Absolutely amazing video and I thank you for sharing. I am in a loving relationship with my spouse and all this information I have come across has helped us as we are going through stress now. You really know what you’re talking about. I am amazed how everything I have researched is about trying to see a man in a different light. Listen to Dax “A Real Man” it opened my eyes up and my heart. I have learned a lot and it helped me understand my spouses insecurities which were breaking down our marriage. Just listen with open mind. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Tread lightly on the Hero Archetype part. I did this, made him feel like man and it backfired. Do not give men anything they haven't earned. If you express admiration just to make him feel better you're getting him addicted to instant gratification without doing anything. This will make him lazy and tyrannical and then when he doesn't get it he might throw temper tantrums, take revenge cz now he's addicted to getting main character treatment for merely existing. Make sure that your compliments are based in reality. Many men want to FEEL like heroes, they dont want to BE heroes as that's a difficult responsibility, they may want shortcuts instead. Do not chase fantasies, be grounded in reality for your own safety, ladies.
I agree with you my friend. I think if the guy is not a natural in himself we can try as hard as we like and they will be exactly what they show us. FAKE.
I think that’s why Bernie said “Genuine” admiration. False flattery is always going to have negative consequences. A good man will find false flattery obsequious and a turn off.
You speak truth. This is dangerous. Do not put a crown on someone who did not earn it. If he isn’t great in bed, don’t tell him he is. If you do not feel protected by him, don’t tell him you feel safe with him. If he does not make your life better/easier, don’t tell him he is good to/for you. You’re rewarding him for nothing and he knows it.
Coming from a male I must say that this is very true, and I have been lucky enough to find a woman that does fulfill those desires. I’ve never felt so blessed.
Same things applies for all human beings. Men, women. All of us want feedback, appreciation, admiration, inspiration and being the only ones. Video is true, but also true is that first women treat you how would they like to be treated, but then start to treat you, how you treat. Apprecitation especially should go both ways.
The 6 experiences... 1. Sensation of being alive (2:00) 2. Emotional expression without shame (3:35) 3. Genuine admiration (5:05) 4. Freedom to be fully seen (6:45) 5. Your joy derived from his value (8:45) 6. Your consistent choice of him within your full life outside of him (9:50) This is spot on. Thank you. ✨️
Got to get to give, for example speaking, sharing feelings. Otherwise he will just shut it down and she'll say we'll, yet another one who plays games. Transparency, honesty, openness - that's his job, if she doesn't respond, he walks. It's a 2-way street.
Not every person has a romantic soul. Lots of men and women don't and they are capable to have sexual freedom with whoever they want. For the romantics, they will never be able to do that because they need emotional connection to be intimate.
Not just ladies, men aswell. Don't sleep around, keep your dignity, have some self respect. You are not farm yard animals. Don't get intimate with someone you are not intimate with.
Yeah the role models young people have now keep sleeping around, keeps getting married, keeps divorcing and jumps to a new relationship soon after divorce
The funny thing is most men do get this in a relationship they just don't reciprocate it back, so the woman just starts to pull back. No need to keep pouring their full energy into someone who doesn't know how to give the same back.
Maybe try not "pouring" and instead let him earn you. Give back in equal measure as your heart moves you. Try not winning him, but instead let him win you. Just brainstorming 💜
People are single because they haven't met their person. Idiots, horrible/insecure/unaware people are in relationships. Good, bad & indifferent but a vibrational match. Be kind to yourself. Appreciate yourself. Regardless of how much you accomplished.
You right . But after we learn ourselves we have to look at the side that interests us and get empathy to understand them . We have a big advantage if we hear from men , themselves , what they need . Maybe not exactly the same for all....but we can take hood tips...
As a wife and mother to son I’m almost embarrassed by my peers that they need to make this about them! Amazingly disrespectful and egotistical to diminish a life of a particular group because you need to interject YOUR experience. My grandpas were WWII vets on the front lines of battle, both lost sons and wives during their lives. They didn’t get permission from other men to talk or process or even cry!!!! It’s time to ALLOW men the space for generational healing Ladies. Back up little girls that need to make everything about you… us STRONG and loving women are holding the line.
Introspection fails as a modality 70% of the time because people aren’t willing to be honest with themselves. Also, trauma clouds our intuition. Having a guide who is not close to your particular situation, can help those people. Not everyone needs it but not everyone can unearth this knowledge from within themselves.
On the hero archetype thing...one of my favorite hero archetypes in fiction is Aragorn in Lord of the Rings. So kind, so gentle, so vulnerable...and yet absolutely courageous and even a dangerous man when he needs to be, when his loved ones are in danger.
Being single is great for those who appreciate the beauty in solitude and realize they do not need anyone to feel happy inside. Having a partner should always be nothing but a bonus.
Being single (and a father "over weekends") for around 9 years now (with some occasional hook-ups 1-2 times a year) I have learned to be comfortable alone, but at the same time I am realizing I cannot and I don't want to live like that anymore. I want a decent woman in my life to build something greater in our lifes together and enjoy the life together. It is so boring to try to enjoy things by yourself.
@@mojekonto9287 Boring? I'm never bored, never. Not enough hours in a day to be bored or lonely. But I'm happily single, child-free, a fiction writer, an introvert. I've just always felt best in my own company. And I'd never deign to 'hook-up' with anyone nor take seriously anyone who is hook-up-prone. Why do we often hear that women can live without men but men can't live without women? Nowadays, single men are not competing with other men. They're competing with the peace that solitude brings to women.
It’s a beauty for you whom don’t want someone to share life with, some of us since an early age desired such companionship in life. I do love for now my solitude as I acknowledged it as “Separation/Waiting Season” because God is preparing me for greater things in life. 🙏🏼
A man pursues a woman, offers love and she in response submits. She offers him these 6 things which is a reflection of what he offers her. If the man is broken and is unable to love but plays the game anyway, the woman will realize that its not authentic. She feels unsafe and he does not get submission from her. Women are not therapists, men are not therapist to fix your brokenness. Be whole before you seek the company of a woman and you will be able to lead her to submission.
Submission to the man as the Head of the household but only submit to a man who is capable of being Head of the Household. Women are made to be the HEART of the household.
Of course, but you are missing the point of this video due to your covert narcissism coping trait that is showing here in your example of not allowing men the space to just be human instead of labeled into stereotypes that everyone goes extremely PC over except when it’s directed towards heterosexual males. Do you see how you diminish their life experience at all here? Please understand how your dynamic lacks humility and respect for men and little boys in this world.
I feel the video is titled this way because of how much society conditions men to be very stoic and tough but in reality were all the same regardless of gender. Its so odd some people find it surprising we also want the same things but if this video was titled what women want the general response would probably be "We already knew this". Its a shame because in my experience I was never taken seriously (at least before my partner) because most people think we dont need this we just need to keep pushing harder but all that does is just make men slowly grow bitter.
