THE HARSH REALITIES OF LIFE AFTER 60
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Your best video! Good solid advice!
Thank you 😊
My favorite line "Quit giving a fuck what people think" spot on!!!
How am I gonna explain that to my wife though? Oh wait, I think she already knows, so we're all good!!!
Explain that to the police, lol.
I’m 80, and I agree-nobody is coming to save us, and we have to take charge of our own happiness. It’s easy to regret wasted time, but instead of looking back with sadness, focus on making the best of today. We’ve all got some mileage left, so let’s use it well. Appreciate the life you have while you still can.
Nobody is coming to save men at age 20 either. It is what it is.
life is precious but short so just enjoy every moment.. time is the one resource we never get back in life
@@charlesharmon4926 but Kamala promised she's going to save me! LoL
Like Yogi Berra said! "It aint over till it's over"!!!!
❤🎉🇦🇺✅
No wife, no kids, no temp jobs, no worries. Best time ever!😊
It’s all about how you care for yourself. I’m 66 years old retired 7 years Thailand. I’m in the gym 5 days a week, I take care of my body I drink even have an occasional cigarette when I’m out ; but I cook and I’m knowledgeable about what foods are good for my body as well as when what I eat. I have a Thai girlfriend, but that doesn’t mean I eat everything that she does . while I’m not as fit as I was when I was 40,I’d give that guy a run for his money. Every 2 to 3 years I trek to Mt. Everest basecamp to reset mentally. 60 is the new 45. My motto in life is to die young as old as possible 🙏
Outstanding!
Well done
I'm 10 years younger than you, and like your philosophy of life keenly - and actually also think that vanity to some degree is only positive, ensures that people maintain their best selves regardless of age 👍👍
Mount Everest every two or three years? I salute you, sir you are one tough dude. you’ll live forever.
Nice anyway have you ever considered Nepel as a country to live in?
Love both the message and your delivery.
Great insights. I relate to everything you said. I'm 65. Met my Filipina wife when I was 45, she was 25. Have had a fantastic life with her but it goes by in the blink of an eye. Live every day to the fullest. Enjoy every minute. You don't get any days back.
I'm approaching 52 with a five - six year plan for semi-retirement in the Philippines. I appreciate your wisdom, bluntness, moderate political views, and willingness to share your experiences with others in this format. Thank you!
First of all, you look amazing for 52. Second, what is semi-retirement? I would love to learn more
Nice !!! I’m 54 and I’ve noticed I’m getting selective with my time . I tell people I have more time behind me than I do in front of me and I want to use it wisely
I’m 40 but this is great for motivation. I’ve done the military, moved to Norway and Japan, done the big job thing, been married, earned big cash, bought the fast car and motorcycle, but I still want so much more out of life. Thanks for the inspiration, sir.
Often slow and steady wins the race.
@@woodrmp1 not if you run out of time. Besides, in the end the only race you’re running is with yourself.
I'm 59 thank you for this I've spent almost all of my 50s preparing for my 60s I'm ready
This is a video I will save and watch over and over again over time. Thanks! 💯%
I'm so glad you liked it 😊
"Ability to see through others BS will become a super power" - great line.
46 years with the same pillipina, and always have a bunch of people in the house to make it interesting.
100% SPOT ON ONCE AGAIN!!!!😎😎😎😎😎
"Your life is 80% over" . Brother, this is going to chill my soul to the bones
Mark, I’m 87 Korean veteran , still drive, took down 15 foot tree. Travel all over Asia. My secret enjoy life. Think positive, don’t try an keep up with the Jones. And most of all don’t associate with Negative people.
An old italiano told me secret Small glass red wine an small piece dark chocolate.
Not about no stress but
Meaningful stress
Well said
Very well said
During my life before 60 I did an an accounting. I spent 90% of on booze and hookers. When I turned 60 I realized that I wasted 10% of my money. P.S. The best hookers are in Rio!
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I had a great time in Rio many, many years ago! Fun times!
