What helps a lot of infps through this is self expression. If we keep all of our feelings bottled up inside of us we are much more prone to depression than if we were to "take something internal and externalise it, see it in front of us" (in the words of an infp whose name i don't remember). A few examples are poetry, story writing, song writing/making, drawing, painting, making sculptures, film making etc etc. Hope this helps!! Have a nice day 💞💞
It’s so funny how I can feel lonely in the world in the sense of finding someone like yourself. Then I watch this video and instant connection, like this guy gets it. Thanks man
It’s true. I think I’d be much more withered if I was still living in the states. Part of me feels that I’d look older if I didn’t refuse to grow up. lol
Yeah, I thought he was younger, too, but we INFPs tend look younger than our age more than any other type. So maybe we should always use a correction coefficient when we're estimating the age of INFPs.
Plentiful collagen is part of tbe package of the EDAR geneーcommonly found in asians. Collagen increases skin elasticity. On average, men also have more collagen than women. Apart from asians, the darker your skin color, the more collagen you'll tend to have (hence the phrase, "black don't crack). So I'd say an asian/black infp man basically = the fountain of youth. Just look at the Sakurai age meme lol I may be an infp but I'm also white, pale, skinny, and a woman. I started getting fine lines on my face at 18 :/ I'm always a bit envious when I watch Korean skincare videos, as they pat their face in a way where you can tell its full and collagen heavy. Patting my face is like patting a piece of paper. It's also very transparent. This is random and I'm getting off topic but I think a lot of the claims Korean skincare products make are BS and won't do much, if anything, on natural paper thin skin. Most asians already have the genes for epic looking skin.
I think it is important to create an ideal environment for INFP to maintain peace of mind. I quit corporate job because of toxic work environment and working on freelance. I also keep a group of friends that share a sensible mentality. It is important not to constantly hang out with people with a very materialistic mind set, they will wear us down. It is good to keep a friendly distance.
Same. I experienced sexuell harrassment and bullying in a school I worked for as a teacher and try to work in freelance as a translator now. In which field do you work?
@@Apricot90 it's very sad that you had to endure that pain😢, stay strong. Nothing is meant to be forever. I get sad when I read that a lot of other INFP's are suffering awfully too.
I've found some success on nightshift jobs at a mid-size corporation. They're more relaxed and there's much better opportunity to 'escape' if you need to recenter yourself. That said, I've had some possibly unnecessary drama because I keep trying to evaluate and guess everyone's intentions instead of just taking a more practical approach of just stating when there's a problem and asking how to resolve it. I don't know why that's so hard for me.
I am a 40 year old been around the block INFP Type 9 as well. When you mentioned the "get out and fail, over and over again"; this is especially important for INFPS since they tend to be overly critical of themselves relative to other types. It is realizing it is okay to not be perfect. Knowing that I may fail many times going in when doing/learning something, relieves some of the perfectionist tendencies and staying in the Guardian state for too long ruminating on unnecessary/excess thinking. Ironically, looking forward to failing relieves the pressure, resulting in creative action (hey I may fail in this, let's just see what happens).. Having the Explorer as a secondary function + willing to "get out an fail, over and over again" + INFPs being generally intelligent, I will tell you all INFPs out there, if this feedback loop is developed, you can be extraordinary, because you won't be too sensitive on setbacks. Thank you for the video!
As an learning INFP and Ennegram 9, I feel deeply validated with the tips you offer. Pushing myself to express, learn about myself and just simply expose yourself to situations to force yourself to grow. With a quote from Matthew McConaughey, “Life is not fair, it never was and it is now and it won’t ever be. Do not fall into the trap. The entitlement trap, of feeling like you’re a victim. You are not.”
I realized/learned that I am an INFP at 20-21 years old. I’m 22 now turning 23 in 3 months. The phase in my life right now is so exciting, in a sense, that I still am in University because I’m really bad with deadlines and organized learnings 💀 😂 Though I tend to not finish what I started, It’s been a battle for me to follow through and commit 💀 on whatever I thought I wanted to do for long periods of time. I am optimistic and have learned to move on my mistakes without forgetting them. So far, that’s what keep me going with life, I focus more on living in the present, I got that from reading a book on self development. Learning and watching these information and videos really helped me understand more who I am. To my fellow INFPs, you are not alone, know that emotions change every time, don’t linger on it for too long. It’s helpful to write down everything if you’re overthinking. Always remember, people don’t care all the time (and that’s a good thing! on our sanity 😂 ) and it’s okay to be different 🤗 . What’s important is what you feel with yourself ♥️
Thank you for being this person, and for doing this. Fellow INFP here. I'm going to teach you a Brazillian expression: 'Tamo junto'. It's short for 'Estamos juntos'. This means: 'We're together'. We use it a lot with friends and even in NA people use it a lot.
I am an INFP and have no idea who am I. I just finished highschool, failed to get in my dream acting school, broke up with my bf (from whom I realised that guys view me as only hot but boring). I am confused about myself so much. People ask me why am I so quiet, they tell me that I'm boring and only my closest friends find me fun and interesting. I've been dealing with food issues, extreme mood swings and bad self-esteem for the past 2 years. I don't trust my intuition at all for the past few years because of over thinking. I don't know how to find myself. I don't know who am I. Someone any advice? :(
j4 c4 my high school sweetheart and I broke up by the time we were 18, I completely lost it and realized that I had lost myself in that relationship. Sometimes you need to get to that place to really be able to dig deep. I recommend writing, finding your voice, just stream of consciousness writing. Meditation is also really helpful, you’re able to observe your thoughts better. Take everything as a learning experience, that’s all you can do to continue to grow.
Em not really pro to give advice but as infp, i got comfort when i slowly learn about myself and accept it as what it is and then start explore and try to improve it also by writing songs , that also helps me :) but that just me, hope it work for you too
Hm, well people might tell you you're boring but it might just mean they don't understand you or you feel like you can't be yourself with them! Some people just don't mesh well together. So just cherish the close people that do get you! You still have a long life ahead of you, so it's ok to have hiccups every now and then. I've also dealt with food issues and I still get mood swings like crazy... but it's mostly because of my poor diet and ridiculous sugar intake. That stuff is madly addictive and makes you crash really hard. . Being on a good diet is a difficult thing but that could be one path you can take to improve yourself/gain self-esteem. Honestly, I'm 28 and I still struggle with some of the things you've listed. But what's important is that you gain experience from these things and use them to push you forward. Even though you've failed at getting in, think back on why you might have been denied and work on those things! Don't give up on it if it's something you truely cherish. You seem to be starting at a good place anyways. The MBTI world has been helping me a lot since I crashed from a few years of depression and alcoholism. Haha. Just have some faith in yourself that you can become a better you. And explore as much as you can during this time to really find what you like/don't like. It'll help you figure out who you are. :) Even if it's baby steps, it's ok. Nobody in this world starts off knowing how their life will be. And you're definitely the hero of your own adventure. There are people who believe in you, so gain strength from them and learn to believe in yourself! ^^ Hope this helped a bit. You can do it!
Lots of great advice, team! Mine is along the same lines. When you’re in the moment, things feel awful. No doubt. The more times you fail and get up again, the quicker you realize that you’ll be fine. That you’ll grow stronger from the experiences IF YOU WANT TO. That what you thought was a bad thing actually CAN BE turned into a powerful lesson to help you (and others). Which is all connected back to knowing yourself by getting more varied experiences. PS. I hate being called boring. But I’ve taken it to mean I’m just not sharing my ideas.
