I got divorced at 47. Got enough time left to rebuild, enjoy freedom, and live my life on my terms. It's been hell to get to this point, but it's worth it. I often think about how my life would be if I was still married to my nagging, complaining, never happy ex-wife. And it makes me smile knowing that I escaped, still have my sanity, my health, and good relationship with my children.
Western society is crumbling. We in the West are not as wealthy generally because the rest of the world has caught up. The biggest mistake of the 1980s was to outsource the means of production. We don’t invest in productive capacity, which includes education, and have therefore become less productive. A service economy doesn’t really create wealth, making things does.
"They" had to sell us a reason to move our jobs to third world countries. Americans watched their TV's and believed it. We have been brainwashed by our TV'S thinking that "they" were giving us the news and not propaganda. The internet has given us different ideas to challenge state narratives.
Dual income has destroyed society. Not only is it harder to find jobs, wages have stagnated, houses are too expensive, and kids are being "raised" by daycare workers. Regarding women with a career, which I have nothing against, there are consequences. When a woman gets a career, she is effectively working against her own hypergamy, making it harder for her to find a partner.
One of the best first halves of a book ever written is Elizabeth Warren’s Two Income Trap, in which she describes how virtually all the additional family income from working wives/mothers goes right back out the door to inflated home, childcare, and education prices. Unfortunately Warren spends the latter half of the book on how government can fix the problem with more subsidies and interventions, rather than facing the facts of human, and women’s nature.
Men are not going to college because they want a skill that Is needed such as a plumber, electrician, mechanic, trucker, heavy equipment operator, etc.. These skills pay well. They are not burdened with a huge college debt. If you are in a STEM program, getting a degree in that field is worth college. Because men avoid marriage or having kids men don't have to work as long and earn more than what is needed for themselves versus what is needed to support a family. Men can have a good life without that family. As an old divorced boomer, I advise men to not get into huge college debt. Go to a technical college and earn a good living without debt. Live single, live free.
Even if in theory some mechanics, truckers and heavy equipment operators might eventually be made obsolete by either automation or technological change (likely not that soon unless by regulation), single men also are also versatile and adaptive enough to find another strong hustle if they want to remain in the workforce. Especially unmarried means easy to move.
@@john-griffin At least easy to give them the silent treatment back by hyper-saving and not spending in a society that despises our mere existence. Concept of shaming men is stupider as one of the obvious responses is to just back away further from their foolishness.
Men are not being silenced and they’re not being shamed either. Men are choosing not to speak up or they’re choosing to just be angry about things and then quiet down about it. There really is a male loneliness epidemic going on.
Gen X here. My High School was mostly men and most of the men were Vietnam vets. I didn't realize at the time how blessed I was to grow up around men during my early years. Before that I went to summer camp that is was all men. It makes a huge difference. I can't imagine how I would have turned out if I was raised by women in every aspect of life. To this day, I don't know how my metal shop teacher managed to keep all of us safe from losing fingers eyes, limbs and life. The things we were allowed to make in class would be illegal today. We even had a pistol range in the basement of the school. I thought this was normal because nobody raised a fuss. Going shooting in the woods, making throwing stars and crossbows in shop was a normal as putting on your shoes and socks. I didn't realize how things changed until I retired from the military (which was mostly men) and started integrating into the general population. What a mess!
@@theglobalvagabond3074 I was born in 1999, life was the complete opposite growing up for me. Only my grandfather ever gave me that kind of experience and taught me about that side of life. It was pretty much extinct otherwise. He gave me a rifle and a gong in the barn for my 12th birthday. I love you pop.
You brought back memories with that! My dad was a shop teacher at a large school. Every summer, at the end of the school year, dad let me come up to his classroom and clean out all the lockers. So every summer I had a brand new assortment of poorly made knives, brass knuckles, throwing stars, Estes model rockets, and all sorts of other things my mom never needed to know about. :) Good times! I wouldn't trade growing up Gen X for anything.
Gen X, year 1er. My father was a HS "ag teacher" and also taught shop classes. Both girls and boys were taught USEFUL skills and "the trades" still, in the late 20th Century. I cannot imagine HOW guys today could possibly put up with having 80% of teachers being women, who almost ALL subscribe to the 'mentality' that has been permeating academia on most Western (plus) world campuses... for FAR too long. (i.e. Since the 'invasion' in the mid 1960s, in particular.) This "mentality" goes back to the democratic Socialism 'imported' from Europe, that appeared in our curriculums, beginning in the 1930s... and of course the Fabians, etc. from Europe, since the 1830s.) And it's just gone "off the rails" since the advent of Postmodernism, the internet, technocracy and Medea conditioning. (e.g. Charlotte Iserbet was in knight of Malta Ronald Regan's "education dept." and later became quite VOCAL about what was going ON in US "edu" at the federal (= UN dictated, since 1946) level. And a LOT has changed since: 1776, 1812, 1860- 1871, 1930- 41, then in; 1946, 1973, 1982, etc. from the "top- down," command control level(s)! Unfortunately, NONE of this... was "by accident." And 90% of women are (as always) just: "along, for the ride..." and "going, with the flow... with next to no resistance." (That's HOW they roll...) It's ALL very OBVIOUS to me, at least, in retrospect... after much 'study' since "1984," when I completed HS and BYPASSED their "tax and debt, divorce to death" entrapment schemes, shortly thereafter.
In the early 1960s, I attended Catholic School and while on the playground 2 boys got into a fistfight. Two sisters were watching and the younger one started to go over and break up the fight but the older sister stopped her and said "Let them settle it now or it will only escalate." A few minutes later they both had bloody noses but one stood in triumph over the other. The older sister then went over and gave both boys detention for fighting and sent them in for first aid. The next day I saw the same boys walking to school with their arms on each other's shoulders ... They remained friends throughout the rest of their school years.
Boys and men talk smack with each other, bully and gaze each other, and commonly treat each other in ways many would consider abuse. But at the end of the day, they don’t mean any of it. Women compliment each other, show empathy and provide a shoulder to cry on, and offer unconditional support to each other. But at the end of the day, they don’t mean any of it.
@@allynflinchbaugh4570 old school nuns were battle hardened ladies. The Faith forced them to understand the nature of both men and women and didn't allow them to base it on their feelings. This is why they were so against the changes advocated for in Vatican 2.
The notion that If you can make it through the first decade, you're safe is utterly meaningless now. I've met plenty of men in their 60s and 70s who were shocked to learn that their multi-decade partners were leaving them without any remorse; not to mention taking their life savings with them. Imagine having to reinvent yourself at that age just to keep a roof over your head.
You seem like a very intelligent man John. You are correct, this country has become very divisive, politically, socially, spiritually, economically and gender wise. Nobody gets along very well with each other on any level. Everyone only acts in their own best interests. I miss the 70s growing up! My family didn't have much mo.ey. but we had each other. Today is so different than I had hoped when I hit 60.
The rot had on started then. Its how societal rot happens. It takes decades to happen. And gets ignored until it can't, and by the time it is acknowledged it is too late. The cycle of civilizations is a fascinating thing
My wife and I have been married for 41 years. I’m now 66 and she is 61. We started our marriage with Jesus Christ as the head of our home! we have been through a lot as a couple, for instance, in 1988 I was diagnosed with chronic myelogenous leukemia. I had a bone marrow transplant and was totally healed. You can call my wife old fashion, but she stuck with me through the whole thing. in the past three years, she’s been through two lung surgeries, and I was there for her. I think in America we lost that stick to attitude and need to get back to it. God created the family. before anything else!
@allgamebeija maybe. Islam is evil too. Just look at the life of their so called profet Mohammed. Those in Islam dare not criticise it because of the backlash of their own environment.
I made some bad decisions in my youth that led to me having to start over with nothing in my late 30s. I spent years rebuilding my health, career and finances and married for the first time at 45. I wanted a family more than anything but my wife was not on board and five years later our marriage has crumbled to dust. At this point my only goal is to end this toxic relationship so I can focus on my health and work towards retirement and enjoying my hobbies. I do worry about the state of the world, but due to my age and life experiences I just don't have it in me to try finding another wife to start a family. One of my life goals is to become a writer and hopefully share some of my knowledge with younger men in the hope that they don't make the same mistakes I did. Since I've accepted that I will never have any children, it's the best I think of to do at the moment.
As a woman, I'm curious-do you regret not having your life together at a younger age? I understand that there were things beyond your control. But when you have to start over at 35, behind in life in so many ways, do you ever think about or regret that you might never be a father unless something extraordinary happens? I don’t mean to be rude, but as women, we often feel pressured to achieve things like marriage and children, which can sometimes lead us to rush into relationships with the wrong person. Do you, as a man, ever feel that kind of pressure? Or does it only become apparent later?
@ItalNico focus on improvements in all aspects of your life. Have a few good friends and get some enjoyable hobbies. If you haven't already get a dog as they bring a lot of joy into your life. You are still really young enough to find a nice girlfriend,if they still exist, if you miss that part of your routine but certainly never get married.This message is approved by an old divoced boomer.
@@savannahannalay7296I'm a guy. We don't have the same time limitations as you girls. But we have the pressure to choose correctly also. We are scared of getting screwed over. A 45 yo guy who never got screwed by his ex would happily still have kids but a 45 yo who got ran through by his ex usually won't risk it again. Being called abusive for no reason and not seeing your kids, just so she can inflict revenge and get a bit more money is something we don't readily sign up for again. Some do.
@@savannahannalay7296 Regret is something I strive to avoid as it serves no purpose. I can only focus on the present and do my best to prepare for the future. My mistakes were of my own doing and what is most important is that I restructured my life so as not to repeat them and became a better person for it. Since you asked, I definitely felt a lot of pressure to marry and have children from my entire extended family. Even so far as some of them tried to set me up with single women. But the truer desire to become a father was just something I was born with as I felt it at a very early age and it was nurtured by helping raise younger siblings as well as nieces and nephews.
You have plenty of time to have children. Work on yourself and your goals. Women will be there and the child will come. You have men in there 60's having children.
We can't leave out social media. I'm pretty sure social media destroyed my marriage. Everytime I looked up, she was on her phone. Women like to compare their lives with people they don't know. Then wants the husband to make it happen.
same here. I told her at the end if they were making a statue of her, it would be her sitting staring at the phone. It was beyond soul destroying seeing it constantly.
My ex spent huge time on Facebook, absorbing the myth that others were "living their best life". Her flesh and blood relationships were with women who encouraged her to find "happiness" at all costs. It didn't take long for the dissolution papers to arrive at my doorstep.
Certainly seems that way, and another big big issue is greed. When is it ever enough? It seems no matter how rich the rich get, they just want more and more. Now, many houses, boats, cars do they think they need,
@@MX-COWe're a society of haves & have nots, the wealthy & the working poor, etc. And the wealthy just blame the have nots & the working poor for their demise. Sad but true. 🙁
We need something to happen like in "The Day The Earth Stood Still," where aliens were upset that humans were destroying the natural environments of the planet and decided to purge the entire world of all humans and man-made structures.
