No. As a former waitress and cook, its not ahole activity to ask for your orders to be staggered. Its ahole activity to ignore customers and to be rude.
How could anyone defend the waiter in the last story. The waiter didn’t even try to do their job right. Like how can you be fed up with reasonable requests that were repeated only when you failed to do them.
My best guess is that people takes op's story with to big of a grain of salt, they assume that since we only have op's point of view, it must be biased in his favor, and that therefore the waiter must be a lot less to blame. Honnestly, while I disagree I can get this, as this is probably how most karens would tell the stories where they acted like karens.
Story 5: I hate hate hate that I barely get two bites into my appetizer and the entree is brought out. So I ask for it to wait until we are done. I'm okay with waiting longer between as they cook it. But to bring it in so soon after I told them no to? Yeah, gonna get mad. Somewhere along the line someone didn't get the message to pause. OP is NTA.
Last story: NTA, the waitstaff were entirely in the wrong. She was asked UPFRONT to pace the appetizer and entrée so there would be time to finish the appetizer BEFORE the entrée was served and she failed to do that. Instead they brought the entrée out early MULTIPLE times, only to get huffy when it was sent back because the table wasn't ready for them. Then instead of keeping the plates under warming, they allowed OP's plate to go cold (which means it should have automatically been trashed and remade without charge). Waitress then avoids the table, refusing to refill drinks and the table have to get management involved. Management smooths things over and offers free refills to their margs but SHE BRINGS THE WRONG DRINKS and gets pissed off when she's corrected. Stiffing her tip is warranted because none of her service deserves it. Honestly, it wouldn't surprise me if management ended up firing her as she clearly doesn't belong in a customer service setting as she can't follow simple orders. Behavior like that will just cost the restaurant in the long run if they keep her.
I work at a McDonald's store. We typically try to get food out quickly. I'm one of the cooks for the sole reason of me just not being a people person. I genuinely dislike a large portion of people due to a general distrust of people. Hell, my old general manager made an agreement with me to avoid training me on service period because of that. (She was promoted to an area supervisor, so the agreement still stands) If I had ever decided to do what that waitress had done even with my status as a cook I'd likely get myself fired in a fucking heartbeat.
@@JosephLobato475576229 and? You can't really compare a fast food restaurant designed ground up to be the food equivalent of a T-ford factory with a regular restaurant that's using a bespoke crafts approach to food more akin to a 1930's rolls royce factory. Completely different concepts and expectations.
@@SonsOfLorgar I wasn't comparing jobs. I was explaining why I'm not in direct customer service and why that waitress shouldn't be working with people. I didn't explain it properly.
@@JosephLobato475576229 nah you're fine you were simple reinforcing the fact that no food service employee would act like the subject of the story without consequence that guy is just a moron looking for arguments, just ignore it
I've been a professional line cook for over 25 years. There should always be an 8-10 minutes minimum between the appetizer and entrée. The cooks shouldn't have cooked them simultaneously.
Last Story: As far as I'm concerned OP made only one demand/request: that the entree's not be brought until the appetizers are finished. This was ignored by the kitchen (if the server even told them). I'm 67yrs old and I've never been in a decent restaurant where OP's request would even have needed to be made. It would be the normal procedure. OP is NTA.
Yeah, you'd think a restaurant would stagger apps and entrees. HOWEVER, places are so anxious to turn every table many will rush every part of the service. I'm used to servers asking me if I want everything at once, if the order matters, etc. OPs request was pretty basic.
I work in food service and the waitress doesn't belong there. If a customer politely asks you to pace the food so nothing comes out at the same time "PACE THE FOOD SO IT DOESN'T COME OUT AT THE SAME TIME." Then don't get an attitude when the customer says they aren't ready for the main course yet. Dumb bitch! I'm on OP's side.
@@weybye91 No, it wouldn't be. 1. A professional restaurant should be used to this. 2. When you order seperate, your new order can take longer, because now everyone who ordered before you, gets their food first.
@@weybye91LOL, you couldn't be more wrong if you tried. You do know if you don't know what the fuck you're talking about the best way not to embarrass yourself is to simply keep your mouth shut... right?
Final story: OP you are not the A**hole. In fact, she had no right to be annoyed at "all your demands" because if she had just followed through with your first request like a good server, none of the other ones would have happened. She definitely doesn't understand customer service.
I honestly don't understand that server. Whenever my family goes out to eat, we always order our appetizers and main dishes at the same time, (I've never, ever had anyone ask us if we just want to order the appetizers and then leave the menus so we can order the other stuff later) and they always come out staggered, because that's the whole point in appetizers vs. main dishes. That server just messed up, didn't want to admit it, and then made the whole thing worse for everyone. No way should she have received any sort of tip.
@@weybye91 if this is anywhere in Europe at least, this is very common to order everything except pudding at once. Normally: 1- drinks while looking at menu 2- starters and main and maybe more drinks 3- pudding when finished with main I think it is perfectly reasonable to order everything at once if you know what you want. The server just didn't know how to relay this to the kitchen. All the server has to do it wait to tell the kitchen for the main or just tell the kitchen that OP's table wants to wait but here's what we want so it makes it easier (and faster) for everyone. It's literally what OP said, "can you wait for us to finish [aps] before giving us [ents]"
I don't think OP was the A-hole. They gave a heads-up at the start, and those instructions were ignored. Then they got cold food, and rude attitude. I wouldn't go back to a place like that.
the AITA story... absolutely not. I worked as a waiter and bartender for years before moving to manufacturing and maintenance. Therefore, I am well aware that I am a hard table to wait on because I remember all those service points that were hammered into me while I worked in the service industry. However, it is ABSOLUTELY your right as a diner to request your apps be finished before your entre arrives. It infuriates me when I am halfway thru a serving of fried calamari and my baked spaghetti is being dropped on the table. My wife doesn't understand, because she's never worked in a restaurant a day in her life- but she is my buffer. Bravo to OP for making a simple request and standing ground when it wasn"t honored.
When I go eat at Olive Garden they will ask if you want your meal brought out after appetizers or after we finish!! I’ve never worked in food service and I would think that is not being difficult!!
My opinion on the last story is, that OP is NOT the a-hole. The server got asked nicely to pace the meals, right? 5 minutes is not pacing... A professional waiter would bring the entrees and go his round. Then he /she would go to the table every few minutes, ask if everything is okay ad go on. The next meals should be served when the guests are ready, not when the kitchen made it because the server "forgot" to give the pacing info to the kitchen... I worked as a chef in restaurants and hotels for 13 years now and that should be the standard...
In Europe waiters often don't buzz around your head like angry wasps, and like any country other then America is a no tip culture, so they don't become instant Karen.
Final story, they are NTA. If anything, their mother was also an A, for even suggesting that the OP was a Karen. It is a rare instance of the Karen being the waiter.
100% NTA on that last story. Complaining isn't what makes someone a Karen, it's complaining about every tiny little thing. When you have clearly communicated an expectation to a server and they respond the way this one did, I wouldn't have given her a cent either, and I've worked in food service. If I'd been that manager I would have been comping that meal with one hand while firing that horrid server with the other.
I'm a notorious over-tipper. In my entire 60 years on this planet I have stiffed someone on a tip exactly once. That involved waiting 45 minutes for drinks, then an hour to order, followed by 45 more minutes for the food. When the food was ordered the server pulled up a chair, sat down, and told us about how he was suffering from a hangover, due to being out drinking the night before. He got tipped a whole Nickel. It was a mid-tier restaurant, not a hole in the wall. I didn't know this but despite the fact that I paid for everyone's meal, one of the others with me talked to the manager, and got a voucher for a free meal at a later date. I don't associate with that person anymore.
@@morallyambiguousnet Same. I rarely have servers who do anything other than great jobs and I do my best to not make their jobs any harder than it already is. I try to give generously because tipped minimum wage is ridiculous. It takes a very purposeful lack of caring to actually get me to the point of tipping like that - and I agree that giving a penny or a nickel is much more telling of displeasure than not tipping.
Last Story: NTA! I‘m a generous tipper, and I appreciate that serving is a hard exhausting job, but that’s not a reason to be rude. I only ever once didn’t tip, and that was when a server asked for a big tip while bringing the bill. We were about 15 people and we already decided to give him around 20 to 30% of a tip (where we were 10% was mandatory). And he wasn’t like: „don’t forget that tips are mandatory“ (which would be fine as we were clearly tourists). No, he was like „i was really nice to you, so I deserve a good tip“ we decided to give him 10% exactly. Let your actions speak. I usually tip the customary tips that are expected in the country I‘m visiting + another 5 to 15% depending on the service. In Switzerland, where tipping isn’t mandatory (and where I live) I still always give at least 10%. In my opinion hairdressers and waiters always deserve a tip. In Switzerland sadly you aren’t allowed to tip in convenience stores, or else I would tip there too. I‘m happy that there are people who do these jobs, which I wouldn’t have the patience for. 😊
Story 2: If you need a lifeguard to let you slide, then you wait for the lifeguard to let you slide. It's for safety reasons because nobody wants 80lb+ (36kg+) of human mass falling on top of them while swimming
I'd also like to point out that the brat went to the grandmother and not her family that was apparently there. Something tells me mom and dad would have told her no. And I think they said that plus a lot more harsh things to grandma on the way home.
There was actually a youth center that I used to go to a lot that had a major accident happen with a bratty older teen that was almost always at the indoor pool. I had the unfortunate luck to encounter her a few times and she was a monster though I was shy enough to not ever really been noticed by her. Her dad was one of the big donators to the center and had bullied all the managers and lifeguards into basically letting her do whatever she wanted although he was required to sign a release saying if she ever caused damages to anyone else or herself the center was not responsible in any way but her dad would be. Well, one day she decided to entirely disregard the waterslide rules and try to go down it standing up even after the lifeguard warned her not to several times. Long story short she fell over the side of the side about 20ft to a concrete floor. She survived but broke her spine and both legs which, by what I had heard from others who knew her, ruined her full ride athletics scholarship and basically made her unable to stand without aids and a fair amount of pain. I never personally saw her again after that but I did hear she straightened up and got her act together and actually ended up a pretty decent woman which was the one plus to the story...
Story #5; those weren’t demands, they were requesting that the food be staggered in serving. That waiter/waitress was ridiculous in NOT doing their job. I would have tipped, but ONLY 1 penny just to get the point across!
@@AlexOvTheAbyss well for one the kitchen staff obvi aren't doing their jobs either as they aren't supposed to cok app ans entrees at the same time but the server still brought the food out and someone else brought it out a second time
@@sesshomaruslover1 She didn't say that the server brought the food out the first time just that it was brought out, the second time it was brought out she did say that it was a done by the food runner/ another employee... so it's not the server's fault.
In Europe waiters often don't buzz around your head like angry wasps, and like any country other then America is a no tip culture, so they don't become instant Karen.
