Dealing with Anxiety at this time.

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ส.ค. 2024

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  • @ClarityforUPSCbyDr.Shivin
    @ClarityforUPSCbyDr.Shivin  หลายเดือนก่อน +93

    Things do go wrong. I know this was an important video. My mic settings were wrong. My phone rang. But we have to get past this.

    • @Didyouknow786-x8m
      @Didyouknow786-x8m หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hi sir..
      I am a female student from uttrakhand 5 years back i started my journey i have given 5 attemptsand always rejected by 2 3 exams ..becoming ias officer was my childhood dream...i was very clear so after grad i started preparing now i have came a long way...sir i am really depressed now...i really need help what should i do..now i have no where to go sir....in self doubts i was always a outgoing and brilliant student but now i am.really depressed...plz help me sir i am the only child of my parents ..

    • @Vickie2k24
      @Vickie2k24 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Mam plan B pe work kr skte hn aap ... sorry for the situation ​@@Didyouknow786-x8m

    • @aashnasharma1367
      @aashnasharma1367 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Didyouknow786-x8m stay strong

    • @mahimajain2496
      @mahimajain2496 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Didyouknow786-x8m hey, I really suggest you to take a break or some time out for yourself. It's okay to feel this way, but I hope you know you're strong and can withstand whatever comes. Please take care of yourself, and even if it sucks right now, it will get better.

    • @anonymousss755
      @anonymousss755 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Didyouknow786-x8myou are warrior sister

  • @Pooja._thota
    @Pooja._thota หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    I'm writing it down just to tell myself "I'm proud of you" as I haven't heard from anyone....I was mentally exhausted with people's opinions and my parent's criticism. Despite all of this I still remember the sleepless nights,countless revision, scheduling,tears, trying to be motivated all the time.This was my third attempt & i want to remember myself that I worked hard till the 16th morning,i fought for very last minute but still due to silly mistakes I did wrong in some questions I'm bit disappointed for not clearing this time but I know next year I'm gonna see my name in the list I'm very very much confident
    But I was anxious about my parents reaction ...the whole world is trying to separate me from my dream in every way possible....my only concern is that I wasn't able to stay strong in all the situations , mentally exhausted, unable to concentrate,and felt like choking

    • @HarshitaRathore-il7dr
      @HarshitaRathore-il7dr หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am with you ❤

    • @DEEPIKAKUSHWAHA-hb1xo
      @DEEPIKAKUSHWAHA-hb1xo หลายเดือนก่อน

      We are with you

    • @A_human_onplanet
      @A_human_onplanet หลายเดือนก่อน

      It happens mam but I wish you clear this prelims inspite of those silly mistakes you made

    • @exoticindiaa
      @exoticindiaa หลายเดือนก่อน

      You would feel much more relaxed if you have a job right now. Trust me, clear some other exam in case you dont pass this year’s Prelims

    • @Beinghumane1
      @Beinghumane1 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your situation is exactly same as mine, I thought this 3rd attempt was my last as I've done enough hardwork but I've done some silly mistakes due to lack of revision at last moment for some reasons

  • @thatbrowngirl.
    @thatbrowngirl. หลายเดือนก่อน +84

    Gratitude Gratitude Gratitude! 🌻💜
    Doc,
    I'm on the borderline, I don't know what the result is going to be, but yes I know I've worked extremely hard for the past year and I'm ready to face whatever comes my way. Thank you for being there.

    • @anusha5883
      @anusha5883 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same my situation also

    • @Ank.-og2cw
      @Ank.-og2cw หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same my situation

    • @saurabhpatel3022
      @saurabhpatel3022 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@Ank.-og2cwkya hota h borderline ab toh ye bi smjh nhi aa rha

    • @S.Saharawat
      @S.Saharawat หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same here 😊

    • @artiparjapat9806
      @artiparjapat9806 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Kitnà score aa rha h

  • @drstrange7835
    @drstrange7835 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Thank you so much Sir. I used to prepare along with my brother back in 2018, He used to inspire me for this exam as he was also preparing and definitely going to make it but I always had a secure career like you so I did not pay much attention then unfortunately I lost him. I was shattered. Always depressed, anxious and on therapy as well.
    From the last few months I have started preparing again and gave my attempt. I don't know what is going to happen. Anxiety is prevailing. I am also not completely mains ready.
    I miss him so much But whenever I watch your videos, listen to your voice, I feel like he is with me, guiding me, constantly pushing me to work more hard every single minute.
    It's my brother's birthday in next few days and I don't know if I will be in the list this time or not but I will surely make him proud. Wherever he is, watching me pushing my limits, I will surely make this happen.
    Thank you for your valuable guidance Sir. You are a gem of a person. May god bring all the happiness, health and more success in the future for you.