We are in that disaster now. It's just going to play out over 60 to 100 years depending on what country you're in. Humanity fits the definition of an endangered species due to low birth rate. We are like pandas in the zoo, nobody's making enough babies. It doesn't matter if there's 8 billion of us, if there aren't enough born, the population will collapse. In South Korea, in three generations, 100 people become four. They're already starting from a smaller number because they've been below replacement for at least a generation to start with.
@@suefleming but so many men keep listening and admiring people that tell them to put their hustle and mission first and are then shocked when women don't want to be put 2nd. It's like, you picked a strategy that entirely relies on making a ton of money to work, but that doesn't always happen. And then they still don't put it together. They hustle, don't get the relationship they want or the amount of money, and then just blame democrats or women. No, your strategy was terrible and the person selling it lied.
@@suefleming But there are so many reasons why that could be the case, and men keep listening to answers that will only make things worse. Example...my parents split when I was 5. My dad thought she was cheating, when she wasn't, and was shocked when it happened, even though the writing was on the wall for a long time. And even though my dad blamed my mom, do you know who fought to keep me separated from my dad? It was the lawyers. It wasn't women, it was the lawyers. And my mom had to fight like hell to find one that would give me open visitation with my father, but she did. She did that because even though she didn't love my father, she loved me and knew he was a good dad. My story does not have to be an outlier. It is very much possible to go in a direction where that is a common occurrence. The direction men are going though, is not that. And Nov 5th is sure as f*** not a direction that will make things better for men, unless the man was just sexist all along, in which case, it's a win.
John, here in Australia it is the same. In Sydney you need $1.8m to buy a median priced home. The birth rate is falling off a cliff. You have open borders to make up for it, we fly them in over 2m out of a population of around 26m in a couple of years. I have heard it said that the Government is like an abusive parent. They don't love you, they are not interested in improving family fortunes. Once I accepted this everything they do makes sense. Best you can do is carve out a small piece of sanity somewhere and and wait for nature to take its course.
Amazing isn't it that we have Australians working full time living in their cars or in a tent because they can't afford rent. Yet we have all these 'migrants' that find a place to live the minute their feet touch Australian soil.
G' Day, mates across the pond. And l@mpposts. And it's coming... as their PR$ (cold warfare) "ism" to (now) "circling the drainpipe" of hive mind technologized Commu- Fascist "1984" Brave New World Order (Utopianiste') long 'envisioned' OWO totalitarianism... has just about: "ran it's (post 1776 - Bavarian sect) "250ish year, short course." And I am about to "disrupt" the RE/ REI model they rely so heavily upon, in order to "tax us into insolvency," with. De@th by 1000 cuts can (and will) go both ways... afterall. "As ye, soweth... So shall ye reap, or weep?!" UNITY = Strength... And Division, is their ONLY chance. ;-)
Feminism resulted in millions of women entering the workforce, this made jobs less valuable. Thus, wages went down. Now it takes two incomes to buy a house, etc. No blame here it's just economic reality.
I blame the @$$hats before my generation that fought for and pushed that crap on society. My generation and Gen Z had no say in that, but we are walking away from women and the status quo.
@@musicmix9994 I think the point he was making was the influx of women into the workforce lead to an over availably of workers which had the result of leading to lower wages because employers realized that with more workers competing for the same jobs they could pay less, rather that companies having to attract workers by offering better salaries.
Totally agree with everything. The first step is the state and governments should stop adding incentives to divorce and separate the man from the kids. Have consequences for cheating ( no alimony or payouts).
That's a very smart idea and I agree with you wholeheartedly. If a spouse cheats during the marriage he/she should not be entitled to compensation after the marriage dissolves. Why should they be rewarded for breaking their marriage vows and their dishonesty!?
When Ronald Reagan change the rules I believe back in the 60s he signed a bill that was no fault divorce which he later admitted that he regretted signing that bill hurt a lot of men and marriages
@@josebro352 The only difficulty will be when the woman stops having sex with you for extended periods of time and becoms unbearable; the urge to cheat will be there. I'm not sure how to deal with this aspect. Ideally financial marriage should have limits on how much someone should benefit to your self made wealth. For example say you are a CFO accountant when you marry your wife that worked as a nurse . Before you married she lived in a small apt paying $2500 for all expenses ( rent food utilities) and moved to your nice house she could not afford. You stay 3 years together where she contributed with some basic things such as electricity, the internet, the municipal taxes and school taxes and half the food for about $1500 a month) . Basically less than her old expenses the same but living way above her means. The relationship was a hot mess, she had no time for the relationship ( worked, slepted) and you decide to split up; also you found she barely did anything around the house. At most the right thing to do would be to pay for her moving expenses, let her keep all gifts and at most pay half for any temporary reasonable cost short term housing for her to find a new apt. Anything other than that is not justified at all.
I’m 39, & 40 next summer, and I have never had a serious girlfriend in my life. Thank God! I plan to on working a job I like until I’m 85, staying debt free, and living cheap.
I have watched the western world shit on men for the past 45 years (I am 55) so when the religion of peace, equality and fairness starts doing what it does I will look the other way. The west has brought this on themselves.
It's easy. Double the income taxes, double the interest on mortgages, double grocery bills, double everything. No wonder. It's all by design. More money for the higher ups.
As a 72 year old baby boomer i think that my growing up years were much better than the present. Sure there were some difficult things but we had the best music, opportunity, cost of living, outlook for the future.
It's as if no one smelled a rat back in the day when they convinced women that working outside the home was the place to be and proceeded to flood the work floor with a new source of exploitable cheap labor all in the name of "empowerment". Back then they didn't need to soften the boarder for fresh warm bodies they just needed to convince women that they were chumps for raising children and needed a corporate job outside the household in order to be fulfilled. We live in the post consumer materialist nightmare we have now because of all this cultural non-sense promoted by people who want to stay in control to your detriment. They would rather lord over chaos than have something more honest beyond their complete control.
There was this experiment called mouse utopia where a mouse city was set up that could hold a population of 6000 mice in complete comfort. When it reached 2000, the population collapsed. During that process the mice stopped breeding. All sorts of mental anomalies skyrocketed. The male mice became became effeminate and the female mice more aggressive and so on. It seems like I see a lot of similarities today especially in the cities. Mental illness and stuff like that is skyrocketing. Boys being diagnosed with autism and ADHD at a rate of 1:22 now (formerly 1:10000 in the 1960s). There was a podcast between Rudyard Lynch and Tom Bilyeu (impact theory) According to Rudyard, rural and religion are necessary to grow populations and he said that even in Roman times this was the case. I don’t see a political solution here as this problem is beyond what government can solve.
@@williamread8186 It's interesting how people become? They have tested rats in small congested places. They run around and tried to flee from each other? And they end up in the same place?
In the late '80s I wrote that women shaming women out of their homes and into the workplace were selling their daughters into economic slavery. These mothers had a choice to work, their daughters would be required to work with no gain in lifestyle in that higher priced economy. However, my newly hired female boss killed the column.
It’s not a gain in lifestyle to get married, sir. I love that I went to college. I love that I got my degree. I’m proud of that and I’m proud of the corporate job that I have to. I worked hard to get this. I have no desire and I would find no fulfillment in raising children. I don’t want that. I’m married to an amazing man and I just love working from home and having my hobbies.
@@LauraSnow-in3nx Good for you. No problem with that. The reality is that most women don't have your options. I wish they did. I'm pointing out the enormous pressure through the media, such as Redbook, Cosmopolitan, newspaper columns on Women's Pages, to work without consideration of where that would lead: child care costs, skyrocketing housing costs (if you have 2 incomes they will find a way to take it off you), saturated job markets with few real raises, home maintenance, added transportation and clothing costs. What would be the real economic gain? If a woman had to work equal pay for equal work made complete sense. I just think it would be better for society if more women had the choice to stay home. That would also mean the cost of living was lower so that when she did work there was real economic gain for the family, not just extra cash to throw at the banks, landlords, Big Pharma, the government, big biz in general.
@@LauraSnow-in3nxIt's almost as if women have trouble understanding that something might still be a problem even if it doesn't affect them personally and directly...
As a single man at 59 with two daughters, 24 and 29, and working for a global corporation, I agree we have major problems going forward. I can tell a big difference in how 29 year women view themselves than 24 year old women. Women are rapidly outpacing men for top jobs. Society is telling men to sit down, shut the F up and pamper your wives and daughters. Michele Obama basically said that this week. Social Media (and our government) is encouraging women to be the head of your household, proclaiming you don’t have tell listen to a man, just have plenty of sex and abortions if needed, be vain, how you look is of utmost importance. Young boys are still typical boys. Young girls are learning to take selfies and get manicures. The future looks problematic.
I have to sons, 28 and 25. I would love to have grandchildren, but I think my sons need to get their passports out if they have any chance of forming a family like they grew up in. One is a CPA and the other is an Electrical Engineer. They are 5’7” and, as far as I know, they have never had girlfriends. Why bother today?
I'n Louisiana also it's only women coaches and a few men with connections of fields where they can't find anyone. When I went to school most school bus drivers where men because they where all standards with a lot of stops to make and you have to downshift every hear with no coasting. And no ac. When they went to automatics with ac they are now mostly women who refuse to break up fights.
You're 100% right about the small extreme factions trying to dominate the discussion. I am probably one of those small factions, given my past experiences. I was divorced, taken to the cleaners, lost my child (who was later alienated against me), and had to pay both an annuity to my ex and she was awarded part of my retirement. In a later relationship I was falsely accused and spent two years of hell + $300,000 defending myself and proving that she lied. Nothing was done to her. I don't really have an un-biased or moderate view of American culture. Right or wrong, I perceive it as man-hating. Rather than stay and be bitter and poison the attitudes of others, I left for another country that more closely aligns with my personal values and treats men better. I will not remarry, or ever even enter into a relationship again, in the USA. Sometimes a new start in a different place is better. Keep up the good work. What you discuss ... needs to be discussed.
The reason it takes two incomes to buy a house now has nothing to do with "billionaire tax breaks"...how could it? The real reason it takes two incomes today is because when women started working in large numbers, they pretty much doubled the workforce. When you add that many workers, real wages will obviously go down!
I think they should make marriage a contract that you renew annually. If a person leaves; they only leave with what they came to the relationship with. Make custody 50/50
What about stop thinking off the government contract and still hold your promise you made with God. Thats why everything is falling apart. Its a government contract not a promise the couple made to God
Lonely, single men - particularly young men - with limited access to women, unanchored by the responsibilities of children or family with low educational attainment and poor prospects for viable career paths are the most dangerous members of society and we are creating them by the millions.
The shaming of men in general, aka toxic masculinity, claims about the patriarchy, mansplaining, sex-shame etc, is all part of diminishing men's value. This has an influence on women's attitude towards men, and women might react by feeling an irrational fear towards men, or finding them unattractive of some sort. So society is responsible for the challenges men face! But instead men are blamed for their misfortune!
