PRENATAL DEPRESSION | DEPRESSION DURING PREGNANCY | ANXIETY IN PREGNANCY | MRS SMITH & CO.

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  • @mysteryvan3338
    @mysteryvan3338 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Going thru this rn. No one told me pregnancy could be this hard. Thank you for sharing your experience and showing me there is hope postpartum🙏🏽🤍

  • @loginviolette1986
    @loginviolette1986 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I feeel so out of routine, so sad, so lazy, sooo sick, I dont have energy to cook for myself, I feel everything so hard right now (week 11:( ) I used to be so productive I miss my life

    • @nunuk6514
      @nunuk6514 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That’s exactly how I’m feeling. I’m unable to do the most basic things I used to enjoy. Like watching a movie with my husband and son. I just feel extremely lonely and sad.

    • @onmypath607
      @onmypath607 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me toooo 🥺🥺 I’m also having panic attacks I think. I feel scared and lonely. My husband is also working long hours this week so I’ve been alllll alone with this all day. It feels like hell and it feels like idk how much longer I’m gonna hold on. 😭😭 like I feel hopeless

    • @julriver3336
      @julriver3336 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm feeling like this right now, thank you for your comment, it helps to see other ladies relate. I'm 7 weeks with constant nausea and fatigue. I became a stay at home wife (right before I found out I was pregnant) with hopes of being productive, cleaning the house and helping out. Now I sit at home, sleeping for hours, not showering for days, wearing the same thing day in and out 😕. I feel so gross. I know you all made these comments 3 months ago, was there any tips or advice that helped you out?

  • @laurabeddis1339
    @laurabeddis1339 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I wish I'd found this video when I was pregnant with my daughter, it describes everything that happened to me. I was so tired and sick all the time, I was terrified it would be the same when she was born and would affect my ability to bond with her. I missed out on buying her things and organising her nursery, I'd dreamed of having children for years so I was devastated I couldn't enjoy it. I remember desperately trawling the internet trying to find anyone else with the same symptoms to convince myself I wasn't going crazy. This video comforted me so much, thank you for talking about it. X

  • @daniellet9293
    @daniellet9293 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm struggling so much right now. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage and I feel so guilty being depressed while pregnant with my rainbow baby. There's a lot going on in my life and between that and the hormones, it has been such a challenge. Thank you so much for this - I feel much less alone.

  • @dawnhapgood2907
    @dawnhapgood2907 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You're not alone and I dont think this topic is discussed or supported enough. I am currently 33 weeks and dont want to go out, shower, get dressed, smile or do anything really accept sulk and spray fabreeze around the flat. My morning sickness felt more like the hangover from hell than simply "nausea". I feel lonely even though I dont want to see anyone. I am constantly teary and angry and not even sure why. My poor husband is doing his best but I want to isolate from him too because he doesnt deserve to be around this demon pregnant lady right now lol. All I can suggest is try and get help and understand these feelings arnt real and only temporary and think about that beautiful little person you are creating in your tummy ♥️

  • @cmcn1434
    @cmcn1434 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you, I’m currently going through this so your story has helped a lot. My biggest fear is postpartum afterwards but I’m doing all I can to stay positive.

  • @deawhite6132
    @deawhite6132 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I can relate so much!! I'm currently pregnant with my 2nd daughter and this pregnancy is pretty ok "mood-wise", but the first one was HORRIBLE. I felt all that you described, didn't want to have the baby, was terrified of everything, didn't enjoy any of it and felt extremely guilty because "women are supposed to be the happiest to have a baby!", even more when you struggled getting pregnant and had miscarriages. It was truly ugly to feel that way for 9 months.
    Then, as you say, I gave birth and I changed overnight! Bonded with my daughter right away, very happy to be her mom, no moor cry... It was incredible!
    With this pregnancy (I'm currently 8m pregnant, my first daughter is 16m, so the time gap is pretty short) I still have some heavy feelings every now and then, very anxious, nervous... But don't feel as horrible and hopeless. I guess that's because I knew what to expect!
    Thank you for making this video

  • @alejandracasillas2909
    @alejandracasillas2909 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much for talking about this! ppl always say it's normal and there's ppl who can't have kids and try to minimize what's going on and it makes you feel guilty and just hearing other women went through the same severe hyperemesis with depression/anxiety I feel so alone and it helps more than you know hearing you went through and talk about the things I can't.🙏🙏🙏❤️

  • @AnneLien1987
    @AnneLien1987 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for this video. Everything you talked about, even the work situation, I can relate too 100%.
    I have been feeling so depressed and I felt so ashamed.

