@@anthonyderosa7730 True. Once you've seen a thing or two, you stop disrespecting other branches and wings of an armed force. This is how it has been consistently throughout human history. During WW1 the Artillerymen on all sides were disrespected by arrogant infantry officers and cavalry officers, because these officers believed glory was won at the front, and the rear was for cowards. After being in hell and being saved many times by artillery, they had a different attitude. During WW2, the Panzerwaffe of the German army wasn't taken seriously. The infantry saw them as idiots in metal boxes, but they soon changed their tone and came to appreciate them when shit got real onwards from 1940.
I'm 23 and finally committed to enlisting in the marine corps because I didn't want to live with that regret in life. I get sworn in next Monday and then ship out two weeks after that to boot camp.
VFF are the most uncelebrated heroes. No pay and tons of time stolen from family. Anybody else giving up xmas and new years to work 24 hour shifts w/out pay?????
Joining the Army at 24 (active) was the best decision of my life. Went from slaving away in a factory to visiting Korea, Thailand, Phillipines, flying in helicopters, driving tanks, shooting 50 cals, getting free college and getting paid.
Hey man, im 23 and im currently thinking about joining the army or air force, im tired of working civilian jobs and not getting anywhere. The way i see it, an army contract is 4 years right? In 4 years ill have the gi bill and have more money in my pocket then i do now and get experience i couldnt get working anywhere else, i just want something more for myself and the military is the quickest way to get there not to mention ive always wanted to since i was a kid. But could u give me some more details about how it went for u? Being 24 and joining with a bunch of 17-19 and being older?
@@chungledorf350 I joined the army infantry so I got only a 3 year contract. it was pretty wierd at first getting smoked and doing pushups even though I was a grownass man but at the end of the day if you are squared away and responsible then you’ll be treated like an adult. but I enjoyed having my own room in the barracks having a social life and a bunch of friends to talk to and places to go and things to do and living so far from my hometown. the best years of my life
@@cryptojuicer thats what im trying to do, all i do daily is go to work at the job ive had since i was 19 working at a grocery store i go home and play games with my friends and do it all over again. I dont want this to be the extent of my life, i wanna do more and experience stuff before i die. I used to be scared of leaving my family behind but the drive to wanna leave has slowly been pushing me to leave and experience life before its to late, i appreciate you taking the time to reply to my message! All the help i can get is welcomed lol!
@@chungledorf350Im in the same boat as you brodie. Tired of working odd jobs, taking whatever job I can get then getting it taken away from me. I wanna be a mechanic, how im tryna see it, I can get my 4 years done get the experience and get out. Work on commercial vehicles and get paid asf after the military sounds good to me. Im only trying to find the strength to leave my family and the life ive built here, its tough. But time is of the essence, id rather try and fail than to not have tried at all. 4 years seems like a long time but we have our lifetime to make up for it.
I joined the Marine Corps at 28. Getting a late start is harder on your body, but you can bring more maturity and life experience into your service to help you out.
@@alexmark8917 OCS was a blast. Haha Run, Run, Run. If you are running around a 19 min 3 mile you will be in the middle of the pack on all the runs. Learn to fail and fail often. It's not all that bad though. Use the liberty days to rehydrate and get gear prepped. Have fun when you can.
I got boot dropped and I regret not getting my ega. I hurt my neck 2 years ago and I’m 25 now. But I feel it in my soul. I feel like I need that ega. What should I do?
@@1302DevilDog I'm currently trying to get into the September marine OCS class. Will be 26 if selected at that time. hopefully my body can hold up! feeling good right now doing 20 pullups and running about 20:30. crunches are a gimme. still gotta couple months before i do my official PFT so should be able to get the run time up and squeeze out those last 3 pull ups.
This is an inspiring clip from Jocko, who can definitely make you see your potential. I have a minor disagreement, 2:08, he says when he was four he wanted to “join the military.” I kind of doubt that at age 4, you have a concept of joining the military. I think at that age he just wanted to “be an army guy“. LOL
@@Defender78 At age four I also wanted to join the military. But when I arrived to the barrack gates in a pram pushed by my mother, the guards turned us away. I will always regret not trying harder.
I regretted not serving my entire adult life. Should have done ROTC or enlisted in college. I fixed that regret by enlisting in the Air National Guard at the age of 36. Did it with a wife and 2 kids at home. One of the best decisions I ever made. Don't make excuses. Just do it.
I did my 4 years right after hs, used my GI Bill, and enjoyed my civilian life.. Then 12 years later, I had an itch to rejoin in the reserve as a commission officer. Now, wrapping up my 20 and planning to stay till I am in my 50s.. reserve was one of my best decisions ever!
Just went active duty at 29 after working in finance and managing at a Chick Fil A. Thanks for your service and its not too late if you're in your later 20s or 30s.
I was 34 years old last year and just couldn't live with the regret of not serving. So I went to the recruiter and enlisted with 11x opt 40. I had a wife and kids and still nutted up and did it. It's been a blur since I arrived to Ft Benning on 3/26/19 but right now I am in Germany, coming home from my first combat deployment in Africa with the 101st Airborne. I have a patch on my right shoulder now and I have new brothers and friends that will last a lifetime. It hasn't been a comfortable road but I am so damn glad I did. Now a deployed infantryman with the prestigious 101st. Rakassans ftw ⛩️⛩️⛩️⛩️ rendezvous with destiny
So glad that you acknowledged the role of military wives. They have to be tough as nails and I am so glad I married a strong one to be my career partner.
I remember when I was in the Corps I saw so many marriages struggling and fail because of the stress that they're under. I'm glad you got a great wife that's in it to the very end.
I live with the same regret everyday. Went to work underground in the coal mines for 6 years and ended up disabled at 25 and now I have no hope of ever fulfilling my dreams. It eats at me every single day. My advice would be exactly like joko said. Live your life to the fullest and regret nothing. God bless u all and thanks for your service!
What’s your disability? Maybe I could share something helpful. Carnivore diet or animal-based (keto) can help with a lot of things. Listen to Dr. Anthony Chaffee. If you got crushed, SquatUniversity and Kneesovertoesguy on TH-cam have a lot of good ideas for PT. Did you lose a limb? Look at what a paralympians can do. Sorry if this is obnoxious. I’ve been through three years of surgery with a third one on the way to open up my airways. Metal holds my jaws together now. The above resources helped me. I hope it helps. Good luck. Take care.
The lord has purpose for you man I'm considering National guard or Reserves prying through it but know God has a plan ether way no matter what we have to look to Jesus for purpose. Thanks for your work and God bless
That's rough, Buddy. I can't share in your experience, but I can definitely share in the regret. I'm 45 now and seriously regret not joining. My parents were divorced. My dad was never a real dad. He never taught me a damn thing and I had no discipline. I got a call from a Marine recruiter one day and set up an appointment to go talk with him. As soon as I told my mom, she called my dad. Keep in mind that they weren't even on speaking terms. So, they took me out to eat that night and talked me out of it. I had no direction in life and I had no idea what I wanted to do. So, I just floundered through life. I was miserable working dead end jobs and couldn't afford college. And, they were both just so shocked at why I struggled so much. I guess they thought that I was just supposed to figure it out. I'm grown now and I know that I can't blame them for my problems, but every man that I know has stories about his dad and how he gave him guidance when he was younger. I can't think of one time that my dad ever did that. It's important. I needed that discipline at that point in life. Then later in life, I brought it up while having a conversation with my mom. She said, "There was a war going on!" First of all, there's a chance you might have to fight if you go to the military. That's a given. You just accept that. But, it's a cop out. It was in 1998 when I set up that appointment. I was 19. There wasn't a f'n war going on. 9/11 was still 3 years away. I've always had a lot of resentment and regret about that. I'm sorry to hear you're story. The coal mines...that's rough, Brother. You guys have always been underappreciated and underpaid. But now, God forbid we use our coal. I don't know if there even are coal workers anymore. And, it's dangerous work. Disabled at 25. I'm really sorry to hear that.
For the cops, firefighters, EMTs, etc......your service is on 100% on par with military service. Military service might get a little more recognition, but the grind of being out there every day for twenty or thirty years is an awesome service to your fellow Americans. I’m a vet and my hat is off to you. Thank you for your service.
Yeah, there are a great many ways to serve your People Nurses,Doctors,EMTs,Cops,Civil Air Patrol, hell even the Postman and the Garbageman. Not all of us are cut out for military, but you've just gotta find a place to apply yourself, get in there, and be productive.
Jocko this advice is pretty awesome. I joined when I turned 18 but when I left for Basic I had a ton of guys that were anywhere from 6-12 years older than me and honestly I had way more respect for that. I was just an 18 year old kid joining, fresh out of high school, no relationships, worked retail. These guys had family's, careers, bachelor's degrees, and they took some time off to join and I give them hella props for doing what they did.
@@scottparsons4935 go to work for a place like General Dynamics where they hire a lot of ex-military and you find out what you missed by not being part of the military. The stories and experiences you missed out on. I was just a big clueless pussy that had no clue.
Take this in consideration. 1) your obligation to attend drills are longer aka 6 years.... a lot changes in 6 years. 2) you can not just skip drill resulting in you missing out on a lot of family events. 3) you miss work to attend drill making your checks from work smaller but then have to wait anywhere from 2-4 weeks to get paid from the military..... kind of hard to pay rent when you went to a Thurs-Sunday drill and missed those days at work. 4) The GI bill for schooling will be smaller as you did not do 90 days of active duty outside of bootcamp or MOS school. 5) if you get activated you will go on that deployment.... I served 5 years 9 months when we were notified of being activated.... I was not allowed to get out at 6 years. So I had to keep attending drill for another 7 months before we officially activated and then went on a 1 year deployment. By the time we returned I had spent 19 additional months in the military then expected...... when I thought after 6 years I would be done. If you are going to join the military go active! You arent juggling family, work, drill, figuring out paying Bill's because your pay schedule is messed up, etc. You get paid the 1st and 15th every month, you get food every day, you dont pay for rent, you dont pay for utilities. Most pay for internet/wifi, a cellphone, and maybe a car/insurance. That's it. Go active or don't join.
Fucken do it dude. But honestly if you don’t have a wife and kids,Go active. I have so much buddies that are reserve and regret it. Every time I talk to them or I post something they tell me they want to go active so bad.
@@evanpoole6751 yeah I’m active and some of my buddies are reserve they envy me every moment, they regret going reserve. If you do decide in joining the military Try your best to go active if possible.
Jocko is truly the REAL DEAL. Salute! I am 33 and getting tattoos removed just to join. I know it's late in life, but I will not live to regret it everyday anymore.
Tried joining at 17. Couldn’t do it because of anti depressants, wasn’t off long enough for a waiver. Tried again at 20/21. Couldn’t find the paperwork about my medical history and my parents weren’t much help. Tried one more time at 27 and got my waiver approved after completing college.
This was a lot like me. I joined the DEP (delayed entry program) at 15, USMC. Religiously went every weekend and trained, as long as school sports weren't going on. Scored a 98 on the ASVAB, was gung-ho as hell about it. During my last year of High-school, because I was smart and worked hard, I got enough academic scholarships to go to college for 2 years "free". I grew up poor as shit, and never thought college would be an option for me. At 18, I decided I was going to college instead, and when my original recruiter got re-located down to NC, It was an easy out for me. I bailed out in the spring of 2000, a few months before I was going to boot camp. At 36, I'm too old to join, and with a wife and two kids, it's just not a realistic option for me, but there is plenty you can do here in the US to support. We need soldiers and hero's abroad, but we need patriots here at home just as badly, more now than ever. I applied to my local PD, I coach kids and try to help them grow into good men. Our soldiers can't be everywhere, they need eyes and ears here at home protecting the constitution and the rule of law. You can't live your life looking in the rear-view mirror, move forward and do what you can.
I was passed over at MEPS due to asthma. Tried over the years and always got the same answer. Last time I tried at 40 when the enlistment age was increased to 45 for a few years. Same answer. If you're not too old, keep trying.
