You are one strong woman, Susan. Sometimes I wonder if a man and a woman are really meant to spend their lives together, or if it should just be encounters and seasons you can be together, so maybe there will not be so much heartache..... Love Desi! Such a sweet dog! Happy birthday!
I believe we are not meant to live together.we do it for our kids and family and mostly will tolerate.i am divorced but in a great close friendship with my 2nd husband and we really enjoy eachother company as long as we dont live together.i have many friends who are married though some content and some not . There is not a time comes that they positively comment they wish they were in my situation or if they could go back to younger days, they would have not marry their husband.
The Bible says we are meant to marry and not just enjoy the fringe benefits outside of marriage. God gave Adam Eve so we would not be alone. Marriage is hard work that most aren't willing to put into it.
You are such a great woman. i learned so much from you and realized you are so much like me, and so many similar memories and experiences(except i dont have kids, came from big family & have cat) that i got hooked & have to watch you.Grateful that you exist and i know its not for big money that you present yourself every week.when i read your followers notes, it shows they apreciate you and they hear and feel you.Thank you and keep up the good work.... don´t ever give up.Happy Birthday to dear Desi.
After 42 years together, I divorced him. He was the love of my life. I was nothing more than the maid. Took care of everything and he was the wage earner for the family. Now at 70, I am alone, but never lonely. I developed my own style, got a dog, and I truly enjoy my way of life now. I put everyone before me, and took care of every thing and every one but myself. I do not look back because God does not want me to live in the past. Happy Birthday Desi. I have a Dixie Grace, a one year old female doberman. Only you can make yourself content and happy. Took me a while to learn that lesson.
I completely understand you and agree with you. There comes a time when you realize enough is enough and it’s time to live life and enjoy it for yourself. God bless you and wishing you all the best!
You are so strong. I’m so glad you got out after such a long mariage. I feel your words because I’m in the same situation “ im nothing but the maid”. One dag ( soon) i will be free. Enjoy life. You are an inspiration❤.
This sweet puppy made my morning! One thing about having a dog in your life is they love you totally unconditionally and with all of their hearts! 💕 plus they await your arrival with anticipation and excitement just to hear your voice and give you all the attention you want, need and deserve! Added plus…whichever one leaves this earth first the other one will know how much that one gave their heart totally to you and no one else! Answer to the hottest date I ever had was going for a midnight boat ride with the moon casting its aluminas light over the peaceful lake. My date had a blanket to cover us up( it was in October) and had a bottle of iced down Champagne and some fresh strawberries. I fell for him at that moment! He was a very talented water skier, very tone and charming. We both loved the water, the changing of the leaves 🍁 in the mountains and simple things in life. He could always make me smile and just enjoy his company. I found out he has passed on not long ago. Yet I will always remember him on that very romantic night. ❤
My first husband cheated on me. I was 24 yrs old he was 30. We married in Oct and I found out he was cheating in Feb. He had been cheating with this married women he met at his job while we were planning our wedding. I never felt pain like that . I cried for months. Couldn’t work . Lost 20 lbs. It was devastating . I didn’t want him back. He wanted to try to work things out but there was no way I could forgive him. We had this big church wedding. I was so humiliated by what he did. I can say it has made me a stronger person. If I got through that I could do anything. I just couldn’t believe someone could hurt another human being like that. I am 70 yrs old now and still think back once and awhile about it. I have had a great life without him. He moved away and I never saw him again. He did reach out and sent me a letter out of the blue about 4 yrs later. I couldn’t believe it. I think just to ease his gilt. I wrote back the nastiest letter back. I wasn’t going to let him off the hook. No regrets!
When a man cheats, it’s over. Cannot work through it, never trust again. Rather be alone, than with someone that you cannot trust. It does not matter if they want to make it up to you. One time is all anyone gets. Edited to add that I have been married 30 years to a wonderful man.
@@cf9399 been married 30 years. I am a no nonsense no messups person. My kids went to one high school, one college, one grad school. Those were the ground rules. They received their masters at 21. My husband would never cheat, because I would not tolerate it. I would never cheat, because I have a wonderful husband. There are too many important places to go and bucket lists to accomplish in our lifetime. Why waste time with another person?
We were in the eye of the storm. House damage, large trees down, no water, no power, no internet and no phone service for a week, but praise the Lord noone was hurt. The storm happened on my husband's 90th birthday. He and I had several wonderful talks, at night in the dark. It was so dark, we couldn't even see each other..love your channel..love and blessigs to you and Desi. 🦋 HAPPY BIRTHDAY BLESSINGS TO DESI.🎂🎉
That storm although horrifying was a blessing, you properly said things that you normally wouldn’t discuss. Things deep in your hearts. What a strange blessing. I live in Fl and there were constant tornado alarms around us . All day long . Less than a few miles from us an EF3 took out 100 homes or damaged them in a newer development of young families … 10 miles up the road another tornado took out more homes in another development. Glad that we you and your husband are safe.. l have been saying prayers for the victims of these horrific storms.
If I could tell my younger self something at 65, it would be when they show you who they are, believe them. My second husband was abusive. He gave me signs along the way that I ignored. I suffered 26 years with him because he told me I couldn't do it without me. I'm wiser now.
We women just want to believe they will change. Our love can heal them. It can take a long time to come out of that fantasy we carry in our heart. The main thing is we learn!
After 38 years the same man, six years of infertility, but having a miracle and having twins that are now almost 30 years old, I found out six years ago, my “ husband”, was having an affair with a coworker, 20 years younger, just because he could. And during those two years, he belittled me, and took advantaged of my love and devotion, and literally broke my spirit at the age of 57. This one episode of yours , has put so many of my feelings, into words. Thank you. Years of therapy, and your wisdom tonight has helped me tremendously.
YOu have me in tears...nobody knows our pain unless you have had a man break your soul...Happy is the woman who gets it back! Much love to you, you are so beautiful to share this with me! xo Susan & Dez
I’m an Asheville, NC girl living in Charleston, SC for 9 years. Helene menaced us in Charleston. We huddled in our closet for 3 hours starting at 3am with back-to-back tornado warnings, but nothing happened, thank God. She flew by on her black wings that night like a 70 mph freight train on her way to destroy my hometown and region in Asheville. The devastation is mind boggling and my heart is with my people there. But, Somehow God spared the lives of all my family and friends. I’m so proud of my people, Susan. No power, no water, no cell, no internet and yet when the storm passed everyone I know came out if their houses and started helping their neighbors and still are. Please pray for Western North Carolina. There’s a long long way to go, but I am safe. ❤ Happy birthday, Desi🎉
Susan, how in the world did you train Desi to sing like an opera star? My beloved yellow cat, Toby, just looks at me when I try to get him to sing along. He slow-blinks his eyes and gives me kitty kisses that way but refuses to utter a purr! 🐱😮
Wow what a scarey situation. Im glad you and your loved ones came through it safe. People are good and truly want good for one another. Thats our true nature. Still sending blessings🙏🩷
What a terrible thing you in Ashville are going through even after the hurricane. It is so shocking to see the devastation and my prayers are with you and everyone there.
We love you cause you're real. You feel, love, and share your life openly. I'll be 73 tomorrow, I'm alone also. But never lonely. God is good and life is always an adventure.
You and Desi are still just as precious as when I watched you a couple of years ago. Happy belated Birthday to Desi. You always have such wisdom to share with us all. So appreciated! I'm 78 and have been living alone for a few years now. I'm really past a romance with anybody...but lovely to have friends who listen and and share their lives with me. I pray for all the folks who are suffering from the devastation in the south. ❤🙏🙏🙏 It's so good to find you again after missing out all these months.
Ya..I married a carpenter…very masculine…sexy men can dance! My man could dance…he could grill..he was personable…he was fun…thoughtful…strong. 52 years of that… I made a bad mistake when I was 18..married and divorced within 18 months..no children..second marriage bingo! Love until, death did part us. Two beautiful children… I am nearing 75 with 4 beautiful grandchildren and memories to cherish forever
I smiled so big reading your words! I could feel the love...I could see your husband grilling and being thankful you were his wife...what a lovey vision you have given me! Happy fall my friend, much love, Susan & Desi
I married a foreign man I met while in the Army. He pursued me and I would always joke he needed a green card Lol. He was average looking, but I luved the sound of his voice and sense of humor. I wanted the divorce he didn't. He's remarried per face book thru my friend. I have no children by choice. Definitely the voice and humor are key for me. Having lost my dog almost 3 yrs ago, this is what I miss most. Turning 70 the end of Oct. I'm looking to volunteer at my local animal shelter for now. My sister wants to know how many I adopt. Ha ha! You are the first you tuber I subscribed to, enjoy the videos.
