Please know that the transparency you graciously share with your audience is more helpful than you fully understand. YOURS is a niche audience and YOUR content is unlike any other. As you grow/transition ORGANICALLY, so will your audience. Folks will come & go. You can only be YOU. xoxo
Your point on toxic positivity was so important and often overlooked. I’ve been looking for full time work for over a year and been forcing myself to be positive and it just hit me last week that I’m not. It was such a release to just feel, like you said. I’m processing and living in the moment day by day. I’m so much better than I was already.
You saying “mommy and daddy” I felt it in my spirit. Literally the same thing. I was anxious for it my whole life man. I’m 22 and ya I’m broken behind it. This came for me and helped me so much. I’m crying
I can relate when you said “you need to feel in order to heal” sometimes I have a hard time understanding what I feel because I be so logical about things. If I know the cause and I know the solution I just try to fix it and move on and don’t realize I have to feel my emotions. I go back and forth between feeling my emotions and trying to move on and let things go
I've been healing, grieving, and reliving my last breakup as it was the most physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive one and the trauma is insane. I come to your videos to feel some reassurance as many of my friends are sick of hearing what I'm going through. You are so appreciated.
This inner child healing has to be done! Just now realizing that my entire childhood I sought validation through words of affirmation + acts of service which = validation. I have never really felt loved by my parents. I felt validated when they were proud of my external accomplishments.
Healing isn't linear. Just keep working and you'll get there boo. And breakups are really tough when you gave 100% but I see you finding a good partner. One day you're gonna look back on this and laugh ... he wasn't for you and better is to come. Same applies to friendships. I feel you're on the right path to live a HEALTHY life which is better than an unhealthy "fun looking" life most ppl have. You want to be healthy and hv fun and it takes cutting off people and having strong boundaries ... you can do it!
Friends raised their eyebrows when I told them that I am still not fully healed from my relationship with my ex (even though we've been broken up for about a year and a half). He was my first relationship and it's going to take time. Thank you for reaffirming that grieving looks different for everyone. I pray that you step into a glorious season full of opportunities and golden light. I'm rooting for you!!!!!!
hey friend in my head. 100% sure i already watched this but i'm here again bc i'm sure last time i watched it while struggling and it gave me hope i'll get there and now i think i have.
Whyyyy did I just find you 😭 you are so thorough and thoughtfully brilliant. I can't wait to read *whatever* you've written You talk mental health and ✨️life✨️ so well I'm going into a dopamine overload. YOU are what I've been scrolling relentlessly for, for over a year BLESS 🌈
I appreciate this video a lot and I believe the timing was right because when I saw you post I wanted to watch it immediately but right then all my traumas came about just as I made the decision in my heart to actively heal which makes all the sense because its time and shows me spiritually how much healing could change my life
Learning how to feel or allowing yourself to feel bad is not an easy job, specially for "solution oriented" people. I'm pretty sure that a lot of people that watches your video right now will identify with the "trauma coach". As I always say, from mythical/biblical stories, to the narratives our relatives told us in our upbringing and even the most trivial movie or ad are constantly reinforcing these ideas. It's even harder when these ideas are not entirely false. As you said, it was tricky for you to get rid of that feeling, since trauma, in a way, made you stronger in the past. There's this "unlearning process" that will give some space to something beautiful and new... but.. where to start? Personally, I finally realized that I might need a little help to get there. Last week, I started looking for therapy options that fit me. Watching your videos/podcasts helped me to get that first step. Thank you! Your content is important!
I love your energy at all stages of your journey. And I really miss seeing your intelligence and humour shine in other ways! I would love to see a more free form podcast. Or spaces where you really tackle information that is more general, because you have a great gift of communication. Hope all is well.
