Everyone complained about him being too harsh with ENFPS. Myself, an ENFP, really appreciated his video. I thought it was downright hilarious. Bring it on C.S. I'm ready for your criticisms. *fists up*
I've noticed as an INFJ I seem to enjoy being around those people everyone else sees as "unworthy". They are too crazy, too weird. Well, I love them and I've come to realize they are the ENFPs. Their weirdness, to me is quite refreshing. I feel like I don't have to prove myself to them or prove to them I'm "normal". We just imediately understand each other which saves a ton of time and awkwardsness. This makes me miss my dear ENFP, long time friend, I think I need to go visit him. Thanks for making me aware of that.
Idec about mbti, if you're weird, you're my buddy from this day on. Whether they're enfp, entp, intp, estp, istp, esfp, etc., as long as they're respectful, and weird, they're welcomed into my arms!!
I dated an enfp once. She was way too extraverted for me. I just wanted to spend time with her, but all she wanted to do was to get me to spend time with her in a group. I guess she wanted to show me off in a way because she cares about status. She would try to get me to join group video calls with a bunch of people I have never met all the time. It was just exhausting. For some reason I just didn't like her in a romantic way. Kinda wierd considering it's supposed to be the golden pair for me and the affection relationship, which is something I want the most out of a relationship.
@Xubodh Khadka he said infj and intp often marry. My roommate is an INTP I finally figured out. I could NOT marry him. I'm trying to figure out if the man I love is an estj or enfp. Seems like estj. He picks on my Se, but I need that
It shouldn't be a mystery why INFJ, INTJ, INTP etc have the largest presence for MBTI typing/content. They are the rarest types, of all people? They constantly are reminded by the world at large of how different they are. On top of that they're internally focused. So where the outward focused and less rare crowds constantly see themselves represented in the world around them? Thus not needing to figure out "why they are different" or anything? The rarer and internally focused types do. And they find eachother online. What, you expected a bunch of extroverts to sit at their computer, alone in their room, researching MBTI? When they would rather be going out and interacting with other people who are like them?
ENFP - omg, I like you so much!! INTJ - plenty of topics to discuss, but can't help finding your intentions suspicious ISTP - please teach me stuff! ISFP - the more I know you, the less I understand you ENTJ - why would I ever do this to myself... ISFJ - there is such a thing as too nice... but very helpful! ISTJ - first impression: great, interesting, funny; second impression: coward ENTP - somehow you make me do things I would never do (or even entertain the idea of it) otherwise INFJ - always nice to meet a fellow delusionist, you're basically me 10 years ago ESTJ - don't know how to act around you exactly, but I don't dislike you ESFJ - you're my friend, I want to help you see your needs for once ESTP - stay at a distance please INTP - you're smart, but seem inaccessible ESFP - first impression: over the top; second impression: like you a lot in the absence of a group INFP - 1 hour together: very enjoyable; more than 1 hour: no ENFJ - would gladly be your friend, but refuse to serve as your audience update a year later: I got to know more intps-s and fell in love with an intp, had no idea they were so awesome!
I’m an Infj with an enfp father, it’s so so so amazing how much we get along :) the amount of understanding and compromising we have is unmatchable, he’s the best man I’ve ever met The negative side is that he made my quality sealing for men so high..
I don't say this often, if at all, but you've really helped me man in my life. You helped me out of a rutt so really just wanna say thanks and keep up the good work. INFJ male.
Very difficult life being Ni hero/Triple interest. If underdeveloped, we can be very selfish and our actions can hurt. Best thing you can do as an INFJ is turn Fi Critic into a friend and Si demon into the girlfriend on the back of the Ni hero motorcycle.
LOVE you C.S. for cutting the "infj magical unicorn" - crap! Thank you for calling us thinkers :) As what goes for my experience on connection with NFP types, I observe the same dynamics develop over time: The relationship seem intriguing in the beginning, in the longer run I end up being exhausted by counseling their chronic feeling process. Even more frustrating is that they seem to project a similar feeling process on to me. My preferred types are definitely the NTs - with their ability to think out of the box - with logos :)
I'm super grateful that you pointed out that a Camaraderie romance can work! I've been burned BAD by INFP and ENFP relationships. Yes, those relationships were super easy to start--but they crashed and burned in incredibly painful ways (FP's are masters at making INFJ's feel guilty). I'm currently in a romantic relationship with an Enfj, and I love the stability of it. She's not as "exciting" as as the ENFP dream girl in my head--but she's LOYAL. She's REAL. And she tells me that I'm the answer to her prayers (perfect way to stroke an INFJ ego!). Also, she loves having me improve her! Everyone else hates it when I try to improve them, but my girlfriend just drinks it up! It was really hard for us to be interested in each other at first--but after a few years, we finally discovered how awesome we are for each other ❤️
Omg! You described my romantic life just perfectly. Married an ENFP - divorced 8 years later, too egoistic and punishing and guilt manipulated me a lot. Then...comes "the love of my life" the INFP...magnetism, soul connection, deep discutions, everything perfect until it wasn't. Manipulative behaviour, in need of healing (i naively thought my "unconditional" love will save him)...broke my heart into million pieces. Now comes my beautiful down to earth ENFJ...he is also a dreamer but in a practical way. Also says i am the woman of his dreams (my infj ego stroke, great!), also is happy to learn from me...he is my best supporter. In a relationship for a year allready, never ever had a single serious fight. I love the stability and the healthy relationship we created together. An ENFJ man is heaven for an INFJ woman. And i stand my point!
I'm an INFJ woman and my husband is and ENFP. We've been together 20 years, since we were 18, married 17 years, and we have 6 children. You described our relationship SO well. It's not always easy, but we always say that we've been very blessed to have found each other. We encourage and push each other to grow. I laughed at the point where you stated that the INFJ aren't good/don't like making plans, but they are good at executing them. This is where I'm so glad my ENFP husband loves making plans for trips/activities. Once he makes the plans, I'm in charge of getting everything ready and implementing.
The only positive video I have seen about compatibility i'm an INFJ and my husband is an ESTJ this is so true! We had an immediate connection and although i'm very sensitive and deep and he is a little more surfaced and aggressive and opinionated, I feel that we share so much in common and can meet on all grounds and the communication Is wonderful even if we have a minor argument we are always able to squash it rather quick. The thing I love the most about our relationship is that its a growing one and that we can meet on every level and I love that
Hey! Im happy to hear you are doing well with your ESTJ partner :) I (INFJ) have been dating my ESTJ for few weeks now and I'm 100% in love with him already.. But at the same time I have cried many nights reading about the bad experiences some INFJs have had with their ESTJs.. I dont know what to do and what to believe? Is it possible that this could work if we both are mature enough or should I just run away before I go too far..? What's your opinion and would you have any tips for your fellow INFJ 🙂? Hugs
@@mermaidmary1332 Hi! I will tell you about my experience (Infj) with my current boyfriend (estj). I, too, was very unsure about the relationship since almost everyone seems to see it as doomed from the start. That the ESTJ is too aggressive, too harsh, too unempathetic, and so on. I have doubted my own feelings, thought it was only working because I adapted to him too much or was playing a role that wasn't myself - only because of some mbti-statements. But I trust C.S. Joseph very much in his judgments! This video was such a relief for me and now it makes sense why I love my relationship so so so much. The ESTJ makes me feel secure, sane, and loved. Never EVER have I doubted his loyalty, he never gave me a reason to believe that he could be cheating on me. He is so healthy, productive, and successful in life that I immediately improved for the better as well. Although I will not always follow his rules, I like to follow his routine, his tips for studying, his healthy diet. He listens very closely to my judgments about his co-workers, friends, and family and comes to me for advice if someone is sharing their feelings with him. And he is very eager to work on the relationship when I communicate problems. Overall I can just state that we are improving and helping each other nonstop. Yes, we do have difficulties and if that interests you, I will tell you more about it. But please do not mistrust your intuition when you feel like you love your ESTJ partner.
@@asdfghjkloa5104 Thank you so much for sharing your experienced and for encouraging me with this relationship! As months go by I feel more and more secure that I want to stay with him. I keep thinking that any relationship could have its pros and cons, and its just better focus on the pros and keep working on the cons. I'm happy that you have found your way to live together with your ESTJ and I would be more than happy to here more about your thoughts :) Hugs
I’m so happy for you! I can relate! I’m INFJ and my husband is ESTJ. Everything that Chase said is spot on. I was married to an ENFJ before and we made it work for 22 years but I just knew that we both could do better. We are both married to other people now. I wish there were more information out there about how pleasant the ESTJ/ INFJ relationship can be. The nice thing about my ESTJ hubby is that his love and loyalty has grown deeper by the day. It’s been five years and we are still passionate towards each other. We love being close. I love to listen to him tell stories about growing up. He is so animated! I love that he gets things done so efficiently, I really admire him a lot.:) He pursued me in such elegant way that I could not resist. It’s nice to know that I am not the only one who sees the beauty in the ESTJ( male )/ INFJ ( female ) relationship! Thanks for sharing!
I went on a few dates with an INFJ. It involved a lot of mind reading and terrifying deep assumptions WITHIN TWO DATES. Super intense, it was like looking into a mirror and wanting to run like hell at the wonky reflection. Seeing all the things you hate about yourself in them - No more of those in my future haha.
LMBO 😂🤣 Thanks for sharing that. I knew we were intense but I didn’t know quite how it was perceived. We can cut through the surface and see deep inside someone but our perceptions are imperfect. I’ve been wrong about someone more than once. But not usually 😅😃
Give future INFJs a chance! Until they/we are more at ease with ourselves it also happens a lot that people say they want to know this and that and all kinds of advice and then they actually didn't want it and then "we" see how they saw it as a personal mean attack and that hurts us because it means we're getting misjudged and the connection/friendship is severely harmed. Then we (even though it's difficult because we were actually being misjudged) try to restore the peace and go back to zero with this friend and... then they think we're not only mean but also weak and us being kind after the fight is a confirmation of us being wrong to such friends. And yes, friends. Even though I had to leave a few close friends behind due to this, they're still friends, just not compatible I would say. At least when the misunderstandings were that extreme and a regular thing. Now the more mature wiser thing is to pick up on people's belief systems right from the start and to understand which not so true truths they need in their lives to stay sane. But that's more implicit/intuitive. Not a thinking process and so I'm naturally not letting such people so close and/or they are not intrigued by me anymore. But it's good to read how that is like on the other end. Thx for being so open.
Yea!! I've never felt that your INFJ videos were negative. They have always seemed to me to be the "reality checks" we need to hear. So, thank you. I am still interested in following through with a Skype coaching session with you. What is the next step to get that set up?
I am a male INFJ married to a female ESTJ and you are spot on with your description of the dynamics of the relationship. Your content is life changing for me. Thank you for sharing your gift with us!!