Thank you Susan and Happy birthday to sweet Desi I so love him he's so adorable and sings so sweet and Susan every week you inspire me I wished I had a sm home and a life like you I know I'd be so much better off just because your married doesn't mean anything when their nit with you really with you Happy Friday and wishing you a blessed week from my heart to yours Nanyang blessings 🙌 ❤🌹🤗
Dearest Hoper , Could you please give us an update a year from now ? I would love to know how many dogs 🐕 you will have . Honestly, l would not stop at one 🥰Sending blessings 🥰
LP: The opening celebrating Desi's 11th birdthday is absolutely your best opener yet! His sweet little face radiated the love and joy he was experiencing at that very moment. Doesn't get any better than that.❤
Dear Susan and Desi, HAPPY BIRTHDAY you very handsome boy! I think you grooming and giving him a massage was one of the sweetest things I've seen. I'm so happy you found him and gave him this wonderful life. Many more birthdays to the king of the backyard. Love, Hilah
I used to have 3 dogs and as of 3 weeks ago, now I have none. I really enjoyed Desi singing. At some point I will get another dog,but not right now. My cat is 17 years old and my dogs lived until 17,19 and unknown but at least 18. I am 70, soon to be 71 and I don’t think I was cheated on (except one guy in high school). I thought Yul Brenner was the sexiest most attractive man ever! My husband died 17 years ago and I have had one serious relationship since then, but honestly I am content with my own company and the company of friends. I really enjoy our weekly visits and reading the comments as well. I also think Hal is a good guy. Thanks for all you do and Happy Birthday to Desi!
Sandy, sending heartfelt condolences and virtual hugs . So sorry to hear that your elderly souls crossed the rainbow bridge. The pain is real and hoping you will feel better soon.❤
@@SandiRemedios1 I know, I like Hal, too! I also agree with you about Yul Brenner! Smouldering! I would have loved to have been the one he danced with in 'The King and I.'
Decades more birthdays to you dear Desi. You bring so much joy and happiness to others. You were so blessed to have Susan to love you. You deserve it little one, for all you have been through. Susan you are truly one in a billion.
Made me cry when u said u dont feel so alone because of us! Thats the way we ( at least I) feel about you! I know ive told you this before..but so many times your videos have helped me not feel so alone about growing older..
Hi Linda, right you are. I always say "If it's any consolation, you are not alone in your loneliness. There's so many of us out there. Hang in. Keep busy. Be good to yourself. Hugs, sj
Susan, I enjoyed every aspect of your video but there was one part that really hit home with me and that was when you spoke of men not giving or showing affection toward their spouse. I am 79 years old, my husband is 81 and we have been married for 56 years. He tells me EVERY day that he loves me, he tells me I look nice or that I'm pretty and he tells me that he is proud of me! When I went back to work full time at the age of 50 after being a stay at home mom he did the food shopping and cooked the evening meal because not only was I working but also going to graduate school at night! And what did I now realize?? I have been taking all this affection for granted but after this video Not Any More!!! I am sitting here thanking God for him and the love we share. I have two sons who I witness showing warmth and affection toward their wives so they had a good role model. My daughter, sadly, is not so lucky. Love spending Sunday morning with you and Desi!
East Tennessee girl here. I am in a county surrounded by devastation. My tiny town was spared. Most of the areas struck were places of my childhood, hurting my heart. But oh the sights of seeing people coming together are just too wonderful and amazing. Please keep us in your prayers 🙏 ❤.
I certainly will pray for you Karen. I can emphasize with you and all who have been impacted by these hurricanes. I lost my home with “Andrew, “ damages from “Wilma” and “Irma”, be strong, you will recover with the help of God and kindness of the people He sends your way🙏🙏
@karenashby3132 You will be in my prayers 🙏 My Granddaughter lives in Mountain City ....Take care and know it will take time and it is a blessing seeing people helping people ✨️
@karenashby3132 East Tennessee here also. We were also spared, but it's heartbreaking to see what others are going through. It will be a long haul to bring the areas back. We are trying to figure out ways to help. The needs keep changing especially now that it has gotten so cold at night.
Expecting 500 at florida shelters but 1700 came!!! Bus loads came during the night with dogs. No one turned away. I had a grade school desk I used and met like 5 gals alone too and we had fun talking. Two different handsome cops would take turns as they walked by and whisper in my ear!! Ofcourse I giggled and flirted right back!! One whispered " did ya get that report done yet or must I go after you??" I said " hey baby bring it on!!" We then giggle. It kept my mind off storm by banter with them. My new pals said " omg they are cute" it was like a huge pj party with strangers who were so nice. My home had very minor issues. Thank God
What I don’t care about anymore? I’m very tall 6ft 3” and 70. The cruel comments have been legion. But I decided I could either hate myself all my life or learn to not care about the looks, comments, cruelty, rejection and hostility. I’m glad I decided that when I was young or my life would have been truly awful.
I begged when I was seven months pregnant, didn’t do any good. Spilt anyway but quickly asked me back. I should have said no, he only got meaner. After 3 boys & 13 years, I couldn’t take his abuse anymore. I thought I could show my love and it would magically fix my marriage. It made him meaner & I started hating myself. I am old now, alone & ok. God bless you & yours
Janice I completely understand I fell madly in love with my husband married he went off to Vietnam and I had our girl daughter 55 yrs later still married many separations I just wished I was stronger I didn't have options not like now a days I knew better definitely wanted better had options with other men deep down inside I loved this knucklehead were so different 💔 I'm 72 yes I dream of starting over enough of me woman don't settle! Best to you 😅
Hi Janice, so sorry for your woes. I'm happy you emerged from it ok. Enjoy your self now even if it means only to take a walk, an extra slice of pie, or spending time with a close friend. Blessings to you. SJ
I asked God to give me a husband that loved Him more than anything else. Because I knew then that he would love me rightly. And after 15 years of waiting God sent my precious man of God. He loves Jesus more than anything and says he loves me next. God is so faithful. Now 20 years later he still loves God and loves me next. Hallelujah to the One I love.
I had two requirements of a husband- 1) he had to be a man of faith and 2) a non smoker.. l got both, and knew that he was the one the Lord wanted for me! 41 years later and he's 'still the one!'
I believe because you are genuine and you share your heart; you are honest and it lets each one of us relate to so much of what you share. Women don't visit, have coffee, talk about their marriage their kids, lift up and support one another. So many women work, are running their kids to sports, practices and events, so younger women don't have that woman to woman support and encouragement. I am 79 and I find most women my age are just surviving and have little interest or knowledge outside of their immediate family. Also, I have a high maintenance husband (a lot due to his health & a lot due to his PTSD) and most of my energy, both physical and emotional is spent taking care of him and doing all the work to maintain my home and yard. I really don't have the energy to spend on friendship. So, I grab a few minutes to share with you each week. And thank you for loving Desi so well. He's such a sweetie.
Susan you are so inspiring to me. My x husband of 45 yrs cheated the last 10 yrs of our marriage. I was devestatd but he taught me through all that hearbreak that I am strong and now I am remaried to a wonderful, kind man who loves me. I love hearing about your life and seeing you each week here . thank you for being you and sharing your life with me. I am 64 and my life atared over at 59. I am grateful for all the Lord has blessed me with. Two beautiful daughters and 4 wonderful gradchildren. and now I get to spend the rest of my liife with my husband of a year and a half and my family.
I never even questioned your motive. You're an open book. A warm, genuine and honest woman who has helped me more than I can say. 💖 Happy birthday to the sweetest little boy Desi 🎂🎉 Love you both.
You make me laugh...I am a Widow and sometimes I enjoy being alone....About 5 minutes per month I miss being with a man, at about 3 minutes I get goose bumps, but than I start thinking about cleaning the bathroom, cooking what he wants for dinner, laundry etc...I know that sounds selfish, but you last Husband was a narcissist.....my Son lives in TN, WHERE the storm went through and they are fine.. My Granddaughter lives 30 mins away and her town lost bridges also electricity for a week, and now she is fine, Thank God! ❤
I found out my fiancé had been cheating on me a month before our wedding. We stayed together and then, 10 days before the wedding, he called and told me he couldn't go through with the wedding. I was sad I wasn't getting married, but I had such peace. I married 2 years later and have been happily married to the same man for 40 years. My former fiancé? He married the girl he cheated on me with and they got divorced a few years after that...
Grass is never greener. I will never understand what men will risk for sex/cheap thrill. It's like they do not understand the l life they are living is real.
My hubby bought me a gold charm bracelet the first year we were married. It had a scorpion and a virgin for our astrological signs. It also had a typewriter. I was a secretary. It had a comical bird with the words "worry bird" written on its base. As the years went by he added 2 gold spheres (1 when my son was born and one for my daughter). Then came a small gold globe, and a computer (all miniatures, of course). I recently gave it to my granddaughter. The other one got my engagement ring and my daughter got my 25th Anniversary diamond.
My first love cheated and left me for my best friend at the time. :( Changed my world and not for the best. But then I met my life partner and have felt secure and loved and protected for the last almost 50 years.
My late husband always loved and treated me so kindly. My heart was always so warm in his presence. We mutually adored each other, and we were very affectionate. We were so close, loving and connected. I never found another relationship like that. I wish that loving experience for everyone.
That will never happen in my life. It hurts my heart to know that others were given the kind of relationship you had with your husband and I was not. What was there about me that I did not receive tender, gentle love from the man I married ? Constant rudeness, criticism , and coarse speech has ruined my love for this man. 45 years is how long I have tried to accept that he is broken and doesn’t want to be repaired. In his mind , he is fine. We did not have children. Now, he is sick. I resent that I am his caregiver. We have some good days, fun days even. But, he has never ever loved me. I think maybe he is a narcissist.
I had a marriage like yours for 38 years. He died 2 years ago and my life has never been the same. It's different and as much as I loved him, I've accepted a future I never wanted. I "am" happy and enjoy life. I've gone to France with my youngest daughter and granddaughter and have carved a different way of going forward. I will never date and just the thought makes me cringe. I would compare constantly and it wouldn't be fair to the other person. My husband was one in a million and I'm so grateful I met him over 41 years ago.