@@Some_Guy6 In germany tips are usually only given out if the service was exceptionally good. If someone expected a 20 euro tip for doing their job they'd be laughed outta the building. Jk, everybody knows germans don't laugh.
Story #1: If someone tried to order me to lend them my Wheelchair, I'd scream so fricken loud that they would have no choice but to leave me alone since I'd draw attention.
Honestly, given how some of these entitled stories go, I was waiting for that woman to grab OP’s wheelchair and try to dump her out of it, and for police to be needed. I’m relieved OP didn’t have to suffer through that at least.
I don’t understand people’s attitudes. You can be disabled or have serious health issues at any age. Some people are born with disabilities or health issues.
@@johnathansaegal3156 yup, how hard can it be to just presume that anyone with an aid device is using it because they need it. Period.? Either way, I'm designing a modification to my spouses electric wheelchair to compensate for shitty street design and maintenance... (It's getting self-tensioning rubber padded aluminium tracks with horizontal coil spring suspension for the road wheels, and if a Karen gets too abrasive, my spouse would be able to just pull off the wax cloth track guards and swipe the Karens shins with the upper section of the track by running over the Karens feet...
You suck it up when you're a server...for that tip you want! Although my entrees have come out plenty of time right after the appetizer. I just get to it when I get to it. No need to send it back TWICE. That was annoying.
@@jenn8179 Agreed, if I had not already asked for them to be staggered like OP did. In this case, not only did OP ask for it, then ask for it to be corrected, the instructions still did not get relayed properly. It's pretty cut and dry here. "Please do X, thank you. *X not done* "Please fix this. *X still not done* "This is still wrong, please fix this" For the server to not even attempt to honor the request, nor show any concern or remorse about said request not being handled the way they asked, is honestly just poor. Massive Grain of salt: We don't know the tone of voice or body language here, which can indeed make all the difference in the world, but end of the day it was still a singular, honestly pretty minor IMHO, request that wasn't handled and when asked to be fixed, wasn't until the point that there was obvious retaliation happening.
Parents do the craziest things when they pick up their kids at school. I once saw a mom make a violent, illegal u-turn in front of the school nearly hitting a second grader and then cursing her for getting in the moms way!
Both my kids were born c section. My second child I spent a week in the hospital and had very bad back pain. Walking made the pain worse. A week after being discharged I noticed we were low on food so my husband and I went grocery shopping. Shortly after getting in the store my back started hurting. I tried to toughen it out but the pain became unbearable. So I got a scooter. On the surface I look healthy. An employee was near the scooters. My husband explained that I just had a c section 2 weeks ago and got out of the hospital 1 week ago. Employee just brushed it off. Just an example of how someone can look healthy but need mobile assistance
I have many a galore of health problems. But everyone of them is invisible to the naked eye. Even as a kid i got the = I don't see it, so you don't have it treatment. Yeah, off course you cannot see my stomach and spine you fk ret@rd!
Can relate to the inheritance story. My mother didn't have a lot, but my entire life she made it clear that my sister was number one and would get whatever she wanted. My mother even stole a valuable relic from me and gave it to my sister's daughter. When my mother passed, my sister was her Power of Attorney and got every dime my mother had in the bank. I got ZIP! Needless to say, I haven't spoken to my sister for many years.
I feel that. My father recently rewrote his will to leave me out in favor of my brother. As a result, I cut them all out of my life. No point in talking to people who don't value you.
Same thing happened to me with my sister, she took EVERYTHING, even the things my mom had specifically put aside for me. Then she lied to my dad (they were divorced, but he still had a life insurance policy on mom) and he gave her the money from that too. Then I received the bill for mom’s headstone (that sister picked out without me) a year later. This happened in 2007, and I haven’t spoken to her since then, my sister is dead to me.
My mother keeps telling me my daughter will get everything when she dies!! And I go, "Ok!" My daughter's 7, my mum's 80. Good chance my daughter will be under 18 when she gets the money anyways.
@@SoManyRandomRamblings SAME BRO. My dad has some decent valuables that he plans to give to me, but we won't get it in writing, saying he has a plan. Me, my mother, his coworkers, and whoever he has as part of his plan has told him to do that, but he doesn't listen. and i don't trust his second wife. The woman's clingy, with manic issues, and her sons are stereotypical ghetto punks. i just hope she doesn't have access to whenever he stored them.
Asking that a meal be paced is not unreasonable. As a server, I've had several tables ask it and have requested it myself - especially in restaurants that fry everything. It's happened that the entrees come out before the salads are even delivered.
Last story - not an a**hole. The server was in the wrong. Her service was so poor she didn't deserve a tip. I've been a waitress and also in customer service for 40+ years. This kind of action would have gotten me fired.
Story 5: if they are in a restraunt that allows apps and entree’s then expecting them not to shove it all down their throats is kind of given… I can see why the server would feel slighted if they were crap at their job, but seriously NTA, the server wanted table turn-over, not to give good service.
I would have left two cents on the table just to let her know I thought about it! If you don’t give good service then your tip will be accordingly. No NTA!!
Yeah, I didn't think they were demanding at all. They only asked that the apps and entrees not come out right together... which the server clearly ignored! Then they asked her to fix it and she clearly just threw the plates somewhere as a means of getting back at the customer. The server gave HORRIBLE service. If they couldn't keep the food warm, she should have said that when they sent it back.
Tell me y'all have never been truly in the weeds in food without saying that. We have NO reference on the state surrounding this interaction. The fact it wasn't their normal server says so much than anything
@@hevytimes Oh, she's 'in the weeds' so she declares cold food isn't cold without even checking it? And she ignores the table for 20 minutes? And she brings them the wrong drinks? But we're supposed to think that wasn't just passive-aggressive BS from a pissed off server? I'd have no problem with a server who said...I'll ask them to pace the dishes. Unfortunately I can't predict how quickly the kitchen will have your food ready. OR a server who said we can't keep your entree warm if you send it back for arriving too soon. If the story is accurate, this person was just a poor excuse for a server, imo.
I've literally left 4 cents as a tip. The server flirted & fawned over my partner, repeatedly refilled his drink & checked he was happy with everything numerous times. Meanwhile she totally acted as if I wasn't even there! She got pissed at the tip I left, followed me out of the restaurant to "return my change" she said snarkily & that's when I told her the service I got wasn't worth a plugged nickle, that I'd already explained what she'd done to her boss (as a heads up for her bitching about the gal who stiffed her) & to earn better tips she just might want to stop pissing off the person paying the bill!
@@cathyrowe594 In Europe waiters often don't buzz around your head like angry wasps, and like any country other then America is a no tip culture, so they don't become instant Karen.
The thing about Karens is they never have legitimate complaints, it's always some ridiculous thing like they order $200 worth of food, but then demand everything is comped because they didn't like the scar on the cheek of someone else eating at the restaurant. When you have completely legitimate complaints like in Story 5, that's just called having a spine and calling someone out for their horrible attitude and service. Absolutely NTA.
About the last story, as a waitress myself (41 years of service) OP is NOT THE A**HOLE! The server definitely was. She forgot that she was depending on the clientele for her salary. OP was only asking for a very basic and logic service for him and his guests. It was absolutely normal to have their drinks first, than the appetizers, followed by maybe another round of drinks and than the entries. A good waiter (waitress) is supposed to sell and works for the house. He/she focuses on the satisfaction of the customers so they will be happy and even eager to come back. They might not be thrilled by the food but they will remember that they were treated like friends at the place.
Story #1: All I can say is, at least the Karen-hag didn't try to take OP's chair by force. Story #2: A Karen 3-in-1! Snarky, entitled AND violent! Story #3: Karma's a bitch, but the aunt was a bigger one. Story #4: And he would've gotten away with it too, if it weren't for his own stupidity. Story #5: Not every complaining customer is a Karen. OP was in the right here.
OP asked beforehand in story 5. + Why do most waiters turn into massive Karens when they get no/low tip? + Not everyone like having waiters buzz around their heads like angry wasps.
#1: I’m 33. Last year I was recovering from a sprained ankle and had just gotten off crutches. Decided to do overdue shopping. 2 hours later my ankle was red and swollen and I was like “ must. Sit.” I took a mobility cart and used it. The fact that I was grimacing every time I had to stand kept people away. Don’t just think people are young doesn’t mean that they don’t need them
Story 3: glad the aunt got what she deserved. My father, 4th son of 5 boys, 3 girls, was the black sheep of the family. He didn't fall under his moms rule and so she hated him. When my grandfather passed everything went to my grandmother, who told my father he wouldn't get anything. My grandfather had a lot of land and was to be evenly divided to his kids. My parents had to fight with a lawyer for his rightful share. Everyone in the family went against him. Thanks to a letter my parents kept, a letter my grandfather specifically stated he wanted my dad to get his part of the land, they won.
Last Story: Not the A-hole, that's just REALLY poor service. I don't know what it is like in the US, but here in the UK (and even when I've been away to Europe or Canada) main meals are never brought out until the appetisers are finished, it doesn't even need to be requested, that just SOP for the majority of the western world! I get that US hospitality needs to be different as they rely on tips to make ends meet, thus need the speed to earn money, but that's just another reason why it's terrible practice!
Canada also has the big business to lobby the gov to allow them to stiff wait staff of wages and instead force them to rely on the tips (IMO forcing the customers to compensate the wait staff for the greed of the restaurant industry).
The inheritance story, I’m not sure how things are in the UK but in the US we can submit a request for our relative’s military medals and decorations. OP should definitely look into this. They aren’t the originals, but he earned them and you deserve them to honor his service
The UK doesn't issue duplicate medals and in the inheritance story the medals were given to a relative, the cousin should have tried to buy them from 'Clive' if all he wanted was money. The cousin had no more right to them legally than 'Clive'. My nephew will inherit his Great Grandad's and Great Great Grandad's medals when he's older because he is the only male heir. If you have an immediate relative who never claimed their medal you can apply for it as it will still be with the office that deals with this. However it may be that somebody chose not to get their medal for personal reasons. So just for my own understanding are you saying in the US that they would issue duplicate medals in this instance? Then how do medals have a resale value?
@@shendisackett With a relatives DD-214 form, which is our discharge paperwork, listing condition of discharge, awards, etc, we can request they be replaced. Either ourselves or a direct family member. So if they are lost, damaged, stolen, etc we can have them replaced. The resale value comes from them being originals, issued during which ever conflict, some are worth a good bit, others are so common that they aren't worth much. Had to have mine, my late fiancée's and grandfathers replaced a few years ago because of a house fire. Obviously they aren't the originals, but are no less important to me. Thankfully my other relatives awards weren't at my new house yet at that point. Just to mention though, there are also replicas of most ribbons/medals available to purchase. Obviously the Medal Of Honor is not one of them.
