LADIES!!! Please Be Careful Of PIcKMEss/ Pick Mes Are Dangerous
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 มิ.ย. 2024
- Welcome. My name is Maria Davids. Lets have conversations in the comments section.
If You love me and what i do, please click the link to join me as i share exclusive videos only / @mariadavids
Kındly subscrıbe to enjoy more ınterestıng content. Turn on post notıfıcatıon so you wont mıss any upload.
For promotion and collaboration contact tymmie001@gmail.com
Instagram:Mariadavids
Very dangerous. Most predators have a pick me that helps them abuse other women.
💯💯💯
Yep!
These women are often their “main chicks”, wives, ride or dies, etc.
These women have been through heck, often time raised these dudes like their sons and if the dude “ cheats”, he unleashes his main dog on them at random
Trust me most sex trafficker are women.
@@AmberColeman-gq1wn so true
True. And pickmes are the first place released convicts go to.
My mom was a pick-me. Our lives were hell because she wouldn't leave our dad. Sometimes, a dad leaving is the best thing he can do for his kids. I kind of wish he had left us. Even now when I block clowns, she's romanticizes me somehow, loving the guy into changing as if that has ever been a possibility. Because I choose not to be a pick-me, she doesn't understand me 🙄
I had a pickme mother too
It really is pure hell. My dad did leave, but she replaced him with a total a-hole who was only 8 years older than me...the rest you can imagine
My pick me mother called me a gold digger bcuz my husband pays all the bills and buys me things. 🙄
I also lost my mom to her being a pickme. Pickme moms are d e m o nic and extremely dangerous
I understand the identification of pick me, but sometimes things are so much psychologically deeper than they seem so I can't really say if my mom is or isn't... Like when the weirdness happened she went to older females for advice, but it just shows humaness in general because she always was the rebel or black sheep of the family so she was seeking approval or validation, but my grandmother was definitely or at least had narcissistic tendencies. Like my mom would say she would immediately be mean after my grandpa would go to work, and if grandpa gave her money she'd "borrow" it back and if my mom asked for it turn it around like she's the mom etc etc - even if grandpa gave that to her in her hand for her. But my granny was an adult during the crack era which allegedly the government was putting drugs in certain black communities like corrupt officials to make money and then have free labor for the jail ... So anyway my granny was on drugs but she stopped with her last child ...She grew up in the civil Rights era like their were colored water fountains when she was a kid and she was from Alabama and its just a historical fact that during certain very heavy times in American history their were heavy drugs like heroin in the 20s if im not mistaken.... So anyway my grandparents actually broke up and it was such a scene and big deal and they would fight and I'm not saying my grandpa was perfect at all but my granny was crazy lol only age could stop her if she was in that mood,mind or attitude. But so my mom ran away at like 15 because my granny was a very hard person to deal with because love like giving love to her was met with either coldness or almost like being made fun of in a way like my mom would try and try but my granny never really treated her with love she would just get my mom to buy her stuff and then be mean again like it's hard to actually fully explain... My uncle picked my granny up, her Youngest kid and she threatened to shoot him and it really hurt his feelings and he stopped coming around... So it's like sometimes when people have parents like that it's easier to slip into the negative crazy behavior of who they said they'd never be. With my mom that's the case but anyway my granny called me fast and sided with the abuser and my mom it's like she never stood up for herself and it's like since I'm a different person and I'm an adult now and was a teen then it's hard for them to see their daughters as their flesh and bone offspring because of puberty and maturity. Like with my dad she had a crush on him since she was in middle school and she said all her friends told her she'd never be with him and she was and he tragically passed away and it was like super unbelievable to her like the worst thing that could happen so after that is when ig she became this classification... I never understood why my grandmother sided with the predator because she actually had 2 solid baby daddies for the most part although her and my uncles dad faught I believe more or harder than my grandpa and her... Like there was a family photo where she had a bruise but put makeup over it ... But my uncles dad has like 10 kids and my uncle has Alot of sisters so idk like after a while he stopped talking to my mom and aunt.. But when I say their dad is solid like my granny had sketchy friends during the drug phase and like the "respect your elders" rule would make it harder for kid's to stick up for themselves against abusers and bad influences and some fights were about her friends. My aunt would talk about being glad their stepdad would tell all those people to leave. My granny would crack ninjas in the face with them old school glass ashtrays, the heavy ones and tell dudes she had that fire on her so I'm accounting for my Granny's personality like I don't condone abuse or domestic violence
Like the dynamic of my granny and grandpa raising my mom, and their relationship created this mental need in a dynamic from men
My mom was a pickme.... She ultimately sacrificed her life- literally.