"Her name is Rio and she dances on the sand. Oh Rio, Rio dance across the Rio Grande!"
Duran Duran (1982)
76 is life expectancy at birth. Once an American man reaches age 60 his life expectancy is around 81.
I didn't know that
“Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans” . John Lennon🙏
Great quote
"Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans". When you quote someone, double check yourself. It's not a quote if it's not verbatim.
I was in Dumaguette last October to check it out. While I have worked throughout Asia for over 25 years, I had never been to the Philippines. Was glad to go, but in the end Malaysia, Singapore and Thailand were closer to my comfort zone. I was actually in Ground Zero twice last year when you were there but you were busy and did not want to bother you. The one point which I would suggest about aging is the importance of making your peace with God. From watching you over the years it has been my observation that this might be a hole in your life (forgive me if I am off the Mark - pun intended). Having lost my love of my life two years ago and watching her suffer through an agonizing disease over her last three years taught me a great deal. Coming to terms with your mortality and preparing to meet God was chief among those lessons. God Bless you, Jenn and the baby.
I'm 59. I'll be joining the 60 club next month. I was foolish enough to lose the of my life in my 30's. I wish I had more wisdom in the 20's and 30's.
If you see me heading down the same dead end road that everyone else is on, be sure to wave.
Thank you for this fabulous podcast!
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment 😀
Mark, here was my Saturday. 5 am woke up and had coffee in peace. Feed my dogs and at 7 am woke up my 11 yr son and made him breakfast. 8:40 we were off to his tennis lesion here in our sub-division. I love watching him learning. Anyway 11 am we were off to the driving range 10 min. from our house and i just watched him hit three racks of balls. On the ride home he said to me "thanks Dad for getting me involved learning golf cause I really enjoy it". That's what I live for, the little thank you's. Right now he's at pretty new roller-skating rink they open near us a few months ago. He hasn't missed a Sat. or Sunday now in a couple of months. By 5 pm I will have picked him up and his mother will be home about the same time. She spent the day at the hospital with her sister and her sic baby and we'll have dinner together. OK, tomorrow being Sunday I will drop them off at Church @ 6:30 am as he, my Son is a alter boy and has been for some time. They normally eat brunch after church then come home. I'll be 75 this month and would not trade what i have for any other life. My man, you have a lot to look forward to in the next few years. Children at our age are blessing at least in my humble opinion. Cheers.
Blessed
Well you have fun with that i did that at30 yr and now my times is mine and guess what your kid could give a rats behind about you or help you not that I asked them but its the harsh reality of life so its my time now
My life after age 60 is pickleball, hiking, swimming, gym training. biking and nice, nutritious meals.
I keep my distance from entangling relationships and drama. My wife and family are nice but in small doses.
And the last thing I want is "help" from others. The most damage others have inflicted came in the form of self proclaimed saviors.
When I retired, that was a disconnect from work but also from giving a shit about religion, politics, TV shows or the latest world crisis. I just don't care!
Harsh realities??? What are you talking about? I'm 75, retired, and living in the south of France. I've been single since my divorce 20 years ago. The past 20 years have been the best of my life. I sold my business at 70, moved to Europe, and made many new friends over here, of all nationalities. I have money in the bank. I switched to a carnivore diet 4 years ago, lost 80 pounds, and all my health issues went away. Life is France is wonderful, I have free health care, I talk to my kids via discord at least three times a week, and I vacation with my brothers and other friends when they come to Europe, plus I don't have a wife nagging me death.
BINGO.... that last point resonates with me more than just a little.......hehehehe
No western / westernized wife, extremely happy life!
Excellent!
How did you get free Healthcare? Do you have to be a French citizen?
@@jessejames4967 French law says when get a long-term visa you are eligible.
Some good points, but way too much negativity.
Yes, aging frequently comes with increased medical problems, cognitive issues, sometimes with regrets. However, there are many men who do quite well as they age, medically, cognitively, financially, and look forward to additional productive years.