I gotta say, as an ENTJ son raised by an ESTP dad and an INFJ mom; it’s been quite interesting. Watching them argue all the time always makes me sit back and eat pop corn to watch them argue like watching the real life Bart vs Liza Simpson duality. I had a hard time getting along with them myself growing up, because I’m always trying to get my way,…literally each one of us want their own way and it’s quite funny. I ask my mom what she’s craving for lunch, and she says, “I’m craving spiritual food” I ask my dad the same thing and he says, “I’m craving a beer” 😂😂😂
RavishingTwinkle I can’t stand the ISTJ Te, it makes an ISTJ friend I have insist upon me to show my work (or inner thought process) for THEIR Te, I can’t stand doing it, however; to make things move along I oblige. It’s really silly, I’m smarter than him but still have to show my work around him or he just thinks I’m stupid. Has no idea that I think internally. And holy cowt the lack of empathy is annoying on top of their Si-Te focus. Very cancerous to Ni-Fe-Ti. I’m future looking he looks at the past more. I can understand his way of thinking, but he just doesn’t want to see my way and it sucks because we have soo much to learn from each other. Well developed ISTJ can really help us INFJ grow because we're very different and they have things we don't. If you want an ISTJ that empathizes just keep it simple and find an ISFJ. Me and my ISFJ work buddy perceive things totally different, but after we’re done collecting our information, we process with Fe-Ti and usually get matching answers. It’s sooo awesome to learn and strengthen my weaknesses through ISFJ friendship. ISTJs, yall need to understand that Te is such a drag and annoyance for Ti. ISFJ and ISTJ have poor intuition and it's readily apparent; my ISTJ buddy doesn’t even realize that in himself. He clearly attaches to me because I have gifts he wants, to fill his weaknesses, but because he’s such a shitty person I don’t let him have what I have to make him better. ISTJs can go screw themselves
@@paradigmshift7541 I'm an INFJ with an ISTJ brother and ISTJ friend. I can see lots of similarities, never got on well with brother who is selfish, shallow and dimsissive of me. He assumes that because I think differently and live differently I am inferior, they can be so narrow-minded it's intrue. If you try talking in any depth they shut off, they're not interested. They can also be very cold, don't care much for what others think. I think both my parents were/are S types, so felt like an alien in my family (not uncommon for us). Wish I knew some/more N types. I'm close to an ESFJ but there's a distinct lack of depth there also, not in character but interests, they're very conventional, I'm quietly bonkers ;- ). I want an ENFP woman!
I met an absolutely amazing ENFP at work and she’s like a godsend!! It’s true it’s a great friendship match made in heaven. I literally can tell her anything about myself and she’s like the best person ever. We talk about everything ❤️
Wow. I’m an INFJ female in a 10.5 year relationship with an ISTJ male. You nailed it 100%! It’s actually freaky. You pinpointed the EXACT things we struggle with, with even the WHYs being dead on. It’s one thing to know what we struggle with but what you said about the INFJ worrying about giving the ISTJ a bad experience stunned me! This is sooo true for me. Get out of my thoughts and feelings, dude ;)
@Jane Same here. Infj woman married to istj man. It's interesting right lol. We do have a couple of trouble spots. But we get along great. He accepts my weirdness and I let him play drill sargeant sometimes. So it works lol. I think key factors for the success of this marriage... At least for me... Is that I'm safe with him and he has an awesome sense of humor. And I add some spice to his vanilla life and know what he needs without him having to say it.
I actually dated an ESTP years ago for about 10 years. We never actually got seriously mad at each other, but it was like constantly dueling. He was constantly delegating all the responsibilities to me to fix all the messes he got himself into. I never accused him of cheating but it turned out that he did end up cheating and living double lives with 2 families. He always thought I was dumb about physical work and fixing things and I always saw him as clueless when it comes to life decisions and priorities. The two best relationships I've had were actually ENFPs. It was like they'd know how I felt and how to treat me just looking at me at that moment.
You’d be surprised how well an INFJ gets along with an ISTJ. Before, I was advised to avoid close ISTJ relationships, but it’s not difficult to get along with them. A good portion of what the popular TH-camr INFJs say is not accurate or not even relevant to functions, which I am now realizing.
Clicked with an ENFP (INFJ) recently and came directly to these videos on compatibility. Just so there are any skeptics or newbies. This content is brilliant, dependable, and accurate. It's so cool to learn that we do not all have to "click" naturally we are drawn to specific types based on our own psyche, that removes the burden of accommodating certain types.
I've just seen a couple of your videos and I'm truly amazed by your knowledge, not only concerning my type (INFJ) but all of them. It's fairly often spot on, and the examples are fun on top, I laughed a lot watching the videos. You really got me when you mentioned the Ghost in the Shell song Inner Universe - I've always wondered why I'd love this trilingual cyberpunk song so much. Well, it's probably... my mind in the form of music... I guess :-) I love to play it at full blast, just letting my mind float in it... Thank you for all of this content. As someone who has discovered the MBTI quite recently (in my early 40s), I find it truly useful, sometimes tough, but eye-opening really.
im an infj in love with an istp... i think it works bc i was with an infp for a long time and essentially got that out of my system lol, so i dont need him to be metaphysical with me, i figured it all out and now it feels so fresh to absorb extraverted sensing energy... i can learn how to improve my most inferior function by being around him, and help him sort out his emotional issues he has no clue how to work through. also, the combination of my insight and idealism and his productivity in the present moment is the perfect formula for making amazing things happen. im the artist, hes the artisan/handyman/inventor, basically he helps me implement my ideas!
@Hana Caruso thats ok. 😊 but the universe is infinite. its silly to think its impossible for 2 types to attract, no matter what lol. and again... opposites attract sooo im not sure why it seems so strange. yin yang. everything is a duality.
I’m so happy for you! My experience was different, Chase was on point regarding my situation, I’m an INFJ who was in a long distance relationship with an ISTP for 3 years.. I was fascinated by his Ti/Se. He was attracted to me physically, spiritually and mentally. Unfortunately, he became extremely paranoid and was always accusing me of cheating. He didn’t want me to put on makeup ,dress up or go out after dark. He said that he didn’t understand why pretty women needed all that extra attention. He said that he was always on me because I was one of the good girls and he didn’t want me to change into something bad. I loved him so much and tried to do everything he asked of me to a certain degree. Even so, he would be nice one moment and then flip out all of a sudden. I knew I was being stupid for allowing him to bring such turbulence into my life but I still kept trying to figure out a plan that would make things better. He started noticing that my SE was not something that I could have on all the time. I’d naturally flow into Ni. He would tell me to stop staring at him. He’d say, watch where you’re going, and you need to be more aware of your surroundings! It was such a stressful relationship. He always called me a liar and would do pop up visits to try to catch me in a lie. One time he accused me of going to see a movie with another guy because I predicted certain parts that were going to happen when we were at the theater. .By the way, he is a cop who enjoys riding a motorcycle and driving big trucks. I like his masculine vibe. I was fascinated with the things he tried teaching me such as holding a weapon and other skills cops used to catch bad guys. I like hearing his stories. My curiosity kept me interested in what more I could learn from him. I kept idealizing the relationship while he kept trying to control me. We yelled at each other so much that I was always crying. I’ always explained to myself that I was in a great relationship that I could learn from. To be honest, he is the one that ended up breaking up with me and it broke my heart, That’s how messed up I was, I just kept trying to make him comfortable and telling myself that things would get better. After he left me, I saw the light and allowed my friends to come back into my life that he’d convinced me to get rid of. They all knew that he was terrible for me and he didn’t want me hearing what they had to say, For awhile I asked him to come back reminding him that he was supposed to be my friend for life. He said that people can change their minds. I said okay and finally let go. I door slammed him and moved on to better things. He tried to come back into my life afterwards but easily, I blocked his tail, He will never be able to come into my life again. I can attest that what Chase said has validity. If I had known that I was an INFJ at that time, I would have had an idea why things were not working. It took me the longest to learn my true type, It’s nice to know that you’re getting what you need out of your ISTP/ INFJ romance but please know, that some of the things that Chase said about this relationship is spot on. Plus when you add the fact that narcissists somehow find a way to us INFJs, we gotta be super careful. All the best!
I think I would like to try having a relationship with every type. They all sound so interesting. Instead of learning about war we can learn about each other. Life could be so fun and feel so good 💟
I enjoy your videos, I can learn so many different things from it, from the "actual lecture" to the quotes, idioms, music recommendations and philosophical talks, and you're quite funny. I feel like when the INFJ gets familiar with the cognitive functions, they're the best at identifying which type is actually the best for them. we're idealists and we do a good job in projecting ourselves and the people around us in the future, so we do know who we will love and grow with forever, or more accurately, for the most time. -INFJ
"light that on fire and blow your foot off!!!" hahaha. I'm an INFJ married to an ISTP. We love the hell out of each other. Goddamn is it challenging, but we do learn a lot.
The Fe function that is so evident in me is a real eye opener, as I listen to you I really absorb your energy and automatically begin to resonate to your frequency. It's almost like I don't have an identity myself, but then I realized that it is the internal thinking, the ratio, which makes up my identity, and which is the only thing standing between me sticking to my own values or becoming the person in front of me.
It's nice to see you enjoy explaining and talking about this cool model of personality types and social compatibility :) Really clear and helpful analysis and explanation. Thank you.
Noone is perfect... there is always a good and bad traits ... CS .. i am really amazed by your lectures... you are always pointing out what is good in the personality type and also what you need to improve to be better version of yourself... i think we all should accept the fact and all our shortcomings and focus on our growth.
I am an infj electrician - and my boss is absolutely intp. We actually work amazingly together. We’re really complimentary. I laughed so hard when you said they’ll take the roller out of your hands. It wakes J about 2 minutes of watching my stupid hands f up something before he takes it from me and I love it. I think it’s hilarious and it really helps me out because my hands actually are stupid. He’s emotionally stupid though - so I help him understand what’s going on with our clients.
Lol... I'm an INFJ plumber. So, I'm glad that it's not just me with the dumb @ss hands. Lol I don't mess anything up, because my Dad made me a perfectionist with all the ridicule... it just won't be happening super fast, that's all. Lol. I can walk and drive pretty fast because I can see each pattern and all the openings. When it comes to mechanics, there's absolutely "Nothing" that I can't figure out with ease. But when it comes to grabbing a hold of it... It's like an outer body experience watching my own hands, go to war with it... the sh@t sucks. Lol I'm there talking to myself like... "Come onnnn, you mother f@cker!" 😅⏳ Other people act as if I really want to be taking my time... I'm not. I might as well tell them, "Hey, I'm waiting too!..."
Infj with an intp fiance 💕 i love how he calls me out of my bullshit and tells me directly how it should be. I love him so much that I do get offended, but because I understand it is wisdom, then I let go. Same thing with CS Joseph, he goes on long rants about infjs in all infj videos, I get offended but I continue to listen. 😊
As an INFJ and my dad being an estp we definitely have fought horrific battles with each other. Thing is though, I never start it and try to avoid it. I don't want to help him or have anything to do with him. It disgusts me how authoritative he is and not feeling whatsoever. He's abused me physically and emotionally for years and now I know why. Because he chose to.
It takes a special kind asshole to physically assault his daughter. I have an istp dad and he would never ever lay hands on me ever. I respect him but he has hurt me a lot with words. But it hurts me knowing how dads can hurt their daughters like that..."daddy's little girl" my ass amirite :')
20:28 My relationship with my ENFJ husband is also crazy volatile. Like keg of gunpowder and spark explosive⚡️ It’s so stressful 😭 He’s so pushy and it freaks me out. But he just wants to “help”. 🤪
Super productive INFPs often mistype as INFJs because the test words the J/P questions in a way that makes Te leads into a J diagnosis e.g. making lists, wanting to be organised. On the other hand INFJs Te is non existent.
P G because the difference in Te and Fe in both types, INFJs find it hard to instigate organisation through say checklists and timetables whereas the INFP will find it easier. On the otherhand the INFP will find it difficult to follow unlike the INFJ
INFPs are more like Js than INFjs because INFJs have a perceiving hero but INFps have a judging hero, which is what causes the J vs. P mistype disparity.
I've watched some of your INFJ explanation, and never success holding my tears... After years trying sooooo fucking hard to understand my self and seeking value through other people, FINALLY... There's a exact clear explanation who am i, why am i like this, what is my purpose, and TOLD me what i need to change and what's in me that have great potential to be powerful in the future 😣😣😣 Thanks a lot, i hope u keep saving people live and have a healthy peaceful live every single day
Thank you for all ur wisdom. I have been corrupted infj that has only been corrupting myself for way to long. You dont trash talk us and if you do keep it coming. Thank you.
