Is INFJ/INFJ relationship the holy grail?
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- What is the most compatible personality type for an INFJ to date? Could it be... another INFJ?
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Frank James bro who hurt you?
Another INFJ trait is a dry sense of humor
An INFJ seeks balance above all in everything and with everyone, this is why INFJ's are walking contradictions; therefore with more maturity of an INFJ they will be more content with someone who can do the same. I remain single as an INFJ because it is near impossible to find the depth in potential partners emotional, spiritual, mental and physical capacity that brings me peace in general with a man. It is exhausting trying to "camouflage" to extremes for extended periods in relationships. I found my rock in Christ though, so being single now doesn't burn my heart anymore. May the peace of Christ that surpasses all understanding be with u also Frank James, and thanks for ur helpful video content on INFJs!
@Telisha3 Claiborne amen sister! 100% truth! Thanks for sharing a bit of your story... I know what u mean feeling "surreal" in relating to someone else in this world BC well "people" "like" "us" are "rare" so most of us grow up feeling super odd inside! Lol :) I think we as INFJs feel that longing to belong with people and a soulmate more than can be understood BC of that reality. It's intrinsic! I realize now with wisdom that I have my place just like others have theirs, not greater, just different. It is a relief to know there are others like me, even if I am howling to the wind just to hear a faint howel back once in a while. When I am down about relationships or the cares of this world I try my best to remember that life is bigger than my own prosperity, taking comfort in the knowledge that all things work toward the good of those who love the Lord. Regardless all INFJs have a special capacity to touch and help others in a deeper way, and that is our gift to the world... This is our happy place and our unique calling, which I find my purpose in and fuels me to keep going. I'm sure u can relate ;) May God abundantly bless u and all ur own Felisha in our Lord Jesus Christ until that day we are delivered to the next life eternal!
@Telisha3 Claiborne so true and awesome! We all have a destiny greater than ourselves. Thank u for sharing, it is a very encouraging testimony :) It's very interesting to think about life on a deeper level, that's what we wish to do with everything right! Dig to the bottom.. seeking to divide bone and marrow stuff to find ultimate truth. I am so grateful I found the Lord a few years back, without him my weird personality minority just left me with much personal pain I could not make sense of. Knowledge is powerful and a great help, but none can trump the creator of knowledge, and we INFJs know it's best to go straight to the original source to resolve any problem or puzzle ;) Take care dear, thank you very much for ur care. Shalom my friend!
I'm an INFJ and have a very rewarding relationship with myself, so I guess that counts.
edit - I still get replies to this comment but I can now confirm that I am in a loving relationship with a fellow human being.
Giorgio Grande I’m the same
I love myself so much.
Same
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I am an INFJ too and i am feeling the same. That must be count
I wouldn't want to date someone like me I really piss myself off sometimes.
Katie Bee 😆 haha same here
Same my darling same! LOL
90% of the time i piss myself off and i can't seem to have the ability to stop it xD
Same lol
Yeah, exactly, seeing the other person making the same mistakes as you constantly stirs up your Guardian instinct, but it gets tiring after a while. It's like seeing yourself in the mirror all the time and remember that you secretly hate yourself in a way, having to deal with yourself twice as much on a daily basis.
Any other INFJs feel the need to travel ALOT, to experience every other aesthetic and culture you can?
Same here. I think it's more because of we want to understand more, want to explore more and wanna see more of what more than is in front of us all of the time.
I love to travel. As an Observer INFJ, life is an adventure.
Yes!
It is tearing my soul apart! Very absolute need to change the Set and the People ✨ a LOT 👁🏁
Yes. When I’m home I like to stay home all day. But when I travel, I always like to do things for the experience and memories I record
I’m an INFJ marrying an INFJ in a few months. It is the BEST relationship I’ve ever been in by far. For the first time I have a partner who actually understands how I think, helps me to grow, and connects with me more deeply than anyone I’ve ever known. I think being two INFJs is extremely helpful for our communication and understanding each other.
Wow! That's amazing. Congratulations! Wish you guys the best! ♥️♥️♥️
Both me and my girlfriend are INFJ and we are so happy. 😍
Lucia DeLoach Okay I know this is late by 7 months but congrats! And I wish you guys the best ^^
But how many relationships have you been in in the past? Were you more physically attracted to any of your previous partners looks more than your INFJ partner's?
@@moondog7694 Looks matter to an extent but a strong mental/emotional connection is far superior if there is any physical attraction at all in my opinion.
Lol
90% of INFJs: I don't have a partner.
This is what being to idealistic gets us. 😥
lol I mean.... it's true haha
story of my life :D
Too
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Two INFJs together would be like a love story that makes everyone sick 😂
INFJ 1: No you hang up!
INFJ 2: No you hang up!
that's awesome! LOL
David Ta that made me chuckle actually 😹
tell me 'bout it 🙄 ain't in a relationship but I do have a close friend who happens to be an INFJ too and all we did was argue at small things tho we actually click and our friends kept on shipping us but we ain't falling for that haha
as an infp i'd LOVE that
as a fellow INFJ, why do people always open up to us so easily? i’ve gotten many “i’ve never told that to anyone before” and “i’ve never told someone that this fast” is it the empathy we have for others?
must be, it happens all the time!
As a developed empath, we naturally release more hormones that give a sense of comfort and ease to those around us, that in turn makes anyone around us more likely to open up. I myself am an INFJ-T and am a cognitive empath studying Conciousness and Human Potential along with Cognitive Psychology, I've been studying these interactions for years now and that's become the only scientifically logical explanation yet.
I think people can sense we are trustfull.
All. The. Time.
Yes. I’ve had to pray for God to take some of those items out of my head too.
Two INFJs staring at each other though.......
Would go on forever. Lol
That was funny LOL
EXACTLY! I can imagine that two INFJs just stare each other in the eyes and they just communicate without talking! Just stare and enjoy each other.... beautifl maa shaa Allah
We communicate through mind 😂
As an INFJ having another INFJ friend, That's what happens almost all the time. There's this one time we were sitting together and i just stared at him and he said "alright I'll bring you a glass of water" and i really DID want to drink a glass of water xDD
I've been with my INFJ-A husband for 30 years.. I'm an INFJ-T
I love your comment. My husband is infj-a and I am infj-t. We been together 19yrs.
@@cara.heather @Rebel ZenArt : Congratulations! 🥳🥳 Wish you all the best and a happy life together🤗 God help🤗🤗
Wow❤
I think I have to find my INFJ-A.
I'm an INFJ-T as well.
Oh hell no. We'd starve to death. Someone has to decide where we wanna go for dinner.
