Nerd Goes On Date With Pole Dancer | First Dates New Zealand

[@franciskakocifaj344]

He reminds me a lot of my boyfriend when i met him. He's also an engineer and was so shy and cute on our first date. He still is so pure in his thoughts. I utterly adore that about him. Nerdy guys should get more recognition from ladies. I find them really funny and nice. Never met an engineer who doesn't have a dad hummor hahah

[@alexaf2744]

Uhhhh I wouldn’t want a guy like that. Seems like he’s got a dismissive-avoidant attachment style

[@alexaf2744]

And problem keeping eye contact.

[@laurastuart3814]

@@alexaf2744 Are you a psychiatrist?

[@TMPreRaff]

Did she order a "Cosmopolitician"?

[@miriamsheppard6162]

hahaha I thought it was a new kind of drink maybe

[@lauradelaney5457]

😂😂😂 yup. I thought I was hearing things

[@leezlvontrapp]

@@lauradelaney5457Arghhhh 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@leezlvontrapp]

@@miriamsheppard6162I’m still waking up and so I thought that my brain was having problems getting my hearing started. That was hilarious! 🙊🙉🤣

[@harryvanderveen773]

@@leezlvontrapp :D

[@skinnymac2411]

She’s 19! acted mature which is a good thing

[@MaverickLee11]

he wanted a wife, he got a pole dancer, who complains that strict parents and short men are a bad thing

[@Skeezer66]

My God!! 19 and 20!! First Dates New Zealand takes the 'first date' part too literally!! The trend continues! LOL!!

[@supremennn3829]

At least get older people who know how to socially interact

[@Skeezer66]

@@supremennn3829 Exactly!!

[@portman8909]

Age has nothing to do with it. It's about how extroverted a person is and good looks don't hurt either. @@supremennn3829

[@jasminaj3682]

They both seemed genuinely into the conversation. Never a bad start.

[@MaverickLee11]

he wanted a wife, he got a pole dancer, who complains that strict parents are a bad thing

[@star_tribe]

Cosmopolitician 🤣

[@heartpursuer]

Never heard of that. I'm guessing the bartender lies about the ingredients.

[@ShizukaRose]

What is that?

[@star_tribe]

A cosmopolitan is what she meant 😂😂😂

[@supremennn3829]

Because he does engineering and doesn’t look like the typical party guy he’s labeled a nerd 😒 First dates is savage

[@obrianhayles3144]

Nothing is wrong with that. Society labels everyone.

[@thewillprince1]

0:54, he says they consider him a nerd, so I am sure First Dates labeled him off what he said.

[@MaverickLee11]

If a man has morals these days, organizations will ridicule them.. in this case, they try and shame him to the world by calling him a "NERD".. thats a man with principles in my book, he knows what he wants in his potential woman. Yes, I said HIS WOMAN.

[@nzrockboi]

Both cute as hell, good conversation, rebellious and self-determined and yet neither were interested.... smart people are so weird OMG

[@aron.gortman]

Not sure why people have to decide upfront whether or not they want to see each other again. It's like a corporate interview.

[@MaverickLee11]

too true

[@hotdoggington6962]

If the spark isn’t there, it’s not there 🤷 And no amount of being right on paper can make up for that. It is a shame tho, they’re both adorb

[@alexaf2744]

He can barely control his arms/hands?

[@samsongomah1318]

He saw the red flags all over this rebel woman and wisely cut his losses and ran.

[@robertgelblum5154]

Oh no!! They both are only getting "friend vibes"? Not again! Come on, First Dates producers, get with the program and please, please try to pair people who you think will hit it off and have chemistry. For what it's worth, I thought the young lady was lovely, cute and sweet. The fact that she does pole dancing only makes her appear more exciting in my eyes. And the guy made a good impression on me: nice, friendly, sincere - and I think he would be considered nice-looking.

[@TomNook.]

the problem is that most women don't find most men attractive. And of the minority of attractive men, they also need to have some charm on the date. Therefore the "spark" that women are looking for on dates is quite rare.

[@portman8909]

True af dude. I've near enough given up on this whole fad. Escorts are the way to go.@@TomNook.

[@JamesCraigWhoop]

I never understood someone saying they would not consider dating someone from their own race. Just seems odd to me.

[@mirabella2154]

Not really odd when you know exactly the cultural specifications and don't agree with them.