You're not alone, i'm also going through that, I really know how you feel. I started taking lithium before yesterday, i'm really starting to feel that it's helping me. Look for a psycologist if possible for you to start treating yourself, it's gonna help, trust me. You might think it won't but you got to look for help. There is a possibility that you're bipolar, those symptoms you mentioned really resembles bipolar disorder symptoms or even maybe some other mental illness. Hope you get better soon 🙏🏻
Hi! I thought i was INFJ for a long time and realizing I'm actually INFP has made all the difference in understanding myself more so I resonate with what you are saying, in the beginning, a lot!! My guardian has kept me from traveling solo. Like you said; having that inner voice saying you wanted to go SOMEWHERE do SOMETHING... well i finally got sick of listening to my guardian to stay safe... save money ...wait until you meet someone to travel with... blah blah and I'm finally following what my heart wants- What my inner explorer wants even though I'm scared of it. I now feel alive and exhilarated for listening to that voice that i often drown out. I'm going from the USA to Turkey and I'm so happy to finally feed my spirit in this way. Your video here has further validated these feelings. Thank you for that! Now I'm even more excited :D
Thank you for sharing with us, fellow INFPs to grow as people. You said that INFPs get into that melancholy cycle very easily. That comforts me so much, knowing that I wasn't intentional to be sad and out if place all the time. Now that I know there's a community in this world, I feel less alone and also, I can work on my weakness to be a better version of myself 💞💞💞💞
I always enjoy your videos. I'd like to play devil's advocate though and say that my life has become 100% better since learning to trust my inner guardian, the part of me that is protective of myself. I'm a 39 year old INFP who has always had good intuition about people, but I use to give people the benefit of the doubt- even when my intuition said otherwise- and wind up majorly regretting it. If you're an INFP who has amazing intuition about people, learn to trust that nagging feeling you have about people because it will spare you from a lot of mind fucks in the long run. Our empathy for people can get us into trouble if we do not exercise impeccable discernment about who we let into our inner circles. I agree that putting ourselves into uncomfortable situations in which we can grow and explore is beneficial, but I do not think the same applies to who we let into our worlds.
Hearing you talk about this from your experience is so beautiful, it feels amazing to be understood and supported. I considered all these things as flaws and put so much pressure on myself. Now I feel like this is the beginning of a new journey. ♡
Im shocked to find a similar being as yourself I’m an infp 9 also and to see someone who’s admirable gives me confidence in myself sometimes i feel as a burden to be who I am so I connect with you and I’m greatful your helping us infp find our light aswell
As someone who is possibly INFP, I loved this video and decided to subscribe. Always been into psychology and love the metaphors you use as well as your perspective on every subject.
When I was very little, getting up after a fall made me always laugh, especially if someone kept pushing me down ... I already felt that my strength was there: in falling and getting up, falling and getting up again and again, until I have no more strength to do so. I'm an INFP, who, for some reason, is trying to emerge from the concrete of social conditioning, using my intuition to get out of the dirt I was hiding in and to blossom in the real beautiful person I am. Thanks to this video and this channel, now I know I'm not alone.
Nice to hear that u don't want ppl to take 10-12 yrs to find out. It took me 30 yrs to find out who I am, after all the loneliness, misunderstandings n depression...
Thank you. I really didn’t know there were more people like me. I keep myself from real meaningful adventure because it’s crazy right? No it’s not crazy it’s our life blood. I’m older now. It’s time for adventure.
I saw a big wall of books. I clicky 😍 I definitely agree about listening to the explorer, it always leads to a new opportunity. Sometimes it's hard to since I think too much and hesitate, but when I just go and don't think at all it's so rewarding. I also get spurts of anger towards immorality. Honestly it feels like our type has a rogue commander lol
OMG. The getting angry every so often and keeping it in is SUCH a struggle lol especially being angry at people who upset other people and just looking down at them like why are you such a sucky human being? what is your actual purpose. Yeah it's a work in progress lol
'Level up that explorer character' :D I love this! Next time I'm in a rut (like.. right now haha) I'm going to repeat that in my mind and let it push me to try new things or repeat things I previously 'failed' at and get better at it. I'm also really intrigued by your discovery of getting angry often but not necessarily letting it out, this is so me. Do you have any tips for releasing that anger in a healthy way or not letting things get to us so much? Because let's face it, those situations will repeatedly happen lol. Thank you :)
Geek Psychology, Now why didn't I think of that earlier. Going to you for a psych lesson...or find your channel when I was youngish. My hero is Rational thinking and judging type. My Mother was an SJ and so were most of my family. However, my companion is an INFP and my feminine energy. It was your questing model that helped me to understand why everyone either asks if I am an INFP or INFJ. I wish that I was...you people are really lovely and while I long for fairy lights and quests, I must settle for being only half-human. Live long and Prosper He who does not look his age but is a Thinker for the Ages. I will be watching...with humanity and rationality and hopefully in that order. I will meditate on this. That also helps.
I really appreciate your voice on this. You have developed yourself so well and you are a great example of wholeness from a personality type that is prone to an inordinate amount of pressure and darkness. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and wisdom and for your hope and optimism!
Thank you so much for the video, believe it or not it came in a much needed time for me, those were wonderful advices, it really is important to remind ourselves to let the 'explorer' to take the wheel once in awhile in order to get to know ourselves better and grow from there I love your videos, you have such a wonderful calming presence and voice, its really soothing! I wish the best for you and your family X
I need to just listen to these 3 tips on repeat for like 48 hours straight. lol. I do ALL these things. Especially the replaying past experiences over and over. I get stuck like a record and I just can't move past it or around it and it drives me absolutely bonkers!
For me it helped to embrace my intuition and fluctuating / evolving feelings. I kept feeling ashamed of how unstructured I was and it lead to some awful perfectionism. Just taking a step back and trusting my intuition and how I feel no magter where it takes me is making me very very happy now.
3 things that have helped me (I don't want to say 'better' but definitely an improvement on the previous model😊) - Acknowledging my strengths while working on my weaknesses [rather than beating myself up over my weaknesses while ignoring my strengths] - Seeing things as they are, not as I would like them to be,. Accepting situations and people without judgement. - Seeing setbacks as an outcome, not a verdict. Made the wrong kind of friend? Just an outcome. Had the wrong kind of job. Just an outcome. I sweat a lot too😊 when I'm under stress... Really admire your vulnerability.
Im an infp and only just now learning its ok to be so sensitive and that it can be a strength. I stopped writing and doing creative things because of failure to bring it to light and criticism so i assumed im not good at it and stopped. I feel more myself since returning to my former self. And rather than bottle up emotions im learning to express them through poetry and sketching. Im a 7 ennegram and apparantly a loyalist. I want to appeal more to more strengths as i struggle with motivation procrastination and emotional roller-coaster due to what people say or do. I need to learn to not take things personally and move on but damn its hard. Once im in the hole it takes a few days of recharge to get back to talking and engaging and shaking off the sadness. Heres to a healtheir infp ❤❤❤ thanks for the tips 😊
Ah, the no 2 is the worst (and the best), the ongoing battle of wanting to try something new vs over-analysing protective self who tells you to stop and think. I'm 30 and I must say sometimes it actually gets harder with age because by 30 we know the real reality of the world which makes trying new stuff much scarier. I have no problem trying new hobbies and experiences, I love it in fact, but when it comes to big decisions like changing my job or moving somewhere or dating, the Guardian comes in with a big scary stop sign and list of everything which could go wrong.. sucker
Yes I agree! The last one wraps it all up and is very imortant I think: Listen to the explorer over the guardian! What I also learned is to really listen to my inner voice and do what I really feel like to do. Trust it, leave the comfort zone. I'm 28 now and I'm still struggling with it sometimes, but I am on track now and I know my course. Being born and raised by a single mom doesn't make those things easier for me, but it's my life and I want to reach certain things so I'm working on it. I'm facing up to my masculinity and try to wake it up more with doing sports, challenging myself more and trying to be my own father kind of. There is still a lot more room to improve.