LMAO IKR
Wait I just realized this was posted a year ago you probably don't even remember you commented that I'm sorry
😂 Yes!! My ISTP husband does all the cooking 🤞
@@nicolcacola Finally another INFJ-ISTP relationship! We have been together for 10 years, and it has been.. interesting for sure.
Ah heck.
I'm an INFJ but I thought the crazy indecisiveness was just me xD
Honestly if I was in that situation, I wouldn't mind just having a big pool of choices and making a random number generator choose it LOL. (Ok, I'll admit it- I've made a lot of choices that way lol)
Your hair is the holy grail
Roxanne Ariel yaaaaaaasss
Ha ha. Hiding in there.
Yas. He has climbed inside your head.
MUAHAHAHA dang LOL
This is my favorite comment. Kept thinking about his hair while he's busy explaining the whole thing. Lol. Love you, FJ.
Two INFJs ....😄 omg too many things would never get done.
Had to laugh at that. Brilliant!
I'm INFJ also so I'm not even making fun of others. I'm just stating the facts. LOL. It's funny too though, because it's not that we are irresponsible... just nowhere near as practically productive as our minds are contemplative or creative.
spring kelly Hey at least we would stay busy....!
....doing a whole bunch of nothing😁
Jesus, so true
I disagree. I am a pretty productive INFJ and would encourage my friends to start their goals or projects, sort of like going down a list, at least you to try it out and experience the steps to see how it fits than second guessing all the time.
I’m an INFJ married to an ENFP and I think our relationship is great. I don’t think I can be with someone like myself lol my husband brings so much spontaneity and joy in my life, and he always makes me laugh. I love him so much 🥰
Mayb you guys match based on zodiacs
ENFP is the best match for INFJ according to MBTI compatibility
My best friend is an ENFP, and when I got her to do the test and it said that every INFJ needs an ENFP it made us both laugh. What I find funny about our types is memes I see on these types interacting is we usually switch “roles” in certain situation I’m the outspoken, spontaneous, loud one and in other situations I’m super quiet and reserved and thoughtful. But wherever we are we bounce off each other and strangers seem to like us, people who knew us would leave us in a corner laughing by ourselves
I’m INFJ .. and my husband is INFJ 💘 l didn’t know that he is ( INFJ ) right away.. INFJ as a male are different 😹 .. but our relationship is amazing so far .. and we’re happy 🙆🏻♀️💜
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Congratz!
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How are INFJ males?, I don't know any :(
@@magicale940 i dont think theres any difference with the genders. infj males ive met has been just like infj women. i have not seen a huge difference between them. both empathetic and kind with dominant intution
I'm an INFJ and my partner is an INFJ. We only discovered this after 2 years of dating. It's been almost 7 years together. It's crazy, but it worked out very well. That's scary.
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How is it?
I am an infj (male-19)
And i know i might never (or maybe will) find another (infj-female) who is into me but i want to know what it's like...
"That's scary" is a very INFJ to say indeed
@@Insigneon I think our relationship is very harmonious. We are very observant, so there are things that we don't need to express in words... and that's pretty good, 'cause it's tiring to explain ourselves often to others, sometimes we just look at ourselves and think "I think she/he is happy or uncomfortable with this". The fact that INFJs are stupidly honest and reserved also helps, because despite being quiet on the outside and messy on the inside, we are very fair and frank, in other words: there is no middle ground if I don't like something... I don't like it and that's it, there are no “hidden words" behind what I say or what he says. Also, we are both strangers, almost as if we were an old couple in our early 20s, 'cause we prefer to travel to quiet places, we don't really like parties or places full of people and we focus more on resolving things than putting them under the carpet. Anyway, I fell in love with his strange way and he accepted me in my strange way too. It's kinda funny, I know.
My wife and I are both INFJs and it's the best thing that ever happened to me! I would say though that I am the more balanced of the two of us and occasionally that can be difficult. She's my soulmate and the only person I literally never get tired of. 12 years in August ❤🖤❤🖤
Also she's the only person that I relate to on every level and we talked until 4 am the night we met relating/comparing experiences. I also can totally relate to the defensively pulling away from eachother in the few arguments we have, but that's where me being more balanced usually helps.
that's beautiful
JasmineandRose happy 13 years!!!!!!!
Congrats!
Happy 14 years!!!
"we have dated not so long. 9 months only". oh those INFJs.
Thats me
Is 9 months a long period of time for others? Not even 2 years are that much :D......
@@catherineb855 This century. I swear. Kids.
This is me lol
9 months is a long time! INFJ here and I was flabbergasted when he said that lmao
I am an INTJ and my partner is an INFJ. Our relationship is freaking out of this world!
jenlovesthisstuff same here. INFJ and partner is an INTJ. Works amazingly. I do believe it's more about relatability though.
Married 22 years to my INTJ. Best type for this INFJ!
Haha cool.
Susanne Saad, you could do better with an ENFJ
Same here, I've been in a relationship with an INTJ for almost 3 years and it's a fricking good and balancing match! There're enough similarities to connect your minds on many things and make it really easy to understand the other person but there're differences to balance out your bad qualities as well. We also have similar family backgrounds and values which definitely makes it better as well, not only the type. :)
Husband and I just found out yesterday that we are BOTH INFJ's. I would say our relationship is amazing and electric. We both seem to know what the other is thinking most of the time, are in sync with each other a lot and looking back I realised that our intuition has been always very spot on. No relationship is perfect but it does get very close. I am thankful to God that we somehow found each other as I wouldn't have it any other way.
This is beautiful, thank you.
Do you play the cello?
I know this is a 2 year old video, but...I wanted to add something that I have noticed as I meet all different personality types. How I get along with others depends on their maturity, more so than their type. And it doesn't necessarily reflect age, either. Those that can engage in difficult conversations with respect and kindness will come to equitable solutions for all involved.
Oh, i love your comment! I was thinking about that, too!
Yaas
INFJ here with an ENFP, for TEN YEARS! I'm glad I'm with an extrovert because I would just sit at home all day. If it wasn't for him I would be a full blown recluse.
I try to be a JFNI (just freakin' nice individual). And I'm not even dyslexic.
rlhjr I love this!!! 😊
Officially 17 personalities now. 😜
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Perfect...
Ahhahahahah
Love this!
They say "opposites attract," not sure it works for me. Extraverts drain me quickly.
You seem more peppy & upbeat, glad to see!
Martin Cichocki Yes! I was happy to see that he's maybe on the up again, even a little :-)
A low level extrovert is ok but I've found a higher level extrovert draining too. I think that I need a fellow intuitive just so I can relax a little and feel understood.
