The Loner's Path | Philosophy for Non-Conformists
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- The path of nonconformity is alluring to those who don’t seek to follow the herd known as a society. Instead, they want to make unique individual choices in life, disregarding other people’s opinions and defying society’s norms. And in doing so, they follow their inner compass, their own definitions of right and wrong, and ideas of what’s desirable and undesirable. However, such a way of life could evoke resistance from one’s surroundings and lead one to become a social outcast or get in trouble with the law. This video explores the loner's path (philosophy for non-conformists).
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00:00 - Intro
01:26 - Being the odd one out
04:41 - Trusting one's voice
08:49 - Forging the individual path
#loner #notbelonging #solitude
You know you’re a complete recluse when the lockdowns didn’t affect your life too much
not one bit actually
Haha Not even a little bit.
finally, a person who has the same thoughts as me
I think my life improved,no pressure to "see friends" go out socialising, and I made plans which include solitude,I smile more.
I enjoyed lockdown. I valued the different perspectives and pace of life one was able to observe. I've never seen the streets so empty; nor was the city I live in (London) so quiet. It saddens me that few people seem to have taken much away from that experience and just wish to return to 'normal'...
Nothing is worse than being surrounded by people and still feeling lonely.
Yeah, tell me about....the problem as I see it is that people these days are utterly incapable of empathy. And I mean real empathy. Yes, the sight of an animal being hurt before them would probably make them feel bad for a few minutes but that's not real empathy. They just felt bad because it happened before them. They wouldn't lose their sleep over it. I do lose my sleep when I know that someone/some animal needs me or that I can disappoint them in any way. Naturally, emapthy is much more than just concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others. It means actively trying and being able to imagine yourself in their place. And that's the biggest obstacle it seems. Nobody's trying. What's worse, that seems to exacerbate with age.
Robin Williams said that, and I believe he was right. More often than not, that's caused by toxic relationships and wanting to please others too much. Steady on with the agreeableness 😅😝
I'm sure people who have been heinously killed or wrongly imprisoned would disagree with that.
I've been there ALL my life!
listen to blackbear - alone in a room full of people
“ I don’t hate people, I just like it when they’re not around.”
- Charles Bukowski
I see the nature of the world.
Instead of feeling drawn to people, I feel withdrawn.
God has a remnant, who's not of the world
(Thank God).
I like the Ps.68:6 verse
That is so funny! 😂
@@dennismclaurin1487 "God sets the solitary in families; He brings out those who are bound into prosperity; But the rebellious dwell in a dry land." Ps.68:6
I do hate people
@@jasmineglein3721 It wasn't meant to be funny. Your laughter at a sombre observation sadly strengthens the loner's resolve.
I never had a problem with being alone. I had a problem with people who try to disrupt my life and cause problems because I choose to be alone.
I have friends i like to catch up with from time to time but being alone most of the time is the way to go. Being around people all the time tends to take me away from the goodness of life and can bring unnecessary complications
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@@JinroTheCorpse
Look to China to see that on display
Women who get pissed at you because they can't get you to chase them...
@@JinroTheCorpse fuck that shit man
I'm not chasing women I'm chasing greatness I'm not falling for
the Sirens of poverty
those fucking bitches
That try to seduce you and then hold you down keeping you broke
"I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude." - Thoreau
Agree and fall in love with this quote
"I'm going to go an live alone in the wilderness! Lol, jk, I'm actually going to live slightly off the main road, throw parties all the time, and get my mum to do all my washing for me. Oh! Such solitude!" - Thoreau.
I don't find solitude to be all that great. Today, everyone is celebrating solitude it like it's some higher plane of existence. It's in our music and culture. These are the messages I hear and am sick of hearing... 'Thank You Next', 'Love Yourself', "be your own best friend', etc, etc. We now even seem to admonish people who say that they want things like a lover, friends, family as if they are not healthy as another who is happy to live in solitary confinement. As a person who has been living a solitary life for a lot of years, I am okay with being the outlier that says that life is better when you connect to a simpatico companion than it is being your own companion in solitude. Honestly, I’m sick of being alone all the damn time and yet I'm also not interested in being what anyone else says I must be in order to not be alone. I find this state more of one that is a constant challenge than one that is some utopia to strive for.
Nothing beats a dog that loves you and knows you love him back though.
@@alwells5779 Consider being open minded enough to let someone else in your life. Seems like you're confused about what you want.
I’m a hermit and I love it. The sad thing is people get offended and think that you’re being a hermit means that you’re not liking them or you’re a snob or you think you’re better than them. It’s all a big misunderstanding. We just simply prefer to be alone.
nah you're probably just a selfish, cold petson who doesn't care about anyone else.
@@radattk3145 what makes you conclude that one's preference for their own company is a sign of total indifference to other people's wants and needs? Besides, wouldn't you say that life itself is a selfish experience? Everyone is tending to their own desires, as much as we like to sugarcoat it. Life is lived in the 1st person. That still doesn't imply that we don't care about anyone else to me though.
@@radattk3145 projection?
@@radattk3145 🤣
Not a full-on hermit, but I can relate. Sometimes dealing with people is just massive pain in the ass
Many of our goals and desires are externally influenced and do not reflect what we truly want... being alone helps to tune out of all the noise and listen to your real self
Have you ever been truly alone? No parents, no siblings, no friends?
