the hardest job first is absolutely the OPPOSITE of what works for me. Knowing I have ten other jobs to do on top of what is already really draining me completely demotivates me, but seeing a couple little jobs get finished and seeing the results totally gets me going.
I think so as well! I have a really hard time getting into the "working mindset" so starting with the hardest one is like setting me up to fail because I will be so demotivated to start.
Same! Also i find that starting with the easier tasks lets me get into studying and being productive and then i can easily get started with other harder tasks
Same! Before work, even cleaning up the desk puts me into “I’ve completed something” mood. My problem is not that idk how to be productive. My problem is to start doing work…
Okay, I got: 1. Embrace Fear 2. Change Environments 3. Time based goals 4. Micro commitments 5. Use a timer (Pomodoro method) 6. Compfy Competition with yourself
I confirm the fact that changing environment can help a lot, since I went to high school (which is far from where I live so I sleep at a dedicated place on week days) I felt some differences in my behaviour and motivation, being with some motivated friends also helps me to do some work properly while smh enjoying these moments because I was able to stay productive
I didn't really like the pomodoro timer. When I finally get momentum, I don't want to be stopped, and the 5 minute break is too short to be meaningful.
Am I the only one who is afraid to actually start? Like I always cram on the last day of the exam and I'm scared to actually study cause what if I actually study and I fail? I'm just really scared of that, why? I want to be good but what if I'm dumb?
I have adhd and I get jealous of my friends because they are able to get things done throughout their day but my friends tell me they are jealous of my creativity and how I can learn new things so quickly. ADHD isn’t a bad thing. Growing up, my family and teachers always thought I was lazy because I would always procrastinate and not pay attention to things I’m not interested in. When I got diagnosed with ADHD everything started to make sense and tbh I cried a little bit. My whole life I was hard on myself because I thought I was lazy and would never be successful but I learned to control my brain better and I’m now going to college to create video games. I don’t care how much money I make in the future because I will do something I’m interested in and love my job. If you have ADHD it’s better to chase your dreams because you are more likely to succeed since it’s something your interested in. I loved this video and will come back to it whenever my brain is making me watch TH-cam instead of doing my assignments lol.
You mean your ADHD isn’t a bad thing, when you can’t focus on a single thing and a bored of everything after 10h max you go nowhere in life And yes not every ADHD come with the hyper focusing power some can just like... never focus and being bored of thing they really like. and meds are not working.
Fk... I think i might have it but in my case it honestly is destroying my life... Most things i want/like depends on my discipline and since those things are not stuff that i have a deadline i can just take time, leave for another time again and again... Everything she said is basically true, i do in fact get extra focused when a deadline is present and im just about to cross it... It clicked when she said that because just recently something like that happened and i was just like "wtf how did i do that, i want to do that with other things", like its insane the level of focus and hard work i had and it was something that once i finished i couldnt believe, because i shouldnt be able to do it with the time i had.
@@XxViperMortalxX yeah I know what you mean. I took a creative writing class in high school and I would wait till the last day before my paper was due and then type like 10 pages. My teacher would always love reading my stories because I would just write about all the random crap that goes on in my mind when I’m zoning out. If it ever gets to a point where you can’t even do the things you enjoy perhaps try medication if you are open to it. I used to take Adderall and it helped me A LOT when it comes to being productive and focusing on my hobbies but it also kinda takes away the crazy imaginary brain that comes with adhd so now I only take it sometimes when I really need it.
@@gijoe4242 i hate medication, i prefer to treat everything by suplementation if needed, or more natural ways like certain teas or exercises. Yet for adhd i found only DMAE, might have to try some but its quite hard to find it where i live. That shit fucks with ur mind when u dont know u have it... Because literally who is to blame for YOU not doing shit ? Yeah... What frustrates me is that i dont want to take meds, but i also dont want to be like that and it sucks because even tho i want to do something ppl think im lazy, that it isnt hard to do what u gota do, u justa got to do it... When in reallity it is insanely hard to do what u got to do unless u actually HAVE TO DO IT...
ADHD is something that I thought I might have but I also try to not label myself wrongly.Lately I feel like I am trapped in a position that I have good ideas and eagerness to change my routine and I am keep failing it. At this point I can't confirm this by going a professional but I am also quite fed up to feel like this. So I decided to apply ADHD helpful tips and methods to see if it helps me. Thanks a lot for this content. You did it agaiiin! ❤
I don't think that I have adhd, but I find that the environment makes it hard to focus. I mean... look at all the notifications... every app wants your attention.
Even if you don't have adhd there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking out adhd resources. gatekeeping adhd without a diagnosis perpetuates exclusion and doesn't aid in any way, you're more than welcome to discuss your symptoms and seek help with or without a diagnosis :) not to mention adhd comes in so many varying severities and flavours. at the end of the day it's just a label
@@aleaaerktyka1052 last 2 weeks I can say that I am doing a lot better. I wake up earlier, trying to have a morning routine. I also put some effort to understand to reasons why I procrastinate and how I see tasks etc. I decided to disconnect myself from the task. Meaning, tasks should be perform and not always I have to have an emotional links to them. I realized I struggle a lot to do the best job and it prevents me to actually perform the task. I keep reminding myself to take it easy and sometimes tasks being done is more important than doing it perfectly. You can always improve your work later, right? I hope I explained it well for you :)
@@tapathune Thank you for your support! We've become more of a community in this comment section! I I wish the best for everyone who is seeking for the right tools to improve their lives ☺
Theres a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques, you can overcome procrastination and accomplish anything in life. Its not just a bunch of empty promises; its the real deal.
You literally described the last couple of years for me, even though I have no clue on whether I have or not ADHD, because I haven't seen a doctor. Yet, this video not only helps me, it also motivates me to go seek professional help as well.
@@DarkAsasin16 i felt that computer thing so much lol. i'm the top of my school even with procrastination because i just never had to study, so it wasn't a problem :') but school is getting harder and i'm not any smarter and idk how to ask for help. whenever i tried, electronics or me being lazy was blamed by my family because they're the type of people who think that a self-improvement book by some random neurotypical dude written 40 years ago applies to everyone. like how do i bring anything up pls
@@br4mborkaa I was sort of in your position until university. I even scored top 0,2% of students in my country. Got into uni and realized It's not a very interesting subject for me. I'm stubborn and as such I wasted years without graduating. By the end I was borderline paralyzed (and depressed). I couldn't even attend classes and I still don't know why. This video is an eye opener, though, I shall visit the doc. Now I'm soon to graduate (hopefully) from SWE and I love it. ADHD or not, I highly advise you as your big bro to make your choice and never be afraid to take a step back. Don't flock to popular trends* while making your decisions or -if our brains truly work alike- you'll only lose more. Listen to yourself.
this is the first time ive watched an ADHD related video without feeling like a useless person. you just made me realize what i already knew, but had forgotten from all the bad information surrounding ADHD, and that hit me with a really nice feeling of hope. thanks for making this video :D
I hated it, every second of it. there is i basic problem description about adhd any folder in the world can give you and there are the most generic solutions you can find in any video. The only thing videos like this do for me is reassure me in not normal and that i have a problem aka this video gives me a victim mindset and i think it does for a lot of people. If you think im wrong and your life has improved since watching this video i would love for you to tell my how and why im wrong. Thanks in advance
@@joshuakohn4408This video made me eat the frog. So like. There you go. It made life better for someone. But more seriously, we are technically victims of the system. We had opportunities in the past to succeed that do not exist anymore, and it is hurting us. It's not a bad thing to acknowledge that the systems in place are bad for you, and to want to change it. I would genuinely love if the bar was lowered for everyone, so everyone can have more time to rest and recharge, not just people with ADHD.
@@ryanmackenzie6109 True but this goes against none of my issue. My issues is that she acts like no one in the world with procrastination issues should go on about their day before watching her video. And what happens when you watch her video? Absolutely nothing but make you aware or remind you of the fact that you don't belong in the world is it right now. Solution time? SILENCEEEEEEEEE Now this girl ain't special in reminding procrastinators why they suck and providing nothing else they all do it. But then they act like they got the juice, the big fat secret while i can say with 100% confidence that when i found out i had ADHD my life went to shit. So therefor all the YOU NEED TO WATCH THIS VIDEO only means i need to get money tru youtube advertisement. When somebody says 'you need to so a psychologist' they don't realize often times they makes things infinitely worse. So yea i do get annoyed when people act like they can solve your problem while in reality they just trying to make some money for themselves. Now i hope you have a wonderful day ryan and may the odds be ever in your favor
I keep blaming myself for my lack of focus and procrastination, and my brain always tells me that I'm hiding my procrastination behind the "ADHD" excuse. I don't know if others with ADHD face it or not but it's brutal. Thanks for the video.
It's not an excuse even if others want to make you believe it, or even you yourself think it is. I sometimes think it is, but I know better now to not trust that feeling. Medications don't work for me, so I don't know really what to do. Life in todays society with ADHD is brutal. Especially if you're very creative and open minded. You can't stick to ANYTHING longer than a few days or weeks at best. Don't know how I am supposed to function really.
I have EXACTLY the same thought! Glad to know I am not alone! I was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago and I always feel guilty because I feel like I am excusing myself with ADHD for all my procrastination.
My jaw is on the floor because of how accurately you just described my life. It’s honestly emotional to learn that other people deal with this. We are so driven and passionate but it’s so difficult to navigate. Thank you so much for this video. Just subscribed and looking forward to learning more!!!
I don't have ADHD myself, but I have a friend who has it. This video really helps me to understand how their brain works and why they behave differently in certain situations, especially when it comes to studying/productivity. Thank you!
how does it feel?? like seriously, I'm actually curious like you didn't relate to the video in anyways at all, i feel like I've been like this as long as i can remember and it feels normal that its almost impossible to imagine how neurotypical brains would think. To me the closest i can imagine is like being an npc but that seems way to extreme. You're being a great friend btw
@Asim Moideen I do relate to a certain extent to the behaviours mentioned in the video. After all, I initially clicked on the video because I, too, tend to procrastinate a lot. However, comparing myself to my friend I see that they are much more easily distracted, eg. suddenly googling about something completely unrelated or playing a browser game during class instead of focusing on the assigned task or listening to the teacher. The funny thing is that at the end of class, they often got as far with the tasks as I did although they spent way less time actively working, matching the close-to-deadline-behaviour :D I personally tend to stick to what I'm doing more easily once I get started, but getting started is something I struggle with, too, whenever I have the freedom to choose when to do it (eg. learning for an exam as opposed to physically sitting in class). Another behaviour that seems to be exaggerated for ADHD people is the "shiny object syndrome". I have that, too, but I can more easily tell myself to ignore the feeling and stick to what I'm doing instead of following the urge to try out a new thing.
@@kuwertzel8938 i recently have been often catching myself being distracted, and tell myself to go back to work but in the process be distracted again, also when when I'm trying to start to work, everything other little work(not the one I'm trying to focus) start to pop up and subconsciously start work on those.
@@asimmoideen5960 Neurotypicals have brain space to think about what they should do next, instead of having their brain select the next activity automatically with no input. That was the biggest difference for me when trying out meds for ADHD. Also time perception, but it's very difficult to describe.
Being an ADHD brain guy, i learned a lot from this video however to finish the whole video of 19 minutes, i took almost 2 hours.. I am proud of you and I am getting the momentum to keep moving towards my dreams and one day i will be sharing my journey with all of you and help others through my experiences.
not diagnosed with adhd yet but i still relate to tons of things here. like the part about momentum. once i am on that part where i am in the zone, i always have the feeling of not wanting to stop cause i know when i go back to it, i'll just get distracted again and get back to not doing it again. also in this state, i get so focused that i never bother about playing music as i usually do and that i can easily dismiss many distractions like yt vids and interesting articles/links. but i believe this state happened to me the most in the middle of the night which makes it hard to not stop cause at that point i am needing sleep.
@@wtfimcrying yeah no i am not self diagnosing myself, i will still find a way to seek professional help to diagnose if i do have adhd, but regardless if i do or not, i can say i relate tons to things happening in the video
Omg Same here!! i thought i was having difficulty going back to doing things after stopping because i was being immature, i never made the connection between this and adhd, thank you!!
Hey. I'm a teenager and I struggle with motivation and work in general. I'm not bad at school or anything, I even have pretty good grades for someone who doesn't know how to study effectively, but always doing things when the deadline is close is in fact very stressful. I made research about what could make me procrastinate so much and that's when I heard about ADHD. I started to recognize myself in it and talked to my mother about it. Where I live, mental health is not something really important to people, most of them don't know about deficits and disorders and think that teenagers these days are making up weird problems and mental illness. This video helped me a lot. I'm planning on being properly diagnosed someday. Maybe I don't have ADHD, but it would definitely help me understand myself much better.
Well done my man, No shame in asking for help. Something I wish I had done around your age. I know your gonna dominate high school if your already asking for help this early in it.
Yeah, what LegoWarrior said. Being able to do alright in school, maybe even gifted, while also having ADHD is something I've seen labeled as twice exceptional. Googling that might be a good thing to look into. Trust me when you get to college or your new career outta HS, you're gonna be so glad you caught this early. Fresh diagnosed at 28 and I still mourn what the start of my life could've been, but c'est la Vi. You might be able to avoid some of that. Wishing you all the best, good luck on your journey. You're already off to a better start than I had, and things have turned out alright for me, so you're gonna be fine :)
Dude I always cram on but this time it's really starting to affect my grades like I keep one bad grade after the other I'm so scared I'll fail my semester.
Hi! I was diagnosed with ADHD at 6 and always excelled in school without studying at all, until I got into college. If it's possible, I would suggest researching for psychotherapists near you that specialize in ADHD and ASD. I'm not sure where you live, but I also live in an area where people treat mental health like it doesn't exist, but there are still resources that can be found to help you. Even if you end up not getting diagnosed, it doesn't hurt to speak to someone who understands the problems you're having and can help you manage them!
