I ran away from home
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I think we should start a community for girls like us who are depressed or dealing with toxic families and let's just talk and figure out what we can do and help each other.
Hey. Agree with you.. am also in a very bad situation.. I wish someone could help mr
Can you come with me ?
@@shraddha8461I would be great full to get a partner cause I am too running away are u interested ?
@ofdls 18 where are you from
@O.F De Los SantosI'm 19, I want to move out as well... I'm totally tired. I'm Nigerian.
I ran away and move across the country trusting complete strangers at 24. Best decision ever.
Wow I’m so glad it worked out for you and you’re happy now! ❤️
I want to do the same but I'm afraid
Toxic its a big big risk and it often doesnt work. You have to plan a lot. You need to know where you are going, double check they really want you there, be ready to get a job, be ready to start acting like an adult, be ready for your parents to play all sorts of nasty games and throw threats at you. You may even have to talk to the police. Be ready to being very poor for a few years while you gain money and experience. And be ready for freedom of choice. Its very scary at first. Oh and be 18. You cant legally do any of this until you are 18. 17 and 10 months does not count.
@@Qofkidwhrbd same
Maybe that's what I'm gonna do...
oh god, i understand what your going through, everything from strict controlling parents to being sexual abused as a kid, still waiting to graduate from medical school and hopefully i get the courage to leave.
Same, except I'm waiting to finish up Pet-Grooming school, and leave asap
@@anitamorin6255 im 13 and already want to leave my home waiting a graduate is a long time for me
My parents won't even allow me to leave the city for higher education
Me I got two more year y’all prob less
@@bizzz5547 gurl im sorry but im praying u get courage to run away. That is ridiculous.
If your kid runs away from home, you're probably doing something wrong with them.
Tell that to the narcissistic ones like mines. I am organizing how I’m gonna disappear away from my parents.
And then you don’t have to cry bc you know what you’ve done to your kid, thanks for understanding me
@@wallacerangel616 same I ran away from my family
@@wallacerangel616 samee istg😞
imagine I want to run away since I was 7? 10 yrs old? but again thinking if somebody found me on the street, they will bring me back to them, so hmmmm
Parents simply need to understand, just because their your kids doesn’t mean you have the right to shut down their happiness.
Exactly and you damn sure don’t have the right to beat and abuse them for petty shit like if you going to beat and abuse over petty shit don’t have kids at all the fuck is wrong with parents abusing and hitting their kids in name of discipline it have a negative effect on their mental health it causes the child to want to move out and be distant from the parent if the child haven’t done anything really really bad or not a bad thing than you shouldn’t be on him/her over petty shit like damn I wish mostly black parents got this right
@@WowSuchGaming2009 And children need to understand that their parents are in control and they can’t do whatever they want😊
@@haiz768and parents need to realise that children can cut off contact with them when they’re old and they can do nothing about it
@@haiz768 and parents to need to stfu sometimes and just LISTEN for once then we wouldn't fucking want to run away in the first place
@@haiz768 Which is why they should move out as early as 18.
Your mum telling you that she would harm herself sounds like a narcissistic abuse tactic tbh. You might want to read up on narcissistic traits and narcissistic parents (if you haven't already) though fair warning, it can be really tough if you learn that it describes your own parents. I went through a period of grieving - I am still going through it - because I learnt that narcissists are incapable of change and that I'll never have the healthy parent-child relationship I've always dreamed of.
You are so strong for sharing your story! You’ve been killing it on your own for so long now! Proud! 👏🏽 👏🏽
Thank you love ❤️
I've d same situation but I need to run
Ikr
@@maha3564 were I need to
@@DeevaaniWilliams nice video
Wow, I felt like I definitely knew some of this but definitely not you’re entire story. I am proud of you girl! West Indian parents can be very difficult and you still made a way. Congratulations on you engagement love. So happy for you and I hope you can get complete peace one day.
Thank you so much Erika ❤️
i also ran away from home when i was 20. i wish this video was out when i ran away back in 2020. i remember it vividly. my mom was verbally abusive, demanding, and went as far to tell my dad i was “pregnant” and forced me to take photos with my “belly” and even made a fake dating account using my name and my pictures. i remember i was so stressed, i very much started dissociating and didnt get my period for months.
i started to get close with a friend i met a work and i remember i started looking for roommates and posted on my private snapchat story that i may have found someone. one of my older coworkers swiped up and told me she had a room available and her roommate was moving out. i told her i wanted to move in, and the rent was super cheap. everything was working out, it was amazing
and then i told my friend who i was working with that i wanted to leave and he was my getaway car. it was 8pm when i got out of work that day (my mom did not like that i worked overtime and threatened me to quit my job over the phone that same day.) i remember being silent while she screamed at me while i was at work and thinking well im not going to be living there for long.
i got out at 8pm and ended up packing my things in a garbage bag once i knew my mom was sleeping. i remember majority of my things were in a garbage bag already, so i just added some more things. i ironically was in a room that had a door that led to the exit of the back of our house. my friend pulled up and we drove off. the next day my mom went to my job and went crazy, texted me telling me she was going to get me fired. i already told my manager about her so she got banned from my job.
for those waiting for the right time to move out, make acquaintances and friends, they will be the ones to help you!! you got this.
Where did you go??