The "trick" is to "aiki" (Japanese term for harmonizing) with age, roll with it, rather than fight against it! Translation: Do what you can to maintain your health( regular exercise, nutritious diet, don't allow new medical issues go unattended, engage in activities you enjoy, live within your financial means, and maintain an open mind to engage in some intellectual pursuits. In terms of regrets, if they become obsessive, seek out professional assistance. The same holds for feelings of significant anxiety and depression.
The bottomline is that we all have attained an advanced age that many men never reach, so our additional years are a bonus, not an onus. If we perceive our older years as being horrendous, rather than an opportunity to continue a life journey, then it will become a burden. In short, our thoughts and beliefs, not external events, will determine how well we age.
I turned 60 2 weeks ago. Very sage advice. I have always treated people well and never given a $uck what anyone thinks of me. I plan to continue that and stop wasting time......
73 years old, Gringo here in Puerto Rico. My God, we’re singing off the same song sheet! You nailed it!!! Love it!!!
Mark, sincerely; thank you for life's reality checks bullets chat. Let's each enjoy our growing older lives. Respectful, we appreciate you sharing your humanity knowledge.
If you don’t go first class your kids will!
Honestly, I'm pretty much ok with that notion!
@@brendandoherty2159 I don’t have kids so I always go 1st class 😆
I love the sign folks put on their Motor Homes. We are spending our children's inheritance.
I cracked up when you said you hurt your back in your sleep. That hit close to home, as I wake up every morning with a sore back. Takes a lot of stretching just to get up in the morning. A sense of humor and purpose helps. Great video, everything spot on.
Great words of wisdom sir. It always amazes me that where ever we are in the world, we all live pretty much the same things throughout life.Thanks for your candor and for sharing your thoughts. I think like you.
Thanks for the video. It really made me think about things - paying stuff off and not buying anything but necessities so that I can retire sooner rather than later.
I'm 62 my life is Heaven. Met my beautiful Filipina March,2020 on web site she is now 31. She takes care of our home, animals and me. When I come home from work she still greats me in a cute outfit or just a smile. She loves 'older' shows our favorite is Casablanca. One of our rooms is CivilWar another 50's her idea. Both great health no-fast food, sugar, caffeine, pastry all fresh. Guys Filipinas don't look at your age just the size of your heart.
Sounds like a great life. Wishing you many many many great memories ahead.
At 61 this is the best time of my life
So many Americans marry Phillipine women. What are the Phillipine men marrying?
And the size of your wallet
Keep being real great true advice thank you greetings from Australia 👍.
I’m 62 and this video is so timely. I agree with everything you said. You are very articulate, concise and heartfelt with your presentation, thank you. I would love hearing more videos like this. Even young people should listen and learn these messages so they know what is inevitably coming their way. God Bless
My folks are in their late 70's, and my mother just passed away from an aneurysm three days ago. You know it's coming sooner or later, sure - but we did indeed think we 'had more time'.
Great list of points, all of them are 100% relateable.
Sorry to hear that news.
What is next? How are you making out?
May your mother rest in peace 🙏
I'm 61. This seemed depressing at first, but then I realized that he is expressing the facts realistically, and then provides great advice. I would want my daughter to find a man like me. So, yes - I am a good partner to a woman. I was with my Ex wife for 17-years. We divorced 11-years ago, and I am disillusioned with modern, American women. Thanks for putting out consistently, helpful content!
A few things to add.
In addition to physical activities, engage in a mental activity that exercises your cognitive ability on a daily basis. Continue learning something new all the time.
Stop using "feel that" and "feel like". What is in your mind is not a feeling it is a thought, idea or opinion.
Own your shit. When talking about yourself stop using "You" instead of "I". Do not assign your motivations to other people.
I turned 60 when I was in False Bay, South Africa. The people there treated me to an all day long celebration. That was in 2008. Six months later I finished a 3 year solo circumnavigation by returning to Florida on my 28' sailboat.