I've never thought I am an ADHD person, but I find myself always procrastinating like you said. You've helped me understand myself much more. And thank you Ruri, I'll try things to know what works for me.
1. Common productivity methods often don't work for people with ADHD, leading to self-blame and frustration. 2. ADHD in adults is frequently undiagnosed, affecting an estimated 4.4% of the US adult population. 3. ADHD brains are motivated differently than neurotypical brains, responding to the "4 Cs": Captivate, Create, Compete, and Complete. 4. Effective strategies for ADHD productivity include embracing change, varying work environments, using time-based goals, and employing Pomodoro timers. 5. Key tips: Make tasks into games, compete with your past self, use micro-commitments, and focus on consistency rather than perfection.
"Your brain likes new things and it doesn't like monotone strategies" oh my good this describes my whole life of trying to find a routine that works. It feels like a groundhog day for me if I do the same things every day.
Me too, I eventually learn to use that alternative strategies as a way to impress my teachers, in that way I managed myself to be one of the best students in my university.
I am at 7:50 and so far there has not been a thing you got wrong about me. I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD but it's unsettling how accurate you were about my life so far.
Man it's great that we're all on this self improvement journey together. Soon more people will come out and make great yt videos like this. Can't wait.
This made me realize why i managed to "survive" school life all the way to college. Every task is filled with deadline and it gives me the rush to finish within the last moment. Everything seems well until i got all sorts of repercussion as a growing adult. Currently in phase to start a new career in a different field and trying to learn from scratch is just insanely hard. I kept losing track just because there is no presence of deadline or rewards in front of me. For the record, i dont self diagnose and claim that i have adhd but some of the things you said resonates and help me learn more about myself.
Dudee this is exactly my story. I finished college in May 2023..didn't had to deal with lot of procrastination and laziness due to deadlines in schools and colleges and fear of bad grades ..now since I'm graduated and I have to look out for a job and there are no deadlines I'm not able to even start. I have tried to study multiple times but somehow remained inconsistent and could never restart it.
This is what is happening to me I’m going to university online and it’s self study for certifications and I lose months of time idk how I’m so tired all the time too I get easily burnt out and keep wondering what’s the point when trying to start something even though I genuinely want to get it done
The best analogy I've ever heard is "put your hand on a hot stove." you physically can but your brain wont let you I have ADHD and im in year 12 at school atm, typically I do my assignments the night before, smash out 5k words and get full marks but I picked a subject that has a major project and just spent 11/12 months procrastinating, now its due in 2 weeks and I've only been sleeping every second day trying to get it done in time and realising that there's a reason we has a full year to do it.. And yet I find myself here watching youtube instead of doing my project lmao I have meds but I'm still not on the right ones for me yet and my psych appointments are too far apart to actually get me on the right medication before I finish school
That analogy gave me an idea on how to deal with it. You won't put your hands on a hot stove, but what about putting your hand on a cold stove? Then keeping it while it warms? Till it got too hot to stand, but then youd done more than ever. Right now I'm at my bed watching this video. I decided to study accounting. But never in my life I have really study outside classes. I like to learn through reading, watching, taking notes, but never done exercises or followed an structured study routine. But following this analogy instead of forcing myself to burn my hand, and being able of doing this once in a year, I could put my hand on cold stove. I'm at my bad, I can watch TH-cam videos and recorded classes. I can take notes, and I can write summaries. And I can read! It seems to me that going to an specific place, and setting a specific time to do something like study, is the hot stove, not actually the studying part.
Exactly describes my attitude to a lot of my Uni projects, I was always told "You can do much better than this, why don't you try?" but I would often feel paralyzed and just put it off until the last minute and then somehow knock work out (not always but sometimes) better than others who spent more time on it. Of course that didn't work out very often and eventually I'd get stuck in the weeds and just give up. Now I'm out of Uni, motivation is a struggle. I know I need to work on personal projects to build a portfolio but I keep putting it off. These are some great ideas to start the ball rolling, hopefully I will actually apply them.
Same I didn't study the whole semester and then I literally studied the whole syllabus on the day of the exam and passed. But still, I didn't learn anything well. Now the semester is over and I have to study for university exam but I am not studying. It just stresses me out just thinking about it and I end up daydreaming all day.
@@person1420 so true, I was frustrated from my bad grades at school so I just stopped caring about that. If I can't change it, then why should I care? School is useless anyway
Wow! I mean... WOW!. You literally described how my brain works!. It's an eternal fight with my wife, the "Why do you always do your taxes declarations at last moment?", "Your University tasks" and so on... I just can't focus if it isn't about to expire the time to present those things. Thank you Ruri Ohama!. You probably saved at least one soul (mine) with this video!.
add with depression is so frustrating. i just do nothing, not the things i need to. but on the other hand nothing excites me so i don’t even start new stuff
I am 54 and was diagnosed 5 months ago. Procrastination is a huge struggle for me. There are things I want to do but, it is hard to get started. This is a great video.
How? How has the video helped in any way? In what way has she provided any solutions? I'm going to assume you are a automated bot to leave messages and not a real person. I can belief a real person would benefit from this generic ass video
@@Mr.Helper. It helps for sure but it also kind of kills your personality. Trying to do deep work everyday and take a high dose of quality fish oil is a better way to go in my humble opinion
@@joshuakohn4408 I'll pass on the drugs. IMHO, the number of distractions in today's world are major contributing factors leading people to seek "professional" help, when it oftentimes just comes down to good 'ole fashion willpower and techniques. Frankly, it seems like everyone needs to be diagnosed with a syndrome or mental health issue to feel like they belong nowadays. Weird.
There I was, procrastinating and staying up later than I should, when all of the sudden this lady pops up in my recommended and describes my behavior to a T. Never really considered ADHD a possibility until now, still hesitant too, and I have no idea if I'll even implement these ideas tomorrow, but at least the gears are turning. Thank you!
I just did the exact same thing as you and feel the exact same way as you lol, never considered ADHD and still kinda reluctant to consider it but this video is describing me well
had a big cry rn after finishing this video. it feels as if you perfectly described me in here. i have been struggling my whole life with this, and high school and pandemic kinda threw me at rock bottom. that's when i decided it was enough and asked my parents to see a professional but lol.. being in an asian country, as an asian person who is practically an adult asking your parents for something about mental health isn't easy. they just dismissed everything as laziness and that internet is frying my brain and again for the next year i believed the same before i realised how badly im spiraling and then they had to take me. but even the professional didn't bother. he just said "you are a girl, and an adult that's impossible you are just weak" i was so fucking confused. he didnt even ask me anything much... and my parents were right there overriding everything i said with "she just sleeps and does everything other than work, been lazy since she was a baby". i still blame myself everyday because its becoming impossible to get up and do anything everything feels like it's falling apart. everyone around me tells me to "just get it over with" HOW? and with all of this am i really insane to ask for help and question... maybe they are right, and i am wrong but still i would rather try to help myself then continously blame myself because i truly am tired at this point i dont know how long i can go on
im sorry you experienced all that. keep advocating for yourself and dont ever stop trying to get support! its okay to ask for help, sometimes you have to keep looking for the right people (trusted adults, medical professionals) who WILL support you and not invalidate your experiences. you are not lazy, your brain just works differently. i wish you the best!
I'm so sorry to hear you went through that. For what it's worth, there are so many people like you who have gone through the same thing. You are not alone. Unfortunately most people still dont understand brain differences or mental health. Please remember that your struggle is NOT a failure or a reflection of your moral character. It sounds like you try really hard. Please keep in mind that, unfortunately, many people in healthcare are still not fully educated on ADHD. This is because the research done on ADHD has been so much focused on affluent young white boys, which obviously is a small sample size of humans. This causes even well meaning people to have subconscious bias that they are not even aware of, and causes them to be more likely to dismiss you if you are also not a younger white boy falling into that stereotype. Please look for not only a professional but a specialist who works with adults/females with ADHD. They are more educated and trained, and will give a better assessment that is less likely to be biased. I recommend checking out Psychology Today website. I hope this helps. Please know that it can get better, just dont give up.
@rawrjoon I felt u in a deeper level. Your comment reflects what I'm going through too. We can still go on strong though :) bear hugs for my internet soulmate 💗💚
We all are same in this ... trying so hard for help but don't really know what to do ... really wanna get the hell outta this situation but just can't and being termed as lazy 🙃
i feel you!!!! this problem affects my life so much but my parents just accuse me of being lazy and undisciplined but they have no idea!!!! i hope we can find ways to work with our adhd brain!!
Summary of the video ------------------------------------- 4:20 Problems With Productivity. Neuro Typical Brains Get their tasks done by "Importance", "Consequences", "Rewards" VS ADHD brains struggle with prioritizing so it prioritizes things that are not even a priority. 7:12 Why breaking down things into smaller projects don't work for ADHD brains How ADHD brains are motivated "The four Cs" - Captivate "ADHD brains gets motivated by new stuff even though the task might be difficult" - Create "ADHD brains are keen to new things so it gets motivated by creative things" - Compete "ADHD brains love a competition and the competition motivates the ADHD brains" - Complete " ADHD brains gets really concentrated when there a deadline it really works well with a due date" ADHD brains struggle with starting and not momentum -If you find a way to start something your ADHD brain will keep on continuing the task -Use the four Cs to create the momentum --STRATEGIES-- Disclaimer "None of these are going to work for everyone, and even the ones that work for you, they're not going to work every time. Take these and try them out , and if they work, use it while it works and if doesn't, put it down for a while and try a different method" 1. Embrace the change. 2. Change your environment. 3. Use outcome based goals. 4. Aim for consistency not perfection. 5. Do micro commitments. "Micro commitments leads to Momentum" 6. Use Pomodoro timers. 7. Make it a game cause ADHD brains love to compete "Compete with yourself to do better not others." The most important thing is showing up and constantly trying and aiming for that 1% improvement. _______________________________________________________________________________________________________ Here's a link if you want to check the "DSM-5 Diagnostic Criteria for ADHD" If you really do need help please consult a professional. www.aafp.org/dam/AAFP/documents/patient_care/adhd_toolkit/adhd19-assessment-table1.pdf _______________________________________________________________________________________________________ This actually took a while to make so if you found this helpful leave a like so others can see it too.
Thank you Ruru. This has given me the confidence To have an appointment and get properly diagnosed because everything you said hits the nail in the head for me.
@@joshuakohn4408 I would disagree with you. Adhd is something that can cause a lot of issues in your life. You can get help from a therapist to work through some of the issues you face and if don't wanna take any medication you can talk work it out with your therapist
Learned I have ADHD at 31 years old. It explains why I've always felt so much different than others around me. Productivity tips always seemed foreign and weird to me. Great video!
I've always found it strange (in a good way) how your channel is the only one worth watching for people like me with ADHD. Most productivity channels simply offer nothing that ADHD people can apply. So oftentimes we’re left in the dark during heavy periods This is a really well made video, and I hope that more doctors in the future understand ADHD as well as you do
Oh my god, I never realized I could be dealing with adhd. I'm a teenager in an online school, and I am constantly struggling with procrastinating my schoolwork to the point of acruing unexcused absences. I can't even focus most of the time, just because I have the option to do something else. I was doing great in my old public school, and I started faltering when I started online school when the pandemic hit. I used to blame it on not being around people as much and replacing that social interaction with youtube, which is probably still a factor, but this video gave me a whole new perspective on things. Now I just have to bring this up to my parents and hope they don't write it off as an excuse.
Yes, we ADHD people need someone to watch us. To keep us accountable so the internal stress is increased, as a result we are able to execute the things that we are supposed to do. That's why sometimes having a body double functions when you study or doing homework (body double=having somebody with you when you're doing things. Can even be somebody connected with you in video chat. Try to find somebody to pair with when doing homework. You only have to be aware of their presence, you don't have to talk).
I needed to be reminded that I have to switch methods sometimes. It's too easy to forget these things when overwhelmed and then it's like a self-blaming avalanche. Changing might be tiring but forgetting to is exhausting! Thank you💕
this video just described everything i've been experiencing for the past year. afraid of starting, procrastination, planning for hours but not getting anything done; avoiding everything by doing irrelevant tasks such as taking ridiculously long walks; losing focus, fast passing time, knowing i should do it yet i don't, getting motivated from deadlines-- all of it. i'm in the middle of getting kicked out of univ and i honestly think they won't accept my mental health reasons any longer. i want to help myself but i genuinely can't. i cannot afford to consult a psychiatrist, i cannot afford to stop studying, i don't have anyone, have poor family relationships, and it's making me think of how much i'll be struggling and wasting the next few months of my life AGAIN. 08.2023
My heart goes out to you. I have struggled with school and jobs my whole life so far, despite trying my best. I have been figuring out that I have ADHD and my therapist who specializes in neurodivergency agrees , but haven't been diagnosed yet. If you cant afford a psychiatrist, I recommend something called Open Path which offers sliding scale affordable therapy for people who dont have insurance. It is made specifically with people like you in mind, to remove extra barriers to accessing mental health resources. It's not a company, it is like an organization that tons of therapists can list themselves on if they are willing to offer sliding scale to be more accessible. Please consider checking it out, I know it can be daunting, but you will be able to find help if you reach out for support from people who specifically work with ADHD
For the past 3-4 days I've been looking up ADHD and it's symptoms. And found out that I have most of them. Most of your statement were true for me as well. I'm 19, turning 20 in a month. I've been struggling with school, SO MUCH. And it's frustrating to know that all of the struggle could have been avoided if I had just known. Or my parents were more observant of me and my tendencies and took me to a professional. Which they did. But it only lasted a month and in the long run didn't fix anything. I don't know how to tell my parents that I might have ADHD and that I need to see if it's true. Hell... from all those symptoms I have it's pretty much guaranteed. All of those times I've failed because I procrastinated too much, got yelled at, the condescending tone of my parents. The expectations they always put on me. I may have finally found out the cause. I always felt like there was something wrong with me. With how I knew that I had to get things done. But I never do it on time or in advance. I'm mad that this has almost completely ruined my life. I have even trouble talking with people. Sometimes... I don't even feel happy when my own parents hug me. It always scares me. Why was I growing to be like this. There had to be something wrong with me. I want to seek a psychiatrist in my area so that I can deal with the problem and finally to feel free from my metaphorical shackles.