Damn
Lord.
What you mean? She not here anymore
I'm sorry 😢
Ugh 😞
The pickmes are so evil, they are a popular villian trope in Mexican soap operas. The pickme’s will ruin the life of the female protagonist to get the man to marry her. They will even unalive people.
Wow. That’s crazy!!
Yooo thats so funny I didnt even think about that with the novelas 😂😂 its trueeee they are almost always the villains nowadays
Pearl davis
Yes!! Filipino soap operas also have the pick mes
Or Steffy from the Bold and the Beautiful 🤣🤣🤣
I always knew this ,when i was young i always had my standards and my pick me ex friends always think something is wrong with me. Men use those pick me women to hurt and use women and to lower our self worth to get what they want from us. The older i get the more i realize i dont want to be around women who are male obsessed. There is more to life than competing for men that dont like us anyway.
Same, Aside from work. I am not around them at all.
Most of my friends are not even black women. Moreover they are confident women who are not male centered
This !!!
Competing for men who don’t like us anyway is a bar !!! ❤
@shanicrystal8671 And was !! Lol
@@shanicrystal8671yes 👏🏾
I don't date men, but I was still in a pick-me coma, wanting the approval of male friends.
Finally pulling myself out of that.
Pickme coma lol 😅 praise the lord I also recovered
I have a friend that was a police officer, his own brother was "|G|rapping his own daughter and it took DNA before the cop would even do something. the daughter was 13 when it happen and her own mother threw her under the bus. BUT DNA proved her right and HER UNCLE did finally come and arrest him. And he wanted to make sure it was a nice arrest and that his brother was taken care of. YEAH BEYOND EVIL and DISGUSTING. What DNA, THAT of HER CHILD that she gave birth too from her own father.
Some people don't deserve children.
Chii-, and then there are those mothers that have the audacity to say that their daughters "seduced"their father's, when they are SAed by them...
Saw a story of a woman claiming her little 11 year old girl seduced her father, she did everything to protect her monster of a husband...
Urgh, that specific story has me raging just thinking about it.
My "DNA donor" was a corrupt cop and beat TF out of us as babies. It's a wonder I'm even here. He was also addicted to adult videos. My mom said she used to cry about why he was looking at "all those WW." Meanwhile, he was beating us kids. Now that I think about it, I NEVER heard her say she cried about him beating us!! She only left him because he cheated on her!
@@LadyAstarionAncuninif you still dealing with your mother instead of letting her go, then you have more healing to do.
@@LadyAstarionAncuninThese are the same type of parents who expect their kids to take care of them when they get old.
Yes. My sister is a pick me. Been with a bum for 10 years now. He leaves whenever he wants then comes right back in her life.
Yet she cuts family off for no reason.
It's weird. I feel for her daughters because soon she will treat them wrong too. She's he very male centered
Oh no a home w daughters a male a dad father should be home every night . What type man unless he’s working at them late night hours a man is home w his family how do I protect them ? Or how does a man sleep w out knowing his kids are asleep inside ?
Pick mes love a bum
Her poor daughters are in a VERY dangerous position through no fault of their own.
My older sister is like this. Gave her abusive ex husband and countless no good boyfriends so much grace! But won't even speak to her sisters for years over the slightest infraction! Totally insane!🙄🙄🙄
When you think about the all the criminality against children, this statement is absolutely true due to centering men (ie., patriarchy). It’s not even the nature of the female species to allow such treachery to take place against other females let alone their offspring. The fact that animals know better speaks volumes.
Girl, you just preached a WHOLE sermon with this paragraph. Like, please stay away from Pickmes...Princella is correct. They are men in female bodies.
THISSSSSSSSSS
Exactly that's why I don't feel sorry for them .