@@sparkplug1018 that is interesting thank you. So I decided to look into it further our end as we normally have similar arrangements to the US and I had been given partially wrong information. So to correct what I wrote you can apply for replacement medals if the originals are stolen or destroyed. You have to provide evidence for this, like a police report or insurance claim, unfortunately for the OP in the story the medals weren't stolen so there's nothing they can do, except try to track them down and buy them back. The confusion with the information I was given came about because of my Great Grandad's medal, we have his medal for the Great War as WW1 was originally known, these are quite rare now, and the MOD will not replace medals from before 1920. I was referring to medals in general the person I asked thought I meant that particular medal. My Grandad lived to a very old age and he only showed me his war medals and talked about some of the things he'd seen in WW2 a month before he died. After it ended he was on a crew returning a carrier to the US and they stopped at many of the countries involved in the war so he saw things like the aftermath of Hiroshima.
@@shendisackett I'm happy to learn they can do that for veterans. And happy to hear you have his medal, I know how much they mean to a family. Completely understand his reluctance to talk much about it though. Many members of my family had served in pretty much every conflict the US has been involved in, but we don't really share war stories. Happy to discuss equipment we used though, just not really what we did with it.
The last story. No NTA mainly cause *(and I'm going to keep these short)* two different times i basically didn't leave a tip. Both places wasn't busy. The one took at least a half hour just to get a soda ordered and more time. The other one was when my mom and sis were at a place. The server basically was taking well care of a 12 party and not us (as in no one besides my mom sis and I and the 12 top). Asked a few times for a take out. Get the wadda-call-it and my mom and sis go up to pay while I sat and waited for a take out. Went up to get one. Got it and went back. All took legitimately a minute. Go back and there is the server. In goes my moms plate, my sis plate *and my plate.* Tossed the take out and said "f^^^ this s^^" and took the tip with me and gave it back to my mom.
Last story Definitely NOT the ahole they simply asked and the. Get treated like a parent sometimes does to a child whom refuses to eat.. I would have demanded a public apology and only pay the taxes for there order.
I knew a couple guys who had a thieving aunt. Her BF actually pulled a gun on the only child of one of the deceased, in the house of his own father. The reason? The aunt and him were not done robbing the place. The other guy had already had his parent's house ransacked by that point, so they knew to expect it.
My mom had that happen once, they didn't just bring out the starter and the main course at the same time but also the dessert! Regular midevil banquet style. Given they didn't try to hurry tables for a second round of guests it was pure dumb on their end.
Actually in the medieval times a meal consisted of "removes" (courses) where food would be brought out and you would be given a reasonable time to consume it leisurely. Then a second remove would be brought out, etc.
@@Rebekahdavignon There was no one way to do this back then. sweet dishes would share the table along with savory and they'd all stay until they were done. I think removes is from a more modern time as the people would serve themselves, you'd need a ton of servants for courses with as many people you had at a banquet.
@Rebekah Davignon yeah and the whole point of appetizers was to keep you occupied until the main course was ready. they'd also bring out platters of food a couple at a time and you'd serve yourself, then they'd bring out a platter of something new to replace the empty one, kind of like passing the various sides around the table at Thanksgiving.
The girl who was taunting the lifeguard, and her grandmother, the girl could've *killed* her brother and granny should've been charged for assault (I wonder if the slap was caught on camera, aka *evidence*!) Oh, and the ED that kicked the bumper so hard as to damage it, I wonder how his *wife* would've felt if he was taken away in handcuffs for filing a false report... Oh, and having his kid taken away...
For that last story, OP and their friends were being anything BUT entitled. They made reasonable requests, called out shitty behavior, and left a tip proportional to the service received. That waitress should be fired, and banned from the premises as well so she doesn’t cause any more scenes. I’m usually extremely nice and understanding of people in the service industry, but there is a limit, and that goes way beyond my limit.
Selling WW2 medals is so scummy. Their monetary value could NEVER come close to their sentimental value. I'm pretty much the only person in my family enthusiastic about our history, and all my aunt's and uncles now know that's the easiest gift to give me(not medals, just any old family stuff). A couple years ago, my aunt gave me an absolute TREASURE TROVE of my grandfather's old correspondence, research and notes from his time developing Beaver Tail radar, etc. It was one of the best gifts I've ever received, and I've barely touched it. I read one letter, and it wasn't labeled so I wasn't sure if it was to or from him, but by the end of the letter, I could see the way he spoke clear as day. I want to get it digitized, so I can read through it all without any risk of damage. I want them to last longer than even the memory of my own name, I want every descendant of that man to know how proud they should be, of him.
Scanners are cheap... even a high end flatbed one which can also scan photos and negatives are only a few hundred. Or might be able to talk to a museum to get them digitized, and allow them to also make a copy for their own use, as I assume you don't want to give up the originals. Could also talk to them about the best way to protect the originals so they last longer.
OK last story let's define what a KAREN is. A Karen is someone that goes overboard with complaints or entitlement. Asking a waitress to make sure your food courses are spreed out properly . Isn't being a Karen. Complaining because waitress failed to do so after being asked to. Is also not being a Karen. In fact the waitress was the Karen. She provided poor service then got bitchy because she was called out on it.
For the last story, if it really did happen the way the OP said then NTA. It's not really that difficult to check to see if they are almost done with appetizers before bringing out the mains. Giving attitude because you can't manage that is asinine.
Karen in the 1st story really 🤬 me off. Is she really that entitled to where that she thinks that just because a person is young, they must have healthy working legs
ppl do this ll the time to my friend bc they are only 31 and have made threats to them bc they have to use a mobility scooter from the stores we go to. I've taken to threatening to rip ppls guts out if they come near my friend when they do
Happened a few times to me when I was in a wheelchair, but ‘looked fine’. I even had folks try to get me out of my personal power chair so they could ‘borrow it’. And, yes, they were universally extremely large women who were ‘tired’.
The inheritance story makes me think of my family's businesses. My uncle is going to leave everything to my siblings and I but it's not going to be like a lot most of it's going to go towards debts and other bills. So I don't see anybody making any money in my family we're just going to be barely breaking even. So I'm not going to be running to Vegas the minute I get it.
Last story. The only work experience I had in food service was a runner in a restaurant in high school. But I have over 30 years in wholesale and retail management. Not the a-hole. I don't care how bad a day that server is having. She could cost the restaurant future business when OP spreads the bad event to at least 10 friends. No tolerance; you're fired.
Pacing courses is the second-most basic thing in serving. What demands was OP making? Sorry fluff. But that's totally the server's fault. Either the server told the kitchen to do it all at once so she could have a longer smoke break, or she didn't tell the kitchen to slow it down. It's extremely unlikely it's the latter.
in the last story it's not unreasonable to expect proper pacing of the meals. that's just a factor of running a restaurant and the kitchen is mostly to blame on their food being done well before the table has a chance to finish the appetizers. the server was being very unproffessional in handling the situation throughout the story. obviously this is only one-side to the record of events so very easily OP could be lying.
That first one with the wheelchair. I was recovering from an injury that caused me to be bedridden for 2 and a half months. Just getting from my vehicle to the store was a painful experience. Now yes, I am overweight, genetic disorders suck, but it had nothing to do with this problem. So I manage to get inside, and into the store's scooter. I *hate* those things. They are too slow, too short, and the seats are SO not comfortable. Multiple times I had older individuals scream at me that "You're young you don't NEED that!" And younger individuals who were OBVIOUSLY walking just fine going "You wouldn't be so FAT if you would start walking, let ME use it, my feet hurt!" It's not like I wanted to use the thing, I kinda had to. Of course, I eventually recovered enough I didn't have to use it anymore, but entitled assh.....les are the worst! It's like yeesh, I'm aware I'm big, I'm aware I didn't "look disabled" and I'm aware I tend to always look younger than I am. But people may have hidden disabilities, don't judge. Also, I've found the scooters in the lots by the cart returns and have been kind enough to return them to the store on more than one occasion even though I don't work there. Don't scream at me and say I'm joyriding. Those things are NOT meant to be left outside, I'm just trying to be nice.
Story 2 - They don't make grandmas like they used to. If I had ever pulled a stunt like that, my Grandma would have taken me over to the nearest tree, cut herself a switch, and tanned my hide in front of the whole crowd!
Ain't that the truth, I have an aunt whose grandsons are disrespectful to practically anyone they don't see that would benefit them which includes myself their uncle. And they have the same entitlement of "my grandma says I could so you should let me". She is now seeing the monsters she has created but she does nothing to stop it. But yes my grandma who is her mom would never allow us to do that. If I disrespected anyone then we would have left and I would have been in trouble. I think they think if they spoil them then they won't resent them like their parents do. Well at least my aunt, this grandma obviously is entitled and wants to make her grandkids feel the same way
Last story: Totally NTA. She made the request when ordering that she wanted service paced. (I do this myself as I used to be a waitress myself. It is a courtesy to the server, especially as I am a slow eater & like to savor good meals.) The server was entitled & incompetent & tried to cover it with arrogance.
When I worked at a grocery store there was a young man who would ride his bike to the store and then get into the mobility scooter that we had for disabled people and ride around to get his groceries. Then after he paid he would ride out to his bike and get on it and ride home. Never did find out what his story was.
I am not a doctor... but was it a regular bike or a recumbent with hand controls? I could see that and having issues with his legs. But more likely was not needing it. As long as he wasn't inconveniencing those who really needing it... and not using it to slam through others... I don't see an issue and sounds like nobody bothered him either, and just let him use it.
@@wolphin732 it was just a regular bike. Like I said, I never found out what his story was. Many people made remarks about it . There were times when a disabled person would come in and have to wait for him to get done but I live in the south and most people are too polite to say anything in a situation like that. I mean , not say anything to HIM. I heard about since I was a manager. It just seemed strange. He very well could have had some kind of medical condition for all we knew.
Last story: this is honestly ridiculous. I’ve worked in MANY restaurants and in tons where people liked to eat slowly and we had to hold food sometimes before sending it to the kitchen, or hold the food under a hot plate until the table was ready to be served. This is in no way a crazy request, and OP is not a Karen for expecting that it be respected and to not get cold food when their food finally does come. I would have never imagined speaking to a table that way, entitled or not.
First story: a friend of mine, who admits to having a slight weight problem, injured his back some time ago. While shopping at a local Walmart, he needed a motorized cart while having a bad day with his back. An employee had denied him the use of the cart as he was “too young to has serious issues.” My friend insisted the employee accompany him while shopping. Surprisingly, the employee complied. He got to witness my friend holding himself up with a normal shopping cart while having several extremely painful bouts of pain. When the employee asked what was wrong, my friend replied “I needed that cart because of my back issues.” At that point a manager showed up asking why the employee was following my friend around. After a brief explanation, the manager called for a motorized cart and told off the employee for refusing my friend’s use of the cart in the first place. This was a few years ago and my friend has managed his weight and his back issues better since then.