  • @AlenaAleczandra
    @AlenaAleczandra 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    First trimester was horror for me. God, if i knew that this period is so hard I don’t know if I had any baby. I feel so strange…very anxious and anything would trigger me. Can’t stand anything. No loud voices, no alarms, sirens, any ringing. Is harder when you can’t afford your own house and you have to live with your parents in law. I feel that I will go crazy in every moment. I can’t sleep at night anymore, I m feeling very tired but mentally, more that physically. Of course I have also physically pain, but the suffering in my mind is more harder. I clean the room when I’m very angry and I feel the urge to do something.

    • @ctchcb7
      @ctchcb7 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      How do you feel today? ❤️

  • @gemmahodson8300
    @gemmahodson8300 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Iv watched your video and the fact you and my midwifes are the only one who understand what I'm going through has given me a bit of relief, I told my partner what I was going through and how I felt and he judged me and broke up with me and said that I should learn to have more control, he has been extremely selfish thinking about himself and not considering anything I'm going through and just saying horrible things about me 😢 so it's nice to have someone who understands what I'm going through, just wish I had someone to talk to x

  • @genesisandcarlo7133
    @genesisandcarlo7133 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for making this video.. I’m feeling a lot of stress and pressure to perform well at my new stay at home job and I just feel overwhelmed a lot of how much I’m unable to perform like before. My job requires me to be emotionally and mentally stable and strong but I haven’t been feeling strong on both those areas and I’m feeling like a complete failure. I’m leading a team who are doing so much better than me and I’ve been trying to compete or lead by example while I’m pregnant and it’s such a struggle for me mentally and emotionally. I haven’t been feeling sick, I just feel like I’m not functioning the way I used to. I’m more sensitive and easily affected emotionally and mentally. There’s a lot of fear in me that I may never amount to something if I don’t force myself to at least keep trying to be good enough for my job. I’m worried of not being financially stable enough for a meeting baby although we have enough money to get by. My husband is still working and I know most of it is just me overthinking and everything is just in my head which scares me. I don’t want to lose my team and I don’t want them to think that I’m not a capable leader because of what I’m going through. Although I know they understand, I’m scared that it won’t change after birth. Your story gave me a light in the tunnel. Im hoping I will feel better instantly too after birth.. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @MrsDonG2017
    @MrsDonG2017 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A lot of women need to know this as I didn't. I had postnatal depression after both my older two children but my recent one I felt I had it during. I did have a lot going on though aswell we had just lost our first child together (different dad from older two) . Santino is our rainbow baby and I am lucky to be able to speak to my partner and he does understanding. Your absolutely right and my partner says what you say you are who you are. Your so lovely. ❤🙏 xx

  • @NerdyKiwi
    @NerdyKiwi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’m struggling with this rn and there’s very few videos on this topic and this video really helped me feel less alone

    • @EllisSaraSmith
      @EllisSaraSmith  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm so glad this helped. This is such an unspoken about topic as during pregnancy we know we should feel happy but unfortunately this isn't the reality for everyone. I hope you're feeling okay xx

    • @brittanyspringer481
      @brittanyspringer481 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m dealing with this now. I’m on my second child. I had postpartum with my first but definitely prenatal with this one. Thanks for sharing

    • @meganrampton
      @meganrampton 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      How do you feel now ? Sending love xxxx

    • @AngelNapoles305
      @AngelNapoles305 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here , i qm non stop crying everything makes me feel hopeless, even had suicide thoughts … just hitting me so bad this time around feeling miserable

    • @meganrampton
      @meganrampton 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AngelNapoles305 you’re not alone xxxxx

  • @francescabaxhija8300
    @francescabaxhija8300 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    So brave talking about it. Not something that is talked about, and not something I’ve experienced. I can’t imagine how stressful and hard that must have been for you. At least it all went when you gave birth, I can imagine the relief you felt after. X

    • @EllisSaraSmith
      @EllisSaraSmith  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you Francesca. It was a very tough time and something I still struggle to talk about now. Thankfully I always feel better after birth but it's definitely a fear for when we decide to have a 3rd child x

  • @KB-----
    @KB----- 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for sharing this. I'm 15 weeks. I've been constantly sick. I had to take a month off of work due to being sick. This was financially devastating for me because I am single and pregnant, completely supporting myself. My neighborhood has gotten more difficult to live in because of the crime. So I am trying to move. And my car was just stolen 3 days ago. Everything is falling apart.