Before a relative passed away she told me the deep dark secrets of her mother's hell. The mother lived with her elder sister and brother-in-law. When she was sixteen, her brother-in-law's brother came for a visit. Well educated, gainfully employed and engaged to a pure, god-fearing woman back home, shortly after his departure, it was discovered he (24) had left the sixteen-year-old very pregnant. The pick-me elder sister, convinced her husband that he should not involve his brother in the situation. She felt, it was best not to sully the reputation of a good black man. He had potential for wealth, a good marriage and to become an example for the BC. Her little sister was not going to miss that up. So, the sixteen-year-old had the baby. The man married his virgin and produced highly educated professions. To find out how much this woman suffered to raise her daughter still brings a tear to my eyes. That old bat was male centered and was part of a massive coverup. Back then the pick-mes were the reason children weren't safe. Especially young girls.
Oh my goodness, I had to leave the church I was attending because it was too much. There was this girl who was so infatuated with a guy who clearly didn't care about her. I had to cut ties with her and the whole church. From day one, I could see the issues.
For example, I met a guy at the church, and we had a nice four-hour conversation, but I wasn't attracted to him. The next day, he called me "mysterious" because I hadn't shared my past traumas with him. I was shocked when he said, "Trust me, you can tell me." That was a huge red flag for me. After that, I never set foot in that church again.
Girlies, if you see the first red flag, leave. Trust your instincts.
Alot of Christian women are pick mes !!!! That's why when men want to start over in life they go for the Christian ✝️ women.
he was trying to see what he could get away with. men love to use our traumas against us.
The church is one pick me organization. I am glad i left
@@Sageandloving The church is an MLM of pick-mes.
The first red flag should be the very one that makes you go and not turn to look back. Excellent work, sis.
What get me is, all these women bashing podcasts--in particular, the bashing of single women.
These men are hallarious.
All these pickmeshas out here they could be in wonderful submissive relationships and marriages with and be on podcasts with talking about how wonderful their relationships and marriages are and teaching other couples how to achieve the same but they instead spend their time finding things to criticize happily single women about.
Single, it's a problem.
Single and child-free, problem
Single and raising her kids, problem
Single and traveling, problem
Single and hit the wall, problem
Single rich auntie, problem
Single entrepreneur, problem
Single with own house, problem
Single and celibate, problem
Single and get some if she wants it, problem
Single with 🐻 and 🐈⬛ problem
Why is it so hard for them to keep us out their mouths????
Why can't they go get the pickmes and get tf on with their lives???
Why is that such a difficult task???
because they are obsessed. Mariah Carey wrote a song about this.
THISSSS!!!!
It's infuriating coming across these podcasts
It's the challenge - the single represents exploitable resources that has somehow resisted.
💯💯💯
Single and virgin, problem.
Single and asexual, problem.
Single and asexual and virgin and child-free and 4B, problem.
All of what you mentioned, plus them having a problem with women who actually give them what they want made me stop caring a very, very long time ago. Because I hate math, but I can do it really well when a situation doesn't add up.
Every woman in my family is a pick me. I don't play with women who need men to validate themselves. I don't deal with lesbians who have toxic partners either. They're the same as toxic men. If a person mistreated me I'm out. Don't matter wtf it is. I'm gay so I've seen this on both sides. It's a no all the way around.
Thank you for being honest, cuz I’ve seen too many comments acting like this is only a hetero experience when every sexuality has these types of issues, and it all needs to be called out.
These pickme's move on to women when they run out of men.
So the toxic partner is often the exact same woman that has cycled through all the men you know.
I see it on Facebook constantly from old heauxs from highschool. (I'm 40. They're getting into their most desperate era.) They were not a bit lesbian until they needed a new way to not realize they are the problem.
My sister used to be a Pick-me. She has changed a little now because she has been burned by men a lot but that girl it was like she couldn't live without a man. She literally brought a Hobo-sexual into her home on her little son. Then that man brought in his mother, his nephew and another man he used to live with. Then they all set their eyes on her little son and just wanted to get rid of him out house. The man suggested she should send her 11 year old son away to military school, and let me tell you, that little boy was a good kid not the type for military school, but she agreed and they were walking around looking for such school. The man's mother just took a set on the little boy that even the man's nephew had to try and comfort him and my sister did nothing all she told her son was the world is tough so he needs to be tough. We tried to get him from her and the only time we did get him for a little bit was when the man caused her to become homeless. And she still stayed with him. Her son has even said one of the men was a ped○ph!|e and when we ask how he knows that he won't respond. We suspect one of them probably touched him inappropriately but he refuses to open up about it. The things she put up with just to keep that man and nobody could tell her anything because she's so rude. And before him it was another man whom she was supporting financially becuase she just has to have a man. Right now, she has lost her son emotionally, he's numb to her and she's wondering why.