You're totally right, as an INFJ my ENFJ relationship was constant wire-crossing and neither one of us could grasp any thing from the other, it was chaos and odd and yet there seemed to be an emotional connection. I would like to ask your opinion on why that is? Why when two people cannot communicate properly, even though our cognitive functions seem at odds, do we still fall for people?
This is so true. I’m an infj was dating another infj and for the life of us our communication was so off! We love each other and get along and have fun doing things and going places. But when we message it’s like I’m speaking to an alien who doesn’t understand what I’m saying.
This explains why I naturally get along so much better with my INFP daughter than my ENFJ daughter. I love them both, but the INFP relationship is just so effortless. I just thought I was a bad person. (LOL ... Like always!)
Love those first 10mins. And I’ll just put my 2 pennies here on that: The type grid is fantastic. Very logical and sensible. One can make some simple observations on themselves or another person and quite quickly work out where the cognitive functions sit in the stack and then work out what type they are. That said, it’s not just knowing the grid, it’s learning the functions and the attitudes of each of the cognitive spectra. Yeah I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately. The MBTI tests are total bs. I mean, I’ve tested a bunch of times and I’ve come out INFP, ENFP, INTP... and, these results have been TOTALLY worthless in practical terms. Like Chase says, your 4 letters are just a title. The title has a whole lot of information encoded in it - BINGE ON THESE LECTURES. I am an INFJ. Fantastic to finally have that understanding of myself, and the process of self-analysis has been a great experience.
Cognitive function wise, I agree with everything so far! I like to make things work and learn from others though so that I can get the most out of my interactions. I am proud to say that my friend group includes INFJ (me+another!), ENFP, INTP ENFJ, INFP, ESTP, ISTP and it gives this equilibrium of chaotic, fun, and sweet at the same time :-D My INFP friend is such a huge reason to why I developed healthier mindsets and strategies when it came to Ni-Ti loops etc, because talking to him really made me feel super embarrassed whenever he seemed so cool and positive when I vented to him, that eventually his words always ingrained in my mind and talking to others (especially ISTPs) was so much easier. The support of my ENTP brother is also why I'm able to be more communicative and confrontational at a cool and rational perspective. Because of my many and important friends, I have grown so much so quickly since the first days I've met them, that frequently I'll get the compliment of being inspirational and overall they tell me they are proud of me :-)
Yay it was so great that I wouldn't mind another fifty minutes or maybe one hour ehehehe. Thank you so much, your lectures are the most useful and reliable to me, makes me really happy.
Thank you very much C.S. Joseph you saved my life, every thing is connected now, thank you, I'm not a feeler I live with Ti truth, my integrity was corrupted and I suffer because of the mirror, and my inconscious that I see in other personalities and because of toxic people.
I am an infj (or at least I think so) and I totally agree. I always know someone is an enfp in the first few minutes of meeting them because it just automatically feels easy, natural, and fun to interact with them. That being said, my best friend is an isfp. Though it is one of the most meaningful relationships in my life, it has not been and is not easy or natural. It has taken a ton of work on my end and it feels like he is frequently unintentionally beating at my insecurities (I often have to remind myself that he's probably not doing it on purpose, even if that's what my brain is telling me), so it was interesting to see how low isfps are on your compatibility chart. I'd love a video that delves into the interaction of those two types.
Being in a mirror relationship with another INFJ, to me is the best thing. Relationships are nothing but a mirror of our self anyway. Shine light on things of ourselves to work on "shadow".
I can’t tell if i’m intj or infj I think infj but I’m continuously verifying) and my mom is an estj (I know definitely, this I have verified over and over) She is so organized! Always reminding me of family memories I have forgotten, Always removing chaos from my life and preventing me from letting people (especially men haha) from taking advantage of me. She reminds me I am worthy of love and respect. We don’t always get along but I realize how lucky I am the more I watch your videos and take note of our types. Thank you.
I get more from the negative points in your lectures. I need help and guidance with parts of me that I don’t like, that I’m not proud of, that make no sense when I’m doing well........ it’s easy to be alive when you’re feeling on top of the world! It’s when living is not easy or when I’m not easy to live with that I need to address! Keep dealing us the negative! ThNk you !
Interesting, going to have to think about this one! Online high Fi users drive me bonkers. I know it’s unfair of me, but I can’t shake viewing many as selfish, hypocritical & overly sensitive. However that doesn’t hold true IRL. I have an INFP friend & I adore her, we get along so well. I’m generally pretty upbeat but when I’m not, it actually makes her giddy & she encourages me to embrace my grump like a Sith Lord trying to get me to the dark side AND I LOVE IT. I don’t ever feel guilty for having emotions around her. On the flip, she is always so worried about being a weirdo & I love encouraging her that her quirks are faaantastic.❤️ I get along very well with an ENFP too, her Fi doesn’t bug me at all. Maybe it’s just age as we’re all in our 30’s. Overall, my favorites are high T users. I think I learn & grow the most from them.
I should mention I see majority of online NF’s in general as hypocritical & overly sensitive. That includes INFJ. Actually INFJ’s can drive me the most bonkers. There are some I want to smother in hugs though. :)
I'm quite surprised that INTJ and INFJ's are not more compatible socially, as well as INTPs and INFJs. I have a brother and a guy friend that are INTJs and there seems to be a commonality between us. I'm not saying this as being prideful, but I know i am a little more developed than most humans, so that could be the reason (meaning, i get along with everyone's perspectives and really dig down deep within myself to solve it if a fight ever occurs). But the reason i'm stating this is because when I talk to an INTJ we can talk for hours and hours on end. I'm not sure if anyone else has this experience with them as an INFJ. We are both 5W4 which could possibly be the reason, if anyone believes in the enneagram affecting your life. This video actually makes so much sense, so thank you for making it. On a different note, for the longest time i've been questioning why many ESTJ guys like me . Not only that, but why our communication is so good, since i was going based off of intuition versus sensing. I am now really excited to see the Work and Sexual compatibility with ESTJs because in the past (even though things ended well, as have all of my relationships) my ESTJ partners kind of made me feel trapped, like they wanted a family and to settle down, whilst feeling as though I needed freedom and fun times. Therefore, I'm unsure other than friendshipwise if the compatibility lingers based upon your structured perspective. Anyways, in my own opinion, people are so complex that most people maybe aren't right romantically. Sorry if my writing jumps to points, keep up the good and hard work!
Stephanie Rose. I see you wrote this a year ago but to answer your question from my own experience I found I could talk for hours with a INTJ but later you rea
Stephanie Rose. Sorry about the above. Something went wrong with TH-cam. I wanted to say that my experience with INTJs is we could talk for hours and I felt heard but later I realized they were holding back and they lack empathy. ☮️
This video made me really appreciate how intelligent you are. Your elaboration on your mentor experience shed some light on my one ENTP dating relationship. When you said that your entire life foundation was predicated upon lies, it hit me - that was exactly what was going on with my ENTP! So, maybe I've had the misfortune of encountering unhealthy/immature ENTPs? Cause, I gotta say, I'm kinda liking you in this video, sarcastic wit and all. I still think you should be a little gentler in the "Who are INFJs" video though. LOL ;-) PS - Thank you for the incredibly thoughtful explanation of INFJ-ENFP. The closest person in my life is my cousin (an ENFP) and I in hers. It's been that way since childhood, even though we were apart for 20 years while we were each doing our thing and living life. When we got back together a couple of years ago, the relationship was as close as ever. That isn't to say that we don't frustrate each other from time to time - me with my Ti and her with her Fe? I'll have to ponder that more.
My brother is an ISTJ, maybe I should spend more time with him. He's super depressed though, due to his daughter being in and out of hospital for 6 years now. He's much better work money than me, which I could benefit from. He runs a business from home but struggling with the sales side, maybe I could just my ESTP subconscious along with my many years of sales experience to help him.
Ugh. I had an ISTP father. What you said pretty much sums it up. He viewed me as a worthless student, I viewed him as someone incapable of being a teacher. Sucks looking back on it because he had a lot to teach.
I've been getting into MTBI videos, saw 3 in a row that were like "Love letter to INFJs" and started getting bored, I appreciate the breakdown + criticism here
I find myself drawn to ISTJs for the mutual benefit we can bring each other. Dated an ESTP narcissist for 2.5 years and I have steeled myself. I seek growth from my romantic partners, and I value integrity and loyalty. My only fear with an ISTJ is that they will not be able to keep up with me after I mirror their workflow and become a literal force of nature.
This was the first time I have watched one of your videos thanks to someone linking it in an INFJ group this morning. I have to say I am really impressed and loved the way you explained things in such a clear way that makes sense. I look forward to diving into your back catalog of videos now. It also explains why I have always felt an affinity for ESTJs despite the normal protests of how awful they are in INFJ groups.
INFJ here, It’s sometimes killing me when my parents are istj and Isfj. They like to call me stupid. But in fact , that makes them look dumb to me. They are good at practical daily stuff yes and always stop me from handling things like I can’t live on my own. Ok I know they care but care too much sometimes
I’m an INFJ who married an ISTP, ask me how that went… lol. I just couldn’t get out of the stupid zone with him or make him see me as competent even though I put in a lot of care and effort to go above and beyond to do a good job in everything I did for him. I was able to admire the ways he was different than me but I didn’t get the same respect for my beliefs and strengths. Idk why I tried so hard to prove my worth to someone when I am already worthy of being loved and appreciated. That was painful and exhausting to say the least.
Can relate as I once had an istp friend while attending uni. Ultimately, the friendship dissolved for the very same reasons you mentioned. I learned a lot from them, but respectfully, I’m glad it’s over.
I have infj colleague with estp focused ...daammnnn I respect her so much and we do get along.I know some other infjs I usually didn't get along with (because I describe most of them as fake that included my ex-crush) until I met her. Maybe we're both mature in our own way. Regardless, we do learnt each other. She inspires to validate infp demon and be more affliative towards people . I appreciate her.
I had a huge falling out with another INFJ a few years back where we were going around turning people against each other, trying to get people on our side. She’s now one of my good friends because we both stayed close with an INFP who got sick of us fighting. We still fight sometimes, but we’ve developed a mutual respect for each other.
How can we INFJs protect ourselves when we know very little of what others are thinking, and not much about their intentions? What comes to mind for me is asking them, using our logic and asking others with Te and Ne... I would love to know how to strengthen the bottom 2, or 4, functions. Lol. I'm sure you have this on your video list, if I'm really patient. ☺ It's just so hard to wait when this stuff is so helpful.
I studied body language. Gave a greater verfication for truth. Manipulation, lie and intent detection. Plus it engages that inferior Se. Keeps you grounded and satisfies the want for what is really happening.
Could not agree more about the tests, and the fact that the letters are merely a representation of something much more complicated. I spent a lot of time in social media MBTI groups, and can tell you most INFJ in said groups are either mistyped, or too busy being unicorns to care to be educated. They also suppose every good quality of every type into themselves. I suspect most are mistyped ISFP but they refuse to believe it due to "sensor bias." They also talk on about how their best relationship ever was with fellow INFJs, haha. Most groups focus largely on traits and behavior, and not functions. Also, I laughed at "Twilight Sparkle (is that even a legit Little Pony?)." You must have daughters.
It's interesting that you brought up the relationship compatibility between ESTP and INFJ. You do tend to explain all the benefits that INFJs reap, but I want to know, what to ESTJs get out of the deal, or what kind of things do they see in the INFJs?