  • @nadiaa8545
    @nadiaa8545 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for speaking about this. Its something i suffered with twice. My triggers were hyperemesis, my body not functioning properly and the guilt of not being the mum i was supposed to be to my 2 daughters. I know exactly what you mean about feeling better as soon as you gave birth, i ran out of hospital and was so thankful i made it through that dark time of my life .

    • @EllisSaraSmith
      @EllisSaraSmith  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh no. I'm glad like me you felt much better afterwards. You had a lot of similar symptoms to me and there was definitely alot more stress second time round like you mention about the guilt of your other children! xx

  • @corinnatolhurst411
    @corinnatolhurst411 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have suffered with prenatal depression with my second but with my first I suffered antenatal depression from becoming a mum at 18 but I had the amazing support from my mum and dad and my younger brother who kept giving me hugs when I needed them but I know now when I’m low and have found a way of getting myself through it as I’m not the type of person who will let anything beat them down xxxx

    • @EllisSaraSmith
      @EllisSaraSmith  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s tough isn’t it!? Glad you had support around you though to help 💕

    • @corinnatolhurst411
      @corinnatolhurst411 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ellis - Mrs Smith & Co. it is very though as I was a single mum with my eldest so it was very tough but when I had it the second time I was with baby’s dad so I had his support and extra support from his family and I then went on to have another 2 children with him and we plan to marry in 2020 but my trigger with my second was whilst we were away on the Norfolk broads with my grandparents I was doing the cleaning etc and my grandad having a moan at me for asking for help when I had an 18month old to look after too as my grandma has bad knees and was holding her dogs out of the way but my grandad only moaned because he wanted to show my partner how to drive the boat so it all got on top of me and I snapped had an argument with my partner and my grandad so we cut the break short as I needed to see my doctor which was a bonus of being a boat owner xx

    • @nanita7848
      @nanita7848 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Im 18 as well and not sure which one of the depressions Im suffering 😔

  • @anacavalcanti729
    @anacavalcanti729 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I found out that I was pregnant weeks after starting a new job, just months after becoming permanent resident in a new country. Also had COVID and worm infestation by the time of conception and the pregnancy was not planned at all (though I thought I would be ready). Anyways my physical health was already bad, then prenatal depression hit really hard from day 1 and I still feel so alone in this (5 months now). Most days are manageable thanks to antidepressants, vitamins, therapy (individual and couple's) and doulas/midwives but other days I'm back to square one. This is so scary and lonely. Thank you so much for sharing, giving me hope and making me fell less alone. 🤍

  • @theharvestpodcast
    @theharvestpodcast 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Going through this right now.. thank you for this video, it helped so much!

  • @gaynorwallage3773
    @gaynorwallage3773 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I had this with both of mine! A lot of people are unaware of it. Thank you so much for talking about it! xx

    • @EllisSaraSmith
      @EllisSaraSmith  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I never had a clue until after my first pregnancy. It's crazy how little is known and spoken about it. Thank you for your comment 💕 x

  • @luxeindustriesllc340
    @luxeindustriesllc340 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Mine is so horrible right now😢 Our older two kids are 11&14 and I don’t remember feeling this way with them at all. I hope it goes away soon. It makes me feel so guilty bc I don’t want it to effect the baby

  • @amandahorner1735
    @amandahorner1735 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    just wonder how you felt about having another baby after feeling so bad during the first pregnancy?

  • @CJDallimore
    @CJDallimore 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for sharing this ❤. I suffered from this too and also postnatal depression after a traumatic birth experience. It was by far the hardest time of my life. Our little man was unexpected and my husband and I really didn't feel ready, I was suffering with depression really badly at the time I found out and I also have a long term chronic illness which had flared up. I remember spending the majority of my pregnancy feeling so anxious and guilty for feeling so down. I felt so poorly also with pregnancy symptoms alongside my illness. It's so refreshing to hear your story... There really needs to be more awareness on prenatal depression as I was made to feel ashamed and ungrateful for feeling the way I felt. I love my little boy unconditionally and loved him from the moment I found out about him. I would not change what happened for the world. Xxx

  • @jaobond
    @jaobond 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’ve been trying to figure out if my partner has this diagnoses . I don’t know how to deal with it or how to tell her I think she is depressed.