You're describing my life except I'm turning 23 in a few days. I found out about ADHD because of a tv show and then some TH-camr told his story with this disorder and i was like this man is living my life. It made me deplorable. After that i tried to seek a psychiatrist but it was awfull. Now I'm just trying taking adhd advice to apply and see if it works.
Is it just me or I started getting ADHD symptoms as I got older.I related to almost everything she said in the video.I used to be a top student as a kid.But now my grades slip sometimes.
My bro, one key answer. You will always feel terrible inside until you do one thing: acceptance. God gave you this for a reason. Accept it. Refuse to reject. This is greater than what you think it is.
Hey I just want to write a thank you again for this video. It is roughly one year to the day that I talked to a doctor and got diagnosed with ADHD and the resulting interventions have been life-changing. I've since gotten a significantly better paying job, moved to a bigger house, closed off so many personal projects, and overall been a better kuya for my family. I'd write a little more but I might cry. Thank you very much.
A wise homeless man came up to me once not for money but to tell me "don't be lazy, don't be scared" Do asked him to explain what he meant: "We make our decisions based on love or fear. We are lazy to love people and afraid to do the things we don't enjoy. So his solution is find love in everything you are doing, it makes life easier" ❤
I feel like this wholesome comment can be ruined with “well why is the guy homeless then”, but it’s quotes like these that get you through in sticky situations
Yes, thats wise. I always believed that i wouldnt be successful at anything i dont like and i would be succsessful anything i love. So im in search for finding things that i like in every work i wanna do or i must do. Im quite sucessful at it but i lack the dicipline and i suffer from addictions which i'll get rid of.
@@theorangeoof926 i mean experience mostly gained from failures so a man who has seen or lived downfalls is wiser and more capable of going higher if he still has time yet.
I’m a physician and I got quite fast in a very good university. Never failed a test in my life… However, I struggle with getting things done since childhood. I finished one of my research articles one day before the presentation. I studied for a specialty last year 2 months before the test, I did so much in so little time, almost reviewed all medicine, but it obviously wasn’t enough. Always studied when there was no more running away from it, and I always managed somehow. Got diagnosed last year. Still struggling, I was so happy that I was so focused in my studies for the test, but with the deadline gone, it quickly faded away. I feel you, and it is hard. Been trying some of these tips, downloaded again an app called forest to challenge me, but I just wish I could do better
I don't know if I have ADHD, I honestly don't know and it doesn't matter but... listening to some of the things in this video actually made me cry because of how I could relate to them.
Today I just want to tell and remind everyone, thank you for being alive. Life is hard, and a lot of people die daily for a lot of reason. Be grateful that you get to live another day, take care of yourself and love yourself more than anyone else, because at the end you only have yourself. Thanks Ruri for a new video, your videos keep me motivated to keep trying in life and to become the best version of myself. Thank you for everything and I hope everyone a wonderful day.
I clicked on this on a whim and it has cleared up so much for me. I will be looking into ADHD. Jesse, but thank you so much for this and thank you for taking the time to share this with other people who may like myself have undiagnosed ADHD. Thank you again so much!
I was diagnosed with ADHD at a very young age and I have difficulty with all the things you mentioned. I appreciate your insight into the ADHD brain and how it differs from the neurotypical brain, I am trying but finding it very difficult finding help for ADHD in my country Canada, but I find your podcast very helpful, I appreciate your efforts and I will be following you. Thank you.
@@erickelly7117 I think that because drugs are a useful tool in addressing problems associated with ADHD that is what they will do, but it is not as useful as understanding how the ADHD brain works. Writing a prescription is easy but it’s expensive to be diagnosed by a psychiatrist and most importantly to work with a doctor about your specific situation. And that last part is not covered by our healthcare and. You can give anyone a hammer and they will hit things with it, but a carpenter will know make best use of it. That’s my analogy of this.
@@Manx710 psychiatrist are covered by most provinces free as far as i'm aware but you do need a referral. i got one free for anxiety , and my son had one as well which was diagnosed with ADHD. he's on a combination of therapy and drugs is what he's on and they work together with the schools etc.... all for Free and it only took around 6 months from diagnosis to treatment. so no idea why you say it's hard to find help as there are resources available. only problem is time, usually it's months out before you can get an appointment. it's also important to have a family doctor which is unfortunately hard these days.
Thanks Midori. As I am also told by Dr. that I am in the higher grey zone of ADHD and ASD, it is sometimes very difficult to do the same things as other person, but I know found to use this syndrome as my “STRONG POINT” ☺️
Ruri, eventhough I relate to having a ADHD brain and had been diagnosed I feel that what helped me out was having someone to hear my thoughts. That is where therapy comes in. Not for everyone and not affordable for most but still a powerful tool. Having this kind of brain is a daily challenge. Thanks for brighten people's mind it is always helpful to hear from another pov.
This video was painfully on point, all the struggles and ugly truths of brain on adhd - articulated perfectly. brain working against yourself, no matter how disciplined you are. For ex. at school I used to push myself sitting at tasks way longer than anyone else yet still accomplished less. At this point in life, I wished society created schools for adhd people, where creativity, novelty, and competitiveness etc. were more integrated, with different ways of learning and finishing tasks.
Danke danke danke danke Ruri!!! This really totally felt like your were describing the inside of my head! I am hyped to start working with the four C and all you just said. I am almost 50 yo, about 20 years ago I started thinking I might have ADHD, but procrastinated attacking diagnostics. Now I don't even think about getting diagnosis any more, I will start new ways thanks to you! Love it, you are wonderful!
I wasn't diagnosed as ADHD but I have asperger syndrome. For example, i cannot give my concentration on something that i don't enjoy at all. but if the subject is interesting for me, i would spend my hours without losing my concentration. I even forget to doing my daily necessities like eating, sleeping etc. I have also difficulty in concentrating on something and with that i procrastinate a lot. Now my department is not interesting for me that's why i am constantly procrastinate my reviews and my thesis. life is hard if you don't have neurotypical brain hehe
@@jeb123 yeah, asperger syndrome is not only about concentration on something. it's a type of autism so you should see a doctor to fully understand your symptoms
@@jeb123 Definitely try to go to a psychiatrist if you wanna be checked for being neurodivergent. "Aspergers" (old term, not used anymore) is now called high functioning Autism and is on the Autism Spectrum Disorder. Autism is also something you are BORN with, so if these characteristics only appeared way later in your life, it is unlikely to be ASD, as there will ALWAYS be signs in early childhood that point to potential ASD. Which is why (if possible) is key to go to an psychiatrist who will also ask many questions relating to your childhood to make sure it is accurate. What OP described here is also called "Hyper-Fixation" in psychology and something common for people who are neurodivergent (so ASD and ADHD), and many other disorders, even just people with depression can have it. It just means you can have moments where you hyper-fixate on 1 single thing and forget to do anything else in many cases, very common for people with ASD and ADHD but not necessarily ONLY for those cases. There is also something called "Executive Dysfunction" which is also very common in ASD and ADHD aswell as depression, anxiety, personality disorders and more. It is something that can cause procrastination. They are different though. People who have executive dysfunction actually WANT to do something, like telling themselves whilst laying in bed to ''go do the laundry'', but for some reason they just can not get up and go do it. So instead, they might end up doing NOTHING, cause they keep wanting to go do the laundry, but can't. This can then cause people to procrastinate, which is delay an assignment on purpose, because they feel they wont be able to do it anyway. If you relate to both hyperfixation AND executive dysfunction (again, it IS different from procrastinating, but can co-exist), then I definitely recommending checking with a psychiatrist/psychologist if possible :) ADHD and ASD can also co-exist, just like many psychological issues. And if you cant see a psychiatrist, then you could always check out videos on youtube with symptoms of ASD and ADHD made by people who have it, see if you relate, and then see if any of their tips and tricks help you out. It might not be best to talk about a self diagnosis outloud to everyone, but you could use their videos to find ways to help yourself. And if they work, then they work!
@@yulana990 Thank you for this comment, i don't think i have autism, also executive dysfunction too explains me. Sometimes i just sit or lay down and think about the things i need to do all day but do nothing. Because of this my life is really going bad, i failed o lot of things in the past. Not just school. I think i really need to go to a phycologist or a psychiatrist. (Also right now i am trying to study my final exams on the last day, tommorow morning i have one. I'll probably get a really bad grade or fail, because i still can't focus.)
I was never actually diagnosed for anything psychologically related but the fact that i do have ADHD is unquestionable, and it is completely mind-numbing to deal with the constant confusion of every single day that passes by. I first saw this video on my front page 6-7 months ago and only came to watch it now. 7 minutes in and i simply feel like i can't absorb it, even though you are describing exactly how i deal with my stuff.
I had suspicions about having ADHD for a decade now but always thought that I was just lazy but this videos made me realise that I'm not since when a task needs to be done I do get it done. Thank you for opening my eyes with the four C, I'm going to try and get a professionals opinion on this :)
I love Jesse's approach! His content is the first ADHD content that I can relate strongly and now I'm trying to apply some of the advices (the keywords are "trying" and "some" because I can't promise something big to myself 😆😆). Thank you Ruri for this content, very succinct and informative. I really like your view on "I don't know how much I will achieve, I will do it anyway". I think that's my mantra from now on!
I think it's a bit sad, that she completely word by word copies his videos and uses it to market her own products without mention, that the content of the video is 0% by her
Hey, great video. I want to add some comments if I may. The reasons for the "bad kind" of procrastination in adults are mainly 3 and are very well defined. The first one, as you mentioned, is not having access, understanding or using productivity tools. If learning about productivity tools is not enough and you still find yourself procrastinating (even the tools implementation), one should look for the other two reasons for procrastination which are both cognitive-emotional. The first one is related to an unconscious resistance to the individual tasks themselves: that is, when the tasks feel tedious or you just want them done without putting the effort forward. When the tasks feel like an obligation even though you know you need to go though them to obtain you goal. This can be worked out in therapy doing some CBT or even EMDR work. It is usually related to memories of doing things (homework, chores) against your will in childhood. The third reason is also cognitive-emotional and it is related to fear of failure. One postpones the tasks out of the fear of doing them and discovering failure in achieving the goal. It is common for both emotional level kinds of procrastination to stop as soon as failure is imminent anyways. Sometimes unconscious self-induced failure feels a bit better than failing out of what seems as incompetence. This can also be worked in therapy and doing so will improve a lot more than just your procrastination habits. Yes, we need to consider ADHD (or even ASD) as possible explanations, but don't forget that these diagnosis have genetic, epigenetic and learned aspects to them, so basically what you can do to improve, ADHD or not, would still require one to work on what's stated above, adding maybe focusing exercises. Just don't take a diagnosis as a final explanation to stop all efforts. Remember that these diagnosis are categorizations created by us, not things found in nature. They are useful but not definitive.
I think she saved my life. While she was saying info about ADHD people i understood that it's me. I'm a creative person and like to try new things. I tried a lot of methods. First of all they work, but after a while i start procrastinating. I even deleted my social medias where i procrastinated most of times. But it doesn't work... thank u! I understood myself))
I never realized ADHD is so in depth. I always believed as a kid I would just be a normal person who would have a hard time sitting through long movies. Never in a million years did I think I would spend the rest of my life doing gymnastics around my own mind in order to navigate this world.
This is probably the best video I have watched on the topic of both ADHD and Productivity. As Jesse did for you, you have changed my life forever. THANK YOU RURI.
I didn't know I literally needed this video. I found so many similarities and I can relate to almost everything you said. I tried asking myself why I procrastinate and I always got disappointed as I was not able to see the pattern or get the answer. Thanks to your video I now know why everything is the way it is and I have an outline about improving my current situation and I am willing to work upon it. You are doing great work. Thanks once again.
you are on of the only persons i can listen to without getting overwhelmed and i am so grateful for that you are such an inspiration. So happy i stepped upon your videos
Thank you so much for this. I find myself so overwhelmed with sometimes even the smallest things, so I procrastinate, and those small things build up. Then I have multiple small things to take care of, and life just starts feeling like a mess because I'm so overwhelmed by it all. This video helped me put some things into perspective, and gave me some motivation.
Bruh i don't belief you are real lmfao. This video just goes to explain why normal approaches don't work for you and have the simplest solutions a child could think off
Thank you! Your description of the symtoms is spot on. I been struggling for 52 years, not knowing what my problem is. Never thought it could be ADHD and never trusted the self-test on the webb. Always connected ADHD with extrem physical restless behavior. But your description is so totaly spot on!! It opend my eyes and I can´t do anything else than accept that I do have ADD. This will help me to deal with how I function. And also deal with my youngest daughter who shows the same problems as me. Thank you!!
This video safes my life. I blamed myself so much for being procrastinating because I always compared myself with other people. Now I know I should learn more about the ADHD brains.
I leave a comment on nearly all of your videos, which I watch in a cluster before moving on to someone else's video. I'm a 58 year old with ADHD. I'm just now realizing that. I've been realizing a bunch of things over these last three weeks! I don't remember where I was going with this...I got distracted by my cat. So, anyway, you are a blessing and so is this video. Thank you and bless your heart!🌷
For someone so young, you have some rather good insight and advice. I have been suffering for a short attention all my life. When I get focused, I am told I am very productive. I only wish I had the key to keeping that focus.