We can be friends :)
hearing your story really gave me hope that things will get better. a bit about me: im Vietnamese and Canadian and turning 21 soon. i just completed my third year of university and im planning to move out this September into transitional housing (basically i pay rent and everything as usual but it’s a lot more affordable and affiliated with a non profit organization to help support us with our long term housing goals and mental health). seeing ur story and the stuff u went thru and how far uve come gives me hope that healing is possible. i was talking to my therapist today of how hard it is for me rn bc i have so many thoughts in my head. i know ill miss my family once i leave but i also know that staying is not an option anymore considering everything they put me thru. this may be an irrational fear of mine but im so scared to get into a relationship or have children bc i don’t wanna project my trauma into them or repeat the cycle of abuse that my family put me thru. i always hear that victims of abuse r more likely to become abusers themselves and that rly scares me and worries me bc i want to be a good parent / partner. if anyone has advice or can reassure me, i definitely need it right now :/
I'm Half Vietnamese Half American
you acknowledging your parents' flaws shows that you're aware and that's a big step already. although it makes sense for history to repeat itself (since the parenting style you received is the only one you know of) but having a therapist too shows so so much about your efforts to break the cycle. i'm proud of you and can assure you that your chance of being like your parents is already much slimmer. stay strong and be hopeful. you're deserving of so much.
@@reemky17do they have something like this in America as well
I ran away at 20 with no job, car or anything and now at 24 I have a husband son and living my best life, best decision I had ever made.
hi I’m 20 I’m thinking about leaving bc my parents are strict and controlling and abusive, I have no job but have a car but it’s theirs but I’m leaving my car here what’s the best advice I’m just scared they are going to find me since we have shared location but imma turn off all location and block their number is the right thing ? Pls help me :(
this is very crazy, that EXACT thing you mentioned at 5:55 happened to me. I had alot of supressed memories resurface that I have blocked out from my personality for YEARS to me right after I had a conversation with some friends at the time about my situation and their personal experiences. It was wayy too much for me at the time, I regret pushing everyone away as I always do because of this. I thought I will never ever make it out and end up a mirror of my parents (im still not out), but through this video it gives me so much hope
You guys wont believe it i actually managed to escape and currently rebuilding my relationship with them and myself from a distance
@@gaayas.1562 happy for you ! how is it going?
you are gorgeous
@@gaayas.1562 No way I'm so so so happy for you!! Congrats girl ! May everything work out for the best!
You are awesome. I'm Indian and I know how horrible Indian parents can be. You are very brave. Congrats on getting engaged.
So true !
Speak for yourself.
@@karmyog2557 Lol we already got a salty kid here
Same here. My dad is the worst, too much strict. My mom is fine but she told me mean stuff.
@@karmyog2557 do you know what "can be" means?
i needed this. im 28 years old. my parents have forbid me from ever getting married or moving out. we live in a small village with 0 opportunities. i want to leave but they wont let me.
im not even allowed to have female friends, i made one and she called me on my phone and my dad was like give me ur phone i want to hear the convo and my mum kept telling my brother to go upstairs ( cus i was in my room talking to her) to spy on me.
i do not care about family izat anymore cus im a GROWN 28 YEAR OLD i should be able to do normal things like go abroad, start a family, have friends, go out, find a job. etc
LMFAO EDIT: i’m 29 in two weeks & still same situation & i found out my dad hires priv investigators to spy on me at uni cus i’ve moved out for university, i told my parents i don’t miss them & my mum said i’m selfish cus of that, but tbh i’m grown & it’s normal to not always think of ur parents 24/7 lol
also met this guy at uni who i live with and, i want to live with him next year as well 😍
anywayyyyy i still have to come home in the holidays, like christmas & half term etc which i really don’t want to cus im enjoying university life in the big city so much.
hopefully when i get my degree i can leave 😆❤️🔥
OMG my dad is like this. Don't talk to any man. Don't talk with that woman. I can't go anywhere without permission. He doesn't even find arrange match for me. Always tell me that i am stupid and ugly. I have no interest in anyone now not even in my own life.
@@deepalil1085 omg im so sorry, its sucks sooo much ! i never knew other people were in the same situation as me.
if u dont mind me asking where are you from ???
i live in a very small village with 0 potential, no one to meet here only old people. no good jobs. nothing and my father deliberately put us here.
@@mizzcrazygal i am from Mumbai.
Just leave! Your parents don't get a vote. Save yourself and leave!
My life is like this too and I’m 27 loving in a Turkish household in Europe
You were so brave, at such a young age. I too was abused as a young kid, always imaging ways to escape. My parents were older & needed care, so I stayed. I never had a life. So very proud of you. Give yourself comforts, & know you are so deeply respected. 💙
As a brown girl with parents migrated from village to a metropolitan city it's hard for me. My dad is super conservative he tells me what to wear, where to go, how to walk, how to talk. Never encouraged me to study he just wants me to sit in the house till i get married. Since childhood he made me feel dumb to crush my self confidence but now i came to know about his true intentions. He is a misogynist and basically doesn't want any woman to succeed in her life. My mom is more educated than my dad but he never allowed her to work. Never go out other than for school or college, at home by 6 pm anyhow, don't wear sleeveless clothes, jeans should be loose and top should be tall, never apply makeup, always walk straight, not supposed to talk to any guy, never talk back even if he's at fault, don't laugh too much, never cry infront him, your mom and you are the dumb one in the house. He says he can treat me however he likes coz I'm a girl i can't just run away from my home they are saving up dowry for me so i owe them unlike my brother. It's hard but i hope i can get out of this bullshit and have some freedom.
