What Is The Cognitive Attitude Of The Child Function? | Cognitive Functions | CS Joseph
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- CS Joseph discusses what is the cognitive attitude of the Child function
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"Remember children, don't abuse other children."
C.S. JOEEEEEE
Abuse of the child function = #NOTthedopest. 😆
same hahaha his expression while saying that totally got me
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12:51 ISTJ, INTJ
13:14 ESFP, ENFP
13:28 ISFJ, INFJ
14:15 INTP, INFP
14:27 ESFJ, ESTJ
14:40 ISTP, ISFP
14:58 ENTJ, ENFJ
15:30 ESTP, ENTP
Swampy thank you, I wish all his videos had these!
You’re a God send.
I watch his videos full videos "from 0 to infinite" if it was. Why would I jump I could be any of that personality in there. But, good job 👏
@@jfowlDance he wants us to watch his vids to make more money than needed
God bless you🙏🏿
Te Child abuse: "You don't know what you're saying."
Ti Child abuse: "You're lying."
YESSSSSS!!
It actually seemed super obvious you care a lot about others. Otherweise why all the passion and videos to begin with. All the emotion in it is what keeps me hooked.
much appreciated
Also because I could see you (C.S.) getting a bit emotional in the infj vs infp video. It looked like it at least. Much love to you from an infj.
I think it's because ExTPs can be a bit harsh in their delivery, which of course is necessary for it to be impactful sometimes, but that would easily cause a misconception of being uncaring and assiness.
Chase is super smart and he knows how to take all that knowledge and condense it so you can eat it up and digest it and understand it to use it and improve your life. Never fails
he talks with a sense of actual passion in his videos and it gets the point across really
"You're stupid!"
ESFP: lol that doesn't bother me. Try again.
"Okay, rephrase. You're not *smart.*
ESFP: Now them's fightin' words.
I’m an INFJ. My sister is an ISFP.
One of the things I did which made her almost cry with relief recently was to ask her “What do you want?” People have been hitting her so hard in her Si critic and telling her what she should do, and nobody has listened to her inner child.
Lovely little Ni hero to Ni child experience.
Aw i love when Fe parents listens to Fi hero and Ni child and goes out their way to make the ISFP happy 😀
How painful…
You've been pushing yourself really hard, haven't you? I figured as much when I got an upload notification at 1am, but that scruff says it all. I think I speak for most, if not all of us when I say we really appreciate all your hard work.
ENTPs are actually one of the most caring types: their way of showing it is far more effective than the sweetcoated smiling people that never confront you nor bother of your mistakes. One need to deeply care to be brave enought to confront someone with the risk of a negative reaction.
Fully agree
ENTPs are also masters of charm and wearing masks, trying to impart their Ti on people. But they really want to help. They just are smart enough and naive in their idea of Fe as well as Fi blind to be both very good readers of people, and fit themselves and their message to others. INTPs on the other hand as a great contrast, feel they are not being true to their Si-Ti idea of self by filtering around people. Don't get me wrong, ENTPs love taking the mask off and being blunt, but they don't mind wearing it either
My husband says thank you to you for helping me! The knowledge you're teaching me is saving my marriage, and better than any therapist I've ever seen. Much appreciated! ✌❤
As an ISTP, I could say: come on, you can let me ride on that motorcycle. Even if I crash, I will survive. Trust me, I got Ni child.
About your ENTP caring: from an INFP perspective, I can see how people can interpret your brand of help as condescending. They may think you're just using the "I'm just trying to help you" line as an excuse to flaunt your percieved intellectual superiority at their expense. If they don't sense enough compassion coming from you, they won't take it as helpful advice.
Although even if you were just taking the opportunity to belittle them, they could still find useful advice in the insult. Like JBP once said in a lecture: Listen to your enemies' criticism of you; they will be more willing to tell you truths than your friends might be.
true but its not my job to be compassionate to the lazy or ignorant.