    • @Justhuman5563
      @Justhuman5563 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What happened to your bro ? 😢..sorry for the loss

  • @shrutiagarwal3505
    @shrutiagarwal3505 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Shivin, you are a gem! You dont know what this video means to us💎

  • @Clarityofconcepts
    @Clarityofconcepts หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I’m really scared for this prelims result. Uncertain part is my family forcing me for marriage. It’s like either clear a govt exam or marry a govt job guy. I’m terribly stuck. In marriage it’s been 6 guys who kept rejecting me for looks and all these are IAS/Ips officers asking for 20cr dowry. Yes it’s true. People from Up must be aware of it. Shivin sir you are so considerate. Please help me to find a path. I’m the object of everyone’s taunts and frustration. I’m trying my best to ignore but it’s hard. I pray often. My self worth is almost zero. My parents are extremely successful so I have a high pressure to perform. I want to appear again but life’s so hazy.

    • @anonymousss755
      @anonymousss755 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You are very brave seriously it's not easy to accept such things and still fighting you are true warrior

    • @loserang2877
      @loserang2877 หลายเดือนก่อน

      20 cr😮

    • @vimaladhithan1745
      @vimaladhithan1745 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      UPSC exam expects ton of hardwork from aspirants but at the end the results may or may not be positive but ultimately we should try to live our life happily with other opportunities that we don’t look at it now
      All best for good things to happen 😊

    • @Clarityofconcepts
      @Clarityofconcepts หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@anonymousss755 thank you 😁

    • @Clarityofconcepts
      @Clarityofconcepts หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@vimaladhithan1745 true

  • @Wtfomen06
    @Wtfomen06 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    I randomly came across one of the videos of Shivin sir, talking about how he went through a bad break-up and loss of a loved one before 2022 prelims. I've downloaded that video in my phone and I have watched it like 1000 times by now only to realise that I'm not the only one with problems. I've dealt with depression in a very young age but i bounced back and now I'm dealing with stage 4 cancer of one of my parents. It is hard and we know the ultimate outcome of it but I feel the depression I had earlier prepared me for this. If I had not got diagnosed with clinical depression that time I wouldn't have been prepared for this in a million lifetimes. it's hard but it's worth it, I'm a gen z so I just take it as my character development! It's my first attempt and I have a chance of clearing this exam but even if I couldn't I'd bounce back because as Elle Woods said in Legally Blonde movie, "Like it's hard?" .
    Anyways thank you so much shivin sir for existing, I love you so much. I've followed you from your anonymous aspirant journey to now, every achievement and criticism of yours feels personal. The day I crack this exam it'd be because of you even my parents know that.

    • @Clarityofconcepts
      @Clarityofconcepts หลายเดือนก่อน

      Take care buddy.

    • @Dhanshree80
      @Dhanshree80 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are strong,We are with u I can understand your feeling,I also went through the same process

    • @anonymousss755
      @anonymousss755 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Stay strong bhai... Sending lots of love to you

    • @rupalbhardwaj4157
      @rupalbhardwaj4157 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You are an inspiration! Hold your head high.

    • @FPL_Sassy
      @FPL_Sassy หลายเดือนก่อน

      Can you give the link of the above said video?

  • @rashmisingh5203
    @rashmisingh5203 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    I don't know if I am going to make it or not but one thing I know that this attempt has been about my improvement, my efforts and my hard work. I am proud of myself whether I make it or not. I am committed to giving it one more chance as I have immensely improved. Thank you Sir for your support and guidance.

  • @karamveersingh2217
    @karamveersingh2217 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Being an academically bright child since school and college, I always felt like I could clear any exam, but my upsc journey had other plans.
    The biggest mistake I made was giving a non serious attempt in 2021, which took away my self esteem and all the enthusiasm which the first attempt brings. I scored 61.
    Then I put my head down and prepared for 2022. But, I missed Pre 22 by a whisker. It shattered me. 5-6 months I just procrastinated, I lost my vision.
    Under prepared, I missed Pre 23 cutoff by 15 marks. Now my self confidence was buried under the ground. I compared by current self with my younger self, the little boy who topped school exams and whose teachers and parents had high hopes from him. I was not even half of what I used to be. All I could see were my weaknesses, and my mental health was absolutely destroyed.
    Familiarity with upsc prep(comfort zone) and family support enabled me to give another attempt. I really really studied hard, honestly I felt horrible because my mental health was no longer a friend, everyday getting up was a struggle, the joy and enthusiasm had escaped my life. But somehow I kept going and I felt reasonably confident one day before Pre 24, and the reason was my competence.
    Now, according to answer keys my score is 80.67, in with a meagre chance, I am very anxious. Not because I won't be able to do anything else in life, but because I have lost belief in myself, the great gift I earlier had.
    The last 10 days, I have somehow focused most of my energy on improving my mental health, which is now my priority over any career prospect.

    • @himanshubhati7643
      @himanshubhati7643 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Bro just relax.. if you have scored 80 ,it means you have sufficient knowledge and you might miss cutoff because here guesswork helps you to get that edge( i scored 109.09 in 2023, 72 in 2022, 80 in 2021 and this time hovering around 95.) work on making right guess, take risk(fortune favours the brave) only if you want to do this otherwise there are ample of opportunities to look for. Every individual is unique ,you might perform well at something else.
      Sorry for giving unasked advice but i could not hold myself when i read something relatable

  • @prakritikhurana
    @prakritikhurana หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Hello sir. This is my last attempt and chances of clearing are very bleak but thankfully I have a job of public sector Bank in my hand. I don't like my job, but until I get something I like, this seems to be a great earning option.
    I will write for state PCS for sure and will try to get a good rank there. I'm married for several years now, and I so proud that despite the responsibilities of home and my workplace, I persevered.
    Life has not been easy lately, but I believe, it is still beautiful.
    I would request you to please bring some women counselors on this channel as well so that women like me can relate and find solutions.
    PS: In this coaching industry of creating and selling fear, I see people like you very rarely to focus more on mental health and broader picture of life! Kudos!
    Thanks

    • @swetasoni4834
      @swetasoni4834 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are really great!!