But the reason I’m seeking this on the internet is for a reason you already know, and speak of, we feel, apparently, “exceptionally misunderstood” which feels genuinely, self absorbed to even type, even if there is some truth to it. And I am in no way a dainty flower, so I appreciate you mentioning this, because while it is true that I feel this genuine empathy, it isn’t the same as pity, or sympathy. Those two seem to bring out the dainty, flowery types. They are pushovers, in a sense. And I was a pushover as a child, but it affected me deeply, the way I felt about myself, and the way I felt that this type of person, or behavior is so dysfunctional for the person being pushed over, and the ones doing the pushing. People ask for what they get, and so did I. I think INFJs have a line, and when it is crossed, at least speaking for myself, I get what it is I’m dealing with and sort of act according to what’s best for both of us. It isn’t best for someone needy, to be enabled. I wouldn’t have wanted anyone to enable this in me when I was this way. It certainly didn’t help me. What helped me was to take responsibility for my own behavior, and practice what I preached. If others can get by, so can I.
Yes I make my enfp husband uncomfortable - pressing him to be his best self, since he is good @ so many things. I dumped him for a few months bc I felt he lacked ambition. I realized he's my best friend afterward & we reunited.
My sister that I am close to is an ENFP and that is our relationship exactly. Also, my two bf's are INFP's, one is male and one is female. That is our relationships too.
I'm not sure why ISTP is not the most compatible with INFJ. I haven't seen much on that compatiblity. I know a few that I had initially mistaken for extroverted intuitives because they are so loud and direct but they really follow my To explainations better than most, but after watching the ISTP videos I'm certain they are definitely ISTP. After studying their functions and our interactions I've noticed we understand each other's Ti and Ni reasoning. We can have great insightful conversations that I've noticed they don't seem to have with other types. I love learning from their Se parent and they learn from my Fe parent. They seem to respect my Ni and Ti and I get theirs too. It's kind of an amusing interaction with them. I hear others say they are jerks, but they seem to act differently with INFJs, it's like they know we have Ti and Ni too and often just give a smirk without saying anything and we get it. My Ni is full of ideas I want to create but have trouble figuring out how to physically create them in real life. The ISTPs I know love the challenge of trying to create or build things from my ideas. It's like I aspire to improve my Se and they love teaching Se. ISTPs can ay tines be oblivious of how others feel but somehow can tell what I'm feeling just by looking at me. I would often take them aside to explain to them how others seem to be feeling or they shouldn't say something that way and they seem to really appreciate when I tell them. It's like they like my Fe parent teaching them Fe. When we're hanging out together it's like we're both learning, having fun and reading each other easily. I wonder if other types have a compatiblity where the parent functions teach the 4th function and hero and child are reversed. I get along well with ENFPs but they really don't follow my Ti like ISTPs do. Another thing is the ISTPs I know seem to question their own intelligence because although you can give them a pile of junk metal and they'll turn it into a car and be driving it next week, they don't typically do well in school. INFJs recognize their Ti and Ni intelligence and really admire their Se. It's like we tend to see each other as incredibly smart and useful in different way. They have been my most loyal long time friends that have never done anything wrong to me and never disrespected me in any way. It's a very interesting compatibility.
@@eneopopa3145 I'm not sure if this is what you mean, but I'm learning about wood working to fix things up around the house and create my own unique design ideas. I'm also learning about Biotechnology in college and use it to help people I know with mystery illnesses know which lab tests to order to help find the root of their problems. Most people don't tell the doctors the right information in order for them to know which tests to likely order and the doctors don't know their personal habits, so there's been times I've recognized relevant patterns that the person didn't think was relevant and never thought to mention to their doctor. Sometimes something is not anormal unless paired with something else seemingly normal, but the 2 are not normal together, then you know it's relevant.
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An an ENFP the INFJ im with, we actually met once as kids and met each other only 2 years ago as adults and we both like knew/felt we've met before but couldnt figure out how or where to save our lives until a couple days ago! It was exciting, and sparks flew instantly, however we're both tuburlant people mostly due to our upbrings and personsl experiences, him more so than I in all honesty. He was deep into the corruption vice when we reconnected and honestly we both realized we shouldnt have waited longer to be in a intimate relationship but that didnt happen unfortunately. I was doing my best to get him to take care of his psychical body, aka stop drinking a bottle of vodka every single day, and i realize now he interpted that as me not listening properly and trying to change him in a negstive way! Tbh when we reconnected it was like we had swapped personality types at that time. He was always wanting to party and feel good in every sense of the word, while i was ready to move in together, get married, and have a family, work out together, etc. We got into a BAD psychical altercation bc of these factors and others that I am not at liberty say. I had to leave him completely for a week or so in order to lick my wounds and process and evluate wheter this relationship heading in a postive direction or not. And funnily enough after i took that break is when he cut drinking out of his life as well as other bad habits from his life and now hes wanting to do more in life than even i ever have! We met up yesterday and today and it was like reconnecting again, but properly this time! Which is the forunate/unforuante part of being an ENFP we really do inspire change in other people, which is something ive kindof always over looked as a child, cause i didnt really see it as a good thing per say. But now i can see it can be and it is refreshing to finally have a man in my life that had the willpower, respect, and love for me to get things into motion and help me improve myself without making it sound like hes attacking me! I love him to death ❤ and i want to grow even more bc of him too!
I’m an INFJ who has a lot of INFJ friends. I have a feeling it’s mostly because we have common interests and because they are mature and well-developed. But I’m sure my experience doesn’t reflect the whole.
@@borisvandruff7532 I don't prefer or particularly enjoy being around other INFJs as an INFJ myself, but I can tolerate them and I love that they get me. I don't know why, I just don't like mes lol
Swampy weird you pair centrist with INFJ, because idealism means you bend far left. I was born INFJ so naturally very radical liberal most of my life, but had to grow from that as that path is riddled with chaos and utopian foolishness. I prefer more order and calm to keep my Ni-Ti at peace. I’m definitely more INTJ these days with more Te and learning more Fi, but I can’t deny what I am deep down on the inside, a damn idealistic INFJ. I still have these crazy big dream ideas, it’s just that Te users have beaten into me that I need to be a tad bit realistic sometimes too.
I find these lectures always interesting. As an INFJ myself I think the reason why we always flock to MBTI stuff is because we either want to relate to INFJ related stuff or we want to understand other types better. As for the first point of TH-cam or people always portraying INFJs as some mysterious rare sparkle unicorns (or something on the lines of that). It does get pretty annoying, they always forget about how bad corrupt INFJs can be, example of two of the worst are Hitler and Osama Bin Laden. Idealistic types can be dangerous if they are corrupted since their ideals may not be good for the world but they think they are and if they get into a leadership position all hell breaks loose. Now for my own personal relationships and experiences I typically stay away from any sensing types except for my two ISFP friends who I get along with well, the only thing is I have a hard time keeping up a conversation with them. Even if we have similar interests I don't know why I can never keep a conversation up with them unless someone else is there. One of my good friends is an INFJ and we get along together a majority of the time, whenever we get on debates about things like politics and it gets heated (who doesn't get heated during debates about politics tho let's be honest) we apologise and don't let it get in the way of our friendship. For INFPs my best friend is an INFP and so is my grandmother who I am very close with and share everything with. The only thing is that with both my best friend and grandma is we debate A LOT. I wouldn't call it exactly arguments (that's more of with my INFJ friend) but we debate a lot about our views since we're both idealistic. Instead of just banging my head against a wall trying to get my INFJ friend to understand my point of view and her doing the same, I can take in the point of view of my grandmother and best friend and they can do so as well. We may not agree with eachother's point of view but we can understand where we're coming from and respect it. As for ENFPs I don't believe I know any or I'm just not close enough to them to tell. As for INFJs being thinkers I agree, we value other's feelings but we also believe the truth is important and should not be ignored because it hurts your feelings.
Every type NEEDS the criticism. The internet is an echo chamber of fluffy, sugar-coated ideas about the types, and no one can grow with that.
I love this comment, dope
Yea but it's not as fun, and that's why people use youtube
I am fluffy and sugar coated!
Everyone complained about him being too harsh with ENFPS. Myself, an ENFP, really appreciated his video. I thought it was downright hilarious. Bring it on C.S. I'm ready for your criticisms. *fists up*
I've noticed as an INFJ I seem to enjoy being around those people everyone else sees as "unworthy". They are too crazy, too weird. Well, I love them and I've come to realize they are the ENFPs. Their weirdness, to me is quite refreshing. I feel like I don't have to prove myself to them or prove to them I'm "normal". We just imediately understand each other which saves a ton of time and awkwardsness. This makes me miss my dear ENFP, long time friend, I think I need to go visit him. Thanks for making me aware of that.
I do love my ENFPs (most of the time), but also discovered the joys of INTP.
Idec about mbti, if you're weird, you're my buddy from this day on. Whether they're enfp, entp, intp, estp, istp, esfp, etc., as long as they're respectful, and weird, they're welcomed into my arms!!
this is fucking accurate. I met an ENFP once and realized there was nothing like it with other personality.
I dated an enfp once. She was way too extraverted for me. I just wanted to spend time with her, but all she wanted to do was to get me to spend time with her in a group. I guess she wanted to show me off in a way because she cares about status. She would try to get me to join group video calls with a bunch of people I have never met all the time. It was just exhausting. For some reason I just didn't like her in a romantic way. Kinda wierd considering it's supposed to be the golden pair for me and the affection relationship, which is something I want the most out of a relationship.
I'm an enfp and I never felt people think I'm unworthy!!! People love me, but they do see I'm all over the place
50:35 ISTJ and INFJ
17:32 INFJ and INFJ
20:16 INFJ and ENFJ
24:22 ISTP and INFJ
27:16 INFJ and ESTP
34:37 INFJ and ENFP
42:06 INFJ and INFP
44:50 INFJ and ESTJ
NO INTP !!
That's why i came for
@@XubodhKhadka recently meet an INFJ. We get along amazingly
Swampy you are the reason this world has hope I’m telling u from the bottom of my heart
@Xubodh Khadka he said infj and intp often marry. My roommate is an INTP I finally figured out. I could NOT marry him. I'm trying to figure out if the man I love is an estj or enfp. Seems like estj. He picks on my Se, but I need that
Thank you for this 🙏
It shouldn't be a mystery why INFJ, INTJ, INTP etc have the largest presence for MBTI typing/content.
They are the rarest types, of all people? They constantly are reminded by the world at large of how different they are. On top of that they're internally focused. So where the outward focused and less rare crowds constantly see themselves represented in the world around them? Thus not needing to figure out "why they are different" or anything?
The rarer and internally focused types do. And they find eachother online. What, you expected a bunch of extroverts to sit at their computer, alone in their room, researching MBTI? When they would rather be going out and interacting with other people who are like them?
yes actually
Dude you read my mind
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Expect for ENTPs.
this.
ENFP - omg, I like you so much!!
INTJ - plenty of topics to discuss, but can't help finding your intentions suspicious
ISTP - please teach me stuff!
ISFP - the more I know you, the less I understand you
ENTJ - why would I ever do this to myself...
ISFJ - there is such a thing as too nice... but very helpful!
ISTJ - first impression: great, interesting, funny; second impression: coward
ENTP - somehow you make me do things I would never do (or even entertain the idea of it) otherwise
INFJ - always nice to meet a fellow delusionist, you're basically me 10 years ago
ESTJ - don't know how to act around you exactly, but I don't dislike you
ESFJ - you're my friend, I want to help you see your needs for once
ESTP - stay at a distance please
INTP - you're smart, but seem inaccessible
ESFP - first impression: over the top; second impression: like you a lot in the absence of a group
INFP - 1 hour together: very enjoyable; more than 1 hour: no
ENFJ - would gladly be your friend, but refuse to serve as your audience
update a year later: I got to know more intps-s and fell in love with an intp, had no idea they were so awesome!