Hey girl I really hope you get a job and move out of this situation he is super toxic
That's me but with my mom. I grew up in a city whilst my mom was from a village & migrated to city after her marriage. Sometimes I lowkey think the city damaged her but then again feels like she's taking away my freedom by having that same abusive mentality she was projected upon. This is why I sometimes even hate my mom's family
Do yourself a favor and get away from your toxic family. It might be hard in the beginning but it’s always better to put yourself first.
get the fuck out. no matter what tactics your parents use to guilt trip you into staying, you stand your ground. Get out. you can do it.
hi, dear, u can learn some courses or skills online, so many are free so you will gain some practical knowledge of things and then u can search for jobs online which are part-time and wfh. please speak to a counsellor in ur college. all the best
This video was so relatable to me considering I’ve ran away far far away from my home once because of a narcissistic parent and you are so brave for this!! It is the most painful experience but you followed what your heart wanted and I pray all the best for your future❤
Hows it going :)
I'm planning on moving out soon and I'm honestly so happy for you. I seriously envy anyone that can move out their abusive house it must be so freeing.
Thank you for share your story. You seem like such a well rounded young lady. I have a 5 year old and it breaks my heart to hear of kids being molested. Your story served as a reminder to be very careful with whom you leave your child, unfortunately look out for family members too. Best of luck in your marriage.
Lily's parents give me hope that they're actually really good people in this world I really think God brought you to them
I just finished my exams and want to run away from this home cause this family members just consider me as their slave not their daughter my brother had moved away but his reason was different (he wanted to get married to a woman but my father didn't liked her family and all..) by reading all the comments of running away makes me feel how bad this world is finding for a real partner who is also running away from home so that we both can run together and support each other and get a bit less scared to live alone
@@unknown_girl111 I'm gonna be 19 now and where are you from?
Idk why my comment is getting deleted automatically idk if this one is also gonna be posted or not if u have something else to talk can we talk there
@@unknown_girl111 please
@@unknown_girl111 and yours¿
I remember the day I had the courage to leave home. My parents were on vacation and I used that time to move out. I remember being so happy to be on my own!
how’s it going
wait why is both of our situations soo similar like im like going throught the same shit.... im also like waiting for the day i turn 18
also its pretty understandable since im also coming from an indian household and can very well relate to all of this more power to u girl
Ayo we can runaway together can't we?
@@Diaryofafreenme too I'm running away at anytime and need a partner for some help and to get less scared
@@HellyRs same
You are so courageous. May God bless you. Many of us are going through this right now
I just wanna run away to New York and get an apartment and decorate it my style! and find one friend that I can trust and live my life
same but im 17 and scared.. but i cant deal wit my household anymore
ME TOO
Same but im 13
I'm 26 and my parents don't want me to move out. But I'm ready. Thank you for this inspirational video. ❤️
Wow, I’m super glad to hear I’m not alone with this. I’m only 2 years younger than you and been plotting my escape
@@j_s552 lol
@@j_s552 me too but im 14
@@j_s552how’s it going
You got this
Harm herself? Yeah your parents were DEFINITELY manipulators, glad you got out.
I would've giving her the suicide hotline number
I hope this inspires a lot of other people in similar situations to take action.
Wow✨your having the courage to stand up for what’s important to you and for your space to feel comfortable and safe is very beautiful ✨I related so much and I hope I achieve the same outcome 😭🤍
I pray for your future God will take care of you don’t worry ❤️
Deevaani Im so proud of you for being brave and understanding that you're mental health and well-being was more important than your parents desire to control you. There are so many who weren't given such an opportunity, so many who don't have parents, or even know who they are.... who have no place to go, Who may be in worse situations than us. (prayers for them please). I'm glad you had support. You seem like a well put together, beautiful young lady. Brave of you to share your story. Be well.
Friends?
Firstly you are mad pretty! and I can relate! I am the scapegoat of my family. I moved out about 6 months ago!
Dang it’s been 2 years 😮
You see guys. EVERYONES JOURNEY IS DIFFRENT THIS IS WHY YOU SHOULDNT JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER AND THATS ON PERIODTT!
I’m literally going through the same stuff I’m 17 and I’m waiting to turn 18 on may like I can relate to you so much
How did you do it? How did you tell your parents you were leaving. I’m 18, done with high school and I’m going to college in 2 months. I have a place I can stay until then but the problem is telling her I’m leaving. I know she won’t be happy at all but I need this
Omg wow. I'm so happy things worked out for you. I am so sorry you had to deal with so much when you were younger. I'm happy you got out of that and had support/love outside. I'm happy you got the chance to be free and welcomed by "Lilly" parents I know is hard when parents are strict. I hope things are a bit better with them. I hope you're better and more at peace. You deserve that 100 percent :) I'm so proud of you girl. God is great and was on your side that day. Not everyone sadly gets the chance but I know when you have a chance sometimes you gotta take it. I am so grateful you did!!!!!!!! God is great🙏🏻🙏🏻❤❤Sorry if i sounded rude not my intentions, or wrote some things twice. It takes a lot of guts to be on camera and talk about all of these things. I hope people who are going thru something similar find these. You inspired a lot including me. Not going thru anything just mentally but staying positive. Thank you again❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻
It takes a really strong person to share this story. I'm also wondering how do you get a social security number? because I never got one
Thank you so much and you should look up or call and ask how you’re able to get one. I’m not really sure what steps you have to take.