  • @divyaanamik
    @divyaanamik หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I am glad to see a person talk so empathetically about failures in competitive exams. Thank you, Shivin.

  • @vaishalisingh-ik4cd
    @vaishalisingh-ik4cd หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Not opening telegram is the best advice! I was going paranoid about reading those comments under your post on the channel. I will start with not looking at my phone till evening otherwise I get tempted to open all the stress inducing apps. Hopefully, I slowly I can manage this paranoia until the results. A billion times thank you for the hand holding support you have given sir at every step of this exam and otherwise.

  • @shivamkumartiwari1762
    @shivamkumartiwari1762 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Cleared the Prelims in my first attempt.
    Thank you Shivin Sir for your guidance.❤

  • @kshamasharma4431
    @kshamasharma4431 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    This is my last attempt.i missed prelims last year because of csat.this time i am clearing csat but gs is on borderline..i worked so hard this time made so many sacrifices. I didn't give time to my one year old baby...i did spend my days locking my self in room. Even he was crying outside i didn't not open the door. I don't know why i was so harsh because of one exam.. am totally shattered now..jb start kiya tha jor shor se pta ni tha ki upsc itna uncertain hai..apko sunne ke bad ansu rok payi hu...i promise that i will travel now i will stay strong and give time to my health and to my family .

  • @manavchaudhary4672
    @manavchaudhary4672 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are humanising this space in ways I cannot put in words. Thanks for being there sir. Only huge, heartfelt gratitude to you ❤️

  • @aspirant10m.89
    @aspirant10m.89 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Cleared! 1st attempt❤.thankyou so much sir.

    • @SumitKshatriyaa
      @SumitKshatriyaa หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      how is ur mains prep

    • @Arpan00014
      @Arpan00014 หลายเดือนก่อน

      kaha seh prep Kiya sources kya hai aur age kitni hai I'm a fresher

    • @SumitKshatriyaa
      @SumitKshatriyaa หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Arpan00014 pdle bhai khud pata chl jaega

  • @user-dy4wo8xn2h
    @user-dy4wo8xn2h หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much❤. Whatever the result may be, at least there’s someone who is standing with us. Means a lot. Tysm

  • @avinashverma9627
    @avinashverma9627 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    The feeling of writing mains this year (in case i clear pre this time) is giving me as much scare as the feeling of not clearing prelims.😢😢😢

  • @jonsnow4411
    @jonsnow4411 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Jaldi se mains ka daily Target tracking and current affairs initiative chalu karo sir.
    Time Kam he. Only 80 days😅

  • @anjalithaokar2725
    @anjalithaokar2725 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Roll no check ,Sir it was my 4th attempt couldn't clear prelims continusly 4th time , now deciding to take break from this exam , it's mentally exhaustively to give continuously and failing continusly ,
    There is no backup , nothing while other PPL are getting good job 😢
    Reason of anxiety
    What next ,now parents also say you are stuck in this preparation , PPL who are not soo gret studies in school doing great jobs and satisfied ,,,
    Also no backup , coming from humanities history' major , no scope to get good job
    Otherside my twin brother who got job at age 22 and earning well working in great work culture
    My close frd job amazing job in state pcs ,
    I m judging myself

  • @DOLLY-pj8nd
    @DOLLY-pj8nd หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Happy doctor's day , u are working so good for mental health of the aspirants

  • @chowhan13
    @chowhan13 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    An archer will do whatever he can in order to hit the target, but once the arrow leaves the bow, the actual outcome is not up to him. Hitting the target is to be chosen but not to be desired
    Accept the upcoming fate. If it isn't fortunate, adjust and adapt.
    I know your pain.
    None can make you into or out of the list which has been finalised.

  • @mitv8096
    @mitv8096 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hello shivin sir….
    First of all thanks a lot for everything
    I know very I’m not going to clear this prelims. It is not easy thing for me bcz I did a lot of hard work, I read each every day above 13 hrs + , I never compromised even in my tough situations lot sacrifices, I’m heartfully telling I did very genuine hard for this prelims.
    I’m come from very poor educational background I completely from govt colleges bcz financially not well . My parents are not effort this preparation
    There is lot uncertainties.
    But bcz I learned lot things in preparation I Compare myself from last year to this time lot of drastic changes in my personality and preparation.
    Tqu sir

  • @Spa398
    @Spa398 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Please make a video for parents because somehow we will deal with our failure and will rebuild ourselves but parents trust and support affect us more than we think...their reaction impact us the most even if we know they are wrong and unfortunately most of the parents dont know how to support and trust their children..we are already broken but when we see our parents not trusting us, it breaks our confidence to the core..please make a video for parents in detail.