I think I'm so quiet that it takes an extrovert type to pull me out. Not sure I know the type of anyone I've ever been with, or if any were introverts. But my most recent ex is killing me still as I attempt to escape with my life.
Recovering Soul affairs of the heart are the worst, the angst & pain are intangible yet present.
I'm extremely introverted but I need an E. Just because you are drained by people doesn't mean that that solely dictates your attraction & wants! It's especially true in INFJs. We're attracted to so many different types of people across the board!
@@bbbbbbb51 Yes, but I'm not attracted to extroverts either. We should respect individual preferences.
My wife and I are both infj. We’ve been married 13 year now. There is nobody that has a relationship like ours. Though we both recognize the possible toxicity and we must be all in with no exceptions. I could go in depth but I want people to know the true love that’s possible between two infj is unmatchable.
🥺 I'm considering dating an INFJ now. I just hope it works
My husband and I are both INFJs (yeah I know CRAZY right?) I don't think that would work for everyone, but it works for us for two reasons: 1) we are both developed/mature INFJs & 2) we have very similar ideals.
A Crawford me and my boyfriend are the same way! we plan to get married after college :)
lil kitkat
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Yes me and my husband found out that we are too. I really didn't think he was before he did the test as male INFJ's are supposed to be the rarest of all types. It feels like such a blessing that he is. We always felt like each others best friend.
Same here. Works for us!
Explains why mine didn't last, even though we're both INFJs.
You should marry someone whose initials are IN because when you put your initials together it would be INFJ hahaha. Even cooler if they would also be an INFJ it would be like woaaaahh
I either got too much or too little sleep last night....
Omg 😂😂
haha are you an INTP by any chance? lol too funny.
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My sons and their wives are T & T and M & Em.
I can answer that question for you, James. INFJs value “differences” very much. This is out of an understanding that it can enhance overall “quality”. You actually said it yourself. Complementing is ideal to us as it creates harmony. Balance in all things is top priority for us.
Yet, nonetheless, no two INFJs are truly the “same” completely so it’s highly possible that two would make the best pairing for each other.
Why? Because one of the biggest insecurities, any, INFJs would have is not feeling understood. Which is a hard task for any other personality type to do. We are rare after all.
Well said☺
Totally agree!
I am an INFJ. My wife is an INFJ. It works most of the time lol. Married 12 years now!
Congratulations! That is fantastic! You are so lucky
I'm an INFJ who ended up marrying another INFJ. The funny thing is, neither of us took the MB test until we had been married more than a dozen years. Neither of us knew we were INFJs, we just both always felt sort of different and "removed" from the rest of the people. (Side note: I took the test first, and then told him about it, because I wanted to see which type I had ended up with...and then he came back as INFJ as well. We both took the test multiple times, over a few months, and both came back INFJ every time.) The best part: Finding a person who really DOES relate is like no other feeling. Two very challenging parts: First, the empathy overload. Example: For whatever reason, say he feels anxious, which I pick up on. Now I feel anxious, which he picks up on, and then he feels guilty because he knows his anxiety caused mine, now we're both more anxious...that's not fun, and sometimes breaking the empathy bubble means just getting to different physical locations for a while. It took us a long time to figure that one out. The second challenging thing is sort of related to that: INFJs need a ton of private, personal, decompression time. So a really rewarding evening around my house can look something like sitting in separate rooms not talking about anything...because every conversation turns into philosophy, and I was just wondering what we should eat for dinner. Ha! So...enjoy that little window into paradise.
It feels like a blessing from god when you actually find “the one”
Blessing and a curse when you find out they are in long term relationship
Funny story... I asked "the universe or God" to send me an INTP partner, and one week later I got the perfect partner. It's been 2 years now. Life is good
I once heard someone say: "stop looking for someone you feel you 'can live with'....
wait for the one that you can't live without"
I love that
Guess I'm staying single, then...
My husband is an ENFJ and I am an INFJ. It is a pretty good match. I do struggle with how my husband wants to talk about EVERYTHING and I want to withdraw and process things.
ENFJ: My day was awful. My week was awful. My month was horrendous and my future is shaping up to be terrible. Rub my feet.
Me: HOW DO YOU LIVE?
James Downs sounds very draining
@@amiratazkia Like a spillway to a dam.
My ENFJ best friend shares everything with me haha. I don’t think I could handle marrying an ENFJ although they’ve made fantastic friends.
I went through that with an ENFJ as I'm an INFJ. It was too exhausting after awhile.
I'm INFJ and I dont have a partner
Having 36 likes are good just not on the topic of being single
Welcome to the club
Been with an other infj for 15 years. Best 15 years of my life so far.
My hubs and I are INFJs. For us, making our relationship last has been more about having common goals, forgiveness, and great communication. These are much harder than a "Golden pairing," but they work more consistently.
I am an INFJ, and my husband is an ISFJ... we’re soulmates. Been in a relationship for a total of 7 years more or less, including our marriage of almost two years. We balance each other out. I tell him he is the sun and I’m the moon all the time.😆 It takes love, trust, and time to build any type of relationship regardless of MBTI type. Loved this video!! ✨
The only person I've ever fallen in love with, was supposedly an ISFJ. (Although I'm not sure, his "S" mostly showed up about practical things, like remembering details very well) I definitely had the soulmate feelings towards him, and despite of not getting together, he really turned my world around.
Same! I'm an INFJ and have been married to my ISFJ for 4 years. Hes a great husband and I know that he will make a wonderful father one day. I actually said that he is the sun and I am the moon in our wedding vows!!! How weird is that?? I kinda freaked out when I read your comment! 🌞🌚
My partner and I have been together for 6 years, and I cannot imagine being with anyone else... Sure, there are differences, but this makes our relationship so balanced :) and it's funny because he always calls me "my sun and my stars" (in my native language), too :D
My wife is the ISFJ, I’m the INFJ... married 10 years now with 3 kids. It really is a soul mate type relationship. We are both genuinely comfortable just being with one another in total silence a lot of the time. But when we do talk it’s either very profound, or very very humorous, but when we do but heads (very rarely) it is the most stubborn, intense and silent rage. We are two personality types that love to please people, and that alway means pleasing one another in our relationship. But I do believe for this type of relationship to work well together, the couple must share the same core values... otherwise I think it could truly be a match made in hell as both people would be so firmly rooted in their inner beliefs that they just couldn’t get along, and would silently hate one another.