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I’m an Infj with an enfp father, it’s so so so amazing how much we get along :) the amount of understanding and compromising we have is unmatchable, he’s the best man I’ve ever met
The negative side is that he made my quality sealing for men so high..
That's a better problem to have than the inverse for the most part.
I don't say this often, if at all, but you've really helped me man in my life. You helped me out of a rutt so really just wanna say thanks and keep up the good work. INFJ male.
you are most welcome
INFJ
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x ISTP 24:23
x ESTP 27:17
x ENFP 34:38
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thank you! from INFY of course :)
i really liked your INFJ lecture... most everything you said both positive and negative were true and i really appreciated it!
I am glad you did.
So glad that this INFJ male found my ENFP wife. 😊😍❤️ Almost 21 years of marriage, & it gets better & better.
I'm an INFJ. I do hurt people, ALOT, I have to apologise all the time and it's still really hard to do but extremely necessary.
Very difficult life being Ni hero/Triple interest. If underdeveloped, we can be very selfish and our actions can hurt. Best thing you can do as an INFJ is turn Fi Critic into a friend and Si demon into the girlfriend on the back of the Ni hero motorcycle.
LOVE you C.S. for cutting the "infj magical unicorn" - crap! Thank you for calling us thinkers :) As what goes for my experience on connection with NFP types, I observe the same dynamics develop over time: The relationship seem intriguing in the beginning, in the longer run I end up being exhausted by counseling their chronic feeling process. Even more frustrating is that they seem to project a similar feeling process on to me. My preferred types are definitely the NTs - with their ability to think out of the box - with logos :)
YES! This is it!!
FPs attract me no doubt, but those TPs thinkers man! Sexy and Brainy is where it's at.
I'm super grateful that you pointed out that a Camaraderie romance can work! I've been burned BAD by INFP and ENFP relationships. Yes, those relationships were super easy to start--but they crashed and burned in incredibly painful ways (FP's are masters at making INFJ's feel guilty). I'm currently in a romantic relationship with an Enfj, and I love the stability of it. She's not as "exciting" as as the ENFP dream girl in my head--but she's LOYAL. She's REAL. And she tells me that I'm the answer to her prayers (perfect way to stroke an INFJ ego!). Also, she loves having me improve her! Everyone else hates it when I try to improve them, but my girlfriend just drinks it up! It was really hard for us to be interested in each other at first--but after a few years, we finally discovered how awesome we are for each other ❤️
how did they guilt you?
@@aladdout9454 with emotions. They are ethos.
@@Capricorn_INTJ i mean thats obvious lol...i meant more specifically. But I have understood it now, ik what he means unfortunately...
Omg! You described my romantic life just perfectly. Married an ENFP - divorced 8 years later, too egoistic and punishing and guilt manipulated me a lot. Then...comes "the love of my life" the INFP...magnetism, soul connection, deep discutions, everything perfect until it wasn't. Manipulative behaviour, in need of healing (i naively thought my "unconditional" love will save him)...broke my heart into million pieces. Now comes my beautiful down to earth ENFJ...he is also a dreamer but in a practical way. Also says i am the woman of his dreams (my infj ego stroke, great!), also is happy to learn from me...he is my best supporter. In a relationship for a year allready, never ever had a single serious fight. I love the stability and the healthy relationship we created together. An ENFJ man is heaven for an INFJ woman. And i stand my point!
I'm an INFJ woman and my husband is and ENFP. We've been together 20 years, since we were 18, married 17 years, and we have 6 children. You described our relationship SO well. It's not always easy, but we always say that we've been very blessed to have found each other. We encourage and push each other to grow. I laughed at the point where you stated that the INFJ aren't good/don't like making plans, but they are good at executing them. This is where I'm so glad my ENFP husband loves making plans for trips/activities. Once he makes the plans, I'm in charge of getting everything ready and implementing.
The only positive video I have seen about compatibility i'm an INFJ and my husband is an ESTJ this is so true! We had an immediate connection and although i'm very sensitive and deep and he is a little more surfaced and aggressive and opinionated, I feel that we share so much in common and can meet on all grounds and the communication Is wonderful even if we have a minor argument we are always able to squash it rather quick. The thing I love the most about our relationship is that its a growing one and that we can meet on every level and I love that
Hey! Im happy to hear you are doing well with your ESTJ partner :) I (INFJ) have been dating my ESTJ for few weeks now and I'm 100% in love with him already.. But at the same time I have cried many nights reading about the bad experiences some INFJs have had with their ESTJs.. I dont know what to do and what to believe? Is it possible that this could work if we both are mature enough or should I just run away before I go too far..? What's your opinion and would you have any tips for your fellow INFJ 🙂? Hugs
@@mermaidmary1332 Hi! I will tell you about my experience (Infj) with my current boyfriend (estj).
I, too, was very unsure about the relationship since almost everyone seems to see it as doomed from the start. That the ESTJ is too aggressive, too harsh, too unempathetic, and so on. I have doubted my own feelings, thought it was only working because I adapted to him too much or was playing a role that wasn't myself - only because of some mbti-statements. But I trust C.S. Joseph very much in his judgments! This video was such a relief for me and now it makes sense why I love my relationship so so so much.
The ESTJ makes me feel secure, sane, and loved. Never EVER have I doubted his loyalty, he never gave me a reason to believe that he could be cheating on me. He is so healthy, productive, and successful in life that I immediately improved for the better as well. Although I will not always follow his rules, I like to follow his routine, his tips for studying, his healthy diet. He listens very closely to my judgments about his co-workers, friends, and family and comes to me for advice if someone is sharing their feelings with him. And he is very eager to work on the relationship when I communicate problems. Overall I can just state that we are improving and helping each other nonstop.
Yes, we do have difficulties and if that interests you, I will tell you more about it. But please do not mistrust your intuition when you feel like you love your ESTJ partner.
@@asdfghjkloa5104 Thank you so much for sharing your experienced and for encouraging me with this relationship!
As months go by I feel more and more secure that I want to stay with him. I keep thinking that any relationship could have its pros and cons, and its just better focus on the pros and keep working on the cons.
I'm happy that you have found your way to live together with your ESTJ and I would be more than happy to here more about your thoughts :) Hugs
I’m so happy for you! I can relate! I’m INFJ and my husband is ESTJ. Everything that Chase said is spot on. I was married to an ENFJ before and we made it work for 22 years but I just knew that we both could do better. We are both married to other people now.
I wish there were more information out there about how pleasant the ESTJ/ INFJ relationship can be. The nice thing about my ESTJ hubby is that his love and loyalty has grown deeper by the day. It’s been five years and we are still passionate towards each other. We love being close. I love to listen to him tell stories about growing up. He is so animated! I love that he gets things done so efficiently, I really admire him a lot.:)
He pursued me in such elegant way that I could not resist. It’s nice to know that I am not the only one who sees the beauty in the ESTJ( male )/ INFJ ( female ) relationship! Thanks for sharing!
I went on a few dates with an INFJ. It involved a lot of mind reading and terrifying deep assumptions WITHIN TWO DATES. Super intense, it was like looking into a mirror and wanting to run like hell at the wonky reflection. Seeing all the things you hate about yourself in them - No more of those in my future haha.
LMBO 😂🤣 Thanks for sharing that. I knew we were intense but I didn’t know quite how it was perceived. We can cut through the surface and see deep inside someone but our perceptions are imperfect. I’ve been wrong about someone more than once. But not usually 😅😃
I’ve scared more than one person off. Oops 🤦♀️
Why don't you just fix your problems??
Give future INFJs a chance! Until they/we are more at ease with ourselves it also happens a lot that people say they want to know this and that and all kinds of advice and then they actually didn't want it and then "we" see how they saw it as a personal mean attack and that hurts us because it means we're getting misjudged and the connection/friendship is severely harmed. Then we (even though it's difficult because we were actually being misjudged) try to restore the peace and go back to zero with this friend and... then they think we're not only mean but also weak and us being kind after the fight is a confirmation of us being wrong to such friends. And yes, friends. Even though I had to leave a few close friends behind due to this, they're still friends, just not compatible I would say. At least when the misunderstandings were that extreme and a regular thing. Now the more mature wiser thing is to pick up on people's belief systems right from the start and to understand which not so true truths they need in their lives to stay sane. But that's more implicit/intuitive. Not a thinking process and so I'm naturally not letting such people so close and/or they are not intrigued by me anymore. But it's good to read how that is like on the other end. Thx for being so open.
@@felixthecat2786 for real
I'm INFJ and my son is ISTP... Now I finally understand why we have this weird exploding relationship 😏 Thanks for this lecture 👍🏻
Yea!! I've never felt that your INFJ videos were negative. They have always seemed to me to be the "reality checks" we need to hear. So, thank you.
I am still interested in following through with a Skype coaching session with you. What is the next step to get that set up?
email me at csj0s3ph@gmail.com ill add you to the schedule
@@CSJoseph Hey, you've mentioned in this video that INFJ's are thinkers and I'd like to know more about what you meant by that?
I am a male INFJ married to a female ESTJ and you are spot on with your description of the dynamics of the relationship. Your content is life changing for me. Thank you for sharing your gift with us!!
You are most welcome
There is always light at the end of the tunnel for infj 😁
Gaming Skateboarding ...Or is it the train truckin’ towards you? 👀
Gaming Skateboarding Lol but sry, you right. Let’s keep it positive :)
There is a light at the end of the tunnel for all of us my friend. Everyone goes through a different tunnel.
I gotta say, as an ENTJ son raised by an ESTP dad and an INFJ mom; it’s been quite interesting. Watching them argue all the time always makes me sit back and eat pop corn to watch them argue like watching the real life Bart vs Liza Simpson duality. I had a hard time getting along with them myself growing up, because I’m always trying to get my way,…literally each one of us want their own way and it’s quite funny.
I ask my mom what she’s craving for lunch, and she says, “I’m craving spiritual food”
I ask my dad the same thing and he says, “I’m craving a beer” 😂😂😂
why won't they get a divorce and how did it even happen?
Haha! That sounds just like something my dad would absolutely say and he is an estp😂
/Infp
I will run away from relationships with an ESTJ or ISTJ. Can't stand the small talks or over emphasis on social customs and low empathy.
RavishingTwinkle I can’t stand the ISTJ Te, it makes an ISTJ friend I have insist upon me to show my work (or inner thought process) for THEIR Te, I can’t stand doing it, however; to make things move along I oblige. It’s really silly, I’m smarter than him but still have to show my work around him or he just thinks I’m stupid. Has no idea that I think internally. And holy cowt the lack of empathy is annoying on top of their Si-Te focus. Very cancerous to Ni-Fe-Ti. I’m future looking he looks at the past more. I can understand his way of thinking, but he just doesn’t want to see my way and it sucks because we have soo much to learn from each other. Well developed ISTJ can really help us INFJ grow because we're very different and they have things we don't. If you want an ISTJ that empathizes just keep it simple and find an ISFJ. Me and my ISFJ work buddy perceive things totally different, but after we’re done collecting our information, we process with Fe-Ti and usually get matching answers. It’s sooo awesome to learn and strengthen my weaknesses through ISFJ friendship. ISTJs, yall need to understand that Te is such a drag and annoyance for Ti. ISFJ and ISTJ have poor intuition and it's readily apparent; my ISTJ buddy doesn’t even realize that in himself. He clearly attaches to me because I have gifts he wants, to fill his weaknesses, but because he’s such a shitty person I don’t let him have what I have to make him better. ISTJs can go screw themselves
@@paradigmshift7541 I'm an INFJ with an ISTJ brother and ISTJ friend. I can see lots of similarities, never got on well with brother who is selfish, shallow and dimsissive of me. He assumes that because I think differently and live differently I am inferior, they can be so narrow-minded it's intrue. If you try talking in any depth they shut off, they're not interested. They can also be very cold, don't care much for what others think. I think both my parents were/are S types, so felt like an alien in my family (not uncommon for us).