Dude.. I've been deeply struggling about which type I am for about 11 months now. After hearing this.. i know I'm an infp. Thank you so much man. For just being real.
The tip about allowing your past to support you rather than hinder you is really important. I am struggling with trying to overcome my past and have been dealing with it for 8 years. First I was really affected by it and “stuck in the past”, then I let it hinder me and simultaneously tried to avoid dealing with it. Jordan Peterson said that if someone thinks about their past and feels emotional over it, they should deal with it and understand it asap. I am doing my best in that. It’s hard, and hurtful because in many ways I have to relive and understand at least 8-10 years worth of stuff. I need to consider my entire childhood and teenage years and really come to terms with what happened. It’s hard when I’m at a stage in life where I need to think about the future too. I wish that early on I reflected and learned from the past rather allow myself to get stuck in it (then subsequently attempt to avoid it). It’s difficult since the years from 2012-2014 are hidden - I somehow taught myself to forget about it. It’s like a shadow is blurring the event of those times. I can’t remember much because I was in such a dark place. But I am glad that finally I am trying my best to work towards gaining support from my past. It’s a journey of it’s own, and in many ways I think I will truly understand it only if I change my environment again. So I’m doing my best to work towards that.
i am 29 y/o male INFP. my biggest guardian regret was music. i started drumming. ran asap to the metal genre. i got gud fast. i was in multiple bands. never really pushed myself to my limits. after about 2 years of my drumming journey, i got interested in singing, screaming, growling. the whole package. but i convinced myself, that this is a stupid idea. i will never sing, i can't sing. this isn't possible. i was a drummer for 11 years. now i am a exceptionaly good screamer. after over 8 months of practise. i got to this level. and even in the first days/week of screaming. i was surprised, how easy i figured it out naturally. just off of 1 sound example i needed to reproduce with my vocal cords. but this is getting to technical now. fact is. my biggest guardian cockblocks were: not following ur passions AND not working hard for it (but this working part is a problem in itself i guess :D). plus stopping me from even really try screaming etc.
Great video! Thanks for sharing those tips. I wonder if you consider to do a video about depression of INFP type: how it happens, how to deal with it and how to keep good spirits. I experienced really bad depression 2 years ago, when I didn’t feel anything, and didn’t want to do anything. I tried to do everything at the same time to forget the emptiness inside. I told myself I was a bad person. After a long time struggling, I’m coping with it with more positive ways now. When I learned I’m an INFP I thought many INFPs might go through rough time like I did because of our personality traits. In the video you mentioned about depression and your hard time in Japan. I hope you could share it with us. Ps. Your voice is really soothing, and I didn’t notice you were swimming in sweat at all :))
I’m an INFP enneagram 9 too. It didn’t make since to me when I got these to match up. I thought most 4s are INFPs. But on top of mainly wanting inner and outer peace I do have an urge of being authentic. Really looking into both of them it all makes so much since to me and one of my greatest tools and teachers.
Thank you so much for the videos. When I watch your videos about infps and watch the comments, I feel I’m in a true family. I was really confused about myself. But now I’m actually understanding more and more,
liked your metaphor of the four characters haha the three tips help me understand it was a stagnant state of life i was struggling in and give a clear idea on how we can keep moving forward. thanks! you truely encouraged a lot!!!! and it is always good to see "grown" INFPs as you give us hope!
Thank you so much for your precious insight. It's highly resonates with me and understand the struggles. Much appreciated coming from a fellow INFP. All the best! Much love and light.
I really admire your videos wich are always full of meaning. I'm realy curious about how you managed to get to japan and settle there though. I'm 25 and I have that same dream since I'm a child. Seems like that country is deeply calling me. I tried for many years to ignore that call but each time I hear people talking about japan or seeing videos about it, my heart is thorn appart. I feel like I have done nothing with my life. I've spent it listening to my mum who was an overprotective person, always fearing for danger at each corner. She lent me that anxiety and now I'm too afraid to step out of my home, afraid of snaping out of my destructive routine. I feel alone, trapped and weak. I would like so much to go but I have absolutely no money and since I'm from France, people always tells me that if I leave my country I will no longer be allowed to benefit from my health protection and that if I got sick and don't have loads of money left, people will just let me die on the street. That scares me a lot. Any advices ?
Julian I'm an INFP from India and even I have something that attracts me towards Japan, and that is anime, Zen Buddhism I always dream to settle in Japan and the best way is learning Japanese, getting out of my comfort zone. In India we don't have free health checkup and there is high amount of pollution so the chances of dying increases. Don't be afraid just come to Japan. Livelihood in India is very hard where you can't survive easily without being extroverted or working with multi level marketing. Having finished high school (or studying in last year of high school) life becomes hard.
I thought Japan would be way way to disciplined for us INFPs. I am from Scotland. I lived in Germany for one year. That was too cold emotionally and disciplined for me I think. There were good aspects but I was glad to leave. I lived in a few other places after that. I’ve now been living in India for about three years.
When you said, " Get out n fail over n over again until you learn how to cope" i felt that because i kinda already know that's what i need to do but then i also cringed at the thought of being seen failing and immediately i can see all the eyes and opinions of others makin fun of me because im so self centered i think people really care what the hell im doing... Idk it dont feel like hope for me lol
Thank you for these awesome tips. I'm an INFP 9w1 and omg the way you talk reminds me of myself. Even the hand gestures. I'm so glad I came across this video. I am in the phase of having identity/quarter life crisis because I have no idea of where I'm going or what I'm doing with my life. I also suffer from social anxiety so I have to work 10x harder just to get out of the house and talk to people. Hopefully I can get out of my comfort zone and overcome my fears. Thank you so much!
needed this so i appreciate this a lot but more than that not gonna lie , i was distracted so much the whole time by how handsome you are at 35 that i had to replay some parts of the video again. oml XD
Hi, thanks for the tips. I've always hear my explorer side pushing me. But my guardian side is so strong at times. I'll make use of those tips and reminding myself to explore. Thanks for reminding me. Great vid. Subscribed!
I'm 47 infp 9w1 and beginning to realise my mistakes in life aren't my fault. Just come to self actualisation and now need to get to stability and being in a place to make differences in others lives no matter how minor they may be. Baby steps are the key
this may sound quite foolish of me, but I’ve dated lots of different people and I’m pretty young. Not that I treated them bad or had a hard time committing (I don’t break up with people, I get broken up with haha) but half of it was due to personal reasons for the person and the other half was emotional unavailability. A lot of these relationships had me feeling useless for many different reasons. I felt that I had to fix them and even myself. Sometimes I felt that if I put out in different ways (sexually and socially) I could get them to stay. I genuinely felt that there was something wrong with me when the same thing kept happening and found myself in a deep depression every time lol like Téa, you’re so young, it’s not that deep girl!! but it was for me, sad to say. When you discussed the idea of failing and persisting, it reminded me of the fact that though the relationships didn’t serve me, I know that my intuition has become even stronger and therefore I am able to navigate MUCH easier. I don’t get as hurt anymore. And with that, I am confident to say that when a person in this giant world finally aligns with me, I will know it in an instant.
