@@Kris_Reece Hi Kris, so um, what's the difference between a narcissist and or a selfish, disrespectful, entitled individual that doesn't care about anyone or anything (not even themselves) but to use, lie and manipulate to get what they want? OK so everything I just described is what you stated in your video and these individuals happen to be my children who I gave birth to. the only time they contact me is when they want something from me. Every time I'm in contact with them, they have so much negativity oozing out spiritually that I feel so drained and depressed afterwards, like it's sucking the life out of me, like a vampire.
Call them out on an obvious lie and then they spin it 3 different ways (but my intention was…) and end by saying “I’m shocked you think I lied.” Really funny!!! Reminds me of “Theater of the Absurd” Obviously there is no connection to interact with.
When someone continually exhibits rude behavior with me but not with others, it tells me I am a target. They know what they are doing, I know this because they hide it from others and deny it when confronted.
This describes my sister to a T. She never does it to our brother, just me. She also treats her oldest daughter this way too. She is telling me her kids hate me, and they say it’s a lie.
You ARE helping me. Thank you for just being there. You are helping me to continue to look up.. beyond the present pain and struggle. To fall on the LORD.
For me who has just recently received the toxic evil of a narcissist, it doesn't really matter to me why they are who they are, all I know isI am glad I am rid of them.
Wonderful and insightful video. Thanks for all you share. I believe many of us have been raised to tolerate abuse, not listen to our gut and second guess ourselves. Also do too much to keep the peace, wear rose-coloured glasses and paint red flags white. Giving too many chances until we are left with not only a bleeding broken heart, but a nearly shattered and hemmoraging one. I know I have changed dramatically to the point of cutting people off very quickly. I do not get into anything. I do however sometimes try to address things gently and if the person is not accountable I just distance myself. I think truly caring people are a rarity nowadays. God bless you and everyone on this channel!
Narcissist usually can NOT be saved NOR do they have a desire to change or be changed. You can neither fix them or save them.. Pray from a safe distance but do NOT engage them .. They will suck you into their lair!
About 2 years into my marriage my wife rolled over onto me and made a deathly gasp for air, she had a sudden cardiac arrest. A heartbeat of around 320 bpm. That was Over 20 years ago. It seems to me that God wanted me to save her and give her the unconditional love she never had. Dare I say, to fix her.
Hi Kris, Just wanted to say thank you. I am a heart patient and was released into the care of my wife of 18 years back in January 1 of this year. You would probably believe me if I told you some of the horrible things that she did. She left me gave me a three day notice changed the locks on our mobile home had the license plate taken off of my vehicle, which unfortunately was still in her name. Curses me out in a rage for about an hour and a half. I’m sure that it wasn’t her that was talking to me a good portion of the time. Now she has left from North Carolina took everything and is in Washington state.Your videos on TH-cam have been a lifesaver for me. I didn’t even know what a narcissist was. Learning about this has helped me tremendously to be able to deal with the situation as a Christian.I purpose in my heart not to be unforgiving, resentful, wanting vengeance… your prayers have been a godsend and yes, you have been a great blessing to me. and I’m sure multiple thousands of other people that are struggling. Thanks, Chris for your godly wisdom compassion and grace.
Great signs to be on the lookout for, great advice, thanks my friend! God Bless!! Guard Heart and Boundaries, stand firm biblically and protect your peace-YES so important!! 🙂
Shoes are a great analogy. Thank you so much! Maybe crayons could be another analogy. I love the saying, "broken crayons still color" because we're all broken in some way and need to be kind, understanding and empathetic toward one another. But a narcissist is a different type of "crayon." They look like a brightly-colored, pretty crayon, but they're just a fake, plastic version that can never color a picture. A relationship with one will never work, never color a beautiful picture because there is no real person there, only a fake imitation of one. I don't know. What do you think?
Fake crayon as in a moulded piece of clear wax with a color coating. It colors for a spot but fades to nothing. This opposed to a whole, color-filled crayon.