Wish I knew some/more N types. I'm close to an ESFJ but there's a distinct lack of depth there also, not in character but interests, they're very conventional, I'm quietly bonkers ;- ). I want an ENFP woman!
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Concur. Fuck ISTJ's... and ESTJ's... need to die.
Same 😂
Eh, not as bad as NTJs and STPs.
I met an absolutely amazing ENFP at work and she’s like a godsend!! It’s true it’s a great friendship match made in heaven. I literally can tell her anything about myself and she’s like the best person ever. We talk about everything ❤️
Wow. I’m an INFJ female in a 10.5 year relationship with an ISTJ male. You nailed it 100%! It’s actually freaky. You pinpointed the EXACT things we struggle with, with even the WHYs being dead on. It’s one thing to know what we struggle with but what you said about the INFJ worrying about giving the ISTJ a bad experience stunned me! This is sooo true for me. Get out of my thoughts and feelings, dude ;)
I can't help it.
@Jane Same here. Infj woman married to istj man. It's interesting right lol. We do have a couple of trouble spots. But we get along great. He accepts my weirdness and I let him play drill sargeant sometimes. So it works lol. I think key factors for the success of this marriage... At least for me... Is that I'm safe with him and he has an awesome sense of humor. And I add some spice to his vanilla life and know what he needs without him having to say it.
It's like--why people so proud being an INFJ? It's f***ing hard. I wonder maybe we can exchange personality?
Sometimes I wish I am a Thinker. So much emotions. Drives me nuts sometiems worrying about unnecessary things.
@@DemiBernice You guys literally have Ti child
I believe it is understanding yourself more which motivates some?
@@johannaguzman9521 kinda deep. Yeah that s correct
I actually dated an ESTP years ago for about 10 years. We never actually got seriously mad at each other, but it was like constantly dueling. He was constantly delegating all the responsibilities to me to fix all the messes he got himself into. I never accused him of cheating but it turned out that he did end up cheating and living double lives with 2 families. He always thought I was dumb about physical work and fixing things and I always saw him as clueless when it comes to life decisions and priorities. The two best relationships I've had were actually ENFPs. It was like they'd know how I felt and how to treat me just looking at me at that moment.
You’d be surprised how well an INFJ gets along with an ISTJ. Before, I was advised to avoid close ISTJ relationships, but it’s not difficult to get along with them. A good portion of what the popular TH-camr INFJs say is not accurate or not even relevant to functions, which I am now realizing.
Clicked with an ENFP (INFJ) recently and came directly to these videos on compatibility. Just so there are any skeptics or newbies. This content is brilliant, dependable, and accurate.
It's so cool to learn that we do not all have to "click" naturally we are drawn to specific types based on our own psyche, that removes the burden of accommodating certain types.
I've just seen a couple of your videos and I'm truly amazed by your knowledge, not only concerning my type (INFJ) but all of them. It's fairly often spot on, and the examples are fun on top, I laughed a lot watching the videos.
You really got me when you mentioned the Ghost in the Shell song Inner Universe - I've always wondered why I'd love this trilingual cyberpunk song so much. Well, it's probably... my mind in the form of music... I guess :-) I love to play it at full blast, just letting my mind float in it...
Thank you for all of this content. As someone who has discovered the MBTI quite recently (in my early 40s), I find it truly useful, sometimes tough, but eye-opening really.
im an infj in love with an istp... i think it works bc i was with an infp for a long time and essentially got that out of my system lol, so i dont need him to be metaphysical with me, i figured it all out and now it feels so fresh to absorb extraverted sensing energy... i can learn how to improve my most inferior function by being around him, and help him sort out his emotional issues he has no clue how to work through. also, the combination of my insight and idealism and his productivity in the present moment is the perfect formula for making amazing things happen. im the artist, hes the artisan/handyman/inventor, basically he helps me implement my ideas!
@Hana Caruso its classic opposites attract, so its rly not that strange. anyway attraction on an energetic level matters more than personality type.
@Hana Caruso thats ok. 😊 but the universe is infinite. its silly to think its impossible for 2 types to attract, no matter what lol. and again... opposites attract sooo im not sure why it seems so strange. yin yang. everything is a duality.
yes im an def not an infp. classic infj. artist, sage, on another level from most ppl, obsessed with observing them... etc
@Hana Caruso lol no need to worry about that, we dont trigger drama within each other
I’m so happy for you! My experience was different, Chase was on point regarding my situation,
I’m an INFJ who was in a long distance relationship with an ISTP for 3 years.. I was fascinated by his Ti/Se. He was attracted to me physically, spiritually and mentally. Unfortunately, he became extremely paranoid and was always accusing me of cheating.
He didn’t want me to put on makeup ,dress up or go out after dark. He said that he didn’t understand why pretty women needed all that extra attention.
He said that he was always on me because I was one of the good girls and he didn’t want me to change into something bad. I loved him so much and tried to do everything he asked of me to a certain degree. Even so, he would be nice one moment and then flip out all of a sudden. I knew I was being stupid for allowing him to bring such turbulence into my life but I still kept trying to figure out a plan that would make things better.
He started noticing that my SE was not something that I could have on all the time. I’d naturally flow into Ni. He would tell me to stop staring at him. He’d say, watch where you’re going, and you need to be more aware of your surroundings!
It was such a stressful relationship. He always called me a liar and would do pop up visits to try to catch me in a lie.
One time he accused me of going to see a movie with another guy because I predicted certain parts that were going to happen when we were at the theater.
.By the way, he is a cop who enjoys riding a motorcycle and driving big trucks. I like his masculine vibe. I was fascinated with the things he tried teaching me such as holding a weapon and other skills cops used to catch bad guys. I like hearing his stories. My curiosity kept me interested in what more I could learn from him.
I kept idealizing the relationship while he kept trying to control me. We yelled at each other so much that I was always crying.
I’ always explained to myself that I was in a great relationship that I could learn from.
To be honest, he is the one that ended up breaking up with me and it broke my heart, That’s how messed up I was, I just kept trying to make him comfortable and telling myself that things would get better. After he left me, I saw the light and allowed my friends to come back into my life that he’d convinced me to get rid of. They all knew that he was terrible for me and he didn’t want me hearing what they had to say,
For awhile I asked him to come back reminding him that he was supposed to be my friend for life. He said that people can change their minds. I said okay and finally let go. I door slammed him and moved on to better things. He tried to come back into my life afterwards but easily, I blocked his tail, He will never be able to come into my life again. I can attest that what Chase said has validity.
If I had known that I was an INFJ at that time, I would have had an idea why things were not working. It took me the longest to learn my true type,
It’s nice to know that you’re getting what you need out of your ISTP/ INFJ romance but please know, that some of the things that Chase said about this relationship is spot on. Plus when you add the fact that narcissists somehow find a way to us INFJs, we gotta be super careful. All the best!
I think I would like to try having a relationship with every type. They all sound so interesting. Instead of learning about war we can learn about each other. Life could be so fun and feel so good 💟
I enjoy your videos, I can learn so many different things from it, from the "actual lecture" to the quotes, idioms, music recommendations and philosophical talks, and you're quite funny.
I feel like when the INFJ gets familiar with the cognitive functions, they're the best at identifying which type is actually the best for them. we're idealists and we do a good job in projecting ourselves and the people around us in the future, so we do know who we will love and grow with forever, or more accurately, for the most time.
-INFJ
"light that on fire and blow your foot off!!!" hahaha. I'm an INFJ married to an ISTP. We love the hell out of each other. Goddamn is it challenging, but we do learn a lot.
The Fe function that is so evident in me is a real eye opener, as I listen to you I really absorb your energy and automatically begin to resonate to your frequency. It's almost like I don't have an identity myself, but then I realized that it is the internal thinking, the ratio, which makes up my identity, and which is the only thing standing between me sticking to my own values or becoming the person in front of me.
It's nice to see you enjoy explaining and talking about this cool model of personality types and social compatibility :) Really clear and helpful analysis and explanation. Thank you.
I am an INFJ and my sister is an ISTJ, and what you say makes so much sense.
Noone is perfect... there is always a good and bad traits ... CS .. i am really amazed by your lectures... you are always pointing out what is good in the personality type and also what you need to improve to be better version of yourself... i think we all should accept the fact and all our shortcomings and focus on our growth.
I am an infj electrician - and my boss is absolutely intp.
We actually work amazingly together. We’re really complimentary. I laughed so hard when you said they’ll take the roller out of your hands. It wakes J about 2 minutes of watching my stupid hands f up something before he takes it from me and I love it. I think it’s hilarious and it really helps me out because my hands actually are stupid.
He’s emotionally stupid though - so I help him understand what’s going on with our clients.
Lol... I'm an INFJ plumber. So, I'm glad that it's not just me with the dumb @ss hands. Lol
I don't mess anything up, because my Dad made me a perfectionist with all the ridicule... it just won't be happening super fast, that's all. Lol.
I can walk and drive pretty fast because I can see each pattern and all the openings.
When it comes to mechanics, there's absolutely "Nothing" that I can't figure out with ease. But when it comes to grabbing a hold of it...
It's like an outer body experience watching my own hands, go to war with it... the sh@t sucks. Lol
I'm there talking to myself like...
"Come onnnn, you mother f@cker!"
😅⏳
Other people act as if I really want to be taking my time... I'm not.
I might as well tell them,
"Hey, I'm waiting too!..."
Infj with an intp fiance 💕 i love how he calls me out of my bullshit and tells me directly how it should be. I love him so much that I do get offended, but because I understand it is wisdom, then I let go. Same thing with CS Joseph, he goes on long rants about infjs in all infj videos, I get offended but I continue to listen. 😊
As an INFJ and my dad being an estp we definitely have fought horrific battles with each other. Thing is though, I never start it and try to avoid it. I don't want to help him or have anything to do with him. It disgusts me how authoritative he is and not feeling whatsoever. He's abused me physically and emotionally for years and now I know why. Because he chose to.
It takes a special kind asshole to physically assault his daughter. I have an istp dad and he would never ever lay hands on me ever. I respect him but he has hurt me a lot with words. But it hurts me knowing how dads can hurt their daughters like that..."daddy's little girl" my ass amirite :')
Keep keeping it real with us INFJs though. You changed my life and made me feel more confident in myself. I’m thankful to you. 🙏🏾
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My relationship with my ENFJ husband is also crazy volatile. Like keg of gunpowder and spark explosive⚡️
It’s so stressful 😭
He’s so pushy and it freaks me out. But he just wants to “help”. 🤪
Super productive INFPs often mistype as INFJs because the test words the J/P questions in a way that makes Te leads into a J diagnosis e.g. making lists, wanting to be organised. On the other hand INFJs Te is non existent.
manish maharjan
What makes INFJs organized then?
P G because the difference in Te and Fe in both types, INFJs find it hard to instigate organisation through say checklists and timetables whereas the INFP will find it easier. On the otherhand the INFP will find it difficult to follow unlike the INFJ
INFPs are more like Js than INFjs because INFJs have a perceiving hero but INFps have a judging hero, which is what causes the J vs. P mistype disparity.
I have noticed the J wake up earlier in the mornings than P.
I've watched some of your INFJ explanation, and never success holding my tears...