I'm a positive person... But the past haunts me sooo much I mean if I do things by myself, there's this thing... I see my family and friends criticize me inside my head, and I hate it sooo much.
I think you are probably an INFP jumper as defined by the Objective Personality system (OPS). This is good advice for other jumpers ho need to strengthsn their Ne, but maybe not so much for those of us with weak Si.
Don't listen to the Guardian so much is right..I almost stuck with a terrible career choice because of that Si need for clinging to what is known and stable. Finished my MSc, and started walking straight into a PhD, which, in hindsight, was because I was too afraid of hating a job and/or not being able to cut it. And you know what, I've been working for close to 3 years now, and in a number of ways, I do kind of hate it - but it's pushed me, and helped me grow, and in that sense, I love it. Everything I've had to overcome has given me so much more confidence in my abilities and my character. I know that I have what it takes to love my enemy, and to rise above the storms, no matter how terrifying. I probably won't stay in this job forever, and that's ok (it is slowly killing me) - but I will never be sorry that I did it 😊
There's a band called Manson, or MANSUN.. I spent my student years and my early thirties in Brighton . ENGLAND. And I don't know what it is but Brighton had a mystical, crazy vibe and energy .It buoyed me through some tough times . I got married there ! I love it . When I listen to Manson Wide Open Space ..it makes me remember my relative youth. A lot of stuff ! Even a young man's suicide . A close friend . I just think we Have to feel and navigate our way through with belief in ourselves . We are our type .! But we can learn so much from the others . I would tend to careful labelling people . It is not something I am at all comfortable with .
Always go with your Explorer above your Guardian.... Best advice for an Infp!!!!! Love that!!! That stands out to me as the key in this video.... thought I was an Infp 9 too but a test from Erik Thors’ website and further research showed me I am an Infp 7.. Definitely keep learning.....
I need advice. I’m an INFP 1st year dentistry student, I have the grades and I’m pretty good at it so far yet I kind of feel trapped. The reason I chose dentistry is because I’m pretty dexterous and I enjoy using my hands (love piano) + I also love science. I constantly switch between very motivated and unmotivated states. I get to points where I just want to completely drop out or switch courses. idk if that’s a me thing or that’s how it’s supposed to be/ it’s a normal part of the process. Maybe I need a creative outlet or maybe I have to consider something else. I’m not entirely sure (yet) if this is the thing I’m crafted for. Sometimes when the pressures too high, I lose sleep, breakout and cry and it’s an absolute mess idk if this is the right trajectory not to mention the entire process is 7 YEARS.
Awesome, awesome video! Totally relate. It is 3am so I will share with some friends in the morning ( yeah, I got a few outside my own brain ) 🤣 Thank you!!! 💕
Nice video, I think the guardian (Si) and the commander (Te) can help you to explore in a way that will be more strategic and gradual. Sometimes Ne want to explore too fast or without a structure and that’s when Si and Te can helps to gain foresight. I guess this is the balance I try to reach.
Thanx again. Love seeing all of your content....Wish i knew back than what you know now about Mayer Briggs. I GUESS IT helps a lot of younger Guyz now.. Great to fix and finally finish my OWN puzzle so to speak after +30 YEARS, struggling and questioning about why i had cq have such a different kind of view and approach about things in LIFE in general, than most PEOPLE around me....... FINALLY now i UNDERSTAND WHERE all those feelings about rejection, detachement and alienation comes from. THANX and Hugz from Hans
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1. Figure out who you are (and appreciate it)
2. Get out and fail over and over and over
3. Use the past to support you, not hinder you
May Jesus bless you.
@@VeritableVagabond why thank you
Amazing distilled wisdom!
@@walksthroughlife900 yeee thx!
Surely very inspirational! Love your smile
Infp’s really are prone to depressions.. have had a looooot in my almost 35 years now. Sending much love to you all!
What helps a lot of infps through this is self expression. If we keep all of our feelings bottled up inside of us we are much more prone to depression than if we were to "take something internal and externalise it, see it in front of us" (in the words of an infp whose name i don't remember). A few examples are poetry, story writing, song writing/making, drawing, painting, making sculptures, film making etc etc. Hope this helps!! Have a nice day 💞💞
Love and solidarity from an INFP in Canada.
back at you!
It’s so funny how I can feel lonely in the world in the sense of finding someone like yourself. Then I watch this video and instant connection, like this guy gets it. Thanks man
Yes INFP hugs to all of us 😊
We can do this guys!
You look really good at 35, I thought you were 10 years younger lol
It’s true. I think I’d be much more withered if I was still living in the states.
Part of me feels that I’d look older if I didn’t refuse to grow up. lol
@@GeekPsychology whats your sign?
Yeah, I thought he was younger, too, but we INFPs tend look younger than our age more than any other type. So maybe we should always use a correction coefficient when we're estimating the age of INFPs.
Plentiful collagen is part of tbe package of the EDAR geneーcommonly found in asians. Collagen increases skin elasticity.
On average, men also have more collagen than women. Apart from asians, the darker your skin color, the more collagen you'll tend to have (hence the phrase, "black don't crack).
So I'd say an asian/black infp man basically = the fountain of youth. Just look at the Sakurai age meme lol
I may be an infp but I'm also white, pale, skinny, and a woman. I started getting fine lines on my face at 18 :/
I'm always a bit envious when I watch Korean skincare videos, as they pat their face in a way where you can tell its full and collagen heavy. Patting my face is like patting a piece of paper. It's also very transparent. This is random and I'm getting off topic but I think a lot of the claims Korean skincare products make are BS and won't do much, if anything, on natural paper thin skin. Most asians already have the genes for epic looking skin.
"Part of me feels that I’d look older if I didn’t refuse to grow up. lol"
I can sooo relate to that.😊
It's soothing to know that INFP do tend to be late bloomers in terms of their self-actualizations
It's doesn't help that every treat makes us feel narcissistic. It doesn't. It helps us. Just now need to focus on my immense self doubt
Yeah 27 here, im only now getting control of my life. Its even later for so many more
I think it is important to create an ideal environment for INFP to maintain peace of mind. I quit corporate job because of toxic work environment and working on freelance. I also keep a group of friends that share a sensible mentality. It is important not to constantly hang out with people with a very materialistic mind set, they will wear us down. It is good to keep a friendly distance.
Same. I experienced sexuell harrassment and bullying in a school I worked for as a teacher and try to work in freelance as a translator now. In which field do you work?
Danny Sze I just did the same thing and now I am lost. I wonder what I should do in my career as an INFP that earns me well
@@Apricot90 it's very sad that you had to endure that pain😢, stay strong. Nothing is meant to be forever. I get sad when I read that a lot of other INFP's are suffering awfully too.
im thinking of quiting from my job, me as accountant..hmm, but its covid19 right now, i need money 😪
but my infp soul keep urging me to quit
I've found some success on nightshift jobs at a mid-size corporation. They're more relaxed and there's much better opportunity to 'escape' if you need to recenter yourself. That said, I've had some possibly unnecessary drama because I keep trying to evaluate and guess everyone's intentions instead of just taking a more practical approach of just stating when there's a problem and asking how to resolve it. I don't know why that's so hard for me.