Interesting lol. I'm an INFJ and my mom is an ISFJ. These types can totally get along. I know how to work around her and she nags me to do what I need to do when I lose track of time or something haha. My sensing is developed well enough that I got 58% intuition & 42% observation on muerbriggs. I would say it is part of what really helped to keep myself balanced when I was depressed bc apart from my Ni, I probably have good enough Si to take hold of myself and snap out of doing nothing eventually.
The best person for an INFJ is another shut in who enjoys relaxing on a separate couch while watching documentaries or cartoons. And won't mind if you go into a separate room for some personal alone time.
Sires Orb you are truly wise 😉
“shut in” 😂
"What do you wanna watch? Forensic research documentaries or spongebob?"
An INFP maybe? Or INTP
See but I also love to experience life with close friends and partners, there has to be a balance of excitement and down time for me to be happy. I don’t have a partner but this is the reason me and my best friend has been friends for 7 years.. the balance, She’s an INTP.
Anything start with "E" is too noisy for me....
Maybe an ExTJ is up your alley
Dated an ENFJ once. Yes. Even though there is a one letter difference, I can concur. Too noisy.
UH
Yes! Same. The more talking I hear the more I need to rest. :/
to be extroverted means to gain energy from social interactions. although that will mean that they will be inevitably better at conversing it does not mean they are noisy 24/7 . however I get what u mean I say the phrase “you talk too much” to my sister 2x a day 😂
INFJ - INFJ relationship. You'd never have to talk! Telepathy:)
DeVette Kerekes // Haha, I wish!! 😄 Nah, actually one of the best things about being with another INFJ is the communication.
I tend to think that INFJ telepathy is the best supplement for verbal communication, but never a replacement. And this philosophy has served me well in my INFJ/INFJ relationship.
This is profoundly true- I have two INFJ friends, and we text each other paragraphs, but in person, words are nearly unnecessary. Just a glance, and we know the other’s deepest thoughts. It’s spooky.
I don't know about long-term romance, but I find that INFJ and INTP complement each other really well. Neither is shy about deep exploration, and we bring each other that element of understanding that doesn't come naturally. When INTP gets too thinky, INFJ brings it back down to earth. When INFJ gets too far out to sea, INTP brings the clarity.
This is why my son and I have a good relationship.
Being an INFJ does not define all that you are! My love and I (both INFJ) have very different backgrounds and are therefore very different people. Our relationship is like a safe haven to us.
Sure, we have to force ourselves to go out, because we know we have to socialize more...or else we would end up more and more cooped up until paralyzed and pasted to the bed :D
He doesn't feel neglected, when I'm in "dreamland" and I don't bother him, when he has his nose in a book. And when one of us is down in the dumps, we would just cuddle and talk for as long as it takes to feel more at ease again. But that doesn't mean that we don't get things done. We talk things over, share the chores and things work out...in a more slow manner, I admit, but as long as the end result is met it's fine, right? So here is my verdict...Holy grail? Nope. Safe haven? You bet!
INFJ/INFJ. Who would get up and goto work? 😂
Or ever make plans?
LOL perfectly said.
You so funny space cat
Space Cat, 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
Who needs plans? Two spontaneous people make for great adventures, when they feel up to it. One will always need to pick up slack for the other. The relationship determines which part of life. Infj’s also get much reward supporting someone they love. Work isn’t as big of an issue as you might think
I also have an INFJ as a partner and it is amazing! We found each other over the internet, cuz that's is where we can find INFJs, irl there are so so low chances of finding them. One thing that I am so so happy about is that we don't have huge fights or tension between us. We communicate, we are honest, we don't hold back from asking for forgiveness when something goes wrong, even if it's a small thing and we genuinely do things for one another and help one another. I was in a 10 years relationship with an narcissistic ESTP and yes, I am sure of what I say. Things got from bad to worse, he became more and more toxic till I couldn't go on any longer. Tried everything that I could, even marriage, but to no avail. And after all that horrible experience, this one with my INFJ partner seems like heaven, no kidding😍 I truly thank God for helping me. I was miserable for so long, cried and suffered, but it paid off, in the end, thank God.
So for you other INFJs out there, you can find another INFJ on the internet, cuz you have very very very low chances of meeting an INFJ irl. So don't hold back, go on reddit - subreddit -INFJ or INFJ chats on Discord following a link from the site called "Introvert dear". Just try it, cuz it is worth it.
Im an infj and im dating with another infj. We already hit the 1 month milestone and it feels so nice! He always help me out when i get in some troubles. Unfortunately, i am the hot headed but shy one but he is the more mature and calm one. We have very different backgrounds as well as experiences yet we feel like it in a perfect balance. Harmony is important and we just clicked on the first day and from that, we are unstoppable. Im deeply in love 🥰
HOORAY!!!
Hope things are still going well! 🤞
me and my husband.. We are both INFJ. I was so shocked when i found out my husband was INFJ like.. i felt like he is my real soulmate for fuc**ng reall. cause nobody never understands me and only one person showed me his love so fully that i believed in love.. and it was my husband. we are so compatible (i think haha) and try our best to love each other exsperessively everyday as much as possible. He try his best to understand me, and i try mybest to understand him. so in my opinion two INFJ can make a great family :)))) (english is not my native language, so excuse me)
and i personally think that over time we healed each other... we have a really healthy relationship. So guys lets try our best to be become the best version of us :)))
Omg, that is so so amazing!!! Congratulations! I am so happy to read about that🥳 I wish you both all the best, health and happiness and a long life together, may God help🤗🤗
The thing about the INFJ/ENFP relationship is that ENFP's are known to be the most introverted of the extraverts (just as INFJ's are the most extaverted of the introverts), they will probably not drain you as much as other Exxx types. They tend to be a lot more sensitive to the introverted person's need for downtime. Their different functions seem to cover a lot of each other's blind spots.
I think you're right that in the end, type really doesn't and shouldn't matter when choosing a partner, but it really is obvious that certain matches just seem more effortless and natural than others. All good relationships take a lot of work and communication, but I think some types are just naturally more attracted to others.
I think it also depends on your age and maturity. The more developed people are with their inferior functions, the more they will be able to handle and enjoy and thrive in a relationship with a traditionally clashing type.
Thanks for saying that ENFPs are the most introverted of the extroverts. There can be varying levels of that. I think people forget that. We can be the life of the party, but I don't actually like parties. I prefer being with someone one on one or being on my own. I enjoy simple pleasures with a friend or partner. Going out to breakfast is one of my favorites. I am more of a homebody. Though I do like trying new things sometimes. I think I have enough of a gregarious, high energy side to keep things interesting without being overwhelming.