It's an issue that's going to boil over. Lots of people are not getting married or having children. I'd say in the near future you will see vasectomies becoming so prevalent in society, at an early age.
Great topic. I just went through all of that with my 38 year marriage stay home mom had to give her almost $2 million packed her bags moved to another state left our community our friends, my two boys what a mess. Thank you for the insight. Great job.
shared custody of the children (50/50) would prevent women who seek to hurt their ex husband from using divorce. Then nothing to pay if both agree to raise the children at the best of their ability, only split the assets if there was no prenup signed. People would think twice before asking to start all over again from zero and instead push them to figure out how to fix the issues.
Me and a few friends have exactly this deal, basically 50/50 down the line. Everything is negotiable and the solution to excess divorce settlements is to lobby for rational divorce laws. Some women are already complaining about the child support and/or alimony being awarded to men where the woman earns more. Lots of the comments here seem to come from powerless men or men that don’t want to try and improve the cases where men get unfair legal treatment but just go live in a cave. Women got their rights by lobbying and protesting for them over many decades and men having to admit the old situation wasn’t just. Many men commenting on YT seem to be the counterparts to the whiny women put up as bad examples to laugh or complain about and seem to want to revert to the 1800’s. Men act like they can’t lobby for men’s rights in divorce. Sorry but I don’t think women and girls are the property of husbands and fathers like they were or basically were in the past. Women couldn’t get credit without their husbands signature until the 1970’s. Sorry but I don’t want my daughter or nieces living in that world. My mother married a narcissist ahule and our family would have been much better off if she had divorced him before we were all grown- I still have a good relationship with my mom but my dad’s clueless and none of us care about him or his BS and even all those years ago he didn’t pay enough for the trauma he caused as the male being divorced for cause (it wasn’t a no fault divorce). The coin toss goes both ways in marriages.
@@jeremyrohrer2360 Hey, I’m a 72 year old widow and younger women seem alien to me. I’d say “men finally know denatured females.” They aren’t natural, they’re created by a hostile ideology.
I guess I was thinking ahead of the curve in the 90s. I knew back in high school that I didn't want a wife or kids. I thought I was awkward but now maybe just looking ahead. And I was 6'4" and 200 lbs back then.
Just found this channel. I'm constantly feeling like I'm caught between a rock and a hard place with all of these subjects in our society. I'm a drummer and composer at 34 currently. I have someone who loves me immensely, whom I love immensely. I have so many imbalances between my sense of progress in my field of work and the idea of returning to school for business and music and being a provider for self and my love. I feel like the commonalities have shifted so far away like magnets repelled in terms of America. I'm over stressing being comfortable within and i just want to know I'm making the right choices in life and trust without second guessing things that seem so basic. This channel definitely hammers the right questions i feel many men are reflecting on right now. Edit: Subscribed.
Thanks, I think that a lot of men are in the same place on these issues. The answers are not easy, but finding the right questions is the first step. Thanks again!
If young men and women ae increasingly having to stay at home with their parents because the cost of moving out and living is so high, yet entry level jobs pay so poorly, even if they actually manage to get them at all with the entry requirements for entry level jobs also being so high, does this represent a ticking time bomb? By this, I mean if far fewer members of the current generation can achieve what used to be normal life markers, such as getting a job that pays enough to move out, having disposable income to go out and meet partners, finding someone to love and settling down, buying a home and raising a family, all of which while they're still young enough to do so, how can they afford to house the next generation that will be born into an even worse world with the way things are going? It seems to me with the reported mainstream media economy doing so well with all time high stock prices and so on being completely divorced from the real life economy of the masses simply trying to get by, that the masses simply aren't needed or wanted anymore. After all, the masses are so poorly valued in terms of their prospects, wages and futures, this does seem to be the true signals the billionaire elite are giving out to the rest. This isn't further helped by the biggest companies also effectively engineering the replacements of the masses, even as we speak, with them putting everything into AI based automation. For example the publicity for the new experimental AI driven Amazon warehouse showing a lot of busy robots, but only one solitary human in a corner of the warehouse working in his "power zone". The complete opposite of existing Amazon warehouses being a hive of largely human activity. So, if even the most rudimentary entry level blue collar jobs becomes unobtainable in the near future, how are the masses going to be able to support themselves, never mind the next generation? After all, only a few will find anything resembling lucrative work writing AI prompts for chatbots for instance. This is of significant concern, because the last time automation completely replaced a sizeable proportion of the workforce was with the introduction of the motor car, which effectively replaced horses in work, after which most were sent to the glue factory. So are the masses about to become the new horses?
Just got up from a nap today. This is not a new issue, society is crumbling , Greg Hunter, Alex Newman, Jeremiah Babe in Palm Springs CA, Peter Schiff , author, Ted Broer, CEO of Healthmasters, divorced Judge Joe Brown, Doug's Casey take, living in Argentina, Matthew Bracken, Michael Yon, John Rubino & others have been discussing this topic for years. Crazy world folks, and challenging times now. ...................... stay safe and healthy everyone
So true, we have been watching those guys for years and reading their books too. All of them are spot on! The 'so called' America dream has been DEAD for decades & marriage is no longer............ Be careful , child FREE here ❤😂😂
I was married from age 24-32. At the time I was devastated by the divorce. In retrospect, I’m glad that it happened. I thankfully have a great relationship with my daughter and a positive coparenting experience, but since the divorce I’ve had only one other long term relationship of two years. I’m now almost 44 and still single. I can’t imagine ever getting married again.
The first thing i remember learning in school is that men aren't needed. I graduated hs in 2016. If men arent needed then why should they care to build for others?
So glad I grew up in the 70s and 80's we had strong male role models, often ex military who took zero crap from us kids. We also still had corporal punishment too, we learned fast !
Corporal punishment creates cruel stupid narrow minded people with no empathy and no imagination . We don’t want them around us. Btw military men are among the worst fathers I had unpleasure to meet. It is literally visible from a mile that sb had a military father. Run as fast as possible from these people. My ex husband btw had a colonel father. The guy seemed to have only half of his brain. The other half - if it was ever there - must have been extracted during his military training. Which is - in fact - making you into a machine. Some people are able to survive this and remain human but most - don’t. That’s why recruits come from lower classes and form poor people. Mostly. Nobody sane agrees to that if have any other options.
Feminism is a project of the economy and the government. The goal is to decrease wages by increase the number of employees by convincing women that they go to the workforce. And so you can create more customers, because working women need cars, new clothes etc. and they get frustrated and are consuming more. And as a government you get more taxes and you are able to indoctrinate the children when they are in childcare.
One solution I can think of: Starting a marriage should not be as simple as signing some documents and paying small fees. Those who want to be married should be required to provide a prenuptial agreement. There can be a default prenuptial agreement provided by the state. This may force partners to think and have reasonable expectations from their marriage and maybe keep it.
Thank you for this video. So many people I speak to these days agree that we've been entering a kind of dystopia during the past 15 -20 years that only seems to be accelerating. Likely, there are a myriad of reasons why this is so but the explosion of smartphone / tech use has injected a kind of rocket fuel into the spread of social isolation, loneliness, depression, anxiety etc ... that so many are experiencing. Hard to say where we're heading as a society / species but it sure looks grim some days.
44. No kids. Never married. No longer date as I saw the horrifying toxicity begin encroaching about 8-10 years ago. It’s unfathomable to think how much worse this gets. But. Ahhh well. Not my issue anymore Let it rot
You're incorrect with regard to the cost of living. The economy is not a zero-sum game where economic winners exclude other players in the economy from succeding. In fact, if you confistigated the entire wealth of the top one percent, it would not cause a dent in our economic problems. It's our government, and nothing more that is causing our economic greef. One case in point, our current government is inviting millions of new people into our country, while at the same time making it more and more difficult to build new housing.
It's not about college it's a little about money but mostly about status. Had a friend just married talking about a status car? Worked at a refinery and talked to a chemical engineer come out of retirement because his wife wanted a bigger house not paid off but bigger four bedrooms two stories is not enough. I say let it crash bring on the pain we will thrive and survive.
I think Divorce laws are indeed the issue. Something I heard joked about, actually is starting to make sense. Like a lot of licenses, marriages should be renewed. They seem to have a accurate calculation for child support, but then cant seem to do “Maths” on alimony or assets. Require a snapshot of finances before marriage, and divorce should end close to those percentages, then add conditions (if a spouse quits a job, sickness, who gets the kids, etc).
We don’t have alimony in Poland - only some special cases - we take what we had before marriage - women end in a very bad situation financially after the divorce bc men don’t pay child support - and yet we choose to divorce. Maybe maybe maybe men make pathetic husbands? How about that? And change of your law will only result in worse conditions for children?
"If the American people ever allow private banks to control the issue of their currency, first by inflation, then by deflation, the banks and corporations that will grow up around them will deprive the people of all property until their children wake up homeless." -Thomas Jefferson
I left the US 7 years ago, so I'm not really interested in US politics anymore. I will say that a common thread in the EU since Jan 6th is the view that the US has become a third world country... corrupt politicians, the widening gap between the top 1% and everyone else, the power the corporations hold over the economy, the power investment firms hold over the housing market, a complete disregard for veterans, homeless fill the streets in larger cities, the rate of crime in large cities, and the fact the police will stand by and watch crimes happening and do nothing about it.
Interesting. I'm sensing the complete opposite. Granted the evidence is both anecdotal and media-derived but something is different. Perhaps humans can stand only so much degradation and self-loathing before they push back.
Very well thought out and expressed. Unfortunately, it's been a while since society cared about men. Worse, they're now seen as the root of all evil and anyone not celebrating this is labelled as an "anything-ist". The good news is that I just discovered this channel and you got a new subscriber!
I think that we’re going to keep pushing until men’s issues become everyone’s issues. Society needs a strong, healthy, engaged, male population. Without us society will end. So I think our time is coming soon.
you're wrong on where the money went. it's simple... the boomers were the biggest voting block in their working years and workers had the advantage... as boomers became older they stopped voting for the working class and voted (with their dollars too) for better investment returns... and EVERYTHING became an investment vehicle. Homes, classic cars, and the God awful private investment firms... Some boomers at the top profited heavily, while many failed to prepare and are now the fastest growing population of homeless. The boomers sold out America as a whole starting with the 80s, and peaking around the late 90s... before the crashes that followed.
Im 32 years old, and this whiner argument is laughable... Your generation is and would make the EXACT same choices.Its human nature to try to get the most...let me guess,you're the next mother Theresa and would never choose like the boomers,huh?
I love your videos. They actually bring me peace as I see we share similar situations, even though I feel alone I know we have been through the same if not worse and I’m grateful for your help thank you.
We live in a very unbalanced and unfair world. Would you buy a 93rd second hand car with high mileage a faulty engine management system and comes with a very high maintenance cost and a huge deposit.