I have intuitively tried a lot of these methods, but unfortunately, I still struggle horribly. But I'm glad you mentioned having different places to work in. I think that that is a huge part of the problem I have because I'm extremely unhappy with my living situation. I think having the proper environment, one that is capable of stimulating you in a way that is condusive for your creative mode, is very key, and I would recommend that as an initial goal to create for yourself. If you dont have a space that works for you, it adds to the feeling of being overwhelmed, multiplied by X amount.
There is some real wisdom in this video. I especially like how you break down the static nature of some of these fixed assumptions. Here are some of the tips I found to be useful with students, including SPED, some of which are relatively similar to the ones in this video: Start and finish your day with positive notes: Begin your day with a small task that you enjoy and end it with a cliffhanger (like a half-done successful task.) To learn more, consider watching some videos on how epinephrine AKA adrenaline secretion works. Set aims instead of goals: For example, instead of saying: "I will study for three hours a day and master English in 6 months, say: "I will learn some English every day. Pay attention to your environment: This may not sound very important, but having the right setup is key for ongoing productivity. Take frequent short breaks instead of fewer longer ones: For example, instead of taking a 30-minute break every 3 hours, consider a 10-minute break every hour, especially if you're struggling with a task. Create a positive reinforcement system: For example, say: Whenever I finish chapter 1, I will play my favorite video game for 1 hour. Compare yourself to yourself and yourself ONLY: Do not compare yourself to who someone is right now, only compare yourself to who you were last year. Don't live life, play life: You only truly lose what you care for, and you are far more likely to lose if you care too much. Think of life as a game. When you lose, you learn. When you win, you level-up. Disclaimer: I am not a SPED teacher. I have yet to conduct any quantitative assessments to verify the effectiveness of these tips. If or when this happens, the results should be published somewhere on the web with a link in one of my channels. Thank you for making this.
I did not expect that I'd relate this much. I've been naturally "intellectual" so I always try to do something new but tend to procastinate and then beat myself about it since I was a child. Never thought that it could be ADHD. I still am not sure if it could be ADHD but the methods you said to use for making oneself do something is something I've done sometimes randomly and worked rather than the general 'you can do it. just try' thing. I just feel overwhelmed right now because this hit way too close to home but it was the last thing I thought about. This is going to be a long journey but... I'll always keep this video as my reference and motivator. Thank you!
Gosh, I wish I've seen this video years ago. Had to learn a lot of these in the hard way and I've always felt guilty about not being "good enough" in neurotypical standards, but this video made me feel validated lol thank you sm!
Ruri’s video’s most spesific and exclusive side is she’s got a high level talent that to touch someone’s heart in a way! That’s why nearly 700k subscribers in every ocassion say “We love you RURİ!” One last thing l have to add , She loves us back!🙏🤗
I saw this video on my TH-cam homepage recommendation. I read the title and I immediately knew this is an extremely helpful video to me. I totally belong to the ADHD category, and I do constantly get distracted by always trying to learn new things while I'm trying to focus on one thing. It has been a really really major issue for me. A lot of the things in our lives have been designed to trap us into the non-ending cycle of wasting time. A person really don't need to be an ADHD to get distracted by stuff like Instagram, TH-cam, video games, movies, TV shows, or whatever that has been designed to take your self-care time away. So, I believe it also has to do with people forgetting to live in the moment, hurry sickness, & similar stuff. Recently I'm combating it. I think I'm making actual progress. Now I just need to keep the progress going.
I really like the point you made about switching your environment up and I feel you're right. I have been going to different libraries recently and I find that it really helps me get stimulated to be engaged in my work. Also, I have a favorite library that I go to often, but when I feel like I need to switch it up, I go to a new one nearby for one day. This makes me appreciate my favorite library more and I get reinvigorated again working there.
Unfortunately I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was very young, then diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder when I was around 22. Because Bipolar Disorder and ADHD are very often misdiagnosed for one another, I was required to take a battery of tests and see a bunch of specialists to confirm that I actually had both disorders, rather than just one of them. After about 2 years of monthly testing and seeing mental health professionals I was formally dual-diagnosed, and something you mentioned in this video caught my attention. You had mentioned that people with ADHD often have trouble starting projects, but not so much with continuing or finishing them. I don't know how true that is, but I do know that I personally have trouble starting projects, which checks out. However, I often ALSO have trouble finishing projects, which is generally a symptom of Bipolar disorder. People with Bipolar disorder tend to start tons of projects and get grand ideas that they can never see to completion, something which has also been my experience. For me, my ADHD makes it very difficult to start anything that doesn't capture my attention in any way (which is the novelty factor you mentioned in this video) but Bipolar disorder seems to make it very difficult for me to finish anything I do start, in my experience because I tend to pursure projects and hobbies obsessively and thus tend to briefly touch on all aspects of them. I basically pursue anything novel, and then suck all of the novelty out of it before moving on to the next novel project. What I will say is the one thing that has helped me, and is something you also mentioned; is competition. I can motivate myself to push through difficult or tedious training and the more 'boring' parts of projects as long there as a novel or dynamic aspect to my goal. If I'm competing, there's almost always a novel or dynamic aspect as humans themselves are novel and dynamic and thus there's no end to the amount of nuances, improvements, and innovations I can discover in the pursuit of 'becoming the best'
Not being able to finish projects etc is also a part of ADHD even if it wasn’t mentioned in the video, it’s mentioned in many diagnostic tools and a common symptom. I don’t say this because I want to devalue your observation for yourself just want to add this so that if anyone reads the comments and gets anxious about if they have bipolar disorder without any other symptoms of it they shouldn’t feel alarmed, but always consult a professional if you are concerned.
@@lb7564 Yeah that's fair. I probably should be more sensitive to that because I know it's been a bit of an epidemic (people relating to symptoms and potentially convincing themselves of diagnoses) and is something I have some experience with. My mom has extremely bad panic disorder and so she often 'adopts' conditions based on pathology she reads about online To be clear to everyone else; the most important part of my story was that I had no idea I was bipolar until I saw a professional and had to go through years of testing before being formally diagnosed. ADHD and bipolar disorder are very often mistaken for one another and it seems to be unlikely for them to both be presenting strongly enough to get both diagnoses. Something that I should also mention is that the vast majority of features present in both ADHD and Bipolar disorder are NOT indicative of those illnesses in isolation. What that means is that you may very well have a really hard time focusing, or have a hard time sticking to projects, and still be a completely healthy individual. In fact, even if you were to relate to many symptoms of, say, ADHD, if it's not having a disruptive or negative impact on your life then you likely wouldn't be diagnosed. All this is to say that these diagnoses are basically indicative of totally normal problems, thought processes, or patterns of behavior that only require diagnosis or treatment if they meet a certain threshhold of disruption of function. Every individual is different, and psychology and even psychiatric medicine isn't as cut and dry as it seems, and that's why it's so important to consult professionals if you're struggling or concerned about something that gets in the way of you living your life.
i discovered pomodoro timers and made the most progress I've ever had with them before looking into adhd and suddenly everything started to click in my brain LOL ty for this video its comforting knowing its not my fault entirely i cant focus in a world thats constantly pulling at my attention
@@danielpiesto532 I have this video open in my tab for a while now. Haven't even started watching yet, but apparently reading and writing comments is fine. So stupid how the brain works sometimes
@@damianomotta1809 I cant really say it got better, but at least it's not as baffling and puzzling, at the same time it's more disturbing now as I can notice it. And intensifies
Dr. Huberman and Dr. Peterson. Excellent! No wonder you're wonderful, logical, thoughtful and sensible, Ruri. But it's just you being you and yourself. You understand, Ruri, and the topics you take up are relevant for many types of people and is timely in today's world and society. You are not just there or here, but you are really living life and examining, questioning towards improving yourself, which is what real living is about. Thank you. God bless ❤
I was diagnosed with ADHD 4 years ago. All this time I tried to understand what ADHD means for me and how can I find a way to cope with it. I watched a lot of videos and read a lot of things about it, but this is the first time to see something that summarizes my own experiences and understanding so well and that puts everything together in such an easy to understand and concise way. Thank you.
@@BlackGirlLovesAnime6 I'm not the guy you're replying to, but I was diagnosed as a child and medicated (Adderall, or amphetamine salts) for a few years before I had to stop due to developing an ED. Medication is definitely not for everyone, but I would speak to a specialist to see if you actually have it and if medication would be right for you. Even if you do get diagnosed, you don't *have* to be medicated.
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Ma'am, this is exactly my situation. Thank You for the video.
One of the biggest conflicts of ADHD is constantly wanting to try new things but being paralyzed by the overwhelming amount of information you feel like you need to learn about them
I'm starting to think I might have adhd.
@@marzouk6270 same since kind of most of the things in the video feel relatable
that's called laziness.
I have adhd and i don't have that. I've seen several people like you, and some of them not even adhd. Don't confuse the 2.
@@FredMaverik i agree, when i run into that situation i get excited that theres so much to learn, getting a massive dopamine spike is what people with adhd generally look for, otherwise they feel bored and quit things.
they probably also have some issue with anxiety that gets in the way,
@@FredMaverik Soo the way your brain works dictates how everyone's works?? Not all neurodivergent brains work the same. Why do you WANT people to hate themselves??
"You are a highly intellectual individual..." alrighty nice seeing you guys, take care
You really made may day with this comment. 🤣
deadass almost clicked off the video cause of that lol, but I did want help so I stayed
Lol! I was like nope
@@ae831 same bud
lol, same feeling :D
I have added this video to my "Watch Later" list. Hope it works!
Lmao
Haha. More than 800 in mine LoL (but I don't remove the ones I've seen so yeah they also count)
My list is full. 5000 Videos is the maximum btw
@@Brosfight_ oh my-
wow mine is like around 2,500 😅😅
Procrastinating was never a real issue for me before until the pandemic , that's when things got really rocky for me.
I was always a prone to procrastination but still did all my work on time and well. Since the pandemic I'm an absolute wreck lmao. I CAN'T seem to do anything at all
@@skyward7903 sameeee, i think a lot of people have this problem :(
Sameeeee, I just wanna get myself back on track
this is me too
@@skyward7903 bro same, i used to stay all night studying and recently i just seem to not gaf
FINALLY somebody talking about adhd in the context of self-improvement and procrastination.
Shwetabh Gangwar from India did it years ago
@@Anonymous-sn6ey she's not from south right
@@Light-ib7fgleast racist north indian
@@sobaye9329 I'm from South
@@sobaye9329 plus how is that racist lol
Also, please remember everybody - it doesn't matter if you have ADHD, you can still use the ADHD productivity tips and not bother about the diagnosis. If these tips work for people who chronically can't get stuff done due to their brain chemistry, you absolutely can use it as self help.
Also remember that procrastination and memory issues aren't attributed to ADHD only - you can research on PTSD, autism, OCD and some related stuff. If nothing rings a bell - great, and if it does - also great!
Thqnk you, I really needed to hear this
Thank u, have adhd and its been tough trying to learn while all my peers are scoring As, I cannot grasp even simple concepts. I'm won't give up
As someone with Asperger's Syndrome, I tend to procrastinate because I don't like doing things that are monotonous or unrelated to my personal interests.
It can also happen when I feel lonely and want to hangout with a friend.
@nano "lazy" is an emotionally charged word. If you take a rational approach, you will find that "laziness" might be perfectionism, bad mental or physical health, fear of failure, low self esteem, burnout, etc. It's basically just putting a negative label on it without deconstructing the reason behind it.
One thing that kinda sucks is if you are actually starting to build a habit despite your ADHD, if you ever get sick or something and break the habit, it's extremely difficult to get it back again. I really appreciate this video because it gives me a lot of hope that I can take control over my life and work.
so true!
For me I set it as an alarm, of course only for easier tasks. Rn I'm building a tablet keyboard travel set because one of the habits I trying rn is drawing and writing but I travel a lot in spaces I cant reliably use a laptop. Small stuff like that, the kind that I don't get disabled from unless really crippled.
God forbid running and a lot of physical activity. I already bought my own home gym equipment I just don't have time or habit to use it.
Literally I was writing every day and then I got sick and now I’m all fucked up and overwhelmed 😢
@corruptedfantasy nah man even if you can't write so long as you make progresa in your head I think it'd be fine. Overwhelming is when you got a job and it asks you to write a chapter everyday with a min word count above a few thousand and you lost the plot in a fever dream.
Hobbies uplift, not overwhelm!
I couldn't agree more, I once had a habit of planting in my back and front yard, it was really just amazing to see those seedlings grow into large edible grubs and to help your family somewhat reduce food cost, but after a while I've gotten pretty lazy... I'm not sure whether it was due to work related problems or the extreme weather change...
I always wanted to bring those days back when I was still passionate in everything I do, but now it's gotten from bad to worst... I'm really thankful that I'm not the only one dealing with this problem.
Literally took me 3 weeks to finally watch this. When I finally did, I felt personally attacked lol, but it all makes so much sense.
Same here, This video has been sitting in my watch later playlist for the past month, and today I finally watched it.
I feel personally attacked that you feel personally attacked
If you want to procrastinate less and concentrate better on studying you can study with me here.
Instead of watching videos on youtube you can have a video of me studying and keeping you company, so you don't get distracted.
I study for 1-3 hours with breaks in between while I keep you company
If you're interested, feel free to study with study videos of mine
Hopefully it will be useful for you ❤
trying to "comlete" here for two hours ))
3 months here
The idea of doing the hardest job first is absolutely the OPPOSITE of what works for me. Knowing I have ten other jobs to do on top of what is already really draining me completely demotivates me, but seeing a couple little jobs get finished and seeing the results totally gets me going.
Same! Even if it's the smallest task, knowing I completed something already motivates me to do more
I think so as well! I have a really hard time getting into the "working mindset" so starting with the hardest one is like setting me up to fail because I will be so demotivated to start.