@@CSJoseph
your job is amazing, where can I get it?
C.S. Joseph is it not your job to develop/grow/heal your shadow functions? You just decided it’s not your job to have compassion so screw it? Even though that exact thing would improve your character as well as warmth and healing to the other person? Terms like lazy and ignorant are just an assholes unwillingness to get their head out of their butt to fully understand someone else.
@@CSJoseph ok that lazy part hit hard my child (lol it's the thing i hate the most to hear even though i know it's necessary for me)
@@Nyalloyd He's got a pretty well-developed INTJ Unconscious. Not everyone understands the sincerity and accuracy of his words.
Lol... Chase, you're pretty slapstick when you're exhausted 😂
Se demon?
IT'S TIME TO STOP!
I will call child protective services.
Papa Franku?
NEVER call child protective services; there are WAY too many horror stories about that.
I've been binge watching your videos like an addict since I found you a few weeks ago and I love how you explain things. I still have a lot to learn but I think I'm an ENFP which has never come up for me on any of the online tests. I'm sure I've been driving my husband and kids nuts with everything I'm learning but I can't help it, it feels like some kind of super power, LOL!
dope
Yes i am an intp and I am learned a lot about Brigg Myers in lastbig3 years and applied bit as well . this is Definitely a superpower in certain situations. The content here of csj is one of the best. Terrific work csj
Yep. My husband is pretty patient with me, too. I have myself, him, and a few other family members typed, and I keep asking him questions about his family. He hasn't got irritated with me yet.
it really is, everyone should know this stuff it’s the best form of therapy imo
Thanks CSJ for caring about all the misunderstood children and educating us on how to best provide what they need!
My friend's an ENTJ
I surely have to be her audience, she explains with so much passion and always be like" listen to meeee,wait,listen!"😂
21:35 ENTP (+INTP) is one of my favorite types exactly because of this. Honest feedback and error correction is so important! Keep doing that!
This explains why my wife left... she seems to have been Ne Child... She always wanted to know what I wanted, what I was planning, what I wanted to do. I (as an INTP) never felt like volunteering that information as it would cause a plan to be developed and then I would be obligated to follow through on this plan that I really had no desire to be part of. We were not a healthy match.
Same relationship between my mom and I. I'm the INTP, she's an ESFJ. Haven't evaluate what is the motive behind it, but I don't talk about my plan with people, usually mind my own business. I do notice my mom going around and care about other's businesses before I came to this channel. (By that I mean, excessively) Now I realized that she need and want to know my plans + what I want. Well I don't know how to execute that yet, gotta figure out. :))) if not that she really needs it I'd rather not, explaining what I'm going to do is too scary. Not getting an Ne child lover, nope.
My husband is an INTP, and I'm an ENTJ.
I struggle with his delay to make decisions. If he doesn't want to make a decision I will be more than happy to make the decision for both of us, which has eventually happened, but sometimes he doesn't want to make a decision yet doesn't want ME to make it.
I have been very open with him about this, and digging through MBTI has certainly helped.
My ISTJ mom has been told her whole life by pretty much everyone that she is a bad person. This explains a lot now, thank you.
What happened to her?
Dear Mr Joseph,
I’m an INTP.My ,soon to be ex wife, of 20 years is ( I’m fairly sure ) an INTJ. Our marriage has not been a happy one. For years I would imply to her she was being a bad person. This was in response to her stubbornness and hoarding. ( I have no morals, it’s not a big deal to me if someone calls me a bad person, I am). I wanted her to work out for herself why it was a problem . In response she has repeatedly called me an abuser.
I hated being called an abuser, and a bully. I never understood why this was.We have had at least 3 marriage guidance counsellors When I saw this lecture my blood literally ran cold when you got to INTJs.
Thank you so much. All I ever wanted to do was understand why. Now I do.