  • @ayushmishra8083
    @ayushmishra8083 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You've somehow made me come to peace with the fact called "life" .
    I am at peace with the fact that there will be a desire to change a mistake , or be in control of the tide , but that's the fact to live and just be through it.
    And it feels like a vacation !
    Thanks for the empathy buddy❤ !
    Thanks for just being there !❤

  • @Emma-xt5ju
    @Emma-xt5ju หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    To the fellow aspirants ❤Irrespective of the result....we should be MAINS READY by Sep/Oct !!

  • @nisharamesh2500
    @nisharamesh2500 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My birthday is within 2 days and this was my 1st attempt, i know I've given my best and i also got to know about my mistakes too! Whatever the results might be, I'm ready to overcome my mistakes in the further attempts. I'm accountable to only people who understands me for truly who i am and going to stay humble and grounded. Thank you shivin sir ❤

  • @Prithm7
    @Prithm7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you sir for always being with us. You are a true supporter❤.

  • @priyadarshini.t217
    @priyadarshini.t217 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm on the borderline. But, I'm proud of myself for the efforts I've made to reach this stage.
    You're a gem. We all love you ! Thanks for the positive words. ♥️🙏

  • @rashmisingh5203
    @rashmisingh5203 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This moment is filled with so much anxiety, feels like my body is shaking.

  • @Akki575
    @Akki575 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Shivin !! You are such a great persona . Atleast someone who understands us the way we want to be understood! Your efforts are to be appreciated!
    I am on borderline. But I am proud how I worked this year with the commitment from last 4-5 months wasn't even taking break on sundays .
    You correctly said uncertainty always will be there . But this process makes us tougher and tougher.
    More power to you ❤

  • @versavibesp
    @versavibesp หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks . Shivin . It helped. You know the same thing but you wait for someone else to tell that what you feel is okay. That's the better part in your video. So thoughtful of you making such videos.

  • @rishabhbansal2168
    @rishabhbansal2168 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I have tried my best come what May. I have given every possible effort this time to make sure that this is the bestest attempt of me clearing upsc prelims .But I am not sure of making it to the exam. But yes I have tried to make up my mind for following a backup plan . Let’s hope for the best . Thank you Shivjn Sir for my contact support . Looking forward to get trained from you for mains too . Signing off :)

  • @SagarBhimraoSurwade
    @SagarBhimraoSurwade หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks Shivin for always being with US, God Bless You

  • @rajneesh0211
    @rajneesh0211 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for always making me calm in all these uneasy situations ❤

  • @Ram-qv2nm
    @Ram-qv2nm หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Dhak dhak ho rela h....

  • @anushkakatiyar2192
    @anushkakatiyar2192 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you sir for your support...you are a real coach....your insights helps me to be in present and have a attitude of ho jayega.....whatever I am supposed to do I'll do that at the moment without any speculation of future .....I'll face my fear and failure with a smile and calm mind. I'll accept the result whatever it will be and get ready for next year with ten times more confidence .....I'll fight harder. I promise.

  • @ajaykumar-sp8ey
    @ajaykumar-sp8ey หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks Shivin. this video helps me to calm nerves. after prelims my mind has gone numb. believe me i have put my heart and mind into this exam. while in prelims i used to be focused and stoic ( calm and composed even though last 2 times i couldn't make into prelims). just after prelims is over, how much i try to be in control, my mind was caught with too much anxiety and fear though i dont admit .but its true.
    Iam US based software professional , left US in covid times. in the spur of moment i decided to take break from my profession and do something that satisfying. tbh i don't hate that job and simply i don't give any soul satisfaction other than financial freedom and growth. having been failed prelims twice after it, i don't know how to face family friends if i didn't get this.
    i know my mental health has to be a priority , but i say it many times to myself.
    that emotional baggage of failure is hard to take, how do i face my family whom i made financially weak as opposed to be comfortable if i continued my job. i somehow know, its just matter of 4-6 months to get family finance on track. how do i justify it now?
    how do i face friends. for some, i dont get it. why is he trying to leave everything behind when he is comfortable. its the question i face every time and sometimes from my family.
    for some, i am taking risk that worthy. tbh i didn't think much of them. now iam thinking how do i face them as utter failure
    forget about them, how do i get over . i will try not to think of it. but this failure is hard to get out of my mind. what is after this, i am able to make anything worthy later on, if i want to do anything i will be pulled down by my fear of failure.
    how do i get this man. i dont want to go to US on one hand and take job. on other hand it will help family financially and also give me a break.
    Sorry was thinking and typing at same time, maybe incomprehensible to some extent. i am just trying to let go

  • @Sushree_Subhalaxmi562
    @Sushree_Subhalaxmi562 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Whenever any uncertain idea comes to mind it's your motivation that once again lights up the soul!
    I just wish that u soon get through the examination and fulfill your wish to enter into IFS!😊
    All my best wishes to you 😊!

