Well done Hannah on being so vulnerable to share your feelings and being so aware of what is going on in your mind and body! It took me a looong time to cultivate this awareness! It has taken me a long time to lose the inner critic and perfectionist when I am not feeling positive or feeling anxious. Instead, I now trust my body and recognise that it is working with me to try and protect me, so I have to reassure it that it is safe by being soft and kind, rather than being hard on myself for having an automatic stress response. Difficult to do all the time but chipping away bit by bit!! 🌈
Ditto to all the comments congratulating Hannah's courage! I'm a psychotherapist (in Canada) and I think this is - it helps demystify and destigmatize therapy, and as the comments show, benefits viewers who can relate and learn from others since our nervous systems are all fundamentally similar. I happen to work in similar ways, so personally it also validating and informative to see how someone else is doing it. Thanks!
I’ve watched this twice now! Everything suddenly makes so much sense! I relate to all of it and Hannah, thank you for doing this and Alex for thinking it would be a good idea! It’s brilliant!
Somehow I have never linked the feeling like everything was louder/brighter when I went to unfamiliar places with feeling ‘on alert’ and anxious, even though I would say I am jumpy and actually probably don’t take in some parts as instead I am probably screening for danger (ie my husband may say oh didn’t you notice X and I won’t have seen it as I was more looking for where are the exits, who is around me etc). Can’t believe I didn’t link this
As counsellor I resonate with the way you are with this client. You are engaging, empathic, educational, supportive, encouraging and positive. I feel your work comes from the heart and a real space of insight in you. Thank you.
I'm 71. My unsafe place has been with my husband of the past 20+ years. I'm appreciating your real-time sessions, Alex and Hannah. They affirm and amplify the work I've done over the last couple of years. Very helpful!!
Yay to all of this, thank you for sharing!! I sometimes feel a bit borderline-y, I can get so high on life and nature when I feel good, just for the pure contrast to feeling rubbish so much of the time and it´s frustrating that this is often not invigorating but draining. Right there with you Hannah in having to learn to allow my feelings and give them a safe and welcoming home. It´s a long process and can get a bit overwhelming but I´m 100% sure it´s worth the effort. When I think about how long it took me to not have to fake self-love anymore and now, after (not kidding) 3 years, I seem to have finally gotten to a point where self-love isn´t just an intellectual concept and "should" anymore. But I still need to practice translating that into everyday situations (i.e. my situation - feeling - response patterns aren´t quite en par yet).
This is the first therapy session i have seen by you, Alex, and i am really struck with how you really listen to Hannah and validate the things she says. You believe and trust her vision of her reality. This had me in tears. I have never been validated and have grown up not trusting myself and hiding my feelings and have developed an eating disorder to cope. Thank you so much for the work you are doing. It is helping me with my own situation and I SO wish I had someone like you around growing up.
A good reminder of the healing power of loving ourselves in all situations and conditions. Thank you Hannah for being so open! This session was really good to also show the importance of addressing the energetic memory stored in the body. I highly recommend to anyone with energy/emotion that feels locked in the body to also explore Reiki. I've found it to be a very powerful healing modality. Really great work Alex! 🙏❤️✨
Thanks Alex and for sharing Hannah. Listening to this helped me understand where my feelings of unsafeness come from, something I've been grappling with for some time. Other key takeaway for me is the need to be aware of not going too high when feeling good and positive - hadnt considered this but makes total sense
I'm really enjoying the opportunity to witness people's healing journeys. I love watching them grow through their process. i appreciate your knowledge and skill and how much you are helping them create change in their lives Alex!
Brilliant! That’s really cool you’re talking about this, I had just realized that excitement can also be a problem. I stop myself immediately every time that I see it. It can actually be quite nice to be in a “somewhat happy” state as well!
Fairplay hanna for for being so open and vunerable, and mentioning the sweating thing. I'd explode in doing the simplest tasks like washing up or playing with my children. I always thought this to be just a physical thing but maybe theres more to explore?. However, I can say that as I've spent more time in the healing state these states have virtually dissolved which I hadnt realised till you mentioned it. Thanx very much as it has helped me see that progress is happening. 🙏
Thank you Alex & Hannah. Hannah I too resonated strongly with your bodies emotional responses & your work in therapy with Alex. I have just signed onto the RESET programme as I know it's my responses to my emotions, interactions with others & my own sense of under developed self agency that require further enquiry & awareness. P.s I get v.high when my body feels happy & positive. It always has! Im aware of it but how can we allow ourselves to feel happy, bouncy or joful & not get adrenalised? Here's to rewiring our minds together! Wishing you well on your journey Hannah xx
Working on your nervious sistem self-regulation? Deb Dana in her book "Anchored, befriending your nervious sistem" talks about "glimmers", the oposite of triggers, micro-moments of happyness. She talks about excercising your nervious sistem to make It more flexible so that the ups and downs don't go that far. Practicing with dose micro-moments of happyness we can build capability and make the happiness muscle stronger. I have really enjoyed this therapy session. I admire how Hanna was capable to analice, feel, express all those deep emotions just in a first meeting with someone, and with a couple of cameras and micros recording. So courageous, wise and strong young lady.