I set off again in 2010 on my current 36' sailboat. 14 years(Oct 2024) later I am in Trinidad, W.I. waiting out hurricane season. Within the next six months I will complete my second circumnavigation at the age of 76.
Then it is off to the next adventure.
Forget the pity parties. Get off your ass and do something.
I'm 70, and while I'm not in a position to sail around the world, I'm planning to climb as many of the Scottish Monroes as possible next year. The beauty of the Highlands is staggering.
You sound like Ernest Shackleton. 😊Good job, mate.👍
@@bmelvin1234 Thanks
"The past was not as great as I remember it." This and all of your points are true. I am the accumulation of my experiences - the good and the bad. Appreciate this one. All the best to you and Jen.
"The past is a foreign country; they do things differently there."
"The Go-Between" by L.P. Hartley
You are great!! I am going through hard times right now as a 61 year old female
Truth! No one is coming to save you, is correct! Truth glasses were put on and when I get through this I will be better for it! YOU ARE SPEAKING TRUTH! YOU ARE GREAT! THANK YOU FOR TJIS VIDEO!
At 54 I have been adopting many of your recommendations over the last several years. I am living the life I want and in another year, will be retired and knocking things off of my bucket list. This was one of my most favorite videos in my prep for retirement (started about 4 years ago building a plan) and I am not sure how this came recommended by TH-cam today, but their algorithm gave me your sage advice on a great day and at a great time. Continued health and happiness to you and yours.
I absolutely love your advice THE BEST ON TH-cam
Thanks for video.
I am over 80, 11 year Widower, financially secure. The main issues I see today is friends passing away and you can't get any real pain control medications for routine age related problems in the USA. No wonder street drugs are such a problem.
I absolutely love your channel..your videos are so spot on!! i'm 62.. so want to enjoy the last few years as much in happiness as i can
I've had a good run. Came from a divorced family at 10. Still, my mother was good mom and she was Dutch. I was even born there (Air Force brat). Spent plenty of time with Oma and Opa when I was young in Holland. Good memories. Now I find myself in the mid-west renting from a small family. Been in the same little house going on 10 years now. Never married. But we're to the point in this country where if we lose what we have, we probably won't be able to replace it, especially the place we live at. The middle class is being hit hard, leaving them nowhere to go. And I'm not even that, I call myself upper lower class. But I'm still in the same boat. An average person simply can not earn enough in this country anymore to get anywhere.
A lot of wisdom here. I am the same age as you. I will say this: now that I'm retired I am enjoying life more than ever. A favorite quote: "Life is a banquet but most poor suckers are starving to dealth." -- Auntie Mame.
Great topic today.
So glad you liked it 😊
Thanks for these pearls of wisdom!
Wow, that was quite a list and ALL of it was 💯! I cannot remember when I stopped caring what others thought about me but I am 61 now and feel so much better about where I am at now and my plans for slow traveling in retirement starting next year. Glad I found your channel and keep up the good work!
Several years ago I visited the graveyard where comedian Spike Milligan is buried. On his headstone, in Irish, it says "I told you I was ill."
I've seen that on Halloween tombstones.
I'm your age and I have never been happier than what I am today! So grateful to be alive for however many days I have left ! There is much to live for when you find meaning in life!
I'm only 63, had my first heart attack at 56. never married and at one time I wanted to, but not anymore. still working for the full retirement!
I’m 62 and I’m going to work in a few hours. I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching lately on why I continue this exercise in futility.
Thanks for the encouragement.
63, living in Thailand, playing Pickleball and golf and enjoying my 'Golden years'
Please! Tell me about the relocation process. Was it easy to move there? How long does it take to apply for a visa? Is housing reasonable in Thailand because it most certainly is not in the United States. The cost of housing here is astronomical!! Is it difficult finding work in Thailand? I heard the people there are very friendly and laid back. True?
@@josebro352 you are lucky because TH-cams on this subject abound. Try for example "Retired working for you".....