Susan, I really enjoy you so much! You always speak to my heart! I am 71, divorced my first husband, mainly because I was too young to know what was what! I was 17 and he was 19, got married because I was pregnant.. we were married 10 years. Well I thought he wasn’t giving me enough love and attention, so I divorced him.. I met a man that I thought was better. We’ve been married now 42 years. Well after about 10 years of this marriage my husband started ignoring me and became very self centered. I think with a lot of men, they give women attention when they want to pursue you and want sex, but as they get older and lose their sex drive, they don’t think they have to show affection like they use to. I know all men aren’t that way, but I see a lot of unhappy women out there that feel like they’re living alone, even though they’re married. I really love seeing older couples that still look like they love each other and show affection! P.S. I have lost all my feelings of love for my husband because he doesn’t show any love for me. Thank you for coming back each week to share your life! ❤
Desi looks so Gorgeous today ❤ his pampering has really worked Happy Birthday 🎈🎂 Desi Pets are so easy to Love and they give back so much Love too For me Kindness is the most Attractive thing about a Man
Sarasota FL here. We evacuated about 10 miles east. We were fine. It was a big scary storm, I was literally shaking and couldn't eat for a few days before the storm hit. Our house was fine, electric came on today. The neighborhood looks like a bomb hit it.
I spent 62 years in FL. Could never plan a birthday party because odds were there would be a hurricane on September 10th. Trust me, your neighborhood will rebuild. Important thing is that you are safe and have power...
It warms my heart every week when I get to see you and Desi singing.. btw you did an excellent job on his haircut. Can’t tell it wasn’t professional. He’s a handsome guy. In answer to one of the questions, I had my heart broken by my husband many years ago when he left me for a much younger woman. He had 2 children with her. We had none. One day many years later, he called out of the blue to tell say he always loved me. Of course, you guessed it, she left him with the children and I guess he thought I’d come running back. He was wrong. It did sadden my heart when I found out he passed away in 2022. Some of the old feelings came flooding back for a moment.
A tall, strong kind man who can fix and build things and cook is my turn on. I agree with you, going down that path of past hurts is best left alone. I learned from it and not going there no more. Happy birthday sweet Desi! You really belted it out today. ❤❤❤
I agree with everything you shared about men and relationships. Especially learning that we have value and deserve to be treated with respect. Now, at 72, I no longer desire to be in a relationship, it's too exhausting. I do believe each relationship/marriage I have been through has taught me so much about myself. I just wish I had known "me" better all those years ago. Thank you for sharing your views, and Happy Birthday 🎉 little Desi!!
High school sweethearts, married cheated on me. After 13 years of marriage I guess he wanted some variety so I divorced him. I only asked one thing, for him to be true to me. 6 years later, I married the love of my life, that was 32 years ago :). HAPPY BIRTHDAY DESI, sorry I'm a day late !!!!
What a beautiful video as always but this one was super special being Desi’s birthday. Happy birthday sweet baby boy!! I so much love your singing 🎵 aloha from Arizona
I love that you mentioned men's strong forearms as being attractive. I have always thought that, and thought to myself, does anyone feel the same way? Do glad to know you do too! 😅 I am single and have lived alone for a very long time. I am happy and content. Peaceful. However...a Miracle Man is on the way...I feel it. If not, living in your own space, and living in peace is Nirvana to me!❤
First….Happy Birthday Desi!❤🎉 Susan this video was so beautiful. When you were sharing about special moments in your life I could really see your deep feelings through your eyes. I’m divorced, he left me for another woman. I was devastated but survived. It really helps to be part of a community meaning your TH-cam channel. Oh how long for someone to really love me, but for now, I must breathe and carry on alone. I’m not really alone. I have my furry kid. My dog Tessa. And of course, my grandchildren bring me such joy and are a blessing from the marriage that didn’t work out.
Oh my goodness… the last few seconds are priceless… please EVERYONE, make sure you watch to the very, very, very end of the video! You’ll be thrilled you did😂❤ Happy Birthday Desi❤️🐾❤️ thank you Susan xxx
I think you are a very talented, caring and helpful woman. I've been watching your channel for 2 years now. I have learnt a lot about skin care and use some of the products that you have shared. I don't wear makeup, but you are a makeup artist. You do it beautifully. I have learnt about artist and stories behind some of the most notable paintings. You have shared your gift of music, which I love! Music is like the air I breathe. I can't live without it. You have shared fashion which I have purchased some of the things you showed. I have your Sweet Potato Bread recipe in my recipe binder. It is yummy! You have been very open about your life to help women and men. Your videos are so creative! I truly enjoy them and LOVE seeing you and Desi at the end. You always make me smile and that is priceless! I appreciate all that you do in your work! Thank you! ❤
Happy Birthday Desi !!❤ Thank you for sharing your videos with all of us ! We so look forward to our Saturday's with the both of you. Your an amazing woman !! Hugs & Love 💕
Oh , this is one of the cutest videos of Desi! I smiled the entire time. Thank you for another great video. I’m mostly alone in my house. My partner of almost 18 years has his own place in a town 40 miles away. Only comes on a weekend but I can’t complain because he helps with yard work and other things that need fixing. There is no affection ; really nothing , but I’m grateful for his help. I miss being with someone who would hold me and say the things you mentioned in your video . At my age, (78), I now have given up on ever finding love again. He isn’t able to be affectionate in any way and thinks it’s just fine of how we get along😢. He has said many times that he can’t give me what I’m looking for . He knows that I have always been a very loving person. I continue to stay with him . At least we have each other on weekends to go out to eat and once in a while take a day trip somewhere, but it feels so lonely to have a partner who really is not part of my life every day. 18 years of this is a very long time. I keep busy with my flower garden , and much else . When you have a house , there is always work to be done. Your videos are always the highlight of my week. Love to you and Desi. ❤️❤️
I really and truly hate to tell you this, but it’s only fair to just say it. Your partner probably has more than one woman in his life. My dear, don’t you see that a little lawn work and an occasional meal out is not enough to qualify as a partnership? He told you quite clearly that physical affection will never be part of the relationship. Perhaps he would feel like he was cheating on his other woman if he offered you even a hug, hand holding, a peck on the cheek?. My dear Aunt maintained a relationship with a man whose wife had been dead for many years. She was 83 and he was 87. They would travel and have separate rooms , because he said he would never “ sleep” with another woman. He took that old euphemism for sex literally. It’s almost laughable now that they are both gone. My point for you is this, when something doesn’t seem quite right, maybe that’s because it isn’t. Have you ever visited his home? Has he found excuses why it wouldn’t be convenient?
I read your comment. Yes, I have been to his place . The reason he will not change is because he wants to live near his family and grandkids. They all live within a 2-3 mile range. He is happy living alone and is set in his old ways. Affection is not part of his personality but helping me is something he enjoys. It’s a very confusing and weird kind of relationship and I never thought that at my age , I would always be alone, except on weekends.
@@jfdrie The important thing , in the end, is that you must choose what you want out of the rest of your life. You do not sound satisfied, much less happy. My impression after reading your comment was one of feeling trapped in a dead end relationship that is not all that much fun.
I'm fortunate at 62 to say that I haven't experienced being cheated on. However it happened to my mother when I was growing up and my father went on to marry the woman for 44 years. But oh my how graceful and elegant my mother remained. Through the grace of God, us children and the great example she lived is remarkable. She's 88 and is still loving life fully. I was fortunate but did lose my husband to a heart attack. This type of grief is a moment of healing in itself. Men age so very well and women tend to put pressure on themselves. I vowed to Never do this and I have aged wonderfully as my mother says. Why worry over it ladies. Take care of yourselves It'll reward you 💟
Happy Birthday to Desi. I love a confident, intelligent, kind man with a good sense of humor. I'm also attracted to the Carpenter type.😊 Hope you have a wonderful week.
Happy Birthday Desi! Love that little dog. I have a 16 yr. old Jack Russell and he is my companion now. My husband died 4 years ago. We had been married 60 yrs. I did meet someone a couple of yrs. ago who set me on my heels, but it only lasted for a very short time. It is hard to be alone, but I am learning every day. I do enjoy your program.
Hello Susan, you are 100% correct about relationships, communication, and affection. Wish it could be put in a bottle and given to every man who never learned or has chosen to have a wife without being a husband. Just a little bit of consideration, respect and sincere affection makes a HUGE difference. We tire of giving in, making sacrifices and letting things slide because they lack the ability to be kind, thoughtful, and loving and taking the time to give a kiss before bedtime. Intimacy starts outside of the bed and no woman should wait all day to be shown appreciation and affection. Thanks for sharing ❤😊
Do men mirror their own fathers? I don’t know. What I do know is that husbands who use you as an outlet for sexual needs, a housekeeper, cook, laundry doer, who also is self supporting, in charge of arranging all appointments, repairs to house, manages 99% of all aspects of children’s needs it causes a fracture in the relationship.
Aww, love Desi and you. Happy 11th birthday to Desi! I've spent the last 2 weeks dealing with the east TN and western NC devastation. We collected well over $300,000 for supplies (food, water, generators, fuel, etc., plus donated clothing) - and the donations keep coming in! Most of the donation dollars have been spent and delivered at this point but this is not over. It's going to take a long time to recover for these folks. The questions were thought provoking and I enjoyed your answers. I'll have to ponder on mine and perhaps I'll get back to you.