“Do not withhold good from someone to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do so.” Proverbs 3:27 of the Bible. Our men need our affirmation and admiration! It will help them shine and bring forth their God-given strength and even purpose! ❤️
Some women have all these qualities naturally. Many say things like "you attract, you light up a room on your entry, you are effective and words to such effect. These women are different from other women who do not believe in themselves, have no self confidence or empathy. These chosen women are rare.
Emotional expression without shame is something Ill never forget which was offered to me especially moreso after growing up in a household that regularly dismissed my "negative" emotions. Its really stunted and numbed me in my adult life but Im glad I found someone who was a safe space to finally make me break that habit of not wanting to be vulnerable and being scared it will blow up in my face.
What about if he/we want it”, but Mother Nature, and age, is presenting with other ideas. Ideas that aren’t exactly getting through to him, if you get my point …!
These are what I long for too. That’s what makes this all so sad. Men, woman, human. We want the same things. So why do we keep missing each other? No doubt women are missing what a man longs for. And no doubt men are missing what a woman longs for. I think most of us are scared of rejection and aren’t willing to be vulnerable before we can trust. But by holding out, the other person can’t fully trust us because we are holding back. And vice versa. So… Who goes first? Who should be the one to be vulnerable first? I think part of the solution is that every single one of us must be willing to be authentic, vulnerable, and courageous without the other person proving themselves as trustworthy. (I think this is different than someone proving themselves untrustworthy). In order to connect, we must risk being hurt. We must figure out ways to handle the pain and emotional turmoil, and trust ourselves that we will get ourselves through it. Until we do this, we will continue to find saviors in our partners where there aren’t any. Until we do this we will continue to be ships passing in the night. And we will continue to blame each other for missing us.
I came to admire my love who passed on for the fact that he consistently cared for others. He showed up. I guess you could call it being of service. He was always there for me and never told me 'no,'. He was available; he took the time. I miss him very much; I felt valuable to him and safe. It was simply heaven. We were friends for two years before we became romantic. ❤❤❤. The true essence of a man was revealed to me,,; I never saw something more beautiful.
@@BernMendez Thank you. My goal after having a great time with men in general before I met him and his passing,, was and is to be a friend o men. I saw how he suffered from the expectations placed upon him by society., for xxample, he was a nature guy yet he compared himself with lawyers with big salaries. I found this same phenomenon in other men I dated. Awful pressure. I knew that women really did not need a man with a big salary, but they did need someone who would treat them kindly and care about what mattered to them. Many men I met could not handle that a woman was smart; they would run for the hills. My sweetheart was not threatened by that and we had great conversations. I feel sorry that men will not relax and let their true selves shine through. Make a friend of a woman, but be clear in the beginning about being attracted or not. I am very clear if a man expresses an interest in me, that I don't feel the same, but I am willing to be friends. Unfortunately, most of them don't know how to act in this situation. They are not used to it. But they could raise there chances of meeting the right woman, and understanding them if they knew more about them. Communication is still sorely wanting. We hide too much from each other. .
I admire what he does and can see first hand the difference that he makes to lives. And I tell him how brilliant he is and what he does is really important. And how much I admire him
Recent past experience was with a inhumanly cruel covert narcissist. Invested deeply in my healing journey, didn't half-as* a bit of it! Eventually met a good, kind, loving man when i wasn't looking, simply living my life. We're going so slow physically and he's becoming an even better man every day! It's absolutely beautiful to watch!!! I can't agree with this video more!!! This is 100% accurate! Thank you for posting this. It's so validating and hope more women can feel the truth of this and implement it. Be the safe space you want to find in a good man and he will show up for you as you show up for yourself and him 💜💜💜
This video expresses a different view of how men value their relationships with women. It is like looking through the their world from the inside out. It was very down to earth and information. Thank you
Exactly. I'm so tired of men saying their needs from women are unique. All of their needs from women are exactly what women want from men. If men would stop seeing themselves as their gender and see themselves simpy as a human, we would all get along better. Men and women want the axact same things. Just embrace each other.
Exactly. I'm so tired of men saying their needs from women are unique. All of their needs from women are exactly what women want from men. If men would stop seeing themselves as their gender and see themselves simpy as a human, we would all get along better. Men and women want the axact same things. Just embrace each other.
Hi Martha, I look at it as a 2-way street. Of course men need to care about what women need and if you watch any of my videos you will hear a strong message advocating for women's needs and even shining a bright light as to how to identify the kind of men that will be an asset vs a liability to women's lives. Having said this, if YOU want to attract a man who is above average, kind, compassionate, good looking, masculine, ambitious yet generous there is no way to connect with him unless you also understand what he wants. I have compassion for your sentiment of frustration I have to imagine it comes from personal pain and for that I'm sorry. And at the same time the solution isn't to say "F**k men." but perhaps to figure out how to connect with the kind you find valuable (and for that you'll need to understand their needs) just my two cents. Thanks for sharing. : )
@@BernMendez when women don’t have to worry about being killed every time they meet a guy for the first time, I’ll consider it. Don’t know if men have to worry about that every time they go out with a woman.
I have a male roomate right now You would be surprised at the # of concerns they have before dates At least I was 😂 It actually does include personal safety if they want to bring someone home for example It’s been an eye opener to see the other side so up close and personal We might all need a little grace
Berne, I took all of your advices quite literally in a notebook over the last two years and it took me that long to finally meet someone that I feel is my match, it has been five months so far and he says that I am the one, we shall see, hopefully! thank you! you are like a heaven sent dating coach and mentor!
I show myself emotionally and get nothing in return. It's like I don't exist anymore. But then he will do a kind think and I think aww that's lovely and it's then if I say thank you there's nothing from him
Broken man. What you want you have to give. Too many men do not plain and simply love. How do you do these things to someone who does not love you. It is not a real relationship and you can try to force things in hope but your brain and your heart tells you it is not real.
Good for you! You don’t need these silly videos that tell women what you must do. Men need to think more about how they should correct their behavior and attitudes.
I didn't have to watch this video to know it's spot on. I just scanned through the chapter titles, and that was enough to know it is. It goes into the "watch later" group for now, but liking and subscribing, because I know a good thing when I see it! Thanks, Bernardo. I'm looking forward to checking out your other works!
The man must be strong enough to offer all his love affection care to his lady love. With these, his lady will respond with all her love affection and care.
We can express shame to someone. Thats the only eay to connect in that moment. There is no point in wanting to have another emotion, if you didnt really tell " i feel ashamed" to a close one. Thats the first challenge on your way to good emotions, to be courageous enough to express difficult feelings first.