I’m 24 and will be enlisting in navy reserve next month after never considering it prior. I had a awakening and realized what I must do in order to be fulfilled with life. Serving my country will always make me proud when I look back. Can’t wait. Hooyah Navy!
I can identify with the man who submitted that question. I had a plan for after high school graduation that, if I didn't find a job by July 1st (1975), I would enlist in the Navy. I started working full-time eight days prior to my self-imposed deadline and married my high school sweet heart eight months later. I went on to become a police officer, spending 31 years in the field before retiring in 2013; through all those decades, however, that's the one regret that's nagged at me...not serving my country. I've found a way to lessen that regret, so to speak, in that I now write a weekly column for our local newspaper, profiling our veterans who served during WW II, Korea and Vietnam. God bless all our patriot heroes. -Tim
You have my respect. Anyone who risked their own dreams and Future to protect the lives, dreams, and Future of their fellow man, has served their country. Thank you.
Anyone who served as a police officer for 31 years has served their community, as well as their country, for the greater good. No regrets. Thank you, sir.
Another option would be to join a search and rescue team if there is one in your area. We do all kinds of training like land nav, rapelling, first aid, long distance hiking, overnight winter camp outs, survival training, k9 operations, radio communications, etc. It's a great way to build camaraderie and develop teamwork with people that have the same interests as yours.
@themysticalcolby The way to find out is to see if there are any SAR teams in your area. If do, they will have an application and selection process. Being in good physical condition will help, along with having some land navigation skills, but most teams that I'm familiar with will train you.
I had this feeling so I enlisted in the US Army Infantry at 34 years old with a wife and kids. 3 years later, have served in the 101st Airborne Division and got a deployment to Africa, made friends for life and am now a few months from getting out. Been a hell of a ride. It wasn't comfortable, but it was worth it. I did my time.
I am in the final stages of enrolling into the Canadian Army reserves. I almost cried watching this video because it hit so close to home. The desire for joining the military, but the timing was never right. Decided it's time I made the timing right for myself as I too did not want to live with that regret in life.
I had a accident when I was 15, fell off a truck while moving. Had 86 stitches in my head after a 9 hour surgery. I also died 3 times in life flight helicopter. When I turned 18, I wanted to join the Marines because I was awarded the Semper Fi award at my school. I really wanted to join. Found out they wouldn’t take me because of the accident. So I went to the army, same outcome. Navy, same, coast guard... same outcome. So that really upset me. But, at least I tried to do what I wanted to do. It just sucked know that I wouldn’t be doing it.
@@5thman677 I tried like no other. But, it was a no go. I’ve always regretted having that taken away from me. But instead, when on to get an engineering degree and design hospitals, churches and power plants for different cities in Oklahoma, Texas, Louisiana, Arkansas and Kansas. I loved doing what I did. Retired now but there’s always that wonder “what if?”
I joined really late in life at 34. I absolutely love it. I went with the national guard. I’ve been able to help my community when disaster hits and still have a life outside of the military. It’s kind of the best of both worlds. And that nagging feeling on missing your calling I get it. Jacko is dropping truth about this.
Same, I’m 38 and wish I had enlisted at some point. Already had two knee surgeries (got knee capped in high school) and trying to avoid more so idk what I’d be able to do at this point
It doesn't go away. After 9/11 I knew I wanted to step up, but I went to the police academy for an application instead of the recruiter's office. I'm now 37, a fifteen year cop, and every time I hear about the battles in Iraq/Afghanistan I feel like I should have been there.
I enlisted in the Army National Guard in July at 35. I ship out in Jan. Even after 13 yrs in law enforcement, I still had a void and regret. The Army and Air Force can give age waivers. Do it. Good luck.
Yeah, like others are saying, go join up if you still want to. Since you have 15 years of law enforcement experience, you will most likely be able to get a waiver with no issues. You could also go for a private contracting company, since they seek law enforcement personnel too for their operations overseas. Those guys make big bucks.
I can relate brother. I was a senior in high school and when 9 11 happened I knew what I needed to do, but put it off for months , caught up in partying. I caught a couple low level drug charges and got stuck in the probation system for two years. After getting done with that I became a "step dad" and didn't feel I could leave. When that relationship ended I walked in the Marines recruiting office at 23 and was determined to go infantry reserves. My past made it hard to get in and I eventually switched over to the army recruiting office and after 3 years of trying I made it into the active duty army as a welder. I turned 26 in basic. It was never my plan, and I do feel guilt for not joining after 9 11, however I am proud of my 4 years of service and my tour in Afghanistan, even if it was 2012 when I finally made it there, guarding the base from a tower. I think you should be proud of your police service, there was a reason you went that route.
I love this, this was literally my life for the past year. I just told my fiancé who is going to be my wife in a few days that I regret not joining and that now is my chance to join the reserves. She was beyond supportive, even despite the fact that she is pregnant, she encourages me to do what makes me happy and what is good for the family. Just started my application to Officer candidate school yesterday
I know this feeling. Ended up enlisting at 32. It will eat away at you and you will become a broken record to your friends and family unless you address it. No amount of financial stability will "completely" erase the feeling that you did not do what you believed you should have done.
donald setefano Ive only been in a little over a year, but everyones experience is unique. Cadre at BCT could ignore you or know your name by day 3 simply because youre the old guy. Mine was the latter. I think younger soldiers make it out to be harder than it is. Maybe they just haven't had to endure enough of the disappointments on life's menu and don't realize that it's not that bad. When it sucks it sucks. But everything ends. Even a good ol fashioned smoke session. All in all, its hard to complain. Steady pay, medical, college options, etc.
thebenforever thanks for your quick response! I am really hoping I can enlist its been a burning desire of mine since i was young my grandpa was a marine. I have been looking into Ranger Regiment. My buddy asked me to enlist in Bud/S. As he is going soon. I have charges as a minor and dont know if they will take me but I am hopeful and thankful for your honesty. Will be talking to a recruiter in March.
I am so glad that I joined the Army Reserves. My mother were very anti-military (my Mom grew up seeing neighbors killed by the Colombian military) and my Mom threatened to disown me if I went active duty. So I compromised and went into the Reserves. I absolutely loved it. In many ways the training I got in the Army saved my life by re-instilling my sense of self-esteem and giving me a tremendous number of life skills. While I do wish I had gone active duty sometimes, that also would have not allowed me to do many other wonderful things in life. So overall I think it's a great balance, but a serious obligation as well due to the fact that you can be be deployed and have to put your life on the line for America. Thank you Jocko for the shoutout to the Reserves (and don't forget National Guard).
@@SirGuidemere91 No, not full deployments. Just overseas for annual training over in Egypt for Operation Eastern Castle (supporting annual Bright Star joint training exercises). My unit almost went to Kosovo, but that mission started winding down so we didn't go. I basically served between major wars.
@@ameza1757 Hola amigo! You mean what happened to me since 3 years ago? Not a whole lot. I'm just enjoying life while dealing with the usual challenges of middle-aged life.
My dad saved me from joining the military here in Mexico and I really have been probably dead or held hostage for decades with the guerrilla or the narco. I hated my dad but he had to do what he had to do to save his son's life and I appreciate him for doing it. You can build the discipline and power you need to get to where you want to be without the uniform and the accolades. Create your own army and you will be happy
@@nicandromartinezsotelo3300 imo your family held you back. Met guys who have joined withd no support from their families but went anyway and made decent lives because they enlisted.
I joined the Air Force at 18 thinking I was going to be a lifer. About 4 weeks into boot camp I got really sick and was medically discharged. At the time it broke my heart but looking back I'm glad I tried. I'm 35 now. I have a good life and no regrets.
@@em34ev3r I have a similar story to that guy too, I hope to rejoin the Marine Corps at some point but if I can’t get a waiver, I’m glad that I tried and if medically it wasn’t in the cards, so be it but at least I didn’t quit
Growing up as a son of a man who lived his entire life with this regret of not taking the plunge and doing what he loved, all I knew was a man who was bitter and angry at the world. I vowed not to live my life like that. Facing the same regret that the question here poses at age 36 I went ahead and signed up for a full-time position in the military. I finished basic training a few months ago and can honestly say it’s one of the best decisions i’ve made in my entire life and I wouldn’t take it back for even a second. It’s never to late to defy expectations and wholeheartedly pursue your calling.
@Jake you’re an absolute idiot if you really think there isnt worth in a 36 year old joining the armed forces to protect your dumbass! Most 30-somethings are in better health than 20-somethings because they are living a cleaner life and arent partying all the time. Grow up! God bless anyone who joins and serves
@@chrishogg7233 I served in the Marines and deployed to Afghanistan. I've seen older guys who just join boot camp and almost all of the older guys are garbage. A huge waste of taxpayers' dollars.
Joined the Marines at 18 and don't regret one bit both good and bad the lesson learned have served me well through out my life Once A Marine Always A Marine Semper Fi
@@jesswilson6012 yes, as long as you can complete 20 years of service before you turn 60. You don't have to do 20. Joining at that age is possible but not always guaranteed.
That was about the time I started doing my thing. My one recommendation, try to get federally protected. I enjoyed being able to piss off my asshole boss.
I believe the age is 34 to age out of eligibility even for reserve duty. I’m 32 and the military has been calling me for a good 15 years now....sigh lol
Feeling never goes away. 30 years old and regret it every single day. I always wanted to be an Army Ranger and when I was 19 my senior year I went to the recruiter talked to them was adamant to do it and then my parents talked me out of it over the next three days. If there was one thing I could change or tell myself is to stay strong and do what you want, it is your life not your parents. Wish someone was supportive of me and my wants at that young age for my career. I am now a history teacher at the high school level and I coach the baseball team. I love it and get enjoyment but not enlisting will always remain my biggest regret.
I really thought I was the only one that lives with that regret. I went into to law enforcement to try to fill that void and it has similarities but I still hold anyone who has severed in the military way above me. It is a regret that I think about every day.
Hi, Jocko, I am Jefferson from Kenya and I am a great admirer of all things military. I am a lawyer by training although am currently going through serious mental health issues. Deep down i feel like i can be the best but i find myself lacking the courage and will to pursue my goals. By listening to your podcasts i have discovered the secret is to move forward despite how slow the progress is. Keepup the good work my man. I cant join the army now coz am 32 years but i intend to adopt the navy seal mentality to be the best lawyer this country has ever seen.
As a wife who barely got through a similar situation, you need to be 1000% open and honest and tell her all your feelings when they come up. When we are focused on taking care of children that also need you, it's going to feel very selfish and like a betrayal to us and we might not be mature enough to handle it the right way. Go to counseling together, church counseling, anything. You take her. It can be done, but don't let it destroy your marriage, either way.
*I had regret when I hit my early 30s about not enlisting.* *I thought it was too late, then I saw this Podcast.* *I've been in the reserves for almost 5 years now.* *Thank you Jocko.*
This is what I'm struggling with. I'm 32 now and feel that I haven't done anything I wanted out of the need to protect my mom. She's got crippling anxiety and depression and sometimes bipolar symptoms. And I actually think we're not closer BECAUSE she discouraged me from anything slightly dangerous. But I can't tell her this. It's horrible.