I'll put it this way: We both work on ice, but she wears ice climbing boots on the ice rink while I wear blades. It isn't a match. It's not toxic, but it's a mismatch and only toxic when they insist they can still work on the ice rink without the blades. While everyone is gliding across the ice, she is slowly digging up the ice and damaging the surface where everyone is at risk while she ignores the fact of the disruption. That is toxic behavior.
@@catherineswish hold them accountable, insist they repair whatever damage, right any wrongs. Do they add any value to your life? There is no one answer depending on the circumstances.
This is more confusing than anything, there is a root cause for the behavior. Some people are raised to hurt others as that is what they know a relationship is, does that mean they are toxic as they do not know better? Or are they not toxic for the same reason? I think what you mean is. If the person is not willing to acknowledge and try to work on their toxic behavior then it can be "labeled" as toxic. To me that makes more sense. Everyone deserves a second chance or more. But toxic people prefer to not change and move on to find the "right one" or keep doing the same thing over and over again
Yes and our God given conscience knows what's right and what is wrong. When a conscience is "seared as with a hot iron" 1 Timothy 4:2, that person is hardened beyond change by their choice. Sounds tough but it is Biblical truth. There is a point of no return. Many today have reached. 2 Timothy 3:1-9. Sad but true. God Bless us and keep us from that point. 🙏
James 3:11-15 Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish.Amen🙏🏻💖thank you GBU Emmanuel
This is where our feelings catch up to forgiveness and trust in God's plan for our life and the others' lives. Narcissistic relationships Healthy relationships between us and the number one relationship with our Father God, his son Jesus to the Holy Ghost inside. Thank-you Jesus for being our Savior 🎉 to you, be the glory. Thank you for the Holy Spirit inside us all who have chosen life and not death. Thank you for your forgiveness of my hurts and the hurts I have inflicted on you by the choices I made ignoring your guidance. Glory to glory in Thanksgiving with gratitude. Please continue to grow me in you. Amen
Kris, I love listening to your messages and at the same time watching you. The whole thing (confident posture and look in your eyes, authentic smile) work together with your messages and produce what God meant to. But the frame (cadre) moving has been a little bit disturbing for my eyesight recently. The picture jerks too often, I think. Once or twice would be just fine as your videos are not very long and eyes don't get too tired. Moving cadres more often rather remind shorts that are just killing our eyes (I am not speaking about your shorts. To me they are some of the best and respectful for our eyes and minds).
These type of wired brains are living nightmares! I’ve date two! But luckily the last one I noticed quickly and RAN and blocked him, even quit my job bc he worked there. GO FULL NO CONTACT! They will sadly and truly just find another victim to replace you. It’s hurts but it’s better than you choosing them.
Excellent information! Perfect example comparison to shoes or fun house mirror. Thank you for your videos and very helpful BIBLICAL advice and information ❤
Love your videos, but couldn't watch this one because of the constant changing distance, up close then back again. It's distracting. I listened and read the transcript.
Your life is in your feet look at Jesus how he walked all over the world without changing his shoes because he knows that life was in the feet that's when you are in a relationship with a person he sees you off your feet than you got married to that person had children's than you saw the narcissistic craziness in him than comes all the hell that's why we need to pay attention to the red flags in a person before we say I do not all relationship and marriages are that way but Most of them are is good to buy a pair of new shoes when getting out of a relationship or a divorce to not remember your pain in the feet that he cause you I liked the video of the different shoes Amen Amen 🙏🙏🙏.
The Bible is supernatural. A relationship with Jesus is supernatural. I started a three day fast this morning. Thank you for this message. I'm 34 years old, make $27,000 a month and am retired. This video really inspired me in many ways!!!🙏🏾
It is the digital market. That's been the secret to this wealth transfer. A lot of folks in the US amd abroad are getting so much from it, God has been good to my household Thank you Jesus
@@Willi-h7u I have heard a lot of wonderful things about Kathleen Mary vella on the news but didn't believe it until now. I'm definitely trying her out
Stop, narcissist target an individual - this rationalization about a narc is dangerous and a reason so many people in the church are injured ongoing by a narc. Just stop
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@@Kris_Reece
Hi Kris, so um, what's the difference between a narcissist and or a selfish, disrespectful, entitled individual that doesn't care about anyone or anything (not even themselves) but to use, lie and manipulate to get what they want?
