"A WOMEN WITH NO FRIENDS" | Best Motivational Speech by Brene Brown |
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- Description:
This 16-minute motivational speech delves into the emotional journey of a woman facing loneliness and the deep desire for connection. With insights inspired by vulnerability, self-worth, and belonging, this speech emphasizes the importance of understanding that loneliness is not a failure, but a call for growth and deeper connection. Through the lens of compassion and courage, it offers five key principles for embracing vulnerability, rewriting the stories we tell ourselves, and learning to connect with others authentically. This speech is a powerful reminder that true belonging starts with being true to oneself and that connection is a practice, not perfection. Whether you’ve experienced isolation or are simply seeking more meaningful connections, this speech provides actionable guidance on how to navigate the journey from loneliness to self-empowerment.
Timestamps with Emojis:
0:00 - Introduction: The Silent Struggle of Loneliness 🌑
1:45 - Keynote 1: Loneliness is Not a Moral Failure ❌
4:15 - Keynote 2: The Stories We Tell Ourselves Can Trap Us 📖
7:30 - Keynote 3: Vulnerability is the Pathway to Belonging 💫
10:00 - Keynote 4: Connection is a Practice, Not Perfection 💬
12:30 - Keynote 5: You Belong to Yourself First 💖
15:00 - Closing: Embracing Connection and Moving Forward 🌱
Why Watch This:
This motivational speech will resonate deeply with anyone feeling disconnected or isolated. If you've ever felt like you're not enough or struggled with vulnerability, this speech is a compassionate guide to reframing your experiences and creating authentic connections. The focus on embracing who you are, despite loneliness, is a powerful message for personal growth and empowerment. By the end, you’ll understand that connection is not about perfection but about authenticity and vulnerability, offering a transformative perspective on belonging and friendship.
Keywords:
loneliness, connection, vulnerability, authenticity, self-worth, belonging, courage, empowerment, personal growth, loneliness is not a failure, self-compassion, acceptance, emotional growth, self-love, empowerment for women, building relationships, overcoming isolation, rewriting your story, self-acceptance, inner strength, connection over perfection, overcoming self-doubt, friendship, emotional healing, practicing vulnerability, healing loneliness
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I don't have friends but classical music, books, coffee, nature, food, TH-cam... most of all, serenity❤
Absolutely and dogs for me.
And cats for me.
Thank you. I'm 53, moved to a new town, purged my life of toxic people who held me back, and now I have no friends. I work full time for socialization but do not want to form friendships with those I work with or my clients. I do not have energy to join groups to meet people, I'm happy at home alone with my dogs with peace and quiet.
Yes. You are exactly right. I did the same thing.
If your happy at home by yourself, leave it alone.
Me too.
Me too. Turns out you’re NOT alone!
Love this! Thank you 😊 I’m 53 as well…and you just read my mail. It had been a journey but I am finally finding peace with myself.
Thank you.
My circle is very small, and my life is quiet. I'll take the quiet over chaos.
I just will not compromise my peace anymore. I'm 72 & I have done my very best in all the situations I have faced. If people want me they know where I am. No more compromising my feelings for the sake of others' contentment. No more doing what others' want me to do to suit their plans. Selfish? I've earned the right to be so for the 1st time in my life...and it is my life.
The feeling of peace is a beautiful thing
Why do you refer to yourself as “selfish” for taking care of yourself and living in integrity!? We need more people like you : )
Being alone is much different than loneliness.
You got that right !
I am thankful that I gained the insight of it’s better be in my quiet place than to be in dysfunctional self created drama of others .
I’m happy to be sitting looking out my window or on my porch thinking silence is golden .
I gave a wonderful husband and I bathe in gratefulness .
I do miss my friends circle after moving across country but ..
settling for chaos is not an option ..
Oh my goodness Brene! "THANK YOU, THANK YOU" for this topic. I have never been part of a "click," I always had a "best friend" or two, at a time. Perhaps it is my family dynamic, attachment issues, but now, at 61 yrs, I have NO friends. I feel SO lonely, and so resentful. I am also caring for my 91 yr year old mother, who was THE most social woman I knew. Right now, TH-cam is my friend!
Sounds very much like my life....
I am also 61 and so relate
@@amygasen, 61 here too. Life has gotten a little quieter now that both my parents are gone, and my children have moved on.
