Yes, I’ve always had the experiences of being misunderstood. Like I have a huge universe in my mind but ended up with saying something that sounds like unorganized and illogical. It’s definitely a frustrated, powerless feeling sometimes when people didn’t get you. And I found when people judge or criticize me I would start to self doubt sometimes. My coping mechanism is to only connect with few friends that I feel supportive and secure in a sense. Thanks for your video! The contents are really nice.
Oh yes, the unrealistic expectations are definitely an INFP thing 😆 The thinking I tend to come back to is, who determines what's realistic or unrealistic? Something is unrealistic until it's done. Right? The best world records and achievements have been achieved by people who were told again and again that what they aspire to is unrealistic!! If they'd listened and toned down their aspirations the world wouldn't have their amazing contributions. So us INFPs definitely have a unique task here of balancing this don't we? I like that you touched on the cognitive stack because exploring those ideas against the outside world rather than keeping them as mere thoughts is really key here. Thank you for this content Mika, I always thoroughly enjoy your videos.
Thank you Doreca for sharing your thoughts! You're right I think it's good to have a bit of unrealistic expectations, the key is to know when it's too much! I guess it's a trial and error process ^^ Thank you for your kind words :)
I am almost 10 minutes late every time I need to be somewhere. Including work. Thank you for making these videos! It's giving me a lot of insight into myself.
I'm an infp and I'm almost never late. The only times I'm late are due to external reasons or because I was too caught up in something ,that I forgot the time. I've created strategies for never being late. I always try to overestimate the time it takes to get somewhere or do something by at least 10-15 min, especially for important things. I tell myself it takes me one hour to get to work so I start getting ready to leave home one hour before work starts, even if in reality it's about 40 min. I also wake up one hour before I have to leave because I really dislike feeling stressed, I'd rather lazy around not knowing what to do than be late, besides I sometimes leave even earlier if I'm bored. For me it feels better to be where I'm supposed to be and read, practice something while waiting for my work day to start. I also really like being the first at work. I feel so free not having to worry about what people are thinking about me all the time. Besides it makes me appear as if I'm really responsible and care about my job.
Very good assessments. I have overcome lateness - I've learned to be stressed about being late and not assume I have more time than I really do. I think the reason were often late is because were caught up in thinking too much about things that aren't based in reality 😉
Regards being early or late, I tend to be early (for appointments, work, lectures, things like that) because of social anxiety. If I'm running late I would actually cancel or call in sick. With more casual stuff like seeing friends, I've sometimes been catastrophically late. I definitely agree with the procrastination though, I think the social anxiety actually helps there in disciplining me into being early or on time for stuff!
Ok this is like 100% me 0.0 It's almost scary.. Th only think I only semi-agree with regarding myself is the self-esteem. I am pretty confident in who I am regarding my interests, hobbies, styles, moral compass, what makes me happy and what not, my empathy etc. But I have quite the low self esteem when it comes to school/work etc. The parts where I need to perform duties etc like society expects from me. So that in itself also comes back in INFP traits but that is what I wanted to say about the last part of the video. Thank you for this one! Nice for introspection times ;)
Think all of it applies to me ... - was told by my ex-wife I was too idealistic for this world - Thank you. Usually running a bit late ... unless there is a very special occasion (like feelings involved ...).