Wow
Wow
Learning the dynamics of these functions is so helpful both when it comes to understanding my own mind and my interaction with others!! Having Fe parent and Ti child, I know all about making the effort to tell people the truth in order to help them forward. But reality is that the majority still cant let go of their ignorance and residual dramas. I believe the most important thing is that we learn to take full responsibility for our own functions and reactions. Blaming others for attacking our "child" or other functions will only leave us stuck in a loop of victimhood. Thanks again for sharing all your insight so generously :)
Man-after watching this lecture and the cognitive attitude of the parent function lecture, I can see your ENTP Ti being RESPONSIBLE in helping people and fulfilling your Fe child in the process. Fascinating. Brilliant. I’m having a lot of epiphanies about the ENTPs and ESTPs in my life thank you! Well done.
I appreciate your works. They have helped me out a lot and also in understanding. You are caring. -INTJ
My uncle who is an ISFP got in a horrible motorcycle accident and his heart stopped for about 16 minutes. Of course he miraculously came back to life and made a full recovery 😁. Truly freaky
It is interesting that any other analysis of the ego's cognitive functions seems to list the parent function as the second function to get developed in the personality. (Sorry for the run-on). This explanation of the child function makes so much more sense, as the second to be developed. I totally relate to having Fe parent take a backseat to Ti child, especially in youth. Mortified when I hurt someone's feelings, but feeling it's more important they know what's true. It also explains why adults accused me of being a precocious child, and one in particular straight-out called me the "thinker" (like the statue), even though I'm categorized as a "feeling" type.
Can I just say that you have an incredible way of conveying truth through passion? This motivated me to love/support other people’s “child” functions rather than trying to “punish” them. Thank you so much for this. -ISFJ
Hey C S Joseph, you're very caring for telling us the uncomfortable truth for our benefit. Not everyone is caring enough to appear to be an ass for the sake of helping someone have a better life. Thank you.
You are most welcome Anna
ENTP here and I actually see that caring bit. Like, I'm typically detached but my care is concentrated on those I am close to. And yes, it hurts when you care and the person acts ungrateful
I think you are doing a great job explaining and helping to better understand people dynamics. I’m an INTJ and many things make more sense now, and I‘m also wondering how you accumulated all that knowledge... and it’s a lot to memorize to be able to apply it ;)
This one's a bit weird. I've never been called disloyal I don't think.... I don't even think I would be annoyed by it considering how loyal I am, actually that's probably why it would hurt a lot. My cousin recently told me I'd be the best boyfriend because of how loyal I am. That felt great.
This makes sense with my mother. I once told my ESFJ mother that the stuff she did in our childhood gave us better futures. She cried her eyes out. I also once told an ENFP that he was really smart for something. I could see he was taken aback by it.
yes, child function is the soft spot
and TRUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUST me on this when I tell you that Si child hearing "you're not loyal" is painful. Not like a burn, but more like a haunting memory... You know how people are afraid of "monsters under their bed", there are so many memes about that, and it shows exactly that they know it's irrational but they are still afraid. I don't know how to explain it... in my case mom told me... a lot of things... they were dirrect hits to my Si and Ni so I attacked without thinking which made me gain more hits on the Si, after I calmed down I was mortified, after the anger came the void, despair, pain, it wasn't an obvious reaction, it happened and I had to deal with it
but I came back around to mom and now we get along better than ever, still that memory haunts me to this day to the point where I cry remembering it and just fall in a state of depression when the date it happened arrives
it's absolutely mortifying on the long run, on the moment you just want to defend or venge yourself, but of course it depends on HOW the other person said it and how many negative/pessimistic buttons they're pushing
We love the balloons and candy!! Thank you, lil' Fe!