Just turned 70, all of this is true, alone though married to someone who doesn't see. Me
@ 🙏🏻💕🙏🏻 I hope you can do some kind things for yourself. Sorry, I hope I don’t sound patronising. We are all in our own unique situations, yet, we are all inter-connected. Blessings to you🫶🏻
In my late 40s, with 2 marriages behind me and 4 kids, i can't say i haven't tried. All kind of so called friends walked through my life during the years, my friends, my 2 husband's friends, school mums, friends at work... In the end, i love my solitude and independence now. Its finally my turn now
I am 70 and look around the world and realize I have no friends. Wonder how I got here. Thanks for your amazing wisdom.
Same.
I’m 67 and wonder the same thing.
feeling same. Been this way for years. My circumstance was thinking the many "friends" I thought I had where I worked for YEARS, turned out to be nothing but people who didn't feel the same. I spent years nurturing these folks, being there for them through everything going on in their lives, crying with them over many reasons through the years, yet my life and experiences were not cause for reciprocating behavior. I am happy now, realizing that people come into our lives and go out of our lives and it's all good. I figure someday I'll find new folks along my journey and see where that takes me, but for now, it's me, my two girls and our cats. Much love to us all....
In the same boat.
Just turned 70, same boat, but I will say I belong and understand myself and love my own company with my 2 dogs. I do worry that we keep getting the message at our age that it will shorten our lifespan.
I've aways been authentic, kind-hearted, open, grateful & willing to express my vulnerability. Where can I find other like-minded people who want more than just superficial relationships though?
Al anon
@@TrixieWasheretrue, I’ve recently thought about Al-anon and wondered if there’s another setting similar. I went to meetings for about 10 years. First healthy relationships I experienced.
We are out there. ❤❤
I became divorced, my children and grandchildren have moved out, and after caring my father until his death, I am alone. I am happy finally. I have achieved self acceptance at last! No longer caring about the negative.
This is so positive.
I gave up connecting with people who had only bad views about life or gave me bad vibes. Loneliness is sometimes the best friend.
I’m 63 and I believe Friends come and go. Friendships flow into our lives as we need them and drift away as we outgrow eachother. They serve a purpose. God puts people in our lives at just the right time. There’s great peace when one can enjoy and savor one’s own company. Not every friend can be trusted to take our secrets to their graves. Always share with others what you would also expect to see printed on the internet Love and trust God and yourself. 💜
My "friends" have been situational. They come and go. I grew up as the family Scapegoat, and never felt good enough. I withdraw from friendships because I find most people to be phony and do not even like them. I worry my kids are embarrassed to have a mother without friends. It is a harsh reality, but I find it more peaceful when I do NOT have friends.
I am 47 my grandmother taught me to keep my circle small. I am at peace with not having "friends".
I am my best friend! All I need ❤😊
Every form of refuge has its price. But sometimes, solitude is a welcome necessity. And in this day and age, where most social interactions are transactional and superficial, being alone is preferable. People are tremendously draining especially for empathetic people.
It`s so true!
I feel the same
I don’t see equally being alone and loneliness. I don’t have friends but I don’t feel lonely. I don’t feel like I need friends, I don’t feel like I have the time or energy or emotional capacity to support another person. I am working on myself and that’s enough for me…
Thank you for this. I just turned 57. I've never had a lot of friends, but as I age, so are they, and I've lost a few gems to cancer. They are still with me. I work full time and go to the gym and sometimes church. I spend time with my sister and visit my parents at their final resting place. I never get lonely or bored. As long as I have peace and peace of mind, I have everything. I have down days, but mostly, I am thankful. ❤
I had horrible friends in my teens, by the time I was in my 20s I realized that friends just weren’t worth the trouble or the time commitment. I’m now in my mid 40s and haven’t missed having friends at all. I focus on family and work for human connection. My child has commented that she finds it strange that I don’t have friends, which is probably why I clicked on this video.
I am alone a lot but never lonely. I want nothing to do with toxic female relationships. Or any other for that matter. Thank you for this video. where I live it seems that having been part of a sorority (even if it was a thousand years ago) and going on trips together and playing bunco and girls night are what makes you "normal" and if you are not in that circle, something must be wrong with you. No thank you, I'm good.
I'm 65 and have had a difficult life and feel more lonely in a group. I long for friends but just dont have the energy anymore.
I relate .. especially when I know how to be a good friend ..
being a good friend is right there with having a good friend . Unconditionally..
I sure understand. I'm 79 and no longer have strength enough to go this route again. Everyone likes me at first because I tend to just listen til I've "read the group" (or individual) and when I'm ready to give my opinions they don't like that side of me
I dont have the energy anymore either
oh my goodness, this is so relevant at this point of my life! Thank you for this confirmation of the temporary status of these experiences. Thank you for helping me to re-examine my life and realizing all the goodness that has been faded into the background and temporarily forgotten. I feel so empowered once again in this life of 72 years old.