A man knows where his heart belongs, you might do everything for him and yet he still won't want you forever, the best thing to do as a lady is to focus on making yourself better, the right man will come and you won't force it.
I was meditating and listening, I swear this is what a woman wants to👌all of it by the way. 1. Man with full life, 2. Able to be herself without shame 3. Admiration could be her looks or characters 4. To be seen 5. Her man enjoying her says she matters 6. Yo be chosen. So ladies do this six things for yourself, fall in love with yourself. A man who fall in love with himself come along the way😊if not you still be happy woman. Anything we do to get someone contradictory to the teaching itself 🎉🎉🎉
This is such a wonderful video and in my experience I have seen these to be true. Men definitely crave all of the above. I'm dating a man that I make sure to tell him and show him that he's the man, my hero and I always show gratitude for him and the thoughtful things he says and does for me. I do thoughtful things for him too and we enjoy our time together.
I listened to this about 5times already. This resonates in my spirit. Even though we never had a sexual relationship, the connections were real. The experience is still refreshing.
I gave a man all the things you say in this video. All I got was “you’re such a valuable woman, such an inspiration, such a light for my soul”… and yet at 51 years old, after a divorce from a cheating wife, all he wants is to be free to whore around.
I'm still watching, but right now: 😻 Point #1: YES! omg. I don't know how much men are into this, but living with feeling, instinctually, that's where it's at - connecting to yourself and sharing your BEING with others... Without the wall of 'thought', 'intellectualisation' or 'abstraction'. Been focusing on this in my life- Much more rewarding. Presupposes/expects nothing. Ambivalent to outcome but REVELS in connections and bonds attained. I never supposed I was attractive, but living with point #1 in mind has shown me guys have some deep needs for connection and authenticity, sex is insignificant in comparison. Hearing you speak the words confirms my belief I have tapped into something ❤
So, sisters let's help our men to ✨ Feel alive, ✨ feel like a hero, ✨feel safe to express his feelings,✨ feel seen ✨witness us being happy and content with what he brings to the table ✨💖✨
Ok, I’ll buy what you’re selling. You forgot respect which is huge. At 8:03 you lost me…. 😂. Some of us women are single by choice until we meet the right person. It’s easy to meet and date men but there isn’t a lot of quality out there and my time is valuable.
This is all correct. Especially the bit about choice. It’s important for a man, who knows that he swims in an ocean, full of men who may be superior to him in some way or other, to have reassurance from his love that he is the one that she chooses. There’s no greater feeling to be chosen by the one you also choose. Additionally, when these factors are presents in your relationship, the sex gets better too!
I'm Asexual, I was married 7 years no sex, I finally called an end to my marrage. Was then in a 6 year relationship until he died from cancer. I now prefer being single and free.
@@James-jx3ro don't know, I don't care either, I always gave them plenty of space to leave due to who I am. They knew what I was like and chose to stay.
You forgot 7 and 8 and 9: 7. The ability to do whatever he wants for himself only 8. The freedom to stare into his computer from the moment he wakes up until the moment he goes to bed 9. Make his wife feel ignored and belittled without taking any responsibility That should sum it up.
@@BernMendez Bern, gave the better answer. It is possible, after years of frustration. To find a deeper connection, with each other. I'm 64, and I'm calling this year, our year of discovering each other. My wife and I, had put up emotional walls, with each other. Some courageous moves, on behalf of the scared and defensive partner. Helped the shutdown partner, feel safe. Have brought some sunshine, into our lives. It typically goes back, to our relationships with our parents, how we received love. Both partners.
Ahh you forget that men can experience is that of victimization i.e. “using sex as a weapon” quote when after ignoring or disrespecting his partner he expects entitlement of sex and now he can use this phrase and therefore is a victim and experiences such
Great!All you've said here is really valid-women crave these too. I will show appreciation of 'what a man brings to the table.' Question is does this man appreciate what I appreciate?? Is he prepared to research what I appreciate or is he just going to bring what he appreciates on our table and expect my eyes to light up? Healthy relationships thrive on 'give&take.'A constant blending in of the two personalities in the relationship. My heart cannot connect if what is being brought to the table is totally foreign to my values and sensibilities. Same goes for what I bring to our table too.
I am a single woman but I only became single because I divorced my abusive ex husband. He is still telling people that I will be back that I will understand that we are meant to be. What he doesn't want to believe is that I have already moved on and am seeing someone else mind you I moved out of the marital bedroom 2 years before I moved out of the house and I have been out of that house for over 2 years as well so I did grieve my relationship and I did tell him that it was over years ago he still doesn't believe it. Just waiting for him to find out that I have found someone new and threaten the new guy. Saying that I am still his wife and that I will always be his wife and that me going out on dates with other men is cheating. My divorce is finalized but he doesn't care.
I think I’m a somewhat self deprecating woman and definitely shy about my weight. But, some years ago, when my boss started chasing me all of a sudden, after working for him for a few years, I somehow got a sense that, although he was asking for sex (hopefully not actually demanding it), it might’ve been because I made him feel alive somehow. You can be used to being you and not know what you might bring to the table, for someone else. We never slept together. He was married, we never had a good working relationship and I don’t sleep with coworkers and married people. I also cannot make up for the deficits in their life. Although a verrry stoic man of few words, that was the sense I got from him. That he’d hidden feelings from me, for quite some time. I wasn’t sure what caused him to finally come out and ask and, on the dark side, it could’ve been entitlement. But it felt as if he was silently suffering through his life, both home and work and saw me as a way out. Somehow, I’d fallen for him. But, I couldn’t allow anything to happen.
@@privateprivate8366 sending you a big hug, because you seem to have some of the same issues I have had for most of my life. I promise you though, in the long-term, you will feel better not feeling the guilt of having cheated on his wife,showing yourself more self-respect and value, holding yourself in higher esteem than just being somebody on the side, and the pleasure you would get out of this would only be very temporary. You deserve your very own full-time relationship that is rewarding and complete, even if the wait may be longer. In the meantime, would it possibly help to work on what doesn't make you feel so good about yourself? No need to answer, just putting a suggestion out there. I admire your strength and wisdom in this matter.
AND back to your point, YES, you should feel great about having that liveliness and passion in you, that made somebody else want to participate in that feeling, and made their life more enjoyable!
@@ninaza6806 😆 yes, I know. However, there were times I got a sense it was quite painful for him, as well. That, being my boss, company president, a racial divide, did not provide him power to do whatever he wanted. I wasn’t sure if, once he was promoted to president, it was what triggered the pursuit. But at least I had to realize I’d land on my arse and he on his feet, if any impropriety occurred.
After many many many years of trying to be everything to someone by being who they want me to be only to be left behind....i will now focus on being enough for me and anyone who can really love me without all the tapdancing and 3 ring stunts.