Your whiteboards are the most useful teaching tools I've seen on this subject
INTJ here. This video really hit the nail on the head. Insulting my Fi child by calling me a bad person is one of the few things that actually can make me cry. :(
Yeah my INTJ husband's Fi child is so endearing. He is so optimistic about his Fi values. He has so much political conviction, and believes getting money out of politics and ending government corruption is possible. Really gives me hope. Also he's so tender and kind with me and the kids. He used to call me a bad person constantly when we were fighting a lot, I think because he thought that I thought *he* was a bad person. I finally figured out I needed to go above and beyond to assure him that he's a good person with a good heart, just had a lot of baggage from childhood abuse, and that really seemed to help him heal.
This lecture was SO great.. I love going around thinking about people's child functions. It helps me see the best in people, and treat them better!
As an INTP I have a lot of sympathy for people with Fe child and I find it really frustrating when people say ENTPs like Steve Jobs are uncaring. He devoted his whole life to creating world-changing products, transforming how people live and creating millions of new careers for people but some people still say he was a bad person.
I want to thank you for allowing me to learn more about people’s personalities.
Omg, you have the assertiveness that I feel like i was supposed to have with my need to protect. But so socially awkward that I can't even stand up for myself. I'm absolutely in awe.
My brother made "miracles" 3 years in a row : he succeeded in his exams way better than what we all had expected of him
Thank you for being so consistent with your uploads, your hard work does not go unnoticed.
I wont give up
People criticize these because they’re being done innocently therefore it’s not up to “people’s standards” therefore people become insecure about them.
I’m an enfp and one time I was staying at a hotel in Vegas with some family. I was feeling very blue. I left everybody so I could sit by my bedroom’s windowsill and sit in my feelings for a bit while looking outside. I was slowly letting myself get more sad, but my moment was interrupted by my entp cousin as she sneaks into the room with a pillow held up, about to hit me. we start laughing and then she notices how I’m obviously feeling blue. she starts gently making jokes and asking about me and how I’m feeling. then she patiently listens to me talk, (kinda out of character bcus it surprised me how good she was at listening)
I felt very comforted that moment and I’ll never forget it.
my entp aunt is also always asking what I want to do, where I wana hangout, and what I wanna talk about. she’s definitely cares about what other people want and making them happy. and I try to express a lot of gratitude for her when she’s around.
entps are so caring, but you have to read between the lines to find it. they may make insensitive jokes, but in the end they are still trying to make you happy, and don’t want to hurt anybody.
I definitely appreciate and NEED my Entp brother and my Entp friend's critisism, they are the ones I go to, when I need the bullshit cut and just the truth. These people are not there to stroke your ego, but at the same time they have the ability to help you recognise your own true strengths and not just what you think you're good at, or want to let other ppl think you're good at. It's always my friend or my brother that calls me out when I've been too harsh about something or hurtful (unintentionally, mostly) to someone. As I see it, they ARE some of the most, if not the most caring people I know. They seem to always want to make you be the best version of yourself. Not a lot of other ppl I know that would even care about that, I'll take the hard truth any day over a useless, half-assed ego-stroking. -Intp (I should change that to Istp now that I've figured it all out :-P )
Under Si it also lists "long-term memory", would "gaslighting" childhood memories (saying they didn't happen, or that the person is remembering them incorrectly) be the attack on that? I think I'm curious because your example in the video is to tell the Si child that they're disloyal. I do think that would be disturbing to hear, but deep down I know that I am loyal whereas I need validation that my past memories happened the way I remember them.
Hello, INFP and Si-child here. :) I'm not an expert and I don't claim to be one, but I think the essence of Si-child can be anything connected to collecting and categorizing memories, experiences, information and impressions internally, which can be very broad. Therefore I think gaslighting memories is definitely one of the several ways of abusing Si-child. It's literally denying and making fun of your very own system of gathering and storing information and questioning its validity by making you look biased. I hope that makes sense to you and if not, please bear with me as I'm not a native speaker. ;) Or maybe another example which is kind of similar: I've always hated and been very frustrated when people told me I can't do certain things because of a certain lack. Be it lack of experience, lack of information, lack of maturity, lack of understanding and so on and so forth. Because I knew exactly what I was able to do and to perform while other people didn't even consider the idea of me being able to do, understand and judge certain things. They were basically telling me I'm being somewhat inferior and therefore didn't even consider to give me a chance to prove them wrong. Does that sound familiar, maybe?