Happy Birthday Desi!! You are the cutest little guy!! I’m 66 and a widow for 8 years now. He was my 2nd husband. The best thing that ever happened to me! The first one was a cheater and the father of my 2 daughters. We haven’t seen or spoken in almost 20 years.
I laughed so hard and cried so hard at you and Desi singing Happy Birthday. My husband died 2 years ago and the light in my soul has been dimmed. The two of you singing brought a bit of that light back and it felt so good!
Desi looks very committed to being the best BEST FRIEND you could ask for. I can see it in his eyes. He knows what his job is, and he is determined to do it well.
I was at the farm where my two miniature horses are boarded and I was talking to my friend about my little gelding. He’s 21 years old, he runs away from me and is hard to catch, he went for professional training to carriage drive and failed (it cost thousands in equipment and training), him and his buddy got salmonella and his buddy didn’t survive (it cost thousands in vet bills) but I love him. I just love him and I fondly call him my lawn ornament. My friend laughed and said, “Every girl needs a bad boy.” I laughed so hard I snorted. I wasn’t expecting that comment and I desperately needed that laugh. Happy Birthday, Desi.
The trees with the orange leaves are gorgeous! I miss living in the North! Tennessee won’t have this color for another month and I never have seen them so vibrant as I have in the North….Happy Birthday Desi!!🎉
You do a great job with ur videos! Thanks for sharing ur feelings and experiences with us. It makes all of us feel less alone. Happy Birthday Desi, the best singer on youtube! ❤
Great video. I relate to most everything you said. In fact, I think my answers would be the same. Andy Williams seemed so calming and dapper and gentlemanly. As for the attraction to a fellow, mind would be the same as yours and I would have to include a man who understands me and who I really am, not only on the outside but the inside and my heart is the most important and yes, to be interactive in conversation and not expecting this or that but to be a partner in everything even in conversation. I'm with you Susan on your answers. LOL I am about 7 years older than you so I really get everything you speak to. This was a fun video and I love the poems and remarks written on the pages .............and I've yet to see anyone I am acquainted with Limp. LOL You look lovely tonight as always. Happy Birthday Desi.......too cute and so happy he had a Darling Birthday!!
I always drop everything I’m watching to see your videos. We’re the same age but I won’t be 70 until June. But I do the same thing. I tell people I’m almost 70 or I’ll call myself 70 so I got a good chuckle out of that tonight. I have my two little Chihuahuas who are in their older age 2 at 13 and 12 they are my constant companions, I rarely go anywhere as a matter fact, I was just joking that I had filled up my gas tank eight weeks ago and still had an eighth of a tank of gas left. I live in Cape Coral Florida and really find a lot of inspiration and true warmth with our conversations. Yes, our conversations because I talked right along with you. Lol yes I like corny. And I love your closing remarks with Desi. He reminds me so much of my two little Chihuahuas, Lucy and Harley. My husband asked me for divorce a year and a half ago and married my best friend five weeks later. We had been married for 22 years and it broke my heart because I’ll probably be in love with him till the day that I die. That can’t be good for a person can, I just felt so safe around him all the time and secure and he was not the kind of man that would’ve been out chasing women so I know she had a lot to do with that as well which doesn’t really matter at this point it’s done and I have to move on. I moved from Dallas to Cape Coral Florida a year and a half ago and really haven’t made any new friends until the hurricane. I met some new people in the neighborhood when they were lending the extension cords and things like that to keep me secure and safe. I enjoy spending a lot of time alone. I’ve always been that way. I’ve been real good as a single woman all my life and Roy traveled every other week to California for the week so for 22 years that was my lifestyle. I just get so darn lonely sometimes and I actually got scammed by romance scammer on one of the dating apps. I got scammed for almost $200,000 took my entireIRA. Now I’m broke and don’t know what to do, but I’ll figure something out. God always seems to take care of me somehow. Anyway, this was meant just to let you know how much you mean to my little world and how inspired I am and see you next Saturday.
Reading your comment felt so sad for you. It must be so difficult to get beyond all of that, but glad you have made friends of some of your neighbors now. Loneliness is so soul breaking. I have found that out as my husband passed recently and I am trying to find who I was as a single woman again. Life throws us so much. I am so saddened to hear you had your life savings scammed. I pray you find a way and God be with you to get you to a better place beyond all of this terrible stuff life, has thrown at you. I'd like you to know that from today you have a friend in Australian rooting and praying for you. Take care of yourself and your two fur babies and just know I care. I really wish you all of the best. As you say, Susan means a lot to us. She brings a community of woman all struggling in their own way. She has been a true companion to me as I also sit here waiting for the video to come on, in such anticipation. She helps bring out, what a lot of woman are feeling. She is amazing at expressing herself and I think, ourselves. As I watch her videos each week, weep through most of them as she touches my heart, helps me learn about myself and puts into words ,the ways I am feeling, As through my life dramas, I haven't been able to do that for myself. I will be thinking of you next week sitting down as we watch Susan and Desi. He is so adorable and it so isn't corny to have him singing. I can't help but chuckle and for that small moment, nothing is wrong with the world and everything is possible.
@@dorisdaylight8415 that means a lot to me. Your user ID was almost eerie. I have always been one of her biggest fans. I got highlights and went back to my Doris Day hairstyle that I have worn off and on since I was a young woman. Another fan!
@@dorisdaylight8415 I agree.. Susan brings a community of women, who are all going through different things, together.. and she expresses what we are feeling, and helps us to understand and process things in our life that we may not have been able to put in to words, and she brings wisdom and beauty to us, and😮 inspires us.. and Desi brings us all so much joy! Watching her video each week is like a therapy session with our best friend.. we all relate and are united, and somehow feel understood, and don't feel so alone. 💗
You are one strong woman, Susan. Sometimes I wonder if a man and a woman are really meant to spend their lives together, or if it should just be encounters and seasons you can be together, so maybe there will not be so much heartache.....
Love Desi! Such a sweet dog! Happy birthday!
There are times I wonder about that too...I always wondered why I never had a happy ending with Bill...but then again...I had moments...
Anytime you 'invest' in a person and fall in love, whether married or not, there will be heartbreak when you break it off..
I believe we are not meant to live together.we do it for our kids and family and mostly will tolerate.i am divorced but in a great close friendship with my 2nd husband and we really enjoy eachother company as long as we dont live together.i have many friends who are married though some content and some not . There is not a time comes that they positively comment they wish they were in my situation or if they could go back to younger days, they would have not marry their husband.
The Bible says we are meant to marry and not just enjoy the fringe benefits outside of marriage. God gave Adam Eve so we would not be alone. Marriage is hard work that most aren't willing to put into it.
You are such a great woman. i learned so much from you and realized you are so much like me, and so many similar memories and experiences(except i dont have kids, came from big family & have cat) that i got hooked & have to watch you.Grateful that you exist and i know its not for big money that you present yourself every week.when i read your followers notes, it shows they apreciate you and they hear and feel you.Thank you and keep up the good work.... don´t ever give up.Happy Birthday to dear Desi.
After 42 years together, I divorced him. He was the love of my life. I was nothing more than the maid. Took care of everything and he was the wage earner for the family. Now at 70, I am alone, but never lonely. I developed my own style, got a dog, and I truly enjoy my way of life now. I put everyone before me, and took care of every thing and every one but myself. I do not look back because God does not want me to live in the past. Happy Birthday Desi. I have a Dixie Grace, a one year old female doberman. Only you can make yourself content and happy. Took me a while to learn that lesson.
I completely understand you and agree with you. There comes a time when you realize enough is enough and it’s time to live life and enjoy it for yourself. God bless you and wishing you all the best!
Happy birthday Desi! 🦴🦴🐾🐾
You are so strong. I’m so glad you got out after such a long mariage. I feel your words because I’m in the same situation “ im nothing but the maid”. One dag ( soon) i will be free. Enjoy life. You are an inspiration❤.
You are my new hero!
@@jmar665 that was my marriage of 37-44 years (extra 5 years of dating, him finishing college, me footing the bill). I feel you.
Thank you for adopting Desi and giving him the best life a sweet pup like him could ever have. 💕
Thank you so much! I love him beyond words and we make a loving fun team....thank you for caring about him!
Absolutely !!!🐕
This sweet puppy made my morning! One thing about having a dog in your life is they love you totally unconditionally and with all of their hearts! 💕 plus they await your arrival with anticipation and excitement just to hear your voice and give you all the attention you want, need and deserve! Added plus…whichever one leaves this earth first the other one will know how much that one gave their heart totally to you and no one else! Answer to the hottest date I ever had was going for a midnight boat ride with the moon casting its aluminas light over the peaceful lake. My date had a blanket to cover us up( it was in October) and had a bottle of iced down Champagne and some fresh strawberries. I fell for him at that moment! He was a very talented water skier, very tone and charming. We both loved the water, the changing of the leaves 🍁 in the mountains and simple things in life. He could always make me smile and just enjoy his company. I found out he has passed on not long ago. Yet I will always remember him on that very romantic night. ❤
My first husband cheated on me. I was 24 yrs old he was 30. We married in Oct and I found out he was cheating in Feb. He had been cheating with this married women he met at his job while we were planning our wedding. I never felt pain like that . I cried for months. Couldn’t work
. Lost 20 lbs. It was devastating . I didn’t want him back. He wanted to try to work things out but there was no way I could forgive him. We had this big church wedding. I was so humiliated by what he did. I can say it has made me a stronger person. If I got through that I could do anything. I just couldn’t believe someone could hurt another human being like that. I am 70 yrs old now and still think back once and awhile about it. I have had a great life without him. He moved away and I never saw him again. He did reach out and sent me a letter out of the blue about 4 yrs later. I couldn’t believe it. I think just to ease his gilt. I wrote back the nastiest letter back. I wasn’t going to let him off the hook. No regrets!