I am an INFP and I have been 4 years in a relationship with an INFJ. When we met, we had an incredible connection neither of us had ever experienced, everything just felt right. 4 years later, he truly is my safe place, and the only person with whom I don't feel drained. Sometimes I think we are total opposites, but then there are times where I feel like we're the same, so there is a weird complementing aspect to these two types. We have a lot of differences, but we always find a middle ground where we both feel balanced, I think we share enough differences to keep it interesting while also sharing lots of similarities (ideals, interests and most importantly, our ways of showing affection/communicating). Another thing I believe helps with this compability is the fact that he is very in touch with his own values, and probably uses Introverted Feeling a lot more than other INFJs would, while I admire his Ni and try to understand when he just "feels" something is not okay, even though it can be difficult.
Omg 😭 you have no idea how psyched my boyfriend and I were when we found out we were infjs. What are the odds 😂
Sofiee About as rare as two people with AB- blood finding each other, since they are each 1% (or less) of the population. I would choose a certain blood type same or compatible with mine, because blood also affects personality. In Japan, they date and hire by blood type.
My hubby and I met because of type...we are best buds and both infjs.
Null me and my boyfriend are both infj's too! it really is the holy grail lol
I just found out too! It really feels like a miracle we somehow found each other.
Way higher than you think. Although we are rare, we attract each other. We find each other beacause we tend to seek out the same places, people and so on.
I'm INFJ, my husband is ESTJ, which, according to MBTI compatibility charts, are a very incompatible pair. I completely agree that it's not personality types that bond two people, but other factors. I love his emotional steadiness, and his extroversion has brought me out of my shell. It's helpful to understand the differences in our personalities so when issues do come up in our relationship, we can better understand where the other person is coming from. Thank you for your wisdom on this topic! Love these videos!
Yes my husband is an ESTJ too. I have to agree, we're extremely different but I love it. I've always felt odd because I'm extremely attracted to extroverted people cause they help break me out of my shell. It will be 12 years in December.
Battleborn Fox
Aw:))
ISFJs are the best, speaking from experience. The feeling of security and stability they can give us is amezing.
I'm hesitant to date anyone who isn't an inf or enf. I tend to ask myself when I'm with a thinker, 'Is this person a terminator?'
Maybe they are :o
Amen!
It's kind of fun to be considered an alien or a machine by people. It means that I've managed to distance myself from the contamination of societal and/or cultural understandings. I'm able to see things more objectively without my views being skewed.
What's a terminator?
ha ha ha !
ENTP have feelings... they just know how to control them really well. My oldest is an ENTP and my youngest is an INFJ. I am one blessed momma!!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🙏
I recently got out of a relationship with an INTP. It was pretty bad. He really did not emote at all. It felt like I was the only one putting in any effort in the relationship. I tried so hard to help him out of his funks, his depressions. I supported him hardcore. I felt I was in so much love with him... to just no avail. When MY life got bad, when my life went to hell, he distanced so much... he eventually said this isn't working. The reason I know he's INTP (maybe, probably) is I was curious and asked him to take a silly personality test online. He thought it was stupid, but he did it for me (one of the only things he ever did for me haha). But yeah, learning about INTPs, it made sense about why he wasn't like me or why he wasn't emoting to me. They called INTP/INFJs the "Golden Couple," which didn't make sense. I think there is definitely more to it than just your "type" such as disorders and just self-esteem problems.
I think an INFJ/INFJ personality could be great, tbh, if they feel like I do about love and relationships. I guess I'm still looking for my sort of double, someone who can be empathetic enough to understand what I'm going through and I will do the same. Someone who maybe doesn't like going out constantly because I do enjoy being inside (though I do love a good concert). It's kind of a shame INFJ is the "rarest" in that sense, but I'm definitely not limiting myself to that. I just feel like in every relationship I love harder than they love me, and that may very well be a flaw in my own mental properties, but I just want to feel that. I want to feel how I make other people feel when I love. (wow, that sounds... gross). And YES, the dark side. I opened my soul and was rejected... and it SUCKS, Frank. It sucks when you tell someone your most intimate, horrible secrets and they throw you away. It's so hard. I'm an open book for the most part, but when I share my horror with someone and they later on throw me away as if I was nothing, it is terrible. I still want people to know me, though, because being accepted at your darkest is true acceptance in my eyes.
Frank, I knew you were living in my head. It's cool.
(that relationship lasted two years, btw, and he broke up with me via a skype message and blocked me as if two years meant nothing) - cue Gotye
Also, thank you for letting me vent on your vids. It's therapeutic. You really touch on things I'm constantly thinking about but have no one to really talk to about it.
I'm so sorry...The trauma of being rejected when you've trusted someone enough to reveal your 'true' self is terrible. I can relate, sadly, and can only send you my sympathy, understanding and a hug (for what it's worth.)
It's interesting that the one INTP I know is deeply kind, empathetic, sensitive and emotionally astute. He's definitely an INTP, though! We tend to enhance each other's understanding of things, especially emotionally, but I'd say that he's an exceptionally nice person who has worked hard to develop himself. I'm also quite a calm, logical INFJ, so we meet in the middle.
I guess that knowing the traits of a type can help illuminate our understanding of their behaviour yet everyone is so different...
I hope that you find your INFJ (or someone you can feel safe with.)
Thank you, Georgina! I do understand there are great variations even within a certain type, but the thinking aspect dominated over the emotional for sure in my case. It almost makes me feel like maybe something is inherently wrong with me, you know, that I love so much and try so hard to show my love, yet do not have that reciprocated. I'm still trying to find out exactly what it is, why it is, other than different personality types.
thatASMRchick I don't believe that there is anything wrong with you! I think maybe as we're wired to be so sensitive we are also more prone to being hurt, which is so difficult to handle. Being so sensitive is an absolute gift, though, so I'm not sure that I'd give it up for a thicker skin...
If I summarised my emotional state/situation for you right now you'd probably be horrified! I'm withdrawing like crazy as I feel everything around me has descended into chaos. I truly relate to the feeling of loving too much/being too open/being too sincere and the deep injury that can cause when things go wrong. I feel that a relationship is the thing that matters to me most in life yet right now I just want to be by myself and recover my sense of self/self-protect. (This is the one place that I'm still open to communicating!) It's the most fragile I've ever felt but there's still a tiny part of me that believes things might work out. I *need* to be so close to another person that I allow myself to feel vulnerable/open (otherwise I don't feel fully myself or 'authentic') but I'm also very scared to even try that again.
Yes - it's an immense comfort to find people who are wired in the same way. It's a beautiful community of people here :-)
I’m an INFJ happily married to an ISTJ. We’re about to celebrate our 24th wedding anniversary. I love his structure and work ethic and he loves that I understand and can deal with people in ways that are hard for him. Opposites can help each other grow and balance each other out.