With apologies to James Carville. "It's the working class, stupid." To the extent that a liberal or progressive does not utter the words "working class" and "inequality" in their analysis of what happened, they they miss the mark. 80% of those who cited the economy as their #1 issue voted for Trump. While the recovery from 2008 crash for people earning over $100K took until 2011, for those under $70K it took until about 2017, so it looks to many like Trump caused the recovery. We need a younger version of Bernie.
Don't do that! If you do then your ex wins and she'll think you were weak. Fuck her. Show her that you're a fighter and won't back down!! Hang in there! Things will get better I've been there myself. Good luck!
It sucks going through it, to be sure. However, if you are like a lot of folks, when you come out on the other side of the divorce, you will feel like you were set free. JMO.
@josebro352 I've been there, get in shape, eat healthy exercise, there's plenty more where she came from. If you really can't handle it, than move else's and work for cash.
Thank you for your insight. I interpreted what you said near the beginning about mostly woman or liberal ideas forming the curriculum in early school as having a negative impact on young men nowadays. I definately saw the older generations of men (I am Gen X) as being more "chauvanist", but they still got on well with woman. Then I saw my generation and younger generations as being more accepting of the equality notion. Now, at 53, I am learning and seeing first hand some of the "truths" my elder generations referred to about woman. Back then I saw these positions or views about woman by men as being outdated and irrelevant and now, because of my experiences, they are simply anecdotal truths that are absolutely undeniable. Had I accepted these notions about woman when I was younger, I definately would have made some better choices and lead more in my marriage which is now failing after a devastating menopause for my wife of 25 years. So, like many TH-camrs state, feminism and "equality" between the two sexes is destroying society as we knew it - especially the the strongest unit - the family.
Autumn is a beautiful time of the year. I think the autumn of our life is a beautiful time too. It’s wonderful to have wisdom and still have your physical health. It’s a blessing.
I like your videos a lot. Very down to earth and low-key. I totally agree that the extremes are not doing us any good. I'm fortunate to have my own business even though I don't have a degree. But it's harder now for sure. I'm 56, I got divorced around 33. Had an engagement fall apart when I was 50 and I'm relieved to be out of both relationships. Neither my ex-wife or my ex-fiance is a horrible person. But, I know from experience why men are afraid to get married. My divorce was amicable yet it still cost me a bundle. And I have little reason to believe my second marriage would have been a good experience. I'm at a point in life where I really want to do something to help our society. I would love to work with young men because I know how they are struggling and I empathize. But frankly it's hard to know where to start. Part of it is young men that I know don't have much interest in hanging around old dudes. So like you, I'm not sure what the answers are.
63 yr old boomer. Widowed (2 kids). Grew up in a middle-class household. Back then there were many two-parent income households. Both my parents worked & we're school teachers (my mother 3rd grade & my dad HS). I was on a HS state championship football team in 1978 & about half the varsity (~45 players) were from two-parent income households. Some of the more female orientated jobs back then were school teachers (mainly elementary school), nurses/medical assistants, secretaries/receptionists, grocery store cashiers, law clerks, librarians, school bus drivers, etc. On the political front, we're so polarized that's it's not even funny anymore. The battle lines have been drawn: Left vs Right. They hate each other & they'll never get along...ever! Both parties are full of political zombies. It's getting so bad now, I see more & more profiles of women on dating apps that clearly state "If you're a Trump supporter, you need not apply!" & "If you're on the Right, don't bother reaching out to me!" 😯 There's so much hatred with both sides. We're going to end up as the "Divided States of America." People will just move to & live in either the Red or Blue state that they align with. And Congress will continued to get nothing done other than to become wealthy from all lobbyists & donors. 😉 Lastly, marriages fall apart simply because women just are plain bored. They're attention & validation mongers. Lol. They're looking for excitement & euphoria from guys admiring them on social media & dating apps. They looking for a Chad or a new Chad in cases where they were married to a Chad: Tom Brady's ex - 44 yr old Gisele Bundchen dumped him for her hot 37 yr old Jujitsu instructor that she's now pregnant from! 🤣🤣🤣
Strange, Tom Brady claims she didn’t cheat. But you know better. And of course I wouldn’t want anybody who can support trump - he is a pathetic businessman- how many bankruptcies - he never kept any marriage vows so he is a man of no integrity- he said his daughter was a piece of ass - this qualifies as a lack of honor ability and emotional level of an Neanderthal - pls Neanderthals forgive me this offense - and he hires a crazy bitch who shoot her dog. In my country she would have a 3 years prison sentence. I know she would bc we had exactly the same case and this is how this pos ended his political career. We don’t need psychopaths to run a country. I don’t understand what you don’t understand? That we don’t want cruel greedy abusive narcissists? With extremely bad taste? Have you seen his places? It makes you vomit.
When people focus on extrinsic "values" such as money, power and fame, the fabric of society falls apart. When people focus on intrinsic values, such as helping others and passion for something, the fabric of society remains intact.
We have an income disparity problem. We have a trickle down system that doesn't trickle, we have a materialism and consumerism problem. Almost all other problems stem from the problems I just listed.
I'm looking at moving to hungary .it has a very low tax rate no left wing woke feminism and has a family Christian policies which means men never lose their wealth to a woman .the country of Hungary is a very affordable country to live in .
I hadn't looked at Hungary, but found some of the items about Poland curious if I suddenly wanted to move to Europe. Which in my case, there might be a citizenship by ancestry if I got serious about going in that direction. Courtesy of another guy on the tube, I would want to check out Malaysia. Of course that's how I would think I could live my best life if it came to moving from 'murica.
Budapest, Hungary. The Transylvanian Alps. Romania. I love that whole area. It's very romantic and gives me strong Bram Stoker vibes. Have a great time if you go! Best of luck.
Retired, for me at 73 i'm pretty much checked out and useless. Widowed, Kids are grown. Have my home, a motorcycle, and a Cat. Also have the occasional cigars and some adult beverages. Work in the yard, do not "hang out" just at home watching stuff on TV. Trying to be at peace with the world in hopes they will stay off my back.
The male vote doesnt matter. Women live 5 years longer than men in the Usa, they will always be the majority of voters (53%) as long as they have the right.
There’s a ballot box in my work parking lot - I have been seeing ten times the amount of women dropping ballots off than men. All the men I’ve seen dropping ballots of are older, grey, balding men with polo shirts on. It’s Easily 10 female voters for every male voter where I’m at.
I’m part of a group of men who isn’t talked about very much I’ve had an extremely difficult time finding a partner and is starting to get older and without a family let’s face it. A man has a difficult time justifying working and holding up society, some men sadly even succumb to self deletion Because they cannot find a reason to live without a family.
I agree with you. That could be extremely difficult. Although I’m sure there are lots of women out there who would like to have children and would like to have a family also. Hopefully you can meet one soon.
I got divorced at 47. Got enough time left to rebuild, enjoy freedom, and live my life on my terms. It's been hell to get to this point, but it's worth it. I often think about how my life would be if I was still married to my nagging, complaining, never happy ex-wife. And it makes me smile knowing that I escaped, still have my sanity, my health, and good relationship with my children.
It get's much much better from here ...promise !
You’re a lucky man!
Just starting over @59 and it’s a bit strange
@@ricvanwinkle1665 I knew people that age that never seen 60 ! Life is good !
@plasmaarmelund glad you were able to escape from your spider web. Enjoy the rest of your life ,single and free.
Western society is crumbling. We in the West are not as wealthy generally because the rest of the world has caught up. The biggest mistake of the 1980s was to outsource the means of production. We don’t invest in productive capacity, which includes education, and have therefore become less productive. A service economy doesn’t really create wealth, making things does.
We're investing now in sickness, Woke agenda
@RG-cz1tc Now you entire economy exist only to serve as piggy bank. I think people with funny hats are in profit with it.
@@RG-cz1tc there's no such thing in the age of automation.
Don't forget about the abundance of regulations, fees, taxes, and permitting needed to get started.
"They" had to sell us a reason to move our jobs to third world countries. Americans watched their TV's and believed it. We have been brainwashed by our TV'S thinking that "they" were giving us the news and not propaganda. The internet has given us different ideas to challenge state narratives.
Pretty simple solution if you ask me. Stop punishing men for getting married. Instead, give them an incentive to do so.
And maybe include an incentive for people to stay married
Well, you’re still faced with the near impossible task of trusting the modern woman.
You just nailed it brother
Yep, so simple, be more Hungarian. At least one Western leader has it right. Well done Orban. That’s why the EU hate him.
@vidiot9000 very true observation.
Dual income has destroyed society. Not only is it harder to find jobs, wages have stagnated, houses are too expensive, and kids are being "raised" by daycare workers. Regarding women with a career, which I have nothing against, there are consequences. When a woman gets a career, she is effectively working against her own hypergamy, making it harder for her to find a partner.
I think you nailed it there man that’s perfect
When we went off the gold standard we also went off the moral standard. @@john-griffin
@@JohnVanMeter58 we were way off the moral standard before that.
One of the best first halves of a book ever written is Elizabeth Warren’s Two Income Trap, in which she describes how virtually all the additional family income from working wives/mothers goes right back out the door to inflated home, childcare, and education prices. Unfortunately Warren spends the latter half of the book on how government can fix the problem with more subsidies and interventions, rather than facing the facts of human, and women’s nature.
And no children
Men are not going to college because they want a skill that Is needed such as a plumber, electrician, mechanic, trucker, heavy equipment operator, etc.. These skills pay well. They are not burdened with a huge college debt. If you are in a STEM program, getting a degree in that field is worth college. Because men avoid marriage or having kids men don't have to work as long and earn more than what is needed for themselves versus what is needed to support a family. Men can have a good life without that family. As an old divorced boomer, I advise men to not get into huge college debt. Go to a technical college and earn a good living without debt. Live single, live free.
They are also not burdened by the longhouse
Even if in theory some mechanics, truckers and heavy equipment operators might eventually be made obsolete by either automation or technological change (likely not that soon unless by regulation), single men also are also versatile and adaptive enough to find another strong hustle if they want to remain in the workforce. Especially unmarried means easy to move.
That's a very good plan
No woman on Earth needs a Master’s in Arts History. And tax payers shouldn’t be on the hook for their poor investments.
Most men choose their career based on impressing a woman.
Men are being silenced and shamed
As it has been for a long time
@@john-griffin At least easy to give them the silent treatment back by hyper-saving and not spending in a society that despises our mere existence. Concept of shaming men is stupider as one of the obvious responses is to just back away further from their foolishness.
Absolutely true!!
@@davidglad think carefully where you spend your money
Men are not being silenced and they’re not being shamed either.
Men are choosing not to speak up or they’re choosing to just be angry about things and then quiet down about it.
There really is a male loneliness epidemic going on.
Gen X here. My High School was mostly men and most of the men were Vietnam vets. I didn't realize at the time how blessed I was to grow up around men during my early years. Before that I went to summer camp that is was all men. It makes a huge difference. I can't imagine how I would have turned out if I was raised by women in every aspect of life. To this day, I don't know how my metal shop teacher managed to keep all of us safe from losing fingers eyes, limbs and life. The things we were allowed to make in class would be illegal today.