Anyway, have a nice day :)
@@kleineapfelblute2456 I think you did a great job explaining. And as an INTP your explanation helped shed some light because the way Mr. Joseph explained it was very broad.
@@null1534 Gosh, that's very eye-opening, actually! I never thought about it like that, but I really liked your description of immature Ne child being unable to realize the most obvious things (well, obvious to us, at least) and therefore relying even more on Si and all those "but this needs to be done like this, it won't work otherwise/ you don't know anything if you haven't experienced it yourself/ what are you doing there, you can't do that, that's so inappropriate! Everybody will think you're crazy!"-phrases - which pisses Si-child off like nothing else in this world. :D At least, I think I'm understanding better now why my mother (who is also an Si-dom) annoys the hell out of me with these kinds of things on a regular basis. :D
As an ISFP I’m delighted to watch your videos, my ni child is satisfied watching how everything starts to come together lol
INTJ here. My Ni hero has consistently had to deal with an immature, insecure Ne inferior (my mom), Ne trickster (my brother), and Ne demon (my dad). I have started to establish enriching, genuine relationships as my high school years are coming to an end. I now know 3 people with Si-Parent & Ne-Child, and I love them so much that I would honestly give my life for them. After growing up without an optimistic Ne (within the ego), it’s refreshing to experience that function as an innocent, sweet child. One of my friends has Ne parent, and I go to her frequently for advice and wisdom, but there’s honestly something so different about how I feel for the Ne child. I suppose it could also be my inferior Se enjoying the guidance it receives from Si Parent. Just thought I would share. Thanks for the videos!
I’m an INFJ and I can not express how much your videos have helped me to better understand myself and others. When I watched your video on INFJ’s for INFJ’s I had one of those moments where I had to cry massive floods of tears. I didn’t know it was possible for Someone to understand how my brain works so well. My Dad is an INTJ who is going through some development himself, and he is just now starting to understand my abilities. I was a philosophy major and religious studies major in college, and now I would be highly interested in speaking to you about your work on psychology. I consider you a very mature ENTP based off of these videos, and I think you would consider me a valuable asset to your team. Thank you so much for all of the hard work you have done. I hope to cross paths with you either in real life or online. Gussho, Luke Owens
CSJ, your Fe child does care. This entire channel is evidence to that. Not excluding your other related endevours and efforts behind the scenes. ❤ Your efforts are appreciated and loved.
Great..that really makes sense
I have Fi child and I started thinking that's why I've been abused by a vulnerable narcissist who is playing the victim all the time. I didn't even know there is a "poor me" type of narcissists till I realized that there is something wrong with this continuous drama. so i've done some research and ended up cutting them out of my life.
you are literally the only perso o youtube ever that i have to put o .75 speed. almost all others are 1.5-2x speed for me to understand them. in other words: you are SO UNBORING i loveee
this is the highest praise
This actually explains why, as a Ti child, I am often in the position of saying the uncomfortable truth that no one else wants to say. Gets me in trouble sometimes, but I can't help it. Often, I have people coming up to me after this happens thanking me for saying something, even though they didn't speak up at the time.
"Check your definition. You don't really know what you're talking about." This is a comment I either say or think multiple times a week. Thanks for the laughs and insight!
-Sara, ENTP
You're amazing! I've learned so much from you! Thank you!! Ti child is happy here.
you are most welcome
I am an INTJ always concentrated on my goal, maybe to an unhealthy level. I avoid talking to people of I don't have to but, this topic is appealing to me.
I just wanted to say that you are the second ENTP I've ever met. I love when people talk the true like you do, just like there is nothing holding you back. Just perfect
About 30% of the video = THAT'S CHILD ABUSE!