As an INFJ married to a fellow INFJ, I can say it’s a good pairing that works well. We are both teachers too! But we do have the same blind spots and it can be difficult not to have a practical, logical brain to balance the relationship. We both can be too philosophical at times and miss the basic practicalities of reality. Both of us wear basic navy blue a lot.
It's the best experience in life to be friends or in a relationship with another INFJ. Now that I know what it's like, I can die 😌... even if it doesn't last forever, it's the depth you'll never forget. There was always something missing, but not with another infj. Also, I gotta agree with you, you date a unique person and not a type.
Валерия Van Der Mark I think I'd much rather have another INFJ as a really good friend, than a spouse. Spouse to complement me, and the friend to "get me".
Валерия Van Der Mark Omg I want to find an INFJ friend too! I am surrounded by extroverts in my life. Adding that to my goals list, sounds amazing, ty! 😍
Jasmine Marie I have a work friend who is also an INFJ...how rare that we would share the same job. We get along so well and some beautiful things happen.
Stephanie Douglass Awesome! Sounds amazing 😍 Finding my own INFJ friend is definitely on my to do list 😄
Heather Lynn Exactly!
I think a lot of people mistake an initial feeling of “vibing” with a person for a true connection. You might be able to relate to someone at first, but that doesn’t mean there’s a soul connection. A soul connection takes time.
Also I agree with what you said. Type doesn’t matter that much... any type can work with any type. But just knowing each other’s type and understanding the functions is helpful in learning how to communicate with each other and knowing where the weak spots are.
A soul connection takes time (and possibly adversity) to be proven to exist
I found out my husband is a INTP a couple days ago! It all makes so much sense now!! I finally know why he acts the way he does, knowing it makes everything so much better😊💕
There are actually other important traits to a person... Self-Awareness, Politics, IQ, EQ, Maturity, Knowledge, Beliefs, Interests. 2 INFJs (or any type) who are polar opposites on these things are probably going to be quite different as people and could affect how much you can get along with them.
Good point 💖
I love my ENTP so much!! He's like a human vacation and safe haven for me, complete with a comedy show, drinks and a massage. 10/10 would marry again.
Sounds like an ideal type of personality for me too lol!! :) how would you say you complement him? what aspects of your personality (I'm assuming you're an INFJ) he likes and appreciates about you?
My issue with INFJ/INFJ relationships I’ve been in is that bc the mirroring was so intense any differences would be treated as threats, and conflicts were excruciating. Feeling like someone gets me is very precious but part of love from my pov is being delighted over someone else’s differences, the ways they aren’t you. Conflicts were avoided bc when they happened we’d empathize so intensely it’d be this echo chamber effect (I couldn’t feel hurt without immediately feeling him or her being hurt that I was hurt). This is a problem for me generally but with other INFJs it would be so much worse. Usually this ends with withdrawing from one another, which is not what I’m looking for in a relationship. Honestly now that I’m older and have more stuff going on I just want a partner who is supportive (emotionally) and who I can support without bending myself out of shape. Mystical transcendent love moments are great but you can’t live in them all the time.
INFJ/INFJ relationship just means the communication will be easier..same sensibility..but there is no warranty that the quality if the relationship will be better....I get how extraverts are appealing..because they are not hard to get..make you feel at ease..seem enthusiastic to get to know you...but truth is it is superficial..they are like that with everyone...and they have so many options in dating that they don't seem to value you in a deep way..just my take on it.
camille caumont But can two introverts ever get out of their own heads long enough to get anything done? I think we need balance and understanding of each other's strengths and weaknesses. Maybe its' just the NF letters that need to be the same? I think it's a lot of different factors.
Recovering Soul...I think what attracts me more has nothing to do with " social actions" like extraverts like getting into..it has more to do with "life experimentation"...for instance if an extravert is just a huge party animal with no other hobby..it is kinda pointless to me...while an introvert with a huge creativity...who travels a lots..who improves his practical knowledge (like myself : learning many languages for instance)...will definitely win my heart. But yes it's lot of different factors. At the end individuals are unique.
I’ve never seen an INFJ who would actually make a generalization like that about extroverts being superficial and all that. That’s dumb as hell lol. As an ENFP, I don’t choose to get my energy from social interaction, that’s just how I am. That doesn’t mean I don’t value people though, as there are only like 3 or 4 people I consider true life long friends, or family. And not every extrovert has many options in dating, sadly... once every few years I might have one option.. plus not all extroverts are charming and can put you at ease- like have you met an estj lol.
camille caumont my boyfriend and i are both infj and we communicate sooo well. i'm eternally grateful
BB80Delta that’s some dark point of view. My condolences on your past experiences, but please don’t generalise.
your hair is so beautiful. loving those curls. great video 💜💜
I'm dumb jealous of his hair right now
I am an INFJ, and my boyfriend is an INFP. It is bliss, we both understand one another very well, and I swear he reads my mind. For me, I know from experience that extroverts tire me out and exhaust me, though I also constantly hear people say ENFP and INFJ are perfect matches. I think my INFP therefore is the perfect match for me (personally, haha) because he has the introversion, but is also an intuitive and a feeler. I think the P vs. J functions also work very well for us, and balances one another. But I really enjoyed this video!! Thank you so much for all the lovely content. I never disagree with your content...
Before I had my partner take the test, it's hands down the best relationship I could've imagined or dreamt up. To my surprise, he's also INFJ. Like any relationship, it takes work, but wow🥰
Congratz!!!! I wish you all the best, long happy and healthy lives together. May God bless you
Your hair is doing good things today. *High five*
I agree. I don't think anyone should go on an MBTI relationship hunt nor an astrological relationship hunt. It would be very contrived and forced.
I do think it's interesting to discuss research our friends and relationship interests types or signs at some point. It has given me an understanding of the reasons that I am drawn to certain people. Personality traits and qualities in others that mesh well, I have discovered, quite often have common types and signs. I don't knowingly seek these people out, it just seems to happen that way at times.
Nikki Docherty you can recognize what you like without letting it dictate your attraction! Use information to learn, but not restrict. :)
Brandon Johnson in case you didn't catch what I said, that was it. That is the exact reason i learn about the types and signs of others, to understand them and the patterns I have seen in all kinds of relationships to see if there is a common thread. I do this with all relationships-- family and friends as well. Types don't "dictate" my attraction, but i have noticed that certain types do attract me more, and some are more deterrent. I think our intuition, intelligence and common sense are both good tools for gauging personality clashes/meshes.