@@DeevaaniWilliams All right I'll try doing that. Thank you anyways and I hope everything is going well for you🙏🏽
You were born in the US? Then call the social security office you should have one
@@dehvoo3655 yes but if you weren't born in the hospital or taken to the hospital at birth, he may not have one.
You need to go by a social security office and ask them for information.
I have a feeling I need to run away what should I do? I hate being in the same household as my mom. It's all about the adults and what about me? I've received the cheap things and that makes me angry and disappointed. I'm 18 but I have a curfew of 8:30 pm. I could care less! I can't be vulnerable around the woman who gave birth to me. I was trying to sell my art but I haven't sold a piece today, my frustration boiled over and I ripped up my artwork not caring at all. Why is that I make an effort and that effort doesn't get noticed or appreciated? What did I do to deserve this punishment? I have a hard time trusting God in fact I don't trust him. I'm really starting hate him because he can't tell me why I was born? If he can't tell me then drastic decisions will be made. I'm kinda getting to the point where I can't take it anymore.
How can i contact you ?
Wow i just watched this and i literally went through the same thing. Literally while you are talking I’m replaying my life in my head
🤯 glitch in the matrix?
@@DeevaaniWilliams has to be!
AlMost all of the brown parents are like this , im suffering from depression and being the eldest daughter in a brown family is horrible until an unless your parents chill . Here they just put pressure and responsibility. I'm Just 13 . And i am think of running away . I can truly understand your feelings sis
I feel scared that victims of childhood sexual abuse don't get help with disclosing the identity of the abuser. The abuser who preyed on her could be out looking for other victims right now.
I'm so done with my home that it hasn't felt like home for a long time now. My parents and sister lead a happy life, but because of my flaws and my inadequacy they have to put up with sadness and disappointment. I don't want to trouble them anymore. I really wish we could just go our separate ways. I haven't felt normal or happy in such a long time. I always feel so alone and scared, I can never enjoy anything. I have no one to talk to about these things, I ruin everything everywhere I go. I just want to quit everything and lead a life of service, nothing else. I don't want anything, I don't desire anything, I have no ambitions, no vision, nothing. I just want to be free of all this bondage to family, friends, society, money, job, status. I have no qualities to succeed in any of these departments. God I just want to be left alone by my family forever. Dead or alive, it doesn't bother me.
Give me your insta I'd
@@unknown_girl111 why tho
@@adhirajsingh8698 you want to leave home or not?
@@unknown_girl111 I do but why do you want to talk to me tho
@@adhirajsingh8698 do you have any idea how to leave?
I felt this entire story time...I'm Guyanese too and sometimes it's so hard omg...I'm moving really soon..I'm 18 an honestly feel like I get treated like I'm still a kid and I got a whole job ...it gets too much sometimes..you're a strong young woman‼️💗
I'm running away after 7 months 😢 Excited but scared. I'll update here later
@@Hehehellnahwhere are you at maybe we all can?
@idopthetrsy 25 years old... I'm so grown i know but I come from minority family that believes that no one is allowed to leave until marriage...So I'm stuck here and miserable. But I'm leaving soon. How old are you?
@@Ai-ut9xeWhat happend
@@Hehehellnahu In usa?
The chains u r talking about is the love and care of your parents ..u will
Get to know when u become a parent yourself
So sorry about the family situation all ways live your on life make and keep your self motivated and healthy and happy
watching this was really validating. i'm almost 17 with parents who have planted a camera in my room, won't let me have a phone until i graduate highschool, and who never allow me to leave the house without my mom right by my side (who's a narcissist that has been abusive to me both physically and mentally). and i dont know i guess with that, just knowing there was one other person who can relate in any way is insane and had me in tears. thank u sm for sharing your story
Damn... i thought mh parents were bad. Are u allowed to get a job?
@@yorii3083 noo not at all. that topic triggers my mother more than anything
I thought you should know a parent putting a camera in your room could possibly be classified as illegal…
@@everythingtaken19 i knoww i've learned that through therapy but apparently it's only illegal once i'm 18 or maybe even 21 (since i'm in dubai and the legal age for most things is 21)
Stay strong
Has any minors (like 14-15) successfully ran away and stayed off grid till 18? I have no option and i just need help
Whats your gender ?
@juststrangeuserwhich country are u from ?
@juststrangeuserhey, m 15
@juststrangeuserI wanna join too, I'll run away at 17.5, after my 12th as we'll need to pass 12th atleast. How do we contact each other?
I ran away from home at 19 from my Jehovah witness parents and they still don’t get why I ran away. Getting lectured on how I need to limit my time listening to Metal cuz it’s making me more aggressive.