I'm so shocked you're 35, you're so handsome and you look in your early 20s. I love you~ another dear infp
Yep So proud of him as a fellow INFP. 😆
I am a 40 year old been around the block INFP Type 9 as well. When you mentioned the "get out and fail, over and over again"; this is especially important for INFPS since they tend to be overly critical of themselves relative to other types. It is realizing it is okay to not be perfect. Knowing that I may fail many times going in when doing/learning something, relieves some of the perfectionist tendencies and staying in the Guardian state for too long ruminating on unnecessary/excess thinking. Ironically, looking forward to failing relieves the pressure, resulting in creative action (hey I may fail in this, let's just see what happens).. Having the Explorer as a secondary function + willing to "get out an fail, over and over again" + INFPs being generally intelligent, I will tell you all INFPs out there, if this feedback loop is developed, you can be extraordinary, because you won't be too sensitive on setbacks. Thank you for the video!
"Go out and fail", "Use the past to support you, not hinder you".. 👏🏽👏🏽I give 1000 likes for this..
I love how you started with 'I'm not perfect'. This is such a modest approach!
@@adamagustus1316 Naa, I would like to read only one book, "how to buy a books-wallpaper on Amazon". 😎
@@adamagustus1316 A quote for life
@@hadasssternberg9965 yep
As an learning INFP and Ennegram 9, I feel deeply validated with the tips you offer. Pushing myself to express, learn about myself and just simply expose yourself to situations to force yourself to grow.
With a quote from Matthew McConaughey, “Life is not fair, it never was and it is now and it won’t ever be. Do not fall into the trap. The entitlement trap, of feeling like you’re a victim. You are not.”
I realized/learned that I am an INFP at 20-21 years old. I’m 22 now turning 23 in 3 months. The phase in my life right now is so exciting, in a sense, that I still am in University because I’m really bad with deadlines and organized learnings 💀 😂 Though I tend to not finish what I started, It’s been a battle for me to follow through and commit 💀 on whatever I thought I wanted to do for long periods of time. I am optimistic and have learned to move on my mistakes without forgetting them. So far, that’s what keep me going with life, I focus more on living in the present, I got that from reading a book on self development. Learning and watching these information and videos really helped me understand more who I am.
To my fellow INFPs, you are not alone, know that emotions change every time, don’t linger on it for too long. It’s helpful to write down everything if you’re overthinking. Always remember, people don’t care all the time (and that’s a good thing! on our sanity 😂 ) and it’s okay to be different 🤗 . What’s important is what you feel with yourself ♥️
Thank you for being this person, and for doing this. Fellow INFP here. I'm going to teach you a Brazillian expression: 'Tamo junto'. It's short for 'Estamos juntos'. This means: 'We're together'. We use it a lot with friends and even in NA people use it a lot.
Thanks! Tamo junto! I used to have a lot of Brazilian friends when I lived in Nagoya. So many good times.
@@GeekPsychology Is it a city in Japan? Wow thats cool!
Gustavo Araujo Thanks, tamo junto.
I am an INFP and have no idea who am I. I just finished highschool, failed to get in my dream acting school, broke up with my bf (from whom I realised that guys view me as only hot but boring). I am confused about myself so much. People ask me why am I so quiet, they tell me that I'm boring and only my closest friends find me fun and interesting. I've been dealing with food issues, extreme mood swings and bad self-esteem for the past 2 years. I don't trust my intuition at all for the past few years because of over thinking. I don't know how to find myself. I don't know who am I. Someone any advice? :(
j4 c4 my high school sweetheart and I broke up by the time we were 18, I completely lost it and realized that I had lost myself in that relationship. Sometimes you need to get to that place to really be able to dig deep. I recommend writing, finding your voice, just stream of consciousness writing. Meditation is also really helpful, you’re able to observe your thoughts better. Take everything as a learning experience, that’s all you can do to continue to grow.
Em not really pro to give advice
but as infp, i got comfort when i slowly learn about myself and accept it as what it is and then start explore and try to improve it
also by writing songs , that also helps me :) but that just me, hope it work for you too
Hm, well people might tell you you're boring but it might just mean they don't understand you or you feel like you can't be yourself with them! Some people just don't mesh well together. So just cherish the close people that do get you! You still have a long life ahead of you, so it's ok to have hiccups every now and then. I've also dealt with food issues and I still get mood swings like crazy... but it's mostly because of my poor diet and ridiculous sugar intake. That stuff is madly addictive and makes you crash really hard. . Being on a good diet is a difficult thing but that could be one path you can take to improve yourself/gain self-esteem. Honestly, I'm 28 and I still struggle with some of the things you've listed. But what's important is that you gain experience from these things and use them to push you forward. Even though you've failed at getting in, think back on why you might have been denied and work on those things! Don't give up on it if it's something you truely cherish. You seem to be starting at a good place anyways. The MBTI world has been helping me a lot since I crashed from a few years of depression and alcoholism. Haha. Just have some faith in yourself that you can become a better you. And explore as much as you can during this time to really find what you like/don't like. It'll help you figure out who you are. :) Even if it's baby steps, it's ok. Nobody in this world starts off knowing how their life will be. And you're definitely the hero of your own adventure. There are people who believe in you, so gain strength from them and learn to believe in yourself! ^^ Hope this helped a bit. You can do it!
Lots of great advice, team!
Mine is along the same lines. When you’re in the moment, things feel awful. No doubt. The more times you fail and get up again, the quicker you realize that you’ll be fine. That you’ll grow stronger from the experiences IF YOU WANT TO. That what you thought was a bad thing actually CAN BE turned into a powerful lesson to help you (and others).
Which is all connected back to knowing yourself by getting more varied experiences.
PS. I hate being called boring. But I’ve taken it to mean I’m just not sharing my ideas.
You're not alone, i'm also going through that, I really know how you feel. I started taking lithium before yesterday, i'm really starting to feel that it's helping me. Look for a psycologist if possible for you to start treating yourself, it's gonna help, trust me. You might think it won't but you got to look for help. There is a possibility that you're bipolar, those symptoms you mentioned really resembles bipolar disorder symptoms or even maybe some other mental illness. Hope you get better soon 🙏🏻
Hi! I thought i was INFJ for a long time and realizing I'm actually INFP has made all the difference in understanding myself more so I resonate with what you are saying, in the beginning, a lot!! My guardian has kept me from traveling solo. Like you said; having that inner voice saying you wanted to go SOMEWHERE do SOMETHING... well i finally got sick of listening to my guardian to stay safe... save money ...wait until you meet someone to travel with... blah blah and I'm finally following what my heart wants- What my inner explorer wants even though I'm scared of it. I now feel alive and exhilarated for listening to that voice that i often drown out. I'm going from the USA to Turkey and I'm so happy to finally feed my spirit in this way. Your video here has further validated these feelings. Thank you for that! Now I'm even more excited :D
Thank you for sharing with us, fellow INFPs to grow as people. You said that INFPs get into that melancholy cycle very easily. That comforts me so much, knowing that I wasn't intentional to be sad and out if place all the time. Now that I know there's a community in this world, I feel less alone and also, I can work on my weakness to be a better version of myself 💞💞💞💞
I always enjoy your videos. I'd like to play devil's advocate though and say that my life has become 100% better since learning to trust my inner guardian, the part of me that is protective of myself. I'm a 39 year old INFP who has always had good intuition about people, but I use to give people the benefit of the doubt- even when my intuition said otherwise- and wind up majorly regretting it. If you're an INFP who has amazing intuition about people, learn to trust that nagging feeling you have about people because it will spare you from a lot of mind fucks in the long run. Our empathy for people can get us into trouble if we do not exercise impeccable discernment about who we let into our inner circles. I agree that putting ourselves into uncomfortable situations in which we can grow and explore is beneficial, but I do not think the same applies to who we let into our worlds.