Thanks so much for another fantastic video. I very much appreciate your experience and the direct way in which you share it. I find each one of your videos so helpful and insightful. Please continue to guide us. You are a fantastic coach.
I'm single because I see through the BS. Space to make mistakes???? So second chances, third chances etc to continue to pile on the BS until he's broken you??? Nah!!! Happier being single
This was so incredibly helpful and inspiring for me. In all honesty, I have been slacking so I deeply appreciate your message here. I’ve got a few ideas to try and I’ll keep working to make these more habitual
Thank you for sharing your information so generously and providing the free training after the quiz! I'm absolutely going to be married very soon by learning these things.
Basically i think everyone must be true and genuine. Be yourself. And respect others. These "rules" or qualities, what ever,don't apply if people use them to manipulate someone. Sooner or later your true colors come up. And that's when problems start. I would reformulate these "rules " to: First, don't lie and don't pretend to be someone you are not. Sooner or later the other person will know who you really are. Second, respect yours and the other person's boundries. Third, be nice and respectful and treat the other person the same way you would like to be treated.
Yes, I agree a relationship is a two way experience. My goal in sharing this video isn't to deny that women have powerful needs too, but rather to open a window into how many men think and feel so YOU can get more of what you want. Thank you for watching and for sharing.
He can’t speak on that because he’s not a woman. Just like I, as a woman, cannot speak on what men want because I’m not a man. I can only learn what men want from men.
Hey, what do you know? A video who is title declares it to be about men, which is about men. Shocking. Shall I go to the numerous video channels devoted strictly to women’s self-development and complain about how I as a man am underrepresented there? This is not about you, and that’s OK.
Ive. experienced that. It scared me!!! I had bad guys very much my heart closed up for awhile. He expressed his feelings. And l did 💕 him he loved me as well. He remarried twice. I looked up him but l wasn't ready to commit. He was so sweetly complimentary . He wanted married life. I'm good without married. Take care. Ms. Prater.
What do you do when youve given him all that, and he was so happy in the beginning... but then he lied about who he was. Hid addictions then started being abusive?
I’m tired of trying to find out what he wants after 39 years. When is he going to ask me what I need from him? What excites me? What are my deepest cravings?
Thank you for this very insightful video! It actually confirmed what I already and subconsciously craved to feel with my gf with the most remarkable aspect being, wanting to be her hero. I always found that to be a little childish of myself, but through this video now it really makes sense. Thank you! 🙏🏻
I have all these qualities (way before watching this video,I have these qualities as a woman) hat you mentioned and I kid you not,it all made him affectionate towards me.❤
Your man is a natural so he connected to you. In one of my comments I said that the men must have a natural feeling to qualify for the healthy relationship.
What is the point to be with someone who tell u he love you when you get sick they go away and never ask how you feeling waist time money and love us better to be alone no Metter what u do for a guy they never happy so my only humble opinion is to stay away from people's who doesn't deserve your time
[Take My Free Quiz]: What's the #1 Reason You're Single: bit.ly/youresinglequiz
It's not your fault and thank you so much I appreciate people like you I really do.
❤🎉 thank you
Absolutely amazing video and I thank you for sharing. I am in a loving relationship with my spouse and all this information I have come across has helped us as we are going through stress now. You really know what you’re talking about.
I am amazed how everything I have researched is about trying to see a man in a different light. Listen to Dax “A Real Man” it opened my eyes up and my heart. I have learned a lot and it helped me understand my spouses insecurities which were breaking down our marriage. Just listen with open mind. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Tread lightly on the Hero Archetype part. I did this, made him feel like man and it backfired. Do not give men anything they haven't earned. If you express admiration just to make him feel better you're getting him addicted to instant gratification without doing anything. This will make him lazy and tyrannical and then when he doesn't get it he might throw temper tantrums, take revenge cz now he's addicted to getting main character treatment for merely existing. Make sure that your compliments are based in reality. Many men want to FEEL like heroes, they dont want to BE heroes as that's a difficult responsibility, they may want shortcuts instead.
Do not chase fantasies, be grounded in reality for your own safety, ladies.
I agree with you my friend. I think if the guy is not a natural in himself we can try as hard as we like and they will be exactly what they show us. FAKE.
I love that!!! Excellent comment!!!
I think that’s why Bernie said “Genuine” admiration. False flattery is always going to have negative consequences. A good man will find false flattery obsequious and a turn off.
You speak truth. This is dangerous. Do not put a crown on someone who did not earn it.
If he isn’t great in bed, don’t tell him he is.
If you do not feel protected by him, don’t tell him you feel safe with him.
If he does not make your life better/easier, don’t tell him he is good to/for you.
You’re rewarding him for nothing and he knows it.
@@Peendee Thank you for giving breaking this down and giving examples.
Coming from a male I must say that this is very true, and I have been lucky enough to find a woman that does fulfill those desires. I’ve never felt so blessed.
Thanks for sharing!
That's if you're open to it. Sadly, my ex was so not. 😞
Why are you on here then ????😅
@@Goodwillwinoverevil1984sarcastic 😂
Same things applies for all human beings. Men, women. All of us want feedback, appreciation, admiration, inspiration and being the only ones. Video is true, but also true is that first women treat you how would they like to be treated, but then start to treat you, how you treat. Apprecitation especially should go both ways.
That’s so true
Spot on!
The 6 experiences...
1. Sensation of being alive (2:00)
2. Emotional expression without shame (3:35)
3. Genuine admiration (5:05)
4. Freedom to be fully seen (6:45)
5. Your joy derived from his value (8:45)
6. Your consistent choice of him within your full life outside of him (9:50)
This is spot on. Thank you. ✨️
thank you!
THanks for watching : )
Got to get to give, for example speaking, sharing feelings. Otherwise he will just shut it down and she'll say we'll, yet another one who plays games. Transparency, honesty, openness - that's his job, if she doesn't respond, he walks. It's a 2-way street.
Don't we women want this as well?
@@fingerprint5511 THANKS for sharing.
Be Freinds Before Lovers ... ❤ Yourself
Ladies don't sleep around , keep your dignity and maintain boundaries this is how you earn respect
Thanks for watching!
Not every person has a romantic soul. Lots of men and women don't and they are capable to have sexual freedom with whoever they want. For the romantics, they will never be able to do that because they need emotional connection to be intimate.
💯
Not just ladies, men aswell. Don't sleep around, keep your dignity, have some self respect. You are not farm yard animals. Don't get intimate with someone you are not intimate with.
Yeah the role models young people have now keep sleeping around, keeps getting married, keeps divorcing and jumps to a new relationship soon after divorce
The funny thing is most men do get this in a relationship they just don't reciprocate it back, so the woman just starts to pull back. No need to keep pouring their full energy into someone who doesn't know how to give the same back.
They know how to they’re just too lazy to do it.