INFJ here engaged to an INFP. Our introversion is our best asset, other than that we see things differently but are able to deal with it peacefully...if that makes sense
I’ve been with two INFJs. It was interesting to see my own idealism mirrored in them. But man, some of the magical thinking and hard headedness pissed me off. I couldn’t see why they would buy into some of the things they did, and they let me down by not having as much endurance as I did when life was rough. I realized a lot about myself through them - and that even with another INFJ there is no true alignment of values and goals/visions.
But you ARE in my brain. You're in my consciousness. That's where you exist for me. And I for you. Weird eh? Trippy.
I am an INFJ married to an ISTJ. There is so much out there that says our match is the worst of all matches. First of all, like you said, I think it comes down to whether or not you are health/unhealthy. Secondly, your type doesn't necessarily describe your values. When I was reading about INFJ/INFP friendships, I read that a lot of times this pair ends up in a friendship but it can go terribly sour if you realize your values don't match up which can go unnoticed for a long time because you think so similarly. But neither are willing to budge on their values. I think that applies to all pairs, friendship or romantically. Thirdly, my ISTJ husband and I share a lot of common interests and we bring very different perspectives to our discussions. I think not only do we balance each other out, we have the same values and the same goals that we are working towards in life. Lastly, i have a cousin who is an ENFP and I can't imagine ever dating someone like her. She has given me a hard time for not being social enough and I have judge her for her socializing with anyone for the sake of doing so. We get along, have good conversations, understand things similarly, but I think its an e vs i thing - they are way too insecure, and I don't trust fleeting attention.
Lauren Brothers Hello friend! I’m also an INFJ who is with an ISTJ. We aren’t married but we’ve been together just over 10 years. I completely agree with everything in your comment and it’s nice to see another person who loves an ISTJ because, from what I’ve seen, they are WILDLY mis-understood/represented in an extremely negative way, here on the net. They’re not all robots with ice in their veins. Mine is the most loyal, dependable, caring person I know. However, like Frank said, it takes a lot of patience and understanding, to get to know them deeply. That’s not their fault and they really can’t help it. What we all need MBTI for, is to learn HOW to communicate with other types. Learning about MBTI reeeeally helped my partner and I, to the point that I’m not sure we would even still be together AND happier than ever, had we not found it.
I am also an INFJ dating an ISTJ! Everything you two are saying is what I also wanted to comment. He definitely isn't a shower of emotion, but what he does for me and our family is his way of showing how much he cares. When I first found out our types I did get a little frightened from the fact that everywhere basically says we aren't compatible. But our relationship is so strong, we communicate so well and he helps keep me grounded when I'm too high in the clouds. Not too mention I help pull him out of his box when he needs it. :)
same same same! this article I think sums up our pair quite accurately - long as we are healthy, share values, interests, and work towards common goals: www.psychologyjunkie.com/2018/04/27/when-opposites-attract-the-infj-and-istj-relationship/
I wanted to share this with you guys because reading this made me feel more assured about our match!
Lauren Brothers
That was a great read thank you. :)
It totally sums it up very well.
Lauren Brothers thanks for the article! The person who wrote it sure knows their stuff. I agreed with all of it. That’s quite unusual for me.
I'm INFJ cohabitating for three years with another INFJ. I know this is who I'm supposed to be with and neither of us is close to perfect. I think age and maturity/life experiences have something to do with it. We both agree that if we'd met 20 years ago our relationship would've never worked. But we have a bond that's something I can't put into words. He can really piss me off at times and I'm certain I do the same to him, but we also have the comfort of knowing neither one of us is going anywhere.
If someone can't show their feelings, I'm out!
I dated a fellow INFJ later in life, and it was very much that mind reading thing, especially in person. We were still able to have really great, deep conversations, where I think we were both learning from each other. I think there was this unspoken feeling that the whole thing was kind of self-congratulatory/masturbatory, and like you said, we both had the same blind spots. And we kept trying to do for each other what we try to do for everyone else... but because we both have that dominant Introverted Intuition, that felt absolutely pointless.
I agree with you so much! It's good to be aware of type to understand that person a little better but it shouldn't be what a person bases a relationship on. Still think INFJ INFJ would be MAGIC so long as both of you are developed :P
FYI longest relationship of 5 years was with an ENTJ (I'm INFJ obviously) and it was EXTREMELY hard. The E was great in the beginning but soon became such a problem of frustration for them and "tiring" for me.
When it comes to dating, mental and emotional health is more important then personality type. Not that I don't do it. But child hood trauma is for your therapist not your partner. That's just one of several boundaries you should not cross. Well that's the only one I really know.
I'm an INFJ married to an INTJ and it has been a very difficult relationship but we have a lot in common and he brings out the part of me that I need, even if it hurts. I help him in the same way. Would definitely prefer someone who is more gentle and wants to hear about my inner thoughts though
My partner of 9 years its infp .. me (infj) and we get along amazing. We are both very intense, both empathic, intuitive, etc, it works.. AND its a very respectfull partnership.
I love that you mentioned the healthy INFJ vs the unhealthy INFJ bc I have been both at some point and once you have more insight to your other functions, you really do become a different person. I'm still both in certain ways but we're always tryna be better and not bitter over here! 🤗
Ah, cuppa joe with my boy FJ in the morning. Good stuff man
I’m an INFJ in an amazing relationship with an ENJF. My best relationships have always been with extroverts. We compliment each other well. But I totally agree that you shouldn’t limit yourself to a set of personality types. Some individuals have astounding character and life experiences that can easily create compatibility.
Congratulations! That is fantastic! You are so lucky
"Is the other person smoking hot?"
Hahaha! New rule for living. Out with the overthinking...
Georgina Leeson I thought he said, "Is the other person smoking pot?" Lol. Had to play it back.
002themoon Haha! I thought that for a moment too :-) I hope he said hot...
Frank. You said hot, right? (This was the most important message in the video, obviously...)
LOL yeah I said hot
My husband and I are both INFJ, and we’ve together for 14 years and it’s fantastic because we understand each other so very well.
Infj is the last person to fall in love. That's a factor in the dating game 😃
I'm married to an ENFP, we're been married for 13 years and I love him more every day. I don't see many people like us, I think that we are perfect for each other. Just my humble opinion, could be just a coincidence, but at least for me it works. I'm an INFJ by the way xD.
I love riding the Frank James train. Also, I will always say get out of my head. It is very comforting to know someone else gets my brain. Lol. Thanks for making these videos and thank you for being you. Stay beautiful!!!