We even had a pistol range in the basement of the school. I thought this was normal because nobody raised a fuss. Going shooting in the woods, making throwing stars and crossbows in shop was a normal as putting on your shoes and socks. I didn't realize how things changed until I retired from the military (which was mostly men) and started integrating into the general population. What a mess!
@@theglobalvagabond3074 They want feminized men because weak men do not fight back
@@theglobalvagabond3074 I was born in 1999, life was the complete opposite growing up for me. Only my grandfather ever gave me that kind of experience and taught me about that side of life. It was pretty much extinct otherwise. He gave me a rifle and a gong in the barn for my 12th birthday. I love you pop.
You brought back memories with that!
My dad was a shop teacher at a large school.
Every summer, at the end of the school year, dad let me come up to his classroom and clean out all the lockers.
So every summer I had a brand new assortment of poorly made knives, brass knuckles, throwing stars, Estes model rockets, and all sorts of other things my mom never needed to know about. :)
Good times! I wouldn't trade growing up Gen X for anything.
Gen X, year 1er. My father was a HS "ag teacher" and also taught shop classes. Both girls and boys were taught USEFUL skills and "the trades" still, in the late 20th Century. I cannot imagine HOW guys today could possibly put up with having 80% of teachers being women, who almost ALL subscribe to the 'mentality' that has been permeating academia on most Western (plus) world campuses... for FAR too long. (i.e. Since the 'invasion' in the mid 1960s, in particular.) This "mentality" goes back to the democratic Socialism 'imported' from Europe, that appeared in our curriculums, beginning in the 1930s... and of course the Fabians, etc. from Europe, since the 1830s.) And it's just gone "off the rails" since the advent of Postmodernism, the internet, technocracy and Medea conditioning. (e.g. Charlotte Iserbet was in knight of Malta Ronald Regan's "education dept." and later became quite VOCAL about what was going ON in US "edu" at the federal (= UN dictated, since 1946) level. And a LOT has changed since: 1776, 1812, 1860- 1871, 1930- 41, then in; 1946, 1973, 1982, etc. from the "top- down," command control level(s)! Unfortunately, NONE of this... was "by accident." And 90% of women are (as always) just: "along, for the ride..." and "going, with the flow... with next to no resistance." (That's HOW they roll...) It's ALL very OBVIOUS to me, at least, in retrospect... after much 'study' since "1984," when I completed HS and BYPASSED their "tax and debt, divorce to death" entrapment schemes, shortly thereafter.
In the early 1960s, I attended Catholic School and while on the playground 2 boys got into a fistfight. Two sisters were watching and the younger one started to go over and break up the fight but the older sister stopped her and said "Let them settle it now or it will only escalate." A few minutes later they both had bloody noses but one stood in triumph over the other. The older sister then went over and gave both boys detention for fighting and sent them in for first aid. The next day I saw the same boys walking to school with their arms on each other's shoulders ... They remained friends throughout the rest of their school years.
Exactly!
Boys and men talk smack with each other, bully and gaze each other, and commonly treat each other in ways many would consider abuse. But at the end of the day, they don’t mean any of it.
Women compliment each other, show empathy and provide a shoulder to cry on, and offer unconditional support to each other. But at the end of the day, they don’t mean any of it.
It's rare to see a woman who understands male behavior.
@@allynflinchbaugh4570 old school nuns were battle hardened ladies. The Faith forced them to understand the nature of both men and women and didn't allow them to base it on their feelings. This is why they were so against the changes advocated for in Vatican 2.
@@savioblanc I'm not Catholic, but I agree.
The notion that If you can make it through the first decade, you're safe is utterly meaningless now. I've met plenty of men in their 60s and 70s who were shocked to learn that their multi-decade partners were leaving them without any remorse; not to mention taking their life savings with them. Imagine having to reinvent yourself at that age just to keep a roof over your head.
@@oscarm.1417 the problem are the courts and weak judges..
I could think of many men at that age coming up with a more radical solution than reinventing themselves.
You're right!
The corrosion is everywhere!
Poison 😮
When men find no hope in having families and jobs are hard to find, society is doomed.
You seem like a very intelligent man John. You are correct, this country has become very divisive, politically, socially, spiritually, economically and gender wise.
Nobody gets along very well with each other on any level. Everyone only acts in their own best interests. I miss the 70s growing up! My family didn't have much mo.ey. but we had each other.
Today is so different than I had hoped when I hit 60.
Mine too. I often got a toothbrush in my stocking at christmas! But, we had a nice life. Not nearly as material as we have now.
The rot had on started then. Its how societal rot happens. It takes decades to happen. And gets ignored until it can't, and by the time it is acknowledged it is too late.
The cycle of civilizations is a fascinating thing
Gave mine almond joys and cashews. Things we couldn't always afford for stock ing.🤦
My wife and I have been married for 41 years. I’m now 66 and she is 61. We started our marriage with Jesus Christ as the head of our home! we have been through a lot as a couple, for instance, in 1988 I was diagnosed with chronic myelogenous leukemia. I had a bone marrow transplant and was totally healed. You can call my wife old fashion, but she stuck with me through the whole thing. in the past three years, she’s been through two lung surgeries, and I was there for her. I think in America we lost that stick to attitude and need to get back to it. God created the family. before anything else!
That’s awesome! I think you are right, there was a time when people stuck together.
I can only explain it as evil has taken over. The society is ill.
@@martijnvdbent6908 evil has the star of david as its symbol
@allgamebeija maybe. Islam is evil too. Just look at the life of their so called profet Mohammed. Those in Islam dare not criticise it because of the backlash of their own environment.
Been single for 20 years - by design. Semi retired at 45, now 55 I refuse to work full-time and pay tax into the system that wants to destroy me.
I made some bad decisions in my youth that led to me having to start over with nothing in my late 30s. I spent years rebuilding my health, career and finances and married for the first time at 45. I wanted a family more than anything but my wife was not on board and five years later our marriage has crumbled to dust. At this point my only goal is to end this toxic relationship so I can focus on my health and work towards retirement and enjoying my hobbies. I do worry about the state of the world, but due to my age and life experiences I just don't have it in me to try finding another wife to start a family. One of my life goals is to become a writer and hopefully share some of my knowledge with younger men in the hope that they don't make the same mistakes I did. Since I've accepted that I will never have any children, it's the best I think of to do at the moment.
As a woman, I'm curious-do you regret not having your life together at a younger age? I understand that there were things beyond your control. But when you have to start over at 35, behind in life in so many ways, do you ever think about or regret that you might never be a father unless something extraordinary happens? I don’t mean to be rude, but as women, we often feel pressured to achieve things like marriage and children, which can sometimes lead us to rush into relationships with the wrong person. Do you, as a man, ever feel that kind of pressure? Or does it only become apparent later?
@ItalNico focus on improvements in all aspects of your life. Have a few good friends and get some enjoyable hobbies. If you haven't already get a dog as they bring a lot of joy into your life. You are still really young enough to find a nice girlfriend,if they still exist, if you miss that part of your routine but certainly never get married.This message is approved by an old divoced boomer.
@@savannahannalay7296I'm a guy. We don't have the same time limitations as you girls. But we have the pressure to choose correctly also. We are scared of getting screwed over. A 45 yo guy who never got screwed by his ex would happily still have kids but a 45 yo who got ran through by his ex usually won't risk it again. Being called abusive for no reason and not seeing your kids, just so she can inflict revenge and get a bit more money is something we don't readily sign up for again. Some do.
@@savannahannalay7296 Regret is something I strive to avoid as it serves no purpose. I can only focus on the present and do my best to prepare for the future. My mistakes were of my own doing and what is most important is that I restructured my life so as not to repeat them and became a better person for it. Since you asked, I definitely felt a lot of pressure to marry and have children from my entire extended family. Even so far as some of them tried to set me up with single women. But the truer desire to become a father was just something I was born with as I felt it at a very early age and it was nurtured by helping raise younger siblings as well as nieces and nephews.
You have plenty of time to have children. Work on yourself and your goals. Women will be there and the child will come. You have men in there 60's having children.
We can't leave out social media. I'm pretty sure social media destroyed my marriage. Everytime I looked up, she was on her phone. Women like to compare their lives with people they don't know. Then wants the husband to make it happen.
same here. I told her at the end if they were making a statue of her, it would be her sitting staring at the phone. It was beyond soul destroying seeing it constantly.
@John_Wood_ exactly!
I think that was a you problem haha. You must be boring bro
I think cell phones were invented in hell.
My ex spent huge time on Facebook, absorbing the myth that others were "living their best life". Her flesh and blood relationships were with women who encouraged her to find "happiness" at all costs. It didn't take long for the dissolution papers to arrive at my doorstep.
nothing will change until some major disaster comes and erases almost everything .. this consume idiotic world is just doomed beyond words ..
Certainly seems that way, and another big big issue is greed. When is it ever enough? It seems no matter how rich the rich get, they just want more and more. Now, many houses, boats, cars do they think they need,
@@MX-COWe're a society of haves & have nots, the wealthy & the working poor, etc. And the wealthy just blame the have nots & the working poor for their demise. Sad but true. 🙁
Enjoy life while we have it
We need something to happen like in "The Day The Earth Stood Still," where aliens were upset that humans were destroying the natural environments of the planet and decided to purge the entire world of all humans and man-made structures.
We are in that disaster now. It's just going to play out over 60 to 100 years depending on what country you're in. Humanity fits the definition of an endangered species due to low birth rate. We are like pandas in the zoo, nobody's making enough babies. It doesn't matter if there's 8 billion of us, if there aren't enough born, the population will collapse.
In South Korea, in three generations, 100 people become four. They're already starting from a smaller number because they've been below replacement for at least a generation to start with.
Weak men focus on women.
Women focus on strong men.
Strong men focus on their mission....not women.
And strong people focus on the relationship, and each other equally.
@mike9512 ideally, yes !!😊👍🏼❤️
@@suefleming but so many men keep listening and admiring people that tell them to put their hustle and mission first and are then shocked when women don't want to be put 2nd. It's like, you picked a strategy that entirely relies on making a ton of money to work, but that doesn't always happen.
And then they still don't put it together. They hustle, don't get the relationship they want or the amount of money, and then just blame democrats or women. No, your strategy was terrible and the person selling it lied.
@@mike9512 I have so many men friends that have been divorce (financially) raped in court and they are disgusted with women and I don't blame them.
@@suefleming But there are so many reasons why that could be the case, and men keep listening to answers that will only make things worse.
Example...my parents split when I was 5. My dad thought she was cheating, when she wasn't, and was shocked when it happened, even though the writing was on the wall for a long time.
And even though my dad blamed my mom, do you know who fought to keep me separated from my dad? It was the lawyers. It wasn't women, it was the lawyers. And my mom had to fight like hell to find one that would give me open visitation with my father, but she did. She did that because even though she didn't love my father, she loved me and knew he was a good dad.