No one around you but theives, liars, and junkheads? If you want an accurate look at the world around you, try it sometime. Security is all but an illusion.
Yep. To then find out most of the things that truly matter to you are already spoiled and not obtainable in this life anyways. That's why I focus on the after-life.
That's so spot on. They say that when a person is all on their own, they begin to realise things about themselves that they wouldn't have noticed if they were around others. Solitude can bring true clarity and mindfulness 👍
But that's why a lot of people don't like to be on their own, it's like they're afraid of what they might discover, and maybe they wouldn't be able to deal with it. But they won't know until they try 😜
"Stillness, Silence and Solitude, I have always seen these as valuable tools to maintain a calm and relaxed demeanor. The world around us can be very unnerving; but implementing the 3 S's can help you get through difficult times." CW
@@ilovebutterstuff Agreed!
The ability to be alone and be at peace is literally a super power! You truly have to be built different to be able to do that. Just remember that people k!ll themselves every single day because of loneliness and lack of validation from other people. Most people completely break under the pressure of loneliness. If you're ever feeling down about being a loner just think about how strong you are to be able to do something the vast majority of this species cannot even think of!
Nicely said.
Thank you. I appreciate that sentiment
Love you!
That was well written. It’s not that I don’t like people I can be a cool person when I want to be. However I chose to be a loner the majority of the time.
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Misery loves company and happiness loves solitude.
Only God knows my solitude case.
The world couldn't care less to know
I'm a loner and miserable, but not because of being alone.
Hey! Want to hang out?
@@CaptainMisery86why not. May allow me overcome my misery
The loners path take a lot of sacrifices, you have to lick your wounds all alone sometimes.
I can attest to this.
You’re get used to it, if you truly except yourself.
I disagree being a social conformist is difficult for me
We don't have to sacrifice putting up with other people's bulshit lies
What do you mean by ‚sometimes‘, I think you have a different understanding of the term ‚alone‘
I am proud to be a loner. I am comforted by solitude.
I'm reading alot of interesting comments on this blog
It's comforting to know people like you exist
The need to escape mediocrity resonates with me. "You're not meant to fit in, you're meant to stand out".
Profoundly, beautiful statement !👍
When the majority are workers it would be beneficial to those in power to promote sheep mentality to ensure slave (employee) population stays high enough that you can create more bombs, own more sparklys (diamonds), put plastic in your face so you can look as fake on the outside as you are on the inside.
As a single minded loner, I was BUILT for these times, since the madness took over in 2020
Yes you are a robocop
Sadly, it is no the way to go
It's crushing me. But I'm learning to deal with it.
u2?
almost as if we were preparing
;)
I come well prepared myself for solitary confinement. I spent 4 years in a room only leaving it for food without any human contact 24/7 years ago. If I could spend my entire life in solitude I'd do that gladly if only.
Blending into society is an art form. To be the observer of a society failing at every turn is more upsetting than being alone.
You're more likely to be observing it if you're outside of it.
phycopaths have to comealion to survive, everyone cry's, they force tears 😭
@@scr4932 When you stand outside the box, you get the eagle view. Very well put.
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Great Video! I believe Carl Jung once said "“Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself" Cheers!
I agree with this. I started feeling happy in my own company when I stayed all alone and couldn't run away from the internal conflicts, until they were resolved just by me putting up with the inner battle and participating in it actively. That communication was crucial to my demons leaving me alone. I use the help of philosophy and meditation to work through my pain, and I use nice distractions (humor, art, friends) to rest from that inner battle. Our biggest problem, in my opinion, is our unresolved relationship with death.
@@irenashiloh8808 You may enjoy the documentary, "Flight from Death." It's experimental confirmation of Ernest Becker's work, which postulated that culture, group identity, and many other horrors have emerged from our awareness that we will die.
Cheers!
Holy shit
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Profound truth!!
I am a loner! It already began in school when I was bullied because my comrades thought I was weird. Society wants me to get married and have kids, but that's not in my interest.
i also decided not to get married or have kids. i just think the world is over populated and don't need as many people as we have now. Before, people had kids because it was advantageous for survival. Now days it's is better not to have kids for survival.
Right on!
Maybe no one wants to marry you anyway 😂
Yeah society wants you to get married, have kids and be in debt like a robot. Don't be a statistic
Please stay True to yourself!! I didnt. I let people PUSH me. Now I have miserable children from broken homes as well as myself being miserable from not staying true to myself and now ruining other people's lives. It's AWFUL.
Conformist or loner, the main source of our suffering is other people.
Mostly all the time, indeed.
Hell is other people.
(That's my daily testimony)
Or is it You?
@@dennismclaurin1487 Ah, you need to check true meaning of that sentence 😅 It is misunderstood very often
@DaoTzu It's not poetry
Many people are in a relationship because they were led to believe that is the only way to live a happy life. Only to find out later that being in a relationship was never what they wanted. This is a very personal preference, one which you must carefully decide for yourself. Solitude can be beautiful, but it can also be destructive, same applies to being in a relationship. It's important to know that your path to happiness depends entirely on you, not on what others tell you will make you happy.
well said. Your gut instinct can be useful with these determinations.
Being alone and feeling lonely are very different states of being. I've gone my own way and feel much better than when I was following the "herd's" path. Although, there is a sense of loneliness that seems to becoming more intense. Every choice has a price. Going with the herd has more comfort, going your own way has more sense of purpose. I guess the real question is how to find like minded individuals? In my day to day interactions, it seems extremely improbable.
its difficult to find like minded people. im(perhaps you too) not looking for anything more than common sense.