I'm reading this late but I need to share this with you. I have a mother who suffers from anxiety and depression, I am her only son and my parents are divorced. She is very against me going to the military or law enforcement because she is afraid of losing me. Let me be clear about something. By not supporting my goals and what makes me happy, she already lost me. The reality is I am all she's got because SHE MADE IT THAT WAY. It does not make me a bad son or person to pursue my goals simply because my mother feels I give her a sense of purpose and that she would feel lost without me. Many parents are good at using their emotions and their suffering to make us feel guilty, and play the part of the concerned parent when in actuality, they are co-dependent and don't want to lose my attention or physical presence. That was the case with my mother. I used to feel guilty and responsible for her. It took a lot of support and friends to help me realize no one can cure her loneliness/depression but HER. We can support each other but the minute anyone says me doing or not doing something affects their well-being, it is 100% grade A bullshit and classic manipulation. You are not responsible for her feelings. A good parent supports what their children wants or will make them happy, barring a life of crime and drugs. You should not feel guilty pursuing your goals. I saw how easily my mother switched from poor me to angry once she realizes it's not working with me. We are not obligated to take care of our parents when they are physically capable of taking care of themselves. They are responsible for their own emotional needs, and it is NOT OKAY to place that kind of burden on their children. Reserve that kind of consideration for YOUR OWN FAMILY and PARTNER/KIDS. Moving out was the best decision I ever made and now my mother developed her own social network and hobbies to keep her busy that she even turns me down for dinner. The only thing that can stop you from doing something is YOU. Good luck.
I’m 33, wife and two boys, successful career but god has called me. I’m praying on it right now, but the Navy is where I’m considering. My wife is also on board but my parents….that’s a different story
Think about this at least once a week. Realized it's too late and am just going to deal and move on with out joining. I'm 35 with a wife and 3 kids. I'd be selfish to join now. Family needs me more than I need to join I suppose.
I quit and i regret it everyday but i had my reasons injury and just being weak. I plan on rejoining and fulfilling my duty and making up for my short comings.
I was in for a three years after high school and have always been grateful to my younger self for taking on that challenge and doing my bit. Was never a natural soldier, not a tough guy, and I was scared, but something made me do it thank god. And I sure didnt distinguish myself, but I did my part, wore the uniform and played my tiny, infinitesimal part for my country. That little bit I did gives me pride every damned day. Wish I'd stayed for 20, but thats a small regret. It would nag me every day if I'd never done it at all. Younger guys, go do it. If you're feeling like its something you must do, regret you havent done it yet, that feeling will grow and grow every year. Go do it!
Wanted to be in the military for as long as I can remember. Joined the army right out of high school at 19. At the beginning of week 7 I woke up with the realization that I was about to graduate basic in 2 weeks time. I suddenly had second thoughts and quit. It only took a week after getting back home for the realization to hit me that I messed up bad. I felt like a complete and total failure. It has weighed heavily on my mind each and every day, and I still feel the shame of quitting every day. The only thing that has held me back from trying again is the fear of getting there and feeling like quitting again. That won't hold me back anymore. I will not live with this regret. I'm almost 23 now, and am getting back in shape as well as quitting my smoking addiction. I will be talking to a recruiter soon. My advice to anyone who goes and considers quitting is simply do not quit. Things in the civilian life will sound better than the things they have you do in basic training, but you must remember that basic training is only temporary. Remember why you joined, and stick to it.
I'm 21 and I just enlisted in the Navy about to go to basic in two weeks. The woman I was with couldn't handle that my calling in life was to go to the military and she decided to leave. I hold no resentment or anger but I am thankful that she was honest with me. My only regret is not enlisting at 17 because I feel like now I've wasted the past 4 years of my life. Nevertheless, I am leaving soon and am more than happy to get started
Good on you, 21 is honestly to young to be latched to a girl anyways. I met my wife while I was in the Navy, smart and independent girl getting her bachelors in nursing. My biggest advice is, don't date another service member and find a girl who has something going for her..or simply have fun and dont date at all, life is more than just finding love haha.
Art person Congratulations on your decision to follow the passion that’s in your heat! It takes a lot of courage to know what you’re giving up and what you’re about to step into, especially in the military or law enforcement. If you don’t have a degree already, I strongly recommend that once you’re done with the schools your MOS requires if you that you get your Bachelors degree at a minimum. You can do it for free and still work full time. This will open doors for you to become a commissioned Officer in the service as an 01-E and serve you well both in and outside the service should you decide not to make it a 25-35 year career. If you don’t do this, you’ll regret it later. Knock it out while you’re young and single. At a minimum you can retire at 46 with 25 years of time served and a pension and healthcare Benifits for life. THAT’s TOUGHT TO BEAT! I wish you the best fortune and commend you for your decision! We live in the greatest country on this earth! God’s Speed! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸👍
This was a blessing to hear I'm 20 years old and I've been struggling with feeling like I'm not doing something more I'm a welder and dedicated alot of time to that but didn't feel fulfilled didn't feel like I was making a difference I was always drawn to the military but never took the leap maybe it's time I sign up
I feel anyone who watches this. I always wanted to join ever since I was a kid. Me and my older brother was always playing as being a solider when we were younger. He went into the Marines, I went to do the Air Force, but I didn't enlist. I do every step until PT. I was held back because my parents didn't want me to go full-time and other different excuses. Now, I am 43 and definitely regret. It looks more beneficial than anything. My nephew just came back from boot camp and looks as he gets more respected by everyone. For anyone else, I would have joined and things would be a lot different than what it is now. My advice is to do it right out from High School and learn valuable surviving skills.
I have a enormous amount of love for yall vets and active duty folks. Yall are truly awesome and are all heroes to me, like it or not. I worked almost 30 yrs pumping gas in military ac and occasionally some even armed, not much I know but I really enjoyed it, wasnt able to get in due to blew the physical. Im 65 now, doesnt matter, but dang sure Ill raise a flag and a beer to yall! Yall rock!
I have been there and still regret not having joined. I’m 73 now and still feel that I have missed some part of my life. I still find myself buying groceries of the servicemen Isee in line at the store, gas station. I have great respect for our former, current and future men and women defenders of our nation and all first responders too. May God bless you and protect you all. Amen and amen.
Don't regret not joining the military. A lot of people have had their lives destroyed by joining the military. My wife is a MD at the VA and most people would be shocked by the number of soldiers (mainly army) who were abused including raped (men and women) during their service. Many veterans have health and psych problems from exposure to all types of chemicals, exposures, bad practices, etc. If you didn't join you didn't miss out on anything.
No need for regret. The person you were at the time just wasn't interested enough. If you are older and regret not joining, sounds like you like the IDEA of having served, but never actually wanted to do it for real. If you really wanted it, you would have done it. So accept that you just like the idea of saying you did it, but it's just not for you or other aspects of life didn't allow for it at the time. Don't waste one second thinking about it or regret. It wasn't for you. It's possible you just like the image of it, a lot of men do. That's not enough of a reason to join.
My wife spent 12 years in the navy. My Dad Vietnam, my step-dad korea. I sent two men who I considered brothers into the hands of the Marines. I regret that I didn't sign up. I was at the point of signing up with the navy when the recruiter mentioned I would go in as a non graduate due to graduating high school overseas. Now I'm 45 and unfortunately disabled. Might have caused more problems for the people I might have served with due to a genetic time bomb in my spine. Is what it is. Thank you guys for serving for me.
This is a great video reflecting on the regrets of not enlisting, that we can carry with us. I graduated high school in ‘99, wanted to be an aircraft mechanic for the AF, let my family sway my decision due to Sept 11th and being the only Son. To those watching enlist if you can, live your life without regret and cherish what you have.
I’m almost 37. I have 15 years as a paramedic, including 6 as a flight medic. I had back surgery at 34. I regret never joining. I was young and selfish. I feel like, though I have another 30 years ahead of me as a medic, I haven’t done enough. I wish I’d have served. To anyone on the fence about it, SERVE!
After having done just about everything including the Navy one has to stop thinking you missed out. Be content and work hard. I am truly the happiest today. Tomorrow I will say I am truly happiest today. The last day that I breathe my last I will say this is the happiest day of my life. Each day is a blessing from God.
Hey, Jocko thanks so much for the encouragement I've been out of a Job for around 8 months now have applied to multiple jobs for months and haven't been fortunate enough to get one:/ I've been sober and working on self discipline throughout most my time.. Always trying to stay productive I've been considering the Army for about 5 months now with a sober mind and actually finally want to join to see what I'm made of.. I know this journey can provide financial security and memories that can last a life time also moving from my past in a way I think would make some of my old friends happy.. to see I've taken a risk to better myself.. Some may not approve but I think it's best to see what I am able to do.. Always have faith and I appreciate the motivation coming from a combat Vet yourself because now I'm taking the steps to see if a Miracle or dream is possible for me.. I'm such a mediocre person who doesn't deserve the best and going for the best is a bit selfish of me but what I've known in this life is such blessings I've always been given the best out of life as well I think i'd settle down a bit but I want to see what else is out there for better or for worse.. I know the good out there would support or may not but in any endeavor I know I will be responsible for the decision I make whether it may be a mistake or not I am and will be determined to make things right with God before my time.. Whatever that path entails.. May you wish me luck and safety be on my shoulders while I pursue this stressful yet hopefully rewarding journey..
He is soo right. I had the same feeling. It ate at me. So I joined the reserves at 34. It was great. I ended up being a full time reservist for 7 out of the 10 years I was in. Being a reservist was my everyday job!! The benefit of being older to is that you understand what you want to do with your service.
Never served (in the military), but have served as part of a rescue team in Southeast Asia (anti-human trafficking), and now (as a 50 yr old dude), as an investigator of child abuse & neglect. Did some other stuff as a younger man as well. Lots of ways to serve mankind and make this world a better place. We can’t all be military. As podcast #118 states, you got to find a mission and get after it...whatever it may be.
Just saw this today. Totally agree with this, I joined the reserve years back at 35 for the same reason. I've since done multiple exercises in different parts of the world and have deployed once for 9 months. Jocko hit it on point with your wife/ girlfriend having it harder. Im definitely glad with joining but it has not been easy in the homefront
If you can't, or won't, join the military then find your motivation. Mine was money and college, no lie. If yours is protecting your family, physical fitness, or purpose then serve those needs in other ways. The military isn't a solution to your needs.
Yes, there are countless ways to serve, the military is an option to experience a lifestyle that is unique to our society. For those of us who have served, it's the experience and the people that you meet that make it special.
This one strikes home for me. Just talked with the recruiter this last week but I made the decision solely for financial reasons. My wife is doing great at her career and she would have to come with me to wherever I would be stationed across the country. I was looking to enlist for MP, serve, then join law enforcement. I/my family decided to serve here on the home front and start applying to a career police officer... Much respect to all that have served and will. But I will serve here and still be home at night as a Husband and Father.
*Decided not to enlist, what I meant was serve a calling in law enforcement and Im currently applying (my mission)... If I was to enlist, It was a given that the first opportunity, my family would relocate wherever I was going to be, which meant my wife would have to leave her career.
Good plan. Just know as a cop you'll be gone...alot. To what degree depends on your area/agency. Also prepare yourself to be viewed as an enemy by bout half the people your serving. Again depends where you are.
Regretted not joining after high school, couldn’t shake it. After 10 years, 2 years ago I started the process, got turned down 4 times, never gave up, and now shipping off soon. Greatest feeling in my life.
I had this 'grinding feeling' at 38. The military raised the max age to 42 for awhile. I had nothing going on in life at 38 and then just sold everything, quit my job and just did it. It's easier when you don't have a great job and you don't have to support a family though. I think 'the Reserves' is a solid option.
I'm turning 40 and after having medical issues from 19 through 38 that were hard to overcome I now think about it a lot. I don't know of anyone that's joined near this age, seems more like when you get out. Wish things were different a long time ago.
You may not be able to join U.S. forces but the legion will let you in if you are fit enough. They take care of you and you won't regret it. Act soon. 42 is the cut off. Go get some and make an experience worth taking a risk for.
Joined at 35, commissioned at 36 almost 37 and I was never the oldest person in any of my classes - like Jocko say, join the Guard, join the Reserves. No excuses, no regrets. If you actually want it, you'll make it happen.