My story does not have to be an outlier. It is very much possible to go in a direction where that is a common occurrence. The direction men are going though, is not that. And Nov 5th is sure as f*** not a direction that will make things better for men, unless the man was just sexist all along, in which case, it's a win.
John, here in Australia it is the same. In Sydney you need $1.8m to buy a median priced home. The birth rate is falling off a cliff. You have open borders to make up for it, we fly them in over 2m out of a population of around 26m in a couple of years.
I have heard it said that the Government is like an abusive parent. They don't love you, they are not interested in improving family fortunes. Once I accepted this everything they do makes sense. Best you can do is carve out a small piece of sanity somewhere and and wait for nature to take its course.
Amazing isn't it that we have Australians working full time living in their cars or in a tent because they can't afford rent. Yet we have all these 'migrants' that find a place to live the minute their feet touch Australian soil.
Sydney is cooked mate. I left for Vietnam
Rope fixes that issue
G' Day, mates across the pond. And l@mpposts. And it's coming... as their PR$ (cold warfare) "ism" to (now) "circling the drainpipe" of hive mind technologized Commu- Fascist "1984" Brave New World Order (Utopianiste') long 'envisioned' OWO totalitarianism... has just about: "ran it's (post 1776 - Bavarian sect) "250ish year, short course." And I am about to "disrupt" the RE/ REI model they rely so heavily upon, in order to "tax us into insolvency," with. De@th by 1000 cuts can (and will) go both ways... afterall. "As ye, soweth... So shall ye reap, or weep?!" UNITY = Strength... And Division, is their ONLY chance. ;-)
Feminism resulted in millions of women entering the workforce, this made jobs less valuable. Thus, wages went down. Now it takes two incomes to buy a house, etc. No blame here it's just economic reality.
True
I blame the @$$hats before my generation that fought for and pushed that crap on society. My generation and Gen Z had no say in that, but we are walking away from women and the status quo.
Wrong. The generations that ushered in fmnism are solely responsible for this outcome.
@@musicmix9994 I think the point he was making was the influx of women into the workforce lead to an over availably of workers which had the result of leading to lower wages because employers realized that with more workers competing for the same jobs they could pay less, rather that companies having to attract workers by offering better salaries.
Yeah excep wages never went down....
Totally agree with everything. The first step is the state and governments should stop adding incentives to divorce and separate the man from the kids. Have consequences for cheating ( no alimony or payouts).
Great idiea, thanks
That's a very smart idea and I agree with you wholeheartedly. If a spouse cheats during the marriage he/she should not be entitled to compensation after the marriage dissolves. Why should they be rewarded for breaking their marriage vows and their dishonesty!?
When Ronald Reagan change the rules I believe back in the 60s he signed a bill that was no fault divorce which he later admitted that he regretted signing that bill hurt a lot of men and marriages
Are you gonna bribe the politicians with the money needed for that? Also no politician would commit political death on that issue.
@@josebro352 The only difficulty will be when the woman stops having sex with you for extended periods of time and becoms unbearable; the urge to cheat will be there. I'm not sure how to deal with this aspect. Ideally financial marriage should have limits on how much someone should benefit to your self made wealth. For example say you are a CFO accountant when you marry your wife that worked as a nurse . Before you married she lived in a small apt paying $2500 for all expenses ( rent food utilities) and moved to your nice house she could not afford. You stay 3 years together where she contributed with some basic things such as electricity, the internet, the municipal taxes and school taxes and half the food for about $1500 a month) . Basically less than her old expenses the same but living way above her means. The relationship was a hot mess, she had no time for the relationship ( worked, slepted) and you decide to split up; also you found she barely did anything around the house. At most the right thing to do would be to pay for her moving expenses, let her keep all gifts and at most pay half for any temporary reasonable cost short term housing for her to find a new apt. Anything other than that is not justified at all.
I’m 39, & 40 next summer, and I have never had a serious girlfriend in my life.
Thank God!
I plan to on working a job I like until I’m 85, staying debt free, and living cheap.
I have watched the western world shit on men for the past 45 years (I am 55) so when the religion of peace, equality and fairness starts doing what it does I will look the other way. The west has brought this on themselves.
Remember bush in the 90s talking about new world order? Well here we are folks.
He said this once during a session, 11 years to the day from that infamous morning in NYC.
What an amazing coincidence 😑
Omg
It's easy. Double the income taxes, double the interest on mortgages, double grocery bills, double everything. No wonder. It's all by design. More money for the higher ups.
As a 72 year old baby boomer i think that my growing up years were much better than the present. Sure there were some difficult things but we had the best music, opportunity, cost of living, outlook for the future.
74; Ditto.
The only generation in history to have it better than your parents and children. Thanks guys. Did us a solid.
Pulled the ladder up too
Class of 75
And made sure no one else could have the same. Thanks guys. 😂😂
It's as if no one smelled a rat back in the day when they convinced women that working outside the home was the place to be and proceeded to flood the work floor with a new source of exploitable cheap labor all in the name of "empowerment". Back then they didn't need to soften the boarder for fresh warm bodies they just needed to convince women that they were chumps for raising children and needed a corporate job outside the household in order to be fulfilled. We live in the post consumer materialist nightmare we have now because of all this cultural non-sense promoted by people who want to stay in control to your detriment. They would rather lord over chaos than have something more honest beyond their complete control.
Good points. I’m a family law atty going on 30 yrs. You’re spot on with trends- not good
Thanks!
There was this experiment called mouse utopia where a mouse city was set up that could hold a population of 6000 mice in complete comfort. When it reached 2000, the population collapsed. During that process the mice stopped breeding. All sorts of mental anomalies skyrocketed. The male mice became became effeminate and the female mice more aggressive and so on. It seems like I see a lot of similarities today especially in the cities. Mental illness and stuff like that is skyrocketing. Boys being diagnosed with autism and ADHD at a rate of 1:22 now (formerly 1:10000 in the 1960s). There was a podcast between Rudyard Lynch and Tom Bilyeu (impact theory) According to Rudyard, rural and religion are necessary to grow populations and he said that even in Roman times this was the case. I don’t see a political solution here as this problem is beyond what government can solve.
True. Big, sophisticated cities are dehumanizing. Brings out the worst in people.
@@williamread8186 It's interesting how people become? They have tested rats in small congested places. They run around and tried to flee from each other? And they end up in the same place?
@@williamread8186 John Calhoun
UNIVERSE 25. he built 24 before it. But the group sink in Universe 25 is eye opening.
It was Rats though not mice.
45 years old and the desire to have a wife is well and truly gone.
But u can have multiple "baby mamas" women r having losers kids at a high rate
In the late '80s I wrote that women shaming women out of their homes and into the workplace were selling their daughters into economic slavery. These mothers had a choice to work, their daughters would be required to work with no gain in lifestyle in that higher priced economy. However, my newly hired female boss killed the column.
Great point.
And a good reminder that most women will prioritize their feelings over what makes logical sense.
The irony is duly noted.
It’s not a gain in lifestyle to get married, sir.
I love that I went to college. I love that I got my degree. I’m proud of that and I’m proud of the corporate job that I have to.
I worked hard to get this. I have no desire and I would find no fulfillment in raising children. I don’t want that. I’m married to an amazing man and I just love working from home and having my hobbies.
@@LauraSnow-in3nx Good for you. No problem with that. The reality is that most women don't have your options. I wish they did. I'm pointing out the enormous pressure through the media, such as Redbook, Cosmopolitan, newspaper columns on Women's Pages, to work without consideration of where that would lead: child care costs, skyrocketing housing costs (if you have 2 incomes they will find a way to take it off you), saturated job markets with few real raises, home maintenance, added transportation and clothing costs. What would be the real economic gain? If a woman had to work equal pay for equal work made complete sense. I just think it would be better for society if more women had the choice to stay home. That would also mean the cost of living was lower so that when she did work there was real economic gain for the family, not just extra cash to throw at the banks, landlords, Big Pharma, the government, big biz in general.
@@LauraSnow-in3nxIt's almost as if women have trouble understanding that something might still be a problem even if it doesn't affect them personally and directly...
As a single man at 59 with two daughters, 24 and 29, and working for a global corporation, I agree we have major problems going forward.
I can tell a big difference in how 29 year women view themselves than 24 year old women.
Women are rapidly outpacing men for top jobs.
Society is telling men to sit down, shut the F up and pamper your wives and daughters. Michele Obama basically said that this week.
Social Media (and our government) is encouraging women to be the head of your household, proclaiming you don’t have tell listen to a man, just have plenty of sex and abortions if needed, be vain, how you look is of utmost importance.
Young boys are still typical boys. Young girls are learning to take selfies and get manicures.
The future looks problematic.
Michele Obama is no woman......
I have to sons, 28 and 25. I would love to have grandchildren, but I think my sons need to get their passports out if they have any chance of forming a family like they grew up in. One is a CPA and the other is an Electrical Engineer. They are 5’7” and, as far as I know, they have never had girlfriends. Why bother today?
The solution is so ridiculously simple though, men keep their willys and their wallets in their pants.
In what way are women outpacing men for the top jobs? How do you mean exactly?
I taught public school in California up to 2018. They were driving male teachers out at a ratio of 30 men to every 1 woman teacher.
True
I believe it completely
Just curious... What tactics were they using to drive out the male teachers? Thanks.
I'n Louisiana also it's only women coaches and a few men with connections of fields where they can't find anyone. When I went to school most school bus drivers where men because they where all standards with a lot of stops to make and you have to downshift every hear with no coasting. And no ac. When they went to automatics with ac they are now mostly women who refuse to break up fights.
@@bryanjones8778 they stack mens classes with the worst kids and much larger classes and they refuse to enforce your referrals.
You're 100% right about the small extreme factions trying to dominate the discussion. I am probably one of those small factions, given my past experiences. I was divorced, taken to the cleaners, lost my child (who was later alienated against me), and had to pay both an annuity to my ex and she was awarded part of my retirement. In a later relationship I was falsely accused and spent two years of hell + $300,000 defending myself and proving that she lied. Nothing was done to her. I don't really have an un-biased or moderate view of American culture. Right or wrong, I perceive it as man-hating. Rather than stay and be bitter and poison the attitudes of others, I left for another country that more closely aligns with my personal values and treats men better. I will not remarry, or ever even enter into a relationship again, in the USA. Sometimes a new start in a different place is better.
Keep up the good work. What you discuss ... needs to be discussed.
The reason it takes two incomes to buy a house now has nothing to do with "billionaire tax breaks"...how could it? The real reason it takes two incomes today is because when women started working in large numbers, they pretty much doubled the workforce. When you add that many workers, real wages will obviously go down!
I think they should make marriage a contract that you renew annually. If a person leaves; they only leave with what they came to the relationship with. Make custody 50/50
Don't make it so complicated, just don't get married.
What about stop thinking off the government contract and still hold your promise you made with God. Thats why everything is falling apart. Its a government contract not a promise the couple made to God
Lonely, single men - particularly young men - with limited access to women, unanchored by the responsibilities of children or family with low educational attainment and poor prospects for viable career paths are the most dangerous members of society and we are creating them by the millions.