This was so interesting, it helped me recognise ive been feeling a little better but also explains why ive felt buzzy and almost too stimulated by it. Which hasnt made sense to me as i have felt better inside mysekf, so im llooking forwarx to sering the next part of this. Thanks so much
How amazing - thank you both so much. I am now learning about Parts, so it was fascinating to see it being worked through in a live therapeutic context!! 🙏🙏🙏
This is really insightful for me..thanks so much Alex and Hannah for being real and sharing so much about your feelings. I can so connect with that inner child needing comfort. Im really going to work on that whole idea about situation, feeling and response. Im hoping by listening to these videos I can overcome my past trauma and learn more about managing myself better in uncomfortable situations. Im hoping to recover from the past and learn to understand whats behind my own anxiety and fear. Thank you Alex and Hannah, Im deeply grateful and feeling super positive on this journey with you both.
I have the sweating thing as well. It's probably one of my most limiting symptoms as it's so uncomfortable and can bring on feeling extremely cold afterwards. It must be so annoying while dating! Watching this made me feel so sad because clearly Hannah is so lovely and genuine and I wonder if her Dad has really taken advantage of that and almost turned it against her. In the past I have felt like my desire to always be kind and moral has been used against me and I get so angry with myself about it and almost hate it. Watching Hannah has made me feel a bit kinder to myself about that because I don't feel the same watching someone else showing their vulnerability. Thank you, Hannah. I really think that you seem set free and that life can only improve from here x x
I'm getting something from every session. So grateful. Did the 90 day plan 5 years ago. I've had a relapse and needed this refresher to remind myself of everything I learnt.
Hi Alex, thanks to you and people around you (including brave participants!) for this effort! Highly appreciate it. I'd have question: Is there any follow up with people that have done previous sessions with you? There has been plenty of them (this and last year), so that's why I ask. Thanks.
I was shamed for my true feelings...now, when an emotional feeling comes up, like I might cry or I do a little bit even medical people try to shut me down. I had a doctor say....oh, you were doing so good.....she meant before I teared up.....I thought I was safe with her. She couldn't handle my feelings.
I really love these sessions - thanks for sharing. I find comfort in this conversations as I can really relate to Hannah. Thanks for your honesty and vunlerability Hannah, you're a very strong and inspirational to others going through simliar experiences! :)
I also get what Hannah/Alex described as like a “high” when starting to see some positive results after a long time of really difficult challenges. I’m aware that excitement can be just as draining as stress, and I can really relate to what Hannah means when she says that can be hard to manage too! The adrenaline comes back and it can be really hard to keep calming the nervous system and the thoughts which start taking off fantasising about what I might be able to do in the future should the current trajectory continue etc. For me I think there’s also fear that comes up in those moments of adrenaline and “what if” thoughts eg of something happening to threaten the improvement. I try to just notice and watch it and calm it into my body as you said, but I’m curious if you have any other tips for managing what can sometimes be troublesome even if positive emotional side effects of improvement. I’m really interested in what you said Alex in relating this “high” to Bipolar disorder as an extreme. I’m really curious if you go back to this topic. Many thanks.
Every time I’ve done a therapy for cfs I’ve deteriorated, reverse therapy kind of cured me for an hour or two but then I went downhill for months after, mickel therapy made me feel a lot worse and I went from being 90% better to being unable to function at all, the lightning process and faster eft just had zero effect on me at all, I’ve felt confused for years because of it all, can anyone offer advice?
I assume these clients aren’t paying as they have volunteered to be filmed! I’m sad that the treatments/package, support are so expensive and completely unattainable for many! 😢
Just a query not a complaint.. I love these. But in utube they don't roll on chronologically I wonder if that can be something you play any part in. Eg I saw the first session with Hannah then it went into number 6.
Am always surprised at how similar we all are deep down, and how common it is to think "I am the only one to feel this way" .
Well done Hannah on being so vulnerable to share your feelings and being so aware of what is going on in your mind and body! It took me a looong time to cultivate this awareness! It has taken me a long time to lose the inner critic and perfectionist when I am not feeling positive or feeling anxious. Instead, I now trust my body and recognise that it is working with me to try and protect me, so I have to reassure it that it is safe by being soft and kind, rather than being hard on myself for having an automatic stress response. Difficult to do all the time but chipping away bit by bit!! 🌈
Ditto to all the comments congratulating Hannah's courage! I'm a psychotherapist (in Canada) and I think this is - it helps demystify and destigmatize therapy, and as the comments show, benefits viewers who can relate and learn from others since our nervous systems are all fundamentally similar. I happen to work in similar ways, so personally it also validating and informative to see how someone else is doing it. Thanks!