Same
Same! Also i find that starting with the easier tasks lets me get into studying and being productive and then i can easily get started with other harder tasks
Same! Before work, even cleaning up the desk puts me into “I’ve completed something” mood. My problem is not that idk how to be productive. My problem is to start doing work…
Okay, I got:
1. Embrace Fear
2. Change Environments
3. Time based goals
4. Micro commitments
5. Use a timer (Pomodoro method)
6. Compfy Competition with yourself
I confirm the fact that changing environment can help a lot, since I went to high school (which is far from where I live so I sleep at a dedicated place on week days) I felt some differences in my behaviour and motivation, being with some motivated friends also helps me to do some work properly while smh enjoying these moments because I was able to stay productive
So tempted to ask you to expand because I’m at minute 4 and i already know i have ADD lol
Thank you for this, I'm watching this at 1.5x speed and i still can't physically continue. my ADHD is killing me
ily for this
I didn't really like the pomodoro timer. When I finally get momentum, I don't want to be stopped, and the 5 minute break is too short to be meaningful.
Thanks for the video girl. Having ADHD, depression and being a perfectionist all at once has literally ruined my life💀🚶
I can relate ❤vWhen there is a will , you will figure it out. Keep it slow . We got this 💪
"girl" what sort of way to address someone is that
same lmao
Am I the only one who is afraid to actually start? Like I always cram on the last day of the exam and I'm scared to actually study cause what if I actually study and I fail? I'm just really scared of that, why? I want to be good but what if I'm dumb?
@@percyjackson5017thigh ass much?
I have adhd and I get jealous of my friends because they are able to get things done throughout their day but my friends tell me they are jealous of my creativity and how I can learn new things so quickly. ADHD isn’t a bad thing. Growing up, my family and teachers always thought I was lazy because I would always procrastinate and not pay attention to things I’m not interested in. When I got diagnosed with ADHD everything started to make sense and tbh I cried a little bit. My whole life I was hard on myself because I thought I was lazy and would never be successful but I learned to control my brain better and I’m now going to college to create video games. I don’t care how much money I make in the future because I will do something I’m interested in and love my job. If you have ADHD it’s better to chase your dreams because you are more likely to succeed since it’s something your interested in. I loved this video and will come back to it whenever my brain is making me watch TH-cam instead of doing my assignments lol.
I almost cried just reading your comment lol
You mean your ADHD isn’t a bad thing, when you can’t focus on a single thing and a bored of everything after 10h max you go nowhere in life
And yes not every ADHD come with the hyper focusing power some can just like... never focus and being bored of thing they really like. and meds are not working.
Fk... I think i might have it but in my case it honestly is destroying my life... Most things i want/like depends on my discipline and since those things are not stuff that i have a deadline i can just take time, leave for another time again and again...
Everything she said is basically true, i do in fact get extra focused when a deadline is present and im just about to cross it... It clicked when she said that because just recently something like that happened and i was just like "wtf how did i do that, i want to do that with other things", like its insane the level of focus and hard work i had and it was something that once i finished i couldnt believe, because i shouldnt be able to do it with the time i had.
@@XxViperMortalxX yeah I know what you mean. I took a creative writing class in high school and I would wait till the last day before my paper was due and then type like 10 pages. My teacher would always love reading my stories because I would just write about all the random crap that goes on in my mind when I’m zoning out. If it ever gets to a point where you can’t even do the things you enjoy perhaps try medication if you are open to it. I used to take Adderall and it helped me A LOT when it comes to being productive and focusing on my hobbies but it also kinda takes away the crazy imaginary brain that comes with adhd so now I only take it sometimes when I really need it.
@@gijoe4242 i hate medication, i prefer to treat everything by suplementation if needed, or more natural ways like certain teas or exercises.
Yet for adhd i found only DMAE, might have to try some but its quite hard to find it where i live.
That shit fucks with ur mind when u dont know u have it... Because literally who is to blame for YOU not doing shit ? Yeah...
What frustrates me is that i dont want to take meds, but i also dont want to be like that and it sucks because even tho i want to do something ppl think im lazy, that it isnt hard to do what u gota do, u justa got to do it... When in reallity it is insanely hard to do what u got to do unless u actually HAVE TO DO IT...
ADHD is something that I thought I might have but I also try to not label myself wrongly.Lately I feel like I am trapped in a position that I have good ideas and eagerness to change my routine and I am keep failing it. At this point I can't confirm this by going a professional but I am also quite fed up to feel like this. So I decided to apply ADHD helpful tips and methods to see if it helps me. Thanks a lot for this content. You did it agaiiin! ❤
I don't think that I have adhd, but I find that the environment makes it hard to focus. I mean... look at all the notifications... every app wants your attention.
and how your doing? does it work for u?
Even if you don't have adhd there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking out adhd resources. gatekeeping adhd without a diagnosis perpetuates exclusion and doesn't aid in any way, you're more than welcome to discuss your symptoms and seek help with or without a diagnosis :) not to mention adhd comes in so many varying severities and flavours. at the end of the day it's just a label
@@aleaaerktyka1052 last 2 weeks I can say that I am doing a lot better. I wake up earlier, trying to have a morning routine. I also put some effort to understand to reasons why I procrastinate and how I see tasks etc. I decided to disconnect myself from the task. Meaning, tasks should be perform and not always I have to have an emotional links to them. I realized I struggle a lot to do the best job and it prevents me to actually perform the task. I keep reminding myself to take it easy and sometimes tasks being done is more important than doing it perfectly. You can always improve your work later, right? I hope I explained it well for you :)
@@tapathune Thank you for your support! We've become more of a community in this comment section! I I wish the best for everyone who is seeking for the right tools to improve their lives ☺
Theres a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques, you can overcome procrastination and accomplish anything in life. Its not just a bunch of empty promises; its the real deal.
I saw you two videos ago with this EXACT comment, who you working for 😭
😭fwak this demotivated me to search for the book@@SwiftieSoliloquies
Pyramid scheme
1.1k likes in 2 days on a 1yr old video while promoting a book??? 😭
@@via8345 Yeah, too sus, it smells like bots from a mile away
You literally described the last couple of years for me, even though I have no clue on whether I have or not ADHD, because I haven't seen a doctor. Yet, this video not only helps me, it also motivates me to go seek professional help as well.
yo, did you saw a doctor? im in the same situation as you, but i dont really know to talk to my parents about this
@@schweppescomcianeto7582 same, they would probably blame it on the computer tho
@@DarkAsasin16 i felt that computer thing so much lol. i'm the top of my school even with procrastination because i just never had to study, so it wasn't a problem :') but school is getting harder and i'm not any smarter and idk how to ask for help. whenever i tried, electronics or me being lazy was blamed by my family because they're the type of people who think that a self-improvement book by some random neurotypical dude written 40 years ago applies to everyone. like how do i bring anything up pls
@@br4mborkaa same bro, ive always done well in school, so i dont think they would take it seriously
@@br4mborkaa I was sort of in your position until university. I even scored top 0,2% of students in my country. Got into uni and realized It's not a very interesting subject for me. I'm stubborn and as such I wasted years without graduating. By the end I was borderline paralyzed (and depressed). I couldn't even attend classes and I still don't know why. This video is an eye opener, though, I shall visit the doc.
Now I'm soon to graduate (hopefully) from SWE and I love it. ADHD or not, I highly advise you as your big bro to make your choice and never be afraid to take a step back. Don't flock to popular trends* while making your decisions or -if our brains truly work alike- you'll only lose more. Listen to yourself.
this is the first time ive watched an ADHD related video without feeling like a useless person. you just made me realize what i already knew, but had forgotten from all the bad information surrounding ADHD, and that hit me with a really nice feeling of hope.
thanks for making this video :D
You should understand that nobody is useless. Everybody is born for a reason, born to make a difference.
I hated it, every second of it. there is i basic problem description about adhd any folder in the world can give you and there are the most generic solutions you can find in any video. The only thing videos like this do for me is reassure me in not normal and that i have a problem aka this video gives me a victim mindset and i think it does for a lot of people. If you think im wrong and your life has improved since watching this video i would love for you to tell my how and why im wrong. Thanks in advance
Boy, do I agree with everything you just said
@@joshuakohn4408This video made me eat the frog. So like. There you go. It made life better for someone.
But more seriously, we are technically victims of the system. We had opportunities in the past to succeed that do not exist anymore, and it is hurting us. It's not a bad thing to acknowledge that the systems in place are bad for you, and to want to change it. I would genuinely love if the bar was lowered for everyone, so everyone can have more time to rest and recharge, not just people with ADHD.
@@ryanmackenzie6109 True but this goes against none of my issue. My issues is that she acts like no one in the world with procrastination issues should go on about their day before watching her video. And what happens when you watch her video? Absolutely nothing but make you aware or remind you of the fact that you don't belong in the world is it right now. Solution time? SILENCEEEEEEEEE
Now this girl ain't special in reminding procrastinators why they suck and providing nothing else they all do it. But then they act like they got the juice, the big fat secret while i can say with 100% confidence that when i found out i had ADHD my life went to shit. So therefor all the YOU NEED TO WATCH THIS VIDEO only means i need to get money tru youtube advertisement. When somebody says 'you need to so a psychologist' they don't realize often times they makes things infinitely worse. So yea i do get annoyed when people act like they can solve your problem while in reality they just trying to make some money for themselves.
Now i hope you have a wonderful day ryan and may the odds be ever in your favor
I keep blaming myself for my lack of focus and procrastination, and my brain always tells me that I'm hiding my procrastination behind the "ADHD" excuse.
I don't know if others with ADHD face it or not but it's brutal. Thanks for the video.
woa bruh, i felt that too
I used to think this all the time! you’re not alone and you’re not using it as an excuse!
It's not an excuse even if others want to make you believe it, or even you yourself think it is. I sometimes think it is, but I know better now to not trust that feeling. Medications don't work for me, so I don't know really what to do.
Life in todays society with ADHD is brutal. Especially if you're very creative and open minded. You can't stick to ANYTHING longer than a few days or weeks at best. Don't know how I am supposed to function really.
I have EXACTLY the same thought! Glad to know I am not alone! I was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago and I always feel guilty because I feel like I am excusing myself with ADHD for all my procrastination.
Ikr I don't know how to get engineering mechanics
My jaw is on the floor because of how accurately you just described my life. It’s honestly emotional to learn that other people deal with this. We are so driven and passionate but it’s so difficult to navigate. Thank you so much for this video. Just subscribed and looking forward to learning more!!!
I don't have ADHD myself, but I have a friend who has it. This video really helps me to understand how their brain works and why they behave differently in certain situations, especially when it comes to studying/productivity.
Thank you!
thank you for being a great friend!!
how does it feel?? like seriously, I'm actually curious like you didn't relate to the video in anyways at all, i feel like I've been like this as long as i can remember and it feels normal that its almost impossible to imagine how neurotypical brains would think. To me the closest i can imagine is like being an npc but that seems way to extreme. You're being a great friend btw
@Asim Moideen I do relate to a certain extent to the behaviours mentioned in the video. After all, I initially clicked on the video because I, too, tend to procrastinate a lot.
However, comparing myself to my friend I see that they are much more easily distracted, eg. suddenly googling about something completely unrelated or playing a browser game during class instead of focusing on the assigned task or listening to the teacher.
The funny thing is that at the end of class, they often got as far with the tasks as I did although they spent way less time actively working, matching the close-to-deadline-behaviour :D
I personally tend to stick to what I'm doing more easily once I get started, but getting started is something I struggle with, too, whenever I have the freedom to choose when to do it (eg. learning for an exam as opposed to physically sitting in class).
Another behaviour that seems to be exaggerated for ADHD people is the "shiny object syndrome". I have that, too, but I can more easily tell myself to ignore the feeling and stick to what I'm doing instead of following the urge to try out a new thing.
@@kuwertzel8938 i recently have been often catching myself being distracted, and tell myself to go back to work but in the process be distracted again, also when when I'm trying to start to work, everything other little work(not the one I'm trying to focus) start to pop up and subconsciously start work on those.
@@asimmoideen5960 Neurotypicals have brain space to think about what they should do next, instead of having their brain select the next activity automatically with no input. That was the biggest difference for me when trying out meds for ADHD. Also time perception, but it's very difficult to describe.
Being an ADHD brain guy, i learned a lot from this video however to finish the whole video of 19 minutes, i took almost 2 hours..
I am proud of you and I am getting the momentum to keep moving towards my dreams and one day i will be sharing my journey with all of you and help others through my experiences.
well here i am finishing it within 10 mins, 2x speed saves my life
I have split screen on
I'm playing a game on the other half :/
ended up scrolling twitter and zoning tf out. I feel you@@SamayGhosh
After reading your comment i have some relief that i am not alone in this world 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@raida9516lol I did the same watched it on 1.75 speed 😂otherwise my brain resists waiting her finishing a single phrase
not diagnosed with adhd yet but i still relate to tons of things here. like the part about momentum. once i am on that part where i am in the zone, i always have the feeling of not wanting to stop cause i know when i go back to it, i'll just get distracted again and get back to not doing it again. also in this state, i get so focused that i never bother about playing music as i usually do and that i can easily dismiss many distractions like yt vids and interesting articles/links. but i believe this state happened to me the most in the middle of the night which makes it hard to not stop cause at that point i am needing sleep.
try not to self diagnoise, shit holds u back.
@@wtfimcrying yeah no i am not self diagnosing myself, i will still find a way to seek professional help to diagnose if i do have adhd, but regardless if i do or not, i can say i relate tons to things happening in the video
Same here!
@@wtfimcrying Why isn't your comment pinned
Omg Same here!! i thought i was having difficulty going back to doing things after stopping because i was being immature, i never made the connection between this and adhd, thank you!!
I am 50 I only realised a year ago that I have ADHD and that it has been holding me back for decades.
Hey.
I'm a teenager and I struggle with motivation and work in general. I'm not bad at school or anything, I even have pretty good grades for someone who doesn't know how to study effectively, but always doing things when the deadline is close is in fact very stressful. I made research about what could make me procrastinate so much and that's when I heard about ADHD.