I hope the family is able to watch out for him as much as possible. These people sound like the type to take out an insurance policy on the boy. SMH!
@LadyAstarionAncunin Yes, we the aunts and my mom stay close to him and let him know that we're always here for him.
My pickme cousin tried to set me up with her boyfriend because they decided they wanted me to be part of their “throuple”. This is my first cousin btw. Sick ssa. Her boyfriend ended up groping me one day when I was hanging out with them, right in front of her. When I called them out about it, she denied trying to set me up and defended her pervert of a “boyfriend”. I don’t speak to her anymore. Last I heard they were engaged.
He’s going to have fun forcing her to pick up women for him. And that’s actually scary because he is likely dangerous and will force her to get those victims
If they get married, he’s going to SA their kids and she’ll defend him. 💯
@@AmberColeman-gq1wn So many predators and traffickers use women. That's why I don't trust them. I don't trust random little kids either because they'll use them too.
It really is sad. I can't imagine being that desperate for a man's validation and attention. Something is very wrong with women who internalize misogyny to that degree.
The tragedy of the pick-me is that she capes for bad men at the expense of her fellow women... but also at the expense of herself. She is an agent of the patriarchy, and yet these men will never view her as their equal. Many times they won't even pick her! How embarrassing to betray your sisters and align yourself with a group that doesn't even want you.
Look at Pearl.
She oozes desperation and men are having no part of it.
They want to break strong women. They'll never choose someone already broken.
I just ran into a live of shalakemia. Phew! I feel like I need to cleanse my feed. The pickme and mammie vibes!
Blaming women for everything. Still saying women are keeping children from BM when we have a whole court system. One man came up and said he loves what shes doing and you should have seen the smile. Her next comment was "I feel like I have a village" 🤣🤣🤣Mind you, all the men that came up were like yeah! Yeah! Keep fighting for us...women fighting for you🥴 The ones in the comments were like "I'm getting my passport. Lol. How LOW does black women's self esteem have to be to wake up? I had to leave. Would be too exhausting trying to wake them up when all the facts are all over social media. They are living under the mammie mountain.
Black women or THAT Black woman!! 🙄
She is horrible. There are other black women and a mixed woman- can’t remember their names, who have TH-cam channels and social media sites dedicated to destroying black women. They praise black men and the comment sections are always horrible. I don’t understand how these women can even begin to think that the male audience they cater too actually cares about them- or sees their humanity. It’s scary.
The woman the first lady is talking about is my coworkers sister. She killed her best friend with the help of her boyfriend after he graped the best friend and helped dump the body at a local park. I know this story. The family couldn’t believe she threw her life away for a bum. Met the family and they are nice regular educated people. Complete shock. Jordan Jones story. Smh
I hate to say it but they were probably nice and normal on the surface and deeply abusive behind closed doors. Pick-mes come from abusive homes and are desperate for validation. The whole mindset requires desperation for validation and unhealed trauma.
My mom is a pick me it was hell she still holds no accountability if you call out what she did she will say she already apologized and or say she doesn’t remember
Well question if you've ALREADY spoke on it why are you STILL bringing it up! If you don't forgive her then tell her that but constantly bringing it up is pointless..
Mine has started to take accountability, but she’ll say the same thing as yours most times. I caught her one time though when I asked her to explain specifically how she hurt me, and she was like “must I explain, I already said sorry” with an ashamed look on her face, so she remember she’s just not brave enough to say it out loud. I think this is the case for most pick-me moms, but they’ll either acknowledge it to a degree, or keep acting like they did no wrong.
Your mom sounds like my mom. She'll claim she doesn't remember when her children bring up abuses she's done. That, or she'll say we're "disrespecting" her.
@@LadyAstarionAncunin well I remember every single name, insult, nasty look, shove and push, everything my step dad has done to me. My mum can forget and play dumb if she wants to.