wow this one made me cry 😢i am also going thru moments where i’m still grieving my mother even tho she is here she’s never been a mother for me so this one hit home and i appreciate that cause i never thought of it as me grieving my parents cause i would think why they were never parents from the start but idk anyways loved this video thank you tarek i respect you so much ❤ sending love
I’m not even done with the video yet but Tarek you are absolutely divine. So wise and thoughtful. You’re helping so many but especially black young adults
Loved your content even before "that accident". Then you took a break and disappeared out of my TH-cam field of view.. And now I discovered you again. And your content is as brilliant and refreshing as ever. Go on King!!! We need you
Just found your podcast yesterday and ir brought me here. I love how you sound! I love your authenticity… you’re inspiring! ❤ thank you for being you ❤
The jungle is the only way out by Mereba has an amazing visual EP that adresses the topics that came up during the podcast! You should check it out if you want to! This process is not easy. Much love x
Hey Tarek !! I love you for you !! I started watching your videos for you personality alone and the authenticity you bring . I would love to just see your natural humor and mindsets toward life
Whew thank you so much for this episode! As someone who is currently grieving a breakup, I felt it when you said the process of grieving hasn’t been linear, and that’s the most difficult part. Everyday is going to be different, it’s a process.
Thank you Tarek for your words especially for the bit about straight women having to bite the bullet a lot. It's true! As a bi woman it still takes courage for me to choose not to accept certain things men say & do, even when my girlfriends say, "all men are like that...". In my opinion, it's the very same reason why a lot of men don't change, bc women tolerate a lot of things they do.
You have one of the best TH-cam channel and I appreciate you so much. I myself also on a healing journey and I thought I was the only one that felt one day I’m here the next day I feel like I’m never going to get through this journey. I suffer from childhood trauma, sexual assault, abuse mentally, physically and emotionally and also surviving a earthquake. It’s a lot for a child to go trough this. I’m finally at the stage where Im not on a survival mode. I can actually start learning how to heal all these trauma. I thank God the most high for keeping me this long to experience that journey. Healing is a lengthy process you can’t speed through it. Thank you for creating this kind of space for people like me that can share our stories. And I honestly love you so much for being you, so authentic and beautiful. You showed all aspects about your life on this channel and I love that.
FUUUUUUCK. I loved hearing this. Especially the piece about "my people" I think we as black people use trauma to propel us forward but it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with peace. I think as a whole we are taught not to feel because of our history...we did not have the grace or freedom to feel...our ancestors had to survive soo feeling was a. luxury to them - that's just my opinion. Now we are stepping more and more into a space where we can begin to learn how to heal these wounds that were never allowed to heal and I think the main way we do this is by learning how to feel. I loved this so much! Love your spirit and vulnerability - we need more of this in the black community.
It's okay Tarek. Healing is a process, as you may already know. However, therapy helps. The challenge is to find the right therapist. It's like finding the right primary doctor or lawyer. For example, it took me 5 times, before I found a doctor that I was comfortable and trusted. That's just the beginning of healing. It doesn't matter how long your in therapy, it's about, giving yourself time to heal and not be ashamed of showing your emotions. Learn how to love again, and most important, learn how to love oneself. That's very important, how can love someone else, and not love yourself first. What does love look like in your world? What will you except and not except in a relationship? Healing is very painful, but you, and only you, know when to move on. Sometimes LOVING someone isn't enough, it's about YOUR HAPPINESS! I PRAY YOU FIND THAT WITH SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU AS MUCH AS YOU LOVE THEM. GOD BLESS.
Love you Tarek love your videos been watching you for years, can you please put episodes 1-3 in the playlist wanna catch up on some episodes of the podcast ❤️❤️❤️.
Started healing 6 almost 7 months ago. It’s very brutal I understand the ups and downs. It’s not easy. I have made a lot of changes closed chapters, I’m trying to heal a lot and it’s hard at times I want to quit I want to do therapy bc some things I can only do so much on. I bottled up so much emotions and etc
You got this! It takes power to overcome what you have been through and still rise to the occasion. Healing is difficult and takes time, so take your time. =)
"I will never limit myself to what God can give me, but I accept that I don't have it now" that line spoke to my soul ❤️❤️❤️❤️
“the goal isn’t to feel better , the goal is to feel” .. thank youu !!!
Please know that the transparency you graciously share with your audience is more helpful than you fully understand. YOURS is a niche audience and YOUR content is unlike any other. As you grow/transition ORGANICALLY, so will your audience. Folks will come & go. You can only be YOU. xoxo
Your point on toxic positivity was so important and often overlooked. I’ve been looking for full time work for over a year and been forcing myself to be positive and it just hit me last week that I’m not. It was such a release to just feel, like you said. I’m processing and living in the moment day by day. I’m so much better than I was already.