@@ladybug3380😂😂😂😂😂
YES!!!! The summation of most of my relationships.
Maybe try not "pouring" and instead let him earn you. Give back in equal measure as your heart moves you. Try not winning him, but instead let him win you. Just brainstorming 💜
@andreas.healing.journey I like how you worded that! ❤
People are single because they haven't met their person. Idiots, horrible/insecure/unaware people are in relationships. Good, bad & indifferent but a vibrational match. Be kind to yourself. Appreciate yourself. Regardless of how much you accomplished.
Some are single because they just want to be! They're not waiting for their SP. They're happily single & can't imagine being half of a couple.
You right . But after we learn ourselves we have to look at the side that interests us and get empathy to understand them . We have a big advantage if we hear from men , themselves , what they need . Maybe not exactly the same for all....but we can take hood tips...
It's not just men who want these things.
I understand : )
As a wife and mother to son I’m almost embarrassed by my peers that they need to make this about them!
Amazingly disrespectful and egotistical to diminish a life of a particular group because you need to interject YOUR experience.
My grandpas were WWII vets on the front lines of battle, both lost sons and wives during their lives. They didn’t get permission from other men to talk or process or even cry!!!!
It’s time to ALLOW men the space for generational healing Ladies.
Back up little girls that need to make everything about you…
us STRONG and loving women are holding the line.
@Lifetimelearningisbrave wise woman 🐞🦁🍀♾️🎱🙏
Both of you are right ❤😊
Narcissists are the exception. They cannot stand being seen as their true self.
Agree 🙏
SPOT ON..AND, THERE ARE MANY STILL IN PROGRESS...😏
Exactly 💯
Yes. That’s what I am dealing with now.
Give the narcissist no other option but to confront him/herself.
Women, pls don't spend your money on someone claiming "i can tell you the one reason why you're still single". You know yourself why you are.
Exactly life is not about man.... And the are single man out there as well & they are happy.
@@IngridFriend-lh5xu True 💯
Well, I would pay to hear the other side of the story. Stories are everything to me as a Divine Storyteller ✨️.
@@marievanpatten2130Ditto darling ✨️
Introspection fails as a modality 70% of the time because people aren’t willing to be honest with themselves. Also, trauma clouds our intuition. Having a guide who is not close to your particular situation, can help those people.
Not everyone needs it but not everyone can unearth this knowledge from within themselves.
On the hero archetype thing...one of my favorite hero archetypes in fiction is Aragorn in Lord of the Rings. So kind, so gentle, so vulnerable...and yet absolutely courageous and even a dangerous man when he needs to be, when his loved ones are in danger.
Being single is a beautiful thing. These are needs of mentally healthy human beings.
Being single is great for those who appreciate the beauty in solitude and realize they do not need anyone to feel happy inside. Having a partner should always be nothing but a bonus.
Being single (and a father "over weekends") for around 9 years now (with some occasional hook-ups 1-2 times a year) I have learned to be comfortable alone, but at the same time I am realizing I cannot and I don't want to live like that anymore. I want a decent woman in my life to build something greater in our lifes together and enjoy the life together. It is so boring to try to enjoy things by yourself.
@@mojekonto9287 Boring? I'm never bored, never. Not enough hours in a day to be bored or lonely. But I'm happily single, child-free, a fiction writer, an introvert. I've just always felt best in my own company. And I'd never deign to 'hook-up' with anyone nor take seriously anyone who is hook-up-prone.
Why do we often hear that women can live without men but men can't live without women? Nowadays, single men are not competing with other men. They're competing with the peace that solitude brings to women.
It’s a beauty for you whom don’t want someone to share life with, some of us since an early age desired such companionship in life.
I do love for now my solitude as I acknowledged it as “Separation/Waiting Season” because God is preparing me for greater things in life. 🙏🏼
@@LdAmaro71 AMEN
A man pursues a woman, offers love and she in response submits. She offers him these 6 things which is a reflection of what he offers her. If the man is broken and is unable to love but plays the game anyway, the woman will realize that its not authentic. She feels unsafe and he does not get submission from her. Women are not therapists, men are not therapist to fix your brokenness. Be whole before you seek the company of a woman and you will be able to lead her to submission.
Perfectly said
Submission? Submission?!
What’s all this submission crap?
Submission to the man as the Head of the household but only submit to a man who is capable of being Head of the Household. Women are made to be the HEART of the household.
❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏
As a women I feel all these things apply to me as well😊
Of course, but you are missing the point of this video due to your covert narcissism coping trait that is showing here in your example of not allowing men the space to just be human instead of labeled into stereotypes that everyone goes extremely PC over except when it’s directed towards heterosexual males.
Do you see how you diminish their life experience at all here?
Please understand how your dynamic lacks humility and respect for men and little boys in this world.
Not about you!! Still single?🤣🤣🤣
I feel the video is titled this way because of how much society conditions men to be very stoic and tough but in reality were all the same regardless of gender. Its so odd some people find it surprising we also want the same things but if this video was titled what women want the general response would probably be "We already knew this". Its a shame because in my experience I was never taken seriously (at least before my partner) because most people think we dont need this we just need to keep pushing harder but all that does is just make men slowly grow bitter.
Every man is different. Just be yourself and if they don't make u feel good, move on.
Thanks for watching.
“Do not withhold good from someone to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do so.” Proverbs 3:27 of the Bible.
Our men need our affirmation and admiration! It will help them shine and bring forth their God-given strength and even purpose! ❤️
I love this application of the verse!
Truth! Thanks Jen
women do as well. they need to hear they are good mothers - good nurturers
You just got me with that quote.
Women need affirmation and admiration too.
Some women have all these qualities naturally. Many say things like "you attract, you light up a room on your entry, you are effective and words to such effect. These women are different from other women who do not believe in themselves, have no self confidence or empathy. These chosen women are rare.
Everything thing you explained in this 💯 i have experienced as a free-spirited woman. I know who I am.
Emotional expression without shame is something Ill never forget which was offered to me especially moreso after growing up in a household that regularly dismissed my "negative" emotions. Its really stunted and numbed me in my adult life but Im glad I found someone who was a safe space to finally make me break that habit of not wanting to be vulnerable and being scared it will blow up in my face.
So glad you found someone who sees you and offers you space to be you 🙏
What about if he/we want it”, but Mother Nature, and age, is presenting with other ideas. Ideas that aren’t exactly getting through to him, if you get my point …!
The experience of being alive. You attract. Exactly 💯 right.
Glad this was helpful.
These are what I long for too. That’s what makes this all so sad. Men, woman, human. We want the same things. So why do we keep missing each other? No doubt women are missing what a man longs for. And no doubt men are missing what a woman longs for.