Most people have their heads in the sand. I know one thing for sure, if I speak up, that'll be the last time hanging with that crowd. I prefer to be alone.
You will attract those who know exactly what that is like and have chosen the same, despite the cost. Like attracts like, but you do not live to please/ attract anyone.
@@disturbed607 even that is very hard to find nowaydays imho
Everyone who has made a reply has soothed my soul.
All my life people have been telling me what I "need to do" to fit in. What I should be wearing, what I should be eating, what I should be thinking, etc., to gain the things and meet the goals that others have in their lives. The punchline, for me, has always been that I don't want any of those things.
Rom.12:2👍
On God
to stay true to yourself is one of the most challenging, and painful things you will ever experience in life. It is also one of the most freeing.
Yeah true true
For my entire life, thought I needed human interaction or I couldn't live with myself. Moving to a new state last year where I didn't know anyone was a huge learning experience because it taught me how to enjoy spending time alone without relying on anyone else.
I’m now 76 and living contentedly on my own without friends, just a couple of acquaintances. Had very few friends growing up. At 24 I passed my HGV1 test and became a lady trucker. Being on my own driving up and down the U.K. all week suited me perfectly fine. I retired at 68, sold my house in the city and bought another in a small country town in southern Scotland. I refused the covid vax, refused to conform to lockdown, took long walks in the nearby countryside with sandwiches & flask of soup most days. I’m not lonely, never have been, just enjoy my quiet peaceful life 😊
high five for refusing the vaxx ✋
The hardest part about being like this is how much it hurts others. It isn't done intentionally but sometimes people truly enjoy being in your company and miss you when you are away. They also can't comprehend wanting to be like that and think all these negative things about you. I like being alone but I also hate making people sad or making them feel like you don't care about them.
Yeah, but that is not in your control . The perception they have of what you do or don't do
Thanks for this perspective. It explains the conflict I have with myself all the time...
I have that problem, too. I love people, but also love being alone sometimes. And I hate the misunderstandings caused by when I need to be alone, because I know I'll want to be with these people again later, just not always now. I hate when it feels like my own interests and those of others are at odds. I can be driven to counterproductive extremes like self-destructive people pleasing, and resentful toxicity, because of these conflicts. I'm kind of a loner who wants to represent his own ideas and values, but part of the joy of that value is contributing it to and sharing it with other people, especially when these are niche values which conformity cannot offer!
Learning to be patient with myself and with others has been helping. As has learning to communicate better and healthily enforce boundaries. Some of us aren't taught that growing up, but you can still learn for yourself. There will be suffering, but the suffering would not be possible if there were not better things to pursue, things you care about and know you can achieve! So keep your course in life.
just be
@@Abcd-jz4gp Yeah we do at some extent. I've changed my mind since last year; however, I still believe it is not in our control how anybody else but ourselves perceive things. Having said that, I do agree that if we truly care about a person; despite not controlling how they perceive things, we can always sit and talk to explain our view and hear theirs but honestly, I think we should reserve that to only important people in our lifes cause some battles are just not worth the energy or time fighting
Great video brother , I am a loner and I am perfectly content with it too. I've broken away from the herd and running my own way
I love being a loner about 75% of the time. The other 25% of the time my instincts are screaming at me to stop being such a selfish, miserable, self-serving piece of shit and join the human race. Makes sleeping very difficult.
Probably shouldn't have shared.
Oh well.
@@ilovebutterstuff
Many thanks 🙏🏾 for sharing.
Good, go alone,away...
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@@ilovebutterstuff
I like me, and when that "instinct" for connection arises well thats what youtube is for. Or there wouldn't be so many loners in here commenting.
; o )
No one touch that 111
I finally accepted that I am the loner, and have no desire to be understood. My internal suffering has somewhat ceased since then. I am now in pursuit of a dream that I was once conditioned into believing was ridiculously "dramatic". If there is anyone similar here, I salute you and the person you are becoming.
Whats your dream?
Same
Same here. I accepted my aloneness and now I indulge in it. It is important not to go with the flow all the time and dare to stand apart and think differently. Sometimes people just don't get us, our way of life, way of thinking. I am glad you started pursuing your dream and I hope you accomplish it.
@@unknowntosociety01 To carve out my own philosophy, written or otherwise, while traveling the length and breadth of this world.
@@rustcohle845 Keep soldiering on, my friend. 👍🏿
If you're not prone to falling into Mass psychosis.
Being a loner is a given
Lost all because of not be8ng affected and resisting to mass hypnosis..partner, friends, family....evil has never been so.strong and we just have to survive these times..take care.
I've always had a very independent nature. Never going along with the crowd. Always enjoy my aloneness but never lonely. And yes I did enjoy the lockdowns, it gave nature a chance to breathe and heal. We give humankind too much importance on this beautiful planet. ❤🌹❤
Another brilliant lecture. I can confirm from my own experience, that by embracing my individuality and being a non-conformist, that I have encountered many enemies in life! It is not my intention to upset other people but yes, it's a path for the loner. I only have few friends, but at least the one's that I have are real.
So true
I'm happy that philosophy doesn't exclude or look down on loners. As a loner and an introvert myself, I feel at ease with philosophy.