  • @farhakhan7751
    @farhakhan7751 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    At this time family's support is very important but what i am getting is that upsc is not in your destiny explore other options. I used to live in hostel after pre i came back home for a break without any books so they are like if u are not studying here then we don't think u would be doing there and that's why u fail this break me more than the result or anything right now feeling very lonely having suicidal thoughts i just expect to be someone there atleast from my family only just to hear what am i feeling but no one wants to hear a loser and i realised i am alone

    • @shivampushkar6791
      @shivampushkar6791 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      First of all, You should know one thing that you are not alone, there are many facing same, even worst....... In life we are accountable to ourselves first then family then anyone else....... If you have believe in yrself, and ready to work hard them have patience yr time will come..... Maximum they can do is that they will stop supporting you and it's okay...still Many have already done it .... And you also can... Just have believe in yrself, in yr hard work...when you will be successful same people will start talking good about you... Even if they don't, it shouldn't matter... Be proud of yrself....
      And always remember.. You are not alone as our Sir always say🤞✨

  • @adityaanand1701
    @adityaanand1701 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just want to meet you. I met with many people, I used to watch many people but you have something special in you. Your words is so much pleasant to my ears. Thank you Thank you and Thank you so much.

  • @satyamvaishnava1027
    @satyamvaishnava1027 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Kijiye.... Result Result
    Kheliye..... Result Result
    Alhua Result 😂😂

  • @SonamSingh-iq1lh
    @SonamSingh-iq1lh หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much sir much needed video!
    Whatever will be the result will see together!

  • @akashsachin1999
    @akashsachin1999 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your video never fails to give goosebumps anytime and everytime sir...This is the exact feel which i got from the last video before my prelims... I was very anxious and curious about the results throughout the day...I would've opened telegram numerous times today...But thanks for patting my shoulder in a much needed moment sir♥️No matter what i had consistently worked hard for the past 6 months and gave my best as much as i can...I should appreciate myself for this irrespective of the results

  • @nishasharawat6504
    @nishasharawat6504 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Could'nt clear sir....😮😮😢😢fearing how to face parents and would i tell them ..i failed twice...i accept that i have not given my best yet...thts wgy i decided to give my best for comjng year abd 2025 will be my last and best attempt ❤

  • @shivangi296
    @shivangi296 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I promise to not open telegram/reddit until the result is out.
    Reason for my anxiety : I’ll be honest - the first time I checked my marks, they were way below the super high cutoffs being predicted on 16th and I was very disappointed in myself. It was a sudden realisation that I would not make it this year. There were days of crying and coming to terms with the fact that I need to be mains ready by December. Tbh, those days of calmness knowing that I have a year to give my best shot now were better than the last few days.
    After a week, some of the answers that I got wrong started getting right by some answer-keys, the range of my marks started increasing and the predicted cutoffs started decreasing.
    That now puts me in the so called “border” if I get a few questions right. I still do not want to have high hopes, because even that score isn’t great, but predictions of lower cutoffs and discussions where people are assuring anyone in the 80s to start preparing are scary. This uncertainty is the cause of my anxiety right now.
    Still, I’m glad this would get over today and I’ll get to make a fresh start, whatever be the result.

  • @rajeshwarik3818
    @rajeshwarik3818 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much Shivin sir for being there for us ! So grateful to have found ur channel. Whether ur prelims revision and monthly magazine videos or mental health support videos like this one, every bit has been of great help in this journey🙏✨

  • @jayeshvashisht4227
    @jayeshvashisht4227 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is my 5th attempt,previously due to many reasons and hard luck 2 times failed by( .66,1. something, 2023 csat 65,gs 92)could not clear pre,latter got out in final post from ssc cgl exam,past month failed hcs mains exam may be by some margin,gave intelligence buero acio exam qualified and wrote mains this year most probably would make (if everything goes good),this year cse scoring 96-100 and csat 105 but as decided i am completely exhausted from mental fatigue and have no emotions left (like i had 5 years ago),got to know that everything in life is uncertain and atlast destiny plays the most vital role.Maybe this would be my end of upsc journey if not qualified for pre this time.

    • @exoticindiaa
      @exoticindiaa หลายเดือนก่อน

      Bro settling in Foreign is a great Plan B. Buy a nice car over there and travel alot, which 99% of IAS can’t in their life. And guess what, Canadian/European/Australian passport is much more powerful than Indian Diplomatic passport

  • @priyankachauhan3789
    @priyankachauhan3789 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am on borderline and full of anxiety and again on a trip but couldn’t focus on relaxing because of immense anxiety. Let’s hope for the best for everyone. Thank you Dr Shivin .You’re a person aspirants can rely on during time of anxiety and pressure

  • @aartijoshi6575
    @aartijoshi6575 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sir,, iam a state psc candidate,, i was not able to give upsc this year bcoz of my pregnancy complications,, but i gave hppsc exam yesterday,, i know iam not able to hit that, just with the margin of 10-15 marks margin,, although that was my mistake as i got little lethargy few days before exams, as iam in my third trimester........ But iam very happy with whatever i did in exams,, that only bcoz of u,, ur guidance gave me motivation to work harder and, i will definitely clear my goal next year.. Iam confident enough just bcoz of u.. Thankyou soo much sir.