Wow! Now I know why children act they way they act. Thanks again for the great video CSJ! Keep it up!
The words that are needed to express what I feel don't exist so bare with me here. My life before finding your teaching was missing my presence. Free will wasn't available to use. Everything within and without look and feel as though Creation is refreshing it experience for me each moment. Realizing patterns is powerful and the energy is perfectly usable. My magic fairytale Dreamland I want us all to share has power again like when I was little girl. I'm just crying the biggest sweetest tears right now thinking of how much I need what you give. Your priceless for me
you are most welcome
I love that somebody finally told the world to always give me what I want. Honestly though this was very eye opening (again) and helped me understand why I suffer so much when I am denied my ways.
ISTP here: I had a dream once and I have planned it all up. I always dreamt of it since I was 13 yo. But I was always forced to choose the other way I dont want by my mother. Forced to be stuck in this direction to the point my dream slowly vanished and I felt aimless and hopeless. I could have done my best to follow through my dream and not let myself be trapped in this direction Im in now but I became too afraid to do anything about it. When I had another dream, I was shut down again quickly since it doesnt go the way she want it. Its not as useful to her own goal. Being critisized about my dreams made me critisize my own dream as well and discard it. Theres a part of me that maybe someday I will fulfill that dream one day, or maybe a random different job I will love to do for the rest of my life. But for now, Im emotionally, mentally and physically defeated. It sucks to leave this world without doing my dream. I had a near death experience once to push me to follow my dream but I dont know if I have another chance again
hardlybreathe93 follow your dream 💖 from Ni hero to your Ni child, I want to nurture that drive :)
Yeah follow that dream 😀 from one Ni child to another. Read 'The Alchemist' by Paulo Cohello if you need inspiration. That it's never too late
XD Gotta love the little bark you made at 28:50, had me rolling xD
Preach it, sir. Just this alone would eliminate so much strife in the world. My two cents on Fi child. It's not just telling them they're bad that hurts, it's specifically attributing bad intentions. If you do this enough to Fi child, at some point the kid is like, "no matter what I do or how hard I try to do the right thing, you accuse me of doing it for evil, selfish reasons. So why bother trying, I'm just gonna do what is easy."
This man makes me become a more mature person in terms of socialization and commitment. Awesome job.
This talk brought tears to my eyes from being so profound.
You're very caring of humanity, Chase. I shall consciously try to implement all that you said in this video- because Sir, I believe in miracles.
- Much love & respect from a fellow INFJ
If we don't start caring about other people's emotions the human race is screwed
True fam
Really love this season and in this episode how you talk about supporting each other’s child functions :’)
I have been watching your videos lately because I was interested in the MBTI personalities. But watching this videos made me understand things more. Yeah, I now know that the MBTI is only the surface and learning about this makes me understand people more and having a wider view of people. I have always wondered about people's personalities and beliefs. Growing up I realize that I can't just shove up some ideas and beliefs to others, I must understand them first, listen and analyze. Though I am skeptical to some beliefs I still respect those in some ways because I feel that I would hurt them if I just tell them what I believe. Your channel helped me a lot, even learning this function helped me to understand people more. Thanks for all the effort and the work.
you are most welcome
I can see that and it makes a lot of sense, the hero and child developing first. I'm INFJ and my mother kept all my school records and all the comments from teachers basically said I was very quiet, creative and mature for my age. I barely spoke at school until about the end of middle school. Prior to that I remember just quietly observing patterns and figuring out what was going to happen all around me and listening to teachers lectures and compare everything they say against my own experiences in order to decide which parts I decided were true and which parts were false and forming my own truth and looking for truth that the teachers lectures may have overlooked or have not yet been discovered. It wasn't until high school that I felt like talking to all different types of people as I figured them out and a lot of them would ask my advice.
Thanks for helping me understand my child Si function! You are so right!