All or almost all great philosophers in history were loners.
@@joaoalegria7578 sure. How else there can be philosophy. Its the hiden, lonely path.
@@joaoalegria7578
True.
@@nikkoroth5552 yeah I think philosophy comes from reflection and introspection and imo that can only be accomplished by being in solitude.
I'm one too been one so long all I know people look down on people like us
When you see me alone, don't get it twisted. I am in amazing company.
I'm never alone God is always within me and ready to speak
I love your attitude. It's very refreshing. I hope you have a beautiful life 😁
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 well said!
Yes am alone but never lonely.....
You go, girl !
( With your lone self)✌️
since my mom died December last year I've always been told to be outgoing and to have "fun" with my peers. they fear of me being "too lonely". this channel helped me a lot to re evaluate my values. thank you
School of life and pursuit of wonder are two channels that could help you
“Getting out and having fun” usually devolves into having to listen to some loudmouth, fight starting assholes holding court at your expense. Hence, the reason why I can count the number of parties and trips to a bar on one hand and still have fingers left.
@@MaidenUtah1 exactly! they don't understand how precious solitude is
I think some people have difficulty in relating to someone who is bereved. They much prefer to see you being upbeat as it makes them feel more comfortable. I remember growing up my mum had difficulty in relating to my moods, her response if I was down would be her saying " come on be happy" I never did locate the happy switch!
@@paulinewhite3273 true! i still can't understand how a "happy/ sad face" should look like to them
Especially many of the spiritual paths can be very "lonely", as you are swimming against the stream of conventions. As Ajahn Chah said: "The whole world moves in one direction and you into another",
Absolutely, well said. It can make you feel as though you’re doing everything wrong!
Go with it as Alan Watts said.
@@Emiliapocalypse I relate it totally. It feels that we are going in a wrong direction when compared to society and people around us. And because we are focusing more on inner world/self development.
Very true Ajahn.
Light Workers have a very distinct soul directive. It is a very narrow, and specific path. Painfully lonely in a young life, honed in
mid-life, celebrated by the elder. Ever rejoicing when meeting those other rare individuals on their paths. Perhaps not a path shared but certainly understood. Blessings, and respect to all steadfast in their evolution.
What the hell is a
Light Worker?
@@brian6140 an elaborate form of coping mechanism.
See also: star children.
Perfectly said...
Where are the others? I cannot find them. I keep searching.
"Light workers?" Are you serious? This is one of the reasons why philosophy is not taken seriously......were trying to learn and engage in serious topics and then someone comes along talking about "light workers......" lol. Im sorry but abandoning reason and believing in magic is not the answer.....hahahahah "light workers" like cmon man, you know that that is fantasy bs that snake oil salesmen use to prey on the gullible....
I've been doing things my own way for awhile. I'm extremely detached from society, have little friends and a strained relationship with my family. They are utterly baffled by my refusal to live life by their standards. I would be lying if I said It didn't bother me a little, they don't care about my interests or passions and generally cannot understand them at all. But I'm going to keep going my own way regardless . They see me as a bizarre eccentric and I see them as judgemental sheep. I love them to death. Truly. But I'd rather BE dead than live life the way they do.
Even if I end up destitute, I don't mind, I've been destitute before and I was fine. And I will be fine in the future. I'll live my own way and persue painting as a career and Ill be happy because I was true to myself.
Your family may not understand you, but that doesn't mean no one else can. Still you can find like-minded people who will be interested in what you do.
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I understand perfectly
Beautiful!👏😃👍✨💖✨
This comment is so relatable
We have the privilege to find our own path in life, conform or don't, that's your choice, you paid a price no matter what direction you take, just make sure the price you pay you can actually afford. be true to yourself.
Well put. 👏🏽
I'd sacrifice anything for that goal, which I have done, so even if it meant death I would accept that over living a lie
Most extroverts are basically 'overcompensating', for what else is extroversion but the desperate *_fear_* of simply being in the sole company of yourself?
living in our modern society is sort of like living within a toilet bowl. we must purify ourselves, remain empathetic, maintain our sanity, and pursue our own purposes.
Its hard restraining and so easy to become hateful, indifferent, angry and insane. And what even harder is to realise that you are slowly slipping into darkness before its too late. I try. I try. I try. But every once in a while, the worst of me takes over. But it gets easier every time, to regain the control. Or I donno, this could very well be an illusion in my head.
@@AdilKhan-vw6rr I feel that darkness part. What I’ve been reading is The Kybalion. It teaches a lot about using the happenings on higher planes against the lower planes of existence (using negative emotions/thought patterns to fuel positive results and then tossing negativity aside when it outlives its purpose). Anger can destroy, but also protect. Judgement can condemn people, but also avert disasters. Sadness can be overwhelming, but also alert you when you’re betraying yourself. Darkness is unavoidable and so one should study how to transmute it into light
well articulated.
@@tdwwxyz Hmm, interesting. Could you maybe illustrate how to use negative emotions to fuel positive results and discard them when they are depleted through an example?