OK so everything I just described is what you stated in your video and these individuals happen to be my children who I gave birth to. the only time they contact me is when they want something from me. Every time I'm in contact with them, they have so much negativity oozing out spiritually that I feel so drained and depressed afterwards, like it's sucking the life out of me, like a vampire.
Verbal abuse, manipulation, chronic lying, secrecy, selfishness, chronic negativity, dismisiveness, vindictiveness, disrespect, explosiveness, and explotation.
and then the ruminating trying to figure out if they’re actually completely calculated or just gaslighting themselves and unaware
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Call them out on an obvious lie and then they spin it 3 different ways (but my intention was…) and end by saying
“I’m shocked you think I lied.”
Really funny!!!
Reminds me of
“Theater of the Absurd”
Obviously there is no connection to interact with.
When someone continually exhibits rude behavior with me but not with others, it tells me I am a target. They know what they are doing, I know this because they hide it from others and deny it when confronted.
I would prefer if we have a private discu-ssion
Exactly
The others are usually the flying monkeys.
This describes my sister to a T. She never does it to our brother, just me. She also treats her oldest daughter this way too. She is telling me her kids hate me, and they say it’s a lie.
1. Attachment Disorders
2. Quirky Habits
3. Unresolved Trauma
4. Addictions
5. Emotional Immaturity
6. Demonic Influence
7. Mental Disorders
You ARE helping me. Thank you for just being there. You are helping me to continue to look up.. beyond the present pain and struggle. To fall on the LORD.
I would prefer if we have a private discu-ssion.
For me who has just recently received the toxic evil of a narcissist, it doesn't really matter to me why they are who they are, all I know isI am glad I am rid of them.
Exactly. And even if they are not narcissists. Abuse is abuse.
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Wonderful and insightful video. Thanks for all you share. I believe many of us have been raised to tolerate abuse, not listen to our gut and second guess ourselves. Also do too much to keep the peace, wear rose-coloured glasses and paint red flags white. Giving too many chances until we are left with not only a bleeding broken heart, but a nearly shattered and hemmoraging one. I know I have changed dramatically to the point of cutting people off very quickly. I do not get into anything. I do however sometimes try to address things gently and if the person is not accountable I just distance myself. I think truly caring people are a rarity nowadays. God bless you and everyone on this channel!
I totally agree. Denial of reality.
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If parents, school or the system makes a toxic person out of you, it is ok, but if you do nothing to change it when you grow up, it is not ok i.m.o.
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Some are due to abuse! Trauma and possible Demons, They run by default! Some can be saved! I pray every day for them Please God Open their eyes!
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Narcissist usually can NOT be saved NOR do they have a desire to change or be changed. You can neither fix them or save them.. Pray from a safe distance but do NOT engage them .. They will suck you into their lair!
I appreciate and thank God for you! It is like you are the strong voice deep down inside. Thank you!!!
Thank you for what you do! Your ministry has been such a help 😊
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It is NOT my job to fix them, or save them!! That is God's job!
Wisest comment on these Evil people. Don't be a victim but a victor in Christ!
About 2 years into my marriage my wife rolled over onto me and made a deathly gasp for air, she had a sudden cardiac arrest. A heartbeat of around 320 bpm. That was Over 20 years ago. It seems to me that God wanted me to save her and give her the unconditional love she never had. Dare I say, to fix her.