God's word states that mans life is 70, 80, maybe a little longer. Having identity in Christ is a blessing. Take naps, exercise, reach out to others, laugh, and know that if you know God, you know peace and there's a better place. But for those who don't know him, there is a fearful expectation. God bless.🙂🙋
So True ! I call it - Dead men walking. Thanks for sharing.
I am 70 and still drive my Filipino wife is the navigator and extra eyes on the road, night driving is totally out we stop mid afternoon and find accommodation and that's it and we travel very carefully all over the country, let the crazies go past simple relax and enjoy.
Good for you. Thank you for watching ☺️
STARTING A NEW LIFE IN THE PHILIPPINES IS THE WAY TO GO FOREVER YOUNG HAVING A NEW FAMILY SPENDING TIME WITH THEM IS GREAT FOR YOU 👍🙏👍 BLESS YOUR HEART 🌞🌞🌞
Thanks for taking the time to make this video. The older i get the only thing that matters is the quality of life.
Fantastic video!! I’m 54, so thanks for the head’s up!!
Great advice sir… thank you for sharing!
Really insightful. I am just short of 60 but already see these lessons coming into focus. Thank you for your treatise on the subject.
The worst thing about getting old especially past 70 is that your body is not a comfortable place anymore. In spite of living a healthy lifestyle arthritis, aches and pains, and various health issues become a daily nuisance. Yeah, youth is wasted on the young lol.
Great points I’m very grateful to have made it to 60. Besides some aches and pains I feel blessed and very appreciative and thankful of my life in retirement. We only get this chance once so from my perspective we best enjoy every second of it ! Thanks for sharing 👌🏾
Unless you're reincarnated, then you get to do it all over again 😮
1. Being short sighted, my eyesight is improving with age.
2. I wrote a list of all the good things that happened over the last 60 years. I realised that they were largely unplanned and unintentional. Fate just provided opportunities and friends.
3. If every generation passed on their memorabilia, future generations would have to buy a separate building just to store them all. I have scanned photos from the distant past and stored them on Google Drive.
4. The days definitely go quicker.
5. I think I'll write a history. Not an autobiography. It would be a simple description of what life was like in the past from my personal experience of it. A lot of things we took for granted have or will disappear from common knowledge. Perspectives change over time. Food, transport, work, world events, landscapes, nature, day to day living, through my experience of them. Maybe someone hundreds of years in the future will find something of interest in them.
6. Our existence has been spent on the surface of a small planet in the vast void of space, in a galaxy of many billion stars, just one in a universe of many billions of galaxies. The fact that we were able to comprehend that is mind blowing. We could have lived live as a worm or not lived life at all.
"The past is a foreign country; they do things differently there."
"The Go-Between" by L.P. Hartley
Thanks for your frankness. This vid and your other vid “you’re not too old” has had the most affect on me and my decision to retire in the Philippines.
Gotta give life my best shot.
For me personally the 80's was better with people. Nobody was stuck on their phones. Glad I lived back then.🎉
Average age for men in Norway has passed 80 now.
Or 160 if they're married.....oh wait....it just FEELS like that long!!!! Got it!!!!
Around my 59th birthday I lost 2 businesses and about 60% of my net worth. After years of stress, overindulgence in food and drink, plus working mostly in front of a computer, I was out of shape and low on energy. Trying to get back into a skilled labor type job, I discovered I could only work for 4-5 hours, and I was beat. So, I did a 25 day water fast and lost 22 lbs then started strength training for the past year. I look and feel like a new man at 60! Material comforts are great but without your health and vitality you have nothing. Yes you can build muscle and get in amazing shape at 60. I have even been approached by women in their 20s...still! BTW I am not doing TRT but have not ruled it out in the future.
I began lifting weights at 18. I’m 54 now. 33 of those years I was a Natural. At 51, I got on “The Gear.” 💉Testosterone. Get your blood checked first. Make certain your liver, kidney’s & cholesterol are at normal levels. Congratulations on your progress.