@@AdilKhan-vw6rr yeah sure. I became a judgmental person as I grew up bc my family (like most) was full of really broken and dysfunctional people. I knew better and used my discretion to keep me on the right path. But then I decided I wanted to start a company. A record label, where I’d be a leader. So I tried being the way I normally am (judgmental) and it didn’t work. I never made friends for long, had trouble networking and couldn’t wrap my head around the collaborative process. Despite being amazing at my craft and impressing people, it was impossible to build a team with all my internalized reservations. So I thought back to my childhood and realized that part of my personality had served its purpose and I needed to dial it back. I wasn’t surrounded by stupidity anymore, I was around masters and partners who I wanted to learn from, and I couldn’t let my defensiveness kill my dream. So I gave in a little, and then a little more. Until I could finally harmonize with personalities that completely contradicted my own and we could be productive together. But I still use my strong judgment to keep me out of trouble sometimes. You learn to use an emotion in an extreme way first, then dial it back as you become familiar with its use cases
Thank you for this video. I'm a loner and this really has me thinking about my path forward. I'm glad I trust myself and know myself enough to not blindly follow.
Existentialist, transcedentalists and Stoics are the greatest philosophical schools of thought coming out of the west imo. They are giants!
It all begins with 1 thought
I’m interested in the Gnostic teachings as well even though I’m not religious.
@@danityvanityinsanity Marcion is as well very interessting.
Nehh
*To all dreamers out there, don't ever let the world's negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If your surround yourself with love and with right people, Anything is possible.*
Cheering for you✨
You clearly don't understand human nature. Lol
Great another 13 year old posing as someone with experience and education to sell their con to people.
Don't let them get you down brother. Everyone has their own path. If you can't have a bit of fun with it as well then it may not be the right one!🌤
@@deejayjuicebox7623 Isn't he an expression of human nature as well (or of divine nature if you will, just like you with your perspective)? Cheers to life being sooo diverse! ✨
The content never changed the world for the better.
I'm a loner through my life situation. Today was my birthday I didn't receive 1 text, phone call or card and it had no effect on me.
"Being a loner is not the same as being alone"
I love my solitude, freedom to travel and independence - nothing will ever interfere or disrupt my happy stress free life.
Hey... Happy belated birthday!!! Wishing you many more days full of peace.
Every good wish for a belated birthday.
Stay healthy and full circled my man!
Experiencing a birthday on your own or Xmas can be quite liberating!
Happy Birthday! You're one year closer to death
I totally understand this dilemma of having own values vs complying to the society! I often find people’s useless conversations boring and small talk trivial and hate talking just for the sake of it but at times have to do it to ‘appear’ normal in this society
The first step to self reliance is to stop caring what others think. If one can't understand & implement that, then there is no hope to become non-conformist. “The tranquillity that comes when you stop caring what they say. Or think, or do. Only what you do." ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
The ever grind of others to change and bend to please someone else's will, even when they become disgusted of what they've become just to find the approval of others....such is the reality in today's world, a lot of people trying to become someone that nature or their destiny never intended for them to be, to follow instead of walking their own path, it's really sad.
That's tough.. can u?
Loneliness is also a part of our inner-compass, to find others with which you can connect or ways to connect with others you previously could not are both worth whatever time you spent on it.. You do not need to conform to be a part of a group.
@OneManWolfPack wrote, "You do not need to conform to be a part of a group."
If I may offer a slight refinement to what you wrote: _You do not need to conform to be_ *willing to be* _a part of a group."_ To this point, it's worth asking: is there a point to belonging to a group that will 'accept' members who don't conform to its values, ideals, and expressions of those values & ideals?
@@RichardHarlos Great improvement, and yes there is worth to being part of a group that doesn't enforce values. Even just having extra perspectives, and though not everyone will share your values most of them will share at least one. So you will always have some people that'll have your back no matter what.
It also gives you access to their connections if you build your connection on said shared value, which means even more opportunities and options.
Um, ya kinda do. That's the point. Wow.
Would be kind of boring to have a group were everyone was the same.
2 is not a group. When it becomes 3 or more , it is no longer a dog wagging its tail , instead the tail wagging its dog.
A rebel is a person who stands up for their own personal opinions despite what anyone else says. A true rebel stands up for what they believe is right, not against what's right! It's not about smoking crack, drinking till you're rendered unconsious, or beating the crap out of anyone that crosses your path. It's all about being an individual and refusing to follow a crowd that forces you to think the same way they do, even if it means becoming an outcast to society. True rebels know who they are and do not compromise their individuality or personal opinion for anyone. They're straightforward and honest and they will sure as hell tell it like it is.
I have more difficulty dealing with others and more peaceful when I’m alone .
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
Yeeeeeah rainbow and sunshine everywhere gogo unicorn
To the person who wrote this comment. Stick your positive thinking cult, LOA, New Religion bullshit up your ass and sell your channel somewhere else.
@@JaysonT1 Why so easily triggered? LOL
@@RichardHarlos You don't get annoyed by the regurgitated con-artist scripts? People 3 weeks out of high school selling you their online coaching of the secrets to life?
My Father taught me the wisdom of the Loner path. Some of the best advice he ever gave me
What did he teach you and how?
could you tell me some of his wisdom?
so did my Nan
I’ve always felt ‘other’ - the older I get, the better it feels.
Maybe, the saying, 'Hell is other people ', has something to do with it
( Continued health and well-being)
How I suffered when I tried to live like everyone else, confirm, and fit in.
"You are alone, born alone and will die alone. All else is delusion and family"
I had the great fortune to join a Scottish pipe band at 16 and a political party at 14; this at a time where there was very little to do in my area. It put me in the company of interesting people and I went to many interesting events; it also made my peers and other family members jealous. At the time I subconsciously felt it but luckily disregarded them and continued my own path and made more interesting friends than I would otherwise have been exposed to.