I started to recognize myself in it and talked to my mother about it. Where I live, mental health is not something really important to people, most of them don't know about deficits and disorders and think that teenagers these days are making up weird problems and mental illness.
This video helped me a lot. I'm planning on being properly diagnosed someday. Maybe I don't have ADHD, but it would definitely help me understand myself much better.
Well done my man, No shame in asking for help. Something I wish I had done around your age. I know your gonna dominate high school if your already asking for help this early in it.
Yeah, what LegoWarrior said. Being able to do alright in school, maybe even gifted, while also having ADHD is something I've seen labeled as twice exceptional. Googling that might be a good thing to look into. Trust me when you get to college or your new career outta HS, you're gonna be so glad you caught this early. Fresh diagnosed at 28 and I still mourn what the start of my life could've been, but c'est la Vi. You might be able to avoid some of that.
Wishing you all the best, good luck on your journey. You're already off to a better start than I had, and things have turned out alright for me, so you're gonna be fine :)
Dude I always cram on but this time it's really starting to affect my grades like I keep one bad grade after the other I'm so scared I'll fail my semester.
Hi! I was diagnosed with ADHD at 6 and always excelled in school without studying at all, until I got into college. If it's possible, I would suggest researching for psychotherapists near you that specialize in ADHD and ASD. I'm not sure where you live, but I also live in an area where people treat mental health like it doesn't exist, but there are still resources that can be found to help you. Even if you end up not getting diagnosed, it doesn't hurt to speak to someone who understands the problems you're having and can help you manage them!
why this sounds likes me
I've never thought I am an ADHD person, but I find myself always procrastinating like you said. You've helped me understand myself much more. And thank you Ruri, I'll try things to know what works for me.
But doesn't everyone procrastinate why is this a mental illness now
@@xxzxcuzx.ADHD isn't always about procrastinating
He just self diagnosed himself
He doesn't have it
cause you are NOT.... ADHD is a disease that must be diagnosed by a psychologist
adhd is not a mental illness. Its neurodivergeancy. @@xxzxcuzx.
@@lunosol8914 Someone has the right to self diagnose espcially since the medical system is built on ballons and sticks
Who else went straights to the comments while listening lol
Tell me you were looking for a resume please. Tell me I'm not the only one.
I didn't need a resume. Her presence and way of talking are very pleasant. 19 minutes felt like 5 min.😅
Hahaja,im dying😂
1. Common productivity methods often don't work for people with ADHD, leading to self-blame and frustration.
2. ADHD in adults is frequently undiagnosed, affecting an estimated 4.4% of the US adult population.
3. ADHD brains are motivated differently than neurotypical brains, responding to the "4 Cs": Captivate, Create, Compete, and Complete.
4. Effective strategies for ADHD productivity include embracing change, varying work environments, using time-based goals, and employing Pomodoro timers.
5. Key tips: Make tasks into games, compete with your past self, use micro-commitments, and focus on consistency rather than perfection.
Me
"Your brain likes new things and it doesn't like monotone strategies" oh my good this describes my whole life of trying to find a routine that works. It feels like a groundhog day for me if I do the same things every day.
Me too, I eventually learn to use that alternative strategies as a way to impress my teachers, in that way I managed myself to be one of the best students in my university.
I am at 7:50 and so far there has not been a thing you got wrong about me. I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD but it's unsettling how accurate you were about my life so far.
omg right??? she really hit the nail on the head,, made me cry how scarily accurate and relatable this was
Same it’s the reason why I failed immunology
yep, same. I was not expecting that from this video.
I’m sobbing because it’s so accurate 😭
@@kouchieeme too..
My parents never really understood this so they had a hard time properly supporting me. Thank you for posting this!
Man it's great that we're all on this self improvement journey together. Soon more people will come out and make great yt videos like this. Can't wait.
This made me realize why i managed to "survive" school life all the way to college. Every task is filled with deadline and it gives me the rush to finish within the last moment. Everything seems well until i got all sorts of repercussion as a growing adult.
Currently in phase to start a new career in a different field and trying to learn from scratch is just insanely hard. I kept losing track just because there is no presence of deadline or rewards in front of me. For the record, i dont self diagnose and claim that i have adhd but some of the things you said resonates and help me learn more about myself.
Dudee this is exactly my story. I finished college in May 2023..didn't had to deal with lot of procrastination and laziness due to deadlines in schools and colleges and fear of bad grades ..now since I'm graduated and I have to look out for a job and there are no deadlines I'm not able to even start. I have tried to study multiple times but somehow remained inconsistent and could never restart it.
This is what is happening to me I’m going to university online and it’s self study for certifications and I lose months of time idk how I’m so tired all the time too I get easily burnt out and keep wondering what’s the point when trying to start something even though I genuinely want to get it done
The best analogy I've ever heard is "put your hand on a hot stove." you physically can but your brain wont let you
I have ADHD and im in year 12 at school atm, typically I do my assignments the night before, smash out 5k words and get full marks but I picked a subject that has a major project and just spent 11/12 months procrastinating, now its due in 2 weeks and I've only been sleeping every second day trying to get it done in time and realising that there's a reason we has a full year to do it.. And yet I find myself here watching youtube instead of doing my project lmao
I have meds but I'm still not on the right ones for me yet and my psych appointments are too far apart to actually get me on the right medication before I finish school
Wait that’s. That’s exactly how it feels omg
Dude, I'm doing the same thing
How'd you go with that project?
That analogy gave me an idea on how to deal with it. You won't put your hands on a hot stove, but what about putting your hand on a cold stove? Then keeping it while it warms? Till it got too hot to stand, but then youd done more than ever.
Right now I'm at my bed watching this video. I decided to study accounting. But never in my life I have really study outside classes. I like to learn through reading, watching, taking notes, but never done exercises or followed an structured study routine.
But following this analogy instead of forcing myself to burn my hand, and being able of doing this once in a year, I could put my hand on cold stove.
I'm at my bad, I can watch TH-cam videos and recorded classes. I can take notes, and I can write summaries. And I can read!
It seems to me that going to an specific place, and setting a specific time to do something like study, is the hot stove, not actually the studying part.
Exactly describes my attitude to a lot of my Uni projects, I was always told "You can do much better than this, why don't you try?" but I would often feel paralyzed and just put it off until the last minute and then somehow knock work out (not always but sometimes) better than others who spent more time on it. Of course that didn't work out very often and eventually I'd get stuck in the weeds and just give up. Now I'm out of Uni, motivation is a struggle. I know I need to work on personal projects to build a portfolio but I keep putting it off. These are some great ideas to start the ball rolling, hopefully I will actually apply them.
Same I didn't study the whole semester and then I literally studied the whole syllabus on the day of the exam and passed.
But still, I didn't learn anything well. Now the semester is over and I have to study for university exam but I am not studying. It just stresses me out just thinking about it and I end up daydreaming all day.
@@person1420 so true, I was frustrated from my bad grades at school so I just stopped caring about that. If I can't change it, then why should I care? School is useless anyway
Same
Wow! I mean... WOW!. You literally described how my brain works!. It's an eternal fight with my wife, the "Why do you always do your taxes declarations at last moment?", "Your University tasks" and so on... I just can't focus if it isn't about to expire the time to present those things.
Thank you Ruri Ohama!. You probably saved at least one soul (mine) with this video!.
add with depression is so frustrating. i just do nothing, not the things i need to. but on the other hand nothing excites me so i don’t even start new stuff
The unique way she talks with her own style is just amazing........Her looks too!
Thank you very much. Take care.
I am 54 and was diagnosed 5 months ago. Procrastination is a huge struggle for me. There are things I want to do but, it is hard to get started. This is a great video.
How? How has the video helped in any way? In what way has she provided any solutions? I'm going to assume you are a automated bot to leave messages and not a real person. I can belief a real person would benefit from this generic ass video
did they give you any drugs ? if so, does it really help ?
@@Mr.Helper. I am on Adderall and it has made a huge difference for me! I am able to focus at work and don’t have to worry about losing my job.
@@Mr.Helper. It helps for sure but it also kind of kills your personality. Trying to do deep work everyday and take a high dose of quality fish oil is a better way to go in my humble opinion
@@joshuakohn4408 I'll pass on the drugs. IMHO, the number of distractions in today's world are major contributing factors leading people to seek "professional" help, when it oftentimes just comes down to good 'ole fashion willpower and techniques. Frankly, it seems like everyone needs to be diagnosed with a syndrome or mental health issue to feel like they belong nowadays. Weird.
There I was, procrastinating and staying up later than I should, when all of the sudden this lady pops up in my recommended and describes my behavior to a T. Never really considered ADHD a possibility until now, still hesitant too, and I have no idea if I'll even implement these ideas tomorrow, but at least the gears are turning. Thank you!
I just did the exact same thing as you and feel the exact same way as you lol, never considered ADHD and still kinda reluctant to consider it but this video is describing me well
had a big cry rn after finishing this video. it feels as if you perfectly described me in here. i have been struggling my whole life with this, and high school and pandemic kinda threw me at rock bottom. that's when i decided it was enough and asked my parents to see a professional but lol.. being in an asian country, as an asian person who is practically an adult asking your parents for something about mental health isn't easy. they just dismissed everything as laziness and that internet is frying my brain and again for the next year i believed the same before i realised how badly im spiraling and then they had to take me. but even the professional didn't bother. he just said "you are a girl, and an adult that's impossible you are just weak" i was so fucking confused. he didnt even ask me anything much... and my parents were right there overriding everything i said with "she just sleeps and does everything other than work, been lazy since she was a baby". i still blame myself everyday because its becoming impossible to get up and do anything everything feels like it's falling apart. everyone around me tells me to "just get it over with" HOW? and with all of this am i really insane to ask for help and question... maybe they are right, and i am wrong but still i would rather try to help myself then continously blame myself because i truly am tired at this point i dont know how long i can go on
im sorry you experienced all that. keep advocating for yourself and dont ever stop trying to get support! its okay to ask for help, sometimes you have to keep looking for the right people (trusted adults, medical professionals) who WILL support you and not invalidate your experiences. you are not lazy, your brain just works differently. i wish you the best!
I'm so sorry to hear you went through that. For what it's worth, there are so many people like you who have gone through the same thing. You are not alone. Unfortunately most people still dont understand brain differences or mental health. Please remember that your struggle is NOT a failure or a reflection of your moral character. It sounds like you try really hard.
Please keep in mind that, unfortunately, many people in healthcare are still not fully educated on ADHD. This is because the research done on ADHD has been so much focused on affluent young white boys, which obviously is a small sample size of humans. This causes even well meaning people to have subconscious bias that they are not even aware of, and causes them to be more likely to dismiss you if you are also not a younger white boy falling into that stereotype.
Please look for not only a professional but a specialist who works with adults/females with ADHD. They are more educated and trained, and will give a better assessment that is less likely to be biased. I recommend checking out Psychology Today website. I hope this helps. Please know that it can get better, just dont give up.
@rawrjoon I felt u in a deeper level. Your comment reflects what I'm going through too. We can still go on strong though :) bear hugs for my internet soulmate 💗💚
We all are same in this ... trying so hard for help but don't really know what to do ... really wanna get the hell outta this situation but just can't and being termed as lazy 🙃
i feel you!!!! this problem affects my life so much but my parents just accuse me of being lazy and undisciplined but they have no idea!!!! i hope we can find ways to work with our adhd brain!!
Summary of the video
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4:20 Problems With Productivity.
Neuro Typical Brains Get their tasks done by "Importance", "Consequences", "Rewards"
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ADHD brains struggle with prioritizing so it prioritizes things that are not even a priority.
7:12 Why breaking down things into smaller projects don't work for ADHD brains
How ADHD brains are motivated "The four Cs"
- Captivate "ADHD brains gets motivated by new stuff even though the task might be difficult"
- Create "ADHD brains are keen to new things so it gets motivated by creative things"
- Compete "ADHD brains love a competition and the competition motivates the ADHD brains"
- Complete " ADHD brains gets really concentrated when there a deadline it really works well with a due date"
ADHD brains struggle with starting and not momentum
-If you find a way to start something your ADHD brain will keep on continuing the task
-Use the four Cs to create the momentum
--STRATEGIES--
Disclaimer "None of these are going to work for everyone, and even the ones that work for you, they're not going to work every time. Take these and try them out , and if they work, use it while it works and if doesn't, put it down for a while and try a different method"
1. Embrace the change.
2. Change your environment.
3. Use outcome based goals.
4. Aim for consistency not perfection.
5. Do micro commitments. "Micro commitments leads to Momentum"
6. Use Pomodoro timers.
7. Make it a game cause ADHD brains love to compete "Compete with yourself to do better not others."
The most important thing is showing up and constantly trying and aiming for that 1% improvement.
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Here's a link if you want to check the "DSM-5 Diagnostic Criteria for ADHD"
If you really do need help please consult a professional.
www.aafp.org/dam/AAFP/documents/patient_care/adhd_toolkit/adhd19-assessment-table1.pdf
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wow thank you💕
Thank you so much
@@ruriohama What about people with autism and Asperger's like me? Is there a different guide to the problem for us that can help?
@Bixie thank you for this
Thank you, bot you who make the text and you who make the video, it's really helpful.
Thank you Ruru. This has given me the confidence To have an appointment and get properly diagnosed because everything you said hits the nail in the head for me.
good luck
Same. Thank you
I would not recommend getting diagnosed, especially if you don't want to take medication there is actually no point imo
@@joshuakohn4408 I would disagree with you. Adhd is something that can cause a lot of issues in your life. You can get help from a therapist to work through some of the issues you face and if don't wanna take any medication you can talk work it out with your therapist
This content is a game changer. You have all my gratitude.