I'm 68 and get a shock when I look in the mirror! One of my secrets is to be around young people. No, not act young just be around them. I love dancing so enjoy techno and 5 Rythms. Surrounded by beautiful young women's energy feeds my soul. Of course after I'm ignored which I prefer (once they open their mouths and speak). I just get on my motorcycle and see what the day brings. Life's good....
Very insightful. Trying to restart after an injury.
Did enormous time with my kids. Im glad….However, my sense is that they didnt appreciate it. Live for the day. God is in control
I'm 60 and I go around like Janis Joplin did and do what I want and show people they can kind of get away with it.. you are what you settle for.. you are only what you settle for.. be true to yourself.
Some real Pearls of Wisdom there - thanks
I needed this!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom Sir 🙏🏼
The median age of a cancer diagnosis is 66. Fidelity 2024 research uncovered that despite Medicare the average American over 60 spends $157,800 in the rest of their lives on healthcare . Illness pixelates retirement savings.
Wise words sir !
That's really an eye opener😊❤, thank you for sharing this ❤. Be safe, and God bless you 🙏 and your family 🙌 🙌 ❤
You’re a gifted writer. Love the structure of your videos.
I like watching this channel. Lots of life insights and good things to think about. Every man has a story indeed.
Love your advice! It's never too late to change! Well done sir!
Nailed it, spot on 👍
I never let what I do for a living define who I am. I only see it as a means to an end.
Just turned 50 this year, your advice is helpfull.
That was powerful it spoke to me thanks Mark !
I feel the fear of wasted time has grown with social media just as envy has.
For the vast majority of human history people lived & died in their local area.
Happiness is different for everyone so don't compare your happiness based on what others are or aren't doing with their time.
Watched this sitting in a house I'm building, my dream home. Not easy buy what a life!! Thanks Mark.
Advice that is always appreciated Mark, thank you very much kind regards kind regards
A great topic. I completely agree i woke up years ago and realised don't waste urr efforts on people who you dint really liike
Good stuff. Pearls of wisdom.
If you have no dependents, your best financial plan is for the check to the undertaker should bounce then that is the perfect financial plan
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As I get on with my life at 60, I really am starting to just be myself - not care if my opinions upset others, or such... I suppose the grumpy old man stereotype comes from just speaking your mind and not caring if the young folk agree or not.. Hint: they probably won't... so I don't care if they think am some old codger or not... just wish I was still around when they get to my age and say '"told you so"
Good advice. Don't be afraid to change. I see expats suffering from that over and over. Especially around alcohol and what I perceive to be an "addiction to drama"
Thank you for watching ☺️
I'm over 60 and I completely agree/relate to all that you have said, its great advice, thank you. Its sad that us humans don't take on this wisdom sooner and its like you say; don't wait/blame, eyes forward, and take charge, love that!
Superb stuff and great wisdom's. I'm 57 and I don't think I'm old - at least I don't feel so. I still play computer games like Microsoft Flight Simulator - flying as I type in my Embraer E195 from Kagoshima to Tokyo at 35000 ft =D. Keeps my brain working and also I'm fortunate to have a technical job where I troubleshoot complex machines with my techs. I go 3 times a week in gym and just started to run 2-3 times a week. My goal is one you mentioned - to keep in shape and be in best shape ever the day I retire - that's been my goal for years. Continuous improvement is my motto. I also play guitar and still make guitar covers in TH-cam (not with this account) and in TikTok. My plan/dream is to retire few years early and move to Asia - we'll aren't we all at this side of the screen dreaming of it. But guys just remember Lemmy Kilmister's words: "If you think you're too old to rock 'n' roll, then you are". Take care everyone.
At 57 you are a BABY. I know a woman who goes to work every day in an office, and she is 94, but looks 70 or less.
@@grandpapeteswordsofwisdom7114Yikes! I’m 54 and feel the same way.
Yea.... I'm 72 now...went to the doctor, asked him....what's wrong with me? he says you got optical rectites. don't worry , a lot of older people get it... well, what is it? oh , that's when your optic nerve gets crossed up with your rectal nerve and gives you a shitty outlook!
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