I never thought of myself as a loner. I only have a few close friends but whenever I meet with them I just don't feel a connection. I don't even know what I'm expecting. They seem content with what our friendship is and it always makes me think that maybe the kind of connection I want does not even exist. I feel lonelier when I'm with them than when I'm by myself.
If you always have to be in the midst of others and seeking their approval to feel whole. You do not know yourself. Get on with it and "Do the Work"!
After following your videos regularly, all I can say is.. MAN your videos are not for everyone!
There are only handful who can relate.. the one's who are TRUE loners.
@Limon Cello No. You'll know u are a loner.. you don't have to prove it to anyone if you aren't.
It's about self-realization.
You have no idea how much these are helping. I’m not out of my rut yet, but
I feel as though there could actually be a light in the tunnel, and that I’m not just laying face down in a hole. Thanks, Einzelgänger
Hope u’ll soon find a way:)
Sometimes lying face down in a hole is exactly what we need , what many people will never do in their lives.
When we have been in this hole, we now know the lower limit, therefore we know how low we can actually go.
After accepting this and of course realising that being so low didn’t kill you, you can lift your heart and mind and begin to look up to the light.
If you have nothing and can find peace and happiness, then all that comes after will be enlightening and positive.
We don’t need any ‘thing ‘to make us happy, because happiness is a state of mind..
When I was 13 (now 45 years ago) I had an adolescent crisis (too much to go into here), but the result was I stopped caring about what others thought of me, and I resolved to live as I wanted regardless of what anyone else said.
And I was so much happier! Very unusual in the adolescent milieu, that I became impervious to conformity and peer pressure.
I have done a lot since then, but that time remains a pivotal and defining moment of my life.
It's not that I decided to not follow society's norms, I seem to be unable to.
Rom.12:2
I'm not a big reader, but The Stranger is one of my favorite books ever, I read it when I was 20, I'm 32 now but I still think about the book quite often to this day.
Hey, stranger!🙂
One of the best compliments I received some time back was "you're provocative without being controversial ". There is that narrow line between being true to you and being unintentionally ludicrous. A decent amount of non clique is a better way.
I can't even figure out what that means.
Non clique?
I am the opposite, of you I controversial without being provocative 😥😥😭😭😭😥😥💯.
Yeah. I feel when you’re really true to yourself, it’s constructive and harmonious (even in having provocative perspectives). It creates the space to leave others as they are as well. No pushing against. Live and let live. 🙏
Yeh
All of my life I was just a side character in someone else story. I always ran after people, relationships. I never had a long term girlfriend and I'm 27 years old. I don't have friends at the moment and if I'm honest throughout my life, I had to adapt myself so much to others to not be alone which led me to suffering most of the time.
Adaptation is being able to adjust yourself so you can have normal conversations with people however it will never reward you with their friendship (mostly because it's faked).
As It turns out, most adults (30+ and above) like me quite a lot and people under (25 - ) don't like me that much or are rather indifferent towards me.
I try so hard to have friends and a girl and that is why I always failed. It shouldn't be forced, it shouldn't be hard. If you go search for people out of fear, you won't find your tribe in this world.
Yes ! We have to go against conformity. You can't fight you own nature and NO, you shouldn't adapt to society standards, you shouldn't suppress your needs and your morals for a love interest or anyone at all.
I believe in better times ahead because I'm now working on myself. I just wish the pain of loneliness to not be so hard to endure (I have suicidal thoughts for 2 months now).
Use this covid period to prep for a fresh start. People will be ready for relationships when things get back to being more normal.
Just improve yourself man , it is just a game of power
Just learn to live with yourself and accept your self more, find strength in knowing that no one is coming for your rescue so that you can strengthen your resolve to be a one man army and become self sufficient to face this harsh life head on.....if there's someone willing to be your partner down the road be thankful for their company yet remember that people change and their hearts won't always be there for you, the only person that will never let you down or alone and will forever be loyal is yourself, no matter where you decide to go from there on....your shadow will always follow.
Please concentrate on learning to understand and support yourself. It is nice to have friends but only if they are real and do not expect you to compromise your values to fit theirs. One can feel lonelier in a crowd than by oneself. Never give up yourself to fit others, it won't work or give any satisfaction. At 27 you are still very young! I am 66 lol. One or a handful of real friends who accept and like you as you are is vastly superior to a ton of acquaintances. Find out who you are and be that, without compromise. You may find real friends by volunteering for a charity you vibe with, at least you will have something in common and it may help with self worth, if that is an issue. Be kind to yourself, as well as others.
Sometimes its great to smoke a little bit of weed go swim in the ocean on a sunny day get out have a beer and a ciggarette and think fk the fuggin world have another weed and get Kfc . Basically some bad things are fun ! Also travelling the world is great to - try it : )
I believe only if you can live succesfully alone, you can deal succesfully with other people. It's about learning to be with yourself and to learn to look within yourself. Being a loner shouldn't be uplifted to this mythical status, but learning to be alone can help you to get clarity, and as a consequence, make wiser decisions.