You saying “mommy and daddy” I felt it in my spirit. Literally the same thing. I was anxious for it my whole life man. I’m 22 and ya I’m broken behind it. This came for me and helped me so much. I’m crying
I can relate when you said “you need to feel in order to heal” sometimes I have a hard time understanding what I feel because I be so logical about things. If I know the cause and I know the solution I just try to fix it and move on and don’t realize I have to feel my emotions. I go back and forth between feeling my emotions and trying to move on and let things go
You have to feel to heal- Tarek
Going through healing process now. I have PTSD from childhood.
I've been healing, grieving, and reliving my last breakup as it was the most physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive one and the trauma is insane. I come to your videos to feel some reassurance as many of my friends are sick of hearing what I'm going through. You are so appreciated.
This inner child healing has to be done! Just now realizing that my entire childhood I sought validation through words of affirmation + acts of service which = validation. I have never really felt loved by my parents. I felt validated when they were proud of my external accomplishments.
i was drinking green tea while watching and i got very excited to say me too when you said im drinking green tea lol
this episode was SO cathartic and therapeutic... thank you Tarek !
Healing isn't linear. Just keep working and you'll get there boo. And breakups are really tough when you gave 100% but I see you finding a good partner. One day you're gonna look back on this and laugh ... he wasn't for you and better is to come. Same applies to friendships. I feel you're on the right path to live a HEALTHY life which is better than an unhealthy "fun looking" life most ppl have. You want to be healthy and hv fun and it takes cutting off people and having strong boundaries ... you can do it!
I am going through so much! I am grieving/healing. I cry almost everyday! I know I will be okay. Thanks for this Tarek!
Ok I love this setup. It’s saying. It’s my time, my voice, i’m here.
Friends raised their eyebrows when I told them that I am still not fully healed from my relationship with my ex (even though we've been broken up for about a year and a half). He was my first relationship and it's going to take time. Thank you for reaffirming that grieving looks different for everyone. I pray that you step into a glorious season full of opportunities and golden light. I'm rooting for you!!!!!!
I was literally crying about similar things right before you posted this podcast. Thank you so much, this was much needed.
got me crying all of my skin care off 😭 this is so comforting... thank you for being so open, tarek
hey friend in my head. 100% sure i already watched this but i'm here again bc i'm sure last time i watched it while struggling and it gave me hope i'll get there and now i think i have.
Whyyyy did I just find you 😭 you are so thorough and thoughtfully brilliant. I can't wait to read *whatever* you've written
You talk mental health and ✨️life✨️ so well I'm going into a dopamine overload.
YOU are what I've been scrolling relentlessly for, for over a year
BLESS 🌈
I appreciate this video a lot and I believe the timing was right because when I saw you post I wanted to watch it immediately but right then all my traumas came about just as I made the decision in my heart to actively heal which makes all the sense because its time and shows me spiritually how much healing could change my life
I feel like you’re helping me find myself again 🥺❤️ thank you so much for what you’re doing
Listened to this in the gym yesterday on Spotify, honestly really touched & highly inspired. Thank you Tarek
Learning how to feel or allowing yourself to feel bad is not an easy job, specially for "solution oriented" people.
I'm pretty sure that a lot of people that watches your video right now will identify with the "trauma coach". As I always say, from mythical/biblical stories, to the narratives our relatives told us in our upbringing and even the most trivial movie or ad are constantly reinforcing these ideas.
It's even harder when these ideas are not entirely false. As you said, it was tricky for you to get rid of that feeling, since trauma, in a way, made you stronger in the past. There's this "unlearning process" that will give some space to something beautiful and new... but.. where to start?
Personally, I finally realized that I might need a little help to get there. Last week, I started looking for therapy options that fit me. Watching your videos/podcasts helped me to get that first step. Thank you! Your content is important!
Accepting what a life looks like for unconventional upbringings and family structures and dynamics
It is scary crazy how similar our life stores are right now……this is super crazy! I’m having a moment. 😪 thank you Tarek 🫶🏾
Literally don’t comment but I have to love the rawness def listen to him for a long drive inspiring and all
It’s so beautiful seeing you process your emotions. It’s so healthy and I’m excited for you because I know…”first the pain, then the rising” ❤️
I love your energy at all stages of your journey. And I really miss seeing your intelligence and humour shine in other ways! I would love to see a more free form podcast. Or spaces where you really tackle information that is more general, because you have a great gift of communication. Hope all is well.