I had a cousin who was a pack rat. Made me realize that she went thru some serious trauma when her husband died of cancer. When my dad's oldest sibling, my cousin's mom died. Several members of the family were supposed to inherit things from my aunt. My cousin refused to give up the items. Including a few things that were to go to her brother's oldest daughter. I am hoping that my male cousin's daughter got the items after his sister died. I also believe that she took stuff from his house when he died as a claim that supposedly it was to go to her.
Man, that server in the last story. 11/5 AH score for her. She only came up all bubbly for the check because she wanted to weasel a good tip out of OP. She ruined any chance of any tip at all before the meals were served, by refusing to honor a singular, simple request. I hope she got fired.
Consignment store wheelchair story: Good grief! I live in an area where you can't swing a cat without hitting a flea market/antique store. None of them provide wheelchairs or mobility scooters and some are definitely big enough you'd want one. But it's usually not too hard to find a booth with canes/walkers/rollators/wheelchairs for sale either. But unless someone is OBVIOUSLY just messing around, it's usually safe to assume they need whatever mobility aid they are using. Slapping the head lifeguard story: Personally, I think the police should have been called. Grandma's gotten away with this type of behavior too many time to ONLY kick her out. Cracked bumper story: When the jerk pulled out and wasn't paying attention is when OP should have pulled out his phone and started taking pictures. Server story: I understand that in the US servers are paid less than minimum wage due to tips. But tips are not mandatory either and, in my opinion, if you want a tip, let alone a good tip, the service needs to be adequate at a minimum. Give me attitude and/or poor service and I'll leave a tip commensurate with the attitude/service. And that sometimes means no tip.
Hello story number two, I went to a waterpark in the Poconos during a religious holiday. I won’t say which one. And the adult males and the teenage males that came to enjoy the waterpark and the hotel refuse to listen to the females that worked in the building anywhere so the whole weekend I could not use the adult hot tub because it was full of fathers with their infant babies and no swimmy’s on. I swear the water smelled like my kids diaper bag when he was six months old it was disgusting and every time one of the female employees went to tell the fathers they can’t have the babies in the hot tub they ignored her , so she would have to go get a male employee. At one point one of the fathers started screaming at the female employee in a language I did not understand. She simply took her walkie-talkie off her shoulder and push the button, and I guess she was letting the boss hear what this person was saying , three employees and two policeman came in and took out like 30 people. It was hysterical and wonderful at the same time. Unfortunately, we were scheduled to go again, but then Cove it happened. I have not been back cents. Thank you for letting me rant.
that last one def in't the karen for not wanting their food to just sit on the table while they eat the apps the wait staff were unprofessional and not smart to not understand a simple request then to turn around and act like they are ruining their lives for wanting what they ordered and only acting polite when it's time to pay cause they want a tip
Wtf is wrong with the waiter in the last story? Were they working there as punishment? Was their family held hostage and they were blackmailed into working there? Cannot follow simple instructions, is rude to the customers, I wonder how long they'd be able to hold down that job, because such behaviour is repelling af, I guess only desperate customer / customer without any other dining out options would come back to the place they were treated like that by a server, whose job is to ensure the customers have nice experience and dine there again.
The water park guard should definitely have called the police. I wonder how many times she’s done this to other employees, and gotten away with it without being arrested. Or at least, then her granddaughter could’ve learned a lesson. Keep your freaking hands to yourself or land up getting arrested just like grandma.
Last story: OP was definitely NTA. Her request was honestly simple and was made known up front. People are so quick to throw around the karen title these days, forgetting that people are allowed to make LEGITIMATE complaints. If the complaint is legit its NOT being a karen. People should he allowed to stand up for themselves without being accused of being Karens. Its the same thing now adays as the term bridezilla being over used. Its seems that if people, ESPECIALLY women dont allow themselves to be walked all over and meek submissive little girls, then we get called Karens, bridezillas, or both
Last story not the a.hole : I used to work in a restaurant and they take the most of the orders at the same time ....appetizer + salad + entrees ....except for the desert. > They'll serve a salad after you finish the appetizer. > They will serve the Entrees after you done and the table was cleared and ready for the Entrees.
For the last story, the only demand that started this whole fiasco was to wait on bringing the entrees out. Simple request. Most times there isn't any room on the table to have both appetizers and entrees for everyone, so you end up scooping things to one plate or feeling rushed to finish. The server could have easily waited to put the entree orders in and all would have went smooth. So rushed it.
Story 5: Honestly the server has no reason for their behavior. The server started off with the attitude by deliberately ignoring their request and harassing them throughout their meal then ignoring them when they were ready to eat. they were unprofessional and seemed to have a chip on their shoulder long before OP showed up. My guess is that server probably isn't working there anymore. OP is definitely not he asshole here.
This goes out to OP in story 3. You may be able to get help replacing your grandfather’s medals. I was able to get my grandfather’s medals with help from a very kind veteran. Try your local VFW post or maybe even a local recruiting station. Good luck. ❤
as someone who works in a restaurant the op in the last story definitely isn’t an asshole. i don’t know if that waitress was having a bad day but even when im having a bad day i would never act like that towards a customer. i also don’t blame them for not wanting to tip the waitress
1st story…my father in law used to call the store scooters, mobility chairs, etc “blubber buggy”. He spent the last 8 years of his life after having a stroke in an electric “blubber buggy” being 1/2 paralyzed.
The story about the mom telling a child they wished they’d aborted them was so awful. My mom asked if I could come home this weekend and initially I really didn’t want to. But she is the best mom anyone could ever have and hearing these stories makes me realize that I am SO lucky and that she has done so much for me
That last story reminded me of the only time I've ever gotten angry at a restaurant. Though mine wasn't at the waiter mine was the fact that my food was overcooked and frozen. Oh and that my grandmother received two of her meals before I received my one meal.
DarkFluff. I'm concerned. When you read the 2nd story. Your voice was exactly as I've heard karen (Grandma)speak. You may need to take a break. It was very convincing.
the story about inheritance kind of hit home for me. My Dad who had been divorced for 7 years at the time of his passing did not have a new will made since my parents split. Before me or my sister were up to going to his place my cousins had already let them self's in and rummaged threw his stuff for things they wanted. My Dad was not wealthy or much into planning, he did not renew his life insurance after the divorce and since there was no new will it reverted to a will he had before he was married so everything was to go to my aunt, My mother fought this to make sure that me and my sister would get it ad won, but not before the legal battle ate threw what little my father had. So when all was said and done there was $5000 to split between me and my sister and since she at the time owed me around $5000 i got her half of the money, and we went threw and collected a few mementos. Then there was a fight between aunt, and uncle over other items and they never spoke to each other again shortly after that.
Story 2, waterslide Karen: I hope that the family didn't get a refund, grandma got a permanent ban, and shame that she didn't some nice shiny new wrist bracelets from the local cops. Story 3: The entitled aunt still has one option for work, hint it's one of the oldest professions in the world and she only needs to be able to open her mouth or spread her legs to do it. Last story: OP is not the ahole as they hade asked the server to please pace the meal, so the server should have just checked in with the table once they were halfway through the apps to see if they wanted the entrees started to be ready for about when they would be done with the apps. Is this a bit extra work, yes, but a bit extra work with a good attitude will often garner you a nice tip. But that server decided they didn't want to do anything more then the bare minimum for OP's table and even tended to every other table as much as possible before going anywhere near OP's table. If I was OP in this case I would asked the manager to put our meals in to go boxes so we can go home and eat as that server was now refusing to even come near our table, and was acting more like a spoiled bratty 5 year old then what a professional should be acting like. Then the next day I'd call and speak with the owner about that server. I'd say that I am not looking to get them fired, but at the very least they need a good lesson in professionalism, because in service work you will always encounter groups that have a few extra requests then other groups, this is part of the job, and as long as the requests are reasonable then there should be no issue with doing them. In my many years of eating out at various places all over the country, the servers have always asked if we were done or close to done with the appetizers and would like our meals. So OP is not the a$$hole, that server is just a lazy brat.
Don't you just love it when the the legal eagles slap idiots so hard with the justice of the law that they just end up rolling into jail from the impact? I sure as hell do. 🙃🤣
In the last story it was perfectly fine to ask if they could have their main dish later. If for some reason it can't be done (I wouldn't know why if anything it gives the kitchen more time) then they should be told so immediately. If the waitress tells that it's ok but then doesn't deliver on it it's her fault.
No. As a former waitress and cook, its not ahole activity to ask for your orders to be staggered. Its ahole activity to ignore customers and to be rude.
How could anyone defend the waiter in the last story. The waiter didn’t even try to do their job right. Like how can you be fed up with reasonable requests that were repeated only when you failed to do them.
My best guess is that people takes op's story with to big of a grain of salt, they assume that since we only have op's point of view, it must be biased in his favor, and that therefore the waiter must be a lot less to blame. Honnestly, while I disagree I can get this, as this is probably how most karens would tell the stories where they acted like karens.
I was expecting the waiter/waitress to follow them outside and screaming at them about the no tip .. there was a similar story at some point like that
Story 5: I hate hate hate that I barely get two bites into my appetizer and the entree is brought out. So I ask for it to wait until we are done. I'm okay with waiting longer between as they cook it. But to bring it in so soon after I told them no to? Yeah, gonna get mad. Somewhere along the line someone didn't get the message to pause. OP is NTA.
Last story: NTA, the waitstaff were entirely in the wrong. She was asked UPFRONT to pace the appetizer and entrée so there would be time to finish the appetizer BEFORE the entrée was served and she failed to do that. Instead they brought the entrée out early MULTIPLE times, only to get huffy when it was sent back because the table wasn't ready for them. Then instead of keeping the plates under warming, they allowed OP's plate to go cold (which means it should have automatically been trashed and remade without charge). Waitress then avoids the table, refusing to refill drinks and the table have to get management involved. Management smooths things over and offers free refills to their margs but SHE BRINGS THE WRONG DRINKS and gets pissed off when she's corrected. Stiffing her tip is warranted because none of her service deserves it. Honestly, it wouldn't surprise me if management ended up firing her as she clearly doesn't belong in a customer service setting as she can't follow simple orders. Behavior like that will just cost the restaurant in the long run if they keep her.
I work at a McDonald's store. We typically try to get food out quickly. I'm one of the cooks for the sole reason of me just not being a people person. I genuinely dislike a large portion of people due to a general distrust of people. Hell, my old general manager made an agreement with me to avoid training me on service period because of that. (She was promoted to an area supervisor, so the agreement still stands) If I had ever decided to do what that waitress had done even with my status as a cook I'd likely get myself fired in a fucking heartbeat.
@@JosephLobato475576229 and? You can't really compare a fast food restaurant designed ground up to be the food equivalent of a T-ford factory with a regular restaurant that's using a bespoke crafts approach to food more akin to a 1930's rolls royce factory.
Completely different concepts and expectations.