Hearing you talk about this from your experience is so beautiful, it feels amazing to be understood and supported. I considered all these things as flaws and put so much pressure on myself. Now I feel like this is the beginning of a new journey. ♡
Im shocked to find a similar being as yourself I’m an infp 9 also and to see someone who’s admirable gives me confidence in myself sometimes i feel as a burden to be who I am so I connect with you and I’m greatful your helping us infp find our light aswell
Thank you :) Happy to be connected with other INFP 9s as well.
As someone who is possibly INFP, I loved this video and decided to subscribe. Always been into psychology and love the metaphors you use as well as your perspective on every subject.
When I was very little, getting up after a fall made me always laugh, especially if someone kept pushing me down ... I already felt that my strength was there: in falling and getting up, falling and getting up again and again, until I have no more strength to do so.
I'm an INFP, who, for some reason, is trying to emerge from the concrete of social conditioning, using my intuition to get out of the dirt I was hiding in and to blossom in the real beautiful person I am. Thanks to this video and this channel, now I know I'm not alone.
Beautifully put ❤️
A common thing is that us infps look young for our age. Lol people always say I look hella young
I didn't know it was a thing but def true for me.
Probably because of the youthful energy.
I'm 24 but people think I'm 17... My little brother is 21 but people think he's older than me. His friends thought I was the last born
Lol 😅 true for me as well. I am 28, but I feel like I am 20.
Wtf me too. Im 28 look like barely 20
Nice to hear that u don't want ppl to take 10-12 yrs to find out. It took me 30 yrs to find out who I am, after all the loneliness, misunderstandings n depression...
Thank you. I really didn’t know there were more people like me. I keep myself from real meaningful adventure because it’s crazy right? No it’s not crazy it’s our life blood. I’m older now. It’s time for adventure.
I saw a big wall of books. I clicky 😍 I definitely agree about listening to the explorer, it always leads to a new opportunity. Sometimes it's hard to since I think too much and hesitate, but when I just go and don't think at all it's so rewarding.
I also get spurts of anger towards immorality. Honestly it feels like our type has a rogue commander lol
OMG. The getting angry every so often and keeping it in is SUCH a struggle lol especially being angry at people who upset other people and just looking down at them like why are you such a sucky human being? what is your actual purpose. Yeah it's a work in progress lol
IKR a lot of people in this world suck and that sucks
Ah...true😔
Stepping out can be so scary but totally worth it!
Yeah! Extremely scary but how else are you gonna live a meaningful life? :)
I'm an INFP Dad btw :D Raising kids is interesting.
'Level up that explorer character' :D I love this! Next time I'm in a rut (like.. right now haha) I'm going to repeat that in my mind and let it push me to try new things or repeat things I previously 'failed' at and get better at it. I'm also really intrigued by your discovery of getting angry often but not necessarily letting it out, this is so me. Do you have any tips for releasing that anger in a healthy way or not letting things get to us so much? Because let's face it, those situations will repeatedly happen lol. Thank you :)
Hi there, I m chopping wood or exercise when I need to let some steam out. My son and fiancee now when it s time to get out of my way. 😋
Geek Psychology, Now why didn't I think of that earlier. Going to you for a psych lesson...or find your channel when I was youngish.
My hero is Rational thinking and judging type. My Mother was an SJ and so were most of my family.
However, my companion is an INFP and my feminine energy.
It was your questing model that helped me to understand why everyone either asks if I am an INFP or INFJ.
I wish that I was...you people are really lovely and while I long for fairy lights and quests, I must settle for being
only half-human.
Live long and Prosper He who does not look his age but is a Thinker for the Ages.
I will be watching...with humanity and rationality and hopefully in that order. I will meditate on this. That also helps.
I really appreciate your voice on this. You have developed yourself so well and you are a great example of wholeness from a personality type that is prone to an inordinate amount of pressure and darkness. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and wisdom and for your hope and optimism!
Thank you so much for the video, believe it or not it came in a much needed time for me, those were wonderful advices, it really is important to remind ourselves to let the 'explorer' to take the wheel once in awhile in order to get to know ourselves better and grow from there
I love your videos, you have such a wonderful calming presence and voice, its really soothing! I wish the best for you and your family X
Very kind of you Bizzy. Thanks :)
Hope it helps ^^
We INFPs don't age
I am 23 mistaken for 14.You are 35 I thought you are 25 or 26.
True. I am 29 but look 10 years younger. I think I was mistaken for 16 at 23..
I'm 27, but everyone thinks I'm a teenager.
Yep I think our positivity n innocence, seeing some goodness in everybody makes us look beautiful.
im 24, and people still ask me hows school. They still think im 17 😂
@@sitiatikah3462 gosh where are you from? I'm from Malaysia and I'm an infp 😆. Sorry maybe I'm wrong but now I'm just excited
I need to just listen to these 3 tips on repeat for like 48 hours straight. lol. I do ALL these things. Especially the replaying past experiences over and over. I get stuck like a record and I just can't move past it or around it and it drives me absolutely bonkers!
For me it helped to embrace my intuition and fluctuating / evolving feelings. I kept feeling ashamed of how unstructured I was and it lead to some awful perfectionism. Just taking a step back and trusting my intuition and how I feel no magter where it takes me is making me very very happy now.
3 things that have helped me (I don't want to say 'better' but definitely an improvement on the previous model😊)
- Acknowledging my strengths while working on my weaknesses [rather than beating myself up over my weaknesses while ignoring my strengths]
- Seeing things as they are, not as I would like them to be,. Accepting situations and people without judgement.
- Seeing setbacks as an outcome, not a verdict. Made the wrong kind of friend? Just an outcome. Had the wrong kind of job. Just an outcome.
I sweat a lot too😊 when I'm under stress...
Really admire your vulnerability.
Im an infp and only just now learning its ok to be so sensitive and that it can be a strength. I stopped writing and doing creative things because of failure to bring it to light and criticism so i assumed im not good at it and stopped. I feel more myself since returning to my former self. And rather than bottle up emotions im learning to express them through poetry and sketching. Im a 7 ennegram and apparantly a loyalist. I want to appeal more to more strengths as i struggle with motivation procrastination and emotional roller-coaster due to what people say or do. I need to learn to not take things personally and move on but damn its hard. Once im in the hole it takes a few days of recharge to get back to talking and engaging and shaking off the sadness. Heres to a healtheir infp ❤❤❤ thanks for the tips 😊
Ah, the no 2 is the worst (and the best), the ongoing battle of wanting to try something new vs over-analysing protective self who tells you to stop and think. I'm 30 and I must say sometimes it actually gets harder with age because by 30 we know the real reality of the world which makes trying new stuff much scarier. I have no problem trying new hobbies and experiences, I love it in fact, but when it comes to big decisions like changing my job or moving somewhere or dating, the Guardian comes in with a big scary stop sign and list of everything which could go wrong.. sucker
Man I really love the way you explain things!