[@avo6198]

She ashamed of herself

[@Smallmanbigworld1]

Didn't she more imply it was an attraction thing? Slightly different as everyone has physical preferences.

[@kbrodie3677]

Internalized racism is a real thing

[@leigh7507]

They're often expected to be subservient to the man. Western ideals are more equal.

[@SoulOutWusic]

Her sound YIKES!

[@laurastuart3814]

Dreadful isn't it.

[@leigh7507]

New Zealand version has way younger people on the show. The UK version has more adults over 30

[@MamawithAtude-ib4em]

I actually found the name "cosmopolitician" instead of a straight up Cosmopolitan a great name for a new drink! Bartenders, Vodka companies: Get on top of that!

[@patrickwilson183]

Come off it

[@rhiannonhooper]

Cosmopolitician is the cutest thing I heard since a Long Island ice tea lol

[@MaverickLee11]

lol

[@pepper1188]

Thought they were both older....

[@OriginalBigThing]

❤ the way he’s pink to beet red after realizing what pole dancing is…

[@MaverickLee11]

he wanted a wife, he got a pole dancer, who complains that strict parents are a bad thing and short men are no good

[@PBWK]

Ugh I hope she gets rid of that vocal fry by age 30.

[@adriana.ostfriesland]

Super annoying right!

[@laurastuart3814]

Dire isn't it.

[@coradallinga6349]

OMG!!! She is so annoying. just listening to het talk. Can you imagine waking up to that voice

[@metime4325]

He's a Spiderman !

[@nelamukbang3357]

He's got alot to learn 🤦‍♀️, Men if you want to be a gentleman, then pay for the bill!

[@BunkerWise215]

Unless you're date is a back alley sally

[@CurseTheDarkness]

Amen.

[@portman8909]

Sort of can't believe I'm 2 years older than this lad. My excuse for no dates thus far is I'm a munter.

[@mirabella2154]

Stop telling yourself that.

[@CanMoose]

I wouldn't want my daughters dating any guy who doesn't pay the WHOLE bill!

[@LMLification]

Oh, saw it. She insisted on splitting the check. Probably because she was not really interested in him.

[@CanMoose]

@@LMLification could be, but I still think the man should pay.
I'm old though, but when I was young that was the way it went down.

[@LMLification]

@@CanMoose I see. Yeah, times are changing. When I was dating Northern Europeans and some from Germany, they insisted on going Dutch. In most other cases, the man paid.

[@CanMoose]

@@LMLification yeah, times have sure changed alright...sigh

[@LMLification]

@@CanMoose Yeah, on occasion, I have even seen some women pay the entire check.😲

[@kaputfretudy]

Both have clearly had sheltered upbringings, and came across as slightly wet behind the ears in dating terms. Perhaps they were too similar.

[@jennifergirling6850]

Been single his whole life yet not even classed as an adult till 21. 😂

[@plus7560]

"Not as tall as I would have imagined"😅 When I tell my parents how my date with someone was, I've never said something about their heights tho. I feel bad for him.

[@Random_Blip]

And she doesn't want him to judge her.

[@pleun315]

​@@Random_Blip😂😂

[@MaverickLee11]

lol! yes ! @@Random_Blip

[@emeralddreamscapes]

Artists and engineers go really well together when they have other things in common.

[@dynamicforce8051]

Cosmopolitician??😳

[@labbie1148]

i think she just meant a cosmo

[@Turnpost2552]

19 is like right out the womb.

[@freen773]

What’s the thing with pole dancing. Don’t really get what the issue is. I mean she’s not a stripper

[@josealejandroizarodriguez3782]

right! the fact that she says "you're gonna judge me for this", means she's not totally confident and might herself even judge that... just be casual and proud of your Hobby 😎

[@avo6198]

Like a guy running naked on the street to stay fit. Totally cool yea? Nothing wrong with staying fit 🙄

[@jennifermae134]

@@avo6198what a ridiculous comparison 😅

[@avo6198]

@@jennifermae134 I know :D I wouldnt make this ridiculous comparison if some people actually didn't have ridiculous thinking. Just comparing apples to apples here

[@freen773]

@@avo6198 you do realise pole dancing as a sport is more discreet than what you’d see at a strip club? Well at least normally

[@craiglewis4357]

I really liked the way they ended there date night.👍👍👍👍👍

[@aron.gortman]

Homonym master man.