The introvert already knows the meaning of belonging to oneself and values that. I have never tied my value to how many friends I have. My value is in the good works I do for strangers who will never know me nor I them. It comes from shoveling sidewalks so no one slips, from picking up my dogs poo so our waterways are not polluted by poopy runoff and from donating to children's causes and voting for things that advance humanitarian efforts within my own country and throughout the world. More than that, my value is in being a human and as such I expect to be treated with dignity and compassion whether others believe i should be or not and I expect myself to treat you that way.
I have always been my own BEST FRIEND!!!!!
I can always rely on me. I am enough!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I extend love out to my fellow brothers and sisters.
Thankyou Brene!!
She had me at the first 5 seconds but when she started in on it’s a signal for a call to action she completely lost me. In other words she is saying don’t rest, don’t settle in, don’t be ok with it. No, that’s not the answer. I’m 62 and sick of being “called to action.” I’m done. I have a few people in my life but circumstances separated us in distance. I’m tired and have no energy or desire to call myself to action. How about let us be and let us accept ourselves and be where we are. People are weird these days and finding a new friend or two takes time and energy and who knows who they really are??
Maybe some of us just don’t need another call to action. Maybe some of us are lonely but content at the same time because we don’t have the drama that friendships bring??? Please don’t put another thing we “should” do on our plates. 😒
I agree.....having peace in one's heart is the ultimate "call to action", and some people find that alone.
If you’re lonely it’s a call to action. If you’re not lonely but alone, it is not a call to action. She’s correct.
I was never in the equation…when that changed, my life became my own. These words soaked into my soul🥰
I moved across Canada from BC to NS and left all family friends and familiar behind at 54 . I have husband and pets , but I'm lonely and learning alot about myself. It's been tough. I miss connection and I'm authentic.
Thats a tough emotional loss. Can you move back? If not, can you continue connection via the internet using tools like zoom??
I have been alone for a while, I don’t judge myself and I see the feeling as a call for connection as described, and I feel no rush and obligation and I know I want the connection and I want real connection only❤
I was attracted to this title but found most of it irrelevant to me. I do not make what I imagine to be ‘deep’ friends but I AM NOT LONELY or have a poor opinion of myself . Aloneness is not Loneliness Friendlessness is not necessarily a negative thing although I do know that having some genuine kind people in your life is truly a blessing 🥰
Well said, completely agree❤
Thanks! I’m not going to hang around liars, backstabbers, kiss asses, or ridiculous judgmental people anymore. Waste of time! I love spending time with myself, anyway!
Make sure your friends are true and real. I have supportive family but few friends and am not lonely one bit.
I was with my dog and rabbits and Guinea pigs on Christmas Eve trying to do the best that l could that night.
Sounds like a wonderful Christmas Eve with your critters. So many people would love just such an evening and even long for those but are told they have to yearn for family and friends, especially during the holidays in order to be deemed 'good, loving and worthwhile'-so they don't dare admit their true desires aloud. Such BS. Holidays and even life can be glorious when we allow allow for time alone doing exactly what we want without giving any audience to what we are told we should want or need. Friendships are often based on convenience which means they are often temporary. I find it honorable not to use others for my own needs for entertainment, a sounding board, a venue for gossip, a way to fill time or to avoid loneliness. Instead I prefer to connect with others over mutual interest where both or many are focused on a shared passion. I find that satisfying but then I am an introvert so very happy with my own company.
I’m getting used to removing all the toxic people from my life; still have one more……after my mom dies, I’ll let that last one go. For now I know she would hate to see that relationship dissolve….but it must happen for my own peace.
Be your own best friend, choose wisely, and respect others that do the same.
It is reassuring to hear your words, after spending many years in the company of people who when I needed them most, were not there for me. Being by myself often helps me see more clearly what is going on around me without distraction or being misled. I am thankful to hear you make the distinction that loneliness is not a moral failure.
I have to say that friendships have saved my life, throughout my life - much more so than family ever did. I live solo (with lovely critters of one sort or another) and have for many years, and it suits me. But i am also excited to meet new people wherever in the world i happen to be! The rule i hold is to be as honest as i can in all interactions, tempered with kindness - that is my intention at any rate! We have so much love in us…🦋
My circle has always been small. 61 here with no regrets. Circle got even smaller when we became empty nesters 14 years ago. People just are not the same as they use to be. I don't need other people hovering over me. I don't feel the need to invest time & effort into friendships. Does this make me sound cold or uncaring? I have a very good life & don't want to deal with others issues.