I think most of us are scared of rejection and aren’t willing to be vulnerable before we can trust. But by holding out, the other person can’t fully trust us because we are holding back. And vice versa. So… Who goes first? Who should be the one to be vulnerable first?
I think part of the solution is that every single one of us must be willing to be authentic, vulnerable, and courageous without the other person proving themselves as trustworthy. (I think this is different than someone proving themselves untrustworthy). In order to connect, we must risk being hurt. We must figure out ways to handle the pain and emotional turmoil, and trust ourselves that we will get ourselves through it.
Until we do this, we will continue to find saviors in our partners where there aren’t any. Until we do this we will continue to be ships passing in the night. And we will continue to blame each other for missing us.
I came to admire my love who passed on for the fact that he consistently cared for others. He showed up. I guess you could call it being of service. He was always there for me and never told me 'no,'. He was available; he took the time. I miss him very much; I felt valuable to him and safe. It was simply heaven. We were friends for two years before we became romantic. ❤❤❤. The true essence of a man was revealed to me,,; I never saw something more beautiful.
My heart goes out to you for your loss and how beautiful you were able to experience this 🙏
@@BernMendez Thank you. My goal after having a great time with men in general before I met him and his passing,, was and is to be a friend o men. I saw how he suffered from the expectations placed upon him by society., for xxample, he was a nature guy yet he compared himself with lawyers with big salaries. I found this same phenomenon in other men I dated. Awful pressure. I knew that women really did not need a man with a big salary, but they did need someone who would treat them kindly and care about what mattered to them. Many men I met could not handle that a woman was smart; they would run for the hills. My sweetheart was not threatened by that and we had great conversations. I feel sorry that men will not relax and let their true selves shine through. Make a friend of a woman, but be clear in the beginning about being attracted or not. I am very clear if a man expresses an interest in me, that I don't feel the same, but I am willing to be friends. Unfortunately, most of them don't know how to act in this situation. They are not used to it. But they could raise there chances of meeting the right woman, and understanding them if they knew more about them. Communication is still sorely wanting. We hide too much from each other. .
I admire what he does and can see first hand the difference that he makes to lives. And I tell him how brilliant he is and what he does is really important. And how much I admire him
Recent past experience was with a inhumanly cruel covert narcissist. Invested deeply in my healing journey, didn't half-as* a bit of it! Eventually met a good, kind, loving man when i wasn't looking, simply living my life. We're going so slow physically and he's becoming an even better man every day! It's absolutely beautiful to watch!!!
I can't agree with this video more!!! This is 100% accurate! Thank you for posting this. It's so validating and hope more women can feel the truth of this and implement it. Be the safe space you want to find in a good man and he will show up for you as you show up for yourself and him 💜💜💜
Andrea, I’m grateful to hear you’re on the way up and that you enjoyed this video 🙏
So good. So affirming! Thank you, Bern, for going deeper and focusing on what it means to be more real and human, and attracting from THAT place!
Martha, thank you for your support and your kind words. 🙏
You have the best and most insightful content on the internet, thanks so much for sharing it.
Thank You so much for your kind words : )
This video expresses a different view of how men value their relationships with women. It is like looking through the their world from the inside out. It was very down to earth and information. Thank you
I don’t care what men want. It’s time that men figure out what women want.!!!
Exactly. I'm so tired of men saying their needs from women are unique. All of their needs from women are exactly what women want from men. If men would stop seeing themselves as their gender and see themselves simpy as a human, we would all get along better. Men and women want the axact same things. Just embrace each other.
Exactly. I'm so tired of men saying their needs from women are unique. All of their needs from women are exactly what women want from men. If men would stop seeing themselves as their gender and see themselves simpy as a human, we would all get along better. Men and women want the axact same things. Just embrace each other.
Hi Martha, I look at it as a 2-way street. Of course men need to care about what women need and if you watch any of my videos you will hear a strong message advocating for women's needs and even shining a bright light as to how to identify the kind of men that will be an asset vs a liability to women's lives. Having said this, if YOU want to attract a man who is above average, kind, compassionate, good looking, masculine, ambitious yet generous there is no way to connect with him unless you also understand what he wants. I have compassion for your sentiment of frustration I have to imagine it comes from personal pain and for that I'm sorry. And at the same time the solution isn't to say "F**k men." but perhaps to figure out how to connect with the kind you find valuable (and for that you'll need to understand their needs) just my two cents. Thanks for sharing. : )
@@BernMendez when women don’t have to worry about being killed every time they meet a guy for the first time, I’ll consider it. Don’t know if men have to worry about that every time they go out with a woman.
I have a male roomate right now
You would be surprised at the # of concerns they have before dates
At least I was 😂
It actually does include personal safety if they want to bring someone home for example
It’s been an eye opener to see the other side so up close and personal
We might all need a little grace
Berne, I took all of your advices quite literally in a notebook over the last two years and it took me that long to finally meet someone that I feel is my match, it has been five months so far and he says that I am the one, we shall see, hopefully! thank you! you are like a heaven sent dating coach and mentor!
Which video is that.
This guy is so genuine and honest in his advice! Impressive!! Thank you Bernardo!!
You’re most welcome!
I show myself emotionally and get nothing in return. It's like I don't exist anymore. But then he will do a kind think and I think aww that's lovely and it's then if I say thank you there's nothing from him
Narcisst.
Agree
@@Jenny-np6ht I'm tending to agree with you. I thought I could spot one a mile away as my ex was a massive one
@@helensanderson7092 😥 I am so sorry. I have been trough the same. You have to try to forget him. We have no choice. They are truly horrific....
Broken man. What you want you have to give. Too many men do not plain and simply love. How do you do these things to someone who does not love you. It is not a real relationship and you can try to force things in hope but your brain and your heart tells you it is not real.
The nr 1 reason i am single is that i never go outside😂
Me too 😂
Yes
Good for you! You don’t need these silly videos that tell women what you must do. Men need to think more about how they should correct their behavior and attitudes.
🤣😂🤣😂
😂😂😂
I didn't have to watch this video to know it's spot on. I just scanned through the chapter titles, and that was enough to know it is.
It goes into the "watch later" group for now, but liking and subscribing, because I know a good thing when I see it!
Thanks, Bernardo. I'm looking forward to checking out your other works!
The man must be strong enough to offer all his love affection care to his lady love. With these, his lady will respond with all her love affection and care.
We can express shame to someone. Thats the only eay to connect in that moment. There is no point in wanting to have another emotion, if you didnt really tell " i feel ashamed" to a close one. Thats the first challenge on your way to good emotions, to be courageous enough to express difficult feelings first.
A man knows where his heart belongs, you might do everything for him and yet he still won't want you forever, the best thing to do as a lady is to focus on making yourself better, the right man will come and you won't force it.