After years trying sooooo fucking hard to understand my self and seeking value through other people, FINALLY... There's a exact clear explanation who am i, why am i like this, what is my purpose, and TOLD me what i need to change and what's in me that have great potential to be powerful in the future 😣😣😣
Thanks a lot, i hope u keep saving people live and have a healthy peaceful live every single day
You are most welcome
Thank you for all ur wisdom. I have been corrupted infj that has only been corrupting myself for way to long. You dont trash talk us and if you do keep it coming. Thank you.
I was waiting for this 😁❤
One Percent yes
What you said about TI overcompensating is so true
You're totally right, as an INFJ my ENFJ relationship was constant wire-crossing and neither one of us could grasp any thing from the other, it was chaos and odd and yet there seemed to be an emotional connection. I would like to ask your opinion on why that is? Why when two people cannot communicate properly, even though our cognitive functions seem at odds, do we still fall for people?
Poppy Stils because love at the end of the day, is a decision to care. It’s a decision.
This is so true. I’m an infj was dating another infj and for the life of us our communication was so off! We love each other and get along and have fun doing things and going places. But when we message it’s like I’m speaking to an alien who doesn’t understand what I’m saying.
This explains why I naturally get along so much better with my INFP daughter than my ENFJ daughter. I love them both, but the INFP relationship is just so effortless. I just thought I was a bad person. (LOL ... Like always!)
yeah NFJ guilt sucks.
A family of intuitives, how fun
Love those first 10mins. And I’ll just put my 2 pennies here on that:
The type grid is fantastic. Very logical and sensible. One can make some simple observations on themselves or another person and quite quickly work out where the cognitive functions sit in the stack and then work out what type they are.
That said, it’s not just knowing the grid, it’s learning the functions and the attitudes of each of the cognitive spectra.
Yeah I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately.
The MBTI tests are total bs. I mean, I’ve tested a bunch of times and I’ve come out INFP, ENFP, INTP... and, these results have been TOTALLY worthless in practical terms.
Like Chase says, your 4 letters are just a title. The title has a whole lot of information encoded in it - BINGE ON THESE LECTURES.
I am an INFJ. Fantastic to finally have that understanding of myself, and the process of self-analysis has been a great experience.
Awesome!
your honesty is crucial to our understanding the whole picture. It sucks when people candycoat.
Cognitive function wise, I agree with everything so far! I like to make things work and learn from others though so that I can get the most out of my interactions. I am proud to say that my friend group includes INFJ (me+another!), ENFP, INTP ENFJ, INFP, ESTP, ISTP and it gives this equilibrium of chaotic, fun, and sweet at the same time :-D My INFP friend is such a huge reason to why I developed healthier mindsets and strategies when it came to Ni-Ti loops etc, because talking to him really made me feel super embarrassed whenever he seemed so cool and positive when I vented to him, that eventually his words always ingrained in my mind and talking to others (especially ISTPs) was so much easier. The support of my ENTP brother is also why I'm able to be more communicative and confrontational at a cool and rational perspective. Because of my many and important friends, I have grown so much so quickly since the first days I've met them, that frequently I'll get the compliment of being inspirational and overall they tell me they are proud of me :-)
Yay it was so great that I wouldn't mind another fifty minutes or maybe one hour ehehehe. Thank you so much, your lectures are the most useful and reliable to me, makes me really happy.
Scart Darcy you are most welcome
Thank you very much C.S. Joseph you saved my life, every thing is connected now, thank you, I'm not a feeler I live with Ti truth, my integrity was corrupted and I suffer because of the mirror, and my inconscious that I see in other personalities and because of toxic people.
I am an infj (or at least I think so) and I totally agree. I always know someone is an enfp in the first few minutes of meeting them because it just automatically feels easy, natural, and fun to interact with them. That being said, my best friend is an isfp. Though it is one of the most meaningful relationships in my life, it has not been and is not easy or natural. It has taken a ton of work on my end and it feels like he is frequently unintentionally beating at my insecurities (I often have to remind myself that he's probably not doing it on purpose, even if that's what my brain is telling me), so it was interesting to see how low isfps are on your compatibility chart. I'd love a video that delves into the interaction of those two types.
Being in a mirror relationship with another INFJ, to me is the best thing. Relationships are nothing but a mirror of our self anyway. Shine light on things of ourselves to work on "shadow".
I can’t tell if i’m intj or infj I think infj but I’m continuously verifying) and my mom is an estj (I know definitely, this I have verified over and over) She is so organized! Always reminding me of family memories I have forgotten, Always removing chaos from my life and preventing me from letting people (especially men haha) from taking advantage of me. She reminds me I am worthy of love and respect. We don’t always get along but I realize how lucky I am the more I watch your videos and take note of our types. Thank you.
I get more from the negative points in your lectures.
I need help and guidance with parts of me that I don’t like, that I’m not proud of, that make no sense when I’m doing well........ it’s easy to be alive when you’re feeling on top of the world!
It’s when living is not easy or when I’m not easy to live with that I need to address!
Keep dealing us the negative! ThNk you !
From INFJ.
Thank you Joseph! Really helpful.
Interesting, going to have to think about this one! Online high Fi users drive me bonkers. I know it’s unfair of me, but I can’t shake viewing many as selfish, hypocritical & overly sensitive. However that doesn’t hold true IRL. I have an INFP friend & I adore her, we get along so well. I’m generally pretty upbeat but when I’m not, it actually makes her giddy & she encourages me to embrace my grump like a Sith Lord trying to get me to the dark side AND I LOVE IT. I don’t ever feel guilty for having emotions around her. On the flip, she is always so worried about being a weirdo & I love encouraging her that her quirks are faaantastic.❤️ I get along very well with an ENFP too, her Fi doesn’t bug me at all. Maybe it’s just age as we’re all in our 30’s.
Overall, my favorites are high T users. I think I learn & grow the most from them.
I should mention I see majority of online NF’s in general as hypocritical & overly sensitive. That includes INFJ. Actually INFJ’s can drive me the most bonkers. There are some I want to smother in hugs though. :)
I'm quite surprised that INTJ and INFJ's are not more compatible socially, as well as INTPs and INFJs. I have a brother and a guy friend that are INTJs and there seems to be a commonality between us. I'm not saying this as being prideful, but I know i am a little more developed than most humans, so that could be the reason (meaning, i get along with everyone's perspectives and really dig down deep within myself to solve it if a fight ever occurs). But the reason i'm stating this is because when I talk to an INTJ we can talk for hours and hours on end. I'm not sure if anyone else has this experience with them as an INFJ. We are both 5W4 which could possibly be the reason, if anyone believes in the enneagram affecting your life. This video actually makes so much sense, so thank you for making it. On a different note, for the longest time i've been questioning why many ESTJ guys like me . Not only that, but why our communication is so good, since i was going based off of intuition versus sensing. I am now really excited to see the Work and Sexual compatibility with ESTJs because in the past (even though things ended well, as have all of my relationships) my ESTJ partners kind of made me feel trapped, like they wanted a family and to settle down, whilst feeling as though I needed freedom and fun times. Therefore, I'm unsure other than friendshipwise if the compatibility lingers based upon your structured perspective. Anyways, in my own opinion, people are so complex that most people maybe aren't right romantically. Sorry if my writing jumps to points, keep up the good and hard work!
Stephanie Rose.
I see you wrote this a year ago but to answer your question from my own experience I found I could talk for hours with a INTJ but later you rea
Stephanie Rose.
Sorry about the above. Something went wrong with TH-cam.
I wanted to say that my experience with INTJs is we could talk for hours and I felt heard but later I realized they were holding back and they lack empathy. ☮️
This video made me really appreciate how intelligent you are. Your elaboration on your mentor experience shed some light on my one ENTP dating relationship. When you said that your entire life foundation was predicated upon lies, it hit me - that was exactly what was going on with my ENTP! So, maybe I've had the misfortune of encountering unhealthy/immature ENTPs? Cause, I gotta say, I'm kinda liking you in this video, sarcastic wit and all. I still think you should be a little gentler in the "Who are INFJs" video though. LOL ;-)
PS - Thank you for the incredibly thoughtful explanation of INFJ-ENFP. The closest person in my life is my cousin (an ENFP) and I in hers. It's been that way since childhood, even though we were apart for 20 years while we were each doing our thing and living life. When we got back together a couple of years ago, the relationship was as close as ever. That isn't to say that we don't frustrate each other from time to time - me with my Ti and her with her Fe? I'll have to ponder that more.
I feel much more confident about finding a life long partner now. THANK YOU!🌷
My hugs do give people superhuman powers...😁 subscribed!
My brother is an ISTJ, maybe I should spend more time with him. He's super depressed though, due to his daughter being in and out of hospital for 6 years now.
He's much better work money than me, which I could benefit from.
He runs a business from home but struggling with the sales side, maybe I could just my ESTP subconscious along with my many years of sales experience to help him.
My best friend is in fact an ENFP , this video is wonderful
Mercury same here.
Hi C.S. Joseph. Looks overworked, but isn't. 🤩🤩CHEERS.
Ugh. I had an ISTP father. What you said pretty much sums it up. He viewed me as a worthless student, I viewed him as someone incapable of being a teacher. Sucks looking back on it because he had a lot to teach.
Super informative, it's like i can visually see why some relationships i had played out the way they did.
Yay! About time😂😂 Thank you
I've been getting into MTBI videos, saw 3 in a row that were like "Love letter to INFJs" and started getting bored, I appreciate the breakdown + criticism here
I find myself drawn to ISTJs for the mutual benefit we can bring each other. Dated an ESTP narcissist for 2.5 years and I have steeled myself. I seek growth from my romantic partners, and I value integrity and loyalty. My only fear with an ISTJ is that they will not be able to keep up with me after I mirror their workflow and become a literal force of nature.
This was the first time I have watched one of your videos thanks to someone linking it in an INFJ group this morning. I have to say I am really impressed and loved the way you explained things in such a clear way that makes sense. I look forward to diving into your back catalog of videos now. It also explains why I have always felt an affinity for ESTJs despite the normal protests of how awful they are in INFJ groups.
bugrom - Eric The evil "sensor bias" at work.
Very true. People really do cling to that one! Thankfully, I think as people get older they realize how silly that bias is.
bugrom - Eric I maintain that’s because the people complaining are mistyped INFPs who think they are INFJs. INFPs being polar opposite of ESTJs
I live for all these references, love them so much
INFJ here, It’s sometimes killing me when my parents are istj and Isfj. They like to call me stupid. But in fact , that makes them look dumb to me. They are good at practical daily stuff yes and always stop me from handling things like I can’t live on my own. Ok I know they care but care too much sometimes
I love the lengthy videos.
I’m an INFJ who married an ISTP, ask me how that went… lol. I just couldn’t get out of the stupid zone with him or make him see me as competent even though I put in a lot of care and effort to go above and beyond to do a good job in everything I did for him. I was able to admire the ways he was different than me but I didn’t get the same respect for my beliefs and strengths. Idk why I tried so hard to prove my worth to someone when I am already worthy of being loved and appreciated. That was painful and exhausting to say the least.
Can relate as I once had an istp friend while attending uni. Ultimately, the friendship dissolved for the very same reasons you mentioned. I learned a lot from them, but respectfully, I’m glad it’s over.
I have infj colleague with estp focused ...daammnnn I respect her so much and we do get along.I know some other infjs I usually didn't get along with (because I describe most of them as fake that included my ex-crush) until I met her. Maybe we're both mature in our own way. Regardless, we do learnt each other. She inspires to validate infp demon and be more affliative towards people . I appreciate her.
Please add a patreon too. I think your info and passion is worth money. I am sure there are others who feel the same way.
its in the cards but I want to make sure it is handled properly.