I’ve watched this twice now! Everything suddenly makes so much sense! I relate to all of it and Hannah, thank you for doing this and Alex for thinking it would be a good idea! It’s brilliant!
Somehow I have never linked the feeling like everything was louder/brighter when I went to unfamiliar places with feeling ‘on alert’ and anxious, even though I would say I am jumpy and actually probably don’t take in some parts as instead I am probably screening for danger (ie my husband may say oh didn’t you notice X and I won’t have seen it as I was more looking for where are the exits, who is around me etc). Can’t believe I didn’t link this
As counsellor I resonate with the way you are with this client. You are engaging, empathic, educational, supportive, encouraging and positive. I feel your work comes from the heart and a real space of insight in you. Thank you.
I'm 71. My unsafe place has been with my husband of the past 20+ years. I'm appreciating your real-time sessions, Alex and Hannah. They affirm and amplify the work I've done over the last couple of years. Very helpful!!
She seems like such a lovely person. I really like her voice, it's so soothing.
Yay to all of this, thank you for sharing!! I sometimes feel a bit borderline-y, I can get so high on life and nature when I feel good, just for the pure contrast to feeling rubbish so much of the time and it´s frustrating that this is often not invigorating but draining. Right there with you Hannah in having to learn to allow my feelings and give them a safe and welcoming home. It´s a long process and can get a bit overwhelming but I´m 100% sure it´s worth the effort. When I think about how long it took me to not have to fake self-love anymore and now, after (not kidding) 3 years, I seem to have finally gotten to a point where self-love isn´t just an intellectual concept and "should" anymore. But I still need to practice translating that into everyday situations (i.e. my situation - feeling - response patterns aren´t quite en par yet).
This is the first therapy session i have seen by you, Alex, and i am really struck with how you really listen to Hannah and validate the things she says. You believe and trust her vision of her reality. This had me in tears. I have never been validated and have grown up not trusting myself and hiding my feelings and have developed an eating disorder to cope. Thank you so much for the work you are doing. It is helping me with my own situation and I SO wish I had someone like you around growing up.
A good reminder of the healing power of loving ourselves in all situations and conditions. Thank you Hannah for being so open! This session was really good to also show the importance of addressing the energetic memory stored in the body. I highly recommend to anyone with energy/emotion that feels locked in the body to also explore Reiki. I've found it to be a very powerful healing modality. Really great work Alex! 🙏❤️✨
Thanks Alex and for sharing Hannah. Listening to this helped me understand where my feelings of unsafeness come from, something I've been grappling with for some time. Other key takeaway for me is the need to be aware of not going too high when feeling good and positive - hadnt considered this but makes total sense
I'm really enjoying the opportunity to witness people's healing journeys. I love watching them grow through their process. i appreciate your knowledge and skill and how much you are helping them create change in their lives Alex!
Brilliant! That’s really cool you’re talking about this, I had just realized that excitement can also be a problem. I stop myself immediately every time that I see it. It can actually be quite nice to be in a “somewhat happy” state as well!
Well done for being so open :) You are doing great work
Fairplay hanna for for being so open and vunerable, and mentioning the sweating thing. I'd explode in doing the simplest tasks like washing up or playing with my children. I always thought this to be just a physical thing but maybe theres more to explore?. However, I can say that as I've spent more time in the healing state these states have virtually dissolved which I hadnt realised till you mentioned it. Thanx very much as it has helped me see that progress is happening. 🙏
This all resonates with me. Especially not feeling safe as I grew up and not being able to express feelings.
me too
And me, abusive mother.
Such a brilliant episode! I am really rooting for Hannah and her recovery. It's incredibly brave of her to be so open about how she's feeling :)
Thank you Alex & Hannah.
Hannah I too resonated strongly with your bodies emotional responses & your work in therapy with Alex.
I have just signed onto the RESET programme as I know it's my responses to my emotions, interactions with others & my own sense of under developed self agency that require further enquiry & awareness.
P.s I get v.high when my body feels happy & positive. It always has! Im aware of it but how can we allow ourselves to feel happy, bouncy or joful & not get adrenalised?
Here's to rewiring our minds together!
Wishing you well on your journey Hannah xx
Tara Greene I would like to see your question answered too 🙂
Working on your nervious sistem self-regulation? Deb Dana in her book "Anchored, befriending your nervious sistem" talks about "glimmers", the oposite of triggers, micro-moments of happyness. She talks about excercising your nervious sistem to make It more flexible so that the ups and downs don't go that far. Practicing with dose micro-moments of happyness we can build capability and make the happiness muscle stronger.