  • @ayushkaverma5465
    @ayushkaverma5465 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Happy doctor's day to you sir😊 Thankyou so much for being our supporter always❤

  • @shivendrayadav6780
    @shivendrayadav6780 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    There are just tears in my eyes,i dont make it public neither i share these thoughts .i dont know whether i will clear it or not but i am proud of that i worked hard for past 6 months. ..

  • @9920ATUL
    @9920ATUL หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sir..due to family background and financial issues I didn't join any coaching earlier but kept on giving attempts and exhausted them all and this is my last attempt...OBC ...34 years age..left a good job after 7 years of working...my father went to heaven this Jan...married and have a kid...
    Some how I got courage to leave job and family believed in me
    Now I am very very very tensed...
    Relatives have already started cursing and blaming for being eccentric...
    Road ahead? I have thought about UPPCS as well..
    One thing I must say, after taking your course on Environment and Science, my confidence increased and I am confident that your Write smart and Mudit sir Ethics and Essay initiatives will help me in other exams also...but the risk I have taken is huge and as a person I have been very coward throughout my life and very ordinary student but this time I don't know how I took this decision. This was also my father's dream and He suffered from brain hemorrhage in 2018 and gradually deteriorated till 2023 Dec. Last time he spoke to me was about UPSC :(

    • @wassunoor8678
      @wassunoor8678 หลายเดือนก่อน

      At 30.5 yr now i can see i am like you on many aspects
      I was hesitant to join the private job till now
      but cant continue without a job
      We all the best for you sir.
      This hard work will surely be utilized somewhere.
      Job ke sath UPPCS soch sakte ho if u have exhausted ur attempt.

  • @rishikagupta6282
    @rishikagupta6282 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much Sir for your selfless support ❤

  • @ashleshajagtap1352
    @ashleshajagtap1352 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Me and my friend are consistently working since your target came from january. Regardless of results we are satisfied whta we did till now will proud of ourselves that we can extend ourselves that much and the direction was given by only you sir. Thank you so much for it!!

  • @DAEC-Khadarbasha
    @DAEC-Khadarbasha หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanking you sir,
    For making calm and staying confident about our future.

  • @moodchanger8888
    @moodchanger8888 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanku so much sir… for addressing the issues which are hardly talked about… helped a lot to deal with anxiety 😊

  • @heenahinu4435
    @heenahinu4435 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you sooo much sir
    These words means alott for us ❤
    Thanks for being with us

  • @user-id3pg7ef3f
    @user-id3pg7ef3f หลายเดือนก่อน

    Grateful that you are our mentor 🙏🏻

  • @krishnayadav720hshs
    @krishnayadav720hshs หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    i am writing this before prelims result . last year i have a feeling that i would fail due to my own non preparation of reasoning.and i failed in 2023 pre but this prelims i have done everything knowledge ,aptitude and most important confidence. this time i have a feeling that i am clearing prelims 2024 . lets see what god has decided for me
    hoping for the good

  • @diljotkaur8845
    @diljotkaur8845 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much sir for everything
    I know i can't make it this year & i know the reasons I'll surely improve myself this year & looking forward to prepare under your supervision.
    Hopefully I'll be done with this next year ❤

  • @upsc73347
    @upsc73347 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sir your one line was a lifetime stress reliever which i personally believe ," UPSC is the not the end, bahut sari cheejein hai jo hme khushi deti hain". But to be honest i m surrounded by some personalities who pressurize me that upsc is the only thing jo mujhe standardize kr skta hai. I know my result is goin to be negative but i hav improved myself be it ghanto baithkr pdhna ho ,apni vocabs, thoughts etc. ar mujhe na apne upar bht proud feel hota hai , 9-5 job krke attempt krna bht bdi bt hai result chahe jo bhi ho.

  • @aniketmahadkar1088
    @aniketmahadkar1088 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks Sir for you support and initiative it is really very helpful. Also thanks for understanding our feelings and trying to help us out.

  • @mritunjaykumar6817
    @mritunjaykumar6817 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Shivin sir you r my true mentor and you r real gemstone 😇😇😇

  • @zebanaaz2759
    @zebanaaz2759 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I just want to write that I could have worked hard in the last one month before prelims I should have revised the basics rather than overthinking and chasing vague things I should have revised my own csat notes it's a shame that c sat was so easy I prepared for everything beforehand but not revising all of it in the last moment was the biggest mistake I made but definitely I learner a lesson to not lose my sh*t for anything coming ahead and moving steadily even at a slow pace BUT KEEP MOVING IS THE ONLY MANTRAAAA
    LASTLY I want to thank you sir for everything for every effort for all the support thank you
    Also there is something strange with your voice today are you taking care of yourself?? Pls stay healthy we all have to go a long way together ❤❤❤❤

  • @sumitkaletwar3270
    @sumitkaletwar3270 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sir as of now prelims result is out...and sir all the telegram grps are full out to help those who cleared the exam what about whose who not... Now all that anxiety about not clearing exam is coming up.. Sir you have told in a video those who are in orn can meet up but again what about us ...who are far away for u..
    Sir I patiencely followed what u have told still can not make to list...
    But let it be life is all about ups and downs...I have learned lot more thorough this prelims prepration
    We will come back stronger..
    Thanku for everything sir❤