I was with an ENTP for 16 years but only married for 2 of those years. The relationship ended because ultimately we had communication trouble. I always thought he was yelling at me and he was a facts man more than a feeling man. We knew nothing of types then.
After our daughter had a suicide attempt, we started really having to find a deeper way to communicate for the health of our daughter. We all learned our types. I'm INFJ, he is ENTP, and our daughter is ISFP. As parents, we have had to tailor our communication styles to get her to open up. In all of this, he and I were able to understand why our relationship failed. I don't think the personality type does matter for a relationship, but it is paramount for communication.
that’s a really good point i guess with good communication comes healthy relationships. sorry to hear about your daughter hope she and you are faring better these days ❤️
My parents are INFJ (mom) ENTP (dad) and it's poison. I've known of a couple INFJ/ENTP couples and they're also terrible relationships. As an INFJ, I understand the appeal, but nope.
I’m an INFJ (& Leo) with an INTJ (& Scorpio) been together over 3 years and I must say, I’m so in love. Our relationship is dare I say, perfect. ☺️ We’re so aligned when it comes to standards and goals and our conversations hit on that deep level that I struggle to find with most people.
Man FJ, this is becoming a very special place for INFJs to express themselves and connect. It's moving.
It’s surprising to read such a high volume of happily married people, seems anomalous.
"I'm George McFly. I'm your density! I mean your destiny." It's great how Back to the Future quotes can apply to many situations. Also, I agree with the point you're making.
YEAH!! I always think of George McFly when I see Frank...and with this hair... (Back To The Future is my fave movie ever!)
I’m an INFJ and all of the people I have been in deep semi relationships with were all extraverted. There’s something about observing the said extravert in their element that really invigorates me. Very much like you said, Frank. But,one of the most intellectually-stimulating guys I’ve liked was an ISTJ. I love the sensing types because I just find it really interesting which makes it attractive. I think type plays a small factor but shared experience and interests really should align more so than type. I’ve been all around, I suppose. But The guys I liked the most were ENFJ and ISTJ.The one that I got into because of their surface-level charm was ESTP, but in the end, it just didn’t work. I’ve watched all of your videos, Frank! I truly appreciate how much you can read my mind and be so relatable. It takes time for me to subscribe to someone. I’m proud to say I’ll finally subscribe! Keep being you. :)
INFJ married to an ESTJ for 10 years. It's a terrific relationship. He keeps me grounded and looks at the world differently and yet the same in some respects. We definitely balance each other out and can help each other in our weak areas.
I'm an infj male my wife is an estj. we are going on 28 years
I'm INFJ and my husband is ESFP. Thank god we have the F in common, because there are a lot of clashes let me tell you. But I kinda like how he keeps things surface-level sometimes, because we INFJs can get lost in our thoughts a lot and it can get tiring.
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If you're already thinking about personality types before even thinking about marriage then you got a long way to go. Let your experiences, your compatibility, your feelings and also logic dictate your decision to marry someone. Me personally I would want someone similar to me yet has her own unique little thing. People say opposites attract each other but I'm not sure if people still believe that anymore; at least I don't.
I'm kind of obsessed with INTJ/ENTJ types. Their "strict" thinking and approach to life make me feel calm and safe.
ENFP girlfriends are ones you seem to bond with for eternity - and they see it too. Maybe I just didn't do the right things at the right time, but it's incredibly destructive. That promise of perfection is always one step away, but that step never comes.
It's definitely the deepest, most intense pairing there is. If both can get a strong handle on the sensory stuff, it's probably perfect.
As the INFJ, you'll want to put that extra energy into making sure your environment is tidy. The ENFP will look after how you both physically feel internally. But remember, you'll be doing it for two people - and so will they.
A good way to keep it up is to engage the F to do it for them. Bing bang whallop, you've tricked yourself into doing your demons via a saviour.
Really wish I'd figured this out sooner.
That is interesting. I wonder if the Fi can trick the Si too into action. And yes, I have a bond with all my exes so you better be comfortable knowing that and when I say that relationship is in the past Trust my Si. It's in the past but that doesn't mean I don't have a bond with them. Many of my exes still look out for my well fair a few of which I have NO idea how I would have faired the pandemic without them. The main issue the ENFP faces in a romantic relationship is the insecurity the other faces because the ENFP makes deep bonds with everyone! not just romantic partners and anyways, I am sure the INFJ would be able to tell if the ENFP is not loyal but the ENFPs I know are DEEPLY LOYAL. Much more than most when I look out at society so yeah Contradictions between what is assumed on the surface and what actual is.... I mean how can we hold an eternal bond if we cheat on you?
Oh MY! I actually already Know the answer to my inquiry is YES! Explains my actually LOVING to do the dishes... that always tripped me up.... Why am I loving to the dishes when he is around. Or clean... I don't think that is an INFJ thing though maybe just an Fi happy thing.
Here is another thing that i have noticed with my INTJ partners (never had an INFJ partner)... I have exemptional spacial awareness of all the objects, exemptional tetris abilities and noticed that is true also for my ENFP friends. Then I heard that is actually Ne working. That Ne not only keeps track of all the ideas in the mental realm but also can keep track of all the spatial objects too and track its momentum so it can predict in very short timelines where everything is going which Se inferior users seem to lack. So while they are spatially lost, I can immediately see it and point in the right direction. Its like I can point in the right direction but can't have a long drawn out plan for where the right direction is down the line. I have to step into that next moment and recalculate. And that is how we live with literally each new step naturally calculated from the last. So I guess what I am saying is that I can easily point out what the Se element is that Ni dom user is missing but that doesnt help with any long term plans they want to make
Im an INFJ and Im dating an ISFP adventurers type and my partner just lives in the moment and this makes it so much better for both of us. If I stick in my thoughts for too long he gets me out of it by joking around and makes me enjoy every moment I spend with him. Hes also really good at giving advice and me being slightly introverted balances well withhim being slightly extroverted. Its really great and Im so happy I found him.
I (INFJ) dated (8yrs) an INTJ. And we still cool after breaking up. We were really alike & at the same time kinda different. He always knew what I was thinking.. & he stopped me when I was too nice to people or if I communicated too much because sometimes I didn't realize that's I losing energy on people i shouldn't. He gave me some boundaries.
What I didn't like was he was sometimes tooo cold, not really emotional lol couldn't show his feelings.... he wasn't really spontaneous.. no passionate.. BUT what I really really. He gave me my space! He wasn't so needy, controlling lol & we never really fight. Hmmm...
And ThaaaaAaaaank you so much for your videos F.J. Great Work! Keep going... 🙏🏻💫💕