Awesome video, really insightful information, even for those who aren't INFPs. Love your presentation style. Keep it up.
Yes I agree! The last one wraps it all up and is very imortant I think:
Listen to the explorer over the guardian!
What I also learned is to really listen to my inner voice and do what I really feel like to do. Trust it, leave the comfort zone.
I'm 28 now and I'm still struggling with it sometimes, but I am on track now and I know my course.
Being born and raised by a single mom doesn't make those things easier for me, but it's my life and I want to reach certain things so I'm working on it.
I'm facing up to my masculinity and try to wake it up more with doing sports, challenging myself more and trying to be my own father kind of.
There is still a lot more room to improve.
Dude.. I've been deeply struggling about which type I am for about 11 months now. After hearing this.. i know I'm an infp. Thank you so much man. For just being real.
Andy Gerdesmeier when I studied mbti first day I used to wonder whether I'm an INTP, INFP or INFJ. but after some time I'm 100% sure that I'm an INFP.
Haytham Kenway we deny it. To be real with our emotions. We try and hide them. But there is no need. :)
@@andytheindividual3862 ofcourse we do.
The tip about allowing your past to support you rather than hinder you is really important. I am struggling with trying to overcome my past and have been dealing with it for 8 years.
First I was really affected by it and “stuck in the past”, then I let it hinder me and simultaneously tried to avoid dealing with it.
Jordan Peterson said that if someone thinks about their past and feels emotional over it, they should deal with it and understand it asap. I am doing my best in that. It’s hard, and hurtful because in many ways I have to relive and understand at least 8-10 years worth of stuff. I need to consider my entire childhood and teenage years and really come to terms with what happened. It’s hard when I’m at a stage in life where I need to think about the future too.
I wish that early on I reflected and learned from the past rather allow myself to get stuck in it (then subsequently attempt to avoid it).
It’s difficult since the years from 2012-2014 are hidden - I somehow taught myself to forget about it. It’s like a shadow is blurring the event of those times. I can’t remember much because I was in such a dark place.
But I am glad that finally I am trying my best to work towards gaining support from my past. It’s a journey of it’s own, and in many ways I think I will truly understand it only if I change my environment again. So I’m doing my best to work towards that.
I love you INFP’s. I wish I could hug all of you 🥰
i am 29 y/o male INFP. my biggest guardian regret was music. i started drumming. ran asap to the metal genre. i got gud fast. i was in multiple bands. never really pushed myself to my limits. after about 2 years of my drumming journey, i got interested in singing, screaming, growling. the whole package. but i convinced myself, that this is a stupid idea. i will never sing, i can't sing. this isn't possible.
i was a drummer for 11 years.
now i am a exceptionaly good screamer. after over 8 months of practise. i got to this level. and even in the first days/week of screaming. i was surprised, how easy i figured it out naturally. just off of 1 sound example i needed to reproduce with my vocal cords. but this is getting to technical now.
fact is. my biggest guardian cockblocks were: not following ur passions AND not working hard for it (but this working part is a problem in itself i guess :D). plus stopping me from even really try screaming etc.
"I'm not perfect by any means"... that is the perfect sentence that presents you as an INFP
Great video! Thanks for sharing those tips. I wonder if you consider to do a video about depression of INFP type: how it happens, how to deal with it and how to keep good spirits. I experienced really bad depression 2 years ago, when I didn’t feel anything, and didn’t want to do anything. I tried to do everything at the same time to forget the emptiness inside. I told myself I was a bad person. After a long time struggling, I’m coping with it with more positive ways now. When I learned I’m an INFP I thought many INFPs might go through rough time like I did because of our personality traits. In the video you mentioned about depression and your hard time in Japan. I hope you could share it with us.
Ps. Your voice is really soothing, and I didn’t notice you were swimming in sweat at all :))
'Expand your comfort zone' - Matt Sherman
I'll use that, thank you ❤️❤️
Informative and inspirational. Keep learning and evolving . :) Great video.
I’m an INFP enneagram 9 too. It didn’t make since to me when I got these to match up. I thought most 4s are INFPs. But on top of mainly wanting inner and outer peace I do have an urge of being authentic. Really looking into both of them it all makes so much since to me and one of my greatest tools and teachers.
Thank you so much for the videos. When I watch your videos about infps and watch the comments, I feel I’m in a true family. I was really confused about myself. But now I’m actually understanding more and more,
liked your metaphor of the four characters haha
the three tips help me understand it was a stagnant state of life i was struggling in and give a clear idea on how we can keep moving forward.
thanks! you truely encouraged a lot!!!!
and it is always good to see "grown" INFPs as you give us hope!
INFP self preserved TYPE 4 enneagram, i know who i am but appreciating it is really difficult.
Thank you so much for your precious insight. It's highly resonates with me and understand the struggles. Much appreciated coming from a fellow INFP. All the best! Much love and light.
I really admire your videos wich are always full of meaning. I'm realy curious about how you managed to get to japan and settle there
though. I'm 25 and I have that same dream since I'm a child. Seems like that country is deeply calling me. I tried for many years to ignore that call but each time I hear people talking about japan or seeing videos about it, my heart is thorn appart. I feel like I have done nothing with my life. I've spent it listening to my mum who was an overprotective person, always fearing for danger at each corner. She lent me that anxiety and now I'm too afraid to step out of my home, afraid of snaping out of my destructive routine. I feel alone, trapped and weak. I would like so much to go but I have absolutely no money and since I'm from France, people always tells me that if I leave my country I will no longer be allowed to benefit from my health protection and that if I got sick and don't have loads of money left, people will just let me die on the street. That scares me a lot. Any advices ?
Not everything is rainbows and sun shine in Japan, I've been there and the cultural apsects and mentalities are very different from the west
Julian I'm an INFP from India and even I have something that attracts me towards Japan, and that is anime, Zen Buddhism I always dream to settle in Japan and the best way is learning Japanese, getting out of my comfort zone.
In India we don't have free health checkup and there is high amount of pollution so the chances of dying increases.
Don't be afraid just come to Japan.
Livelihood in India is very hard where you can't survive easily without being extroverted or working with multi level marketing. Having finished high school (or studying in last year of high school) life becomes hard.
I thought Japan would be way way to disciplined for us INFPs.
I am from Scotland. I lived in Germany for one year. That was too cold emotionally and disciplined for me I think. There were good aspects but I was glad to leave.
I lived in a few other places after that.
I’ve now been living in India for about three years.
@@Lois_Unwordy where are you living in India? And how's your experience in India?😊
INFP here, your videos are wonderful, thank you. I am so glad I found you.
When you said, " Get out n fail over n over again until you learn how to cope" i felt that because i kinda already know that's what i need to do but then i also cringed at the thought of being seen failing and immediately i can see all the eyes and opinions of others makin fun of me because im so self centered i think people really care what the hell im doing... Idk it dont feel like hope for me lol
Thank you for these awesome tips. I'm an INFP 9w1 and omg the way you talk reminds me of myself. Even the hand gestures. I'm so glad I came across this video. I am in the phase of having identity/quarter life crisis because I have no idea of where I'm going or what I'm doing with my life. I also suffer from social anxiety so I have to work 10x harder just to get out of the house and talk to people. Hopefully I can get out of my comfort zone and overcome my fears. Thank you so much!
needed this so i appreciate this a lot but more than that not gonna lie , i was distracted so much the whole time by how handsome you are at 35 that i had to replay some parts of the video again. oml XD
Oh wow, I am an INFP and this video was uploaded on my bday :D
Wig snatched, happy bday
The you have 4 characters personality thing has made me want to write a story about them and use that to explore more about myself.