    • @Msharma30
      @Msharma30 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm 30 now plan b ssc cgl

  • @shalinitrivedi1585
    @shalinitrivedi1585 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I think I am missing the CSAT by around 3 marks..it was shattering when I matched the answer keys and got to know that I missed this mains just because of anxiety during csat paper.. started cursing myself later…was not able to face my parents..but I talked to them about the same..later realised what were my drawbacks…even got to know that I have self improved a lot in this attempt despite failing pre in other two attempts.. got to know that biggest setback was that I was not at all mains ready and also the fear of clearing prelims was more than focusing on the studies..As it is said that past can not be changed but the future and history could be made..with all my strength I have started my mains prep and will give all that I have for the 2025 attempt and will make it my year..you and Satyam bhaiya are gems…thank u for being with us regardless of what our result is ..Gratitude 🙏🏻

    • @sureshyasamudram6559
      @sureshyasamudram6559 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How do you know you are missing CSAT and which institute did refer you.

    • @anonymousss755
      @anonymousss755 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sameeee

  • @destinylbsna1808
    @destinylbsna1808 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Smjh nhi aa rha itna Darr toh 16th June ko bhi nhi lga

  • @sivvuu
    @sivvuu หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am definitely not going let anyone ruin my MENTAL PEACE😌

  • @DeepakPaathshala
    @DeepakPaathshala หลายเดือนก่อน

    I started to believe in this line - Man ka ho toh achha, Agar na ho toh aur bhi achha !
    hey... Shivin buddy !
    I remember days when I used to see your videos you were practicising answer writing and share the same on youtube and also about your daily targets. Coincidentally, I also started giving the prelims from 2021, which was my first attempt. Sadly,since then I have not been cleared the prelims even for single time. I have the memory of the video, where the final results2022 were supposed to be out on the very next day, in which you shared the plan, if not UPSC, what you would be doing then- you chose Teaching, though you selected for the IRS.
    I dont know what am I going to do for rest of my life, but, for one thing I am sure we dont plan our life, God has planned something better than this. So, better we try to look for best available options.
    In the end, I wish you for your great Journey !

  • @kanikamehta6718
    @kanikamehta6718 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    the borderline is making it difficult

    • @jackod-tu8le
      @jackod-tu8le หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same things. Hope we make it through

    • @kanikamehta6718
      @kanikamehta6718 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jackod-tu8lethat’s all i hope

    • @biology200
      @biology200 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Borderline???

    • @CoCo-wl9zl
      @CoCo-wl9zl หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes, still have hope

    • @ankurkumar55
      @ankurkumar55 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Exactly yahi problematic h

  • @jagrutirajput257
    @jagrutirajput257 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you shiva❤❤
    Thank you shivin sir
    Thank you to myself
    Thank you aai baaba

  • @kajolkushwaha4928
    @kajolkushwaha4928 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The tears in my eyes ,feeling like completely stuck . What happened next, don't know.
    But i am grateful for ur unconditional efforts. When I see u, feel like someone is behind me .Thanku u sir 🙏

  • @ravindrapatidar5164
    @ravindrapatidar5164 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I'm getting anxious because my family members keep telling me I'll be writing the mains this year. Their overconfidence in me is putting a lot of pressure on me. What should I do?

  • @anonymousstar29
    @anonymousstar29 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you shivin sir for making this video for us whenever I feel low and demotivated I listen your audio and you are like a bada bhai for us thank you so much

  • @aimenmasih9733
    @aimenmasih9733 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This time I really worked hard on improving a lot of knowledge gaps. For the whole year I kept my pace with time. I sacrificed on a lot of things to catch up with every single passing time. I don't know what will happen , but my heart knows the everyday efforts I had put, and even in my depressing times I kept my positive mindset.

  • @nisharamesh2500
    @nisharamesh2500 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Happy doctor's day shivin sir!

  • @vishwasr5136
    @vishwasr5136 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Happy Doctor's day Saviour❤

  • @PalakTakhtani
    @PalakTakhtani หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    waheguruuu is on my sideeee.And nikal jayega !Yeppieeee..I am so readyyyyyy

  • @vaishnabiswas6414
    @vaishnabiswas6414 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Sir, I know you read almost all comments from your students and that's why I'm telling you this. I was also traumatized at the deaths of my fellow aspirants, and I have seen those shocking, unacceptable, deeply toxic communication on your channel. Sir, believe it or not I was worried for you. I know how sensitive you are, how deeply all this would affect you, and I was secretly praying ke aap comments nahi pade. I wholeheartedly support your decision of closing the channel, supporting the students and prioritising your mental health. You probably know this already but I'm telling you anyway. The sad, harsh truth is that iss duniya me shayad zyadatar log aise hi hain. Spewing hatred becomes so important that the actual tragedy is forgotten. Last year, a student died at my university due to ragging. Everyone rather than empathising used the incident as a weapon to attack all students of the university verbally and even physically. Girl students who were not responsible or involved whatsoever for the tragedy received rape and death threats online. The media sensationalised the death like a crime thriller. A few weeks later all was forgotten. No one cared. Only the family that lost their child remembered and continued to suffer.
    Unfortunately sir hatred, negativity, toxicity bhari padi hai dunia me. Just one request iske lie ap please andar se toot mat jana. I hope you know how many people respect and admire you, rely on you. I don't want to burden you sir but aap ek prakar ke Jeetu bhaiya ho humare lie. I hope you saw how many people were defending you against the trolls.
    I hope, for both your sake and ours, you can shake off the negativity and come back for us. It will be such a loss sir if ye inevitable toxicity ki wajah se aapke jaisa ek rare ray of hope gets extinguished.
    I really really hope this comment reaches you.
    :)