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Learned I have ADHD at 31 years old. It explains why I've always felt so much different than others around me. Productivity tips always seemed foreign and weird to me. Great video!
"Compete with yourself to do better not others." was the single best takeaway I took from this video.
I've always found it strange (in a good way) how your channel is the only one worth watching for people like me with ADHD. Most productivity channels simply offer nothing that ADHD people can apply. So oftentimes we’re left in the dark during heavy periods
This is a really well made video, and I hope that more doctors in the future understand ADHD as well as you do
this girl has the capacity to calm my soul, and to make me not to force myself that much❤
Oh my god, I never realized I could be dealing with adhd. I'm a teenager in an online school, and I am constantly struggling with procrastinating my schoolwork to the point of acruing unexcused absences. I can't even focus most of the time, just because I have the option to do something else. I was doing great in my old public school, and I started faltering when I started online school when the pandemic hit. I used to blame it on not being around people as much and replacing that social interaction with youtube, which is probably still a factor, but this video gave me a whole new perspective on things. Now I just have to bring this up to my parents and hope they don't write it off as an excuse.
Yes, we ADHD people need someone to watch us. To keep us accountable so the internal stress is increased, as a result we are able to execute the things that we are supposed to do. That's why sometimes having a body double functions when you study or doing homework (body double=having somebody with you when you're doing things. Can even be somebody connected with you in video chat. Try to find somebody to pair with when doing homework. You only have to be aware of their presence, you don't have to talk).
I needed to be reminded that I have to switch methods sometimes. It's too easy to forget these things when overwhelmed and then it's like a self-blaming avalanche. Changing might be tiring but forgetting to is exhausting!
Thank you💕
this video just described everything i've been experiencing for the past year. afraid of starting, procrastination, planning for hours but not getting anything done; avoiding everything by doing irrelevant tasks such as taking ridiculously long walks; losing focus, fast passing time, knowing i should do it yet i don't, getting motivated from deadlines-- all of it. i'm in the middle of getting kicked out of univ and i honestly think they won't accept my mental health reasons any longer. i want to help myself but i genuinely can't. i cannot afford to consult a psychiatrist, i cannot afford to stop studying, i don't have anyone, have poor family relationships, and it's making me think of how much i'll be struggling and wasting the next few months of my life AGAIN.
08.2023
My heart goes out to you. I have struggled with school and jobs my whole life so far, despite trying my best. I have been figuring out that I have ADHD and my therapist who specializes in neurodivergency agrees , but haven't been diagnosed yet. If you cant afford a psychiatrist, I recommend something called Open Path which offers sliding scale affordable therapy for people who dont have insurance. It is made specifically with people like you in mind, to remove extra barriers to accessing mental health resources. It's not a company, it is like an organization that tons of therapists can list themselves on if they are willing to offer sliding scale to be more accessible. Please consider checking it out, I know it can be daunting, but you will be able to find help if you reach out for support from people who specifically work with ADHD
Hey cheer up
I hope you find the solution for it
I'm rooting for you
Fighting!!✊
You just described my life omg
hey you made that comment 2 months back. so just wondering any improvements? my life is same as you :/
How in the heck am I finding it 100% relatable????
For the past 3-4 days I've been looking up ADHD and it's symptoms. And found out that I have most of them. Most of your statement were true for me as well. I'm 19, turning 20 in a month. I've been struggling with school, SO MUCH. And it's frustrating to know that all of the struggle could have been avoided if I had just known. Or my parents were more observant of me and my tendencies and took me to a professional. Which they did. But it only lasted a month and in the long run didn't fix anything. I don't know how to tell my parents that I might have ADHD and that I need to see if it's true. Hell... from all those symptoms I have it's pretty much guaranteed. All of those times I've failed because I procrastinated too much, got yelled at, the condescending tone of my parents. The expectations they always put on me. I may have finally found out the cause. I always felt like there was something wrong with me. With how I knew that I had to get things done. But I never do it on time or in advance. I'm mad that this has almost completely ruined my life. I have even trouble talking with people. Sometimes... I don't even feel happy when my own parents hug me. It always scares me. Why was I growing to be like this. There had to be something wrong with me. I want to seek a psychiatrist in my area so that I can deal with the problem and finally to feel free from my metaphorical shackles.
You're describing my life except I'm turning 23 in a few days. I found out about ADHD because of a tv show and then some TH-camr told his story with this disorder and i was like this man is living my life. It made me deplorable. After that i tried to seek a psychiatrist but it was awfull. Now I'm just trying taking adhd advice to apply and see if it works.
You and me both man
Is it just me or I started getting ADHD symptoms as I got older.I related to almost everything she said in the video.I used to be a top student as a kid.But now my grades slip sometimes.
My bro, one key answer. You will always feel terrible inside until you do one thing: acceptance. God gave you this for a reason. Accept it. Refuse to reject. This is greater than what you think it is.
@mufid.asshiddiq yea we all gotta learn and live with it brother.
Hey I just want to write a thank you again for this video. It is roughly one year to the day that I talked to a doctor and got diagnosed with ADHD and the resulting interventions have been life-changing. I've since gotten a significantly better paying job, moved to a bigger house, closed off so many personal projects, and overall been a better kuya for my family. I'd write a little more but I might cry. Thank you very much.
A wise homeless man came up to me once not for money but to tell me "don't be lazy, don't be scared" Do asked him to explain what he meant: "We make our decisions based on love or fear. We are lazy to love people and afraid to do the things we don't enjoy. So his solution is find love in everything you are doing, it makes life easier" ❤
I feel like this wholesome comment can be ruined with “well why is the guy homeless then”, but it’s quotes like these that get you through in sticky situations
Yes, thats wise. I always believed that i wouldnt be successful at anything i dont like and i would be succsessful anything i love. So im in search for finding things that i like in every work i wanna do or i must do. Im quite sucessful at it but i lack the dicipline and i suffer from addictions which i'll get rid of.
@@theorangeoof926 i mean experience mostly gained from failures so a man who has seen or lived downfalls is wiser and more capable of going higher if he still has time yet.
I’m a physician and I got quite fast in a very good university. Never failed a test in my life… However, I struggle with getting things done since childhood. I finished one of my research articles one day before the presentation. I studied for a specialty last year 2 months before the test, I did so much in so little time, almost reviewed all medicine, but it obviously wasn’t enough. Always studied when there was no more running away from it, and I always managed somehow. Got diagnosed last year. Still struggling, I was so happy that I was so focused in my studies for the test, but with the deadline gone, it quickly faded away. I feel you, and it is hard. Been trying some of these tips, downloaded again an app called forest to challenge me, but I just wish I could do better
I don't know if I have ADHD, I honestly don't know and it doesn't matter but... listening to some of the things in this video actually made me cry because of how I could relate to them.
I am so enlightened to hear and watch this topic versus listening to alarming news or topics that do not captivate my curious mind
Today I just want to tell and remind everyone, thank you for being alive. Life is hard, and a lot of people die daily for a lot of reason. Be grateful that you get to live another day, take care of yourself and love yourself more than anyone else, because at the end you only have yourself. Thanks Ruri for a new video, your videos keep me motivated to keep trying in life and to become the best version of myself. Thank you for everything and I hope everyone a wonderful day.
I clicked on this on a whim and it has cleared up so much for me. I will be looking into ADHD. Jesse, but thank you so much for this and thank you for taking the time to share this with other people who may like myself have undiagnosed ADHD. Thank you again so much!
I was diagnosed with ADHD at a very young age and I have difficulty with all the things you mentioned. I appreciate your insight into the ADHD brain and how it differs from the neurotypical brain, I am trying but finding it very difficult finding help for ADHD in my country Canada, but I find your podcast very helpful, I appreciate your efforts and I will be following you. Thank you.
what's the difficulty in canada? they would just put you on drugs 99% of the time after diagnosis depending on your age.
@@erickelly7117 I think that because drugs are a useful tool in addressing problems associated with ADHD that is what they will do, but it is not as useful as understanding how the ADHD brain works. Writing a prescription is easy but it’s expensive to be diagnosed by a psychiatrist and most importantly to work with a doctor about your specific situation. And that last part is not covered by our healthcare and. You can give anyone a hammer and they will hit things with it, but a carpenter will know make best use of it. That’s my analogy of this.
@@Manx710 psychiatrist are covered by most provinces free as far as i'm aware but you do need a referral. i got one free for anxiety , and my son had one as well which was diagnosed with ADHD. he's on a combination of therapy and drugs is what he's on and they work together with the schools etc.... all for Free and it only took around 6 months from diagnosis to treatment. so no idea why you say it's hard to find help as there are resources available. only problem is time, usually it's months out before you can get an appointment. it's also important to have a family doctor which is unfortunately hard these days.
Thanks Midori. As I am also told by Dr. that I am in the higher grey zone of ADHD and ASD, it is sometimes very difficult to do the same things as other person, but I know found to use this syndrome as my “STRONG POINT” ☺️
ADHD is a made up disorder. It is a big scam by the pharma companies.
Ruri, eventhough I relate to having a ADHD brain and had been diagnosed I feel that what helped me out was having someone to hear my thoughts. That is where therapy comes in. Not for everyone and not affordable for most but still a powerful tool. Having this kind of brain is a daily challenge. Thanks for brighten people's mind it is always helpful to hear from another pov.
This video was painfully on point, all the struggles and ugly truths of brain on adhd - articulated perfectly. brain working against yourself, no matter how disciplined you are. For ex. at school I used to push myself sitting at tasks way longer than anyone else yet still accomplished less. At this point in life, I wished society created schools for adhd people, where creativity, novelty, and competitiveness etc. were more integrated, with different ways of learning and finishing tasks.
This Video is 20mins long and my ADHD brain completely watched this video in 1 week
Danke danke danke danke Ruri!!!
This really totally felt like your were describing the inside of my head!
I am hyped to start working with the four C and all you just said.
I am almost 50 yo, about 20 years ago I started thinking I might have ADHD, but procrastinated attacking diagnostics.
Now I don't even think about getting diagnosis any more, I will start new ways thanks to you! Love it, you are wonderful!
I wasn't diagnosed as ADHD but I have asperger syndrome. For example, i cannot give my concentration on something that i don't enjoy at all. but if the subject is interesting for me, i would spend my hours without losing my concentration. I even forget to doing my daily necessities like eating, sleeping etc. I have also difficulty in concentrating on something and with that i procrastinate a lot. Now my department is not interesting for me that's why i am constantly procrastinate my reviews and my thesis. life is hard if you don't have neurotypical brain hehe
I didn't know that this thing have a name, i probably have it then. But i don't think self diagnosing this is right, i need to go to a doctor.
@@jeb123 yeah, asperger syndrome is not only about concentration on something. it's a type of autism so you should see a doctor to fully understand your symptoms
@@jeb123 Definitely try to go to a psychiatrist if you wanna be checked for being neurodivergent. "Aspergers" (old term, not used anymore) is now called high functioning Autism and is on the Autism Spectrum Disorder. Autism is also something you are BORN with, so if these characteristics only appeared way later in your life, it is unlikely to be ASD, as there will ALWAYS be signs in early childhood that point to potential ASD. Which is why (if possible) is key to go to an psychiatrist who will also ask many questions relating to your childhood to make sure it is accurate.
What OP described here is also called "Hyper-Fixation" in psychology and something common for people who are neurodivergent (so ASD and ADHD), and many other disorders, even just people with depression can have it. It just means you can have moments where you hyper-fixate on 1 single thing and forget to do anything else in many cases, very common for people with ASD and ADHD but not necessarily ONLY for those cases.
There is also something called "Executive Dysfunction" which is also very common in ASD and ADHD aswell as depression, anxiety, personality disorders and more. It is something that can cause procrastination. They are different though. People who have executive dysfunction actually WANT to do something, like telling themselves whilst laying in bed to ''go do the laundry'', but for some reason they just can not get up and go do it. So instead, they might end up doing NOTHING, cause they keep wanting to go do the laundry, but can't. This can then cause people to procrastinate, which is delay an assignment on purpose, because they feel they wont be able to do it anyway.
If you relate to both hyperfixation AND executive dysfunction (again, it IS different from procrastinating, but can co-exist), then I definitely recommending checking with a psychiatrist/psychologist if possible :) ADHD and ASD can also co-exist, just like many psychological issues. And if you cant see a psychiatrist, then you could always check out videos on youtube with symptoms of ASD and ADHD made by people who have it, see if you relate, and then see if any of their tips and tricks help you out. It might not be best to talk about a self diagnosis outloud to everyone, but you could use their videos to find ways to help yourself. And if they work, then they work!
@@yulana990 Thank you for this comment, i don't think i have autism, also executive dysfunction too explains me. Sometimes i just sit or lay down and think about the things i need to do all day but do nothing. Because of this my life is really going bad, i failed o lot of things in the past. Not just school. I think i really need to go to a phycologist or a psychiatrist. (Also right now i am trying to study my final exams on the last day, tommorow morning i have one. I'll probably get a really bad grade or fail, because i still can't focus.)
same, except i probably dont have asperger
I was never actually diagnosed for anything psychologically related but the fact that i do have ADHD is unquestionable, and it is completely mind-numbing to deal with the constant confusion of every single day that passes by. I first saw this video on my front page 6-7 months ago and only came to watch it now. 7 minutes in and i simply feel like i can't absorb it, even though you are describing exactly how i deal with my stuff.
Understood a lot! Thank you!!
I had suspicions about having ADHD for a decade now but always thought that I was just lazy but this videos made me realise that I'm not since when a task needs to be done I do get it done. Thank you for opening my eyes with the four C, I'm going to try and get a professionals opinion on this :)
Go and be tested instead of using youtube videos to self diagnose. Best thing you can do to yourself
@@pedrosilvaproductions that's what I said in my last sentense :)
@@bastiwen sorry prob didnt read. Go ahead, and wish you all the best
I love Jesse's approach! His content is the first ADHD content that I can relate strongly and now I'm trying to apply some of the advices (the keywords are "trying" and "some" because I can't promise something big to myself 😆😆). Thank you Ruri for this content, very succinct and informative. I really like your view on "I don't know how much I will achieve, I will do it anyway". I think that's my mantra from now on!