1. Attatchment disorders
2. Quarky habits
3. Unresolved Trauma
4. Addictions
5. Emotional immaturity
6. Demonic Influence
7. Other Disorders
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Hi Kris, Just wanted to say thank you. I am a heart patient and was released into the care of my wife of 18 years back in January 1 of this year. You would probably believe me if I told you some of the horrible things that she did. She left me gave me a three day notice changed the locks on our mobile home had the license plate taken off of my vehicle, which unfortunately was still in her name. Curses me out in a rage for about an hour and a half. I’m sure that it wasn’t her that was talking to me a good portion of the time. Now she has left from North Carolina took everything and is in Washington state.Your videos on TH-cam have been a lifesaver for me. I didn’t even know what a narcissist was. Learning about this has helped me tremendously to be able to deal with the situation as a Christian.I purpose in my heart not to be unforgiving, resentful, wanting vengeance… your prayers have been a godsend and yes, you have been a great blessing to me. and I’m sure multiple thousands of other people that are struggling. Thanks, Chris for your godly wisdom compassion and grace.
Great signs to be on the lookout for, great advice, thanks my friend! God Bless!! Guard Heart and Boundaries, stand firm biblically and protect your peace-YES so important!! 🙂
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Narcs only seem to struggle when it benefits them. They always need to be the majority beneficiary of every encounter. You ... Not so much. 😮
Shoes are a great analogy. Thank you so much! Maybe crayons could be another analogy. I love the saying, "broken crayons still color" because we're all broken in some way and need to be kind, understanding and empathetic toward one another. But a narcissist is a different type of "crayon." They look like a brightly-colored, pretty crayon, but they're just a fake, plastic version that can never color a picture. A relationship with one will never work, never color a beautiful picture because there is no real person there, only a fake imitation of one. I don't know. What do you think?
Fake crayon as in a moulded piece of clear wax with a color coating. It colors for a spot but fades to nothing. This opposed to a whole, color-filled crayon.
I would prefer if we have a private discu-ssion.
Excellent lesson! Thank you, Dr. Reece! You are a godsend.🤎
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I love this. Thank you for this clarity. Accountability is key.
Nope, they are still super toxic. No matter how "we" perceive it. Narcissism is simply incurable!
This perspective is super valuable! 💯
Well done
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Thank you, Kris 🙌
Amazing 🌻🌻🌻
Thank you so much🌻🌻🌻
Great video! ❤
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Amen! Thank you for sharing. ❤
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Amen! Great job!!
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Nuance is very important! The difference between someone else being toxic and me being toxic. More lessons like this are needed for everyone.
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I'll put it this way: We both work on ice, but she wears ice climbing boots on the ice rink while I wear blades. It isn't a match. It's not toxic, but it's a mismatch and only toxic when they insist they can still work on the ice rink without the blades. While everyone is gliding across the ice, she is slowly digging up the ice and damaging the surface where everyone is at risk while she ignores the fact of the disruption. That is toxic behavior.
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What about a toxic person from the past that’s trying to reattach…
What about that?
Ya…run 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Hold your ground, don’t cave
@@catherineswish hold them accountable, insist they repair whatever damage, right any wrongs.
Do they add any value to your life?
There is no one answer depending on the circumstances.
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Thanks for a great video 😊
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Great video.
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Thank you 🙏
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Pure Gold 👍👍
God Bless 🙏🙏
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This is more confusing than anything, there is a root cause for the behavior. Some people are raised to hurt others as that is what they know a relationship is, does that mean they are toxic as they do not know better? Or are they not toxic for the same reason? I think what you mean is. If the person is not willing to acknowledge and try to work on their toxic behavior then it can be "labeled" as toxic. To me that makes more sense. Everyone deserves a second chance or more. But toxic people prefer to not change and move on to find the "right one" or keep doing the same thing over and over again
I agree ☝️
Yes and our God given conscience knows what's right and what is wrong. When a conscience is "seared as with a hot iron" 1 Timothy 4:2, that person is hardened beyond change by their choice. Sounds tough but it is Biblical truth. There is a point of no return. Many today have reached. 2 Timothy 3:1-9. Sad but true. God Bless us and keep us from that point. 🙏
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I agree, people are not impervious to their actions, just unwilling to acknowledge them... And be accountable.. From them, RUN FORREST!!!