I was a bit of a pick me. I've slowly moved away from the mindset over time. Not quick enough by a long shot. I didn't have the knowledge to know what was going on back then, and I've only learned about it in increments over time. I had a lot of childhood trauma that lead to low self esteem, and a poor sense of what a good relationship was. Every time I've realized I've done pick me behavior it was always something I regretted, and harmed myself, and sometimes the people I love. Thanks to these types of videos I've learned so much more recently, and realized that I hadn't recognized all the mistakes I'd made because of that mindset.
When I look back it's hard to believe how bad it was, and just as hard to realize that even though I had made improvements I was still creating so many problems in my life because of it.
If you're a pick me please realize you're going to look back on the decisions you've made, and you are going to regret so many things.
Kudos to you for taking the steps to grow. Looking clearly at your past mistakes and shortcomings is never easy, let alone actually doing the work to do better going forward. Many people aren’t strong enough to do that, so be proud of yourself. The progress you’ve made will snowball into more and more forward motion, and I’m manifesting the good karma you’re creating in your life to come back around to you. Support, recognition and well wishes 😇😇
Good 👏🏻
@@hilo6243 thank you
My first job I worked in a very male dominated company where I was only one of two women. We were so emotionally, verbally and psychologically abused by those men. Then to survive, that one other woman started bullying me, which scored her some pointd with the abusive men. When I finally found a new job and was about to leave, she was really upset cause she knew that she would now be the sole target of those men's bullying and abuse.
I had a pick-me roommate do the same thing. I left cuz I wasn’t going to put up with the bs anymore, and she became the target. The gag is, she was always a target cuz our classmates would always talk bad about her when she wasn’t around. They just acted like they were her friends when she was, and even then they would do so loosely. Being a pick-me is a disease fr. Makes you dumb af and everything.
7:00 this was the exact reason I lost a friend. She wanted male attention so bad she did this.
i got called a pick me for being against pearl. pearl says women should've have rights. some people love using words they don't understand.
You ARE a Pickmesha for supporting Pearl!!! 🙄
She doesn't care about WOMEN especially BLACK women and you can't figure that out!! 🤣🤣🤣
Right 😒 most descriptions in these comments are not cases of pick me's weak women maybe emotionally underdeveloped but not pick me people use words they don't know the definition of
How can you be a pick-me when you’re the one calling out a pick-me? 💀. I bet pick-me’s were calling you that to signal to men in the comments. I’ve seen it happen in Lauren Southern’s comment section.
Pearl is the ultimate feminist for real when you think about it, and it's hilarious none of these pick mes and the men can't see it. She's single don't need no man, owns her own business, has an argumentative masculine personality, owns her own property, and does whatever she wants. Chick is a feminist....the morph we didn't really foresee, but a feminist still.
Pearl is single and confused.
I agree, very dangerous. We need to stay as far away as possible from them. You are always in danger of some man attacking you if you hang around pick me˙s.
Yes! they let you go hurt by their bfs snd and husbands
💯 I need pick mes to stay away from me as much as I do males
my mom was absolutely a pick me and she put me through a lot of terrible shit in her attention seeking pursuits of male attention but it really hit me hard when i was 17 and being sexually harassed by a grown man, my mom didn't even know. This was the only time I told her about an adult man sexually harassing me because she never protected me or helped me as a kid and i had lost all faith in her at age 8.
After I made the HUGE MISTAKE of telling her this man was harassing me, she wanted to dress up in cute outfits and go to the mall together. I was a dumb neglected kid so i thought she genuinely had an interest in spending time with me, not with me while looking at her phone the other time or not while some other man was there. She fucking invited the adult man there and spent the entire time pointing out my boobs to him loudly and tearing me apart and my outfit and my makeup and how I was dressed so slutty. I was wearing her old clothes because she never bought me clothes but always had money to buy herself clothes and she had no problem with what I was wearing when I left the house, only when she dropped the bomb that she had invited me there.
When i was justifiably upset and we were driving home, she told me i was spoiled and ungrateful and I should have been happy we got to go to the mall that day, I told her i was mad she invited him, she played oblivious, and i cried that night throwing the clothes I wore that day in the garbage.