I had a huge falling out with another INFJ a few years back where we were going around turning people against each other, trying to get people on our side. She’s now one of my good friends because we both stayed close with an INFP who got sick of us fighting. We still fight sometimes, but we’ve developed a mutual respect for each other.
w-why you picking fights with girls tho lol like what happened
How can we INFJs protect ourselves when we know very little of what others are thinking, and not much about their intentions? What comes to mind for me is asking them, using our logic and asking others with Te and Ne... I would love to know how to strengthen the bottom 2, or 4, functions. Lol. I'm sure you have this on your video list, if I'm really patient. ☺ It's just so hard to wait when this stuff is so helpful.
Kristin Zullo force yourself to verify everything with Ti child
I studied body language. Gave a greater verfication for truth. Manipulation, lie and intent detection.
Plus it engages that inferior Se. Keeps you grounded and satisfies the want for what is really happening.
Could not agree more about the tests, and the fact that the letters are merely a representation of something much more complicated. I spent a lot of time in social media MBTI groups, and can tell you most INFJ in said groups are either mistyped, or too busy being unicorns to care to be educated. They also suppose every good quality of every type into themselves. I suspect most are mistyped ISFP but they refuse to believe it due to "sensor bias." They also talk on about how their best relationship ever was with fellow INFJs, haha. Most groups focus largely on traits and behavior, and not functions. Also, I laughed at "Twilight Sparkle (is that even a legit Little Pony?)." You must have daughters.
MJ K it is legit and yes I have a daughter.
Hahaha I am with an enfp. Yes super highs and super lows. After learning about this I try my best to balance the relationship. Thanks prophet joseph
im not that cool
It's interesting that you brought up the relationship compatibility between ESTP and INFJ. You do tend to explain all the benefits that INFJs reap, but I want to know, what to ESTJs get out of the deal, or what kind of things do they see in the INFJs?
they get a good experience, they feel good about themselves, no guessing what the other wants, and have someone they can bounce ideas off of.
I haven't finished watching yet, but I had that diamonds song come into my head right before you mentioned it- it made me laugh out loud. ☺
Kristin Zullo haha, awesome
C.S. Joseph Okay, done! Thank you for how thorough you were! Lots of great stuff. I'm glad you mentioned more about totems. ☺
But the reason I’m seeking this on the internet is for a reason you already know, and speak of, we feel, apparently, “exceptionally misunderstood” which feels genuinely, self absorbed to even type, even if there is some truth to it. And I am in no way a dainty flower, so I appreciate you mentioning this, because while it is true that I feel this genuine empathy, it isn’t the same as pity, or sympathy. Those two seem to bring out the dainty, flowery types. They are pushovers, in a sense. And I was a pushover as a child, but it affected me deeply, the way I felt about myself, and the way I felt that this type of person, or behavior is so dysfunctional for the person being pushed over, and the ones doing the pushing. People ask for what they get, and so did I. I think INFJs have a line, and when it is crossed, at least speaking for myself, I get what it is I’m dealing with and sort of act according to what’s best for both of us. It isn’t best for someone needy, to be enabled. I wouldn’t have wanted anyone to enable this in me when I was this way. It certainly didn’t help me. What helped me was to take responsibility for my own behavior, and practice what I preached. If others can get by, so can I.
FANTASTIC! THANK YOU!
Yes I make my enfp husband uncomfortable - pressing him to be his best self, since he is good @ so many things. I dumped him for a few months bc I felt he lacked ambition. I realized he's my best friend afterward & we reunited.
I like the content man.
can you make a video about what you said, INTPs and INFJs getting together a lot and why?
sure
thank you for inspiring me to pick an entirely different special interest!
My father is an ESTP and my Ti child is overdeveloped so I would test as INTP but I used the grid to find I am actually INFJ.
I don’t understand half of this but I thank you. You are amazing. Not only am I learning I haven’t laughed so much in a long time☮️
I already doorslammed an istp in my mind.
Super Accurate!! Loved it!!
My sister that I am close to is an ENFP and that is our relationship exactly. Also, my two bf's are INFP's, one is male and one is female. That is our relationships too.
I'm not sure why ISTP is not the most compatible with INFJ. I haven't seen much on that compatiblity. I know a few that I had initially mistaken for extroverted intuitives because they are so loud and direct but they really follow my To explainations better than most, but after watching the ISTP videos I'm certain they are definitely ISTP.
After studying their functions and our interactions I've noticed we understand each other's Ti and Ni reasoning. We can have great insightful conversations that I've noticed they don't seem to have with other types. I love learning from their Se parent and they learn from my Fe parent. They seem to respect my Ni and Ti and I get theirs too. It's kind of an amusing interaction with them. I hear others say they are jerks, but they seem to act differently with INFJs, it's like they know we have Ti and Ni too and often just give a smirk without saying anything and we get it. My Ni is full of ideas I want to create but have trouble figuring out how to physically create them in real life. The ISTPs I know love the challenge of trying to create or build things from my ideas. It's like I aspire to improve my Se and they love teaching Se. ISTPs can ay tines be oblivious of how others feel but somehow can tell what I'm feeling just by looking at me. I would often take them aside to explain to them how others seem to be feeling or they shouldn't say something that way and they seem to really appreciate when I tell them. It's like they like my Fe parent teaching them Fe. When we're hanging out together it's like we're both learning, having fun and reading each other easily. I wonder if other types have a compatiblity where the parent functions teach the 4th function and hero and child are reversed. I get along well with ENFPs but they really don't follow my Ti like ISTPs do. Another thing is the ISTPs I know seem to question their own intelligence because although you can give them a pile of junk metal and they'll turn it into a car and be driving it next week, they don't typically do well in school. INFJs recognize their Ti and Ni intelligence and really admire their Se. It's like we tend to see each other as incredibly smart and useful in different way. They have been my most loyal long time friends that have never done anything wrong to me and never disrespected me in any way. It's a very interesting compatibility.
Amazing
Hey can i ask u a question
What is your favorite knowledge and how ur training to apply that in real life
Love your comment lol :)
@@eneopopa3145 I'm not sure if this is what you mean, but I'm learning about wood working to fix things up around the house and create my own unique design ideas. I'm also learning about Biotechnology in college and use it to help people I know with mystery illnesses know which lab tests to order to help find the root of their problems. Most people don't tell the doctors the right information in order for them to know which tests to likely order and the doctors don't know their personal habits, so there's been times I've recognized relevant patterns that the person didn't think was relevant and never thought to mention to their doctor. Sometimes something is not anormal unless paired with something else seemingly normal, but the 2 are not normal together, then you know it's relevant.
@@halilyn4123 thank you very much for your answer
Wow amazing and i love very much to learn about health
My favorite knowledge to learn its about statistics its really amazing
Am thinkibg about the ability of thinking of human brain
Example if we know something specific like the earth is elipsode form this concept can make ur thinking of specific subject different more better
So if we know this we can learn way more huge and understand so many things like
If biology its alone we have some thoughts specific or big but if we mix that with pyshically enviroment it will be another thing way more amazing to create the bigger picture
With this we can see how far we can go to make ur lives better and better
What do you think for my idea :p
Can it work for real beacuse idk how to advance im trying to learn quantum mechanics and im watching them and other videos to increase my knowledge
Can you suggest me some tips how to study way more better smart and last long
Thank you very much for reply
I hope all the best for you
Dont give up and awesome be happy with your achivements :D
An an ENFP the INFJ im with, we actually met once as kids and met each other only 2 years ago as adults and we both like knew/felt we've met before but couldnt figure out how or where to save our lives until a couple days ago! It was exciting, and sparks flew instantly, however we're both tuburlant people mostly due to our upbrings and personsl experiences, him more so than I in all honesty. He was deep into the corruption vice when we reconnected and honestly we both realized we shouldnt have waited longer to be in a intimate relationship but that didnt happen unfortunately. I was doing my best to get him to take care of his psychical body, aka stop drinking a bottle of vodka every single day, and i realize now he interpted that as me not listening properly and trying to change him in a negstive way! Tbh when we reconnected it was like we had swapped personality types at that time. He was always wanting to party and feel good in every sense of the word, while i was ready to move in together, get married, and have a family, work out together, etc. We got into a BAD psychical altercation bc of these factors and others that I am not at liberty say. I had to leave him completely for a week or so in order to lick my wounds and process and evluate wheter this relationship heading in a postive direction or not. And funnily enough after i took that break is when he cut drinking out of his life as well as other bad habits from his life and now hes wanting to do more in life than even i ever have! We met up yesterday and today and it was like reconnecting again, but properly this time! Which is the forunate/unforuante part of being an ENFP we really do inspire change in other people, which is something ive kindof always over looked as a child, cause i didnt really see it as a good thing per say. But now i can see it can be and it is refreshing to finally have a man in my life that had the willpower, respect, and love for me to get things into motion and help me improve myself without making it sound like hes attacking me! I love him to death ❤ and i want to grow even more bc of him too!
The totem part was brilliant!!
I’m an INFJ who has a lot of INFJ friends. I have a feeling it’s mostly because we have common interests and because they are mature and well-developed.
But I’m sure my experience doesn’t reflect the whole.
Where do you find them ???
Flood World Wide I’m in the arts. Lots of us in the arts.
@@borisvandruff7532 I don't prefer or particularly enjoy being around other INFJs as an INFJ myself, but I can tolerate them and I love that they get me. I don't know why, I just don't like mes lol
@@paradigmshift7541 You must be politically centrist because the INFJ's mind is the world's mind. I have no evidence for this.
Swampy weird you pair centrist with INFJ, because idealism means you bend far left. I was born INFJ so naturally very radical liberal most of my life, but had to grow from that as that path is riddled with chaos and utopian foolishness. I prefer more order and calm to keep my Ni-Ti at peace. I’m definitely more INTJ these days with more Te and learning more Fi, but I can’t deny what I am deep down on the inside, a damn idealistic INFJ. I still have these crazy big dream ideas, it’s just that Te users have beaten into me that I need to be a tad bit realistic sometimes too.
I find these lectures always interesting. As an INFJ myself I think the reason why we always flock to MBTI stuff is because we either want to relate to INFJ related stuff or we want to understand other types better.
As for the first point of TH-cam or people always portraying INFJs as some mysterious rare sparkle unicorns (or something on the lines of that). It does get pretty annoying, they always forget about how bad corrupt INFJs can be, example of two of the worst are Hitler and Osama Bin Laden. Idealistic types can be dangerous if they are corrupted since their ideals may not be good for the world but they think they are and if they get into a leadership position all hell breaks loose.
Now for my own personal relationships and experiences I typically stay away from any sensing types except for my two ISFP friends who I get along with well, the only thing is I have a hard time keeping up a conversation with them. Even if we have similar interests I don't know why I can never keep a conversation up with them unless someone else is there.
One of my good friends is an INFJ and we get along together a majority of the time, whenever we get on debates about things like politics and it gets heated (who doesn't get heated during debates about politics tho let's be honest) we apologise and don't let it get in the way of our friendship.
For INFPs my best friend is an INFP and so is my grandmother who I am very close with and share everything with. The only thing is that with both my best friend and grandma is we debate A LOT. I wouldn't call it exactly arguments (that's more of with my INFJ friend) but we debate a lot about our views since we're both idealistic. Instead of just banging my head against a wall trying to get my INFJ friend to understand my point of view and her doing the same, I can take in the point of view of my grandmother and best friend and they can do so as well. We may not agree with eachother's point of view but we can understand where we're coming from and respect it.
As for ENFPs I don't believe I know any or I'm just not close enough to them to tell.
As for INFJs being thinkers I agree, we value other's feelings but we also believe the truth is important and should not be ignored because it hurts your feelings.
Dimply Boy well said. Learn the type grid at csjoseph.life to help find those ENFPs.
enfps are just people with adhd