Love your content Mr Joseph, really appreciate your hard work and that of your team's in sharing the knowledge you do
Your deep dives into the functions, cognitive attitudes, four sides of the mind and so many other topics that you cover are one of my very favorites
Being aware of the role it all plays in our motivations, thoughts, feelings, ways in wich we connect with others and basically shaping our perception of reality, has been both fascinating and truly helpful.
The way you present such complex and deep topics makes it easy to digest
Always rewarding how many new things I learn or am made aware of for later research by the end of your videos
Big thanks to you and your team, keep up the awesome work you guys do 😊
I have created some analogies for the functions on the stack, mainly those of the ego:
Hero function: Batman
Parent Function: Alfred
Child function: Robin
Inferior Function: Bruce's parents. (Because that's what motivates and causes the necessity of the hero at the same time)
I watch in no particular order. This is my new favorite, hands down.
WE'RE ALL CHILDREN
we're all heros! man, movies just got real 😅😂
And potential Parents!
Here is another insight. The fuction that we are most open to abuse through. Got this perspective via your comment about child abuse via the child function. I am most open to abuse through Fe, Se and maybe Ni. So, being Fi, that probably means I am ISFP. Just more thinking. Thank you for the organized ideas!
Michael, can you explain or give examples of how yo u are abused by Se and Fe? I believe I am isfp as well, and want to piggyback on your logic.
Regarding Fe it is probably a personal thing since I had and unhealthy family Fe situation growing up. Fe being in number 5 doesn't help since it is more difficult to develop but I have been working on it. It appears to me that the more one can develop a function the less it is open to abuse. Regarding Se, I may be ISFP but an SiNi version (see Dave Superpowers on this where he explains the two types of ISFPs-principle holds for all types). Being SiNi would put Se at the child position if I theorize this right.
When I like to appease my child Si-- it demands me to watch cartoons from my childhood and go visit my mom to eat her cooking. 😊 When the child is happy, the self is happy lol. But I've recognized to keep this in check because I'll totally want to be lethargic and not do anything if I choose to 😊 INFP potential downfall
Love this season- the role of each position can sometimes be hard to grasp, but it sheds a lot of light on how they influence behaviour and how oyu can use it create fluidity within relationships
Confirmed ESFP here (I took your test) you always light my Te child on fire 🔥 I could watch you all night and day
I became familiar with my parents' child functions as a child. Scary.
INTJ here. A long time now I got to the point where I can't believe most compliments or recognition that I get because I judge them to be inauthentic. I can still be convinced that it's authentic and then it feels awesome, but it's super rare for someone to spend so much energy on expressing his/her compliments and unconsciously convincing me about his authenticity. Even if a person I fully trust is complimenting me, I just can't know how much of it is sincere and how much of it is only told so I feel good about myself.
I don't know if this is also related, but I'm also very sensitive in general to authenticity. I expect people to ask if they care, if they don't it means they don't care. Very often I secretly wish for people to tell me what I'd want to hear, without my influence to it because that's what truly makes it authentic. I really crave authenticity.
It often feels like no matter what I do, what I achieve, I will always remain transparent for some people anyway and belittled. This includes family. Any thoughts about this matter?
Sounds like you are looking for some Ti
I feel the same, i am an INTJ too. I don't realy know how to my Fi child function work or how to develop it.
Miracle! I really like that word. Thank you, Joseph that let me notice that I have to develop my Te-parents deliberately.
I always thought that the command of loving your neighbours as thyself is a beautiful command but I never knew how to follow it in practical terms. But this video really helped me to understand that and gave some really good insight into what it means to love our neighbors. Thanks for uploading.
"We have to understood each other as human beings. We have to understand each other's innocence; and where it is. We have to support each other's innocence and divinity."
-C. S. Joseph
That was very caring of you! ;)
(INFJ)
you are welcome
The child function is like the function that we develop and we try to harbour.