[@HliasPsinakis]

Judging him for being short ✅
Judging her for being a stripper ❌
Feminism 2023 in a nutshell.

[@MaverickLee11]

the short thing is very feministic, but the pole dancing is called morals.. she is 19!

[@labbie1148]

is there ever gonna be successful nz date??

[@lauradelaney5457]

Trying to figure out if it’s worse than the Canadian version

[@tracyleekley1353]

Chick - this is a well-accepted form of dancing in the U.S., and I imagine internationally; She is being way way too dramatic over it;

[@davidmorley5430]

Does the NZ version only feature young people? The UK version has a wider age range and is far more interesting than akward teenagers.

[@hulitonuras4177]

Bro's an atheist but still looks down on pole dancers 😂

[@ENFPerspectives]

🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@7somekindofsomething]

Where’s the connection between these two views?..

[@speedythings7396]

As if atheists can't be conservatives.
Most intelligent westoid

[@MaverickLee11]

thats a good point, but being a non-believer and still have morals, self-respect, principles and knowing what you want in your future wife/mother to children does not mean you have to be a believer.. can still have class without believing

[@itslikethesamebutdifferent8020]

This just in- atheists look down on religious people.

[@tpartisupporter]

She is adorable, friendly and sweet, needs a more exciting guy.

[@ivanleon6164]

seems she is exploring that with the pole dance classes, lol.

[@Deranged-Lemonade-Stand]

Ha, they judge me with one glance. Pretty much over within a second due to their misrepresentation of me.

[@mikepwillis88]

I really don't think he understood what the poll dancing class was. It's literally a womens fitness class. He looked very shocked by that.

[@Frombie_01]

Wrong 'pole'.

[@avo6198]

she belongs to the street!

[@tankiebot704]

No its not lol

[@MaverickLee11]

I love how you tried to rationalize that, its a massive red flag, unless its in the privacy of her own home

[@CurseTheDarkness]

Women in America go with their friends to classes.

[@naomimeyers84]

Cosmopolitician, as per the Urban Dictionary:
A drunk who thinks he knows everything, specifically, one who has a few drinks, and then thinks he or she knows the solution to all the world's problems. So did the bartender just make a cosmo and leave it at that? LOL...
She's not into non - believers, has strict parents, and likes to pole dance.... lol... what? Oh to be 19 again.

[@michelleroselilley4637]

Does it make you feel better about yourself judging a 19 year old?

[@naomimeyers84]

@@michelleroselilley4637 LOL... well, I mean you seem to feel better about yourself judging me.

[@michelleroselilley4637]

@@naomimeyers84 My comment points to the fact and asks a rhetorical question. Your first comment is bias and your second comment is a baseless claim. Reflection of oneself is a way of learning to be better rather than bitter... no matter your age it is not too late. Best of luck.

[@MaverickLee11]

amazing comment

[@susank2463]

He likes that she rebels, but wait until he has kids, he won't like it then.

[@MissMilly321]

dude ofc he gonna judge you if you say stuff like that. Just say with confidence 'i do pole dance'' And you probably will less likely judge.

[@junelee5975]

friendship can develop into love too

[@j.t.1086]

She pole dances for money or at pole dancing classes? Two completely different things

[@pleun315]

Yep, great match, have a lot in common......
------🤪-------💥🔫

[@teyemanon1970]

She sounds like Stewie from Family Guy.

[@patrickwilson183]

I will be honest. They both seemed to be much older than their age. I wouldve said he was closer to 30!!!

[@user-sl4cd2sz5l]

Pole dancing is fun. I've done it ❤😂❤😂

[@jack1d1XB]

So, the Judge, judges a suspected Judge, huh sounds rather assuming and that I JUDGE to be rather impetuous and ignorant!

[@genebigs1749]

She could do much better. He's about as exciting as watching paint dry, and she's a cutie.

[@speedythings7396]

He can too.

[@TomNook.]

8:38
"let's split the bill"
"Sure"
...
Either my man was being a total engineer and taking her completely literally, or he has more game than he realises, found out early on that she wasn't giving him that "I want you" vibes, and wisely cut his losses.

[@avo6198]

props to that bro

[@MaverickLee11]

you damn sure there, he wiser than people assume he is

[@CurseTheDarkness]

Even if she’s not into you - he should have paid it.

[@sabbottart]

Friend Zone! Buh-bye.