I have really enjoyed this therapy session. I admire how Hanna was capable to analice, feel, express all those deep emotions just in a first meeting with someone, and with a couple of cameras and micros recording. So courageous, wise and strong young lady.
I would love to see a future video series including those of us that are housebound and how we can move forward
Yes me too
Hannah is brave, sweet lady...I can
picture her as a child....sweet and sensitive.
This was so interesting, it helped me recognise ive been feeling a little better but also explains why ive felt buzzy and almost too stimulated by it. Which hasnt made sense to me as i have felt better inside mysekf, so im llooking forwarx to sering the next part of this. Thanks so much
How amazing - thank you both so much. I am now learning about Parts, so it was fascinating to see it being worked through in a live therapeutic context!! 🙏🙏🙏
This is really insightful for me..thanks so much Alex and Hannah for being real and sharing so much about your feelings. I can so connect with that inner child needing comfort. Im really going to work on that whole idea about situation, feeling and response. Im hoping by listening to these videos I can overcome my past trauma and learn more about managing myself better in uncomfortable situations. Im hoping to recover from the past and learn to understand whats behind my own anxiety and fear. Thank you Alex and Hannah, Im deeply grateful and feeling super positive on this journey with you both.
Really good session. Thank you for the grounding support.
I have the sweating thing as well. It's probably one of my most limiting symptoms as it's so uncomfortable and can bring on feeling extremely cold afterwards. It must be so annoying while dating!
Watching this made me feel so sad because clearly Hannah is so lovely and genuine and I wonder if her Dad has really taken advantage of that and almost turned it against her. In the past I have felt like my desire to always be kind and moral has been used against me and I get so angry with myself about it and almost hate it. Watching Hannah has made me feel a bit kinder to myself about that because I don't feel the same watching someone else showing their vulnerability. Thank you, Hannah. I really think that you seem set free and that life can only improve from here x x
I'm getting something from every session. So grateful. Did the 90 day plan 5 years ago. I've had a relapse and needed this refresher to remind myself of everything I learnt.
Hi Alex, thanks to you and people around you (including brave participants!) for this effort! Highly appreciate it. I'd have question:
Is there any follow up with people that have done previous sessions with you? There has been plenty of them (this and last year), so that's why I ask.
Thanks.
This is really helpful & enlightening!
I was shamed for my true feelings...now, when an emotional feeling comes up, like I might cry or I do a little bit even medical people try to shut me down. I had a doctor say....oh, you were doing so good.....she meant before I teared up.....I thought I was safe with her. She couldn't handle my feelings.
Thanks Alex, really helpful.....I'm on a healing path, so really helping x
I really love these sessions - thanks for sharing. I find comfort in this conversations as I can really relate to Hannah. Thanks for your honesty and vunlerability Hannah, you're a very strong and inspirational to others going through simliar experiences! :)
These are really great Alex! How do we get the handout with more information on the Situation, Feeling, Response homework?
Thanks Dana! I'm afraid its not available on its own, but it does form part of one of the modules in the RESET Program!
I also get what Hannah/Alex described as like a “high” when starting to see some positive results after a long time of really difficult challenges. I’m aware that excitement can be just as draining as stress, and I can really relate to what Hannah means when she says that can be hard to manage too! The adrenaline comes back and it can be really hard to keep calming the nervous system and the thoughts which start taking off fantasising about what I might be able to do in the future should the current trajectory continue etc. For me I think there’s also fear that comes up in those moments of adrenaline and “what if” thoughts eg of something happening to threaten the improvement. I try to just notice and watch it and calm it into my body as you said, but I’m curious if you have any other tips for managing what can sometimes be troublesome even if positive emotional side effects of improvement. I’m really interested in what you said Alex in relating this “high” to Bipolar disorder as an extreme. I’m really curious if you go back to this topic. Many thanks.
Every time I’ve done a therapy for cfs I’ve deteriorated, reverse therapy kind of cured me for an hour or two but then I went downhill for months after, mickel therapy made me feel a lot worse and I went from being 90% better to being unable to function at all, the lightning process and faster eft just had zero effect on me at all, I’ve felt confused for years because of it all, can anyone offer advice?
I assume these clients aren’t paying as they have volunteered to be filmed! I’m sad that the treatments/package, support are so expensive and completely unattainable for many! 😢
Just a query not a complaint.. I love these. But in utube they don't roll on chronologically I wonder if that can be something you play any part in. Eg I saw the first session with Hannah then it went into number 6.
Thanks Bex, check out the channel homepage where you will find a dedicated playlist for each participant 👍
i when i am little gile my body shat down my filling is my close body hard my life hard someone talking in my head i get low mood and low
It takes some big bolocks to do what you do Alex!
I love u