We often seem awkward using it at first but it’s crucial to our character development. It’s the past us that helps us grow.
For example an intp will have child Si which means they become more cautious in how they go about things, taking care of physical health like diet and exercise, looking back at photos and analysing what changed, watching old movies, grounding themself in reality and coming to terms with how the world works, being practical.
Me as an istp has child Ni.
I used to be reckless and spontaneous but now I’m working on making something useful out of them self with a long term pursuit, now I’m finding meaning and real pleasure and fulfilment from the outer world. I look around I don’t just see trees, I see a masterpiece . Going out for a run is more surreal when u can use both Se and Ni to compliment each other.
I take risks that will profit me, some istp become great entrepreneurs and start their own businesses, some risk their own lives to save another’s . At first it’s like what changed? But people get used to it after a while
Thanks for this lecture! It's amazing to see how much dedication there is behind this quest for a better future. And I hope you don't let yourself be taken out by evil food again, take care and be well =)
Someone Random lol
I wish i could be for the meet ups but i am like 11,639 km away so that's that, much appreciation for the effort serving a noble message.
Now I (ESFP) get why sometimes my older sister makes me so angry sometimes!! Sometimes I will go tell her something really cool I figured out and she will tell me in response "No, you just don't understand" and "You just don't know anything". It pains me a lot because judgement is made before I have the chance to explain myself :(
one of my favorite lectures you’ve ever done!! love your energy in this video 💕
me too, esp after all the chastising ends, thereis this spot where he gets really, deliberately quieter in voice. Like, the audience might leave if I don't stop shouting. Endearing.
I literally saw someone at the hospital who "literally flew off his motorcycle", was driving stoned, said nothing hurt and all he got was a gash on his knee. Has had the accident twice. Was reassuring the nurse that he's all fine and asking when he can go back home. Meanwhile I'm a health conscious person who works hard all my life to be a goodie two shoes with all kinds of weird pains everywhere asking them to do as many tests as possible lol.
Thank you for taking care of us! ♡
i feel like the “child abuse” for an infj would be calling them a know it all. because i’m usually just trying to figure out the truth in everything, my intentions are almost never to look the smartest for status over others, my child just wants to find the truth in things. i’ll be the first person to admit that i know very little, yet my enfj mom always calls me a know it all and it hurts way worse than being called stupid. bc i know i’m not stupid, but see how i can come off as a know it all, but it’s not my intention.
I haven't seen more caring and attentive person than you. No wonder u r into these...Good work!!!
After listening to this and the What is Fe? video I’ve realized why I’ve been stuck in my shadow... inner child abuse for the majority of my life by multiple people I’ve cared about, throughout. That sucks. But, gotta know where you are to know where you’re going.
Check out Season 1
C.S. Joseph which part of season 1?
there is an episode in the season 1 playlist for Fe.
I listened to that one. I have it saved to my phone from the podcast. That episode plus this gave a lot of insight.
Disloyalty doesn't bother me as much as grave digging for the mistakes I made.
Yes, infp here, and my isfj husband with super responsible Si hero can make my Si child feel horrible for not being as organized as him and forgetting to buy something on the grocery list or not doing a task correctly.
How caring of you to upload this quality lecture - trying to nurture your child function ;)
Amazing knowledge as always. Love your videos man, and really wish this would have been something I would have learned in school, it would have helped me so much in my life. Hopefully people like yourself can be the pioneers to introduce this to the masses and inspire everyone to master themselves so we can be better people, form better relationships, and all live better lives.
Thanks you for sharing this very useful information. I appreciate the fact that you take the time to organize everything into digestible categories.
17:55 cs joe really lookin out for us. how very CARING of you
I’m enjoying your recent content Mr. J! Thanks for sharing!
I’m so excited for the cognitive attitudes of the shadow
1:39-2:24
The child function (the childhood idk)
4:50-5:04
Seeking vs sharing experiences
5:18-6:26