The shaming of men in general, aka toxic masculinity, claims about the patriarchy, mansplaining, sex-shame etc, is all part of diminishing men's value. This has an influence on women's attitude towards men, and women might react by feeling an irrational fear towards men, or finding them unattractive of some sort. So society is responsible for the challenges men face! But instead men are blamed for their misfortune!
It's an issue that's going to boil over.
Lots of people are not getting married or having children. I'd say in the near future you will see vasectomies becoming so prevalent in society, at an early age.
vasectomies for what? keep the tools in the garage in case you need them.
I got a vasectomy at 45
I got my vasectomy at 29 with no children; that I don't know of. I saw the writing on the wall when I was 14.
@@jrnumex9286 sex dolls
Does it affect the health of the snipped subject?
Great topic. I just went through all of that with my 38 year marriage stay home mom had to give her almost $2 million packed her bags moved to another state left our community our friends, my two boys what a mess. Thank you for the insight. Great job.
I thought that being married was a noble thing to do. I was so wrong.
shared custody of the children (50/50) would prevent women who seek to hurt their ex husband from using divorce. Then nothing to pay if both agree to raise the children at the best of their ability, only split the assets if there was no prenup signed. People would think twice before asking to start all over again from zero and instead push them to figure out how to fix the issues.
Me and a few friends have exactly this deal, basically 50/50 down the line. Everything is negotiable and the solution to excess divorce settlements is to lobby for rational divorce laws. Some women are already complaining about the child support and/or alimony being awarded to men where the woman earns more. Lots of the comments here seem to come from powerless men or men that don’t want to try and improve the cases where men get unfair legal treatment but just go live in a cave. Women got their rights by lobbying and protesting for them over many decades and men having to admit the old situation wasn’t just. Many men commenting on YT seem to be the counterparts to the whiny women put up as bad examples to laugh or complain about and seem to want to revert to the 1800’s. Men act like they can’t lobby for men’s rights in divorce. Sorry but I don’t think women and girls are the property of husbands and fathers like they were or basically were in the past. Women couldn’t get credit without their husbands signature until the 1970’s. Sorry but I don’t want my daughter or nieces living in that world. My mother married a narcissist ahule and our family would have been much better off if she had divorced him before we were all grown- I still have a good relationship with my mom but my dad’s clueless and none of us care about him or his BS and even all those years ago he didn’t pay enough for the trauma he caused as the male being divorced for cause (it wasn’t a no fault divorce). The coin toss goes both ways in marriages.
Great video, men finally know female nature
Yes, thanks
@@jeremyrohrer2360 Hey, I’m a 72 year old widow and younger women seem alien to me. I’d say “men finally know denatured females.” They aren’t natural, they’re created by a hostile ideology.
Oh it is female nature. Fleece men. Move on to next simp. Fleece him. All women eventually hit the wall. Female nature.
It so progressive that it's Orwellian and they're just getting started.
I guess I was thinking ahead of the curve in the 90s. I knew back in high school that I didn't want a wife or kids. I thought I was awkward but now maybe just looking ahead. And I was 6'4" and 200 lbs back then.
Just found this channel.
I'm constantly feeling like I'm caught between a rock and a hard place with all of these subjects in our society.
I'm a drummer and composer at 34 currently.
I have someone who loves me immensely, whom I love immensely.
I have so many imbalances between my sense of progress in my field of work and the idea of returning to school for business and music and being a provider for self and my love.
I feel like the commonalities have shifted so far away like magnets repelled in terms of America.
I'm over stressing being comfortable within and i just want to know I'm making the right choices in life and trust without second guessing things that seem so basic.
This channel definitely hammers the right questions i feel many men are reflecting on right now.
Edit: Subscribed.
Thanks, I think that a lot of men are in the same place on these issues. The answers are not easy, but finding the right questions is the first step. Thanks again!
It is all by design gentlemen
So it's claimed. But that sounds like cope to me.
@@kin-of-orakio Honest question….how old are you?
absolutely
Designed by who? More like a side affect of greed and idiacracy
@@MX-CO nailed it.
Divorce law need to be change. They are clearly one sided, so why would men marry?
If young men and women ae increasingly having to stay at home with their parents because the cost of moving out and living is so high, yet entry level jobs pay so poorly, even if they actually manage to get them at all with the entry requirements for entry level jobs also being so high, does this represent a ticking time bomb?
By this, I mean if far fewer members of the current generation can achieve what used to be normal life markers, such as getting a job that pays enough to move out, having disposable income to go out and meet partners, finding someone to love and settling down, buying a home and raising a family, all of which while they're still young enough to do so, how can they afford to house the next generation that will be born into an even worse world with the way things are going?
It seems to me with the reported mainstream media economy doing so well with all time high stock prices and so on being completely divorced from the real life economy of the masses simply trying to get by, that the masses simply aren't needed or wanted anymore. After all, the masses are so poorly valued in terms of their prospects, wages and futures, this does seem to be the true signals the billionaire elite are giving out to the rest.
This isn't further helped by the biggest companies also effectively engineering the replacements of the masses, even as we speak, with them putting everything into AI based automation. For example the publicity for the new experimental AI driven Amazon warehouse showing a lot of busy robots, but only one solitary human in a corner of the warehouse working in his "power zone". The complete opposite of existing Amazon warehouses being a hive of largely human activity.
So, if even the most rudimentary entry level blue collar jobs becomes unobtainable in the near future, how are the masses going to be able to support themselves, never mind the next generation? After all, only a few will find anything resembling lucrative work writing AI prompts for chatbots for instance.
This is of significant concern, because the last time automation completely replaced a sizeable proportion of the workforce was with the introduction of the motor car, which effectively replaced horses in work, after which most were sent to the glue factory. So are the masses about to become the new horses?
Mechanization + Women entering the labor force + Globalization + Automation + Immigration + next stage is AI. jobs are done.
Really good, thought provoking content as always John. Thank you 🙏
Love how you are walking out in nature, almost an analogy for things going back to their natural order.
Just got up from a nap today. This is not a new issue, society is crumbling , Greg Hunter, Alex Newman, Jeremiah Babe in Palm Springs CA, Peter Schiff , author, Ted Broer, CEO of Healthmasters, divorced Judge Joe Brown, Doug's Casey take, living in Argentina, Matthew Bracken, Michael Yon, John Rubino & others have been discussing this topic for years. Crazy world folks, and challenging times now. ...................... stay safe and healthy everyone
So true, we have been watching those guys for years and reading their books too. All of them are spot on! The 'so called' America dream has been DEAD for decades & marriage is no longer............ Be careful , child FREE here ❤😂😂
I was married from age 24-32. At the time I was devastated by the divorce. In retrospect, I’m glad that it happened. I thankfully have a great relationship with my daughter and a positive coparenting experience, but since the divorce I’ve had only one other long term relationship of two years. I’m now almost 44 and still single. I can’t imagine ever getting married again.
The first thing i remember learning in school is that men aren't needed. I graduated hs in 2016. If men arent needed then why should they care to build for others?
So glad I grew up in the 70s and 80's we had strong male role models, often ex military who took zero crap from us kids. We also still had corporal punishment too, we learned fast !
Yeah and look how many boys men have SA in military around the world. That's what you're calling strong men. Ask anyone in the military.
Corporal punishment creates cruel stupid narrow minded people with no empathy and no imagination . We don’t want them around us. Btw military men are among the worst fathers I had unpleasure to meet. It is literally visible from a mile that sb had a military father. Run as fast as possible from these people. My ex husband btw had a colonel father. The guy seemed to have only half of his brain. The other half - if it was ever there - must have been extracted during his military training. Which is - in fact - making you into a machine. Some people are able to survive this and remain human but most - don’t. That’s why recruits come from lower classes and form poor people. Mostly. Nobody sane agrees to that if have any other options.
Feminism is a project of the economy and the government. The goal is to decrease wages by increase the number of employees by convincing women that they go to the workforce. And so you can create more customers, because working women need cars, new clothes etc. and they get frustrated and are consuming more. And as a government you get more taxes and you are able to indoctrinate the children when they are in childcare.
"Strong families are our best safety net"....👌
Yep I agree.
One solution I can think of: Starting a marriage should not be as simple as signing some documents and paying small fees. Those who want to be married should be required to provide a prenuptial agreement. There can be a default prenuptial agreement provided by the state. This may force partners to think and have reasonable expectations from their marriage and maybe keep it.
Thank you for this video. So many people I speak to these days agree that we've been entering a kind of dystopia during the past 15 -20 years that only seems to be accelerating. Likely, there are a myriad of reasons why this is so but the explosion of smartphone / tech use has injected a kind of rocket fuel into the spread of social isolation, loneliness, depression, anxiety etc ... that so many are experiencing. Hard to say where we're heading as a society / species but it sure looks grim some days.
44. No kids. Never married. No longer date as I saw the horrifying toxicity begin encroaching about 8-10 years ago.
It’s unfathomable to think how much worse this gets. But. Ahhh well. Not my issue anymore
Let it rot
Spot on sir. No wasted words. Sanity lies in the middle
Thank you!
You're incorrect with regard to the cost of living. The economy is not a zero-sum game where economic winners exclude other players in the economy from succeding. In fact, if you confistigated the entire wealth of the top one percent, it would not cause a dent in our economic problems. It's our government, and nothing more that is causing our economic greef. One case in point, our current government is inviting millions of new people into our country, while at the same time making it more and more difficult to build new housing.
Women would rather be a single mother than be constrained to a relationship that isn’t their best imagine-able relationship
When a woman can be “equal” and do the same as man! We lost our compass and purpose to be a provider, so we decided to go with our own way!
It's not about college it's a little about money but mostly about status. Had a friend just married talking about a status car? Worked at a refinery and talked to a chemical engineer come out of retirement because his wife wanted a bigger house not paid off but bigger four bedrooms two stories is not enough. I say let it crash bring on the pain we will thrive and survive.
When someone is empty on the inside, nothing in this world can fill that emptiness.
John you are spot on. I agree totally. I don't know what is going to happen if some things don't change. God help us to get back on track 👣
Another great video John excellent stuff. Thanks for your observations. 😊
I think Divorce laws are indeed the issue. Something I heard joked about, actually is starting to make sense. Like a lot of licenses, marriages should be renewed. They seem to have a accurate calculation for child support, but then cant seem to do “Maths” on alimony or assets. Require a snapshot of finances before marriage, and divorce should end close to those percentages, then add conditions (if a spouse quits a job, sickness, who gets the kids, etc).
+Alimony should last for a limited time if it is awarded. Yours is one of the saner and functional comments that JG requested.
Laws always follow behaviour.
We don’t have alimony in Poland - only some special cases - we take what we had before marriage - women end in a very bad situation financially after the divorce bc men don’t pay child support - and yet we choose to divorce. Maybe maybe maybe men make pathetic husbands? How about that? And change of your law will only result in worse conditions for children?