  • @togirl4903
    @togirl4903 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this.. I needed this right now ❤️

  • @sharonjohnson5670
    @sharonjohnson5670 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was interesting as I've never heard of it. When your pregnant your hormones are all over the place so it makes sense really. Although I have a son,I can't concieve myself and my best friend was a surrogate so I've never had the raging hormones,well only at the time of the month and that's bad enough. I remember the H/V coming round when Harry was about ten days old and she asked me to do an on line questionnaire about how I'm feeling to check for postnatal depression,I laughed and said oh no I didn't give birth so it won't effect me,and she said oh it can you would be surprised. Well I went a long with it but I was on cloud 9 after 20 years of waiting,but then Harry was a very easy baby which helped. He's 3 next month and not so easy 😂. Love your vlogs. I think another haul is due anytime,although it does make me spend,I just love everything in your hauls. Xx

    • @EllisSaraSmith
      @EllisSaraSmith  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Both the boys have been easy babies so I'm very lucky. I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat to have another gorgeous baby but I just dread the pregnancy and labour part. I didn't know you could get PND from having a surrogate either so that's very interesting. At least you have your gorgeous little boy now. All the stresses and complications make it all worth it once they're here xx

    • @sharonjohnson5670
      @sharonjohnson5670 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ellis - Mrs Smith & Co. 9 months is a long time to feel that way isn't it. I always wanted to be pregnant but giving birth terrified me. It's a mine field isn't it with these hormones. At least as soon as they are born you go back to your normal self. Very interesting vlog this was. Xx

  • @instytutwzrostupokryzysowe8780
    @instytutwzrostupokryzysowe8780 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you very much for speaking about it

  • @zaheeraismail6024
    @zaheeraismail6024 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you, this is helping me so damn much.

  • @hetty-marie5232
    @hetty-marie5232 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    So much love for you girl! 😘 well done sweet! Xxxx

  • @lm-op9jb
    @lm-op9jb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Experiencing this rn only 9 weeks and I’m dreading the following months if this continues 😢

    • @constipatedaf
      @constipatedaf 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Let's hope it will stop second trimester. In my case it did not.

  • @amandabritton4177
    @amandabritton4177 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel like I’m about to lose my mind I can’t stop crying and I’m at 13 weeks 😭😞

  • @meganrampton
    @meganrampton 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for making this. Thank you ❤️

    • @meganrampton
      @meganrampton 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Praying this goes when I give birth, depression and OCD and anxiety is consuming me. 29 weeks today xx

  • @dakotamabry1645
    @dakotamabry1645 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Someone called cps on me for having prenatal depression and I asked for help .. and the 1st day of the birth of my child I was acused of neglect for asking for help during my pregnancy.. anyone else go through this .. I currently have an ongoing case , suffer no postnatal depression and I am not allowed to be alone with my child until the case closes

    • @ctchcb7
      @ctchcb7 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      What?!?!? That's awful! I'm so sorry! I bet you're such a good mother. I really hope everything is ok today. Much ❤️

    • @dakotamabry1645
      @dakotamabry1645 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ctchcb7 it closed , had to have the agent go to my house , a zoom meeting verifying I am not alone with him qnd a sphyciatic screening.. it closed but it did cause me to alot of stress having to stay with my parents every weekend until it closed and we still had to make his doctor's visit .. and I couldn't be unsupervised at all times .. I couldn't quite walk any ways and needed help due to the c section but I still had to take our son away from his daddy and by the time our vhild was home he couldn't recognise him .. it broke my husband's heart

  • @TaylorRaine
    @TaylorRaine 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is so relatable. Thank you.

  • @Κωνσταντίνα-π6λ
    @Κωνσταντίνα-π6λ 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    💗

  • @pattitherington3758
    @pattitherington3758 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your brave talking about it.xx

    • @EllisSaraSmith
      @EllisSaraSmith  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks Pat. Hopefully it can help someone x

  • @Miss_Monroe
    @Miss_Monroe 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Cool

  • @MomoMomo-pk8it
    @MomoMomo-pk8it 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    👍👍👍👍💗💗💗💗

    • @majac7879
      @majac7879 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Omg anyone would be depressed with that kind of pregnancy. I'm a post natal sufferer and I didn't realise you could have it prior. Not surprised though. Glad u felt better after birth that's a huge positive. Same thing with first pregnancy, was in job 4 weeks. They kept me but were horrid after I got back so I quit. Best thing I ever done.

    • @EllisSaraSmith
      @EllisSaraSmith  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Its crazy how so many life circumstances can affect pregnancy and how little is known about this. Good for you for quitting!! xx

  • @caraj9306
    @caraj9306 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanku for sharing x

  • @Orcamungus
    @Orcamungus 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Xoxoxo

  • @ox4920
    @ox4920 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey is there anyway I can message you please