Thankyou for this feedback!!! I will do it on the next episode! excited for you to witness!
This touched me in many ways, So many relatable issues I have faced and still trying to overcome as an adult!!!! I love your transparency❤️
wow this one made me cry 😢i am also going thru moments where i’m still grieving my mother even tho she is here she’s never been a mother for me so this one hit home and i appreciate that cause i never thought of it as me grieving my parents cause i would think why they were never parents from the start but idk anyways loved this video thank you tarek i respect you so much ❤ sending love
I am crying, at the nurse's station. I love how genuine and honest you are.
I’m not even done with the video yet but Tarek you are absolutely divine. So wise and thoughtful. You’re helping so many but especially black young adults
Part of healing is to have healthy, empathetic, nurturing and reciprocal relationships
Loved your content even before "that accident". Then you took a break and disappeared out of my TH-cam field of view.. And now I discovered you again. And your content is as brilliant and refreshing as ever. Go on King!!! We need you
What accident?
Urhm what accident ?
You finna have me crying in public 😭. I truly hear you, so much to take from. We're gonna get through this.
Just found your podcast yesterday and ir brought me here. I love how you sound! I love your authenticity… you’re inspiring! ❤ thank you for being you ❤
Wow. The story of your friend being hard on herself is literally me 🥹😭😭😭
Sending you a virtual hug. Your vulnerability is inspiring and deeply impactful.
Love this. I love everything you do. We have so much in common from our healing timeline, to our rising signs. Love you Scorpio king
I really resonate with this particular episode of your podcast. I stumbled upon you on tiktok and man, I am so glad I did!
The jungle is the only way out by Mereba has an amazing visual EP that adresses the topics that came up during the podcast! You should check it out if you want to! This process is not easy. Much love x
that album is truly one of the BEST out there! and i fully agree! the topics here really align!
Hey Tarek !! I love you for you !! I started watching your videos for you personality alone and the authenticity you bring . I would love to just see your natural humor and mindsets toward life
Whew thank you so much for this episode! As someone who is currently grieving a breakup, I felt it when you said the process of grieving hasn’t been linear, and that’s the most difficult part. Everyday is going to be different, it’s a process.
Thank you Tarek for your words especially for the bit about straight women having to bite the bullet a lot. It's true! As a bi woman it still takes courage for me to choose not to accept certain things men say & do, even when my girlfriends say, "all men are like that...". In my opinion, it's the very same reason why a lot of men don't change, bc women tolerate a lot of things they do.
Tarek❣️❣️❣️🤗 Glad you feel comfortable to host your Podcast on Video…Congratulations on your Success❣️🥳🥳🥳
You have one of the best TH-cam channel and I appreciate you so much. I myself also on a healing journey and I thought I was the only one that felt one day I’m here the next day I feel like I’m never going to get through this journey. I suffer from childhood trauma, sexual assault, abuse mentally, physically and emotionally and also surviving a earthquake. It’s a lot for a child to go trough this. I’m finally at the stage where Im not on a survival mode. I can actually start learning how to heal all these trauma. I thank God the most high for keeping me this long to experience that journey. Healing is a lengthy process you can’t speed through it. Thank you for creating this kind of space for people like me that can share our stories. And I honestly love you so much for being you, so authentic and beautiful. You showed all aspects about your life on this channel and I love that.
FUUUUUUCK. I loved hearing this. Especially the piece about "my people" I think we as black people use trauma to propel us forward but it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with peace. I think as a whole we are taught not to feel because of our history...we did not have the grace or freedom to feel...our ancestors had to survive soo feeling was a. luxury to them - that's just my opinion. Now we are stepping more and more into a space where we can begin to learn how to heal these wounds that were never allowed to heal and I think the main way we do this is by learning how to feel. I loved this so much! Love your spirit and vulnerability - we need more of this in the black community.
i swear i will never miss any of your content & podcasts. i will forever love you so so so so much.