Do it! I’ve been doing it for years now and I’m actually releasing a course on it very soon.
Hi, thanks for the tips. I've always hear my explorer side pushing me. But my guardian side is so strong at times. I'll make use of those tips and reminding myself to explore. Thanks for reminding me. Great vid. Subscribed!
Great video, much-needed advice for INFPs
Saw you and instantly clicked with you. 37 yo Infp here, knowing what you are talking about and refeeling my own experiences. Sending love to you 💎💟
Love this content - I have been playing it safe for years and avoiding levelling up ….I’m going to get my explorer moving -thank you
I'm 47 infp 9w1 and beginning to realise my mistakes in life aren't my fault. Just come to self actualisation and now need to get to stability and being in a place to make differences in others lives no matter how minor they may be. Baby steps are the key
Have childhood trauma all my life, critical parents, and wanting to be accepted so jumped into a narcissistic relationship so it will take a while
2:05 weird flex but ok.
P. S. Love the video!
Thank you this is very helpful. As an INFP I got so excited when you mentioned the four different characters inside us, I've named mine😂😂
It really helps me know I'm on the right path by studying this. Everyone I know seems to think I'm wasting my time
Your library is a goal tho😍😍😍
that's just a background, tho
@@i--luv--the--universe yup i realized it in another video and then felt sooo silly 😆🤣
Roua Mamoun 😂😂😂
this may sound quite foolish of me, but I’ve dated lots of different people and I’m pretty young. Not that I treated them bad or had a hard time committing (I don’t break up with people, I get broken up with haha) but half of it was due to personal reasons for the person and the other half was emotional unavailability. A lot of these relationships had me feeling useless for many different reasons. I felt that I had to fix them and even myself. Sometimes I felt that if I put out in different ways (sexually and socially) I could get them to stay. I genuinely felt that there was something wrong with me when the same thing kept happening and found myself in a deep depression every time lol like Téa, you’re so young, it’s not that deep girl!! but it was for me, sad to say. When you discussed the idea of failing and persisting, it reminded me of the fact that though the relationships didn’t serve me, I know that my intuition has become even stronger and therefore I am able to navigate MUCH easier. I don’t get as hurt anymore. And with that, I am confident to say that when a person in this giant world finally aligns with me, I will know it in an instant.
I'm a positive person... But the past haunts me sooo much
I mean if I do things by myself, there's this thing... I see my family and friends criticize me inside my head, and I hate it sooo much.
I think you are probably an INFP jumper as defined by the Objective Personality system (OPS). This is good advice for other jumpers ho need to strengthsn their Ne, but maybe not so much for those of us with weak Si.
Don't listen to the Guardian so much is right..I almost stuck with a terrible career choice because of that Si need for clinging to what is known and stable. Finished my MSc, and started walking straight into a PhD, which, in hindsight, was because I was too afraid of hating a job and/or not being able to cut it. And you know what, I've been working for close to 3 years now, and in a number of ways, I do kind of hate it - but it's pushed me, and helped me grow, and in that sense, I love it. Everything I've had to overcome has given me so much more confidence in my abilities and my character. I know that I have what it takes to love my enemy, and to rise above the storms, no matter how terrifying. I probably won't stay in this job forever, and that's ok (it is slowly killing me) - but I will never be sorry that I did it 😊
I’m excited to take these to heart and push myself to be more awesome.
That's actually the most inspiring INFP content I have heard since I am born...
You knew us INFPs would click this video to find ways to improve ourself. Well played my friend.
I love how you organized this video visually so no one has to do the time signature! Not even you! Lol..Beautiful
These videos are so deep. I just want to cry.
There's a band called Manson, or MANSUN.. I spent my student years and my early thirties in Brighton . ENGLAND. And I don't know what it is but Brighton had a mystical, crazy vibe and energy .It buoyed me through some tough times . I got married there ! I love it . When I listen to Manson Wide Open Space ..it makes me remember my relative youth. A lot of stuff ! Even a young man's suicide . A close friend . I just think we Have to feel and navigate our way through with belief in ourselves . We are our type .! But we can learn so much from the others . I would tend to careful labelling people . It is not something I am at all comfortable with .
This talk helped me understand why I’m so triggered! I’ve always been inpatient with those who don’t consider others and the big picture...🤯
Always go with your Explorer above your Guardian.... Best advice for an Infp!!!!! Love that!!! That stands out to me as the key in this video.... thought I was an Infp 9 too but a test from Erik Thors’ website and further research showed me I am an Infp 7.. Definitely keep learning.....
This video was insightful and meaningful and then we took a turn with the sweat LOLOLOLOL
I need advice. I’m an INFP 1st year dentistry student, I have the grades and I’m pretty good at it so far yet I kind of feel trapped. The reason I chose dentistry is because I’m pretty dexterous and I enjoy using my hands (love piano) + I also love science. I constantly switch between very motivated and unmotivated states. I get to points where I just want to completely drop out or switch courses. idk if that’s a me thing or that’s how it’s supposed to be/ it’s a normal part of the process. Maybe I need a creative outlet or maybe I have to consider something else. I’m not entirely sure (yet) if this is the thing I’m crafted for. Sometimes when the pressures too high, I lose sleep, breakout and cry and it’s an absolute mess idk if this is the right trajectory not to mention the entire process is 7 YEARS.
thank you so much! you are so simple to explain it! great job! love your videos!
I have had that same exact tapestry for years, seeing another INFP with it cannot be a coincidence lol
Awesome, awesome video! Totally relate. It is 3am so I will share with some friends in the morning ( yeah, I got a few outside my own brain ) 🤣 Thank you!!! 💕
You’re amazing I truly appreciate this video so much haven’t learned so much from one video in a while
The background is so beautiful. It's a wallpaper right?
Yarp
Tip number 2 sounds terrifying
i cannot thank you enough, literally. Thank you so much!!! ^^
That last part was soooo funny!!! 😂 INFP Here!!
Nice video, I think the guardian (Si) and the commander (Te) can help you to explore in a way that will be more strategic and gradual. Sometimes Ne want to explore too fast or without a structure and that’s when Si and Te can helps to gain foresight. I guess this is the balance I try to reach.
im watching this so i can be a better support for my INFP and so I can see things from his perspective
I love what you are creating 🌿🌿🌿
TIME CRISIS? I remember that game. I loved it.
So good. I bet I can still beat it with a pistol and no continues. It’s ingrained in my bones.
This hit hard
Thank you from INFP in S.Korea
Thanx again. Love seeing all of your content....Wish i knew back than what you know now about Mayer Briggs. I GUESS IT helps a lot of younger Guyz now.. Great to fix and finally finish my OWN puzzle so to speak after +30 YEARS, struggling and questioning about why i had cq have such a different kind of view and approach about things in LIFE in general, than most PEOPLE around me....... FINALLY now i UNDERSTAND WHERE all those feelings about rejection, detachement and alienation comes from. THANX and Hugz from Hans
I am amazed,my wife whom I was with for 26 years tells me it’s like I’m different people and how I pick one thing to eat the same everytime