You have until 42 to join the Guard. The Guard hosts the reserve combat arms branches of the Army (you said you want to fight), not the Army Reserves (all support). I'm a 37 year old infantry officer - if you're in good shape and take care of yourself, it can be done. Like I said, I've never even been the oldest in any of my training classes. Your employer is required to grant you leave for military training, deployments, etc. But I get it. And the 10 weeks for basic are just the beginning. I had a chat with my employer before I joined and they have been supportive. The Guard serves stateside missions - someone's got to do it, and your employer should recognize that it might need to be one of their own. I hate when employers, or parents, say they 'support the troops,' so long as it's not one of theirs. Financially, I've done very well in the Guard away from work, so that need not be a concern. If you truly want it, if you have true regrets - you can make it happen. Joining the Guard was one of the best decisions of my life. Now my only regret is not having done it sooner.
First is 10 weeks of basic. Then you need either 1) MOS training (aka AIT, length varies between several weeks to over a year, depending on what you want to do) to be an enlisted soldier; after AIT, additional training is more or less optional and you start your weekends and two weeks per year ; or 2) OCS to commission as an officer. OCS in the Guard depends on your state but can be 8 weeks (accelerated), 13 weeks (Federal) or 18 months (traditional going only on weekends and two weeks to start and end). I did accelerated. Then you go for your branch-specific training (e.g., infantry, intelligence, finance), which can vary from about 3 months to 6 months. Infantry is 4.5 months. These training stints can be separated by multiple months, just depends. You have some say in that. After that, additional training is mostly optional. I understand the anti-military sentiment of a campus, but as a larger employer, they need to remain in compliance with federal law and I'm sure you wouldn't be their first. My OCS class had a few people either working in academia or pursuing higher degrees. I have a M.S. and the Army needs smart people, especially as leaders. Go MI and a world of opportunity awaits on the civilian side. I plan to MI as a Captain, wanted to do infantry while my body can still keep up. I also understand family. I've missed events. It's a sacrifice you have to be willing to make. I'm lucky to have a supportive wife - being separated has been hard, but it's brought us closer. It's extremely rewarding, and an environment you cannot replicate on the civilian side. You just have to be willing to give up some freedom, time, etc. Also, the Guard and Army have a lot of options for those who want to do medical on the officer side. I don't know much about this, but there are med-specific officer recruiters. www.goarmy.com/amedd.html
Volunteer Fire Departments would love to have anyone who is willing to train and help. Organize fundraising efforts and community awareness, that seriously helps a VFD!
And it is a serious way to serve your country, just on a more limited arena. Look at the size of this nation and the relatively few cities big enough to be able to pay for a fire service. One town at a time is how VFDers serve their country. Respect.
Sadly they're not an option in most of the UK, you can be a whole time firefighter or what's called a retained fire fighter. The latter must be available on call for a minimum of 50 hours a week and live within 5 minutes drive of the the fire station. That obviously rules out a lot of people, including me
@@DK-cy5mt Sounds like they don't want retainers. Our folks all have a pager, are required to attend meetings/gatherings one day a week and do maintenance and training monthly. If a call goes out, they let dispatch know their status (in the area or out). But that's the volunteer position. Retained would be different. Pretty special circumstances.
@@workin4alivin585 that's what the retained firefighter does. There is a retained fire station near me, but out of the catchment area for me to drive to by one mile, so frustrating
My regret was having a mental breakdown and quitting at boot my first in bootcamp back in 2019. I counted myself out and tried for 5 years to get back in another branch. I joined ems almost a year ago and I know it’s not all the same but it gives me a sense of belonging and serving my community in that aspect if there is one.
7 years ago when I was 18/19, I was in the process of talking to recruiters, showing up to PT, but wouldn’t be guaranteed to get in since I had a record as a minor. After speaking with the different branches, I think it was either the national guard or the coast guard that would be most lenient but I didn’t go talk to them cause I was trying to see if I could do the army. At the same time, I was hanging out with shady characters and I got pinched, ended up doing 1.5 years in state time and forever sealing my fate as a convict. I regret not pushing the issue harder, but at the end of the day, I’m a professional in a specific trade and I’m doing well for myself. I guess the man upstairs has different plans for me. I’ve given back to the community but I’ll admit that I havnt done as much as I can, I’ll need to step that up. Don’t ever give up on yourself.
That's awesome!! I was supposed to go in the Army (I actually dropped out of HS and got my GED the very next day) and be a medic. I was actually about to go to MEPS but I had to take care of my mom w/ cancer because my dad was busy working, and my brother was in the marines. I never wound up going in. It's always been something I've wanted to do but then I got fat lol I'm 33 now, and talking with a recruiter soon. I've been working on my weight, so hopefully I can get things started!
At 39 I’m trying to get my ass in shape to beat the 40 cut off to join the Navy. Only have 3 months left but I’m making excellent progress. Not joining right out of high school has given me so much regret over the last 20 years. I did the part time police thing while working a full time job and that just wasn’t for me.
I regret not joining the military but at some point I realized we werent fighting for what i thought we were fighting for. I dont mind being at while doing the right thing but not so the military industrial complex can keep perpetual wars going.
I’m 20 and I’ve wanted to join my whole life but I’m fighting the feelings that it would load on my mom. I already feel a great load of guilt from not having joined already. I think it’s in my near future though. I have to live for myself at some point.
I shipping out tomarrow and I have lived with my parents my whole life. I know it is going to be hard and it was especially on my mother. She is out of town so she wont see my leave but the next time she does see me, I will be a Marine. Do it soon as possible, I was supposed to leave next month but got the call to leave tomarrow. It won’t be easy and it will be hard on the ones you love but it will all be worth it.
Agreed. I am in my thirties and seriously considering joining the Army reserves. But for me, I`m not married(and don`t plan on doing it, if ever, for a while) and I don`t have any children, so I don`t have any other commitments and obligations and other human beings that I am responsible to and for. I don`t know how old the guy who sent in this question is but I`m guessing if he`s not in his late 20s then he is most likely over 30 and if the person asking the question wants to have children with his wife, as Jocko said, that won`t be easy if the person joins the military. Once you have a family, everything changes. It`s not just about you anymore as it with the single/bachelor-life. Everyone is different, so the person`s wife may or may not be tough enough and up to task of being a military wife.
Then you're golden. I left the Marines at 26, mainly because I knew I'd be married in a couple years and having kids a few years after that. If you enjoy the Reserves, it can also be the doorway to active duty, if you really enjoy it. Go for it and good luck man.
Thanks for the feed back. I'm single , I feel no sense of purpose or honor , I view military as the highest achievement for a man . And I really dont want to regret not joining. Been in contact with recruiters. I'm 30 .
Jocko, I wanted to say thank you for the positive spin on the Reserves (National Gaurd) and also for your work personally to fight and win in Iraq. I was Army National Gaurd, deployed to Al Anbar in 2007-2008. I were there in a time of relative peace. I never had to fight because you and yours, my brothers and sisters in uniform, already had. Respect. 💖🔥🌹
My wife was not tough enough. I didn't join. I wish I had, but it is what it is. I don't pine over it. I am currently working on getting my EMT-Advanced. Not the military, but I think it's a damn good goal. Something worth pushing myself for. Keeps the wife happy, and I still feel good about myself.
Ex navy seal commander giving reserves respect. True soldier.
Real soldiers respect all branches. They dont bash the "weaker" branches
*former not ex
@@anthonyderosa7730
True. Once you've seen a thing or two, you stop disrespecting other branches and wings of an armed force. This is how it has been consistently throughout human history. During WW1 the Artillerymen on all sides were disrespected by arrogant infantry officers and cavalry officers, because these officers believed glory was won at the front, and the rear was for cowards. After being in hell and being saved many times by artillery, they had a different attitude. During WW2, the Panzerwaffe of the German army wasn't taken seriously. The infantry saw them as idiots in metal boxes, but they soon changed their tone and came to appreciate them when shit got real onwards from 1940.
True champion
He loves reservists, he literally says the 228 out of Pennsylvania are badasses in his podcast
I'm 23 and finally committed to enlisting in the marine corps because I didn't want to live with that regret in life. I get sworn in next Monday and then ship out two weeks after that to boot camp.
Congratulations good on ya
Did you make it?
God bless you man, thank you for your service. I am trying to join the USAF NJ ANG.
How have you turned out?
Me too bro! Just enlisted leave November 4th 2019
I'm a volunteer firefighter, can confirm the sense of purpose you get from serving your community is absolutely worthwhile.
Sounds like it would be a good option for that guy.
It is rewarding being a volunteer firefighter, I too regret not joining the military, but I served my community for 12 years as a vff!
VFF are the most uncelebrated heroes. No pay and tons of time stolen from family. Anybody else giving up xmas and new years to work 24 hour shifts w/out pay?????
Shut up man, you vols fuckin light fires to make work for yourselves
@@Morningstar_Actual That's cute.
Joining the Army at 24 (active) was the best decision of my life. Went from slaving away in a factory to visiting Korea, Thailand, Phillipines, flying in helicopters, driving tanks, shooting 50 cals, getting free college and getting paid.
Best way to put it. All men who are eligible need to consider
Hey man, im 23 and im currently thinking about joining the army or air force, im tired of working civilian jobs and not getting anywhere. The way i see it, an army contract is 4 years right? In 4 years ill have the gi bill and have more money in my pocket then i do now and get experience i couldnt get working anywhere else, i just want something more for myself and the military is the quickest way to get there not to mention ive always wanted to since i was a kid. But could u give me some more details about how it went for u? Being 24 and joining with a bunch of 17-19 and being older?
@@chungledorf350 I joined the army infantry so I got only a 3 year contract. it was pretty wierd at first getting smoked and doing pushups even though I was a grownass man but at the end of the day if you are squared away and responsible then you’ll be treated like an adult. but I enjoyed having my own room in the barracks having a social life and a bunch of friends to talk to and places to go and things to do and living so far from my hometown. the best years of my life
@@cryptojuicer thats what im trying to do, all i do daily is go to work at the job ive had since i was 19 working at a grocery store i go home and play games with my friends and do it all over again. I dont want this to be the extent of my life, i wanna do more and experience stuff before i die. I used to be scared of leaving my family behind but the drive to wanna leave has slowly been pushing me to leave and experience life before its to late, i appreciate you taking the time to reply to my message! All the help i can get is welcomed lol!
@@chungledorf350Im in the same boat as you brodie. Tired of working odd jobs, taking whatever job I can get then getting it taken away from me. I wanna be a mechanic, how im tryna see it, I can get my 4 years done get the experience and get out. Work on commercial vehicles and get paid asf after the military sounds good to me. Im only trying to find the strength to leave my family and the life ive built here, its tough. But time is of the essence, id rather try and fail than to not have tried at all. 4 years seems like a long time but we have our lifetime to make up for it.
I joined the Marine Corps at 28. Getting a late start is harder on your body, but you can bring more maturity and life experience into your service to help you out.
Any advice for officer candidates. ?
@@alexmark8917 OCS was a blast. Haha Run, Run, Run. If you are running around a 19 min 3 mile you will be in the middle of the pack on all the runs. Learn to fail and fail often.
It's not all that bad though. Use the liberty days to rehydrate and get gear prepped. Have fun when you can.
I got boot dropped and I regret not getting my ega. I hurt my neck 2 years ago and I’m 25 now. But I feel it in my soul. I feel like I need that ega. What should I do?
@@1302DevilDog I'm currently trying to get into the September marine OCS class. Will be 26 if selected at that time. hopefully my body can hold up! feeling good right now doing 20 pullups and running about 20:30. crunches are a gimme. still gotta couple months before i do my official PFT so should be able to get the run time up and squeeze out those last 3 pull ups.
@@RoofedhoboYou’re still in your 20s. I don’t know why people think your body starts disintegrating at 21.
Jocko is so practical. No fake bravado or something... That's why I love him
This is an inspiring clip from Jocko, who can definitely make you see your potential. I have a minor disagreement, 2:08, he says when he was four he wanted to “join the military.” I kind of doubt that at age 4, you have a concept of joining the military. I think at that age he just wanted to “be an army guy“. LOL
@@Defender78 duuuuhhhhh
@@Defender78 At age four I also wanted to join the military. But when I arrived to the barrack gates in a pram pushed by my mother, the guards turned us away. I will always regret not trying harder.