I don't need friends--I am my own best friend and I love that for myself--I am not lonely; I don't have to compromise, argue nor explain myself to anyone. I don't have "friends" because I don't want the company of other people plain and simple. I am myself and I am enough.
Most of my friends passed away, same with family. Nothing can be done about that.
I’m 65 and I sometimes think I should go do and meet new people and then I laugh because I have friends I talk to or see only a few times a year. What makes me think I need to meet more people?
I don’t feel lonely though I like my own company and stay busy with my interests I didn’t used to have time for and then there’s family. Grandchildren that still come running with open arms when we see each other which is often.
Experiencing joy and replicating that as often as I can is working for me. I’ve never wanted to use my energy on shallow/surface “friendships”. I cherish the ones I can be vulnerable and real with and have lost a few due to death hence what I said in the beginning, sometimes I think I should go do to meet new people.
I enjoy my own company and have a handful of good friends. This works for me.
Same!
7 years post diagnosis of lupus sle and that's what stopped me from all the self hated, low vibrational interactions and continued self reflections =AND THANK GOD. I was tired and my spirit was broken with loving others over myself and making sure everyone was ok over me. I love me, I like me, I care about me and am intentionally pouring into me. Not that I can't do that with others = I JUST DONT FEEL LIKE IT. And I am so ok with that.
Widespread loneliness has covered this realm ever since the "plandemic" hit 5 years ago-many humans have had an awakening of higher consciousness, and have seen their circumstances change radically. Radical change isn't something most humans care to deal with or are capable of dealing with- so many of us have broken off from relationships, jobs and the like out of pure self protection. Going inside and dealing with one's own shadows is not a group job...the world has changed beyond anyone's ability to grasp- loneliness becomes easier to deal with as you let go of expectations and trust in your connection to Source.
Oh you have a way with words, agree ✨️
"Connection is not a single moment, it's a practice." 💖
Thank you so much. I was just working on my 2025 goals and like every year since I moved 12 years ago, find a friend is high on the list.
Yes - A * true friend.
Same here!
Thank you, This message comes at the right time👍👍🙏🙏
Wow! This is awesome, and im enjoying ALL the comments. Thank you all!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤
I think it's unfair to ask people to fulfill you, aka friends. If you know your own boundaries and limits, you can participate in any activity of your choice, however serious or meaningless. Go get your own life, and share it. Real intimacy starts with a loving inner voice. There's everything right with standing up for yourself, gently. Being a real friend means having patience; sometimes that patience isn't going to play out over a lifetime, in other words, not every relationship is meant to fit all the time, in every circumstance. Gratitude.
Well said ❤
I would prefer quality over quantity in relationships any day. I think the state of aloneness is fundamental for balance. Growing up as a child, I was alone most of the time and unsupervised. Some could say I was to a great extent neglected, and perhaps even abandoned. I think that created in me less expectation that others would make me happy rather than that happiness was my own responsibility. You can be in a crowd and feel very lonely. Belongingness is largely a cognitive concept. I consider myself to belong to God more than I do to family or friends. That may sound odd perhaps but it is the way I evolved as a human. Sometimes, when I am in a group, I find people seem to need to be the center of attention. I do not have any such need. I do not need validation or approval from others. It is more important that I feel I am being my best possible self at all times. Others can get in the way of that.
This is beautiful. Thanks for sharing
This is my childhood history too.
It is beautiful I took a screen shot to see it again. Please tell me what you mean by belongingness is a cognitive concept?
I'm an introvert I'm married with grown adult children .but always found I only had one or two friends at a time, now in my sixstys I have no friends I'm very happy I love my family there they only one I connect with even family I need my alone time I really love my own company I'm a creative person love art every afternoon I spend time creating frankie 💕
There are no people around worth my time.
I know many, trust few, always paddle my own canoe.😊
Thank you....I needed this today.
aimentalhealthadvisor AI fixes this. "A Women With No Friends"
You always have Jesus
He IS enough
(plus I have a puppy 😉)
Wow, did I need this!
Beautifully put great video
It seems making friends has become a challenge . So much separation , entitlement and judgment . It’s easier to stay under the radar and make your own joy and help others when you can ..