Well said, like you always do ❤️🔥
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I would love to see a video on reactive abuse which I call Reaction TO Abuse.
James 3:11-15 Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter?
Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh.
Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom.
But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth.
This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish.Amen🙏🏻💖thank you GBU Emmanuel
I would prefer if we have a private discu-ssion
This is where our feelings catch up to forgiveness and trust in God's plan for our life and the others' lives. Narcissistic relationships Healthy relationships between us and the number one relationship with our Father God, his son Jesus to the Holy Ghost inside. Thank-you Jesus for being our Savior 🎉 to you, be the glory. Thank you for the Holy Spirit inside us all who have chosen life and not death. Thank you for your forgiveness of my hurts and the hurts I have inflicted on you by the choices I made ignoring your guidance. Glory to glory in Thanksgiving with gratitude. Please continue to grow me in you. Amen
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Kris, I love listening to your messages and at the same time watching you. The whole thing (confident posture and look in your eyes, authentic smile) work together with your messages and produce what God meant to.
But the frame (cadre) moving has been a little bit disturbing for my eyesight recently. The picture jerks too often, I think. Once or twice would be just fine as your videos are not very long and eyes don't get too tired.
Moving cadres more often rather remind shorts that are just killing our eyes (I am not speaking about your shorts. To me they are some of the best and respectful for our eyes and minds).
I would prefer if we have a private discu-ssion.
These type of wired brains are living nightmares! I’ve date two! But luckily the last one I noticed quickly and RAN and blocked him, even quit my job bc he worked there. GO FULL NO CONTACT! They will sadly and truly just find another victim to replace you. It’s hurts but it’s better than you choosing them.
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Excellent information! Perfect example comparison to shoes or fun house mirror. Thank you for your videos and very helpful BIBLICAL advice and information ❤
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I know, It could be example Jesebels spirit or someone else spirit😢
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I love you! Some of your videos seem to contradict your other videos. It does become confusing. I turned this one off. ❤
It is demonic.
If they're struggling. Why dump me all his garbage attitudes. What's my fault?
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Love your videos, but couldn't watch this one because of the constant changing distance, up close then back again. It's distracting. I listened and read the transcript.
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More like UNEVOLVE🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
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Who WANTS to label someone as toxic....just sayin'.
If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck.
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Adultery???
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Your life is in your feet look at Jesus how he walked all over the world without changing his shoes because he knows that life was in the feet that's when you are in a relationship with a person he sees you off your feet than you got married to that person had children's than you saw the narcissistic craziness in him than comes all the hell that's why we need to pay attention to the red flags in a person before we say I do not all relationship and marriages are that way but Most of them are is good to buy a pair of new shoes when getting out of a relationship or a divorce to not remember your pain in the feet that he cause you I liked the video of the different shoes Amen Amen 🙏🙏🙏.
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The Bible is supernatural. A relationship with Jesus is supernatural. I started a three day fast this morning. Thank you for this message. I'm 34 years old, make $27,000 a month and am retired. This video really inspired me in many ways!!!🙏🏾
@@Willi-h7u Excuse me for real?, how is that possible I have struggling financially, how was that possible?
I'm inspired. Please spill some sugar about the biweekly stuff you mentioned
Thanks to God, my friend (Rufus) who introduced me into the digital market. Moreso, thanks to Ms *Kathleen Mary Vella**
It is the digital market. That's been the secret to this wealth transfer. A lot of folks in the US amd abroad are getting so much from it, God has been good to my household Thank you Jesus
@@Willi-h7u I have heard a lot of wonderful things about Kathleen Mary vella on the news but didn't believe it until now. I'm definitely trying her out
Stop, narcissist target an individual - this rationalization about a narc is dangerous and a reason so many people in the church are injured ongoing by a narc. Just stop