I have a Trini mom (single-parent) and I was the only daughter in the family. My mom was never strict with my brothers and extra-strict with me even if I was a pretty good kid... never got in trouble, academically inclined, the first to go to college and university. My education and achievements never mattered to my mom. I would always tell my mom about my achievements and she was so indifferent to it - it would break my heart... I would always try to get my mom's attention and the only way I could get it is if I did something for her or buy her something - especially gifts. Things became worse at home with my mom - she was abusive physically and verbally, manipulative, and was controlling my life. When I started working full-time, I was the highest income-earning at home and my mom started to ask me for money. When I refused, my mom would start fights and yell and throw things. I would just run into my room and cry for hours - I could not even go to the kitchen for food. At times, I would starve. My mom emotionally, physically, mentally and financially drained me... At 24, I went into a major depression and was on antidepressants because I couldn't take the stress at home anymore... I wanted to end my life. With the help of therapy, I finally had the courage to run away from home at 25. Being Hindu-Trini myself, I always wanted to leave home the traditional way by getting married, but it never happened, and today, I accept that it is okay. The only regret I have is that I should have left earlier... lots of love to you because you chose you ❤
Can you talk to mee ?
I am 24 years old and i live with my mom.Even though i am adult she always tries to control me.She gives me curfew and goes mad if i come home late even one minute late.She always calls when i am out,she tries to control what i eat ,she tries to control what i watch,she doesnt let me take vacations with my friends.She always wants to be with me,i feel like she is just obssessed with me cause she wants to do everything with me and wont give me any alone time.I just gratuaded and currently i am not working but i cant wait to find a good job and move out cause i feel so tired dealing with her :( this gave me more couarge
@bade as a son who has lost both his parents, most recently my beutiful beloved mum in Ramadhan 2022 I miss my mum calling me her adult son everytime when I'm out with my friends. No one to tell me not to watch bad stuff on TV. No one to tell me to eat good healthy stuff or halal stuff when I'm out. No one to tell me regardless I am 31 that I am her child her baby. Because now I know that only my mum after losing my dad at 6 years old that really cared for me and had this unconditional love and now that she is gone aswell no one to call me when I'm out (though I never once got annoyed answering her call say I'm busy with friends) no one to tell not to do this not that. Friends you can get many but you only get one mum and you may think that she annoys you alot. May your parents or mum have long life but once they gone they ain't gonna bother you again.
I'm 24 years adult and still my parents control me they don't allow me for anything and they always force me to get married and because of that all they always abuse me so i just want to leave their house
i'm glad you had the strength to leave, i hope i'm out soon
You will soon
Hii me too talk to me
I don't have the courage to leave, but everytime I remember everything my mom had done to me... I just wanna leave ASAP!!!
@@ask536 uhm maybe I can share some, but not here on TH-cam. Do you have an Instagram account?
@@ask536 snowzennnn
I was born in a Family... But i don't know what is family because i haven't seen or witnessed any love, attachment, satisfaction with my Family and Relatives...
I have seen only Fights, politics, Fake faces since i was born... But good thing is that it gives you a lot of experience and makes you mentally strong..
Hey are you planning to run away if yes please reply I face the same situations and just wanna run away from this torture
@@HellyRs I will move out for education soon... I will not run away ... When i will start earning on my own... I will not interfere in family and not tolerate their interference in my matters...
And You know what... If you become Rich, You become successful, You have some cash to throw on their faces whenever they need .. they will lick your boots... Emotions doesn't matter to them (more about Relatives)...
You can't believe me... I have seen fight for 500 Rupees ($6) in my family... And not talked for 6-7 years after fight.
Is there any way, I can help you?
I also wanted to run away... But i am 19 years old now... I have to become successful and earn money... I will do it
@@tyagi7586I also see fights for money in my family but their is no way now possible I can earn my family just want to make me married before my studies are finished and i just don't wanna do that so this is the last option left for me to get freedom and live a happy life of my own
@@tyagi7586 let's go together
@@HellyRs what's your age and country?
If you are below 25... Believe me.. this step might cause big damage... World is nothing without money.. and it's more cruel with poors and people in trouble.. more than your family... First try to develop a source of income...
Young adults need to understand that if you're grown enough to move out then you're grown enough to sit down with your parents and have an adult conversation. You can do this with out causing pain and trauma to others by sneaking out. Making your parents worry about you is so wrong. You may not understand now but you will when or if you have children of your own. What goes around comes around.
I’m curious as to if you finished the whole video. Whiles I agree with you to some extent the circumstances were very difficult. I encourage everyone who reaches out to me going through something similar to communicate and not follow exactly in my footsteps. The pain and trauma that I have endured and so many other people have experienced should not be dismissed. You make it out to seem like I’m just a brat that didn’t get my way over something mediocre when in reality that is not what happened. As far as my future children are concerned my priority for them will be to create an environment where they do not grow up with toxicity and trauma. I will live my life with full faith and trust of what God has in store for me not the result of my past actions.