  • @abhinavojha5546
    @abhinavojha5546 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you shivn sir begin with us in whole journey❤️❤️❤️,it's really helpful,
    little bit nervous. But , I accept the reality, Whatever result...

  • @pk-ul9bm
    @pk-ul9bm หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is my second attempt. I felt for the first time that I can clear prelims. I checked some keys and found that I did some silly mistakes which could be improved. My family is not supporting me. They are telling me to get a bank or other job, then take a break and prepare. I am confused what to do. I am trying to concentrate on my optional in the mean time. I am so stressed and feel lonely.

    • @shivamchoudhary9522
      @shivamchoudhary9522 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same situation dont know what to do😢

  • @Warrior0160
    @Warrior0160 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    TYSM SIR FOR EVERYTHING♥🙏

  • @dullb3493
    @dullb3493 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Even anxiety has been commodified....Peak Capitalism

    • @user-lr4xv8us3m
      @user-lr4xv8us3m หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Pahle sympathy do fir course bech do😂😂

    • @timepassed534
      @timepassed534 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂

  • @nush2407
    @nush2407 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are an angel sent by god 😭❤️

  • @anjuyadav5259
    @anjuyadav5259 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Firstly , thanku shivin sir .. my second attempt ,l don't know ki es borderline pr hu hoga ya ni ... But maine work hard diya and apne efforts proud h daily targeting ke jariye use maine dekha bhi khud and aage results jo bhi , trust the process & yourself ..and . Hota h tabhi mains ki preparation karungi ni hota h tabhi mains prep rahegi .. jo bhi challenge ho face krne h and apne efforts and apne pr Trust rakhungi .... Thanks again shivin sir ,aapka sath es journey hamari strength ho .. ..

  • @dhwanikajoshi2177
    @dhwanikajoshi2177 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This was my 2nd attempt but am not clearing Prelims this year too. Koi nai Next year dekh lenge. Let's see what happen. But Yes I can see positive changes in preparation than my first attempt and personality too. Thank you sir

  • @khaalis
    @khaalis หลายเดือนก่อน

    Social media is the most depressing place i know, after “being in the midst of relative and so called friends”

  • @nitimishra9183
    @nitimishra9183 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hopeful.grateful.freightened.anxious !!

  • @Clearityofcivilservices
    @Clearityofcivilservices หลายเดือนก่อน

    Success is not a final, failure is a not fatal that is importent courage to your count - also great effort 👍

  • @MrSingh-xc6et
    @MrSingh-xc6et หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I'm just on borderline of 84-86 and very anxious ....
    Unable to focus on my studies
    Just sitting on table scrolling screen unnecessarily
    After spending hours on mobile i regret 😔 of wasting my day ... doubting myself am i disciplined enough to clear this exam...
    I don't know 😐

    • @Monika-gb1if
      @Monika-gb1if หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Don't worry sb mst hoga 😊

  • @amanparmar8533
    @amanparmar8533 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thankyou thankyou thankyou so much god.....love you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @tanyashukla8521
    @tanyashukla8521 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Happy doctors day Sir

  • @RavinaTANWAR-pv3cg
    @RavinaTANWAR-pv3cg หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    😊❤ thank you so much sir 🙏🙏🥺🥺

  • @ravishah1918
    @ravishah1918 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    felt really low after pre i tried my best given my 100% still i am having anxiety . I didn't collect the courage even match answer with answer key i haven't calculated my score. After pre even between pre i recieved calls from my relatives and freinds about the exam. this made me more under pressure and increased anxiety. From the day of prelims i am not able study fluently and not even able to sleep properly . i am having nighmare of not making it to pre list past few days have been really a toll on my mental health.

  • @Anuanu-uc5bq
    @Anuanu-uc5bq หลายเดือนก่อน

    Best you tube channel for upsc aspirants

  • @saumyapal7673
    @saumyapal7673 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I know I'll not Going to clear this year's prelims but definitely I'll work hard for 2025. Your guidance of target tracking helped me alot in this year's pre but I made few silly mistakes that was my fault.
    I'll start again with your guidance. Thank you so much sir 🙏

  • @Priyanka-ny1mm
    @Priyanka-ny1mm หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks sir to understand us
    Motivate us

  • @Drramsonnar
    @Drramsonnar หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Expectations of others kill me sir now 😢

  • @harshininag5922
    @harshininag5922 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sir please make a vidro for parents of aspirants talking about how they can support us. I sometimes struggle to explain this to my parents and your clarity of thought can be very helpful to both aspirants and parents.