I think it's a bit sad, that she completely word by word copies his videos and uses it to market her own products without mention, that the content of the video is 0% by her
Hey, great video. I want to add some comments if I may.
The reasons for the "bad kind" of procrastination in adults are mainly 3 and are very well defined. The first one, as you mentioned, is not having access, understanding or using productivity tools. If learning about productivity tools is not enough and you still find yourself procrastinating (even the tools implementation), one should look for the other two reasons for procrastination which are both cognitive-emotional. The first one is related to an unconscious resistance to the individual tasks themselves: that is, when the tasks feel tedious or you just want them done without putting the effort forward. When the tasks feel like an obligation even though you know you need to go though them to obtain you goal. This can be worked out in therapy doing some CBT or even EMDR work. It is usually related to memories of doing things (homework, chores) against your will in childhood. The third reason is also cognitive-emotional and it is related to fear of failure. One postpones the tasks out of the fear of doing them and discovering failure in achieving the goal. It is common for both emotional level kinds of procrastination to stop as soon as failure is imminent anyways. Sometimes unconscious self-induced failure feels a bit better than failing out of what seems as incompetence. This can also be worked in therapy and doing so will improve a lot more than just your procrastination habits.
Yes, we need to consider ADHD (or even ASD) as possible explanations, but don't forget that these diagnosis have genetic, epigenetic and learned aspects to them, so basically what you can do to improve, ADHD or not, would still require one to work on what's stated above, adding maybe focusing exercises. Just don't take a diagnosis as a final explanation to stop all efforts. Remember that these diagnosis are categorizations created by us, not things found in nature. They are useful but not definitive.
i saved it to watch later and commented it. good luck for everyone
I think she saved my life. While she was saying info about ADHD people i understood that it's me. I'm a creative person and like to try new things. I tried a lot of methods. First of all they work, but after a while i start procrastinating. I even deleted my social medias where i procrastinated most of times. But it doesn't work... thank u! I understood myself))
I never realized ADHD is so in depth. I always believed as a kid I would just be a normal person who would have a hard time sitting through long movies. Never in a million years did I think I would spend the rest of my life doing gymnastics around my own mind in order to navigate this world.
This is probably the best video I have watched on the topic of both ADHD and Productivity. As Jesse did for you, you have changed my life forever. THANK YOU RURI.
I didn't know I literally needed this video. I found so many similarities and I can relate to almost everything you said. I tried asking myself why I procrastinate and I always got disappointed as I was not able to see the pattern or get the answer. Thanks to your video I now know why everything is the way it is and I have an outline about improving my current situation and I am willing to work upon it.
You are doing great work.
Thanks once again.
you are on of the only persons i can listen to without getting overwhelmed and i am so grateful for that you are such an inspiration. So happy i stepped upon your videos
The better self of me will never exist. It’s time to love me as I am now. I don’t need her. The quote which helped me to start.
Thank you so much for this. I find myself so overwhelmed with sometimes even the smallest things, so I procrastinate, and those small things build up. Then I have multiple small things to take care of, and life just starts feeling like a mess because I'm so overwhelmed by it all. This video helped me put some things into perspective, and gave me some motivation.
Bruh i don't belief you are real lmfao. This video just goes to explain why normal approaches don't work for you and have the simplest solutions a child could think off
Thank you! Your description of the symtoms is spot on. I been struggling for 52 years, not knowing what my problem is. Never thought it could be ADHD and never trusted the self-test on the webb. Always connected ADHD with extrem physical restless behavior. But your description is so totaly spot on!! It opend my eyes and I can´t do anything else than accept that I do have ADD. This will help me to deal with how I function. And also deal with my youngest daughter who shows the same problems as me. Thank you!!
I needed this! I’m undiagnosed, but I’ve been considering getting a diagnosis. I’m so grateful for content like this it’s so helpful! ❤
This video safes my life. I blamed myself so much for being procrastinating because I always compared myself with other people. Now I know I should learn more about the ADHD brains.
I leave a comment on nearly all of your videos, which I watch in a cluster before moving on to someone else's video. I'm a 58 year old with ADHD. I'm just now realizing that. I've been realizing a bunch of things over these last three weeks! I don't remember where I was going with this...I got distracted by my cat. So, anyway, you are a blessing and so is this video. Thank you and bless your heart!🌷
For someone so young, you have some rather good insight and advice.
I have been suffering for a short attention all my life. When I get focused, I am told I am very productive.
I only wish I had the key to keeping that focus.
I have intuitively tried a lot of these methods, but unfortunately, I still struggle horribly. But I'm glad you mentioned having different places to work in. I think that that is a huge part of the problem I have because I'm extremely unhappy with my living situation. I think having the proper environment, one that is capable of stimulating you in a way that is condusive for your creative mode, is very key, and I would recommend that as an initial goal to create for yourself. If you dont have a space that works for you, it adds to the feeling of being overwhelmed, multiplied by X amount.
There is some real wisdom in this video. I especially like how you break down the static nature of some of these fixed assumptions. Here are some of the tips I found to be useful with students, including SPED, some of which are relatively similar to the ones in this video:
Start and finish your day with positive notes: Begin your day with a small task that you enjoy and end it with a cliffhanger (like a half-done successful task.) To learn more, consider watching some videos on how epinephrine AKA adrenaline secretion works.
Set aims instead of goals: For example, instead of saying: "I will study for three hours a day and master English in 6 months, say: "I will learn some English every day.
Pay attention to your environment: This may not sound very important, but having the right setup is key for ongoing productivity.
Take frequent short breaks instead of fewer longer ones: For example, instead of taking a 30-minute break every 3 hours, consider a 10-minute break every hour, especially if you're struggling with a task.
Create a positive reinforcement system: For example, say: Whenever I finish chapter 1, I will play my favorite video game for 1 hour.
Compare yourself to yourself and yourself ONLY: Do not compare yourself to who someone is right now, only compare yourself to who you were last year.
Don't live life, play life: You only truly lose what you care for, and you are far more likely to lose if you care too much. Think of life as a game. When you lose, you learn. When you win, you level-up.
Disclaimer: I am not a SPED teacher. I have yet to conduct any quantitative assessments to verify the effectiveness of these tips. If or when this happens, the results should be published somewhere on the web with a link in one of my channels.
Thank you for making this.
I did not expect that I'd relate this much. I've been naturally "intellectual" so I always try to do something new but tend to procastinate and then beat myself about it since I was a child. Never thought that it could be ADHD. I still am not sure if it could be ADHD but the methods you said to use for making oneself do something is something I've done sometimes randomly and worked rather than the general 'you can do it. just try' thing. I just feel overwhelmed right now because this hit way too close to home but it was the last thing I thought about. This is going to be a long journey but... I'll always keep this video as my reference and motivator. Thank you!
you are so pretty, i loved your haircut and makeup!
Gosh, I wish I've seen this video years ago. Had to learn a lot of these in the hard way and I've always felt guilty about not being "good enough" in neurotypical standards, but this video made me feel validated lol thank you sm!
Ruri’s video’s most spesific and exclusive side is she’s got a high level talent that to touch someone’s heart in a way! That’s why nearly 700k subscribers in every ocassion say “We love you RURİ!” One last thing l have to add , She loves us back!🙏🤗
I saw this video on my TH-cam homepage recommendation. I read the title and I immediately knew this is an extremely helpful video to me. I totally belong to the ADHD category, and I do constantly get distracted by always trying to learn new things while I'm trying to focus on one thing. It has been a really really major issue for me. A lot of the things in our lives have been designed to trap us into the non-ending cycle of wasting time. A person really don't need to be an ADHD to get distracted by stuff like Instagram, TH-cam, video games, movies, TV shows, or whatever that has been designed to take your self-care time away. So, I believe it also has to do with people forgetting to live in the moment, hurry sickness, & similar stuff. Recently I'm combating it. I think I'm making actual progress. Now I just need to keep the progress going.
One bit of advice I can give is to have empathy for your future self, you're gonna appreciate your past self more when you do.
its been awhile since I saw Ruri's videos but I swear she always glows up every time I come back ;-; really glad Ruri is doing well
I really like the point you made about switching your environment up and I feel you're right. I have been going to different libraries recently and I find that it really helps me get stimulated to be engaged in my work. Also, I have a favorite library that I go to often, but when I feel like I need to switch it up, I go to a new one nearby for one day. This makes me appreciate my favorite library more and I get reinvigorated again working there.
Unfortunately I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was very young, then diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder when I was around 22. Because Bipolar Disorder and ADHD are very often misdiagnosed for one another, I was required to take a battery of tests and see a bunch of specialists to confirm that I actually had both disorders, rather than just one of them. After about 2 years of monthly testing and seeing mental health professionals I was formally dual-diagnosed, and something you mentioned in this video caught my attention.
You had mentioned that people with ADHD often have trouble starting projects, but not so much with continuing or finishing them. I don't know how true that is, but I do know that I personally have trouble starting projects, which checks out. However, I often ALSO have trouble finishing projects, which is generally a symptom of Bipolar disorder. People with Bipolar disorder tend to start tons of projects and get grand ideas that they can never see to completion, something which has also been my experience. For me, my ADHD makes it very difficult to start anything that doesn't capture my attention in any way (which is the novelty factor you mentioned in this video) but Bipolar disorder seems to make it very difficult for me to finish anything I do start, in my experience because I tend to pursure projects and hobbies obsessively and thus tend to briefly touch on all aspects of them. I basically pursue anything novel, and then suck all of the novelty out of it before moving on to the next novel project.
What I will say is the one thing that has helped me, and is something you also mentioned; is competition. I can motivate myself to push through difficult or tedious training and the more 'boring' parts of projects as long there as a novel or dynamic aspect to my goal. If I'm competing, there's almost always a novel or dynamic aspect as humans themselves are novel and dynamic and thus there's no end to the amount of nuances, improvements, and innovations I can discover in the pursuit of 'becoming the best'
Not being able to finish projects etc is also a part of ADHD even if it wasn’t mentioned in the video, it’s mentioned in many diagnostic tools and a common symptom. I don’t say this because I want to devalue your observation for yourself just want to add this so that if anyone reads the comments and gets anxious about if they have bipolar disorder without any other symptoms of it they shouldn’t feel alarmed, but always consult a professional if you are concerned.
@@lb7564 Yeah that's fair. I probably should be more sensitive to that because I know it's been a bit of an epidemic (people relating to symptoms and potentially convincing themselves of diagnoses) and is something I have some experience with. My mom has extremely bad panic disorder and so she often 'adopts' conditions based on pathology she reads about online
To be clear to everyone else; the most important part of my story was that I had no idea I was bipolar until I saw a professional and had to go through years of testing before being formally diagnosed. ADHD and bipolar disorder are very often mistaken for one another and it seems to be unlikely for them to both be presenting strongly enough to get both diagnoses.
Something that I should also mention is that the vast majority of features present in both ADHD and Bipolar disorder are NOT indicative of those illnesses in isolation. What that means is that you may very well have a really hard time focusing, or have a hard time sticking to projects, and still be a completely healthy individual. In fact, even if you were to relate to many symptoms of, say, ADHD, if it's not having a disruptive or negative impact on your life then you likely wouldn't be diagnosed.
All this is to say that these diagnoses are basically indicative of totally normal problems, thought processes, or patterns of behavior that only require diagnosis or treatment if they meet a certain threshhold of disruption of function. Every individual is different, and psychology and even psychiatric medicine isn't as cut and dry as it seems, and that's why it's so important to consult professionals if you're struggling or concerned about something that gets in the way of you living your life.
i discovered pomodoro timers and made the most progress I've ever had with them before looking into adhd and suddenly everything started to click in my brain LOL ty for this video its comforting knowing its not my fault entirely i cant focus in a world thats constantly pulling at my attention
you won't believe how i procastinate: i watch videos on how to not procastinate. 😭
I save them in 'watch later'
@@danielpiesto532 I have this video open in my tab for a while now. Haven't even started watching yet, but apparently reading and writing comments is fine. So stupid how the brain works sometimes
I can never thank you enough for this video, I have suffered for so long and never had a clue 😢
How is it going if i can ask?
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I cant really say it got better, but at least it's not as baffling and puzzling, at the same time it's more disturbing now as I can notice it. And intensifies
@@hameedayoob8123 Oh I am sorry to hear that, don't be sad tho, keep trying!!!
Dr. Huberman and Dr. Peterson. Excellent! No wonder you're wonderful, logical, thoughtful and sensible, Ruri. But it's just you being you and yourself. You understand, Ruri, and the topics you take up are relevant for many types of people and is timely in today's world and society. You are not just there or here, but you are really living life and examining, questioning towards improving yourself, which is what real living is about. Thank you. God bless ❤
The concept of Hidden Time Wealth blew my mind. It’s like finding a cheat code for productivity and defeating procrastination.
I was diagnosed with ADHD 4 years ago. All this time I tried to understand what ADHD means for me and how can I find a way to cope with it. I watched a lot of videos and read a lot of things about it, but this is the first time to see something that summarizes my own experiences and understanding so well and that puts everything together in such an easy to understand and concise way. Thank you.
Are you medicated? I feel like I probably have adhd but I don’t want to be medicated
@@BlackGirlLovesAnime6 I'm not the guy you're replying to, but I was diagnosed as a child and medicated (Adderall, or amphetamine salts) for a few years before I had to stop due to developing an ED. Medication is definitely not for everyone, but I would speak to a specialist to see if you actually have it and if medication would be right for you. Even if you do get diagnosed, you don't *have* to be medicated.
Notes to self(adhd; procrastination skills):
Captuate
Create
Complete
Compete