I regretted not serving my entire adult life. Should have done ROTC or enlisted in college. I fixed that regret by enlisting in the Air National Guard at the age of 36. Did it with a wife and 2 kids at home. One of the best decisions I ever made. Don't make excuses. Just do it.
At 36?? I really need to look in to that!
I thought cutoff was 35?
@@ep4998 it may be now. It changes depending on the needs. The Army Guard cut off was 35 when I enlisted, but Air Guard was 42.
@@inked585 just seeing this. One of the best decisions I ever made.
I did my 4 years right after hs, used my GI Bill, and enjoyed my civilian life.. Then 12 years later, I had an itch to rejoin in the reserve as a commission officer. Now, wrapping up my 20 and planning to stay till I am in my 50s.. reserve was one of my best decisions ever!
Jocko podcast convinced me to join and I'm so glad I did at age 27. That was 3 years ago and it's been very rewarding.
How’d the waiver process go?
@@vincealince_SRT you don’t necessarily need waivers to join at 27
Enjoy the stolen money traitor
@@AllanPowell wut
Just went active duty at 29 after working in finance and managing at a Chick Fil A. Thanks for your service and its not too late if you're in your later 20s or 30s.
2:09 When Jocko was 4 years old, he regret not joining the World War 2.
Underrated comment. Thanks for making me laugh
I was 34 years old last year and just couldn't live with the regret of not serving. So I went to the recruiter and enlisted with 11x opt 40. I had a wife and kids and still nutted up and did it. It's been a blur since I arrived to Ft Benning on 3/26/19 but right now I am in Germany, coming home from my first combat deployment in Africa with the 101st Airborne. I have a patch on my right shoulder now and I have new brothers and friends that will last a lifetime. It hasn't been a comfortable road but I am so damn glad I did. Now a deployed infantryman with the prestigious 101st. Rakassans ftw ⛩️⛩️⛩️⛩️ rendezvous with destiny
How did your family take it?
I just turned 34 last year. From what I read i have to be sworn in before 35. I don't know if I'll be able to enlist.
@Luca Augment pog
@@ep4998 don’t do it bro, no point.
@@ep4998 do it do it do it
So glad that you acknowledged the role of military wives. They have to be tough as nails and I am so glad I married a strong one to be my career partner.
I remember when I was in the Corps I saw so many marriages struggling and fail because of the stress that they're under. I'm glad you got a great wife that's in it to the very end.
Nanny cam.
its hard to live with limited time for cums
Well they're definitely getting nailed lmaoo
@@bensalazar9747 maybe yours was lol
Serving your country no matter the importance or how elite the branch is is still serving. Jocko doesn't discriminate
I live with the same regret everyday. Went to work underground in the coal mines for 6 years and ended up disabled at 25 and now I have no hope of ever fulfilling my dreams. It eats at me every single day. My advice would be exactly like joko said. Live your life to the fullest and regret nothing. God bless u all and thanks for your service!
Coal miners keep the lights on. Thank you for YOUR service.
What’s your disability? Maybe I could share something helpful. Carnivore diet or animal-based (keto) can help with a lot of things. Listen to Dr. Anthony Chaffee. If you got crushed, SquatUniversity and Kneesovertoesguy on TH-cam have a lot of good ideas for PT. Did you lose a limb? Look at what a paralympians can do. Sorry if this is obnoxious. I’ve been through three years of surgery with a third one on the way to open up my airways. Metal holds my jaws together now. The above resources helped me. I hope it helps. Good luck. Take care.
The lord has purpose for you man I'm considering National guard or Reserves prying through it but know God has a plan ether way no matter what we have to look to Jesus for purpose. Thanks for your work and God bless
There are many paths to having a meaningful life. It hurts when you see one close, but don't let that deter you from other righteous paths.
That's rough, Buddy. I can't share in your experience, but I can definitely share in the regret. I'm 45 now and seriously regret not joining. My parents were divorced. My dad was never a real dad. He never taught me a damn thing and I had no discipline. I got a call from a Marine recruiter one day and set up an appointment to go talk with him. As soon as I told my mom, she called my dad. Keep in mind that they weren't even on speaking terms. So, they took me out to eat that night and talked me out of it. I had no direction in life and I had no idea what I wanted to do. So, I just floundered through life. I was miserable working dead end jobs and couldn't afford college. And, they were both just so shocked at why I struggled so much. I guess they thought that I was just supposed to figure it out. I'm grown now and I know that I can't blame them for my problems, but every man that I know has stories about his dad and how he gave him guidance when he was younger. I can't think of one time that my dad ever did that. It's important. I needed that discipline at that point in life. Then later in life, I brought it up while having a conversation with my mom. She said, "There was a war going on!" First of all, there's a chance you might have to fight if you go to the military. That's a given. You just accept that. But, it's a cop out. It was in 1998 when I set up that appointment. I was 19. There wasn't a f'n war going on. 9/11 was still 3 years away. I've always had a lot of resentment and regret about that. I'm sorry to hear you're story. The coal mines...that's rough, Brother. You guys have always been underappreciated and underpaid. But now, God forbid we use our coal. I don't know if there even are coal workers anymore. And, it's dangerous work. Disabled at 25. I'm really sorry to hear that.
For the cops, firefighters, EMTs, etc......your service is on 100% on par with military service. Military service might get a little more recognition, but the grind of being out there every day for twenty or thirty years is an awesome service to your fellow Americans. I’m a vet and my hat is off to you. Thank you for your service.
Hey I have questions about this subject you might could awnser if possible
I respect all, but I did the Military and then Fire/EMS. There’s no comparison to the military.
Active duty military is something else entirely. I too, did the military and LEO.
Thanks man.
Cops ain't shit hahaha
i just went and became a nurse. Was never physically strong enough to join the service but i have other things to offer aside from my strength.
respect
Yeah, there are a great many ways to serve your People Nurses,Doctors,EMTs,Cops,Civil Air Patrol, hell even the Postman and the Garbageman. Not all of us are cut out for military, but you've just gotta find a place to apply yourself, get in there, and be productive.
Jocko this advice is pretty awesome. I joined when I turned 18 but when I left for Basic I had a ton of guys that were anywhere from 6-12 years older than me and honestly I had way more respect for that. I was just an 18 year old kid joining, fresh out of high school, no relationships, worked retail. These guys had family's, careers, bachelor's degrees, and they took some time off to join and I give them hella props for doing what they did.
It doesn’t go away. I’m 60 plus and didn’t do military service. I see what a great experience my son is having and no think I missed out.
I hear that. I'm in my 50s ad feel the same way.
Same here. I'm 49. Kick myself everyday. :(
@@scottparsons4935 go to work for a place like General Dynamics where they hire a lot of ex-military and you find out what you missed by not being part of the military. The stories and experiences you missed out on. I was just a big clueless pussy that had no clue.
After hearing this 100% considering the reserves now.
Go for it brother
Take this in consideration. 1) your obligation to attend drills are longer aka 6 years.... a lot changes in 6 years. 2) you can not just skip drill resulting in you missing out on a lot of family events. 3) you miss work to attend drill making your checks from work smaller but then have to wait anywhere from 2-4 weeks to get paid from the military..... kind of hard to pay rent when you went to a Thurs-Sunday drill and missed those days at work. 4) The GI bill for schooling will be smaller as you did not do 90 days of active duty outside of bootcamp or MOS school. 5) if you get activated you will go on that deployment.... I served 5 years 9 months when we were notified of being activated.... I was not allowed to get out at 6 years. So I had to keep attending drill for another 7 months before we officially activated and then went on a 1 year deployment. By the time we returned I had spent 19 additional months in the military then expected...... when I thought after 6 years I would be done. If you are going to join the military go active! You arent juggling family, work, drill, figuring out paying Bill's because your pay schedule is messed up, etc. You get paid the 1st and 15th every month, you get food every day, you dont pay for rent, you dont pay for utilities. Most pay for internet/wifi, a cellphone, and maybe a car/insurance. That's it. Go active or don't join.
Fucken do it dude. But honestly if you don’t have a wife and kids,Go active. I have so much buddies that are reserve and regret it. Every time I talk to them or I post something they tell me they want to go active so bad.
The reserves? Go active duty
@@evanpoole6751 yeah I’m active and some of my buddies are reserve they envy me every moment, they regret going reserve. If you do decide in joining the military Try your best to go active if possible.
Jocko is truly the REAL DEAL. Salute! I am 33 and getting tattoos removed just to join. I know it's late in life, but I will not live to regret it everyday anymore.
31 considering joining upcoming year, what are your reasons for joining?
Tried joining at 17. Couldn’t do it because of anti depressants, wasn’t off long enough for a waiver. Tried again at 20/21. Couldn’t find the paperwork about my medical history and my parents weren’t much help. Tried one more time at 27 and got my waiver approved after completing college.
This was a lot like me. I joined the DEP (delayed entry program) at 15, USMC. Religiously went every weekend and trained, as long as school sports weren't going on. Scored a 98 on the ASVAB, was gung-ho as hell about it. During my last year of High-school, because I was smart and worked hard, I got enough academic scholarships to go to college for 2 years "free". I grew up poor as shit, and never thought college would be an option for me. At 18, I decided I was going to college instead, and when my original recruiter got re-located down to NC, It was an easy out for me. I bailed out in the spring of 2000, a few months before I was going to boot camp. At 36, I'm too old to join, and with a wife and two kids, it's just not a realistic option for me, but there is plenty you can do here in the US to support. We need soldiers and hero's abroad, but we need patriots here at home just as badly, more now than ever. I applied to my local PD, I coach kids and try to help them grow into good men. Our soldiers can't be everywhere, they need eyes and ears here at home protecting the constitution and the rule of law. You can't live your life looking in the rear-view mirror, move forward and do what you can.
Robert Nowland God bless you, you can still join the USAF Reserves or Air National Guard til 39:)
Very well put! Cheers!
Navy And Air Force. Enlisted or Officer with your degree. Get after it!
Reserves is still an option as long as you're physically up for it !! Longest time you'll be away is boot camp and AIT
I was passed over at MEPS due to asthma. Tried over the years and always got the same answer. Last time I tried at 40 when the enlistment age was increased to 45 for a few years. Same answer. If you're not too old, keep trying.
I’m 24 and will be enlisting in navy reserve next month after never considering it prior. I had a awakening and realized what I must do in order to be fulfilled with life. Serving my country will always make me proud when I look back. Can’t wait. Hooyah Navy!
I can identify with the man who submitted that question. I had a plan for after high school graduation that, if I didn't find a job by July 1st (1975), I would enlist in the Navy. I started working full-time eight days prior to my self-imposed deadline and married my high school sweet heart eight months later. I went on to become a police officer, spending 31 years in the field before retiring in 2013; through all those decades, however, that's the one regret that's nagged at me...not serving my country. I've found a way to lessen that regret, so to speak, in that I now write a weekly column for our local newspaper, profiling our veterans who served during WW II, Korea and Vietnam.
God bless all our patriot heroes.
-Tim
Team Ohio Detectors Sounds to me like you served our country for 31 straight years
You were a cop. You did serve your country, just on a more local level but did so nonetheless.
You have my respect. Anyone who risked their own dreams and Future to protect the lives, dreams, and Future of their fellow man, has served their country. Thank you.
Anyone who served as a police officer for 31 years has served their community, as well as their country, for the greater good. No regrets. Thank you, sir.
You served your country. Military, LE, and Fire and EMT all serve and should be blessed by God for their sacrifice.
Another option would be to join a search and rescue team if there is one in your area. We do all kinds of training like land nav, rapelling, first aid, long distance hiking, overnight winter camp outs, survival training, k9 operations, radio communications, etc. It's a great way to build camaraderie and develop teamwork with people that have the same interests as yours.
Very well said! I joined a volunteer SAR here in Ontario. Also enlisted in the Navy Reserves… at age 43! Very happy & satisfied.