@Deevaani Williams Wanna know the truth? My mother took guardianship of my niece when my sister abandoned her for an internet love affair in another country. She was 5 years old. She was raised in a healthy loving environment. She is now in her mid 20s and stayed home to finish collage. My parents supported her all the way. She left a note about how she wants to do life on her own and left in the middle of the night. I can't understand why she didn't just say it face to face like an adult. My mom never pressured her to stay or leave. It was her choice. But to run away in the middle of the night like a teenager? I don't get it. She has disappeared completely and didn't take any belongings. We don't know if she is safe or not. The only clue our family has is her research on how to run away. And yes that is how we found your videos. I'm sure you have your reasons. I hope you realize that the things you've put out there have had an impact that reaches beyond just you and your family. I don't blame you per se. I'm sure she was traumatized by what her mother did, but I am definitely noticing a lack of accountability in today's young adults. I do hope that one day you get some trauma therapy and healthy coping skills because weather you believe it or not this same issue will come around when you have kids of your own. You may one day find that your kids don't share the same values as you and when it's your turn to try and guide and protect them they may rebel same as you. There's many generations before your generation who have challenges between parents and children. This is nothing new. One day you will come to apriechiate the wisdom of the older generations. We all thought we knew it all when we were young. Just wait you'll see one day. Its not what you did or what my niece did that is the problem. Launching into adulthood is encouraged. But the way you do it is what matters. Did your mom have a response when you told her about your suppressed memories. If my daughter came to me with that instead of running away that other family member would be gone. Infact my son moved out at 15. He didn't run away. We talked about his feelings and I let him move in with family. I'm glad he was able to come to me and be honest. Idk how your parents would have responded but why not give them a chance? As an adult you had the legal right to leave but the way you went about it could have been better. Help me understand. Because my niece didn't have to do it this way. The family would have helped her. It's so hurtful how she went about it when it wasn't even necessary to do it that way.
@@B4Yesuhapo po po po
I’m a 16 years old, and my dad is over controlling me. He left us when I was 11 and now has another family. I’m not allowed to do anything I want, can’t go anywhere on my own, can’t have secrets with my friend, can’t do anything since he wouldn’ve check my phone…Yet, I do have looots of pictures of Chris Hemsworth and Thor and it would’ve give me panic whenever he would ask me for my phone. I feel like that everyone should have their own privacy, I feel so jealous of others doing what ever they want on their phone and wear whatever they want, but I can’t. I can’t even tell anyone that I’m atheist since I would get killed
Just a small help from me create an account an talk to strangers who can listen you and would share their secrets with you and don't reveal your real identity just talk and make yourself feel better it would help I'm serious
I am so proud of you and I am taking this as inspiration because I am currently going through the same thing !! I am turning 18 in a few months and I cannot wait for the day I leave. Do you have any advice when it comes to personal finance? Thank you for this video and I hope to hear more growth stories like this !! c:
I'm 17 with zero money, I just completed my high school and I'm above to get admission in senior college but my mom is not allowing me to complete my graduation she is telling to not study more just stay at home eat food and sleep....I cannot even move out because I'm under 18 and also I don't have any money...nd let me tell you my mom is soooooo strict I can't even breath right now...
I really wanna runaway from home, I hope I will find away to run , I don’t where to go and where to start
Can we do it together?
@@ElizaViolette
Whats your age
@@ask536 14
Aw I can’t believe you went through all of that
I'm 20 buh I don't wanna run away, I wanna change my life by being independant and finding myself away from my parents...While Its going to be hard to leave the life of luxuries, I will thank myself one day when I make something for myself alone..And If I have God by myside any thing is possible
Yes I love this. I definitely am not recommending running away just sharing my story. And amen praying for God to bless your path.
I'm moving out of my parents home ,my mom is a great woman I know it's gonna hurt her so much,but I hope she should understand that I'm no longer a kid am 21 years old boy I have to figure a way out of this life alone
Why
I am too facing this issues and planning to run away and i am already 18 but the problem is that I stay in India that concept doesn't work here, i am feeling very very helpless right now hopefully I will also run one day 👍🏽and thanks for sharing your story it really motivated me😊🤗
May i know your proplem what happend ?
Hey I'm also from India and my family is also extremely toxic I can't be here anymore cause I'm 18 and wanna live my life on my own and will surely do that one day but for now I'm searching for a partner who can team up with me and we can help eachother are you interested?
im being honest rn, im experiencing something WAYYY worse than you did and im only 13! all of it started when i was 8! and until now im still struggling and thinking abt it everyday!! Im 13 rn and i just wanna run away and go live w my friend or something. But i dont have the guts to :( i rlly need some support rn/
Please reach out to someone you trust and let them know. Maybe your teachers, guidance counselor or trusted family member. Don’t run away please. I love you and I’m praying for you ❤️
@@DeevaaniWilliams alright thank you sos much!!
@Kylee Haywood yeah my bad. But yeah she was experiencing something pretty bad too and whoever is i hope it all gets better
I'm planning on leaving tomorrow that's why I'm watching...I can't take it anymore 😫
As a runner to sed this i ran away from home to cuz i didnt feel safe with my so called mom she would hurt and punch me all the time so when woke in the morning i just said to my self ima just run away from home and thats when i took a train from san diego to LA and i was in LA for 2 to 4 weeks and i got caught then i was gonna go to san francisco after cuz i didnt wanted to be near nobody i didnt trust no one but now im living a good life with my aunt and my uncle i feel more safe and happy where im at now then before all that
for me, my dad is the problem...and im too scared to run away rn
Same i luv mama and she's my life. But dad is so suffocating.
I am also about to run away.
Hey wbu ? Are you OK? Can you come with me?
@@shraddha8461 yes, where?