I was meditating and listening, I swear this is what a woman wants to👌all of it by the way. 1. Man with full life, 2. Able to be herself without shame 3. Admiration could be her looks or characters 4. To be seen 5. Her man enjoying her says she matters 6. Yo be chosen. So ladies do this six things for yourself, fall in love with yourself. A man who fall in love with himself come along the way😊if not you still be happy woman. Anything we do to get someone contradictory to the teaching itself 🎉🎉🎉
This is such a wonderful video and in my experience I have seen these to be true. Men definitely crave all of the above. I'm dating a man that I make sure to tell him and show him that he's the man, my hero and I always show gratitude for him and the thoughtful things he says and does for me. I do thoughtful things for him too and we enjoy our time together.
I listened to this about 5times already. This resonates in my spirit. Even though we never had a sexual relationship, the connections were real. The experience is still refreshing.
Glad this was useful to you : )
I gave a man all the things you say in this video. All I got was “you’re such a valuable woman, such an inspiration, such a light for my soul”… and yet at 51 years old, after a divorce from a cheating wife, all he wants is to be free to whore around.
I'm still watching, but right now: 😻 Point #1: YES! omg. I don't know how much men are into this, but living with feeling, instinctually, that's where it's at - connecting to yourself and sharing your BEING with others... Without the wall of 'thought', 'intellectualisation' or 'abstraction'. Been focusing on this in my life- Much more rewarding. Presupposes/expects nothing. Ambivalent to outcome but REVELS in connections and bonds attained. I never supposed I was attractive, but living with point #1 in mind has shown me guys have some deep needs for connection and authenticity, sex is insignificant in comparison. Hearing you speak the words confirms my belief I have tapped into something ❤
So, sisters let's help our men to ✨ Feel alive, ✨ feel like a hero, ✨feel safe to express his feelings,✨ feel seen ✨witness us being happy and content with what he brings to the table ✨💖✨
I think women want the same as the examples you gave . I agree
Thanks for sharing, this video: The 5 MAJOR Differences In How Men & Women Select a Partner might help... th-cam.com/video/Y_asO9ilmJE/w-d-xo.html
Ok, I’ll buy what you’re selling. You forgot respect which is huge.
At 8:03 you lost me…. 😂. Some of us women are single by choice until we meet the right person. It’s easy to meet and date men but there isn’t a lot of quality out there and my time is valuable.
I’ve done all of these and still ended up in two trauma bond toxic relationships.
Everyone craves real connection more than everything else. It is our nature.
This one thing that drives us forward and makes us all strong.
You are right I know exactly why my last long term relationship ended, I have done the work over the past two years. I ask has he?????????? EVER?????
Why would you want to go back!?
I hear you girl. Those so-called men are mannicous, they eat every thing and anywhere. They are not serious. We do the work, they don't care, simple.
This is all correct.
Especially the bit about choice. It’s important for a man, who knows that he swims in an ocean, full of men who may be superior to him in some way or other, to have reassurance from his love that he is the one that she chooses. There’s no greater feeling to be chosen by the one you also choose.
Additionally, when these factors are presents in your relationship, the sex gets better too!
Thanks for sharing :)
I'm Asexual, I was married 7 years no sex, I finally called an end to my marrage. Was then in a 6 year relationship until he died from cancer. I now prefer being single and free.
Why no sex in marriage?
😢
So many questions. Was he A sexual? Did he know that you were? Would he have lived longer with a partner who wasn't?
@@James-jx3ro don't know, I don't care either, I always gave them plenty of space to leave due to who I am. They knew what I was like and chose to stay.
@@J.F611 I'd say the diagnosis of Asexual answers that.
If there were more men in the world like you, and like you describe here, what a wonderful world it would be 🎼 🎶 🎵.
I know, right?
Did all of this- nothing. We still split
Right action, wrong person
You forgot 7 and 8 and 9:
7. The ability to do whatever he wants for himself only
8. The freedom to stare into his computer from the moment he wakes up until the moment he goes to bed
9. Make his wife feel ignored and belittled without taking any responsibility
That should sum it up.
An immature person.
It can be the wife too.
Coleen this sounds really painful, have you considered couples therapy?
@@BernMendez Bern, gave the better answer.
It is possible, after years of frustration. To find a deeper connection, with each other. I'm 64, and I'm calling this year, our year of discovering each other. My wife and I, had put up emotional walls, with each other. Some courageous moves, on behalf of the scared and defensive partner. Helped the shutdown partner, feel safe. Have brought some sunshine, into our lives.
It typically goes back, to our relationships with our parents, how we received love. Both partners.
Ahh you forget that men can experience is that of victimization i.e. “using sex as a weapon” quote when after ignoring or disrespecting his partner he expects entitlement of sex and now he can use this phrase and therefore is a victim and experiences such
@@BernMendez It's just making me a stronger woman. No pain at all. I just hope he leaves someday real soon. He gives me the yuck!
So deeply valuable. Thank you❤
You are so welcome, glad you found it valuable : )
Beautifully described what I haven't been able to put in words. Thank you.
Great!All you've said here is really valid-women crave these too.
I will show appreciation of 'what a man brings to the table.'
Question is does this man appreciate what I appreciate??
Is he prepared to research what I appreciate or is he just going to bring what he appreciates on our table and expect my eyes to light up?
Healthy relationships thrive on 'give&take.'A constant blending in of the two personalities in the relationship.
My heart cannot connect if what is being brought to the table is totally foreign to my values and sensibilities.
Same goes for what I bring to our table too.
I am a single woman but I only became single because I divorced my abusive ex husband. He is still telling people that I will be back that I will understand that we are meant to be. What he doesn't want to believe is that I have already moved on and am seeing someone else mind you I moved out of the marital bedroom 2 years before I moved out of the house and I have been out of that house for over 2 years as well so I did grieve my relationship and I did tell him that it was over years ago he still doesn't believe it. Just waiting for him to find out that I have found someone new and threaten the new guy. Saying that I am still his wife and that I will always be his wife and that me going out on dates with other men is cheating. My divorce is finalized but he doesn't care.
I think I’m a somewhat self deprecating woman and definitely shy about my weight. But, some years ago, when my boss started chasing me all of a sudden, after working for him for a few years, I somehow got a sense that, although he was asking for sex (hopefully not actually demanding it), it might’ve been because I made him feel alive somehow. You can be used to being you and not know what you might bring to the table, for someone else. We never slept together. He was married, we never had a good working relationship and I don’t sleep with coworkers and married people. I also cannot make up for the deficits in their life. Although a verrry stoic man of few words, that was the sense I got from him. That he’d hidden feelings from me, for quite some time. I wasn’t sure what caused him to finally come out and ask and, on the dark side, it could’ve been entitlement. But it felt as if he was silently suffering through his life, both home and work and saw me as a way out. Somehow, I’d fallen for him. But, I couldn’t allow anything to happen.