@@SonsOfLorgar I wasn't comparing jobs. I was explaining why I'm not in direct customer service and why that waitress shouldn't be working with people. I didn't explain it properly.
@@JosephLobato475576229 nah you're fine you were simple reinforcing the fact that no food service employee would act like the subject of the story without consequence
that guy is just a moron looking for arguments, just ignore it
I've been a professional line cook for over 25 years. There should always be an 8-10 minutes minimum between the appetizer and entrée. The cooks shouldn't have cooked them simultaneously.
Last Story: As far as I'm concerned OP made only one demand/request: that the entree's not be brought until the appetizers are finished. This was ignored by the kitchen (if the server even told them). I'm 67yrs old and I've never been in a decent restaurant where OP's request would even have needed to be made. It would be the normal procedure. OP is NTA.
Yeah, you'd think a restaurant would stagger apps and entrees. HOWEVER, places are so anxious to turn every table many will rush every part of the service. I'm used to servers asking me if I want everything at once, if the order matters, etc. OPs request was pretty basic.
I work in food service and the waitress doesn't belong there. If a customer politely asks you to pace the food so nothing comes out at the same time "PACE THE FOOD SO IT DOESN'T COME OUT AT THE SAME TIME." Then don't get an attitude when the customer says they aren't ready for the main course yet. Dumb bitch! I'm on OP's side.
well now it dosent say anywhere if the kitchen were busy, and the most NORMAL thing would be to order the stuff sepretly
@@weybye91
No, it wouldn't be.
1. A professional restaurant should be used to this.
2. When you order seperate, your new order can take longer, because now everyone who ordered before you, gets their food first.
@@weybye91LOL, you couldn't be more wrong if you tried. You do know if you don't know what the fuck you're talking about the best way not to embarrass yourself is to simply keep your mouth shut... right?
Final story: OP you are not the A**hole. In fact, she had no right to be annoyed at "all your demands" because if she had just followed through with your first request like a good server, none of the other ones would have happened. She definitely doesn't understand customer service.
Plot twist : the servers were Ursula and Phoebe Buffay.
They were unreasonable and borderline stupid. You guys love defending entitled people when it fits a narrative
I honestly don't understand that server. Whenever my family goes out to eat, we always order our appetizers and main dishes at the same time, (I've never, ever had anyone ask us if we just want to order the appetizers and then leave the menus so we can order the other stuff later) and they always come out staggered, because that's the whole point in appetizers vs. main dishes.
That server just messed up, didn't want to admit it, and then made the whole thing worse for everyone. No way should she have received any sort of tip.
or here is an idea, you dont place the orders at the same fucking time
@@weybye91 if this is anywhere in Europe at least, this is very common to order everything except pudding at once.
Normally:
1- drinks while looking at menu
2- starters and main and maybe more drinks
3- pudding when finished with main
I think it is perfectly reasonable to order everything at once if you know what you want. The server just didn't know how to relay this to the kitchen. All the server has to do it wait to tell the kitchen for the main or just tell the kitchen that OP's table wants to wait but here's what we want so it makes it easier (and faster) for everyone.
It's literally what OP said, "can you wait for us to finish [aps] before giving us [ents]"
I don't think OP was the A-hole. They gave a heads-up at the start, and those instructions were ignored. Then they got cold food, and rude attitude. I wouldn't go back to a place like that.
the AITA story... absolutely not. I worked as a waiter and bartender for years before moving to manufacturing and maintenance. Therefore, I am well aware that I am a hard table to wait on because I remember all those service points that were hammered into me while I worked in the service industry. However, it is ABSOLUTELY your right as a diner to request your apps be finished before your entre arrives. It infuriates me when I am halfway thru a serving of fried calamari and my baked spaghetti is being dropped on the table. My wife doesn't understand, because she's never worked in a restaurant a day in her life- but she is my buffer. Bravo to OP for making a simple request and standing ground when it wasn"t honored.
When I go eat at Olive Garden they will ask if you want your meal brought out after appetizers or after we finish!! I’ve never worked in food service and I would think that is not being difficult!!
On the story about the teenager breaking the rules and grandma slapping the other guard, I would have told them, you are BANNED FOREVER.
My opinion on the last story is, that OP is NOT the a-hole. The server got asked nicely to pace the meals, right? 5 minutes is not pacing... A professional waiter would bring the entrees and go his round. Then he /she would go to the table every few minutes, ask if everything is okay ad go on. The next meals should be served when the guests are ready, not when the kitchen made it because the server "forgot" to give the pacing info to the kitchen... I worked as a chef in restaurants and hotels for 13 years now and that should be the standard...
In Europe waiters often don't buzz around your head like angry wasps, and like any country other then America is a no tip culture, so they don't become instant Karen.
Final story, they are NTA. If anything, their mother was also an A, for even suggesting that the OP was a Karen.
It is a rare instance of the Karen being the waiter.
100% NTA on that last story. Complaining isn't what makes someone a Karen, it's complaining about every tiny little thing. When you have clearly communicated an expectation to a server and they respond the way this one did, I wouldn't have given her a cent either, and I've worked in food service. If I'd been that manager I would have been comping that meal with one hand while firing that horrid server with the other.
I'm a notorious over-tipper. In my entire 60 years on this planet I have stiffed someone on a tip exactly once. That involved waiting 45 minutes for drinks, then an hour to order, followed by 45 more minutes for the food. When the food was ordered the server pulled up a chair, sat down, and told us about how he was suffering from a hangover, due to being out drinking the night before. He got tipped a whole Nickel. It was a mid-tier restaurant, not a hole in the wall. I didn't know this but despite the fact that I paid for everyone's meal, one of the others with me talked to the manager, and got a voucher for a free meal at a later date. I don't associate with that person anymore.
@@morallyambiguousnet Same. I rarely have servers who do anything other than great jobs and I do my best to not make their jobs any harder than it already is. I try to give generously because tipped minimum wage is ridiculous. It takes a very purposeful lack of caring to actually get me to the point of tipping like that - and I agree that giving a penny or a nickel is much more telling of displeasure than not tipping.
Last Story:
NTA! I‘m a generous tipper, and I appreciate that serving is a hard exhausting job, but that’s not a reason to be rude. I only ever once didn’t tip, and that was when a server asked for a big tip while bringing the bill. We were about 15 people and we already decided to give him around 20 to 30% of a tip (where we were 10% was mandatory).
And he wasn’t like: „don’t forget that tips are mandatory“ (which would be fine as we were clearly tourists). No, he was like „i was really nice to you, so I deserve a good tip“ we decided to give him 10% exactly.
Let your actions speak.
I usually tip the customary tips that are expected in the country I‘m visiting + another 5 to 15% depending on the service. In Switzerland, where tipping isn’t mandatory (and where I live) I still always give at least 10%.
In my opinion hairdressers and waiters always deserve a tip. In Switzerland sadly you aren’t allowed to tip in convenience stores, or else I would tip there too. I‘m happy that there are people who do these jobs, which I wouldn’t have the patience for. 😊
Story 2: If you need a lifeguard to let you slide, then you wait for the lifeguard to let you slide. It's for safety reasons because nobody wants 80lb+ (36kg+) of human mass falling on top of them while swimming
And no park owner wants to deal with the lawsuit grandma would have brought after her spoiled granddaughter managed to injure herself and her brother.
I'd also like to point out that the brat went to the grandmother and not her family that was apparently there. Something tells me mom and dad would have told her no. And I think they said that plus a lot more harsh things to grandma on the way home.
@@Arcane_Route_66 one can only hope granny got read the riot act.
There was actually a youth center that I used to go to a lot that had a major accident happen with a bratty older teen that was almost always at the indoor pool. I had the unfortunate luck to encounter her a few times and she was a monster though I was shy enough to not ever really been noticed by her. Her dad was one of the big donators to the center and had bullied all the managers and lifeguards into basically letting her do whatever she wanted although he was required to sign a release saying if she ever caused damages to anyone else or herself the center was not responsible in any way but her dad would be. Well, one day she decided to entirely disregard the waterslide rules and try to go down it standing up even after the lifeguard warned her not to several times. Long story short she fell over the side of the side about 20ft to a concrete floor. She survived but broke her spine and both legs which, by what I had heard from others who knew her, ruined her full ride athletics scholarship and basically made her unable to stand without aids and a fair amount of pain. I never personally saw her again after that but I did hear she straightened up and got her act together and actually ended up a pretty decent woman which was the one plus to the story...
@@Arcane_Route_66 I'm surprised they didn't bring assault charges. The footage would have clearly shown her slapping the life guard.
Story #5; those weren’t demands, they were requesting that the food be staggered in serving. That waiter/waitress was ridiculous in NOT doing their job. I would have tipped, but ONLY 1 penny just to get the point across!
I've never heard of a waitress being in charge of a kitchen
Beat me to it. great comment.
@@AlexOvTheAbyss well for one the kitchen staff obvi aren't doing their jobs either as they aren't supposed to cok app ans entrees at the same time but the server still brought the food out and someone else brought it out a second time
we're only hearing the OP's point of view. "5 minutes" might have been 20min for all we know
@@sesshomaruslover1 She didn't say that the server brought the food out the first time just that it was brought out, the second time it was brought out she did say that it was a done by the food runner/ another employee... so it's not the server's fault.
I was a waitress for over 25 years as well as a certified trainer and if I worked there, that waitress would be out of a job in a heartbeat
In Europe waiters often don't buzz around your head like angry wasps, and like any country other then America is a no tip culture, so they don't become instant Karen.
@@Some_Guy6 In germany tips are usually only given out if the service was exceptionally good. If someone expected a 20 euro tip for doing their job they'd be laughed outta the building.
Jk, everybody knows germans don't laugh.
Story #1: If someone tried to order me to lend them my Wheelchair, I'd scream so fricken loud that they would have no choice but to leave me alone since I'd draw attention.
Honestly, given how some of these entitled stories go, I was waiting for that woman to grab OP’s wheelchair and try to dump her out of it, and for police to be needed. I’m relieved OP didn’t have to suffer through that at least.
Almost all of these people end up in predicaments because they were too accommodating and unwilling to make a scene.
@@themayhemofmadness7038 As was I, but alas, we didn't get anything like that.
I don’t understand people’s attitudes. You can be disabled or have serious health issues at any age. Some people are born with disabilities or health issues.
@@johnathansaegal3156 yup, how hard can it be to just presume that anyone with an aid device is using it because they need it. Period.?
Either way, I'm designing a modification to my spouses electric wheelchair to compensate for shitty street design and maintenance...
(It's getting self-tensioning rubber padded aluminium tracks with horizontal coil spring suspension for the road wheels, and if a Karen gets too abrasive, my spouse would be able to just pull off the wax cloth track guards and swipe the Karens shins with the upper section of the track by running over the Karens feet...
Last story: When you have a legitimate complaint, you're not being a Karen. That server was completely unprofessional. She deserves no tip.