@@unknown_girl111 no
@@unknown_girl111 sure I'm down I wanna
I feel like I should run away🥺 I can’t anymore with my mom she doesn’t let me have anything not guy friend or friends to go out with my friends 🥺 I never go out anymore and she don’t let me wear what I want ..! She is so hard on me 🥺
@@Furryboimagic ofc let’s go
Sophia is a real one
Good for you, im trapped with these devils
I'm a 15 year old indian boy, and I hate my parents, my father used to slap me hard across the face if I did a maths sum he explained wrong when I was just 6 or 7, this is just an example, there were many instances where they beat me (mom included) for small things, I mean I am a pretty dumb kid, I mean that is what they told me and stressed in about how i needed to change and become more clever and that the world was too harsh outside, ofcourse after beating or slapping me they would come and just try to make me stop crying by being all lovey dovey, saying that they wouldn't do it again (and they still would do it again) , anyways, now that I'm in 10th grade studying in India, I have to give my board exam, it's an important exam, and my mom is trying her best to stress me out when there are 4 months left for the exam. I can't wait to run away from them, also my dad is having job related issues, good for him.
I understand what you are going through. Its sad to hear.. i am hoping you are doing better.
You are so strong to make it to this point and be awake, be able to clearly see how wrong they are. Some kids who go through what you go through end up becoming their parents :( and continuing the abuse. Don't let them steal your soft heart and good nature, it's so hard to keep our real personality without being beaten down. Please reach out to me if you want someone to talk to xxxxx you can do this :)
bhai tu padh le achche se, and jab college jana hoga toh ghar se boht door lelena college... ALL THE BEST... DONT GIVE UP
I know how I am 18 and my mom still controlling my life and so on. My dad wants me to see the world and let's me do anything
im currently living in a situation similar to this but with a lot more difficulties, phisycal/verbal/emotional abuse and i have no friends sadly to confine what i feel or what is going on, i have no one that close to get to live with them and i wish i could...
Can we friends ?
Privacy is a privilege when you live with your parents. They must not have trusted you, so they reinforced no privacy. I hopeyou and your parents can make amends.
Privacy is not a privilege. It's a human right and should be extended to all as a form of respect. Parents still have to respect their children, as human beings.
Should I ran out of home? I’m 12 and my mom and dad only cares about my classes and not my suicidal thoughts
That’s a really sad situation I’m sorry.😞 maybe try talking to them first and waiting a few days. If nothing changes or if everything gets worse then you should run away. But there are some things you have to do first:
Make sure you have a place to go where people carry about you and keep you safe.
Next plan how you’re going to runaway. Talk to the family you are you go to stay with and ask them for help too.
The night before you go don’t give any hints that you are going. Pack a bag in secret with everything you need and hide it somewhere very secret.
At night follow your plan and run away. Leave a note saying you ran away but don’t give your location. Tell them why you ran away and that you’re safe now. I hope things get better soon. ❤️🩹
Why? @@TheWinns11
ohh, sorry abt that.
u've a bright future and i hope u the best.
Time will be fast dw.
can u please give me some advice?😭
I'm 18 now and i secretly married my boyfriend and now i just want to leave my parents home.. they're super strict and toxic parents...they told me to break relationship with him or else they will stop giving me money and they'll stop talking to me..already they've made me grounded and I'm confine within four walls for weeks now...my in-laws are in full support...everyone is telling me to elope.
please give me some advice should i leave or not?
If you are already married then you need to tell them the truth. Start planning your life. You cannot depend on them for money forever anyways. I am praying for you that you are able to boldly take control of your life and I wish you joy and success in your marriage. ❤️
This sounds very complicated and scary I know this is tmi but omg good thing that you leave for good I’m adopted too it’s not easy when something happened to me I’m out for good because it’s complicated and stabbing in the back totally agree with you 😕
They actually let me do what I want to do and aren’t “stereotypical Asian parents”.
i'm 15 n i'm going thru the same thing rn i cant wait to be 18.
Listen to your parents, when you get older you’ll realize that they’re just trying to help
@@haiz768 Oh yeah, even the parents who abuse their own kids are just "trying to help" right? shut the fuck up. Not all parents are loving and caring.
@@thiswillnotdo6027 parents don’t abuse their kids, you dumb kids love to exaggerate everything 😂
Hello everyone...i wish there a support group...how to deal with abusive/ dysfunctional family.
Any ideas ??
Just for context, for people who aren't familiar with the culture, there is one cardinal sin in the Trinidadian/Guyanese Indian community: being romantically involved with a Black person. I cannot tell you how many women (and some men) in my family have been essentially disowned and disinherited because of it.
Eh in India in general, although low now, but it's stil not uncommon to see parents disown their kid just because they married someone from different caste or religion (this one is even more shit because literally the whole society lunges at you for marrying someone different from your religion)
why?? wth
This will be the second time I'm running away from home, the first time I did I thought my family change so I came back and reconcile with them but they don't. They became worst. The physical, mental, and emotional abuse became worst. My r*pist when I was a kid died, they know what my r*pist did to me which gave me a life long trauma. They even held a funeral and memorial for him they even feel sad about his death. They even argue with me.for not going to the funeral. I hurt myself because of that my depression and anxiety become worst. They even put a lock outside my room. Before running away last night I got home late because I need to stay at a friend's house for a night, my friend's mother had to call my family to say I can't go home because there is a typhoon and the flood is really deep, and the road was block because a tree fell down blocking the way and the route that I have to go to get home the flood is at neck point. Some people need to evacuate and some are living in the roof of their home. We have to stay at the 2nd floor of my friend's house. So the concern of my safety they asked me to stay for the night. I got home the next they even walk on the flood at knee point and all wet. I thought they were understanding but they threaten me and abuse me, my dad who was about to arrive home next day call me and say that he will beat me up once he got home and already got another lock to put in my room and will make sure I will never get out of the house. My grandma throw a mug at me which bruises my shoulder. They told me I should just go home even at the middle of the typhoon that if I have to swim on the flood I have to do it. I had enough so that night when they where all asleep I have to ran away. I'm not looking back, I'm lucky my boyfriend family who lives 200km from where I live are willingly to take me in.