Tampa girl here. I made it thru the rain❤
God bless🕊️
Wonderful 🙏🏻
Oh good. Thank you
I made it through the rain-Barry Manilow. I'm glad you are doing good.
I'm in polk county, and we made it thru the hurricane no damages,thank god!
When a man cheats, it’s over. Cannot work through it, never trust again. Rather be alone, than with someone that you cannot trust. It does not matter if they want to make it up to you. One time is all anyone gets. Edited to add that I have been married 30 years to a wonderful man.
Couldn’t say it better.
You nailed it here!
You were way smarter than me. I gave the creep another chance and he did it again. Then bye-bye.
I tried to tell him before we got married 😀 only thing I will not work with is a cheater😉
@@cf9399 been married 30 years. I am a no nonsense no messups person. My kids went to one high school, one college, one grad school. Those were the ground rules. They received their masters at 21. My husband would never cheat, because I would not tolerate it. I would never cheat, because I have a wonderful husband. There are too many important places to go and bucket lists to accomplish in our lifetime. Why waste time with another person?
Do not ever change your ending. It would never be the same without it it makes me happy.
Oh YES❣I just adore your duets. So sweet and funny and dear and darling❤❤❤
Desi is the man of the hour! Handsome, loyal, sweet! What more could a woman want?
We were in the eye of the storm. House damage, large trees down, no water, no power, no internet and no phone service for a week, but praise the Lord noone was hurt. The storm happened on my husband's 90th birthday. He and I had several wonderful talks, at night in the dark. It was so dark, we couldn't even see each other..love your channel..love and blessigs to you and Desi. 🦋 HAPPY BIRTHDAY BLESSINGS TO DESI.🎂🎉
I am so grateful you are safe!!!
How wonderful that you had such great talks in the dark ❤
I am so happy you and your hubby are safe 🤗
That storm although horrifying was a blessing, you properly said things that you normally wouldn’t discuss. Things deep in your hearts. What a strange blessing. I live in Fl and there were constant tornado alarms around us . All day long . Less than a few miles from us an EF3 took out 100 homes or damaged them in a newer development of young families … 10 miles up the road another tornado took out more homes in another development. Glad that we you and your husband are safe.. l have been saying prayers for the victims of these horrific storms.
@@d.l.n.7133how sad for those people and devastating..to have to start over..i hope theybwere all safe.
Happy Birthday Desi ~ You are one special boy! ❤🐕🦺
If I could tell my younger self something at 65, it would be when they show you who they are, believe them. My second husband was abusive. He gave me signs along the way that I ignored. I suffered 26 years with him because he told me I couldn't do it without me. I'm wiser now.
+1😔
We women just want to believe they will change. Our love can heal them. It can take a long time to come out of that fantasy we carry in our heart. The main thing is we learn!
Happy Birthday you little handsome doggie. You look quite debonair on you special day !!!!😁😁
@@Cori-se9ww the main thing is you learned..🩷
Face it, most men are pigs and only think of themselves first.😢
After 38 years the same man, six years of infertility, but having a miracle and having twins that are now almost 30 years old, I found out six years ago, my “ husband”, was having an affair with a coworker, 20 years younger, just because he could. And during those two years, he belittled me, and took advantaged of my love and devotion, and literally broke my spirit at the age of 57.
This one episode of yours , has put so many of my feelings, into words. Thank you. Years of therapy, and your wisdom tonight has helped me tremendously.
YOu have me in tears...nobody knows our pain unless you have had a man break your soul...Happy is the woman who gets it back! Much love to you, you are so beautiful to share this with me! xo Susan & Dez
I’m an Asheville, NC girl living in Charleston, SC for 9 years.
Helene menaced us in Charleston. We huddled in our closet for 3 hours starting at 3am with back-to-back tornado warnings, but nothing happened, thank God.
She flew by on her black wings that night like a 70 mph freight train on her way to destroy my hometown and region in Asheville.
The devastation is mind boggling and my heart is with my people there. But, Somehow God spared the lives of all my family and friends. I’m so proud of my people, Susan. No power, no water, no cell, no internet and yet when the storm passed everyone I know came out if their houses and started helping their neighbors and still are.
Please pray for Western North Carolina. There’s a long long way to go, but I am safe. ❤
Happy birthday, Desi🎉
Happy birthday,
Desi. So happy you adopted Desi. He is adorable. God bless you and Desi. ❤🎉🎂🥳🙏
Did she mention it or not?
Susan, how in the world did you train Desi to sing like an opera star? My beloved yellow cat, Toby, just looks at me when I try to get him to sing along. He slow-blinks his eyes and gives me kitty kisses that way but refuses to utter a purr! 🐱😮
Wow what a scarey situation. Im glad you and your loved ones came through it safe. People are good and truly want good for one another. Thats our true nature. Still sending blessings🙏🩷
What a terrible thing you in Ashville are going through even after the hurricane. It is so shocking to see the devastation and my prayers are with you and everyone there.
We love you cause you're real. You feel, love, and share your life openly. I'll be 73 tomorrow, I'm alone also. But never lonely. God is good and life is always an adventure.
You are so sweet Mary! I appreciate you so much! Happy Fall!!!
@LittlePoet Happy Birthday Mary.Its also my granddaughters birthday 31 today.
Have a great birthday 🎂
You and Desi are still just as precious as when I watched you a couple of years ago. Happy belated Birthday to Desi.
You always have such wisdom to share with us all. So appreciated!
I'm 78 and have been living alone for a few years now. I'm really past a romance with anybody...but lovely to have friends who listen and and share their lives with me.
I pray for all the folks who are suffering from the devastation in the south. ❤🙏🙏🙏
It's so good to find you again after missing out all these months.
Ya..I married a carpenter…very masculine…sexy men can dance! My man could dance…he could grill..he was personable…he was fun…thoughtful…strong. 52 years of that…
I made a bad mistake when I was 18..married and divorced within 18 months..no children..second marriage bingo! Love until, death did part us. Two beautiful children… I am nearing 75 with 4 beautiful grandchildren and memories to cherish forever
I smiled so big reading your words! I could feel the love...I could see your husband grilling and being thankful you were his wife...what a lovey vision you have given me! Happy fall my friend, much love, Susan & Desi
I married a foreign man I met while in the Army. He pursued me and I would always joke he needed a green card Lol. He was average looking, but I luved the sound of his voice and sense of humor. I wanted the divorce he didn't. He's remarried per face book thru my friend. I have no children by choice. Definitely the voice and humor are key for me. Having lost my dog almost 3 yrs ago, this is what I miss most. Turning 70 the end of Oct. I'm looking to volunteer at my local animal shelter for now. My sister wants to know how many I adopt. Ha ha! You are the first you tuber I subscribed to, enjoy the videos.
Happy birthday 11 year old, Desi!
Thank you Susan and Happy birthday to sweet Desi I so love him he's so adorable and sings so sweet and Susan every week you inspire me I wished I had a sm home and a life like you I know I'd be so much better off just because your married doesn't mean anything when their nit with you really with you Happy Friday and wishing you a blessed week from my heart to yours Nanyang blessings 🙌 ❤🌹🤗
Dearest Hoper , Could you please give us an update a year from now ? I would love to know how many dogs 🐕 you will have . Honestly, l would not stop at one 🥰Sending blessings 🥰
LP: The opening celebrating Desi's 11th birdthday is absolutely your best opener yet! His sweet little face radiated the love and joy he was experiencing at that very moment. Doesn't get any better than that.❤
To heck with relationships. Dogs are best buddies. ❤️
Dear Susan and Desi, HAPPY BIRTHDAY you very handsome boy! I think you grooming and giving him a massage was one of the sweetest things I've seen. I'm so happy you found him and gave him this wonderful life. Many more birthdays to the king of the backyard. Love, Hilah
Thank you very much for praying for us in Florida. ❤ Made it through ok with no damage.
I used to have 3 dogs and as of 3 weeks ago, now I have none. I really enjoyed Desi singing. At some point I will get another dog,but not right now. My cat is 17 years old and my dogs lived until 17,19 and unknown but at least 18. I am 70, soon to be 71 and I don’t think I was cheated on (except one guy in high school). I thought Yul Brenner was the sexiest most attractive man ever! My husband died 17 years ago and I have had one serious relationship since then, but honestly I am content with my own company and the company of friends. I really enjoy our weekly visits and reading the comments as well. I also think Hal is a good guy. Thanks for all you do and Happy Birthday to Desi!
Sandy, sending heartfelt condolences and virtual hugs . So sorry to hear that your elderly souls crossed the rainbow bridge. The pain is real and hoping you will feel better soon.❤
@@SandiRemedios1 I know, I like Hal, too! I also agree with you about Yul Brenner! Smouldering! I would have loved to have been the one he danced with in 'The King and I.'
Decades more birthdays to you dear Desi. You bring so much joy and happiness to others. You were so blessed to have Susan to love you. You deserve it little one, for all you have been through. Susan you are truly one in a billion.
