A Day in My Life in an Extreme Toxic Immigrant Household
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 เม.ย. 2024
- Go follow my socials!
TikTok (380k+): / zavhbruh
Instagram: / zavuhhhh
Join my Discord for Mental Health support!
/ discord
linktr.ee/zavuhhh
#generationaltrauma #toxic #asian #asianamerican #immigrant #trauma #childhoodtrauma #harshreality #toxichousehold #ocd #contaminationocd #germaphobe #narcissist #npd #schizoaffective #bipolar #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness
![[TH] VCT Masters Shanghai Playoffs DAY 6 // G2 vs GEN | 100T vs TH](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/M6jxF80AajI/mqdefault.jpg)
"I just wanted to complain" your dad is so real for that lol
Yep he got broken humor
This! ALL. OF. THIS. The Celsius conversion answer "I don't feel like doing math right now" hit home. Like I don't have the mental capacity for what's happening in the home right in front of me and the emotions I feel, let alone use my brain/energy for something I don't care about for toxic ass people with zero self-awareness
I ended up like my Mom...tricky part is they don't want to hear about YOUR trauma, just theirs.
I thought I didn't end up with changes, or trauma but I definitely did. And , dont be surprised if you get your own share of trauma, and ocd.
Phobia on anything is a waste of time
I found you on TikTok. This vlog was great. Thank you for giving us these sort of views into your daily life and what it is like dealing with such a parent. I’m rooting for ya. Keep it up!
真的很懂在這種不健康家庭關係長大的感覺
但也不確定怎麼說才會是最好的
不過還是想祝你順利找到自己的步調這樣🫶
Collective kids vs individualistic kids
The video has reached its target audience with generational trauma 👍🏻
Hey, I came across your video from B.C.&Lowy. Please get this book "Adult children of emotionally immature parents" from Dr Lindsay. It is specific written for helping people to heal from the generational childhood trauma. Simply reading it will help you and your mother to heal the wounds. Stay Strong.
I already got it 🫡 will read it when I move out and have more relaxed free time. I’m putting my rare spare time rn just apartment hunting
so comforting, please more of this 🤍
Thanks for making this vlog!! 看到你爸爸妈妈的相处模式，让我想起很多我小时候事情，尤其是妈妈一直碎碎念催你们填税单那里（我爸爸也是这样，特别容易焦虑，所有事情都必须要严格按计划执行）。好在我爸爸妈妈在我成年以后关系就慢慢变好了，他们两个人也没有以前那么焦虑了。祝你的妈妈也能走出创伤，希望你们都越来越好❤
Here from instagram and tik fok. I hope you continue to vlog! I enjoy seeing your typical day.
I don't know how you handle it, like for me as an asian family who in the similar situation as you, like the mother is constantly yelling at the father, it is rough. I wake up in the middle of the night with screams from my mother birating my dad about something and it's awful, you seem like a real trooper if this is a fraction of what you deal with daily
I’m sry to hear that dawg. Dw ab me tho, im moving real soon. I hope we can both fully heal soon
Be careful with the benzoyl peroxide! Only apply it topically on specific zits/pimples because if you just rub it on your face it’ll dry it out more :(
So sad but so relatable… 😢❤
support you bro moving out tho！！！👍👍👍
I would really like to see you link with David Choe. His experience is quite similar except instead of being germaphobic, his Korean immigrant mom is a religious fanatic
Food looks so good 😊
don’t skip ads for him
How do we address you? Zav or is there an “influencer” or “stage” name that you prefer us to address you as?
yo 7:56 killed me
Love your hair style! Hope you can move out soon!
Appreciate it but I need a haircut 😭
@@zavhbruh Maybe also get a perm!
😂😂so cute this video 😂😂from tw🇹🇼
PLZ READ ITS IMPORTANT- I need advice to just encourage my bf who is 19 and is going through similar things like u mentally and physically emotionally abused by his parents/ they also have mental issues. And he’s on the urge of getting kicked out because they want rent money but he can’t afford it sometimes and his mom gets pissed. All his friends including of offer him shelter but he has lost all hope I get it tho like he told me why don’t his parents love him.. He’s been applying every were but either it’s too far or that it’s so hard to get a job resently out here in California:/ plz someone reply.
可以听出妈妈有点唠叨，规矩多，但是为了家不希望有她儿时类似遭遇，平安健康
我媽媽也是會講100次她人生的各種陰影。
我選擇離開，保持距離會是很好的辦法。
祝你們平安快樂❤
You need to go no contact
why didnt u stay in taiwan aftwr u graduated?
Taiwan ain’t no panacea
Your mom sounds just like my mom…
爸爸媽媽感覺很愛你耶，一直說你們很漂亮😂
感覺說了是來稱讚自己很會教… 因為他們倆被媽媽爸爸嚇得半死才那麼乖… 他媽媽發起飆來 一直說兩個孩子多沒用 🥲
確實很愛我們 他們只是不知道要怎麼好好的表現出正確的「愛」
你這樣講一些人會認為你是在暗示這位兒子”生在福中不知福”，或者是在暗示他是 不感激父母的孩子耶。
我們跟隨他久了，都知道他也很愛自己的父母的。dan❤他也有訴苦的權利，而且這種訴苦 不是 貶低他人 的方式哦。。是以尊敬你我的方式說訴說和家人相處的方式哪裡不好，希望可以進步。不能的話也會盡力接受這種不能逼迫他人一起成長的現實。
Ayy from a Pakistani 😅😭😭
After watching the whole video I started looking back how I communicate with my parents. No offense or something but I do kinda feel like your ways of talking are "edgey" (maybe it was the Taiwanese tone). Imo things like answering questions with another question somewhat will trigger Asian parents more. Living with my parents during covid was the time that I learned how to "obey" them with the Asian parents wanted way. Idk how you are doing with them right now, maybe try a calm way to react.
不要，我只要complain 而已😂😂😂🥲
I totally feel you in you trying to eat with them outside more because you’re moving out soon :”) we’re so soft-hearted towards them yet sometimes when you really think about what you went through, you are conflicted. Want to be nice to them but also remember all the crap stuff they’ve done to damage us for life…
And then there’s the Asian way of being filial and you can’t help feeling unfilial leaving or talking to them the way they talk to you. 🥹
I’m so glad you’re moving out soon though!