Isn’t search and rescue way hard to get into though?
@themysticalcolby The way to find out is to see if there are any SAR teams in your area. If do, they will have an application and selection process. Being in good physical condition will help, along with having some land navigation skills, but most teams that I'm familiar with will train you.
I had this feeling so I enlisted in the US Army Infantry at 34 years old with a wife and kids. 3 years later, have served in the 101st Airborne Division and got a deployment to Africa, made friends for life and am now a few months from getting out. Been a hell of a ride. It wasn't comfortable, but it was worth it. I did my time.
You did active duty?
@@adamrocks529 yea active duty. 101st airborne division/3bct
@@stinger_zx10r62 Nice!
I am in the final stages of enrolling into the Canadian Army reserves.
I almost cried watching this video because it hit so close to home. The desire for joining the military, but the timing was never right. Decided it's time I made the timing right for myself as I too did not want to live with that regret in life.
I had a accident when I was 15, fell off a truck while moving. Had 86 stitches in my head after a 9 hour surgery. I also died 3 times in life flight helicopter. When I turned 18, I wanted to join the Marines because I was awarded the Semper Fi award at my school. I really wanted to join. Found out they wouldn’t take me because of the accident. So I went to the army, same outcome. Navy, same, coast guard... same outcome. So that really upset me. But, at least I tried to do what I wanted to do. It just sucked know that I wouldn’t be doing it.
You did what you could do given the circumstances. No doubt you would have been a great soldier.
@@5thman677 I tried like no other. But, it was a no go. I’ve always regretted having that taken away from me. But instead, when on to get an engineering degree and design hospitals, churches and power plants for different cities in Oklahoma, Texas, Louisiana, Arkansas and Kansas. I loved doing what I did. Retired now but there’s always that wonder “what if?”
I joined really late in life at 34. I absolutely love it. I went with the national guard. I’ve been able to help my community when disaster hits and still have a life outside of the military. It’s kind of the best of both worlds. And that nagging feeling on missing your calling I get it. Jacko is dropping truth about this.
It will never go away. Im 45 now and to old. I think about it almost everyday and how my life might have been different.
I agree I'm 47 and wish I had joined
There are support roles for civilians. Logistics, administration, maintenance, etc..
Same, I’m 38 and wish I had enlisted at some point. Already had two knee surgeries (got knee capped in high school) and trying to avoid more so idk what I’d be able to do at this point
It doesn't go away. After 9/11 I knew I wanted to step up, but I went to the police academy for an application instead of the recruiter's office. I'm now 37, a fifteen year cop, and every time I hear about the battles in Iraq/Afghanistan I feel like I should have been there.
I enlisted in the Army National Guard in July at 35. I ship out in Jan. Even after 13 yrs in law enforcement, I still had a void and regret. The Army and Air Force can give age waivers. Do it. Good luck.
USAF is up to 39, go sign that paper!
Yeah, like others are saying, go join up if you still want to. Since you have 15 years of law enforcement experience, you will most likely be able to get a waiver with no issues. You could also go for a private contracting company, since they seek law enforcement personnel too for their operations overseas. Those guys make big bucks.
Respect. In your experience can you become a cop with felonies? DUI as well as criminal trespassing and conspiracy
I can relate brother. I was a senior in high school and when 9 11 happened I knew what I needed to do, but put it off for months , caught up in partying. I caught a couple low level drug charges and got stuck in the probation system for two years. After getting done with that I became a "step dad" and didn't feel I could leave. When that relationship ended I walked in the Marines recruiting office at 23 and was determined to go infantry reserves. My past made it hard to get in and I eventually switched over to the army recruiting office and after 3 years of trying I made it into the active duty army as a welder. I turned 26 in basic. It was never my plan, and I do feel guilt for not joining after 9 11, however I am proud of my 4 years of service and my tour in Afghanistan, even if it was 2012 when I finally made it there, guarding the base from a tower. I think you should be proud of your police service, there was a reason you went that route.
I love this, this was literally my life for the past year. I just told my fiancé who is going to be my wife in a few days that I regret not joining and that now is my chance to join the reserves. She was beyond supportive, even despite the fact that she is pregnant, she encourages me to do what makes me happy and what is good for the family. Just started my application to Officer candidate school yesterday
Biggest regret of my life never joining the military !! Now I'm too d@mn old ! God bless all who have and are serving 🙏
what is your age? I will tell you yes or no.
@user-rp5vx2pb9i 🤣 Trust me
I know this feeling. Ended up enlisting at 32. It will eat away at you and you will become a broken record to your friends and family unless you address it. No amount of financial stability will "completely" erase the feeling that you did not do what you believed you should have done.
How do you like it? I turn 30 this march and am thinking about joining
donald setefano Ive only been in a little over a year, but everyones experience is unique. Cadre at BCT could ignore you or know your name by day 3 simply because youre the old guy. Mine was the latter. I think younger soldiers make it out to be harder than it is. Maybe they just haven't had to endure enough of the disappointments on life's menu and don't realize that it's not that bad. When it sucks it sucks. But everything ends. Even a good ol fashioned smoke session.
All in all, its hard to complain. Steady pay, medical, college options, etc.
donald setefano I guess that was kind of a merc answer. If its burning in your gut to do it, that burn wont stop until you do.
thebenforever thanks for your quick response! I am really hoping I can enlist its been a burning desire of mine since i was young my grandpa was a marine. I have been looking into Ranger Regiment. My buddy asked me to enlist in Bud/S. As he is going soon. I have charges as a minor and dont know if they will take me but I am hopeful and thankful for your honesty. Will be talking to a recruiter in March.
donald setefano Get used to being asked why you joined so late, but its rarely in a mocking way. once youre in, youre in.
I am so glad that I joined the Army Reserves. My mother were very anti-military (my Mom grew up seeing neighbors killed by the Colombian military) and my Mom threatened to disown me if I went active duty. So I compromised and went into the Reserves. I absolutely loved it. In many ways the training I got in the Army saved my life by re-instilling my sense of self-esteem and giving me a tremendous number of life skills. While I do wish I had gone active duty sometimes, that also would have not allowed me to do many other wonderful things in life. So overall I think it's a great balance, but a serious obligation as well due to the fact that you can be be deployed and have to put your life on the line for America.
Thank you Jocko for the shoutout to the Reserves (and don't forget National Guard).
Did you ever deploy?
@@SirGuidemere91 No, not full deployments. Just overseas for annual training over in Egypt for Operation Eastern Castle (supporting annual Bright Star joint training exercises). My unit almost went to Kosovo, but that mission started winding down so we didn't go. I basically served between major wars.
Hello friend. I know this is a late response comment, but I'm from Colombia. What happened to you??
@@ameza1757 Hola amigo! You mean what happened to me since 3 years ago? Not a whole lot. I'm just enjoying life while dealing with the usual challenges of middle-aged life.
I’m 30 and have started feeling this regret. I’m glad I watched this. Thanks Jocko
Do it. I've 21 years in. Very glad I did.
I knew I would of had regrets. I always knew I wanted to serve. I'm glad I listened to myself and nobody else.
My dad saved me from joining the military here in Mexico and I really have been probably dead or held hostage for decades with the guerrilla or the narco. I hated my dad but he had to do what he had to do to save his son's life and I appreciate him for doing it.
You can build the discipline and power you need to get to where you want to be without the uniform and the accolades.
Create your own army and you will be happy
Mexican military is much different
Wise words coming from your father.
@@nicandromartinezsotelo3300 imo your family held you back. Met guys who have joined withd no support from their families but went anyway and made decent lives because they enlisted.
Or just join the U.S. Army? Lol
@@nunyah8705 you for sure misread and have no idea of what I've written there.
I joined the Air Force at 18 thinking I was going to be a lifer. About 4 weeks into boot camp I got really sick and was medically discharged. At the time it broke my heart but looking back I'm glad I tried. I'm 35 now. I have a good life and no regrets.
At least you made it to boot camp lol. Most wouldn't even make it to that point.
most dont even make it to boot camp. Army did a study several years ago that found 25% of all applicants/candidates make it into the military.
@@em34ev3r I have a similar story to that guy too, I hope to rejoin the Marine Corps at some point but if I can’t get a waiver, I’m glad that I tried and if medically it wasn’t in the cards, so be it but at least I didn’t quit
The great Dr. Samuel Johnson said "Every man thinks meanly of himself for not having been a soldier..." I feel this on a regular basis. Good podcast
Growing up as a son of a man who lived his entire life with this regret of not taking the plunge and doing what he loved, all I knew was a man who was bitter and angry at the world. I vowed not to live my life like that.
Facing the same regret that the question here poses at age 36 I went ahead and signed up for a full-time position in the military. I finished basic training a few months ago and can honestly say it’s one of the best decisions i’ve made in my entire life and I wouldn’t take it back for even a second.
It’s never to late to defy expectations and wholeheartedly pursue your calling.
Great, a geriatric just joining the military. What a great use of tax payer's dollars.
I dont turn 40 until sep. Think army take me?
@Jake you’re an absolute idiot if you really think there isnt worth in a 36 year old joining the armed forces to protect your dumbass!
Most 30-somethings are in better health than 20-somethings because they are living a cleaner life and arent partying all the time.
Grow up!
God bless anyone who joins and serves
@@chrishogg7233 I served in the Marines and deployed to Afghanistan. I've seen older guys who just join boot camp and almost all of the older guys are garbage. A huge waste of taxpayers' dollars.
@@Jake-Truth-Snake can u prove that I’m finding it unlikely
Joined the Marines at 18 and don't regret one bit both good and bad the lesson learned have served me well through out my life Once A Marine Always A Marine
Semper Fi
Is there a three mile run in boot camp
Aaron yes I know but what if you go pass 28:00min
Marc Johnson Well this video is about regretting not joining.
The brainwashing clearly works
Oorah Devil
My air national guard unit had a guy join at 39 because of this exact reason.
You can still join at that age?
@current_interest call the air national guard recruiter near you. It's not guaranteed but it is possible.
@@jesswilson6012 yes, as long as you can complete 20 years of service before you turn 60. You don't have to do 20. Joining at that age is possible but not always guaranteed.
@current_interest long as your body and mind is up to task, have a crack 👍
That was about the time I started doing my thing. My one recommendation, try to get federally protected. I enjoyed being able to piss off my asshole boss.
The feeling never goes away. I am 39 years old and if I could change 1 thing in past, it would be jot joining.
I know the feeling and I’m 53
You can join the guard/reserve until your 39 fir most branches. Sooo hurry? lol
I believe the age is 34 to age out of eligibility even for reserve duty. I’m 32 and the military has been calling me for a good 15 years now....sigh lol
Feeling never goes away. 30 years old and regret it every single day. I always wanted to be an Army Ranger and when I was 19 my senior year I went to the recruiter talked to them was adamant to do it and then my parents talked me out of it over the next three days. If there was one thing I could change or tell myself is to stay strong and do what you want, it is your life not your parents. Wish someone was supportive of me and my wants at that young age for my career. I am now a history teacher at the high school level and I coach the baseball team. I love it and get enjoyment but not enlisting will always remain my biggest regret.
@@AbsoluteyAmerican totally agree bruh. No matter what else I do in life....the call to serve remains unanswered at the end of the day.
I really thought I was the only one that lives with that regret. I went into to law enforcement to try to fill that void and it has similarities but I still hold anyone who has severed in the military way above me. It is a regret that I think about every day.
Hi, Jocko, I am Jefferson from Kenya and I am a great admirer of all things military. I am a lawyer by training although am currently going through serious mental health issues. Deep down i feel like i can be the best but i find myself lacking the courage and will to pursue my goals. By listening to your podcasts i have discovered the secret is to move forward despite how slow the progress is. Keepup the good work my man. I cant join the army now coz am 32 years but i intend to adopt the navy seal mentality to be the best lawyer this country has ever seen.