Great video it feels good to know there are other people who feel and experience things similar to myself it's good not to feel so alone. Thank you I'm usually on time or running a little late
Merci ! Très clair une fois de plus ! j'ai pris pleins de notes ^^ Avoir tout ça en tête va probablement m'aider à moins subir mes faiblesses et à mieux les surmonter/anticiper ! Merci beaucoup pour cette synthèse réflexive
For 9 - motivation can fade quickly, have you an example of setting externals conditions who works for you ? Because often remembering why is not enough, I have tried to say to someone that I would do this things, and have to do it because I said so... but I can always find excuses 😅 My god being late or right in time even for job interview ! It’s rare but I can be early if it’s really really very important... or not 😑 People who knows me, give me rendez-vous 15 or 30 minutes earlier than the true time of meting, I also trick myself by delaying the clock to give me some more time (it works when I forget that the clock is not on the right time). All my life is about running behind a bus 😩😆 Thank you very much
Thank you for posting! Yes I do have examples! That's a good point, I could have given them in the video ^^ Here are some examples of what you can do: -tell people what you're doing, so that they keep you accountable -set a deadline, and really respect it -commit to deliver something at a certain date, so that you have no choice but to do it -you could also commit to give money to charity if you fail at doing something, like a fee -in a nutshell, make the consequences of not doing the job (disapointment, losing money...) worse than doing it (frustration, it's hard etc..) Because as humans, we will do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure. So it might seem harsh, but it's actually good for us. It's like the example of trying to get up in the morning. We're almost certain to do it if a boss is waiting for us. But if we're working from home, there is no real immediate consequence for not getting up. We have to create them. Ahah I'm the same for being late. I really have to make an effort to be early for important events ^^ I like how you trick yourself with the clock 😂 I know the struggle ^^ Thank you again! Have a good week end :)
Merci d’abord pour les efforts fourni dans la réalisation de cette vidéo. Concernant l’heure d’arrivée à un rdv... je suis très ponctuelle, je déteste arriver en retard, quitte à ne pas y aller du tout, même récemment je me suis réveillée en retard pour aller travailler, c’était un nouveau job alors tellement j’avais honte de me pointer en retard que je suis pas aller, ça tombe bien j’étais un peu malade donc j’ai pu fournir un justificatif légitime haha. Je préfère attendre que de faire attendre, c’est l’éducation qui m’a forcée je pense à être comme ça mais dès le plus jeune âge j’étais très nerveuse pour le respect des horaires,je pleurais quand je n’étais pas à l’heure pour l’école, par ex.🤪
Merci c'est gentil ! C'est intéressant de voir qu'on peut avoir un rapport différent avec le temps ! Et est-ce que tu dirais que c'est quelque chose que tu dois te forcer à faire pour être à l'heure ou est ce que ça vient naturellement ? Par exemple en fait j'ai réalisé que si c'est un rendez-vous important, genre un nouveau boulot, je vais être à l'heure, même en avance, par contre si c'est un rdv avec des amis, sans conséquences et sans pression, bah je vais avoir tendance à être un peu en retard ! Donc par défaut je suis en retard, mais si c'est important je me force et je suis en avance ^^
Michael Simone je suis à la base très perfectionniste, donc je pense que naturellement comme je veux pas entendre de reproches je fais tout pour. Depuis petite je suis comme ça, je pleurais carrément quand je voyais que j’allais être en retard à l’école. Et à l’âge adulte ça n’a pas changé haha je pleure pas mais je suis très rarement en retard, peu importe si c’est un rdv important ou pas, ça me demandera aucun effort, je suis déjà prête bien à l’avance,(mon père est comme ça aussi) comme ça je prévois un peu de temps au cas où... Sinon je me considère comme INFP mais ceux qui m’observent et me connaissent m’identifient à une ENFP hyperactive... vous les INFP vous êtes tellement calme que c’est pas du tout ma façon d’être😄(je sais pas pourquoi je saute de coq à l’âne mais c’est propre aux intuitifs mdr)
@@loveusekate Mdr d'accord, oui effectivement je suis pas pareil quand il s'agit d'être à l'heure ! Mais c'est cool j'aimerais réussir à faire davantage comme toi ^^ Moi je suis assez calme mais je suis aussi très actif et bruyant et expressif quand je suis avec mes amis ou quoi ! Donc ça m'étonne pas forcément !
Michael Simone après y a aussi le faite que lorsque j’attends quelqu’un et que la personne arrive en retard, je me sens offensée, pas estimée donc je me dis l’autre va croire pareil si je suis en retard et je fais tout pour être à l’heure... tout est possible mdr
I am usually on time (also will experience spurts of days where i am consistency a few minutes late) for work or school. always pushing it with time and experiencing mild anxiety on the way there. Social events (always late).
as an infp i get lost easily in my thoughts, so i was thinking: if this is a placebo and he is not actually an infp, i agree with everything he says and I don't even know
Yes, I’ve always had the experiences of being misunderstood. Like I have a huge universe in my mind but ended up with saying something that sounds like unorganized and illogical. It’s definitely a frustrated, powerless feeling sometimes when people didn’t get you. And I found when people judge or criticize me I would start to self doubt sometimes. My coping mechanism is to only connect with few friends that I feel supportive and secure in a sense.
Thanks for your video! The contents are really nice.
Oh yes, the unrealistic expectations are definitely an INFP thing 😆
The thinking I tend to come back to is, who determines what's realistic or unrealistic? Something is unrealistic until it's done. Right?
The best world records and achievements have been achieved by people who were told again and again that what they aspire to is unrealistic!! If they'd listened and toned down their aspirations the world wouldn't have their amazing contributions.
So us INFPs definitely have a unique task here of balancing this don't we? I like that you touched on the cognitive stack because exploring those ideas against the outside world rather than keeping them as mere thoughts is really key here.