@@TheIronWarlockXIIII think it should just be a pay cut, rather than a throat cut
You suck it up when you're a server...for that tip you want! Although my entrees have come out plenty of time right after the appetizer. I just get to it when I get to it. No need to send it back TWICE. That was annoying.
@@jenn8179 Agreed, if I had not already asked for them to be staggered like OP did. In this case, not only did OP ask for it, then ask for it to be corrected, the instructions still did not get relayed properly. It's pretty cut and dry here. "Please do X, thank you. *X not done* "Please fix this. *X still not done* "This is still wrong, please fix this"
For the server to not even attempt to honor the request, nor show any concern or remorse about said request not being handled the way they asked, is honestly just poor.
Massive Grain of salt: We don't know the tone of voice or body language here, which can indeed make all the difference in the world, but end of the day it was still a singular, honestly pretty minor IMHO, request that wasn't handled and when asked to be fixed, wasn't until the point that there was obvious retaliation happening.
Srver here. Agreed.
@@stinkertonsden "massive grain of salt" 🤣🤣🤣 Truth!
Parents do the craziest things when they pick up their kids at school. I once saw a mom make a violent, illegal u-turn in front of the school nearly hitting a second grader and then cursing her for getting in the moms way!
I hope someone else saw it too and got police involved, because that mom should not be allowed to drive any kind of vehicle with that attitude.
Both my kids were born c section. My second child I spent a week in the hospital and had very bad back pain. Walking made the pain worse. A week after being discharged I noticed we were low on food so my husband and I went grocery shopping. Shortly after getting in the store my back started hurting. I tried to toughen it out but the pain became unbearable. So I got a scooter. On the surface I look healthy. An employee was near the scooters. My husband explained that I just had a c section 2 weeks ago and got out of the hospital 1 week ago. Employee just brushed it off.
Just an example of how someone can look healthy but need mobile assistance
I have many a galore of health problems. But everyone of them is invisible to the naked eye. Even as a kid i got the = I don't see it, so you don't have it treatment. Yeah, off course you cannot see my stomach and spine you fk ret@rd!
Can relate to the inheritance story. My mother didn't have a lot, but my entire life she made it clear that my sister was number one and would get whatever she wanted. My mother even stole a valuable relic from me and gave it to my sister's daughter. When my mother passed, my sister was her Power of Attorney and got every dime my mother had in the bank. I got ZIP! Needless to say, I haven't spoken to my sister for many years.
I feel that. My father recently rewrote his will to leave me out in favor of my brother. As a result, I cut them all out of my life. No point in talking to people who don't value you.
Same thing happened to me with my sister, she took EVERYTHING, even the things my mom had specifically put aside for me. Then she lied to my dad (they were divorced, but he still had a life insurance policy on mom) and he gave her the money from that too. Then I received the bill for mom’s headstone (that sister picked out without me) a year later. This happened in 2007, and I haven’t spoken to her since then, my sister is dead to me.
I anticipate this to be what happens when my father passes.
My mother keeps telling me my daughter will get everything when she dies!! And I go, "Ok!" My daughter's 7, my mum's 80. Good chance my daughter will be under 18 when she gets the money anyways.
@@SoManyRandomRamblings SAME BRO. My dad has some decent valuables that he plans to give to me, but we won't get it in writing, saying he has a plan. Me, my mother, his coworkers, and whoever he has as part of his plan has told him to do that, but he doesn't listen. and i don't trust his second wife. The woman's clingy, with manic issues, and her sons are stereotypical ghetto punks. i just hope she doesn't have access to whenever he stored them.
Asking that a meal be paced is not unreasonable. As a server, I've had several tables ask it and have requested it myself - especially in restaurants that fry everything. It's happened that the entrees come out before the salads are even delivered.
Last Story: as a restaurant worker for 15 years OP was NTA! The server was unprofessional and rude. No tip earned.
Last story - not an a**hole. The server was in the wrong. Her service was so poor she didn't deserve a tip. I've been a waitress and also in customer service for 40+ years. This kind of action would have gotten me fired.
Story 5: if they are in a restraunt that allows apps and entree’s then expecting them not to shove it all down their throats is kind of given… I can see why the server would feel slighted if they were crap at their job, but seriously NTA, the server wanted table turn-over, not to give good service.
Imagine if they tried that to someone like Gordon Ramsay or John taffer?
@@Some_Guy6 Ramsey & Taffer would have been all over the waitress AND the manager like there was no tomorrow!!!!
@@SchererProductionServices To be a fly on the wall for that XD
I would have left two cents on the table just to let her know I thought about it! If you don’t give good service then your tip will be accordingly. No NTA!!
Yeah, I didn't think they were demanding at all. They only asked that the apps and entrees not come out right together... which the server clearly ignored! Then they asked her to fix it and she clearly just threw the plates somewhere as a means of getting back at the customer. The server gave HORRIBLE service. If they couldn't keep the food warm, she should have said that when they sent it back.
Tell me y'all have never been truly in the weeds in food without saying that. We have NO reference on the state surrounding this interaction. The fact it wasn't their normal server says so much than anything
@@hevytimes Oh, she's 'in the weeds' so she declares cold food isn't cold without even checking it? And she ignores the table for 20 minutes? And she brings them the wrong drinks? But we're supposed to think that wasn't just passive-aggressive BS from a pissed off server?
I'd have no problem with a server who said...I'll ask them to pace the dishes. Unfortunately I can't predict how quickly the kitchen will have your food ready. OR a server who said we can't keep your entree warm if you send it back for arriving too soon. If the story is accurate, this person was just a poor excuse for a server, imo.
I've literally left 4 cents as a tip.
The server flirted & fawned over my partner, repeatedly refilled his drink & checked he was happy with everything numerous times. Meanwhile she totally acted as if I wasn't even there! She got pissed at the tip I left, followed me out of the restaurant to "return my change" she said snarkily & that's when I told her the service I got wasn't worth a plugged nickle, that I'd already explained what she'd done to her boss (as a heads up for her bitching about the gal who stiffed her) & to earn better tips she just might want to stop pissing off the person paying the bill!
@@cathyrowe594 In Europe waiters often don't buzz around your head like angry wasps, and like any country other then America is a no tip culture, so they don't become instant Karen.
The thing about Karens is they never have legitimate complaints, it's always some ridiculous thing like they order $200 worth of food, but then demand everything is comped because they didn't like the scar on the cheek of someone else eating at the restaurant. When you have completely legitimate complaints like in Story 5, that's just called having a spine and calling someone out for their horrible attitude and service. Absolutely NTA.
About the last story, as a waitress myself (41 years of service) OP is NOT THE A**HOLE! The server definitely was. She forgot that she was depending on the clientele for her salary. OP was only asking for a very basic and logic service for him and his guests. It was absolutely normal to have their drinks first, than the appetizers, followed by maybe another round of drinks and than the entries. A good waiter (waitress) is supposed to sell and works for the house. He/she focuses on the satisfaction of the customers so they will be happy and even eager to come back. They might not be thrilled by the food but they will remember that they were treated like friends at the place.
Story 3: Karma at it’s finest! Also, perhaps the ghost of Op’s mom haunted her to get karma
How likely do you think the aunt committed will fraud
@@jonathanpeters6734 Most likely!
Story #1: All I can say is, at least the Karen-hag didn't try to take OP's chair by force.
Story #2: A Karen 3-in-1! Snarky, entitled AND violent!
Story #3: Karma's a bitch, but the aunt was a bigger one.
Story #4: And he would've gotten away with it too, if it weren't for his own stupidity.
Story #5: Not every complaining customer is a Karen. OP was in the right here.
OP asked beforehand in story 5. + Why do most waiters turn into massive Karens when they get no/low tip? + Not everyone like having waiters buzz around their heads like angry wasps.
#1: I’m 33. Last year I was recovering from a sprained ankle and had just gotten off crutches. Decided to do overdue shopping. 2 hours later my ankle was red and swollen and I was like “ must. Sit.” I took a mobility cart and used it. The fact that I was grimacing every time I had to stand kept people away. Don’t just think people are young doesn’t mean that they don’t need them
Story 3: glad the aunt got what she deserved.
My father, 4th son of 5 boys, 3 girls, was the black sheep of the family. He didn't fall under his moms rule and so she hated him. When my grandfather passed everything went to my grandmother, who told my father he wouldn't get anything. My grandfather had a lot of land and was to be evenly divided to his kids. My parents had to fight with a lawyer for his rightful share. Everyone in the family went against him. Thanks to a letter my parents kept, a letter my grandfather specifically stated he wanted my dad to get his part of the land, they won.
Story 2- press assault charges on grandma
Last Story: Not the A-hole, that's just REALLY poor service. I don't know what it is like in the US, but here in the UK (and even when I've been away to Europe or Canada) main meals are never brought out until the appetisers are finished, it doesn't even need to be requested, that just SOP for the majority of the western world! I get that US hospitality needs to be different as they rely on tips to make ends meet, thus need the speed to earn money, but that's just another reason why it's terrible practice!
Canada also has the big business to lobby the gov to allow them to stiff wait staff of wages and instead force them to rely on the tips (IMO forcing the customers to compensate the wait staff for the greed of the restaurant industry).
Story 2 : ''FOR WHAT REASON?''
ma'am, you slapped the head guard.
Story 5 : Dude just get the order right the first time and you're good
The inheritance story, I’m not sure how things are in the UK but in the US we can submit a request for our relative’s military medals and decorations. OP should definitely look into this.
They aren’t the originals, but he earned them and you deserve them to honor his service
The UK doesn't issue duplicate medals and in the inheritance story the medals were given to a relative, the cousin should have tried to buy them from 'Clive' if all he wanted was money. The cousin had no more right to them legally than 'Clive'. My nephew will inherit his Great Grandad's and Great Great Grandad's medals when he's older because he is the only male heir. If you have an immediate relative who never claimed their medal you can apply for it as it will still be with the office that deals with this. However it may be that somebody chose not to get their medal for personal reasons. So just for my own understanding are you saying in the US that they would issue duplicate medals in this instance? Then how do medals have a resale value?
@@shendisackett With a relatives DD-214 form, which is our discharge paperwork, listing condition of discharge, awards, etc, we can request they be replaced. Either ourselves or a direct family member.
So if they are lost, damaged, stolen, etc we can have them replaced. The resale value comes from them being originals, issued during which ever conflict, some are worth a good bit, others are so common that they aren't worth much.
Had to have mine, my late fiancée's and grandfathers replaced a few years ago because of a house fire. Obviously they aren't the originals, but are no less important to me. Thankfully my other relatives awards weren't at my new house yet at that point.
Just to mention though, there are also replicas of most ribbons/medals available to purchase. Obviously the Medal Of Honor is not one of them.