@@zumurudlilit Put the children with the Men then.
We need more men speaking up about this
"If the American people ever allow private banks to control the issue of their currency, first by inflation, then by deflation, the banks and corporations that will grow up around them will deprive the people of all property until their children wake up homeless." -Thomas Jefferson
I left the US 7 years ago, so I'm not really interested in US politics anymore. I will say that a common thread in the EU since Jan 6th is the view that the US has become a third world country... corrupt politicians, the widening gap between the top 1% and everyone else, the power the corporations hold over the economy, the power investment firms hold over the housing market, a complete disregard for veterans, homeless fill the streets in larger cities, the rate of crime in large cities, and the fact the police will stand by and watch crimes happening and do nothing about it.
Interesting. I'm sensing the complete opposite. Granted the evidence is both anecdotal and media-derived but something is different. Perhaps humans can stand only so much degradation and self-loathing before they push back.
The Jan 6th persecutions made it across the pond? I'm genuinely surprised. Last I knew, US propaganda was second to none
You nailed it John, my thinking exactly.
There is no "extreme right" in this country. We don't have a single "far right" person to vote for. However, we DO have extreme Leftists.
There absolutely is a far right in the US. And taken on the whole, the US is more right than most of Europe.
People like Stephen Miller are not far right ? 😮 Romney and Chaney used to be considered far right, but MAGA leaders have now replaced them.
Extreme left is communism and I don't know of a single politician that's openly communist. So you're wrong.
Very well thought out and expressed. Unfortunately, it's been a while since society cared about men. Worse, they're now seen as the root of all evil and anyone not celebrating this is labelled as an "anything-ist". The good news is that I just discovered this channel and you got a new subscriber!
I think that we’re going to keep pushing until men’s issues become everyone’s issues. Society needs a strong, healthy, engaged, male population. Without us society will end. So I think our time is coming soon.
you're wrong on where the money went. it's simple... the boomers were the biggest voting block in their working years and workers had the advantage... as boomers became older they stopped voting for the working class and voted (with their dollars too) for better investment returns... and EVERYTHING became an investment vehicle. Homes, classic cars, and the God awful private investment firms...
Some boomers at the top profited heavily, while many failed to prepare and are now the fastest growing population of homeless.
The boomers sold out America as a whole starting with the 80s, and peaking around the late 90s... before the crashes that followed.
Im 32 years old, and this whiner argument is laughable... Your generation is and would make the EXACT same choices.Its human nature to try to get the most...let me guess,you're the next mother Theresa and would never choose like the boomers,huh?
Thank you for your thougts. I totally agree. I'm from Austria, we have the same problems here in Europe. Nobody cares about😢
Except men care now, men are talking, men are gathering. And change will come from our talking or we will force change. That is what men do.
My ex took EVERYTHING, but the BLAME! 🤪
I love your videos. They actually bring me peace as I see we share similar situations, even though I feel alone I know we have been through the same if not worse and I’m grateful for your help thank you.
We live in a very unbalanced and unfair world. Would you buy a 93rd second hand car with high mileage a faulty engine management system and comes with a very high maintenance cost and a huge deposit.
With apologies to James Carville. "It's the working class, stupid."
To the extent that a liberal or progressive does not utter the words "working class" and "inequality" in their analysis of what happened, they they miss the mark.
80% of those who cited the economy as their #1 issue voted for Trump. While the recovery from 2008 crash for people earning over $100K took until 2011, for those under $70K it took until about 2017, so it looks to many like Trump caused the recovery.
We need a younger version of Bernie.
53, going through a divorce with my much younger soon to be ex with three young kids. Getting absolutely screwed by the system. May just end it all.
Don't do that! If you do then your ex wins and she'll think you were weak. Fuck her. Show her that you're a fighter and won't back down!! Hang in there! Things will get better I've been there myself. Good luck!
It sucks going through it, to be sure. However, if you are like a lot of folks, when you come out on the other side of the divorce, you will feel like you were set free. JMO.
At 53 you have time still to set yourself up as a single man to have a comfortable retirement. Hang in there, it gets better, much better.
@@josebro352 Thanks
@josebro352 I've been there, get in shape, eat healthy exercise, there's plenty more where she came from.
If you really can't handle it, than move else's and work for cash.
Im 26 years old, and upon reflection, life is mind numbingly depressing and were all ultimately, on a path to nowhere.
We are seeing super high inflation. Canary in the coal mine.
Thank you for your insight. I interpreted what you said near the beginning about mostly woman or liberal ideas forming the curriculum in early school as having a negative impact on young men nowadays. I definately saw the older generations of men (I am Gen X) as being more "chauvanist", but they still got on well with woman. Then I saw my generation and younger generations as being more accepting of the equality notion.
Now, at 53, I am learning and seeing first hand some of the "truths" my elder generations referred to about woman. Back then I saw these positions or views about woman by men as being outdated and irrelevant and now, because of my experiences, they are simply anecdotal truths that are absolutely undeniable. Had I accepted these notions about woman when I was younger, I definately would have made some better choices and lead more in my marriage which is now failing after a devastating menopause for my wife of 25 years.
So, like many TH-camrs state, feminism and "equality" between the two sexes is destroying society as we knew it - especially the the strongest unit - the family.
The autumn forest path is truly beautiful. We too can grow old beautifully.
Autumn is a beautiful time of the year. I think the autumn of our life is a beautiful time too. It’s wonderful to have wisdom and still have your physical health. It’s a blessing.
I like your videos a lot. Very down to earth and low-key. I totally agree that the extremes are not doing us any good. I'm fortunate to have my own business even though I don't have a degree. But it's harder now for sure. I'm 56, I got divorced around 33. Had an engagement fall apart when I was 50 and I'm relieved to be out of both relationships. Neither my ex-wife or my ex-fiance is a horrible person. But, I know from experience why men are afraid to get married. My divorce was amicable yet it still cost me a bundle.
And I have little reason to believe my second marriage would have been a good experience. I'm at a point in life where I really want to do something to help our society. I would love to work with young men because I know how they are struggling and I empathize. But frankly it's hard to know where to start. Part of it is young men that I know don't have much interest in hanging around old dudes. So like you, I'm not sure what the answers are.
Thanks
63 yr old boomer. Widowed (2 kids). Grew up in a middle-class household. Back then there were many two-parent income households. Both my parents worked & we're school teachers (my mother 3rd grade & my dad HS). I was on a HS state championship football team in 1978 & about half the varsity (~45 players) were from two-parent income households. Some of the more female orientated jobs back then were school teachers (mainly elementary school), nurses/medical assistants, secretaries/receptionists, grocery store cashiers, law clerks, librarians, school bus drivers, etc.
On the political front, we're so polarized that's it's not even funny anymore. The battle lines have been drawn: Left vs Right. They hate each other & they'll never get along...ever! Both parties are full of political zombies. It's getting so bad now, I see more & more profiles of women on dating apps that clearly state "If you're a Trump supporter, you need not apply!" & "If you're on the Right, don't bother reaching out to me!" 😯 There's so much hatred with both sides. We're going to end up as the "Divided States of America." People will just move to & live in either the Red or Blue state that they align with. And Congress will continued to get nothing done other than to become wealthy from all lobbyists & donors. 😉
Lastly, marriages fall apart simply because women just are plain bored. They're attention & validation mongers. Lol. They're looking for excitement & euphoria from guys admiring them on social media & dating apps. They looking for a Chad or a new Chad in cases where they were married to a Chad: Tom Brady's ex - 44 yr old Gisele Bundchen dumped him for her hot 37 yr old Jujitsu instructor that she's now pregnant from! 🤣🤣🤣
Strange, Tom Brady claims she didn’t cheat. But you know better. And of course I wouldn’t want anybody who can support trump - he is a pathetic businessman- how many bankruptcies - he never kept any marriage vows so he is a man of no integrity- he said his daughter was a piece of ass - this qualifies as a lack of honor ability and emotional level of an Neanderthal - pls Neanderthals forgive me this offense - and he hires a crazy bitch who shoot her dog. In my country she would have a 3 years prison sentence. I know she would bc we had exactly the same case and this is how this pos ended his political career. We don’t need psychopaths to run a country. I don’t understand what you don’t understand? That we don’t want cruel greedy abusive narcissists? With extremely bad taste? Have you seen his places? It makes you vomit.
*"The weakness of men is the facade of strength; the strength of women is the facade of weakness."*
~ Warren Farrell
Careful here, because over critique of society and unrest always leads to pressing the reset button on society, in other words; war
I agree -Strong families are the best safety net!
When people focus on extrinsic "values" such as money, power and fame, the fabric of society falls apart.
When people focus on intrinsic values, such as helping others and passion for something, the fabric of society remains intact.
We have an income disparity problem. We have a trickle down system that doesn't trickle, we have a materialism and consumerism problem.
Almost all other problems stem from the problems I just listed.
I'm looking at moving to hungary .it has a very low tax rate no left wing woke feminism and has a family Christian policies which means men never lose their wealth to a woman .the country of Hungary is a very affordable country to live in .
Very friendly people, too.
look up salary rates in Hungary .. you will cry ... go to Austria, way better place.
I hadn't looked at Hungary, but found some of the items about Poland curious if I suddenly wanted to move to Europe. Which in my case, there might be a citizenship by ancestry if I got serious about going in that direction. Courtesy of another guy on the tube, I would want to check out Malaysia. Of course that's how I would think I could live my best life if it came to moving from 'murica.
Budapest, Hungary. The Transylvanian Alps. Romania. I love that whole area. It's very romantic and gives me strong Bram Stoker vibes. Have a great time if you go! Best of luck.
Retired, for me at 73 i'm pretty much checked out and useless. Widowed, Kids are grown. Have my home, a motorcycle, and a Cat. Also have the occasional cigars and some adult beverages. Work in the yard, do not "hang out" just at home watching stuff on TV. Trying to be at peace with the world in hopes they will stay off my back.
The male vote doesnt matter. Women live 5 years longer than men in the Usa, they will always be the majority of voters (53%) as long as they have the right.
There’s a ballot box in my work parking lot - I have been seeing ten times the amount of women dropping ballots off than men. All the men I’ve seen dropping ballots of are older, grey, balding men with polo shirts on. It’s Easily 10 female voters for every male voter where I’m at.
My psyche crumbled long ago... way ahead of the curve here.
I'm a new subscriber.
You are very insightful ...
I love your channel..👍🏼
Thanks and welcome! I appreciate your support!
I’m part of a group of men who isn’t talked about very much I’ve had an extremely difficult time finding a partner and is starting to get older and without a family let’s face it. A man has a difficult time justifying working and holding up society, some men sadly even succumb to self deletion Because they cannot find a reason to live without a family.
I agree with you. That could be extremely difficult. Although I’m sure there are lots of women out there who would like to have children and would like to have a family also. Hopefully you can meet one soon.
Great Points John
Thanks
3rd problem is simple:
Without Confidence, common
Sense, community and civility,
There's no way America can
Recover.😢