Work for the Veteran’s department where you live bro there are many ways to serve
Wow never knew so many people shared that feeling
likewise
Do it. Join. I live with regret. Fortunately, my career was as a cop for 20 + years. That lessens the regret.
As a wife who barely got through a similar situation, you need to be 1000% open and honest and tell her all your feelings when they come up. When we are focused on taking care of children that also need you, it's going to feel very selfish and like a betrayal to us and we might not be mature enough to handle it the right way. Go to counseling together, church counseling, anything. You take her. It can be done, but don't let it destroy your marriage, either way.
*I had regret when I hit my early 30s about not enlisting.*
*I thought it was too late, then I saw this Podcast.*
*I've been in the reserves for almost 5 years now.*
*Thank you Jocko.*
This is what I'm struggling with. I'm 32 now and feel that I haven't done anything I wanted out of the need to protect my mom. She's got crippling anxiety and depression and sometimes bipolar symptoms. And I actually think we're not closer BECAUSE she discouraged me from anything slightly dangerous.
But I can't tell her this. It's horrible.
You don't have to tell her shit. I'm 32 and just put in for reenlistment after a 10+ year gap. If you want to do it then do it.
I'm reading this late but I need to share this with you. I have a mother who suffers from anxiety and depression, I am her only son and my parents are divorced. She is very against me going to the military or law enforcement because she is afraid of losing me. Let me be clear about something. By not supporting my goals and what makes me happy, she already lost me. The reality is I am all she's got because SHE MADE IT THAT WAY. It does not make me a bad son or person to pursue my goals simply because my mother feels I give her a sense of purpose and that she would feel lost without me. Many parents are good at using their emotions and their suffering to make us feel guilty, and play the part of the concerned parent when in actuality, they are co-dependent and don't want to lose my attention or physical presence. That was the case with my mother. I used to feel guilty and responsible for her. It took a lot of support and friends to help me realize no one can cure her loneliness/depression but HER.
We can support each other but the minute anyone says me doing or not doing something affects their well-being, it is 100% grade A bullshit and classic manipulation. You are not responsible for her feelings. A good parent supports what their children wants or will make them happy, barring a life of crime and drugs. You should not feel guilty pursuing your goals. I saw how easily my mother switched from poor me to angry once she realizes it's not working with me.
We are not obligated to take care of our parents when they are physically capable of taking care of themselves. They are responsible for their own emotional needs, and it is NOT OKAY to place that kind of burden on their children. Reserve that kind of consideration for YOUR OWN FAMILY and PARTNER/KIDS. Moving out was the best decision I ever made and now my mother developed her own social network and hobbies to keep her busy that she even turns me down for dinner. The only thing that can stop you from doing something is YOU. Good luck.
Don't talk just do it
@@leraygun I 100% agree
I’m 33, wife and two boys, successful career but god has called me. I’m praying on it right now, but the Navy is where I’m considering. My wife is also on board but my parents….that’s a different story
Think about this at least once a week. Realized it's too late and am just going to deal and move on with out joining. I'm 35 with a wife and 3 kids. I'd be selfish to join now. Family needs me more than I need to join I suppose.
Air Force: 17 - 42
Army: 17 - 35
Coast Guard: 17 - 41
Marine Corps: 17 - 28
Navy: 17 - 41
Space Force: 17 - 42
I quit and i regret it everyday but i had my reasons injury and just being weak. I plan on rejoining and fulfilling my duty and making up for my short comings.
Cody McElwain have you been working out?
I was in for a three years after high school and have always been grateful to my younger self for taking on that challenge and doing my bit. Was never a natural soldier, not a tough guy, and I was scared, but something made me do it thank god. And I sure didnt distinguish myself, but I did my part, wore the uniform and played my tiny, infinitesimal part for my country. That little bit I did gives me pride every damned day. Wish I'd stayed for 20, but thats a small regret. It would nag me every day if I'd never done it at all. Younger guys, go do it. If you're feeling like its something you must do, regret you havent done it yet, that feeling will grow and grow every year. Go do it!
Wanted to be in the military for as long as I can remember. Joined the army right out of high school at 19. At the beginning of week 7 I woke up with the realization that I was about to graduate basic in 2 weeks time. I suddenly had second thoughts and quit. It only took a week after getting back home for the realization to hit me that I messed up bad. I felt like a complete and total failure. It has weighed heavily on my mind each and every day, and I still feel the shame of quitting every day. The only thing that has held me back from trying again is the fear of getting there and feeling like quitting again. That won't hold me back anymore. I will not live with this regret. I'm almost 23 now, and am getting back in shape as well as quitting my smoking addiction. I will be talking to a recruiter soon. My advice to anyone who goes and considers quitting is simply do not quit. Things in the civilian life will sound better than the things they have you do in basic training, but you must remember that basic training is only temporary. Remember why you joined, and stick to it.
Do it . I completed basic and ait at 32.
Basic training must be hell of only 2 weeks left makes you want to quit. I can’t imagine
I joined the Coast Guard Auxiliary at age 48. I am considering being a volunteer firefighter.
Good shit
I'm 21 and I just enlisted in the Navy about to go to basic in two weeks. The woman I was with couldn't handle that my calling in life was to go to the military and she decided to leave. I hold no resentment or anger but I am thankful that she was honest with me. My only regret is not enlisting at 17 because I feel like now I've wasted the past 4 years of my life. Nevertheless, I am leaving soon and am more than happy to get started
“Marriage is a young man’s disaster and an old man’s comfort.” Read/listen to STARSHIP TROOPERS.
She did you a favor. Stay single for at least your first 4 years in the service...trust me...
Art person how was boot camp?
Good on you, 21 is honestly to young to be latched to a girl anyways. I met my wife while I was in the Navy, smart and independent girl getting her bachelors in nursing. My biggest advice is, don't date another service member and find a girl who has something going for her..or simply have fun and dont date at all, life is more than just finding love haha.
Art person Congratulations on your decision to follow the passion that’s in your heat!
It takes a lot of courage to know what you’re giving up and what you’re about to step into, especially in the military or law enforcement.
If you don’t have a degree already, I strongly recommend that once you’re done with the schools your MOS requires if you that you get your Bachelors degree at a minimum.
You can do it for free and still work full time. This will open doors for you to become a commissioned Officer in the service as an 01-E and serve you well both in and outside the service should you decide not to make it a 25-35 year career.
If you don’t do this, you’ll regret it later. Knock it out while you’re young and single.
At a minimum you can retire at 46 with 25 years of time served and a pension and healthcare Benifits for life.
THAT’s TOUGHT TO BEAT!
I wish you the best fortune and commend you for your decision! We live in the greatest country on this earth!
God’s Speed! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸👍
This was a blessing to hear I'm 20 years old and I've been struggling with feeling like I'm not doing something more I'm a welder and dedicated alot of time to that but didn't feel fulfilled didn't feel like I was making a difference I was always drawn to the military but never took the leap maybe it's time I sign up
I feel anyone who watches this. I always wanted to join ever since I was a kid. Me and my older brother was always playing as being a solider when we were younger. He went into the Marines, I went to do the Air Force, but I didn't enlist. I do every step until PT. I was held back because my parents didn't want me to go full-time and other different excuses. Now, I am 43 and definitely regret. It looks more beneficial than anything. My nephew just came back from boot camp and looks as he gets more respected by everyone. For anyone else, I would have joined and things would be a lot different than what it is now. My advice is to do it right out from High School and learn valuable surviving skills.
I have a enormous amount of love for yall vets and active duty folks. Yall are truly awesome and are all heroes to me, like it or not. I worked almost 30 yrs pumping gas in military ac and occasionally some even armed, not much I know but I really enjoyed it, wasnt able to get in due to blew the physical. Im 65 now, doesnt matter, but dang sure Ill raise a flag and a beer to yall! Yall rock!
I have been there and still regret not having joined. I’m 73 now and still feel that I have missed some part of my life. I still find myself buying groceries of the servicemen Isee in line at the store, gas station. I have great respect for our former, current and future men and women defenders of our nation and all first responders too. May God bless you and protect you all. Amen and amen.
Don't regret not joining the military. A lot of people have had their lives destroyed by joining the military. My wife is a MD at the VA and most people would be shocked by the number of soldiers (mainly army) who were abused including raped (men and women) during their service. Many veterans have health and psych problems from exposure to all types of chemicals, exposures, bad practices, etc. If you didn't join you didn't miss out on anything.
No need for regret. The person you were at the time just wasn't interested enough. If you are older and regret not joining, sounds like you like the IDEA of having served, but never actually wanted to do it for real. If you really wanted it, you would have done it. So accept that you just like the idea of saying you did it, but it's just not for you or other aspects of life didn't allow for it at the time. Don't waste one second thinking about it or regret. It wasn't for you. It's possible you just like the image of it, a lot of men do. That's not enough of a reason to join.
My wife spent 12 years in the navy. My Dad Vietnam, my step-dad korea. I sent two men who I considered brothers into the hands of the Marines. I regret that I didn't sign up. I was at the point of signing up with the navy when the recruiter mentioned I would go in as a non graduate due to graduating high school overseas. Now I'm 45 and unfortunately disabled. Might have caused more problems for the people I might have served with due to a genetic time bomb in my spine. Is what it is. Thank you guys for serving for me.
This is a great video reflecting on the regrets of not enlisting, that we can carry with us. I graduated high school in ‘99, wanted to be an aircraft mechanic for the AF, let my family sway my decision due to Sept 11th and being the only Son. To those watching enlist if you can, live your life without regret and cherish what you have.
I’m almost 37. I have 15 years as a paramedic, including 6 as a flight medic. I had back surgery at 34. I regret never joining. I was young and selfish. I feel like, though I have another 30 years ahead of me as a medic, I haven’t done enough. I wish I’d have served. To anyone on the fence about it, SERVE!
You know you still can right? Air Force age limit is 39
@@ncd7184 three years ago. I’m 40 now.
I was a naval reserve officer in
the 70, never felt I gave enough.
Im just glad im still alive
@Y T but they probably can't be glad about it
After having done just about everything including the Navy one has to stop thinking you missed out. Be content and work hard. I am truly the happiest today. Tomorrow I will say I am truly happiest today. The last day that I breathe my last I will say this is the happiest day of my life. Each day is a blessing from God.
Hey, Jocko thanks so much for the encouragement I've been out of a Job for around 8 months now have applied to multiple jobs for months and haven't been fortunate enough to get one:/ I've been sober and working on self discipline throughout most my time.. Always trying to stay productive I've been considering the Army for about 5 months now with a sober mind and actually finally want to join to see what I'm made of.. I know this journey can provide financial security and memories that can last a life time also moving from my past in a way I think would make some of my old friends happy.. to see I've taken a risk to better myself.. Some may not approve but I think it's best to see what I am able to do.. Always have faith and I appreciate the motivation coming from a combat Vet yourself because now I'm taking the steps to see if a Miracle or dream is possible for me.. I'm such a mediocre person who doesn't deserve the best and going for the best is a bit selfish of me but what I've known in this life is such blessings I've always been given the best out of life as well I think i'd settle down a bit but I want to see what else is out there for better or for worse.. I know the good out there would support or may not but in any endeavor I know I will be responsible for the decision I make whether it may be a mistake or not I am and will be determined to make things right with God before my time.. Whatever that path entails.. May you wish me luck and safety be on my shoulders while I pursue this stressful yet hopefully rewarding journey..
He is soo right. I had the same feeling. It ate at me. So I joined the reserves at 34. It was great. I ended up being a full time reservist for 7 out of the 10 years I was in. Being a reservist was my everyday job!! The benefit of being older to is that you understand what you want to do with your service.
I joined the Army 11B and I was kicked out halfway through basic training due to a medical issue. It’s been a hole in my life.
Never served (in the military), but have served as part of a rescue team in Southeast Asia (anti-human trafficking), and now (as a 50 yr old dude), as an investigator of child abuse & neglect. Did some other stuff as a younger man as well. Lots of ways to serve mankind and make this world a better place. We can’t all be military. As podcast #118 states, you got to find a mission and get after it...whatever it may be.