‘When a woman feels appreciated and seen she will give you her life!’ This is so true Susan! You communicate so beautifully, I love your videos 😘
We women are so protective of what we love...men I just don't think get that!!!
Made me cry when u said u dont feel so alone because of us! Thats the way we ( at least I) feel about you! I know ive told you this before..but so many times your videos have helped me not feel so alone about growing older..
Hi Linda, right you are. I always say "If it's any consolation, you are not alone in your loneliness. There's so many of us out there. Hang in. Keep busy. Be good to yourself. Hugs, sj
Same here.
Susan, I enjoyed every aspect of your video but there was one part that really hit home with me and that was when you spoke of men not giving or showing affection toward their spouse. I am 79 years old, my husband is 81 and we have been married for 56 years. He tells me EVERY day that he loves me, he tells me I look nice or that I'm pretty and he tells me that he is proud of me! When I went back to work full time at the age of 50 after being a stay at home mom he did the food shopping and cooked the evening meal because not only was I working but also going to graduate school at night! And what did I now realize?? I have been taking all this affection for granted but after this video Not Any More!!! I am sitting here thanking God for him and the love we share. I have two sons who I witness showing warmth and affection toward their wives so they had a good role model. My daughter, sadly, is not so lucky. Love spending Sunday morning with you and Desi!
You were truly blessed.not everyone is so lucky.
Susan sharing has helped you to realize what a good man you have so you can show him how much you care.
East Tennessee girl here. I am in a county surrounded by devastation. My tiny town was spared. Most of the areas struck were places of my childhood, hurting my heart. But oh the sights of seeing people coming together are just too wonderful and amazing. Please keep us in your prayers 🙏 ❤.
I certainly will pray for you Karen. I can emphasize with you and all who have been impacted by these hurricanes. I lost my home with “Andrew, “
damages from “Wilma” and “Irma”, be strong, you will recover with the help of God and kindness of the people He sends your way🙏🙏
@karenashby3132 You will be in my prayers 🙏 My Granddaughter lives in Mountain City
....Take care and know it will take time and it is a blessing seeing people helping people ✨️
@karenashby3132 East Tennessee here also. We were also spared, but it's heartbreaking to see what others are going through. It will be a long haul to bring the areas back. We are trying to figure out ways to help. The needs keep changing especially now that it has gotten so cold at night.
Expecting 500 at florida shelters but 1700 came!!! Bus loads came during the night with dogs. No one turned away. I had a grade school desk I used and met like 5 gals alone too and we had fun talking. Two different handsome cops would take turns as they walked by and whisper in my ear!! Ofcourse I giggled and flirted right back!! One whispered " did ya get that report done yet or must I go after you??" I said " hey baby bring it on!!" We then giggle. It kept my mind off storm by banter with them. My new pals said " omg they are cute" it was like a huge pj party with strangers who were so nice. My home had very minor issues. Thank God
What I don’t care about anymore? I’m very tall 6ft 3” and 70. The cruel comments have been legion. But I decided I could either hate myself all my life or learn to not care about the looks, comments, cruelty, rejection and hostility. I’m glad I decided that when I was young or my life would have been truly awful.
Blessings to you Nina Johnson. Your Little Poet sister, Stella Johnson
Desi is not corny. He is so precious. Happy birthday Desi🦴❤ This was a great video. Thanks Susan.❤
I begged when I was seven months pregnant, didn’t do any good. Spilt anyway but quickly asked me back. I should have said no, he only got meaner. After 3 boys & 13 years, I couldn’t take his abuse anymore. I thought I could show my love and it would magically fix my marriage. It made him meaner & I started hating myself. I am old now, alone & ok. God bless you & yours
Janice I completely understand I fell madly in love with my husband married he went off to Vietnam and I had our girl daughter 55 yrs later still married many separations I just wished I was stronger I didn't have options not like now a days I knew better definitely wanted better had options with other men deep down inside I loved this knucklehead were so different 💔 I'm 72 yes I dream of starting over enough of me woman don't settle! Best to you 😅
Hi Janice, so sorry for your woes. I'm happy you emerged from it ok. Enjoy your self now even if it means only to take a walk, an extra slice of pie, or spending time with a close friend. Blessings to you. SJ
@@stellajohnson5301❤
Happy Birthday Desi! I LOVE your singing at the end of the videos.
I asked God to give me a husband that loved Him more than anything else. Because I knew then that he would love me rightly. And after 15 years of waiting God sent my precious man of God. He loves Jesus more than anything and says he loves me next. God is so faithful. Now 20 years later he still loves God and loves me next. Hallelujah to the One I love.
I had two requirements of a husband- 1) he had to be a man of faith and 2) a non smoker.. l got both, and knew that he was the one the Lord wanted for me! 41 years later and he's 'still the one!'
I believe because you are genuine and you share your heart; you are honest and it lets each one of us relate to so much of what you share. Women don't visit, have coffee, talk about their marriage their kids, lift up and support one another. So many women work, are running their kids to sports, practices and events, so younger women don't have that woman to woman support and encouragement. I am 79 and I find most women my age are just surviving and have little interest or knowledge outside of their immediate family. Also, I have a high maintenance husband (a lot due to his health & a lot due to his PTSD) and most of my energy, both physical and emotional is spent taking care of him and doing all the work to maintain my home and yard. I really don't have the energy to spend on friendship. So, I grab a few minutes to share with you each week. And thank you for loving Desi so well. He's such a sweetie.
Everyone on this channel is your friend. We are here if you ever need us
I'm 63 live alone, but I like it. I've learned so much about my self. I love your videos. I love men's arms to
Susan you are so inspiring to me. My x husband of 45 yrs cheated the last 10 yrs of our marriage. I was devestatd but he taught me through all that hearbreak that I am strong and now I am remaried to a wonderful, kind man who loves me. I love hearing about your life and seeing you each week here . thank you for being you and sharing your life with me. I am 64 and my life atared over at 59. I am grateful for all the Lord has blessed me with. Two beautiful daughters and 4 wonderful gradchildren. and now I get to spend the rest of my liife with my husband of a year and a half and my family.
I never even questioned your motive. You're an open book. A warm, genuine and honest woman who has helped me more than I can say. 💖 Happy birthday to the sweetest little boy Desi 🎂🎉 Love you both.
Desi singing happy birthday made me cry. He is so lucky you found him. Love you both so much ❤
No one, can sing Happy Birthday as sweet as Desi. Happy Birthday Desi !!
That little Desi singing gets me EVERY SINGLE TIME! Happy Birthday little man! Thank you for spending time with us today Susan! God bless you both :)
You make me laugh...I am a Widow and sometimes I enjoy being alone....About 5 minutes per month I miss being with a man, at about 3 minutes I get goose bumps, but than I start thinking about cleaning the bathroom, cooking what he wants for dinner, laundry etc...I know that sounds selfish, but
you last Husband was a narcissist.....my Son lives in TN, WHERE the storm went through and they are fine..
My Granddaughter lives 30 mins away and her town lost bridges also electricity for a week, and now she is fine, Thank God! ❤
Glad you and your family safe, My heart and prays for everyone of you who had to go threw that storms.
@@carolestone1079 Glad to hear they are safe. Watching from Canada keeping all in thought and prayer 🙏🙏
Ah, there is truth in what you say.
@@patriciacorpe6228 TY KINDLY!
@@LindaGillespie-v4j TY KINDLY!
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY to precious Desi that I adore SO much!
I found out my fiancé had been cheating on me a month before our wedding. We stayed together and then, 10 days before the wedding, he called and told me he couldn't go through with the wedding. I was sad I wasn't getting married, but I had such peace. I married 2 years later and have been happily married to the same man for 40 years. My former fiancé? He married the girl he cheated on me with and they got divorced a few years after that...
Karma
Karma!!!
Cheaters always cheat on who they were cheating with.
Grass is never greener. I will never understand what men will risk for sex/cheap thrill. It's like they do not understand the l life they are living is real.
What goes around comes around.
Yappy Birthday, to our goodest boy, Desi! Love, treats, long walks, good sniffs and warm snuggles! Blessings of joy to you also, Susan.🐕💓
Each week you look more beautiful and your light shines brighter! 💜
My hubby bought me a gold charm bracelet the first year we were married. It had a scorpion and a virgin for our astrological signs. It also had a typewriter. I was a secretary. It had a comical bird with the words "worry bird" written on its base. As the years went by he added 2 gold spheres (1 when my son was born and one for my daughter). Then came a small gold globe, and a computer (all miniatures, of course). I recently gave it to my granddaughter. The other one got my engagement ring and my daughter got my 25th Anniversary diamond.
Happy Birthday Desi! Sweet little boy! 🐾💕🥳
My first love cheated and left me for my best friend at the time. :( Changed my world and not for the best. But then I met my life partner and have felt secure and loved and protected for the last almost 50 years.
My late husband always loved and treated me so kindly. My heart was always so warm in his presence. We mutually adored each other, and we were very affectionate. We were so close, loving and connected. I never found another relationship like that. I wish that loving experience for everyone.
That will never happen in my life. It hurts my heart to know that others were given the kind of relationship you had with your husband and I was not. What was there about me that I did not receive tender, gentle love from the man I married ? Constant rudeness, criticism , and coarse speech has ruined my love for this man. 45 years is how long I have tried to accept that he is broken and doesn’t want to be repaired. In his mind , he is fine. We did not have children. Now, he is sick. I resent that I am his caregiver. We have some good days, fun days even. But, he has never ever loved me. I think maybe he is a narcissist.