Never let a pickme near you
In the mid/late90's I was around 19 or 20. (I'm old) I got left behind at a club that my friend convinced me to go to on a Thursday night. She left me with no ride to go hook up with a guy she met 3 hours before. I begged her to drop me off first and the guy was impatient so she said I can't and walked off with him to HER car (he didn't even have one). I was in tears trying to figure out how to get home. I ran into one of my brother's friends who was also leaving with a lady, and I started begging him (I knew he had a car) and he didn't want to, but the lady he was with basically berated him into it. He wanted to still get with her, so the only way was to drop me off. He was NOT happy about his delay, but he took me home. I stop talking to that "friend" for a few weeks, but like a dummy I did let her back in but NEVER that close again. (sidenote: my brother's friend did not get with that lady that night, she apparently didn't like how he didn't want to take me home and it dried up her womanly parts on the ride and she also got dropped home. I only know because he called my house the next day and told me off and I laughed at him, then he hung up in my face. He wasn't that mad because he was over a few days later and it was as cool as it ever was between him and me.)
That dude was also trash
So many trashmen 🗑 @@beepbopboop7727
The lady who berated your bother’s friend is a real one. She basically got you home, and she blocked a trash ninja.
We don’t talk about these types of women enough. They’re the ones who raise the bad men we complain about. They’re also the ones who don’t hold themselves accountable for their behavior.
Behind every toxic man there’s a pick me co-sign his shit hard. It’s life or death situation be safe out there.
Yes. It is always his mother, or some long suffering ignorant girlfriend or wife. These kind constantly catch him cheating or lying, they force themselves to think that all men are a certain way- so they just endure. The kind who brag about always being a man’s go to at the end of the night- once he’s finished in other women throughout the day or week.
Smh
Jen Soto preferred a monster over her own daughter
Sacrificing or putting down women just to gain the favor of a man
Sick and sad
Unfortunately we have lots of them in the black community! For my man is only the tip of the iceberg.
We sure do! They play either position- side, “main”, wife or live in girlfriend.
They “confront” women on behalf of “their men” all day long, etc it’s just a mess out here .
I mean A LOT‼️‼️‼️‼️
Majority. What makes it so pathetic is why the hell would any woman bend over backwards to be chose by the worst demographic of bum in existence? Like damn yall really doing the most over fucking losers who treat women the worst in general.
I appreciate this video, because I’ve always been around “pick me” women and never really knew it. I’ve had some of these situations happen to me, knew something was weird about it, but could never quite put my finger on what was wrong with these women. These friendships never lasted, and I never quite understood why. Now I know.
Ghislaine Maxwell, the ultimate pick me.
I WAS ATTACKED BY A WOMAN THAT WANTED MY KIDS DAD SO BAD...BUT SHE WILL RECEIVE HER KARMA
Did you stalk her first? Follow her? Contact her on behalf of the cheating baby daddy?
I know that often times main chicks who are slaves to “ their men” go after the other women they catch the man talking too and are surprised when the women defend themselves. I definitely don’t know your situation but I know a trifling man is always at the center.
@AmberColeman-gq1wn why would I stalk her...I had no idea...he was pillow talking about how I would f him up and her if I caught him
@@AmberColeman-gq1wn you sound like you was a b like that!!
@AmberColeman-gq1wn YOU MUST BE THE PICKMESHA🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 KEEP that ninja...best thing I could have ever did was LET GO...Ninja still try sniff my a$$ stay on that side....IM DOING MY THANG!!! Still call my for help🤣🤣🤣🤣 F☆UCK ON!!!!!
I agree about them being like men in a women's body in that predatory way like toxic masculinity like obsessed with men and benefiting men but evily like it crosses boundaries
@@OrganicAlumination Misogynists
Misogynists
I dated a guy years ago whose Mom was a pick-me. She was jealous of me and our relationship smh ☹️. Like my family said I dodged a silver bullet because the relationship wasn’t meant to be.
Not a silver bullet! You a werewolf out here dating in these streets? lol
My mom has a friend in her 60s that's a pick me. The married this raggedy man who lives in her house but doesn't pay half the bills. He also doesn't like her hanging out with her friends aways from the house where he can't supervise.
Before they met she only wanted to do something if men were gonna be there. It's sad.
My mom standing up for my dad still for physically abusing me as a child, demanding I forgive him. The women closest to you can be enablers to your trauma unfortunately.