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When you're at risk of losing everything you have and need money to survive you have no choice but to conform
To a certain point, you can still be yourself in the way you act and speak instead of talking about what you think people want to hear, people always say how wierd I am because I talk about different things and not from a script and I say thanks for the compliment, I feel so much better than when I just went along with everyone else
@@stevenvitali7404 Yes. It's been that way my entire life. Most all people make me sick as i can see how fake, shallow, programmed they are. I rather be alone for ever than to deal with another minute of fakery
@@WonderBoy0403 it can be very hard when you're the only one who sees it, it's good to know there are others out there who think the same, a shame tho that we find others online but in our day to day life cannot find those people, stay strong
When the Aussie government threatened us that we would lose everything if we didn’t comply to their kovid rules, I chose to lose everything. But guess what, I didn’t lose everything and still didn’t comply. It was a bluff!
It's true
I got sick of all the point scoring, gossiping and fault finding from others.
I've accepted my fate, even though at the start it was a bitter pill to swallow... I have no regrets, people are hard work 😏
That's the way of the world
I’m not coping
@@dennismclaurin1487 You’re right it is
For myself finding and keeping quality friends has always been a challenge. Majority of people have conversations about work, kids and events they are going too. I myself have always enjoyed deeper conversations about life, travels and so on which has prevented me from connecting with the vast majority of people. When everyone around you is married and has kids/pets you naturally can't connect with them on the same level. I'd much rather have one or two really good friends then a group of people that leads to sameness.
Very Relatable
Living like this is difficult. However I am hoping to find God through non conformity. I believe this can be done, wish you all the best.
I enjoy studying Monastic theology, and how they live, and being closer to God. Maybe it would be something of interest for you as well.
@@risa4781 Hi Risa, thank you for recommending. I'll be sure to make it a part of my journey, it looks very interesting
Rom.12:2
With my multiple personalities,i never feel alone..the strength & majesty of the lone wolf
I enjoy all your deep videos! It helps calm me down and remember to enjoy who I am.
I've kinda just accepted the fact that life has chosen me to be a loner. I wouldn't consider myself to be a complete loner, I do enjoy having friends (when I'm not being utterly ignored.) I feel every time I make friends I get excluded from everything, it doesn't matter who my friends are. Throughout kindergarten to grade 3-ish, I had many friends and talked to everyone. I had a specific friend group in grade 3 in which I'd been with for a while, they started ignoring me following bullying and I've despised them since. I moved to a new house in time for grade 4 and once again, had no problem making "friends" except this time if I spoke, I'd get talked over. I'd walk around with them and if I stood still, they'd continue walking and forget I was even there to begin with. Certain people I avoid and fear to speak to even if I hadn't seen the way they talk to others before, get all panicky, and become speechless. This stuff has happened for years now and I've only had 1 person I still consider as an actual friend. They've moved pretty far recently so atm, I'm only abled to speak to them online. For now I stay distant and hyper focus on goals of mine, that's all I care about and I wont let my sad "friendships" to get in the way, Afterall, I much prefer to really be alone then to be alone aside others.
nice redhead pfp
@@Knight_647 What?
@@imwatchingonyoutube5024 damnit he must have changed it, his profile pic was a cute ginger girl
At a younger age, I never thought it possible a person could be lonely while surrounded by millions of people. Having grown older and wiser, I am a living example of what I thought couldn't be possible.
"Stillness, Silence and Solitude, I have always seen these as valuable tools to maintain a calm and relaxed demeanor. The world around us can be very unnerving; but implementing the 3 S's can help you get through difficult times." CW
Dont forget seclusion on and off
" Staying truthful to oneself"... "following the inner compass"...i have suffered immensely inside by trying to be truthful to myself...i am still suffering a lot by following my inner compass.Even if i suffer all along my life ,i can't be dishonest by not following my inner compass... Because at the end of the day:- Honesty is the best policy.
Thanks a lot for uploading this incredible video.🙏
Rom.12:2
Every video is an art form. Thank you.
I'm glad I joined this channel in its early stages and it's been a joy to see it's growth. Keep up the good work .
Wow your content is so pure and true.how right we are bombarded with over excessive greed that society offers more house more crypto,more cars and still feel hollow.
The Loner's Path: my life since forever
Right on, one must be prepared to accept the consequences of non-conformity. I was sometimes shocked by people's responses to my own stubborn disapproval of modern life. Then I realized, if I wanted to live according to my own values, I would face ridicule and disapproval. I think being alone is the hardest difficulty about this commitment, but the benefits still outweigh the drawbacks.
There's no going back , we all have two lives, the second one starts the moment you realise that you only have one
Silence is the greatest companion you'll ever know.
I'm a loner because I don't watch sports. Surprisingly that has alienated me from society more than anything else I do. I just stay home and watch educational videos and read from Google scholar. When I do go out the number one thing I hear people complain about is that no matter what they talk about I already know more about it than them.
After some hours i am going to be 20 and the greatest present for my birthday is this video. Thankyou so much man.
I enjoy being alone but I also enjoy conversation.
It’s not the masses “ follow yourself “ 👌🏻 .. non conformity & faithful to self. Great video dude 🙏👌🏻
I definately stand out in society like a sore thumb- I think for myself and have true love for living things and reject the corporate manufactured life. I get bullied and run off of jobs frequently.
I was forced into being a non-conformist due to my mental disorders and neurodivergent mental landscape. For the past 23 years I've seen myself as someone who's cursed to be different and alone for my entire life. Now I understand the pressures of others demanding my conformity to be the true poison that I'm overcoming with every passing day. And I grow stronger and more interesting than the conformists will ever be. And as such, I now see my trials as a blessing of enlightenment, and am going for treatments not to erase my nonconformity, but rather to gain the tools to conform with the world in my own nonconformist way. And break away from the disorders I was MEANT to overcome.