I had a marriage like yours for 38 years. He died 2 years ago and my life has never been the same. It's different and as much as I loved him, I've accepted a future I never wanted. I "am" happy and enjoy life. I've gone to France with my youngest daughter and granddaughter and have carved a different way of going forward. I will never date and just the thought makes me cringe. I would compare constantly and it wouldn't be fair to the other person. My husband was one in a million and I'm so grateful I met him over 41 years ago.
You were very blessed. 🌹 it is the kind of relationship we all strive and hope for. Ty you for sharing.
You were one of the blessed people.
That’s incredibly rare. Probably only 10% of people ever experienced that.
Happy birthday,Desi. After divorcing I get a dog a Chow Chow puppy. I get unconditional love.
I love being alone. I'm never lonely.
THE BEST part of your videos are you and precious Desi saying so long for now!❤❤❤❤❤
Happy birthday
Happy Birthday, Desi! Love you.
Susan, I really enjoy you so much! You always speak to my heart! I am 71, divorced my first husband, mainly because I was too young to know what was what! I was 17 and he was 19, got married because I was pregnant.. we were married 10 years. Well I thought he wasn’t giving me enough love and attention, so I divorced him.. I met a man that I thought was better. We’ve been married now 42 years. Well after about 10 years of this marriage my husband started ignoring me and became very self centered. I think with a lot of men, they give women attention when they want to pursue you and want sex, but as they get older and lose their sex drive, they don’t think they have to show affection like they use to. I know all men aren’t that way, but I see a lot of unhappy women out there that feel like they’re living alone, even though they’re married. I really love seeing older couples that still look like they love each other and show affection!
P.S. I have lost all my feelings of love for my husband because he doesn’t show any love for me. Thank you for coming back each week to share your life! ❤
Smooch that pooch! Happy, happy birthday, Desi, you gangsta, you!🎉
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I am in LOVE with Desi....one of the cutest dogs I have ever seen
Desi looks so Gorgeous today ❤ his pampering has really worked Happy Birthday 🎈🎂 Desi Pets are so easy to Love and they give back so much Love too For me Kindness is the most Attractive thing about a Man
Sarasota FL here. We evacuated about 10 miles east. We were fine. It was a big scary storm, I was literally shaking and couldn't eat for a few days before the storm hit. Our house was fine, electric came on today. The neighborhood looks like a bomb hit it.
I spent 62 years in FL. Could never plan a birthday party because odds were there would be a hurricane on September 10th. Trust me, your neighborhood will rebuild. Important thing is that you are safe and have power...
@@Mikejamiew Yes, thank you. I know I'm in shock, or something similar. I have to remember just what you said.
It warms my heart every week when I get to see you and Desi singing.. btw you did an excellent job on his haircut. Can’t tell it wasn’t professional. He’s a handsome guy. In answer to one of the questions, I had my heart broken by my husband many years ago when he left me for a much younger woman. He had 2 children with her. We had none. One day many years later, he called out of the blue to tell say he always loved me. Of course, you guessed it, she left him with the children and I guess he thought I’d come running back. He was wrong. It did sadden my heart when I found out he passed away in 2022. Some of the old feelings came flooding back for a moment.
Thank you so much!!! Much Love, Susan & Desi
A tall, strong kind man who can fix and build things and cook is my turn on. I agree with you, going down that path of past hurts is best left alone. I learned from it and not going there no more. Happy birthday sweet Desi! You really belted it out today. ❤❤❤
You are so right! My first husband couldn't change the oil in a car - my second husband could build one. Sooo sexy...
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I adoooore Desi's singing! Makes me laugh and smile. Thank you to the birthday boy and his Mum. 😃😍
Thank you so much!!! Much Love, Susan & Desi
You're such a beautiful woman - inside and out. Thank you for your channel!
You are spot on about a little affection that can go a long way and make you feel loved, valued, and not so lonely!
I agree with everything you shared about men and relationships. Especially learning that we have value and deserve to be treated with respect. Now, at 72, I no longer desire to be in a relationship, it's too exhausting. I do believe each relationship/marriage I have been through has taught me so much about myself. I just wish I had known "me" better all those years ago. Thank you for sharing your views, and Happy Birthday 🎉 little Desi!!
High school sweethearts, married cheated on me. After 13 years of marriage I guess he wanted some variety so I divorced him. I only asked one thing, for him to be true to me. 6 years later, I married the love of my life, that was 32 years ago :). HAPPY BIRTHDAY DESI, sorry I'm a day late !!!!
You’re such a sweet and pure soul. You did a great job with Desi’s haircut. He’s more handsome than ever.
Happy Birthday Desi 🎉 Love you so much !! You are so lucky to have Susan as your mom. ❤
You could do a talk show and take Desi on the road! Happy birthday, dear Desi. Today was my Maggie’s 8th birthday. You are never alone with a dog!
Everything you have said resonated with me. Even with a husband you can feel alone and empty.
You are such an honest and beautiful lady. I appreciate your honesty and love your inspiration in each of your videos.
Thank you so much! I am so grateful you are here.
What a beautiful video as always but this one was super special being Desi’s birthday. Happy birthday sweet baby boy!! I so much love your singing 🎵 aloha from Arizona
I love that you mentioned men's strong forearms as being attractive. I have always thought that, and thought to myself, does anyone feel the same way? Do glad to know you do too! 😅 I am single and have lived alone for a very long time. I am happy and content. Peaceful. However...a Miracle Man is on the way...I feel it. If not, living in your own space, and living in peace is Nirvana to me!❤
First….Happy Birthday Desi!❤🎉 Susan this video was so beautiful. When you were sharing about special moments in your life I could really see your deep feelings through your eyes. I’m divorced, he left me for another woman. I was devastated but survived. It really helps to be part of a community meaning your TH-cam channel. Oh how long for someone to really love me, but for now, I must breathe and carry on alone. I’m not really alone. I have my furry kid. My dog Tessa. And of course, my grandchildren bring me such joy and are a blessing from the marriage that didn’t work out.
Oh my goodness… the last few seconds are priceless… please EVERYONE, make sure you watch to the very, very, very end of the video! You’ll be thrilled you did😂❤ Happy Birthday Desi❤️🐾❤️ thank you Susan xxx
I think you are a very talented, caring and helpful woman. I've been watching your channel for 2 years now. I have learnt a lot about skin care and use some of the products that you have shared. I don't wear makeup, but you are a makeup artist. You do it beautifully. I have learnt about artist and stories behind some of the most notable paintings. You have shared your gift of music, which I love! Music is like the air I breathe. I can't live without it. You have shared fashion which I have purchased some of the things you showed. I have your Sweet Potato Bread recipe in my recipe binder. It is yummy! You have been very open about your life to help women and men. Your videos are so creative! I truly enjoy them and LOVE seeing you and Desi at the end. You always make me smile and that is priceless! I appreciate all that you do in your work! Thank you! ❤
Totally agree! And Happy Birthday to Desi. I laugh out loud every single time he sings. It never gets old!
Happy Birthday Desi !!❤ Thank you for sharing your videos with all of us ! We so look forward to our Saturday's with the both of you. Your an amazing woman !! Hugs & Love 💕
Happy Birthday Desi. 🐶 We love you.
Oh , this is one of the cutest videos of Desi! I smiled the entire time. Thank you for another great video.
I’m mostly alone in my house. My partner of almost 18 years has his own place in a town 40 miles away. Only comes on a weekend but I can’t complain because he helps with yard work and other things that need fixing. There is no affection ; really nothing , but I’m grateful for his help. I miss being with someone who would hold me and say the things you mentioned in your video . At my age, (78), I now have given up on ever finding love again. He isn’t able to be affectionate in any way and thinks it’s just fine of how we get along😢. He has said many times that he can’t give me what I’m looking for . He knows that I have always been a very loving person. I continue to stay with him . At least we have each other on weekends to go out to eat and once in a while take a day trip somewhere, but it feels so lonely to have a partner who really is not part of my life every day. 18 years of this is a very long time. I keep busy with my flower garden , and much else . When you have a house , there is always work to be done. Your videos are always the highlight of my week. Love to you and Desi. ❤️❤️
I really and truly hate to tell you this, but it’s only fair to just say it. Your partner probably has more than one woman in his life. My dear, don’t you see that a little lawn work and an occasional meal out is not enough to qualify as a partnership? He told you quite clearly that physical affection will never be part of the relationship. Perhaps he would feel like he was cheating on his other woman if he offered you even a hug, hand holding, a peck on the cheek?. My dear Aunt maintained a relationship with a man whose wife had been dead for many years. She was 83 and he was 87. They would travel and have separate rooms , because he said he would never “ sleep” with another woman. He took that old euphemism for sex literally. It’s almost laughable now that they are both gone. My point for you is this, when something doesn’t seem quite right, maybe that’s because it isn’t. Have you ever visited his home? Has he found excuses why it wouldn’t be convenient?
I read your comment. Yes, I have been to his place . The reason he will not change is because he wants to live near his family and grandkids. They all live within a 2-3 mile range. He is happy living alone and is set in his old ways. Affection is not part of his personality but helping me is something he enjoys. It’s a very confusing and weird kind of relationship and I never thought that at my age , I would always be alone, except on weekends.