I believe that as a woman who is heterosexual, my desire for a healthy and stable relationship with a heterosexual man is normal. I'm a social being who desires a human connection but that doesn't mean that I have to pedestal men and not prioritize myself. I believe in setting boundaries and having standards. Don't base your sense of self of the approval and preferences of men. Maria, you made an excellent video. 🙏🏾🌷
They are VERY dangerous. I stay far from them.
Enablers are always dangerous.
When you have family that is a pick-me woman 🙃 I literally dont wanna go anywhere with her anymore
I don’t even want to go to my mums house anymore baring in mind she owns it and I still don’t feel welcome!
Right on que as my mum has fallen out with me again for daring to stand up for her bully of a husband. He’s not my dad btw my dad would never speak to women the way he does. She might take his abuse but I’m not taking it, if it means I don’t see my mum I guess so be it. I have a daughter and if a man spoke badly to her he’d be out of my home in a flash. It’s upsetting but the reality is some women have more love for their man than their kids.
Thanks MOM!!!
@@kwarduavanderpuye5322 I’m British lol but yeah it’s how I feel.. thanks for making me feel less than to make your man feel more than I’m depleted
I got in danger trying to help my pick me friend out of a bad situation. She needed help moving out of her abusive bf's house. So of course she called me because I'm mean. He came home as we were leaving. I shoved her in my car and we left with the quickness. But he was looking around in his car after I shoved her in for I'm assuming a gun. He then proceeded to harass me via phone afterwards. I had to change my number. Absolute nightmare.
17:04 lol, so true ,so i had a pickme ex-besties , but i was dumb we were in college first year , she was pretty and charming ,all male in our class smitten by her, and one day one less familiar male groups asked her out and she begged me to accompanied her ,i declined her so she declined as well bc she wasn't comfy being alone with many boys,then the next day and next 2 days she kept on asking me, so i agreed bc i felt bored as well.
We went out to eat at one eatery that kind of highend but in area less crowded ,no transportation crossed there at 10 in the night, she then get a ride by one of the male and she left me there without nobody give me offer of ride and at those time there's no online uber or whatsoever ,i was sooooo shocked ,hurt and feel betrayed, she didn't even spared a minute to ask the same guy to gave me a ride or nothing , so i begged another guy on the same college class i knew to just drop me a bit bc i cannot find a ride and it's too dark here being nobody can drive me , luckily he was quite nice ,despite grumbling he still dropped me.
Since that day i never saw her the same and our friendship started to crumble bc she kept doing kind of the same stuff by pushing me to fend herself from guys that chase her but she didn't want...i was a fool to think such a person as my bestie 😂
Yikes to that story of the ladies at the club. Yes, her friend does sound like a big pickme. But we also need to take accountability for our own actions. Save the enjoyment of getting tossed for your parent's NYE party or when you are in your own home with trusted friends and family. She reflected on the situation the next day and realised that she could have been hurt. Just because something is not our fault doesn't mean it's not our problem. Consider all of the possibilities of misfortune that could have befallen her.
The first woman needs to write a book and conduct workshops. Excellent video.
My mom is definitely a pick me, she always needed a man in her life, we had constant strange men comming and going from our house over the years.
I can count atleast 6 of her boyfriends that have been in me, my siblings and my mothers life, one of them is of course my physically abusive father.
As we know statistically that bringing in strange men increases the chances of children getting SA and experiencing domestic violence.
It didn't come to me as a surprise when one of my siblings told me that they where molesed by one of my mothers many boyfriends
Let me add that they where 11 years old when this happened
Not only that but me and my siblings where subjected to the horrors of domestic violence which also isnt much of a surprise
As we grew older me and my siblings have become diagnosed with anger issues, anxiety and depression.
My mother looks at one of my drug addicted siblings in confusion, as if she has no idea what went wrong
Not only that but my mother was almost killed by one of her boyfriends, its honestly astonishing how blind these pick mes are.
Even after nearly dying she got a new boyfriend a few months later, who by no surprise was a narcissist
My sister is a pick me...she has all kinds of mental issues now... stay prayed up ladies
She's dangerous like Ghislaine Maxwell.
I can not stand a pick mes they really need to get their self worth and selfesteeem off the ground.