This was so amazing I really needed this Tarik you don’t even know
WE LOVE YOU
We love you Tarek, keep your head up. Thank you for this!
Such a refreshing podcast 👌🏾that everyone can relate can’t believe I listened this podcast while in the shower
❤ this. Would you ever consider doing a video about the script writing process? I'd be super interested in that!
I’ve been going through it as well , I also lost friends but I’ve surrendered to my situation . Thank you Tarek for your vulnerability, much love 💕
thank you for your vulnerability tarek. truly 💕
I am so proud of you !!! I’m crying 🥹
This makes me want to go seek help for my trauma and what I been through, thanks for this and stay strong.
LOVING this new phase of your yt content! Hearing you talk & pause & breathe like this was so healing for me
This was helpful. Thank you for sharing.
List was REALLLLL! Definitely going to subscribe to your podcast.
This ***
I know you hear this all the time but, by sharing your story it has helped me sooo much. Thank you for being so vulnerable!
Your channel is so amazing 💗
thank you so much for your vulnerability!! sometimes I don't feel understood, but I do when I hear what you have to say and it means everything.
It's okay Tarek. Healing is a process, as you may already know. However, therapy helps. The challenge is to find the right therapist. It's like finding the right primary doctor
or lawyer. For example, it took me 5 times, before I found a doctor that I was comfortable and trusted. That's just the beginning of healing. It doesn't matter how long your in therapy, it's about, giving yourself time to heal and not be ashamed of showing your emotions. Learn how to love again, and most important, learn how to love oneself. That's very important, how can love someone else, and not love yourself first. What does love look like in your world? What will you except and not except in
a relationship? Healing is very painful, but you, and only you, know when to move on. Sometimes LOVING someone isn't enough, it's about YOUR HAPPINESS! I PRAY YOU FIND THAT WITH SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU AS MUCH AS YOU LOVE THEM. GOD BLESS.
so proud of you tarek 🧡
Love you Tarek love your videos been watching you for years, can you please put episodes 1-3 in the playlist wanna catch up on some episodes of the podcast ❤️❤️❤️.
Happy to see you friend ☺️💕💕💕
I’ve been waiting on another video 😩😊
I am really thankful for your vulnerability.
Thanks for sharing.
I am working on not internalizing so much and being hard on myself as well.
Always love your videos. Don’t worry bout nothing. I’ll never unsubscribe lol
Love you Tarek. Your growth is always inspiring ❤️❤️❤️
You're doing amazing!
Loved this one because I'm going through some similar right now, this really helped give me some guidance and clarity. So happy for you!!
i’ve been going through a similar thing and your videos are helping sm.❤️
loved this video💗💗
less is more put a piece art on your wall nd u good darling dont over complicate it thou, we definitely here for the words it speaks life
I love this channel
Started healing 6 almost 7 months ago. It’s very brutal I understand the ups and downs. It’s not easy. I have made a lot of changes closed chapters, I’m trying to heal a lot and it’s hard at times I want to quit I want to do therapy bc some things I can only do so much on. I bottled up so much emotions and etc
Glad you are back
Hey Tarek ! This is healing, You’re the coolest thanks for sharing❤️
Love your videos!
Always appreciate your videos and they speak deeply to me ❤️
I hope you feel better! Thank you for sharing your story :')
Thank you for being so venerable babe 💕 this was beautiful 🌹
You always on a positive vibe ❤️ it’s refreshing
Thank you for your vulnerability. This was very insightful. Looking forward to more episodes ❤️
Gratitude 💜💗🤍✨
Needed this video. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. ❤️
Hoochie shorts on deck... loving it...lol
You got this! It takes power to overcome what you have been through and still rise to the occasion. Healing is difficult and takes time, so take your time. =)
Thank you so much for sharing… We love you! ❤️ It’s Okay and You Will be Okay! 🙏🏾❤️
I love you so much Tarek 😘❤️
I just wanna give you a hug baby 🥺
Thank you for these 💕
Love this for u keep going💪🏽💕
Engaging because I love me a good video podcast 🥰
I’m dealing with a similar situation 💛. This resonates heavily 🥹
Thank you so much for this ❤️
Shout out to you Tarek 🤙🏽
Thank you for your vulnerability, your light, and love; this was so helpful!🫶🏽