HoosierPiper any info on the rescue team stuff? My brother wants to do that.
How do I get into something like that sir?
What organization does anti-human trafficking?
Curious which organization you went through?
Just saw this today. Totally agree with this, I joined the reserve years back at 35 for the same reason. I've since done multiple exercises in different parts of the world and have deployed once for 9 months.
Jocko hit it on point with your wife/ girlfriend having it harder. Im definitely glad with joining but it has not been easy in the homefront
I’m 27 and just talked to a recruiter today, going in for ASVAB tomorrow then off to MEPS, if you wanna do it, you can make it happen!
I love how guys from all walks of life have the same feeling. Thanks you all, im 34 and this feeling has always been eating at me.
"They lost a lot of guys" that should ease your regret. Life is precious
A lot of the fellows that served alongside my father actually passed away in training exercises of all things - Canadian air force.
Kyle Robinson air force training is much more dangerous than any other training
Powerful statement
Kyle Robinson how?
yeah! How do you die in airforce training??
If you can't, or won't, join the military then find your motivation. Mine was money and college, no lie. If yours is protecting your family, physical fitness, or purpose then serve those needs in other ways. The military isn't a solution to your needs.
Yes, there are countless ways to serve, the military is an option to experience a lifestyle that is unique to our society. For those of us who have served, it's the experience and the people that you meet that make it special.
@@paleamigo8575 That's for sure. You definitely meet some interesting people.
This one strikes home for me. Just talked with the recruiter this last week but I made the decision solely for financial reasons. My wife is doing great at her career and she would have to come with me to wherever I would be stationed across the country. I was looking to enlist for MP, serve, then join law enforcement. I/my family decided to serve here on the home front and start applying to a career police officer... Much respect to all that have served and will. But I will serve here and still be home at night as a Husband and Father.
*Decided not to enlist, what I meant was serve a calling in law enforcement and Im currently applying (my mission)... If I was to enlist, It was a given that the first opportunity, my family would relocate wherever I was going to be, which meant my wife would have to leave her career.
Good plan. Just know as a cop you'll be gone...alot. To what degree depends on your area/agency. Also prepare yourself to be viewed as an enemy by bout half the people your serving. Again depends where you are.
Regretted not joining after high school, couldn’t shake it. After 10 years, 2 years ago I started the process, got turned down 4 times, never gave up, and now shipping off soon. Greatest feeling in my life.
I had this 'grinding feeling' at 38. The military raised the max age to 42 for awhile. I had nothing going on in life at 38 and then just sold everything, quit my job and just did it. It's easier when you don't have a great job and you don't have to support a family though. I think 'the Reserves' is a solid option.
I'm turning 40 and after having medical issues from 19 through 38 that were hard to overcome I now think about it a lot. I don't know of anyone that's joined near this age, seems more like when you get out. Wish things were different a long time ago.
You may not be able to join U.S. forces but the legion will let you in if you are fit enough. They take care of you and you won't regret it. Act soon. 42 is the cut off. Go get some and make an experience worth taking a risk for.
Joined at 35, commissioned at 36 almost 37 and I was never the oldest person in any of my classes - like Jocko say, join the Guard, join the Reserves. No excuses, no regrets. If you actually want it, you'll make it happen.
You have until 42 to join the Guard. The Guard hosts the reserve combat arms branches of the Army (you said you want to fight), not the Army Reserves (all support). I'm a 37 year old infantry officer - if you're in good shape and take care of yourself, it can be done. Like I said, I've never even been the oldest in any of my training classes.
Your employer is required to grant you leave for military training, deployments, etc. But I get it. And the 10 weeks for basic are just the beginning. I had a chat with my employer before I joined and they have been supportive. The Guard serves stateside missions - someone's got to do it, and your employer should recognize that it might need to be one of their own. I hate when employers, or parents, say they 'support the troops,' so long as it's not one of theirs. Financially, I've done very well in the Guard away from work, so that need not be a concern.
If you truly want it, if you have true regrets - you can make it happen. Joining the Guard was one of the best decisions of my life. Now my only regret is not having done it sooner.
First is 10 weeks of basic. Then you need either 1) MOS training (aka AIT, length varies between several weeks to over a year, depending on what you want to do) to be an enlisted soldier; after AIT, additional training is more or less optional and you start your weekends and two weeks per year ; or 2) OCS to commission as an officer. OCS in the Guard depends on your state but can be 8 weeks (accelerated), 13 weeks (Federal) or 18 months (traditional going only on weekends and two weeks to start and end). I did accelerated. Then you go for your branch-specific training (e.g., infantry, intelligence, finance), which can vary from about 3 months to 6 months. Infantry is 4.5 months. These training stints can be separated by multiple months, just depends. You have some say in that. After that, additional training is mostly optional.
I understand the anti-military sentiment of a campus, but as a larger employer, they need to remain in compliance with federal law and I'm sure you wouldn't be their first. My OCS class had a few people either working in academia or pursuing higher degrees. I have a M.S. and the Army needs smart people, especially as leaders. Go MI and a world of opportunity awaits on the civilian side. I plan to MI as a Captain, wanted to do infantry while my body can still keep up.
I also understand family. I've missed events. It's a sacrifice you have to be willing to make. I'm lucky to have a supportive wife - being separated has been hard, but it's brought us closer.
It's extremely rewarding, and an environment you cannot replicate on the civilian side. You just have to be willing to give up some freedom, time, etc.
Also, the Guard and Army have a lot of options for those who want to do medical on the officer side. I don't know much about this, but there are med-specific officer recruiters. www.goarmy.com/amedd.html
We had a guy who joined at 42 and he was cool. As long as you can keep up in PT, you're good. It's doable at that age.
This man is spot on with his advice
Volunteer Fire Departments would love to have anyone who is willing to train and help. Organize fundraising efforts and community awareness, that seriously helps a VFD!
And it is a serious way to serve your country, just on a more limited arena. Look at the size of this nation and the relatively few cities big enough to be able to pay for a fire service. One town at a time is how VFDers serve their country. Respect.
Sadly they're not an option in most of the UK, you can be a whole time firefighter or what's called a retained fire fighter. The latter must be available on call for a minimum of 50 hours a week and live within 5 minutes drive of the the fire station. That obviously rules out a lot of people, including me
@@DK-cy5mt Sounds like they don't want retainers.
Our folks all have a pager, are required to attend meetings/gatherings one day a week and do maintenance and training monthly. If a call goes out, they let dispatch know their status (in the area or out). But that's the volunteer position. Retained would be different. Pretty special circumstances.
@@workin4alivin585 that's what the retained firefighter does. There is a retained fire station near me, but out of the catchment area for me to drive to by one mile, so frustrating
I agree with the reserve. Many reg force guy went reserve towards the end for the stability you get.
My regret was having a mental breakdown and quitting at boot my first in bootcamp back in 2019. I counted myself out and tried for 5 years to get back in another branch.
I joined ems almost a year ago and I know it’s not all the same but it gives me a sense of belonging and serving my community in that aspect if there is one.
7 years ago when I was 18/19, I was in the process of talking to recruiters, showing up to PT, but wouldn’t be guaranteed to get in since I had a record as a minor. After speaking with the different branches, I think it was either the national guard or the coast guard that would be most lenient but I didn’t go talk to them cause I was trying to see if I could do the army.
At the same time, I was hanging out with shady characters and I got pinched, ended up doing 1.5 years in state time and forever sealing my fate as a convict. I regret not pushing the issue harder, but at the end of the day, I’m a professional in a specific trade and I’m doing well for myself. I guess the man upstairs has different plans for me.
I’ve given back to the community but I’ll admit that I havnt done as much as I can, I’ll need to step that up.
Don’t ever give up on yourself.
Wanted to join my whole life, never did, at age 35 I said:” it’s now or never.”
update?
@@jebbus8387 judging by his profile picture, i think that answers it.
Sounds like me. What branch? I did Air NG at 36 yo.
That's awesome!! I was supposed to go in the Army (I actually dropped out of HS and got my GED the very next day) and be a medic. I was actually about to go to MEPS but I had to take care of my mom w/ cancer because my dad was busy working, and my brother was in the marines. I never wound up going in. It's always been something I've wanted to do but then I got fat lol I'm 33 now, and talking with a recruiter soon. I've been working on my weight, so hopefully I can get things started!
@@RprtBak LETS GOO GET IT DONE
At 39 I’m trying to get my ass in shape to beat the 40 cut off to join the Navy. Only have 3 months left but I’m making excellent progress. Not joining right out of high school has given me so much regret over the last 20 years. I did the part time police thing while working a full time job and that just wasn’t for me.
I’m a firefighter, but hearing all these stories of bravery and sacrifice. I still feel sometimes like I’m not doing enough
I regret not joining the military but at some point I realized we werent fighting for what i thought we were fighting for. I dont mind being at while doing the right thing but not so the military industrial complex can keep perpetual wars going.
I’m 20 and I’ve wanted to join my whole life but I’m fighting the feelings that it would load on my mom. I already feel a great load of guilt from not having joined already. I think it’s in my near future though. I have to live for myself at some point.
I shipping out tomarrow and I have lived with my parents my whole life. I know it is going to be hard and it was especially on my mother. She is out of town so she wont see my leave but the next time she does see me, I will be a Marine. Do it soon as possible, I was supposed to leave next month but got the call to leave tomarrow. It won’t be easy and it will be hard on the ones you love but it will all be worth it.
Damn... Now I want to know if that dude joined the military after this advice.
I had an epic 4 year tour. Much better if you are single.
Agreed. I am in my thirties and seriously considering joining the Army reserves. But for me, I`m not married(and don`t plan on doing it, if ever, for a while) and I don`t have any children, so I don`t have any other commitments and obligations and other human beings that I am responsible to and for.
I don`t know how old the guy who sent in this question is but I`m guessing if he`s not in his late 20s then he is most likely over 30 and if the person asking the question wants to have children with his wife, as Jocko said, that won`t be easy if the person joins the military. Once you have a family, everything changes. It`s not just about you anymore as it with the single/bachelor-life. Everyone is different, so the person`s wife may or may not be tough enough and up to task of being a military wife.
Then you're golden. I left the Marines at 26, mainly because I knew I'd be married in a couple years and having kids a few years after that. If you enjoy the Reserves, it can also be the doorway to active duty, if you really enjoy it. Go for it and good luck man.
God yes, don’t get married ..it ruins the experience . I saw so many of my platoon mates lead horrible lives for that decision.
@@NCrdwlf I have yet to hear anyone say, voluntarily that getting married was the best thing they have ever done. Never.
Thanks for the feed back. I'm single , I feel no sense of purpose or honor , I view military as the highest achievement for a man . And I really dont want to regret not joining. Been in contact with recruiters. I'm 30 .
“The true soldier fights not because he hates what’s in front of him, but because he loves what is behind him.” - G.K. Chesterton
Jocko, I wanted to say thank you for the positive spin on the Reserves (National Gaurd) and also for your work personally to fight and win in Iraq. I was Army National Gaurd, deployed to Al Anbar in 2007-2008. I were there in a time of relative peace. I never had to fight because you and yours, my brothers and sisters in uniform, already had. Respect. 💖🔥🌹
I'm a reserve deputy in Michigan. It's awesome.
If it's what you want to then do it but don't let your identity get wrapped up in your service and remember what you actually serve for.
No. The feeling never goes away.
I'm there. 53 and regret it.
start training and contract somewhere
I needed to hear that. Thank you.
Jocko giving love to reserves thanks a bunch bro.
My wife was not tough enough. I didn't join. I wish I had, but it is what it is. I don't pine over it. I am currently working on getting my EMT-Advanced. Not the military, but I think it's a damn good goal. Something worth pushing myself for. Keeps the wife happy, and I still feel good about myself.