[@darkerbinding6933]

Too bad, they both needed to relax and just let it happen.

[@dynamicforce8051]

I’ll hit you up on Facebook some time 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ccc4102]

Pole Dance is a completely different to Pole Sport. They are trying to get Pole Sport into the Olympics. There's no 6 inch heels and you have to be super fit. BIG difference.

[@silverdale3207]

Wish young women would lose the vocal fry .

[@LordBattleSmurf]

I like it because its a good red flag indicator. Nose piercing is another good indicator of a crazy/ promiscuous woman

[@avo6198]

@@LordBattleSmurf yupyup. them piercing, bunch of tats, choke chains... we know what they mean. recreational use only lmao

[@SpanishCultureinKerala]

​@@LordBattleSmurfNot always is an Indian custom nosepiercing

[@suejowell]

She is amazing. He must be mad. Sexual preference cannot be judged

[@tankiebot704]

She's nothing special.

[@aron.gortman]

Misandrist in the house.

[@speedythings7396]

Average Misandrist Argument

[@MaverickLee11]

he wanted a wife, he got a pole dancer, who complains that strict parents are a bad thing and short men are no good.. he wiser than people assume he is

[@tracyleekley1353]

Pole - dancing "as a form of living" is a different animal. Even so, one can make a very good living doing POLE - DANCING.

[@MaverickLee11]

it was a massive red flag, young man was wiser than people assume he is

[@Watchmeplay-ui9zj]

Dafuk orders a cosmopolitan/cosmopolitician anymore? Satc hasn’t been on TV for 2 decades.

[@terminallyonline280]

wild child

[@ShizukaRose]

A lot of incels in the comment section.

[@avo6198]

Like u?

[@cbeautifulworld11]

@ShizukaRose the misogynistic minions enable each other here.
It's the closest they'll ever get to a date.

[@sophiewelsh8619]

I've noticed that in a lot of videos on this channel, tbh. Not sure why they tend to hang out here.

[@cbeautifulworld11]

@sophiewelsh8619 it didn't used to be this way, it started about six months ago, maybe more.
It used to be fun but that group has pretty much destroyed the life of this channel.
Tons of viewers have left because of them. It's just not fun anymore.

[@GraceH81]

I was so hoping that someone else noticed that, too! It's so vomit inducing reading all of these 'WHATEVER' and 'Tate' groupie comments. 😂🤦‍♀️

[@tracyleekley1353]

Am so bugged by female expectations of: I desire a man of 6/2- 6/6 (unRealistic Expectations). Unless u are in Northern Europe where all ppl are over 5/11.

[@speedythings7396]

Damn, a woman criticising a woman. They might label you of having "Internalised Misogyny"

[@jasonbasham1993]

Run!!! Sorry, not sorry. Too much attention for the wrong reasons.

[@ShizukaRose]

They both seem really old.

[@laurastuart3814]

Terrible case of vocal fry. Unbearable to listen to.

[@junelee5975]

if you are not interested in ur own race, don't expect other race ppl to like you as well.

[@Turnpost2552]

That girls totally put that pole dancing thing as a bait.
Like no guys likes that sht why would anyone be excited by that sort of thing.

[@chrisw6337]

If this was good conversation and a good time, give some paint to watch drying and we’ll really have a blow out night. What has happened that makes conversation between two apparently intelligent people a shattered salad of stumbling cliches and stiffness.

[@sportsman4545]

I thought she was lovely. He was an idiot not to ask her out. He should have been a man and paid for the dinner. He didn't reach for the bill. He never leaned into her.

[@tankiebot704]

Good on him, she's meh and the pole dancing is a red flag.

[@Peteristrate]

Pole dancing, huge red flag. He dodged a bullet, made the right choice as a smart man that he is.
No wonder her parents do not approve of her "hobby".

[@hilberryable]

Some women do pole dancing as exercise. It does not mean that she does it for money for men to sit and gawk at her.

[@mirabella2154]

Any normal person associates Pole dancing with prostitution. If you are into exercises there are plenty of other more suitable ways.

[@sigma8995]

@@mirabella2154 well said.

[@avo6198]

@hillberryable yea sure. Just like that creepy guy running around groping girls at the park. He’s staying fit so it dont matter how he does it right? Totally normal

[@hilberryable]

Refer to @mirabella2154 comment who said it was normal.@@avo6198. I did NOT say it was normal anywhere in my comments. Thank you.