Thank you for this content Mika, I always thoroughly enjoy your videos.
Thank you Doreca for sharing your thoughts! You're right I think it's good to have a bit of unrealistic expectations, the key is to know when it's too much! I guess it's a trial and error process ^^
Thank you for your kind words :)
As an INFP I am also just in time or late when I need to be somwhere
I am almost 10 minutes late every time I need to be somewhere. Including work. Thank you for making these videos! It's giving me a lot of insight into myself.
I'm an infp and I'm almost never late. The only times I'm late are due to external reasons or because I was too caught up in something ,that I forgot the time. I've created strategies for never being late. I always try to overestimate the time it takes to get somewhere or do something by at least 10-15 min, especially for important things. I tell myself it takes me one hour to get to work so I start getting ready to leave home one hour before work starts, even if in reality it's about 40 min. I also wake up one hour before I have to leave because I really dislike feeling stressed, I'd rather lazy around not knowing what to do than be late, besides I sometimes leave even earlier if I'm bored. For me it feels better to be where I'm supposed to be and read, practice something while waiting for my work day to start. I also really like being the first at work. I feel so free not having to worry about what people are thinking about me all the time. Besides it makes me appear as if I'm really responsible and care about my job.
Very good assessments. I have overcome lateness - I've learned to be stressed about being late and not assume I have more time than I really do. I think the reason were often late is because were caught up in thinking too much about things that aren't based in reality 😉
Wow this is SO helpful. I have been stuck in my room for 2 years now. As a HSP INFP with PTSD I have been locked down by past traumas.
I really hope you can overcome these problems, sometimes we discover a strength inside us that is really surprising.
Regards being early or late, I tend to be early (for appointments, work, lectures, things like that) because of social anxiety. If I'm running late I would actually cancel or call in sick. With more casual stuff like seeing friends, I've sometimes been catastrophically late. I definitely agree with the procrastination though, I think the social anxiety actually helps there in disciplining me into being early or on time for stuff!
I'm 95% of the time late haha, I related again so much, you are really good at explaining these! thanks, it helps me a lot
Ok this is like 100% me 0.0 It's almost scary.. Th only think I only semi-agree with regarding myself is the self-esteem. I am pretty confident in who I am regarding my interests, hobbies, styles, moral compass, what makes me happy and what not, my empathy etc. But I have quite the low self esteem when it comes to school/work etc. The parts where I need to perform duties etc like society expects from me. So that in itself also comes back in INFP traits but that is what I wanted to say about the last part of the video.
Thank you for this one! Nice for introspection times ;)
I have never felt more understood...
Thanx Michael VERY helpful. IT all sounds soooo familiar it just scares me, and yes always a bit too late..
Think all of it applies to me ...
- was told by my ex-wife I was too idealistic for this world -
Thank you.
Usually running a bit late ... unless there is a very special occasion (like feelings involved ...).
Great video it feels good to know there are other people who feel and experience things similar to myself it's good not to feel so alone.
Thank you I'm usually on time or running a little late
Thank you for making this video. It's all so true and I might need to watch it a few more times in the future for tips/encouragement.
I am usually early because i hate being late..as i was in younger years. :)
Finally! I found my tribe!
Merci ! Très clair une fois de plus ! j'ai pris pleins de notes ^^
Avoir tout ça en tête va probablement m'aider à moins subir mes faiblesses et à mieux les surmonter/anticiper !
Merci beaucoup pour cette synthèse réflexive
Thank you. This is very helpful. I'll come back to make specific comments but need to
sleep. In your experience do INFPs tend to be night owls?!
Mercii j'ai appris pas mal de nouvelle choses sur ce qui compose la personnalité INFP!!
Surtout la 8ème et la 10ème sont tellement vrais
Ahah oui ! Merci d'avoir pris le temps de commenter ! J'suis content que ça t'ait servi !
@@MichaelSimone pas de soucis c'est normal ^^
That last one really hit home...
For 9 - motivation can fade quickly, have you an example of setting externals conditions who works for you ?
Because often remembering why is not enough, I have tried to say to someone that I would do this things, and have to do it because I said so... but I can always find excuses 😅
My god being late or right in time even for job interview ! It’s rare but I can be early if it’s really really very important... or not 😑
People who knows me, give me rendez-vous 15 or 30 minutes earlier than the true time of meting, I also trick myself by delaying the clock to give me some more time (it works when I forget that the clock is not on the right time).