Smart choice!
@@ninaza6806 painful choice though. I was into him, too. Verrry much. I guess the heart wants what it wants. But, I couldn’t afford to be stupid.
@@privateprivate8366 sending you a big hug, because you seem to have some of the same issues I have had for most of my life. I promise you though, in the long-term, you will feel better not feeling the guilt of having cheated on his wife,showing yourself more self-respect and value, holding yourself in higher esteem than just being somebody on the side, and the pleasure you would get out of this would only be very temporary. You deserve your very own full-time relationship that is rewarding and complete, even if the wait may be longer. In the meantime, would it possibly help to work on what doesn't make you feel so good about yourself? No need to answer, just putting a suggestion out there. I admire your strength and wisdom in this matter.
AND back to your point, YES, you should feel great about having that liveliness and passion in you, that made somebody else want to participate in that feeling, and made their life more enjoyable!
@@ninaza6806 😆 yes, I know. However, there were times I got a sense it was quite painful for him, as well. That, being my boss, company president, a racial divide, did not provide him power to do whatever he wanted. I wasn’t sure if, once he was promoted to president, it was what triggered the pursuit. But at least I had to realize I’d land on my arse and he on his feet, if any impropriety occurred.
After many many many years of trying to be everything to someone by being who they want me to be only to be left behind....i will now focus on being enough for me and anyone who can really love me without all the tapdancing and 3 ring stunts.
The irony & fact is , you have to be this in order to attract this.
I believe in building healthy connections and if I feel the need to invest in growth I’ll invest in myself first.
Thanks so much for another fantastic video. I very much appreciate your experience and the direct way in which you share it. I find each one of your videos so helpful and insightful. Please continue to guide us. You are a fantastic coach.
Thanks for making this amazing video!
Pretty sure I already know why I'm still single, and those things are in the changing process to get back into that realm again! :)
I'm single because I see through the BS. Space to make mistakes???? So second chances, third chances etc to continue to pile on the BS until he's broken you??? Nah!!! Happier being single
Sex is just an icing of a relationship. Respect and trust matters, once these are broken sex is nothing.
This was so incredibly helpful and inspiring for me. In all honesty, I have been slacking so I deeply appreciate your message here. I’ve got a few ideas to try and I’ll keep working to make these more habitual
This makes ABSOLUTE 💯 sense!!! Thank you.
You're so welcome.
Still single because my husband died. Don’t assume everyone on here has never been married.
I am sorry for your loss. I am too . My husband died unexpectedly January 3, 2014. This is rarely discussed.
Facts I was a widow at 46
@@BuyDirt2 I’m sorry for your loss too. Widow people don’t get enough consideration.
Thank you
Sorry for your loss and having worked with humans who've experienced loss through death, I don't assume that is the case. 🙏
Thank you for sharing your information so generously and providing the free training after the quiz! I'm absolutely going to be married very soon by learning these things.
Basically i think everyone must be true and genuine. Be yourself. And respect others.
These "rules" or qualities, what ever,don't apply if people use them to manipulate someone. Sooner or later your true colors come up. And that's when problems start.
I would reformulate these "rules " to:
First, don't lie and don't pretend to be someone you are not. Sooner or later the other person will know who you really are.
Second, respect yours and the other person's boundries.
Third, be nice and respectful and treat the other person the same way you would like to be treated.
Equates to the hero archetype. Love it! ❤
Thank you for watching.
I had to watch this out of curiousity. And my question. Is . What about what women want ? A relationship is a two way thing
Yes, I agree a relationship is a two way experience. My goal in sharing this video isn't to deny that women have powerful needs too, but rather to open a window into how many men think and feel so YOU can get more of what you want. Thank you for watching and for sharing.
He can’t speak on that because he’s not a woman. Just like I, as a woman, cannot speak on what men want because I’m not a man. I can only learn what men want from men.
😊
@@BernMendez
Yeah but he's talking about men right now
Hey, what do you know? A video who is title declares it to be about men, which is about men. Shocking.
Shall I go to the numerous video channels devoted strictly to women’s self-development and complain about how I as a man am underrepresented there?
This is not about you, and that’s OK.
This helped me understand what would really benefit me on a deeper level
Men’s number one need is respect. Ladies look it up. 🙏❤️🙏
Great video! So authentic!
Ive. experienced that. It scared me!!! I had bad guys very much my heart closed up for awhile. He expressed his feelings. And l did 💕 him he loved me as well. He remarried twice. I looked up him but l wasn't ready to commit. He was so sweetly complimentary . He wanted married life. I'm good without married. Take care. Ms. Prater.
I will never have Sex til I'm Married!❤
What do you do when youve given him all that, and he was so happy in the beginning... but then he lied about who he was. Hid addictions then started being abusive?
I slept with guy on first date we are still going strong
How long ?
Me too. 13 months
i think this is good information for men who want to be better friends to their male friends, as well
Great video!!
Glad you enjoyed it :)
Doesn't have to be 'full of life'. Just needs to be there in a genuine way. Whatever that is for that person.
I’m tired of trying to find out what he wants after 39 years. When is he going to ask me what I need from him? What excites me? What are my deepest cravings?
Just tell.him , don't wait to be asked
Thanks, very helpful 👍
Glad it was helpful, Katie : )
Excellent video, thank you!😊
Thank you for this very insightful video! It actually confirmed what I already and subconsciously craved to feel with my gf with the most remarkable aspect being, wanting to be her hero. I always found that to be a little childish of myself, but through this video now it really makes sense. Thank you! 🙏🏻
I have all these qualities (way before watching this video,I have these qualities as a woman) hat you mentioned and I kid you not,it all made him affectionate towards me.❤
Your man is a natural so he connected to you. In one of my comments I said that the men must have a natural feeling to qualify for the healthy relationship.
Brillant explanation especially point 2
What is the point to be with someone who tell u he love you when you get sick they go away and never ask how you feeling waist time money and love us better to be alone no Metter what u do for a guy they never happy so my only humble opinion is to stay away from people's who doesn't deserve your time
Thank you🌟
This is very good advice.
this video is soo good! thank yoU!
Nice guy !!!
Thank you : )
Wonderful video 😊❤ Thank you...
Bernardo you are soooo good!!
Thank you, Johanna for your kind words. : )
@@BernMendez Hey, I took the quiz but didn’t hear back.
🐬✨01:37✨🐬BE THE MUSE 🐬BE THE INSPIRATION🐬OFFER THE JOY OF LIFE🐬
✨CHOOSE YOUR PARTNER, BOYFRIEND, HUSBAND CAREFULLY✨
I think u met one of these great guys!
Thanks for watching.
Very insightful ❤
Glad it was helpful :)
Aaaw I love your message❤Thank you for sharing this.