So true my next door neighbour brings criminals and abusers constantly and I live next door . Wondering if I should move
Realizing every example of a woman in my life on my mom's side were/pick me women was hard to swallow. I definitely had to deconstruct myself for fine the real me.
Maybe it's just me, but I've seen all these traits from past so-called friends. Even in some women now The more I listen, the more dangerous and scary it sounds but still I'm sure majority of women are a pick me in some kind of way, excluding abuse I'd rather not use such a light term as pick me for those acts horrific abusers
i work in healthcare and theres alottttt of pick mes around whenever the doctors come around, its sooo cringey to watch. They are sooo desperateeeee (Wearing tighttttt scrubs, having a fullll face of makeup, lashes, hair extensions, I mean this is healthcare girl your hair could be caught up in all types of things... it makes me nervous for them hahaha)
Yes, this was my own mother, the great irony is she even humbled herself to gain the attention of males & they despised her. She rejected me because I was a female and I refused to subscribe to her foolishness subsidising a grown man.
My mom is a pick-me and a man led her to poverty. She had a bright future… not anymore.
My mother is a pick me
Enough said y'all 😂
Comment for the algorithm 💕✨🧚♀️
I love your hair.
It looks very beautiful on you!
I agree with most of this, except for people saying "not all men". I make sure to say unhealthy men when I am speaking about these issues. Because that's more accurate, and I can't be accused of being sexist. When I say "unhealthy men" instead of "men", I am not implying that all men behave this way because they are men. Or that somehow being a man makes them behave this way. They behave this way because they are unhealthy, damaged individuals.
It's wrong to speak about women as if they are all the same. It's wrong to do that with men also. It's about accuracy, not about appeasing men.
Is it just me or are Pickme moms always making sexual jokes?
Yesss, there was always some covert incest vibes. I knew my mother saw me as sexual competition even amongst my dad.... thankfully he was always more of a physical/mental abuse kind of guy.
Bruh 😮😮😮😮I have a lot of dangerous pick me in my life they've destroyed my life I didn't realise it before 😢😢😢😢
I wish I have the courage to block my mum for good
I’m feeling the same way now. 30 years her husband has been abusing me, I feel like my own mum hates me 😢
@@shanicrystal8671 I feel you
@@soundcityeducation6692 I think because I have a daughter it makes me feel worse, I can’t imagine letting a man abuse her, I love her and want to protect her. I wonder what’s wrong with me that my mum doesn’t feel that way. I was just in the way of her relationship really.
@@shanicrystal8671 nothing is wrong with you!!!! You are a mother now so you know no mother should treat her daughter like seriously I know how you feel. Just be that good example for your daughter that's what I do
@@soundcityeducation6692 💕💕
That "you're sooo pretty" from a woman is a redflag.
It made me sad to hear the woman say that's how she develops friendships.
Run from that energy!
The ride and die mentality
1:52 😮😅 the savagery
They’re very dangerous and. Menace 😂
This perfect 👍 u look beautiful
Girl one is like an abusive reddit mod. I wouldn't be surprised if she does mod for a subreddit. She sounds like she does
🧐💯
Is say late teens 17-26 I was very giving sbd building a man an I been single since I’m 37 now and I’m to much of a bitch now
these comments give mean girls vibes sorry!! I read the stories and most of them don't even come across as a pick me, maybe women with emotional issues, but to say that someone is a pick me because they are weak to leave a partner or because they want men around them shows that half of yall here don't even know what a pick me means
Your comment just sounds a bit unhinged- that of a true mean girl.
I’m reading the comments and the stories these women are laying out are horrible. It’s not just about some women refusing to leave an abusive man- it’s deeper than that.
You are probably a pick- me, one who has endangered other women for a man’s validation or will eventually.
I suggest you slow down and read the comments versus becoming defensive .
@@AmberColeman-gq1wn girl cool down I didn't say they weren't terrible stories!!! but most of them weren't pick me stories and you can spare me your whole story!! look up the definition of pick me's.
@@AmberColeman-gq1wn women are each other's greatest enemy!! really ridiculous for your information, I would never put another woman in danger and certainly not for a fucking man. but I can certainly recognize a situation if it is a pick me situation or if it concerns women who have been damaged.😒
Only hit dogs holler.
@@aboriginalgoddess144 I guess …or someone with a background in psychology gives their opinion about the use of the word “pick me “but go off sis😊