My perents are very strict! Im only 8 yrs old but im just scared to ran away beause of kidnapper pls answer me what should i do?
Do not run away. Please talk to someone like a guidance counselor or extended family member you trust. ❤️
I wanna leave my household so bad. I live in a chechen household, im only 13. My parents are abusive, toxic, sexist, etc. im worried because my grades are bad and ill try better next year. Im literally so scared because guys, living in a chechen household as a girl is HELL. Youre not allowed to go outside alone, even if its a park nearby. Nothing. Im scared. I have social anxiety and im an introvert. I dont have the courage to leave. But i want to. I dont know what job i want.
@Not_exist-ed Austria/
I am waiting to turn 18 too to escape from here🙂
its not ur parents fault. they must have been brought up in a different culture with different tradition that you will never understant as they couldn't about the society you were in. this is the problem with most of the indians they could't leave the indianess while leaving india. western culture prioritises individuality which completely opposite of the southern asian. Good luck with your new beginning
A family member also ran away for a black guy and got married after having 2 kids he left her and now she is a single mom bring up 2 black boys on her own. Hopefully you don’t end up like that... wish you all the success in your decisions..... she is also Guyanese living in the states. I feel sooo sorry for her.
Didn’t run away for a guy 🤷🏽♀️
Me as an Arab : u haven't seen anything..💔
I wanna run too
All u had to say is I’m Guyanese I
Our parents really need to do better Caribbean parents are some of the worse 😭
Good communication skill
Good for you live your one life , feel me
I am an Arab girl, and this is the most difficult thing in the matter, and I am not a leg////al adult
Theres going to be a huge chunk of the older generation who are going to be dying alone, and will act like victims as if they didn't bring this onto themselves after traumatising their kids. All I hope is that the younger generation can break out of this generational trauma.
thats true but traumatize is a big word meaning something tragic or astonishing has happened to the child though. but it is true theyll be alone for not caring enough about feelings of the child.
That's not strict, that's abusive.
I’m 30 years old and I left my family’s house because I have tolerated enough humiliation and disrespect by my family members.
As an Indian this is so normal here... I'm fed up honestly 💀 WE NEED TO BREAK THE CYCLE
Yeah are u run away from home?
@@unknown_girl111 it's almost impossible in this economy.
Im indian but my parents are chill cuz i got my phone at like 11 so im not sure about that but i also live in america.
@@Kawasaki6791no offence but NRI's are not indians.
@@oogaboogasswhy do you think so? it is possible definitely
People use their culture as an excuse to emotionally abuse and manipulate their children. This cycle needs to end
Watching this made me realize how normal and chill my parents actually are. I'm so grateful and my heart goes out to her.
Whats ur age
@@ask536 17
@@tasmeenbaker9912 ok ok dear friend
@@tasmeenbaker9912 mine is 18 hehe 😂
I'm so jealous
To all the Indian brothers and sisters wanting to run away from unique controlling parents... first try to work for sometime , save whatever u get , then leave with some finance in your pocket. Good luck to those who left and trying to stand on your own two feet. Those still contemplating.....be brave and fearless.
❤❤
Are u run away from home?
Emotional manipulation is the key that’s gonna mess you up the most after you leave your parents! It’s a devastating feeling they give you so you can feel sorry for them! Beware and focus on yourself, no negativity should enter in your life no more
Definitely agree on this !
100% to the emotional manipulation
Guilt tripping can really mess everything up afterwards and make you feel unable to do anything in life or have enough self esteem to achieve what you need to have your own personality or independence
And they are constantly trying to get back in your life too
People who run away from their parents for reasons other than abuse are usually narcissists and are actually the manipulators. If someone told me they ran away from their parents then I would instantly recognize that they are a person who cannot be trusted.
I don't feel safe around my parents. Like I have to be careful about everything I say if I accidentally ever talked casually then would call it disrespectful. My parents still retreat me like their main goal is to find me a good husband even though I'm just 16. They almost gave me up when I was child just because I was a girl . I have to run away. I feel suffocating being around them. My dad constantly reminds me that my life isn't just mine. I cannot help bit feel like they own me and I hate it. I can't wait to be 18 so that I can run away.
Watch videos on Narcissistic personality disorders. Dr. Ramani on TH-cam has helped me so much
Almost everything you said had/still is happening with me except the “gave up on me just because I’m a girl” part and I’m also planning to run away after I turn 18...I’m 15 rn
@@kimseok-jin1751 can i come too
@@akkiiiiii11 yeah but do you have an account on Instagram?
@@kimseok-jin1751 yesbu t i m not sure