@@sparkplug1018 that is interesting thank you. So I decided to look into it further our end as we normally have similar arrangements to the US and I had been given partially wrong information. So to correct what I wrote you can apply for replacement medals if the originals are stolen or destroyed. You have to provide evidence for this, like a police report or insurance claim, unfortunately for the OP in the story the medals weren't stolen so there's nothing they can do, except try to track them down and buy them back. The confusion with the information I was given came about because of my Great Grandad's medal, we have his medal for the Great War as WW1 was originally known, these are quite rare now, and the MOD will not replace medals from before 1920. I was referring to medals in general the person I asked thought I meant that particular medal. My Grandad lived to a very old age and he only showed me his war medals and talked about some of the things he'd seen in WW2 a month before he died. After it ended he was on a crew returning a carrier to the US and they stopped at many of the countries involved in the war so he saw things like the aftermath of Hiroshima.
@@shendisackett I'm happy to learn they can do that for veterans. And happy to hear you have his medal, I know how much they mean to a family.
Completely understand his reluctance to talk much about it though. Many members of my family had served in pretty much every conflict the US has been involved in, but we don't really share war stories. Happy to discuss equipment we used though, just not really what we did with it.
Story 3 is the very definition of "you reap what you sow." So satisfying.
The last story. No NTA mainly cause *(and I'm going to keep these short)* two different times i basically didn't leave a tip. Both places wasn't busy. The one took at least a half hour just to get a soda ordered and more time. The other one was when my mom and sis were at a place. The server basically was taking well care of a 12 party and not us (as in no one besides my mom sis and I and the 12 top). Asked a few times for a take out. Get the wadda-call-it and my mom and sis go up to pay while I sat and waited for a take out. Went up to get one. Got it and went back. All took legitimately a minute. Go back and there is the server. In goes my moms plate, my sis plate *and my plate.* Tossed the take out and said "f^^^ this s^^" and took the tip with me and gave it back to my mom.
Story 3: I don’t blame OP for the schadenfreude that they’re feeling, the Aunt deserved everything she got.
Agreed!
Story 3: I love karma. The aunt basically steals the inheritance and winds up losing money from a sinking house and burning bridges. Good riddance
Exactly! Also, who’s to say that the spirit of Op’s mom haunted her in her karma
Good story, just wondering if it's real... That pay deposit on a house you can't buy seems fishy (at least for the uk)
@@myself0510 It's common here in the US, actually.
Last story Definitely NOT the ahole they simply asked and the. Get treated like a parent sometimes does to a child whom refuses to eat.. I would have demanded a public apology and only pay the taxes for there order.
I knew a couple guys who had a thieving aunt. Her BF actually pulled a gun on the only child of one of the deceased, in the house of his own father. The reason? The aunt and him were not done robbing the place. The other guy had already had his parent's house ransacked by that point, so they knew to expect it.
I hope the police got involved after that?
@@SonsOfLorgar I wish. But I don't think they were ever called. I think that aunt may have a cop as a kid even.
I was surprised on the first story, I expected the woman to try and steal OP's wheelchair. I guess I've heard too many crazy Karen stories.
My mom had that happen once, they didn't just bring out the starter and the main course at the same time but also the dessert! Regular midevil banquet style. Given they didn't try to hurry tables for a second round of guests it was pure dumb on their end.
Medieval*
Actually in the medieval times a meal consisted of "removes" (courses) where food would be brought out and you would be given a reasonable time to consume it leisurely. Then a second remove would be brought out, etc.
@@Rebekahdavignon There was no one way to do this back then. sweet dishes would share the table along with savory and they'd all stay until they were done.
I think removes is from a more modern time as the people would serve themselves, you'd need a ton of servants for courses with as many people you had at a banquet.
@Rebekah Davignon yeah and the whole point of appetizers was to keep you occupied until the main course was ready. they'd also bring out platters of food a couple at a time and you'd serve yourself, then they'd bring out a platter of something new to replace the empty one, kind of like passing the various sides around the table at Thanksgiving.
The girl who was taunting the lifeguard, and her grandmother, the girl could've *killed* her brother and granny should've been charged for assault (I wonder if the slap was caught on camera, aka *evidence*!)
Oh, and the ED that kicked the bumper so hard as to damage it, I wonder how his *wife* would've felt if he was taken away in handcuffs for filing a false report... Oh, and having his kid taken away...
Story 3: So, karma hit Aunt Karen hard, huh?
Karma: Hold my beer. *cracks knuckles and neck*
For that last story, OP and their friends were being anything BUT entitled. They made reasonable requests, called out shitty behavior, and left a tip proportional to the service received. That waitress should be fired, and banned from the premises as well so she doesn’t cause any more scenes. I’m usually extremely nice and understanding of people in the service industry, but there is a limit, and that goes way beyond my limit.
Selling WW2 medals is so scummy. Their monetary value could NEVER come close to their sentimental value. I'm pretty much the only person in my family enthusiastic about our history, and all my aunt's and uncles now know that's the easiest gift to give me(not medals, just any old family stuff). A couple years ago, my aunt gave me an absolute TREASURE TROVE of my grandfather's old correspondence, research and notes from his time developing Beaver Tail radar, etc. It was one of the best gifts I've ever received, and I've barely touched it. I read one letter, and it wasn't labeled so I wasn't sure if it was to or from him, but by the end of the letter, I could see the way he spoke clear as day. I want to get it digitized, so I can read through it all without any risk of damage. I want them to last longer than even the memory of my own name, I want every descendant of that man to know how proud they should be, of him.
Scanners are cheap... even a high end flatbed one which can also scan photos and negatives are only a few hundred. Or might be able to talk to a museum to get them digitized, and allow them to also make a copy for their own use, as I assume you don't want to give up the originals. Could also talk to them about the best way to protect the originals so they last longer.
OK last story let's define what a KAREN is. A Karen is someone that goes overboard with complaints or entitlement. Asking a waitress to make sure your food courses are spreed out properly . Isn't being a Karen. Complaining because waitress failed to do so after being asked to. Is also not being a Karen. In fact the waitress was the Karen. She provided poor service then got bitchy because she was called out on it.
These folks would keep their hands to themselves if they caught a beating when they slapped, grabbed, or hit another person.
If a request is made it's up to the server to follow that request, period...
For the last story, if it really did happen the way the OP said then NTA. It's not really that difficult to check to see if they are almost done with appetizers before bringing out the mains. Giving attitude because you can't manage that is asinine.
Karen in the 1st story really 🤬 me off. Is she really that entitled to where that she thinks that just because a person is young, they must have healthy working legs
Common theme, I'm afraid
ppl do this ll the time to my friend bc they are only 31 and have made threats to them bc they have to use a mobility scooter from the stores we go to. I've taken to threatening to rip ppls guts out if they come near my friend when they do
Happened a few times to me when I was in a wheelchair, but ‘looked fine’. I even had folks try to get me out of my personal power chair so they could ‘borrow it’. And, yes, they were universally extremely large women who were ‘tired’.
@@mred8002 Someone who is morbidly obese obviously needs a wheelchair/mobility scooter more than paraplegics
The inheritance story makes me think of my family's businesses. My uncle is going to leave everything to my siblings and I but it's not going to be like a lot most of it's going to go towards debts and other bills. So I don't see anybody making any money in my family we're just going to be barely breaking even. So I'm not going to be running to Vegas the minute I get it.
In that last story if she's annoyed by having to serve people then she probably shouldn't be a server.
Anyone who even tries to steal someone else's mobility device should be accused of a felony.
OP is definitely not the asshole in the last story. That server was straight up unprofessional and she deserved no tip.
Last story. The only work experience I had in food service was a runner in a restaurant in high school. But I have over 30 years in wholesale and retail management. Not the a-hole. I don't care how bad a day that server is having. She could cost the restaurant future business when OP spreads the bad event to at least 10 friends. No tolerance; you're fired.
Pacing courses is the second-most basic thing in serving.
What demands was OP making? Sorry fluff. But that's totally the server's fault. Either the server told the kitchen to do it all at once so she could have a longer smoke break, or she didn't tell the kitchen to slow it down.
It's extremely unlikely it's the latter.
NTA at the restaurant!!! What an awful waitress.
That story with the aunt.. wow, the best story ever
“All the demands” the guy just wanted his food to be warm. That’s not unreasonable at all.
in the last story it's not unreasonable to expect proper pacing of the meals. that's just a factor of running a restaurant and the kitchen is mostly to blame on their food being done well before the table has a chance to finish the appetizers.
the server was being very unproffessional in handling the situation throughout the story. obviously this is only one-side to the record of events so very easily OP could be lying.
That first one with the wheelchair. I was recovering from an injury that caused me to be bedridden for 2 and a half months. Just getting from my vehicle to the store was a painful experience. Now yes, I am overweight, genetic disorders suck, but it had nothing to do with this problem. So I manage to get inside, and into the store's scooter. I *hate* those things. They are too slow, too short, and the seats are SO not comfortable.
Multiple times I had older individuals scream at me that "You're young you don't NEED that!" And younger individuals who were OBVIOUSLY walking just fine going "You wouldn't be so FAT if you would start walking, let ME use it, my feet hurt!"
It's not like I wanted to use the thing, I kinda had to. Of course, I eventually recovered enough I didn't have to use it anymore, but entitled assh.....les are the worst! It's like yeesh, I'm aware I'm big, I'm aware I didn't "look disabled" and I'm aware I tend to always look younger than I am.
But people may have hidden disabilities, don't judge.
Also, I've found the scooters in the lots by the cart returns and have been kind enough to return them to the store on more than one occasion even though I don't work there. Don't scream at me and say I'm joyriding. Those things are NOT meant to be left outside, I'm just trying to be nice.
Story 2 - They don't make grandmas like they used to. If I had ever pulled a stunt like that, my Grandma would have taken me over to the nearest tree, cut herself a switch, and tanned my hide in front of the whole crowd!
Ain't that the truth, I have an aunt whose grandsons are disrespectful to practically anyone they don't see that would benefit them which includes myself their uncle. And they have the same entitlement of "my grandma says I could so you should let me". She is now seeing the monsters she has created but she does nothing to stop it. But yes my grandma who is her mom would never allow us to do that. If I disrespected anyone then we would have left and I would have been in trouble. I think they think if they spoil them then they won't resent them like their parents do. Well at least my aunt, this grandma obviously is entitled and wants to make her grandkids feel the same way
The aunt stealing the money and all sounds like that German word schadenfreude.
Last story: Totally NTA. She made the request when ordering that she wanted service paced. (I do this myself as I used to be a waitress myself. It is a courtesy to the server, especially as I am a slow eater & like to savor good meals.) The server was entitled & incompetent & tried to cover it with arrogance.
When I worked at a grocery store there was a young man who would ride his bike to the store and then get into the mobility scooter that we had for disabled people and ride around to get his groceries. Then after he paid he would ride out to his bike and get on it and ride home. Never did find out what his story was.