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Oh, yeah. Sometimes I even suspect that herd around is created just to slow down the process of individuation, like becoming oneself entirely. You know, even changing habits in eating can "bother" someone, that he or she tends to say "you're doing wrong" and seduces with reminding of such foods. Some even saw me weird, when I ate palm dates, though they ate sugary food with high-fructose corn syrup (or something with refined sugars). It's like healthiness in lots of ways seems to be unhealthy and wrong, which is ridiculous. I remember how I looked bad, when I said that I don't drink to someone. They saw me as a strange person, if not worse.
Thanks for reminding me that.
I don’t eat French Fries / chips. When I refused some from my mother in laws plate at a restaurant she went mad and started shouting at me. My wife tried to explain I don’t eat fried food. Eventually I had to eat a few just to stop my mother in law having a heart attack !!!
@@jakebullet1731 gotta stay strong. Unfortunately, sometimes it must be this way. And sometimes it may even sound rude.
You know, you described some kind of a manipulation.
Everything has been setup in western society to push collectivism and conformity. We do need eachother and that requires compromise but it becomes borwhen the majority of people do not truly know themselves, they only know how to present themselves as they’ve been taught by corporations government hollyweird etc… this is the issue.
This channel helped me shape my philosophy and find peace. I want to translate some of your videos in the next future into my native language so that "my" nation can benefit too. Through selfless action fulfillment is attained
And most likely my philosophy will change as I'm just 19. But that's okay. I'm used to it and even like it. That means I'm able to not hold on to ideas too much and get closer to truth
@@flankes3339 good for you, my philosophy has changed a ton I'm 21. But I wish to conform in some ways, but I can't sense I was very young I tried to I realy did. Always felt more like a outsider.
Translations would be great!
@@flankes3339 where are you from? Translations would be great.
@@Diego-Designs why?
This may be one of my favourite videos that you have released. It really resonates with me
Alone=peace
People=chaos
I'm a person who feels that words have 'weight', or they don't.
Your four words weigh a whole ton.
How did you even do that?
Been solitary all my life. Unmarried, no kids, no family, no TV, no 'home'. I travel the world and learned there are millions of ways to exist happily, in harmony with man and nature. I will choose the time and place of my death and leave the planet a little better than I found it, which is all most of us can expect from an indifferent universe. On the path toward self-actualization, there are no wrong turns.
Have you ever been in love?
@@dennismclaurin1487 Sure. All the time. In 15 minute increments
@@massivecumshot I mean, Have you ever experienced true love with a woman?( If you're a man)
*I dare say, at the of the day, you will be on a long path and surprisingly alone, so take it easy on yourself, don't be serious about what you think. It's just point a of view.*
I've always been happy when I'm alone. I rarely feel lonely.
For a while I never knew how to describe myself. I often felt as an outsider or “not normal” because the things in life people wanted or things to do as expected were often the norm. I was focused on being a creative, learning and studying, and enjoyed being away from others so that I could be alone.
I get called weird for it but take it as a compliment from the other sheep who can’t live for themselves. They made themselves believe that there is no life outside of school, getting a job, a big house, a biological family and all other social conformity.
I just tell them that I’ll try not living another mediocre life as many before them have and will gladly live alone with a pet cat 😙
At least you have someone to stare at, after a bad day
great video, a nice reminder of some of what really matters and to stay true to your self. very motivating. thanks, man.
Your subconscious voice is your true self
When a person stops living by the virtues of truth he becomes dependent on other people and even if deep down he knows he is not right for abandoning truthfulness , he is also to afraid to change his life, and with fear people's abilities atrophy and become weak, and this is how they become sheep.
Einzelganger, your channel is a wealth of knowledge and wisdom. One of my favorite. Thank you so much for providing all the podcasts.
This is by far not only the best video of Enzelgänger, but of philosophy in general that I've ever watched.
I love yall, nothing weird, just human to human, hope yall find what you're looking for in life
Thanks.
I can use a lone soul mate
Life is complicated isn't it? My husband died 6 years ago. We had been married 42 years. I now live a life of a loner, although I have my daughter living with me whilst she saves for a house. She isn't yet 30 and we are worlds apart. I am a Christian, she is yet to believe. Sometimes I think being a Christian makes things harder, I tend to think I should love more, but in honesty I'm not sure I even like people! I feel I am waiting, but not sure for what! Yes the lockdowns gave me the perfect excuse to retreat further.
It's so hard today, ppl don't talk or act anxiety stricken or too smug too care!
I try to reach out, but find most ppl don't reciprocate, or even worse don't acknowledge you!
God gave us discernment and does speak to our hearts when we're still and listening.
I've found it's not the quantity of ppl we find ourselves around, but rather the quality of there character!
But I just want You to know, my sister in the Lord, that I love you as a brother in Christ and will pray for you, and I just want to assure you I am present with you, through the Holy Spirit, for where 2 or 3 come together in the name of Jesus, the Lord Jesus, Is there also!
God Bless You!
You have articulated the path of non- conformity very succinctly and comprehensively. Beautiful work ❤️❤️
This is such a great channel. Excellent content throughout. Thank you!