Take it farther. Being alone doesn't mean lonely. Being alone can be the most productive time. Being lonely can create space for art and safety. Interactions of relationships instead of acquaintance can waste time.
l'm a female with no friends and by choice because folks l knew were total dreadful
I learned at an early age that I was on the outside looking in. Birth order, neighborhood and parents shaped my thinking. We lived in a neighborhood where my younger sister had a plethora of friends. I did not. And in true sibling fashion, I was not "allowed" to play with her friends. Friends in high school were there, but I was so different (I thought). I lived in a pretty affluent area; however, we weren't affluent at all. Kinda limits the things you can do with friends. I was embarrassed to invite friends over. Outside looking in. Married. Husband would say things like, "What? You've never been to x, y or z?!" No. We didn't travel. We didn't have money. I just learned to not talk about anything because I didn't want to look dumb and inexperienced. Husband abandoned me and our family after many years of marriage. Painful. My children have seen me dig deep to find strength to move on. However, I am still their mom. Moms don't have needs as far as kids are concerned and I was told by a therapist a mom is not supposed to lean on her children. Duh, I get that. But they can't see me as human? I can't be a REAL person to my children? I always hear her voice in my head as if I am being scolded. Over the years, I've learned to step out, be me, not fear what others think, and enjoy my own company. I've learned to keep people at bay. Enjoy them, but don't let them in. Put them on the shelf when I shut the door behind me after getting home from work. I prefer being alone. I prefer my hobbies, TV and whatever else I want to do without judgement. I can always contact a friend to go to lunch with. The doors are open, but I'm in charge of the door handle and the lock. It's up to me. I'll decide.
Excellent information. Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. 🌿
thank you for this
Thank you 🙏 ❤
Last time I had a d a friend I was in my 20s now 70 still don't want any. I find people l e annoying. Being by myself is do much easier. I do my own thing. Church gym music hobbies. Never had kids nor did I want any ever. I'm good. . Ivexalways been a loner type person even as a kid shy quiet. It's all good.
I am a passionate intense confident person. I do not like small talk. I care and I take action to try and solve problems. That said I am open-minded and will change my position if I am given countering information. Too few women can debate. I find my friends are usually men. We can discuss world issues and economics and not take things personally.
I'm 68 & never had friends,, i have no will to live.. i exist that's all.. 😢😢i hate being alone i can feel my mind go.. i talk to myself 😮
THIS. Thank you for the Ah-ha moment.
Thank you this is very interesting.
I am 56 and alway wanted to have a best friend, another woman, preferably a mother like me. It is not that I am totaly lonely, I have my family, 2 grown kids and a good husband and I know some people, not real friends with whom you can talk about anything. I also go to a group for sport.
I totally blame myself for not having a best friend, I believe I changed a lot as I got older. I lost my father at a young age and my daughter with 3 months, from that point on I changed a lot.
I will always miss that best friend.
Please correct the title to read "A Woman..." Singular. One woman. Women is the plural of woman. Thanks
I have no friends. I am married, am a mom, and have acquaintances. I do not want friends. I feel weird for not wanting all of that energy around me. Am I weird?
...simply, no...be accepting of your own needs. Some energy can be draining...sounds like you have figured yourself out actually...that's positive.
No not weird, if you are I am too😂
Energy - that is an interesting way of looking at it and you are spot on. Some people are just fun to be around, some are easy and comfortable, others are drama or difficult.
I prefer straight-forward people, can't be bothered playing games.
Solo Gal…but Not lonely❤️🦋
Beautiful
I have a few friends, but I prefer solitude.
I don't need friends they can turn on you.its exhausting. I have my family they are my best friends.family is forever.
Well said, thank you.
I would luv a fun girlfriend. But there’s no point in friendships if they are not going to make me happy. And every female I know is jealous . Theres always jealousy which ruins everything. I’m 55, haven’t had a friends after my bestie left for another life elsewhere when I was 22. It was devastating. I haven’t given up hope completely, but i don’t know where to look either…and keep wondering if buying a cat ad dog will do the trick ?
You are equating loneliness with being alone, and you are wrong.
BRAVO! 👏👏
Women is plural. Woman is singular.
Where can I meet you. You seem like the kind of people I would like to hang out with!
At 66 all done !!!
What do you do when your sick need someone to care for you ?
❤
I understand the premise here, but humans are meant for connection. True that when you are alone most of the time, your mind can go rouge
Why the weird pauses and misspoken words? I smell AI 🤖
In the title don’t you mean “A WomAn with no friends” (singular) not “A womEn with no friends” (plural)?
How does employment happen without friends?
? You don’t need friends to be employed.
Why is it a woman alone? Why not a person alone?
I think it’s because women and men intrinsically differ in how they have friendships.
when u" comment " u aint lonely😂 LONELYis BEING abandonded ONa ISLAND lonely
A women? 😮
In your title I believe you mean woman, not women.
"A woman," - singular, not "A women," plural
“a women” 🥴
*woman
WOMAN