I am not a doctor... but was it a regular bike or a recumbent with hand controls? I could see that and having issues with his legs. But more likely was not needing it. As long as he wasn't inconveniencing those who really needing it... and not using it to slam through others... I don't see an issue and sounds like nobody bothered him either, and just let him use it.
@@wolphin732 it was just a regular bike. Like I said, I never found out what his story was. Many people made remarks about it . There were times when a disabled person would come in and have to wait for him to get done but I live in the south and most people are too polite to say anything in a situation like that. I mean , not say anything to HIM. I heard about since I was a manager. It just seemed strange. He very well could have had some kind of medical condition for all we knew.
Last story: this is honestly ridiculous. I’ve worked in MANY restaurants and in tons where people liked to eat slowly and we had to hold food sometimes before sending it to the kitchen, or hold the food under a hot plate until the table was ready to be served. This is in no way a crazy request, and OP is not a Karen for expecting that it be respected and to not get cold food when their food finally does come. I would have never imagined speaking to a table that way, entitled or not.
the thieving aunt story. schadenfreude is a perfectly legitimate emotion. when someone who hurt you is hurt ENJOY IT.
First story: a friend of mine, who admits to having a slight weight problem, injured his back some time ago. While shopping at a local Walmart, he needed a motorized cart while having a bad day with his back. An employee had denied him the use of the cart as he was “too young to has serious issues.” My friend insisted the employee accompany him while shopping. Surprisingly, the employee complied. He got to witness my friend holding himself up with a normal shopping cart while having several extremely painful bouts of pain. When the employee asked what was wrong, my friend replied “I needed that cart because of my back issues.” At that point a manager showed up asking why the employee was following my friend around. After a brief explanation, the manager called for a motorized cart and told off the employee for refusing my friend’s use of the cart in the first place. This was a few years ago and my friend has managed his weight and his back issues better since then.
I had a cousin who was a pack rat. Made me realize that she went thru some serious trauma when her husband died of cancer. When my dad's oldest sibling, my cousin's mom died. Several members of the family were supposed to inherit things from my aunt. My cousin refused to give up the items. Including a few things that were to go to her brother's oldest daughter. I am hoping that my male cousin's daughter got the items after his sister died. I also believe that she took stuff from his house when he died as a claim that supposedly it was to go to her.
Story 2: Putting her age aside, can I also pay money to slap Karen?
When slapped by anyone, immediately counter punch to the jaw with all of your strength.
Last story: NTA
Man, that server in the last story. 11/5 AH score for her. She only came up all bubbly for the check because she wanted to weasel a good tip out of OP. She ruined any chance of any tip at all before the meals were served, by refusing to honor a singular, simple request. I hope she got fired.
Consignment store wheelchair story: Good grief! I live in an area where you can't swing a cat without hitting a flea market/antique store. None of them provide wheelchairs or mobility scooters and some are definitely big enough you'd want one. But it's usually not too hard to find a booth with canes/walkers/rollators/wheelchairs for sale either. But unless someone is OBVIOUSLY just messing around, it's usually safe to assume they need whatever mobility aid they are using.
Slapping the head lifeguard story: Personally, I think the police should have been called. Grandma's gotten away with this type of behavior too many time to ONLY kick her out.
Cracked bumper story: When the jerk pulled out and wasn't paying attention is when OP should have pulled out his phone and started taking pictures.
Server story: I understand that in the US servers are paid less than minimum wage due to tips. But tips are not mandatory either and, in my opinion, if you want a tip, let alone a good tip, the service needs to be adequate at a minimum. Give me attitude and/or poor service and I'll leave a tip commensurate with the attitude/service. And that sometimes means no tip.
Last story: with only one side of the story it is hard to judge, but if accurate OP ran into a very entitled server who should never have been hired.
Hello story number two, I went to a waterpark in the Poconos during a religious holiday. I won’t say which one. And the adult males and the teenage males that came to enjoy the waterpark and the hotel refuse to listen to the females that worked in the building anywhere so the whole weekend I could not use the adult hot tub because it was full of fathers with their infant babies and no swimmy’s on. I swear the water smelled like my kids diaper bag when he was six months old it was disgusting and every time one of the female employees went to tell the fathers they can’t have the babies in the hot tub they ignored her , so she would have to go get a male employee. At one point one of the fathers started screaming at the female employee in a language I did not understand. She simply took her walkie-talkie off her shoulder and push the button, and I guess she was letting the boss hear what this person was saying , three employees and two policeman came in and took out like 30 people. It was hysterical and wonderful at the same time. Unfortunately, we were scheduled to go again, but then Cove it happened. I have not been back cents. Thank you for letting me rant.
that last one def in't the karen for not wanting their food to just sit on the table while they eat the apps the wait staff were unprofessional and not smart to not understand a simple request then to turn around and act like they are ruining their lives for wanting what they ordered and only acting polite when it's time to pay cause they want a tip
Wtf is wrong with the waiter in the last story? Were they working there as punishment? Was their family held hostage and they were blackmailed into working there?
Cannot follow simple instructions, is rude to the customers, I wonder how long they'd be able to hold down that job, because such behaviour is repelling af, I guess only desperate customer / customer without any other dining out options would come back to the place they were treated like that by a server, whose job is to ensure the customers have nice experience and dine there again.
The water park guard should definitely have called the police. I wonder how many times she’s done this to other employees, and gotten away with it without being arrested. Or at least, then her granddaughter could’ve learned a lesson. Keep your freaking hands to yourself or land up getting arrested just like grandma.
Last story: OP was definitely NTA. Her request was honestly simple and was made known up front. People are so quick to throw around the karen title these days, forgetting that people are allowed to make LEGITIMATE complaints.
If the complaint is legit its NOT being a karen. People should he allowed to stand up for themselves without being accused of being Karens.
Its the same thing now adays as the term bridezilla being over used. Its seems that if people, ESPECIALLY women dont allow themselves to be walked all over and meek submissive little girls, then we get called Karens, bridezillas, or both
Last story not the a.hole : I used to work in a restaurant and they take the most of the orders at the same time ....appetizer + salad + entrees ....except for the desert.
> They'll serve a salad after you finish the appetizer.
> They will serve the Entrees after you done and the table was cleared and ready for the Entrees.
For the last story, the only demand that started this whole fiasco was to wait on bringing the entrees out. Simple request. Most times there isn't any room on the table to have both appetizers and entrees for everyone, so you end up scooping things to one plate or feeling rushed to finish. The server could have easily waited to put the entree orders in and all would have went smooth. So rushed it.
The last story, OP , NTA !!! All he asked for was what every restaurant should be doing anyway !!!
Story 5: Honestly the server has no reason for their behavior. The server started off with the attitude by deliberately ignoring their request and harassing them throughout their meal then ignoring them when they were ready to eat. they were unprofessional and seemed to have a chip on their shoulder long before OP showed up. My guess is that server probably isn't working there anymore. OP is definitely not he asshole here.
Last story, op was the Karen. No server deserves to go through that.
This goes out to OP in story 3. You may be able to get help replacing your grandfather’s medals. I was able to get my
grandfather’s medals with help from a very kind veteran. Try your local VFW post or maybe even a local recruiting station. Good luck. ❤
Story 1: Clearly a Birfalo Felisha.
as someone who works in a restaurant the op in the last story definitely isn’t an asshole. i don’t know if that waitress was having a bad day but even when im having a bad day i would never act like that towards a customer. i also don’t blame them for not wanting to tip the waitress
1st story…my father in law used to call the store scooters, mobility chairs, etc “blubber buggy”. He spent the last 8 years of his life after having a stroke in an electric “blubber buggy” being 1/2 paralyzed.
The story about the mom telling a child they wished they’d aborted them was so awful. My mom asked if I could come home this weekend and initially I really didn’t want to. But she is the best mom anyone could ever have and hearing these stories makes me realize that I am SO lucky and that she has done so much for me
Holyy that 3rd story gave me so much joy knowing what happened to that aunt
Story 3: Hooooo boy... That karen is a mess... No! A waking DISASTER!!!
As a waiter myself, it's literally not that hard to hear "pace the meal" and reply "okay, just let me know when you're ready"
That last story reminded me of the only time I've ever gotten angry at a restaurant. Though mine wasn't at the waiter mine was the fact that my food was overcooked and frozen. Oh and that my grandmother received two of her meals before I received my one meal.
DarkFluff. I'm concerned. When you read the 2nd story. Your voice was exactly as I've heard karen (Grandma)speak. You may need to take a break. It was very convincing.
the story about inheritance kind of hit home for me. My Dad who had been divorced for 7 years at the time of his passing did not have a new will made since my parents split. Before me or my sister were up to going to his place my cousins had already let them self's in and rummaged threw his stuff for things they wanted. My Dad was not wealthy or much into planning, he did not renew his life insurance after the divorce and since there was no new will it reverted to a will he had before he was married so everything was to go to my aunt, My mother fought this to make sure that me and my sister would get it ad won, but not before the legal battle ate threw what little my father had. So when all was said and done there was $5000 to split between me and my sister and since she at the time owed me around $5000 i got her half of the money, and we went threw and collected a few mementos. Then there was a fight between aunt, and uncle over other items and they never spoke to each other again shortly after that.
Story 2, waterslide Karen: I hope that the family didn't get a refund, grandma got a permanent ban, and shame that she didn't some nice shiny new wrist bracelets from the local cops.
Story 3: The entitled aunt still has one option for work, hint it's one of the oldest professions in the world and she only needs to be able to open her mouth or spread her legs to do it.
Last story: OP is not the ahole as they hade asked the server to please pace the meal, so the server should have just checked in with the table once they were halfway through the apps to see if they wanted the entrees started to be ready for about when they would be done with the apps. Is this a bit extra work, yes, but a bit extra work with a good attitude will often garner you a nice tip. But that server decided they didn't want to do anything more then the bare minimum for OP's table and even tended to every other table as much as possible before going anywhere near OP's table.
If I was OP in this case I would asked the manager to put our meals in to go boxes so we can go home and eat as that server was now refusing to even come near our table, and was acting more like a spoiled bratty 5 year old then what a professional should be acting like. Then the next day I'd call and speak with the owner about that server. I'd say that I am not looking to get them fired, but at the very least they need a good lesson in professionalism, because in service work you will always encounter groups that have a few extra requests then other groups, this is part of the job, and as long as the requests are reasonable then there should be no issue with doing them.
In my many years of eating out at various places all over the country, the servers have always asked if we were done or close to done with the appetizers and would like our meals. So OP is not the a$$hole, that server is just a lazy brat.
Don't you just love it when the the legal eagles slap idiots so hard with the justice of the law that they just end up rolling into jail from the impact? I sure as hell do. 🙃🤣
In the last story it was perfectly fine to ask if they could have their main dish later. If for some reason it can't be done (I wouldn't know why if anything it gives the kitchen more time) then they should be told so immediately. If the waitress tells that it's ok but then doesn't deliver on it it's her fault.