All my life is about running behind a bus 😩😆
Thank you very much
Thank you for posting!
Yes I do have examples! That's a good point, I could have given them in the video ^^
Here are some examples of what you can do:
-tell people what you're doing, so that they keep you accountable
-set a deadline, and really respect it
-commit to deliver something at a certain date, so that you have no choice but to do it
-you could also commit to give money to charity if you fail at doing something, like a fee
-in a nutshell, make the consequences of not doing the job (disapointment, losing money...) worse than doing it (frustration, it's hard etc..)
Because as humans, we will do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure. So it might seem harsh, but it's actually good for us. It's like the example of trying to get up in the morning. We're almost certain to do it if a boss is waiting for us. But if we're working from home, there is no real immediate consequence for not getting up. We have to create them.
Ahah I'm the same for being late. I really have to make an effort to be early for important events ^^
I like how you trick yourself with the clock 😂 I know the struggle ^^
Thank you again! Have a good week end :)
Michael Simone Great merci ! I will try them, I’m sure it will help 👌🤞✊
Merci d’abord pour les efforts fourni dans la réalisation de cette vidéo.
Concernant l’heure d’arrivée à un rdv... je suis très ponctuelle, je déteste arriver en retard, quitte à ne pas y aller du tout, même récemment je me suis réveillée en retard pour aller travailler, c’était un nouveau job alors tellement j’avais honte de me pointer en retard que je suis pas aller, ça tombe bien j’étais un peu malade donc j’ai pu fournir un justificatif légitime haha. Je préfère attendre que de faire attendre, c’est l’éducation qui m’a forcée je pense à être comme ça mais dès le plus jeune âge j’étais très nerveuse pour le respect des horaires,je pleurais quand je n’étais pas à l’heure pour l’école, par ex.🤪
Merci c'est gentil !
C'est intéressant de voir qu'on peut avoir un rapport différent avec le temps ! Et est-ce que tu dirais que c'est quelque chose que tu dois te forcer à faire pour être à l'heure ou est ce que ça vient naturellement ?
Par exemple en fait j'ai réalisé que si c'est un rendez-vous important, genre un nouveau boulot, je vais être à l'heure, même en avance, par contre si c'est un rdv avec des amis, sans conséquences et sans pression, bah je vais avoir tendance à être un peu en retard ! Donc par défaut je suis en retard, mais si c'est important je me force et je suis en avance ^^
Michael Simone je suis à la base très perfectionniste, donc je pense que naturellement comme je veux pas entendre de reproches je fais tout pour. Depuis petite je suis comme ça, je pleurais carrément quand je voyais que j’allais être en retard à l’école. Et à l’âge adulte ça n’a pas changé haha je pleure pas mais je suis très rarement en retard, peu importe si c’est un rdv important ou pas, ça me demandera aucun effort, je suis déjà prête bien à l’avance,(mon père est comme ça aussi) comme ça je prévois un peu de temps au cas où... Sinon je me considère comme INFP mais ceux qui m’observent et me connaissent m’identifient à une ENFP hyperactive... vous les INFP vous êtes tellement calme que c’est pas du tout ma façon d’être😄(je sais pas pourquoi je saute de coq à l’âne mais c’est propre aux intuitifs mdr)
@@loveusekate Mdr d'accord, oui effectivement je suis pas pareil quand il s'agit d'être à l'heure ! Mais c'est cool j'aimerais réussir à faire davantage comme toi ^^
Moi je suis assez calme mais je suis aussi très actif et bruyant et expressif quand je suis avec mes amis ou quoi ! Donc ça m'étonne pas forcément !
Michael Simone après y a aussi le faite que lorsque j’attends quelqu’un et que la personne arrive en retard, je me sens offensée, pas estimée donc je me dis l’autre va croire pareil si je suis en retard et je fais tout pour être à l’heure... tout est possible mdr
@@loveusekate Oui tu fais pas ce que t'aimerais pas qu'on te fasse ^^ ça a du sens ! Faudrait que je m'en inspire ahah
I am usually on time (also will experience spurts of days where i am consistency a few minutes late) for work or school. always pushing it with time and experiencing mild anxiety on the way there. Social events (always late).
Oh god you seems like you are in my head right now the same for me here I'll be rarely on time hh I feel like I'm always late
This appears soo accurate.
Really enjoying your videos.
Thank you 😊
as an infp i get lost easily in my thoughts, so i was thinking: if this is a placebo and he is not actually an infp, i agree with everything he says and I don't even know
God, why?
I'm rarely not late lol
Almost ALWAYS late