@@jfdrie The important thing , in the end, is that you must choose what you want out of the rest of your life. You do not sound satisfied, much less happy. My impression after reading your comment was one of feeling trapped in a dead end relationship that is not all that much fun.
I'm fortunate at 62 to say that I haven't experienced being cheated on. However it happened to my mother when I was growing up and my father went on to marry the woman for 44 years. But oh my how graceful and elegant my mother remained. Through the grace of God, us children and the great example she lived is remarkable. She's 88 and is still loving life fully. I was fortunate but did lose my husband to a heart attack. This type of grief is a moment of healing in itself. Men age so very well and women tend to put pressure on themselves. I vowed to Never do this and I have aged wonderfully as my mother says. Why worry over it ladies. Take care of yourselves It'll reward you 💟
Susan, you are such a blessing to so many!! Happy Birthday to precious Desi❤️. I always look forward to your podcast! Thank you!
Happy Birthday to Desi. I love a confident, intelligent, kind man with a good sense of humor. I'm also attracted to the Carpenter type.😊 Hope you have a wonderful week.
Happy Birthday Desi! Love that little dog. I have a 16 yr. old Jack Russell and he is my companion now. My husband died 4 years ago. We had been married 60 yrs. I did meet someone a couple of yrs. ago who set me on my heels, but it only lasted for a very short time. It is hard to be alone, but I am learning every day. I do enjoy your program.
Hello Susan, you are 100% correct about relationships, communication, and affection. Wish it could be put in a bottle and given to every man who never learned or has chosen to have a wife without being a husband. Just a little bit of consideration, respect and sincere affection makes a HUGE difference. We tire of giving in, making sacrifices and letting things slide because they lack the ability to be kind, thoughtful, and loving and taking the time to give a kiss before bedtime. Intimacy starts outside of the bed and no woman should wait all day to be shown appreciation and affection. Thanks for sharing ❤😊
Do men mirror their own fathers? I don’t know. What I do know is that husbands who use you as an outlet for sexual needs, a housekeeper, cook, laundry doer, who also is self supporting, in charge of arranging all appointments, repairs to house, manages 99% of all aspects of children’s needs it causes a fracture in the relationship.
Happy birthday Desi! I just love that little dog. They don’t come any cuter!❤
Aww, love Desi and you. Happy 11th birthday to Desi!
I've spent the last 2 weeks dealing with the east TN and western NC devastation. We collected well over $300,000 for supplies (food, water, generators, fuel, etc., plus donated clothing) - and the donations keep coming in! Most of the donation dollars have been spent and delivered at this point but this is not over. It's going to take a long time to recover for these folks.
The questions were thought provoking and I enjoyed your answers. I'll have to ponder on mine and perhaps I'll get back to you.
Happy Birthday to the most handsome guy on TH-cam, sweet Desi!!! 💙💙💙💙💙
I love your channel. Also, your photography and music selection always resonates with
my heart. Happy birthday, Desi!❤️
Susan, I look forward to your videos every week and seeing you and Desi. 😊 He's so lucky to have you spoil him every day. Happy 11th Birthday, Desi! 💗
Happy Birthday Desi!! You are the cutest little guy!! I’m 66 and a widow for 8 years now. He was my 2nd husband. The best thing that ever happened to me! The first one was a cheater and the father of my 2 daughters. We haven’t seen or spoken in almost 20 years.
I laughed so hard and cried so hard at you and Desi singing Happy Birthday. My husband died 2 years ago and the light in my soul has been dimmed. The two of you singing brought a bit of that light back and it felt so good!
Happy birthday, sweet, adorable Desi ❤ And, Susan, I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS! I look forward to seeing the weekly videos. I couldn't do what you do. 15:39
Desi looks very committed to being the best BEST FRIEND you could ask for. I can see it in his eyes. He knows what his job is, and he is determined to do it well.
I was at the farm where my two miniature horses are boarded and I was talking to my friend about my little gelding. He’s 21 years old, he runs away from me and is hard to catch, he went for professional training to carriage drive and failed (it cost thousands in equipment and training), him and his buddy got salmonella and his buddy didn’t survive (it cost thousands in vet bills) but I love him. I just love him and I fondly call him my lawn ornament. My friend laughed and said, “Every girl needs a bad boy.” I laughed so hard I snorted. I wasn’t expecting that comment and I desperately needed that laugh.
Happy Birthday, Desi.
What you create is beautiful! Admirable!
The trees with the orange leaves are gorgeous! I miss living in the North! Tennessee won’t have this color for another month and I never have seen them so vibrant as I have in the North….Happy Birthday Desi!!🎉
Happy Birthday, Desi! You look so handsome. Hugs and kisses!
Susan, we are both turning 70 in January. You the 29th and mine is the 31st. Im divorced and also live alone.
We have alot in common!
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You do a great job with ur videos! Thanks for sharing ur feelings and experiences with us. It makes all of us feel less alone. Happy Birthday Desi, the best singer on youtube! ❤
PS. I thought u were an Aquarian. My bday is Jan 30.
@@kimlubrano9695 Please do not change. Don't you think she makes our friend village happy.
You did a great job on Desi's haircut and massage ! Happy Birthday again !
Great video. I relate to most everything you said. In fact, I think my answers would be the same. Andy Williams seemed so calming and dapper and gentlemanly. As for the attraction to a fellow, mind would be the same as yours and I would have to include a man who understands me and who I really am, not only on the outside but the inside and my heart is the most important and yes, to be interactive in conversation and not expecting this or that but to be a partner in everything even in conversation. I'm with you Susan on your answers. LOL I am about 7 years older than you so I really get everything you speak to. This was a fun video and I love the poems and remarks written on the pages .............and I've yet to see anyone I am acquainted with Limp. LOL You look lovely tonight as always. Happy Birthday Desi.......too cute and so happy he had a Darling Birthday!!
I always drop everything I’m watching to see your videos. We’re the same age but I won’t be 70 until June. But I do the same thing. I tell people I’m almost 70 or I’ll call myself 70 so I got a good chuckle out of that tonight. I have my two little Chihuahuas who are in their older age 2 at 13 and 12 they are my constant companions, I rarely go anywhere as a matter fact, I was just joking that I had filled up my gas tank eight weeks ago and still had an eighth of a tank of gas left. I live in Cape Coral Florida and really find a lot of inspiration and true warmth with our conversations. Yes, our conversations because I talked right along with you. Lol yes I like corny. And I love your closing remarks with Desi. He reminds me so much of my two little Chihuahuas, Lucy and Harley. My husband asked me for divorce a year and a half ago and married my best friend five weeks later. We had been married for 22 years and it broke my heart because I’ll probably be in love with him till the day that I die. That can’t be good for a person can, I just felt so safe around him all the time and secure and he was not the kind of man that would’ve been out chasing women so I know she had a lot to do with that as well which doesn’t really matter at this point it’s done and I have to move on. I moved from Dallas to Cape Coral Florida a year and a half ago and really haven’t made any new friends until the hurricane. I met some new people in the neighborhood when they were lending the extension cords and things like that to keep me secure and safe. I enjoy spending a lot of time alone. I’ve always been that way. I’ve been real good as a single woman all my life and Roy traveled every other week to California for the week so for 22 years that was my lifestyle. I just get so darn lonely sometimes and I actually got scammed by romance scammer on one of the dating apps. I got scammed for almost $200,000 took my entireIRA. Now I’m broke and don’t know what to do, but I’ll figure something out. God always seems to take care of me somehow. Anyway, this was meant just to let you know how much you mean to my little world and how inspired I am and see you next Saturday.
Reading your comment felt so sad for you. It must be so difficult to get beyond all of that, but glad you have made friends of some of your neighbors now. Loneliness is so soul breaking. I have found that out as my husband passed recently and I am trying to find who I was as a single woman again. Life throws us so much.
I am so saddened to hear you had your life savings scammed. I pray you find a way and God be with you to get you to a better place beyond all of this terrible stuff life, has thrown at you. I'd like you to know that from today you have a friend in Australian rooting and praying for you. Take care of yourself and your two fur babies and just know I care. I really wish you all of the best.
As you say, Susan means a lot to us. She brings a community of woman all struggling in their own way. She has been a true companion to me as I also sit here waiting for the video to come on, in such anticipation. She helps bring out, what a lot of woman are feeling. She is amazing at expressing herself and I think, ourselves. As I watch her videos each week, weep through most of them as she touches my heart, helps me learn about myself and puts into words ,the ways I am feeling, As through my life dramas, I haven't been able to do that for myself.
I will be thinking of you next week sitting down as we watch Susan and Desi. He is so adorable and it so isn't corny to have him singing. I can't help but chuckle and for that small moment, nothing is wrong with the world and everything is possible.
@@dorisdaylight8415 that means a lot to me. Your user ID was almost eerie. I have always been one of her biggest fans. I got highlights and went back to my Doris Day hairstyle that I have worn off and on since I was a young woman. Another fan!
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I agree.. Susan brings a community of women, who are all going through different things, together.. and she expresses what we are feeling, and helps us to understand and process things in our life that we may not have been able to put in to words, and she brings wisdom and beauty to us, and😮 inspires us.. and Desi brings us all so much joy! Watching her video each week is like a therapy session with our best friend.. we all relate and are united, and somehow feel understood, and don't feel so alone. 💗
I love knowing that you & desi will be there every Sunday, it’s a date that means so much to me.
Happy Birthday Desi, you're so sweet!! looking dapper today ! love your channel like sitting with a friend.